Life in Paris: The Things I HATE (watch before you come here)

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  • @chickenitsa
    @chickenitsa Год назад +655

    I'm an American resident of Paris, too. When I first moved here almost 30 years ago, I noticed and joked that, "Whereas an American will consider the weekend as a pause in the work-week, a Frenchman views the work-week as an *interruption* of the weekend!" I've realized that my first impression wasn't wrong . . and I've grown to agree with the concept!

    • @artnodulot1525
      @artnodulot1525 Год назад +20

      haha on dit aussi trouve un travail que tu aimes vraiment et tu ne travailleras jamais de ta vie .plus facile à faire en france ou on a des aides et moins de pression pour gagner de l argent surtout si on ne vit pas à paris

    • @Lapusso650
      @Lapusso650 11 месяцев назад +29

      You’re saying that like it’s a bad thing.
      Life should be about life.

    • @midas1929
      @midas1929 10 месяцев назад +8

      We also used to say, if you fly Air France you feel like you are going to work and the crew flies on holidays

    • @chickenitsa
      @chickenitsa 10 месяцев назад +5

      @@Lapusso650 (re: "You’re saying that like it’s a bad thing." Then you must have missed reading my last seven words!

    • @Lapusso650
      @Lapusso650 10 месяцев назад +1

      @@chickenitsa oh sorry. I misunderstood

  • @damondominique
    @damondominique Год назад +1001

    the most frustarting part is that i feel like so many of these issues are rather easy fixes 😩 but any advice is just met w “ben bah c’est comme ça”

    • @ooldmka
      @ooldmka Год назад +58

      That's probably the most french thing I've ever heard of

    • @wiebkedombrowski
      @wiebkedombrowski Год назад +31

      "c'est pas trop mal" maybe the French like things unfixed so they can appreciate the good things when they naturally come around without any input and the slow life of course, maybe something that is broken doesn't need fixing cause that frustration you build up every time it doesn't go your way is funny and romantic and confusing and beautiful too, or maybe not, cause maybe fixing is too much work once you start

    • @CedricChastagner
      @CedricChastagner Год назад +6

      Wow, that hurts, but so true.

    • @clarah2685
      @clarah2685 Год назад +2

      So true !!!

    • @CedricChastagner
      @CedricChastagner Год назад +1

      What! I just realized it was DD after I hit reply!!! hahaha

  • @afterburner94
    @afterburner94 Год назад +321

    Glad you called out the obvious drawbacks of this city. It's NEVER all rose-tinted glasses anywhere. So many RUclipsrs in Japan also called out how life is not like in an anime. The same applies to Paris. The city has A TON of things that need fixing and are infuriating. Talking as a Parisian born here.

    • @raleighsmalls4653
      @raleighsmalls4653 Год назад +3

      Yea...he's still in the honeymoon phase....

    • @worldview730
      @worldview730 Год назад

      You don't want to hear about America then it will make you vomit

    • @Brauljo
      @Brauljo 11 месяцев назад +1

      ¿Could you name those RUclipsrs? I find it absolutely ridiculous that anyone would expect Japan to be like animes.

    • @Fuk_Zat_Tek
      @Fuk_Zat_Tek 10 месяцев назад +2

      Le pire de tout à Paris ?
      C'est les parisiens 😏

    • @AnonYmous-bc3jt
      @AnonYmous-bc3jt 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@Fuk_Zat_Tek😂

  • @auremilka
    @auremilka 9 месяцев назад +62

    As a Frenchman living in the midst of rural France, this is music to my ears, especially post offices that are only open when you're at work. Mentalities are really different from one region to another and a popular expression says that "Paris isn't France" :)

    • @simeonbanner6204
      @simeonbanner6204 8 месяцев назад +2

      Interesting. I felt like that in Toulouse and other areas of France. Easier, nice feeling in those places. Paris too many tourists and expensive.

    • @AceCmbatguy25
      @AceCmbatguy25 2 месяца назад

      Ah bah c'est clair que Paris c'est pas la France 😂

  • @jonathonm.248
    @jonathonm.248 Год назад +267

    I found the answer to the contresens bike lanes-and it actually makes sense!
    In narrow streets that have to be shared by bikes and cars, having bikes and cars travel in the same direction causes cars to speed up while they’re passing bikes. When bikes travel in the opposite direction, though, it causes cars to slow down while passing bikes.
    It’s a tight fit either way, but I do prefer to have cars slow down while they pass me.

    • @datmesay
      @datmesay Год назад +41

      Also it’s better if you see a car making a mistake you can brake and avoid it. If the car is behind you and in the same direction you can’t do $hit.

    • @bombaytalkie.
      @bombaytalkie. Год назад +3

      Voilà!
      👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @Fiammix
      @Fiammix Год назад +6

      True. They have this in Montreal too and I find it actually useful once you get used to it.

    • @blondscientist
      @blondscientist Год назад

      It's also better to "see the threat" going towards it. Same goes for pedestrians. I live in UK where it is not so and I still can't get used to it after 10 years! Missing EU...

    • @bulow92
      @bulow92 Год назад +16

      as a Parisian cyclist, let me just add something : most streets are one-way for cars. However, bicycles are most generally allowed in both directions. it's not really a question of "contresens". There is a white marking on the ground so that the cars understand that the bikes are allowed to ride opposite way. But, bicycles can also run in the direction of cars!!

  • @LilaKotaki
    @LilaKotaki Год назад +556

    I’m Greek and I spent a semester as an exchange student in Paris with the Erasmus Student Exchange Program and ohhh.. boy! I debunked a lot of myths I had in my head as this incredibly romantic, straight out of a Disney movie magical place. Up until then I had visited the city about 5 times but it’s a lot different to experience it as a tourist and a whole other story to live there.Most of your points are accurate (I kinda justify the stairs of the metro because their subway system is quite ancient and a lot of the times there are other factors that contribute in installing an elevator like the ground conditions and a lot of the stations being close to the Seine) Regarding the Parisians, I totally agree because all the friends I made in my time there were foreigners who had moved to the city years ago. As for vacation time, I would say it’s not a Paris thing but a European thing in general because in Greece you CANNOT expect to do business in August man! Most of the businesses are closed unless you work in the hospitality industry. I think I kinda prefer it though because I recently moved to Toronto and you guys(Canadians and Americans in general) are on the opposite side of the spectrum!! You hardly take any time off! Anyways, I rambled too much! Great video as always man! 😊😝

    • @wiebkedombrowski
      @wiebkedombrowski Год назад +15

      love your comment.I think maybe this don't bother with business in August is a partial European thing. We certainly don't have that in Germany but I've experienced that a lot in Stockholm. Also in Sweden I think it's more like July and August, but maybe not as drastic as it sounds in Paris and Greece. But I kinda love that take a break don't bother attitude. It's as if it is okay that you take time for yourself cause everybody does it. At least from my experience in Germany a lot of people go on holiday for 10 to 14 days during the summer and whoever stays behind has to manage everybody else's stuff too... so in a way the no business in August seems dreamy at least to me ^^.

    • @becurious2000
      @becurious2000 Год назад +5

      I agree it’s probably not a unique thing to just France but to Europe in general when it comes to vacation time. I moved to Sweden from America and it’s a similar situation here. In July the vast majority take long vacations. But I understand here because the winters are long and warm weather short. I have started to adapt to it. Looking forward to when I can take 5 weeks vacation a year 😂

    • @simonericcardi6090
      @simonericcardi6090 Год назад +1

      My man! U spoke the truth👏🏼

    • @carochan86
      @carochan86 Год назад +2

      In the US it's predictable. If there is a holiday expect someone to take a long weekend vacation..

    • @pierren___
      @pierren___ Год назад

      Can you describe the myths you had before ?

  • @jimmyjames2980
    @jimmyjames2980 Год назад +140

    I’m British. I grew up in Bordeaux, and I work part time in Paris. EVERYTHING on this list is soo accurate! I couldn’t have said it better myself! 😂 not exaggerating at all!

    • @josephduke5186
      @josephduke5186 Год назад +1

      How does living in Bordeaux compare to Paris? I’ve been to Bordeaux a few times and loved it but I don’t know if it shares some of the same issues as Paris since I haven’t spent a long time there. I’d imagine it’s more laid back at least.

    • @martinacatinelli
      @martinacatinelli 11 месяцев назад +4

      @@josephduke5186 I just wanted to ask the same question as I visited Bordeaux a couple of months ago. However, I did notice that in Bordeaux the customer service is much better than in Paris. They are quite polite, shops, and restaurants. I think it is a large city vs smaller town mentality. But the bicycle lane was a horrible surprise.

