Brilliant Q&A session. I have OCD and have been in and out of counselling over the last 10 years where I have got better but then not been on top of it and let things get on top of me. I came across your channel around a year ago and have to say it has really helped in conjunction with my therapy sessions. Can't thank you enough :)
My intrusive thoughts really make me feel as though I’m a horrible person for having that thought. I would tell my mind not to have that thought, and then it would have the very exact thought I’m trying to avoid. Then having the thought as a result of avoiding it, would bring even more anxiety. I, then would be stuck in a circle that would repeating the whole day. It’s so frustrating, both mentally and physically to go through this. At times, I wished I wasn’t alive, just so I could stop having these thoughts and stop engaging in them. I, most of the times am aware that my “thoughts” are just thoughts. But at times, my brain really acts like a bully to describe it the best. At times, if I have an intrusive thought that doesn’t conform to my morals, and when I’m aware about my thoughts aren’t that important, I feel as though I’m using my ocd as an “excuse” to allow whatever thought that I had, and that too makes me feel like a bad person. This makes me feel even more frustrated.
@@jackp_u hello! Over the years, I have come across many useful resources that have helped me understand OCD better, and have taught me useful skills that help me manage my thoughts. I have also witnessed OCD change themes, am currently undergoing a sort of relapse, which has been quite challenging, but now I know the things I need to do better to fight it. I have also booked an appointment with the dr, so I hope that goes well :)
I have a question: I enjoy watching films a lot, its a major part of my life, but OCD is trying to ruin that for me. Whenever I am watching a movie I get very anxious that I'm about to have an intrusive thought or trigger that'll ruin the experience of that film for me. It makes it so I can't relax, I'm constantly on edge while doing anything I enjoy out of fear it'll get ruined. Do you have any advice for this? Thanks and keep up the good work.
I usually would say go in with the mindset of WANTING to be triggered. You don't have to look for them, but go in with the "I don't care" if it happens and practice responding differently to the triggers.
I almost can’t picture life without my ROCD (unless I leave the relationship- then it would go away). I can’t see it ever leaving or allowing me to enjoy my relationship. Such a frustrating thing.
Hi Natan 🙂 thanks a lot for your videos,they're so helpful and a real weapon against OCD. I've been struggling with it most of my youth ,now I'm doing good with It. Sometimes It Just pops up,especially when under stress ,but most of the Times I can handle it quite well. Your videos have been a huge help for me. Thank you very much😊😉
Is it normal to talk to someone whose dealt with OCD and works for people who have OCD and feel like you’re ‘normal’ again but then you get a trigger, start to panic again and feel the anxiety is gone but you’re panicking because there is no anxiety but the intrusive thoughts come back 😭
If you like coffee drink it I drink coffee regardless if it gives me anxiety because I don’t care about the anxiety no more same with alcohol I just give up give me anxiety or more intrusive thoughts I really don’t care
Hey there, haven't been diagnosed as having OCD at this time but I'm certain it's what has been plaguing me for some years. I am wondering whether I would need a recommendation from a general therapist to go to a clinic that specializes in OCD or whether I could go directly to them for help?
I noticed most of the questions people ask tells me that they have thoughts and not compulsive physical actions. You cannot call such OCD. Also real OCD is related to something created either fear or trauma in the past and you are now avoiding those fears with some rituals. 90% of the real OCD is related to past traumas or fears or some event either in real life or a movie you interpret as unpleasant or scary.
I have a question about false memory. Is it normal for false memory to come one after another about the same things with more details and story's super very fast and Make a story that is so real that you can't don't believe, and happens many times a day with many different types of things But in reality nothing happened at all it was all just Purley false memorys?
