It is scientifically proved that if u are really bad right now u will be good maybe soon too i m here for u i know what u are going trough but pls ilysm feel free to talk to me and U ARE BEAUTIFUL AND I WANNA SCREAM AT THE WORLD THIS BC IT'S WORTH IT AND U ARE WORTH IT AT LEAST FOR THIS STRANGER THAT LITERALLY LOVES YOU SO MUCH,GOD Bless us.Amen
this is so true. thank you for this. i just wish i actually had someone in my life to give me compassion, love, and support but who knows maybe someday
I remember seeing a tik tok that said „parts of Self harm that aren’t romanticized“ but the thing is every single part of it is romanticized, ppl treat SH like an aesthetic or trend. It’s a real struggle.
I have baby cut syndrome, my sister used to self harm really bad do her scars a worse, but I only self harm to where the scars are barely noticeable, I've gotten mad at myself and told myself I'm not self harming just bc I don't cut deeply
@@beansareicky same with me. I was so ashamed so I started using.. uh “better” stuff to do the job. It’s really hard seeing someone else having deeper scars then you
Does anyone else feel like "oh I guess it wasn't that bad" when the scars start to fade away? I've been clean for 3 years now and of course they look different and are less noticeable. The more I think about it, the worse I feel. I don't really understand why.
@@Kai-iy3kk scars hurt a long time sometimes for me, and others they never hurt. Did anyone have their scars keep changing colors? Red, purple, blackish, and then randomly a reddish pink? And I swear they weren't infected, ive had that happen I think but this happened to all of mine.
Omg that's horrible. I mean I think I bearly scratch the surface. Sometimes the scissors make me bleed. But other then that I have just scratched from safety pins
@@paigeodonnell8889 Thanks this really helps.. why do I feel like I can literally talk to random KIND strangers on YT but cant even talk to my friends about this...
most people at my school romanticize mental illness and self harm, it sucks being sick and having people walk around acting like it makes them a main character. they don't understand that it means little privacy, missing school, lots of doctor appointments, shitty therapists and losing friends
same thing happened at my school. Everyone who self harmed was seen as popular and all they wanted was to get out of class early and go to the school therapist. It took my school 2 years to realise that I was self harming and then they didn't have any spaces in the therapy sessions, so most of my time was me sitting in the music teachers office and crying during my last few months there
It really pisses me off when people romanticize self harm, because my sister did self harm before she tried to kill herself because she just wanted to feel something. (She wasn’t able to kill herself because I intervened)
Sorry to hear what happened to your sister 😥. People who romanticize self harm need just as much help as anyone else. No one normally wakes up one day and decides to inflict pain on themselves because its cool. Its still self harm and just as valid.
I was at the zoo once and I saw this girl walking alone. I looked down at her arm and saw she had scars on her arm from cutting. She saw me looking and just smiled at me. I smiled back at her and mouthed "are you okay?" she mouthed back to me "I'm trying to stop. thank you." before I walked off I mouthed good luck to her. I hope shes doing better now.
“Baby cut” has been a thing for a long time. She probably doesn’t know you came up with it if you did. That’s something I’ve seen floating around for years.
She commented on this video saying she did credit me in the comments! Like I said no hurt feelings. And of course I definitely didn't invent the term baby cuts!
when i was in highschool the girl sitting next to me had fresh cuts, like you could see it was her first time and i got so angry. it's complicated but i was angry because i felt so bad she had the need to self harm, no one deserves that. i am not someone good with controlling actions so i asked her bluntly what happend, she said she fell from the stairs and i said "i am not stupid, you can't have these from falling off the stairs. what happend that made you do this"? and she explained what happend (toxic boy who said she was ugly etc) and after hearing that i was about to fight that guy but i choose to comfort her and telling her that since it's her first time, to make it her last etc etc (we made a deal). my reaction wasn't so good but i was worried.
I find it very comforting when people help others that seem like they need help! What you did is amazing, honestly I'm proud! I personally wouldn't know how to confront the situation.
Same! I had ones that I thought were pretty bad, and I showed my friend (who also does it, we were talking about it) and she was like "oh those arent so bad" and I was like "??? B-but it took them like a month to heal, normally it only takes a couple of days" and i felt really bad about it but I didnt tell her
I was lucky and got help before it got worse but it was horrible because I never felt like I was worthy of help or that I should be able to easily stop it myself because "it's not that bad" I didn't know this was a shared experience, it's really great for people to know they're not alone in feeling that way
I like the way my scars look... I don’t want anyone to see and no one can ever know, but I genuinely like hurting myself and seeing blood or burns, and then seeing how it will scar... I don’t know I just love the way they look. Scars are like tattoos for me, they all have a story.
S/h is a coping mechanism. Similarly to how someone who draws as a coping mechanism, you may see a story behind it and be happy that it got you through that time. However, it's not a good mechanism to have, not that it's anything to be ashamed of, it's simply something you very well may need help for. You don't deserve to hurt yourself in that way. No one deserves to feel that pain. You're strong, resilient, and you're still here. That's admirable and something that makes you worthy of love and care, not pain. You will get through this, you're not alone. Stay safe out there and try your best
I’m glad that you acknowledged that biting and scratching is a form of self harm. I tend to find that people like telling me that it is not bad enough to be self harm
honestly, what pains me the most is when people immediately think about cutting when someone says, "self-harm". As a person who picks their lips till it bleeds, It's crazy how people pass it off as a bad habit. Self-harm is still self-harm. I've been 2 weeks free!
I'm 12 years clean, all of my scars have settled, there are only a few puffy ones left and they are all white and I have gotten tattooed over them! It can get better.
Teach me your ways I have friends who care but they just hurt me more...because a friend punched my other friend and I wanted to attacked her but I couldn't do anything until after because I was in the middle of my 3rd panic attack today
@@Selfharmerproblems good because I'm always feeling f**ked and don't feel loved. I feel like my own family is too busy with their lives that they ask me to do my chores when I'm at the lowest. I cry silently everyday because I don't want my family to see the stress, anger, anxiety and sadness that they put me through on a daily basis. I will tell my parents something and they take me seriously at first but then I'll tell them again and they'll say something like "F**k off, stop back-chatting." Other times they'll go and ask me questions when I'm in one of my moods. I've told them several times to just leave me alone when I'm angry, frustrated or stressed so I can calm down but they never listen. Sometimes I want to punch them because of that.
@@morganplayz7134 it’s not good punching anyone, I actually punched my mom a few times when I lived at home. When I had my meltdowns, but it’s not good to do so.
