Sadly surprisingly enough women, especially Black woman want to be the side piece. And when they wake up and realize they aren't getting any younger *then* they want to settle down, get married and have a family. This is of course after they spent over a decade running around with every married man in town.
I’ve always Explicitly turned down guys who have girlfriends/wives . That’s basic girl code, and I have respect for myself . It’s not that hard people .
@@elizabethelias1005 Because the single "good" men aren't good enough for them. They want the "bad boys" who are ALWAYS taken. Until they get their hearts broken by them. Then they think differently.
That’s assuming it’s a love relationship. I wanna bang my coworker who’s married. I’m in live with someone else and honestly only his opinion matters to me.
@@Amateur_Pianist_472 I don’t care if it’s an unhappy relationship the person is in. They need to man up and divorce if that’s the case and I wouldn’t touch him with a 10 foot pole until he was and I was single too. If you can’t be faithful then don’t be in a serious relationship with anyone.
@@horsegirl07 I meant, the side chick isn’t always in love with the guy. Maybe she just wants sex with him and she’s in love with someone else. I’m in a situation where I’d love my married coworker to jackhammer me but I have no feelings for him. I love someone else. I’d feel bad for his wife. Not for him cuz he’s a piece of shit.
From personal experience when my self esteem was much lower I believed what my ex said when he badmouthed the women in his life and wanted to help him. I was naive and he used me. My lesson learned. Now I'm with a man that actually loves and respects me so it all worked out thankfully.
@M Redmond I don’t understand how women flaunting their sexuality is empowerment as far as I know it’s actually the patriarchy undercover ._. They make it seem like being sexual is empowering so women do it more often and it benefits men in the end no??
Connor Dusty Hickory lol 😂 you’re seriously ridiculous. Most people get in relationships to reproduce. It’s our main purpose just like all living creatures. Not money and sex 🙄👋
@@boodledemic6430 Finally a reasonable comment about sexual "empowering". It's a fucking lie. They need that to sell shit. They sell so many things with the beauty industry and sexual enpowerment for women. Because it's mostly women who buy things like that.
@@fayepatrice1672 um no. What you’re not going to do is disrespect African American women. Try again . At least we have pride in us unlike y’all . Y’all bleach y’all skin and stuff
Let us focus on the individual who made a commitment to the women. The individual cheating on a partner is the one to focus on. The person he cheats with doesn’t matter.
“It’s a disgrace to women” 🙌🏻🙌🏻 I always felt that there should be more solidarity between women. Men may cheat, but it wouldn’t happen nearly as often if women stood together. I would never knowingly get with a guy in a relationship or marriage purely out of respect for myself and the woman waiting for him at home. I felt this way long before I knew what it was like to be the women at home
@The Monster Under Your Bed Of course women cheat as well. This video was about a WOMAN being involved with someone else’s man, which is how cheating occurred in the first place. She clearly doesn’t respect herself or other women, so of course she wouldn’t care if she did that to her own man. The point of my comment went entirely over your head so I will break it down for you. Women should respect themselves by not cheating on their own man. Women should respect themselves and other women by not getting involved with someone else’s man. If a women gets involved in someone else’s relationship, obviously she wouldn’t respect her own relationship, and cheat herself. The same thing applies to men. If people respected themselves and other people, cheating wouldn’t occur by anyone.
@The Monster Under Your Bed link me to a video about men saying they shouldn’t cheat on their wives and we should look out for other relationships. Then we’ll talk 🙂
@@kookylook2071 I’m failing to see your point. It’s childish and pathetic if that’s the reason anyone uses to get involved with another person who’s already in a relationship. Competition is for sports and shouldn’t be applied to relationships
I’ve never understood why a woman would want to be a side chick. He’s never going to commit, he’s never going to take her to meet his family. And, men don’t treat side chicks with respect, they’re disposable. Side chicks must have the lowest self esteem, kinda sad.
I heard it’s because with a married man they have no responsibilities like house chores and having to see each other daily, it’s just fancy dates, gifts and cash in exchange for sex
I disagree. I did the side chick thing. He spent an easy 80k on me in about a year. He wasn't rich. Made about 200k. I got all of the perks and none of the responsibility. The wife had to deal with kids, bills, and all of his pissy moods. When he saw me, we had fun. Women should do better jobs of picking good men AND taking care of them. For example, I brought this dude some leftovers for lunch. He damn near cried. He'd been married for damn near 20 years and she never made him a lunch to take to work. Simple shit. If I wanted him to leave her, he would have. But why would I want a divorced dude with all that baggage?
PREEEEEEEEAAAAAAACCHHHH!!! Men have offered half of themselves to me before but I didn't go for it. You want to know why? 1.) If he's taken then he's probably still sexually active with her. 2.) I wouldn't like it if a woman did it to me. 3.) He'll cheat on me too. 4.) I'll be the one looking desperate and stupid. 5.) Even though I may not know her I don't see a reason to help break her heart even though I may not owe her loyalty. I can still show her RESPECT. It's about character and not settling for less, ladies and gentlemen.
And I wouldn't want any woman to do that to me ! So I never do it no matter what he has to offer it's hurtful and u just don't play with ppl lives like that ! He had all the time in the world to walk away instead he decided to HURT feelings and Heart not knowing there's something out there waiting on his ass !!! #KARMA because there's some crazy ppl out here that will Truly hurt u !!
@@lunix3259 true plus the wife has a stronger agreement me and my man have tried a few side chicks but i couldn't have them over for more then a night because they actually wanted to steal me away from him. The wife is actually more valuable especially if she works in a court room or something. Like she's going to care if you slept with him she doesn't have time that's why she allows it. The side chick is like somebody you would invite to your Xmas party for booze and a 3some.
In my 20s, I had multiple married men trying to cheat on their wives with me, but I was raised with class, so I never stooped that low. Plus, I believe in karma and knew that someday I would have a husband and wouldn't want him tip toeing out the door with someone else. It's about respect for the other woman.
@@shea2111 1. You're not the person, you don't know if this is truthful. 2. Saying that multiple married men tried to cheat on their wives with you does make you _sound_ arrogant.
