Thank you! I love the part that says if you gossip your good virtues go to others while their bad ones come to you. Thank you so much for your beautiful videos!!
This was much needed for me to hear at this very moment and daily. I appreciate you sharing God's Wisdom. May His blessings, peace, mercy, and love surround you and all your family. Thank you. Praying God would give me strength to guard my tongue. And yes please do a part 2.
Part Two would be very helpful as, in my observation, proper speech is a challenge for almost everyone. I am glad that you mentioned Chofetz Chaim. The book is so helpful!
Come, children, hearken to me; I will teach you the fear of the Lord. Who is the man who desires life ("Chafetz Chaim"), who loves days to see goodness? Guard your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceitfully. Shun evil and do good, seek peace and pursue it. - Psalm 34:12-15
Discernment virtuous Emet of Emes is vital to prevent harm. Ignorance is not bliss for those it hurts. Please teach how a person asks for help I dure circumstances. Many victims are mistaught and believe God Forbid they deserve what they have experienced. The worst abusers do gossip and lie and lack of Discernment by others to be sensitive to someone often children who can hardly find the rights words or any at all because they have been so threatened and controlled. This needs addressing around the globe. ❤❤❤
Yet another additional comment: So the autogenerated subtitles in Spanish work on the video (Hooray!) sometimes they don’t work on certain videos (not sure why) but nonetheless that’s that 😅
Yes, please part two. I don't speak or read Hebrew, is the book that you mentioned printed also in English? If so please print the title for me. Thank you, I am learning.
I am so sorry to hear. When we are in physical discomfort it is very hard to keep a conscious intentional focus and be positive. I pray you heal and my biggest advice is to not be hard on yourself at this time. This too shall pass
Please help those who may briefly have access to know how to ask for help from abuse. Many who need the most help may already be scared manipulated into silence.
Thankyou for pointing this out. Absolutely any case of abuse, be it verbal, emotional or physical must be reported and spoken about. There is no place in judaism for staying in abuse, one must speak out. There are many exceptions to lashon hara, which is why studying the laws of lashon hara is so important.
Good question, so it's my opinion that going to listen to comedians is not the most Godly thing to do. Mockery is a trait God tells us to stay away from. "Mockers are proud and haughty; they act with boundless arrogance." Proverbs 21:24 99% of comedians make you laugh by putting other people down. It maybe funny but it is wrong. It's an escape from our lives to feel better about ourselves for fleeting moments. Studies show comedians to be some of the most depressed people. It's because what they do is empty. I believe torah observant people have no place listening to comedians. Are kosher ones ok? Ehh. it's hard to be 100% clean when one of the only ways they make people laugh is by making fun of a person, situation, or stereotype. My opinion maybe extreme, others may disagree. But I believe God doesnt want us listening to comedians.
I was mistreated by 2 people in a position of power in my local Jewish community. I tried several times to talk to leadership about it, but they refuse to meet with me. I assume it is because they think well of them. There are other compounding factors as well that weaken my case. I spent a few months trying to get the leadership to talk to me about it & they refuse. I know it is a sin to talk badly about other Jews, and it is bad to gossip. I don't know what to do. I feel really upset & stopped going to a certain congregation because of it. People have asked me why & I tell them the truth. My thinking was, the people who could help won't meet with me in private, so it isn't private anymore. I don't know what the right thing to do is. Speaking truthfully about it still feels like lashon hara, especially since it isn't accomplishing anything.
Hello, first off I am so sorry to hear about this. My question is do you have a rabbi that you know outside of this community that can help you get an objective opinion? If the way these people mistreated you is in the category of abuse, essential to make it known. But it depends exactly what they did, a competent halachic authority has to be asked.
I asked two rabbis. One of them has visited my community before. Both of their advice was for me to move away. There is a history of repeated division in my community that stems back decades. One rabbi told me she believes the foundations of one of the synagogues has something spiritually wrong with it. I am inclined to agree. I have made a lot of jokes this year about it being cursed. I wanted to move away back in September/October because of how upset I was. Now there are some huge barriers to moving. I think G-d has more to teach me here. Perhaps I can do more as well before I do go. I suspect my inability to leave is because of a few prayers I prayed this summer, of wanting to help heal my community. My time here isn't quite done yet, I think. I think there will come a point where I do move away, but not quite yet.