Rumination leads to Rumination which only leads to more Rumination perpetuating rumination. Yet you think somehow it'll make you feel better but you feel that much worse
Hey!! Ever since I have seen a video that was very disturbing to the extent of traumatizing me a couple days later after that (yesterday) I started having these images of me doing horrible things to the people I love it was very distressing but today was different today I still had this mental image but I wouldn’t do anything to avoid it it’s in my mind and it’s not like in the other videos where you say « I could or I can my mind transforms positive things into negative thoughts.... For example I can imagine me doing horrible things but I won’t really hide stuff the only thing I do is either avoid the person or get very distressed cause my mind tells me that I want to but I obviously don’t want to do those horrible things...... And what scares me is that I somehow do what my mind tells me and that’s why I am here to ask if it’s Harm OCD or another condition or the worse im a psychopath (which I really hope not) @ocd and anxiety
Hey,can you please read my comment...and ans my question...please..this all started when my friend asked me what my sexual orientation was.at that time I said I was straight.I am basically a overthinker so I thought I should conform myself.just one month later I was admiring myself and said females are beautiful.and then my mind went to the thought and Said if you find female beautiful then you might be gay.and just after it whatever romantic stories I read,I had no interest in it.my mind kept jumping back”am I gay”and then I came to know there is a thing called HOCD and I had it cause the night I questioned myself I had a dream of two girls kissing and when I woke up in morning I remembered the dream and thought what if one of the girl was me and freaked out.I literally kept crying for 3 days.then I video called my friend and she had a hair cut and she looked beautiful and my mind said it means you are gay cause you find her beautiful.I had intrusive images about my friend and I became sad.till these days I wanted to be beautiful as her and now I had this thought.now I keep getting intrusive images and it became a habit so I no longer be anxious.one day I saw HOCD vs denial video ,there they said if you like boobs you are in denial.it means I do like them .but not in a wrong way.cause every girl is obsessed with it and always compare herself with other girls.now my brain told me I am in denial.also they say they like those thoughts and just hate themselves liking it.and in the dream I had in that night it felt good and but when I came to knew what the dream was I freaked out.when I get intrusive images In morning I feel bad.now I don’t feel anxious.I am forgetting who I was.can our sexual orientation change.I saw many people say it is fluid.and say you can turn gay and you know it from early age.I never looked at any friends other than friend and now my mind makes me have crush on every friend.I feel exhausted.when I keep reminding past me,my mind keeps me caught in situations and proves me I am gay.please help me,does orientation change.sometimes it is like I want to be gay even if I don’t want to from my heart and whenever I think of a guy a girls pops up .
Girl... I can relate to you... There were some things in the past that I did as a kid... Like probably 4 5... When I was a child I found films and movies where woman were sexualised... As if they were something sexual... I would always wonder why.... (I am a girl)... It's been 3 years... I was under medication... It did help a lot... But in between i cut off... And here I am again... I think I have Real event OCD and HOCD... But I shouldn't be saying this... Because saying this can cause reassurance and make my OCD even more higher... And girl I would really want to say something, that is don't do reassurance.... It just adds fuel to the flames
I have a very hard time deciding on anything- what if he or she doesn't like it? what if she stops being my friend? what if this or what if that? What would be ERP related to decision making? I will get so anxious, then have a panic attack- I will end up self hurting and then feel depressed.
Thoughts remain for a short time after ERP because your brain wants you to go back to the compulsions after a while thoughts will be disappeared but maybe they come some times maybe only ones in a week but I highly recommend you to let those thoughts come and come and come after that your brain understand this thoughts are useless believe me I struggled with ocd more than 2 years but I did it so you can too but it will not take more than one month to kill that monster just let them come and don't react good luck!!!
Can you please tell me if i am getting thoughts like what if my ocd is real event ocd. Actually I am having thoughts like what if i have done something wrong and now suddenly it is feeling like what if its an real event ocd thought. Can anyone help in this
Hi Nathan ,I'm a cis girl and I have the symptoms of tocd for 19-20days and before tocd I had hocd . It's really making me upset and I don't what to be a male . It will be really nice if u do a video for treatment for tocd like u did for hocd cause ur hocd video helped me a lot. pls Nathan it's my pleading pls make a video for treatment for tocd.And pls sir pls reply
People can do it on their own if they understand and know how to do the correct treatment. That's what my online course is for. 😃 www.OCDandAnxietyOnline.com
I appreciate all of you!! 💙
@Tushar Rajendra More As of right now, the next one is scheduled June 7th at 4pm CST.
Thank you so much for this Nathan 🙏🏻👍🏻
I appreciate your insight on how to manage this joy that OCD is, thank you!
Thank u sm❤️🙏🏽😊
How to deal with ocd when somebody at home does stuff that bothers you
This is so much like stoicism. Love it thank you!
Brilliant Q&A session. I have OCD and have been in and out of counselling over the last 10 years where I have got better but then not been on top of it and let things get on top of me. I came across your channel around a year ago and have to say it has really helped in conjunction with my therapy sessions. Can't thank you enough :)
Thanks so much for the kind words!
My intrusive thoughts really make me feel as though I’m a horrible person for having that thought. I would tell my mind not to have that thought, and then it would have the very exact thought I’m trying to avoid. Then having the thought as a result of avoiding it, would bring even more anxiety. I, then would be stuck in a circle that would repeating the whole day. It’s so frustrating, both mentally and physically to go through this. At times, I wished I wasn’t alive, just so I could stop having these thoughts and stop engaging in them.