@@shea2111 What do you mean "nope" Do you mean "No you aren't the person"? Or do you mean "No, it doesn't sound arrogant"? I'm not saying they are arrogant, I am saying it _sounds_ arrogant.
That would be correct if she didn't know he was married. She was friends with the wife. Even if he started the affair, she could have had some self love and respect and said "No thank you. Get out" Don't even get me started if she was the one who went after the guy. Both were wrong here.
@@majo77 Id they were friends you’re right. That woman should have taken responsibility. But I was just a bit annoyed with the ‘a message for side chicks everywhere’ title.
@@kap5497 maybe I'm a bit too black and white about the situation, I've always thought that avoiding married men is a matter of self respect. Respect towards the wife/girlfriend is another thing, that I agree should be the guy's concern. But a woman should love and respect herself first and not mess around in a situation like that. I think that's the message, no man is worth your time if you have to hurt yourself and others to be in a "relationship".
"If they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you." 🤷♀️ We cannot call ourselves dignified if we stay with another woman's man and convince ourselves that we're the "special" one. That's not real, baby. Love yourself first, then you'll find someone who'll love you even more. 💕
Nah. It starts with the MARRIED MAN. There is NO side chick if the married man is a MANLY MAN and stays faithful and loving to his spouse honoring his promise he made to her before man and before God.
I agree they should be called something else but they aren’t really trespassers. That man invited her into his relationship, he chose to take on another woman and she accepted. They’re both wrong but he welcomed her in.
Preach 🙌 We also have to stop putting all the blame on the side chick's though. I hope she read him the riot act too because he's the one ultimately responsible for upholding his vows.
So the fact she seduced a married man, or after she discovered he was married still continued the affair, it's ok. You don't end in bed with a man if you don't want to (unless it's rape, but that is not our case). Yes, the man is a stupid insecure piece of crap, why continue the affair then? If it was a o.n.s., ok I could get it. Sometimes it happens, it's human. But she accepted the fact she was a sidechick. That's on her
Nah, if she knew that he was married, it’s also her fault. She knew he was married and still continued the affair, wtf do you mean “don’t blame side chicks?”
Some adulterous men will kill or seriously injure the side chick who contacts his wife to try and break up their marriage. I have personally seen it happen when the husband came, gun in hand, to murder the Side chick for contacting his wife who he had no intention of leaving for her. I also think the lady who was killed while online had contacted the wife of the man she was cheating with and he killed her. Obviously, this idiot was afraid of his side chick, that's why he was laughing. I am so happy the judge threw her out after that tongue lashing.
Sadly sometimes the innocent wives just minding their own business focusing on their families, get killed too, and that horrible case the children mother and unborn baby got killed too. Doesn’t make any sense just for some random woman, sometimes I feel being single can save your life literally...
@Martina That's my point. Some women KNOW their guy (or lady) is a player - BEFORE they get in a relationship! They want to tame a stallion. But they know they can't. EVER. So they "settle" for cheating. And give them crap for being themselves. It's doomed from the start.
That side chick is crazy. "If she would have been handling her business"... Please, side chick ain't shit and he ain't either. Why would u want to hurt ur friend. Remember what goes around comes around.
Hell the side chick has nerve .. bcuz if she was about any thing for real & handling her business “she wouldn’t be a side chick”! She’d be thee chick and a actually good single man would want & care 4 her & a man would respect her enough to never have her as a side dish!
And using the B.S. putting it all the woman the expectation that SHE has to do all the work so it's HER fault if he strays🙄😑. Ffs- read "becoming cliterate " by Dr Laurie mintz, any sexual research at all, or just talk to friends- the orgasm gap is as real and worse than the gender pay gap. Women have capacity for multiple orgasms and sex is NOT just the 5-10 minutes of men putting it and getting off. Who's not not handling his business? Bet it's him. And misogyny, patriarchy and society train us all to accept that getting to act like men in the sexual arena IS equality. No thank you! Who benefits from THAT? Men
I think it was because she was referring to cheating dudes that have side chicks. I never heard her mention all guys like that so I think it was just to make clear that a guy that cheats isn't worth it.
If you can't take the heat don't play with fire, Everybody knows that when you interfere with someone's marriage you lose. Not only because it's wrong but because it goes against God!!! That's enough right there for me to not do it!!! And if I didn't know and found out later I would throw my feelings over my shoulders and tell him to kick rocks, ain't no man worth that!!!
What i do know is if they can cheat with you, eventually they'll cheat on you too. One who wants to cheat with you is a clear indication that he has no respect for relationships. If he or she respects it, it's better to leave and make it official rather than cheating.
Facts!! This go for the men who are “separated” too! They are still married and most times never go through the divorce. I would never get between what god has put together until its completely over!!!!
Thank she needed to hear that , because she needs to think more of herself. Than being someone's side piece. It sounds so degrading . Love you judge Toler for keeping it 💯
i was once a main chick disguised as a side chick. im glad i found some respect for myself and eventually held the men i chose to be with to a higher standard than that.
cryospiral Judge Toler, not Judge Judy. Judge Judy had made a very bad decision against the complainant when another piece of evidence was presented that she had looked over and then had to correct herself. I haven't liked her show since then. There are a few other decisions she made that were totally off base.
Alfreda Calbert do you realise how silly your reasoning is for not liking judge Judy? In the very same sentence you say she made a bad decision AND corrected herself.....isn’t that what a judge is MEANT TO DO. I love Judge Lynn as much as the next guy but she’s made some bad decisions too, some of which she literally owns up to i countless interviews you can find online. Making bad decisions alone isn’t the reason you dislike judge Judy, there’s most definitely more to it than that.
and THIS is why I love Lynn Toler..... pay attention females, men will only do what you allow them to do. set a higher standard for yourself and don't be a side-chick
In general, expecting honesty and integrity out of anyone is a mistake, not just in the context of relationships. It takes a special kind of person to not be a piece of garbage. And everyone fakes those qualities to make themselves appear more desirable. No offense intended, but it is your job to discern whether that is actually part of their character or a facade. It is genuinely not their fault that you were gullible.
You are absolutely correct. However, you can’t change or fix anyone; just yourself. So we concentrate on being wise and not falling into certain situations.
