I love how they all stop talking and listen when isi talks. That shows the respect they have for her as Josh’s partner and for her as a person. Love itttt✨
Tbh the post pregnancy/post child weight gain conversation made me uncomfortable. I think calling it letting yourself go after creating life for 9 months maybe once or multiple times is extremely insensitive and dismisses all of the labour that mothers have to take on that men quite frankly do not do half of. So treating your partner insensitively about their weight gain i.e. not being able to see even a little bit of their beauty after they have gone through the closest thing to death (child birth) because you don't like the weight gain they went through to bring in your child to the world is extremely insensitive imo. I am only talking about child birth, I have not even mentioned the fact that women carry the overwhelming majority of the childcare labour, domestic labour and are still expected to contribute financially - all whilst being expected to snap back to their pre baby bodies. We glorify Dad bods but mum bods that do all of the heavy lifting are shamed.
This 👏🏿👏🏿 I feel like people do not appreciate or understand how hard pregnancy and post labour is. Specifically men they minimize the enormity of childbirth and rearing.
Who glorifies Dad bods? LOL! The best thing a partner can do is keep you healthy. They should be your main partner, or even trainer for your fitness journey especially after pregnancy.
I completely understand and comprehend this sentiment, BUT it is NOT an impossible notion to find the motivation and push yourself to heal and "snapback". Everyone is always gonna be tired and have a lot on their plates. It shows your continued determination for your personal self care and mental health; with excessive weight gain comes health issues and a woman is especially sensitive to health issues while healing from childbirth. What we eat, our mental state, and our relationship all plays a part in our health and healing. Be proactive in your own healing and mental health, just sitting around bc you're tired cannot always be the excuse, there's ALWAYS an option to do better. Everyone is tired most of the time. On both sides, mother and father!
@@applebomb8924 Mothers in this modern time are always doing far more (looking after the kids, cooking, cleaning and alot mothers work and go to their job)....... no wonder why they get so burnt out & have no energy left or determination. I am sure mothers really try to be healthy and look their best but it isn't easy as you say. From what I see, men need to help out far more at home, just being real honest.
This makes me think about how important it is to see a person you're interested in (or dating) around their friends. Different personalities come out and you get to see another side of them.
This video really just reminded me that there is nothing wrong with me, I just haven’t found my person yet! Because the common theme is that a man is going to do right for the right woman
You are a beautiful girl and you are being saved for the one that is right for you...in the meantime prepare for your blessing and remember it might not come in the package you dream of but the one that is meant for the dream you never knew existed.
It was nice to see him relax a bit and loosen up a little. I feel like Isi puts that pressure on him to "never cuss" ..I mean yeah dont just go around using profanity all day ..but every once in a while is cool. This isnt shade..just my opinion. Im def a supporter of their channel..that's why I'm here.
You guys should do more of these videos, thank you! I know the guy in the navy blue did not mean anything bad in the pregnancy body comment but it was very harsh and triggering (as a nurse i see Ahole husbands and boyfriends say sick things too often). I don't think you can say you love someone and see their struggle carrying and giving birth to y'lls child to find their body ugly, Plastic surgery is not a quick fix, it's not a game, mentally or physically. That's heartbreaking. I would just like to remind everyone that pregnancy is a sacrifice to MAYBE give birth. Women die every day due to hemorrhage, heart attack, infection, mental health issues all due to giving birth most being black women in (USA statistics) usually within 42 days(45%) to 1 year(18%) after birth and 38% while pregnant. 63% are all preventable, which just shows how vulnerable and uncared for the women is...it's very tragic. I find it sad there is not much research on the effect it has on men as I am sure mentality they are going THROUGH it and there are probably physical signs. Anyway, after pregnancy even with great support (very helpful and life-saving) women can still feel shit for at least a year on and off, that does not mean it's healthy to not take care of yourself through heal process but it's not always pretty. while a woman is creating a child we also being reformed. We try to make it look good and easy but those of us who work in this field know the pressure it takes to JUST bring the mother and child through.
Thank you for all that you do! Truthfully, a lot of his comments were, honest, but they lacked emotional maturity. That was definitely one of them. I hope through research and experience, he can gain some newfound perspective and understanding, especially on that particular topic.
I agree! And I think that’s why they specially tried to ask the dads in the group to take lead on that question. Cause dudes who aren’t dads and who haven’t seen their women go through pregnancy/child birth don’t understand how it can change women (and themselves too)
Well said nurse!!! I have 3 children and each one took a different toll on my body and mind. Its a struggle. I wish there is more conversations on the struggles of pregnancy and child birth.
Don't bring the homie in the blue next time. I'm soooo sorry. He clearly does not make sense, and clearly lacks the emotional intelligence and understanding of what happens during pregnancy. I'm sorry, but nooooooo :( Sometimes it's not even about letting herself go...do you take the baby and allow her to get some me time to snap back.
Yeah but lets be honest.. some women do let themselves go and use the excuse of having a baby for the rest of their lives. Its ANNOYING. Take care of your god dahm selves
I think SOME men need to really realize that they do be preferring women who look like an ig baddie because when you first meet them that’s how y’all be catching them… after you meet them, it’s different
The IG models live different realities than your average person. Liking a picture is just that doesn't mean that they would want to be in a relationship with them. Men may date an IG model but they would marry a natural girl.
I think they don't see the hypocrisy in the statement "I'm attracted to the lady who is done up but when I get her as my woman she shouldn't wear the stuff that attracted me to her". They turned it into it's an inconvenience to me i.e. lipstick on shirts, can't kiss her when I want, etc.
I like the boy with the red jacket he seems quieter and reserved and he doesn't have to say much to make a statement. The boy with the green shirt and the Nike hat is cool too I feel like when he really cares about you he will put you first.
This ‘male’ said “rub some oil on it & we good to go..somebody is going to love you…” ….& his face added ‘but it ain’t me.’ ☠️☠️🥶 I hope he knows not everybody snaps back. And if he rather his woman be natural telling her to get surgery is very ironic.
That comment about women sitting around the house and not doing anything didn’t sit right with me just for the simple fact that I think the mindset around women being housewives is really miscued and I don’t like it. Women that are housewives never get off work. They are cooking cleaning prepping stocking sewing pruning lifting shifting folding building organizing and developing in almost every way possible almost every second of the day. In the morning I’m getting myself my kids and my husband ready for the day. I must provide a clean environment for myself my child and my husband so I’m cleaning. Then I have to wash clothes for my kids my husband and myself and then I have to cook breakfast lunch and dinner everyday for my kids my husband and myself. Then I have to make sure there’s groceries in the house. I have to make sure there’s cleaning supplies tissue batteries napkins crayons color pencils and any other house hold items are stocked up and usable in the house. on top of that I have to make sure that I at least look decent because I want to feel good about myself and I’m sure my husband wants to look at his wife and see shes put together. But it’s like it just never stops is literally on going from The moment you wake up to the time that you go to sleep you are taking care of other people. When a husband goes to work he gets up in the morning and he gets to walk away from whats happening at home to take care of what’s going on at his job and for a few hours of the day he’s not sitting in that same environment from the time he wakes up to the time that he goes to sleep. Housewifes are on call 24 hours of the day your husband calls you he want to stuff, your child calls you want something, you want stuff from yourself. So I think a lot more respect needs to go into a housewife because housewives don’t just sit on their ass all day and do nothing housewives are fucking holding it down and making sure that things are being taken care of at home and all the shit that you don’t have to worry about, the small things that’s taken care of that women do. Husbands can just grab shit on the way out the door and go. I think down playing housewifes is also old fashioned and both men and women should contribute equally in there own ways to their marriage and households and children.
