Vlog : Stress, depression and anxiety 1
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- Опубликовано: 7 окт 2024
- Following on from, When is it ok to not be ok? I finally sought medical intervention in relation to my depression. The help I was offered wasn't quite what I'd anticipated, so join me on my journey of self help and hopefully I'll get somewhere!
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Ahhh..my dear Moira. So many gems of wisdom here.....the very act of talking to someone that really 'listens' is invaluable. I was 'sent' to a therapist a year after my mum passed....but I found by the time I got to see him ( 6 weeks later ..hmm), I had basically talked myself through 'it'. My greatest support came from something my daughter said to me ( she has had to deal with more s**t in her life than any young woman should ).......she said " Mum...pick your battles". Such a 'simple' thing to say, but had a profound effect on me. I decided not to be accountable for the issues of other people who self-inflicted. I chose not to feel guilty for the behaviour of others. I didn't give up on those I loved, I just stopped 'playing the game' . I let go of 'world news' and tv. I stopped reading depressing articles and surrounded myself with plants, paper and water. .( we moved to the beach). I stopped taking on board my hubby's angst...support = yes....feel accountable =no. You have a hidden strength...I hear it in your voice xxx
It's very true, you can't live other people's lives for them, despite them foisting it on you! There are so many issues to handle of your own, that other folk's impact you in ways that just pile on the pressure (and they don't see it!!!!) That's what annoys me about the overly simplistic view taken by health care specialists. They look at this as if it's black and white. It's not! It's psychedelic, in my case! I live with three men and how they handle life has a major impact on mine. What am I to do? One doc told me I was too controlling, didn't suggest any way of letting go! It's easy to say, don't take responsibility for everything, but am I to sit like Nero and watch Rome burn? My life is damage control! Xxxx
You are so brave, dear. I have been pondering what to say since you posted. I will be 70 next year and as you say, these last five years my life has been on a steady downward slope. I am constantly fighting to keep my spirit up. I tend to be a Pollyanna but it gets harder and harder. I decided to put myself "first" for a change because we never know just how much time we have left. My Mom died at my age and her younger sister has Parkinson's and Dementia. Sleep became an issue. Husband and pets were constantly noisy. I moved into the spare bedroom. Just enough room for my bed, craft table and craft cabinets. The other half of the room is for the grandchildren to spend the night, watch tv, read or craft with me. My bed is surrounded by two large windows. The sun pours in over my craft table. So nice. Very quiet. Bought a background noise machine and I listen to the crickets all night. The grandkids love it. Pets stay in another area. Grandkids here only on weekends. I have three children. Daughter that is 49. Son 35. Daughter 21. Wow right. My youngest keeps me tuned into the "world today". My oldest shares all my hobbies and is my closest friend and confidant. My son lives with me in a back apartment. He helps me with all my everyday household activities. My youngest and I were very close but she moved in with her boyfriend. She still calls every day. My health is great. Doctor twice a year for checkups. Husband is still working. He is depressed and working for Walmart. Works and then comes home and goes to bed. He worked for Disney for 37 years. Now Walmart for 1/8 the wage. Surviving on that and my social security has been a huge stress issue. My kids help me with food and bills. We have old cars. We still have a roof over our head, thank goodness. Seems each day, as we grow older, brings a new issue to cope with. I joined the YMCA with my oldest daughter and we try to go exercise. She takes me out shopping and to the beach. Changed my diet to more healthy foods. I find it harder to be "inspired" to craft. Then I tune in and watch you and my other crafting friends. I am sure talking and sharing with us will help. Maybe try to eliminate some stressful things one at a time. If that is possible. Hugs and more hugs.
Hi Cheryl, my husband is similar to yours in that he goes to work and comes home. Watches TV or plays little games on his tablet, and then wonders why he's stressed!
When I saw the woman at the doctor's, she mentioned something called Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. Basically, we all have certain needs and if we don't feel they're being met, we buckle. Some are quite basic and some are a bit more significant, especially in terms of how we see ourselves as individuals. Stress and depression/anxiety are all relative to each of us. What bothers one person, might not bother another. But that doesn't make the 'bother' any less significant. I plan to talk about it to see if folk can identify where they see their stress coming from. The unfortunate thing is, money and health will appear to be a worry for most of us, we're not getting any younger and unless we win a lottery, no magic money is coming our way. But all is not bleak! (that's a good one, coming from me!) But, it's true. If we can identify our needs and the stressor, we can have a clearer view of what we can do to fulfil our needs. We're not going to find a miracle answer to life's problems but if we can find something to work with, it will give us hope and hopefully pull us through xxxx
One step at a time Moira was what I thought when listening to you I really felt you have made that choice when starting these videos Can I say how brave I think you are because as well as hopefully helping you in your journey I'm sure there will be others who will benefit from what you are saying I saw some of me in what you were saying too. I do feel that you have made a positive step in these videos and I and many others are happy to listen my friend Much love xxx
Thanks Anne. I'm no quitter, but I don't rush in either! Time to really think about what I can handle and how I can handle it. As I've gotten older, I've become grumpier and I reckon it's my head just saying, enough is enough, to the outside world. I'm going to work on things and get somewhere if it's the last thing I do xxx
Good to see you! We just had Bell Let’s Talk day here in Canada. The idea is to speak up about mental health issues . You’re spot on. I can relate to many things and empathize with others. You are right in that you have to find what works for you. I really resonate with the dog /sleep situation . Can’t remember a night of unbroken sleep. When our dog died I said ‘ No more’. But our daughter let in a stray. Then she married and moved away. We have the cat who wakes me if he wants food in the night but wakes my husband if he just wants out. He knows he gets no food from my husband.😑 The upshot: you keep filming , I’ll keep watching. It’s a brilliant strategy.