Exactly my thoughts . They always blame women . If a man wants to cheat he will cheat regardless , if you refuse him , he’ll find another that’s willing .
Judge Lynn Toler has also talked about black men and a segment she also talks about the black community in general and she's very smart and well aware and one thing to judge does not do is say oh it's black men spot so it's black women spot she says it's the black community as a whole they keep pushing colorism hi out of rates wedlock no jobs gang violence High drop-out rate all kinds of stuff and you want to sit here and talk about don't get me started boy be quiet that's not going to fix anything it doesn't help anything Lord Jesus
Amen and amen Judge! Thank you Judge for telling it liķe it is the truth. I have always said the exact same words but this is the first time I've ever heard it said by someone else. Thank you for shouting her down it needed to be said. My husband did the same exact thing to me and then ran lies on me to make his self look good and cover up for his bad behavior. The mistress telling me in my face the same line of words that you said judge trying to make herself justify her bad behavior. Judge please tell all persons in these same type of cases until they get it because it's not heard enough 👏👏
🗣 DOG ‼️ I hate when women believe that they are so special over another woman... it’s a joke used to divide women. Insecure immature women use this and clever men know how stupid it is but use it against those women🤦🏾♀️ them heifers don’t even realize the choice was always his he just being greedy and she helping hi
What gets me is these same women get super defensive about their man or act shocked when he cheats on them. To that I say "what made you think he'd be faithful to you? He already proved he was willing to cheat when he went to you over his then girlfriend or worse yet wife, and now you want to act hurt that someone else did to you what you did to his gf/wife. You can't disrespect/disregard someone else's relationship and then expect your relationship to be based on anything solid. From the getgo it was based on deceit, disrespect, and selfishness.
Ain't Nothing GOOD Gonna Come To You Until You DO RIGHT By Me.. Amen!!! 🤔🤔😲😲... Them Pigeon Heads and 🐦 Them Side side 🐔 Chicks... Is Just #AHookup... Them Men know They Can't Take Home To Mama..
"For a piece of man that isn't going to do anything for us" THE LOOK ON HIS FACE OH MY GOSH Why is no one talking about this??? (He literally smiles like "that's right")
So true.. we are capable of doing so many wrong doings.. it doesnt mean that we also do those bad things.. we have to respect ourselves and we have to keep our own dignity
“It speak to your lack of respect for women in general and black women specifically. We are lower socioeconomic wrong, we’re single mothers fighting over a man a piece of man that’s never gonna do right by us anyway” mannnn at 16 I started watching this show this women will never know how she has help me to avoid the things many black women fall in to. Thank you judge Lynn
That's why we should hold side chick equally responsible. And the man like that is not worth the effort u r putting in. And if u don't respect urself the man won't either. Women think they seducing men but nah they just see someone they can sleep withe asily without any strings attached and responsibility. They don't respect u. Also don't believe anything a married man tells u about his wife especially if it is bad. He is bad mouthing her in front of some other woman for just to get in her pants not to share his pain. I can never be a side chick or mistress. I have self respect for starters and I respect other women and people's relationships.
I disagree on holding side chicks equally accountable. The person you are in a relationship with is the only one you should worry about. What if he has multiple women he is cheating with...are you going to blame all of them? what if they didn't know he was taken? Bc he damn sure knew he was. I won't waste my time being mad at someone that has nothing to do with my relationship. I will be mad at the person i trusted & leave bc nobody deserves to be cheated on.
@@YunikuYosefMomoka @Yuni Moody you're* No, I am not stupid. I do respect myself and others. Practice what you preach. You don't have to be rude just bc you don't agree with me.
I love this lady! She tells woman everywhere that it is important to uphold yourself and your reputation with dignity and respect for yourself and for those around you. Good job!
This was the best honesty I’ve heard in a while. To see a black lady as a judge is amazing and beautiful! To finally have a voice and be heard is so powerful.
Ppl cheat for different reasons. Sometimes it has nothing to do with beauty or shape or love or anything of d sort or even d wife. Maybe d side chick treats him d ways he wants to be treated. Sometimes a man cheating goes way beyond what we as outsiders might think. Im sure if he is to confide in someone that he trust and they ask him "why do u cheat" the answer would surprise all of us.
@@samanthadaniels2991 you can do a lot of bad things because you lack certain parts of your life needed to make proper choices, but that still don’t make it right man
Jesus, you must have been born into a shit scenario if you think this is how most people are. I'm not even making fun of you, there are better places to be and good people to meet. I genuinely hope you can get there one day, whatever your situation.
Made my morning! Hahaha! I respect my fellow sisters. Like, who the F wants to be a side chick anyways? This is gone on way too long, and we "all" deserve to be treated like queens.
Damnnn that judge dropped it like it's hottt....."Now I've said enough, now get out! "...boom! I like her...she's the type of no-nonsense mothers we need in this time to raise our sons and daughters right! 🙏
@@rainbowpandasays8851 it is equally bad interference with any married couple or being part of the reason for divorce and she should be ashamed but worse that she is also a traitor because she is doing it to women who already have families that lack fathers
That piece of a man is only thinking about his little head and also he answers to GOD BECAUSE HE VOWED ..VOWED TO HONOR AND CHERISH HIS WIFE BEING TREACHEROUS BRINGS CURSES 2 YOU AND THE DELUSIONED FEMALE WHO IS WAITING FOR A SCRAP FROM HIS MINITURE TABLE..THAT SHE PROBABLY BOUGHT..?🤤😨😲😬👺☠💩 bb
I left him to his own after his ex swung in flaming the old flames. I’m still angry because the ex disrespected me even though I never did anything to them. They lasted less than a month. He regrets everything but I cannot and will not go back to someone who treated me that way. It still hurts but like she said, dignity and self respect are worth more.
To lay down and have sex with someone significant other or spouse is degrading to self. Especially if you are aware they are in a committed relationship.
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"People with class don't do them, even if they're able to do them."
Boom...you got that right!
She didn’t even take a breathe til she was done
Amen! ❤
This is 💯 true,
We shouldn't lower ourselves to the level of some piece of shit..
@Kabita Karan thanks i guess 😂
"Never make someone your priority when you are their option" Mark Twain
Yes!! 🙌🙌
I love Mark Twain.
