I Tried Swedish Death Cleaning In My 40s...THIS Is What Happened!

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  • Опубликовано: 24 ноя 2024

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  • @tarynmaria_
    @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад +6

    I tried Swedish Death Cleaning and learned 7 very surprising things! I'm going to share them with you today as I've been Swedish Death Cleaning my attic and my basement! #decluttering #declutteringandorganizing #declutteringmotivation
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  • @Sunshine-fy4fz
    @Sunshine-fy4fz 10 месяцев назад +23

    It's never too early to begin a Swedish Death Cleaning in your home. I recently lost a very close friend who wasn't (I typed "isn't and had to change that; that was hard 😢) old by any means - her kids are in their 20's - and good grief, there was so much to sort through (yes, her hubby asked me to help, he was so overwhelmed with shock and grief). Clothing and jewelry were easiest, but then the things she was holding on to pass on to future grandkids (CareBears, etc.), silver tea sets, lace tablecloths, doilies (from her mom and grandma), fabrics and ribbons (she was an expert seamstress), collections of Lladros, Waterford....and then all the paper stuff, from photos to receipts, scrapbooks and yearbooks. This was a huge eye-opener for me - start culling that stuff now, because we're all just one fatal accident or disease away from being taken away from our loved ones. Leave them with fond memories, not piles of stuff.

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  10 месяцев назад +5

      Ohhh I'm so sorry, how sad. That is so nice of you to help and thank you for sharing that story!

  • @cin4195
    @cin4195 10 месяцев назад +30

    Not only does it lessen the burden on loved ones having to go through our personal effects when we die, Swedish death cleaning now also affords us privacy. If you wouldn't be fine with someone coming through your house now, it's a good idea to dispose of very personal things and papers that May be no one's business but onesself

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  10 месяцев назад +4

      For sure! Thank you for sharing that!

  • @wendypierce5621
    @wendypierce5621 10 месяцев назад +15

    I had to clean out my mom’s house after she passed. There were at least 100 bins of holiday stuff, and sooooooo many silk flowers. It really made me think about how much stuff I am hanging on to.

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  10 месяцев назад +2

      I'm so sorry about your mom. Than you for sharing!

  • @SimplyKatieWalks
    @SimplyKatieWalks 10 месяцев назад +15

    I did this in 2023! I'm 55 and really wanted my home ready if something happens. It should not be on my kids. I feel so good about my house now!!!!

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  10 месяцев назад +3

      LOVE to hear that!!! I'm still working on mine but feeling so much better about everything!

  • @kirstenn.2393
    @kirstenn.2393 11 месяцев назад +53

    After I had to declutter the homes of two of my aunts after they passed away, I started to declutter my apartment because I don’t want this burden for my kids. I also asked my parents to do so but they told me this would be my job if they die. And they do have a lot of stuff, tons of things!

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад +7

      That's amazing you're doing this for your kids! Plus you get the benefits of less clutter, now 😊

    • @gwenj5419
      @gwenj5419 11 месяцев назад +8

      I helped my mom declutter in stages as she moved to progressively smaller residences. But it was still a huge task and at her age, all the physical parts fell on me.

    • @barbara.gianni1893
      @barbara.gianni1893 11 месяцев назад +3

      Anche i miei genitori non voglio fare pulizia.
      Il loro problema è che pensano di essere eterni e hanno tantissimi oggetti.
      Io invece ho già iniziato la mia pulizia anni fa.

    • @georgelush1998
      @georgelush1998 11 месяцев назад +14

      Tell me about it. When my wife and I cleaned out my parents’ house, we filled a 20 cubic yard dumpster full of useless junk. They were kids during the Great Depression and young adults during World War II. The scarcity mindset was so deeply imbued in them they never threw anything away.

    • @username00009
      @username00009 11 месяцев назад +2

      Not if, but when! I wonder if they would at least be open to identifying what they think is most important to keep in the family.

  • @amaliavet
    @amaliavet 6 месяцев назад +3

    I wonder, how is it possible that a channel whose theme, for years, is organization, decluttering, clutter mindset, owns so many items, with a basement and an attic overflowing with stuff. Your honesty (and thank you for that) shows that it is easier to say something than to do it. And it's a relief, to find that out, at least for me. I don't feel like a failure at housekeeping. In my opinion, cracking down on underconsumption is the solution

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  6 месяцев назад +2

      About 8 months ago I did a video about my "clutter journey" where I shared that I was going to focus my channel more on clutter. A few things: 1. Clutter is personal - so what is cluttered to one person might be the right amount of stuff for another. 2. I 100% agree that stopping things from coming into your home is key and 3. A lot of the footage I use is from before and I've been able to get a lot of unnecessary items out of our home.