I felt everything you said in my soul. I'm a stay at home mum of 2 small children and I wake up at 5am every morning at least 2hrs before everyone else because that's literally the only time I can exercise. Then it's making breakfast for everyone (my daughter is a picky eater so sometimes I have to make her a second breakfast). Getting my husband's clothes ready for work. Packing his lunch. When the kids wake up getting them changed and dressed and then it's play time. Their nap time I'm doing laundry and making dinner. A lot of the time I'm cleaning while cooking. Once they're up its feeding them then taking them to the park. Then it's dinner time, I get clean and changed before my husband comes home so I look nice and put together for him. Then it's reading and bed time for the kids. Then I clean up the mess everyone made during dinner and do a quick cleaning. That's when my husband and I get to spend time together. I am on my feet all day taking care of my family. It's such an insult when people say housewives "sit around" all day.
Say it louder for the people in the back 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼! Yes girl, I’m with you 100%! I watched my mom do this for my dad, myself and my 7 siblings. It is not easy and it’s not always rewarding. Seeing the mental and physical strain it puts on someone in this position makes you fully appreciate the sacrifices they make on a daily basis. Because I’ve seen it and experienced it first hand, I have nothing but the upmost respect and admiration for stay at home parents / spouses / care givers.
I feel like the guy in the teal shirt is like hella Philosophical and is like the person that surprises you with the stuff they say because they’re so soft-spoken and timid lol he’s my fav and I love his ponytail
I noticed that too lol. I wanted found it weird how people in America wear shoes in the house. In Canada, you remove your shoes when you enter somebodies house.0
@@joyceng7075 ikr, like especially if you’re an immigrant living in Canada, seeing (a lot of) people in America wearing shoes in the house (even on the bed 🥴) is just weird
the way josh + kam responded to the question about pregnancy was so disappointing and disgusting. the way men feel so comfortable deciding what is/isn’t acceptable for a woman’s body postpartum is just another way that systems of oppression for women run deep. the policing of women’s bodies by men demonstrated in such a covert way.. really fucking sucks.
Right!!! 🚩 I hope they had a conversation afterwards because jeez.. pregnancy can literally kill you and your main concern is how fast I’m going to snap back…
Come on.. let's be honest.A good 90% of women DO NOT like the stretched out belly skin,stretch marks,hyperpigmentation,rolls etc after they give birth.If a woman doesn't like what she sees in the mirror why would anyone else?? Like honestly,
the dude in the blue sweater !!! he screams "IMMATURITY" like he's not fully ready to be in a mature relationship and compromise and take care of his woman. he seems to pick and choose what fits him or suits him. he's not a team player, he comes off as selfish and self-centered. and the way he was talking about women who have "okay" looking faces and hot body was just a MAJOR red flag to avoid him as a whole. he seems to be the type to use women for his needs or when it is convenient for him. or he picks and chooses the women to respect when in actuality you're suppose to respect all women regardless of their beauty or their body size/shape.
I couldn’t agree more. He’s very self centered and he’s definitely the kind of man to steer away from!! You can tell by his facial expressions when others are speaking that it’s his way or the high way. No compromise
You are here Judging him as if you women are not self centered or selfish.Just say you don't like his confidence,That's all!! You'll never meet him in real life so why are you even bothered leaving such a message?
"into the thick of it" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 bruhhh Josh doesn't cuss on this channel but it was nice hearing his unfiltered side😂 I feel like Josh's boys bring out his more relaxed side and I'm LIVING for it. Also WHY ARE ALL THESE MEN SO FINE🔥🔥🔥 like Lawd.
God not that song please! My sister has been driving me crazy with that 😩😂😂 but, definitely agree with the rest of what you said. There's so many layers to a person; the way that Josh acts around Isi is bound to be different from when he is with his friends! 🤷🏽♀️
@@luwamalem9537 and I think it should be like that. A man is free to act however with BJ's boys as long as his boys are respectful. Like I hate girls who say things like "Oh my man can't go out unless I'm there too" Like honey.... No. Let him live his life. If he wants to step out then that's on him. All that to say.... Isi has gotten to know the boys and she's very secure in her relationship.
I was actually surprised by the guy in the Dodgers shirt as well, his energy in the beginning in comparison to what he actually ended up saying was a total 180° in my brain.
Interesting because I felt like the one in the blue hoodie in the middle was on the right track at first but towards the end started rubbing me the wrong way with what he was saying lmaoooo
@@Its_tiy LOL. He rubbed me the wrong way from the get go, but I was trying to keep the energy good and not comment on him. However, yes, I absolutely agree with you. The only point I agreed with that he mentioned is to ensure you express yourself, but when he went down the line of expressing yourself in an angry tone (which could obviously end badly) he completely lost me.
My opinion of Kam changed when it came to the post pregnancy question. It just made him very unattractive when it came to that question because women body changes a lot while pregnant depending on the labor and pregnancy even the 6 week time frame isn’t enough for a woman body to heal. His woman having to watch what she eat while she’s pregnant so she won’t get fat to still have him attracted to her is weird.
Right I thought that was weird. Not to mention you have to eat more if you’re breastfeeding. Most women don’t get back to the body they had before pregnancy not even of terms of weight but like things like stretch marks and loose skin. That really rubbed me wrong.
Rightttt it also borderline felt fatphobic, the "I'm not letting us get fat" and the dancing around the "shape/figure" of a women like just say fat with your chest lmao
Yeaaa she’s carrying the baby not him. I feel certain that if roles had been reversed historically it would be so totally normalised for men to gain weight and even be overweight if they were the ones in that position. It goes back to ridiculous societal standards for women set by men :)
Omg yesss and it’s such a shame he feels this way and is a Father😕🤦🏾♀️. I really hope he learns to be more empathetic and less selfish in the near future for his daughter and her mother.
I don’t want to disrespect any of Josh’s & Isi’s friends but Josh just seems so much more developed in terms of mindset than his peers. Only maybe 2-3 seemed some what okay. They are men I stay away from. Clearly Josh is the only engaged/married one in the group. Even the ones in relationships is questionable lol. Great video nevertheless.
Yup esp the one in the blue shirt, for a man in a relationship he definitely comes off immature and ignorant on certain topics which is the opposite of what I expected from him.
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The flow of the conversations was so natural and smooth. I didn't even realize I watched the whole hour long video w/o pausing. Def wouldn't mind a part 2.
Yes he seems sincere and said the heart is important to him .I like him and Donte they seemed like they aren't fake .I liked that they are more homebody like they are more centered and aren't always looking for something more. Like they are comfortable with themselves more than having to impress everyone.
I thought I was the only one looking at Dontae but I guess not. 😏 If I can't have these types of in depth conversations with my future friends and romantic partner then I don't want them. Not saying they have to come with that energy off bat I mean if they're not willing or even want to put in effort to have that emotional and intellectual maturity then I don't want them.🤷🏿
@45:25 🤔 I don’t understand. If you weren’t attracted to the body pre-pregnancy why get her pregnant? You were attracted to SOMETHING about that body. It’s not making sense. I don’t think he understood the question. It’s giving vain.
I think he was saying he wouldn't get eith someone who had a bad body before a baby so he wouldn't be attracted to his wóman who changed into that after having a baby. He was basically saying having a baby doesn't matter. It's giving very uneducated on his part lol
I feel like they like the natural face until it’s a girl that has a lil bit of acne then it’s a different story. Bc in the acne community it’s harder to find self love when your constantly trying to find products and wondering why your face is fucked up. So it’s like they like the “natural” clear skin better than a shawty that is clearly bad but the face is not all pulled in together which at the end of the day it’s a working progress cuz I need ppl to understand that she never ask to have it in the first place. Simple
I’ve had acne my whole life, and I’ve accepted that imma always have acne and I’m still beautiful with acne. A lot of these guys be having acne too so they should know the struggle that comes with it but if a man don’t see my beauty in its raw, natural state, then i don’t want him.
