I am 66 and my mother is 102. I had her come and live with me when she turned 80 as she was unable to live independently. My husband and my son's have looked after my in-laws till they were deceased at 85. I feel blessed that the almighty has given us the strength to give back to our parents, which is more important than things in life.
Asians generally revered their elderly parents or grandparents. There maybe some cases of elderly abuse but hard to believe Japan has numerous elderly abuse.
It just means Japanese didn’t change their minds about useless family members as tradition. Japanese and Chinese used to kill or let to die the elderly. One of the Far East cruelties😢
I cared for both my parents in their old age. I was exhausted, but I cared for them until their deaths, because they were my parents. I did not even imagine killing them. This is insane.
It is also false. Nothing wrong with Japanese Society; THEY ALSO PROVIDE FOR THEIR HOMELESS TOO...WION doesn't want to handle that NOT ENOUGH VIEWS. OVER SENSATIONALED DISJUNCT TITLES FOR VIEWS IS QUITE A LUCRATIVE BUSINESS. Now check out the movie FARAHA and the year 1948 and learn about the CHILDREN AND FAMILIES DYING IN Palestine too? We all have to go sometime; Don't live in guilt; Being shoved into a convalescent home with other already infected Covid patients wasn't pleasant either; Wonder W.H.O. came up with "that " one? Many humans were termed "accidents!" Get ready for the great amalgamation and procreation for recreation- coming in hoards, and no birth control. Funny , our friends in Tokyo aren't aware of this. WION'S ANGRY NARRATORS have now resorted to OVER-SENSATIONALIZED MICKEY MOUSE MANIPULATED MEDIA T A C T I C S. YOUR PHOTOS AND YOUR NUMBERS ARE NOT "OF" JAPAN, SO YOU 'RE STEALING CLIPS FROM OTHER PRODUCERS NOW ALSO. YOUR "NEWS" USED TO BE SOMEWHAT DEPENDABLE.... RED FLAG WION'S "RESEARCHING ABILITIES" WHICH ARE NOW EXTREMELY LACKING IN TRUTH .GOOD GAMBLE ON A TITLE, TOO, SINCE MOST COUNTRIES ARE EXPERIENCING HEALTH CARE PROBLEMS. "Sometimes You Really Hurt My Feelings" Violinist solo by Teiji Okubo/Tokyo LyndaFayeSmusic@Yahoo Go Ahead, It'll Make Our Day!
Same here I hate the thought of the government caring for my parents in their age care homes. It's called Honour thy mother and father...even until death
Japan kills their workers, is it any surprise their half dead workforce is exhausted trying to sustain an economy that overburdens the young people and then to tack on elderly parents care to so few young people.....
My siblings and myself took care of my Mom and Dad until they passed, as I lived with them, I accepted the main responsibility and I have no regrets about the time and effort spent.
When i was a youngster, my mother used to say, one mother can take care of five kids, but five kids can't take care of one mother, and you know what, she was right. I will never forget what she said.
Oh they will be there to demand a full share and accounting of what is left. Sadly I have seen and experienced it when caring for my in-laws. Totally disgusting.
Whwn i was 16 my father, my only living parent, was diagnosed with brain and lung cancer. He survived until i turned 18. I had a little brother who was still a minor, only 16, as well. We didn't feel like the nursing homes for caring for him properly after 3 weeks, and he spent the rest of his time at home with us while we cares for him until he passed away.
That is a lot for 16 year olds to handle and I am sure your Dad was very thankful for love and care from you and your brother. I am the youngest in my family and I was the primary caregiver for my parents and my in laws when they all died of cancer at young ages (60-67). I was blessed to have that time with all of them at the end.
My parennts both got bed ridden when they were in their 80s. We three daughters ( we dont have any brothers ) took care of them taking turns. Each of us would keep them in our homes for 6 months, and take care of them along with our own families with aged parents in law. This went on for 8 years before they both passed. It was stressful, difficult, but We feel blessed to have done that service.
As a Japanese in my 50s I have to clarify something clearly important to everyone here. Japanese have the No. 1 longevity in the world with a large population of easily well over 100 yrs old of age because they eat so healthy. Imagine their “children” are in their 80s or at least in their 70s trying to take care of them when they are so old themselves. Japanese culture represents respecting the elderly more than most countries. Pray for those “children” who are seniors trying to care for their “elderly”parents’ physical and mental health. My parents took great care of all my grand parents in their 90s and lived happily.
Yep, that's what I am trying to tell, this reporting is clearly making it sensational. I mean look at the wording, " Every eight days in the decade to 2021, an average of one elderly Japanese person was killed by a member of their own family or committed suicide after killing a relative they were caring for, according to a study released this month " I mean yeah, this clearly is a problem, "That's nearly 500 elderly people who got killed by family members in the decade leading to 2021 " mind you that's in a country of 120 million people whose 40 percent of population is above 60. But they got to get the views for making sensational claims, so they somehow worded it differently. Imagine the views it would get by wording it as " nearly 500 Japanese elderly get killed by their family member in a decade " and " in every 8 days one elderly person get killed by their own family in a decade " 😂😂" Journalism "😂😂 This news came right when Japan was planning to export Patriot missiles to USA, who will send them to Ukraine. And considering this media house is partly owned by a Russian company. Is it a coincidence ?
Why do those people not able to care for their elderly parents or family members not take them to a retirement home? Is it because that would be too expensive? I think there should be more affordable and accessible retirement homes and if it is due to shame or socially not acceptable, the government could try to promote the idea. It would be much better than to murder the elderly and then commit suicide. Caregiver fatigue is a serious issue and the government should start to try and find viable and affordable solutions for that.
This is horrible. My elderly mother had Alzheimer's disease. I cared for her for eight years. I quit my job to avoid sending her to a nursing home. Yes, it was exhausting and hard. But we had good times too, long walks, ice cream, and many private jokes. Yes, it was tough but if I had to do it over again....I would. Now I have peace knowing that I gave her the best life I could.
Yesterday I remember being 12 years old and wondering how fast my life was going to be passing. Today I am 77 years old and I am amazed the time my life has packed into what seems 24 hours. It's coming to everyone and what goes around comes around. You don't respect your elders nobody's gonna respect you.
Unfortunately their culture is so perfectionist that they have a high suicide rate and low birth rates. They are also over worked. They have nobody to look after them because they have no offspring.
I care for my 94 year old mother. It is hard and a struggle at times as she is bedridden but I wouldn't have it any other way. She raised ten children and I am her youngest child. I worry sometimes about how I will take it if she goes before me. I think I would die as well. I love her so much. 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡
My mother grew up in Japan. When she lived there, families would go to war with eachother for the privilege and honor, of caring for their parents when they get old. Times sure have changed...😢
@@monikam9069 "The Ballad of Narayama" is a Japanese film of great beauty and elegant artifice, telling a story of startling cruelty. What a space it opens up between its origins in the kabuki style and its subject of starvation in a mountain village! The village enforces a tradition of carrying those who have reached the age of 70 up the side of mountain and abandoning them there to die of exposure.
I'm stunned and broken hearted! I cared for my elderly mom for 13 years, and was barely able to take care of myself or my home and husband at the end, and I'm still battling chronic diseases and ptsd. But i would absolutely do it again, because we live together and we die together, if we have a soul ❤
I feel for you! I’m at 12 years of taking care of my (now 94 yrs. old) elderly parent. To say I’m fatigued would be taking it lightly. The last 3 years have been brutal. Besides that, any friends I even thought I had, no longer speak to me. It certainly shows you many things going through this journey. I’ve been shocked at how many people are struggling with caring for their elderly!
Right there with you, can relate. My mom just turned 96. I’ve lost my marriage, family, home and career, jobs & opportunities - not to mention people who have either walked out on me, don’t really care, won’t help. Sole caregiver - it’s brutal, especially the sleep deprivation. But I’m mostly strong, choosing joy, making the most of it WITH GODS GRACE & HELP. Loving and caring for children, grandchildren, spouses, parents, friends- can add up to cost you everything, and they don’t see it-don’t care, barely remember who you are, complain about the one spot you missed 30 years ago, etc. Don’t matter - hard as it’s been, can’t /won’t just dump her in the sight of God like it’s been done to me.
My dad first- my parents moved in- used to live with me and my family up til the year he passed at 89. It’s now just over 11 years with & for my, the last several coming through the Pandemic have been the toughest, but we’ve been tougher.
@@iche9373 The culture is not racist they are just use to majority of the people in Japan looking like them plus the fact that their government allows foreigners in.
I just lost my 88 year old mother on October 29th. My dad will be 92 February 1. My dad is crushed by losing the love of his life!! I cannot imagine doing anything other than supporting my parents through the end of their lives!! The stress is real. I’m living it. But, that’s life!! This is what we’re supposed to do!! Be there for our parents, like they were for us!!
Nothing wrong with Japanese Society; THEY ALSO PROVIDE FOR THEIR HOMELESS TOO...WION doesn't want to handle that NOT ENOUGH VIEWS. OVER SENSATIONALED DISJUNCT TITLES FOR VIEWS IS QUITE A LUCRATIVE BUSINESS. Now check out the movie FARAHA and the year 1948 and learn about the CHILDREN AND FAMILIES DYING IN Palestine too? We all have to go sometime; Don't live in guilt; Being shoved into a convalescent home with other already infected Covid patients wasn't pleasant either; Wonder W.H.O. came up with "that " one? Many humans were termed "accidents!" Get ready for the great amalgamation and procreation for recreation- coming in hoards, and no birth control. Funny , our friends in Tokyo aren't aware of this. WION'S ANGRY NARRATORS have now resorted to OVER-SENSATIONALIZED MICKEY MOUSE MANIPULATED MEDIA T A C T I C S. YOUR PHOTOS AND YOUR NUMBERS ARE NOT "OF" JAPAN, SO YOU 'RE STEALING CLIPS FROM OTHER PRODUCERS NOW ALSO. YOUR "NEWS" USED TO BE SOMEWHAT DEPENDABLE.... RED FLAG WION'S "RESEARCHING ABILITIES" WHICH ARE NOW EXTREMELY LACKING IN TRUTH .GOOD GAMBLE ON A TITLE, TOO, SINCE MOST COUNTRIES ARE EXPERIENCING HEALTH CARE PROBLEMS. "Sometimes You Really Hurt My Feelings" Violinist solo by Teiji Okubo/Tokyo LyndaFayeSmusic@Yahoo Go Ahead, It'll Make Our Day!
Canadian govt doing same with their MAID program. Elderly, sick, poor and even homeless are encouraged to off themselves because the govt is overspending on nonsense.
This is one of the cleverly worded report I have ever seen. I mean look at the wording, " Every eight days in the decade to 2021, an average of one elderly Japanese person was killed by a member of their own family or committed suicide " That is if you say in a direct way with out any twisted word play , that is about 500 Japanese elders getting killed by their own family in a period of 10 years. Mind you about 40 percent of 120 million Japanese are above 60. That is literally better than 98 percent of the countries in the world. If you aren't from a wealthy Scandinavian country or Singapore, Switzerland, Luxembourg or Monaco chances are yout country is doing worse than Japan in this regard
I took care of my mother age 87 until she die(brain Cancer)& it’s was exhausting but I (age 62) still took care of her! By the Grace of God it all worked out & I felt honored to be by her side but she suffered a lot for three months & I prayed a lot for courage & strength & God answered with Mercy & Peace! I love ❤️ my mother!
Same here. Mum had breast cancer, bowel cancer, and brain cancer. I nursed her with brain cancer, I had very little help from family and the government. It really is draining.
This brings back memories of my time in elementary school (I think it was 5th grade) where I read a short story in one of the Houghton Mifflin literature collection books. The story was about a Japanese man and his elderly mom. He was ordered by the village leader to take her up to the mountains and let her die there. But he couldn't bring himself to do it, so he brought her back and hid her in a secret room of his hut. When the villagers ran into alot of problems, the man looked to the advice and wisdom of his mother to solve them. When she was able to deter an attack from another village lord, the people praised her for her life-long experiences and feedback on remedies. It was a happy ending, but it made me sad that they would resort to such a shameful action.
There used to be an actual law in Japan that children could dispose of their elderly parents once the parents were not useful (could not work) anymore. Seems like Japan is just returning to its "amazing" (not!) cultural norms.
Im 45 not married yet, my parents are 73 and 72, quit my job to taking care of them, i dont have brothers or sisters. Hard and difficult but simple way to say THEY THE ONLY ONE I HAVE.
In the U.S. as of 2022, 1 in 5 homeless people were over the age of 55. We have people in their 70's and 80's living out of their cars, sleeping on the street, or holed up at a shelter. I cannot say that we are any paragon of virtue when it comes to a nation not taking care of it's elderly population.
Funny , our friends in Tokyo aren't aware of this. WION'S ANGRY NARRATORS have now resorted to OVER-SENSATIONALIZED MICKEY MOUSE MANIPULATED MEDIA T A C T I C S. YOUR PHOTOS AND YOUR NUMBERS ARE NOT "OF" JAPAN, SO YOU 'RE STEALING CLIPS FROM OTHER PRODUCERS NOW ALSO. YOUR "NEWS" USED TO BE SOMEWHAT DEPENDABLE.... RED FLAG WION'S "RESEARCHING ABILITIES" WHICH ARE NOW EXTREMELY LACKING IN TRUTH . "Sometimes You Really Hurt My Feelings" Violinist solo by Teiji Okubo/Tokyo LyndaFayeSmusic@Yahoo Go Ahead, It'll Make Our Day!
Signs of the times children turning against their parents and vise versa. Ungodly and selfish ,take God out of the school and home, and you get this result.
This may seem cold but if society cannot uphold itself it will either buckle or dissipate and another culture/group will rebuild upon that ground like humans have been doing for thousands of years. If you plant a tree that you will not live to see only future generations will keep it going.
Also 35. My parents were the furthest thing from a blessing. If you had good ones, good for you. Not all of us did, and no amount of keeping a roof over our heads compensates for the bruises we had to hide, the stolen innocence, starving so the sisters could eat, never being good enough and thrown into their arguments. Parents are not irreplaceable because they did the same thing slug to spider to dog does to have offspring. They're irreplaceable if they are halfway decent. For the rest of us, broken by betrayal, parents are just another hurdle and a reminder of what could have been had they been mature enough to fight to be halfway decent.
I work in healthcare in the USA and I've seen the opposite: family will go to extreme measures to keep a terminally ill elderly patient "alive". This patient is often bedridden, mentally checked out, incapable of feeding himself/herself, incapable of controlling his/her bowels, etc. In some cases, it is better to allow nature to take it's course and let people die with dignity. However this decision should be made by the patient in advance rather than having someone make the decision for them.
I don't want to be killed but I also don't want to be left unable to enjoy life. When looking for nursing home for my mother there where so many where the elderly were just sitting and starring, having to be fed and no idea what was happening. I told my daughter to let me go when the time comes. If I don't want to eat don't force me. Let nature take its course.