    • @pingmckenna7078
      @pingmckenna7078 10 месяцев назад

      5th🎉

  • @triquepersonalwork6369
    @triquepersonalwork6369 Год назад +109

    Just a word of advice from an American that has lived in Europe for many years. It is not just Parisians that are closed to making friends with foreigners, it is people that are natives in other cities. If you want to meet people, go out on the weekends and talk to twenty people. Be open and honest to them that you really want to converse and have friends and would like to meet up with them sometime. You will have a good friend or two after about a month of doing that

  • @Hannah-is2go
    @Hannah-is2go Год назад +493

    I don't know if these suit your brand, but I dove to see
    1. What you're doing with your place
    2. Day in the life videos, what daily living in Paris is like
    3. Candid conversations with French people, opinions, different ways of thinking
    4. Your favorite spots in Paris

    • @bibaonyoutube
      @bibaonyoutube Год назад +6

      Yessss!! Great ideas! I’d absolutely love to see that as well!

    • @carochan86
      @carochan86 Год назад +4

      The virus update via Paris..

    • @PlanecityGaming
      @PlanecityGaming Год назад +1

      Definitely my favorite stuff that Nathaniel does, especially #1!!!!

    • @Leila2023_
      @Leila2023_ Год назад +5

      i wish someone would do conversations on the street with french people, instead of always talking about personal perspective just go out and ask french people questions on the street. if i had more confidence i'd do it but i'm too introverted. i have written lists of excellent questions someone could ask them. so if anyone wants to do this and are looking for idea please ask me and i'll give you my lists. and not just Parisians but to go around different cities and towns to get perspectives from all areas of france because people are very different all over france.

    • @carochan86
      @carochan86 Год назад

      @@Leila2023_ has anyone on line or on you tube done that? Sounds like a really good idea regardless. I hope Nathaniel used your idea.

  • @mohanedmamdouh4979
    @mohanedmamdouh4979 Год назад +93

    I absolutely relate to a shop being closed even though it LITERALLY says on their website and on their shop window that they are open. Yet I go there and find them closed more than once during the week when they are supposed to be open.

    • @michaellaval-lindley4482
      @michaellaval-lindley4482 Год назад

      These days, post-pandemic and with COVID rampant everywhere, people can’t always be open when they say they are. France has gotten as many as 250,000 new cases diagnosed on a Tuesday after a weekend with big events. Same everywhere. It’s probably COVID, the culprit.

    • @94forbesk
      @94forbesk Год назад +4

      Can you call ahead and ask?

    • @cecily_alice
      @cecily_alice Год назад +1

      @@94forbesk for sure a good idea to call ahead if its a small local store and not a big brand

    • @msjannd4
      @msjannd4 Год назад

      It's like that in Italy, too!

    • @msjannd4
      @msjannd4 Год назад

      @@michaellaval-lindley4482 Seriously? 😂😂😂 Covid?!

  • @Ninzip
    @Ninzip 11 месяцев назад +43

    I am not French and I lived in Lille for a short time. I laughed so hard at your rant about shops being closed! During my 9 months, I tried to go swimming at two different pools that were relatively close to my house. It said the pool was open on the website, it said it was open on Google, my french friends would be like 'yeah that's such a nice pool, I go there all the time'. Well you can guess what happened, I prepare, I make the trip to get to this pool, I get to the door, there is a handwritten paper 'Fermeture Exceptionnelle'. UGH! Maybe I should have tried more often, but after 5 times, I was so done with this, I never swam in France. HAHA

  • @designsonyouinparis
    @designsonyouinparis Год назад +135

    PS: I lived in Manhattan for 38 years. I found the French to be friendly, enjoy beautiful outdoor spots, the most amazing food and, a quality of life not prevalent in the US. Very family oriented. I loved the fact that often when I dined out I would see the entire family, mom, dad, kids, extended family and their pup! I for one would adjust to living very well in France.

    • @sprezzatura8755
      @sprezzatura8755 Год назад +2

      Agree!

    • @captainsayang
      @captainsayang Год назад +3

      @@thefernwehtype hear hear

    • @ciaobella8963
      @ciaobella8963 Год назад +11

      I live in Italy. A few years ago a friend and I took a vacation in Paris for a few days. We stayed in Montmartre and ate in the cute restaurants there. Because we were speaking English at our table (I'm assuming this to be the reason) a man with a woman at a very close table next to us, leaned over and said to me in a very thick French accent "Do you know what you are eating? What those are?" with his finger literally over my plate. I replied yes, of course, they are razor clams, we have them in New England. At which point he got a snooty look, turned away and ignored me completely haha. Presumption and arrogance no doubt. I know very intelligent and nice French people, so I am not stereotyping. Just sharing an experience I had in Paris.

    • @Karen-ul9hd
      @Karen-ul9hd Год назад +15

      Paris is not like France. Paris is like Paris.

    • @ciaobella8963
      @ciaobella8963 Год назад +6

      @@Karen-ul9hd Of course, like most major cities in the world, this is true. But the national culture of a country is the same to some degree everywhere within it.

  • @dereklambe
    @dereklambe Год назад +63

    The unicorn issue applies everywhere. People in their home cities already have their social networks and are not particularly interested in making new friendships, particularly with people who might well be transient. I have moved to several different cities in several different countries, and this is the same everywhere - expats and outsiders always find it far easier to form friendships with other expats and outsiders.

    • @shamicentertainment1262
      @shamicentertainment1262 3 месяца назад

      i had the same thing happen to me in australia. albeit it was partly my fault but still, it always stuck in my mind, australians are very friendly generally but it's so much easier to stick in your groups

  • @damondominique
    @damondominique Год назад +290

    im convinced french administration will one day push me to the point where i break down, lash out, catch a charge, and end up in french jail. my story as to “what caused it” will be so long that it will just be ignored or people will just think im exaggerating. 😅😩 many things to look forward to in my near future in paris. anyway, everything else france does: SO WELL DONE AND BRAVO FRANCE!

    • @brigittelacour5055
      @brigittelacour5055 Год назад +3

      I'm following YT in Germany, and discover they're complaining a lot against the German administration ( slow, number of paper needed and don't forget one, hours of opening or strict hour of meeting...) and the deutsche Bahn ( Germain train ).
      It's not just a french thing ! 🤣

    • @saltier.s
      @saltier.s Год назад +1

      We need a collab, friends 🤗🤗🤗

    • @dpnice7721
      @dpnice7721 Год назад +2

      @ Damon Dominque 30 yrs in France and I have never had a problem with French bureaucracy. All that is necessary is organisation and research (don't bring copies if they ask for originals). With Internet it is even easier as you can go to the appropriate site and find out what documents are necessary.

    • @rosekelsey
      @rosekelsey Год назад

      I'd happily hang out in French jail with you guys. Moving there in a few months (if my visa process goes well) and I'm sure I'll have to fight someone along the way.

    • @schwaiger1309
      @schwaiger1309 Год назад +2

      @@brigittelacour5055 yeah depends on where you are in germany but mostly this is true, some states are better with it than others. Berlin hast to he horrible, Bavaria where I live is not very good but rather okay. Bahn always has a few mins of delay, ICE Trains tend to be very problematic

  • @amywalker7515
    @amywalker7515 Год назад +10

    I attended school in Paris way back in 1975-76 when there were still lots of Old Paris to be experienced. Yes, there were tons of annoyances, like things closing at lunch time, needing a jeton to make a phone call, then finding out the phone is broken, travel all the way across town on the metro only to discover the museum is on strike or closed for renovations, people constantly correcting my French and looking at me funny because I wasn't a la mode with my clothing. I got back now and the French are much more friendly and welcoming, it's easier to get around but the magic places are still all there. I remember the good stuff vastly more than the negative.

  • @burrillgray4812
    @burrillgray4812 10 месяцев назад +7

    I lived in Paris years ago (1983-1994) and it’s interesting how much has remained the same! Your comments regarding the numerous “challenging frustrations” (on a good day) you mention in your clip is spot on, unfortunately! One can at once dread and almost fear the frustrations of getting the simplest things done…as you’re well aware. Yet, I loved my time there and wouldn’t trade it for the world as I’m sure you can equally appreciate… after all, you’re still there as I would be too if I were you. I subscribed to your channel and look forward to more videos. Cheers, Burrill

  • @rizfree
    @rizfree Год назад +372

    I wish every part of the world would be as laid back as Paris, or France in general. I love that they prioritize life instead of work/business. that's how human are supposed to live their lives ☺️

    • @rizfree
      @rizfree Год назад +26

      Americans are definitely overworked. I'm from Indonesia and I'm happy that this country sits in the middle between relaxing/productivity

    • @amcmillion3
      @amcmillion3 Год назад +37

      It's not just France all of southern Europe is exactly the same. Portugal, Spain, Italy, Greece are all exactly like this as well.