@emunahashem thank you. Prayers are needed for people who then are faced with doubt ridicule shame and condemnation none of which they deserve. Todah again.
I'll buy and read Sefer Chofetz; but since you've already read it can you share some answers? If a person is lying and those lies are convincing other people of becoming liars too and those lies are also hurting people, is calling the person a liar considered negative speech? What about not calling the person a liar and simply speaking the truth that proves the person is a liar? I think the answer is obvious, but that obvious answer--to call the person a liar, point out the truth--is almost always considered negative speech by the liar. So the follow up question, is negative speech about how it makes other people feel (negative or positive) or about what HaShem feels about the speech? And, who are we to judge how HaShem feels about speech when we only have our mortal feelings to know? Example, a person is engaged in racist speech. I point out the person is being racist, that person feels I'm being negative; but HaShem knows I'm being truthful. Is HaShem more concerned with how I make other people feel than about what I might do to help people realize the truth? What does the Sefer Chofetz say in this regard?
So to the first question.. is the lies this person is spreading giving another person a bad reputation? Like spreading rumors about someone else? If so, one is always allowed to clear up their name. You are allowed to be truthful about the negativity of another person if it is to save someone else from the harm they could potentially inflict on the people that are unaware. For example, if someone is dating a person, but you know something that is bad about the person they’re dating but they keep it a secret. You are allowed to warn them. Or a cheater in business you are allowed to warn their business partner is you know they are aware. This is ofc if you are 100% assured of the bad of the person. It’s not just an assumption. But if there is something that just bothers you about someone else that is negative, you can’t just tell people. Only if it is to save them from potential harm this person could cause them.
@@emunahashem OK, that seems obvious, intuitively obvious. When watching your video, I questioned the obvious because as you're probably aware, throughout history, people have been wrong about a large number of things, ideas, issues. I'm aware of how people react to being told they are wrong--the social consequences are obvious. I was unsure if you were saying people need to be more concerned about how people react to being told they are wrong than on being truthful. You cleared that up, so thank you and I needed that to be sure I should buy the book.
@@ModeinPDXTo complicate matters further, we have to be sure that the misbehavior is not simply our opinion, but that the misbehavior is objectively wrong.
@@DrD2You Good. That should be the standard regardless of one's faith, for human speech: no lying and no guessing/superstition on who is the liar use science and truth functional logic. I am in no way perfect, not even close, but I probably don't have to read Sefer Chofetz because it's only going to tell me what I already know, intuitively. I will get it though and read it because I'm working on my own book, non fiction, which is sure to be controversial and my main tikkun olam labor. I don't want to be a jerk about it.😇
“Who shall set a watch before my mouth, and a seal of wisdom upon my lips, that I fall not suddenly by them, and that my tongue destroy me not? O Lord, Father and Governor of all my whole life, leave me not to their counsels, and let me not fall by them. Who will set scourges over my thoughts, and the discipline of wisdom over mine heart? that they spare me not for mine ignorances, and it pass not by my sins: Lest mine ignorances increase, and my sins abound to my destruction, and I fall before mine adversaries, and mine enemy rejoice over me, whose hope is far from thy mercy. O Lord, Father and God of my life, give me not a proud look, but turn away from thy servants always a haughty mind. Turn away from me vain hopes and concupiscence, and thou shalt hold him up that is desirous always to serve thee. Let not the greediness of the belly nor lust of the flesh take hold of me; and give not over me thy servant into an impudent mind. Hear, O ye children, the discipline of the mouth: he that keepeth it shall never be taken in his lips. The sinner shall be left in his foolishness: both the evil speaker and the proud shall fall thereby. Accustom not thy mouth to swearing; neither use thyself to the naming of the Holy One. For as a servant that is continually beaten shall not be without a blue mark: so he that sweareth and nameth God continually shall not be faultless. A man that useth much swearing shall be filled with iniquity, and the plague shall never depart from his house: if he shall offend, his sin shall be upon him: and if he acknowledge not his sin, he maketh a double offence: and if he swear in vain, he shall not be innocent, but his house shall be full of calamities.” (Sirach 22.27-23.11, KJVA)
Additional comment: I follow you on instagram and I know you speak Spanish, would you be able to do this video in Spanish for the likes of people like my mom who speaks little English? 🙏❤️
Can someone link the book ? Thanks
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here is the link!