Baby cut syndrome is so me. I feel like I basically don't self harm because I've never needed medical attention and most of my scars are barely visible when fully healed
hearing about that baby cut syndrome made me feel so much better and understood. A lot of my friends used to selfharm or still do and thats why I never took my selfharming that serious
Right like everyone thinks it’s just for attention like my mom found out about me self-harming last year and told me she was gonna but me in a mental hospital since I want “attention” and the next time she found out she made me stay with my grandmother for a week,when I came back she gave me the nickname “little miss attention seeker” and used it for months.Like why would I give myself permanent scars just for yours or somebody’s attention.It was a way to feel better about me failing at something or taking my frustration out.
when my dad saw my arm a few years ago he told me i was faking it, over reacting and trying to get attention, the thing i hate most is getting attention, and during that time he was cutting off my internet access and isolating me, saying my friends were bad influences and trying to break me and my bf up, definitely not like it was his fault i was at rock bottom at the time, and i had already been self harming before, and at the time i felt so much more worse after i did it because i promised my bf i wouldnt do it but bc i couldnt talk to him or my friends i had no other option im okay now, though it is a triggering memory so i dont like talking about it much im also still with my bf, im just glad i didnt let my dad get to us
My self harm wasn't really physical, there were a few times but I always managed to stop it before it got to far. It was mostly mentally abusing myself. When you're a perfectionist with anxiety and trying to outstand an older sibling with constant need for validation and praise, you tend to beat yourself up. I'd say things along the lines of "I'm not suffering that badly I'm just lazy." "If I just got out of bed and stopped falling asleep." "I could've done way better." "This is a total failure so I must be a failure" "I'll never be good enough at this rate" "I'm useless and stupid. I get everyone hurt. I can't do anything right." It was mostly centered around diminishing my accomplishments and downplaying everything I did, always believing I half assed everything. I never let myself actually enjoy things and be proud.
I do realise how this might be hard for you, but when i feel bad about something i tend to repeat things like this in my head. "It's okay, its okay, you are okay. You are doing great." or "If you feel like its hard to get up and want to lay there all day, that is okay too. Take your time. It is okay if you cant get up, its okay if you may waste the day. Just take the time you need to feel better again." I always get anxious when coming home from school because I know there is nothing there for me and i will just lay on my bed empty. I feel like my friends dont want to hang with me, and those outside my class i cant hang with because of corona. So I have begun repeating these things to myself. Treat myself as I would to someone struggling with the same. And I have no idea if this is just me who manage to do this, or if it might help you. But I think treating yourself as you would treat someone struggling with the same things might help. Im not sure. Because I know things are not easy.
I used to feel like I wasn't actually self harming "good enough" because my cuts were generally as deep as a cat scratch. When I learned of baby cut syndrome, I finally felt like I might not be as alone as I thought I was. I'm two years clean of cutting, but still am working on biting/picking at my skin to the point where I get scabs. It's a rough journey but I'll make it. To anyone currently going through a hard time, I love you and I'm proud of you and you will get out of the dark place you are in. Stay strong 💪❤️❤️
Crazy how this video blew up! However, I see all of you saying that there's a way more toxic side to self harm on Tiktok... So for next video, please send me Tiktoks about self harm that you find problematic! My account on tiktok has the same name as here
I love that people think that cutting yourself is THE only way to self harm and even if, they still say you do It for attention ( im a 13yo kid that has skin picking self-harm tendencies and i've got called disgusting by my classmates and teachers because i did It on class doe to stress and anxiety
@@ashe9244 I can totally relate I have to sit next to a kid that's bullied me for years and he's started so it just adds to my stress because of civic his class was to full and he came to our class so I am stuck...but no one helps one time there was these people at my school say I g that the food we were gonna try would boost are mood keep this in mind that the broccoli was underdeveloped cold soggy and covered in buffalo sauce and when they sad it would help I looked at my friend who also has depression and we laughed because were school just gave us broccoli to take away the pain not acutally fix are damn problems at school
I think the worst for me was when my girlfriend's little sister kept asking about my scars. She was very young and impressionable, and I just felt very uncomfortable. She kept asking me, but I refused to say anything about it. I've been clean for almost two years, so it's hard when people mention it because I want to forget it. Luckily my girlfriend is here to support me and I feel a lot happier.
I had a friend who I had not seen in 2 years and when I did she was wearing a dress that was pretty short and on her wrists and thighs where cuts and as a person who knows how embarrassing it is to show or talk about it,I said she looked nice and didn't bring it up or say anything about it so she felt more comfortable around me. She know is getting help and is starting to love her self more :) Also I Injoy your videos a lot and congratulations on being healthy and staying safe from self h@rm❤
I liked this boy a couple of months ago and then I opened up to him and actually showed him my scars because I started trusting him and then when I showed him he said "oh, thats not as bad as I thought it was gonna be" like wtf is your problem dude?
I feel like with the "their doing it for attention" it's still a MASSIVE problem. People who are fine dont hurt themselves for attention- either way help them(if you're able to without putting yourself at risk of course)
I hope you can recover soon! Please tell your parents or someone you trust to get help. Especially since you are so young:( I hope that anything that is going on in your life will get better💖
Oh, dear child. I know how this is. I'm 14 and I've been almost exactly where you are. Please let me know if there's anything at all I can do to help. As someone who struggled? struggles? with sh, I want to do everything I can to help, because it's a spiral that's so hard to get out of. So... I hope you get better and if you ever, ever need someone to talk to, I'm here. (Went on a bit of a rant, sorry!)
My best friend self harms. It was hard for me when I first saw the cuts on her arm, it took a week before I felt like I could talk to her about it because it made me so sad, but I wasn’t really surprised and I knew enough about it to not confront her hurtfully. She’s had a rough life, been emotionally abused by her parents, and she’s working hard to get better. I’m so proud of her and I think she’s the most beautiful person on earth, scars and all. It hurts so much that she has them and will probably always have them, it hurts to think of other people thinking bad of her or staring at her or embarrassing her, but to me they’re beautiful because they’re a part of her and her story. She’s beautiful. Every part of her.
i use to selfharm i'm clean for 5 years now i started at 13 year's old i remeber the frist time i started to waer t shirt's i was scared but ready i did'nt care what anyone thinks even now at school i see people look and make fun of me and say she just does it for anttention but be my shoes for a day it's hard people be mean to me and they hate me i can show my scars i'm not a shame and who ever is a shame should not be okay -Kodak
I tell you what!! I did start ugly crying when the video explaining baby cut syndrome came on because I didn't realize that was a real thing that others went through and I thought I was the only one that felt that way and knows that I'm not just pretending what I feel!
