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This video was . . . helpful. But can you do a video on how to know if someone is gay/lesbian? I'm wondering if I am a lesbian, and I enjoyed your past videos on asexuality, bisexuality, the different types of sexual identities. I know the videos are for educational purposes, but I rather enjoy your content, and gives me a wider view of myself and the world around me in terms of mental and psychological health. And as a writer of dark fantasy (I'm trying to publish my first novel) learning about mental and psychological health is really making my writer stronger, and letting my own characters grow.
The internet raised me tbh...i learned english and a little bit of japanese and spanish from google translator my humor grew i start to become a little socail just for my parents to ruin it.
For all: Hey, I hope things are going well for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
@@TheAce0fAllTrades Hey, I hope things are going well for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
@@stefangrabowski67 Hey, I hope things are going well for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
Sometimes people who are depressed are actually the ones that makes other laugh a lot...It's not always about staying home and not wanting to interact with others.
I´m not sure if I should even tell this. But at school I´m not feeling okay. I talked for example today with a friend about well reason why I have a teddy bear with me. I feel lonely. His advice leave the bear at home because it makes others uncomfortable. This comment may be a mistake to write but well. I can always try.
Going to be honest... I just hate talking to people. Saying, "I'm fine" is a great way to end any conversation, at least from my experience. Talking doesn't help, if anything... just makes it worse. They act like they care, think they're being helpful... when they're not. Trying to make my issues seem puny, just by that... I want nothing to do with them. "It's in the past," exactly. The past is when I was most satisfied with my life, hence why I live in the past. The present and future, they're miserable.
Im sorry that you feel that way but, i passed through something similar a while ago and i realized how important was talking about things that bother you with someone else. I know that everyone is different but when I stopped talking about how i felt for 2 years it really, really caused me so much trouble. Its a very long story but if i say the most relevant things it can be resumed into me getting a void feeling and constantly thinking of myself being the chosen one by god to only serve to other people and trying to convince myself that my feelings didn't matter (bruh). If the people around you is shitty, its okay if you don't want to talk to them. Just try to find more people and try to socialize! Maybe you're also more of an introverted person and you prefer doing other kind of activities than social ones but please at least once in a month talk with someone about how you feel
For all: Hey, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
@@moonknight-ti5kp Hey, I hope things are going well for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
@@AnneBurns-pv6xc Hey, I hope things are going well for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
I once had a panick attack at school and my teacher told my dad about it and all he told me was "Just don't feel nervous." And he told me about how I made a teacher cry that day, since then whenever I have panick attacks I'd never tell my dad about it, and would instead I would cry either in the bathroom or wherever I can be alone or run to my older sister for comfort
@@jst_alienyou probably carry so much pressure as an older sibling I feel the same .I'm a top student on a scholarship and i feel that if I crumble then I'm weak
@@kiwiplum-iv8hp Being at the top of the class too? I have to wake up at 5, get back at 4, go to tuition and return at 7, so homework till 11, go to sleep at 11:30 and since homework can vary, i can sometimes go to sleep at 1 a.m. Dont think you are alone. Stuff is messed up and i swear that being on top of a class can be a disadvantage. We are stuck in life brother. Stuck in life
I've had 2 that I can remember (my dad says I've had at least one more I can't really recall) one was because a teacher made fun of something that I really don't want to talk about, and another cause of was partially the reason my team lost and the other team was basically making fun of me, my classmates getting angry at me and I thinking that I was more of a failure than usual, I'm 12 and know things like this is normal and I have to just have to keep my head up, I think I've had one over breaking a new phone and that's all I can remember, I don't really like sharing my emotions but since no one here knows me I might as well
I always said that “I’m fine” because whenever I said I’m not okay, my mom, my friends or other people always said that I have nothing to feel not okay. My mom always said to me that “all the things that you feel not okay is just your imagination so stop being childish who seek for attention.” and that always hurt me, but when I not telling her anything, she start complaining me for keep everything up to myself. I tired. No one can help me, so I tried my best to be with myself to help myself, but all they do is criticizing me. I always lied to myself that “I’m still okay. I’m still fine, so let’s cheer up to start a new day.”, but all they do were to discourage me, to make me feel useless. I often felt like I had no reason left to live, but I was too cowardly to die and I still had a lot of things to worry about. All the things that I still worry about are like a piece of wood that was holding me back from sinking into the lake of suicidal and trying to stay alive, but now that piece of wood is no longer able to hold me up. I’m not sure if the burden on my shoulders was actually too much that the piece of wood failed to support me or if it was came who was starting to let go. It was all overwhelming to the point where I was too tired of finding reasons to live and to keep fighting everyday.
i'm so sorry! your family members are cruel! of course there are reasons why you'd feel not ok. its not at all your imagination. it must be hard going through that with out having anyone to talk to. i am praying for you!
I've said "Mom,I don't feel emotionally okay" before on the brink of tears and she told me "cheer up man, no negativity here" and that makes me feel like there's no one I can go to anymore.
Bro we are all in this same predicament. They say we are not alone but we literally are cause we all go through suffering individually. I might not know you but God said to love thy neighbor and I hope you win your battle. We are all fighting this world that has been overtaken by demonic energy. I know many people don't see it so I'm pointing it out. Pray and keep your head up bro.
Please hang in there, people don't realize there's a problem until it's too late. The good thing is there *is* someone who will care, and parents probably don't know how to handle these things, they think it's age or a situation they can just end with a little positivity. Try to understand what your mom is trying to do and I know you'll find someone who can help you
0:56 you withdraw yourself from most situations and isolate 1:51 you sleep too much or not enough 2:35 you don’t enjoy happy events 3:15 you often have suicidal thoughts that can come out of nowhere 3:58 you tell yourself you’re fine even when you’re not 5:02 you don’t like who you are and let your insecurities get the best of you 6:11 you aren’t living your life, you’re surviving
Honestly I had all these signs two months ago but now I'm getting better and a few days ago I felt truly happy, I didn't even remember what actual happiness felt like before that.... Also this is proof,(Just to call out on my friends) I don't need therapy!😌 Edit:I need therapy
Thanks, this video saved my life. My two friends found me couple minutes after attempt, they asked me if everything is okey. First thing that came to my head, was to just say yes, but then this video came to my mind. My answer to them was "No, i'm not okey". We talk about my problem. Thanks to this i ended toxic relationship and changed my life. I've starter transitioning, i got new awsome friends and imprived relations with my family. Now i only cry from happines. Thank you.
Yes, that's very true tbh. This is so relevant 😢 Even I don’t trust anyone and myself, I don’t even know if anyone will understand me, my emotions, my feelings, so the simplest thing I can do is not tell anyone what I feel, what am I going through
Unlike most people here, I do like someone talking to me. I don't like openly talking about how I feel, but I enjoy company with people I feel comfort in, like friends or whatever. Even if I'm in a bad mood and never really show it, just being around them lets me forget the stuff back home even for just a bit.
in my case, releasing emotions makes my mental health even worse. when I share something with someone, i overthink about it all day and feel embarrassed. Keeping it to myself is much easier.
7 months departed from wife, seeing my Son is wonderful. the moment he’s gone I don’t feel much. The last 4 months, not even my closest friends text or anything. I know I’m away from my family because of things I’ve done but 7 months sober and away from all them is hard. I’ve only been invited out 4 times total
Ever since my experience in 4th grade, I've felt like nobody appreciated me when I always helped them, and whenever I needed them, they would always take the other's side. I never told anybody about this because I didn't trust anyone, and they have never been through the same things and wouldn't understand. Recently, I've finally found someone who I can trust, and who understands me, and I will never be as grateful as I am now. Currently, we are starting our journey to try and help others and overcome our depression. Stay strong everyone because in the end, if you kill yourself, you're just passing on the pain to others.
Timestamps!~ 0:56 You withdraw from most situations and isolate 1:49 You sleep too much or not enough 2:36 You don't enjoy happy events, even the big ones 3:15 You often have suicidal thoughts that can come out of nowhere 3:58 You tell yourself you're fine even when you're not 5:03 You don't like who you are and let your insecurities get the best of you 6:12 You aren't living your life, you're surviving
Its sad to see how many people saw this video, and hearing u describe basically my hole year makes me see that im not alone. Even now, as i write this, i thought of not doing it, because people would judge me. Thank you for your help. Hope everyone else who saw this video makes out of it. Good luck guys.
My parents taught this to me: Strong people don't cry. If you aren't fine, fake it until you are. Now, it's always about how I don't tell my parents anything, and how I'm always hiding away, cold to my family. I honestly relate to a lot of this, but for the people I care about, I need to be strong.
Yes... I know how it is. Rare are the ones who would understand. My parents would not understand lots of it. I often find it difficult to get through to others what is wrong, when it is wrong. Partially because I am not sure either...
Maybe it's just not cold family. Maybe they're protecting you from society, who is sure to judge when seeing your vulnerability. You can always talk with your family about how they make you feel. Maybe you can acomplish something.
To whom is going throughout tough times in life, always remember a stranger saying something kind to you. "You're perfect the way you are, and shall be loved by those who appear within your sad days." You should remember this quote,
Hey, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. Grief doesn't have to last forever. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
@@iswearitstheweed33 Hey, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
I don’t really have depression but I do have moments at happy events where I feel wrong cuz of the people. I felt insecure about my body too but I think I am over it now … especially in school I feel emotionally numb and I don’t know why but it got a little better now always remember that you are NOT ALONE! Thank you so much for this video you are so friendly and caring ❤
Do you think it's possible to heal from a traumatic experience if I never share it with anyone? Will it just haunt me for the rest of my life or will it go away eventually? I really want your opinion. I hope to hear from you.
@@kathyk5589 eventually they will go away. I myself have experienced this. I'm not comfortable sharing my feelings. And I experienced two traumatic events. They eventually fade away. Just have to accept it the way it is.