They are lots of men out there that don't mind acne. These guys touched on confidence thing which is important so if a female has acne does it consume her every thought being insecure about how she looks or has she accepted herself including the acne and live her life. Also I think this statement needs a bit of work because I feel you just projected your thoughts unto these men... you don't know if they care that a female has acne .. imo Josh and his friends seem very mature so something so minor would be just that minor
Your friend needs to realize that most of the people that ‘snap back’ on insta have already scheduled their plastic surgery before their child is born. Some women naturally snap back a lot don’t. They shouldn’t feel pressured to do that
Having emotional & mental maturity is a valuable trait. You have to be able to express how you feel to get what you want. If you feel a way about something, do not sit on it. A small thing can easily turn into resentment.
The whole post pregnancy debate 👀 the fact that they say they got to get the body back right. A post pregnancy body that changes is not wrong ladies. Take your time and don’t let nobody push you into losing weight. Think if you are a little more chunky but you have amazing kids is it not better than being slim with no family of your own. It’s a blessing not everyone can have children so embrace every part of it
It is but lets be honest.. some women really do let themselves go and put NO effort into snatching back then they want sympathy from others and they complain alot about their body not being the same and does NOTHING to change that. At that point its just annoying. Some use oh i had a baby as an excuse to not take care of themselves and after a while that excuse becomes invalid.
@@okeliaskyers2462 the way the guys were talking was about their potential woman needing to go back to how they were. If the woman gains weight and is fine with it why should she be pushed into unrealistic expectations by her partner. Does he not love and care for her more than the way she looks? That shows me they lack maturity and understanding. If a woman’s body changes after having children and SHE doesn’t like it but doesn’t do anything about it that’s her business. They were not referring to her talking or feeling insecure they were saying they are not attracted to women who have bodies like that. Every time a woman gives birth she risks her life for a man and these ‘men’ can only talk about how she looks and not appreciate the sacrifice she made.
@@ShannonSOS risks her life for a man? No no, don’t do all that. A pregnant woman doesn’t view her pregnancy as a sacrifice let alone risking her life for a man. If you’re carrying a baby with the mindset that you described then you shouldn’t have got pregnant, easy, no need to sacrifice yourself. That is the craziest thing I’ve ever read!!
I really love these videos because we not only get to see a man perspective on things but other men get to see that they’re capable of giving their perspective or expressing how they feel about certain things. So thank you so much for sharing this video I love you guys so much anything and everything you guys say I always share with my loved ones and it has definitely helped.
Josh already knew his friends said some wild stuff😂 telling us to be nice in the comments💀 haha but nah some of his friends' emotional maturity hasn't developed yet and it shows. especially with that post-pregnancy conversation, just had to remind myself that the opinions of a couple ignorant men that I don't personally know don't really matter🤷🏿♀️
I’m engaged and LOOOOVVVEEE listening to forums like this because relationship maintenance is so underrated. I liked the question about men expressing their feelings because I think making your boyfriend/fiance/husband feel safe to express is important. They need to feel reassured just as much as we do as black women. It’s also important to know when to trade off vulnerability. Sometimes it’s helpful to break at the same time, and sometimes we need our partner to give us a soft place to land. Thank you again for the QUALITY VIDEO !
as a women, i agree with the tone during a disagreement. grant it, i be frustrated asf and no i dont curse or throw things but u cannottttt think i will be calm and collected like a bird while im frustrated.
@@ughhhmcrbinch5583 no. Its a difference in people personalities. I will never understand how people want others to react a certain way knowing we all react differently.
Very insightful! The question about holding on to girl that they not ready for was a real trigger lol ISI we need a women’s q&a now. Asking the question how we feel as woman with men who hold on when they not ready. Post pregnancy responses 👀👀👀👀👀 no comment lol
Whenever I see a group of black/brown men my mind always goes to a place of how many actually date black/brown females?! Especially living in a place like California, Detroit or city type states.🤔
That’s good, I strive to be as strong minded as you! To be able to listen objectively send not be triggered. To be able to respond if necessary but not react and/or act out impulsively
Yea i respected opinions but i can clearly pick and chose the guys id be interested in based off their responses. there are all different types of men out there they all arent going to be for us or have the mind set we want or need 💯
But don't assume you'll be the uber special person that gets him out the streets. If you're not on the streets, don't deal with nobody on the streets .
That part! The "whenever he's ready" almost ALWAYS means that it is a losing battle... Please shop for people on the same level and playing field. Or people working to "get there". You won't find everybody "where they're meant to be" But never hold yourself back for their benefit.
Love the interaction but it was hard to hear everyone’s thoughts at once so the microphone was a great tool! I always like to hear a guys honest opinion on different situations.Great video!..now let me go follow a few single ones😉
So you like the IG baddie's pic because she looks good, but don't like me with wigs and makeup. I understand the inconvenience part with the kissing, etc. But don't tell me you met me wearing wigs and makeup, and then all of a sudden telling me that you don't like it. Lead with that line next time.
Chaz gave the best advice out of all this “Close your loops. Deal with your issues.” Self-awareness is important knowing what your weaknesses are and your strengths.
The guy who talked about finding a body type after having a baby unattractive vs not being attracted to a particular shape/figure.... The rest of the men got real quiet like nah bruh...jump out that window by yourself. Not absolving a woman of the duty to work on herself, but love should be deeper than just the physical. For the record I’m not a mother. A new mother needs unconditional love to help her get adjusted to motherhood and finding herself (and her waistline).
I am a mother and I have to admit. I wouldn’t be attracted to my partner if he became morbidly obese. I was morbidly obese after pregnancy. I had twin boys and a daughter. 6.5 years and 4.5 years resp. I lost the weight after my last child. I did it because I knew I wouldn’t tolerate it if the situation were reversed. I think it’s unfair for women to expect their partners to still be attracted to them when they morph into a completely different body type that they were initially attracted to. And you can still love someone and not be physically attracted. If my husband became morbidly obese, I would still love him still, but I couldn’t be intimate with him obesity repulses me. I would help him lose weight but I can’t force my body to respond in a sexual way.
The one in the blue hoodie( kam, I believe) talked so much. The next friend discussion please don’t invite him 😂. He consistently spoke over people or just had to speak first. Nixon (I think that’s his name) was really quite but when he spoke he spoke with sense and so did everyone else especially the guy with green shirt. Anywho, there’s power in silence & Kam should try be quiet
UGH. The word "female" and then they address themselves as "men" ....such a pet peeve. But, very insightful video. Donte is VERY easy on the eyes. Rell and Chad have nice faces -- s/o to Chad's barber LOL. Nic was my fave overall.
Some of this guys has a lot of growing up to do and it’s not a bad thing. Y’all should reaction video and see how it turn out with this response of these questions. And one question with cam about pregnancy responses were Eye opening. Cause men don’t really know what it’s like to go through when your pregnant.Before and after , plus post partum depression. Cam talked too much a lot let somebody else finish what they are trying to say. And plus josh needs to be aware of his friends say and think. I’ve been noticing his friends responding to questions were too much or messed up. Josh is more mature out of the group because he’s engaged and has more experience about what it’s like to go threw the good the bad and the ugly. Also knows how isi changed him as a man. And plus for himself.
The hope is when he goes through it and sees firsthand his opinion will change. Seeing his partner struggle for 9 months and beyond to bring life into the world hopefully will open his eyes.. this is me assuming he doesn’t have kids already
@@vnessaw he will know it when that time comes and asking questions and hormones go threw the roof. Soo asking for help is the key from the right people that support both people
People are raised differently. Once my husband learned my family and learned me he understood that I’m not trying to be rude. It’s hard for that person to understand that “how” they said something is wrong. Marriage takes two people studying the other. It’s like going to school to get a degree. So far we’ve graduated high school. We are entering college. Going on 13 years. We are in a transition faze. Moving states, changing states, dealing with death of parent, like a lot. So if I’m crying more because I’m in morning it’s up to him to adjust to the new mental state I’m in. I have to still be considerate of him. Everyday we have to choose to put in the work. Work is not bad. Some days you are excited to get up and go to work because it’s your dream, your hearts desire. There are times when you just don’t want to put in work. Relationships go through seasons. People have to understand we are always changing and growing. Some for the better and some for the worst. But as long as you two are striving for the same things, share the same vision, and most importantly have God as your foundation. You can make it through any storm or trial.