When my mom saw my scars on my thighs she said “you’re so pretty you know those marks are going to be there for forever now” and I know after that (on top of already not liking me) she really despised me cause god forbid I didn’t fit into her white picket fence fairly tale she tried to feed into the entire community
I literally started crying when I heard the thing about baby cut syndrome, I have always had paranoia due to a chronic illness so I just put the fact that I felt like I wasn’t doing enough down to that. Hearing someone else explain that people actually feel the same way I do made me not feel alone for like two seconds and that made me so happy. I would never of heard about it if it wasn’t for you, so thank you so much❤️
Recently I’ve been struggling a lot and going back to avoiding my friends/classmates and just overall feeling empty, I’ve also been thinking about going back to doing it (thinking maybe it’ll make me feel like something), it’s so weird how I found your video even tho I haven’t typed anything into RUclips mentioning self harm in years but I’m glad I found your channel and I’m still going I’m 4-5 years strong and giving up :)
I have sections on my arm one part is for light cuts and scratching and ones for the deep cuts that leaves scars, idk why but I can’t help having my arm organised
My cousin’s daughter once saw my scars on my arm. She says, “Sister, what’s that on your arm?” My cousin was there too along with my aunts. It was humiliating. I brushed it off as nothing but I felt so exposed. I don’t hate her. But I dislike kids more now.
This is awesome ! I struggle with self harm my entire life! I feel its mostly because I had selective mutism.I was raised to be seen and not heard so I never expressed myself.
i hate when i finally have the confidence to tell people about my self harm even though you can’t see the scars and they go. “oh, no you can’t be a self harmer, yours scars aren’t even there.” or “you cant be a self harmer because you didn’t go deep enough for it to scar badly” or even “you can’t be a self harmer because you only did a few lines”. It was a struggle to get out of that, even if i did it for just a few days and only had around 5 scars i still self harmed!
*I want my scars gone ;-;* I really hate them. Mostly because of the reasons behind them. i hate the stupid reasons for them, (most reasons weren't stupid but some are and I hate it alot) even If they define me I guess. I never want people irl to know I went through this, makes me feel like a crazy person.. *I wish I never did it* but sometimes I feel the old feelings. But I try to just cry away the pain.
I don't really know how to comfort people in this area, mostly because my experiences are very limited. But I do know that crying is good for you, its better to let it out than to keep it in. Also, take it easy on yourself. If you make some mistakes, or even bad memories, or you just feel bad in general, don't take it out on yourself. I apologize in advance if I said anything offensive, or triggering.
I personally think self harm scars are a sign of strength (ive got scars too) because they show that yes its been really tough but at the end of the day, you are alive, you are living, you are still here and you are worth. The scars show that you have gone through hell but you are stronger now because of it
The first one is exactly why I used to self harm on my hips instead of my arms. The arms are so noticeable to people, and it’s the main place they check if they suspect.
I remember I was out one time and I was wearing a tshirt it was really hot and nice out and this older lady sees my scared freaks out and was like “Don’t ever do that I will call police on you” and I got on the bus and she got on the same bus and she kept screaming at me about it infront of everyone I was so embarrassed and felt so much shame
As someone who has self harmed, its hard to stop, and its not even for attention its because of trauma or bad friends, school problems, or abuse, but i used to hear voices in my head and it got so bad one time i was in class and i had a panic attack and started to cry and everyone in my class ran over to me and just tried to calm me down, but my teacher knew what was happeneing and told 3 of my friends to stay and the rest of the class leave, and the four calmed me, I come from a abusive father and verbal abusive siblings, but thankfully me and my mom left, and its hard to even recover from things its sad to hear how disgusting some people are when talking about self harm as a joke to someone who is or has
I love your accent sooooo much:)) You are so cute but your accent is just really lovable! Thanks for your works on selfharm awareness, I try my best to share them but here in my country talking about self harm is something even worth than, I don't know, committing a murder! Any way, good luck and keep going💙
Fellow ex-self harmer here. I just came across this video and therefore your channel. Thank you for talking about this very stigmatized topic. I hope you're doing well and are staying strong 💕😊
Yes I still struggle with the thoughts ‘they didn’t scar good enough’ it makes me feel like I’m doing it for attention when I’m not I’m addicted and struggle stopping :/
by the way, even if someone is doing it for attention,, their case still deserves to be taken seriously, like theyre still mentally ill if they're hurting themself just for attention
If my child asked me what was on someone’s arm I would just say “Wow they must have fought against something really strong to have those, and they won because they’re still alive now”
It took me years to feel my self worth and confidence. I have finally accepted my faults. I have been 10 years clean from self harm and now I wear my scars proudly as a reminder of the rough past that I have bravely faced and overcame. I do still have bad days but I'm finally fighting my demons.
I rember when my mom found out she thought I just wanted attention and I was crushed after what happened to the one person she loved most in her life she doesn't belive that depression is real
2 years clean and I still struggle with the urge to self harm. But I’ve found ways to stay strong! I promise you it gets better and you’ve got this even if you’re only 2 days clean.
There was one time when I went to the doctor because I didn't want to go to school because I self harmed and my ED was very extreme. I don't know why but I felt like I really needed help from a professional because I couldn't stop self harming and it scared me. So I decided to tell my doctor, and her response was extremely inapropriate. She looked at me with disgust and told me that I shouldn't self diagnose myself. And she didn't give me the attestation so I had to go to school and then go home again. TW: At the time I was bullimic and I was binging and throwing up up to 15 times a day. I was so scared but I couldn't stop. It took me one year until I finally managed to cope with it and eventually stop. But It was a long process until I was 100% clean. In a way, the doctor triggered me in a bad and good way, I was able to recover because I didn't want to recieve the same reaction ever again.
Thank you so much for making this public. I haven't self harmed in 2 years, but I can't stand it anymore and just gave in. But at least I don't feel alone or stigmatized.
Thank you for the video. I would recommend if you do a reaction video like that again that you level the videos with the volume of your voice while editing because I had to keep turning the volumes up and down all the time. Also be careful with music, you could get flagged. Bye!
this was a great video!! you made a lot of really good points and i agreed with most of them (as a former/recovering self-harmer), but i wanted to point out that getting tattoos *can* be a form of self harm. it isn’t inherently, but it definitely can be. so can getting body piercings, drinking alcohol, doing drugs, etc. even sex and seeking out abusive/harmful relationships can fall under self harm. it’s about the intention behind the action, not necessarily the action itself. if you’re doing it to escape, numb yourself, hurt yourself, because you think you deserve it, etc, and it’s maladaptive, it could count as self harm. some people over-exercise to cause themselves physical pain and escape emotions and that is self harm. not all self destructive behaviors are but again, it depends on the intention behind the behavior. (this all from my therapist at the partial hospitalization program i attended for a few months when i was in crisis)
Hi! Thank you for your comment. This is a quite controversial topic with differing opinions, but most experts in the field (which sadly most mh professionals aren't) are of the opinion that there is a distinction between self harm and other behviours, even if they are self destructive or have a similar trigger or reasoning to self harm. Yes it can be self destructive, but not everything self destructive is self harm.
As a self harmer myself, It is nice to see other self harmers recover and get through it, it give me strength to overcome. Edit: I also have baby cut syndrome
It legit took me years to realize I was self-harming because I had this thought that "It's only self harm if you're cutting/leaving scars." Bite marks don't scar if you don't break skin.
