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Not only is this true, I have proof. I have ADD. 6 years ago, I was in my room contemplating for 3 hours how I wanted to mount my TV to my wall. I literally just stood there, paralyzed, at where I wanted this thing so the room would be even. My step-dad walks in and said "You and your mom are the same - y'all think too much. Put the damn thing on the wall and worry about your mistake later." Soon after I mounted the TV and it was perfect. 6 years later I'm still applying this method and, with my terrible ADD, all my clothes are always put up, the place is always clean, I get my projects done on time, and I'm never late to anything anymore. Literally, just don't think. Just go. It's the absolute most simplest thing and it required no deep meditation or any bullshit drug.
Brilliant! I've recently been diagnosed with ADHD, quite late on life, not on any medication (yet) I'll give this strategy a go
What differentiates Joey from other content creators who also share the intention of helping others is that he doesn't just overwhelm you with various pieces of information. He interjects key points with logic and comedy in a way that makes the content more valuable and memorable. Every time I watch a new video I still recall a previous one where he acknowledged that making it a routine to watch improvement videos without taking the time to practice them in your life is counter intuitive. It seems logical and straightforward, but I relate to his sister in the sense that I can get very caught up in the process of things instead of just focusing on the application like his other sister does. Plus the editing is next level.
Do you recall which video that was? I've been wanting to work on figuring out how to apply these sorts of things
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@@sunnybadgr5073 that's not this channel
@@Emperorerror Doesn't matter, that video nails it.
So true. In the last few months I've been following this simple rule: "every day no matter how I feel, no matter what happens: I will go to work, do the house chores, play drums and go to the gym. That's the bare minimum I will do in any normal day, everything else is optional". Doesn't mean I always feel great or everyday I'm happy, but I know AT LEAST everyday I do something useful that makes my life a little better. And after a few weeks it feels completely normal and I love my routine.
As someone diagnosed with ADHD later in life, I wondered for so long why I couldn't just do things. I can't "just do it" because my brain is neurologically different. I want so badly to just do things. Just a reminder that there can be more to the story and you aren't a bad person for not being able to "just do it." It's not your fault and you can get help :) Self help is different for neurodivergent people.
How do you do it though?
I haven't had a diagnosis but I seem to struggle from a lot of symptoms of ADHD. I don't believe in self diagnosis but there's got to be some overlap in fixing this, even if I'm neurotypical.
I've watched and tried what feels like every productivity video and tip but the moment it comes to getting myseld to DO something, I can't. Every part of me throughout the day wants to do that thing but I just can't man. What do I do?
Hello there, a video by Andrew Huberman talks about dopamine and how it greatly affects motivation and drive. It is pretty long but it has a lot of valuable information that I think you will remember.
Just search up “Andrew Huberman dopamine” and I’m sure you’ll find it. (Link didn’t work)
I hope this helps you :)
You’re right, it’s basically nonexistant.
@@dispersion4333 I'm similar to you, no diagnosis, may not even have ADHD probably a broad spectrum. But, I watched another Better Ideas video where he was talking about how our brains always tend to prefer to do the most 'awarding' immediate activity, to get instant gratification. If you intentionally make yourself bored then your brain would compare the task you do not want to do with the idea of being bored. This seems to increase the chances of you doing said activity. If I wake up in the morning and go on social media straight away, instantly, I have given my brain a high dopamine shot and instant gratification. So the likelihood is I would not want to do much else throughout the day as no other task would provide such a high level of instant gratification. But if I wake up and instantly do the activity I do not want to do I have a higher chance of doing it as my brain would compare the task to just lying in bed for example or sitting watching a brick wall ahah Hope you know where I am coming from! Helped me a lot!
1 in 4 children are diagnosed with adhd by the age of 7. 1 in 10 of this children will not grow out of it in adulthood. There’s pretty good odds that you may have it if you exhibit several of the known symptoms. I suggest researching it. There’s loads of clinical speech’s regarding adhd on RUclips. Understand what it is and if you think you might have it, make an appointment with your doctor, or any doctor. Tell them you think you may have adhd, explain what symptoms you suffer from, and ask if you can be screened for it. Additionally it’s well documented that anxiety and depression are bed fellows of adhd, and are usually the result of those symptoms. You fix the cause, and the other problems will begin to fade away. I know it sounds like a lot to do, and it took me years of arguing with myself to finally do it, but getting medicated for adhd has truly changed my life. So if there’s one thing you’re gonna just do? Make it that.