My husband could sleep through an earthquake! And his arms fly through the air. Wouldn't be the first time I've been skelped in the night!😩xxxx
Thank you for sharing! xo
Hello Moira, I am so happy to see you again - I have missed you. My heart goes out to you as you have had such a difficult time. I can hear the frustration in your voice when speaking about the “help” that is available regarding the depression and anxiety. I do hope you can find solace in coming and chatting with us, knowing that we are hear (that’s not a typo, for I really do hear what you are saying) for you if you need a sounding board. Please know that I am sending much love and light to you and your family. 💗
Thanks Wendy. There's no overnight solution to my ills. It's a long road, and has been for over 30 years. It might have been shorter if someone had stepped in earlier with an ear or some genuine solutions to help me work through it. They didn't and the ship sailed. Now it's time for me to work it myself. I'll take things a day at a time and we'll see how it goes xxxx
I’ve missed you Moira! I’m so glad that you posted this! So many of us suffer from anxiety, depression and stress. Being able to talk, whether it’s to a trusted friend, or like this.. a Vlog... it helps! I’m sending prayers, and looking forward to your next Vlog. We all love you here!! ❤️❤️
Thanks Jan. I'll try to get a post up next week(barring all my interruptions) xxx
Thinking Of you Moira, I hope spring brings more joy to your life! ❤
I need a bit of light. It's so dark here xxx
Lovely to see you back, Moira. I've missed you! You're so brave to share your life with us when it's obviously not wonderful at the moment. My mother suffered from depression so I understand a little bit about your situation although I think only those going through it personally would truly understand. I will be watching your videos and sending positive thoughts to you when you're speaking, but wish I could be there doing it in person. However, as I live in Australia, it's a bit hard to pop round for a cuppa and a chat ... lol. But the wonders of technology will help us keep in touch. Loved seeing your dogs too although I'm truly sorry they're adding to your anxiety. Upside is that they obviously love you unconditionally. Sending big hugs. Joy xxx
Daisy adores me! Unfortunately, it makes her even more volatile when we're out. She anticipates any man walking towards me as a threat and lunges at them. Doesn't make for an easy time. We've been working on it and she has improved, but she'll never be great. She found the right person for her! Xxx
Hang in there, Moira! Take it a day at a time and it will get better! Hugs and prayers!
Thanks Gail xxx
Such a huge step to post a vlog about the subject. Most are fearful to speak out. Bravo.
I have to admit, I do't think twice about speaking out. I've so little confidence that anyone will watch that I have no fear! xxxx
Sorry you have been having a hard time. I have never suffered from depression despite a really hard past life (now almost 60 too) so can't say I personally know what you are going through but I do know that it is a very real and difficult thing for many, many people. We are all wired in different ways. I imagine there is no miracle cure but I am sure that sharing is a good start. Well done for having the confidence to post about this. We are all here for you on your channel and hope we can give some support. I hope to meet up sometime this year when we are up at the caravan in Scotland. It would be lovely to meet in person! Take care - sending a big hug! XXX
Thanks Denise, I'll look forward to seeing you xxx
Thank you for sharing your story! Life has been super tough since about the middle of December. I keep wondering when I’m going to catch a break. I have no idea how to deal with it except to just go one day at a time. I think my crafting is at least keeping me sane. I wish I knew exactly what to say that would help you feel better, but I don’t. All I can say is that I truly believe that things WILL eventually start to turn around. We will be happy again! ❤️❤️
Hi Savannah. I find crafting makes me worse. I feel inadequate and strive for better but it never seems good enough. I had to step away from it. I've been trying to craft this week but I don't want to start creating my own pressure again. I know what you mean when it comes to catching a break. The old adage, it never rains but it pours is so true xxxx
It's good to see you, I really admire you being able to talk about it. I really can relate to what you're saying. I'll always be here listening. 💖
Thanks Connie, I appreciate that xxx
Thank you for Sharing Moira. I also have those issues and during the Winter especially. I also deal with pain from Fybromyalgia which is worse also in Winter. Will be 74 in a few weeks....my body is surely not what it use to be.lol. I haven't crafted for almost 2 months and I don't know where it came from but this week I got the courage to start a journal. It could be the praying I've been doing and the sun (Wow, 2 days in a row)😁
It's good to have someone who understands what you are living and care. Wish I lived closer and we could have a cup of tea. God bless my friend and looking forward to your next vlog. ❤😊 Irene
My sister has fibromyalgia too. I doubt if I'll see my seventies. I've such a negative outlook. I start conversations with "if I'm here next Christmas....." I wish I could turn my attitude around but it's so uphill! I'm trying, stick with me Irene, we'll be stronger together I hope xxx
@@MoiraMcDonald We certainly are stronger together. One day at a time we get there..