Just like you guys don’t want any girl who does onlyfans, any man who is willingly paying for that thing ain’t it for me either period🤞🏾. So you don’t like when your women wearing wigs, but you are loving other girls pictures wearing it? And if we react, we have to stop being insecure? Okay then, I would start liking men pictures with all the abs and everything. Would I be petty then? …..or would you be insecure? Btw, Very nice video⭐️
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That's the thing with socialization. Parents are just one part. As parents definitely push against those gender norms but be aware there's tv, there's friends, there's a whole outside world, very difficult to push against that. But your boys will remember that you've made it okay at home.
I loved this video and the Blue Therapy series. It feels like we’re getting to see more of Josh and Isi at their core without the censoring themselves to keep it “family friendly” or “appeasing sponsors”. like they’re just being themselves and being young adults and showing us the fully unfiltered side- HERE FOR IT
I think Kam really just wanted to hear himself talk lol. Its like I kinda get what he was saying on the body question but it was irrelevant to the actual question which was how do you feel about a woman's body POST pregnancy. If you were never attracted to her PRE pregnancy then your answer is irrelevant and insensitive. Thank you to the rest of the MEN for bringing more positivity to the answer.
This is y dating us important, u need to know how ur partner responds to bad days,if he's going to ghost u, or tell u that he whats some days off. Things like these need to be discussed during and even before a relationship. Cuz it can come off as if ur partner is not interested in u no more
This type of group reminds me of my brother’s type. Dudes that are actually mature in their thinking. A lot of these videos I see the guys are very…surface level and nitpicky. “You’re a girl you have to do this” like no- they actually are speaking on what’s real. Even if they say something I don’t agree with I’m still going to listen to them bc they’re actually articulating their thoughts instead of just “oh you’re a girl that’s how it should be”. Very refreshing
I love how they all stop talking and listen when isi talks. That shows the respect they have for her as Josh’s partner and for her as a person. Love itttt✨
Right beautiful to see
Noticed it too.
I thought I was the only one that noticed
I noticed that too!!! 🥺😍
I noticed it too
We are gonna need Isi girls for the girl version of this video ASAP 😭
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Asap no rocky
Expeditiously!!!!!
Like yesterday type stuff
Yessss
Major key homie in the green dropped: “At this grown age I don’t mess with anyone I wouldn’t be okay having kids with” 💯
And that's MOST important!!
Smart
He's a Smart man.
That’s the type of shit we need to hear more often
As he should and females also.
the melanin in this video is hitting different.
Fr
Right
Facts
Seriouslyyyyyyy
Agreed.
“INTO THE THICK OF IT” ... I ALMOST CHOKED ON MY RICE 🤣🤣🤣
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The hand movement took me out
Righttt😂😂
Lmfaooo I am weakk 🤣🤣
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Tbh the post pregnancy/post child weight gain conversation made me uncomfortable. I think calling it letting yourself go after creating life for 9 months maybe once or multiple times is extremely insensitive and dismisses all of the labour that mothers have to take on that men quite frankly do not do half of. So treating your partner insensitively about their weight gain i.e. not being able to see even a little bit of their beauty after they have gone through the closest thing to death (child birth) because you don't like the weight gain they went through to bring in your child to the world is extremely insensitive imo. I am only talking about child birth, I have not even mentioned the fact that women carry the overwhelming majority of the childcare labour, domestic labour and are still expected to contribute financially - all whilst being expected to snap back to their pre baby bodies.
We glorify Dad bods but mum bods that do all of the heavy lifting are shamed.
This 👏🏿👏🏿 I feel like people do not appreciate or understand how hard pregnancy and post labour is. Specifically men they minimize the enormity of childbirth and rearing.
Who glorifies Dad bods? LOL! The best thing a partner can do is keep you healthy. They should be your main partner, or even trainer for your fitness journey especially after pregnancy.
I completely understand and comprehend this sentiment, BUT it is NOT an impossible notion to find the motivation and push yourself to heal and "snapback". Everyone is always gonna be tired and have a lot on their plates. It shows your continued determination for your personal self care and mental health; with excessive weight gain comes health issues and a woman is especially sensitive to health issues while healing from childbirth. What we eat, our mental state, and our relationship all plays a part in our health and healing. Be proactive in your own healing and mental health, just sitting around bc you're tired cannot always be the excuse, there's ALWAYS an option to do better. Everyone is tired most of the time. On both sides, mother and father!
@@applebomb8924 Mothers in this modern time are always doing far more (looking after the kids, cooking, cleaning and alot mothers work and go to their job)....... no wonder why they get so burnt out & have no energy left or determination. I am sure mothers really try to be healthy and look their best but it isn't easy as you say. From what I see, men need to help out far more at home, just being real honest.
And that’s not even putting into consideration postpartum depression.
This makes me think about how important it is to see a person you're interested in (or dating) around their friends. Different personalities come out and you get to see another side of them.
You ain't ever lied😫 be telling on themselves🤣
Okay period because the boy “nick” is so sweet and matured and
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This video really just reminded me that there is nothing wrong with me, I just haven’t found my person yet! Because the common theme is that a man is going to do right for the right woman
Bingo!
I wish you always knew this. Do different things be around different groups/ kinds of ppl.
You are a beautiful girl and you are being saved for the one that is right for you...in the meantime prepare for your blessing and remember it might not come in the package you dream of but the one that is meant for the dream you never knew existed.
Definitely about his phase in life and maturity because he won’t do right for the “right woman” at the wrong time.
i haven’t heard Josh curse in a long time so that “shut the fuck up” hit hard 😭
IT REALLY DID!!
It caught me off guard 😭😂😂😂😂
Riiiight
It was nice to see him relax a bit and loosen up a little. I feel like Isi puts that pressure on him to "never cuss" ..I mean yeah dont just go around using profanity all day ..but every once in a while is cool. This isnt shade..just my opinion. Im def a supporter of their channel..that's why I'm here.
@@UnknownUnknown-yl1lt i don't think they don't cuss on private, we only get to see a part of their life, but i get what you're saying
This is just a mature, funny, good-hearted group of people
Guy in the green top seems so sweet , just based on his responses.
Yes. I was thinking the same thing. He is most definitely husband material
I just fell in love with his spirit right away
@@IAMNOTAKISA Yes! Same here. He has really good energy. Hes seems so genuine.
I felt that as well
His emotional intelligence>>>>
FINALLY! We have the boys' version. And it's heart warming to see guys who aren't for the streets.
Rightt?? I’m 19 and I cant find any dang
Amen!!! 😂
@Lilian Abuku oh wow hahah
Is there a girls version
You guys should do more of these videos, thank you! I know the guy in the navy blue did not mean anything bad in the pregnancy body comment but it was very harsh and triggering (as a nurse i see Ahole husbands and boyfriends say sick things too often). I don't think you can say you love someone and see their struggle carrying and giving birth to y'lls child to find their body ugly, Plastic surgery is not a quick fix, it's not a game, mentally or physically. That's heartbreaking. I would just like to remind everyone that pregnancy is a sacrifice to MAYBE give birth. Women die every day due to hemorrhage, heart attack, infection, mental health issues all due to giving birth most being black women in (USA statistics) usually within 42 days(45%) to 1 year(18%) after birth and 38% while pregnant. 63% are all preventable, which just shows how vulnerable and uncared for the women is...it's very tragic. I find it sad there is not much research on the effect it has on men as I am sure mentality they are going THROUGH it and there are probably physical signs. Anyway, after pregnancy even with great support (very helpful and life-saving) women can still feel shit for at least a year on and off, that does not mean it's healthy to not take care of yourself through heal process but it's not always pretty. while a woman is creating a child we also being reformed. We try to make it look good and easy but those of us who work in this field know the pressure it takes to JUST bring the mother and child through.