I wish you luck in your journey to self discovery
It's worth mentioning that the self control to "just do it" usually involves paying attention to the emotional context (resistance) to override it or solve it at its source if it's specific. Procrastination is often escaping those very emotions, while actually doing the thing requires accepting them (or procrastinating so long that there's no more choice and letting the panic monster take over).
ah i see you've seen the procrastination ted talk :) you're 100% right, this is the exact thing that helped with my procrastination issues
I paused this video midway to say that I relate to your sister no. 2 on an emotional level. I have always been the person who overcomplicates the smallest and easiest of tasks. I guess it stems from perfectionism. I always put things off till the very last moment because doing it when I have an abundance of time in hand, would mean that my brain will churn itself inside and out to figure out the best way to make my task perfect. I overthink the tiniest of academic tasks. Just yesterday, when I could have happily enjoyed my weekend, I continuously worried about an interview analysis that I had to submit. I did not work till late at night but the supposedly free time I had on hand prior to sitting down to work, was marred by obsessive thoughts about how difficult the interview analysis would be. But when I finally started it, my brain astonished me with the speed at which it produced content and I was like, "Woah woah woah. This was so easy?". It happens to me all the time. It is like an unending trap that I have caged myself in.
Getting things done isn't rocket science, it's merely the art of being simple.
As Jung states: "In actual life it requires the greatest [art] to be simple..."
😮 IM SIMPLE!! PICK ME!!✋✋
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This is so true. Tremendously effective. My best accomplishments were all a result of entering in a kind of "robot mode", where I simply did exactly the things I needed to do in order to achieve my goals. For example: "just study this subject 2 hours/day for some months. Do not overthink. Do not get lost in aprehension. No stress. Just do it, first thing after waking up, then get on with your day." It always work.
careful not to emotionally supress, bc that could lead to a series of other problems. I personally think it's easier to solve that mental block that's kepping you stuck, than to constantly push against it. Solving it could represent finding a new way of thinking about it or letting go of other peoples' expectations. I think I heard this on healthygamergg's channel: first sit with the feeling, don't fight it, then ask yourself, "what would I be happy with?" For me it did help, bc it makes me focus on what I want for myself not what others want or expect of me, which by the way was all in my head.
That works up until you use “what would I be happy with” over and over. Happy is just a momentary feeling. So aiming for whatever makes you happy will do nothing beside pushing you towards the quickest root of happiness. A better question to ask yourself when you have a hard task is “what would myself tomorrow wish I did today”
@@AF2277S I understand what you are saying. In the example above happy is used with the meaning of satisfied, not pleasure seeking or seeking the easiest route. What would I be satisfied with?
I sometimes neglect to be empathic to my feelings and moods of today for the version of me from tomorrow. If we can't be connected and understanding of our feelings in this present moment, who should? I appreciate you for taking the time to answer. English is not my first language, I hope this message reads in your mind in the soft voice I meant it and not in a cold or mean way. 😊
@@georgianac14 Don't worry ahah. You're all good. For English to be your second language you're doing great!
I agree with the premise that we should connect more with our emotions however I also believe that the more powerful thing is knowing when to disconnect from them. More often than not we are using the emotional side of our brain. Most people say men need to open up more and be more emotional however we are emotional, we just show it in different ways.
The reason I bring that up is that if we can learn when is best to disconnect from our emotions then we can look at some moments, not all but some with clear vision instead of a clouded one. It's why when someone's going through a hard time we can normally spot right away the way to solve the issue as we don't have skin in the game.
It's "repress" in psychology :D
I wish I could just solve my mental block but trying it usually just backfires and makes me more anxious and stuck
This is perfect advice. If you break down your day, all you ever need to do is the next thing. Don't bring the emotional charge and feel overwhelmed by a task or many tasks. You can only ever do one thing at a time anyway.
Love your work!
“Mental masturbation” or overthinking is something I’ve really been struggling with and this video couldn’t have come at a better time. Appreciate your work, Joey 🙏
Amazing video as always Joey, thank you so much for all that you do!
Couldn’t have summed it up better myself! Action will always be the greatest thing one can do. Forget the preparation, over analysis or overthinking. It’s the tip of the iceberg that ourselves and others actually get to see and anything below the surface is very rarely comprehended or considered. Great video thank you Joey!🙂
Omg I say it the same way; “sometimes you got to just act like a robot!” I just told my daughter that we have to take how we feel out of doing things we just have or need to do sometimes. That’s so cool :)
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Just kidding. Yeah, this is a very interesting concept. I usually do "reverse psychology" on things. It never works, although it is good for my emotional balance. Now this way of thinking makes so much sense since we usually end up saying (after starting a task and being on a roll with it) "Well, it is actually easier than I thought". It always is. We just "forget" about it.
