Control the controllables | Dr. Arman Taghizadeh | TEDxGrandCanyonUniversity

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  • Опубликовано: 14 июн 2024
  • We often get anxious/overwhelmed and stuck on things that are largely out of our control, which reinforces the feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, discouragement and potentially depression. By choosing to direct our attention to those things within our control, we can better navigate the anxiety/fears/doubts that get in our way while improving our chances for success. Three things we can always control are effort, attitude and gratitude. Growing up as a child, Dr. T always wanted to become a teacher and a coach. After competing at the NCAA Division 1 level in wrestling, Dr. T ultimately chose to attend medical school and later did residency and fellowship in adult, child and adolescent psychiatry. Currently as a practicing board certified psychiatrist and sports psychiatrist, Dr. T has combined his knowledge and experience as a competitive athlete, medical doctor and mental health provider to come back to his “Square One.” He is privileged to provide mental health education, support and mindset training to patients, athletes, coaches, parents and competitive businesses. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Комментарии • 138

  • @mystic.10
    @mystic.10 Месяц назад +2

    The concept of focusing on what we can control rather than what's out of our hands is a game-changer.

  • @VodkaforDinner
    @VodkaforDinner 2 дня назад

    "effort, attitude and gratitude, every single day." this is perfect advice.

  • @thisismindfulness
    @thisismindfulness 18 дней назад

    It's refreshing to hear a professional talk about the mental aspect of effort. I always thought of effort as just physical, but it's so much more. This video is a great reminder of that.

  • @ivyharringten
    @ivyharringten 18 дней назад

    This talk is a must-watch for anyone feeling overwhelmed by life's uncontrollables. His personal anecdotes make the advice so relatable and actionable.

  • @thenextbigthingishere
    @thenextbigthingishere День назад

    My one thing for today is finding this talk! Great advice delivered with that perfect combination of humility and confidence he was talking about!

  • @shastadeed
    @shastadeed 21 день назад

    Love how the speaker connects his sports background with psychiatry, shows how diverse experiences shape us into whole and complex people

  • @faithcortellis
    @faithcortellis 20 дней назад

    I've always struggled with the idea of failure, but reframing it as a "First Attempt In Learning" as he suggested makes so much sense. It’s all about how we view our challenges.

  • @smilingputin
    @smilingputin 2 дня назад

    His insights on effort being largely mental are eye-opening and I agree a growth mindset and resilience are key. He's made some great points.

  • @happeehappeeme
    @happeehappeeme 10 дней назад

    I think it's really cool how we can look back at our lives and pinpoint what each of our experiences has taught us, and I love hearing other people do it too, sounds like this guy got the perfect mix of qualities from each of his endeavours.

  • @asikahoinka
    @asikahoinka 5 дней назад

    I like the way he breaks it down, in terms of what we can achieve in a day and how it all adds up.

  • @diegosanchelez
    @diegosanchelez Месяц назад

    “First Attempt In Learning” - that's a keeper. Changes everything!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 16 дней назад

      F.A.I.L. more failures means more successes!

  • @luisximena
    @luisximena 17 дней назад

    I really like this message. No point worrying or spending up all our time and energy obsessing over things we can't do anything about

  • @JoshFlax
    @JoshFlax Месяц назад

    Great talk! Feel like I learn something new every time I listen to Dr T.

  • @johnrowan9033
    @johnrowan9033 25 дней назад

    This talk really puts into perspective how to navigate anxiety and improve our chances for success.

  • @chloewendler
    @chloewendler Месяц назад

    One of the smartest people I know. Thank you Dr. T

  • @badkarma2005
    @badkarma2005 Месяц назад

    the wrestling analogy to life's struggles is so apt.

  • @dr.timwalls
    @dr.timwalls 12 дней назад

    I think this is a really great reminder that success isn't just about luck - it's about taking control of our own destiny.

    • @omerabdelgadir8464
      @omerabdelgadir8464 10 дней назад

      I am asking what is the problem with Khartoom Bank is so crowdy every day with customers ?

