Why People Love INFPs
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- Опубликовано: 25 ноя 2024
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Loved 😀 by strangers , misunderstood 😒 by family.
So true that statement
100000% can relate. My family members, especially the ESTJ old aunties gaslit, guilt trip, and saw me as a failed cockroach who doesn't deserve life. But hey, friends and strangers like me😀😀🤩so, I think I have my chosen family instead of the biological one
@@gabrielasantikalin3020 comon man you chose emojis that makes us look like a retarded fairies 🧚
@@gabrielasantikalin3020 we all have a soul family which is generally not the family we are born into . I just hope to be with my soul family members someday.
@@gabrielasantikalin3020 this is in a way soul family too. We INFPians are our soul family members 😇.
In my experience as an INFP, we are EXCELLENT LISTENERS. BUT!! We never have anyone who ACTIVELY LISTENS to us.😣😨
Absolutely!!
Its so true my dear 🫂
Many don’t listen to me unless I encounter one with INFJ qualities …I might not look at u but I am listening.
As an INFP, this made me blush. ☺️ Great pick me up. We are not perfect, but we try to be friendly to all.
I'm pretty sure my boss at work is an ENFJ and he's always sprinkling uplifting/encouraging comments when he sees me. It's the best feeling, honestly. I've never had such direct and genuine reassurance. 😊
ENFJs tend to respect our depth as much as we appreciate their warmth. It can be a powerful attraction!
Enfjs are the best. I hope I can meet one someday
INFP _ deep feelings, kind, respectul, very big heart, nice, polite always say hello, smile, love animals more than humans, recognize the good people, spend much energy for others more than for themselves, they need peace and calm but they constantly move XD, eternal child, fairy, butterfly.
Give and spend too much for others, they should prioritize themselves before the others.
I think I was in college (this was long before I learned I am an INFP) when I realized that I had a knack for giving people the right kind of space to be themselves and be comfortable. That became a point of pride for me, something I knew I could give to others.
💗😊💕Thanks for making your videos, Erik, from one INFP to another.💕😊💗
hehehe, not an infP! :)
@@ErikThor opps, i thought i heard you say that on another video, my mistake😊
Hi Erik this is Gola from Canada. As an INFP, half of my life I was struggling with sense of Identity and fitting in.. I think just recently I started feeling comfortable inside my skin and being grateful for who I am. Thanks for the knowledge that share. Cheers to all of us
Same. I've always felt like I don't belong here like I'm some sort of an alien lol
Sometimes I think I'm just with the wrong people and haven't found whom I can click with yet
I totally understand what you’re saying.. it’s my life story. 😊 I found more like minded people over the years. People who can accept and appreciate you
Same. You all have said it so nicely already! Cheers to us all!
I’m an INFP who shared a wonderful 5 year love relationship with another INFP, but ruined it in Dec. 2016 because I was insecure. Womp womp. She’s been with someone else and thriving, and I’ve been in variously deep levels of despondency since. This isn’t that relevant to the video I guess but I admire her character so deeply it’s not hard to remind me, sorry for the unsolicited gushing, I gotta find a therapist…
Nice of you sharing this, hope you can move on healthy man!!
Hello👋🏼, have you?
Bravo! Thank you. Yet it's clear we not only feel unwelcome but often are, and that can be because we see right through other people's defenses and they defend against us in our openness to all feeling, sometimes harshly, injuriously, and suddenly, automatically. I propose that we INFPs give support and acceptance to each other... ❤️💜💖✨✨✨
Some people project on us their own insecurities and negative traits... it is very sad. It took me a full sickening year to realize what that was, why and how... the level of overthinking and isolation felt was beyond words. That was my experience!
@@evasccl7846 I feel with you on that! How did you realize, and how is it now?
@@globalheartwarmingIt is a long story and process Ellen 😂 To brief it, would leave key ingredients out, but summarizing would be:
Know yourself very well, who you are for what GOD says about who you are and this will bring you peace.
