This Is What You Do If He Isn’t Sure About YOU!

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  • Опубликовано: 24 ноя 2024

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  • @andrearosebrown
    @andrearosebrown 2 года назад +38

    I’ve been taking your advice and set a boundary with a man I love because he kept coming in and out of my life…and then he would disappear again. I finally confronted him and set boundaries about what I needed…his daughter has refused to speak to him for almost a year…and he says his heart is broken because of it…and he can’t move on until this is fixed. He says he hasn’t dated since me and has no desire to date…but he wishes he met me before or after this happened…and he says he loves me too much to make we wait for him. I took your advice and told him I deeply cared for him…and that I would be his friend…but that I needed stability in my life. We may have a future…we may not…but I stood up for myself and decided to give him space and move on…for now. Maybe in the future, he will realize what we had…but for now I had too much dignity to stay and grovel…and wait. I’ve been waiting for six months already. I just wanted to thank you for all of your sound advice. You made me feel empowered in my decision. My heart is broken, but I am proud of standing up for myself and fighting for what I need in a relationship/marriage. Maybe he will come back one day. Maybe he won’t, but I know no matter what happens, I will be ok. Thank you both for your profound wisdom.

  • @Sunny-kl8wy
    @Sunny-kl8wy Год назад +43

    My boyfriend told me he didn’t know what he wants. After a couple days of this, “I said, so what’s up? It’s a yes or no if you want to be with me” he said, sorry it’s a no. I blocked him.
    End of story.
    Love yourself more, ladies.
    He came back 5 months later. Followed me on Instagram. Said he misses me. Blocked again.
    We’re 41 years old. Sorry, should know what you want.

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 5 месяцев назад +1

      Playing games at 41 is ridiculous. Rather than proposing, he was trying to go cheat in peace.

  • @ebhb7070
    @ebhb7070 Год назад +13

    This video is 100 correct … my boyfriend is having family issues he not trying to speak about and I noticed it so I been giving him space ❤ it been a few days now and he has been itching to see me . I can tell . But I need him to STAY sure about me lol

  • @Bonnadorable
    @Bonnadorable Год назад +17

    So the bottom line is that a woman must be unauthentic and change herself to accommodate a man’s behavior towards her. I say to let him go and let him learn elsewhere. There are a lot of men who actually do know how to treat a woman. You don’t validate yourself by becoming the enabler in a relationship.

    • @user-lm6ro4ec9v
      @user-lm6ro4ec9v 5 месяцев назад +1

      Amen

    • @alesiabrazil5786
      @alesiabrazil5786 28 дней назад

      I agree. It feels like we have to do it all to accomodate immature men. And where they lack we still get blamed. They need to grow up emotionally.

  • @angiep5514
    @angiep5514 2 года назад +51

    I'm confused- so a woman needs to understand his baggage that he's bringing into the relationship i.e ex wife, kids however when she brings some of her fears into the relationship then she's insecure? And we need to give him space? How ridiculous 🙄

    • @Yoursmine24
      @Yoursmine24 Год назад +7

      Exactly what I was thinking

    • @francesnicoledelacruz229
      @francesnicoledelacruz229 Год назад +3

      agree

    • @jennifergopinath
      @jennifergopinath 4 месяца назад

      Angie, I suggest to leave him alone, let him grow up, make up his mind, why drag his Baggage into your circle of life? Find a new one. There are sooo many guys out there, only a matter of time after you change your directions,to look out for your soul mate:)

  • @aakritijoshi
    @aakritijoshi 2 года назад +9

    But guys are different... If they are not sure..they just stop paying attention..or put any energy!!

  • @mybagoftheday1722
    @mybagoftheday1722 2 года назад +9

    I have already an amazing life, I am as fit as I could ever be, and I have a career, friends and hobbies and a full life. I met this man I genuinely really liked. He seemed very interested at the beginning and I felt a real connection between us. Then he all of a sudden became distant and busy. I gave him space. Eventually he messaged he has been thinking how he feels about us and really likes my company but is not sure if there is a spark and how often we could see. He asked me how I feel. I answered by ensuring I was attracted to him and would like to see him. After that he hasn`t answered and it has been almost a week. I have been feeling sick to my stomach waiting for his reply. While he has been distant I met another man and had a date and also liked him and he seems very interested in me. But I cannot focus when I am still thinking of the other guy. Also this interest turning into distance could repeat itself with the new man too. I don’t know what I could do better and how to not have so strong feelings for the men I date.