@@Србомбоница86in the US, if you end up going to the ICU, most likely they will intubate you, start dialysis, then tracheostomy with peg tube and send off to nursing home. the american healthcare system is a slaughterhouse. dont become a slave to their system.
I helped care for my terminally ill mother while I was 9 months pregnant. I would have had it no other way. She gave her life to raise us kids. It was the least I could do for her. I only wish I could have done more. I always admired how the East respected their elders but I guess times are changing. 🇺🇸
I cared for my ailing parents, and MIL for years, and it is very draining… Caregiver fatigue is very real… Yet, at NO time did ending their lives ever cross my mind! I was more saddened just knowing their time on earth was soon coming to an end… Love them as best you can, and share the caregiving if possible… They gave many years of their lives taking care of you…🥰 🌼Lily🌼
We're they screaming in pain every time you touched them to change them for months on end? My mom passed yesterday and it was absolutely horrible what she went through. I made myself very clear to my family to end my life with pills if I don't know who they are and suffering. I'm terrified of ending up like my mom.
@user-gh8hl7uy8k I'm so, so sorry for what you experienced! No, my family members did not have such pain. That was absolutely the grace of God. I pray the trauma you experienced and the subsequent fear of the same will be replaced by the peace that only God can give. I hope that doesn't offend you... 🦋Lily🦋
There’s a lot of selfish entities here on earth, many adults do not want the burden, and say they didn’t ask to be here-but I wonder how time will fare for them as they age?
If he can "afford" assisted living why can't he stay with you and have nurses come by and help? Those places aren't safe. He's probably telling you that he doesn't want to be a burden on you and wishing you'd bring him into your home.
@@catwoman2596 People have to work and they need 24 hour care. These facilities are needed and cost money. If you can't afford and you have to work, they end up alone for hours while you work to pay bills. Nurses only come to check blood pressure and leave.
@@catwoman2596so easy to JUDGE !! Elderly need people around to SOCIALIZE!! Not only the NURSE!! Besides the nurse, he would have to pay for someone to COOK.and CLEAN.!! NURSES do no do that!@
I put myself through college and graduate school as an in-home caregiver and can tell you caregiver burnout is a serious problem in the US as well. I can't begin to tell you how many of my clients' family members were desperately tired, and that's among people who could afford to have a hired caregiver come in occasionally for some relief!
Yep. I haven’t yet found hired help who were willing to actually WORK. Visiting Angels quit on me, claiming that my dad needed more care than they could provide. They only wanted to do a “social visit”, after I saw the list of what they supposedly would do.
@salauerman7082 I worked for HomeInstead. TBH I ended up with the clients everyone else was too overwhelmed/ afraid to work with...to the point that I told the owner I should get hazardous duty pay - and she agreed and gave me a raise despite me being at the highest step of the pay scale. I am sorry you are going through this. It doesn't help, but I will be thinking of you.
I cared at home for my granny for 9 years un antisocial environment. I did lot's of mistakes, but nothing is compared to the pain and guilt for not saving her from the claws of a reaper in the white coat at nursing home, where she was tortured to the death with poisonous drugs... I had life while nursing my granny under physically and mentally hard and dangerous circumstances, but I had a LIFE. No I'm dead. All what's left from is a bodily shell... What causes the burnout of caregivers? Not having proper help from society.
@@bforman1300 thank you! I actually have some relief, with my dad on hospice now, and a friend who has been willing to do respite/CLS for my son at my house, so I could do a couple errands for my dad.
I do not support euthanasia, and I cared for both my parents and am now caring for my MIL. It is HARD people. Not everybody can do it. It can be too expensive wiping out all of the money in the family. Some Alzheimer's patients get physically violent and are too hard for someone to handle. It should be shared care among surviving family members, but is often dumped on just one. At best it is a very difficult situation. At worst, it is unmanageable. My heart breaks for families in this situation. Be kind. Help anyone who needs it. Pay it forward. Give people a break. In this season of love and hope. Be there. God bless you.
I am 51 and looked after my 87 year old Dad till he passed away 2 months ago. This is my first Christmas without him. I didn't, couldn't celebrate. Every morning and bedtime are especially difficult for me because that was when Daddy would like to tell me about his younger days and about his father. There were difficult times but I could never have imagined not having him with me and looking after each other. I would do it all over again if I could have him back with me.
We cared for all our family, it was not a burden, but a privilege. Caring for my mum until her 103rd year was the happiest time of our lives, we had real fun. Just my husband and myself left now, social care hopeless here in the UK, we shall care for each other to the end.
You seem to be despairing of the British social care, but I sense an aura of optimism in your writing. If my assumption is correct, could you please tell me the reason?
@@0.shusei There are still many good people in this world and we have to keep optimistic because not to do so would be defeatist, but having said that my smiles and assurances hide a certain amount of apprehension which I need to overcome by remaining positive. Always nurturing a sense of purpose is a sure way of dispelling sadness and when I'm done I shall be thoroughly used up, every scrap of my small frame put to use😊 When we married in 1966 the words till death scared the life out of me, and when we are asked how we've made it work we can only think it's that joint sense of purpose, the idea in every venture throughout life 'If we're going to do this, we'll do it good'. Thanks for your I interest, I needed a reminder to work on my inner optimism and what I might be able to contribute in my future final years in this mixed up world.
We heard about a Chinese family who took in their grandmother who was almost 100 age... They nursed her til she died... It is amazing how Asians have so much patience to care for the elderly having Strong Family Ties instead of sending them into a Rest Home! It is a fact that Mexicans work in America and also send money to their families in Mexico like the Filipinos do to their Homeland!! Love is very strong when you believe deeply about pure love! ❤❤❤❤❤
It's not exactly the same but I helped care for my older brother when he was diagnosed with Cancer at age 31. He made it just passed his 32nd. He always took care of us younger siblings and any young children. RIP Todd. Miss ya bro! Glad I was there till the end.
I’ve always looked after my parents for years it was tiering but I done it coz I loved them so much ..I miss my parents now so much How can they do that it’s aweful 😢😢😢😢😢😢
It is all becos of science. People prefer science over religion. In india people are mostly religuos. They tool care of the aging parent. We should all embracs religous.
Disgusting. I just lost my 92 year old mother, who I loved very much. I would do anything to have her back so I could take care of her. 😢 These people are evil.
I mean look at the wording, " Every eight days in the decade to 2021, an average of one elderly Japanese person was killed by a member of their own family or committed suicide after killing a relative they were caring for, according to a study released this month " I mean yeah, this clearly is a problem, "That's nearly 500 elderly people who got killed by family members in the decade leading to 2021 " mind you that's in a country of 120 million people whose 40 percent of population is above 60. But they got to get the views for making sensational claims, so they somehow worded it differently. Imagine the views it would get by wording it as " nearly 500 Japanese elderly get killed by their family member in a decade " and " in every 8 days one elderly person get killed by their own family in a decade " 😂😂" Journalism "😂😂
Tears in my eyes🥹, who ever is reading this please never ever abondon your parents take good care of them no matter which society or religion from you're family is the most precious thing in this world.😭
Carer burnout is very real, usually one person is left with all the work and the others disappear. A parent with dementia means you can’t work properly to support yourself and will be highly stressed. We need real affordable solutions.
Tell that to Joe Biden, our Howdy Doody, whose strings stretch all the way to china. Funny , our friends in Tokyo aren't aware of this. WION'S ANGRY NARRATORS have now resorted to OVER-SENSATIONALIZED MICKEY MOUSE MANIPULATED MEDIA T A C T I C S. YOUR PHOTOS AND YOUR NUMBERS ARE NOT "OF" JAPAN, SO YOU 'RE STEALING CLIPS FROM OTHER PRODUCERS NOW ALSO. YOUR "NEWS" USED TO BE SOMEWHAT DEPENDABLE.... RED FLAG WION'S "RESEARCHING ABILITIES" WHICH ARE NOW EXTREMELY LACKING IN TRUTH . "A Love Song for Joe Biden" "Sometimes You Really Hurt My Feelings" Violinist solo by Teiji Okubo/Tokyo LyndaFayeSmusic@Yahoo Go Ahead, It'll Make Our Day!
Could this be a factor that makes young men in America decide never to marry and never have children....(MIGTOW)....what if a young man married and had children...and then the wife decides that she wants a younger model and drags him through Divorce Court? So this man will have to give up what? Half his possessions, pay child support, and also pay rent or house payments for himself and healthcare costs? And then 20-30 years down the road help pay for his Parents Care in a hospital or hospice? Thats like 4 Financial Strikes for this man. So many Young Men are vowing never to marry or have kids to lessen their burden.
You’re full of it. Men are the ones trying to switch their wife out for a “newer model”. And men are the ones saying that women “expire” at 30 years old because of how our reproductive systems work. Men won’t divorce you, but they’ll cheat on you and make your life a living Hell literally because they’re constantly horny.
My parents and infact every family member who are getting old and are old say they would rather leave this life while they can do tasks and not live in a vegetative state. Not because they know they won't be taken care of, but because they dont want to turn into a burden and they are seeing others older to them, how it is. So it scares them to lose control and not know what they are doing. Not remembering faces. Not knowing whether they did do something or not.
In theory. But .... for 2, 3 or 4 DECADES? There will be more people taking care of the old than creating anything - the unexpected "benefit" of keeping old people alive AT ANY COST. It is selfish of old people to drain the lives of the young BEYOND A CERTAIN POINT. The need and greed of the elderly condemns many young people to great hardship. / This subject needs open debate, because it will affect EVERY nation. The more greedy government becomes, the fewer children people have - it is a global trend. "Civilisation". /
But how able are people when they have very little sleep for months on end, have to constantly keep a constant eye on a loved one so that they don't harm themselves due to dementia, cleaning up their poo and pee wherever it may fall, feed them, wash, clothe, attend to the screaming cries of pain? And when there are 2 parents in the family both needing attention? And amidst that, how do you cook, clean, do laundry, look after children etc? I don't believe ending their lives is the answer but it is probably far harder than you realise. And when those carers fall sick, who picks up the pieces?
@@alibali672 Didnt they do this for them when they were infants? If you value and love your family, doing these things is nothing compared to the time you get to spend with them.
@@alibali672 Exactly. I couldn't agree more. And the cognitive dissonance involved in having to care for a narcissistic parent who stole from your own life is horrible. Narcs are never going to leave you in peace - but spin a good story to ensure you are judged by others if you don't display the filial affection expected of you.
I took care of my mother for 20 years and yes its mentally exhausting, especially when they seem to purposely push your buttons.😐 my mother has been gone 3 years and I'm still affected by it, not even spent any of my inheritance. I've been so unwell physically and mentally. I'm finally getting bit better now though. Its a very hard job. Merry Xmas everyone🎉
Was is active illness and bed ridden most time or just living with you and provided those basic necessities. I get that mental and emotional draining it causes, my grandfather was demanding as if hes a little brother to me and my two siblings and my mother was more to him as a maid than daughter-in-law. But until end, its was his house and he is "chieftan" of the family and his word was last. Will and inheritence was finally settled this year in his 93rd year and sadly(or ironically) he passed a month ago, thanfully with style on his two feet.
@ivanmatusic5540 she was in her own home and I went there to get her out of bed and cook and get her ready for the day, I left at about 3pm every day with some sort of meal left for her dinner if she wanted it later. I myself was already unwell so it was extra difficult for me. She spent 12 months in a nursing home after her memory completely went and I couldn't cope any more with what was happening. I did better than most but sad I couldn't keep her home for rest of her life but my mental health and physical health slam dunked me big time.
@umarmayet4647 Thanks for that, appreciate it big time🙏 we never feel we do enough, always thinking why could I have done better. It's a hard job. I'm not a mother either so was harder.🫤😄
@@iamthatiam44444 To me that's a sign you were good enough. Everyone doubts themselves but know when to let go. Letting go is the hardest part, it's rock bottom. Remember you can always build yourself up
I watched my grandmother with dementia for less than a week and felt exhausted. Daytime was fine, but nighttime and Sundowner's syndrome wore me out due to sleep interruptions. I hope I can take enough care of my health in the future to remain active and independent until I pass.
We are living in a world where comfort and selfishness is at the top priority.. The irony is that we all are getting old and the fate written in our heads is a mystery yet to be discovered.. we reap what we sow!
This is a very difficult issue. My ex mother in law spent the last 6 years in a nursing home with dementia. My wife had passed away 6 years earlier, and my mother in law lived 1,300 km from us. My kids hardly knew their grandmother, since she rarely visited. The kids went a couple of times to visit, but were frustrated because grandma was clueless who the people were. It can be very sad life for many people
This video is heartbreaking! I cared for my wonderful husband until he passed away in my arms, at 47 years of age, from cancer.💔💔💔 Two years later I moved in with my dear father as his caregiver because he had become legally blind. We had 8 1/2 wonderful years together until he passed at 91 years of age.💔😭💔Yes, it is physically and emotionally exhausting. But when you dearly love someone, it doesn’t matter. You would do anything for them. Especially in their time of need. They were both good men and the two most important people in my life and in my heart. It was a privilege to take care of them. Several times my daddy told me that I added years to his life being his caregiver. That meant the world to me. We never have enough time with our loved ones. But soon we will have forever! (Revelation 21:3, 4)
You’re a hero in my book. I was a caretaker for my dad for two long years while dementia and als took its toll. Now my mom is 81 and I’ll be doing the same for her unless we get raptured. It’s terribly hard on the psyche but by the grace of God I’m getting through. Bless you. ❤
My husband and I made a pact that once we are unable to care for ourselves we will leave this planet together. We will not be a burden to our daughter. Just as, in case of an accident we do not want to be in a vegetative state. It's better to die than be a burden to your loved ones.
i find this absolutely revolting having laid my wife to rest after a long illness. i would give anything to have one more day with her. this is totally inhuman!
WION'S ANGRY NARRATORS have now resorted to OVER-SENSATIONALIZED MICKEY MOUSE MANIPULATED MEDIA T A C T I C S. YOUR PHOTOS AND YOUR NUMBERS ARE NOT "OF" JAPAN, SO YOU 'RE STEALING CLIPS FROM OTHER PRODUCERS NOW ALSO. YOUR "NEWS" USED TO BE SOMEWHAT DEPENDABLE.... RED FLAG WION'S "RESEARCHING ABILITIES" WHICH ARE NOW EXTREMELY LACKING IN TRUTH .
@@robertschaaf7192 WION'S ANGRY NARRATORS have now resorted to OVER-SENSATIONALIZED MICKEY MOUSE MANIPULATED MEDIA T A C T I C S. YOUR PHOTOS AND YOUR NUMBERS ARE NOT "OF" JAPAN, SO YOU 'RE STEALING CLIPS FROM OTHER PRODUCERS NOW ALSO. YOUR "NEWS" USED TO BE SOMEWHAT DEPENDABLE.... RED FLAG WION'S "RESEARCHING ABILITIES" WHICH ARE NOW EXTREMELY LACKING IN TRUTH .