When anyone says anything to you about yourself (name calling/blaming) because you know who you are and hold yourself accountable for all you say and do.... you later discover, the other person is what came at you through his/her mouth and the blaming was his/her not holding him/herself accountable for whatever they say nor do, in this case to you, through their words and action corelation.
I am still working on it. Gaslighting is a terminology i was unaware of what it is and it is plain simple CRUELTY, confront it! Never be afraid of speaking truth. Because the truth sets you and the other person, free from lies, suspicion, doubt... all that destructivenes.
Also it revels the truth about the other
person and gives room for growth to one or both parties... who knows? even for both to grow together.
Remember everyone is hurting one way or other. Most dont know it because they dont reflect on what they say and do, how it affects others... because they don't see how it affects them.
I myself did not realize why i was doing and thinking the way i did until this happend and made me go on a trip to childhood.
Understanding your childhood is understanding yourself as an adult and forgiving others AND yourself.
Making better decisions, being more grateful for the lessons learnt in the hardships. Phew.... enough for now!!
@@evasccl7846 "Understanding your childhood is understanding yourself as an adult and forgiving others AND yourself".
As another INFP, I find this so very beautiful. Thank you for this beautiful comment (it wasn't for me, but I'm glad I found it...). I too struggle with this same problem nowadays and often feel insecure about how people actually think of my person haha :'D. But you reminded me of an important lesson I once learned and had forgotten. Again, thank you, fellow INFP!
Lol. Sending this to my ESFP, (partner if you will), who I finally hit my limit with! INFPs are definitely not naive, control freaks at least as far as trying to control others. It takes A LOT to send them over the edge. And I suppose if anyone can do it, it will be an ESFP, or maybe an ESTJ. Love your vids!
This speaks to me directly !
I've always wondered why people really like my presence, even strangers, for example, most of the times when i meet someone new, they instantly tell me that they feel really soothed by my presence and that they liked me without even knowing me.
Now you made everything clear to me, thanks Erik !
Thank you❤️ i am trying to appreciate my personality type more. i’ve always been insecure about being the way i am, but mbti makes me feel more normal
People like me because I let them make fun of me. At first it's all fun and games but after awhile it's exhausting and starts to become disrespectful.
We love you too! And I know people think we are mysterious and it adds to the appeal, but please, don't tell the infps in your life how mysterious they are. We all want huma connection and being told this can sometimes reinforce this feeling of being alien and misunderstood by everybody.
This is a great video and for me to practice self compassion and confidence. I need to stop being very hard on myself. I need to smile wnd laugh more appreciating life and overcoming so much pain and abuse. There are good and amazing people out there.
Thank you Erik for the kind way you speak to us. Your gentle knowing nature is to be admired.
Erik, you are spot on. The answer to your question, you already explained it at the end. I don't feel loved most times, even within the family, I somehow don't feel welcome nor understood and many a times, it just does not feel safe to open up... yet, I get lost in listening what others have to say, what they share... and yes, I am so present and intentional, i give undivided attention and ask questions from a place of deep caring to understand.
The better I understand you, where you are coming from, your experiences and how these have made you who you are, then not only do I spot the unsaid, but I can also better be a caring friend that nurtures those areas about you that you yourself do not see or are not aware of... it is like opening a little box hidden within you, that you lost memory of it as you grew up, and I have opened and found the gems that you posses. I am the best FAN girl to my friends and family hahahaha and I am VERY proud of their achievements, I celebrate them with inmense joy and it fills the air somehow, everyone celebrates it too!
Those are such beautiful moments for me, and very enriching to the other person too... I believe we all crave to have that which we give, and for us to open up... we need to see genuine interest to know us... give us that clear green light to do so... we do love to share, we deeply care and love to talk about deep stuff we don't shy away if you get us started ;)
Last year I learnt something that as I looked more into it, I realize it is pretty true but I am not sure who has the power to change it, and at times I believe we do, but we dread being hurt, because when we get hurt... oh dear... it takes us ages to heal and get over it, because we go down to the core minutia of the whole situation over and over, disect it until there is nothing more to disect. After that, we need to rest as we'd be exhausted and depleated... that would have been a great time for the one who hurt us to pop in and ask or have done some thinking and come to talk about it understanding and apologizing.