I remember when my school counselor told my parents that I was cutting and my parents legit got upset with me for talking to a therapist. But I’m 5 almost 6 years clean and the urge never goes away but it does get a little easier every day
Ive been clean for three years now and I just noticed a scar on my hand has practically disappeared and I'm actually pretty proud but at the same time feeling some kind of disappointment..? Focusing on the pride tho :)
One of my friends told their little sister my self harm scars were battle scars and how i fought and won against a big scary and it was so nice of him to do that ♡
I'm planning on getting my scars covered up because I want kids and I don't want my neice and nephew to see them. Also you're really pretty and I adore your hair and your eyes
I've never self harmed, and to the people who are recovering or are beginning to go clean: Proud of you. I'll never understand what it must be like, dealing with self-harm, but I want you to know your feelings are valid, and although you might feel this way, people like me care about you. Hope you're all doing well
The very first one tho!!!! This happened to me but with blood pressure... my dietican was like "eh, let's do your left arm" and I sat there like that for a while and refused lmao
i love your accent, i have fought the urge to self harm and have looked into it, i realized it was an addiction, so i find ways to cope. i know i havent gone through exactly what you and everyone else has, but i am still subscribing because i want to support you
Reminder that self harming is not only cutting urself and that you're not searching for attention or either being a crybaby by going to a professional, its totally fine to have struggled with this and it's nothing to be ashamed of, stay away from people that hurt you, even if they're family or friends that you've known for a long time. It's NOT selfish to do so, its taking care of urself stay safe and remember to drink water
One day I just stopped caring about people seeing my scars and I’m very grateful nobody at my workplace has ever pointed them out 😌 now I only wear sleeves if I’m cold
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Thanks!
I can't like or subscribe because it will show up in my history and the my sis and family will see and get mad 😂
Thanks
People who harm themselves aren’t crazy, they’re emotionally and mentally exhausted and they need compassion, love, and support.
Very true
ye but most of those tiktoks just wants attention
It is scientifically proved that if u are really bad right now u will be good maybe soon too i m here for u i know what u are going trough but pls ilysm feel free to talk to me and U ARE BEAUTIFUL AND I WANNA SCREAM AT THE WORLD THIS BC IT'S WORTH IT AND U ARE WORTH IT AT LEAST FOR THIS STRANGER THAT LITERALLY LOVES YOU SO MUCH,GOD Bless us.Amen
@@_ilovekpop_thanku5125 can we be friends?
this is so true. thank you for this. i just wish i actually had someone in my life to give me compassion, love, and support but who knows maybe someday
I remember seeing a tik tok that said „parts of Self harm that aren’t romanticized“ but the thing is every single part of it is romanticized, ppl treat SH like an aesthetic or trend. It’s a real struggle.
not really since people laugh when i say i hit my own head like 50 times a day and get severe headaches from it
I struggled for two years I am 1 year clean and I still get urges but I am still trying my hardest
@@susiemelirosa7182 I’m so proud of u! I’m 5 days clean, we got this
me writhing in pain with stinging c*ts isnt that pretty to be completely honest
@@noriii that sux, it’s probably the ppl who think c^tting is the only form of SH.
Just here hiding because my parents found out I self harm and I’m freaking tf out...but hey I’m watching a beautiful woman with blue hair
I hope your ok now
@@dollicious7163 I am now thank you so much🥺
I remember when my parents found out that I self harm and I wish the best for you
@@erinyang5859 aw I’m really sorry for that happening but that’s so kind of you to say tysm
My parents literally didn't care. I hope you are okay now.
I have baby cut syndrome, my sister used to self harm really bad do her scars a worse, but I only self harm to where the scars are barely noticeable, I've gotten mad at myself and told myself I'm not self harming just bc I don't cut deeply
I get that, you can’t see my scars, especially because I have hairy arms. I feel like I’m even failing at punishing myself.
@@beansareicky same with me. I was so ashamed so I started using.. uh “better” stuff to do the job. It’s really hard seeing someone else having deeper scars then you
@@teehee5700 omg literally someone who understands me 😭
Wow, it really helps me to read this! Its so hard when you feel like this. I always thought I´m the only one
@@melissap8529 I got you 👊
Does anyone else feel like "oh I guess it wasn't that bad" when the scars start to fade away?
I've been clean for 3 years now and of course they look different and are less noticeable. The more I think about it, the worse I feel. I don't really understand why.
At 1 yr, and big fucking same. Big fucking same.
@@-homechord-2908 I'm sorry you're going through this too.. but it's good to know I'm not the only one
Me too! I had huge ones and I thought "oh. Maybe it wasn't the big of a deal."
I have only 2 scars. Only 2. But they hurt me for 3 months now.
@@Kai-iy3kk scars hurt a long time sometimes for me, and others they never hurt. Did anyone have their scars keep changing colors? Red, purple, blackish, and then randomly a reddish pink? And I swear they weren't infected, ive had that happen I think but this happened to all of mine.
people have said that my self harm experience doesnt count because i "didnt go as deep as everyone else"
Omg that is just so mean. I'm so sorry
Omg that's horrible. I mean I think I bearly scratch the surface. Sometimes the scissors make me bleed. But other then that I have just scratched from safety pins
I tell myself that...
@@hayhey4985 i did too for a while and i still do but trust me your journy is just as important as everyone elses
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Thanks this really helps.. why do I feel like I can literally talk to random KIND strangers on YT but cant even talk to my friends about this...
most people at my school romanticize mental illness and self harm, it sucks being sick and having people walk around acting like it makes them a main character. they don't understand that it means little privacy, missing school, lots of doctor appointments, shitty therapists and losing friends
Ikr
If hate this attitude too. Like ah yes almost destroying my entire life is soooo much fun, tehe
same thing happened at my school. Everyone who self harmed was seen as popular and all they wanted was to get out of class early and go to the school therapist. It took my school 2 years to realise that I was self harming and then they didn't have any spaces in the therapy sessions, so most of my time was me sitting in the music teachers office and crying during my last few months there
Yikes I’m happy that the kids at my school would be embarrassed for the kids faking and call them out on it.
Same! It's rly annoying
tiktok is so toxic
Ikr
I hate how toxic the app is
Yeah i was hoping it was going to be touched on in this video about how toxic it is especially ed/sh wise
For real oh my god it’s like tumblr 2.0
Bebito Koi tumblr is honestly so chill now
@@Cr33py_crawlie ikr
It really pisses me off when people romanticize self harm, because my sister did self harm before she tried to kill herself because she just wanted to feel something. (She wasn’t able to kill herself because I intervened)
I'm proud of you mate. I hope your sister is doing better ♡︎
I hope you realize you saved someone’s life and you are a true hero for this
Sorry to hear what happened to your sister 😥. People who romanticize self harm need just as much help as anyone else. No one normally wakes up one day and decides to inflict pain on themselves because its cool. Its still self harm and just as valid.