Thank you for all that you do!
Truthfully, a lot of his comments were, honest, but they lacked emotional maturity. That was definitely one of them. I hope through research and experience, he can gain some newfound perspective and understanding, especially on that particular topic.
I agree! And I think that’s why they specially tried to ask the dads in the group to take lead on that question. Cause dudes who aren’t dads and who haven’t seen their women go through pregnancy/child birth don’t understand how it can change women (and themselves too)
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Well said nurse!!! I have 3 children and each one took a different toll on my body and mind. Its a struggle. I wish
there is more conversations on the struggles of pregnancy and child birth.
Preach, sis.
And thank you so much for your service!
7:40 when all the men stopped talking to listen to Isi..idk I just thought it was cool lol
Yup that shows their respect for her
me too. cause usually men just ignore what women have to say.
Then josh interrupts her 🤦🏾♀️😂
@@kourtney7623 right 😂
That's a really low bar.
Lowkey, y'all should do this with Isi's friends
I feel like this is in the works!!
HIGHKEY
Highkey
YESSSAAA
They should do a male vs female after they do the just girl
Donte is FINEEEEEE
!!!! AND THE WAY HE CARRIED HIMSELF WAS CHEFS KISS
Yesss lol ‼️‼️
Bruuuuuuh!
ok!!!!
Which one is donte
“Into the thick of it” 😂
I was rollinnnn 🤣🤣😂😂😭😭
@@TheodoreBakes same
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I fell out😂😂😂
Don't bring the homie in the blue next time. I'm soooo sorry. He clearly does not make sense, and clearly lacks the emotional intelligence and understanding of what happens during pregnancy. I'm sorry, but nooooooo :( Sometimes it's not even about letting herself go...do you take the baby and allow her to get some me time to snap back.
Yeah but lets be honest.. some women do let themselves go and use the excuse of having a baby for the rest of their lives. Its ANNOYING. Take care of your god dahm selves
@@okeliaskyers2462 a man woth this mindset better be bringing home all the money
@@여자그냥 money? Honey he got bring the money AND respect PERIODT💅🏾 I ain't tryna have a scrub that need me to help him pay everything AND disrespect no
@@okeliaskyers2462 why is it annoying to you how other women choose to preserve their bodies? Genuine question
@@여자그냥 💯💯💯
I think SOME men need to really realize that they do be preferring women who look like an ig baddie because when you first meet them that’s how y’all be catching them… after you meet them, it’s different
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Exactly. They want to meet u that way. Aftér theyve fallen for u it's not as important
True
The IG models live different realities than your average person. Liking a picture is just that doesn't mean that they would want to be in a relationship with them. Men may date an IG model but they would marry a natural girl.
I think they don't see the hypocrisy in the statement "I'm attracted to the lady who is done up but when I get her as my woman she shouldn't wear the stuff that attracted me to her". They turned it into it's an inconvenience to me i.e. lipstick on shirts, can't kiss her when I want, etc.
I like the boy with the red jacket he seems quieter and reserved and he doesn't have to say much to make a statement. The boy with the green shirt and the Nike hat is cool too I feel like when he really cares about you he will put you first.
Agreed seems like he is sweet!
This ‘male’ said “rub some oil on it & we good to go..somebody is going to love you…” ….& his face added ‘but it ain’t me.’ ☠️☠️🥶 I hope he knows not everybody snaps back. And if he rather his woman be natural telling her to get surgery is very ironic.
Kam comes off as immature and a know-it-all lol not my type
That comment about women sitting around the house and not doing anything didn’t sit right with me just for the simple fact that I think the mindset around women being housewives is really miscued and I don’t like it. Women that are housewives never get off work. They are cooking cleaning prepping stocking sewing pruning lifting shifting folding building organizing and developing in almost every way possible almost every second of the day. In the morning I’m getting myself my kids and my husband ready for the day. I must provide a clean environment for myself my child and my husband so I’m cleaning. Then I have to wash clothes for my kids my husband and myself and then I have to cook breakfast lunch and dinner everyday for my kids my husband and myself. Then I have to make sure there’s groceries in the house. I have to make sure there’s cleaning supplies tissue batteries napkins crayons color pencils and any other house hold items are stocked up and usable in the house. on top of that I have to make sure that I at least look decent because I want to feel good about myself and I’m sure my husband wants to look at his wife and see shes put together. But it’s like it just never stops is literally on going from The moment you wake up to the time that you go to sleep you are taking care of other people. When a husband goes to work he gets up in the morning and he gets to walk away from whats happening at home to take care of what’s going on at his job and for a few hours of the day he’s not sitting in that same environment from the time he wakes up to the time that he goes to sleep. Housewifes are on call 24 hours of the day your husband calls you he want to stuff, your child calls you want something, you want stuff from yourself. So I think a lot more respect needs to go into a housewife because housewives don’t just sit on their ass all day and do nothing housewives are fucking holding it down and making sure that things are being taken care of at home and all the shit that you don’t have to worry about, the small things that’s taken care of that women do. Husbands can just grab shit on the way out the door and go. I think down playing housewifes is also old fashioned and both men and women should contribute equally in there own ways to their marriage and households and children.
I felt everything you said in my soul. I'm a stay at home mum of 2 small children and I wake up at 5am every morning at least 2hrs before everyone else because that's literally the only time I can exercise. Then it's making breakfast for everyone (my daughter is a picky eater so sometimes I have to make her a second breakfast). Getting my husband's clothes ready for work. Packing his lunch. When the kids wake up getting them changed and dressed and then it's play time. Their nap time I'm doing laundry and making dinner. A lot of the time I'm cleaning while cooking. Once they're up its feeding them then taking them to the park. Then it's dinner time, I get clean and changed before my husband comes home so I look nice and put together for him. Then it's reading and bed time for the kids. Then I clean up the mess everyone made during dinner and do a quick cleaning. That's when my husband and I get to spend time together. I am on my feet all day taking care of my family. It's such an insult when people say housewives "sit around" all day.
Say it louder for the people in the back 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼! Yes girl, I’m with you 100%! I watched my mom do this for my dad, myself and my 7 siblings. It is not easy and it’s not always rewarding. Seeing the mental and physical strain it puts on someone in this position makes you fully appreciate the sacrifices they make on a daily basis. Because I’ve seen it and experienced it first hand, I have nothing but the upmost respect and admiration for stay at home parents / spouses / care givers.
Funny enough this is the best lifestyle for young children at least until school age. I hate how the idea of a stay at home mom is looked down on.
Still is doing nothing.
@@kikim9231 good morning!
Cam has ALOT to say...imma just leave it at that 😂😂
I feel like the guy in the teal shirt is like hella Philosophical and is like the person that surprises you with the stuff they say because they’re so soft-spoken and timid lol he’s my fav and I love his ponytail
Yes I agree him and donte
they said don’t wear no shoes in my house 😂😂😂lol
I noticed that too lol. I wanted found it weird how people in America wear shoes in the house. In Canada, you remove your shoes when you enter somebodies house.0
@@joyceng7075 fr, I always take my shoes off at the door
@@joyceng7075 every black household I’ve been in we take shoes off
@@joyceng7075 ikr, like especially if you’re an immigrant living in Canada, seeing (a lot of) people in America wearing shoes in the house (even on the bed 🥴) is just weird
@@sofiyyah175 Not just weird, it's also nasty.
the way josh + kam responded to the question about pregnancy was so disappointing and disgusting. the way men feel so comfortable deciding what is/isn’t acceptable for a woman’s body postpartum is just another way that systems of oppression for women run deep. the policing of women’s bodies by men demonstrated in such a covert way.. really fucking sucks.