Is this book in plain English for easy read
Thank you! I love the part that says if you gossip your good virtues go to others while their bad ones come to you. Thank you so much for your beautiful videos!!
Thankyou!! Im so happy you enjoyed the video. Thankyou so much for your feedback!
Thank you for the natural, easy and clear way that you pass on all this highly important information.
Thankyou so much for your sweet message! It means so much to me and I really appreciate it BH!
This was much needed for me to hear at this very moment and daily. I appreciate you sharing God's Wisdom. May His blessings, peace, mercy, and love surround you and all your family. Thank you. Praying God would give me strength to guard my tongue.
And yes please do a part 2.
Amen! Thankyou so much for your wonderful message! truly means so much, I appreciate it!
Thank you
Thank you for this Very powerful part 2 definitely needed ❤
Thankyou for the feedback 🥰❤️ will do BzH
Part Two would be very helpful as, in my observation, proper speech is a challenge for almost everyone. I am glad that you mentioned Chofetz Chaim. The book is so helpful!
Come, children, hearken to me; I will teach you the fear of the Lord. Who is the man who desires life ("Chafetz Chaim"), who loves days to see goodness? Guard your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceitfully. Shun evil and do good, seek peace and pursue it.
- Psalm 34:12-15
@@SeanRhoadesChristopher Obey the seven Laws.
It's so tough!! I struggle with it so much. Im thinking Ill do a series of explaining the laws more in depth that the chafetz chaim talks about
Thank you for your beautiful video❤
The video has been seen and heard.Thank you Miss Liel.
BH 🙏
Love this content so much. Thank you. Please continue the series!
Yay!! That makes me so happy to hear! Thankyou for the encouragement!
Thank you so much for your help
BH my pleasure ☺️🙏
Thank you very much
My pleasure Baruch HaShem 🙏😊
You are absolutely Brilliant! -Gavriel Aryeh
Thankyou! Baruch HaShem 🙏
Yes please, part 2!
Thank you.
my pleasure BH!
I will join your Hannakah class when funds become available. Thank you so much for this uplifting video. Many blessings,
Katharine
Thankyou! I am happy to hear 🥰
Discernment virtuous Emet of Emes is vital to prevent harm. Ignorance is not bliss for those it hurts. Please teach how a person asks for help I dure circumstances. Many victims are mistaught and believe God Forbid they deserve what they have experienced. The worst abusers do gossip and lie and lack of Discernment by others to be sensitive to someone often children who can hardly find the rights words or any at all because they have been so threatened and controlled. This needs addressing around the globe. ❤❤❤
Thank you very informative!
Im so glad! Thankyou for the feedback
Awesome 👌
Thankyou ❤
my pleasure BH
Part 2 would be amazing 🎉❤
Genius
BH Thankyou!
We want a part 2 please, please please
Yet another additional comment: So the autogenerated subtitles in Spanish work on the video (Hooray!) sometimes they don’t work on certain videos (not sure why) but nonetheless that’s that 😅
Great Baruch HaShem!
toda raba for sharing these words, wondering how this relates to humour, awaiting part2❤
awesome! Will do bzH. thankyou for the message!
I have read some of that book
Yes, please part two. I don't speak or read Hebrew, is the book that you mentioned printed also in English? If so please print the title for me. Thank you, I am learning.
Thank you . I’m sick and always suffering it’s hard for me to avoid negativity when I am not able to sleep for days … I feel trapped .