@@5starMcalvin I know I should probably be mad or something at your reply but honestly I just woke up and I couldn’t help myself but laugh!
Thank God off the last 9 words 😌
I was at the zoo once and I saw this girl walking alone. I looked down at her arm and saw she had scars on her arm from cutting. She saw me looking and just smiled at me. I smiled back at her and mouthed "are you okay?" she mouthed back to me "I'm trying to stop. thank you." before I walked off I mouthed good luck to her. I hope shes doing better now.
I hope that girl's doing very well, and if they are struggling, I hope something or someone can pick 'em back up :)
I’m sorry but this is hilarious 😂
@@leetripp-cox7623 why is it funny?
“Baby cut” has been a thing for a long time. She probably doesn’t know you came up with it if you did. That’s something I’ve seen floating around for years.
She commented on this video saying she did credit me in the comments! Like I said no hurt feelings. And of course I definitely didn't invent the term baby cuts!
I felt so much better when you discussed baby cut syndrome it explained my own issues with self harm so much.
Same!!!
Damn I went through that and didn't even realize other people had the same thing happen to them.
Last year I relapsed after 8 months due to baby cut syndrome and it really wasn’t worth it.
@@Navi405 SAME IT FEELS LIKE IM NOT PUNISHING AND HARMING MYSELF ENOUGH AA
Same
when i was in highschool the girl sitting next to me had fresh cuts, like you could see it was her first time and i got so angry. it's complicated but i was angry because i felt so bad she had the need to self harm, no one deserves that. i am not someone good with controlling actions so i asked her bluntly what happend, she said she fell from the stairs and i said "i am not stupid, you can't have these from falling off the stairs. what happend that made you do this"? and she explained what happend (toxic boy who said she was ugly etc) and after hearing that i was about to fight that guy but i choose to comfort her and telling her that since it's her first time, to make it her last etc etc (we made a deal). my reaction wasn't so good but i was worried.
I find it very comforting when people help others that seem like they need help!
What you did is amazing, honestly I'm proud!
I personally wouldn't know how to confront the situation.
You’re an amazing person for that, I hope you know.
I'm so happy you confronted her! Talking about it makes it a lot better
you may have reacted out of impulse, but for all you know you saved her life by showing her you care. Good on you
I think it was a good reaction.
I have baby cut syndrome and it really fucks with me when, because my scars are barely noticeable, people think I'm not valid....
Same! I had ones that I thought were pretty bad, and I showed my friend (who also does it, we were talking about it) and she was like "oh those arent so bad" and I was like "??? B-but it took them like a month to heal, normally it only takes a couple of days" and i felt really bad about it but I didnt tell her
I used to have the same problem but it got worse and i hate my scars. But u are valid. U are.
I was lucky and got help before it got worse but it was horrible because I never felt like I was worthy of help or that I should be able to easily stop it myself because "it's not that bad"
I didn't know this was a shared experience, it's really great for people to know they're not alone in feeling that way
I like the way my scars look... I don’t want anyone to see and no one can ever know, but I genuinely like hurting myself and seeing blood or burns, and then seeing how it will scar... I don’t know I just love the way they look. Scars are like tattoos for me, they all have a story.
this is exactly how i feel about mine too
Have any of you considered telling this to someone and seeking for help? This is not healthy. Hope you get over it
S/h is a coping mechanism. Similarly to how someone who draws as a coping mechanism, you may see a story behind it and be happy that it got you through that time. However, it's not a good mechanism to have, not that it's anything to be ashamed of, it's simply something you very well may need help for. You don't deserve to hurt yourself in that way. No one deserves to feel that pain. You're strong, resilient, and you're still here. That's admirable and something that makes you worthy of love and care, not pain. You will get through this, you're not alone. Stay safe out there and try your best
That's how I feel aswell
I feel the same way
I’m glad that you acknowledged that biting and scratching is a form of self harm. I tend to find that people like telling me that it is not bad enough to be self harm
No such thing as not bad enough, if you hurt yourself in any way physically or emotionally it’s self harm
LMAO people who say that are stupid. Self harm literally means hurting yourself, be it mentally/emotionally or physically.
You're valid.
if you have the intention of hurting yourself doing it, yes. Not being aware of it could just be a habit.
Yes gatekeepers
honestly, what pains me the most is when people immediately think about cutting when someone says, "self-harm". As a person who picks their lips till it bleeds, It's crazy how people pass it off as a bad habit. Self-harm is still self-harm. I've been 2 weeks free!
I know I'm late but I'm really proud of you
Almost half a year clean :D
I'm so so happy for myself :D
Congratulations!! I know we're strangers but I'm proud of you! 💕
@@InnerBeautyUnleashed Thanks🥰
congrats broski! i’m so proud of you!! ❤️❤️
@@giothekoolkid7389 Thanks bae!
i’m so proud of you bro, you deserve to be happy about this :))
I'm 12 years clean, all of my scars have settled, there are only a few puffy ones left and they are all white and I have gotten tattooed over them! It can get better.
12 years! Omg I'm so proud of u 😊
Haha same
12 years?! Holy crap you are so amazing!! Proud of u ♡
12 years !? I'M SO PROUND OF YOU !
Bro I’m like 2 months clean 12 years i-
When people ask me I just say I’m part zebra. Either gets them pissed off enough to leave or they just move on .
I NEED TO DO THAT.
Teach me your ways I have friends who care but they just hurt me more...because a friend punched my other friend and I wanted to attacked her but I couldn't do anything until after because I was in the middle of my 3rd panic attack today
OMG I'M TAKING THAT
i tell them i fought a dragon
I like saying that I have become paper from doing so much origami
This was so information and it was nice to hear another person's opinion on the topic of self-harm. Will this be a series?
Seeing as people like it, maybe !
@@Selfharmerproblems good because I'm always feeling f**ked and don't feel loved. I feel like my own family is too busy with their lives that they ask me to do my chores when I'm at the lowest. I cry silently everyday because I don't want my family to see the stress, anger, anxiety and sadness that they put me through on a daily basis. I will tell my parents something and they take me seriously at first but then I'll tell them again and they'll say something like "F**k off, stop back-chatting." Other times they'll go and ask me questions when I'm in one of my moods. I've told them several times to just leave me alone when I'm angry, frustrated or stressed so I can calm down but they never listen. Sometimes I want to punch them because of that.
@@morganplayz7134 it’s not good punching anyone, I actually punched my mom a few times when I lived at home. When I had my meltdowns, but it’s not good to do so.
@@JustAnzia I never said I did punch anyone. I said that I felt like I wanted to punch them because they made me really angry and f**ked my life up.
@@morganplayz7134 yea I get it, but even though it would feel good to do so, it feels so terrible afterwords.
Baby cut syndrome is so me. I feel like I basically don't self harm because I've never needed medical attention and most of my scars are barely visible when fully healed
hearing about that baby cut syndrome made me feel so much better and understood. A lot of my friends used to selfharm or still do and thats why I never took my selfharming that serious
My mom is the type of person that’s says ppl that cut re crazy and just want attention...