"when the fuck I said that" - Mark Twain
@@schrodingerscat1105 "Where da hoes at?" - Sojourner Truth
Maya Angelou also said something similar to that.
Do not ever be anyone's side chick you are worth so much more.
Renada Clark exactly
Or maybe not. 😂😂😂
Exactly
So true.
Sadly surprisingly enough women, especially Black woman want to be the side piece. And when they wake up and realize they aren't getting any younger *then* they want to settle down, get married and have a family. This is of course after they spent over a decade running around with every married man in town.
I’ve always Explicitly turned down guys who have girlfriends/wives . That’s basic girl code, and I have respect for myself . It’s not that hard people .
I would even try to contact their s/o about their man’s lack of loyalty.
I've been hit on by plenty of married men. Saying no is never hard. I don't understand why women hook up with married men.
@@elizabethelias1005 Because the single "good" men aren't good enough for them. They want the "bad boys" who are ALWAYS taken. Until they get their hearts broken by them. Then they think differently.
As if that's something to be praised for. Why would anyone get with someone who's already taken unless they're an asshole in some way.
@@buster3041 exactly. Some of them LIKE "taking" girls or guys from people.
Side chicks everywhere remember this! “If he will cheat with you he will cheat on you!”
Amen say that again
Indeed my friend...it is just that simple. Thank you!
That’s assuming it’s a love relationship. I wanna bang my coworker who’s married. I’m in live with someone else and honestly only his opinion matters to me.
@@Amateur_Pianist_472 I don’t care if it’s an unhappy relationship the person is in. They need to man up and divorce if that’s the case and I wouldn’t touch him with a 10 foot pole until he was and I was single too. If you can’t be faithful then don’t be in a serious relationship with anyone.
@@horsegirl07 I meant, the side chick isn’t always in love with the guy. Maybe she just wants sex with him and she’s in love with someone else. I’m in a situation where I’d love my married coworker to jackhammer me but I have no feelings for him. I love someone else. I’d feel bad for his wife. Not for him cuz he’s a piece of shit.
Side chicks think their new man will be faithful to them, honey he just cheated on his wife what makes you think he will treat you any different??? :/
They tell these lies to themselves but deep down they always know.
@Tish Tash say it
From personal experience when my self esteem was much lower I believed what my ex said when he badmouthed the women in his life and wanted to help him. I was naive and he used me. My lesson learned. Now I'm with a man that actually loves and respects me so it all worked out thankfully.
Some will say, U can't leave her because I left my wife for her,now we split. Everyone will say it's karma, payback or what goes around, comes around.
Exactly. The way you get them is the way you lose them.
"I have said enough, now get out!"... Classic! 😂😂😂😂😂
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She wanted to go in even more, but knows she could rant. So she stopped herself 🤣
Love how Judge Toller summed it up...and he was smiling cause he knew she nailed him and his sorry behaviour
She is so on point.💯💖
Queen shit
“If you have no respect for other women, then no man will have respect for you.” Amen 👏
Yes, sir. And women won't respect you either.
@M Redmond I don’t understand how women flaunting their sexuality is empowerment as far as I know it’s actually the patriarchy undercover ._. They make it seem like being sexual is empowering so women do it more often and it benefits men in the end no??
Connor Dusty Hickory lol 😂 you’re seriously ridiculous. Most people get in relationships to reproduce. It’s our main purpose just like all living creatures. Not money and sex 🙄👋
"if a men dont have respcet for his girlfriend than no girl will have respect for him"
@@boodledemic6430 Finally a reasonable comment about sexual "empowering". It's a fucking lie. They need that to sell shit. They sell so many things with the beauty industry and sexual enpowerment for women. Because it's mostly women who buy things like that.
This women spitting facts and hardly taking a breath.
Right! Thought she was rapping for a min. Either way it was 🔥
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@@cindywho8696 lmao "🔥"
Spitting some truth bombs
She could give Ben Shapiro a run for his money (seriously, have you *heard* that man speak? He’s like a damn auctioneer when he gets going! 😂)
“respect the relationship even when he doesn’t respect his own” words I live by with a taken man.
You so right girl thats a nice sentence😌
Where you at. Can we get something going?
Don't know the reason why people even bother to be in the relationship game.
This is #hardcorefacts that most people won't understand at first.
i like how she spoke to black women in general too... its true
True
Fuck boys and side chicks
Tango together heartbreaking 💔 😢
No it’s not. Possibly black American women are like that but black women in other cultures still have their self respect.
@@fayepatrice1672 um no. What you’re not going to do is disrespect African American women. Try again . At least we have pride in us unlike y’all . Y’all bleach y’all skin and stuff
Very we argue with each other si much over the dumbest things, like we already have ENOUGH going on, yet we always bring each other down
These side chicks always want to play the victim
Yes! That's irritating to me. Smh!
@Urkel Salone(opener): *375TH* like!
Exactly and they knew all along he was married, then they are surprised when he doesn’t want to commit to only them.
Let us focus on the individual who made a commitment to the women. The individual cheating on a partner is the one to focus on. The person he cheats with doesn’t matter.
@@MADEbySOUL don't take what's someone else's
A message to Side chicks everywhere
"JUDGE LYNN IS COMING FOR YOU".
Dear. Side. Chick you tried it
LOL 🤩
LOL! Love it! 😂😂😂
“It’s a disgrace to women” 🙌🏻🙌🏻 I always felt that there should be more solidarity between women. Men may cheat, but it wouldn’t happen nearly as often if women stood together. I would never knowingly get with a guy in a relationship or marriage purely out of respect for myself and the woman waiting for him at home. I felt this way long before I knew what it was like to be the women at home
@The Monster Under Your Bed Of course women cheat as well. This video was about a WOMAN being involved with someone else’s man, which is how cheating occurred in the first place. She clearly doesn’t respect herself or other women, so of course she wouldn’t care if she did that to her own man.
The point of my comment went entirely over your head so I will break it down for you. Women should respect themselves by not cheating on their own man. Women should respect themselves and other women by not getting involved with someone else’s man. If a women gets involved in someone else’s relationship, obviously she wouldn’t respect her own relationship, and cheat herself.