    • @pierren___
      @pierren___ Год назад +3

      @@amcmillion3 France is not a southern country...

    • @leragib7513
      @leragib7513 Год назад +13

      yeah, way healthier. And I think I read somewhere that french(&others similar countries) are as productive as others. Sure you need to schedule a little bit more, but I think it's better for every one in the end

    • @cecily_alice
      @cecily_alice Год назад +18

      I agree, I'm from Australia which does have more of a British mindset - work hard/play hard - and I love that there's more of a balance in France. At the moment everyone is on summer break and are surprised if you are still working lol

  • @diadiasara
    @diadiasara Год назад +258

    I live in France for more than 10 years now, I was looking last year to move maybe to another country. The first country I looked into US. After I saw the most complex visa system I've ever seen in my life and how few vacation days you get and how few protection as employee you get, I changed my mind very quickly. For other countries I lokked into afterwards I made it one of the first points to check - social protection and work life balance. I'm already quite anxious person, it would be just horrible for my mental health to be constantly worried to loose my job, to make insane amount of hours and not enough time to recover and reset. I do find sometimes annoying that places are closed because of work hours limitations or vacations, but I always choose to have more time for me and for others to have the same.

    • @calin6327
      @calin6327 Год назад

      US is unliveable wasteland after living in the EU. Good luck my dear american friends, stay strong.

    • @bethkellum4308
      @bethkellum4308 Год назад +22

      I am trying to persuade my husband there are better places to live than the US

    • @diadiasara
      @diadiasara Год назад +6

      @@bethkellum4308 it really depends on personal preferences, priorities and goals. Looking into other countries to maybe move to I realized what's important to me and what was less. For some US could be their dream country.

    • @AnnaSabinoCoaching
      @AnnaSabinoCoaching Год назад +12

      There are abundance of jobs in the US and it's so easy to start a business here,
      not like a red tape filled Europe. I'm from Europe and don't want to live there for that reason - red tape for business owners. Here, in the US you can start a business quickly and easily,
      So many opportunities!

    • @diadiasara
      @diadiasara Год назад +7

      @@AnnaSabinoCoaching I am happy you have found the country that suits you 🙂

  • @despinakyraleos2234
    @despinakyraleos2234 11 месяцев назад +4

    OMG you just described Athens Greece! The smoking, the allergies to working, the August shutdown, the noon hour siesta, and the lack of eye contact when you need the cheque. Having spent much time in Athens I only spend time with friends from Canada, even my own relatives in Athens have trouble making time for me. I love your channel and I fully enjoy your journey. Congratulations on purchasing your home in Paris.

  • @LeslyGarreau
    @LeslyGarreau Год назад +12

    Aha, man, I'm French and I'm back in France (not by choice, was in Ukraine before) for like 2 months now. I usually spend no more than a month per year here. I travel 90% of the time.
    That video is ON POINT bruh. Honestly, I don't know why you are living in Paris (I'm from Bordeaux which is so much better, yes, it's 100% biased) but ok, Paris has a charm I suppose :).
    My partner Yana, Ukrainian, started learning French and therefore getting more into the "culture" and she is literally complaining about all of this Ahah. Me too by the way.
    Well, I'm to the point where I'm not even living here anymore so, yeah...
    Anyways, I'm sending that one to Yana, great content! Here are some thoughts from a local, but before, Paris is not the most beautiful city in the world because it’s Bordeaux :). That looks so much like Paris that half the Parisians live here now (2h TGV from the capital) and it's also called the little Paris because it looks like it (Haussmannian architecture).
    1. 🚚 Deliveries
    That is EVERYWHERE in France... Our post office is managed by "fonctionnaires" state employees that have ZERO incentives to do their job because they can't be fired. They have a master key to open doors by the way if you have one of those RFID things on your doorbell, but even with that, they seem to be physically incapable of opening them…
    2. 🤢 French are allergic to work
    You nailed it. Not much to add here, it is 100% true, period. The French love to say, especially to Americans, that they work to live and not live to work. Nope, they are just lazy fucks.
    3. ⚽ Vacation time is basically all the time
    Yes, and especially during summer. Nothing works in France between July and August. And if a religious-free day happens to be on a Thursday the national sport is to take Friday as a free day to have a 4-day break.
    4. 🚴‍♂ Bikers vs. Cars
    Yeah lol. France wants to be "progressive" and look "green" so we have city bikes you can rent in every major city and bike lanes. But, those are new in the grand scheme of things. We want to copy Germany which has as many bike lanes as there are roads and the culture that goes with it because it's been like that for ages. But not in France, nobody cares, so if you drive a bike, you risk your life. The car will insult you, pedestrians will insult you, everybody will insult you aha.
    5. Ⓜ The Metro
    That is a Parisian thing mostly as it's the biggest we have, but every other place that has a metro or a tram or train or whatever, same shit. If you are disabled in France or need to walk with a suitcase, just stay home.
    6. 🚬 Smoking
    Jesus, honestly I think we are the most retarded people on the planet with that. If you smoke you have a 50% chance of dying from a smoking-related disease and now there is even an alternative to normal cigarettes like a vape that doesn’t smoke, but no, in France we want to smoke the worst shit, and pollute everybody else with it.
    7. 🌳 Green spaces
    Yeah... We have beautiful parks, but, they cover like 0.01% of our urban space...
    8. 🦄 Parisians are unicorns
    Aha, let me rephrase that one for you. Parisians are assholes. Anyone not from Paris in France will confirm that one.
    9. 💩 Bad service
    That is probably one of the most annoying things to me and it's directly related to #2 sadly. If you don't want to do your freaking job which is "serving customers" wtf dude... The service in France is the most ridiculous I have ever seen and I've been living in many many places from Central America, Asia, Eastern Europe, etc... You get to pay a premium anywhere you go with the lowest quality of service possible. And Frenchs don't care because they don't even know what good service is...
    On a final note, about friendship, Yana is living the same thing. All the friends she made are rather foreigners or French that travel which to be honest just tells you that you are on another level/world/view and that in the end, it's probably for the best.
    I personally have friends from my student years and to be honest, we have very little to share anymore. They are into 9 to 5 routines with kids and concerns that are completely disconnected to mine so, I don't think you lose too much here.
    French love French, French food, the French language, and French culture which 100% limits their world views compared to someone that travels and speaks & reads English. You get to listen to content, authors, etc… that will eventually be translated into French years after if ever.
    Okay, that was a bit of a rant, but hey, that was fun :).

    • @yanawatercolor
      @yanawatercolor Год назад +1

      Thanks for sharing! 😉

    • @McFraneth
      @McFraneth Год назад +1

      Say hi to Rue d'Aviau and St Emilion for me. I worked for the winemakers Édouard Moueix and Véronique Sanders ten years ago. Great times.

  • @ds_7
    @ds_7 Год назад +86

    One less obvious drawback I’ve found is that people *don’t always* react well to happy people in Paris, because it is assumed that you’re a tourist on holiday or an American and a lot of people are (quite fairly) sick of their home being treated as primarily a tourist playground -> I have to just stop caring about these people liking me, because I refuse to stop smiling.
    NB: I am in Paris often, for long periods of time, with my partner and her Parisian family and friends, and I love France and Paris and will probably live there for a time, but probably not forever.

    • @moniq56
      @moniq56 Год назад +12

      This was hilarious. Basically you’re saying that if you seem happy while in Paris, people will assume you don’t live there.

    • @forestreee
      @forestreee Год назад +1

      @@moniq56 When you put it that way 🤣🤣 Has someone told the Parisians?

    • @pierren___
      @pierren___ Год назад +1

      You know its just that french people dont smile ? Just normal

    • @pierren___
      @pierren___ Год назад +1

      @Yvette Wingate because you cannot satisfy everyone, and its a disappointement for us french too :/ just be normal, not friendly lol

    • @kmichalene
      @kmichalene Год назад +3

      Yes, as to their responding negatively, if that’s the right word, to being to happy, or smiley, or friendly. It’s as though it’s an affront of some kind! Hahaha

  • @michelleleon
    @michelleleon Год назад +36

    This video has a little bit of different funky vibe to it. I like it!

  • @angiestevens3479
    @angiestevens3479 Год назад +13

    I’m so glad that you brought up people with disabilities getting around in Paris. I’m not disabled, but it all became very apparent some of the things they go through when my foot became severely injured and I was forced to walk with a major limp while my fiancé and I were traveling abroad. When we got to Paris it was the worst thing walking three flight up our Airbnb and down. It made realize that Paris is not friendly to people who are injured or are disabled. These are things I’d never notice before so it was good to get some perspective on the situation.