  • @greenfoxgaming6721
    @greenfoxgaming6721 11 месяцев назад +30

    Thank-you for this video. I’ve watched several videos about Swedish Death Cleaning and you are the first person to actually correctly interpret the process. It’s evident that you have researched the subject.

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you so much!

    • @hazel1766
      @hazel1766 11 месяцев назад

      Have you found a good way of sharing old photos that are not in a digital format?

  • @savvyshopper1286
    @savvyshopper1286 10 месяцев назад +5

    My sister and my aunt had to declutter when my Mum died as I live out of the country. She had a lot of stuff. She never ever thought to declutter nor I when she was alive. Thank you for your video. I’m certainly going to do this for my family ASAP!

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  10 месяцев назад

      That's amazing - wishing you luck with your decluttering!

  • @noemisolano4748
    @noemisolano4748 11 месяцев назад +7

    Thank you for this video! I too am in my 40's and I too did a Swedish Death cleaning of my stuff only!! I had too much clothing and papers. Now I have less and the belongings I kept are now neatly organized. I also only buy if I need a piece of clothing. If I don't need anything then I don't buy anything.
    You are right, too much stuff is stressful and overwhelming. I feel stressed and overwhelmed with my husband's stuff. He has too much stuff and our home is completely cluttered with his stuff. But unfortunately my husband doesn't want to donate any of his clothes and doesn't want to shred his papers.

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад +1

      Ah it's so hard when you live with someone who has clutter - and I have a rule not to declutter other people's stuff (people get very particular about their things)! But great job to you for decluttering and getting your things in order!

  • @evebenoit6368
    @evebenoit6368 11 месяцев назад +10

    This is probably the best description of Swedish Death Cleaning that I have seen. Taryn, thank you for sharing your journey with us. It is a long one but now I see that it cannot and should not be a fast process. Your videos are so motivating 🙂
    I began mine last year when I had to clear my late husband accumulation of....... everything under the sun ! and I promised the children that they would never have to go through this with my stuff. Getting there little by little, embracing minimalism in the process !

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you so much Eve, for the wonderful comment!! 😊

  • @Bill-kj8io
    @Bill-kj8io 3 месяца назад +1

    What she said about unseen messes is so true. My ex-wife never wanted to get rid of stuff. She would always start cleaning with what she could see. Then because she no longer saw the mess, she felt comfortable stopping. This always made me feel uncomfortable because I knew there was still a mess tucked away. I always tried to start cleaning with storage areas.

  • @annsalty5615
    @annsalty5615 11 месяцев назад +6

    Being right in the middle of this process, it has surprised me how seeing less stuff and becoming more organized is calming. One thing I am doing with my attic space is organizing the 'extra' cloths i still love up there, sorted and placed in labeled containers as my place to shop when need cloths. Keeping my closet sparse. I had no idea I had so many nice sweaters, jackets, and blouses. So, thats an idea for anyone who has attics.

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад

      Love that. I decluttered my closet about a year ago - it was packed full and it's so calming to not have all of that stuff anymore. I'm the same - I must've donated 20 blazers I didn't even know I had!

  • @reginaeudy9249
    @reginaeudy9249 11 месяцев назад +5

    Yes, I would definitely like to see videos where you are decluttering and talking is through your thought process. Those are my favorites.

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад

      Thank you so much, Regina that is great to know!!

  • @LisaMiller
    @LisaMiller 5 месяцев назад +2

    I decided to start when I thought I wanted to move, but the WORK involved made me sit down and cry. I didn't want to be 'stuck' anymore.

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  5 месяцев назад +2

      Go slow - it all takes time!

    • @Iloveflowers2024
      @Iloveflowers2024 4 месяца назад +1

      Having the prospect of moving can really be an eye opener. My husband and I had to move a couple of years back. And I did cry, a lot! It was SO hard and tiring. I have chronic pain and health stuff. And the move flared me up and it took me months to recover.
      We gave things away, sold things, and threw things away.
      But still there were boxes and boxes of items that went on the moving truck.
      I was asking myself why, why the heck have I got so much stuff. It was never ending and I broke down more than once, we had to clean the place too and make the home nice for potential buyers. It was exhausting. And we didn't have any help. It was just my husband and I.
      I feel we still have too much. It is mostly me that causes this.
      When we moved in the current home we are in, which is smaller than our previous home, We did downsize, I made the mistake of buying some things again and bringing stuff back into my life. So now I'm working on undoing that And I do recognize my behavior. I am not wanting to repeat that same thing again for any future move we have.
      It has to change permanently. I have to change. Not change for a little while And then resort to the old behavior.
      I think I know why I buy things and so that is something I am aware of and working on. I need to address the emotions I have and deal with them in a healthy manner.
      So at the moment I am motivated. I am purging again. And embracing the Swedish Death Cleaning philosophy. I feel a shift in my attitude. And I want to stay on this path and keep moving forward.
      If you aren't moving just yet. And you're not facing a deadline. Then that's in your favor, and you can start doing a little at a time. My situation was rough as we didn't have a lot of time to prepare.
      Start on a drawer, a shelf, just something.
      You've got this!