Again, the uselessness of having kids. Karmic retribution for the selfishness of parents who only had self-interest when deciding to give birth to kids into this awful place. Or for parents who abused their kids psychologically and/or physically. There are lousy parents, just as there are lousy children.
as someone of Gen Z yeah we weren't really introduced it unless you're lucky. Maybe it's cause i grew up with a lot of my peers who were apathetic but yeah we're one of the loneliest generations who borderline grew up with the internet and a broken society thats made us numb and more depressed. We kinda were taught to be selfish, and i'm truly sorry for that.
like generations living together and helping each othet. remember when being a young adult living alone was considered strange? not that far back maybe early 60s late 50s. before then depression and wartimes made living together survival. our current cost of living now returning bak to survival techniques.
My wonderful mother died on October 1st, after a minor no-injury fall from a chair. I tried my best to keep her alive, but she simply shut down, in spite of my efforts. I miss her, and my life will never be the same without her. I still complain at God for taking her from me.
I share in your grief. I just lost my mom in August and it was such a big blow. She was 74. I was not happy but God knows why . God understands He shares in our grief when we allow Him. Be strong 💪
I suggest u watch the movie After death it helped me have peace with my dad passing because I know my dad isn't missing us because he's in a great place, reunited with all his loved ones that passed before him & one day I will see him too. I miss him every day, but watching the movie helped me with not being angry at God. I would want my dad back in a heartbeat, but that would be me being selfish.
You may find this Hard To Read, but it will help You. / People are so scared of death, they often prevent people leaving - just look at the millions stacked in "care" homes. Only bodies die. And the Birth-to-Death-I-dentity. / What we REALLY are, simply IS - it cannot die. And the life it lived with You, is but a tiny fraction of what it REALLY is. / As are You. / We are brainwashed. Into ignorance. / Your Mother chose to leave. But she is still with You. We are NOT a body. We ARE. Everything. / So EVERYTHING around You is Her, is You, is Everyone. / What You put out, comes back. Life is One Huge Mirror to Our Thoughts. So, Be Happy that Your Mother is Home, Free to Choose Her Next Life. Because I assure You, that is exactly what is happening. / Sending You a Zen-Hug! /
I am so sorry to read this. A fall at a geriatric age can be very high risk. This is so unexpected. You are in a deep crisis, please take all the support being offered.
The elderly here in America are being priced out of housing all over our country. Very few can afford a one bedroom apartment in any state. The nomad population (those who live in their vehicle) has risen and the homeless population is out of control in every single city. The average cost of a one bedroom apartment is now $1,700 while the average Social Security check is only $1,600. Even if they owned their homes property taxes and medical care costs leaves them unable to afford food, maintenance and transportation
that scenario happens in MANY countries; WION'S ANGRY NARRATORS have now resorted to OVER-SENSATIONALIZED MICKEY MOUSE MANIPULATED MEDIA T A C T I C S. YOUR PHOTOS AND YOUR NUMBERS ARE NOT "OF" JAPAN, SO YOU 'RE STEALING CLIPS FROM OTHER PRODUCERS NOW ALSO. YOUR "NEWS" USED TO BE SOMEWHAT DEPENDABLE.... RED FLAG WION'S "RESEARCHING ABILITIES" WHICH ARE NOW EXTREMELY LACKING IN TRUTH .
He was just showing compassion and mercy, but yes I'm sure it broke his heart. I will NEVER be a burden to anyone. In my 60s now and tic toc goes the clock. Fine with that don't need to be propped up on machines and be yet another Weekend at Bernies guy.
What is sad is the later generations are having fewer kids, which means fewer grandkids kids to help out and visit the elderly. We need to be prepared to limit ourselves of being a burden.
busy? hes not busy! hes OLD and likely cant even look after himself any more! he likely cant even remember his own name hardly let alone remember if he fed her or gave her a drink of water, or looked after her bathroom needs, meds, he likely could even wash himself or give her a bathe, its insane. u have no clue! go to a nursing home and locate an 86 yr old man and ASK yourself could HE look after ANYONE????@@judybrennan7930
I lost my mom last year after taking care for her for 7 years. I missed her so much and feel blessed have the opportunity to be with her until her last day. She died at 89 yo. ❤❤❤
My grandpa tells me he wants to die every day he is 94 healthy and just tired of living in a world he says has gone to hell... I feel sorry for him and wish i was as healthy as he is, i am in worse health than he is and but i understand him ..
I'm interested in getting the source material for this story. Living in Japan, and having my in-laws pass away and my experience is very very different to this story.
@@hittingthewall the way the "report" is worded along with the wording of the banners beneath the speaker leads me to believe there is more emotional outrage manipulation than pure facts.
But not just that. This story doesn't make sense. There is CRIME in every country. If you look statistically....family members are killing family members for their own reason WORLD WIDE. It mat have nothing to do with having to CARE for them. It could have been an argument, disagreement or anything that led to killings....BUT THAT'S WORLD WIDE. As in INDIA, nobody has ever murdered a FAMILY MEMBER?Or in Ethiopia 🇪🇹 or in Russia or in America?
One person every eight days, is about 50 people a year in a country of 125 million. That's tiny. In the United States, medical errors kill about 1200 people in one single day.
Just to be clear, medical errors are killing 440,000 people a year compared to 50 a year. All 50 of those could be simply attributed to mental illness in children. I'm sure the stress contributes but this is not a national crisis this is a outlier aberration and frankly I'm a little surprised that it is this low. I'm sure you can find somewhere numbers in it almost any country
My grandpa his entire life when asked how he was doing always said, “ I’m doing 100”. Born in 1897, he wanted to live to see 1997. In great health in his 100th Birthday he said, “ I should have said 103, I could have lived in two centuries “. Not knowing in one month, snd four days, the cold he caught going out in freezing January, and having everyone shake your hand would kill you. The message, it’s all to short, and yes, everyday is a gift
Well its just a recipe & right timing, for cold and flu viruses. Going out in cokd wether lowers immunity, if frail, old or maybe not eating all the right vitamins. But if ur robust & immunity is high walking in the cold and picking up the germs may not get you down or take you out. In elderly a cold can lead to pnuemonia, same with flu. That hard coughing we do to expel phlegm when sick & it wears u out, u dont have the strength to do when too weak, so u die easier & fight the fight well. But yeh I got sick in November after veing out in cokd damp air without a scarf
Exqctly. Japanese are extremely introvert nd they don't talk qith stranger which makes them isolated. Talking with others makes Oneonta stress free md japanese are heavily machine, robot , technology dependant
@@masmo4779 Many humans were termed "accidents!" Get ready for the great amalgamation and procreation for recreation- coming in hoards, and no birth control. Funny , our friends in Tokyo aren't aware of this. WION'S ANGRY NARRATORS have now resorted to OVER-SENSATIONALIZED MICKEY MOUSE MANIPULATED MEDIA T A C T I C S. YOUR PHOTOS AND YOUR NUMBERS ARE NOT "OF" JAPAN, SO YOU 'RE STEALING CLIPS FROM OTHER PRODUCERS NOW ALSO. YOUR "NEWS" USED TO BE SOMEWHAT DEPENDABLE.... RED FLAG WION'S "RESEARCHING ABILITIES" WHICH ARE NOW EXTREMELY LACKING IN TRUTH .GOOD GAMBLE ON A TITLE, TOO, SINCE MOST COUNTRIES ARE EXPERIENCING HEALTH CARE PROBLEMS. "Sometimes You Really Hurt My Feelings" Violinist solo by Teiji Okubo/Tokyo LyndaFayeSmusic@Yahoo Go Ahead, It'll Make Our Day!
Americans don't work much and it doesn't stress them out or drive them crazy. They want everything for free; Healthcare, tuition, food, house,drugs and they complain about people on SS
Our parents took care of us all their lives. We must not reject and abandon them when they need us most. The elderly are in many ways valuable to our families and society even when they don't assist financially or when their bodies are weak.
That doesn't apply to everybody. There is a rise in single parenthood for a reason and some children are not even planned. Plus the child never asked to be born, the parents bought it to the world by their own will so the child doesn't owe them anything.
@@alcoholicjoe6199 Many humans were termed "accidents!" Get ready for the great amalgamation and procreation for recreation- coming in hoards, and no birth control. Funny , our friends in Tokyo aren't aware of this. WION'S ANGRY NARRATORS have now resorted to OVER-SENSATIONALIZED MICKEY MOUSE MANIPULATED MEDIA T A C T I C S. YOUR PHOTOS AND YOUR NUMBERS ARE NOT "OF" JAPAN, SO YOU 'RE STEALING CLIPS FROM OTHER PRODUCERS NOW ALSO. YOUR "NEWS" USED TO BE SOMEWHAT DEPENDABLE.... RED FLAG WION'S "RESEARCHING ABILITIES" WHICH ARE NOW EXTREMELY LACKING IN TRUTH .GOOD GAMBLE ON A TITLE, TOO, SINCE MOST COUNTRIES ARE EXPERIENCING HEALTH CARE PROBLEMS. "Sometimes You Really Hurt My Feelings" Violinist solo by Teiji Okubo/Tokyo LyndaFayeSmusic@Yahoo Go Ahead, It'll Make Our Day!
I agree. Perhaps some people are unable to do so but I chose to give care to my parents. I couldn't have asked for better, sweetest parents to be raised by. It's a sacrifice but I don't regret it one bit.
Not every parent loved their children and often those are forced into being their carers when nobody else wants them after having been literally horrors when young.
In the US, the same thing is going on. Nursing homes use strong antipsychotic drugs as a way to chemically restrain people to the point that they can't even hold up their own heads. They keep them alive so the home can suck off as many of the elder's assets as possible and then weaken them to the point that they can off them at any time.
Nothing wrong with Japanese Society; THEY ALSO PROVIDE FOR THEIR HOMELESS TOO...WION doesn't want to handle that NOT ENOUGH VIEWS. OVER SENSATIONALED DISJUNCT TITLES FOR VIEWS IS QUITE A LUCRATIVE BUSINESS. Now check out the movie FARAHA and the year 1948 and learn about the CHILDREN AND FAMILIES DYING IN Palestine too? We all have to go sometime; Don't live in guilt; Being shoved into a convalescent home with other already infected Covid patients wasn't pleasant either; Wonder W.H.O. came up with "that " one? Many humans were termed "accidents!" Get ready for the great amalgamation and procreation for recreation- coming in hoards, and no birth control. Funny , our friends in Tokyo aren't aware of this. WION'S ANGRY NARRATORS have now resorted to OVER-SENSATIONALIZED MICKEY MOUSE MANIPULATED MEDIA T A C T I C S. YOUR PHOTOS AND YOUR NUMBERS ARE NOT "OF" JAPAN, SO YOU 'RE STEALING CLIPS FROM OTHER PRODUCERS NOW ALSO. YOUR "NEWS" USED TO BE SOMEWHAT DEPENDABLE.... RED FLAG WION'S "RESEARCHING ABILITIES" WHICH ARE NOW EXTREMELY LACKING IN TRUTH .GOOD GAMBLE ON A TITLE, TOO, SINCE MOST COUNTRIES ARE EXPERIENCING HEALTH CARE PROBLEMS. "Sometimes You Really Hurt My Feelings" Violinist solo by Teiji Okubo/Tokyo LyndaFayeSmusic@Yahoo Go Ahead, It'll Make Our Day!
I thought they were soooo respectful of the elderly in Japan??? R their families THAT SELF ABSORBED? How can they forget how those parent's CARED & Sacrificed so much for them when they were children?? This is surreal!!💔 💔 💔
My Mom became senile at 92 and more so until she passed away at 101. Her care was a family group effort. I would get up in the morning, take my two grandchildren to daycare. While I did that their mother would get my Mom dressed and I would take her to Elder daycare. My grand children called it Grandmas “Daycare”. She loved it there and it gave a break for me. It was private ran by a couple in rented space at a church. They had 12 clients. Until we did that she would “run away” down the street. LOL. I think she was just bored because once she started daycare she never did that again. I would pick the grandkids up from their daycare and pick her up on the way back. She would spend a weekend or two with my other daughter. My son-in-law chipped in and helped when needed. I can see where just one person to care for a dementia person would be overwhelming. Mon lived to be 101. We had no regrets.
A cousin of mine, had ailing parents, Father suffering from dimentia and Mother had multiple complicated health issues, he and his wife were both working and had a young school going son to take care of. It was a daily struggle for them to have sick parents to look after, they had hired a cook, a maid and a care taker for the father, spent a fortune for 4 years befor the Father passed away. He had good career opportunities in US and Australia, He could have kept his parents in an old age home and migrated, had a good life by now, but he chose not to and stayed back only out of sense of duty towards his Parents. He had a good job and could afford to hire help, but not everyone is in that position. Even then it's a matter of choice, what you prioritize in life.
How can you say such things? Your parents could have made a lot of life changing choices when you were a kid but they didn't. They sacrificed a lot for you. And how can even someone compare the love of parents to jobs and better life. It's strange how these people think.
Either care for parents or leave them , but do not regret it after taking a decision...... I would suggest my friends the same thing, pick a side and stick to it. Even though I personally feel "take care of parents, they are everything"
@@sayanidatta5728parents have responsabilités towards children since they decided to have them (not the reverse). And to take care of aging parents you need money, a lot, so yes you can be talking about opportunities and job since they're the things giving you money...
This is one of the cleverly worded report I have ever seen. I mean look at the wording, " Every eight days in the decade to 2021, an average of one elderly Japanese person was killed by a member of their own family or committed suicide " That is if you say in a direct way with out any twisted word play , that is about 500 Japanese elders getting killed by their own family in a period of 10 years. Mind you about 40 percent of 120 million Japanese are above 60. That is literally better than 98 percent of the countries in the world. This report doesn't say Japan has the wealthiest elderly peoples in the world. Japan currently has 92,000 peoples who are above 100. That makes it the country with highest life expectancy in the world.
I Loved my parents, Dad died of dementia at 88. Mun died of cancer at 72. I quit my job and looked after them till their final weeks when they were hospitalised. Never, ever would have I hurt them. After all, they looked after me when I was a boy. Maybe Finnish people respect and value their elders more than other cultures.
I don’t think that can be true. It is a natural thing to want to care for parents and also it should come from your heart. Or even if you only feel it is your obligation to at least do it with kindness and compassion. There are kind and compassionate people in every culture and nation. The problem is our modern society , most people don’t live the way we ought to live in small caring communities with extended families. There would always be someone to care for the elderly and the responsibility would not just be on one person. Things have to change. People are under too much pressure.
I cared for my mother for 11 years. She was 86 when she was manipulated by a sibling to care for her. She died a year later from improper caregiving, abuse, and neglect. I cry every time because I warned her and so did several other family and friends.