    • @denadavey331
      @denadavey331 2 года назад +1

      Mybagoftheday… I could have written this, I am in the exact same place with two men… The feeling sick ruins me. I’d love to hear how this works out for you❤

    • @carolinetibayan9312
      @carolinetibayan9312 Год назад

      I feel you, I'm in that situation too at the moment

    • @kaveribhar8197
      @kaveribhar8197 Год назад +5

      You give attention to guy who comes to u. It doesn't matter what u had in the past because if you reconnect after a break then it is more like fresh new start.

    • @sandracarli1110
      @sandracarli1110 Год назад +5

      You made him feel sure that he had attracted you and he lost interest, as Alex explains. The more bitchy we are, the more men feel attracted. That's the sad truth. How are you doing now? I hope much better!

    • @betcysuniverse5152
      @betcysuniverse5152 Год назад +3

      Don’t jump into relationship after relationship,take your own time to heal and then move on…

  • @beckymitchell6477
    @beckymitchell6477 Год назад +2

    I lost myself after I met him. I have me back!

  • @basicinfo2022
    @basicinfo2022 5 месяцев назад +1

    First time seeing coach andres. This was a helpful duo

  • @4d.4c.4b4
    @4d.4c.4b4 Год назад +1

    I needed to hear this so much , the difference between distance Vs space - thanks guys👍🤗

  • @Bianca-sw5id
    @Bianca-sw5id 2 года назад +1

    What a fantastic video and great to know Coach Andreas , Thank You So-o-o Very Much 🥰 Alex

  • @hampersbazaar1970
    @hampersbazaar1970 Год назад +3

    Guys can you talk about women and men who are over 50 divorced with grown up children

  • @deborahblaine4488
    @deborahblaine4488 Год назад +1

    What you say makes perfect sense but my situation involves a young man who is literally young enough to be my son.
    But he pursued me and says he real l y cares.
    But now he finally admitted that we have a friendship.
    After I admitted my deep feelings for him months ago...he took his time coming back to normal conversation and texting.
    It is a long story

  • @RosieMewan-fg5it
    @RosieMewan-fg5it 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you for your time ❤❤❤❤

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  6 месяцев назад

      Thank you so much for watching and for your support! I really appreciate you!

  • @darlinah8090
    @darlinah8090 Месяц назад

    Great advice at 14:46 ❤💪🏻

  • @dolores2022
    @dolores2022 2 года назад +9

    What you do ? Here’s an Idea LEAVE 😂 I would exit stage left

  • @preciouskayembe6832
    @preciouskayembe6832 2 года назад +1

    I loved this Alex......thank you

  • @nanaabdul8995
    @nanaabdul8995 2 года назад

    A real useful video especially the part of we have to learn how to love someone .thaks alot to both of you.

  • @mariadelamercedcharro1047
    @mariadelamercedcharro1047 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you you both great peers amazing

  • @GraceAspinall
    @GraceAspinall Год назад +3

    Im wondering about this space situation🤔 are we monogomous during this? are we saying im gonna give you some space to work it out and i will be here for you when you need me but then we stop putting in any effort?

  • @renoaczhary1232
    @renoaczhary1232 4 месяца назад

    Thanks for this❤

  • @reneekaranja695
    @reneekaranja695 2 года назад +1

    I love this! The best advice

  • @Lizzygracias256
    @Lizzygracias256 2 года назад

    Am watching right from Uganda thanks 😊

  • @natashadika2177
    @natashadika2177 2 года назад +7

    Both of are too handsome👍 that I can't choose either one of you
    Thank you for sharing this video

  • @jasmincordelia5477
    @jasmincordelia5477 6 месяцев назад

    So good!!!

  • @Lizzygracias256
    @Lizzygracias256 2 года назад +1

    Wow thanks very much 🙏

  • @Motivationmomenture
    @Motivationmomenture 8 месяцев назад

    Thanks so much ❤❤❤❤

  • @karolinah12
    @karolinah12 4 месяца назад

    Dont cling on out of fear & desperation. Don't loosen your boundaries because you want the status of being in a relationship. Many men are good at taking advantage of desperate women. The desperation can also be inside you ,even if you think you are quiet and peaceful on the outside, the desperation inside will erode at your self esteem. Work on your values and your life

  • @karyna2824
    @karyna2824 Год назад +1

    Inspiration.....Merci!