  • @josephinevespa6097
    @josephinevespa6097 10 месяцев назад +39

    As a seasoned traveller and having lived in many exotic places around the world, I have to say that London is my favorite city. I lived there 25 years ago and recently visited when my daughter did her semester abroad there. It has all the old world charm, culture and art that Paris has, but much less of the negative aspects that you describe living in Paris. In London, parks are literally everywhere including the city center and they are not just a token green space but the type of park that you can get lost in. Most people are polite to a fault and the service in restaurants and shops is very efficient and friendly. There is much less pollution compared to 25 years ago with many electric cars, buses and far fewer smokers. There is much less traffic than before and many more pedestrians. My daughter walked to uni on a daily basis and had no problem taking public transportation everywhere (clean, safe, efficient and accessible in most places with escalators and elevators galore). To pay, you can simply tap your credit card on the card reader as you enter. People seem to take the time to socialize (vibrant pub life) and appreciate nature and good food, art etc. but not excessively in terms of vacations and lunch breaks and ridiculous unpredictable office hours. I made many friends when I lived there including Londoners but I will admit that like all big cities, it can be challenging. All in all, London is a world class city that has European sophistication but with New World business models that values customer service. I would live there in a heart beat if I could choose to live anywhere in Europe.

    • @uncoiledfish2561
      @uncoiledfish2561 9 месяцев назад

      You’re describing either the city centre, or the south east. So much of London is a literal slum. I’m out. It’s disgusting here 😂 Sorry.

    • @josephinevespa6097
      @josephinevespa6097 9 месяцев назад +1

      I agree with you but can you honestly tell me of any huge metropolis that doesn't have slums or poorer neighborhoods with some form of degradation. Please direct me to that place cuz I would love to live there!!

    • @Mr_Thunderbird
      @Mr_Thunderbird 9 месяцев назад

      If you don't wanna see the chavs, thieves, drunks, all the stabbing crap, etc... Yeah it's a great place to live

    • @SkylarLux
      @SkylarLux 9 месяцев назад +2

      Having myself lived in London for 5+ years in a row and intermittently ever since, I 100% agree with you. Also a fellow seasoned traveler. My favorite city in the world as well, and in terms of public transport, it can't be beaten! Tremendous system and always considering all kinds of mobility needs. London for the win!

    • @kevinl8440
      @kevinl8440 8 месяцев назад +1

      Amsterdam for me. Prettier, just as many parks, easier to get around, same shtty weather. But to each their own.

  • @tofferson
    @tofferson Год назад +58

    I feel you on the unicorns. I lived in Paris for a year and a half, and in that time 90% of the friends I made were from the U.K., and the other 10% were from anywhere but France. Like, that's cool and all - good people are good people. But, come on! I had grand visions of having an epic French romance, meet a cute Parisian girl... Yeah, that never happened. 😒 In other news, the concierge in my building was never not around. Nothing got into that building without going through her first.

    • @florentd9380
      @florentd9380 Год назад +10

      The thing about the unicorns thing of Parisian people (talking as a French who lived 5 years in Paris) is that basically we hate speak another langage and we re just shit in English.
      And another thing is, I found this pretty common around the world that becoming friends with native people of a city, wherever you are is really hard imo 🤷‍♂️
      I experienced this in Montreal, Barcelona, Stockholm for instance, and every native people have already their group of friends and only foreigners are opened to new friendship

    • @thetobyg
      @thetobyg Год назад

      And she was not cute?

    • @cecily_alice
      @cecily_alice Год назад

      @@florentd9380 100% agree, it's the same everywhere. Expats are way more open to making friends.

  • @farahmirgoli884
    @farahmirgoli884 Год назад +21

    Hello my young friend,
    I really admire you! I can be your mom since I am much older, but love watching your stories.
    You are super smart, wise, sociable, honest, so much fun and you can be a role model for your generation.
    Everything you said about Paris and Europe in general are absolutely true. You manage to make me laugh today. From someone who speaks several languages, BRAVO. Good luck, who knows maybe one day I run into you in Paris and say hello. Be safe👍

  • @paulroyce7244
    @paulroyce7244 Год назад +1

    Amazing content. I can definitely see that your confidence on camera has increased hugely, well done Nathaniel!

  • @francetakesalover
    @francetakesalover Год назад

    Oooh man! Thank you for this video! I feel so seen! I've been here almost 2 years and I thought I was becoming jaded, but thank you for validating my experiences! You're the best.

  • @colpinlecopain
    @colpinlecopain Год назад +90

    You should definitely explore other places in France. I personally believe a lot of cities are waaaaay sweeter than Paris. Paris is dense and rough.

    • @handlemonium
      @handlemonium Год назад +1

      Noted 👍

    • @aekriege
      @aekriege Год назад +8

      Yes, it is absolutely correct. Paris is not France just like New York City is not the USA. There are countless gems 'en province' and people are delighted to see foreigners and try their very best to welcome them decently? Ever heard of Langres? Dijon? Lille ? Nancy ?

    • @annettegarcia6018
      @annettegarcia6018 Год назад +1

      All big cities are!

  • @Jack-po6os
    @Jack-po6os Год назад +39

    Great video! One note about work-life in France/Paris- 35 hours is on paper, but not the norm (from what I have seen/experienced). 35 is for contracted hourly workers. Sometimes hourly wage workers may work extra and do so without getting paid overtime because the culture makes a money conversation very uncomfortable/it is just the norm now so employers expect it. Business professionals are not working with 35 hour contracts at all. People in finance, banking, consulting, etc. are working much much more than 35 hour weeks. It's not a US work culture, but I don't know any full-time workers here that are working 35 hours.

    • @pierren___
      @pierren___ Год назад

      Exact, and we dont have American salaries.

    • @coal.sparks
      @coal.sparks Год назад

      @@pierren___ but how do you afford to live in a city like Paris without one? I am trying to understand how this can be sustained.

    • @pierren___
      @pierren___ Год назад

      @@coal.sparks its simple : you cannot. Or you work like a slave and live in the suburbs. Something Americans dont realize when they talk about Paris problems, is that we already know we cannot solve them.
      Most parisians are just bourgeois

    • @christine-my3gd
      @christine-my3gd Год назад

      @@coal.sparks we usually move to the suburbs when we have Kids because it's too expensive in Paris itself. Some arrondissements are cheaper than others

    • @Kate-qq3ez
      @Kate-qq3ez Год назад

      I totally agree

  • @trique9776
    @trique9776 Год назад +6

    Branding of this "French" culture throughout years by different media organizations and movies has made people believe that the French are much more interesting than they actually are.

  • @stephanelk7930
    @stephanelk7930 Год назад +35

    As a French living in Berlin, I can relate on the friends part.
    All my friends here are foreigners or germans who traveled. So unless you live with local roommates or study at university, it'll be hard to make local friends, especially at our age when the adult life takes a lot of time.
    Some of your examples are some of the reasons why I've never wanted to live in Paris haha. I prefer going there as a tourist!

    • @nicktankard1244
      @nicktankard1244 Год назад

      Yep it’s a feature of many big cities. I lived in Berlin for 3 years and all of my friends were expats and some Germans who lived abroad before and are not from Berlin.

    • @roxanapimpinelli3024
      @roxanapimpinelli3024 Год назад +2

      Pour ma part j'ai bien remarqué cet effet aussi en Allemagne...J'ai vécu à Hannover et effectivement mes seules amis était des étrangers. Pareil pour le sud de la France...

    • @amywalker7515
      @amywalker7515 Год назад +2

      I must have been lucky. I met a French guy on the plane going over and met his friends at school, his parents, even his former girlfriend. By the time I left I was thinking in French and could argue in French too.