The same thing applies to men. If people respected themselves and other people, cheating wouldn’t occur by anyone.
It's about being able to say I can take your man! It's a competition, you women do not like each other like that!
@The Monster Under Your Bed link me to a video about men saying they shouldn’t cheat on their wives and we should look out for other relationships. Then we’ll talk 🙂
@@lovewins9267 yeah my cousin, he cheated on his girlfriend and now he’s in a relationship with a married women.
@@kookylook2071 I’m failing to see your point. It’s childish and pathetic if that’s the reason anyone uses to get involved with another person who’s already in a relationship. Competition is for sports and shouldn’t be applied to relationships
I’ve never understood why a woman would want to be a side chick. He’s never going to commit, he’s never going to take her to meet his family. And, men don’t treat side chicks with respect, they’re disposable. Side chicks must have the lowest self esteem, kinda sad.
@Essence Knight If the man felt like the side chick was more valuable, he would left his girlfriend.
Exactly I never understood it either. Why the HELL would someone want to be a second option? Plain ridiculous to me
@Essence Knight That’s exactly how it works.. if you’re a side bitch then you’re a damn fool.. because HE’S NOT GONNA LEAVE HER FOR YOUR DUSTY ASS...
I heard it’s because with a married man they have no responsibilities like house chores and having to see each other daily, it’s just fancy dates, gifts and cash in exchange for sex
I disagree. I did the side chick thing. He spent an easy 80k on me in about a year. He wasn't rich. Made about 200k. I got all of the perks and none of the responsibility. The wife had to deal with kids, bills, and all of his pissy moods. When he saw me, we had fun.
Women should do better jobs of picking good men AND taking care of them. For example, I brought this dude some leftovers for lunch. He damn near cried. He'd been married for damn near 20 years and she never made him a lunch to take to work. Simple shit. If I wanted him to leave her, he would have. But why would I want a divorced dude with all that baggage?
A piece of man, best description. Xx
A big piece, 12" hard wood...I am sure....
Ohhh, I thought she said Pizza Man! Either way...makes a lot of sense lol
Yep just a piece of a man...the side chicks don't have his whole heart, only a piece. So yea great description!
@@student5487 🤦🤣🤣🤣🤣
YES 🙌
PREEEEEEEEAAAAAAACCHHHH!!! Men have offered half of themselves to me before but I didn't go for it. You want to know why? 1.) If he's taken then he's probably still sexually active with her. 2.) I wouldn't like it if a woman did it to me. 3.) He'll cheat on me too. 4.) I'll be the one looking desperate and stupid. 5.) Even though I may not know her I don't see a reason to help break her heart even though I may not owe her loyalty. I can still show her RESPECT. It's about character and not settling for less, ladies and gentlemen.
That part.
@@mobayhottitude only real women understand this👆🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯
Not to mention STDs
And I wouldn't want any woman to do that to me ! So I never do it no matter what he has to offer it's hurtful and u just don't play with ppl lives like that ! He had all the time in the world to walk away instead he decided to HURT feelings and Heart not knowing there's something out there waiting on his ass !!! #KARMA because there's some crazy ppl out here that will Truly hurt u !!
What if the other woman or side chick doesnt know that he, the guy, has a wife?
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽exactly! Take that Bih! Side chicks and dudes are nothing to be proud of.😒
I don't get why people feel like they're awarded with medals being a cheater and a side chick
Exactly nothing at all
@@lunix3259 true plus the wife has a stronger agreement me and my man have tried a few side chicks but i couldn't have them over for more then a night because they actually wanted to steal me away from him. The wife is actually more valuable especially if she works in a court room or something.
Like she's going to care if you slept with him she doesn't have time that's why she allows it.
The side chick is like somebody you would invite to your Xmas party for booze and a 3some.
So right Shaman! I'm sick of the trash 🗑️!
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In my 20s, I had multiple married men trying to cheat on their wives with me, but I was raised with class, so I never stooped that low. Plus, I believe in karma and knew that someday I would have a husband and wouldn't want him tip toeing out the door with someone else. It's about respect for the other woman.
You dropped this 👑
Good message, unfortunately the post makes sound arrogant.
@@shea2111 1. You're not the person, you don't know if this is truthful.
2. Saying that multiple married men tried to cheat on their wives with you does make you _sound_ arrogant.
@@shea2111 What do you mean "nope"
Do you mean "No you aren't the person"?
Or do you mean "No, it doesn't sound arrogant"?
I'm not saying they are arrogant, I am saying it _sounds_ arrogant.
It's true when the judge said
"If women aren't going to respect one another, men are not going to respect women" !! 🙏🙏🔥🔥
Guy in the background 0:47 had my exact same expression
0:45 glad I'm not the only one that noticed that white boy lol
@@kryptoart87 You Weren't 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@sarumiganiata1619 the face he made like "finally, justice burn" as if hes got a dog in the fight.
Hehe☺️ his "ooohhhh" reaction
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Side chicks always think they can do it better. Woman let the side chick have him and when they leave tell her call me when you realize it’s him.
Exactly. A man that has ass on the side doesn’t respect you....
Exactly, such a man is not a keeper
A wandering man or woman will always be doing shit behind your back.
I felt that! "Call me when you realize it's him!"
I mean... at the end of the day, the husband should have been faithful. I think it was his responsibility to not start an affair.
Agreed.
@unknown person The title is: ‘a message for side chicks everywhere’. Seems to me that they’re focusing the blame on the side chicks.
That would be correct if she didn't know he was married. She was friends with the wife. Even if he started the affair, she could have had some self love and respect and said "No thank you. Get out"
Don't even get me started if she was the one who went after the guy. Both were wrong here.
@@majo77 Id they were friends you’re right. That woman should have taken responsibility. But I was just a bit annoyed with the ‘a message for side chicks everywhere’ title.
@@kap5497 maybe I'm a bit too black and white about the situation, I've always thought that avoiding married men is a matter of self respect. Respect towards the wife/girlfriend is another thing, that I agree should be the guy's concern. But a woman should love and respect herself first and not mess around in a situation like that. I think that's the message, no man is worth your time if you have to hurt yourself and others to be in a "relationship".