Im really hurt and sorry to hear this ........ sibling and family manipulation and deceit is veryyyyyy real .....because all dey are seeing is money bank account ..........but ur heart was in the right place u genuinely cared ........someone in this position should pray and ask God to intervene and open their mother eyes to see the truth ....the heart of man is so wicked and evil
I remember my 85 years old mother telling me that in the olden days when the husband died, the villagers would place the wife, still alive, in a big urn and bury her in the house as she must not live alone without her husband. As I always believe, history will repeat itself in an ever evolving format. Ubasute is coming back to haunt us. Seniors get ready. Learn to be independent and never trust anyone,including your own shadow.
It's why we work all our lives , not to be a burden on our children. Caring for some elderly breaks up families, not every old person is a blessing to have around
This was happening, once, in India as well... Read about "Thalai-Kkutthu" in ultra rural areas of central Tamil Nadu, that was because of sheer poverty... People sitting in a/c wont know that....
I am a retired CNA/HHA, this is a healthcare field that is growing. There are free training classes and you get certification and hired. Many of these seniors and unwell clients have no family members either. Not enough staff to care for them. People are not signing up for the classes so many facilities are short staffed. And yes, there's also neglect in the facilities. Thanks for the informative video. Maybe people will be more aware and try to help.
One of the biggest problems is lack of training. I worked for an organisation, in England that had care facilities in over twenty different countries, and they cared for adults with learning disabilities, whatever the age. We were all trained exceptionally well by our employers, who were a bye word for good care and excellent training. Unfortunately you can't teach empathy and patience that comes from within. We also understood that the caring community/homes etc are the Cinderellas of care work. They are the places that get the least funding. The local council wanted places for people in need but wanted to pay as little as possible. No matter where a person is cared for it takes time, love, patience, empathy and money and oft times all of these are in short supply often due to staff shortages and lack of funding. The sad thing is this will probably get worse and Japan is not the first country I have heard doing this there is another one much closer to home.
@@beccabbea2511 So true, you can't teach empathy. One lad on a facility I worked at actually said he was in it for the money, the pay was pretty decent.
Part of the reason why so many facilities are short staffed, is because they are not hiring. They are more concerned with profits than care, and hiring more people cuts into profits. They will be the first to shell out the bucks to buy robots to provide the care, when they become available, and only the minimum number they need in order to provide a minimum of care. In other words, when robots can do a human's job, they will still be short staffed, with overworked robots, rather than overworked humans.
And here in India, a certain businessman wants us to compete with Japan by working for 70 hours a week. Japan is a failed society even though they might be economically well off, but of what use is the economy, if you aren't alive to reap its benefits? The social fabric of Japanese society is damaged, the Japanese are dying due to stress, killing themselves due to loneliness, not dating and marrying as they don't get enough time and hence not producing future generations for the country and yet this businessman will only look at one aspect i.e. the economy and gift wrap it under the garb of nationalism only to emotionally guilt-trip people and manipulate them to fill his own pockets.
HA, AND THE FRENCH WON'T GIVE UP THIER TWO HOUR BENEFICIAL RELAXED LUNCHES! OVER SENSATIONALED DISJUNCT TITLES FOR VIEWS IS QUITE A LUCRATIVE BUSINESS. Now check out the movie FARAHA and the year 1948 and learn about the CHILDREN AND FAMILIES DYING IN Palestine too? We all have to go sometime; Don't live in guilt; Being shoved into a convalescent home with other already infected Covid patients wasn't pleasant either; Wonder W.H.O. came up with "that " one? Many humans were termed "accidents!" Get ready for the great amalgamation and procreation for recreation- coming in hoards, and no birth control. Funny , our friends in Tokyo aren't aware of this. WION'S ANGRY NARRATORS have now resorted to OVER-SENSATIONALIZED MICKEY MOUSE MANIPULATED MEDIA T A C T I C S. YOUR PHOTOS AND YOUR NUMBERS ARE NOT "OF" JAPAN, SO YOU 'RE STEALING CLIPS FROM OTHER PRODUCERS NOW ALSO. YOUR "NEWS" USED TO BE SOMEWHAT DEPENDABLE.... RED FLAG WION'S "RESEARCHING ABILITIES" WHICH ARE NOW EXTREMELY LACKING IN TRUTH .GOOD GAMBLE ON A TITLE, TOO, SINCE MOST COUNTRIES ARE EXPERIENCING HEALTH CARE PROBLEMS. "Sometimes You Really Hurt My Feelings" Violinist solo by Teiji Okubo/Tokyo LyndaFayeSmusic@Yahoo Go Ahead, It'll Make Our Day!
I wouldn't worry too much about Japan. From UN life expectancy ranking out of 201 countries for 2023 Hong Kong rank 1 Japan rank 3 U.S. rank 47 India rank 126 🦉
@@shermanpeabody6102 Ok, but how can you be so sure that their rankings are valid? According to their rankings, pakistan ranks higher than India in terms of happiness index, whereas they are struggling to afford basic needs such as food.
My heart goes for the Japanese elderly . Japan should open their caregiver industry to foreign work. This is more of a cultural openness issue than a financial one. I don't mean to sound opportunistic but the Philippines can help the Japanese elderly in this regard. The Filipinos are known for caring for the elderly.And It doesn't have to be expensive. The language barrier issue can be solved by the help of digital technology. There's google translate and other AI language translation platforms. The most important thing is the physical and emotional caring which the Filipinos excel at. The Philippine government can also send thousands of caregivers at the Philippines' expense as a sign of goodwill. Let this be a gesture of love and support for Japan. The Philippine government should explore the possibility of giving free services to Japan and pay the Filipino workers at Philippine standard rate,with maybe food and lodging at the Japanese government's expense. Let's do this!
Matagal ng meron may friend ako care giver dun since the late 2000. Ang problema kasi kaya mahirap makapasok ang Pinoy ay dahil kailangan marunong sila mag niponggo. Madaming mga dating Japayuki nun 90's yan ngayon ang mga trabaho dun since nun tumanda sila at wala ng value may asset pa din sila dahil marunong sila ng linggwahe.
I am 76 and my biggest fear is to be a burden on my family. They are love and caring but they are so busy with work and their family. So far I take care of myself but still I worry about becoming a burden!
My mother is 73 y, we all love and respect her... caring for our parents means teaching our children to love, respect and care for their parents❤.. God bless you all.
I have lived in Japan more than 30 years, it's my home. this video has a considerably misleading title and on-screen headlines (but hey, we won't get any clicks if we don't sensationalize)..... the fact is, many elderly, and many middle-aged and misfit "children" of oldsters just don't know what to do, how to cope.... exhausted! so yes, in some cases, they do kill their spouse or parent. it's a case of desperation, and that stems from a lack of support, facilities, and education. more often than not, they kill themselves afterwards. notwithstanding all the guff about what a group-oriented, homogeneous and caring society Japan is, all very well if you're in the group, many aren't, they are in fact, isolated, and desperate. it's really not as simple as "Japan's young are killing heir parents". I suspect that more oldsters are killed by 'carers' in 'homes', than by family members, according to what I read in the news. I have met and known many many people here who look after aged and ailing parents, even sacrificing their own lifestyle. this accounts for the the vast majority (as per many of the comments below, people look after their own). in a country with more than a third of its population over 65, this video is referring to a few hundred cases. quoted in the video as "alarming statistics" are figures suggested by an unspecified person who conducted a "study" based on information geaned from "media": in the 10 years up to 2021, 443 deaths of elderly (no surprise there, old people die). and 437 cases of murder or suicide (casting a wide net). quoting the video again, in said 10 years. there were 13 cases of sibling killing (just over 1 a year!), and 7 cases of a grandchild killing a grandparent... in 10 years remember. also quoted: in that 10 year period an elderly person was killed by a family member every 8 days (less than 40 a year). also quoted: 206 cases of a child killing a parent.... so it seems that of the 437 cases of "murder or suicide" mentioned above, 111 were suicides... so why quote those figures in the context of family killings? in all of this, no statistics given of other countries by way of comparison. all-in-all a trashy bit of 'journalism'.
I think i have taken care of family my whole life. Im a 61 yr old woman. My husband was really sick for a couple years and took care of him til he died may 2022. We were taking care of our four grandchildren from the day they were born, they even called and loved him like a daddy, the 2 baby girls especially. He died in 2022. The boys are 17 and 14 and the girls are 13 and 10. When he died my mother who is 79 had fallen and then when released from the hospital could not live alone anymore so she moved in with me and the kids. It is very hard. My daughter who took off and went west for many, many years is back and making things worse. My dad had fallen also and hit his head and died a month later 2023. My cousin died in march 2020, my aunt april 2020 and my baby sister may 2020. I know we all get older and death is a part of life and my oldest son know that iam not going to be a burden to no one. We already have plans if anything debilitating happens to me. I will not be kept alive on a damn machine, nor will i move in with my children. There should be a law to die with dignity, where when you get to a certain age or cant function properly, dimentia, paralyzed or just ready to leave this world, that drs could give you a shot and let you die. I know iam not going to suffer anymore or be a burden. I have to stay around for at least another 8 to 10 years if i can, to make sure the grandchildren finiah school and are headed in the right direction to be happy in life. That my mother has passed and then i can go.
Get yourself a bible. Start reading it . Repent of your sins, thought, action ,words . Ask the Lord Jesus to forgive you,invite him in your heart . Just do it sincerely.
Only the Japanese can tell the Japanese what to do for their elderly. Other countries can only show a good example. Many countries had a history of the elderly "walking off into the forest" to die so the young didn't have to struggle or starve to death--especially during winter when they could just "go to sleep" from hypothermia. It was the last gift parents could give to their descendants. Everyone should make sure their loved ones know what they want. Even young adults never know when they'll be in a disabling accident or attack of some sort. A living will should be essential.
There is such a thing as 'care-giver' fatique, and unfortunately this does happen. But it isn't isolated to only Japan, so this reporter isn't being at all fair. It happens in India too!
After reading dozens of comments here, it is clear that while the doctors are capable of keeping people alive, they cannot make them young again, and it is the responsibility of our society to make sure that people are treated decently as their lives wind down to an end. This will mean training more people in care of the elderly, development of better technology for that care, careful monitoring of patients’ quality of life, and possibly considering euthanasia when the quality of life is gone. Our whole approach to life, death, and medicine has become way too dependent on MONEY, and we need to work on that, TOO!
"The Ballad of Narayama" is a Japanese film of great beauty and elegant artifice, telling a story of startling cruelty. What a space it opens up between its origins in the kabuki style and its subject of starvation in a mountain village! The village enforces a tradition of carrying those who have reached the age of 70 up the side of mountain and abandoning them there to die of exposure.
An Indian pushes his mother down the stairs in a wheelchair that was the latest I read. CCTV shown him pushing his mother later mother was found at the staircase dead
Japanese people are like robots, not enough love and emotions in their lives. Parents have to work long hours till late at night, and little kids 5-6 years old are independent, walk to/from school alone, and stay home alone most of the time. What we read about Japan or see when we come as tourists is entirely different from what we see when we live in Japan, work, and interact daily with the Japanese nation. I lived in Japan for seven years and am not surprised to hear that.
I foresee this being normal in many countries including USA. The rising health cost, rising cost of long term care, lack of qualified or passionate caregivers will make this seem acceptable. I myself would not want to be a burden on anyone! If euthanasia of animals is acceptable, maybe it should be considered for humans. When quality of life is no longer there, why shouldn’t this be an option. It would release the person suffering from illness or old age or both from just existing and give back the life of the people that are tasked with their care. These types of situations could go on for years with the person lingering and it will take a physical and emotional toll on those caring for them!
This is what happens in countries with low birthrates, forcing one child to single-handedly support several elderly dependents. I hate to blame the victim here, but let these extreme (yet increasingly common) cases be a warning to those who are averse to having a large family only to be left desperately fighting for a single apathetic niece/nephew's care in their old age.
I am 66 and my mother is 102. I had her come and live with me when she turned 80 as she was unable to live independently. My husband and my son's have looked after my in-laws till they were deceased at 85. I feel blessed that the almighty has given us the strength to give back to our parents, which is more important than things in life.
May God bless you abundantly, rose!
Please understand that this video is not telling the truth of the matter in Japan.
You are probably not Anglo-Saxon/Northern European descent.
Asians generally revered their elderly parents or grandparents. There maybe some cases of elderly abuse but hard to believe Japan has numerous elderly abuse.
It just means Japanese didn’t change their minds about useless family members as tradition. Japanese and Chinese used to kill or let to die the elderly. One of the Far East cruelties😢
@@user-1rg9f2-g3l6dtf that mean… I am caring for my mother and I am a wasp
I cared for both my parents in their old age. I was exhausted, but I cared for them until their deaths, because they were my parents. I did not even imagine killing them. This is insane.
It is also false.
Nothing wrong with Japanese Society; THEY ALSO PROVIDE FOR THEIR HOMELESS TOO...WION doesn't want to handle that NOT ENOUGH VIEWS.
OVER SENSATIONALED DISJUNCT TITLES FOR VIEWS IS QUITE A LUCRATIVE BUSINESS.
Now check out the movie FARAHA and the year 1948 and learn about the CHILDREN AND FAMILIES DYING IN Palestine too?
We all have to go sometime; Don't live in guilt; Being shoved into a convalescent home with other already infected Covid patients wasn't pleasant either; Wonder W.H.O. came up with "that " one?
Many humans were termed "accidents!" Get ready for the great amalgamation and procreation for recreation- coming in hoards, and no birth control.
Funny , our friends in Tokyo aren't aware of this.
WION'S ANGRY NARRATORS have now resorted to OVER-SENSATIONALIZED MICKEY MOUSE MANIPULATED MEDIA T A C T I C S. YOUR PHOTOS AND YOUR NUMBERS ARE NOT "OF" JAPAN, SO YOU 'RE STEALING CLIPS FROM OTHER PRODUCERS NOW ALSO. YOUR "NEWS" USED TO BE SOMEWHAT DEPENDABLE.... RED FLAG WION'S "RESEARCHING ABILITIES" WHICH ARE NOW EXTREMELY LACKING IN TRUTH .GOOD GAMBLE ON A TITLE, TOO, SINCE MOST COUNTRIES ARE EXPERIENCING HEALTH CARE PROBLEMS.
"Sometimes You Really Hurt My Feelings"
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Same here I hate the thought of the government caring for my parents in their age care homes. It's called Honour thy mother and father...even until death
michelle, what is "insane" is that WION spouts lies like in this video, and people believe them.
Japan kills their workers, is it any surprise their half dead workforce is exhausted trying to sustain an economy that overburdens the young people and then to tack on elderly parents care to so few young people.....
My siblings and myself took care of my Mom and Dad until they passed, as I lived with them, I accepted the main responsibility and I have no regrets about the time and effort spent.