  • @myecoates5080
    @myecoates5080 Год назад +3

    Pure entertainment coupled with really good info! I live in Wash DC and just got back from a 3-day trip in Paris and planning to go back for a longer period so this type of insider info is like gold! Love how you shot the vid too! 🙌🏾

  • @Bluyberry
    @Bluyberry Год назад +4

    You accurately captured what my family and I experience and don’t like about Paris. It’s a beautiful city but it does have some flaws. This video was honestly one of my favorites that you’ve done and I hope you make more candid and entertaining videos like this 🙏🏻

  • @rogernichols1124
    @rogernichols1124 9 месяцев назад +13

    I'm British and I spent my working life teaching French (and German). I fell in live with Paris at 14 on a school trip and I still thrill at the sight of that city, its photogenic beauty and cultural monuments. It oozes history and effortless style. If I don't revisit at least once a year, I feel deprived but it was a couple of years after that first immersion in Paris when I went to stay with a French family in Burgundy that I gained the French perspective of their own capital. My hosts criticised Parisians for being arrogant, snobbish, patronising and rude, a race apart almost. You only have to delve into French literature, as I later realised, to appreciate that there's long been a tension between Paris and the provinces. A stereotypical view of the French in general by Brits is not unlike the provincial Frechman's view of Parisians, namely, that they're rude and unfriendly, but so can many Londoners be too in the eyes of British people living outside the capital - cold, introverted and superior. My experiences over many years have made me realise that there are two things that set you up to "fail"when you visit Paris (and France....or Vienna ....or Rome, or Amsterdam....or Madrid.... or Berlin),cthat is, a closed mind and an inability to communicate. By this last one I mean, of course, the ability to speak French (or German, or Spanish etc etc), however modestly, hesitatingly or badly. In my case, this eventually opened many a figurative door, from Calais to Carcassonne, Lyon, Bordeaux, Marseille, Nantes, Toulouse, in villages, hamlets, in banks, supermarkets, filling-stations, museums, bars, châteaux, on buses and trains, on campsites and hotels....everywhere. The language is the key to that figurative door and the French, irrespective of region, age or class, will come more than half way to meet you - even in Paris. I think this little video about things that annoy and irritate about Paris is accurately observed and a fair comment on that amazing city but with all its niggling shortcomings, Paris is still the most beautiful, most magical, most awe-inspiring and most alluring city anywhere - and I've travelled widely around the world. I'm reminded of a French saying with which I strongly identify:-
    "Chacun a deux patries: la sienne et la France" ("Everyone has two native countries: his own and France")

    • @AnonYmous-bc3jt
      @AnonYmous-bc3jt 9 месяцев назад +2

      I have to disagree. When quebecois ppl visit France we’re treated so poorly even though we speak French. Matter of fact we’re treated worse than an American who only speaks English as they despise our dialect…

    • @Flippinger
      @Flippinger 3 месяца назад

      So true! When people visit Berlin, they think that's Germany. Whilst the germans that are not living in Berlin - the majority 😀- dissociates themselves from Berlin, as it's not typical german at all. I know a ton of germans that lived in Berlin for a while (mostly when younger, me included) and nearly all of them left Berlin after some time.

  • @leinada2618
    @leinada2618 Год назад +17

    I've lived in France (not Paris, but another big city in the middle of France) for 10 years, and could relate to every single point you made here, and that's why I left 😅. I'd say Paris and France in general are still great with a lot to see and to experience as a visiter, but to live there and dealing with these issues on daily basis is really a pain in the ass.

  • @maxsupernova
    @maxsupernova Год назад +34

    Wow, the deliveries. I love how that they tell me that the delivery will arrive at any time between 9 a.m. and 10 p.m., and it's expected that I'm supposed to be at home at all times to pick up the delivery. And whatever you do, don't expect La Poste to actually deliver your package. They'll lose it as a matter of principle.

  • @JuwnoPR
    @JuwnoPR Год назад +11

    I've been a fan of your channel for a while, and I've seen your progress in France throughout the years. I got accepted to a college exhibition program in France and will be in Paris for two weeks. It's extremely surreal to get the chance to experience the environment you live in. This is great information that I will keep in mind. Looking forward to see what it's like for myself.

    • @cecily_alice
      @cecily_alice Год назад

      That's awesome! I've been living in Paris for 10 years, if you need any tips feel free to reach out. Hope you enjoy your time here!

  • @effie9529
    @effie9529 Год назад

    Legitimately, I have not seen a video that has gone into depth about the cons of living in a place. Cool idea and continuing to watch your story/channel! Keep it up :)

  • @34visciousvideos34
    @34visciousvideos34 Год назад +1

    This is probably my favourite video you've ever done. Well done, mate! Keep it up :)

  • @Gittas-tube
    @Gittas-tube 11 месяцев назад +4

    Even Paris has changed! When I lived there in the mid sixties, the guardiens were called concierges and they were on duty 24/7, as they lived in the ground floor apartment right next to the entrance. The concierge was actually often the middle-aged wife of the man, who maybe had another day job.

  • @Kirabax
    @Kirabax Год назад +6

    Hey, i haven't watched your videos for few months and can see some changes, for example you are now much more confident in front of the camera! Great video, will come back for more :)

  • @sophiegirl752
    @sophiegirl752 Год назад +1

    I loved this video! I lived in Europe a long time ago but have spent time in Paris more recently. These things are SO true! Im a new subscriber today. Thank you for sharing..

  • @leandroleme5310
    @leandroleme5310 Год назад +1

    I just loved the way you did this video, I felt almost exactly the same thing here in italy and it's just crazy the kinda of life style they have. The services that closes, how not very friendly they can be and a lot of other things. Anyways thanks for sharing your experiences, it's always been an inspiration ;D

  • @KritikaSpreadLove
    @KritikaSpreadLove Год назад +33

    My experience in Paris was definitely a juxtaposition of constantly feeling like you're living la vie en rose while getting incredibly infuriated because of the simplest things. I remember charging my metro card and it charged my account the 80 euros but didn't actually activate the pass. This was the most nightmarish process because there is no electronic record of the transaction... just the tiny billet with warm ink that wipes as soon as you touch it?? Never resolved that.. but also the simplest pleasures felt infinitely more enjoyable there so I loved the city at the same time. Definitely agree with a lot of these and would love to see a video on what you love about Paris.

    • @pierren___
      @pierren___ Год назад

      😤 its always about politic

    • @fabioaraujo8379
      @fabioaraujo8379 Год назад +2

      That’s called a rip-off

    • @cecily_alice
      @cecily_alice Год назад +3

      Oh no.. nothing worse than dealing with the ticket office in the metro... they're so unhelpful. I live in Paris and despite the drawbacks, I can't help but love living here. It's the simple pleasures as you said, like watching the sunset over the seine with friends and a paper cup of wine :D

  • @kverna27
    @kverna27 Год назад +6

    I'm in the end process of moving to Paris but I know the city / French people well already (fluent in French) and could not agree more with everything in this video. It's an amazing city that gives you so many beautiful moments/feelings but just like NYC (where I'm moving from), it has its fair share of negative things about it. Great work!

  • @anjelikapernstich
    @anjelikapernstich 11 месяцев назад

    I loved this! Your ranting was so amusing and cute. Well done!!!

  • @user-ef5id9km3p
    @user-ef5id9km3p Год назад

    Here from the Bulgaria vlog you did with Kara and Nate, because omg, I love your humour and how on to it you are. New fan/sub from NZ!

  • @johnjoyner7114
    @johnjoyner7114 Год назад +4

    I love this video and would like to hear more rants. it is pretty engaging

  • @Ninniane6
    @Ninniane6 Год назад +14

    I'd love to see the opposite video about what you love from your unique perspective. Not the tourist point of view, but a more in depth perceptive perspective

    • @McFraneth
      @McFraneth Год назад +1

      You pay taxes, you have 100% cover for serious illness treatment.

  • @chizzler2248
    @chizzler2248 Год назад

    I found your Dad's videos by chance and really enjoyed them and then located you too!! This one was great about Paris. You told it like it is! Keep the video's coming!

  • @elyseburkhalter7243
    @elyseburkhalter7243 Год назад +1

    Thank you for this video! I’ve been to Paris a few times, the last time I was there they couldn’t find my friends suitcase at the airport. On our last night there I happened to be in the lobby at midnight when they delivered it. Since we were leaving the next morning, we almost lost missed getting the suitcase. Your comments about how poor they are delivering things put a new light on this episode. Merci❣️

  • @cleliafrascuratti7293
    @cleliafrascuratti7293 Год назад +116

    Most of the things you describe can be accounted on the fact that Paris is a very old city. And so, normal stuff elsewhere isn’t necessarily suited to historic Paris : buildings are old (not suited to install AC), the metro opened in 1900, most infrastructures are outdated.
    Work hours can change from one industry to the next (always call by phone to make sure something is open, it takes less than a minute and saves a lot of time and energy).
    Bicycle lanes are built in old, narrow, historical streets, it’s not ideal and we’re still far from a 0 car Paris, that point is 100% true. Plus bicycle culture isn’t a given, yet.
    Vacation time is another à la carte topic. Depending on the convention collective of your compagny, you will have the 5 weeks garanteed plus maybe; 10 RTT, X jours d’ancienneté, récup’ and bonus time-off (in sectors like the banks, telecoms, transportations…). It’s not everyone that benefits from those privileges. Culturally, paid-vacation time is an important social victory of the 20th century, so french are very attached to it.
    The metro : old lines, pic hours during the day, what can you do ? All around the world, metro lines can get crazy packed (hello, Japan) 🤷🏽‍♀️ Something a 30 min. adaptation to your schedule can change your daily commute. Good things exists or are coming : line 14 will soon have 8-wagons trains and is PMR accessible, new lines are being dug as we speak, automatisation of lines are on-going :) Bright side : stairs will help you keep fit from drinking wine and eating delicious croissants 🙃 Joke aside, I travel will a huge backpack, it’s way more practical than a suitcase.
    Smoking : yep, I agree it’s the worst 👎🏼 Gouvernment isn’t doing enough to put a stop on cigarette consumption.
    Green spaces : have you been to Cour Saint-Émilion ? It’s quite nice for a picnic, a sieste or just reading a book under a tree. But yeah again, old/historic city with narrow streets to stop enemy incursion. Boulevards are wide only because they allow for a full cavalry charge (Hello, 19th century Haussmann) 😅 You should visit the Musée Carnavalet, you will better understand the history of Paris (which is very interesting).
    Real parisians : those are rare creatures ! Not that many people are born and raised in Paris for many generations 🤫 Mainly due to the cost of living when you have a whole family.
    Bad service : true, true and true. It’s usually much better in smaller bars and restaurants de quartier ;) You will learn to be polite but very firm with waiters so that they understand you’re not to be fu**** with. Don’t bother with the addition, go the counter and be done with it 😂
    To each their own, there is room for improvements, always 🙏🏼🇫🇷