"If they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you." 🤷♀️
We cannot call ourselves dignified if we stay with another woman's man and convince ourselves that we're the "special" one. That's not real, baby.
Love yourself first, then you'll find someone who'll love you even more. 💕
This is a fact!
That sister should have just listened there is no power in being a sidechick!.NONE......
NONE!!😎
No power in being the main chick either.
@@stayreal5083 of course not when you’re dealing with a cheater 🤷♀️
@@stayreal5083 Better not date at all then. Peaceful.
Nah. It starts with the MARRIED MAN. There is NO side chick if the married man is a MANLY MAN and stays faithful and loving to his spouse honoring his promise he made to her before man and before God.
" I said enough now GET OUT" #FACTS #wisdom
For the love of God can we please STOP referring to third party trespassers as "lovers?" That word is so far off from descriptive it makes me sick.
Absolutely! When one shows they r head over heels over the trespasser, I literally puke!
home wreckers, lacking class, no moral code, they're disgusting.
I agree they should be called something else but they aren’t really trespassers. That man invited her into his relationship, he chose to take on another woman and she accepted. They’re both wrong but he welcomed her in.
Technically, they aren't trespassing. One of the owners of the property let them in.
Husband used to say, "I'm only trying to share lovvvve." He wouldn't stay faithful, so I divorced him.
LMAO the guy at 0:46 doing “OUCH” with his mouth upon hearing what she said
Preach 🙌 We also have to stop putting all the blame on the side chick's though. I hope she read him the riot act too because he's the one ultimately responsible for upholding his vows.
So the fact she seduced a married man, or after she discovered he was married still continued the affair, it's ok. You don't end in bed with a man if you don't want to (unless it's rape, but that is not our case). Yes, the man is a stupid insecure piece of crap, why continue the affair then? If it was a o.n.s., ok I could get it. Sometimes it happens, it's human. But she accepted the fact she was a sidechick. That's on her
Nah, if she knew that he was married, it’s also her fault. She knew he was married and still continued the affair, wtf do you mean “don’t blame side chicks?”
I have the perfect solution to this conundrum: Death penalty!
Some adulterous men will kill or seriously injure the side chick who contacts his wife to try and break up their marriage. I have personally seen it happen when the husband came, gun in hand, to murder the Side chick for contacting his wife who he had no intention of leaving for her. I also think the lady who was killed while online had contacted the wife of the man she was cheating with and he killed her. Obviously, this idiot was afraid of his side chick, that's why he was laughing. I am so happy the judge threw her out after that tongue lashing.
Yea the lady u mentioned did contact the wife. Shit is sad
Matter of control for the man
Sadly sometimes the innocent wives just minding their own business focusing on their families, get killed too, and that horrible case the children mother and unborn baby got killed too. Doesn’t make any sense just for some random woman, sometimes I feel being single can save your life literally...
@Martina That's my point. Some women KNOW their guy (or lady) is a player - BEFORE they get in a relationship!
They want to tame a stallion. But they know they can't. EVER. So they "settle" for cheating. And give them crap for being themselves.
It's doomed from the start.
@diggs19 As if that's not common sense
I know her edges are sizzling , cause she just got her wig snatch on national TV; judiciously.
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🤣🤣😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣 You nailed it!
That side chick is crazy. "If she would have been handling her business"... Please, side chick ain't shit and he ain't either. Why would u want to hurt ur friend. Remember what goes around comes around.
Hell the side chick has nerve .. bcuz if she was about any thing for real & handling her business “she wouldn’t be a side chick”! She’d be thee chick and a actually good single man would want & care 4 her & a man would respect her enough to never have her as a side dish!
And using the B.S. putting it all the woman the expectation that SHE has to do all the work so it's HER fault if he strays🙄😑. Ffs- read "becoming cliterate " by Dr Laurie mintz, any sexual research at all, or just talk to friends- the orgasm gap is as real and worse than the gender pay gap. Women have capacity for multiple orgasms and sex is NOT just the 5-10 minutes of men putting it and getting off. Who's not not handling his business? Bet it's him. And misogyny, patriarchy and society train us all to accept that getting to act like men in the sexual arena IS equality. No thank you! Who benefits from THAT? Men
The side chicks spend their ENTIRE relationships LOSING and pretending it doesn’t bother them 🤣😂
Yeah side chicks are losers
Lmao... as a wife who gets cheated on, what do you win? So busy worried about the side chick, you aint focused on your cheating ass man.
@@ineedhoez
Isn’t that why she’s in divorce court?
@@ineedhoez
As a wife you win half of everything. What chu mean?
ineedhoez you must relate?
322 side chicks are mad, so they disliked the video
86 now haha
She said 'a PIECE of man ' ain't that awful. I hope everybody, man and woman get it together soon
I think it was because she was referring to cheating dudes that have side chicks. I never heard her mention all guys like that so I think it was just to make clear that a guy that cheats isn't worth it.
“ Piece of man” she meant cheaters
lol. he blinked. that stung
I've said enough now GET OUT!!! 👏👏
If you can't take the heat don't play with fire, Everybody knows that when you interfere with someone's marriage you lose. Not only because it's wrong but because it goes against God!!! That's enough right there for me to not do it!!! And if I didn't know and found out later I would throw my feelings over my shoulders and tell him to kick rocks, ain't no man worth that!!!
I would cut my loses and let him go because in most cases they are lying. They sometimes have good wives. Let him go...
It doesn't even have to involve god in the first place it's just plain wrong! You're literally ruining someone's life.
@Marthe Joseph Yeah, I agree I just think it wouldn't matter if the person uses god or not, since it isn't right to ruin relationships anyway.
What i do know is if they can cheat with you, eventually they'll cheat on you too. One who wants to cheat with you is a clear indication that he has no respect for relationships. If he or she respects it, it's better to leave and make it official rather than cheating.
@Marthe Joseph noice ╰(*´︶`*)╯♡
If someone is unknowingly a side chick i don't blame them but willingly being a side chick and a homewrecker makes you and the man guilty
Facts!! This go for the men who are “separated” too! They are still married and most times never go through the divorce. I would never get between what god has put together until its completely over!!!!