  • @MyEvilRage
    @MyEvilRage Месяц назад

    This makes perfect sense and managing stress by focusing on controllables is such valuable advice. It's our attitude towards stress and failure that can change our success rate.

  • @soneegoles4539
    @soneegoles4539 Месяц назад

    Awesome insights Dr. T, I really loved hearing about the translation of the attitude of an athlete into a professional setting. Very inspiring!

  • @priowgirl119
    @priowgirl119 4 месяца назад +1

    From athelete to psychiatrist... Wow, that's a new one! Thoroughly appreciated the parallels he drew between the skills learned in wrestling and those needed in medicine... How unique and comparable! What passion!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 3 месяца назад

      It's really special when you choose to closely link your passion to your profession.

  • @clarewalston9506
    @clarewalston9506 Месяц назад

    Really interesting! As a former student athlete, Dr. T has helped me in my journey with my mindset about how to look at failure as one step closer to success. So happy he got to share this with everyone !

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych Месяц назад

      Thank you! More failures will lead to more successes!

  • @janefox660
    @janefox660 3 месяца назад

    So empowering! Thank you for sharing all of your wisdom Dr. T!

  • @tuckerpowell5035
    @tuckerpowell5035 3 месяца назад

    Focus on the things that you can control! Love that!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 месяца назад

      So important to Control the Controllables!

  • @irisscherr9877
    @irisscherr9877 2 месяца назад

    This guy helped me so much!! ❤ Thank you Dr. T :)

  • @user-fv8jl1yx7j
    @user-fv8jl1yx7j Месяц назад

    Great words Dr. T!

  • @mitchfine2906
    @mitchfine2906 Месяц назад

    This is very inspiring! The fear of failure is a huge driving force of anxiety. Reframing failure itself is a great idea.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 8 дней назад

      Thank you. We get to choose what we control and how we think of our circumstances.

  • @DavidPolsky-xz1jx
    @DavidPolsky-xz1jx Месяц назад

    Truly inspirational. A lot of things are made a bigger deal in your mind than they end up actually being in reality. Really shows how strong your mentality can be.

  • @annaintartaglia2453
    @annaintartaglia2453 3 месяца назад

    Love this so much!! Thank you so much for the information and inspiring messages Dr. T!!

  • @stevecmd
    @stevecmd Месяц назад

    Great presentation. Thank you Dr. T

  • @kelseyisman2950
    @kelseyisman2950 3 месяца назад

    love this!!💚

  • @user-md9be8fg8r
    @user-md9be8fg8r 3 месяца назад

    this is awesome! the overall point of this is very important to me because I try to only focus on what I can control and not what I can't control!

  • @taylorgoldstein2580
    @taylorgoldstein2580 3 месяца назад

    This really helped shift my focus to such a more positive light!

  • @Chea122086
    @Chea122086 4 месяца назад

    Love this TED talk and super important message. Thanks Dr T!

  • @nathanweircapfs
    @nathanweircapfs Месяц назад

    The world needs more people like Dr. T! What a fantastic job!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych Месяц назад

      Thank you. We can all make the choice to control our controllables and we would all be happier and more successful.

  • @MeganKiebasa
    @MeganKiebasa Месяц назад

    I admire this man! I really enjoy the F.A.I.L, and watching him sing to us!!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 8 дней назад

      We all remember that song right?!!! All about chunking in 3-5 pieces of info.

  • @gratitudeattitude1801
    @gratitudeattitude1801 4 месяца назад

    Amazing learning and great story! Its like you were put on this earth to be a fighter and a thinker of the best kind. An independent mind finding the best way to contribute to humanity.

  • @livia3429
    @livia3429 3 месяца назад

    This is excellent

  • @jfall1313
    @jfall1313 4 месяца назад

    Fantastic video! As a Manager I use the FAIL acronym often. Always train my team that not to focus on what did not go right. Focus on what went right and find things to change to work on next time for the areas that didn’t go as planned. Always need to keep your mind thinking positive.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 3 месяца назад

      The reframe applies to so much more than just sports!