I am so sorry to hear. When we are in physical discomfort it is very hard to keep a conscious intentional focus and be positive. I pray you heal and my biggest advice is to not be hard on yourself at this time. This too shall pass
@ Your prayers are really welcome. Thanks for your kind words and sharing
Good day! Try taking magnesium supplements...for sleeping aid... it works great ! Take care
Please help those who may briefly have access to know how to ask for help from abuse. Many who need the most help may already be scared manipulated into silence.
Thankyou for pointing this out. Absolutely any case of abuse, be it verbal, emotional or physical must be reported and spoken about. There is no place in judaism for staying in abuse, one must speak out. There are many exceptions to lashon hara, which is why studying the laws of lashon hara is so important.
Hi Liel, there are ways to defend ourselves from evil speech or bad intentions for not absorbing these things? Thx
Definitely praying to God to guard your from evil speech is essential. I will make a part 2 video on this BxH
Sister Liel, what about clean comedians? And listening to them?
Good question, so it's my opinion that going to listen to comedians is not the most Godly thing to do. Mockery is a trait God tells us to stay away from. "Mockers are proud and haughty; they act with boundless arrogance." Proverbs 21:24
99% of comedians make you laugh by putting other people down. It maybe funny but it is wrong. It's an escape from our lives to feel better about ourselves for fleeting moments. Studies show comedians to be some of the most depressed people. It's because what they do is empty. I believe torah observant people have no place listening to comedians.
Are kosher ones ok? Ehh. it's hard to be 100% clean when one of the only ways they make people laugh is by making fun of a person, situation, or stereotype.
My opinion maybe extreme, others may disagree. But I believe God doesnt want us listening to comedians.
I was mistreated by 2 people in a position of power in my local Jewish community. I tried several times to talk to leadership about it, but they refuse to meet with me. I assume it is because they think well of them. There are other compounding factors as well that weaken my case. I spent a few months trying to get the leadership to talk to me about it & they refuse. I know it is a sin to talk badly about other Jews, and it is bad to gossip. I don't know what to do. I feel really upset & stopped going to a certain congregation because of it. People have asked me why & I tell them the truth. My thinking was, the people who could help won't meet with me in private, so it isn't private anymore. I don't know what the right thing to do is. Speaking truthfully about it still feels like lashon hara, especially since it isn't accomplishing anything.
Hello, first off I am so sorry to hear about this. My question is do you have a rabbi that you know outside of this community that can help you get an objective opinion? If the way these people mistreated you is in the category of abuse, essential to make it known. But it depends exactly what they did, a competent halachic authority has to be asked.
I asked two rabbis. One of them has visited my community before. Both of their advice was for me to move away. There is a history of repeated division in my community that stems back decades. One rabbi told me she believes the foundations of one of the synagogues has something spiritually wrong with it. I am inclined to agree. I have made a lot of jokes this year about it being cursed.
I wanted to move away back in September/October because of how upset I was. Now there are some huge barriers to moving. I think G-d has more to teach me here. Perhaps I can do more as well before I do go. I suspect my inability to leave is because of a few prayers I prayed this summer, of wanting to help heal my community. My time here isn't quite done yet, I think. I think there will come a point where I do move away, but not quite yet.
Part deux
Good to know, thankyou!
What about people who need rescue from abuse?
They are not only allowed but must speak out. Not just for their sake but for others as well.
@emunahashem thank you. Prayers are needed for people who then are faced with doubt ridicule shame and condemnation none of which they deserve. Todah again.
Wow, i had no idea. Oh noooooooo . Uh oh. I made so many mistakes!!!!! Can I make up for years and years of this???😮
I'll buy and read Sefer Chofetz; but since you've already read it can you share some answers?
If a person is lying and those lies are convincing other people of becoming liars too and those lies are also hurting people, is calling the person a liar considered negative speech? What about not calling the person a liar and simply speaking the truth that proves the person is a liar?
I think the answer is obvious, but that obvious answer--to call the person a liar, point out the truth--is almost always considered negative speech by the liar.