    • @robingorenc4888
      @robingorenc4888 Год назад +1

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    • @wolfiesasha887
      @wolfiesasha887 Год назад

      The stairs in the metro station are a little hell when you have a big luggage with you,but there are always people who offer help with the luggage on the stairs 😹which is great 😹

    • @Rango965
      @Rango965 Год назад +3

      Oh yeah, u made lots of good points here, in your reply! The only thing is about smoking: cigarette packs a very expensive now, and of course it is banned to smoke in public places, so there are less and less smokers here!

    • @wolfiesasha887
      @wolfiesasha887 Год назад +1

      @@Rango965 i didn't knew that is banned to smoke in public places 😂

    • @Rango965
      @Rango965 Год назад +1

      @@wolfiesasha887 lol, yes it is, but u can smoke on the terraces of the restaurants, for example.. probably not to ruin completely their business! Also It reminds me of another point: poops in the streets. In Paris, now it changed a lot, since a huge public campaign of ads was ran in the city, so people now have all their little bags when they go outside with their dog. At least, it is true in most places I've been too, and it definitely changed in general, for the better :-).

  • @michaellaval-lindley4482
    @michaellaval-lindley4482 Год назад +13

    Paris is fabulous, not perfect. And no systems are efficient until the user understands them. When an American arrives in France with American assumptions, it’s frustrating. But any Latin country is organized this way and they are fine with it. You will find that as a smiling American speaking French you will get consideration à grumpy Parisian won’t get. Just remember always, even the most beautiful isn’t perfect, it’s just the most beautiful! You will never want to leave to live anywhere else until retirement….. like me. I lived there a total of 23 years including the last 21. I miss the food, the trees, the Metro, the cinemas. Just live it and it will love you. 🇫🇷🥂

    • @froodoftheforest
      @froodoftheforest Год назад

      👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽

    • @singmiracles7518
      @singmiracles7518 Год назад

      Merci de ne pas lui lécher les bottes! mdr

    • @pierren___
      @pierren___ Год назад

      La France n'est pas latine (ça veut rien dire)

    • @michaellaval-lindley4482
      @michaellaval-lindley4482 Год назад

      @@pierren___ La France n’est surtout pas Anglo-Saxone!

    • @pierren___
      @pierren___ Год назад

      @@michaellaval-lindley4482 les Francs étaient bien Germains !

  • @thealotofgirl
    @thealotofgirl Год назад +1

    I'm an American living in Rome and this is all so relatable! Lol. I've been an expat for 15 years all over the world and I'm still not 'used' to it, but my sense of humor around most of these issues has improved. Thanks for the video!

  • @mikemclane8821
    @mikemclane8821 Год назад

    you are a great personality for videos! Thanks for the info!

  • @oamahana
    @oamahana Год назад +13

    I'm actually French, and don't stop to say at my foreings friends that Paris isn't like in the movies, isn't that romantic, clean etc.. For people who live in the luxe, they can have beautiful hotel, beautiful views.. but for "normal" tourist, it's more than different. I hope you love France and you enjoy it 🤍 send you so much love ! ( sorry for my english bruuuh)

    • @DEY-G
      @DEY-G Год назад

      Ur English sounds good

    • @oamahana
      @oamahana Год назад

      @@DEY-G oh thank you !

  • @mallorygraf8574
    @mallorygraf8574 Год назад +11

    As someone who was born and raised in San Francisco (a city that attracts ALOT of newbies) I can attest that when I was younger, I would make friends with people who originally came out from out town to live in our fair city. And you know what? They only stay in SF for a couple of years and then complain about how expensive it is here and off they go to another city. I don't blame the Parisians because it is not worth the emotional bandwith to get to know someone (or rather, many someones) who is going to move somewhere else anyway.

  • @susan6351
    @susan6351 8 месяцев назад

    Everything you said is so true. Thank you for your honesty.

  • @wiciu6997
    @wiciu6997 4 месяца назад

    It's so funny that you descrived Italy as well. I moved to Italy to study and these problems are exactly what makes me go nuts, thx for sharing

  • @Only1StevieJ
    @Only1StevieJ Год назад +11

    We just got to Paris mid-June to spend the Summer here and work remotely from the States. So far, the biggest downer has been the theft in this city. Most people would assume I mean pickpocketing, but it goes well beyond that. Within 24 hours of arriving, our rental apartment was burglarized. The Paris police department was surprisingly very helpful and friendly. After we relocated and shook that nightmare off, 2 weeks later a package we had delivered from UPS had been partially torn open and an item stolen. While it’s possible that we have just been unlucky (we are doing all of the things possible to not stick out), I have to say that neither of these situations have ever happened to us in the States, and we’ve lived in NYC, Chicago & LA. The delivery experience has been spot on with what you’ve said and while our building has a ‘Guardian’, they are rarely there to accept packages. We’re hoping that our next 2 months are better than the first. Otherwise, I will admit that the city is beautiful and certainly has its charm, and the food is beyond amazing.

    • @LovzaNo
      @LovzaNo Год назад

      @Jérôme Vallé Maybe you should stop mass immigration of people from poor countries and the crime will stop.

    • @LovzaNo
      @LovzaNo Год назад

      @Jérôme Vallé Then the governement is your enemy.

  • @aa-jl7qs
    @aa-jl7qs Год назад +18

    I can see you are camouflaging yourself with the white and black stripe shirt! it's just harder to get friends as you grow older people just get busy with their lives and their friendships are already established and filtered to even smaller groups. Love your content man keep it coming.

  • @edgard.zamora
    @edgard.zamora Год назад

    Thanks for the subtitles 👍💯

  • @johnmalinak4631
    @johnmalinak4631 Год назад +1

    Wow. Your observations on the frustruations of Paris resonate with me so much, even back to my first summer in Paris 40 years ago! For the most part I love Paris, but as they say, "Plus ça change, plus c'est la même chose."

  • @hillsideurbangarden1380
    @hillsideurbangarden1380 Год назад +3

    I really like the video! You are not wrong about Paris. It is good information for people so they are not surprised when they finally do visit. We have a holiday home in Normandie, and run into the 2 hour shutdown all the time, got kicked out of a Brico store when they turned off the lights once😆

  • @oliviertruquet4458
    @oliviertruquet4458 Год назад +4

    Let me try to explain N0 5, bike lanes sometimes go in opposite direction as the car so that bikers can more easily see when a cars drives towards them and they have enough time to react if they see the car going straight toward them. Obviously, if there is a bunch of motorcycles that takes space, it defeats the purpose but at least you get the idea for the lanes in opposite direction.

  • @sayyesbibi
    @sayyesbibi Год назад +1

    Just move to Switzerland, all the issues will go away. Is all so smooth, I am loving it

  • @pjsopinion8028
    @pjsopinion8028 Год назад

    Loved this review!

  • @djidji1501
    @djidji1501 Год назад +5

    You now share the feeling of all french people who are not parisians. Paris the most hated city in france haha

  • @Germsprz
    @Germsprz Год назад +4

    Hey Nath, could you please do a video comparing your experiences living in the US, Mexico and France? Those are 3 completely different cultures I've experienced myself, and it could be an extremely interesting video 🙌 thanks mate! 😎

  • @EvelineNow
    @EvelineNow Год назад

    Great video. I am so glad I discovered you.

  • @michellemoline9113
    @michellemoline9113 Год назад

    HUMOR on point! You're just FIRE! Always!

  • @anewoklovesyou
    @anewoklovesyou Год назад +10

    As a Parisian, I can say that we exist and we are nice people!