Hi Moira. Have missed you and your dogs antics. So brave of you to make this video. Sending love and hugs from New Zealand
Thanks Dianne xxxx
Totally relate Moira. Sending hugs to you 💗
Thanks Natalie xxx
How really lovely to hear from you Moira. I hold no hopes about going back to these drs, I can't be bothered with them, how many of them have actually suffered from depression personally, very few I'll bet. Do you take any sort of medication? I must say this 20mg of Escitilapram I take daily keeps me on an even keel, more or less.
Dunoon is only 23 miles from Glasgow, you need to take the ferry over from Gourock. I was even willing to separate from my husband and split our assets, sell the house etc but the house I saw in Dunoon sold late in December, and I can't find anything else suitable. Anyway I have felt more settled for a wee while, since discovering this junk journalling thing, I find it really fascinating. I was a sewer for 50 years, even taught it, but have now had enough of all that. I basically "know", at this stage what my problem is, I originate from South Africa, been in Lincoln for 21 years (when SA was starting to be destroyed, which is heartbreaking in itself) but my family went to New Zealand, my daughter is there and I have two grandchildren there and that is very hard to take as we were a very close family, now we are all separated. My son in SA has two young sons, and one has a brain tumour (11 years old) and I am helpless to do anything about it, and it works on me 24/7 and they find life very very difficult.
Do you not find your hobby helps you a little? I know loving my two doggies is a great help in this situation. I don't go out much, don't want to be bothered with people, anyway as a foreigner I have never been accepted by the English lot in Lincoln. That was one of the reasons I wanted to come to Scotland, I wanted to live amongst the Scots, I find them more genuine and a great hardy, genuine people, and of course there is nowhere as beautiful as Scotland anywhere in the world. My physical health is also deteriorating now, with age, stuff like arthritis, and I don't think I could make a major move anymore. Waited too long, it is too late.
How is your husband this week? Of course that is another burden for you to cope with and it all brings one down. Do you have any grandchildren, if I was near my grandchildren I know I would be way more happy.
I will keep in contact with you Moira, and I am hoping something breaks for you in the future where you can find more peace and come to terms with whatever is there that is niggling you. Take care my dear.
Kindest regards, JOAN.
Hi Joan. The last time I tried pills, I had terrible stomach pains. So much so, I convinced myself I was dying(before I realised it was the pills, but that's the problem with an anxious nature.) I've a sister down in England. She'd like to come back but she lost her daughter to ovarian cancer and feels she can't leave her. I've another sister who returned from South Africa and she is in an old folk home in Glasgow (we're not close and it's a complex story.) My hubby is just back home from seeing his mum in hospital. She was rushed in today but she's doing ok. Never rains but it pours! No grand children here. I was never one for children until I had one! I gave everything for a wonderful child. He was and is great(he's 24 now) but I still have no time for other folk's kids, lol.
I'd never heard of junk journals either. I allowed them to become an obsession. Now, I'm getting a bit more perspective on that. I genuinely don't have enough time for making things. The house, family and the dogs take up so much time. Crafting was making me tense! If I accept that I can do a bit when time allows, I cope better xxxx
Hiya Moira, I have just finished watching your video on The Big Shot, now I am equipped with your valuable knowledge I will give it a try tomorrow. I did not know, although it is somewhat logical that one can emboss with the dies. I won a bundle of stuff on e-Bay last week from a lady in Scunthorpe, about an hour from Lincoln, who buys crafting goods from shops that go under or from people who lose interest, (or maybe even auctions) then she has a monthly auction on e-bay and I got a lot of dies and Embossing folders from her last week, so still going through the things and learning as I go - that is how I (luckily) stumbled upon your good self. Have ended up with a Cuttlebug, and a Big Shot and a Spellbinders Calibur!!!
You and I seem to have similar feelings - people are never interested in other peoples children and grandchildren and I will never understand why some people bore strangers with them!! You seem to be a perfectionist too, and I have discovered that is something of a hindrance in this totally imperfect (sometimes plain weird) world we live in!
Will be looking at all your videos - so thank you very much in advance for your tuition, it is so helpful. I have done a junk journal on "sewing" and "Alice in Wonderland" would like to do something along the lines of "Art Deco" next.
Take care of yourself, until next time,
Joan.
