There so many video on how to organization your closet and i don't even have one I use to platic containers for my clothes. Like no one has plastic containers that are organization they just throw in.
Thank you so much for your insightful post. I am not able-bodied, and I’ve been house-bound for ten years. My husband is still able-bodied, and we’re both retired. I started to declutter our home ten years ago. Although I could only spend 15-20 minutes a day on sorting through my own items for resale or donation, I eventually created a better environment for the both of us. After eight years, my husband eventually realized that he could also improve our lives by following suit. He now declutters his own things and helps me as well, just a bit every day. He is able to take my resale items to the resale shops - after I’ve cataloged them. He is able to take our unneeded items to the donation centre. He even finds people in our condo building who would like some of our larger items (still in great shape). When things leave our home, we rejoice! Our home is now so much more pleasant in its simplicity, although we have not yet finished our refinements. Our possessions will be much less of a burden on our families when the time comes. I’m so glad we are close to having a home that’s perfect for us…and that we’re still around to enjoy it.
I'm also disabled and really appreciated the acknowledgment. When people say "well just..." they aren't aware of how many spoons that "just" takes, because they've never counted spoons (disabled units of energy and pain). And yet, just because we can't do everything doesn't mean we can't do something.
Who comes over to your house and asks to see the gift they gave you??? That's weird and rude!!!😱🤦😜 People find excuses to not do things. I loved all of your points 👏👏👏. You definitely don't need more storage space or containers if you get rid of the stuff you no longer need, want or like.
Re: not having enough money to get rid of clutter. Look at wealthier people's houses. They're not cluttered. You don't build wealth by keeping clutter. Your same space will look nicer and richer when it's not cluttered. The abundance of stuff all around just makes you look poor.
I think cluttering make you poorer. When I started decluttering, I threw away so many things ! It was shocking because I was poor and spent years in poverty. I had spent so much money on useless things that made my situation worse. Now I spend my money very carefully, thinking : « Do I really like this item ? Will it really be useful ? Where am I going to put it ? » I still spend too much, but not on physical items that will clutter my home, so it’s way easier to curb and my daily life has improved a lot. I think some poor people like I was are compulsive spenders because you never have money, so when you finally get some you need to release the frustration and anxiety. Also, buying in bulk because it’s cheaper but you don’t really need it, you just think you will need it some time later and won’t be able to afford it when the time comes so you have to do it now.
@@Laure__Line I mostly agree on what you said and I can relate on that,and I am on the process of realizing that less is more,that's why I am binge watching Mia's and others like for the guide...🙂
The hardest things to declutter for me are the "fantasy self" or "past self" staff that doesn't fit my current self. Even when I know that I'm probably not going back to that hobby or to that style any more it's still hard to let it go.
@@taniawhale7572. I didn't understand your question. But to help you out better, since this content creator didn't help u, there's a channel called the "minimal mom" she talks on this subject and by listening to her or looking back at older videos you will get loads of tips and tricks!
Our family noticed how dynamically much better our adhd kids did once we decluttered and simplified. Cleaner takes so incredibly less time and background stress is so much less. We kept what we love most and use regularly, and love our home again, we haven't missed anything we got rid of, and going on progress over last 2 years: Started early in covid. I have more joy, more time, more sense of accomplishment, more freedom, and am saving $ since starting this journey.
My best friend when I was growing up had a plaque in her kitchen that read, "This house is clean enough to be healthy, but dirty enough to be happy." I always hated that sign. There is no reason a home can't be both clean and happy. Minimizing possessions helps you get there.
My mom had the same plaque near the kitchen doorway. And, like you, I hated it. I always looked at that saying as a personal leniency pass or an excuse to be a slob. Disclaimer: Mom was not a slob! Lol! 😂 But she did have a great sense of humor so she probably just thought it was funny.
I love how you said struggle is not defeat. As satisfying as it is to make a big speedrun declutter, honestly most of us aren’t going to be able to do that, and small, consistent declutters are going to build the habits we want long-term. And I am a person with a triple threat: ADHD, anxiety, and sometimes depression. Decluttering is slow going around here! But even with the small changes I’ve made, I see a difference in my mental health. I can find where I put things because there’s less places they can hide. I’m more relaxed in my space because I’m not having to weave around boxes or piles on the floor. I celebrate whatever I manage to get done, and I will get to the rest when I get to it. And for the rest of the fellow mentally ill folks out there: Your house might not ever be perfect, but it can be BETTER, so don’t give up.
#13 for me was the same as giving away a gift, which also made it overwhelming. I guilted myself into keeping a lot, because "memories." I had to detach from the item and decide if it was a happy or sad memory. Sad memories were easier to let go of. For happy memories, it was harder, but I was able to say "This brought me happiness once. I don't use it. I don't need it. Someone else can experience that happiness now." Also, at least for me, decluttering helped with the anxiety and depression. I don't see the progress I make, so to have a physical (and time) reminder has been amazing. If it used to take me two hours to clean a space and now it takes 30 min, that's a win I can see time and time again.
I am one of those people who are SUPER organized and a person that has no problem getting rid of things and doesn't hide things in my organized bins as you said. That would defeat the purpose for me. I hate clutter, everything has to be in its place.
I think you’re right. I’ve come to notice that my subconscious windbag is a incessant liar. Seriously tho…I once heard that whenever we worry we’re going to need something we haven’t used in 20 years if we give it away, it’s because of our subconscious EGO. That ego has been stewing in the fact that you got rid of that filthy bucket in the corner of the garage and won’t stop thinking about it. You’ve moved on with nary a thought but the ego has been looking intently for a way to use that bucket and when it finds one (and it will) it will come to the surface of your mind and say “I KNEW IT!! Now we’ll have to use something else when we sure could’ve used that bucket!” But the takeaway is that there’s always something else that will do the job! A favorite old saying: ‘Use it up, wear it out, make it do…or do without.’
Another tip I have, is to take a picture of something that's hard to let go of. And save the picture, and then it might b easier to let go of the physical clutter.
I started Swedish Death Clean the year before I was 65. I have ME/CFS and FMG plus other health issues. I was not a clutter bug but I needed less stuff so I could cope better with my cleaning. It’s one of the best things I did. Just did it when I got the energy. Now we are downsizing I don’t feel overwhelmed about packing etc .
I feel seen. All of these resonate. I'm in a generation raised by depression Era and you keep stuff, or you're labeled wasteful. And you clean your plate because of starving kids elsewhere 🙄. I never understood how they got full if I ate all of my food. At 66 yo, I am shedding everything but the dog and some of the furniture. It feels good.
My parents hoarded. It didn't make any sense. When the time came to move, the new garage was basically filled with junk and garbage from the old garage. I was so angry lol!!! (It would be me trying to find privacy)
How I interpret the "I'm to poor to declutter" thought is that those people are afraid to let go of things only to have to possibly buy it again in the future, it really scares them becuse that means spending money they don't have (ie fixed income). I think they could also associate that with not buying food in bulk to cut down on food clutter, which again, means spending more money in the long run. 🤔
This was spot on! You could have even titled this "I call BS!" After decluttering my kitchen and still making more progress, a friend told me that I was losing my personality in my home! I still think about this but realize it is probably an excuse for them not to declutter. I love your no nonsense approach. Keep it coming!
Personalities change as people grow as individuals. I’m not sure your friend understands this? I say kudos to you! And you can always point out that your space reflects who are now-and not who you were then.
When friends say something like this, it usually comes from a place of their own inner conflict. They see you doing something impressive, they wonder if they should too, then they get a big spiky emotion (guilt, shame, defensiveness), then they attack to try to get away from it, and avoid the change. All to say - that's a her thing, not a you thing. You don't have to pick up her big spiky emotion, or accept it as valid. You can keep doing what's healthy for you.
My main problem with decluttering and depression is not low energy (although that does make it harder), it's wanting to let go of EVERYTHING and knowing that I will regret some of it later. When I'm depressed, nothing "sparks joy", everything seems meaningless, my memory gets so bad that I don't feel sentimental about anything, and I can't see myself using anything in the future because I don't see a future. I usually avoid decluttering in this state because I know I can't think clearly and make reasonable decisions.
Oh how I agree, especially point number 8. I have health problems that mean serious fatigue. I can’t stand for long and I cope because I declutter regularly. I have a donation basket on my closet floor. When it’s full my husband takes it to the charity. Garbage goes out nightly, and anything I can see that can be tossed out goes out in the trash before he takes it out. Most of my books are on kindle now. I use a minimalist wardrobe capsule and a streamlined makeup and skincare routine.
I have health issues & I have just started a bag to put things in to donate to charity. I'm actually getting eager to find things to put in it. Most of the things have gone out with the rubbish though. It has made me feel more positive.
#1 is the truth, I kept left over pipe and glue after fixing my broken pipes last winter, and have had a new busted pipe this winter that I will be using to fix it with. Furthermore, I am having trouble with the radiator in my car without the money to fix it, and gas to drive to the hardware store with no money to buy these supplies, so KEEPING this stuff lying around for a year is a blessing right now!
Eliminating baskets, bins, etc., worked. I've 40 yrs. of journals & art supplies to process, burn, use or donate - the last 3 boxes. I'm happier, have more space & time. Cleaning's easy. A friend mentioned how nice my home is. Best of All- my partner sees the benefits & is decluttering! TY for inspiring us!