Really hope I can say “I’m fine” and truly mean it someday. As in actually feeling that way mentally/emotionally. 😌 Also, anyone else out there feeling the same or similar, hopefully things get better for you too. 🙏
that will happen if you try and actually be happy mentally and physically don't ever forget that have a great life and try to be happy cuz one day it might actually happen if you just try
I'm happy to say that I'm watching this video again after probably 1.5 years and last time i was experiencing most of the things mentioned here but this time it's barely any. I want to tell those who are experiencing these difficulties that don't lose hope, try step by step and yes every step matters. It might be just a single step for others but you know how challenging that step was for you and be proud of each step that you take. Appreciate even the smallest of efforts that you make in a day, even if it's just calling a friend or stepping out for a walk or even dressing up. Remember that 2 years from now, your younger self would be so proud of your future self. That feeling nobody will ever understand. Nobody is living your life so nobody will understand. Stop expecting anything from others , you came to the world alone and you'll leave the world alone, so accept that and be your own best friend and treat yourself like you're the best thing in the world and yes you are. Dont worry you'll get through this and you'll be very proud of yourself. ❤
for me i say im fine im good just because if i talk about it i feel like im being selfish i feel like all i want is attention so i just suffer alone but then i try to force myself to just feel okay
To be honest whenever I say I'm fine I want someone to see through the lie and talk to me but I hate making others worry about me and I just hate the feeling that I'm worrying everyone
As a young teenager struggling to keep on the surface, this helps a lot, and the other videos too. I've always been a highly sensitive person, and also a very anxious person, but it got worse around two years ago. There is one person who knows the whole story and how rough it's made simple tasks like doing homework or getting work done. She's the one who just kept her mouth shut and listened and only interrupted for clarification. She's one of my teachers. I was in a class that she hosted back in March where I did a project on my trauma from elementary school. I will never be able to thank her enough for listening and helping me get that done and through it, especially the day after a migraine, which I only get when I experience high levels of anxiety.
I lost a friend due to suicide yesterday, and it was the worst feeling ever. She refused to tell me she wasn't fine until about 5 minutes before she hung herself. Her goodbye was the most heartbreaking thing ever. I thought about doing it myself, but I saw this. Thank you. Love you bestie, see you in the afterlife ❤🕊
I am so, so sorry. Loosing a loved one (i count bestfriends as loved ones) to suicide must ne horrible. I personally have never had this happen, but don't do it. Just as you miss your friend, many people will miss you. Rest in peace to your friend. ❤
I am so sorry for your loss, this is truly heartbreaking. Losing someone due to suicide is probably one of the worst pains ever, I hope you get better soon, be strong, and Rest In Peace to your friend. ❤🕊
"... you're not living your life, you're just surviving." That last part hit me hard. I've been feeling numb for a while and has nothing to look forward to, I feel sad but idk why I can't cry.
Same, and now the only thing I am feeling aside from what feels like forced happyness, is anger, rage, hate, sadness, and just pure white nothing. Most of this comes from school as well which leads me to become detached from my learning, falling behind, and I fully loved school when I was younger (strange I know lol) but now I just want to leave, get to the end of it, tolerate my classmates just a little more just to fail, every week it's the same just different topics, and it doesn't help that when I do reach out when I'm at school I'm not actually helped like the counselors should be doing, I don't like getting help from them anymore because they just tell me to sit in a room where there's so many other kids because the counselor is 'busy' and when I was even younger they taught me how to keep it in, how to hide my true feelings and I'm at the point that when I do try to find my true feelings, they're just not there- or I'm breaking down in negative emotions. Whenever I genuinely feel happy or I at least think I am, I always stop to ask myself, am I actually happy right now? Or am I forcing it. I'm glad to be in therapy right now to work through everything, but I've been in and out of therapy with different therapists and counselors so much in my life that I can't help but think the same, I mean if I have to explain all over again to another person, why should I mention it in the first place? Luckily my teachers understand the pure stress and anxiety my classmates usually cause me throughout the day and I'm thankful for having friends that I think I can be ,what I believe is myself, around them, to have them genuinely cheer me up as far as I'm aware. But there is always at least once with every friend where I ask myself "am I going too far? Am I too mean? Too clingy? Too talkitive? Are they actually my friend? Do they truly care for me? Why would they want to be friends with me anyways? Am I too annoying?" And more-- when I do let my feelings out I would usually quickly shut it back in and 'shutdown' which is me ignoring my feelings and needs so I don't hinder everyone else... I usually draw to distract myself, and recently I've remembered reading is something I could do as well, but not only does it distract my anxiety and such but I end up not learning a thing becoming stressed because of that, and when I do become overwhelmed with anxiety or stress I fall asleep specifically when I'm in classes and they have us do assignments on the computer- I've been better about it but I have by far no where near a stable sleep schedule- And I'm sick and tired of people saying to just ignore it, or don't let words have power, or useless 'advice' like that- believe me I know it's what I already do because that's what I've been told to do since before I was 7, trust me, I'm GREAT at hiding my true feelings that not even I can tell anymore if I'm even HAPPY- Sorry for going on a rant- needed to get it out of my system, if you actually read to this point uh, thanks Ig- here- have a cookie? 🍪... Bye-
I've balled through this entire video because this is me 100% and right down to every fuzzing detail. I'm relieved in a sense but torn in many others, I though I was doing what I needed to but this proves to me that I am lost in life and have no direction now. Always looking ahead to a better reality and not living in the one I'm currently in. Damn this hits me hard soo effin hard.
2:48 made me burst into tears. I've been lost in my own emotions for months now if not years. I do not know what I am feeling if anything at all, I feel like every single thing I say about how I feel to others is a lie. Thank you Psych2Go for making this kind of content available to so many people, your whole team is absolutely amazing for doing this.
Hey there Dorotea, it's okay. If you know what you say is not a lie, then you just need to slowly get comfortable with speaking your truth. Please take care :)
Last christmas felt like a normal day and i even cried so i say that i feel you and hope all this stress ends soon...its nice to talk to someone about how i feel 😌
I’m guilty of the “I’m fine” even when I’m not. My work is stressful and yes, I do always look forward to the weekend. What helps me is seeing my work best friends whenever I go to the office. We’re all on the same floor and one of them is also on my team. We always have great times together and it’s helped me a lot in looking forward to getting through the day
I've always been afraid to talk to anyone about my problems. It always seemed like they'd say, "Well I've been though worse." Or " You have it so easy."
Yeah, I feel at lost for words when they say something like "Oh, I have it worse" or something because it makes me feel that I'm just too sensitive, but at the same time I don't feel heard.
Yes, there are in fact some people that have it worse than you but that doesn't mean your problems don't matter anymore even if it's not much compared to others youre problem is still there and needs to be taken care of. And if you look for someone to listen to you and don't say I have it worse. I think I'm a good listener if any of you feel comfortable we can talk. :)
Hey dude. I can actually understand how that feels. After watching this video, I have realized that I am not fine. For example, I am probably emotionally numb. I overthink. I only look at my bad sides. About the overthinking thing, I have been thinking more philosophical thoughts than ever. As an atheist, I am constantly trying to comprehend what comes after death. And what I think at most times about that is simply nothing. There would be nothing afterwards. But it would not be boring or anything since my brain would not work. By that logic, I have thought about suicide. I swear, I am literally 13 years olds. I have not experienced anything worth while with my life. I have spent most of my life alive spent in what I would describe as a prison, no simply coming back home on my own, to do my homework on my own only to repeat the same pattern every darn day. And after all that, I have practically said none of that to a friend or family member. It is easier for me to write this as a reply to a stranger’s comment. I instead am afraid of what their reaction would be. Most of my friends live in different countries having met them by friends who moved. At school, I have basically 1 friend. And I feel like we are loosing touch. When it comes to my parents, I feel like they think that I am some sort of super man with no flaws. I mean, I spent a year trying to convince to my parents that I need to lose weight so I should eat less. So to sum it all up, I am not fine and I have no one to talk to. I hope that you are doing ok by the way.
Everyone who watched or clicked this video didn’t do it for fun they just got thinking one night out some stuff together then made sure by watching this or this proves their suspicion
I've known that I'm not fine for several years i just don't have money for therapy and too much goes wrong in my life all the time for me to fix it myself so I've just accepted that i have to live in a constant state of not fine i just clicked the vid bc i wanted to see how many of the 7 applied to me
My schedule rn: Wake up, Look at my teary swelled eyes, Get ready, Go to school, Work, Cry from some stress, Get headaches, Sudden wave of sadness, Go home, Cry, Look at my phone, Take a walk, Chores/ work, Go to sleep, Contemplate either I should commit or not, Quietly sob, Pass out while crying, Repeat
This is a good video that helps. As a man with a family to support It hit me hard to hear that we are just surviving and realise it's true. I also see why others would say that talking about it doesn't help because the people we had talked to would not. Listen and instead judge and point out my mistakes but not offer a solution. I know as a grown man I have to figure that out myself but I need help.
When I told a person I really liked that I was low…it was the biggest mistake ever. Most people respond with “that’s too bad” or “get a therapist.” In this world you either realize no one is going to save you and do something about it yourself or keep living the same life keeping you low based on my environment. This is why I will always support people. Wishing everyone the best.
There are people who I care about and want to help but I can't physically due to distance, and urge them to seek proper or professional help, but they don't seem to want to help themselves and it sucks, because I care about them so much but it's sorta like they won't let me help them or help themselves. I sometimes wonder if I was there in person if I could help more
I always say I. fine because like if I say oh I'm not fine then everyone comes near to me and stas oh let me get someone to you and I feel overwhelmed when there's a lot of noise and I just always fell like I'm a burden because most the time when I ask my friends they just ussaly ignore me I ussaly have to say it about 5 or 10 times for them to actually hear me it started when I came to england I was 4 and that change in my life affected how I felt I couldn't keep in touch with my dad witch really ruined me at first I loved being in england I loved my new school and I love being there but then bully's started coming and I had to move schools I really don't like it there because there are even more bully's their ones even was my first ever friend he said he was going to vote to the school council for them to kick me out and he did much more I always tell other people really positive stuff and help them whenever their hurt but no one seems to notice me and just notice other people who are just standing there doing nothing I always ignore the feeling I get when people ignore me tho I'm sure it only for now ittl probably change when I'm maybe 10 or 12 all I know is that I'm fine
It doesn’t make sense, when I say I’m fine, they would give me worried looks or try to get answers on how I’m feeling. But if I do say how I’m feeling, they say “you aren’t the main character” or something like that. Sometimes I wish I was the main character.