  • @cassiayi4889
    @cassiayi4889 4 месяца назад

    Excellent talk. I sometimes forget how important mindset it in your daily life. Great tips and reminder! Good job Dr. T!

  • @Cheyenne1989
    @Cheyenne1989 3 месяца назад

    Reframing failure as a learning opportunity! Yes! More of this please!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 месяца назад

      Always remember: First/Further Attempts In Learning!

  • @erinwolfson5858
    @erinwolfson5858 4 месяца назад

    Love this! Can apply this to so many parts of my life.

  • @user-mv5iu8ue1p
    @user-mv5iu8ue1p 4 месяца назад

    F.A.I.L -- First Attempt In Learning -- The acronym is a powerful technique to frame your setbacks in the overall scheme of a successful life. This profound statement resonates with me. I refer back to this Talk to remind myself that we are all learners in this grand experiment.

  • @ermacohen
    @ermacohen 3 месяца назад

    WISDOM! Success is as much about mindset as it is about skill.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 3 месяца назад

      Thank you. I would even say mindset>skill

  • @TheBigFlameDrone
    @TheBigFlameDrone 2 месяца назад

    Mindset, mindset, mindset! Thanks for the reminder. I'm off to buy the t-shirt.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 месяца назад

      Mindset is one of the most powerful choices we have!

  • @cagneydd
    @cagneydd Месяц назад

    I think it's really cool that he took the discipline from wrestling and applied it to his medical career. There are all kinds of transferable skills and strengths that we might not know about until we make the swap.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 8 дней назад

      My life trajectory changed when I heard, "the world needs more wrestlers, the field of medicine needs more wrestlers!"

  • @erynyoung8486
    @erynyoung8486 4 месяца назад

    This is POWERFUL !! Sharing 🙌🏼

  • @JazzVanLoon-ss5ws
    @JazzVanLoon-ss5ws 3 месяца назад

    Loved this! I will definitely take these lessons forward as I train for my next Triathalon - mindset is everything!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 3 месяца назад

      It sure is....and most importantly in any endurance race, remember to control the controllables!

  • @jakobdewl
    @jakobdewl 2 месяца назад

    Can relate to what he says about the more he focused on winning the less enjoyment he got from wrestling. It's tough lesson but yeah, once you're doing something only for the out come and not the joy of doing it, the joy just goes away

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 месяца назад

      Really important to focus on the process to make it more enjoyable

  • @aldercaltrider188
    @aldercaltrider188 2 месяца назад

    This was a great watch. Learned a lot from it. Thanks for always inspiring Dr. T!

  • @zadler24
    @zadler24 2 месяца назад

    This is an excellent video! Thank you for your insight Dr. T.

  • @immayasass
    @immayasass 3 месяца назад

    Oh how I relate! I felt the pressure to pursue a prestigious career to make my parents proud. But deep down, I've always had a passion for sports and coaching, just like he did. Badminton and Basketball were my everything! Although I'm feeling a touch of envy, it's refreshing to see someone who did it

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 3 месяца назад

      Appreciate you. Hoping others can be inspired to turn their passions into a profession.

  • @11ThaoNguyen11
    @11ThaoNguyen11 3 месяца назад

    His whole emphasis on maintaining a balanced mindset and finding joy in the journey reminded me to stay grounded and grateful... Yep. needed that today.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych Месяц назад

      Thank you. When we simplify and focus on the process, we are more likely to improve outcomes.

  • @zackarnold1560
    @zackarnold1560 3 месяца назад +1

    It's easy to get caught up in the academic grind and lose sight of why we chose this path in the first place.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 месяца назад

      It definitely can be. Simplifying to intentional areas of focus can really help.

