Cancer, Life & Death | A personal message from Gil
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This is my first time to this channel, and I got all of this. Wow, I came for me, and finished up after listening to this video wondering how I could encourage this speaker and help him. I was so moved by his mother's story and indeed not only by the devasting impact of her illness upon her body but on himself too as a carer. What a thoroughly descent man this is. What a wonderful loving son. I realised later this video is over a year old. I must now go and find his most recent video so as to know what his dear mother's outcome was after such a horrendous ordeal. Thank you for this and God bless you .
hi, thank you for your kind words. against all of her doctors' expectations (who sat us down 2y ago and told us it was the end of the line), she survived and clawed her way back to walking & eating on her own & being largely self-sufficient. her cancer is in full remission. plenty of tough sequelae left she's still fighting through on the daily but life continues and she just spent 2 weeks with her grandchildren who flew from all over the world to visit her :)
her doctors are stunned and so are we (just a little less so since we've known her long enough to know she had it in her)
@@NutritionMadeSimple Thank you so very very much for your most gracious reply. I did not expect that. I am so happy and in fact thrilled to hear such good news. Your precious mother is clearly a fighter and a survivor. She is blessed to have a son like you. Unfortunately, not all parents are as fortunate.
I think when you are stunning the medical profession, which I think would be very rare, then we have to start asking different questions. Questions of the theological kind.
I have no doubt in my mind that the Good Lord was with both of you all the way through the nightmare you described.
May God bless you and all those you love, and may he always be by your family's side.
I was truly delighted to hear your mother was still with you all. I shall pray for her continued management and recovery from the after math of her illness.
Many thanks once again for your informative and thoughtful reply. It was very much appreciated.
My friend’s mother was put eventually in palliative care at the hospital in Winnipeg. They expected her to pass within the year. She outlasted this window. And eventually was sent home. I lost touch with the friend. But I carried with me the torch of hope for all the people touched by cancer in my life. Statistically improbable reversals are possible. Never give up, like her.
Thank you and I’m glad she’s doing better now. I really appreciate your videos.
@@NutritionMadeSimple God Bless your mother and yourself for all the advice given in your videos.
4.5.2023 So sorry to hear about your mom. We all share your pain. And thanks for sharing the event with us. I am sure it's beneficial both ways. You are a good son, l am sure your mom is very appreciative and feel blessed to have loved ones like you and your siblings by her side at these difficult times.
Stay strong Gil! Being a son is more important than being a youtuber. I will watch you even if you only upload once a year.
Love from Vienna
I feel the same 🙏💚🤗 lots of love from Bavaria, Germany
You put it so well Lucas! We are with you forever, Gil!
This app is littered with people looking to improve themselves, through get rich quick, to 6 pack in 6 weeks and everything in between. I have always enjoyed your honest, detailed (& little bit of fun) health and well-being videos but this one has knocked me away. You are truly a good man, and I think people could learn an awful lot from you, I know I have after that 30 minutes. I have no doubt your mother is outstandingly proud of you. I wish you both the very best and will take the message of this video with me and try and follow this exceptional example you’ve set.
He is a good man. I agree.
Probably one of the must underrated channels on youtube. Gil has always been super balanced and genuinely wants to help people (which is rare on youtube). This one hit me, he literally talks about his mom like I would. I would literally do anything and everything for her. Gil is the perfect son. Props to you my man!
You are a good son. An amazing son. Your mom is lucky to have you; she did a great job raising you. I’m so sorry for her pain and the turmoil this has caused in all of your lives. Watching your mom suffer like this must have been heartbreaking.
Hugs to you and your mom. Best wishes as you continue on this difficult journey - to recovery!
How fortunate for your mom to have a loving, grateful, empathetic, optimistic son. I was the sole caregiver for my husband for one year before he passed away from ALS and it took me a whole year to recuperate from the exhaustion that felt afterwards. Thank you for sharing your story and made me look at it as a privilege for having the opportunity to serve. God bless you 🙏🏻
I just watched this Gil, so I hope your Mom's ok. My sister was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer August 2013 and died April 2014. She was fifty, non-drinker, non-smoker, good health, no family history of cancer, and has just had a colonoscopy 4 months earlier as she was 50. She went from robust health to barely being able to eat or walk in 2 months. The cancer was in 95% of her liver when they found it. I left my home in NC and went to CA to care for her for 3 months. At that time I realized there were 2 types of people. those who had experienced a close relative with an illness like that and those who hadn't. I kept thinking, "how do people and families survive this"?. It was 24/7 with her, she could barely eat, in constant pain, and at the ER about every week or so. It really changed me. As a silver lining, her son, who was in his senior year of college at the time, decided to become a physician and help people. He is currently finishing her last year of residency and will then go to a third world country and help people who cannot afford care. Thanks for sharing your personal story.
this experience has changed me as well. I feel like there's a before and after.
thanks for sharing! all best,
I just watched this, two years late, after following your channel for at least a couple of years. I'm so so sorry to hear what all of you have been through. You are a great son and a wonderful doctor and researcher. I hope you and your mom, your family, are in peace. ❤
Gil, you are an incredible man. I am so happy that you and your mother made it
So encouraging seeing a family coming together like this and stepping up to the plate like you are doing!! Best wishes going forward! 🙏
Gil, I looked after my mum for five years after a stroke and subsequent dementia. She died 5 months ago. I echo many of your sentiments about caring for a loved one.