  • @Bianca-sw5id
    @Bianca-sw5id 2 года назад +3

    Long distance relationships , please 🙏🥰♥️❤️

  • @MalakMaafiri-uv5oj
    @MalakMaafiri-uv5oj Год назад +1

    My situation confuse me a lot, he told me that you have to move on and that he doesn't want a relationship with me or anyone else and that he cares about me and that he doesn't want to lose me as a friend and m still talking to him don't know what to do about it. But all I can say is that i started giving him space, and he texts me. Nothing much just texts.

    • @tlc6756
      @tlc6756 Год назад

      There's nothing you can do. He's already told you he only wants to be friends and you need to respect that. You should move on to someone who wants you and not spend anymore time on this guy. There are plenty of lonely guys out there. It just takes time to find the right one.

  • @bonettemoraschannel3508
    @bonettemoraschannel3508 2 года назад +1

    Hi alex

  • @joannedomingo2398
    @joannedomingo2398 Год назад

    I was with a Taurus man. I brought up that conversation and he dumped me. I know him for 6 months. He said we were going to talk but he always avoided it. I’m in love with him.

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 10 месяцев назад

      Stay away from astrology. It's the occult.

    • @gracelikerain5039
      @gracelikerain5039 10 месяцев назад +1

      He was planning on dumping u it sounds

  • @diturielala7155
    @diturielala7155 2 года назад +4

    I love this conversation between you and us...thank you.

  • @karlaszeszol520
    @karlaszeszol520 Год назад

    Hey too convoluted. Keep it simple

  • @Mostverdeg
    @Mostverdeg 2 года назад +5

    Could you do a video on short term relationships and bad timing?
    I was dating a guy for about a month and I could absolutely see it going somewhere and he told me that he could see it going somewhere when he ended things and said he wasn’t able to handle it right now but we could see each other around and revisit dating down the line but at the time I had an assumption that him and his on again off again ex we’re getting back together but I’ve recently found out that they arent seeing each romantically and he realized he “couldn’t be dating if he still is entangled with her” (his own words). I had originally told him “I respect your decision but I’m not looking for someone to see around “ because I didn’t wanna be on the back burner and have been doing no contact but now knowing this new information has me second guessing my decision that we couldn’t be friends for the time being.
    Have I shut him down completely from ever reaching out? Or is the ball now in my court to reach out at some point?
    My response was respectful but very short and direct and I didn’t reciprocate (in my message) that I also liked him and saw it going somewhere but hoped it was implied by “not looking for someone to see around “

    • @aramurka88
      @aramurka88 2 года назад +5

      Omg I literally had the same going for the last month... I'm totally exhausted second guessing myself whether I should've stayed and be more understanding. I was so afraid to be used. Also very straightforward asked him where we going.. he was very nice but said he can't have a pressure of another relationship now and can't give me time i deserve... I said I understand and respect his honesty.
      After a month of no contact I reached out offered going for a drink. He was interested but his replies were very long and a bit plain... I had to cancel due to not feeling well anyway.. i offered different time but he didn't reply anymore.. I'm sad I didn't see him.. but maybe it wasn't still the right time for us. I'd rather want him to come to me and see he is actually ready and decided what he wants.. so I'll just put it away for now... I still feel he is my soulmate... I won't cross him out.. but I can't sit and wait.. it hurts too much