One thing I have noticed since I started working on some hormone issues, different times in my cycle are more productive than others.... some of my issues have gotten much better, but it moved to being very sentimental and anxious at other times.... I'm adjusting my routines in regards to clutter and giving myself a break when I'm ovulating. 🤷♀️
Or the time of day when you’re older. Ten years ago,after the supper dishes were done,I would then do something in front of the television like laundry,mending,ironing,paper sorting,etc,etc. Now I know that NOTHING is going to happen after the supper dishes are done and that’s okay because I get twice as much done in the morning and early afternoon.🤷🏼♀️
Thank you for sharing these. I too disagree with "because I have kids" and "because I have ADHD." I have 2 teenage boys now-1 with ADHD, and because I started the process before I became a single mom, they feel more calm and at home living in a smaller space because it is decluttered and minimal. The less to clean makes it nice too because we take an hour one day a week to all pitch in and then we can go off to do whatever else we'd like to be doing-definitely affords more time together.
I was very open and honest with my sweet hubby about my intentions to try to minimize our "inventory" ... all he said was "just don't get rid of everything!" I had only done the living room and kitchen and he was like "what's happening here? I love it!! Our home looks great - it seems more relaxing!!" He was just as surprised at the process as I was to his reaction!! :) We went through our clothes together the first time and he has now gone through his closet on his own two more times! I love the way our home feels now - and I only started my adventure in May of this year. I'm not racing through the process but the more we get rid of - the more we want to tackle another room!! I love that I can make my minimalism way of life what works for me :)
I’m a mother of 2, with ADHD and physical limitations. One of my kids is special needs, they’re still very young. My sanity was on stake when I started decluttering 5 years ago. Since then I emptied 2 storages and went through an unimaginable amount of stuff, not only my own, but my kids’ (together with them), my parents and my deceased grandmother’s. I’m selling the last 4 boxes of stuff l have left. My life is serene & quiet finally and my living space gives me energy. My mental health returned to normal and anxiety the lowest it’s ever been. I want to encourage everyone that if I could do it, you can do it! Don’t wait until you reach breaking point! I only wish I’d figured it out 10-20 years earlier that it was all my stuff that was stressing me out. For people with ADHD having a clutter free environment is a must.
I've been decluttering for a week now & I am actually starting to enjoy my stuff more. A lot of things I forgot I had. I've actually saved money by finding things that I use often but had bought & rebought because I forgot I had already bought them.
I try to be an open book . I try to look at different perspectives. Each person's lifestyle is different and unique to their personality type. I like to give grace for each person. I try to encourage people .
I totally get the 'don't have money' obstacle. Maybe you're not aware of how many times we're told, 'If you miss it (or it's damaged, etc), just buy a new one' or 'if you can replace it for $20 when you need it, get rid of it' or something similar. I'm on disability and don't have that luxury. Nor do I have the capacity or help to sell things to make money. I've made slow progress but am always debating if I can afford to let something go...even though intellectually I understand your argument otherwise.
Exactly. And times may have changed, but back in the day you had to be able to do everything with what you had in your home. Staples. We all have flour, sugar, butter. Tools. I’d rather live like it’s 1870 and I need to make my own bread instead of driving to a store to buy it. It’s far less wasteful. Minimalism often comes across as incredibly wasteful to me.
I am loving this! I have lived my whole life collecting clutter! Lol is there any reason to have one silverware drawer, and TWO deep drawers crammed full of egg flippers, tongs and about 4 ladles! Lol On a serous note, my mindset I guess comes from being raised by a mother that was raised up in the TN mountains dirt poor. Throwing away this/that/them is just wasteful! What if that one breaks, will you always have the $ to buy another one? Hard times are comin, you just wait…. Thanks so much for this!
This video helped me to redefine clutter in my mind. We do get the impression of minimalism that we have to let go of our favorite things. This might be from others (my minimalist family members) pointing out our favorite things as clutter because they would see it as clutter. I just realized this. I definitely want to minimize my collections, but I want to keep what brings me joy 💖 Creating more space for joy is the point, right? ☺️
I’ve been a minimalist for years, and I just want to say that it’s really unfair of your family members to tell you what is and isn’t clutter among your possesions. Only you can be the judge of that. As long as you are honest with yourself, they need to mind their business!
I'm so glad to hear that you've come to this realization about your things! It's truly such a personal decision and it can feel really oppressive when you think you have to let go of everything you love ❤️
@@miadromfors4578 Bingo you hit the nail on the head ! I would never go into someone else's home and tell them what they should or shouldn't have and I certainly don't appreciate it when people do that to me. We are all individuals in our wants and needs.
Number 8 is my crazy reason. I have chronic pain. When I get those great days, I don't spend them with my family. I use as much as possible to do the cleaning, some of the declutering, and organizing so that things might get easier some day. I work on a different area every two months. My oldest daughter that doesn't live with us anymore, she tries her best to make time and help at least once a month.
My favorite quote is from Peter Walsh( organization king) who said “ After our house, our cars are usually our costliest items! So why are they both sitting out in the elements while dead aunt Ida’s stained linens are stacked in boxes in the garage?!?! 😵💫😵😩😖
Oh, #17 is real, I have some things like this right now. I live in a small house and have several kids and a baby on the way, I save the good clothes from the older kids to pass down to the younger and I would not get enough money from selling them to rebuy in a year or two and it's not easy to buy kid clothes in my area, but I have to keep several boxes of clothes piled up in the corner of my bedroom because I dont have the storage for them right now. I keep it organized and tidy but I hope to have a place to store them someday that isn't out in my room.
Amen! This resonated with me on every level🥰I have gotten comments from well meaning friends that my home is too clean or perfect, OCD comes up a lot as a label! In all honesty, I rarely have to clean because we are organized and minimized in what we have and how we deal with our things. I have areas of my home I’d like to work on, but it’s different for everyone and maybe my level of organization is uncomfortable to some and not enough for others. However, it works for me and when it doesn’t, that’s when it’s time to declutter and repair my own systems of organization! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the subject, very well thought out video❤
Thank you so much for your feedback! Everyone is wired differently, and that's OK. It does sound like you've implemented systems that simplify and make your life easier 🙌 Not everyone will understand that. "Rarely have to clean" sounds less like a negative thing and more like a win to me 😉
these are all really great points. I've been decluttering slowly since last September. I have noticed I spend about 50% LESS TIME cleaning my home because it is so easy to keep up with it daily now. It's not as overwhelming and I don't shut down into an anxious person anymore. Chores used to get super backed up and by the end of the week I would be in an absolute panic. Now-a-days I'm sooo much more happy and I still have all the things I enjoy using, doing, looking at etc. etc.
Totally agree about family members joining the movement. I declutter LOTS of my personal stuff. My dad helped me to bring stuff to the bin, including the donation one. Then, I decided to declutter our common entrance wardrobe. I would bring some items to my mom and dad and asked them if they need this item or they are OK with donating it. We got rid of so many things! Then, my mom decluttered her drawer. And my dad decluttered our garage. Then 1 decluttered our bathroom and kitchen with throwing away expired items. No one was against it. I also decluttered and organized our balcony. I put my suggestions for throwing away next to the balcony door and asked parents to find a place for items that they really need, and I will throw away the unneeded ones. I'm happy to say, it worked)
My favorite of the whiners are the ones who say they don't have 15 minutes a day to declutter but they do have an hour to watch someone else declutter their stuff. I wish there was minimalism of whining. For those who want to hang onto things, ask yourself "if I sold this and gave the money to my favorite charity, wouldn't that feel better than stuffing it back into the closet?" That would be a good source of joy!
I think if you are less able bodied especially on some day, it can be very usefull to declutter and be somewhat organized as well. Having things you might need frequently for this and that meaningfully placed in box or basket together with other items needed for same activity and placed somewhere you can remember is a godsend when you need somebody else's assistance with bringing things to you ! Instead of having to think about someone else going through all your things searching for particular items, you can expect a quick and straightforward action that will be a blessing for both of you ! And even if you are very able-bodied make sure to have at least first aid items ready in this way!
This video really resonated with me…I struggle with clutter and depression. My house was out of control. I started with a big declutter of my room on a workday holiday and after that I did, and still do, a daily tidy of one thing. It has completely changed my home! I also have a habit tracker to keep myself accountable to the tidying things like making my bed everyday, unloading the dishwasher, doing laundry…the checking of the boxes is very satisfying and the things are becoming an enjoyable habit and not a chore.
Terracycle drop off points allow you to recycle many things you thought you can’t and they even have paid boxes that mean you can recycle almost everything.
My husband always tells the story about when my father in law was out to sea with the Navy, and my mother in law had 6 children 12 years old to 3 years old. A neighbor called CPS on them because my MIL was struggling to keep her home tidy. The social worker shared with her how each kid really only needed 8 pairs of clothes, and then it would be easier to manage. So she did it. And that started her on a minimalist kick that really blessed her life (until her husband retired from the Navy, and he's a clutter bug).
i bartered time with other moms so i coukd declutter! me: if i watch your kid for two hours this monday, will you take my kid next week? friend: SURE!!