It's a good way to get through a dull job or a hard task ... Just do it like a robot
Has become one of my favourite videos for motivation… I’m always trying to find the simplest way to perceive things so that I apply them more easily. Brilliant stuff thank you!!!
Thank you for this clarity.
whenever i catch one of your videos, it's like being jolted from a daydream. i've been struggling so much for so long, alone in my headspace and convinced that it's over. sometimes you need to be reminded that you can do it just by telling yourself to do it. thanks for that reminder. i wish depression and everything else could be solved so easily, but it's still a step forward.
I completely agree. Whenever Joey uploads it’s like being snapped out of my spiral and back to reality.
People rarely need to be told. But we frequently need to be reminded.
This is exactly how I feel and I didn't know how to put it into words until I saw the first sentence of your comment.
I hope you are well.
I wish we were not having to watch this through LCD screen that by the way causes depression, makes you feel immersed into stuff only to realize that you burned significant time and energy while doing a simple task such as watching this video. It goes over people's heads, but RLCD screen is superior to LCD and should be mainstream because it doesn't produce blue light and doesn't reflect it straight into your eyes. It is not however. Why? Well companies don't want you to be healthy. They want you to immerse yourself into all the bullshit they make so they can profit. Simple, isn't it? However this mentality leads to even the people you know becoming victims, even your family becoming a victim of your horrible ideas. I get it, evil works against everyone including your own family, but I just want to remind yall how technology won't improve our lives as much as we think. In fact, it might do completely the opposite thing. Best of luck and I wish yall happy 2024 or maybe let it be as 2023? I hope it doesn't get worse, but from my perspective, the odds are it will. So be prepared and do things your own fucking way. Bless all you rebels and renegades man
Needed to hear this. Thank you!
Well, this appeared at the perfect time. Since I haven’t uploaded in a year and a half, I was overthinking what my first comeback video should be. I could spend an eternity thinking and planning, but it really comes down to just getting it done. Thanks Joey.
Really needed that, perfect timing, ty so much
I needed that! Thank you, Joey!
JUST WHAT I NEEDED. I LOVE IT , its so true. I think social media tries to give you problems that dont exist to sell you stuff you dont need. Its all simple
4:00 said that like an absolute robot lmao
Love your vids man. They are so digestible and you make complicated situations feel so simple.
Man those are such amazing tips that need to be shared and heard. Especially the robotic mindset, I’ve been using it for years and it helped me so much!
Obsessed with your channel, thank you for all these videos! :)
This guy is amazing. I applied one of his tips and it changed my life.
Thank u so much for this ❤
Keep it coming! Great stuff! Thank you!
Excellent example and very well said. Your message comes across very clear, simple and understandable. I always enjoy listening to you, no fancy bs, music or putting on performance. Love your work 👍
I came to this same conclusion and it's fantastic! The less I think about things, the more energy I have to do the thing and the better it turns out. I will think through what needs to be done, but past that, I leave all those draining emotions behind.
Absolutely. Great point
Love how this video is a perfect example of the principle he’s talking about. It’s no bullshit and while the essentials are there, there isn’t any fancy editing or music. He just tells you what’s up and the video is still engaging.
When the message is the hook , you don't need fancy editing to make the viewers watch ..
Agreed.
Great video!! Actions speak louder than words.
Never ceases to amaze me how great you are at articulating certain concepts and points. Great video
This video came at a perfect time ! Keep up the work brother your advice be spot on 💯
You actually talker about what I needed to hear for the past months. Thank you!
Thank you for your videos! Really inspiring😊🙏🏼
This editing technique was so great - loved it!
Great video❤ It really inspires me. Thank you so much ❤
After watching this video, I’ve been applying the mindset this weekend. Thank you!
Amazing and Helpful as always, Thank you so much
Great point!
This sort of overcomplication is something I've dealt with, and it was something that was attributed to anxiety in my experience. Wouldn't be surprised if that's the case for most people who have to deal with this. Luckily it's something that I've come to better grips with as I've personally worked on my mental health over the course of past year (along with help from counseling services provided by my school), and I think it's something that people who have perfectionist tendencies really need to hear. So yeah, thanks for putting this video out there!
Thank you so much...great reminder :)
This advice is exactly what I needed. Thank you 🙏
I just came to the realization and started putting this into practice recently after being in a funk for a little while.
Removing all the contemplation and overthinking and just showing up and doing something everyday is incredibly powerful. Like when I know I need to get something done, but I also know I’m not feeling it, I just look at myself honestly and go “okay, maybe that’s too much, but you have to show up and do the bare minimum, just show up”. Now that I’ve been doing that for the past week or two and am on a roll, I feel much better, am getting more done, and there’s less emotion and strain involved.