  • @alliecoyle94
    @alliecoyle94 2 месяца назад

    Effort. Attitude. Gratitude. Never thought of those 3 words together. Especially the gratitude. Definitely going to be a slogan for my upcoming season with my team. Along with embracing the failures. Every failure is an opportunity to learn. This video summed up the key pieces I like to bring to my team each season, but did it in a much simpler way.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 месяца назад

      Gratitude is the hardest one but the most important one!

  • @christyn13
    @christyn13 4 месяца назад

    Love this so much, I drew so many parallels to my life being a mom! You have to fall down a few times in order to eventually learn to walk! Will definitely be sharing this with others!!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 месяца назад

      Thank you. As athletes, professional and parents, the "controllables" always remain the same!

  • @leeannpassaro6101
    @leeannpassaro6101 3 месяца назад

    Dr. T is the man! I wish I had these tools when I was an athlete myself, but I will certainly be applying them to my everyday life. Thank you for this!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych Месяц назад

      I wish I had these tools when I competed as well!

  • @kashaiq
    @kashaiq 4 месяца назад

    teamwork and mindset is something I try to instill in myself every day.

  • @saajidahlip
    @saajidahlip 2 месяца назад

    Gratitude exercise sounds like something I should start doing

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych Месяц назад

      Intentional gratitude is highly correlated with sustained success! and its fun.

  • @phillipnorris3rd
    @phillipnorris3rd 4 месяца назад

    From wrestler to medical school, that's quite a journey. Good talk Arman

    • @tarasuppleton
      @tarasuppleton 4 месяца назад

      ha, you beat me here. Love that we always find these TED gems...

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 4 месяца назад

      Thank you! The journey is all about learning.

  • @LifeLolling
    @LifeLolling 3 месяца назад

    Reframing failure as a learning opportunity is an attitude everyone should learn when growing up. Definitely a "controllable" in your toolkit.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych Месяц назад

      Reframing is so important, so valuable and so controllable!

  • @leotencall
    @leotencall 2 месяца назад

    I think I missed the moment that connected his love of wrestling, teaching and coaching with applying for med school but so cool that it all lined up like that for him!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 месяца назад

      "Maybe I was training to be a doctor all along so let me at least apply..."

  • @charlotte-may9193
    @charlotte-may9193 2 месяца назад

    What an amazing journey he has had following his passions and also being able to live up to his parents' expectations.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych Месяц назад

      Once I simplified my areas of focus and controlled what I could control, my passions lined up with their dreams!

  • @remigradilenga4121
    @remigradilenga4121 20 дней назад

    Chunking information for better memory seems like a great trick, definitely going to give it a go

  • @okmak397
    @okmak397 3 месяца назад

    Great video, reframing failure is so powerful.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych Месяц назад

      Reframing can make a major difference as the way we think directly influences emotions and actions.

  • @juliebrownley6632
    @juliebrownley6632 8 месяцев назад

    Fantastic! As a late arrival to competitive sports, I can deeply appreciate this important message. Tennis is the love of my life (well, yeah, my husband and kids too). Truthfully, it has been the first window into my psyche, or at least the clearest. The immediate feedback acquired from thoughts, and feelings to outcomes is a thing of beauty. I had a history of snubbing sports as primal, egocentric and wasteful. Now, I see the immense value and all of the important psychological lessons that sports have to offer us and our children. FAILing each time I’m on the court is a gift, so powerful and joyful that I hope all of my patients, family and friends will find it too. Thanks Arman for this poignant talk.

    • @freedomplace5239
      @freedomplace5239 4 месяца назад

      There's nothing quite like mastery of the mind. Everyday counts I tell myself, thanks for sharing what you've uncovered. Apparently we're all in the game!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 4 месяца назад

      Appreciate the feedback and personal parallels

  • @hudsonwaters5454
    @hudsonwaters5454 2 месяца назад

    Great speech and I really enjoyed the way it emphasizes the importance of effort, attitude, and gratitude. It highlights the significance of embracing failures as opportunities for learning and growth. Overall, this video encapsulates the key elements I value in leadership and serves as a reminder to stay grounded and grateful while pursuing success.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 месяца назад

      When we simplify and reframe our experiences, we are more likely to be successful.