That’s why I haven’t told her
Right like everyone thinks it’s just for attention like my mom found out about me self-harming last year and told me she was gonna but me in a mental hospital since I want “attention” and the next time she found out she made me stay with my grandmother for a week,when I came back she gave me the nickname “little miss attention seeker” and used it for months.Like why would I give myself permanent scars just for yours or somebody’s attention.It was a way to feel better about me failing at something or taking my frustration out.
my mum told me I was just lonely when I told her that I couldn't write her a note. I am lonely, but I'm also one bad thing away from the end
when my dad saw my arm a few years ago he told me i was faking it, over reacting and trying to get attention, the thing i hate most is getting attention, and during that time he was cutting off my internet access and isolating me, saying my friends were bad influences and trying to break me and my bf up, definitely not like it was his fault i was at rock bottom at the time, and i had already been self harming before, and at the time i felt so much more worse after i did it because i promised my bf i wouldnt do it but bc i couldnt talk to him or my friends i had no other option
im okay now, though it is a triggering memory so i dont like talking about it much
im also still with my bf, im just glad i didnt let my dad get to us
My self harm wasn't really physical, there were a few times but I always managed to stop it before it got to far. It was mostly mentally abusing myself. When you're a perfectionist with anxiety and trying to outstand an older sibling with constant need for validation and praise, you tend to beat yourself up. I'd say things along the lines of "I'm not suffering that badly I'm just lazy." "If I just got out of bed and stopped falling asleep." "I could've done way better." "This is a total failure so I must be a failure" "I'll never be good enough at this rate" "I'm useless and stupid. I get everyone hurt. I can't do anything right." It was mostly centered around diminishing my accomplishments and downplaying everything I did, always believing I half assed everything. I never let myself actually enjoy things and be proud.
I used to force myself to not eat for weeks. I ate only one tiny snack every few days. It's a wonder I'm still here.
I do realise how this might be hard for you, but when i feel bad about something i tend to repeat things like this in my head. "It's okay, its okay, you are okay. You are doing great." or "If you feel like its hard to get up and want to lay there all day, that is okay too. Take your time. It is okay if you cant get up, its okay if you may waste the day. Just take the time you need to feel better again."
I always get anxious when coming home from school because I know there is nothing there for me and i will just lay on my bed empty. I feel like my friends dont want to hang with me, and those outside my class i cant hang with because of corona. So I have begun repeating these things to myself. Treat myself as I would to someone struggling with the same.
And I have no idea if this is just me who manage to do this, or if it might help you. But I think treating yourself as you would treat someone struggling with the same things might help. Im not sure. Because I know things are not easy.
This is good advice. It's always hard to take your own advice.
Made me tear up. This is the most relatable comment for me I've seen here
This is relatable, I associate my achievements with my self worth, and when I don't do my homework, I feel like I'm worthless
I used to feel like I wasn't actually self harming "good enough" because my cuts were generally as deep as a cat scratch. When I learned of baby cut syndrome, I finally felt like I might not be as alone as I thought I was. I'm two years clean of cutting, but still am working on biting/picking at my skin to the point where I get scabs. It's a rough journey but I'll make it. To anyone currently going through a hard time, I love you and I'm proud of you and you will get out of the dark place you are in. Stay strong 💪❤️❤️
Crazy how this video blew up! However, I see all of you saying that there's a way more toxic side to self harm on Tiktok... So for next video, please send me Tiktoks about self harm that you find problematic! My account on tiktok has the same name as here
I love that people think that cutting yourself is THE only way to self harm and even if, they still say you do It for attention ( im a 13yo kid that has skin picking self-harm tendencies and i've got called disgusting by my classmates and teachers because i did It on class doe to stress and anxiety
@@ashe9244 I can totally relate I have to sit next to a kid that's bullied me for years and he's started so it just adds to my stress because of civic his class was to full and he came to our class so I am stuck...but no one helps one time there was these people at my school say I g that the food we were gonna try would boost are mood keep this in mind that the broccoli was underdeveloped cold soggy and covered in buffalo sauce and when they sad it would help I looked at my friend who also has depression and we laughed because were school just gave us broccoli to take away the pain not acutally fix are damn problems at school
@@ashe9244 covid* sorry I messed up
Some people have definitely started to glamorize self harm on social media :( it really sucks to see
Everyday its hard.
I always get so scared when an adult sees them and says I want to talk to you😭
The mom and the kid, I honestly thought she would say “those are battle scars, she’s a strong warrior” because that’s definitely what I would say o.0
I think the worst for me was when my girlfriend's little sister kept asking about my scars. She was very young and impressionable, and I just felt very uncomfortable. She kept asking me, but I refused to say anything about it. I've been clean for almost two years, so it's hard when people mention it because I want to forget it. Luckily my girlfriend is here to support me and I feel a lot happier.
I had a friend who I had not seen in 2 years and when I did she was wearing a dress that was pretty short and on her wrists and thighs where cuts and as a person who knows how embarrassing it is to show or talk about it,I said she looked nice and didn't bring it up or say anything about it so she felt more comfortable around me. She know is getting help and is starting to love her self more :)
Also I Injoy your videos a lot and congratulations on being healthy and staying safe from self h@rm❤
4:55 I am even more sorry to this girl, what if she would be cutting in The future and her mother won't support her The way she should
I thought that too... Ironically I have a feeling she might, precisely because of her judgemental ass mother...😔
Thought the same
i use the glue coping skill. it’s so helpful and has helped me stay self harm free!
Awesome job! Keep going!
I use rubber bands.
@@vanmitchell846 i use rubber bands sometimes too, i think in a way it’s still self harm but it’s better than what i use to do
"you'd look better without those"
i think i look good with them but taste is subjective 😌
@@v1ncent_0 im pretty sure they were just trying to be confident.
@@v1ncent_0 i'm not bragging or romantizing, i'm trying to make sumn I feel shit about feel better.
I liked this boy a couple of months ago and then I opened up to him and actually showed him my scars because I started trusting him and then when I showed him he said "oh, thats not as bad as I thought it was gonna be" like wtf is your problem dude?
I feel like with the "their doing it for attention" it's still a MASSIVE problem. People who are fine dont hurt themselves for attention- either way help them(if you're able to without putting yourself at risk of course)
Personally- I struggle with showing my arms to the world and I tell myself that I shouldn’t be embarrassed or afraid to show my battle scares✊🏼
Also when she mentioned physicals I realized I have a physical coming up because it’s my 13th birthday soon and I have bloody cuts up my arm. 😐
I hope you can recover soon! Please tell your parents or someone you trust to get help. Especially since you are so young:( I hope that anything that is going on in your life will get better💖
I wish you for the best💗💗
Ah fu- here we go again.
its on 🎶 monday 🎶
Oh, dear child.