  • @Tipperary757
    @Tipperary757 11 месяцев назад +11

    Hard work but necessary. Don't let others give you things as THEY clean. Those things become a burden to you.

  • @lfuentes4098
    @lfuentes4098 11 месяцев назад +15

    I’m a sewing teacher. We get community donations for students all the time. Usually it’s from former students that are going into retirement homes or those who have passed on. You wouldn’t believe how much personal momentos, phots and other items I have found amongst the fabric. Sometimes we can get it back to the owner. But other times we cannot. It’s so sad.

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад +3

      Aww I can totally see how that would happen. Thank you so much for sharing!

    • @Jamie_says_weirding_is_real
      @Jamie_says_weirding_is_real 10 месяцев назад

      What a beautiful story! I spent many years in a similar situation, and finally realized something: Feeling upset that we were unable to get the memento back to the family, was the opposite of what we and they intended. Reuniting the memento is a happy affair - but failing to make the match is not "sad," it's simply the absence of the added "happy". I wish you well!

  • @jennifergentry144
    @jennifergentry144 11 месяцев назад +4

    I did this a couple years back. It’s game changing!!!

  • @alanbirkner1958
    @alanbirkner1958 11 месяцев назад +3

    December 2023. My mother hoarded. I'm 74 and never hoarded. I've helped friends clear their houses to move. 3 of us are in a 2BR condo, there's always more
    stuff. Tina, Al's wife

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад

      Thanks Tina! Agreed - there seems to always be more!

  • @fiddlersthree8463
    @fiddlersthree8463 10 месяцев назад +3

    I LOVE your attic!!!!

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  10 месяцев назад

      Thank you so much!! 😊

  • @eloisepersson939
    @eloisepersson939 11 месяцев назад +7

    I have thoroughly death cleaned during a complicated move and home renovation that involved moving in and out of the house. My children have all (recently) left home and interestingly have been a bit judgemental of the process, believing me to be lacking in sentimentality because I don’t keep large numbers of things. Which is ironic since I did it mostly in reaction to my parents maximalist tendencies.

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад +2

      Interesting! Good job on death cleaning! I think some people are more sentimental than others but I really feel like at the end of the day, it's all just stuff.

  • @ZenTeaNow
    @ZenTeaNow 11 месяцев назад +3

    Great question Taryn raised: "What is the purpose of my possession?" Useful not only for Swedish death cleaning, but at any point in our lives. It exposes our values and approach to life, and is helpful to see if we need to adjust them towards something more meaningful and wholesome.

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад +2

      So true about adjusting! I have so many items that had a very needed purpose years ago but now, those items are no longer needed and we can let go ☺

  • @Ann-vr1qr
    @Ann-vr1qr 11 месяцев назад +3

    Love decluttering videos! Really love hearing about what you've learned in the process! 💖

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад

      Yay I’m so glad! 😊

  • @cantocant2346
    @cantocant2346 11 месяцев назад +4

    Really profound thought...What is the purpose of my belongings..thank you for that.

  • @eydiehostetler9123
    @eydiehostetler9123 11 месяцев назад +9

    My mother had a house full of things, and upon her death, we did not clean it out. We simply sold the house “as is” with a slight price reduction for that. But it was so worth not having to go through everything.

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад +2

      I'm so sorry about your mom. Thank you for sharing!

    • @Beth1300
      @Beth1300 11 месяцев назад +4

      Did you keep some special items? My mum just died and we had to clear her home quickly. I've kept way too much but it feels too raw just now

    • @eydiehostetler9123
      @eydiehostetler9123 11 месяцев назад +4

      @@Beth1300 yes, we kept a few special things. The family walked through the house and selected items meaningful to them. Mind you, there was not a lot because my parents lived very frugally all their lives.