My is i dont speak up to much has happened in the few years i been alive i was born life was decent my mom was in jail my dad left me i had my grandpa he made me love my life my dad came back in my my life i was abused from 9 years until it stopped my mom was out of jail and i got a baby brother but because all the abuse i basically let my mom kidnap me and bring me to new york my contact with my grandpa was almost completely lost it was still ok they about a year later he died to cancer thats when my suicide thoughts started i was forced to go back to my dad luckily he changed he didnt abuse me anymore but i ended up isolating myself i would only leave my room when my cousins came over and they didnt very oftenly school started 8 got stressed then i started getting close to no sleep about 2-3 hours every day i was insecure amd i basically made it a reflex to tell everyone i was doing amazing
the survival part really hit me after having alot of mental issues i just feel like iam going through life and not enjoying life im turning 16 month later plus suicidal thoughts really bother me this video is really helpful for me
There are actually people who are so isolated and they don’t have anybody who’d ask them “how are you?” around them; they don’t even have a chance to say “I’m fine”. More and more people are feeling so lost and alone in this sad & fake world. I love this channel and the contents of the videos. The illustrations are so cute and entertaining as well. 😊
Very well said, technology is a poison to our soul, people are getting alone and segregated due to social media, etc. It's seem that normal human interaction is a hard task these days....may God make the sun shine again after this dark clouds we are in now.
From my experience, talking to parents ends up in 2 situations: 1. They comfort you and keep it a secret that only they know 2. They share it at a family meeting/friend meeting, making you embarrassed Saying “im fine” just makes life easier
I might be depressed, emotionally unwell, a lot of fake friends which make depression worse, but i'll try to help others to not go the same path as me in any way i can...
Me fr. I don't have any loved ones who can understand me, I have tried telling my only best friend and family but they didn't take any action. I want to be a musician but I don't have any support in thag either. I am always forced to do stuff that others enjoy. I am left alone.
@@swastik3291 get a temporary side job, move out, make new friends (make sure that they are not fake friends) think of your song that might be inspired from others, go to college, make music (DO NOT POST IT ON TIKTOK!), post it on youtube, if it goes viral, you can make similiar songs to the one you just made... Btw the reasone why you should not post it on tiktok is because 1 thing can go viral and the rest will not be viral, and you are not left alone, there will be someone who will understand you, never give up your hopes (◠‿◕)
As a kid i have this i hold my tears,i keep my fake smile, explain my self why i do something bad. I just want peace and joy,but i always say to my mom or my diary,im too shy to do an good thing idk why,i just speak with my diary in school...
This made me breakdown at 2am and i want to talk to somebody and i do have friends but i dont want to bother them. I have 2 very close friends but they usually ignore the things i say, and i just ignore it too. And i felt somewhat at ease when i watched the whole video so thanks for this.
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@@goldensolntse Hey, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
@@JalapenoCat1933 Hey, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
Ive had depression for a while. This video is definitely explaining what depression is. In my opinion this is the worst its gotten so far. It is definitely difficult. The isolation is definitely a big one. The emotional numbness is somewhat relatable. Its not an easy situation. But Im gaining the courage to talk to people about it.
I don't trust people to say "I'm not fine", but luckily - after 15 years looking for - I found a great psychologist, which I trust and feel safe to say it. I don't feel like talking to regular people, but finding therapy was the best escape
I'm saving up to afford a therapy and just wanted to check if it actually helped you and how soon did you felt changes? I don't have anyone who could help me out, maybe you can recommend anyone who is doing online therapy? Is online therapy effective?
@@Ldr1999 you can check description box in their videos their are some links maybe that can help you or if you can't tell anything to parents you can try finding out a counsellor maybe in your school or any psychologist (teacher teaching there) just telling what I am trying maybe it can helpful for you, takee caree :)
“You don’t know what you’re feeling, because there doesn’t seem to be a strong emotion” this sums me up so well. Sometimes people ask me “are you happy?” And then I say “idk” and they respond with “are you sad then?” And then I say “idk” again because I just really don’t know. I have moments with my close friends where I feel at ease and other moments where I’m more stressed, but I don’t know if I would describe myself as either happy or sad
In my case, half of the time I'm having explosive panic attacks because of the stupidest things, leading to suicidal thoughts in most of the occasions. The other half of my time I'm some kind of happy, but deep inside I know I'm just waiting for the next panic attack. And I'm also only "surviving"
Honestly, I'm really grateful that I didn't commit suicide. I've been over thinking and struggling with school lately even if I'm at a really young age. I tried talking to a friend to try and clear up my mind. But she ignored me. Hearing this really made me cry and i almost had all of these signs because I've been thru so much in life. I've never tried to expressed it to my love ones. Telling myself I'm not ok really makes me insecure about it. Even if my love ones told me i could talk about it with them. I still have a fear of how they might react. And i still don't know why. Thinking I'm not the only one going thru this makes me feel like I'm not alone. Thank you for making this video and this is the reason why i subscribe to you.
"Your not living your life, you're surviving" that hit me hard. I was surviving for 5 years. I just existed barely making it day to day. I'm glad I'm finally past all that. And actually enjoying life
@@Theres104DaysOfSummerVacation listen fam I hate to sound rude here, but I do. A little too much sometimes. It's not the guaranteed fix, it took a lot of therapy to get me here today.
I, a suicide survivor, can confirm that this can in some cases make things worse. I would always say that I’m fine to either convince myself that my feelings weren’t accurate or important or I would tell others that because I didn’t want to make my friends and family worry. Trust me when I say it’s ok to speak up, and if anyone can’t, I will ALWAYS be here for you. Edit: I was diagnosed with GAD (generalized anxiety disorder), PTSD (Post traumatic stress disorder), ADHD (Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder), depression, and there is a chance that I have genetically passed down bipolar from my parents. I have been skipping entire meals day after day and neglecting my physical and mental health. I started thinking that I wasn’t good enough for my friends and people I have dated, I thought I needed to change myself into someone I wasn’t and because of that I have trouble deciding who I am as a person and who I actually want to be to begin with. I strongly encourage anyone that is going through what I am going through to seek help because all of these things lead to me doing some pretty awful things that I regret.
I wish someone really was here for me. I'm a 58yr old woman all alone. I don't care when God takes me. I don't feel anything anymore. My only Son was killed in a car accident 17 years ago. He was 21. He was the kindest human being to everyone he met. The silence hurts my head. I'm glad you survived.
@@crystalmeier6579 Please don't give up, for the sake of yourself and the sake of others. The people you cared for that have passed on would have wanted you to keep going and you should too. I believe in you.
@@crystalmeier6579 I remember one guy, whose wife and little daughter died in a car accident, he was so damn low, he was surviving, not living. He worked and did nothing but work. One day, he saw a RUclipsr who is a male kindergarten teacher, and he saw something, something that made a spark in his soul, and now, he has adopted a girl and wants to give her happiness. All I'm trying to say is you never know when that spark will happen and it will happen when you least expect it. I know, it's been 17 years for you, it's a long time indeed, but you shouldn't give up, because time is just time. Prove your son, who's in the better place now, that you're a strong woman, I know that he doesn't want you to leave yet and he will never want that, but he'll feel proud (actually he already does) when he will find out that such a strong woman raised him, that such a strong woman got through that pain and kept going. I almost know what you're going through, because I was suicidal as well, but I never lost someone yet thank God, but I was going through that one year, and you 17 years, I can't imagine how you kept that long, but your son and I wish you to keep going. Idk if that will help, but maybe you can go to groups of people who have also lost loved ones and speak out, talk to them, that may help you. I'm an atheist, but may God bless you, because if he doesn't exist for me, he exist for the people who believe in him!
tbh , watching this video i cried heeelp, i knew that im broken human , also talking with someone wont helping even if i dont have anyone like at all , its really comfortable video for me with soft voice , i dont know why and i can say it with words.
I felt myself crying as this mentioned alot of things I've experienced. I really hope everyone who is struggling can see this. This is amazing, thank you
Roses are red. I have a phone. Nobody texts me. Forever alone. I like being alone. But have self destructive behaviors that push people away. This list hit closer to home than I thought.
I hope this reply to your comment can count as a text 🤗 I like being alone too. But eventually it does get lonely. I suppose we're alone... but we're alone, together. That kinda makes me feel better. I hope it makes you feel better too.
Telling yourself you are fine gets you through the day. It may get you through the week, or the month, or the year, and thats good enough for me. Being able to function is good enough
This is my life in a nut shell. I can smile & pretend to be "happy" even when I'm not. I got very good at surviving & hiding my pain. I say "I'm OK" cause I know people typically don't care.
for someone who reads this. Remember, you're important. Even if you don't feel it, there are people who surely care about you and love you. Even I as a stranger from the internet, i still love you, no matter what person you are. Don't give up, there is still hope for you my friend! You can get through it, even if you don't think so. As said in the video you will be glad that you're alive after. Love from a stranger on youtube that cares to much about people!
I genuine cried in the middle of this video realizing that I’m not ok and need help even though I’ve tried to reach out to my parents and they don’t care like for example one time my parents went through my phone and found out I was suicidal and then my dad beat me for it instead of trying to comfort me so I never opened up to him again
I’ve been surviving life as an ICU tech. The job is so stressful and the other things going on in my life make it harder to cope with my job. I always wait for my day off. I strive to not be at work because home is where I can safely wallow in my feelings. I’ve had to do a lit of soul searching to figure out who I want to be. I’m finally becoming who I want to be but I still deal with so much stress and self doubt.