I know how this is. I'm 14 and I've been almost exactly where you are. Please let me know if there's anything at all I can do to help. As someone who struggled? struggles? with sh, I want to do everything I can to help, because it's a spiral that's so hard to get out of. So... I hope you get better and if you ever, ever need someone to talk to, I'm here.
(Went on a bit of a rant, sorry!)
My best friend self harms. It was hard for me when I first saw the cuts on her arm, it took a week before I felt like I could talk to her about it because it made me so sad, but I wasn’t really surprised and I knew enough about it to not confront her hurtfully. She’s had a rough life, been emotionally abused by her parents, and she’s working hard to get better. I’m so proud of her and I think she’s the most beautiful person on earth, scars and all. It hurts so much that she has them and will probably always have them, it hurts to think of other people thinking bad of her or staring at her or embarrassing her, but to me they’re beautiful because they’re a part of her and her story. She’s beautiful. Every part of her.
The scariest part about a self harmers life. Is when you cut and you can’t cry. Your numb to the pain. Hopeless of feeling 😞
whoa
I had no idea that that baby cuts thing existed-
whoa
there's a word for the feeling.
I am in total awe
wait whats a baby cut? sorry, im ND and may have missed it
the baby cut syndrome is the perfect way to describe what I feel omg
i use to selfharm i'm clean for 5 years now i started at 13 year's old i remeber the frist time i started to waer t shirt's i was scared but ready i did'nt care what anyone thinks even now at school i see people look and make fun of me and say she just does it for anttention but be my shoes for a day it's hard people be mean to me and they hate me i can show my scars i'm not a shame and who ever is a shame should not be okay
-Kodak
I’m proud of you keeping clean❤️❤️❤️
@@wolfspirit3158 awwe thanks you are so sweet
i had a stroke reading that
@@Amybozhemoi why
I tell you what!! I did start ugly crying when the video explaining baby cut syndrome came on because I didn't realize that was a real thing that others went through and I thought I was the only one that felt that way and knows that I'm not just pretending what I feel!
When my mom saw my scars on my thighs she said “you’re so pretty you know those marks are going to be there for forever now” and I know after that (on top of already not liking me) she really despised me cause god forbid I didn’t fit into her white picket fence fairly tale she tried to feed into the entire community
I literally started crying when I heard the thing about baby cut syndrome, I have always had paranoia due to a chronic illness so I just put the fact that I felt like I wasn’t doing enough down to that. Hearing someone else explain that people actually feel the same way I do made me not feel alone for like two seconds and that made me so happy. I would never of heard about it if it wasn’t for you, so thank you so much❤️
Recently I’ve been struggling a lot and going back to avoiding my friends/classmates and just overall feeling empty, I’ve also been thinking about going back to doing it (thinking maybe it’ll make me feel like something), it’s so weird how I found your video even tho I haven’t typed anything into RUclips mentioning self harm in years but I’m glad I found your channel and I’m still going I’m 4-5 years strong and giving up :)
Kids at my school will see the scars and they won’t judge they will actually try to help or ignore it because most of them understands our pain
I just hit my 11 months clean and although my scares aren't seen I still struggle with this on a daily
Hey there! Your doing great! We're in this together 😸
And then there's me, actually loving my scars and finding them cute and beautiful. Always planning where the next one would look the best.
same..
I have sections on my arm one part is for light cuts and scratching and ones for the deep cuts that leaves scars, idk why but I can’t help having my arm organised
@@elii_ilee My scars are the only thing I like abt my gross body lol
Same I like the look of marks
Get some scarification work from a professional
The one about the woman taking her jacket off just made me cry. That is so heartbreaking.
I’m 9 months clean today :)
Yay!
I'm proud of you!
I hope you get further in your journey!
@brøccoli Bøi Sånders That's good!
I have lost most concept of time.
So its also kinda cool that you kept track!
@brøccoli Bøi Sånders GOOD JOB!!! 😊 I’m so proud of youuuu! As Kirishima would say, “THAT’S SO MANLY OF YOU DUDE!”
@brøccoli Bøi Sånders Yay!
Omg so proud of u you can do this I believe in u!
My cousin’s daughter once saw my scars on my arm. She says, “Sister, what’s that on your arm?” My cousin was there too along with my aunts. It was humiliating. I brushed it off as nothing but I felt so exposed. I don’t hate her. But I dislike kids more now.
This is awesome ! I struggle with self harm my entire life! I feel its mostly because I had selective mutism.I was raised to be seen and not heard so I never expressed myself.
i hate when i finally have the confidence to tell people about my self harm even though you can’t see the scars and they go. “oh, no you can’t be a self harmer, yours scars aren’t even there.” or “you cant be a self harmer because you didn’t go deep enough for it to scar badly” or even “you can’t be a self harmer because you only did a few lines”. It was a struggle to get out of that, even if i did it for just a few days and only had around 5 scars i still self harmed!
*I want my scars gone ;-;* I really hate them. Mostly because of the reasons behind them. i hate the stupid reasons for them, (most reasons weren't stupid but some are and I hate it alot) even If they define me I guess. I never want people irl to know I went through this, makes me feel like a crazy person.. *I wish I never did it* but sometimes I feel the old feelings. But I try to just cry away the pain.
I don't really know how to comfort people in this area, mostly because my experiences are very limited.
But I do know that crying is good for you, its better to let it out than to keep it in.
Also, take it easy on yourself. If you make some mistakes, or even bad memories, or you just feel bad in general, don't take it out on yourself.
I apologize in advance if I said anything offensive, or triggering.
I heard that bio oil is supposed to be good for fading scars, but that may depend on the severity.
I'm pretty sure coconut oil is good for fading scars I could be wrong tho
I personally think self harm scars are a sign of strength (ive got scars too) because they show that yes its been really tough but at the end of the day, you are alive, you are living, you are still here and you are worth. The scars show that you have gone through hell but you are stronger now because of it
You're from Switzerland! Ahh how cool, I've never seen a Swiss youtuber and then with topics I can relate so much
The first one is exactly why I used to self harm on my hips instead of my arms. The arms are so noticeable to people, and it’s the main place they check if they suspect.
i want to be in the british army when i’m older and apparently they don’t take people who have scars😞 but i’m still gonna apply when i’m 16 anyways
I remember I was out one time and I was wearing a tshirt it was really hot and nice out and this older lady sees my scared freaks out and was like “Don’t ever do that I will call police on you” and I got on the bus and she got on the same bus and she kept screaming at me about it infront of everyone I was so embarrassed and felt so much shame
I’m so sorry you had to go through something like that if that happens to me I would have totally freaked out
oh my god this lady is awful ! like, what the hell ? you okay !