I, most of the times am aware that my “thoughts” are just thoughts. But at times, my brain really acts like a bully to describe it the best. At times, if I have an intrusive thought that doesn’t conform to my morals, and when I’m aware about my thoughts aren’t that important, I feel as though I’m using my ocd as an “excuse” to allow whatever thought that I had, and that too makes me feel like a bad person. This makes me feel even more frustrated.
I know , it’s best to just accept your thoughts and let them pass. I did the same and it just makes things worse.
@@jackp_u hello! Over the years, I have come across many useful resources that have helped me understand OCD better, and have taught me useful skills that help me manage my thoughts. I have also witnessed OCD change themes, am currently undergoing a sort of relapse, which has been quite challenging, but now I know the things I need to do better to fight it. I have also booked an appointment with the dr, so I hope that goes well :)
I have a question: I enjoy watching films a lot, its a major part of my life, but OCD is trying to ruin that for me. Whenever I am watching a movie I get very anxious that I'm about to have an intrusive thought or trigger that'll ruin the experience of that film for me. It makes it so I can't relax, I'm constantly on edge while doing anything I enjoy out of fear it'll get ruined. Do you have any advice for this?
Thanks and keep up the good work.
I usually would say go in with the mindset of WANTING to be triggered. You don't have to look for them, but go in with the "I don't care" if it happens and practice responding differently to the triggers.
I almost can’t picture life without my ROCD (unless I leave the relationship- then it would go away). I can’t see it ever leaving or allowing me to enjoy my relationship. Such a frustrating thing.
You would have to trust that you have OCD and that your relationship is not the issue
Hi Natan 🙂 thanks a lot for your videos,they're so helpful and a real weapon against OCD. I've been struggling with it most of my youth ,now I'm doing good with It. Sometimes It Just pops up,especially when under stress ,but most of the Times I can handle it quite well. Your videos have been a huge help for me. Thank you very much😊😉
I appreciate your support! Thanks so much!
I like to sleeep while watching your videos. Thank you for everything ❤
This is refreshing to hear for my OCD
i am so glad i encountered this channel. So helpful 👍🏻
“Maybe it’s working, maybe it’s not” (regarding whether the live stream is working…jk..lol)
Haha!
💘 OCD can be treated by Buspirone/Esketamine ! Wishing all ocd sufferers getting healthiness & happiness.
Is it normal to talk to someone whose dealt with OCD and works for people who have OCD and feel like you’re ‘normal’ again but then you get a trigger, start to panic again and feel the anxiety is gone but you’re panicking because there is no anxiety but the intrusive thoughts come back 😭
SNAPS!!! I missed the live 😡
Is avoiding caffeine good for people with OCD and anxiety, or would this count as an avoidance strategy?
If you like coffee drink it I drink coffee regardless if it gives me anxiety because I don’t care about the anxiety no more same with alcohol I just give up give me anxiety or more intrusive thoughts I really don’t care
Hey there, haven't been diagnosed as having OCD at this time but I'm certain it's what has been plaguing me for some years. I am wondering whether I would need a recommendation from a general therapist to go to a clinic that specializes in OCD or whether I could go directly to them for help?
Thank you!
You're welcome!
I noticed most of the questions people ask tells me that they have thoughts and not compulsive physical actions. You cannot call such OCD. Also real OCD is related to something created either fear or trauma in the past and you are now avoiding those fears with some rituals. 90% of the real OCD is related to past traumas or fears or some event either in real life or a movie you interpret as unpleasant or scary.
Not necessarily true, I do believe there is a balance between OCD Compulsions and Thoughts, I think it may be a mix of the two.
I have a question about false memory.
Is it normal for false memory to come one after another about the same things with more details and story's super very fast
and Make a story that is so real that you can't don't believe, and happens many times a day with many different types of things
But in reality nothing happened at all it was all just Purley false memorys?