First time I had huge decluttering "event" a couple of years ago. I considered getting away from my big smart TV, because I wasnt using it regularly. But I decided to keep it. Now I'm glad to say that I do use it regularly because my "music" subscription that I really like also included online movies and series. And I also watch RUclips with it. Thats the only thing that I'm happy I didnt get away from. But I know for sure that I'm an electronics lover, so having this TV in my room brings me joy even if it's constantly off. Especially as this was especially profitable purchase and works perfectly even in 4+ years
I recently discovered your channel and it's hands down one of the best on this subject. You are amazing in what you do! I hope you can help many people, myself included. Also the quality of your videos is great and your knowledge on the subject is appreciated. Greetings from the Netherlands 😀👍🌺
I have one person in my life that - when she comes over - looks around to see where the gifts she gave you over the years are. If dhe doesnt see it, she asks about it. She herself has kept everything she ever got, and she expects others to do the same. Getting rid of a gift, she sees as hurting the giver.
Tell her that because you don’t want to hurt anyone by not being able to keep their gift,you’re only giving and receiving consumables. then give her examples: food,booze,fresh flowers,gift cards and cash.( you could also ask her,”isn’t it thought that counts?Because I did appreciate the thought but I can’t keep everything” or “wasn’t it mine to do what I wanted?”)
When I was a single Mom of 4, i was very organized. Didnt need the extra chaos. I simply had systems in place. Now I notied how my adult children have good systems.
Exactly. I use all clear containers for the reason of seeing exactly whats in it. Labeling is twice the work. I need form to follow function. Why make it harder when the point is to make it easier.
For cooking enthusiasts: They need to be able to distinguish standard white rice from aroborio rice / wild rice / cous cous/ samp/ and so on. Same with pasta. One party may only eat gluten free pasta and the other household member eats regular pasta. They look identical so a label is necessary.
@@diahannrosai6950 I can understand if there is a necessaty for it. Yes, if there needs to be a differentiated because of look alike or allergies. However, my point is that normally you would not need to. What you are talking about is if there is a reason for it. People get anal and it surpasses the beauty of simplicity, it becomes stupid!
TRUE, less stuff less stuff management=more time. Stuff leaves me with more straightening up; finding stuff; putting stuff away & its just exhausting!!! I;m just starting and truthfully it is a trip but I know it will be well worth it; it is a never ending procedure but I'm in. Baby steps is key or you will get overwhelmed like I did. A little at a time.
Thanks a lot. Hi Danielle, I have been decluttering since 2019, then I bring in more things, till this year 2022, I am still doing my decluttering, it's really fun. It something that I need to keep my mind busy.
So helpful! Thank you - I hold onto aspirational crafts projects that I don't have time to complete. I'm working on letting go of them! Just found your channel and I'm really enjoying it
I have seen some folks that to me went WAY over minimalism sittin on the floor nothing in the room🤷🏻♀️ and I have seen a few houses that piles of crap everywhere 🙅🏻♀️ I just try to deciliter something daily either donate or dump! Not using I’m losing out of here! Good video thanks for info
Completely agree with the importance of decluttering especially when you have kids. It really makes it easier. I think that people get mistaken by the single minimalist content creators that shws how they can live with so few things. Of cours that as a family we obviously own more than a single person but that's not the point. It's not about the number. Appreciate this video very much. Hope this comment make sense.. english is not my firs language.
Just found your channel. Yes, having fewer distractions would be helpful for someone with ADHD. I will probably hyper-fixate on decluttering when the inspiration hits. Also, please stop saying things like it’s a “little OCD” to label bins. Statements like that are insensitive and reductive - minimizes the debilitating symptoms that people who actually have OCD experience everyday.
I have found it 100% true that when I've given up items that I thought I couldn't, I've never thought longingly for them. I continue to be surprised by that!
I started this whole journey as a way to save money. The last "luxury" purchase i made that really opened my eyes to my trash was a Tamagotchi and i refuse to get rid of it. It sits right next to me on my bedside table as a constant reminder to myself not to buy anything else like it. I've thrown away SO MUCH since buying that Tamagotchi that it continues to look more ridiculous and out of place as the weeks go on and i can't wait for the day when i am so confident in myself and my new habits and my savings that i can finally throw it away
I'm a new subscriber to your channel and have really been enjoying some of your tips that I have surprisingly never heard before. I say "surprisingly" because I'm in my 50's and have been on the decluttering/simplify/voluntary simplicity/tightwad gazette/minimalist/maximalist merry-go-round for quite some time. So I hope you take my words as encouragement to keep doing what you're doing, but maybe a bit more thoughtfully. Firstly, "If I can do it, anyone can!" is like the most dangerous dang sentiment in America right now. Not everyone is born with the same privilege or strife so each persons limits are different, and I can assure you there are so so so many people that were not born with boot straps or they lost them, so they certainly can't pull themselves up by those elusive boot straps. I can assure you I love writing in cursive and I find it far superior to any other note taking form, but I can also assure you my ADHD husband, whom is also left handed (because of course he is), absolutely cannot write in cursive unless he does it at the speed of a turtle...no matter how much he's practiced, and that's because he is actually different from me. He absolutely struggles with decluttering and organization. I love organizing, and I also enjoy decluttering (perhaps from being a military brat and moving frequently which I actually enjoyed!). I also have ADHD (it hasn't been called ADD in like 20 years btw!) and was not diagnosed until my 50's. Secondly, I find that so so many cleaning vloggers do not address the situation a lot of people (especially those of us with cptsd) get themselves into with buying too many things for their kids because they were mistreated or neglected themselves as children. I think when a lot of people say it's impossible to be clutter free with kids it's the people who didn't learn to do these things as kids. Maybe they were yelled at. In fact, I think you mention something similar to this in one of your blog posts. So I think implying that people are using their kids as excuses to not declutter is not accurate and doesn't address the situation many parents kind of "awaken" to when their eyes on materialism are opened. By then the kids are older and it becomes a lot more difficult to declutter with kids who can now use some logic. That is the video a lot of people need...how to deal with kids stuff when you have an 10 yo child who refuses to give up the giant kitchen in her room because that 10 yo is emotionally delayed, or your 16 yo has turned into a hoarder just like your husband because no one knows how to connect to each other, but mommy just went through a serious illness and has seen the light and how does she get the other people in her house to see the light? I mean that MIGHT have been a situation for a mother somewhere and I think that would make an EXCELLENT video, lol!!
I enjoy making stuff which inevitably leads to having a lot of small items. I try to reduce that kind of clutter to what I call my hobby-room which helps.
Great video. My parents are clutterbugs, partially because of the "I might could use it in the future" mind set and partially because they are "collectors" books, magazines, knickknacks, gifts etc. I decided in highschool and college I didn't want to be overwhelmed with stuff just because it came into the house. My goal is to have all my items be used and or loved and if I am saving it for future only keep what I have the space for such as books I am keeping for my future kids. I have also been trying to get rid of single use items, particularly the type you use and toss. I have decluttered and transitioned my entire bedroom and hope it has laid the groundwork for when I move out and start forming/keeping my own household. I much rather buy something and wash it than throw it away just to get more. This feeds back into less clutter since I no longer have a stockpile of pads, cotton rounds, qtips etc in my cabinet. I also now only have clothes I actually wear not the ones I've been hanging onto because they are still in fine condition. And two sets of sheet and just enough blankets for comfort in cold winter. Having some empty space in my storage feels great
I have terrible ADHD, but I'm also autistic. My autistic brain craves order and structure. So I'm not going to give up trying!! I told a friend a few days ago how I long to have an orderly home and she literally said, "yeah right. I'll believe it when i see it." which really hurt my feelings. I love your idea of closing the door with a note saying don't leave this room until 1,2,3 is done. Any one know of other creators who talk about how to organize and declutter when ADHD gets in the way? I've found binge watching these videos helps keep me more focused.
I'm glad the videos help! I also have a free resource library that you can make use of to declutter that first room and spark the drive to keep moving forward: miadanielle.lpages.co/free-resource-library
It takes time, to make time. ........ Wow! So simple, yet so impactful! I had not thought of it from that exact perspective. My "why" for decluttering would be to get to spend time with my family. So having a mantra, in the moment, saying "it takes time, to make time" I feel like that would keep you motivated to stay productive and that there is an end in sight.
Well said. Don’t ever think I’ll be a minimalist but moving to be more minimal for a few years. For me, the hump to clear is procrastination. When I force myself to do one small drawer or the floor of a closet, I always find things to remove. I just need to make the time to do what my heart and soul know will make life better and easier.
Mia I love your truth delivery - one of the most impactful thing you have said in another video was your definition of “limiting belief”. I don’t know if it touched my competitive side - but your right, if you can do it - then Mia so can I 😉. Also, I got an Alexa because I watched one of your videos in which you listed ways to make your life easier. Being clutter free has actually helped me save money - it’s an organic way to stop wanting to keep buying stuff. After all I will have to find a home for it or replace something with a like item. It’s a great way to naturally stop consumerism.
Repurposing is something very useful. I dont buy pencil holders. I repurpose cans that dont have sharp edges by wrapping them in a favorite design paper. All crafts done in the kindergarden are using at least 70% of repurposed materials. A part of the Easter Bunny was a colored ffp2 mask.