Lmfao omg the white guy in the backgrounds face at 0:46 when she calls the defendant a "piece of man that ain't gunna do right by us anyway" 🤣
The fact she showed no shame said how happy she was to do it.To be a side.Thats the degrading side to the fool.
Exactly when you choose to be a side piece then you’re a fool
Thank she needed to hear that , because she needs to think more of herself. Than being someone's side piece. It sounds so degrading . Love you judge Toler for keeping it 💯
I have always said this. Why do black women specifically fight so hard for a man that doesn’t even put the same effort for YOU! WAKE THE HELL UP!
i was once a main chick disguised as a side chick. im glad i found some respect for myself and eventually held the men i chose to be with to a higher standard than that.
Exactly. Preach women need to respect themselves and each other.
God, I love Judge Lynn Toler! Why isn't she and Judge Judy running this country?
cryospiral Judge Toler, not Judge Judy. Judge Judy had made a very bad decision against the complainant when another piece of evidence was presented that she had looked over and then had to correct herself. I haven't liked her show since then. There are a few other decisions she made that were totally off base.
Alfreda Calbert do you realise how silly your reasoning is for not liking judge Judy? In the very same sentence you say she made a bad decision AND corrected herself.....isn’t that what a judge is MEANT TO DO. I love Judge Lynn as much as the next guy but she’s made some bad decisions too, some of which she literally owns up to i countless interviews you can find online. Making bad decisions alone isn’t the reason you dislike judge Judy, there’s most definitely more to it than that.
I LOVE JUDGE LYNN!!!!
She's SO CUTE
and THIS is why I love Lynn Toler..... pay attention females, men will only do what you allow them to do. set a higher standard for yourself and don't be a side-chick
Men always get a pass, how come a man can't be respectful, honest, faithful, and have some integrity, the street goes both ways!!!
In general, expecting honesty and integrity out of anyone is a mistake, not just in the context of relationships. It takes a special kind of person to not be a piece of garbage. And everyone fakes those qualities to make themselves appear more desirable. No offense intended, but it is your job to discern whether that is actually part of their character or a facade. It is genuinely not their fault that you were gullible.
You are absolutely correct. However, you can’t change or fix anyone; just yourself. So we concentrate on being wise and not falling into certain situations.
Facts 💯
Exactly my thoughts . They always blame women . If a man wants to cheat he will cheat regardless , if you refuse him , he’ll find another that’s willing .
Because all girls are the same
This Is Why I Love Judge Lynn She Is JUSTICE & TRUTH
Oh Judge Toler I love you lady
She tried to talk and sounds ignorant. The judge stated statistics about black women. Don't get me started.
Judge Lynn Toler has also talked about black men and a segment she also talks about the black community in general and she's very smart and well aware and one thing to judge does not do is say oh it's black men spot so it's black women spot she says it's the black community as a whole they keep pushing colorism hi out of rates wedlock no jobs gang violence High drop-out rate all kinds of stuff and you want to sit here and talk about don't get me started boy be quiet that's not going to fix anything it doesn't help anything Lord Jesus
@@lacecocoa6272 sounds like someone has been a side chick for a longtime haha
@@lamujermaslinda Yeah @Lacedra Minor grow tf up Lol
@@YunikuYosefMomoka side chick offended alert hahah
White government created statistics lies! Please listen to Jane Elliot
You'd think that they would've learned not to talk back by now LOL
YESSSSSSSSSSS Judge Toler dishing the truth.
Amen and amen Judge! Thank you Judge for telling it liķe it is the truth. I have always said the exact same words but this is the first time I've ever heard it said by someone else. Thank you for shouting her down it needed to be said. My husband did the same exact thing to me and then ran lies on me to make his self look good and cover up for his bad behavior. The mistress telling me in my face the same line of words that you said judge trying to make herself justify her bad behavior.
Judge please tell all persons in these same type of cases until they get it because it's not heard enough 👏👏
🗣 DOG ‼️ I hate when women believe that they are so special over another woman... it’s a joke used to divide women. Insecure immature women use this and clever men know how stupid it is but use it against those women🤦🏾♀️ them heifers don’t even realize the choice was always his he just being greedy and she helping hi
Love this judge she always tells it like it is.
Preach!!! I want to see the entire episode...
What gets me is these same women get super defensive about their man or act shocked when he cheats on them. To that I say "what made you think he'd be faithful to you? He already proved he was willing to cheat when he went to you over his then girlfriend or worse yet wife, and now you want to act hurt that someone else did to you what you did to his gf/wife. You can't disrespect/disregard someone else's relationship and then expect your relationship to be based on anything solid. From the getgo it was based on deceit, disrespect, and selfishness.
"I've said enough, now get out!" Judge Lynn Toler don't play🤣
Preach judge Lyn. I love her she is so smart
Ain't Nothing GOOD Gonna Come To You Until You DO RIGHT By Me.. Amen!!! 🤔🤔😲😲... Them Pigeon Heads and 🐦 Them Side side 🐔 Chicks... Is Just #AHookup... Them Men know They Can't Take Home To Mama..
No lies detected. Sidechicks and the "pieces of men" that weren't going to treat anyone right disliked this video.
"For a piece of man that isn't going to do anything for us"
THE LOOK ON HIS FACE OH MY GOSH Why is no one talking about this???
(He literally smiles like "that's right")
So true.. we are capable of doing so many wrong doings.. it doesnt mean that we also do those bad things.. we have to respect ourselves and we have to keep our own dignity
Judge lynn 😍😍 she's so beautiful
Preach!!!👍🏾
Every word from her mouth was just facts facts facts, followed by a slam dunk.
I luv this. I believe women should respect each other. Period.
“It speak to your lack of respect for women in general and black women specifically. We are lower socioeconomic wrong, we’re single mothers fighting over a man a piece of man that’s never gonna do right by us anyway” mannnn at 16 I started watching this show this women will never know how she has help me to avoid the things many black women fall in to. Thank you judge Lynn
That's why we should hold side chick equally responsible. And the man like that is not worth the effort u r putting in. And if u don't respect urself the man won't either. Women think they seducing men but nah they just see someone they can sleep withe asily without any strings attached and responsibility. They don't respect u. Also don't believe anything a married man tells u about his wife especially if it is bad. He is bad mouthing her in front of some other woman for just to get in her pants not to share his pain. I can never be a side chick or mistress. I have self respect for starters and I respect other women and people's relationships.