@@joanjohnstone7241 Hi Joan, I did a couple of Art Deco/Nouveau ones, ages and ages ago. I love Mucha's art and he featured heavily. I think they might be some of my earliest videos xxx
@@MoiraMcDonald Hi Moira, How are you doing today, how are you feeling? I will be going through ALL of your videos, I think they are great and of course I love your accent so much, I enjoy every minute of listening you!! Take care, Joan.xx
Ms Moira thank you so much sharing your story, we will be right here listening to you. Sending you big hug.Feel better soon🦋
Thanks chum xxx
Hey Moira....I just found you today by luck really. I was looking for instructions on how to use the WRMK Crop-a-dile tool and found your video. I liked and appreciated it so much I hit 'subscribe'. This is the second video of yours that I've watched...I guess that thumbnail 'jumped out at me' because I too, am in exactly the same position and it's pretty dark and lonely. I hear you Moira from across the ocean and I pray you are getting through it! You are incredibly brave for sharing this and you have all my respect! Take care of yourself....I'm off to watch another video of yours.
My crafty makes are a better view(well, they're not as miserable.) I really should be doing another vlog but I'm back in the "what's the point" mood. I'm very swings and roundabouts. One day is ok and the next, not so much. There always seems to be more to dread than to look forward to. It can be very difficult to get life in perspective. It's hard to accept that life happens and it's just down to us to try to accept or challenge how we handle it. Anyway, keep fighting the good fight and maybe one day things will seem good again xxx
Hi Moira! It is very Nice to see You again, I have been having my own health Issues, this Gray Winter we have been having, really got Me this Year! Spring is just around the Corner (I think). Smile, Nourish Yourself, HUGS and Blessings 💜😘
Honestly Sherry, I'm as physically fit as a proverbial fiddle! But my mind is on overtime rates. It goes all the time, going over and inventing scenarios of chaos. I hate winter and there's no Hallmark Christmas for me, but as you say, spring will be here in a few months xxx
No, I don't live in a Hallmark Christmas either. I think when the weather gets better, we will all improve. By You talking about Your Depression and Anxiety, Is a Good thing !! I understand why you haven't been doing Videos. But I do have to say, I miss Your Videos. Hang In There ! 💜
Sorry that you are going through some hard times. Think positive and do what the doctor suggest. I enjoy your videos. Thank you for sharing.
Thanks Teresita xxx
Dearest Moira, please feel better! I am 68 and I too have issues with my dog! She also sleeps with me and I find myself up many times during the night trying to get my space on the bed, I wake up actually hurting from being cramped up and then of course the days go by very slowly with lots of aches in my body due to no sleep..Not sure what the answer is but I guess your are right and we need to just make the decision to somehow change the situation. Best of luck to you and I will pray for you to heal. There are some great antidepressant medications that do help, I take paxcil and I have more good days than bad.
Daisy can slip into a virtual coma on top of me! But if someone blows there nose, three streets away, she's set off like The Hound of the Baskervilles!!!!! To an outsider, my like probably looks like a situation comedy, but it sure doesn't feel like it to me🥴xxxx
Moira, You are courageous, strong, and generous. I'm listening. 💟
You can scrap that generous bit, I'm as mean as Scrooge xxxx
ha. I'll have to argue with you on that. xx
Thanks for sharing Moira. I have had periods of anxiety and depression in my life also and feel stress daily as do my daughters. Life these days is stressful. Who shouldn't be stressed with the state of the world? I wonder if some people feel more acutely than others and thus suffer more? Are creative people more sensitive? Sounds silly. I have worked very hard over the past few years on being content. With God's help I am feeling much happier and satisfied. God bless you and keep on keeping on!
We are very much products of our early life. If you were sensitive or sickly as a child, it apparently lays the groundwork to being predisposed to stress(I've no hope, if that's true!) I don't know if creatives are predisposed or if we all turn to craft as an outlet. I'm going to start blaming it, lol xxxx
My heart goes out to you, talk it out, it does no good to us to keep it all in xx
So true xxxx
Hi Moira, I completely relate with your story. I've had anxiety and depression beginning at 14, but when I hit 40, it became worse to the point where I had to get on medication. I've been on medication or a little over 10 years, they help, but still, there are situational things that will still get to you. I understand about your dog. I had three little ankle biters, and in 2017-2018, I went through a tough time with my oldest, Jimi who had turned 15. His hearing had left, so he'd up and bark at any and everything during the night, especially if my husband wasn't home, he felt he had to "guard" the place; then he was patrolling the food bowls of the other dogs, fighting with them. He became very aggressive with the other dogs and everyone else in the house. It was very stressful, but I let it go, while my other family was pushing me to put him down because he was "old." He finally passed away in my arms naturally on our couch, so I'm glad I stuck with the annoyance. Since he didn't appear to be in an pain, I didn't take him to the vet, so I slept with him for two nights and he passed on the third day. You'll know when it's time; I know it's annoying, but I'm sure you'll make the right choice. As far as sleeping, depression and anxiety will often trigger insomnia, which it did for me, so I had the doctor give me some sleeping pills at the same time I got on the other meds. Even though Jimi was waking me up, I was able to fall back asleep. I've found with my condition, that for me, staying busy helps, even when I don't feel like it. It's like being sick, you know you feel awful, but you know you're sick and feeling awful goes with the territory. I find if I keep my mind busy doing stuff, it doesn't have the time to remind me how crappy I'm feeling. But when I quit trying to fight how I felt, and stopped talking to people about it, it became easier just to deal with it on my own, and the meds certainly help make it easier than it was. I know you'll find your way through the Dark Night. Keep doing your videos and sharing how you feel, they can be very enlightening not just to others, but to yourself also. :)
Chip didn't have a great day yesterday. She was up at 4 this morning and is pacing. I think it's time, but that doesn't make me feel any better or easier about the prospect of dealing with it. She was so sensitive after Scrappy went. She stopped eating and that's why I got Daisy. They had fun and then Timmy came. The dynamic was a bit off, but they still played. She's not wanting to play any more xxxx
@@MoiraMcDonald I'm so sorry to hear. Maybe the vet can give her something to calm her nerves a bit? But you know her better than anyone, if that'll help or not. It's a tough decision, so hugs to you.