Right!!! 🚩 I hope they had a conversation afterwards because jeez.. pregnancy can literally kill you and your main concern is how fast I’m going to snap back…
Come on.. let's be honest.A good 90% of women DO NOT like the stretched out belly skin,stretch marks,hyperpigmentation,rolls etc after they give birth.If a woman doesn't like what she sees in the mirror why would anyone else?? Like honestly,
@@kgosigadijoy woman tend to not like theses things because they taught from a young age how they're bodies should look tho.
@@vickyvale711 THIS 👏🏾👏🏾
the dude in the blue sweater !!! he screams "IMMATURITY" like he's not fully ready to be in a mature relationship and compromise and take care of his woman. he seems to pick and choose what fits him or suits him. he's not a team player, he comes off as selfish and self-centered. and the way he was talking about women who have "okay" looking faces and hot body was just a MAJOR red flag to avoid him as a whole. he seems to be the type to use women for his needs or when it is convenient for him. or he picks and chooses the women to respect when in actuality you're suppose to respect all women regardless of their beauty or their body size/shape.
Yes just rubbed me the wrong way
Funny thing, he was doing most of the talking as if he was dropping gems 🤣🤣
I couldn’t agree more. He’s very self centered and he’s definitely the kind of man to steer away from!! You can tell by his facial expressions when others are speaking that it’s his way or the high way. No compromise
You are here Judging him as if you women are not self centered or selfish.Just say you don't like his confidence,That's all!! You'll never meet him in real life so why are you even bothered leaving such a message?
@@theboyt5490 you call that confidence 🤣🤣🤣🤣 no way…
"into the thick of it" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 bruhhh
Josh doesn't cuss on this channel but it was nice hearing his unfiltered side😂
I feel like Josh's boys bring out his more relaxed side and I'm LIVING for it.
Also
WHY ARE ALL THESE MEN SO FINE🔥🔥🔥 like Lawd.
Right! All beautiful men. 🖤👌🏾
God not that song please! My sister has been driving me crazy with that 😩😂😂 but, definitely agree with the rest of what you said. There's so many layers to a person; the way that Josh acts around Isi is bound to be different from when he is with his friends! 🤷🏽♀️
@@luwamalem9537 and I think it should be like that. A man is free to act however with BJ's boys as long as his boys are respectful. Like I hate girls who say things like
"Oh my man can't go out unless I'm there too"
Like honey.... No. Let him live his life. If he wants to step out then that's on him. All that to say.... Isi has gotten to know the boys and she's very secure in her relationship.
Period 😂
period
I was actually surprised by the guy in the Dodgers shirt as well, his energy in the beginning in comparison to what he actually ended up saying was a total 180° in my brain.
i most definitely agree. i thought he was finna trigger me but he had some of the most reasonable thoughts.
Interesting because I felt like the one in the blue hoodie in the middle was on the right track at first but towards the end started rubbing me the wrong way with what he was saying lmaoooo
@@ughhhmcrbinch5583 lol, indeed.
@@Its_tiy LOL. He rubbed me the wrong way from the get go, but I was trying to keep the energy good and not comment on him. However, yes, I absolutely agree with you. The only point I agreed with that he mentioned is to ensure you express yourself, but when he went down the line of expressing yourself in an angry tone (which could obviously end badly) he completely lost me.
@@Its_tiy Overall, it was interesting to listen to their mindset.
My opinion of Kam changed when it came to the post pregnancy question. It just made him very unattractive when it came to that question because women body changes a lot while pregnant depending on the labor and pregnancy even the 6 week time frame isn’t enough for a woman body to heal. His woman having to watch what she eat while she’s pregnant so she won’t get fat to still have him attracted to her is weird.
Right I thought that was weird. Not to mention you have to eat more if you’re breastfeeding. Most women don’t get back to the body they had before pregnancy not even of terms of weight but like things like stretch marks and loose skin. That really rubbed me wrong.
Rightttt it also borderline felt fatphobic, the "I'm not letting us get fat" and the dancing around the "shape/figure" of a women like just say fat with your chest lmao
Yeaaa she’s carrying the baby not him. I feel certain that if roles had been reversed historically it would be so totally normalised for men to gain weight and even be overweight if they were the ones in that position. It goes back to ridiculous societal standards for women set by men :)
@@afrolatinameli.4094 Deaad, Ikr! Say what you mean & mean you say! 🤷🏽♀️😂
Omg yesss and it’s such a shame he feels this way and is a Father😕🤦🏾♀️. I really hope he learns to be more empathetic and less selfish in the near future for his daughter and her mother.
I don’t want to disrespect any of Josh’s & Isi’s friends but Josh just seems so much more developed in terms of mindset than his peers. Only maybe 2-3 seemed some what okay. They are men I stay away from. Clearly Josh is the only engaged/married one in the group. Even the ones in relationships is questionable lol. Great video nevertheless.
Definitely
I noticed some of the faces Josh made when his friends were saying some stuff too
I agree
Yup esp the one in the blue shirt, for a man in a relationship he definitely comes off immature and ignorant on certain topics which is the opposite of what I expected from him.
Facts 💯and that's kinda sad but hey it is what it is 🤷🏾♀️ and that's why we don't date them ✌🏿️
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The flow of the conversations was so natural and smooth. I didn't even realize I watched the whole hour long video w/o pausing. Def wouldn't mind a part 2.
The guy in the back with the bluish-green shirt caught my attention for some reason. He seems genuine (all of them do but he caught my eye the most).
Yes he seems sincere and said the heart is important to him .I like him and Donte they seemed like they aren't fake .I liked that they are more homebody like they are more centered and aren't always looking for something more. Like they are comfortable with themselves more than having to impress everyone.
I didn’t hear a thing y’all were talking about while Dontae was in the hot seat 🥴😍
girl who you telling 😭
I thought I was the only one looking at Dontae but I guess not. 😏 If I can't have these types of in depth conversations with my future friends and romantic partner then I don't want them. Not saying they have to come with that energy off bat I mean if they're not willing or even want to put in effort to have that emotional and intellectual maturity then I don't want them.🤷🏿
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Loool giiirl🤣🤣😂
whew chile‼️ babes he had all my attention😏👀
Yeah… I love the way Donte speaks and he’s cute 🥰
@45:25 🤔 I don’t understand. If you weren’t attracted to the body pre-pregnancy why get her pregnant? You were attracted to SOMETHING about that body. It’s not making sense. I don’t think he understood the question. It’s giving vain.
All the guys looked at him like “no sir. What are you saying”
Right!! He seems like “ a know it all” he was making faces when others voice their opinion. He comes off very vain.
right, i thought the same thing like his argument made no sense 😅😅
I think he was saying he wouldn't get eith someone who had a bad body before a baby so he wouldn't be attracted to his wóman who changed into that after having a baby. He was basically saying having a baby doesn't matter. It's giving very uneducated on his part lol
Girl, he is young. You can’t listen to him. He doesn’t know what he is saying. lol
This is reminding me of when Isi use to do these in college now she’s doing it in her apartment... it’s the growth for meeee🥺🎊📈
I feel like they like the natural face until it’s a girl that has a lil bit of acne then it’s a different story. Bc in the acne community it’s harder to find self love when your constantly trying to find products and wondering why your face is fucked up. So it’s like they like the “natural” clear skin better than a shawty that is clearly bad but the face is not all pulled in together which at the end of the day it’s a working progress cuz I need ppl to understand that she never ask to have it in the first place. Simple
I’ve had acne my whole life, and I’ve accepted that imma always have acne and I’m still beautiful with acne. A lot of these guys be having acne too so they should know the struggle that comes with it but if a man don’t see my beauty in its raw, natural state, then i don’t want him.