When i was a youngster, my mother used to say, one mother can take care of five kids, but five kids can't take care of one mother, and you know what, she was right. I will never forget what she said.
It's very true.
Exactly @@MirjanaPucarevic
When they get older they can take turns looking after her.
Where was she from - curious
Oh they will be there to demand a full share and accounting of what is left. Sadly I have seen and experienced it when caring for my in-laws. Totally disgusting.
Whwn i was 16 my father, my only living parent, was diagnosed with brain and lung cancer. He survived until i turned 18. I had a little brother who was still a minor, only 16, as well. We didn't feel like the nursing homes for caring for him properly after 3 weeks, and he spent the rest of his time at home with us while we cares for him until he passed away.
That is a lot for 16 year olds to handle and I am sure your Dad was very thankful for love and care from you and your brother. I am the youngest in my family and I was the primary caregiver for my parents and my in laws when they all died of cancer at young ages (60-67). I was blessed to have that time with all of them at the end.
My God, you are incredible People! Words fail me 🙏🏻😢❤️
You and your brother are such good people..😊
❤
❤❤God bless you and your brother everyday
My parennts both got bed ridden when they were in their 80s. We three daughters ( we dont have any brothers ) took care of them taking turns.
Each of us would keep them in our homes for 6 months, and take care of them along with our own families with aged parents in law.
This went on for 8 years before they both passed. It was stressful, difficult, but We feel blessed to have done that service.
You are surely blessed.
Its your love ❤ for them
It's fortunate to have siblings or other close relatives to share the burden.
90% of daughters will take care but it's opposite with sons.
They did the same for us when we were tiny.
@@it5617In Asia, it is bless to have sons, the ones that have daughters have better elder care.
As a Japanese in my 50s I have to clarify something clearly important to everyone here. Japanese have the No. 1 longevity in the world with a large population of easily well over 100 yrs old of age because they eat so healthy. Imagine their “children” are in their 80s or at least in their 70s trying to take care of them when they are so old themselves. Japanese culture represents respecting the elderly more than most countries.
Pray for those “children” who are seniors trying to care for their “elderly”parents’ physical and mental health.
My parents took great care of all my grand parents in their 90s and lived happily.
Yep, that's what I am trying to tell, this reporting is clearly making it sensational.
I mean look at the wording, " Every eight days in the decade to 2021, an average of one elderly Japanese person was killed by a member of their own family or committed suicide after killing a relative they were caring for, according to a study released this month "
I mean yeah, this clearly is a problem, "That's nearly 500 elderly people who got killed by family members in the decade leading to 2021 " mind you that's in a country of 120 million people whose 40 percent of population is above 60.
But they got to get the views for making sensational claims, so they somehow worded it differently. Imagine the views it would get by wording it as " nearly 500 Japanese
elderly get killed by their family member in a decade " and " in every 8 days one elderly person get killed by their own family in a decade "
😂😂" Journalism "😂😂
This news came right when Japan was planning to export Patriot missiles to USA, who will send them to Ukraine. And considering this media house is partly owned by a Russian company. Is it a coincidence ?
Don't believe everything you hear on RUclips. This is BS.
Why do those people not able to care for their elderly parents or family members not take them to a retirement home? Is it because that would be too expensive? I think there should be more affordable and accessible retirement homes and if it is due to shame or socially not acceptable, the government could try to promote the idea. It would be much better than to murder the elderly and then commit suicide. Caregiver fatigue is a serious issue and the government should start to try and find viable and affordable solutions for that.
This is horrible. My elderly mother had Alzheimer's disease. I cared for her for eight years. I quit my job to avoid sending her to a nursing home. Yes, it was exhausting and hard. But we had good times too, long walks, ice cream, and many private jokes. Yes, it was tough but if I had to do it over again....I would. Now I have peace knowing that I gave her the best life I could.
Didn't you have any pillows in the house?
@hollywo...God bless you for your sacrifice.
@@erik_dk842 the pillows are for you mate
You are a good person and truly honored your mother. We need more people like you in the world.
God bless you. ❤
Yesterday I remember being 12 years old and wondering how fast my life was going to be passing.
Today I am 77 years old and I am amazed the time my life has packed into what seems 24 hours.
It's coming to everyone and what goes around comes around. You don't respect your elders nobody's gonna respect you.
@@tammywhynot123 And we have always been old.
These are the same parents who supported the legalization of abortions in 1948 by adopting the Eugenics System! It is just their turn now!
OMG... Yes! I'm 67... I was 12 yrs old 2 days ago...
Unfortunately their culture is so perfectionist that they have a high suicide rate and low birth rates. They are also over worked. They have nobody to look after them because they have no offspring.
@@TxDan100 I'm 71 today, last week I was starting school..........
I care for my 94 year old mother. It is hard and a struggle at times as she is bedridden but I wouldn't have it any other way. She raised ten children and I am her youngest child. I worry sometimes about how I will take it if she goes before me. I think I would die as well. I love her so much. 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡
My mother grew up in Japan. When she lived there, families would go to war with eachother for the privilege and honor, of caring for their parents when they get old. Times sure have changed...😢
Yes , I always used to say ,The Asians really devote themselves to looking after their aged parents and respected them so much
paglia, they still do. This video is not telling the truth of the matter.
What about that Japanese movie, telling about tradition in Japan for seniors to go up the mountain and die, so they don't bother children
@@monikam9069 "The Ballad of Narayama" is a Japanese film of great beauty and elegant artifice, telling a story of startling cruelty. What a space it opens up between its origins in the kabuki style and its subject of starvation in a mountain village! The village enforces a tradition of carrying those who have reached the age of 70 up the side of mountain and abandoning them there to die of exposure.
News needs clicks. Do not believe everything they say.
I'm stunned and broken hearted! I cared for my elderly mom for 13 years, and was barely able to take care of myself or my home and husband at the end, and I'm still battling chronic diseases and ptsd. But i would absolutely do it again, because we live together and we die together, if we have a soul ❤
Don't be! It isn't true. Complete BS
I feel for you! I’m at 12 years of taking care of my (now 94 yrs. old) elderly parent. To say I’m fatigued would be taking it lightly. The last 3 years have been brutal. Besides that, any friends I even thought I had, no longer speak to me. It certainly shows you many things going through this journey. I’ve been shocked at how many people are struggling with caring for their elderly!
Right there with you, can relate. My mom just turned 96. I’ve lost my marriage, family, home and career, jobs & opportunities - not to mention people who have either walked out on me, don’t really care, won’t help. Sole caregiver - it’s brutal, especially the sleep deprivation. But I’m mostly strong, choosing joy, making the most of it WITH GODS GRACE & HELP. Loving and caring for children, grandchildren, spouses, parents, friends- can add up to cost you everything, and they don’t see it-don’t care, barely remember who you are, complain about the one spot you missed 30 years ago, etc.
Don’t matter - hard as it’s been, can’t /won’t just dump her in the sight of God like it’s been done to me.
My dad first- my parents moved in- used to live with me and my family up til the year he passed at 89. It’s now just over 11 years with & for my, the last several coming through the Pandemic have been the toughest, but we’ve been tougher.
@krisysills much love & respect to you! GOD BLESS🫶🏼🌻🌻🌻
I'm so blessed to have my 88 year old mother with us. How sad that a place like Japan has turned so cold towards their old parents. 😢
Read Japanese exploits during WW2.
Stop acting like we wouldn't do it in America if most could get away with it.
You just can’t generalize about all people in Japan, that’s cultural racist
@@iche9373 The culture is not racist they are just use to majority of the people in Japan looking like them plus the fact that their government allows foreigners in.
If the Japanese society already has a problem with cultural/biological racism, you dont need to surprise that Japan has a problem with AGEISM, too.
I just lost my 88 year old mother on October 29th. My dad will be 92 February 1. My dad is crushed by losing the love of his life!! I cannot imagine doing anything other than supporting my parents through the end of their lives!! The stress is real. I’m living it. But, that’s life!! This is what we’re supposed to do!! Be there for our parents, like they were for us!!
Sad 😭
This is what happens when healthcare decisions are in the hands of insurance companies and governments 😢.
Nothing wrong with Japanese Society; THEY ALSO PROVIDE FOR THEIR HOMELESS TOO...WION doesn't want to handle that NOT ENOUGH VIEWS.
OVER SENSATIONALED DISJUNCT TITLES FOR VIEWS IS QUITE A LUCRATIVE BUSINESS.
Now check out the movie FARAHA and the year 1948 and learn about the CHILDREN AND FAMILIES DYING IN Palestine too?
We all have to go sometime; Don't live in guilt; Being shoved into a convalescent home with other already infected Covid patients wasn't pleasant either; Wonder W.H.O. came up with "that " one?
Many humans were termed "accidents!" Get ready for the great amalgamation and procreation for recreation- coming in hoards, and no birth control.
Funny , our friends in Tokyo aren't aware of this.
WION'S ANGRY NARRATORS have now resorted to OVER-SENSATIONALIZED MICKEY MOUSE MANIPULATED MEDIA T A C T I C S. YOUR PHOTOS AND YOUR NUMBERS ARE NOT "OF" JAPAN, SO YOU 'RE STEALING CLIPS FROM OTHER PRODUCERS NOW ALSO. YOUR "NEWS" USED TO BE SOMEWHAT DEPENDABLE.... RED FLAG WION'S "RESEARCHING ABILITIES" WHICH ARE NOW EXTREMELY LACKING IN TRUTH .GOOD GAMBLE ON A TITLE, TOO, SINCE MOST COUNTRIES ARE EXPERIENCING HEALTH CARE PROBLEMS.
"Sometimes You Really Hurt My Feelings"
Violinist solo by Teiji Okubo/Tokyo
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The economic situation in Japan is rather poor right now and that is a big factor.
@@geoh7777because of their monopolies. They need to take down the monopolies.
Canadian govt doing same with their MAID program. Elderly, sick, poor and even homeless are encouraged to off themselves because the govt is overspending on nonsense.
@@annieholbis2430 yeah like lgbrq and giving women free scholarships.
This is one of the cleverly worded report I have ever seen.
I mean look at the wording, " Every eight days in the decade to 2021, an average of one elderly Japanese person was killed by a member of their own family or committed suicide " That is if you say in a direct way with out any twisted word play , that is about 500 Japanese elders getting killed by their own family in a period of 10 years. Mind you about 40 percent of 120 million Japanese are above 60.
That is literally better than 98 percent of the countries in the world. If you aren't from a wealthy Scandinavian country or Singapore, Switzerland, Luxembourg or Monaco chances are yout country is doing worse than Japan in this regard
Yea, this is crap. YT refuses to take it down.
I took care of my mother age 87 until she die(brain Cancer)& it’s was exhausting but I (age 62) still took care of her! By the Grace of God it all worked out & I felt honored to be by her side but she suffered a lot for three months & I prayed a lot for courage & strength & God answered with Mercy & Peace! I love ❤️ my mother!
Same here. Mum had breast cancer, bowel cancer, and brain cancer. I nursed her with brain cancer, I had very little help from family and the government. It really is draining.
Amen sister and God bless you 🙏🏻✝
This brings back memories of my time in elementary school (I think it was 5th grade) where I read a short story in one of the Houghton Mifflin literature collection books. The story was about a Japanese man and his elderly mom. He was ordered by the village leader to take her up to the mountains and let her die there. But he couldn't bring himself to do it, so he brought her back and hid her in a secret room of his hut.
When the villagers ran into alot of problems, the man looked to the advice and wisdom of his mother to solve them. When she was able to deter an attack from another village lord, the people praised her for her life-long experiences and feedback on remedies. It was a happy ending, but it made me sad that they would resort to such a shameful action.
There used to be an actual law in Japan that children could dispose of their elderly parents once the parents were not useful (could not work) anymore. Seems like Japan is just returning to its "amazing" (not!) cultural norms.
Unit 731😱
There is a Japanese movie when you got to a Certain age you climb or were taken to this Hill to Die!
"A lot"...
"A lot"...
Im 45 not married yet, my parents are 73 and 72, quit my job to taking care of them, i dont have brothers or sisters.
Hard and difficult but simple way to say THEY THE ONLY ONE I HAVE.
In the U.S. as of 2022, 1 in 5 homeless people were over the age of 55. We have people in their 70's and 80's living out of their cars, sleeping on the street, or holed up at a shelter. I cannot say that we are any paragon of virtue when it comes to a nation not taking care of it's elderly population.
Funny , our friends in Tokyo aren't aware of this.
WION'S ANGRY NARRATORS have now resorted to OVER-SENSATIONALIZED MICKEY MOUSE MANIPULATED MEDIA T A C T I C S. YOUR PHOTOS AND YOUR NUMBERS ARE NOT "OF" JAPAN, SO YOU 'RE STEALING CLIPS FROM OTHER PRODUCERS NOW ALSO. YOUR "NEWS" USED TO BE SOMEWHAT DEPENDABLE.... RED FLAG WION'S "RESEARCHING ABILITIES" WHICH ARE NOW EXTREMELY LACKING IN TRUTH .
"Sometimes You Really Hurt My Feelings"
Violinist solo by Teiji Okubo/Tokyo
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Go Ahead, It'll Make Our Day!
No, but u can thank that potato in office for all this!! They are more concerned about illegals and other countries except for us in America
It will probably get worse .I keep reading that Gen X ,Millennials and GenZ are blaming us boomers for every I'll in their life.Soylent Green anyone?
Signs of the times children turning against their parents and vise versa. Ungodly and selfish ,take God out of the school and home, and you get this result.
Where?
Watching this at 35 years old is soul-shaking. Parents are blessing. They are irreplaceable.
This may seem cold but if society cannot uphold itself it will either buckle or dissipate and another culture/group will rebuild upon that ground like humans have been doing for thousands of years.
If you plant a tree that you will not live to see only future generations will keep it going.
Don't worry. It isn't true. This is BS
Also 35. My parents were the furthest thing from a blessing. If you had good ones, good for you. Not all of us did, and no amount of keeping a roof over our heads compensates for the bruises we had to hide, the stolen innocence, starving so the sisters could eat, never being good enough and thrown into their arguments.
Parents are not irreplaceable because they did the same thing slug to spider to dog does to have offspring. They're irreplaceable if they are halfway decent. For the rest of us, broken by betrayal, parents are just another hurdle and a reminder of what could have been had they been mature enough to fight to be halfway decent.
Unless they abused you
I, personally , have reunited thousands of families in the afterlife. Do you pay tribute to your household Gods?
No one is forced to take care of old family members in this country.
I work in healthcare in the USA and I've seen the opposite: family will go to extreme measures to keep a terminally ill elderly patient "alive". This patient is often bedridden, mentally checked out, incapable of feeding himself/herself, incapable of controlling his/her bowels, etc.
In some cases, it is better to allow nature to take it's course and let people die with dignity. However this decision should be made by the patient in advance rather than having someone make the decision for them.