    • @myflyingkidney
      @myflyingkidney Год назад +2

      It sounds like he just needs more opportunity to meet people and adapt to the fact that most european countries don't become friendly with foreigners quickly, it takes time.

    • @patriziaantony8242
      @patriziaantony8242 Год назад +1

      J ai vecu a paris presque 10 ans et franchement ce video ne m etonne pas. Nathaniel a raison. Les parisiens 100% se mélangent pas trop avec 'les autres'.

    • @michellemoline9113
      @michellemoline9113 Год назад

      Nalia - Maybe YOU are the UNICORN that he needs! Reach out! :)

  • @saaa.aa9578
    @saaa.aa9578 Год назад +14

    I unfortunately had a terrible experience in Paris which had nothing to do with any of these reasons. People were so rude in the interactions I had, and I found people always staring and giving me dirty looks which I assume is because I'm a fully covered poc 😭 I felt really down and anxious the whole time I was there.

    • @electrosyzygy
      @electrosyzygy 10 месяцев назад +4

      yeah, they likely don't care about your race but your hijab. It's a bit of an affront to their secular, and very anti-clerical values

    • @saintsaens21
      @saintsaens21 9 месяцев назад +2

      You wouldn't walk around Baghdad in a bikini.

    • @saaa.aa9578
      @saaa.aa9578 9 месяцев назад +2

      @@saintsaens21 what point are you trying to make? No one walks around anywhere in a bikini except a beach.

    • @saaa.aa9578
      @saaa.aa9578 9 месяцев назад +3

      France should just be upfront and admit they don’t care about freedom of choice and that they want only their own way enforced.

    • @electrosyzygy
      @electrosyzygy 9 месяцев назад +4

      @@saaa.aa9578 that's not their perspective. You would have to look into their history and understand their culture a bit more before judging their value judgments made in their country. In any case, they are very much forward about it and have passed laws about religious symbols of all kinds in government, schools, etc. However you can wear what you want on the street, you have the choice, but people don't have to like it. What you will get will range from polite, silent toleration to outright hostility like what you experienced. People who go beyond this, who harass or worse are breaking the law.

  • @homelymimosa6531
    @homelymimosa6531 Год назад +2

    This made me laugh so much, especially for les serveurs ! C'est tellement vrai ! I'm Parisian and we can be friends !

  • @ChrisSpiegl
    @ChrisSpiegl Год назад

    I really enjoyed the energy you present in this video. Great style. 👌

  • @laurak7247
    @laurak7247 Год назад +9

    I find it so interesting that a lot of the points you mention can also be applied to Berlin, even though it's a totally different country. The problem with bike lanes, locals not excepting foreigners, the opsession with finding green spots in the city, bad service people.
    I guess big cities in Europe can be similar.

    • @dannbaron
      @dannbaron Год назад +4

      you're right in most of the points, but the green areas? Berlin has a lot of parks and they're amazing! is one of the things that keep me alive here :D

    • @laurak7247
      @laurak7247 Год назад

      @@dannbaron Probably depends on where you live. But most parks in the city center are just overcrowded green patches where people don't clean up after themselves. And people are obsessed with making their balconies or "Hinterhöfe" more green.
      If you want to experience nature you would have to go to outside areas like Grunewald, Tegel or Müggelsee.

  • @toriblue
    @toriblue Год назад +3

    Speaking as an American who has also spent a significant amount of time in Paris, I couldn't agree more re: difficulty receiving packages and doing business. International travel is a great way to fall in love with other cultures but it also helps you appreciate the luxuries of home.

  • @Travel_World_
    @Travel_World_ Год назад

    I love your English, as you talk, its interesting and an easy to understand at the same time. Also as your structuring your story)

  • @taraclement9736
    @taraclement9736 Год назад

    im falling in love with this channel!!! would absolutley love a Parisian apartment tour.

  • @travellinmark2745
    @travellinmark2745 Год назад +56

    Nathaniel, I was directly involved with Sister Cities in Caen for many years and still have great friends there. What you describe about Paris, I think is endemic to large cities where life is so pressured and where the very dense packing of people, I think, does cause a certain mentality of sticking together with those you know and trust. I think natives of New York City and its inner-Borroughs might agree. I think your search for "Parisians" may be offbase because, Paris, like most great cities is a city of people from somewhere else. Anybody who has settled in Paris, London, or New York, for instance, are "real residents" after a few years. I do enjoy your videos and hope you enjoy your life in Paris.

    • @derrickmickle5491
      @derrickmickle5491 Год назад +3

      Spot on insight. I have observed the same behavior in large cities and cities with transient populations (like D.C.). You don't see this behavior in other French cities.

    • @TWROC96
      @TWROC96 Год назад +1

      Add Taipei and Hong Kong to that list too. These are cities where people go to seek work opportunities often times right out of college; living with friends or family to make the rent and working hard at establishing their careers. Or they are higher level managers with families moving to take positions at the company headquarters. So one can see how tight communities within the city might be. Foreigners hanging out together and speaking English or their own language as a group is seen as its own community; they often live in the same neighborhoods as well. Sometimes these foreigners say shitty things about the place they are living while hanging out in a group in public, thinking that the locals don't understand them- surprise, some of them do. Working with locals at a company, living in a neighborhood where you might be the only foreigner, or joining some sort of club/activity such as cycling, Vespa club... helps one to get to the know the locals and doing it by yourself so you seem more approachable. Tim Ferriss must have made some local friends as he learned to dance the Tango in Argentina, don't you think? My closest friends of over 20 years in the foreign country I live in are from this country. I feel my experience is much richer for these friendships than the relationships I ever had with the other foreigners that passed through, staying one or two years, hitting up the pubs and telling the same stories year after year after year. "Hey man, I was at this beach in Bali... "Hey man, I was at this beach in Thailand... Doesn't one want to live abroad in order to experience life abroad, not just live in a foreign country surrounded by their fellow countrymen?

    • @blondscientist
      @blondscientist Год назад +1

      I agree. Same experience in London.

    • @lavinder11
      @lavinder11 Год назад

      Nah I live in NYC. it's not hard to find someone born and bred for generations to talk to.

    • @cecily_alice
      @cecily_alice Год назад +1

      @@blondscientist Me too!

  • @dancemom2009
    @dancemom2009 Год назад +5

    The first time I visited Paris and on the first night we went out to dinner, I was looking at the menu and was surprised by the prices of the food especially since the restaurant didn’t appear to be fancy. So the waiter comes by and I ask, in French, if the plates are for sharing ( which in my mind would an explanation for why the prices seemed so high. Well the indignation that came at me was next level. I think he was as offended by the question as I was by the prices. We ordered, we ate, food was ok, never went back and aim to never go into a restaurant that didn’t have menus posted outside and that we always looked at before sitting down.
    We’ve also experienced having to wait, be ignored at cafes in Paris and your advice to just get up and walk to the next one is good. Like there are so many of them, in this case you’re totally voting with your feet. Don’t beg people to take your money…that’s my motto.

  • @janetturner9607
    @janetturner9607 Год назад

    I LOVE you vids!!!!! So so so to the point with humor!!!!!!! I hope you never change your approach to your vids!!!!! Love your parents vids too!!!!

  • @igchannel2174
    @igchannel2174 Год назад

    aww I love the logo animation in the end of the video! its so cute!

  • @Zanagash
    @Zanagash Год назад +8

    I am French but live in the USA. I came back to France in MAy after 10 years… and the FIRST thing i realized and complained about is the service ! You have to raise your hand to catch the attention of the waiter, and what we realized real fast is that once we have the waiter we order the drinks and food at the same time because otherwise it takes another 10 or 15 mn to get his attention. Then I taught my wife, who’s American, to raise her hand and say “L’addition SVP” at the end. This is great when you are a Parisian and you have time, but when you’re a tourist and you’ve a limited time it can be very frustrating to waste 2 hours at a Bar/Restaurant 😅

    • @xSkyMachinex
      @xSkyMachinex Год назад +4

      I specifically asked to pay first to avoid the wait. They would bring my food and payment machine at the same time. Love it, lets you not worry about getting their attention and enjoying your meal. You can leave whenever you want

  • @moniquechenard736
    @moniquechenard736 Год назад +6

    My sister and I vacationed in Paris back in 2008. We loved Paris. It helped that we knew some French and I surprised myself and was able to converse better than I thought. The French do appreciate when you try, even just saying Bon Jour. I found the majority of people very nice. A few were rude but no more than if I was in a large US city. I would go back again but physically not a good idea since Paris is definitely a walking city but so beautiful. Thank you France.