    • @Rina021
      @Rina021 Год назад +6

      Very similar thing happened to me. I also considered him a potential soulmate which I never said about anyone before. He was so interested in the beginning and we had a unique connection from the start, and we talked for a month and a half but he always told me we can't be together for now because he was in the process of soon moving to attempt a new career in another city. But he would still text me all the time and act like I was a real potential woman for him. After a month and a half I gave him an ultimatum coz I couldn't deal with the mixed messages anymore, I liked him more than I liked anyone ever and it was too painful not to be able to hold onto anything. And coz of that he told me we should stop being in touch and detach from eachother. He asked if we can eventually be just friends and I said no, I would not accept being friends with someone I have such strong feelings for since we are not on the same page.
      After 3 months of intense pain going no contact (I never felt such pain in my life over a guy, and we had never even been in a relationship!) he texted me out of the blue and we reconnected, quite superficially. I had left the city by then but I actually flew back just to meet him once with an excuse that 'I was going back for a weekend to visit friends and would he want to meet?'. We met and it was an amazing time (still as friends) and after I had left the city he told me that if I moved back (I was thinking of moving back) he wanted to be in a relationship with me. His moving plans hadn't worked out yet and were on hold. I was ecstatic and we kept in regular contact the next 2 months until I was about to move back. A week before I moved back (in my mind to start a beautiful exciting relationship with this man) he suddenly told me his moving plans were back on and I was so thrown off that I reacted in a hurt way. He said its better to cut of contact seeing my reaction. Basically he could see how invested I was and his priority once again was moving and his career. I moved back anyway, utterly devastated and we actually did meet up twice once I moved back because he eventually asked if I could be friends with him and I accepted just because I wanted to see if that would make a difference. Long story short, in he end we still now are in no contact, he just kept coming up with drama and issues. All this to say that I tried it both ways - the not accepting to be friends and the accepting to be friends. Both didnt work in the ways I wanted them to. I would say being friends, or at least attempting to, led him to take me for granted in a way. I learned that with an avoidant guy or someone who isn't ready for you, no matter what u do it won't make a difference. When and if he is ready for you he would make an effort to reach out to you, and if he doesn't he isn't for you. You could always text him (as I did at one point) and tell him you want to just end things on a good note, that you still think highly of him regardless and respect him as a man and are grateful for the fact that you met because you saw him in a different light to others, wishing him the best at the end. Maybe that will plant a seed in his head. But at the end of the day the readiness and certainty has to come from him and don't beat yourself up with 'should haves'. Been there done that. Sorry this is so long - but could relate so much.

    • @tarjanevalainen175
      @tarjanevalainen175 Год назад

      So sorry to hear that😐

    • @naimam3976
      @naimam3976 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@Rina021 I know its hurtful to accept that someone is not into you like that, this guy was uncertain because he liked you but not enough to be in a relationship with you, you were just a timepass for him. I'm sorry my love, next time dont give a man more than one chance to see your greatness, if he cant see it the first time a second time wont change anything and also you are sweet and beautiful, I'm sure another man will be happy to call you his woman. Stay strong !

  • @vjcarter4657
    @vjcarter4657 Год назад +13

    I love these videos, but I cannot help but wonder why the f do MEN need so much catering to their needs, interests, and emotions? Too much work, man.

    • @ntiriwa
      @ntiriwa Год назад +2

      oh say it twice!i`m in a "i dont now what this is now"situationship...and the more i listen to these videos the more i think and realise to myself that I just need to get on gone...I listen alot...cater...oh I cook the whole turkey! but when I want to whinge...hes not patient...eye rollllllllllll

  • @judywillis7593
    @judywillis7593 2 года назад +2

    What do you do? He has grieved the last 7 yrsi his wife of 49 yrs. for she passed away. He is so lonely and sad. Says he will never marry again it hurts to bad. Moved me on his property 2 yrs ago.we have a great friendship. I tell him no sex if your never going to marry. Why would I break my own heart. I would really like to help him. But I'm lost. We laugh and eat meals together. I live separate from him wanted to make that clear. I want more but dont talk about it.

  • @avilashadahal5009
    @avilashadahal5009 6 месяцев назад

    We have been together for more than 2 years.. we could not meet a lot cause he moved to Australia for further study and I was back in my home country but within a year I too came to Australia just for him but I didn't go to the city where he lives cause we were on and off sometimes. We met after 2 times after 6months of me coming to Australia and travelled and stayed together for almost 2 weeks.. he said he will talk to his family about me and now a week ago he said he is not sure about our relationship cause he feels like our vibes doesnot match. I am so broken cause out of thousands of reason I never ever expected him to say that. I talked to him and have given him some time to figure it out.
    The problem is.. he is neither sure nor wants to leave me behind. And the reason behind holding me is he does not want to feel the same pain which he felt when we broke up earlier.. I am really confused what am I supposed to do.. silently move on or just wait for his decision? 😢

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  5 месяцев назад

      Hi there! I know Coach Alex would love to help you but he would need to know a little more about what you're going through in order to help you through this. I would highly suggest you book a coaching session with him using this link:
      www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
      -FRE Team

  • @hiranadeemkhan1117
    @hiranadeemkhan1117 2 года назад

    Is everything over?
    My ex said I truly wish the best for you n i truly
    want you to move on, stop chasing the past.
    we're just different and not the best option for
    each other, we'll only hurt each other.
    Also: I messaged him from my new number he saved my number. I messaged him and he completely ignored my message.