I disagree on holding side chicks equally accountable. The person you are in a relationship with is the only one you should worry about. What if he has multiple women he is cheating with...are you going to blame all of them? what if they didn't know he was taken? Bc he damn sure knew he was. I won't waste my time being mad at someone that has nothing to do with my relationship. I will be mad at the person i trusted & leave bc nobody deserves to be cheated on.
@@lovkop Then your stupid. Learn to respect yourself.. AND OTHERS.
@@YunikuYosefMomoka @Yuni Moody you're*
No, I am not stupid. I do respect myself and others. Practice what you preach. You don't have to be rude just bc you don't agree with me.
@@lovkop the affair partners are just a guilty as the jerk person who cheated
true
Judge toler spoke the truth there will be no cheaters if they have no one to cheat with
jacqueline Lawrence I’ve said this all my life.
@@jalisarae5881 them side tricks never end up happy or at least i have never saw a cheater or side trick end up with a happy life
@@throughthefire1980 They don’t because they end up getting fucked over in the end ALWAYS
Dignity, and class, people...
I love this lady! She tells woman everywhere that it is important to uphold yourself and your reputation with dignity and respect for yourself and for those around you. Good job!
This was the best honesty I’ve heard in a while. To see a black lady as a judge is amazing and beautiful! To finally have a voice and be heard is so powerful.
Gwaan Judge Toler!!!👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿💕💕💃🏿🙋🏿♀️
03LisaJade 'Gwaan' lol., haven't heard that since my childhood my friend Mother would say, 'y'all chaps Gwaan somewhere'!!!😂😂😂
Love. N respect you more after hearing you being straight and real. Woman to woman
Ppl cheat for different reasons. Sometimes it has nothing to do with beauty or shape or love or anything of d sort or even d wife. Maybe d side chick treats him d ways he wants to be treated. Sometimes a man cheating goes way beyond what we as outsiders might think. Im sure if he is to confide in someone that he trust and they ask him "why do u cheat" the answer would surprise all of us.
@@samanthadaniels2991 you can do a lot of bad things because you lack certain parts of your life needed to make proper choices, but that still don’t make it right man
Let her know
😂. Most of y’all talking on this post... BEEN SIDE CHICKS! This is tooooo... FUNNY! Merry Christmas and HO,HO AND HOOOOOO.
They're both to blame. In fact he's even more responsible since he's the married one. He should know better
Jesus, you must have been born into a shit scenario if you think this is how most people are. I'm not even making fun of you, there are better places to be and good people to meet. I genuinely hope you can get there one day, whatever your situation.
Made my morning! Hahaha! I respect my fellow sisters. Like, who the F wants to be a side chick anyways? This is gone on way too long, and we "all" deserve to be treated like queens.
Oooh Miss Judge Toler is on fire🙌🔥🔥🔥🔥
Blue shirt guy face 0:45 lol
Sis..how you catch that?..lololol
And he cute too😂😂
Lmao like some people had their hands on the notification button😂😂😂😂😂
Temi David We were waiting for Drew v Drew pt. 2 😂😂😂😂
When a man tells you he’s separated from his wife, it’s usually just since breakfast!
Damnnn that judge dropped it like it's hottt....."Now I've said enough, now get out! "...boom!
I like her...she's the type of no-nonsense mothers we need in this time to raise our sons and daughters right! 🙏
Ive said enough.. now kick rocks!!!
Yes! Preach. She is hurting her own people and self by playing a side piece and destroying another black marriage.
... it’d be different if she interfered with a white couple ? 🤨🤷♀️🤦♀️
@@rainbowpandasays8851 it is equally bad interference with any married couple or being part of the reason for divorce and she should be ashamed but worse that she is also a traitor because she is doing it to women who already have families that lack fathers
I love how everybody here's holding the sidechick accountable
We are all free to make our own choices. But we are not free from the consequences of our choices
She’s at divorce court
Seems the man is being held responsible
That piece of a man is only thinking about his little head and also he answers to GOD BECAUSE HE VOWED ..VOWED TO HONOR AND CHERISH HIS WIFE BEING TREACHEROUS BRINGS CURSES 2 YOU AND THE DELUSIONED FEMALE WHO IS WAITING FOR A SCRAP FROM HIS MINITURE TABLE..THAT SHE PROBABLY BOUGHT..?🤤😨😲😬👺☠💩 bb
All due respect to the judge she said enough well done we ought to learn from this brilliant lady
Jezebel Jezebel Jezebel strikes over and over. Both women and men. Ya let that spirit win each and everytime. Means you WEAK!
I left him to his own after his ex swung in flaming the old flames. I’m still angry because the ex disrespected me even though I never did anything to them. They lasted less than a month. He regrets everything but I cannot and will not go back to someone who treated me that way. It still hurts but like she said, dignity and self respect are worth more.
Ok now I wanna watch the full episode. Fierce with class....dig that!
Love da JUDGE..SHE DRESSED HER AND ALL CHEATERS DOWN REALLL GOOD WITH SHARP EDGED CLASS...
To lay down and have sex with someone significant other or spouse is degrading to self. Especially if you are aware they are in a committed relationship.
Wow I have no idea why this came up in my recommendations but now I want to see more! Speak the truth Madame Judge!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
That’s right! Glad you addressed this! Agree, women need to be told!
The guy smiled... At the end, even he knew the judge was right..
"No!" "No!" "No!"
"No!" "No!" "No!"
"No!"
"It's ME & it's ME!"
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Now Get Out! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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They heard you judge and they don’t care bc stealing another woman’s man is the most they will ever achieve so they can’t let that go.
Love that judge - she hit the nail on the head !!!
One of Few "Divorce Court" judges who I'd love to chat with! 😘👍🏾😂
That judge is a women who commands respect , I don’t care your background , I love a beautiful woman who has integer to👍
I like how the judge shut the woman up. Who is she to talk back to a judge