My rules for decluttering are no home? No home in my house. I decluttered my kitchen and found more cupboard space. My organization skills have improved since I started decluttering. My husband has a bad habit of not putting things away. I told him everything must have a home. I give him regular tours of my kitchen so he knows where to find stuff. I get aggravated that he doesn't put things away. He was able to find it initially. He can find it to put it away. I am a busy bee and need less clutter and labels. My husband is also a busy bee. For those who don't understand... Clutterbug explains it.
I'm pretty sure I have ADHD and clutter drives me insane. The less clutter, the fewer distractions. I'm watching your videos for ideas as today I'm on a mission to continue my spring clean and declutter my office space. It's not rammed but it's a catch-all, and the only room in the house that has a few boxes permanently lying on the floor. I find everything you say is helpful in getting motivated, especially as a lot of what I'll be sorting through has great sentimental value which has been putting me off from tackling it.
I like to keep my home very tidy, I am 5 months pregnant. I have a friend who struggles with keeping her house clutter free and tidy. She constantly says to me “you won’t be able to be tidy once you have kids”. To me it comes off as really negative and I don’t want to have that mindset. To me it just seems like it comes from a place of jealousy. Has anyone else dealt with comments like these?
I can't even tell you the number of things people told me I "couldn't do" when I had kids and they were all wrong. It irritates me when people try to push things on you like that
I have m.e. But I’m in desperate need in decluttering and I’m doing it and sharing my journey too. It’s hard… but it is possible 🥰 I struggle and feel like it’s going to take forever but I’m doing it bit by bit and I constantly remind myself that slow progress is better than no progress 😁
Energy has been a huge struggle for me and I've been working on it via having a goal to give away at least 1 thing every week. Most weeks its more than one, but having at least one as a goal helps it keep moving. I keep a plastic bin on my porch where I put my giveaway items, I take a photo, shove it in the bin, and then post it on the local freebie group online. If for some reason the bin starts to fill, and folks aren't taking the items, I just take it to a thrift store.
Re: Waiting for people to be on board... It's not that I want the people in my house to declutter. It's that I want them to leave my emptied shelf empty and not stuff their own stuff in every nook and cranny. That's what makes my decluttering feel completely pointless.
I just found your channel & overall really like your advice. However, you need to acknowledge how classest it is that your first "workaround" for decluttering roadblocks (low energy, disability, lack of time) is paying someone else to do it. It really adds another excuse for people not to try out minimalism. "Minimalism is for rich people."
@@MiaDanielle I have to say, my mom is one of the people who would remember something she gave me fifteen years ago and ask if I still have it 😂 it's great video overall, you are really on point with the list and I love your presentation style. Thank you, I enjoyed it a lot!
even if you have to throw stuff in the trash, what's the difference between it being there or in your home if it regardless is trash a cannot be used by anyone?
I have ADHD, and the less clutter the better! I am distractable enough without all the visual clutter! And decision fatigue is a real thing! The fewer things I have, the fewer choices I have, the fewer decisions I have to make. When everything has a home and everything resides in its home, nothing gets lost. I am certainly not going to remember where I put something if it doesn't go home!! Yeah, decluttering is an ADHD hack, not a hindrance!!
I was of the school that would get rid of "it might come in useful sometime". But I moved into a new home and found that many of the things I had decluttered would be perfect in the new place so solve what I was trying to do and much better than the costly new items I was then forced to get. But the three van loads of just in case items I removed from my parents home really would never have found a use. I do have a problem of "dumping" to landfill or taking to a charity shop to also put it on the skip because they don't know what to do with the items. Finding the new owner (for free on Freecycle) or at small or even decent return on Facebook Market place or at auction is involved (photos descriptions, testing etc) and if not careful you could end up paying to send the item because fees and postage costs exceed what was paid. A friend remarked to me that when I moved and down sized my home I still used twice the space I needed because of the clutter. It was more true than normal because I had to clear my parents 3 bedroom home and my four bedroom home to a small bungalow and for the time scale it was quicker to box up and move than work out what to keep or how to find new homes for. Even after selling all the furniture and half the items from the cupboards there are still too many boxes to feel any gain has been made. Baby steps - get there eventually. It does not help that I have been "given" a load more stuff because I am so "good" at finding home for things and selling them on.
You lost me at No 1. I save all the left over screws, nails, bits and pieces from any kits we receive. I have reused probably 50% to 60% of them on other repairs, craft projects, etc. I just used a chain from a light kit to lower my shower caddy so I don't have to reach up so far to put my shampoo, conditioner, etc in it.
On this note, I love Dana K. White's question of "would you know you had it?" That's the distinction for me. If I will remember the item when I could reuse it, and there's a good chance I'll use it in the next couple of years, yeah! It's worth keeping.
I used to get emotional and stressed and cry when I uncover things and feel haunted by a break up that I felt was my fault. The good thing is I feel I can clean now without getting emotions. I still get sentimental about his cards… I don’t throw them away… but I sometimes wonder if I should.
My husband of 30 years recently passed away. He kept every card he was given. He never looked at them, but he kept them. It was so painful to have to throw them all away because I knew he hadn’t ever looked at them again. Enjoy them for the time (a week?) then recycle. I’ve told my family not to give me any cards. I just want a phone call or a hug or a cup of coffee together.
My first time on your channel. This was a very interesting and informative video. I’ve heard people say that minimalism is pretentious or just a fad. I don’t agree at all. I think it’s just another excuse to keep living in a cluttered home.
Re sentimental stuff I don't need it as I have it in my head, in my memory which works for me. Just saying. Soon I'll be getting rid or photos; especially doubles, but that's down the road. Like i said, going down memory lane in my head is quite enough for me hence I will keep a couple of small trinkets like my mom's rings, just because. Knick knacks NO! will donate or sell. And trust me I am a shopaholic so this is not all that easy for me BTW. LOL
Welcome, everyone! Let me know if there's a sneaky lie you've identified from this video :)
There so many video on how to organization your closet and i don't even have one I use to platic containers for my clothes. Like no one has plastic containers that are organization they just throw in.
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Thank you so much for your insightful post.
I am not able-bodied, and I’ve been house-bound for ten years. My husband is still able-bodied, and we’re both retired. I started to declutter our home ten years ago. Although I could only spend 15-20 minutes a day on sorting through my own items for resale or donation, I eventually created a better environment for the both of us.
After eight years, my husband eventually realized that he could also improve our lives by following suit. He now declutters his own things and helps me as well, just a bit every day. He is able to take my resale items to the resale shops - after I’ve cataloged them. He is able to take our unneeded items to the donation centre. He even finds people in our condo building who would like some of our larger items (still in great shape). When things leave our home, we rejoice!
Our home is now so much more pleasant in its simplicity, although we have not yet finished our refinements. Our possessions will be much less of a burden on our families when the time comes.
I’m so glad we are close to having a home that’s perfect for us…and that we’re still around to enjoy it.
I absolutely love this and thank you so much for sharing it!
Melissa C. that is a beautiful and inspirational post. I'm glad you're still around too and that you shared that with us.
I'm also disabled and really appreciated the acknowledgment. When people say "well just..." they aren't aware of how many spoons that "just" takes, because they've never counted spoons (disabled units of energy and pain). And yet, just because we can't do everything doesn't mean we can't do something.
Who comes over to your house and asks to see the gift they gave you??? That's weird and rude!!!😱🤦😜 People find excuses to not do things. I loved all of your points 👏👏👏. You definitely don't need more storage space or containers if you get rid of the stuff you no longer need, want or like.
"Struggle does not equal defeat." Thank you for acknowledging the struggles, and helping reframe.
I'm happy it resonated 🥰
Re: not having enough money to get rid of clutter. Look at wealthier people's houses. They're not cluttered. You don't build wealth by keeping clutter. Your same space will look nicer and richer when it's not cluttered. The abundance of stuff all around just makes you look poor.
I agree!
I would kind of agree but I disagree with calling it ‘rich’ and ‘poor’. In my eyes sophisticated is a better word to use.
I think cluttering make you poorer.
When I started decluttering, I threw away so many things ! It was shocking because I was poor and spent years in poverty. I had spent so much money on useless things that made my situation worse.
Now I spend my money very carefully, thinking : « Do I really like this item ? Will it really be useful ? Where am I going to put it ? »
I still spend too much, but not on physical items that will clutter my home, so it’s way easier to curb and my daily life has improved a lot.
I think some poor people like I was are compulsive spenders because you never have money, so when you finally get some you need to release the frustration and anxiety. Also, buying in bulk because it’s cheaper but you don’t really need it, you just think you will need it some time later and won’t be able to afford it when the time comes so you have to do it now.
Cluttering makes me crazy. Literally... Stuff around me gives me anxiety and doesn't make me feel safer or better about the future
@@Laure__Line I mostly agree on what you said and I can relate on that,and I am on the process of realizing that less is more,that's why I am binge watching Mia's and others like for the guide...🙂
If you're paying for space to store stuff you're not using; this one is an eye opener!.
The hardest things to declutter for me are the "fantasy self" or "past self" staff that doesn't fit my current self. Even when I know that I'm probably not going back to that hobby or to that style any more it's still hard to let it go.
mmm, that's a challenging one- those "identity" level items
@@MiaDanielle do you have any advice on this?