She's fighting on! Xxx
Thanks for the video, Moira. It is very brave of you to put yourself out there to talk about this topic. I, too, suffer from depression, etc. I had to chuckle when you described your life as a fairytale and then added that it was grim. I've never heard it put like that before. :-) I do so hope you continue your paper crafting, though. I subscribe to many channels - almost all of them about making junk journals - and you are one of the crafters that I put in the category of artist. Your creations are a step above the majority, imo, because you really have a gift. I wish I could find a way to express that better. I see a few true artists in this craft and a lot of people who are really good at reproducing those artists. You are one of the true artists. I'm a relative newbie who is just hoping to create something that resembles your work. I'll be praying for you - especially that you will get more sleep each night.
I really struggle to see it as art. Perhaps because art is a concept that just didn't play a role in my life. It existed for secure, happy people. I was never in either category. Art was drawing and I couldn't draw. I'd no coordination and can't even write neatly(these days, I tell myself it was my flamboyant, gregarious personality, that has my words all over the paper😜) Unfortunately, I was criticised, growing up, for being a mess. That left me unable to see myself in any clear light xxxx
@@MoiraMcDonald I totally get what you are saying about not seeing your creations/process as art. I, too, considered being able to draw the only valid skill to consider oneself an artist and I can't draw a stick man. And I can relate to the criticism about being messy. I had a tidy, neat sister and we shared a room. My side was always messy and I can't tell you how many times my mom told me my middle name was M.E.S.S. mess (yes, she spelled it out first!). I was at the doctor the other day and he asked me what I did - meaning what was my job. I was tongue tied - didn't have an answer - and I felt pretty stupid. But the next time I saw him I told him I was an artist and gave him one of my journals to give to his wife as a gift. I'm determined to see myself as an artist in spite of how I feel or what others say. I really encourage you to do the same. Close the book on what others have said in the past and just claim your artist identity. I think being an artist has more to do with being able to see and create beauty and you definitely do that, Moira!!
You're too kind Kathleen. Generally speaking, I love me. I think I'm good at everything I turn my hand to(not an expert, but I make an effort). I've always been polite and respectful towards others. Unfortunately, nasty folk hone in on that and take advantage of my good nature and overlook me when it came to career advancement and the likes. The world is a hard place at the best of times but when you see others benefitting from having nothing beyond a bold attitude, well that gets waring and I'm sure you can relate. Some people just don't see you or what they're missing, by overlooking you. I'm at the stage where I feel, it's their loss, not mine! I'll always struggle with seeing it as art but I know I make a right good book😊xxxx
Good morning Moira
I also suffer from anxiety, depression,Ptsd, and other mental illnesses
Thank you for sharing
It's not an easy life, Gina, but we're here together and are thankful for that xxx
Moira McDonald
I definitely agree
So good to see you here, Moira. I've missed your videos. I suffer from depression and here in the states, have dealt with primary doctors who just want to write a script (more than seven different medications over 20 years, all unhelpful) and get you out the door, though I've been directed to similar workshops too. (Although well-intentioned, they didn't help me.) So I identify with your antipathy about being 'sent' to workshops about depression/anxiety. How can the medical community feel that being "talked AT" is a viable alternative to one-on-one therapy that involves 'talking TO' someone who listens and asks questions pertinent to only you? But that aside, coming here and talking about what's going on with you, IMO, is brilliant. Based on the responses, many share aspects of what you are coping with. I also have 'pet related anxiety'--one aging dog that belongs to my husband. A sweet natured though hyper dog, but I am highly allergic to her, so for eight years I have had to take five allergy-related medications due to living with her. (And yes, he knew/knows but seems comfortable ignoring the health impact for me.) Thank goodness for inhalers and nebulizers, otherwise, I'd be at the emergency room several times a week! (I have a hypo-allergenic dog who, thankfully, is very mellow) We too have laminate floors and my husband's dog has become very nocturnal and click-clicks around through the night too, trashing my sleep. Gosh, dear lady. It feels.......comforting?.....to share with someone who understands. And no, it doesn't change our circumstances---but, for me at least, helps to put it into words to someone who has first-hand knowledge, you know? Holding you close to my heart and sending many hopes that you will find what most helps you. Hugs.....