  • @jared9359
    @jared9359 2 месяца назад

    Great video. It takes a lot of discipline to be a D1 wrestler and eventually a doctor. You can tell he is passionate about his work.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 2 месяца назад

      Thank you! The values that wrestling instilled continue to hold for life beyond.

  • @tarasuppleton
    @tarasuppleton 4 месяца назад

    I struggle with knowing what I actually do control, and thats where it all starts for me and the spiral down gets faster.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 3 месяца назад

      Focus on EFFORT, ATTITUDE, and GRATITUDE!

  • @KForKun
    @KForKun Месяц назад

    Effort, attitude, and gratitude are such powerful tools. Thanks for the reminder!

  • @vivianacorinacabarcaherrera
    @vivianacorinacabarcaherrera 8 дней назад

    It was interesting around the 7:35 mark. Anytime I hear a question like that my mind just goes blank, no instant answers. I guess I need to sit down and get to know myself better or something

  • @georgenotbest
    @georgenotbest 3 месяца назад

    I'm all about this. No point putting your time and energy towards something that's ultimately not up to you to

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych Месяц назад

      When you control what you can control, you dedicate your time and energy to things that matter

  • @maverickvassallo
    @maverickvassallo 3 месяца назад

    Balancing familial expectations with personal aspirations can be tough stuff.

  • @CyberFlossLord
    @CyberFlossLord 3 месяца назад

    Remembering to have the right mindset for the task at hand can sometimes be the missing X factor to success.

  • @rapid-transit
    @rapid-transit 3 месяца назад

    It's not often you hear about the lessons learned from sports translating into success in other fields like medicine. Pretty cool stuff

  • @ExitHound
    @ExitHound 12 часов назад

    Damn the bit about negative thoughts being psychologically stronger than positive ones blew me away wtf is up with that ???

  • @tylermartire1750
    @tylermartire1750 2 месяца назад

    First. Attempt. In. Learning. It's only a failure if we let it be!

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych Месяц назад

      and the FAIL can also help you grow if you let it!

  • @konglum
    @konglum 3 месяца назад

    Being taught from an early age to reframe failure as a lesson would benefit us all. Not sure how that'd align with certain parents expectations though 😅😅

  • @thisisjustright
    @thisisjustright 3 месяца назад

    I don't think enough sporting coaches realize in full the impact they can make in someones life, on or off the field.

  • @-joanna-wang
    @-joanna-wang 13 дней назад

    Pretty cool to hear a dude who was a wrestler talk about the brain being the most important muscle.

  • @charlievantas
    @charlievantas 2 месяца назад

    Damn yessir whatever you say 😅😅

  • @morefunallthetime
    @morefunallthetime 2 месяца назад

    A lot of migrant parents put that kind of pressure on their kids and I've always seen it as not just about the money but securing them as valuable members of the community and honestly it's a shame that other parents don't instill that on their kids

  • @The-Only-Deal
    @The-Only-Deal 2 месяца назад

    Had to laugh that the follow up to "I don't like blood" was how about a dentist? like... there's still heaps of blood in a mouth!!! LOL

  • @samgravell3180
    @samgravell3180 2 месяца назад

    This is like a parody of a TEDTalk and self-help culture in general.

  • @marcusatticuslordandrule
    @marcusatticuslordandrule 3 месяца назад

    I feel like there are a lot of parents out there who are scared of the risks of their offspring make, especially if it can come with long term damage... Heh.

  • @maxinebennier
    @maxinebennier 3 месяца назад +1

    I think we all aspire to meet our family's expectations, even when we may not have the skills or talents to do so. We want that approval more than anything else.

    • @dr.t_sportspsych
      @dr.t_sportspsych 3 месяца назад

      It's definitely important but so is choosing the mindset needed to get that approval from within.