@@taniawhale7572. I didn't understand your question. But to help you out better, since this content creator didn't help u, there's a channel called the "minimal mom" she talks on this subject and by listening to her or looking back at older videos you will get loads of tips and tricks!
My fantasy self is a hard taskmaster and won’t let go of of its grip on my life ! 🤕
Oh gosh yes. My fantasy self is so glamorous and has such an exciting life.
Our family noticed how dynamically much better our adhd kids did once we decluttered and simplified. Cleaner takes so incredibly less time and background stress is so much less. We kept what we love most and use regularly, and love our home again, we haven't missed anything we got rid of, and going on progress over last 2 years: Started early in covid.
I have more joy, more time, more sense of accomplishment, more freedom, and am saving $ since starting this journey.
My best friend when I was growing up had a plaque in her kitchen that read, "This house is clean enough to be healthy, but dirty enough to be happy." I always hated that sign. There is no reason a home can't be both clean and happy. Minimizing possessions helps you get there.
My mom had the same plaque near the kitchen doorway.
And, like you, I hated it.
I always looked at that saying as a personal leniency pass or an excuse to be a slob.
Disclaimer:
Mom was not a slob! Lol! 😂
But she did have a great sense of humor so she probably just thought it was funny.
I was never a fan of those either
To me, that sign always just meant letting go of perfection and allowing kids to make a mess and be kids.
I love how you said struggle is not defeat. As satisfying as it is to make a big speedrun declutter, honestly most of us aren’t going to be able to do that, and small, consistent declutters are going to build the habits we want long-term. And I am a person with a triple threat: ADHD, anxiety, and sometimes depression. Decluttering is slow going around here! But even with the small changes I’ve made, I see a difference in my mental health. I can find where I put things because there’s less places they can hide. I’m more relaxed in my space because I’m not having to weave around boxes or piles on the floor. I celebrate whatever I manage to get done, and I will get to the rest when I get to it. And for the rest of the fellow mentally ill folks out there: Your house might not ever be perfect, but it can be BETTER, so don’t give up.
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#13 for me was the same as giving away a gift, which also made it overwhelming. I guilted myself into keeping a lot, because "memories." I had to detach from the item and decide if it was a happy or sad memory. Sad memories were easier to let go of. For happy memories, it was harder, but I was able to say "This brought me happiness once. I don't use it. I don't need it. Someone else can experience that happiness now."
Also, at least for me, decluttering helped with the anxiety and depression. I don't see the progress I make, so to have a physical (and time) reminder has been amazing. If it used to take me two hours to clean a space and now it takes 30 min, that's a win I can see time and time again.
I am one of those people who are SUPER organized and a person that has no problem getting rid of things and doesn't hide things in my organized bins as you said. That would defeat the purpose for me. I hate clutter, everything has to be in its place.
I think you’re right. I’ve come to notice that my subconscious windbag is a incessant liar.
Seriously tho…I once heard that whenever we worry we’re going to need something we haven’t used in 20 years if we give it away, it’s because of our subconscious EGO.
That ego has been stewing in the fact that you got rid of that filthy bucket in the corner of the garage and won’t stop thinking about it. You’ve moved on with nary a thought but the ego has been looking intently for a way to use that bucket and when it finds one (and it will) it will come to the surface of your mind and say
“I KNEW IT!! Now we’ll have to use something else when we sure could’ve used that bucket!”
But the takeaway is that there’s always something else that will do the job!
A favorite old saying:
‘Use it up, wear it out, make it do…or do without.’
Haha I love this explanation 😆 and it's so true that our brains WILL find a "good" reason to hold onto things- even if we aren't using them
"My subconscious windbag is an incessant liar" Omg I love this so much! Mine too!
Another tip I have, is to take a picture of something that's hard to let go of. And save the picture, and then it might b easier to let go of the physical clutter.
ADHD, low energy, and parenthood are 5000% easier with less stuff. Only 25% into the video and agreeing all the way.
I started Swedish Death Clean the year before I was 65. I have ME/CFS and FMG plus other health issues. I was not a clutter bug but I needed less stuff so I could cope better with my cleaning. It’s one of the best things I did. Just did it when I got the energy. Now we are downsizing I don’t feel overwhelmed about packing etc .
Thank you so much for sharing this! I think it'll be helpful to others who see it :)
I feel seen. All of these resonate. I'm in a generation raised by depression Era and you keep stuff, or you're labeled wasteful. And you clean your plate because of starving kids elsewhere 🙄. I never understood how they got full if I ate all of my food.
At 66 yo, I am shedding everything but the dog and some of the furniture. It feels good.
I'm so glad you feel seen :)
Decluttering, putting things out of sight, and keeping things tidy is a really big help for ADD. My house is much more calming now
The "Because I have kids" lie. I have seven. Decluttering and minimalism have been essential to keeping the household running and keeping my sanity.
Exactly 🙌
My parents hoarded. It didn't make any sense. When the time came to move, the new garage was basically filled with junk and garbage from the old garage. I was so angry lol!!! (It would be me trying to find privacy)
Agree 100% I have 11 and 3 grandbabies. Minimalism has kept me and my home sane.
How I interpret the "I'm to poor to declutter" thought is that those people are afraid to let go of things only to have to possibly buy it again in the future, it really scares them becuse that means spending money they don't have (ie fixed income). I think they could also associate that with not buying food in bulk to cut down on food clutter, which again, means spending more money in the long run. 🤔
This was spot on! You could have even titled this "I call BS!" After decluttering my kitchen and still making more progress, a friend told me that I was losing my personality in my home! I still think about this but realize it is probably an excuse for them not to declutter. I love your no nonsense approach. Keep it coming!
Aww thank you! :) Glad you like the content
Ha ha. I think you are right!
I feel this about my house sometimes but then I feel peace too sometimes
Personalities change as people grow as individuals. I’m not sure your friend understands this? I say kudos to you! And you can always point out that your space reflects who are now-and not who you were then.
When friends say something like this, it usually comes from a place of their own inner conflict.
They see you doing something impressive, they wonder if they should too, then they get a big spiky emotion (guilt, shame, defensiveness), then they attack to try to get away from it, and avoid the change.
All to say - that's a her thing, not a you thing. You don't have to pick up her big spiky emotion, or accept it as valid. You can keep doing what's healthy for you.
My main problem with decluttering and depression is not low energy (although that does make it harder), it's wanting to let go of EVERYTHING and knowing that I will regret some of it later. When I'm depressed, nothing "sparks joy", everything seems meaningless, my memory gets so bad that I don't feel sentimental about anything, and I can't see myself using anything in the future because I don't see a future. I usually avoid decluttering in this state because I know I can't think clearly and make reasonable decisions.
I totally agree that the process of decluttering is best with a clear head
Oh how I agree, especially point number 8. I have health problems that mean serious fatigue. I can’t stand for long and I cope because I declutter regularly. I have a donation basket on my closet floor. When it’s full my husband takes it to the charity. Garbage goes out nightly, and anything I can see that can be tossed out goes out in the trash before he takes it out. Most of my books are on kindle now. I use a minimalist wardrobe capsule and a streamlined makeup and skincare routine.
I'm so happy you could share this from the point of someone who has health issues and still makes it work ❤️
I have health issues & I have just started a bag to put things in to donate to charity. I'm actually getting eager to find things to put in it. Most of the things have gone out with the rubbish though. It has made me feel more positive.
#1 is the truth, I kept left over pipe and glue after fixing my broken pipes last winter, and have had a new busted pipe this winter that I will be using to fix it with. Furthermore, I am having trouble with the radiator in my car without the money to fix it, and gas to drive to the hardware store with no money to buy these supplies, so KEEPING this stuff lying around for a year is a blessing right now!
Eliminating baskets, bins, etc., worked. I've 40 yrs. of journals & art supplies to process, burn, use or donate - the last 3 boxes. I'm happier, have more space & time. Cleaning's easy. A friend mentioned how nice my home is. Best of All- my partner sees the benefits & is decluttering! TY for inspiring us!
That is awesome!
One thing I have noticed since I started working on some hormone issues, different times in my cycle are more productive than others.... some of my issues have gotten much better, but it moved to being very sentimental and anxious at other times.... I'm adjusting my routines in regards to clutter and giving myself a break when I'm ovulating. 🤷♀️
I try to do the same thing. It really does make a difference
Or the time of day when you’re older. Ten years ago,after the supper dishes were done,I would then do something in front of the television like laundry,mending,ironing,paper sorting,etc,etc. Now I know that NOTHING is going to happen after the supper dishes are done and that’s okay because I get twice as much done in the morning and early afternoon.🤷🏼♀️
Going back to basic living = Simplicity = Peace of Mind. = More Joy.
Thank you for sharing these. I too disagree with "because I have kids" and "because I have ADHD." I have 2 teenage boys now-1 with ADHD, and because I started the process before I became a single mom, they feel more calm and at home living in a smaller space because it is decluttered and minimal. The less to clean makes it nice too because we take an hour one day a week to all pitch in and then we can go off to do whatever else we'd like to be doing-definitely affords more time together.