Oh Viki, what are we to do! I've been down the medication route and found nothing that was particularly helpful. The last one gave me terrible stomach pains to the point I was convinced I'd pancreatic cancer! I ditched them pronto! I reckon I'm better to suffer misery, rather than the physical side effects. I'll read all these booklets and maybe attend the last few classes and see how it goes. Either way, it relieves me to say it out loud, even to a camera🥴. I've got Nilsson in my head, "Every body's talking at me, they don't hear a word I'm saying 🎶" xxxx
Hi Moira, hoping you start to feel better soon, big hug sent up your way xx
Thanks Carol xxx
Oh Moira, first off it is so good to see you again, I have been wondering how you have been doing...I think these are good steps for you and admire your bravery to speak out. I'm listening. I can relate to many things you have mentioned. I talk to myself a lot as I came from a family where you just didn't mention any sort of mental health issues and quite frankly I have no one I would feel comfortable to talk to. Everyone seems to have their issues and why would I want to add more on to them. Your daisy looks very similar to my Tony lol, much the same markings. He is neurotic and a nervous wreck lol. And then there's my dear diabetic now blind Maizee who needs to be carried out to the grass to do her business often a couple of times in the night. She is 11. Our lives are limited based on her injections. Why do we do this? Cause we love them and they love us!! We will get through it but it does take reminders for sure. So in a nut shell, I'm listening and it is comforting to know someone else is walking around in the wee hours of the day no matter what side of the globe. Sending big hugs and doggy licks ❤️🐶
4.10am she had me up! She wanders aimlessly before she poops or pees and I stand, frozen, waiting. It's a hard frost this morning 🥶. Plus factor, that makes the poop easier to lift! It'll be light enough by 8, to start looking but I'll be out doing my taxi service at that point🥴. It's Picard night so I better not sleep through it again. Everything I miss on TV, I watch the next day at 5am. Its like living alone! Xxxx
hi Moira,so sorry to hear that you are still suffering,i am still wading through the blackness of it all,the feeling of no hope is killing me,i'm sick to death of crying and forcing smiles yet still we march on,pretending to the rest of the world that we are fine.i hope you start to feel better soon,at least you're talking about it,big hugs,Helen.xxx
Oh Helen, I wish I could give you the cuddles. Life can be a challenge (ain't that the truth!) But, you and I are not alone! I'm beyond weeping, I'm just in that "there's nae pleasure in this" phase. There literally is nothing pleasurable to look towards but it struck me, is there anything, right here and now, that's ok? There is! There always is! Even if it's eating a bar of Dairy Milk. It's, quite pleasant! My friend, there is darkness, and I can't pretend there isn't, but there's light(it's a fight to see it, but it's there). Helen, I'm here for you. I send you strength(hopefully you'll get it). Keep seeing each day and enjoy any tiny pleasure you can see. We'll all get to happy days. I've accepted that a wonderful life might not be quite what we had imagined but try to think of any positive you've got going for you. I'm rooting for you chum! Be strong. Reach down and find a bit of fight, because I know you've got this! We'll get there together, stay with me xxxx
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Moira, we will have a good long talk when I'll come over to Scotland beginning of June. I think that your open minded way of talking about problems will be helpful for many people. Loved to see Daisy and Timmie too. I love you guys.
Daisy loves you( and there aren't many people she likes!) I'm exhausted with life. I've lost all interest in everything. I really dread each day as it is just more of the same. I think you need to move here! xxx
@@MoiraMcDonald I would like to inform you about my visit details but I don't seem to have your email address. Here is mine: pirjo.callies@gmail.com
I’ve been worried about you. I really hope that you making videos and talking this out will help you. I know it’ll help others to hear that they aren’t going threw things alone as well. I’ll be thinking about you. ❤️
I was thinking about you the other day. You always come to mind when I sit at my desk. Think we truly are related xxxx
You may very well be right!
Thanks for sharing. I journal a lot, and that seems so cathartic--that and writing about it through characters I created (and /or borrowed for fanfiction). It still doesn't help with my IBS, but that's life I guess.
I've developed a touch of IBS as a result of stressing for years. I reckon that anything that gives us a release valve is worth it. If writing works for you, than that's great. I'm not a writer but I can talk the hind legs off of a donkey! 🥴🥴🥴 Xxxx
You have been on my mind a lot lately.
Your hair looks beautiful. I find paper crafting to be very therapeutic...plus the videos you make are an outlet. You can vent and your audience will listen!! Your crafts were always gorgeous. Maybe try to not think of it as a way to get rich (lol 😆) but just enjoy it. Put your heart in your journals as you do and enjoy making them. I always think to myself well I hope someone who gets this will find joy and pleasure in using this journal I made!! Also I just would like to add I find so much joy in my Jesus. He does answer prayers!! He does love us. He loves you and he loves me. And I know when I pass away I'm going to heaven and I will see Him and I will see my beautiful grandmother and mother again!! I will pray for you Moira. Much love and hugs to you.