And they say "school is important" yes it is, but y'all don't even want to help and make us over work w school, school just making me having suicidal thoughts.
I think the biggest setback is not wanting to become a to burden others. The idea is that becoming an inconvenience will only drive people away; which would be counterproductive if dealing with chronic loneliness. People want to be around positivity, not negativity. Therefore, people put on a mask. I know from experience.
Here is my advice, be yourself. if a lot of people end up driven away then you wouldn’t of wasted time trying to be friends with them. this filtering will hopefully help you find people you truly connect with rejection kinda sucks though
This channel is what i need. Not all the tips and objectives to feel better work for me. I've been soft-depressed (if this is a term) for 3 years and now i'm very down. I'm close to summer and i'm feeling great but there's always that sad feeling. I have experienced many many bad things like bullies in school or even girls who were rejectinf me and after taking the opportunity to insult me. As a boy i learnead how to deal with this things but they remind me my actual life bad things. I have a serius problem with loneliness: after finding friends for weeks tge don't respond to my calls. They remember that i was there the whole time after struggling themselves at loneliness. I will never live a happy Journey but i can always upgrade my state of life. people say always: ignore them; but i'm the one who's ignored. Now i'm crying. 😔
@@kallousbr thats not good :/ but all you can do is be there and keep checking in with them and hopefully when they're ready they will talk to you. They are very lucky to have somone like you in their life x
I’m not depressed, I’m just anxious and exhausted. I need to be left alone at the moment so I can enjoy myself and my work (which is also my passion). Thank you very much.
Thanks for helping out and i really cried after this because it solved all of my problems so thank you really really much and i love your content you might just be our social media therapist
i’ve hid behind the saying of “i’m fine” for so long while I was hurting. I love your chanel so much! can you do more about self harm? thank you for your amazing work
"-They're there to support you" No. _I_ am there to support them _I_ am the one helping them. Who needs help when i can cover it up by helping others with their needs? I've always been the therapist. For my parents, family members, friends, and even strangers. I don't need to ask for help. I don't ever ask for things that might help. I'm okay with just being there, a reusable person who can help you at any time and is always on standby for you, I can't let myself be the opposite, even if i get broken or not, I don't care. I'm fine, I don't need help.
You've honestly saved me. It was you who made me realize I'm not fine. It was you who convinced me to ask my parents for help. I'm seeing a counselor and I think I'm getting what I need. You guided me and helped me understand. You saved me, I hope you always realize you're a hero❤
@@Marina_7 I'm glad you wanna try. First of all, the counselors are patient. They make sure you feel comfortable with them. An little by little they will help and guide you to live better. I hope you do try. It has helped a lot. They do care although it may seem like just a job. I'm proud of you too buddy😊
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We want you to know that it’s okay to say: “I’m not fine” when you’re feeling low. For some, it may be hard to recognize they feel this way. So, to help you recognize what you’re feeling, here are seven signs you’re not actually ‘fine’. If you find this video helpful, please share it to others! Watch this video next: How To Get Help Even If You Don't Want to ruclips.net/video/wEmBSt3BGGI/видео.html
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When people ask how are you I often say I'm fine 😔😢💔
I don't think anyone cares what I feel like, I mean why should they 🤷🏻♀️ im just like the seven billion other mfs here.
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This video was . . . helpful. But can you do a video on how to know if someone is gay/lesbian? I'm wondering if I am a lesbian, and I enjoyed your past videos on asexuality, bisexuality, the different types of sexual identities. I know the videos are for educational purposes, but I rather enjoy your content, and gives me a wider view of myself and the world around me in terms of mental and psychological health. And as a writer of dark fantasy (I'm trying to publish my first novel) learning about mental and psychological health is really making my writer stronger, and letting my own characters grow.
"You aren't living your life, you're surviving"
That cut deeper than I expected.
I understand this sense so hard....
Story of my life
I've felt for the longest time now, that I'm not even living anymore, just existing and that's it.
I felt it cut like a razor and it'd true I am surviving each day and waiting to go to sleep this video really showed me , but idk how to correct it
I felt a sense of relief knowing, I didn't come up with that phrase
“It’s all because of your phone!”
- My mom, probably
true
Sad but true
bro i swear were in a simulation, aint no way everyone mom also says that (yes my mom says this if you were going to ask)
The internet raised me tbh...i learned english and a little bit of japanese and spanish from google translator my humor grew i start to become a little socail just for my parents to ruin it.
- Every mom, probably :)
Saying " im fine " with a smile is alot harder than expected.
It becomes second nature. I wonder if anyone is really “fine”.
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Hey, I hope things are going well for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
@@TheAce0fAllTrades Hey, I hope things are going well for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
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@@stefangrabowski67 Hey, I hope things are going well for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
Sometimes people who are depressed are actually the ones that makes other laugh a lot...It's not always about staying home and not wanting to interact with others.
Literally me
Its that desire to save someone from knowing that deep darkness you are in
Some people love giving others what they cannot have.
That’s me *Fake, forced smile*
Trueeeee
People can be so
quiet about their pain,
that you forget they
are hurting That is
why it is so important
to always be kind.
Preach
so true
Kindness has been used to hurt people as well.
Most of the time.
I´m not sure if I should even tell this. But at school I´m not feeling okay. I talked for example today with a friend about well reason why I have a teddy bear with me. I feel lonely. His advice leave the bear at home because it makes others uncomfortable. This comment may be a mistake to write but well. I can always try.
@@CEBph5997 so true
Going to be honest... I just hate talking to people. Saying, "I'm fine" is a great way to end any conversation, at least from my experience. Talking doesn't help, if anything... just makes it worse. They act like they care, think they're being helpful... when they're not. Trying to make my issues seem puny, just by that... I want nothing to do with them. "It's in the past," exactly. The past is when I was most satisfied with my life, hence why I live in the past. The present and future, they're miserable.
It usually ends most check ins for me. If im not physically breaking down im fine right? Right?
Im sorry that you feel that way but, i passed through something similar a while ago and i realized how important was talking about things that bother you with someone else. I know that everyone is different but when I stopped talking about how i felt for 2 years it really, really caused me so much trouble. Its a very long story but if i say the most relevant things it can be resumed into me getting a void feeling and constantly thinking of myself being the chosen one by god to only serve to other people and trying to convince myself that my feelings didn't matter (bruh). If the people around you is shitty, its okay if you don't want to talk to them. Just try to find more people and try to socialize! Maybe you're also more of an introverted person and you prefer doing other kind of activities than social ones but please at least once in a month talk with someone about how you feel
How’d you know what is there in the future
I understand completely! Sending some caring vibes your way 🥰!
The past can be quite miserable too
I showed my mom clear signs of depression and sat in my bed all day and my mom brushed it off and said im lazy.
horrible... I love you... it's going to be okay... sending a hug...
Invalidation is the worst.
For all:
Hey, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
@@moonknight-ti5kp Hey, I hope things are going well for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
@@AnneBurns-pv6xc Hey, I hope things are going well for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
I've fully given up on talking to anyone about my issues for the last like 15 years. "I'm fine" just shuts every attempt down and spares me the effort
I feel the same exact way
That’s why I only talk about my situation in detail with my psychiatrist.
What I really hate about having suicidal thoughts is that either you can't talk to it because people will take it too seriously or not at all
Not joking around brother but listen hanuman chalisa and every thing will be okay
If I ever say that people would punish me.
Just know that those thoughts are not 'you', that's the depression talking, such is the way this debilitating illness effects those thoughts.
Just think this is gods handy work to. If he wants to wreck you with depression he will.
@@Fire62Link I am alright brother
"if your feeling lonely, try and call a friend up"
me: *has no friends whatsoever"
So relatable!🤣 But I have ' friends' 😬
i talk to my pillow
I do have some Friends but they‘ll probably just think im making in up
I don't have friends as well:( I'm sorry for you
Have you ever tried making virtual friends? There are nice people out there, you just haven't found it yet
I once had a panick attack at school and my teacher told my dad about it and all he told me was "Just don't feel nervous." And he told me about how I made a teacher cry that day, since then whenever I have panick attacks I'd never tell my dad about it, and would instead I would cry either in the bathroom or wherever I can be alone or run to my older sister for comfort
Me too I swear same story now If I have a panic attack won’t tell my parents but the problem is that I m the older sibling
@@jst_alienyou probably carry so much pressure as an older sibling I feel the same .I'm a top student on a scholarship and i feel that if I crumble then I'm weak
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Being at the top of the class too? I have to wake up at 5, get back at 4, go to tuition and return at 7, so homework till 11, go to sleep at 11:30 and since homework can vary, i can sometimes go to sleep at 1 a.m.
Dont think you are alone. Stuff is messed up and i swear that being on top of a class can be a disadvantage. We are stuck in life brother. Stuck in life
I've had 2 that I can remember (my dad says I've had at least one more I can't really recall) one was because a teacher made fun of something that I really don't want to talk about, and another cause of was partially the reason my team lost and the other team was basically making fun of me, my classmates getting angry at me and I thinking that I was more of a failure than usual, I'm 12 and know things like this is normal and I have to just have to keep my head up, I think I've had one over breaking a new phone and that's all I can remember, I don't really like sharing my emotions but since no one here knows me I might as well
I always said that “I’m fine” because whenever I said I’m not okay, my mom, my friends or other people always said that I have nothing to feel not okay. My mom always said to me that “all the things that you feel not okay is just your imagination so stop being childish who seek for attention.” and that always hurt me, but when I not telling her anything, she start complaining me for keep everything up to myself. I tired. No one can help me, so I tried my best to be with myself to help myself, but all they do is criticizing me.
I always lied to myself that “I’m still okay. I’m still fine, so let’s cheer up to start a new day.”, but all they do were to discourage me, to make me feel useless. I often felt like I had no reason left to live, but I was too cowardly to die and I still had a lot of things to worry about. All the things that I still worry about are like a piece of wood that was holding me back from sinking into the lake of suicidal and trying to stay alive, but now that piece of wood is no longer able to hold me up.