  • @earthlilly
    @earthlilly Год назад

    Yes please, lovely, Id love to hear your favourite haunts (cafes and galleries would be awesome) x

  • @user-sz2ze1pj8e
    @user-sz2ze1pj8e Год назад

    So charismatic in this video. Loving it. Waiting for more already

  • @catherinecancel1687
    @catherinecancel1687 Год назад +4

    Totally agree on the smoking issue. During my visit my friend got sick because everywhere we went there were people smoking all around us. I wanted so badly to enjoy a coffee sitting outside of a café and every time decided to stay inside. 🤷🏼‍♀️ But I still loved the visit.❤ AMAZING!

    • @pw4780
      @pw4780 9 месяцев назад

      I saw a gorgeous girl in a cafe that I would have tried to meet until I saw her both vaping and smoking to fit in with her friends. Bleh.

  • @heatherheaney4060
    @heatherheaney4060 Год назад +8

    Omg watching your video I can feel my stress rising just hearing the things you dont like about living in France. I am Canadian and have lived in Spain and now for the past year in France and I can say both countries are equally as frustrating. I live in Montpellier. I find the south to be more laidback but the ppl are More spicy lol I love it.

    • @anothervisionofthings
      @anothervisionofthings Год назад +3

      Montpellier is quite nice, i used to live in Avignon few years ago, which was good time too by the way !

    • @elborbah3045
      @elborbah3045 Год назад +1

      Bonjour ! I'm french and i love Montpellier ! Also Sète , which as an amazing market , beautiful museum like the " MIAM " , art galleries etc

  • @AlexandraTejero
    @AlexandraTejero Год назад

    Loved it! Totally agree!! I have been to Paris many times because of medical issues. I still remember the smell of the subway on our way to the Bizetre Hopital, such a horrible district...

  • @MadellaBeauty
    @MadellaBeauty 9 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for taking the time to do this video. I live in New York City, came here 8 years ago from Europe (Romania ) and I want to do a similar video. Big cities come with their big problems. I visited Paris twice and the architecture and the culture are impressive, but there was some downs too. You got a follower!

  • @petederek7174
    @petederek7174 Год назад +74

    I'm an American (Texan) who lived in France (Paris and Caen) for two years and NYC for 3 years. I noticed many similarities between Paris and New York during my time in both (the blunt condescending attitude, general grumpiness from the locals, the packed subways and horrible body odor during the summer months, stairs everywhere, etc). Smoking has ceased a lot in NYC though, unlike Paris. Which I just chalked up to "hey they're French, it's just how they do" lol. The constant "vacances" and 2 hour lunch times can be a nuisance, but I'm American so it's something that totally goes against our work ethic, making it difficult to comprehend. Having said that, I know I'd love all the vacation time if I were French so probably just jealous ha. Think with any large, packed city, you have people literally fighting for their space, and it results in a perpetual poor attitude. Even I, while in NYC, got a bit dismissive after a while when tourists would always ask me how to get to the Empire State Building or wherever. You're trying to get to work and you simply just don't have the time to stop, and you become part of the environment you live in, it happens. My 5 years in Los Angeles gave me the attitude of "Chill out, I'll get to it later", which is the laid back vibe of that city. All in all, I still love Paris and NYC, there are so many great things about each and, imo, the good far outweighs the bad as you stated. And I would suggest anyone who has the means to spend time in both cities. You will definitely learn a lot if anything.

    • @jfrancobelge
      @jfrancobelge Год назад +7

      You're right in comparing Paris to New York, and the Parisians to the New Yorkers. Have you left Paris to visit the real country in the provinces? Different people, generally much friendlier, not so stressed - unless naturally you go to other touristic traps like the Riviera in summer.
      This being said, as a Frenchman and a European, I'm deeply attached to our "work to live, not live to work" culture; just relax and enjoy your free time. Overworking yourself ans others is simply counter-productive. Do you know that the French are considered as being among the most productive people when at work? A sound professional vs private life balance is the key - time to rest and remove stress, time to work without stress.

    • @francetogo794
      @francetogo794 Год назад +2

      @@jfrancobelge Bonjour Sir! You are so right. France is beautiful and their are other places for a foreigner to explore then Paris. I have plans to leave the USA and move to one of France Provinces. I'm already looking into Aixe, Bordeaux, etc. Your country is so beautiful and I can't wait to leave for Paris soon. I will hopefully be a student studying French as a Second Language.

    • @thetobyg
      @thetobyg Год назад

      What’s a “work ethic”?

    • @thematriarchy2075
      @thematriarchy2075 Год назад +3

      @@thetobyg He means having to work 2/3 jobs just to have the minimum, i think, although he calls it work ethic.

    • @amywalker7515
      @amywalker7515 Год назад +6

      Hey, I'm an upstate New Yorker and I think the City people are great. I fell and got knocked out in Boston and no one helped me at all. When I came to, everyone was standing around taking pictures and videos. I got tripped at an intersection n NY City and what seemed like hundreds of hands lifted me up like I was a feather and put me back on my feet. People came at me from all angles to ask me if I was okay and to return every nickle and do-dad that fell out of my purse.

  • @worldview730
    @worldview730 Год назад +9

    I love your Blog/Vlog, I love France & I'm not even French, they have an air of worth, style, & importance like Americans, but in a different way. I also have an encyclopedia of things I hate about America where I'm from as well.

  • @coraliejacob8641
    @coraliejacob8641 9 месяцев назад +1

    Vidéo super intéréssante et décrit si bien la réalité de la vie à Paris !! 😂❤

  • @juliecaron7569
    @juliecaron7569 Год назад

    Loved this video! It was so accurate!!!

  • @MishaElRusito
    @MishaElRusito Год назад +53

    Hey Nathaniel, do you find people in France equally positive and friendly as in Mexico? I've lived in Mexico for two years and people there smile at you, say hello in the street, and overall are very hospitable. I've been to France too but a long time ago so I don't remember lol

    • @username-yn5yo
      @username-yn5yo Год назад +8

      Absolutely not

    • @scottw.7626
      @scottw.7626 Год назад +5

      My personal travel experience (5 times in France) has been nothing but positive, even in Paris. Shop owners remember my face more than they do here in the U.S. . "How are you doing," is an empty phrase in the U.S. Go to France, and Paris, say bonjour to everyone you meet at a shop and you will be treated fine.

    • @guisellalosa7557
      @guisellalosa7557 Год назад +8

      of course not! Latinos are wayyy more friendly in the first place. That doesn't mean tho that French people can be kind when you meet them more.

    • @trips505
      @trips505 Год назад +6

      i've definiely felt the same in mexico. the people in general are super warm in every city/town that I've visited there and it makes me want to go back again really soon. Im not sure about Paris since I've never been there but whenever I've met Parisian or french people in general they tend to stick with their people and quite cold to foreigners compared to other nationalities.

    • @McFraneth
      @McFraneth Год назад +1

      The French protect their rights so don't have to softsoap foreigners. They work the strict minimum and concentrate on their leisure. Because they can. The more needs you have covered, the less you feel the need to please others.

  • @lirazdemasure936
    @lirazdemasure936 Год назад +15

    I think it really depends, like many cases, in the people. I visit Paris 4-5 times a year - almost all the experiences were super positive. I live in Belgium right on the border and so we spend A LOT of time in France (every week).
    Paris is different from the rest of the country- because there are so many people, so many different cultures- and SO many tourists. If you will go to the touristic places- there is more chance that the servers will be less nice to you. But in most places we always received good service (in restaurants I mean).
    I'm TOTALLY with you about the smoking. As someone who really hates cigarettes- it's almost impossible to sit on a terras and breath clean air. The metro as well. If you're older, have a physical difficulty, even if you're with a buggy for a baby or a toddler- it's not easy.
    Something else that can make me mad is the amount of scammers around the touristic areas. It is INSANE.
    But after all that said- if I had the possibility- I would probably move to Paris, for sure.

    • @cecily_alice
      @cecily_alice Год назад

      Haha I love that Paris wins our hearts despite all the drawbacks. I've been here for 10 years. Hope you'll make the move one day!

  • @heyitskayladiane
    @heyitskayladiane Год назад +1

    Hey! This video resonates with me so much. I think that living in a city, there's always going to be issues and cons. I even liked how you spoke about the metro in Paris. One thing I can say about the MTA in NYC is that they make sure that there's more than enough wheelchair accessible stations and they're still building elevators till this day at subway stations. However, there are so many things that still need to be fixed with the MTA subway service in NYC and one major issue is safety on transit. However, my point is NYC is not perfect and a whole lot of cities are not perfect either. I guess we got to make the best of it and definitely bring those issues forward to our local politicans/services.

  • @jean-pierresainfeld2917
    @jean-pierresainfeld2917 Год назад +1

    I was born there in the late 40's and took all the opportunities to leave and moved far away.
    Now live in Northern California Bay Area for the last 41 years.
    You describe the issues of this beautiful city marvelously well.
    Thank you for sharing