Thanks for your generosity of words and thoughts. Life is a process and how we interpret it is very much based on our experiences as we grow. Mine haven't been great, but that doesn't mean that I don't look to improve each day. We'll all get through and get to where we want to be, I believe that xxx
Was thinking of you the other day. Hope everything starts improving. I am looking for my joy too I hope we find it soon :) All the best my friend :) Toodles,,^..^,,Melissa
Joy is in short supply at the moment, but hopefully she'll start making her way out of the darkness soon xxxx
Oh my dear Moira, I'm so sorry things are not on the improve for you, I guess they don't call them the winter blues for nothing, how come I read that having a dog in your life helps you live longer, yet some of your stress and mine I might add is caused by having a dog in your life, keep patting those dogs for as long as you can, try taking a nana nap in the day time to help with not getting enough sleep at night. You do sound like my husband, he is almost 60 and not happy with how his life is progressing, and it usually makes no difference what I say to him, but Moira, you are nearly 60, a wife, a mother and an incredibly talented paper crafter, so you can definitely hold your head high, and all your subbies love you, me included. Keep making videos I just love listening to your voice, it is so calming, your my stress reliever. I have packed away all my crafting for the time being, not sure when or if I'll start it up again, so lots of time to listen to you. Big hugs from me to you💖
I got rid of a ton of craft things but there's still so much lying about in my back room! I really want that room decorated, but the thought of tidying it makes me cringe. I need to become more radical in my throwing things out! Paper crafting is not an answer to depression or anxiety. I've found it becomes a tool of it! Health care professionals, rather naively suggest hobbies, but if you've an obsessive personality, it's just a new focus! So, you surround yourself with it. In my case, it's done more damage than good. In my case, it's a lesson learned(a bit too late 💸💸💸💸) xxxx
@@MoiraMcDonald Baby steps Moira, I packed up most of mine, having recently only got the stuff I find I can't give it away or sell it yet, but got it into a cupboard for now.
Wish I could come and give you a hand.💖
@@chrisazz282 its just not easy, when you feel you're responsible for everything. But, I'll get by, eventually xxx
Hi Moira, I think you're very brave to share your thoughts. I really think that people need to be more open and talk about depression and anxiety, there's alot more people suffer from it than we realise. It really is ok not to be ok, life isn't all about sweetness and light, that's not reality🙏💚
That group that my husband was at, he said there was about 50 folk there. Age range was all over the place. Stress, is so prevalent in modern life and despite all the advertising promotions, it still is treated with a degree of stigma. I think it'll be a long, long time before attitudes really change, sadly xxxx
@@MoiraMcDonald unfortunately I totally agree with you. The only thing we can change or really look at is ourselves and work from the inside out, even though self work can be very hard xx
@@jackieswe Indeed! It's employers that are the issue. They'll regard depression like a terminal disease rather than something they should help to eradicate by offering support to staff xxx
@@MoiraMcDonald again I totally agree, it'll take a long time when mental health issues will be looked on as the same as physical ailments. People wouldn't bat an eye if you have cancer but cant look at you if you depression is mentioned, what a world!!
awwww moira sooooo cute - i wish I had a dog like that though - lol - but of course 3 of them with different personalities and stuff I'm sure it's not easy when you're not feeling quite well emotionally specially - not to mention their health too poor babies - oh moira I hear u - it's really good to see though - i hope e even doing a video about it - I'm sure it's not easy maybe not necessarily suck it up but knowing that ur doing for her - oh gosh so much stuff so much - i know exactly what u mean girl - I'm going through something really similar w my husband and it's hard - i don't know just be patient with yourself girl and respect ur times - we'll get there ❤🥰🌹🙏🏼
We will xxxx
Sorry to hear you’ve not been doing so well lately. Depression totally sucks! So do high maintenance dogs - wee bisums! Make time for yourself ma pal and I hope you get a good night’s sleep 😴 xx
I was up at the crack of dawn, but I went back to bed. I didn't get back to sleep, mind you. Oh well, maybe tomorrow 😂😂😂😂xxxx
Hello there Moira, I have suffered from depression for 35 years, I was 35 when it started. I have been on anti depressants for 20 years and they keep me stable. I do not believe in "groups", people are only interested in themselves, not other peoples problems - human nature - and if someone, like my husband does not understand what depression is, there is no explaining it to them.
One of the things that I have wanted to do very badly, was to relocate to Scotland, but it has not worked out for me and now I am too old to do the move.
I hope you get some relief from somewhere for your state of mind, but to be very honest, I don't think there is an answer, it is a thing that affects certain sensitive people and nobody knows enough about it to "heal" or "cure" it. My best wishes to you, your doggies certainly help with this sort of thing - in my opinion.
I send you best wishes from Lincoln and wonder where you live in Scotland. I wanted to move to Dunoon, fell in love with the place two years ago, but my husband will not move there.
Joan Wells.