The weight gets lifted off your shoulders if you merely have to show up, put in minimum effort, and do a shitty job. Funnily enough, once you start, you actually end up doing more and refining and making it better than you first thought, you just had to get out of your own way first. By going through this process, you remove the emotion from doing the important things, and makes you a robot almost but in an amazing way. It’s like a superpower really.
Haha, great video! I needed this
I love your videos so inspirational man!
I love how direct is your videos
I loved this video, the way you talk, i took it personally since i'm in this loop myself, you helped me, thanks
I really needed to hear this right now. Thanks.
Fantastic video, loved it. So simple and yet so profound.
Great reminders, Joey!
Very interesting perspective! I really enjoyed this
Great advice. Thanks man.
i really like your videos they are simple but straight to the point i love it
Great video. If you want something then you have to work for it and not feel entitled to it. Be Stoic, ignore emotions and get it done!
Great video! I've always struggled with procrastination due to emotional overwhelm - kind of like your sister. In the end, everything somehow works out and I perform well, oftentimes better than I anticipated. However it takes a huge toll on my mental and emotional well-being. Straight-up putting this mentality into practice. Thank you! 🔥
I really need to hear this and I’m going to repeat this video over and over. Thank you so much!! Just need to DO IT. THATS IT.
I needed this.
Wow. Just discovered your work. Thank you from the King of komplicating every detail of life.
This is the kind of stuff I needed to hear.
Thanks 🙏
Love these videos XD thank you!
Thanks Joey.
Thank you! Am gonna check out those books.
Thank you for putting these ideas and philosophies in such concise terms. So many things always feel like they stop me and I feel so stuck at 29. Your videos make sense and give me a way to go forward. Thank you.
Thank you ❤
I just want to say thank you … SO much for doing what you do and for making such incredible videos. You are truly appreciated.
This one struck me like lightning. I like to listen to this video again, and again, and again. I came to a time in my life, where I do understand it, I just had to hear it someone put it into words.
thanks for your videos!! Really grateful
I needed this today
This video seems really helpful. Thank you so much.
So well spoken!!:)
Been thinking of this a lot, thinking about overthinking! Just do it. Like you said, just do it or be more robotic. Thanks helping us improve ourselves. Loved this video!
One of your best videos man. Love your stuff. Been watching for a few years now. You've definitely helped me improve my life over that time.
Thanks a lot❤😊
Thanks man, I needed to hear this
You are so wise and insightful! Your video content and quality are Top Notch!!
This video made me cry, and that's a good thing, thanks dude.
i couldn’t think of anything else that make much more sense than this. love this content so much🫶🏽
On point, I like it!
This was exactly what I needed to hear today. I’m literally going to make this a weekly listening piece for 2024. I tend to tie emotion into everything I do, which makes life kinda exhausting. Thanks for this!
Genuinely one of the best channels out there. You’ve done so much for my mentality and state of mind. Thank you so much for these.
Right on point for today.
You are not your thoughts nor your feelings. That simple truth helped me do so much more in life.
Thank you.
Gratidão pelo seu conteúdo incrível!!
Thank you! I just like your videos 😀
I LOVED this one.
I really needed to remind myself of this today actually so thanks :)
Love the ending!
Great point! It's rarely complicated. You are capable of changing your life.
Hey Vsauce, Micheal here.
I love your sense of humor, messaging is PERFECT. Why does the horse feel chained by the rope when it's tied to NOTHING. Great points, humor on point.
Thank you joey❤❤
The fact that you mentioned so clearly that none of those overthinking matters in the end, only the outcome matters, gave a different level of calmness to my soul. Thank you for giving out this kind of priceless advice.
I needed this as a reminder, thank you so much. but....
For other peers I want to add a point or rather a clarification for just doing the things that you have to do without overthinking about it or stressing about it, like my bro said just do the things that you are supposed to be doing for example clearing your room,studying, washing your car... you get the idea!
I can see through his perception and that approach towards your day to day tasks or your goals that requires consistency is a really good approach and will serve you well in the long term.
But be aware that you must not apply this rule to everypart of your life especially the parts that are related to someone or to something big future... for example deciding to say a complement to someone or your close ones without thinking about how your comment will influence other people or a big decision such as buying a car or a house or marrying someone... again you get the idea.
in short, only apply this strategy to the decisions that you've thought about it fully and throughly before doing it... because be aware
Like ghost says : choices have consequences
I had this thought but couldnt formulate it, this bold man is a youtube gem
Bald*
Your videos always give the advice that I need to hear. If you're unhappy with that you don't have something or look a certain way, it's you who is standing in your way.