So the follow up question, is negative speech about how it makes other people feel (negative or positive) or about what HaShem feels about the speech? And, who are we to judge how HaShem feels about speech when we only have our mortal feelings to know?
Example, a person is engaged in racist speech. I point out the person is being racist, that person feels I'm being negative; but HaShem knows I'm being truthful. Is HaShem more concerned with how I make other people feel than about what I might do to help people realize the truth?
What does the Sefer Chofetz say in this regard?
So to the first question.. is the lies this person is spreading giving another person a bad reputation? Like spreading rumors about someone else? If so, one is always allowed to clear up their name.
You are allowed to be truthful about the negativity of another person if it is to save someone else from the harm they could potentially inflict on the people that are unaware. For example, if someone is dating a person, but you know something that is bad about the person they’re dating but they keep it a secret. You are allowed to warn them. Or a cheater in business you are allowed to warn their business partner is you know they are aware. This is ofc if you are 100% assured of the bad of the person. It’s not just an assumption.
But if there is something that just bothers you about someone else that is negative, you can’t just tell people. Only if it is to save them from potential harm this person could cause them.
@@emunahashem OK, that seems obvious, intuitively obvious.
When watching your video, I questioned the obvious because as you're probably aware, throughout history, people have been wrong about a large number of things, ideas, issues.
I'm aware of how people react to being told they are wrong--the social consequences are obvious. I was unsure if you were saying people need to be more concerned about how people react to being told they are wrong than on being truthful.
You cleared that up, so thank you and I needed that to be sure I should buy the book.
@@ModeinPDXTo complicate matters further, we have to be sure that the misbehavior is not simply our opinion, but that the misbehavior is objectively wrong.
@@DrD2You Good. That should be the standard regardless of one's faith, for human speech: no lying and no guessing/superstition on who is the liar use science and truth functional logic.
I am in no way perfect, not even close, but I probably don't have to read Sefer Chofetz because it's only going to tell me what I already know, intuitively.
I will get it though and read it because I'm working on my own book, non fiction, which is sure to be controversial and my main tikkun olam labor.
I don't want to be a jerk about it.😇
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What would you do if someone makes you lash out? I know self control and all but it seems nearly impossible.
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“Who shall set a watch before my mouth, and a seal of wisdom upon my lips, that I fall not suddenly by them, and that my tongue destroy me not? O Lord, Father and Governor of all my whole life, leave me not to their counsels, and let me not fall by them. Who will set scourges over my thoughts, and the discipline of wisdom over mine heart? that they spare me not for mine ignorances, and it pass not by my sins: Lest mine ignorances increase, and my sins abound to my destruction, and I fall before mine adversaries, and mine enemy rejoice over me, whose hope is far from thy mercy. O Lord, Father and God of my life, give me not a proud look, but turn away from thy servants always a haughty mind. Turn away from me vain hopes and concupiscence, and thou shalt hold him up that is desirous always to serve thee. Let not the greediness of the belly nor lust of the flesh take hold of me; and give not over me thy servant into an impudent mind. Hear, O ye children, the discipline of the mouth: he that keepeth it shall never be taken in his lips. The sinner shall be left in his foolishness: both the evil speaker and the proud shall fall thereby. Accustom not thy mouth to swearing; neither use thyself to the naming of the Holy One. For as a servant that is continually beaten shall not be without a blue mark: so he that sweareth and nameth God continually shall not be faultless. A man that useth much swearing shall be filled with iniquity, and the plague shall never depart from his house: if he shall offend, his sin shall be upon him: and if he acknowledge not his sin, he maketh a double offence: and if he swear in vain, he shall not be innocent, but his house shall be full of calamities.” (Sirach 22.27-23.11, KJVA)
Blame the victim seeking help? The people who need it most may not have the freedom or access to learn.
Any case of abuse must be spoken about.
Additional comment: I follow you on instagram and I know you speak Spanish, would you be able to do this video in Spanish for the likes of people like my mom who speaks little English? 🙏❤️
I’m thinking of starting a seperate youtube channel in Spanish. But I’ll keep you update if and when that happens BzH.