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Difference between Christian general world view and others..like Japan's.
@@kcmuanpuiaDELUSIONAL CHRISTIANS GTFOH!!!
@@jsr5773the USA has killed millions and millions of people around the world
@@kcmuanpuiathe USA lets old people die from poverty
I don't want to be killed but I also don't want to be left unable to enjoy life. When looking for nursing home for my mother there where so many where the elderly were just sitting and starring, having to be fed and no idea what was happening. I told my daughter to let me go when the time comes. If I don't want to eat don't force me. Let nature take its course.
But why go to nursing home unless suffering dementia?
I would suggest to add a written statement not to be sent to the ICU.
@@Србомбоница86in the US, if you end up going to the ICU, most likely they will intubate you, start dialysis, then tracheostomy with peg tube and send off to nursing home. the american healthcare system is a slaughterhouse. dont become a slave to their system.
I have experience of exactly this & agree 100%
I can assure you the docs are still ordering pill after pill after pill for them
I've heard it said that one mother can take care of 12 children, but 12 children cannot take care of one mother.
I helped care for my terminally ill mother while I was 9 months pregnant. I would have had it no other way. She gave her life to raise us kids. It was the least I could do for her. I only wish I could have done more. I always admired how the East respected their elders but I guess times are changing. 🇺🇸
This is nothing new, at one point they used to take them into the mountains to starve to death, I guess it comes with the amount of resources one has.
It's what we didn't hear about until now.
Why does it seem like they're always cutting corners. between this and serving catdog idk what 2think
East has many countries, not just Japan
USA guy - parents? what is that?
The Parents were brutal with the kids , now the children hate their parents .
I cared for my ailing parents, and MIL for years, and it is very draining… Caregiver fatigue is very real… Yet, at NO time did ending their lives ever cross my mind! I was more saddened just knowing their time on earth was soon coming to an end…
Love them as best you can, and share the caregiving if possible…
They gave many years of their lives taking care of you…🥰
🌼Lily🌼
You're a good human
We're they screaming in pain every time you touched them to change them for months on end? My mom passed yesterday and it was absolutely horrible what she went through. I made myself very clear to my family to end my life with pills if I don't know who they are and suffering.
I'm terrified of ending up like my mom.
So many family members will not help, and often it fall on one person who finally wears down, you are just so tired and alone. Been there.
@user-gh8hl7uy8k I'm so, so sorry for what you experienced! No, my family members did not have such pain. That was absolutely the grace of God. I pray the trauma you experienced and the subsequent fear of the same will be replaced by the peace that only God can give.
I hope that doesn't offend you...
🦋Lily🦋
There’s a lot of selfish entities here on earth, many adults do not want the burden, and say they didn’t ask to be here-but I wonder how time will fare for them as they age?
My Dad is 94 and we are blessed that he can afford assisted living.
Absolutely
If he can "afford" assisted living why can't he stay with you and have nurses come by and help? Those places aren't safe. He's probably telling you that he doesn't want to be a burden on you and wishing you'd bring him into your home.
@@catwoman2596 People have to work and they need 24 hour care. These facilities are needed and cost money. If you can't afford and you have to work, they end up alone for hours while you work to pay bills. Nurses only come to check blood pressure and leave.
@catwoman2596 don't judge, you do not know people's situations.
@@catwoman2596so easy to JUDGE !! Elderly need people around to SOCIALIZE!! Not only the NURSE!! Besides the nurse, he would have to pay for someone to COOK.and CLEAN.!! NURSES do no do that!@
Absolutely horrible. Can’t believe Japanese doing this. If you are not proud and protective of your family, all your achievements are a big 0.
I put myself through college and graduate school as an in-home caregiver and can tell you caregiver burnout is a serious problem in the US as well. I can't begin to tell you how many of my clients' family members were desperately tired, and that's among people who could afford to have a hired caregiver come in occasionally for some relief!
Yep.
I haven’t yet found hired help who were willing to actually WORK.
Visiting Angels quit on me, claiming that my dad needed more care than they could provide.
They only wanted to do a “social visit”, after I saw the list of what they supposedly would do.
@salauerman7082 I worked for HomeInstead. TBH I ended up with the clients everyone else was too overwhelmed/ afraid to work with...to the point that I told the owner I should get hazardous duty pay - and she agreed and gave me a raise despite me being at the highest step of the pay scale.
I am sorry you are going through this. It doesn't help, but I will be thinking of you.
I cared at home for my granny for 9 years un antisocial environment. I did lot's of mistakes, but nothing is compared to the pain and guilt for not saving her from the claws of a reaper in the white coat at nursing home, where she was tortured to the death with poisonous drugs... I had life while nursing my granny under physically and mentally hard and dangerous circumstances, but I had a LIFE. No I'm dead. All what's left from is a bodily shell... What causes the burnout of caregivers? Not having proper help from society.
@@anoniukas this.
@@bforman1300 thank you!
I actually have some relief, with my dad on hospice now, and a friend who has been willing to do respite/CLS for my son at my house, so I could do a couple errands for my dad.
I do not support euthanasia, and I cared for both my parents and am now caring for my MIL. It is HARD people. Not everybody can do it. It can be too expensive wiping out all of the money in the family. Some Alzheimer's patients get physically violent and are too hard for someone to handle. It should be shared care among surviving family members, but is often dumped on just one. At best it is a very difficult situation. At worst, it is unmanageable. My heart breaks for families in this situation. Be kind. Help anyone who needs it. Pay it forward. Give people a break. In this season of love and hope. Be there. God bless you.
I am 51 and looked after my 87 year old Dad till he passed away 2 months ago. This is my first Christmas without him. I didn't, couldn't celebrate. Every morning and bedtime are especially difficult for me because that was when Daddy would like to tell me about his younger days and about his father. There were difficult times but I could never have imagined not having him with me and looking after each other. I would do it all over again if I could have him back with me.
We cared for all our family, it was not a burden, but a privilege. Caring for my mum until her 103rd year was the happiest time of our lives, we had real fun. Just my husband and myself left now, social care hopeless here in the UK, we shall care for each other to the end.
Why aren’t your kids caring for you?
@@honestfriend767 None living
You seem to be despairing of the British social care, but I sense an aura of optimism in your writing. If my assumption is correct, could you please tell me the reason?
@@0.shusei There are still many good people in this world and we have to keep optimistic because not to do so would be defeatist, but having said that my smiles and assurances hide a certain amount of apprehension which I need to overcome by remaining positive. Always nurturing a sense of purpose is a sure way of dispelling sadness and when I'm done I shall be thoroughly used up, every scrap of my small frame put to use😊 When we married in 1966 the words till death scared the life out of me, and when we are asked how we've made it work we can only think it's that joint sense of purpose, the idea in every venture throughout life 'If we're going to do this, we'll do it good'. Thanks for your I interest, I needed a reminder to work on my inner optimism and what I might be able to contribute in my future final years in this mixed up world.
@@jennywren8937
Thank you for your wonderful and insightful story. I hope you all are happy.
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That's what our government wants to happen, if we die they don't have to pay social security etc ....😢
We heard about a Chinese family who took in their grandmother who was almost 100 age... They nursed her til she died... It is amazing how Asians have so much patience to care for the elderly having Strong Family Ties instead of sending them into a Rest Home! It is a fact that Mexicans work in America and also send money to their families in Mexico like the Filipinos do to their Homeland!! Love is very strong when you believe deeply about pure love! ❤❤❤❤❤
It's not exactly the same but I helped care for my older brother when he was diagnosed with Cancer at age 31. He made it just passed his 32nd. He always took care of us younger siblings and any young children. RIP Todd. Miss ya bro! Glad I was there till the end.
I’ve always looked after my parents for years it was tiering but I done it coz I loved them so much ..I miss my parents now so much
How can they do that it’s aweful 😢😢😢😢😢😢
At least one decent comment to read. Thanks and god bless you
You have a pure heart. Don't worry; be sure your parents are happy and proud and watch over you. 🙏🙏
God Bless!
It is all becos of science. People prefer science over religion. In india people are mostly religuos. They tool care of the aging parent. We should all embracs religous.
Bless you for being a wonderful person. I miss my mom too.
Japan is too Cruel of a society...
No wonder suicide rates are soo high... Everyone is under soo much pressure and stress of all kinds. 😢
Disgusting.
I just lost my 92 year old mother, who I loved very much. I would do anything to have her back so I could take care of her. 😢
These people are evil.
because your a normal real human
This isn't true. Don't believe everything you see on the internet. These people are NOT evil. Best healthcare in the world.
@tasha6151 You are delusional.
I mean look at the wording, " Every eight days in the decade to 2021, an average of one elderly Japanese person was killed by a member of their own family or committed suicide after killing a relative they were caring for, according to a study released this month "
I mean yeah, this clearly is a problem, "That's nearly 500 elderly people who got killed by family members in the decade leading to 2021 " mind you that's in a country of 120 million people whose 40 percent of population is above 60.
But they got to get the views for making sensational claims, so they somehow worded it differently. Imagine the views it would get by wording it as " nearly 500 Japanese
elderly get killed by their family member in a decade " and " in every 8 days one elderly person get killed by their own family in a decade "
😂😂" Journalism "😂😂
Tears in my eyes🥹, who ever is reading this please never ever abondon your parents take good care of them no matter which society or religion from you're family is the most precious thing in this world.😭
Amen ❤
So true ✝
Why die yourself to at all cost keep an elderly alive? Times are harsh, some had to prioritize.
@@Leffe192 You hate the elderly.
Wow, you've got to be a extreme leftist🤔. That is such a disgusting and narcissistic comment.
My own daughter has informed me that should I become fragile, she will suffocate me. I believe her.
I will care for myself.
Carer burnout is very real, usually one person is left with all the work and the others disappear. A parent with dementia means you can’t work properly to support yourself and will be highly stressed. We need real affordable solutions.
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Tell that to Joe Biden, our Howdy Doody, whose strings stretch all the way to china.
Funny , our friends in Tokyo aren't aware of this.
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Vaccines are their solution. Smh
Could this be a factor that makes young men in America decide never to marry and never have children....(MIGTOW)....what if a young man married and had children...and then the wife decides that she wants a younger model and drags him through Divorce Court? So this man will have to give up what? Half his possessions, pay child support, and also pay rent or house payments for himself and healthcare costs? And then 20-30 years down the road help pay for his Parents Care in a hospital or hospice? Thats like 4 Financial Strikes for this man. So many Young Men are vowing never to marry or have kids to lessen their burden.
You’re full of it.
Men are the ones trying to switch their wife out for a “newer model”. And men are the ones saying that women “expire” at 30 years old because of how our reproductive systems work.
Men won’t divorce you, but they’ll cheat on you and make your life a living Hell literally because they’re constantly horny.
My parents and infact every family member who are getting old and are old say they would rather leave this life while they can do tasks and not live in a vegetative state. Not because they know they won't be taken care of, but because they dont want to turn into a burden and they are seeing others older to them, how it is. So it scares them to lose control and not know what they are doing. Not remembering faces. Not knowing whether they did do something or not.
That’s how my dad was. Didn’t want to be a burden. But it was a great gift to be able to be with him❤️
That is how I feel for myself
And they used to talk about how much they cared for the elderly.
There is nothing wrong with having to care for your family members.
No there is not
In theory.
But .... for 2, 3 or 4 DECADES?
There will be more people taking care of the old
than creating anything -
the unexpected "benefit"
of keeping old people alive AT ANY COST.
It is selfish of old people
to drain the lives of the young
BEYOND A CERTAIN POINT.
The need and greed of the elderly
condemns many young people
to great hardship.
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This subject needs open debate,
because it will affect EVERY nation.
The more greedy government becomes,
the fewer children people have -
it is a global trend.
"Civilisation".
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But how able are people when they have very little sleep for months on end, have to constantly keep a constant eye on a loved one so that they don't harm themselves due to dementia, cleaning up their poo and pee wherever it may fall, feed them, wash, clothe, attend to the screaming cries of pain? And when there are 2 parents in the family both needing attention? And amidst that, how do you cook, clean, do laundry, look after children etc? I don't believe ending their lives is the answer but it is probably far harder than you realise. And when those carers fall sick, who picks up the pieces?
@@alibali672 Didnt they do this for them when they were infants? If you value and love your family, doing these things is nothing compared to the time you get to spend with them.
@@alibali672 Exactly. I couldn't agree more. And the cognitive dissonance involved in having to care for a narcissistic parent who stole from your own life is horrible. Narcs are never going to leave you in peace - but spin a good story to ensure you are judged by others if you don't display the filial affection expected of you.
I took care of my mother for 20 years and yes its mentally exhausting, especially when they seem to purposely push your buttons.😐 my mother has been gone 3 years and I'm still affected by it, not even spent any of my inheritance. I've been so unwell physically and mentally. I'm finally getting bit better now though. Its a very hard job.
Merry Xmas everyone🎉
Was is active illness and bed ridden most time or just living with you and provided those basic necessities.
I get that mental and emotional draining it causes, my grandfather was demanding as if hes a little brother to me and my two siblings and my mother was more to him as a maid than daughter-in-law.
But until end, its was his house and he is "chieftan" of the family and his word was last.
Will and inheritence was finally settled this year in his 93rd year and sadly(or ironically) he passed a month ago, thanfully with style on his two feet.
@ivanmatusic5540 she was in her own home and I went there to get her out of bed and cook and get her ready for the day, I left at about 3pm every day with some sort of meal left for her dinner if she wanted it later. I myself was already unwell so it was extra difficult for me. She spent 12 months in a nursing home after her memory completely went and I couldn't cope any more with what was happening. I did better than most but sad I couldn't keep her home for rest of her life but my mental health and physical health slam dunked me big time.
I know this doesn't count for much but I'm really sorry for your mums passing. The act of taking care of the elderly is a really noble.
@umarmayet4647 Thanks for that, appreciate it big time🙏 we never feel we do enough, always thinking why could I have done better. It's a hard job.
I'm not a mother either so was harder.🫤😄
@@iamthatiam44444 To me that's a sign you were good enough. Everyone doubts themselves but know when to let go. Letting go is the hardest part, it's rock bottom. Remember you can always build yourself up
I watched my grandmother with dementia for less than a week and felt exhausted. Daytime was fine, but nighttime and Sundowner's syndrome wore me out due to sleep interruptions. I hope I can take enough care of my health in the future to remain active and independent until I pass.
We are living in a world where comfort and selfishness is at the top priority.. The irony is that we all are getting old and the fate written in our heads is a mystery yet to be discovered.. we reap what we sow!
Klaus Schwaab you will have nothing and like it, bwahaha. You first pal.
This is a very difficult issue. My ex mother in law spent the last 6 years in a nursing home with dementia. My wife had passed away 6 years earlier, and my mother in law lived 1,300 km from us. My kids hardly knew their grandmother, since she rarely visited. The kids went a couple of times to visit, but were frustrated because grandma was clueless who the people were. It can be very sad life for many people
Life is brutal and humans are cruel.
