When dead names are not dead

Not every trans identified person has a dead name. A "dead name" is the name usually assigned at birth that may be changed later on when a person transitions or begins to identify with a gender other than the one given at birth. It's okay to honor and miss the name you were given at birth even when it doesn't align with your gender identity. I'm spending the weekend here in Victoria BC for the Moving Trans History Forward 2018 conference and someone hit a chord when they told a story teller not to use their child's "dead name"