  • @jennyjenkins877
    @jennyjenkins877 11 месяцев назад +2

    Awesome video! It seems like such a dreadful project but it's really not as bad as you think once you get started. 🙂

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you, Jenny! It definitely was something I was dreading but I was very surprised it wasn't at all as bad as I was thinking it would be. I still have more to go but at least I'm not dreading it now :)

  • @Christ-qk7or
    @Christ-qk7or 8 месяцев назад

    I like that you said to work on storage areas. I've been gravatating to things in storage rooms or higher shelves. I was feeling like I really should work on the living areas instead, but it just felt easier. 😃

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  7 месяцев назад +1

      Awesome! I also find that if I work on the storage areas first then I can use the new freed up space there to put some of the less frequently used items from the main living area (like my roasting pan I only use once a year 😊).

    • @Christ-qk7or
      @Christ-qk7or 7 месяцев назад

      Genius!! Plus, some of the stuff that I wasn't able to part with a few years ago, I now can let go of. New to and loving your channel 👍

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  7 месяцев назад

      Yay I'm so glad!! @@Christ-qk7or

  • @bb_lz9790
    @bb_lz9790 5 месяцев назад

    Great video, thanks for sharing! We so badly need to do our Swedish Death Cleaning. We've been in our home for over 30 years and it's packed! Unfortunately, I don't get much spousal support to the concept despite me reminding her that "I'm" 😉getting older and am concerned about how many more years I'll be able to see it through (she's only one year younger than I am).

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  5 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you for sharing! Your strategy to bring it up sounds perfect! :)

  • @mellidon
    @mellidon 7 месяцев назад

    I'm 22 and started mine a week ago, just so it's easier in the future to keep going and be more mindful.

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  7 месяцев назад

      That’s amazing!

    • @mellidon
      @mellidon 7 месяцев назад

      @@tarynmaria_ Thank you for the videos! They have been so helpful and the way you carry your points across make it seem very easy and enjoyable, I have been having a great time doing it!

    • @mellidon
      @mellidon 7 месяцев назад

      @@tarynmaria_ Cheers from Portugal!

  • @HappyHarryX5
    @HappyHarryX5 5 месяцев назад

    When my step father of 30yrs was dying, he gave each of the other 5 kids (his 3 kids, my half sister and full sister) something. He couldn’t think of something for me nor was I asked what I wanted. I said to him I got what I wanted ~7yrs ago. I’d asked him to do sketches of my kids and he did. I don’t think there was anything I wanted anyway for myself but it still felt weird given I was the least troublesome kid. My Mum gave me his leather jacket so I’ve taken the leather off that to make a cushion.

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  5 месяцев назад

      What a great idea to make a cushion ❤ thank you for sharing!

  • @kluv7139
    @kluv7139 11 месяцев назад +3

    Omg... stuff from other members..items from member who have passed away..urgh my Mother's desk that she had from childhood..she passed in 2001 and in 2023 I just got rid of it.. Great wooden big ole deak.. bruised and battered but sturdy as a wobbly horse

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад

      So much stuff! The desk sounds cool though - I love solid wood desks!

  • @elliebellie7816
    @elliebellie7816 6 месяцев назад

    I'm 66 years old and recently moved to a newer 2 bedroom apartment. All it took was two regular size trucks and two hours. I told the kids to come get what they wanted (which was basically nothing) then had the thrift store van pull up in their moving van and take 99% of the rest.

  • @sandrafromscotland
    @sandrafromscotland 11 месяцев назад

    First time and first video here 13/12/23. Thanks for sharing.

  • @rosemarywelsh3321
    @rosemarywelsh3321 11 месяцев назад +1

    What do we do with the sets of collections things do we sell them now or keep them

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад +2

      I would say if you have them on display, show them off to people, and love them, I'd keep them! If they are stored away and not being enjoyed, I'd consider selling or giving them away to someone :)

    • @lauriecampbell1378
      @lauriecampbell1378 10 месяцев назад

      @@tarynmaria_ Exactly what I think about keeping collections. If you like them enough you should display them, if they are stored somewhere out of sight, then you should let them go. I'm having trouble letting go of my mom's and both my grandmas' China sets and crystal/cut glass glassware. I know I'll never use any of those items and I have them stored away.

  • @sheilabartlett6044
    @sheilabartlett6044 11 месяцев назад

    Great advice! Thanks

  • @barbaradelira6790
    @barbaradelira6790 11 месяцев назад

    This is a very nice channel. Helpful information!