This video is heartbreaking! I cared for my wonderful husband until he passed away in my arms, at 47 years of age, from cancer.💔💔💔 Two years later I moved in with my dear father as his caregiver because he had become legally blind. We had 8 1/2 wonderful years together until he passed at 91 years of age.💔😭💔Yes, it is physically and emotionally exhausting. But when you dearly love someone, it doesn’t matter. You would do anything for them. Especially in their time of need. They were both good men and the two most important people in my life and in my heart. It was a privilege to take care of them. Several times my daddy told me that I added years to his life being his caregiver. That meant the world to me. We never have enough time with our loved ones. But soon we will have forever! (Revelation 21:3, 4)
Bless you.
Cripes! Being in your arms is dangerous!
@@melissachartres3219 Cancer and old age are dangerous.
😢❤
You’re a hero in my book. I was a caretaker for my dad for two long years while dementia and als took its toll. Now my mom is 81 and I’ll be doing the same for her unless we get raptured. It’s terribly hard on the psyche but by the grace of God I’m getting through. Bless you. ❤
My husband and I made a pact that once we are unable to care for ourselves we will leave this planet together. We will not be a burden to our daughter. Just as, in case of an accident we do not want to be in a vegetative state. It's better to die than be a burden to your loved ones.
I am in the same team. Totally agree
No I didn't mind helping .my aunt
i find this absolutely revolting having laid my wife to rest after a long illness. i would give anything to have one more day with her. this is totally inhuman!
definitly inhuman. theyre usedto it.
she is lying
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@@robertschaaf7192 WION'S ANGRY NARRATORS have now resorted to OVER-SENSATIONALIZED MICKEY MOUSE MANIPULATED MEDIA T A C T I C S. YOUR PHOTOS AND YOUR NUMBERS ARE NOT "OF" JAPAN, SO YOU 'RE STEALING CLIPS FROM OTHER PRODUCERS NOW ALSO. YOUR "NEWS" USED TO BE SOMEWHAT DEPENDABLE.... RED FLAG WION'S "RESEARCHING ABILITIES" WHICH ARE NOW EXTREMELY LACKING IN TRUTH .
As long as its not selfish
Again, the uselessness of having kids. Karmic retribution for the selfishness of parents who only had self-interest when deciding to give birth to kids into this awful place. Or for parents who abused their kids psychologically and/or physically. There are lousy parents, just as there are lousy children.
taking care of another person is not easy. people need to be introduced to it from a young age so that they can know what it entails.
as someone of Gen Z yeah we weren't really introduced it unless you're lucky. Maybe it's cause i grew up with a lot of my peers who were apathetic but yeah we're one of the loneliest generations who borderline grew up with the internet and a broken society thats made us numb and more depressed. We kinda were taught to be selfish, and i'm truly sorry for that.
True, once our kids moved out we became a foster home, though kids are different, my mom is the only parent left, and she is still doing very well.
like generations living together and helping each othet. remember when being a young adult living alone was considered strange? not that far back maybe early 60s late 50s. before then depression and wartimes made living together survival. our current cost of living now returning bak to survival techniques.
My wonderful mother died on October 1st, after a minor no-injury fall from a chair. I tried my best to keep her alive, but she simply shut down, in spite of my efforts. I miss her, and my life will never be the same without her. I still complain at God for taking her from me.
I’m very sorry. Please look to God as someone who can help. He is not the enemy.
I share in your grief. I just lost my mom in August and it was such a big blow. She was 74.
I was not happy but God knows why .
God understands He shares in our grief when we allow Him.
Be strong 💪
I suggest u watch the movie After death it helped me have peace with my dad passing because I know my dad isn't missing us because he's in a great place, reunited with all his loved ones that passed before him & one day I will see him too. I miss him every day, but watching the movie helped me with not being angry at God. I would want my dad back in a heartbeat, but that would be me being selfish.
You may find this Hard To Read,
but it will help You.
/
People are so scared of death,
they often prevent people leaving -
just look at the millions stacked in "care" homes.
Only bodies die.
And the Birth-to-Death-I-dentity.
/
What we REALLY are,
simply IS -
it cannot die.
And the life it lived with You,
is
but a tiny fraction
of what it REALLY is.
/
As are You.
/
We are brainwashed.
Into ignorance.
/
Your Mother chose to leave.
But she is still with You.
We are NOT a body.
We ARE.
Everything.
/
So EVERYTHING around You
is Her,
is You,
is Everyone.
/
What You put out, comes back.
Life is One Huge Mirror
to Our Thoughts.
So,
Be Happy
that Your Mother is Home,
Free to Choose Her Next Life.
Because I assure You,
that
is exactly what is happening.
/
Sending You a Zen-Hug!
/
I am so sorry to read this. A fall at a geriatric age can be very high risk. This is so unexpected. You are in a deep crisis, please take all the support being offered.
The elderly here in America are being priced out of housing all over our country. Very few can afford a one bedroom apartment in any state. The nomad population (those who live in their vehicle) has risen and the homeless population is out of control in every single city. The average cost of a one bedroom apartment is now $1,700 while the average Social Security check is only $1,600. Even if they owned their homes property taxes and medical care costs leaves them unable to afford food, maintenance and transportation
The case of 86 yr old having to tc of his wife is heartbreaking!
that scenario happens in MANY countries;
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He was just showing compassion and mercy, but yes I'm sure it broke his heart. I will NEVER be a burden to anyone. In my 60s now and tic toc goes the clock. Fine with that don't need to be propped up on machines and be yet another Weekend at Bernies guy.
What is sad is the later generations are having fewer kids, which means fewer grandkids kids to help out and visit the elderly. We need to be prepared to limit ourselves of being a burden.
its sickening and wtf has he got to do with his life tht he is tht busy he cant look after his wife just pure evil
busy? hes not busy! hes OLD and likely cant even look after himself any more! he likely cant even remember his own name hardly let alone remember if he fed her or gave her a drink of water, or looked after her bathroom needs, meds, he likely could even wash himself or give her a bathe, its insane. u have no clue! go to a nursing home and locate an 86 yr old man and ASK yourself could HE look after ANYONE????@@judybrennan7930
Not Japan only. It's happening around the world.
Really .?
I lost my mom last year after taking care for her for 7 years. I missed her so much and feel blessed have the opportunity to be with her until her last day. She died at 89 yo. ❤❤❤
My grandpa tells me he wants to die every day he is 94 healthy and just tired of living in a world he says has gone to hell... I feel sorry for him and wish i was as healthy as he is, i am in worse health than he is and but i understand him ..
So sad 😞
I'm interested in getting the source material for this story. Living in Japan, and having my in-laws pass away and my experience is very very different to this story.
They are telling somthing in increasing in crime, that is not something which you can see in day to day life..
Because it's not true
The way the report is worded insinuates that this situation is the norm. I would do some fact checking first
@@hittingthewall the way the "report" is worded along with the wording of the banners beneath the speaker leads me to believe there is more emotional outrage manipulation than pure facts.
But not just that. This story doesn't make sense. There is CRIME in every country. If you look statistically....family members are killing family members for their own reason WORLD WIDE. It mat have nothing to do with having to CARE for them. It could have been an argument, disagreement or anything that led to killings....BUT THAT'S WORLD WIDE.
As in INDIA, nobody has ever murdered a FAMILY MEMBER?Or in Ethiopia 🇪🇹 or in Russia or in America?
One person every eight days, is about 50 people a year in a country of 125 million. That's tiny. In the United States, medical errors kill about 1200 people in one single day.
Just to be clear, medical errors are killing 440,000 people a year compared to 50 a year. All 50 of those could be simply attributed to mental illness in children. I'm sure the stress contributes but this is not a national crisis this is a outlier aberration and frankly I'm a little surprised that it is this low. I'm sure you can find somewhere numbers in it almost any country
My grandpa his entire life when asked how he was doing always said, “ I’m doing 100”. Born in 1897, he wanted to live to see 1997. In great health in his 100th Birthday he said, “ I should have said 103, I could have lived in two centuries “. Not knowing in one month, snd four days, the cold he caught going out in freezing January, and having everyone shake your hand would kill you. The message, it’s all to short, and yes, everyday is a gift
And every doctor will tell you that you don't catch a cold from going out in the cold. Do doctors have any idea how much we don't trust them?
@@kathymc234So you wanna trust the OP instead instead of someone who has devoted years towards the study of human diseases?
The people who have “devoted years towards the study of human diseases” are slicing the genitalia of healthy children with “gender dysphoria.”
The man was 100 years old any anything could of caused his death.
Well its just a recipe & right timing, for cold and flu viruses. Going out in cokd wether lowers immunity, if frail, old or maybe not eating all the right vitamins. But if ur robust & immunity is high walking in the cold and picking up the germs may not get you down or take you out. In elderly a cold can lead to pnuemonia, same with flu. That hard coughing we do to expel phlegm when sick & it wears u out, u dont have the strength to do when too weak, so u die easier & fight the fight well. But yeh I got sick in November after veing out in cokd damp air without a scarf
There is more to story I guess. Japanese work alot and are always stressed out. This drives them crazy and I feel making them do such things.
they put too much stress on themselves,it starts in elementary school, there is a high suicide rate in Japan too
Exqctly. Japanese are extremely introvert nd they don't talk qith stranger which makes them isolated. Talking with others makes Oneonta stress free md japanese are heavily machine, robot , technology dependant
@@masmo4779 Many humans were termed "accidents!" Get ready for the great amalgamation and procreation for recreation- coming in hoards, and no birth control.
Funny , our friends in Tokyo aren't aware of this.
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Americans don't work much and it doesn't stress them out or drive them crazy. They want everything for free; Healthcare, tuition, food, house,drugs and they complain about people on SS
Shame on Japan! Those who gave you life and cared for you should be honoured, not killed! Points to a world gone crazy for money!!!! 😢😢😢 Shocking!
Our parents took care of us all their lives. We must not reject and abandon them when they need us most. The elderly are in many ways valuable to our families and society even when they don't assist financially or when their bodies are weak.
That doesn't apply to everybody. There is a rise in single parenthood for a reason and some children are not even planned. Plus the child never asked to be born, the parents bought it to the world by their own will so the child doesn't owe them anything.
I kept my parent's together...........
None of them wanted custody of me.
@@alcoholicjoe6199 Many humans were termed "accidents!" Get ready for the great amalgamation and procreation for recreation- coming in hoards, and no birth control.
Funny , our friends in Tokyo aren't aware of this.
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I agree. Perhaps some people are unable to do so but I chose to give care to my parents. I couldn't have asked for better, sweetest parents to be raised by. It's a sacrifice but I don't regret it one bit.
Not every parent loved their children and often those are forced into being their carers when nobody else wants them after having been literally horrors when young.
In the US, the same thing is going on. Nursing homes use strong antipsychotic drugs as a way to chemically restrain people to the point that they can't even hold up their own heads. They keep them alive so the home can suck off as many of the elder's assets as possible and then weaken them to the point that they can off them at any time.
Nothing wrong with Japanese Society; THEY ALSO PROVIDE FOR THEIR HOMELESS TOO...WION doesn't want to handle that NOT ENOUGH VIEWS.
OVER SENSATIONALED DISJUNCT TITLES FOR VIEWS IS QUITE A LUCRATIVE BUSINESS.
Now check out the movie FARAHA and the year 1948 and learn about the CHILDREN AND FAMILIES DYING IN Palestine too?
We all have to go sometime; Don't live in guilt; Being shoved into a convalescent home with other already infected Covid patients wasn't pleasant either; Wonder W.H.O. came up with "that " one?
Many humans were termed "accidents!" Get ready for the great amalgamation and procreation for recreation- coming in hoards, and no birth control.
Funny , our friends in Tokyo aren't aware of this.
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Very sad and wrong. People will be held accountable by the Heavenly Father.
I work in healthcare. I've never seen this.
This is elder abuse and the families will sue you for more money.
The covid fiasco proves your point .
I thought they were soooo respectful of the elderly in Japan??? R their families THAT SELF ABSORBED? How can they forget how those parent's CARED & Sacrificed so much for them when they were children?? This is surreal!!💔 💔 💔
My Mom became senile at 92 and more so until she passed away at 101. Her care was a family group effort. I would get up in the morning, take my two grandchildren to daycare. While I did that their mother would get my Mom dressed and I would take her to Elder daycare. My grand children called it Grandmas “Daycare”. She loved it there and it gave a break for me. It was private ran by a couple in rented space at a church. They had 12 clients. Until we did that she would “run away” down the street. LOL. I think she was just bored because once she started daycare she never did that again. I would pick the grandkids up from their daycare and pick her up on the way back. She would spend a weekend or two with my other daughter. My son-in-law chipped in and helped when needed. I can see where just one person to care for a dementia person would be overwhelming. Mon lived to be 101. We had no regrets.
A cousin of mine, had ailing parents, Father suffering from dimentia and Mother had multiple complicated health issues, he and his wife were both working and had a young school going son to take care of. It was a daily struggle for them to have sick parents to look after, they had hired a cook, a maid and a care taker for the father, spent a fortune for 4 years befor the Father passed away. He had good career opportunities in US and Australia, He could have kept his parents in an old age home and migrated, had a good life by now, but he chose not to and stayed back only out of sense of duty towards his Parents.
He had a good job and could afford to hire help, but not everyone is in that position. Even then it's a matter of choice, what you prioritize in life.
How can you say such things? Your parents could have made a lot of life changing choices when you were a kid but they didn't. They sacrificed a lot for you. And how can even someone compare the love of parents to jobs and better life. It's strange how these people think.
@@sayanidatta5728Absolutely nothing wrong with what she said. Something is wrong with you.
Never loose tht person in ur life
Either care for parents or leave them , but do not regret it after taking a decision...... I would suggest my friends the same thing, pick a side and stick to it.
Even though I personally feel "take care of parents, they are everything"
@@sayanidatta5728parents have responsabilités towards children since they decided to have them (not the reverse). And to take care of aging parents you need money, a lot, so yes you can be talking about opportunities and job since they're the things giving you money...
Where is the proof ?? Caregiver fatigue is everywhere in every country, but I don't see the proof, that Japanese would do such a thing.
This is one of the cleverly worded report I have ever seen.
I mean look at the wording, " Every eight days in the decade to 2021, an average of one elderly Japanese person was killed by a member of their own family or committed suicide " That is if you say in a direct way with out any twisted word play , that is about 500 Japanese elders getting killed by their own family in a period of 10 years. Mind you about 40 percent of 120 million Japanese are above 60.
That is literally better than 98 percent of the countries in the world. This report doesn't say Japan has the wealthiest elderly peoples in the world. Japan currently has 92,000 peoples who are above 100. That makes it the country with highest life expectancy in the world.