Periodt 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👸🏾
They are lots of men out there that don't mind acne. These guys touched on confidence thing which is important so if a female has acne does it consume her every thought being insecure about how she looks or has she accepted herself including the acne and live her life. Also I think this statement needs a bit of work because I feel you just projected your thoughts unto these men... you don't know if they care that a female has acne .. imo Josh and his friends seem very mature so something so minor would be just that minor
Girllll this is the damn truth they only love the natural whe Lmaoo your skin is like a damn baby but they don’t wanna see this dark marks
Exactly!
Your friend needs to realize that most of the people that ‘snap back’ on insta have already scheduled their plastic surgery before their child is born. Some women naturally snap back a lot don’t. They shouldn’t feel pressured to do that
Having emotional & mental maturity is a valuable trait. You have to be able to express how you feel to get what you want. If you feel a way about something, do not sit on it. A small thing can easily turn into resentment.
The whole post pregnancy debate 👀 the fact that they say they got to get the body back right. A post pregnancy body that changes is not wrong ladies. Take your time and don’t let nobody push you into losing weight. Think if you are a little more chunky but you have amazing kids is it not better than being slim with no family of your own. It’s a blessing not everyone can have children so embrace every part of it
It is but lets be honest.. some women really do let themselves go and put NO effort into snatching back then they want sympathy from others and they complain alot about their body not being the same and does NOTHING to change that. At that point its just annoying. Some use oh i had a baby as an excuse to not take care of themselves and after a while that excuse becomes invalid.
@@okeliaskyers2462 please research Postpartum Depression.
@@zaiyou9952 i know what it is
@@okeliaskyers2462 the way the guys were talking was about their potential woman needing to go back to how they were. If the woman gains weight and is fine with it why should she be pushed into unrealistic expectations by her partner. Does he not love and care for her more than the way she looks? That shows me they lack maturity and understanding. If a woman’s body changes after having children and SHE doesn’t like it but doesn’t do anything about it that’s her business. They were not referring to her talking or feeling insecure they were saying they are not attracted to women who have bodies like that. Every time a woman gives birth she risks her life for a man and these ‘men’ can only talk about how she looks and not appreciate the sacrifice she made.
@@ShannonSOS risks her life for a man? No no, don’t do all that. A pregnant woman doesn’t view her pregnancy as a sacrifice let alone risking her life for a man. If you’re carrying a baby with the mindset that you described then you shouldn’t have got pregnant, easy, no need to sacrifice yourself. That is the craziest thing I’ve ever read!!
The first time I’ve seen a guy friend group where all the guys are good looking 🤣😅
I’m dead you said, “I ain’t never seen two pretty best friends” 💀💀💀
My eyesight must be bad.
No there’sonly 3 cute ones here
@@sarahp.3772 😩😂
I really love these videos because we not only get to see a man perspective on things but other men get to see that they’re capable of giving their perspective or expressing how they feel about certain things. So thank you so much for sharing this video I love you guys so much anything and everything you guys say I always share with my loved ones and it has definitely helped.
Dontae has such a nice aura him and the guy in the red hoodie.
Guy #1 “It’s just the body in general that I’m not attracted to, if that makes sense”
Guy #2 “It doesn’t” 😂😂😂😂
Funny cause when he said it I said it
They didn’t give us a movie did they?!
They sure did❣️
The “into the thick of it” took me ouuuuut this was a great video 🖤
Josh got a lot of friends
Josh already knew his friends said some wild stuff😂 telling us to be nice in the comments💀
haha but nah some of his friends' emotional maturity hasn't developed yet and it shows. especially with that post-pregnancy conversation, just had to remind myself that the opinions of a couple ignorant men that I don't personally know don't really matter🤷🏿♀️
I’m engaged and LOOOOVVVEEE listening to forums like this because relationship maintenance is so underrated. I liked the question about men expressing their feelings because I think making your boyfriend/fiance/husband feel safe to express is important. They need to feel reassured just as much as we do as black women. It’s also important to know when to trade off vulnerability. Sometimes it’s helpful to break at the same time, and sometimes we need our partner to give us a soft place to land. Thank you again for the QUALITY VIDEO !
Wow I love the word you used...”relationship maintenance” ! Taking notes!
It’s Nick and Donte for me. They seem really sweet. But I enjoyed hearing everyone’s answers on these questions
5 yrs later and Donte still fine as ever
My sentiment exactly! This man looks good!!!
Fr!!!
I agree he handsome 😍
Which one si donte
@@taliyahpitts2421 it’s the one in the white shirt
Brown skin a with a little hair
as a women, i agree with the tone during a disagreement. grant it, i be frustrated asf and no i dont curse or throw things but u cannottttt think i will be calm and collected like a bird while im frustrated.
EXACTLY 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Yes
it takes maturity
@@ughhhmcrbinch5583 no. Its a difference in people personalities. I will never understand how people want others to react a certain way knowing we all react differently.
I also feel like if you’re oppressing letting it out it may come out full force at some point. But it all depends I guess.
All the different shades of chocolate in one place. Chile, Im out of breath. 👀👀👀👀
Very insightful!
The question about holding on to girl that they not ready for was a real trigger lol
ISI we need a women’s q&a now. Asking the question how we feel as woman with men who hold on when they not ready.
Post pregnancy responses 👀👀👀👀👀 no comment lol
Whenever I see a group of black/brown men my mind always goes to a place of how many actually date black/brown females?! Especially living in a place like California, Detroit or city type states.🤔
@@AbcMiddletons I stand by my statement, and nothing will change it, enjoy your Saturday!!🤷🏽♂️
Yea it’s sad. My own close friends, almost none w Black women 🤷🏾♀️
I don’t think we should care. We know it’s an issue and what can we do ?
Who cares at this point. If you’re a bw and asking yourself this question in 2021 you’re too invested in bm.
That's too energy consuming. It's 2021, I've dated black women but I'm certainly not limiting myself to bw.
ISI’s scream when josh mentioned how often he thinks about doing the beep beep with her ahaha too cute 😂😍
I honestly didn’t feel triggered at all during this video. And I liked hearing their opinions and perspectives.
Their too young for me to be triggered and I enjoyed them too.
Agreed
That’s good, I strive to be as strong minded as you! To be able to listen objectively send not be triggered. To be able to respond if necessary but not react and/or act out impulsively
Yea i respected opinions but i can clearly pick and chose the guys id be interested in based off their responses. there are all different types of men out there they all arent going to be for us or have the mind set we want or need 💯
@@rollinggstonee yeah I didn’t agree with all their opinions completely, but I didn’t think they said anything that was just outrageous to me.
Y’all should get a few couples together and ask questions about relationships
Not even 1/4 way through but my guy had my laughingg with "into the thick of it 🎶🎤" 😂😂
Kam* is the type to always be the devil’s advocate 🙄
He talked ALOT too. Like just loud and wrong lol
Isi, you gotta do one with the ladies for sure!! Loving the content you guys😊
But don't assume you'll be the uber special person that gets him out the streets. If you're not on the streets, don't deal with nobody on the streets .
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say it louder for the ones in the back !
That part! The "whenever he's ready" almost ALWAYS means that it is a losing battle... Please shop for people on the same level and playing field. Or people working to "get there". You won't find everybody "where they're meant to be" But never hold yourself back for their benefit.
Love the interaction but it was hard to hear everyone’s thoughts at once so the microphone was a great tool! I always like to hear a guys honest opinion on different situations.Great video!..now let me go follow a few single ones😉
After hearing this...I am grateful to be single!
Preach
The guys handled the questions well! I get all their point of views. When are we having a girls talk????
So you like the IG baddie's pic because she looks good, but don't like me with wigs and makeup. I understand the inconvenience part with the kissing, etc. But don't tell me you met me wearing wigs and makeup, and then all of a sudden telling me that you don't like it. Lead with that line next time.
Chaz gave the best advice out of all this “Close your loops. Deal with your issues.”
