Episode 148 ADHD and Workplace Discrimination
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- 2024 starts off in the same amateurish and shambolic fashion as 2023 finished, as Episode 148 covers the subject of ADHD and discrimination in the workplace. As usual, Alex the Psycho.......education Monkey delivers the evidence behind the subject, all three ADHD Adults give their personal reflections, and then in the final section ('Just The Tip'), your hosts cover some top tips about ADHD and discrimination in the workplace. 'What has James lost, forgotten or mislaid this week?" returns with Alex astonishingly 5-2 up for the year, The Metrics Intern continues telling us about the cities we have listeners in and Alex reads his usual 'definitely real' correspondence. Alex can’t not be wildly political, Mrs ADHD has been honing her delivery and James will not marry Alex...
I'm the same as you guys. If I'm working on my own (like WFH), I also do the bare minimum like today. But just having other people around me, even if they don't have any idea what I'm doing, keeps me motivated to work.
I think I just kinda like being around people, even though I mostly don't like people 😅
100% same, this is common with ADHD as body doubling motivates us.
I was signed off long term with 'stress-related illness' and now have an ADHD diagnosis. I'm now on the long road to getting into a position to look for work again.
So sorry to hear that but we wish you all the luck in finding the right career. You can do this! ❤️
@@theadhdadults Thank you. It was partly down to listening to your podcast that I went for the diagnosis.
James: "Well done, Sam! Youve smashed that!"
Sam: *visible terror*
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Hello you completely sane trio and all, if you can be bothered! Woke up 5am wanting to write you your next episode :)
Apologies for the tiny message. I have wanted to reach out for a year now, but didn't feel worthy of your time. After all, there are thousands of us suffering, because of power tripping twats and workplace chaos. I know most folk don't have time to read a full possible movie script, called 'Shat on from Above' - in 'A' minor...casted by Oh Man Peabody. After the third time watching this ep, as I often have to do, with my slow style learning (completely leaky brain) - Ding.
Being an internally emotional ticking time bomb, on loop with whistles and bells (Ding).I'm being brave as I put on my big girl pants (when I find them) as I write this.
(Your podcasts have been training me for a year to learn to manage my ADHD & Autism-thanks)
Sticky thick black mud is being currently slung at myself, from the workplace and HR and it clings tight once flung. Can we do an extension of the last episode called this please?
The school where I have taught for 5 years, and which still technically employs me, have seemingly caused a hate campaign, waging war on my mental health, which to me now also means, my community.
I have always been a lone wolf, not a sheeple follower; way less energy to just be yourself, and a mother to three lunatic children. So I am surprised I am writing to you all, because I am a good little lonely coper, (cue violin) I don't need help wah wah wah! - Yes, I do :) I feel like what I have to say may likely contain synchronistic chords, of similar melodies or maladies? Alex, could you clarify this as a word and it's meaning please? Thanks.
Gruesome details I am reliving (in a Yoda Voice please) as I assemble a timeline of evidence, cut Yoda, armed with a convoy of highlighter pens, pegs, string, an old recycled French Yoga cat calendar, a candle, ladder, more string, wait ribbon too and the cat. Its like Carrie off Homeland during a manic bipolar episode, trying to find the 'enemy.' I feel like I'm dreaming in bloody Poirlock. (Sherlock and Poirot)-Too much)? Oh fucking well :)
Creating a visual and interactable overall picture, of a timeline, is helping me to work out what the flip happened to me; after walking through those Catholic high school foyer doors, five years ago. It was rather encouraging upon interview, when I failed to self combust into a big ball of flames. -AND got offered the job! Double win.
Stuff happens without you noticing at the time, because you have ADHD and or other neuro diverse conditions (and didn't know then) and, because we put 100% into the days, weeks, and months, happily and obliviously delivering every fibre of our beings through our subjects, interests or passions... You simply do not recognise the amount of tolerance levels being depleted, as your entire being absorbs the invisible stress, bouncing from the ceiling in a building where, a small community within itself has dominion. Until,
Its way too late, burn out kicks your ass and knocks you flat. Its like the teachers were taking bets how long I could last before falling flat. Bets on how long I would last being outstanding at my job. Kids prejudges can be maliable, teachers are not.
By 2022, I was unable to even remember an ounce of who I was, am, or curiously should be. I also had a hysterectomy 2017 so whilst going through full on menopause I became obsessed with new feelings about identity which were horrible. I felt neither female or male. Wombless, hormone less and clueless. LOL Life became more fun.
Anyhow I appreciate my fast diagnosis, then hated it as discovering my existence has been channelled through a plethora of masks, IS UNNERVING. Then accepting it for what it isnt. I thought I had dementia for months-mental health is terrifying. It squashed me flat and I am only just learning how to heal or that I am worthy of healing and self care.
Whilst symbiotically piecing evidence together, day by day, to chuck a block of contrary bollards, to vile allegations being hurled out of the blue, at myself. I don't mind telling you all, this is destroying me and I am so sorry if this has happened to any others out there.
In November I had to attend an Occy Health visit, which was disguised, in a 'How can we support you to get back to work meeting?' Without warning, paper work, rep or clue about the coming agenda. It resulted in a total meltdown foetal position outcome, on the 'dr's' floor followed by a violently painful panic attack. 45 minutes into meeting the doctor realised that I was being, in his words, blindsided by school and cancelled the meeting.