The givers good generous givers of what matters in the human esphere... struggle to receive from fellow humans who happily take and take from the mentioned givers! How to balance that Erik?!
Thank you for making this video, it did get me emotional! 💗
You are beautiful.
@@edwright4892 Gracefully thank you 🌻
This was EPIC to read! And so beautiful written. Thank you for sharing ❤️ I feel so understood.
@@biancaaustin5859 Thank you! You just having said that, made me feel so understood too!!
This is very true. I always try to see the best in people and try to understand where each individual came from and how it affects their beliefs, values, words and actions. The vid makes me feel seen and welcome 🥺😃.
You've got a calming voice. It's a refreshing change. Thank you💖
I am an INFP myself. It's not always easy or comes naturally to feel empathy though I think they cannot tell that well when I don't get them. Sometimes I need to withdraw to find emotions within myself. To be more specific, their emotions within my own self. Then I'd usually like to text a person or write a letter to them. I rarely do that though. Still looking for a person who would be comfortable with this. I noticed, when I'm asked about my opinion of somebody I tend to summarize what they did best, list their qualities and strengths or when mentioning something that they do not seems to be comfortable with, frame like that. Not like flaw. Rather than tell my opinion. Another summary I do is after a time spent together. I'm not asked, I kinda say it as a question checking out if I understand them the way their understand themselves. So I take something I've just learnt about them and contrast it with something similar about me, and I try to create a bridge, a connection between the 2 traits, interests, goals etc. E.g. one of the friends is real hard into Dragon Ball. He likes the martial arts part. I don't find it slightly interesting, what I do like is to listen to true crime podcasts. This I barely mentioned in a previous conversation. No one then asked me about ut so I didn't say anything else but it had been said so when I later summarized "seems like we both look for sings of violence in culture but in different places" it made sense. Like, enough. And he agreed. This is how bond even when I don't exactly click with somebody.
Obviously, there are people irritated by non-speaking company, it's okay. Not only not everybody will like me but even not everybody should like me. I do appreciate that my friends seem to find my quiet presence unbothering at worst, comforting at best. Mosty they talk, I listen, ask questions. Comment. Actually I'd like to speak a bit more often and without the need to be adressed by them. It's only been 3 weeks of hanging out so I guess it will change in time as I grow more comfortable. There's so much I need to ask them it really shouldn't go any other way.
Is that a framed poster of a panda bear smoking a hookah in the background? ☺ Ah, a watercolor by Marc Allante. Cool!
Man, I've still only know about MBTI for a little over a week, but I think all of this is making me love myself.. I'm definitely feeling a lot of love for something. Or maybe it's just love in all directions
Thank you for making Infp content, we appreciate you ☺️
Idk, I identify as an INFP and relate to most of the INFPs' characteristics, but I definitely don't see myself as a cute, innocent being who never gets angry. All the opposite! I'm not shy when I'm in my working environment and I get mad pretty easily 🤷
One thing none address is that, when unhealthy or stressed, INFPs become very moody, so maybe is that 🤷🏻♀️
Your videos always make me feel great with myself, can't thank you enough xxxx
Awesome shirt!!! 🙌
thanks :D
Yes you may!
You are very kind
I am an INFP but struggle to listen well sometimes
Never gonna give you up, never gonna give let you down!
No one likes/loves me. Nor do I like/get along with ppl. I'm also a magnet for dark triad entities. I and my life is a mess sadge. I love when ppl gas me up though.
Thank you 😊
Yikes .. you just described me exactly.. !
Thanks Erik☺️
Cool video mr Erik.