Self-awareness is important knowing what your weaknesses are and your strengths.
The guy who talked about finding a body type after having a baby unattractive vs not being attracted to a particular shape/figure....
The rest of the men got real quiet like nah bruh...jump out that window by yourself. Not absolving a woman of the duty to work on herself, but love should be deeper than just the physical. For the record I’m not a mother. A new mother needs unconditional love to help her get adjusted to motherhood and finding herself (and her waistline).
The waistline part is so cute for some reason 🥰
I don't see why people have kids if the effects are so dire
@@kgosigadijoy ask your mama. Lol I don’t have any
I am a mother and I have to admit. I wouldn’t be attracted to my partner if he became morbidly obese. I was morbidly obese after pregnancy. I had twin boys and a daughter. 6.5 years and 4.5 years resp. I lost the weight after my last child. I did it because I knew I wouldn’t tolerate it if the situation were reversed. I think it’s unfair for women to expect their partners to still be attracted to them when they morph into a completely different body type that they were initially attracted to. And you can still love someone and not be physically attracted.
If my husband became morbidly obese, I would still love him still, but I couldn’t be intimate with him obesity repulses me. I would help him lose weight but I can’t force my body to respond in a sexual way.
The one in the blue hoodie( kam, I believe) talked so much. The next friend discussion please don’t invite him 😂. He consistently spoke over people or just had to speak first. Nixon (I think that’s his name) was really quite but when he spoke he spoke with sense and so did everyone else especially the guy with green shirt. Anywho, there’s power in silence & Kam should try be quiet
Isi please tell me you have a female version in the works with the gals… then maybe guys vs. girl sitcho! 👀 🙏🏽
And ask the pregnancy question/ play the clip for them and get their opinions!!
yessss the guys vs girls would be good!
Ummm…is this the Bachelorette or somethin? Why and how are they ALL so fine?🤔😍👀👀
😍😍😍😍😍
All of them fr! I love black men 😍😍
Josh and isi got some fine friends lol
Something must be wrong with my eyes.
I hate when people refer to light-skin/dark-skin as a personality trait 🙄... decolonize your minds people, do a cleanse
But anyway loved the video 🥰
dang when Josh and Isi said quality, they meant QQQQQUUUUAAALLLIIITTTYYYYYYY
these fine ass men being so open and engaged in this conversation is just everythinggg!! the hope in guys is not all lost 😩👏
Fine Fine men everywhere. Bless me Lord. 🙏
Part 2 wit Isi friends…….. Part 3 wit all of them?🙃😂😂 no fr, Isi and Josh wasn’t playing about the content that’s coming our way #qualitycrew‼️❤️
UGH. The word "female" and then they address themselves as "men" ....such a pet peeve.
But, very insightful video.
Donte is VERY easy on the eyes. Rell and Chad have nice faces -- s/o to Chad's barber LOL. Nic was my fave overall.
Yess, real OG’s remember Donte from Isi’s channel when she used to do the college interviews with the guys 🙌🏾
Some of this guys has a lot of growing up to do and it’s not a bad thing. Y’all should reaction video and see how it turn out with this response of these questions. And one question with cam about pregnancy responses were Eye opening. Cause men don’t really know what it’s like to go through when your pregnant.Before and after , plus post partum depression. Cam talked too much a lot let somebody else finish what they are trying to say. And plus josh needs to be aware of his friends say and think. I’ve been noticing his friends responding to questions were too much or messed up. Josh is more mature out of the group because he’s engaged and has more experience about what it’s like to go threw the good the bad and the ugly. Also knows how isi changed him as a man. And plus for himself.
I thought i was the only one who noticed some level of immaturity, Isi won with Josh
The hope is when he goes through it and sees firsthand his opinion will change. Seeing his partner struggle for 9 months and beyond to bring life into the world hopefully will open his eyes.. this is me assuming he doesn’t have kids already
@@vnessaw he will know it when that time comes and asking questions and hormones go threw the roof. Soo asking for help is the key from the right people that support both people
People are raised differently. Once my husband learned my family and learned me he understood that I’m not trying to be rude.
It’s hard for that person to understand that “how” they said something is wrong. Marriage takes two people studying the other. It’s like going to school to get a degree. So far we’ve graduated high school. We are entering college. Going on 13 years. We are in a transition faze. Moving states, changing states, dealing with death of parent, like a lot. So if I’m crying more because I’m in morning it’s up to him to adjust to the new mental state I’m in. I have to still be considerate of him. Everyday we have to choose to put in the work. Work is not bad. Some days you are excited to get up and go to work because it’s your dream, your hearts desire. There are times when you just don’t want to put in work. Relationships go through seasons. People have to understand we are always changing and growing. Some for the better and some for the worst. But as long as you two are striving for the same things, share the same vision, and most importantly have God as your foundation. You can make it through any storm or trial.
✨ Into the thick of it✨ HAHAHAHAHA I DIED
Just like you guys don’t want any girl who does onlyfans, any man who is willingly paying for that thing ain’t it for me either period🤞🏾. So you don’t like when your women wearing wigs, but you are loving other girls pictures wearing it? And if we react, we have to stop being insecure? Okay then, I would start liking men pictures with all the abs and everything. Would I be petty then? …..or would you be insecure? Btw, Very nice video⭐️
“Oh I recognize your feet”😹😹
I love hearing a Male's perspective. LOVED this!
If you Believe in your heart and confess with your mouth that Jesus Christ died on the cross for our sins then Resurrected three days later and is our Lord and Savior you will be saved ! He who is sinless died on the cross for our sins just so we could be here. He is the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords from generation to generation! Read your bible daily please and Repent!! God bless you and your family!💜 ( Not trying to force upon anyone who doesn’t agree )
Amen!!!
Amen!
Yes Amen 💛
Amen 🙏🏽
Thank you 💖
This would be good with Josh and ISI’s friends BOTH answering questions and having hard conversations
That's the thing with socialization. Parents are just one part. As parents definitely push against those gender norms but be aware there's tv, there's friends, there's a whole outside world, very difficult to push against that. But your boys will remember that you've made it okay at home.
valuing someone as a person before valuing them as a girlfriend is actually a really sweet sentiment I love that :)
The guy in the green shirt been making points!
Literallyyy👏🏾
He definitely stole my heart. I want to put him in my pocket and keep him.
I loved this video and the Blue Therapy series. It feels like we’re getting to see more of Josh and Isi at their core without the censoring themselves to keep it “family friendly” or “appeasing sponsors”. like they’re just being themselves and being young adults and showing us the fully unfiltered side- HERE FOR IT
I think Kam really just wanted to hear himself talk lol. Its like I kinda get what he was saying on the body question but it was irrelevant to the actual question which was how do you feel about a woman's body POST pregnancy. If you were never attracted to her PRE pregnancy then your answer is irrelevant and insensitive. Thank you to the rest of the MEN for bringing more positivity to the answer.
It’s the sand or no sand I’m still playing volleyball on the beach for Josh😂😂😂😂😂
This is y dating us important, u need to know how ur partner responds to bad days,if he's going to ghost u, or tell u that he whats some days off. Things like these need to be discussed during and even before a relationship. Cuz it can come off as if ur partner is not interested in u no more
This type of group reminds me of my brother’s type. Dudes that are actually mature in their thinking. A lot of these videos I see the guys are very…surface level and nitpicky. “You’re a girl you have to do this” like no- they actually are speaking on what’s real. Even if they say something I don’t agree with I’m still going to listen to them bc they’re actually articulating their thoughts instead of just “oh you’re a girl that’s how it should be”. Very refreshing
I almost broke my neck getting to this video😂💖
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"I'M GROWNNNN" yessssss lmfaoooo took me outttt
the intros had me DEHD already.😩😭😂😂😂
Communication is so important. I wish there more open conversations like this in my past. Good quality.