Thanks for sharing from this point of view. I think it's great for others to see this :)
I'm looking forward to this. It's already showing the truth of that in the bathroom. I can't wait to get the other rooms minimalised 😃
I have ADHD and a bunch of kids and it definitely makes decluttering more difficult - but also more necessary!
I was very open and honest with my sweet hubby about my intentions to try to minimize our "inventory" ... all he said was "just don't get rid of everything!" I had only done the living room and kitchen and he was like "what's happening here? I love it!! Our home looks great - it seems more relaxing!!" He was just as surprised at the process as I was to his reaction!! :) We went through our clothes together the first time and he has now gone through his closet on his own two more times!
I love the way our home feels now - and I only started my adventure in May of this year. I'm not racing through the process but the more we get rid of - the more we want to tackle another room!! I love that I can make my minimalism way of life what works for me :)
Aww I love this! Great reaction by your hubby :)
I’m a mother of 2, with ADHD and physical limitations. One of my kids is special needs, they’re still very young. My sanity was on stake when I started decluttering 5 years ago. Since then I emptied 2 storages and went through an unimaginable amount of stuff, not only my own, but my kids’ (together with them), my parents and my deceased grandmother’s. I’m selling the last 4 boxes of stuff l have left. My life is serene & quiet finally and my living space gives me energy. My mental health returned to normal and anxiety the lowest it’s ever been. I want to encourage everyone that if I could do it, you can do it! Don’t wait until you reach breaking point!
I only wish I’d figured it out 10-20 years earlier that it was all my stuff that was stressing me out. For people with ADHD having a clutter free environment is a must.
I've been decluttering for a week now & I am actually starting to enjoy my stuff more. A lot of things I forgot I had. I've actually saved money by finding things that I use often but had bought & rebought because I forgot I had already bought them.
I've seen that happen so many times! People accidentally re-buying things 🤣
I try to be an open book . I try to look at different perspectives. Each person's lifestyle is different and unique to their personality type. I like to give grace for each person. I try to encourage people .
All very helpful ways to be!
Wow there were a lot of ‘I’s’ in your comment. 😂
Good for you! Everyone here is glad that you are so gracious.
I totally get the 'don't have money' obstacle. Maybe you're not aware of how many times we're told, 'If you miss it (or it's damaged, etc), just buy a new one' or 'if you can replace it for $20 when you need it, get rid of it' or something similar. I'm on disability and don't have that luxury. Nor do I have the capacity or help to sell things to make money. I've made slow progress but am always debating if I can afford to let something go...even though intellectually I understand your argument otherwise.
Exactly. And times may have changed, but back in the day you had to be able to do everything with what you had in your home. Staples. We all have flour, sugar, butter. Tools. I’d rather live like it’s 1870 and I need to make my own bread instead of driving to a store to buy it. It’s far less wasteful. Minimalism often comes across as incredibly wasteful to me.
I am loving this! I have lived my whole life collecting clutter! Lol is there any reason to have one silverware drawer, and TWO deep drawers crammed full of egg flippers, tongs and about 4 ladles! Lol
On a serous note, my mindset I guess comes from being raised by a mother that was raised up in the TN mountains dirt poor. Throwing away this/that/them is just wasteful! What if that one breaks, will you always have the $ to buy another one? Hard times are comin, you just wait….
Thanks so much for this!
I love the insights you're having here!! This can lead to so many incredible things 🥰
This video helped me to redefine clutter in my mind. We do get the impression of minimalism that we have to let go of our favorite things. This might be from others (my minimalist family members) pointing out our favorite things as clutter because they would see it as clutter. I just realized this. I definitely want to minimize my collections, but I want to keep what brings me joy 💖 Creating more space for joy is the point, right? ☺️
I’ve been a minimalist for years, and I just want to say that it’s really unfair of your family members to tell you what is and isn’t clutter among your possesions. Only you can be the judge of that. As long as you are honest with yourself, they need to mind their business!
@@miadromfors4578 thank you 💗 I really appreciate that!
I'm so glad to hear that you've come to this realization about your things! It's truly such a personal decision and it can feel really oppressive when you think you have to let go of everything you love ❤️
@@MiaDanielle thank you 💕
@@miadromfors4578 Bingo you hit the nail on the head ! I would never go into someone else's home and tell them what they should or shouldn't have and I certainly don't appreciate it when people do that to me. We are all individuals in our wants and needs.
Number 8 is my crazy reason. I have chronic pain. When I get those great days, I don't spend them with my family. I use as much as possible to do the cleaning, some of the declutering, and organizing so that things might get easier some day. I work on a different area every two months. My oldest daughter that doesn't live with us anymore, she tries her best to make time and help at least once a month.
My favorite quote is from Peter Walsh( organization king) who said “ After our house, our cars are usually our costliest items! So why are they both sitting out in the elements while dead aunt Ida’s stained linens are stacked in boxes in the garage?!?! 😵💫😵😩😖
🤣🤣🤣 i've never heard that before! Too funny
Oh, #17 is real, I have some things like this right now. I live in a small house and have several kids and a baby on the way, I save the good clothes from the older kids to pass down to the younger and I would not get enough money from selling them to rebuy in a year or two and it's not easy to buy kid clothes in my area, but I have to keep several boxes of clothes piled up in the corner of my bedroom because I dont have the storage for them right now. I keep it organized and tidy but I hope to have a place to store them someday that isn't out in my room.
Amen! This resonated with me on every level🥰I have gotten comments from well meaning friends that my home is too clean or perfect, OCD comes up a lot as a label! In all honesty, I rarely have to clean because we are organized and minimized in what we have and how we deal with our things. I have areas of my home I’d like to work on, but it’s different for everyone and maybe my level of organization is uncomfortable to some and not enough for others. However, it works for me and when it doesn’t, that’s when it’s time to declutter and repair my own systems of organization! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the subject, very well thought out video❤
Thank you so much for your feedback! Everyone is wired differently, and that's OK. It does sound like you've implemented systems that simplify and make your life easier 🙌 Not everyone will understand that. "Rarely have to clean" sounds less like a negative thing and more like a win to me 😉
these are all really great points. I've been decluttering slowly since last September. I have noticed I spend about 50% LESS TIME cleaning my home because it is so easy to keep up with it daily now. It's not as overwhelming and I don't shut down into an anxious person anymore. Chores used to get super backed up and by the end of the week I would be in an absolute panic. Now-a-days I'm sooo much more happy and I still have all the things I enjoy using, doing, looking at etc. etc.
Thanks for sharing!! I have had the same experience 💯
Totally agree about family members joining the movement. I declutter LOTS of my personal stuff. My dad helped me to bring stuff to the bin, including the donation one. Then, I decided to declutter our common entrance wardrobe. I would bring some items to my mom and dad and asked them if they need this item or they are OK with donating it. We got rid of so many things! Then, my mom decluttered her drawer. And my dad decluttered our garage. Then 1 decluttered our bathroom and kitchen with throwing away expired items. No one was against it. I also decluttered and organized our balcony. I put my suggestions for throwing away next to the balcony door and asked parents to find a place for items that they really need, and I will throw away the unneeded ones. I'm happy to say, it worked)
YES! I love ALL of this! Decluttering starts with one intentional step... it's not starting with the end result appearing within minutes.
My favorite of the whiners are the ones who say they don't have 15 minutes a day to declutter but they do have an hour to watch someone else declutter their stuff. I wish there was minimalism of whining. For those who want to hang onto things, ask yourself "if I sold this and gave the money to my favorite charity, wouldn't that feel better than stuffing it back into the closet?" That would be a good source of joy!
I think if you are less able bodied especially on some day, it can be very usefull to declutter and be somewhat organized as well. Having things you might need frequently for this and that meaningfully placed in box or basket together with other items needed for same activity and placed somewhere you can remember is a godsend when you need somebody else's assistance with bringing things to you ! Instead of having to think about someone else going through all your things searching for particular items, you can expect a quick and straightforward action that will be a blessing for both of you ! And even if you are very able-bodied make sure to have at least first aid items ready in this way!
This video really resonated with me…I struggle with clutter and depression. My house was out of control. I started with a big declutter of my room on a workday holiday and after that I did, and still do, a daily tidy of one thing. It has completely changed my home! I also have a habit tracker to keep myself accountable to the tidying things like making my bed everyday, unloading the dishwasher, doing laundry…the checking of the boxes is very satisfying and the things are becoming an enjoyable habit and not a chore.
I love this! So glad to hear of another person who has success implementing these things
Becoming a single mom was the catalyst for me pursuing minimalism as well. It has made a world of difference in my home. Thank you for this video!
That's awesome, thanks for sharing your experience as well :)
Terracycle drop off points allow you to recycle many things you thought you can’t and they even have paid boxes that mean you can recycle almost everything.
My husband always tells the story about when my father in law was out to sea with the Navy, and my mother in law had 6 children 12 years old to 3 years old. A neighbor called CPS on them because my MIL was struggling to keep her home tidy. The social worker shared with her how each kid really only needed 8 pairs of clothes, and then it would be easier to manage. So she did it. And that started her on a minimalist kick that really blessed her life (until her husband retired from the Navy, and he's a clutter bug).
i bartered time with other moms so i coukd declutter!
me: if i watch your kid for two hours this monday, will you take my kid next week?
friend: SURE!!