Rumination leads to Rumination which only leads to more Rumination perpetuating rumination. Yet you think somehow it'll make you feel better but you feel that much worse
Hey!! Ever since I have seen a video that was very disturbing to the extent of traumatizing me a couple days later after that (yesterday) I started having these images of me doing horrible things to the people I love it was very distressing but today was different today I still had this mental image but I wouldn’t do anything to avoid it it’s in my mind and it’s not like in the other videos where you say « I could or I can my mind transforms positive things into negative thoughts.... For example I can imagine me doing horrible things but I won’t really hide stuff the only thing I do is either avoid the person or get very distressed cause my mind tells me that I want to but I obviously don’t want to do those horrible things...... And what scares me is that I somehow do what my mind tells me and that’s why I am here to ask if it’s Harm OCD or another condition or the worse im a psychopath (which I really hope not) @ocd and anxiety
Hey,can you please read my comment...and ans my question...please..this all started when my friend asked me what my sexual orientation was.at that time I said I was straight.I am basically a overthinker so I thought I should conform myself.just one month later I was admiring myself and said females are beautiful.and then my mind went to the thought and Said if you find female beautiful then you might be gay.and just after it whatever romantic stories I read,I had no interest in it.my mind kept jumping back”am I gay”and then I came to know there is a thing called HOCD and I had it cause the night I questioned myself I had a dream of two girls kissing and when I woke up in morning I remembered the dream and thought what if one of the girl was me and freaked out.I literally kept crying for 3 days.then I video called my friend and she had a hair cut and she looked beautiful and my mind said it means you are gay cause you find her beautiful.I had intrusive images about my friend and I became sad.till these days I wanted to be beautiful as her and now I had this thought.now I keep getting intrusive images and it became a habit so I no longer be anxious.one day I saw HOCD vs denial video ,there they said if you like boobs you are in denial.it means I do like them .but not in a wrong way.cause every girl is obsessed with it and always compare herself with other girls.now my brain told me I am in denial.also they say they like those thoughts and just hate themselves liking it.and in the dream I had in that night it felt good and but when I came to knew what the dream was I freaked out.when I get intrusive images In morning I feel bad.now I don’t feel anxious.I am forgetting who I was.can our sexual orientation change.I saw many people say it is fluid.and say you can turn gay and you know it from early age.I never looked at any friends other than friend and now my mind makes me have crush on every friend.I feel exhausted.when I keep reminding past me,my mind keeps me caught in situations and proves me I am gay.please help me,does orientation change.sometimes it is like I want to be gay even if I don’t want to from my heart and whenever I think of a guy a girls pops up .
Girl... I can relate to you... There were some things in the past that I did as a kid... Like probably 4 5... When I was a child I found films and movies where woman were sexualised... As if they were something sexual... I would always wonder why.... (I am a girl)... It's been 3 years... I was under medication... It did help a lot... But in between i cut off... And here I am again... I think I have Real event OCD and HOCD... But I shouldn't be saying this... Because saying this can cause reassurance and make my OCD even more higher... And girl I would really want to say something, that is don't do reassurance.... It just adds fuel to the flames
I have a very hard time deciding on anything- what if he or she doesn't like it? what if she stops being my friend? what if this or what if that? What would be ERP related to decision making? I will get so anxious, then have a panic attack- I will end up self hurting and then feel depressed.
what does it mean if I don't longer have anxiety but the thoughts remain?
Thoughts remain for a short time after ERP because your brain wants you to go back to the compulsions after a while thoughts will be disappeared but maybe they come some times maybe only ones in a week but I highly recommend you to let those thoughts come and come and come after that your brain understand this thoughts are useless believe me I struggled with ocd more than 2 years but I did it so you can too but it will not take more than one month to kill that monster just let them come and don't react good luck!!!
And my case was severe OCD I suffered too much but I'm free now!
@@farshadmoshksar135 hey can you help me with my confession ocd? I am having guilt conscience...is it ocd
Wise words ! @@farshadmoshksar135
Can two types of ocds combine together for someone?or can a person have multiple types of odds together
OCD is always OCD
i have a problem taking long showers and getting out of the shower
Do perferct
with the focus perfection like this
Thank u sm ❤️🙏🏽
Can you please tell me if i am getting thoughts like what if my ocd is real event ocd. Actually I am having thoughts like what if i have done something wrong and now suddenly it is feeling like what if its an real event ocd thought. Can anyone help in this
My OCD is religious base
Can ocd be related of narcissistic characteristics?
Hi Nathan ,I'm a cis girl and I have the symptoms of tocd for 19-20days and before tocd I had hocd . It's really making me upset and I don't what to be a male . It will be really nice if u do a video for treatment for tocd like u did for hocd cause ur hocd video helped me a lot. pls Nathan it's my pleading pls make a video for treatment for tocd.And pls sir pls reply
I do have a video for this: ruclips.net/video/SY1RczHKc_4/видео.html -- I need to follow it up with more treatment tips.
@@ocdandanxiety thank you so much sir! Waiting for more treatment video for tocd!
Is it that important to get helped by a therapist or is it possible to recover on my own? :)
People can do it on their own if they understand and know how to do the correct treatment. That's what my online course is for. 😃 www.OCDandAnxietyOnline.com
Okay thank you :) is the online course about all types of ocd? Because i just want to get informations about my type of taughts? :)