I’m not sure if the burden on my shoulders was actually too much that the piece of wood failed to support me or if it was came who was starting to let go. It was all overwhelming to the point where I was too tired of finding reasons to live and to keep fighting everyday.
i'm so sorry! your family members are cruel! of course there are reasons why you'd feel not ok. its not at all your imagination. it must be hard going through that with out having anyone to talk to. i am praying for you!
Where does your mom live? I just wanna talk to her...
I've said "Mom,I don't feel emotionally okay" before on the brink of tears and she told me "cheer up man, no negativity here" and that makes me feel like there's no one I can go to anymore.
Bro we are all in this same predicament. They say we are not alone but we literally are cause we all go through suffering individually. I might not know you but God said to love thy neighbor and I hope you win your battle. We are all fighting this world that has been overtaken by demonic energy. I know many people don't see it so I'm pointing it out. Pray and keep your head up bro.
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Same
As if any one listens any way. They might hear you out. But not listen. Then it's like hey your fine right and then they blink out.
Please hang in there, people don't realize there's a problem until it's too late. The good thing is there *is* someone who will care, and parents probably don't know how to handle these things, they think it's age or a situation they can just end with a little positivity. Try to understand what your mom is trying to do and I know you'll find someone who can help you
0:56 you withdraw yourself from most situations and isolate
1:51 you sleep too much or not enough
2:35 you don’t enjoy happy events
3:15 you often have suicidal thoughts that can come out of nowhere
3:58 you tell yourself you’re fine even when you’re not
5:02 you don’t like who you are and let your insecurities get the best of you
6:11 you aren’t living your life, you’re surviving
I'm gonna pretend i don't have these signs-
@@MieAyam97 same pal same.
Honestly I had all these signs two months ago but now I'm getting better and a few days ago I felt truly happy, I didn't even remember what actual happiness felt like before that....
Also this is proof,(Just to call out on my friends) I don't need therapy!😌
Edit:I need therapy
I am attacked
i think my fam caught up with my isolation yesterday and asked me whats gg on
Thanks, this video saved my life. My two friends found me couple minutes after attempt, they asked me if everything is okey. First thing that came to my head, was to just say yes, but then this video came to my mind. My answer to them was "No, i'm not okey". We talk about my problem. Thanks to this i ended toxic relationship and changed my life. I've starter transitioning, i got new awsome friends and imprived relations with my family. Now i only cry from happines. Thank you.
I have all of these, I just won't talk to anyone about it because I don't trust anyone. I don't even trust my own self.
Your so relatable
Yes, that's very true tbh. This is so relevant 😢 Even I don’t trust anyone and myself, I don’t even know if anyone will understand me, my emotions, my feelings, so the simplest thing I can do is not tell anyone what I feel, what am I going through
Unlike most people here, I do like someone talking to me. I don't like openly talking about how I feel, but I enjoy company with people I feel comfort in, like friends or whatever. Even if I'm in a bad mood and never really show it, just being around them lets me forget the stuff back home even for just a bit.
Same
Same im shy gal so lot time like being talked at lol
Same but i actually show them my badmood and vent to them which is fine with them
@@darnellmiller1215 who hurt you?
@@darnellmiller1215 Lucky, at least you got a purpose in mind, haha
in my case, releasing emotions makes my mental health even worse. when I share something with someone, i overthink about it all day and feel embarrassed. Keeping it to myself is much easier.
Same,dude,same.
I understand u I feel the same🥺
Yes, it’s not the best to keep in mine but your not alone.
Yes I'm like that,too.
It's like when i share my emotions with people around me, i feel like they'll use them against me and see my weak side😔
it's easier, for now
7 months departed from wife, seeing my Son is wonderful. the moment he’s gone I don’t feel much. The last 4 months, not even my closest friends text or anything. I know I’m away from my family because of things I’ve done but 7 months sober and away from all them is hard. I’ve only been invited out 4 times total
Ever since my experience in 4th grade, I've felt like nobody appreciated me when I always helped them, and whenever I needed them, they would always take the other's side. I never told anybody about this because I didn't trust anyone, and they have never been through the same things and wouldn't understand. Recently, I've finally found someone who I can trust, and who understands me, and I will never be as grateful as I am now. Currently, we are starting our journey to try and help others and overcome our depression. Stay strong everyone because in the end, if you kill yourself, you're just passing on the pain to others.
Timestamps!~
0:56 You withdraw from most situations and isolate
1:49 You sleep too much or not enough
2:36 You don't enjoy happy events, even the big ones
3:15 You often have suicidal thoughts that can come out of nowhere
3:58 You tell yourself you're fine even when you're not
5:03 You don't like who you are and let your insecurities get the best of you
6:12 You aren't living your life, you're surviving
Tysm!
Thanks time traveler!
@@EmergencyGenecide nope
@@EmergencyGenecide I agree
You’re the best ty!
Sometimes, when someone says "I'm fine", the one wants somebody to look him/her in the eyes and say "Tell me the truth."
Yeah good luck finding that someone, cause i didn't
I know i do
Literally everyday
Yeah same, just a tip: you could also use “them” instead of “he/she” it’s more inclusive and easier to type :)
Nothing opens the flood gates faster than when someone close says that, or the variant "No, you're not." , or "How are you *really* feeling?"
Its always okay to say “im not okay”❤
We are here for you, they are here for you.
Ty
Its sad to see how many people saw this video, and hearing u describe basically my hole year makes me see that im not alone. Even now, as i write this, i thought of not doing it, because people would judge me. Thank you for your help. Hope everyone else who saw this video makes out of it. Good luck guys.
My parents taught this to me: Strong people don't cry. If you aren't fine, fake it until you are.
Now, it's always about how I don't tell my parents anything, and how I'm always hiding away, cold to my family. I honestly relate to a lot of this, but for the people I care about, I need to be strong.
The truly strong people are the ones who admit they have weaknesses and the ones who aren't afraid to show that they are hurting.
Yes... I know how it is. Rare are the ones who would understand. My parents would not understand lots of it.
I often find it difficult to get through to others what is wrong, when it is wrong. Partially because I am not sure either...
I CAN'T TELL YOU HOW HOW- TRUE THIS I- IS
Same, it’s a sucky mentality honestly
Maybe it's just not cold family. Maybe they're protecting you from society, who is sure to judge when seeing your vulnerability. You can always talk with your family about how they make you feel. Maybe you can acomplish something.
“Why are you so rude now a days? It’s because of your phone isn’t it?”
- my mom
Same. Can't talk to my family at all.
My parents don't think I have a reason to be depressed
@@filipposwiatowski5036 same with mine.
Yeah. I get that
me too. just because they were perfect Mary Sues when they went to school and achieve oh so perfect grades doesn’t mean I will too.
To whom is going throughout tough times in life, always remember a stranger saying something kind to you.
"You're perfect the way you are, and shall be loved by those who appear within your sad days." You should remember this quote,
These videos are helping me help my friend, I'm autistic and I find it hard to know what to do. Thank you for helping my friend! ❤
"These moments don't last forever."
Grief does. 💔
And that's OK sometimes
Hey, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. Grief doesn't have to last forever. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
yup
@@iswearitstheweed33 Hey, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
Bro, I literally started crying when I read that.
I saw this video and saw that I go through almost all of this and the line
"You aren't living your life you are surviving"
That hit hard
Hope everything is going ok for you. Is everything OK?
@@Fire62Link everything is ok, things have gotten better so far
Same. I've lost interest in a lot of things I used to be interested in. Just work, eat, sleep, repeat.
@@QuietStorm4964exactly like life just got so boring somehow..
Yup same , it is true
I don’t really have depression but I do have moments at happy events where I feel wrong cuz of the people. I felt insecure about my body too but I think I am over it now … especially in school I feel emotionally numb and I don’t know why but it got a little better now always remember that you are NOT ALONE! Thank you so much for this video you are so friendly and caring ❤
This is my confort channel. Your voice is so calm and your videos are all so helpful and calming. You’re the best!
I hope yall heal from the things you don't tell to anyone.
Thank you❤️
Do you think it's possible to heal from a traumatic experience if I never share it with anyone? Will it just haunt me for the rest of my life or will it go away eventually? I really want your opinion. I hope to hear from you.
Thank you ❤️
I love you
@@kathyk5589 eventually they will go away. I myself have experienced this. I'm not comfortable sharing my feelings. And I experienced two traumatic events. They eventually fade away. Just have to accept it the way it is.
Really hope I can say “I’m fine” and truly mean it someday. As in actually feeling that way mentally/emotionally. 😌
Also, anyone else out there feeling the same or similar, hopefully things get better for you too. 🙏
that will happen if you try and actually be happy mentally and physically don't ever forget that have a great life and try to be happy cuz one day it might actually happen if you just try
Holy, now that I think about it, for me it's been nearly a decade
When I’m actually fine I’ll stop saying “I’m fine”. I hate lying so I feel like “I’m fine” is neutral
@@seasalt9289 I take the "I am fine" as don't want to talk about it, because that is the way I use it
I wanna like this comment but ifb do itll be 6 66 likes, I'll be back to like this! :)
Edit: I liked it at 667
even if you say that you are not ok, no one will really understand you anyways.
Yep
Yes that makes me feel alone
I'm happy to say that I'm watching this video again after probably 1.5 years and last time i was experiencing most of the things mentioned here but this time it's barely any. I want to tell those who are experiencing these difficulties that don't lose hope, try step by step and yes every step matters. It might be just a single step for others but you know how challenging that step was for you and be proud of each step that you take. Appreciate even the smallest of efforts that you make in a day, even if it's just calling a friend or stepping out for a walk or even dressing up. Remember that 2 years from now, your younger self would be so proud of your future self. That feeling nobody will ever understand. Nobody is living your life so nobody will understand. Stop expecting anything from others , you came to the world alone and you'll leave the world alone, so accept that and be your own best friend and treat yourself like you're the best thing in the world and yes you are. Dont worry you'll get through this and you'll be very proud of yourself. ❤
This already speaks to me, I've told a lot of people that "I'm fine" to avoid venting to someone new I'm trying to meet and chat
Same.