It was interesting for you to present the "permanence" piece. That one really resonated and not one I was aware of.
My problem is just the perpetual problem of not being able to make firm decisions, hust like I don't have 'favourite' colour, clothes etc.
I think decision-making is a practice, for sure
First time I had huge decluttering "event" a couple of years ago. I considered getting away from my big smart TV, because I wasnt using it regularly. But I decided to keep it. Now I'm glad to say that I do use it regularly because my "music" subscription that I really like also included online movies and series. And I also watch RUclips with it. Thats the only thing that I'm happy I didnt get away from. But I know for sure that I'm an electronics lover, so having this TV in my room brings me joy even if it's constantly off. Especially as this was especially profitable purchase and works perfectly even in 4+ years
I recently discovered your channel and it's hands down one of the best on this subject. You are amazing in what you do! I hope you can help many people, myself included. Also the quality of your videos is great and your knowledge on the subject is appreciated. Greetings from the Netherlands 😀👍🌺
Wow, thank you! Welcome to the channel and I appreciate your motivation :)
@@MiaDanielle thank you!
I have one person in my life that - when she comes over - looks around to see where the gifts she gave you over the years are.
If dhe doesnt see it, she asks about it.
She herself has kept everything she ever got, and she expects others to do the same.
Getting rid of a gift, she sees as hurting the giver.
Just keep them all in a shabby box 😅
Tell her that because you don’t want to hurt anyone by not being able to keep their gift,you’re only giving and receiving consumables. then give her examples: food,booze,fresh flowers,gift cards and cash.( you could also ask her,”isn’t it thought that counts?Because I did appreciate the thought but I can’t keep everything” or “wasn’t it mine to do what I wanted?”)
"it's not like you're getting that money back by holding on to it (the item) -so true
Sometimes we just have to put things into perspective!
When I was a single Mom of 4, i was very organized. Didnt need the extra chaos. I simply had systems in place. Now I notied how my adult children have good systems.
Oh yes. I can't understand people what put labels at rice and other stuff what u can see actually what is 😄😀🙈
Exactly. I use all clear containers for the reason of seeing exactly whats in it. Labeling is twice the work. I need form to follow function. Why make it harder when the point is to make it easier.
Because some of us have adhd and when the container is empty and washed, we forget what we need to stock up on. 🤣🤣🤣
For cooking enthusiasts: They need to be able to distinguish standard white rice from aroborio rice / wild rice / cous cous/ samp/ and so on.
Same with pasta. One party may only eat gluten free pasta and the other household member eats regular pasta. They look identical so a label is necessary.
Don’t forget when our teens begin to learn how to cook, it’s surprising how much they don’t know.
@@diahannrosai6950 I can understand if there is a necessaty for it. Yes, if there needs to be a differentiated because of look alike or allergies. However, my point is that normally you would not need to. What you are talking about is if there is a reason for it. People get anal and it surpasses the beauty of simplicity, it becomes stupid!
TRUE, less stuff less stuff management=more time. Stuff leaves me with more straightening up; finding stuff; putting stuff away & its just exhausting!!! I;m just starting and truthfully it is a trip but I know it will be well worth it; it is a never ending procedure but I'm in. Baby steps is key or you will get overwhelmed like I did. A little at a time.
Exactly!
Thanks a lot.
Hi Danielle, I have been decluttering since 2019, then I bring in more things, till this year 2022, I am still doing my decluttering, it's really fun. It something that I need to keep my mind busy.
I'm glad you're making the process fun!
So helpful! Thank you - I hold onto aspirational crafts projects that I don't have time to complete. I'm working on letting go of them! Just found your channel and I'm really enjoying it
Wonderful! Welcome :)
I have seen some folks that to me went WAY over minimalism sittin on the floor nothing in the room🤷🏻♀️ and I have seen a few houses that piles of crap everywhere 🙅🏻♀️ I just try to deciliter something daily either donate or dump! Not using I’m losing out of here! Good video thanks for info
Thanks for sharing!!
Completely agree with the importance of decluttering especially when you have kids. It really makes it easier. I think that people get mistaken by the single minimalist content creators that shws how they can live with so few things. Of cours that as a family we obviously own more than a single person but that's not the point. It's not about the number.
Appreciate this video very much. Hope this comment make sense.. english is not my firs language.
I think that's a great thing to point out that the expectations should be different for different living situations :)
Struggle does not equal defeat! WOW
Just found your channel.
Yes, having fewer distractions would be helpful for someone with ADHD. I will probably hyper-fixate on decluttering when the inspiration hits.
Also, please stop saying things like it’s a “little OCD” to label bins. Statements like that are insensitive and reductive - minimizes the debilitating symptoms that people who actually have OCD experience everyday.
I have found it 100% true that when I've given up items that I thought I couldn't, I've never thought longingly for them.
I continue to be surprised by that!
What a great observation to have Jennifer! Sometimes it's our mind and our limiting beliefs that hold us back.
I started this whole journey as a way to save money. The last "luxury" purchase i made that really opened my eyes to my trash was a Tamagotchi and i refuse to get rid of it. It sits right next to me on my bedside table as a constant reminder to myself not to buy anything else like it.
I've thrown away SO MUCH since buying that Tamagotchi that it continues to look more ridiculous and out of place as the weeks go on and i can't wait for the day when i am so confident in myself and my new habits and my savings that i can finally throw it away
I'm a new subscriber to your channel and have really been enjoying some of your tips that I have surprisingly never heard before. I say "surprisingly" because I'm in my 50's and have been on the decluttering/simplify/voluntary simplicity/tightwad gazette/minimalist/maximalist merry-go-round for quite some time. So I hope you take my words as encouragement to keep doing what you're doing, but maybe a bit more thoughtfully. Firstly, "If I can do it, anyone can!" is like the most dangerous dang sentiment in America right now. Not everyone is born with the same privilege or strife so each persons limits are different, and I can assure you there are so so so many people that were not born with boot straps or they lost them, so they certainly can't pull themselves up by those elusive boot straps. I can assure you I love writing in cursive and I find it far superior to any other note taking form, but I can also assure you my ADHD husband, whom is also left handed (because of course he is), absolutely cannot write in cursive unless he does it at the speed of a turtle...no matter how much he's practiced, and that's because he is actually different from me. He absolutely struggles with decluttering and organization. I love organizing, and I also enjoy decluttering (perhaps from being a military brat and moving frequently which I actually enjoyed!). I also have ADHD (it hasn't been called ADD in like 20 years btw!) and was not diagnosed until my 50's. Secondly, I find that so so many cleaning vloggers do not address the situation a lot of people (especially those of us with cptsd) get themselves into with buying too many things for their kids because they were mistreated or neglected themselves as children. I think when a lot of people say it's impossible to be clutter free with kids it's the people who didn't learn to do these things as kids. Maybe they were yelled at. In fact, I think you mention something similar to this in one of your blog posts. So I think implying that people are using their kids as excuses to not declutter is not accurate and doesn't address the situation many parents kind of "awaken" to when their eyes on materialism are opened. By then the kids are older and it becomes a lot more difficult to declutter with kids who can now use some logic. That is the video a lot of people need...how to deal with kids stuff when you have an 10 yo child who refuses to give up the giant kitchen in her room because that 10 yo is emotionally delayed, or your 16 yo has turned into a hoarder just like your husband because no one knows how to connect to each other, but mommy just went through a serious illness and has seen the light and how does she get the other people in her house to see the light? I mean that MIGHT have been a situation for a mother somewhere and I think that would make an EXCELLENT video, lol!!
You need to do a TED talk!
I enjoy making stuff which inevitably leads to having a lot of small items. I try to reduce that kind of clutter to what I call my hobby-room which helps.
Great video. My parents are clutterbugs, partially because of the "I might could use it in the future" mind set and partially because they are "collectors" books, magazines, knickknacks, gifts etc. I decided in highschool and college I didn't want to be overwhelmed with stuff just because it came into the house.
My goal is to have all my items be used and or loved and if I am saving it for future only keep what I have the space for such as books I am keeping for my future kids.
I have also been trying to get rid of single use items, particularly the type you use and toss. I have decluttered and transitioned my entire bedroom and hope it has laid the groundwork for when I move out and start forming/keeping my own household. I much rather buy something and wash it than throw it away just to get more. This feeds back into less clutter since I no longer have a stockpile of pads, cotton rounds, qtips etc in my cabinet.
I also now only have clothes I actually wear not the ones I've been hanging onto because they are still in fine condition. And two sets of sheet and just enough blankets for comfort in cold winter. Having some empty space in my storage feels great
That's awesome! It sounds like you're making some positive changes and moving away from the "collector" mindset of your parents
Your videos are very easy to listen to... You speak at a perfect speed. Thank you for sharing.
I have terrible ADHD, but I'm also autistic. My autistic brain craves order and structure. So I'm not going to give up trying!! I told a friend a few days ago how I long to have an orderly home and she literally said, "yeah right. I'll believe it when i see it." which really hurt my feelings. I love your idea of closing the door with a note saying don't leave this room until 1,2,3 is done. Any one know of other creators who talk about how to organize and declutter when ADHD gets in the way? I've found binge watching these videos helps keep me more focused.