  • @Iloveflowers2024
    @Iloveflowers2024 4 месяца назад

    I have a couple of old things that were my mother's. My grown adult children are not interested in keeping antiques or any kind of vintage. I doubt very much they'll want those items. They didn't really know their grandmother, grandparents, as they live oversea, so there's not much of a connection there. And really, It's ok if they don't want to keep these things. I don't want them to feel obligated or feel any pressure that they have to keep and take care of these items throughout their lives, just to "keep them in the family" It is a burden I don't want to put on them.
    So they can do what they want with whatever items I leave behind. And maybe a couple of things I will return to my mother's country to perhaps a family member there.
    I'm currently doing my best with the Swedish Death Cleaning. I keep watching SDC videos and decluttering videos, hoarding videos. All of them keep reminding me and motivating me as to why i need to keep moving forward with it. And i think it is slowly sinking in.. and I want to make my current life easier, easier to navigate around my home, to clean, to find things. I just need it more simple for myself and my husband.
    I have been giving things away, donating, recycling.
    I have a lot more to go through. I wish I didn't have so much. It makes me mad with myself that I have accumulated so much. I find it hard to part with things but it is getting easier.

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  4 месяца назад +1

      It’s not easy for anyone but iI t sounds like you are doing great! Thank you for sharing and wishing you luck with the SDC!

  • @burningmanmike
    @burningmanmike 9 месяцев назад

    Today is a great day to start! Do a little each day, or each week.

  • @livingoncoffee
    @livingoncoffee 11 месяцев назад +2

    This clutter is exhausting. It is unbelievable.

  • @dila98
    @dila98 7 месяцев назад

    I’m doing this now

  • @rebeccacartier153
    @rebeccacartier153 10 месяцев назад

    I love this video, and was trying to listen.. but I kept getting visually distracted by your wall of toilet paper 😂😂😂

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  10 месяцев назад

      Haha, I don't know why we have so much - and also paper towels (which I barely use anymore)! Thank you!!

    • @rebeccacartier153
      @rebeccacartier153 10 месяцев назад

      My sister has a family of four and they get two packs of toilet paper from Costco at a time, and she swears it saves money and they hardly ever run out in between Costco runs… but I make fun of her every time. I am single and live in a 420 sqft apartment, so I would have absolutely no where to even put one pack of Costco toilet paper…

  • @OnlyPAE
    @OnlyPAE 11 месяцев назад +1

    39. Started this year.

  • @uzmaijaz7821
    @uzmaijaz7821 11 месяцев назад

    My Dearest I would like to watch your videos on Swedish Death cleaning!Thank you very much for uploading such a Wonderful video!

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад

      Thank you so much, Uzma!!

  • @a.e.7988
    @a.e.7988 6 месяцев назад

    This is important every time you move..

  • @Beingnessing
    @Beingnessing 4 месяца назад

    Swedish death cleaning is really meant for 50 yrs old and up

  • @raccooneyes2099
    @raccooneyes2099 11 месяцев назад +14

    i'm in my 40s and i'm a nerdy collector plus i have most of my childhood toys. i have a TON of holiday decor. after two bouts with covid and fearing my mortality it left me wondering whats going to happen to my stuff if i died suddenly. it makes me wonder why buy stuff in the first place if you're just going to get rid of it later. now i'm making better choices when i think of buying something. on the other hand, you want to enjoy life and nice things. its seems like its a double edges sword.

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  11 месяцев назад +1

      I hear you! I used to collect things but have stopped now. Do what you are comfortable with! I also find my habits evolve over time so you might end up wanting to collect less over time.

    • @turtleanton6539
      @turtleanton6539 7 месяцев назад

      Buy stuff sometimes but not all the time

  • @kennethbailey9853
    @kennethbailey9853 5 месяцев назад

    😊❤😊❤😊❤😊❤😊

    • @tarynmaria_
      @tarynmaria_  5 месяцев назад

      Thank you! 😊 ❤️

  • @marriettecharlton2143
    @marriettecharlton2143 9 месяцев назад

    I can't imagine having a basement and attic....it's not a thing here.

  • @rhondatallent2396
    @rhondatallent2396 9 месяцев назад

    I'm old, I'm not doing any decluttering style that has"death" in it! My loved ones deserve to be stuck with my stuff.

  • @maureenmusariri2161
    @maureenmusariri2161 11 месяцев назад

  • @elizagal7451
    @elizagal7451 10 месяцев назад

    Hopefully after all this we consume less so don’t build up more stuff.

  • @ykook7000
    @ykook7000 5 месяцев назад

    Stubborn ageing parents with crap loads of stuff who do Not clean things out even when the topic has been brought up previously are infuriating....its not fair to family members who have to clean it up at the End