Love the video! Very thankful that you mainly did the funny/informational instead of the toxic/romanticized side 😊
As someone who has self harmed, its hard to stop, and its not even for attention its because of trauma or bad friends, school problems, or abuse, but i used to hear voices in my head and it got so bad one time i was in class and i had a panic attack and started to cry and everyone in my class ran over to me and just tried to calm me down, but my teacher knew what was happeneing and told 3 of my friends to stay and the rest of the class leave, and the four calmed me, I come from a abusive father and verbal abusive siblings, but thankfully me and my mom left, and its hard to even recover from things its sad to hear how disgusting some people are when talking about self harm as a joke to someone who is or has
I love your accent sooooo much:))
You are so cute but your accent is just really lovable!
Thanks for your works on selfharm awareness, I try my best to share them but here in my country talking about self harm is something even worth than, I don't know, committing a murder!
Any way, good luck and keep going💙
These are so relatable especially the getting your blood drawn that made me laugh way to hard
Fellow ex-self harmer here. I just came across this video and therefore your channel. Thank you for talking about this very stigmatized topic. I hope you're doing well and are staying strong 💕😊
Yes I still struggle with the thoughts ‘they didn’t scar good enough’ it makes me feel like I’m doing it for attention when I’m not I’m addicted and struggle stopping :/
A great video. A part 2 (or more) would be appreciated.
I’m having a self care day bc I just relapsed. Love the video!
by the way, even if someone is doing it for attention,, their case still deserves to be taken seriously, like theyre still mentally ill if they're hurting themself just for attention
If my child asked me what was on someone’s arm I would just say “Wow they must have fought against something really strong to have those, and they won because they’re still alive now”
I've gone a full week and a half without self harm! It's probably mostly my new medications but I like to think I had something to do with it.
I'm proud of you!
It took me years to feel my self worth and confidence. I have finally accepted my faults. I have been 10 years clean from self harm and now I wear my scars proudly as a reminder of the rough past that I have bravely faced and overcame. I do still have bad days but I'm finally fighting my demons.
I rember when my mom found out she thought I just wanted attention and I was crushed after what happened to the one person she loved most in her life she doesn't belive that depression is real
Watching this video in a rare moment of mental clarity, I promise in an hour I will be certain what I do is *not* self harm
At my work we have to wear a short sleeve button up shirt at all times. Jackets aren’t allowed
2 years clean and I still struggle with the urge to self harm. But I’ve found ways to stay strong! I promise you it gets better and you’ve got this even if you’re only 2 days clean.
There was one time when I went to the doctor because I didn't want to go to school because I self harmed and my ED was very extreme. I don't know why but I felt like I really needed help from a professional because I couldn't stop self harming and it scared me. So I decided to tell my doctor, and her response was extremely inapropriate. She looked at me with disgust and told me that I shouldn't self diagnose myself. And she didn't give me the attestation so I had to go to school and then go home again. TW: At the time I was bullimic and I was binging and throwing up up to 15 times a day. I was so scared but I couldn't stop. It took me one year until I finally managed to cope with it and eventually stop. But It was a long process until I was 100% clean. In a way, the doctor triggered me in a bad and good way, I was able to recover because I didn't want to recieve the same reaction ever again.
Thank you so much for making this public. I haven't self harmed in 2 years, but I can't stand it anymore and just gave in. But at least I don't feel alone or stigmatized.
Thank you for the video. I would recommend if you do a reaction video like that again that you level the videos with the volume of your voice while editing because I had to keep turning the volumes up and down all the time. Also be careful with music, you could get flagged. Bye!
Oh no I'm sorry, I didn't see that during editing. Thank you for letting me know !
this was a great video!! you made a lot of really good points and i agreed with most of them (as a former/recovering self-harmer), but i wanted to point out that getting tattoos *can* be a form of self harm. it isn’t inherently, but it definitely can be. so can getting body piercings, drinking alcohol, doing drugs, etc. even sex and seeking out abusive/harmful relationships can fall under self harm.
it’s about the intention behind the action, not necessarily the action itself. if you’re doing it to escape, numb yourself, hurt yourself, because you think you deserve it, etc, and it’s maladaptive, it could count as self harm. some people over-exercise to cause themselves physical pain and escape emotions and that is self harm. not all self destructive behaviors are but again, it depends on the intention behind the behavior.
(this all from my therapist at the partial hospitalization program i attended for a few months when i was in crisis)
Hi! Thank you for your comment. This is a quite controversial topic with differing opinions, but most experts in the field (which sadly most mh professionals aren't) are of the opinion that there is a distinction between self harm and other behviours, even if they are self destructive or have a similar trigger or reasoning to self harm. Yes it can be self destructive, but not everything self destructive is self harm.
As a self harmer myself, It is nice to see other self harmers recover and get through it, it give me strength to overcome.
Edit: I also have baby cut syndrome
It legit took me years to realize I was self-harming because I had this thought that "It's only self harm if you're cutting/leaving scars." Bite marks don't scar if you don't break skin.
god so relatable T-T
for those who'll freak out, I stopped
I remember when my school counselor told my parents that I was cutting and my parents legit got upset with me for talking to a therapist. But I’m 5 almost 6 years clean and the urge never goes away but it does get a little easier every day
Ive been clean for three years now and I just noticed a scar on my hand has practically disappeared and I'm actually pretty proud but at the same time feeling some kind of disappointment..? Focusing on the pride tho :)
One of my friends told their little sister my self harm scars were battle scars and how i fought and won against a big scary and it was so nice of him to do that ♡
I'm planning on getting my scars covered up because I want kids and I don't want my neice and nephew to see them. Also you're really pretty and I adore your hair and your eyes
I've never self harmed, and to the people who are recovering or are beginning to go clean:
Proud of you. I'll never understand what it must be like, dealing with self-harm, but I want you to know your feelings are valid, and although you might feel this way, people like me care about you. Hope you're all doing well
Please do a part 2!
The very first one tho!!!! This happened to me but with blood pressure... my dietican was like "eh, let's do your left arm" and I sat there like that for a while and refused lmao
Thank you for that great video!
i love your accent, i have fought the urge to self harm and have looked into it, i realized it was an addiction, so i find ways to cope. i know i havent gone through exactly what you and everyone else has, but i am still subscribing because i want to support you
im proud bcz im 5 days clean!!
Reminder that self harming is not only cutting urself and that you're not searching for attention or either being a crybaby by going to a professional, its totally fine to have struggled with this and it's nothing to be ashamed of, stay away from people that hurt you, even if they're family or friends that you've known for a long time. It's NOT selfish to do so, its taking care of urself
stay safe and remember to drink water
Really good views on this topic Malika. Enjoyed listening to you again
I was so ready to watch the whole video but I could not...I just found your channel, I don't know how but I am definately subscribing...thank you
"Your skin isn't paper: you shouldn't cut it." #deep
One day I just stopped caring about people seeing my scars and I’m very grateful nobody at my workplace has ever pointed them out 😌 now I only wear sleeves if I’m cold