I'm glad the videos help! I also have a free resource library that you can make use of to declutter that first room and spark the drive to keep moving forward: miadanielle.lpages.co/free-resource-library
@@MiaDanielle thank you so much!!
It takes time, to make time. ........ Wow! So simple, yet so impactful! I had not thought of it from that exact perspective. My "why" for decluttering would be to get to spend time with my family. So having a mantra, in the moment, saying "it takes time, to make time" I feel like that would keep you motivated to stay productive and that there is an end in sight.
I’m so glad it resonated!
Fantastic video. I wish everyone who struggles with too much stuff could watch this.
Thank you and I'm glad you found it valuable ❤️
I'm addicted to your videos! Thanks for being here 💝😁
Aww that is so sweet! Thanks for the motivation 🥰
Well said. Don’t ever think I’ll be a minimalist but moving to be more minimal for a few years. For me, the hump to clear is procrastination. When I force myself to do one small drawer or the floor of a closet, I always find things to remove. I just need to make the time to do what my heart and soul know will make life better and easier.
“…to do what my heart and soul know will make life better and easier.”
Thank you for that. ✊♥️
Just the video I've been searching for. I found this very motivational and i hope to learn to let go of my belongings.
You got this! 🙌
Mia I love your truth delivery - one of the most impactful thing you have said in another video was your definition of “limiting belief”. I don’t know if it touched my competitive side - but your right, if you can do it - then Mia so can I 😉. Also, I got an Alexa because I watched one of your videos in which you listed ways to make your life easier.
Being clutter free has actually helped me save money - it’s an organic way to stop wanting to keep buying stuff. After all I will have to find a home for it or replace something with a like item. It’s a great way to naturally stop consumerism.
I love this so much! And you 100% CAN do it. I'm so happy you shared this :)
Repurposing is something very useful. I dont buy pencil holders. I repurpose cans that dont have sharp edges by wrapping them in a favorite design paper. All crafts done in the kindergarden are using at least 70% of repurposed materials. A part of the Easter Bunny was a colored ffp2 mask.
Wow....you know me.This video has been so helpful. I have copied it and shall play it until I get it down to memory. Thank you so much.
I’m so glad it resonated! :)
My rules for decluttering are no home? No home in my house. I decluttered my kitchen and found more cupboard space. My organization skills have improved since I started decluttering. My husband has a bad habit of not putting things away. I told him everything must have a home. I give him regular tours of my kitchen so he knows where to find stuff. I get aggravated that he doesn't put things away. He was able to find it initially. He can find it to put it away. I am a busy bee and need less clutter and labels. My husband is also a busy bee. For those who don't understand... Clutterbug explains it.
I'm pretty sure I have ADHD and clutter drives me insane. The less clutter, the fewer distractions. I'm watching your videos for ideas as today I'm on a mission to continue my spring clean and declutter my office space. It's not rammed but it's a catch-all, and the only room in the house that has a few boxes permanently lying on the floor. I find everything you say is helpful in getting motivated, especially as a lot of what I'll be sorting through has great sentimental value which has been putting me off from tackling it.
I’m so glad you’re finding the channel motivating!
I like to keep my home very tidy, I am 5 months pregnant. I have a friend who struggles with keeping her house clutter free and tidy. She constantly says to me “you won’t be able to be tidy once you have kids”. To me it comes off as really negative and I don’t want to have that mindset. To me it just seems like it comes from a place of jealousy. Has anyone else dealt with comments like these?
I have had MANY friends who still had a tidy home with a couple of children,it was still who they were. It will be great when you prove her wrong!😅😂🤣
I can't even tell you the number of things people told me I "couldn't do" when I had kids and they were all wrong. It irritates me when people try to push things on you like that
Love it ❤️
Minimalist because I hate to clean
I have m.e. But I’m in desperate need in decluttering and I’m doing it and sharing my journey too. It’s hard… but it is possible 🥰 I struggle and feel like it’s going to take forever but I’m doing it bit by bit and I constantly remind myself that slow progress is better than no progress 😁
I love this and thank you so much for sharing it! "It's hard...but it is possible"
@@MiaDanielle 🥰🥰🥰 keeping positive 🥰
Energy has been a huge struggle for me and I've been working on it via having a goal to give away at least 1 thing every week. Most weeks its more than one, but having at least one as a goal helps it keep moving.
I keep a plastic bin on my porch where I put my giveaway items, I take a photo, shove it in the bin, and then post it on the local freebie group online. If for some reason the bin starts to fill, and folks aren't taking the items, I just take it to a thrift store.
Sounds like a solid system 🙂
Re: Waiting for people to be on board... It's not that I want the people in my house to declutter. It's that I want them to leave my emptied shelf empty and not stuff their own stuff in every nook and cranny. That's what makes my decluttering feel completely pointless.
I just found your channel & overall really like your advice. However, you need to acknowledge how classest it is that your first "workaround" for decluttering roadblocks (low energy, disability, lack of time) is paying someone else to do it. It really adds another excuse for people not to try out minimalism. "Minimalism is for rich people."
I just opened the video, saw titles of the chapters and it is my exact excuse list. Well, I gotta buckle up 😂
How did it go? Any new insights 🤗
@@MiaDanielle I have to say, my mom is one of the people who would remember something she gave me fifteen years ago and ask if I still have it 😂 it's great video overall, you are really on point with the list and I love your presentation style. Thank you, I enjoyed it a lot!
#1 and #4 are definitely my downfalls. I was cleaner and tidier when my kids were little.
Oh this is what I need to watch this. I have tried. But then things pile.
even if you have to throw stuff in the trash, what's the difference between it being there or in your home if it regardless is trash a cannot be used by anyone?
I have ADHD, and the less clutter the better! I am distractable enough without all the visual clutter! And decision fatigue is a real thing! The fewer things I have, the fewer choices I have, the fewer decisions I have to make. When everything has a home and everything resides in its home, nothing gets lost. I am certainly not going to remember where I put something if it doesn't go home!! Yeah, decluttering is an ADHD hack, not a hindrance!!
Exactly, that's how I see it too
I was of the school that would get rid of "it might come in useful sometime". But I moved into a new home and found that many of the things I had decluttered would be perfect in the new place so solve what I was trying to do and much better than the costly new items I was then forced to get. But the three van loads of just in case items I removed from my parents home really would never have found a use.
I do have a problem of "dumping" to landfill or taking to a charity shop to also put it on the skip because they don't know what to do with the items. Finding the new owner (for free on Freecycle) or at small or even decent return on Facebook Market place or at auction is involved (photos descriptions, testing etc) and if not careful you could end up paying to send the item because fees and postage costs exceed what was paid.
A friend remarked to me that when I moved and down sized my home I still used twice the space I needed because of the clutter. It was more true than normal because I had to clear my parents 3 bedroom home and my four bedroom home to a small bungalow and for the time scale it was quicker to box up and move than work out what to keep or how to find new homes for. Even after selling all the furniture and half the items from the cupboards there are still too many boxes to feel any gain has been made. Baby steps - get there eventually.
It does not help that I have been "given" a load more stuff because I am so "good" at finding home for things and selling them on.
You lost me at No 1. I save all the left over screws, nails, bits and pieces from any kits we receive. I have reused probably 50% to 60% of them on other repairs, craft projects, etc. I just used a chain from a light kit to lower my shower caddy so I don't have to reach up so far to put my shampoo, conditioner, etc in it.
On this note, I love Dana K. White's question of "would you know you had it?" That's the distinction for me. If I will remember the item when I could reuse it, and there's a good chance I'll use it in the next couple of years, yeah! It's worth keeping.
I think she was pretty clear that if you're actually using that stuff, it's not clutter!
ADHD here, the best thing we ever did was put things into totes, but label them clearly. That way we can’t see everything but can find it when needed
Great idea 👍
I used to get emotional and stressed and cry when I uncover things and feel haunted by a break up that I felt was my fault. The good thing is I feel I can clean now without getting emotions. I still get sentimental about his cards… I don’t throw them away… but I sometimes wonder if I should.
My husband of 30 years recently passed away. He kept every card he was given. He never looked at them, but he kept them. It was so painful to have to throw them all away because I knew he hadn’t ever looked at them again. Enjoy them for the time (a week?) then recycle. I’ve told my family not to give me any cards. I just want a phone call or a hug or a cup of coffee together.
My first time on your channel. This was a very interesting and informative video. I’ve heard people say that minimalism is pretentious or just a fad. I don’t agree at all. I think it’s just another excuse to keep living in a cluttered home.
Welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed the video 😊
Re sentimental stuff I don't need it as I have it in my head, in my memory which works for me. Just saying. Soon I'll be getting rid or photos; especially doubles, but that's down the road. Like i said, going down memory lane in my head is quite enough for me hence I will keep a couple of small trinkets like my mom's rings, just because. Knick knacks NO! will donate or sell. And trust me I am a shopaholic so this is not all that easy for me BTW. LOL
Do you have a video elaborating on using habit trackers to find out when your energy is higher?
I think I’m boarder line ocd 😂 I just got a ton of bins and made my own labels for my kitchen and bathroom 😅😅😅
Haha! If it brings you joy, don't declutter it 🤗
@@MiaDanielle yes! I love them and it totally works in our household.
Love your channel! ♥️