Same here, so that they don’t worry 24/7
Avoid computer gaming... It only makes things worse in the long run. Trust me I’m 34 I know
for me i say im fine im good just because if i talk about it i feel like im being selfish i feel like all i want is attention so i just suffer alone but then i try to force myself to just feel okay
@@potatoeswithmuscles I’ve done that since I was 4 and now I don’t know how I feel about anything
To be honest whenever I say I'm fine I want someone to see through the lie and talk to me but I hate making others worry about me and I just hate the feeling that I'm worrying everyone
Same😢
I can agree on this
So we all have this
I feel u too it's ok. Many of us r suffering too, and it's going to be ok but pls try to get help if u can... I am worried about everyone nowadays....
Fr. If I tell someone they will change the way they talk to me or act around me because they're concerned about me but I don't want their pity
As a young teenager struggling to keep on the surface, this helps a lot, and the other videos too. I've always been a highly sensitive person, and also a very anxious person, but it got worse around two years ago. There is one person who knows the whole story and how rough it's made simple tasks like doing homework or getting work done. She's the one who just kept her mouth shut and listened and only interrupted for clarification. She's one of my teachers. I was in a class that she hosted back in March where I did a project on my trauma from elementary school. I will never be able to thank her enough for listening and helping me get that done and through it, especially the day after a migraine, which I only get when I experience high levels of anxiety.
Thank you for making this, it is nice to have hope and to know for sure someone understands
I lost a friend due to suicide yesterday, and it was the worst feeling ever. She refused to tell me she wasn't fine until about 5 minutes before she hung herself. Her goodbye was the most heartbreaking thing ever. I thought about doing it myself, but I saw this. Thank you. Love you bestie, see you in the afterlife ❤🕊
Oh I’m sorry :( hope you get better soon
I am so, so sorry. Loosing a loved one (i count bestfriends as loved ones) to suicide must ne horrible. I personally have never had this happen, but don't do it. Just as you miss your friend, many people will miss you.
Rest in peace to your friend. ❤
I am so sorry for your loss, this is truly heartbreaking. Losing someone due to suicide is probably one of the worst pains ever, I hope you get better soon, be strong, and Rest In Peace to your friend. ❤🕊
I'm so sorry for you rip 🙏
I've had that happen to me, too. It's been a few years, but stay strong and don't go down the route i went.
"... you're not living your life, you're just surviving."
That last part hit me hard. I've been feeling numb for a while and has nothing to look forward to, I feel sad but idk why I can't cry.
Are you Ok? I am there for you, if you want to share anything 🌹🌹
Same happening to me I want to burst out crying but can't..
same
Same, and now the only thing I am feeling aside from what feels like forced happyness, is anger, rage, hate, sadness, and just pure white nothing. Most of this comes from school as well which leads me to become detached from my learning, falling behind, and I fully loved school when I was younger (strange I know lol) but now I just want to leave, get to the end of it, tolerate my classmates just a little more just to fail, every week it's the same just different topics, and it doesn't help that when I do reach out when I'm at school I'm not actually helped like the counselors should be doing, I don't like getting help from them anymore because they just tell me to sit in a room where there's so many other kids because the counselor is 'busy' and when I was even younger they taught me how to keep it in, how to hide my true feelings and I'm at the point that when I do try to find my true feelings, they're just not there- or I'm breaking down in negative emotions. Whenever I genuinely feel happy or I at least think I am, I always stop to ask myself, am I actually happy right now? Or am I forcing it. I'm glad to be in therapy right now to work through everything, but I've been in and out of therapy with different therapists and counselors so much in my life that I can't help but think the same, I mean if I have to explain all over again to another person, why should I mention it in the first place? Luckily my teachers understand the pure stress and anxiety my classmates usually cause me throughout the day and I'm thankful for having friends that I think I can be ,what I believe is myself, around them, to have them genuinely cheer me up as far as I'm aware. But there is always at least once with every friend where I ask myself "am I going too far? Am I too mean? Too clingy? Too talkitive? Are they actually my friend? Do they truly care for me? Why would they want to be friends with me anyways? Am I too annoying?" And more-- when I do let my feelings out I would usually quickly shut it back in and 'shutdown' which is me ignoring my feelings and needs so I don't hinder everyone else... I usually draw to distract myself, and recently I've remembered reading is something I could do as well, but not only does it distract my anxiety and such but I end up not learning a thing becoming stressed because of that, and when I do become overwhelmed with anxiety or stress I fall asleep specifically when I'm in classes and they have us do assignments on the computer- I've been better about it but I have by far no where near a stable sleep schedule-
And I'm sick and tired of people saying to just ignore it, or don't let words have power, or useless 'advice' like that- believe me I know it's what I already do because that's what I've been told to do since before I was 7, trust me, I'm GREAT at hiding my true feelings that not even I can tell anymore if I'm even HAPPY-
Sorry for going on a rant- needed to get it out of my system, if you actually read to this point uh, thanks Ig- here- have a cookie? 🍪... Bye-
I've balled through this entire video because this is me 100% and right down to every fuzzing detail. I'm relieved in a sense but torn in many others, I though I was doing what I needed to but this proves to me that I am lost in life and have no direction now. Always looking ahead to a better reality and not living in the one I'm currently in. Damn this hits me hard soo effin hard.
Her voice is just so comforting
I feel so called out. This entire video just summed up my life rn. I needed this tho. Thank you
i need to say this. "hurting someone's feelings is as easy as throwing a rock into the ocean, but have you ever wondered how far that rock would go?"
I’ve heard this a lot, it’s one of my favorite sayings 🤍
No but i have wondered how deep the rock go
that will go so deeep
i know what you mean 💔😭
And you can never find it to take it back...
2:48 made me burst into tears. I've been lost in my own emotions for months now if not years. I do not know what I am feeling if anything at all, I feel like every single thing I say about how I feel to others is a lie. Thank you Psych2Go for making this kind of content available to so many people, your whole team is absolutely amazing for doing this.
wanna talk ab it? :)
Yes please help me please
Feel the same
Hey there Dorotea, it's okay. If you know what you say is not a lie, then you just need to slowly get comfortable with speaking your truth. Please take care :)
Last christmas felt like a normal day and i even cried so i say that i feel you and hope all this stress ends soon...its nice to talk to someone about how i feel 😌
I’m guilty of the “I’m fine” even when I’m not. My work is stressful and yes, I do always look forward to the weekend. What helps me is seeing my work best friends whenever I go to the office. We’re all on the same floor and one of them is also on my team. We always have great times together and it’s helped me a lot in looking forward to getting through the day
Thank you for this, I really needed this to remind myself.
I've always been afraid to talk to anyone about my problems. It always seemed like they'd say, "Well I've been though worse." Or " You have it so easy."
Me too. I just feel like my problems are insignificant compared to others.
Yeah, I feel at lost for words when they say something like "Oh, I have it worse" or something because it makes me feel that I'm just too sensitive, but at the same time I don't feel heard.
Yes, there are in fact some people that have it worse than you but that doesn't mean your problems don't matter anymore even if it's not much compared to others youre problem is still there and needs to be taken care of. And if you look for someone to listen to you and don't say I have it worse. I think I'm a good listener if any of you feel comfortable we can talk. :)
Hey dude. I can actually understand how that feels. After watching this video, I have realized that I am not fine. For example, I am probably emotionally numb. I overthink. I only look at my bad sides. About the overthinking thing, I have been thinking more philosophical thoughts than ever. As an atheist, I am constantly trying to comprehend what comes after death. And what I think at most times about that is simply nothing. There would be nothing afterwards. But it would not be boring or anything since my brain would not work. By that logic, I have thought about suicide. I swear, I am literally 13 years olds. I have not experienced anything worth while with my life. I have spent most of my life alive spent in what I would describe as a prison, no simply coming back home on my own, to do my homework on my own only to repeat the same pattern every darn day.
And after all that, I have practically said none of that to a friend or family member. It is easier for me to write this as a reply to a stranger’s comment. I instead am afraid of what their reaction would be. Most of my friends live in different countries having met them by friends who moved. At school, I have basically 1 friend. And I feel like we are loosing touch. When it comes to my parents, I feel like they think that I am some sort of super man with no flaws. I mean, I spent a year trying to convince to my parents that I need to lose weight so I should eat less.
So to sum it all up, I am not fine and I have no one to talk to.
I hope that you are doing ok by the way.
@@FaidoPlays I’m sorry about that, I really hope you can talk to someone soon.
Everyone who watched or clicked this video didn’t do it for fun they just got thinking one night out some stuff together then made sure by watching this or this proves their suspicion
And I was right I'm afraid of opening up and when I want to feel like they wouldn't care.
That was actually the reason I clicked on it my life felt odd and things felt wrong so I wanted to check and turns out I'm am totally not fine.
I've known that I'm not fine for several years i just don't have money for therapy and too much goes wrong in my life all the time for me to fix it myself so I've just accepted that i have to live in a constant state of not fine i just clicked the vid bc i wanted to see how many of the 7 applied to me
@@gabeyeigh5605 well keep it up yor still alive right? And if you dont feel it then cash in some holiday days from work and buy somthing nice
@@Amara34062 same here
My schedule rn:
Wake up,
Look at my teary swelled eyes,
Get ready,
Go to school,
Work,
Cry from some stress,
Get headaches,
Sudden wave of sadness,
Go home,
Cry,
Look at my phone,
Take a walk,
Chores/ work,
Go to sleep,
Contemplate either I should commit or not,
Quietly sob,
Pass out while crying,
Repeat
Hope ya get better man, commiting it is not worth it.
This is a good video that helps. As a man with a family to support It hit me hard to hear that we are just surviving and realise it's true. I also see why others would say that talking about it doesn't help because the people we had talked to would not. Listen and instead judge and point out my mistakes but not offer a solution. I know as a grown man I have to figure that out myself but I need help.