All arranged by the new head teacher who has been posted by Estyn Inspectors, to raise standards at our school. Someone who traumatised me on a Teacher Trauma Training day. Seriously I am not making this shit up. She took over from the previous head, who gave me the job in 2019. After 3 years working flat out full time, I went off absent with stress related issues, when this happened, my health swiftly went down the pan. Weighing just over 7 stone, refusing to eat, or forgetting to breath, I found your podcast and just cried. HA HA! Payback time me thinks.(Yoda voice)-Alex
Over the last several months, the school have been in the paper a few times, due to the mysterious circumstances the now, former headteacher and deputy when they were escorted off the premises, one school day. (It later turns out, rife safeguarding issues and an unfair dismissal case won by my old HOD (head of department) who had a tribunal with County Council, against the new initial head, this and other confidential issues remaining secret, turned out to be the reason for the bad publicity. I only found this by chance as I was rolling news paper, donated by cafes to make me a big ole bonfire (I am a total pyromaniac).
The blackness of the situation is too overwhelming. Did you know some schools I have worked in as a supply/cover teacher send 'challenging' students to' isolation', which is essentially a room painted black with tables and no paper.? Crazy shit.
Having grown up children who have seen their once full of life, eccentric bonkers happy mum 'smashing' life, in her friendly bull dozer way. (OMG do you remember the Fraggles!? Mrs adhd/James?) sorry, whilst honing her career, crafting her onions happily, stressed yes, but living the dream, corny yes, finally, I found my purpose. It took seven years to qualify, I gained a BAHONs and followed with my PGCE & QTS, many years of hard work teaching in local schools supplying or covering art lessons. I couldn't believe it when I got my first full time position, with grown up wages.
I did this against all of the following odds;
Lifelong undiagnosed and now official ADHD/OCD/BP/Anxiety/Trauma/abuse survivor/RTA -causing spinal problems, acute head trauma as a fencepost decided to plunge through the sunroof, above the passenger side of the car, where I sat watching as my best friend drove us accidentally off a 200 foot bridge, missing the A55 Dual carriage way, by a couple of metres. Fairplay to her, ping pong good landing, Roger that 10-4. -Ding. Years later she also got diagnosed with ADHD. Years later I still love her.
Before Christmas I contacted my Teaching Union Rep, who is great. She is supporting me with strong silent listening skills and gentle energy, to assemble my time line. In the meantime my every waking hour is blackened by the thought of the energy needed to fight these mofos. I am being accused of talking about my own suicide with children I teach, sharing with them my financial worries and locking myself in a cupboard when I have a wobble. (I found this out at the above described OH meeting, when the doctor finally shared the paperwork). Everything I represent in art, life, work and in my person feels violated, insulted and now blackened. This will sabotage my career permanently unless I stand ground. These people are giants. I am a dot.
Most of us fight all our lives and then suddenly nothing can prepare you for the shock of the battle which has picked you. And, seems to be at the beginning?
Nothing quite prepares you for the absolute despair you feel when some people, people in powerful roles essentially lie and just DONT get called out. Relying on the interruption to your unique healing journey.
With ADHD all you can do on a good day is watch your world dissolving slowly around you. Guys, why are some people in power totally dangerous? They should be the dots.
I say bring back Fraggle Rock and allow Sprocket the lighthouse keepers dog to round these sheeple up., and throw them to the lady scrapheap. Have another great groundhog day on this, our never ending non merry fairground ride of life.
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p.s I don't why it went red in places. I asked google, they didnt really know either ?
p.ss. I dont know how my username is corrected, I am the cute mennace
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Aup mi ducks! 🦆
Took me 27 minutes to notice Sam's *excellent* t-shirt 👌🏻
Somehow i ended up on this episode after starting to watch the prioritisation one (probably fat fingers - does anyone else ever just randomly drop whatever they're holding for no apparent reason and have a moment of utter panic as they do an impression of a juggling centipede to try and catch it?)
Anyway - thanks again for doing such great work, and for getting so many of us through some really difficult times (particularly the valley of death between realising we are neurospicy and actually beginning to get the support / medication we need).
Feel free to share the un-redacted version privately (happy to sign an NDA) 😂
Loads of love - Jimi from Nottingham
P.s. I can neither confirm nor deny the existance of the hedgehog tunnels, as I do not wish to incur the wrath of our prickly masters, who should be rightly feared 🦔
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Hi Jimi! Thanks for messaging, Sam gets her t-shirts from Sportsbanger (www.sportsbanger.com/) if you’re interested and we’re delighted to (nod and a wink) hear about the hedgehog tunnels 😂❤️
Love you guys, thanks so much for more valuable info, laughs and relatable moments 😊 ❤🎉
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We love you too 🧛🏻♂️🌪️🎈❤️
Great episode guys... but when wee do accept our disability we can then move on to the possibility that being able to admit fragility - then admission of our fragility can (provocatively) become a personal strength to build from.
Absolutely, Brene Brown’s work on vulnerability is a great way to view fragility/vulnerability as a path to growth ❤️
ah ok... I'll check that out - thanks
Hello from the US! I've been experiencing more than a few instances of what you have been discussing. I also need to be extremely careful about what I can disclose. I've attempted to reach out through proper channels, but these attempts have not gone well. What advice would your recommend for individuals who experience "Neurospicy" miscommunications, and their pleas for help are ignored?
Thanks for getting in touch, and we’re so sorry you have to endure this. Firstly document whatever you can as this may help when evidencing your poor treatment. If you have trusted colleagues with shared experiences m, use that network to help you better understand what the attitude towards ADHD is. Hopefully this answers your question ( a little)?
@@theadhdadults Thank you for responding, I've been documenting each instance. The near daily inconstancies with policy and practice have made the situation hopeless. HR directed me to the Ethics department, who told me to reach to management to work it out on my own. The agency I contacted took over 10 months to view my case, and closed it in less than a day saying no direct action was taken so it's not discriminatory. The management team informed me of their findings then gave me a disciplinary action. At least now I know they are above the law.
@@jamesmettauer9700 that’s awful, so sorry to hear you’ve had to suffer this ordeal 💔