  • @gloriawussah3878
    @gloriawussah3878 2 года назад +2

    Is it right to ask a guy for some space to sort yourself out

    • @ebhb7070
      @ebhb7070 Год назад +2

      Yup I do it all the time … just say it nice and simple . Don’t over explain yourself… it made my man respect me even more . Just don’t be too emotional about what you say

  • @AChicRevue
    @AChicRevue Год назад +2

    Men don't understand.. women are natural Helpmates.. its in us to want to help but I understand what they are saying, we need to turn that off

  • @janethamilton9672
    @janethamilton9672 Год назад +1

    Why did my man relocate without telling me

  • @iRespectMen
    @iRespectMen 3 месяца назад

    Ok so he didn't call me for 5 days. Then he called me and apologized for not having contacted me. And asked how am I doing? I told him he didn't call me for 5 days and laid down my expectations and boundaries.
    But now you are saying I should have asked him what was wrong and why he hadn't called me first? I didn't do that 🤦. It's been 2 weeks now and he hasn't called me back since
    What do I do now? I followed videos that said set your expectations and boundaries. It seems now from this video that that was the wrong move
    What do I do now. Andrew HELP!!!!

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  3 месяца назад

      Hi there! I know Coach Alex would love to help you but he would need to know a little more about what you're going through in order to help you through this. I would highly suggest you book a coaching session with him using this link:
      www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
      -FRE Team

  • @krystynazon7481
    @krystynazon7481 Год назад

    He always answer my messages right away but cut them off quickly.

    • @tlc6756
      @tlc6756 Год назад +1

      Sounds like my last attorney.
      No, seriously, I would not reach out to him and move on. All the best, I know it's hard.

  • @marlenejulies2233
    @marlenejulies2233 2 года назад

    What can I do he asked me to go out but when he come to me he look dirty he just come as he is I can't touch him when he look like that but I do like him

  • @shamimabedlatif7593
    @shamimabedlatif7593 8 месяцев назад

    Sir alex please 🙏 i need your advice what should i do with my bf he's not chat me or answering my call but i know he's not busy at all one word enough he's not love me

    • @FrenchRelationshipExpert
      @FrenchRelationshipExpert  8 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you so much for watching! I know coach Alex would love to help you with this but he would need to hear a little more about your situation. I would highly suggest you book a coaching session with him using this link:
      www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
      -FRE Team

  • @danirob6920
    @danirob6920 Год назад +2

    Eh, i don’t think he needs 2 days with the guys. She is his best friend now and he can chill and drink with her. I mean a few hours with the guys is one thing but 2 day? Nah i don’t think so lol

  • @DianeLindenberger
    @DianeLindenberger Год назад

    It has been 12 years and he will not commit but wants to talk to me.

  • @jeanettesuzannebrooks1963
    @jeanettesuzannebrooks1963 2 года назад

    Hey, I’m first!

  • @ayahomar5182
    @ayahomar5182 2 года назад +1

  • @Ghadat_Alrawd
    @Ghadat_Alrawd 2 года назад +1

    ♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @TisungeTilika
    @TisungeTilika 2 месяца назад

    Your tips are hard

  • @BASH_ANGEL
    @BASH_ANGEL Год назад

    BODY MOVEMENTS AND BODY LANGUAGE, THE GUEST GUY ON THE RIGHT CAN BE ALLEGEDLY A DISCREET BISEXUAL. IT TAKES ONE TO KNOW ONE.

  • @fotobea
    @fotobea 2 года назад +3

    Alex.. Are you single?

    • @skfahyma
      @skfahyma 2 года назад +1

      😊

    • @naimam3976
      @naimam3976 9 месяцев назад

      Alex is married, his wife is a lucky woman.

  • @globalinsight7938
    @globalinsight7938 2 года назад

    Thank you both, as always, great video!