When I told a person I really liked that I was low…it was the biggest mistake ever.
Most people respond with “that’s too bad” or “get a therapist.”
In this world you either realize no one is going to save you and do something about it yourself or keep living the same life keeping you low based on my environment.
This is why I will always support people. Wishing everyone the best.
There are people who I care about and want to help but I can't physically due to distance, and urge them to seek proper or professional help, but they don't seem to want to help themselves and it sucks, because I care about them so much but it's sorta like they won't let me help them or help themselves. I sometimes wonder if I was there in person if I could help more
I always say I. fine because like if I say oh I'm not fine then everyone comes near to me and stas oh let me get someone to you and I feel overwhelmed when there's a lot of noise and I just always fell like I'm a burden because most the time when I ask my friends they just ussaly ignore me I ussaly have to say it about 5 or 10 times for them to actually hear me it started when I came to england I was 4 and that change in my life affected how I felt I couldn't keep in touch with my dad witch really ruined me at first I loved being in england I loved my new school and I love being there but then bully's started coming and I had to move schools I really don't like it there because there are even more bully's their ones even was my first ever friend he said he was going to vote to the school council for them to kick me out and he did much more I always tell other people really positive stuff and help them whenever their hurt but no one seems to notice me and just notice other people who are just standing there doing nothing I always ignore the feeling I get when people ignore me tho I'm sure it only for now ittl probably change when I'm maybe 10 or 12 all I know is that I'm fine
It doesn’t make sense, when I say I’m fine, they would give me worried looks or try to get answers on how I’m feeling. But if I do say how I’m feeling, they say “you aren’t the main character” or something like that. Sometimes I wish I was the main character.
My is i dont speak up to much has happened in the few years i been alive i was born life was decent my mom was in jail my dad left me i had my grandpa he made me love my life my dad came back in my my life i was abused from 9 years until it stopped my mom was out of jail and i got a baby brother but because all the abuse i basically let my mom kidnap me and bring me to new york my contact with my grandpa was almost completely lost it was still ok they about a year later he died to cancer thats when my suicide thoughts started i was forced to go back to my dad luckily he changed he didnt abuse me anymore but i ended up isolating myself i would only leave my room when my cousins came over and they didnt very oftenly school started 8 got stressed then i started getting close to no sleep about 2-3 hours every day i was insecure amd i basically made it a reflex to tell everyone i was doing amazing
This happened to me a a few months ago and I regret it cause now my depression is worse then it was
I literally started crying watching this because i realized this video is exactly what i needed to hear and i have most of the signs.
me too..
lmao crybaby
Same here. After this, I decided to get therapy. I hope it'll help...
Μe too I fell so sad
Same
the survival part really hit me after having alot of mental issues i just feel like iam going through life and not enjoying life im turning 16 month later plus suicidal thoughts really bother me this video is really helpful for me
This actually helped me so much thank u so much
"Your not living ur life.... ur surviving"
That hit
It did… 😞
🥀
I dont want to survive..I want to live
@@sibis8336 there's no option for that 🥹
There are actually people who are so isolated and they don’t have anybody who’d ask them “how are you?” around them; they don’t even have a chance to say “I’m fine”. More and more people are feeling so lost and alone in this sad & fake world. I love this channel and the contents of the videos. The illustrations are so cute and entertaining as well. 😊
Very well said, technology is a poison to our soul, people are getting alone and segregated due to social media, etc. It's seem that normal human interaction is a hard task these days....may God make the sun shine again after this dark clouds we are in now.
i can confirm
There are actually people who know better than to answer such questions.
This explains a lot to me, I barely get those even my own parents.
That’s me ig
You're the best channel for therapy thanks!❤
Thanks for the video, really relate to all of this
From my experience, talking to parents ends up in 2 situations:
1. They comfort you and keep it a secret that only they know
2. They share it at a family meeting/friend meeting, making you embarrassed
Saying “im fine” just makes life easier
Yea exactly
That’s what i’m scared of
My moms says I’m doing it for attention
My parents don't even care I hate it
my lovely mother doesn’t care at all and only cares about my grades ^-^
I might be depressed, emotionally unwell, a lot of fake friends which make depression worse, but i'll try to help others to not go the same path as me in any way i can...
Right here with u on the same path and i also try to help others to not experience this as well
I’m the same way… Maybe helping others is our own way to help ourselves feel better…
Me fr. I don't have any loved ones who can understand me, I have tried telling my only best friend and family but they didn't take any action. I want to be a musician but I don't have any support in thag either. I am always forced to do stuff that others enjoy. I am left alone.
@@swastik3291 get a temporary side job, move out, make new friends (make sure that they are not fake friends) think of your song that might be inspired from others, go to college, make music (DO NOT POST IT ON TIKTOK!), post it on youtube, if it goes viral, you can make similiar songs to the one you just made...
Btw the reasone why you should not post it on tiktok is because 1 thing can go viral and the rest will not be viral, and you are not left alone, there will be someone who will understand you, never give up your hopes (◠‿◕)
@@Pawel_Adamczyk thanks mafe
As a kid i have this i hold my tears,i keep my fake smile, explain my self why i do something bad. I just want peace and joy,but i always say to my mom or my diary,im too shy to do an good thing idk why,i just speak with my diary in school...
This made me breakdown at 2am and i want to talk to somebody and i do have friends but i dont want to bother them. I have 2 very close friends but they usually ignore the things i say, and i just ignore it too. And i felt somewhat at ease when i watched the whole video so thanks for this.
Your voice is so soothing. Just listening to the narrator's voice is like therapy
It’s soft and welcoming like she just got done with tea early in the morning
I feel like I'm losing myself alot of the time but I try my best to keep a smile on my face
I’m the same there man, know you aren’t alone in the world.
same and you don't even know the way back to being u
For all:
Hey, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
@@goldensolntse Hey, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
@@JalapenoCat1933 Hey, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you. Please keep on trying to make things better for yourself. If you want to talk to someone about something, let me know. My contact information is in my about section. If not me then please talk to someone you trust and if needed try talking to a professional and seek help from them. There is always someone that cares and that can help. I also have a link in my about section and a playlist called "Helpful/Inspirational Videos" that have information, ideas, links and more that can help you. Feel free to make use of them. I hope this helps and things get better for you. God bless.
Ive had depression for a while. This video is definitely explaining what depression is. In my opinion this is the worst its gotten so far. It is definitely difficult. The isolation is definitely a big one. The emotional numbness is somewhat relatable. Its not an easy situation. But Im gaining the courage to talk to people about it.
Thx for the vid it has showed me what I need to improve on myself and how I treat others and myself
I don't trust people to say "I'm not fine", but luckily - after 15 years looking for - I found a great psychologist, which I trust and feel safe to say it.
I don't feel like talking to regular people, but finding therapy was the best escape
thats great have a nice day getting therapy
I'm saving up to afford a therapy and just wanted to check if it actually helped you and how soon did you felt changes?
I don't have anyone who could help me out, maybe you can recommend anyone who is doing online therapy? Is online therapy effective?
@@Ldr1999 u can talk to me if u want
Proud of you for getting therapy ❤
@@Ldr1999 you can check description box in their videos their are some links maybe that can help you or if you can't tell anything to parents you can try finding out a counsellor maybe in your school or any psychologist (teacher teaching there) just telling what I am trying maybe it can helpful for you, takee caree :)
“You don’t know what you’re feeling, because there doesn’t seem to be a strong emotion” this sums me up so well. Sometimes people ask me “are you happy?” And then I say “idk” and they respond with “are you sad then?” And then I say “idk” again because I just really don’t know. I have moments with my close friends where I feel at ease and other moments where I’m more stressed, but I don’t know if I would describe myself as either happy or sad
EXACTLY ME 💯
In my case, half of the time I'm having explosive panic attacks because of the stupidest things, leading to suicidal thoughts in most of the occasions.
The other half of my time I'm some kind of happy, but deep inside I know I'm just waiting for the next panic attack. And I'm also only "surviving"
@@eleich420 sameeeee 😔😔😔
@@eleich420 you need to get some help man
@@Playtonz Yes, I do.
And I receive it but still
Honestly, I'm really grateful that I didn't commit suicide. I've been over thinking and struggling with school lately even if I'm at a really young age. I tried talking to a friend to try and clear up my mind. But she ignored me. Hearing this really made me cry and i almost had all of these signs because I've been thru so much in life. I've never tried to expressed it to my love ones. Telling myself I'm not ok really makes me insecure about it. Even if my love ones told me i could talk about it with them. I still have a fear of how they might react. And i still don't know why. Thinking I'm not the only one going thru this makes me feel like I'm not alone. Thank you for making this video and this is the reason why i subscribe to you.
It makes it look so easy to tell your feelings but its not easy
"Your not living your life, you're surviving" that hit me hard. I was surviving for 5 years. I just existed barely making it day to day. I'm glad I'm finally past all that. And actually enjoying life
You're *
Bro just workout??? #theydontknowmeson
#workout
@@Theres104DaysOfSummerVacation listen fam I hate to sound rude here, but I do. A little too much sometimes. It's not the guaranteed fix, it took a lot of therapy to get me here today.
@@aeiliasdivine5414not the time bro
For some there is no getting past.
It's effort to wake up and only gets worse thereafter.
I, a suicide survivor, can confirm that this can in some cases make things worse. I would always say that I’m fine to either convince myself that my feelings weren’t accurate or important or I would tell others that because I didn’t want to make my friends and family worry. Trust me when I say it’s ok to speak up, and if anyone can’t, I will ALWAYS be here for you.
Edit: I was diagnosed with GAD (generalized anxiety disorder), PTSD (Post traumatic stress disorder), ADHD (Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder), depression, and there is a chance that I have genetically passed down bipolar from my parents. I have been skipping entire meals day after day and neglecting my physical and mental health. I started thinking that I wasn’t good enough for my friends and people I have dated, I thought I needed to change myself into someone I wasn’t and because of that I have trouble deciding who I am as a person and who I actually want to be to begin with. I strongly encourage anyone that is going through what I am going through to seek help because all of these things lead to me doing some pretty awful things that I regret.