Hiya Joan, I'm in Hamilton (but I'm from Glasgow, 10 miles away.) I don't think there's a definitive answer to depression either. I've been reading through all the "bumff" from the Stress Control classes. They're not interactive classes. It's been prepared by a doctor(allegedly!) But I can safely say, they've not got a clue! That's maybe doing them a dis-service, but they've an overly simplistic view of what stress is. Their scenarios are about as stressful as deciding between tea and coffee! How can they expect to resolve anyone's issues when they base their advice on situations that aren't real stress? Anyway, I'll go through the motions, but I'll be back at the doctor at the end of the course, offering my tuppence worth😏xxxx incidentally, I've never been to Dunoon. I love Ayrshire and I worked for years in Dunbartonshire xxx
Keep talking thru your issues and keep your head up. I do hope you go back to paper crafting and find joy in your life.
Thanks Wendy xxx
Hi Moira, I was wondering where you’ve been on Instagram. I’m sorry you’ve been having a hard time lately. I have battled with my own issues over my life and depression and stress seems to be worst during winter when it’s cold and gloomy so often, but that’s not the cause...just seems winter it is harder to deal with. You just need someone to hear you and listen without judgement and with lots of understanding to help ease the stress that you internalize.
If you ever need an ear and sounding board I am here for you. You sound very much like me in the sense that you are the glue that holds your family and household together, it’s a lot of pressure. X
Ain't that the truth! The sun is almost shining here(most unusual) but its freezing(as always!) I'm just back from Daisy's walk. I'm sure its meant to be pleasurable, to walk the dog, but between avoiding mud and trying to stop her from eating the face of any man I pass, it's utter torment. Having said that, she enjoys it! If the weather improves, I'm hoping it might be easier to become motivated, but I'm still at the "that's too much effort" stage. I don't give up, but every day is a struggle. I'll cover that in my next video.
I'd love someone to listen, but there just isn't anyone interested enough. Still, its a pleasure to talk to myself, cause at least I've a sympathetic ear, lol xxxx
Well, you have us. :) I can't do the group things either.. a big part of my problem is people! lol Lots of people makes it worse, plus I just haven't had good luck with that kind of thing either.
Trying some suppliments, vitamins to try help with my multiple issues.. major constant pain, exhaustion, anxiety , etc etc. Some help. I too am a super light sleeper. Seems to have gotten worse with age? Idk? Wishing you all the best & big hugs!
I was up at 4 with Chip. She's really not doing well. Think I need to address it today, not a good day😭xxxx
@@MoiraMcDonald awww :( so sorry hun. Never ever easy loosing a pet. Big hug!
I spoke to the vet and she suggested some alternatives for her arthritis. There's nothing they can do about the random wandering or 4am pees. She goes from looking quite alert to stumbling or sleeping. Xxxx
@@MoiraMcDonald well, some good news there. :) Us older folks just have to go more? Lol. I know I get up at least 2-3 times a night. :) Xxx
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Hi Moira!! Now I'm 40 years old.. and I'm happy, but the depression its a realy in my life... because anythings, my mother, my sister.. anyway... I'm tired, i need sometimes walk alone.. but i can't..
It's hard to be alone when family isn't there. My sister lives far away and I miss her. I've got used to having no one to share things with but we need female company xxxx
@@MoiraMcDonaldThe biggest reason for my depression is that they need me 24 hours a day. They are sick. And I am exhausted. Thank you for this words!!! You have a big heart! Your light can arrive to me!🤩🙏
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Oh my Dear Dear friend. I know how you feel. I have been doing all kind of crafts trying to deal with my stress and anxiety. I feel your pain and understand how you feel. I wish I were close enough to come by for a chat and a coffee. Please call me any time you want. I am frequently up at 2 am here. So I am here for you any hour. I hope you feel better my Luv. XXXX OOOO.
I sat and typed a reply to you, the other day and I've just noticed, it didn't send! Sorry about that. I've been doing the opposite from you, I've done no crafting at all. Craft, while I can enjoy it, isn't fulfilling my needs. I've stepped away and focused on other things. Things that are more relevant to my day to day(and quite a lot that aren't, by the way.) I'm going to try to cover the things I learn from the stress classes, I hope some might help you xxxx
@@MoiraMcDonald thank you for sharing Luv I will be watching.
Hello Moira, Like you I feel sitting in a group talking about what's bothering you Is not healthy for me, I seem to take on there stress. Of topic I have a sleep clinic test I suffer from Night TERRORS + RLS I do not have COPD he did say it sounds more like PTSD It was like a fire crackers went off, I had A TERRIBLE childhood Dad was an alcoholic beat my mother I witnessed quite a bit of stuff I did not understand till Later in my life, I also have a few other segments I cannot let go of which leads me here same as you only different, If that makes sense I will be on the other side of your camera listening. take care.
How our life started, lays the groundwork for how we react in later life. I can't say I'd a happy childhood. I'm sure folk had it worse than me but that doesn't mean I was any more capable at coping. Bottom line, rough start, more baggage in later life. I can look back and see why I'm unhappy. I need to find the strategy to let that go, but that's a lot easier said than done. I'm glad you're here xxx