Thank you Erik! ❤️
I have a q not related to the video but anyway… as INFP I have a ESFJ friend who I can talk to about complexity, and abstract ideas and mind mapping conversations , but he’s a sensor if it’s not intuition what causes this compatibility? 🤔
Hear me out. Mbti is a rabbit hole if you want to believe. Sensors want to understand intuitives but we don't give them a chance. Sensors can have deep conversations (for example: Joe Rogan) but again we don't give a chance. It is all bias in thinking if we stop this and try to understand sensors the world would make a difference. After being two years into mbti I realised that this a rabbit hole don't get into it. Sensors also make point . An infp is advising you, if you care about having a more of rationale and open mind. Enjoy mbti but don't take it seriously enjoy memes but don't believe in stereotypes. You can definitely get well with sensors, sometimes more than intuitives. My personal favourites are esfp,estj, and istp. Also I prefer FJ. He gives each and every type equal criticism and fair observations. That is why many enjoy him;)
They don't Erik
Infps sound like ppl I could enjoy smokin some good kush with
Poêple love INFP because they Can easly Take avantage on INFP and INFJ
I was also thinking how people in my experience have been a little afraid of understanding their souls I usually tend now to keep to myself
Well yes, if they are unware of it, but once they become aware, or like me, go through some hardships in their life, they'll learn how to set boundaries and not letting people take advantage of them
They do??? Everyone ignores me.
well im still a fan lol
Haha ikr
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Erik, have you ever found yourself regressing after a period of intense personal growth? Perhaps when you discover that the growth was in the wrong direction? Anyone else in the comments feel free to answer as well :p
By "regressing", I mean sort of shutting down all personal growth, becoming numb to feelings but anxious, taking months to recover
Have you read Atomic Habits? I did a read along stream about this and talked about it. In short its about building healthy long term and consistent progress by not pushing yourself to a point where you crash :)
@@ErikThor i have not! Is that stream available anywhere?
@@LatzeH yes if you search erik thor atomic habits
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I like how they are great idealistic writers. I like how the idealize the fight but I hate the sjw mindset.
Not all have an sjw mindset, lots can see past social movements and just see alot of damaged souls that need to take responsibility of their traumas to heal. Listening has been a strong suit of mine hahahah.
I'm an INFP and I don't have an SJW mindset. I try to avoid conflict if I can help it. Plus SJW just doesn't make sense to me, It seems to me that it holds a generally a generally narrow view of things. I try to look beyond , To see the bigger picture. And I keep my mind open to the different possibilities.
I think an example might be. Let's say SJW thinks You should ban hunting. Because it's dangerous and kills innocent animals. They're not looking at the bigger picture of If the animal population isn't controlled then they overpopulate. they starve they get diseased. some even start cannibalizing (chickens). Also there's an overpopulation of deer then also cause a lot of damage on the nature around them. Deer can be pretty destructive. They stripped the bark from trees by eating it and rubbing their horns against it. I apologize, I lost sight of the point I was trying to make.
Try alcohol
I met an infp who crushed on me (she told me she was infp)
She was very awkward and couldn't hide her feelings, so I knew immediately.
I decided to go home with her out of my church to see what she is like, because she was cute from a distance.
We walked for 30min and I immediately realized I don't like her at all. It was kinda a date atmosphere, she asked if I had a gf.
(Vibe was off, no chemistry, boring, bad hygiene, slow).
Recently i've been hurt by someone stringing me along so:
I told her then and there that I though I liked her but I really didn't, and I basically spilled all beans so she would be less hurt, and cut her off immediately.
That is how I dated INFP for 30 min.
She still tries to invite me for coffee not as a date but as a "friend" and guilt trip me.
I'm an infp and I can relate to your friend 😁
You know we infps are just like that be kind towards even our enemy. That helps alot because neither I want to resent anyone nor I want to be bothered about what has gone. It is easy to forget things especially when you want to live chilling life.
@@Gjakdjruknownhpjs exactly
Studying people is a double sided coin. I love to study people and myself and i like to get to know peoples/my own unique traits and patterns but knowing myself so so well also makes me worry sometimes that I may not find a partner that wants the same depth and has the same capacity to care about my depth.🫤