@@sailingadventurer Thank you, but the way the write the title, it sounds awful. People on RUclips should not use titles as clickbait
It's happening in Canada also, caregiver fatigue. A failing medical system on the verge of collapse and break down of family values.
bummer dude!
Capitalism killed family values not the healthcare system.
I Loved my parents, Dad died of dementia at 88. Mun died of cancer at 72. I quit my job and looked after them till their final weeks when they were hospitalised. Never, ever would have I hurt them. After all, they looked after me when I was a boy. Maybe Finnish people respect and value their elders more than other cultures.
I don’t think that can be true. It is a natural thing to want to care for parents and also it should come from your heart. Or even if you only feel it is your obligation to at least do it with kindness and compassion. There are kind and compassionate people in every culture and nation. The problem is our modern society , most people don’t live the way we ought to live in small caring communities with extended families. There would always be someone to care for the elderly and the responsibility would not just be on one person. Things have to change. People are under too much pressure.
Maybe.
There are other cultures that respect and look after their elderly as well. Not just Finnish.
When society breaks down the vulnerable suffer the most
I always thought that Eastern countries cared more for their families. I am shocked at this news.
Not a problem for us as a culture in a country in Southern Africa. We look after our elderly
I cared for my mother for 11 years. She was 86 when she was manipulated by a sibling to care for her. She died a year later from improper caregiving, abuse, and neglect. I cry every time because I warned her and so did several other family and friends.
Im really hurt and sorry to hear this ........ sibling and family manipulation and deceit is veryyyyyy real .....because all dey are seeing is money bank account ..........but ur heart was in the right place u genuinely cared ........someone in this position should pray and ask God to intervene and open their mother eyes to see the truth ....the heart of man is so wicked and evil
Are you Japanese?
I remember my 85 years old mother telling me that in the olden days when the husband died, the villagers would place the wife, still alive, in a big urn and bury her in the house as she must not live alone without her husband. As I always believe, history will repeat itself in an ever evolving format. Ubasute is coming back to haunt us. Seniors get ready. Learn to be independent and never trust anyone,including your own shadow.
It's why we work all our lives , not to be a burden on our children. Caring for some elderly breaks up families, not every old person is a blessing to have around
This was happening, once, in India as well... Read about "Thalai-Kkutthu" in ultra rural areas of central Tamil Nadu, that was because of sheer poverty... People sitting in a/c wont know that....
U are great if you don't sit in ac😂
Sounds like a hard life 😢
Shameless children
I am a retired CNA/HHA, this is a healthcare field that is growing. There are free training classes and you get certification and hired. Many of these seniors and unwell clients have no family members either. Not enough staff to care for them. People are not signing up for the classes so many facilities are short staffed. And yes, there's also neglect in the facilities. Thanks for the informative video. Maybe people will be more aware and try to help.
One of the biggest problems is lack of training. I worked for an organisation, in England that had care facilities in over twenty different countries, and they cared for adults with learning disabilities, whatever the age. We were all trained exceptionally well by our employers, who were a bye word for good care and excellent training. Unfortunately you can't teach empathy and patience that comes from within. We also understood that the caring community/homes etc are the Cinderellas of care work. They are the places that get the least funding. The local council wanted places for people in need but wanted to pay as little as possible.
No matter where a person is cared for it takes time, love, patience, empathy and money and oft times all of these are in short supply often due to staff shortages and lack of funding. The sad thing is this will probably get worse and Japan is not the first country I have heard doing this there is another one much closer to home.
@@beccabbea2511 So true, you can't teach empathy. One lad on a facility I worked at actually said he was in it for the money, the pay was pretty decent.
No body wants that job at all
Part of the reason why so many facilities are short staffed, is because they are not hiring. They are more concerned with profits than care, and hiring more people cuts into profits. They will be the first to shell out the bucks to buy robots to provide the care, when they become available, and only the minimum number they need in order to provide a minimum of care. In other words, when robots can do a human's job, they will still be short staffed, with overworked robots, rather than overworked humans.
@@joycejean-baptiste4355I have been told that by a few. They are not good people and get angry easily.
Since people are living longer and not enough younger people to look after the elderly I predict this to be a bigger problem in the Future
Governments around the world should strategize how they could further support their aging citizens.
Nothing surprises me anymore. This has become a sad and sick world we live in. 😢
And here in India, a certain businessman wants us to compete with Japan by working for 70 hours a week. Japan is a failed society even though they might be economically well off, but of what use is the economy, if you aren't alive to reap its benefits? The social fabric of Japanese society is damaged, the Japanese are dying due to stress, killing themselves due to loneliness, not dating and marrying as they don't get enough time and hence not producing future generations for the country and yet this businessman will only look at one aspect i.e. the economy and gift wrap it under the garb of nationalism only to emotionally guilt-trip people and manipulate them to fill his own pockets.
@@_Leftismisamentaldisorder_- Yes, that's true.
Never allow it. India is not Japan. India has its own identity and culture...
HA, AND THE FRENCH WON'T GIVE UP THIER TWO HOUR BENEFICIAL RELAXED LUNCHES!
OVER SENSATIONALED DISJUNCT TITLES FOR VIEWS IS QUITE A LUCRATIVE BUSINESS.
Now check out the movie FARAHA and the year 1948 and learn about the CHILDREN AND FAMILIES DYING IN Palestine too?
We all have to go sometime; Don't live in guilt; Being shoved into a convalescent home with other already infected Covid patients wasn't pleasant either; Wonder W.H.O. came up with "that " one?
Many humans were termed "accidents!" Get ready for the great amalgamation and procreation for recreation- coming in hoards, and no birth control.
Funny , our friends in Tokyo aren't aware of this.
WION'S ANGRY NARRATORS have now resorted to OVER-SENSATIONALIZED MICKEY MOUSE MANIPULATED MEDIA T A C T I C S. YOUR PHOTOS AND YOUR NUMBERS ARE NOT "OF" JAPAN, SO YOU 'RE STEALING CLIPS FROM OTHER PRODUCERS NOW ALSO. YOUR "NEWS" USED TO BE SOMEWHAT DEPENDABLE.... RED FLAG WION'S "RESEARCHING ABILITIES" WHICH ARE NOW EXTREMELY LACKING IN TRUTH .GOOD GAMBLE ON A TITLE, TOO, SINCE MOST COUNTRIES ARE EXPERIENCING HEALTH CARE PROBLEMS.
"Sometimes You Really Hurt My Feelings"
Violinist solo by Teiji Okubo/Tokyo
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Go Ahead, It'll Make Our Day!
I wouldn't worry too much about Japan.
From UN life expectancy ranking out of 201 countries for 2023
Hong Kong rank 1
Japan rank 3
U.S. rank 47
India rank 126
🦉
@@shermanpeabody6102 Ok, but how can you be so sure that their rankings are valid? According to their rankings, pakistan ranks higher than India in terms of happiness index, whereas they are struggling to afford basic needs such as food.
My heart goes for the Japanese elderly . Japan should open their caregiver industry to foreign work. This is more of a cultural openness issue than a financial one. I don't mean to sound opportunistic but the Philippines can help the Japanese elderly in this regard. The Filipinos are known for caring for the elderly.And It doesn't have to be expensive.
The language barrier issue can be solved by the help of digital technology. There's google translate and other AI language translation platforms. The most important thing is the physical and emotional caring which the Filipinos excel at.
The Philippine government can also send thousands of caregivers at the Philippines' expense as a sign of goodwill. Let this be a gesture of love and support for Japan. The Philippine government should explore the possibility of giving free services to Japan and pay the
Filipino workers at Philippine standard rate,with maybe food and lodging at the Japanese government's expense. Let's do this!
Yup, meron na po. There are many healthcare jobs opened 4 Filipinos,
Matagal ng meron may friend ako care giver dun since the late 2000. Ang problema kasi kaya mahirap makapasok ang Pinoy ay dahil kailangan marunong sila mag niponggo. Madaming mga dating Japayuki nun 90's yan ngayon ang mga trabaho dun since nun tumanda sila at wala ng value may asset pa din sila dahil marunong sila ng linggwahe.
@@codfusilli5879 👍
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Well looks like I’ll be retiring in the Philipines based on this comment.
Side effects of a hyper secular society with a lack of Godliness. Without a moral framework these things will absolutely happen it’s so sad
I am 76 and my biggest fear is to be a burden on my family. They are love and caring but they are so busy with work and their family. So far I take care of myself but still I worry about becoming a burden!
You can never be a burden ❤my dad is 75 almost and we live together,he isn't a burden
My mother is 73 y, we all love and respect her... caring for our parents means teaching our children to love, respect and care for their parents❤.. God bless you all.
More reason to take care of yourself as you age. Especially after 40!
I have lived in Japan more than 30 years, it's my home. this video has a considerably misleading title and on-screen headlines (but hey, we won't get any clicks if we don't sensationalize)..... the fact is, many elderly, and many middle-aged and misfit "children" of oldsters just don't know what to do, how to cope.... exhausted! so yes, in some cases, they do kill their spouse or parent. it's a case of desperation, and that stems from a lack of support, facilities, and education. more often than not, they kill themselves afterwards. notwithstanding all the guff about what a group-oriented, homogeneous and caring society Japan is, all very well if you're in the group, many aren't, they are in fact, isolated, and desperate. it's really not as simple as "Japan's young are killing heir parents". I suspect that more oldsters are killed by 'carers' in 'homes', than by family members, according to what I read in the news. I have met and known many many people here who look after aged and ailing parents, even sacrificing their own lifestyle. this accounts for the the vast majority (as per many of the comments below, people look after their own). in a country with more than a third of its population over 65, this video is referring to a few hundred cases. quoted in the video as "alarming statistics" are figures suggested by an unspecified person who conducted a "study" based on information geaned from "media": in the 10 years up to 2021, 443 deaths of elderly (no surprise there, old people die). and 437 cases of murder or suicide (casting a wide net). quoting the video again, in said 10 years. there were 13 cases of sibling killing (just over 1 a year!), and 7 cases of a grandchild killing a grandparent... in 10 years remember. also quoted: in that 10 year period an elderly person was killed by a family member every 8 days (less than 40 a year). also quoted: 206 cases of a child killing a parent.... so it seems that of the 437 cases of "murder or suicide" mentioned above, 111 were suicides... so why quote those figures in the context of family killings? in all of this, no statistics given of other countries by way of comparison. all-in-all a trashy bit of 'journalism'.
I think i have taken care of family my whole life. Im a 61 yr old woman. My husband was really sick for a couple years and took care of him til he died may 2022. We were taking care of our four grandchildren from the day they were born, they even called and loved him like a daddy, the 2 baby girls especially. He died in 2022. The boys are 17 and 14 and the girls are 13 and 10. When he died my mother who is 79 had fallen and then when released from the hospital could not live alone anymore so she moved in with me and the kids. It is very hard. My daughter who took off and went west for many, many years is back and making things worse. My dad had fallen also and hit his head and died a month later 2023. My cousin died in march 2020, my aunt april 2020 and my baby sister may 2020. I know we all get older and death is a part of life and my oldest son know that iam not going to be a burden to no one. We already have plans if anything debilitating happens to me. I will not be kept alive on a damn machine, nor will i move in with my children. There should be a law to die with dignity, where when you get to a certain age or cant function properly, dimentia, paralyzed or just ready to leave this world, that drs could give you a shot and let you die. I know iam not going to suffer anymore or be a burden. I have to stay around for at least another 8 to 10 years if i can, to make sure the grandchildren finiah school and are headed in the right direction to be happy in life. That my mother has passed and then i can go.
Get yourself a bible. Start reading it .
Repent of your sins, thought, action ,words .
Ask the Lord Jesus to forgive you,invite him in your heart .
Just do it sincerely.
Only the Japanese can tell the Japanese what to do for their elderly. Other countries can only show a good example. Many countries had a history of the elderly "walking off into the forest" to die so the young didn't have to struggle or starve to death--especially during winter when they could just "go to sleep" from hypothermia. It was the last gift parents could give to their descendants. Everyone should make sure their loved ones know what they want. Even young adults never know when they'll be in a disabling accident or attack of some sort. A living will should be essential.
This is what happens when people work for corporations instead of their families
Amen! Women are told its wrong to work for family instead of a job. But the role of house wife and mother make life worth living for all society
I didn’t care for my mother. She neglected me in favour of her eldest daughter. This went on since the day I was born.
You shouldn't. Don't worry about what others say.
You are white ,it's not shocking for you
Is that a joke
There is such a thing as 'care-giver' fatique, and unfortunately this does happen. But it isn't isolated to only Japan, so this reporter isn't being at all fair. It happens in India too!
After reading dozens of comments here, it is clear that while the doctors are capable of keeping people alive, they cannot make them young again, and it is the responsibility of our society to make sure that people are treated decently as their lives wind down to an end. This will mean training more people in care of the elderly, development of better technology for that care, careful monitoring of patients’ quality of life, and possibly considering euthanasia when the quality of life is gone. Our whole approach to life, death, and medicine has become way too dependent on MONEY, and we need to work on that, TOO!
That’s unbelievable!!! The cruelty and ungrateful 😢
It's tradition..
"The Ballad of Narayama" is a Japanese film of great beauty and elegant artifice, telling a story of startling cruelty. What a space it opens up between its origins in the kabuki style and its subject of starvation in a mountain village! The village enforces a tradition of carrying those who have reached the age of 70 up the side of mountain and abandoning them there to die of exposure.
An Indian pushes his mother down the stairs in a wheelchair that was the latest I read. CCTV shown him pushing his mother later mother was found at the staircase dead
Yes it's horrible but let's just say it's not the worse they have done to others as a society
We were always told of the love and respect the Japanese had for their elders. The polite society hides some dark demons.
Western narrative is often a lie.
All societies have their dark sides that they are trying to hide from the world.
Japanese people are like robots, not enough love and emotions in their lives. Parents have to work long hours till late at night, and little kids 5-6 years old are independent, walk to/from school alone, and stay home alone most of the time. What we read about Japan or see when we come as tourists is entirely different from what we see when we live in Japan, work, and interact daily with the Japanese nation. I lived in Japan for seven years and am not surprised to hear that.
I foresee this being normal in many countries including USA. The rising health cost, rising cost of long term care, lack of qualified or passionate caregivers will make this seem acceptable. I myself would not want to be a burden on anyone! If euthanasia of animals is acceptable, maybe it should be considered for humans. When quality of life is no longer there, why shouldn’t this be an option. It would release the person suffering from illness or old age or both from just existing and give back the life of the people that are tasked with their care. These types of situations could go on for years with the person lingering and it will take a physical and emotional toll on those caring for them!
This is what happens in countries with low birthrates, forcing one child to single-handedly support several elderly dependents. I hate to blame the victim here, but let these extreme (yet increasingly common) cases be a warning to those who are averse to having a large family only to be left desperately fighting for a single apathetic niece/nephew's care in their old age.