I wish someone really was here for me. I'm a 58yr old woman all alone. I don't care when God takes me. I don't feel anything anymore. My only Son was killed in a car accident 17 years ago. He was 21. He was the kindest human being to everyone he met. The silence hurts my head. I'm glad you survived.
@@crystalmeier6579Your one strong person I admire you.
@@crystalmeier6579 Please don't give up, for the sake of yourself and the sake of others. The people you cared for that have passed on would have wanted you to keep going and you should too. I believe in you.
@@crystalmeier6579 I remember one guy, whose wife and little daughter died in a car accident, he was so damn low, he was surviving, not living. He worked and did nothing but work. One day, he saw a RUclipsr who is a male kindergarten teacher, and he saw something, something that made a spark in his soul, and now, he has adopted a girl and wants to give her happiness.
All I'm trying to say is you never know when that spark will happen and it will happen when you least expect it.
I know, it's been 17 years for you, it's a long time indeed, but you shouldn't give up, because time is just time. Prove your son, who's in the better place now, that you're a strong woman, I know that he doesn't want you to leave yet and he will never want that, but he'll feel proud (actually he already does) when he will find out that such a strong woman raised him, that such a strong woman got through that pain and kept going.
I almost know what you're going through, because I was suicidal as well, but I never lost someone yet thank God, but I was going through that one year, and you 17 years, I can't imagine how you kept that long, but your son and I wish you to keep going.
Idk if that will help, but maybe you can go to groups of people who have also lost loved ones and speak out, talk to them, that may help you.
I'm an atheist, but may God bless you, because if he doesn't exist for me, he exist for the people who believe in him!
@@crystalmeier6579if you ever need anyone to chat to we here. I know how the feeling of being alone 🙁
tbh , watching this video i cried heeelp, i knew that im broken human , also talking with someone wont helping even if i dont have anyone like at all , its really comfortable video for me with soft voice , i dont know why and i can say it with words.
0:27
That hug was really nice i literally felt it thru the screen 😭😭
I felt myself crying as this mentioned alot of things I've experienced. I really hope everyone who is struggling can see this. This is amazing, thank you
Deuteronomy 31:8
Damn I really wish I could cry. Even just for a little bit
a lot
@@TS-og6gfrelatable
I actually felt the same😢
Roses are red.
I have a phone.
Nobody texts me.
Forever alone.
I like being alone. But have self destructive behaviors that push people away.
This list hit closer to home than I thought.
Sorry to hear that. Hope everything will somehow work out for you in the future
A unique poem, but sad at the same timr
I hope this reply to your comment can count as a text 🤗
I like being alone too. But eventually it does get lonely. I suppose we're alone... but we're alone, together. That kinda makes me feel better. I hope it makes you feel better too.
@@LakituKoopa thank you for the kind words.
@@niroshanaperera7330 I appreciate your kind sentiment. And I hope the same for you as well.
I had experienced all of these 7 sighs. But, thank you for telling whats right, and wrong. And for telling me how to fix my problems 😁.
Telling yourself you are fine gets you through the day. It may get you through the week, or the month, or the year, and thats good enough for me. Being able to function is good enough
This is my life in a nut shell. I can smile & pretend to be "happy" even when I'm not. I got very good at surviving & hiding my pain. I say "I'm OK" cause I know people typically don't care.
This is my whole life summarized in 4 sentences despite the fact that we don’t know each other.
Nice.
Totally me tho! Sorry to hear this..
You’ve summarized me. I pray you get through this my friend.
People are selfish brats, don’t trust them with your secrets. If you push them away, they will use the information against you
@@Rose-gy1cc thank you. My thoughts are with you as well ❤
for someone who reads this.
Remember, you're important. Even if you don't feel it, there are people who surely care about you and love you. Even I as a stranger from the internet, i still love you, no matter what person you are. Don't give up, there is still hope for you my friend! You can get through it, even if you don't think so. As said in the video you will be glad that you're alive after.
Love from a stranger on youtube that cares to much about people!
Hippy nonsense. You could care less.
I needed it. Thank you 🙏🏻
thanks 🥺
Thank you
I needed someone like you😔💓
I genuine cried in the middle of this video realizing that I’m not ok and need help even though I’ve tried to reach out to my parents and they don’t care like for example one time my parents went through my phone and found out I was suicidal and then my dad beat me for it instead of trying to comfort me so I never opened up to him again
I cried while hearing this.i relate almost all. You also sound like koolen❤
About the "you're only surviving life" hits me
I've been kinda stressing myself out on school, I don't even know why :')
I’ve been surviving life as an ICU tech. The job is so stressful and the other things going on in my life make it harder to cope with my job. I always wait for my day off. I strive to not be at work because home is where I can safely wallow in my feelings. I’ve had to do a lit of soul searching to figure out who I want to be. I’m finally becoming who I want to be but I still deal with so much stress and self doubt.
And they say "school is important" yes it is, but y'all don't even want to help and make us over work w school, school just making me having suicidal thoughts.
I have 8 classes and two jobs and need a third job now booboo. Relate!
6:12 im living like this my whole life
I think the biggest setback is not wanting to become a to burden others.
The idea is that becoming an inconvenience will only drive people away; which would be counterproductive if dealing with chronic loneliness. People want to be around positivity, not negativity.
Therefore, people put on a mask. I know from experience.
Here is my advice, be yourself. if a lot of people end up driven away then you wouldn’t of wasted time trying to be friends with them. this filtering will hopefully help you find people you truly connect with rejection kinda sucks though
almost everyone will reject you if you're open and honest 😔 that's truly painful
Deuteronomy 31:8
Sounds like japan...
@@iLilith11 Almost everyone. It really puts into perspective the significance of those who stay.
This channel is what i need. Not all the tips and objectives to feel better work for me. I've been soft-depressed (if this is a term) for 3 years and now i'm very down. I'm close to summer and i'm feeling great but there's always that sad feeling. I have experienced many many bad things like bullies in school or even girls who were rejectinf me and after taking the opportunity to insult me. As a boy i learnead how to deal with this things but they remind me my actual life bad things. I have a serius problem with loneliness: after finding friends for weeks tge don't respond to my calls. They remember that i was there the whole time after struggling themselves at loneliness. I will never live a happy Journey but i can always upgrade my state of life. people say always: ignore them; but i'm the one who's ignored. Now i'm crying. 😔
The improving yourself one made me cry
My friend literally just said they were fine today when they clearly weren't...damn these videos are so helpful.
Your a really good friend for noticing. And trying to reach out x
@@bittersweetsymphony2113 only thing is that they didn't tell me they were feeling bad...I don't think they will pretty soon either.
@@kallousbr thats not good :/ but all you can do is be there and keep checking in with them and hopefully when they're ready they will talk to you. They are very lucky to have somone like you in their life x
@@bittersweetsymphony2113 thanks for that mate.
Next time they say they're fine, tell em "I can tell you're not fine"
I’m not depressed, I’m just anxious and exhausted. I need to be left alone at the moment so I can enjoy myself and my work (which is also my passion).
Thank you very much.
I hope you get better and I understand
-someone who deals with those thoughts
@@ammarahilyas8895 Thank you! 💕
A Very Calming Video on, How your Reality is Controlled by your thoughts and you dont even know it ruclips.net/video/RAw8OxEj-Rg/видео.html
Me too! Yes! Leave me alone and let me work through it. If I need someone, I'll reach out. Really.
Thanks for helping out and i really cried after this because it solved all of my problems so thank you really really much and i love your content you might just be our social media therapist
i’ve hid behind the saying of “i’m fine” for so long while I was hurting. I love your chanel so much! can you do more about self harm? thank you for your amazing work
"-They're there to support you"
No.
_I_ am there to support them
_I_ am the one helping them.
Who needs help when i can cover it up by helping others with their needs?
I've always been the therapist. For my parents, family members, friends, and even strangers.
I don't need to ask for help. I don't ever ask for things that might help. I'm okay with just being there, a reusable person who can help you at any time and is always on standby for you, I can't let myself be the opposite, even if i get broken or not, I don't care.
I'm fine, I don't need help.
Get help when you need it...your their theripist...maby...let them ne yours
hate to say no butttt...❌❌❌❌❌❌❌❌❌❌❌❌❌❌❌❌❌❗❗❗❗❗IM worrying about you
@@That_Missing_Sock ?
@@Ration_25 Yes?
@@That_Missing_Sock but even the therapist needs a therapist sometimes
"THE MORE PAIN I GET, THE MORE STRONGER I BECOME"
-some depressed masochist
As someone with trust issues, YES!
... Are you manifesting or..?
That is actually true
shut up dude.....
Omg you nailed every single point in this video. Exactly how i feel😢
Dang, this person just talk bout my life... Ty for help🥺
I'm not depressed.
I've just been having a bad day for the last 5 years.
17 years*
Are you Ok? I am there for you, if you want to share anything 🌹🌹
Same.
@@lyricsrloud6482 Why? Do you want to share anything?
Згоден, життя зараз тяжке піздець.
You've honestly saved me. It was you who made me realize I'm not fine. It was you who convinced me to ask my parents for help. I'm seeing a counselor and I think I'm getting what I need. You guided me and helped me understand. You saved me, I hope you always realize you're a hero❤
Aww im glad you did whats right! Hope your doing great and sending love and supports to you rn ❤
Keep it uo king, you well know you'll do it👑
I'm so proud of you! ❤
Just wanted to ask, what do you like about counseling, or how is it helpful to you? I was looking into it myself but am unsure
@@Marina_7 I'm glad you wanna try. First of all, the counselors are patient. They make sure you feel comfortable with them. An little by little they will help and guide you to live better. I hope you do try. It has helped a lot. They do care although it may seem like just a job. I'm proud of you too buddy😊
@@marlenmayorga Thank you so much for the info and encouragement! It is much appreciated
Wow... This 7 sigh actually hit me.