I stopped work on my dissertation to take care of my mother. Never got back to it. Was it worth it? Yes, absolutely.
Ok... As an Indian I thought europeans dont have any intense feelings for their parents.. Thanks for correcting our biases.. Touching ❤
What a strange comment.
Every culture on earth has strong feelings for their parents
As a mother myself, the way you speak about your mother just warms my heart. I hope my son's grow up as kind and loving as you are towards your mother. This video is such a beautful tribute to the battle your mother has fought, she sounds like a forceful determined woman!! I hope she is feeling so much better. Care giving burnout is a real thing, make sure you're all taking care of yourselves as well as your mother. She needs you all, so take care of yourself so you can care for her
thank you Chloe your kind words mean a lot ❤💓
@@NutritionMadeSimpleWhen Something happens to our family members , It's not just physical pressure we feel but also mental pressure.
You have a strong character from inside , that's why you were able to stand at that time.
May your mother have a better and happy life.
Btw, the nurse aids in convalescent homes would love to help you. I paid them twice as much as they were making hourly and they were glad to help me take my father to appointments, to lunch, even to ice cream. I’m only 5’2’’ on a good day, and my dad 5’10” and the wheelchair was so heavy too. It was a strain financially but you won’t miss the money in the end. I’m glad I found help and got to spend precious time with my father.
My dad died of squamous cell carcinoma of the lungs - long time smoker, drank regularly -- but it is still hard to experience what it does to the human body. May God bless the process of caring as you navigate this dicey journey.
It's such a difficult thing to go through. 😥 I went through this with my dad (also in early 2020 with the start of the pandemic). Glad you were able to be there for your mother and take such good care of her. Hope she's doing better now ❤
I'm lost for words... Thanks for sharing, very touching. Wish you guys the best. I can't even begin to imagine what you all went through. Amazing video. You've been missed.
This was a painful video, but I appreciate your story. My mother went through something similar but unfortunately died. The strength of my father was biblical, especially since he was in his 80's. We all tried to support him and my mother, but in the end he bore an incredible weight.
You are a good son. You asked us to share and I will. My Mother is 102 and still lives in her own home. My older brother is her constant companion and care giver. I am sure that if it wasn't for his love and devotion to our Mother, she would not be with us. He is a good son. Thank you brother.
Been watching you videos alot since my heart attack in April at 60 years old. Jus listened to this one tonight and my heart went out to you and your family and especially your Mom. My Mom died in the nursing home during Covid and he four kids couldn't see her for five weeks. So hard we couldn't be with her.
Thankful that you were able to do what you could to be with your Mom.
I have ask you and i hope you don't mind. Do you know of Tom Seyfried qnd the work they are doing with cancer treatment? I was always hoping you would do a video about that or have him on your channel.
Well prayers for your Mom and you and your families
Peace Jim
Somewhat similar story with my mum this year.
Diagnosed in ovarian cancer stage III (prognosis around 30% at five year I believe) in February and a roller coaster with pain, kidney issues (creatinine through the roof even though she has nephrostomy pockets), lymphedemas, high blood pressure and all kinds of infections ever since.
But the tumour was gone too in the mean time (she did 4 rounds of chemo, then surgery in august, then 2 more rounds)
We march on brother !
My heartfelt sympathies Gil! Stay strong and I am so proud of of your sincerest dedication. ❤
Great video Gil. Family, life and death should be talked more openly and often in society. My mom's hemorrhagic stroke (she's well now) and then mother in law's sudden passing brought perspective to our family.. of the time we all have between birth and death. As a scientist, sometimes I find the society's ignorance/avoidance of discussions regarding late stages of life, palliative care and death frustrating. Thanks very much for sharing!
You are amazing. She is blessed to have you as a son.
I had a micro version of this with my father. He went through chemotherapy & had a shingles outbreak as a result, which wasn't recognized as shingles as quickly as it should have been, which lead to complications. He had no appetite & a lot of pain in his mouth which caused a lot of weight loss & he looked like he had aged 20 years in a week and was about to die. They also had him on too many stupefying pain killers so that he couldn't communicate with us properly & I think that made it even harder for him to eat enough. I had to ask them if he had actually requested that much painkiller & it seemed like he hadn't, so I asked if they could reduce the stupefying drugs and his condition greatly improved when they did. He was then surgically given a tube to be fed through which improved his condition further. I don't understand why they didn't put more nutrients including protein in his drip earlier, as soon as he wasn't eating enough, to ensure adequate macro & micronutrient intake & prevent the muscle loss, instead of waiting for a lot of muscle loss to occur first. I understand that eating your food is much better, & if you aren't eating then a tube is better than a drip in the long term, but I don't think he would have eaten significantly less with protein & essential fats & micronutrients in his drip, instead of just saline. Anyway, even though he looked like death, he recovered fully & is completely back to his old self, except for lower weight including less muscle, with cancer in remission for now. I'm wishing you all the best.
I found your channel a few months ago and have thoroughly enjoyed your videos that I've seen so far. This one just popped up for me and I realize it was from awhile ago, but I hope your mother is doing well. I'm so sorry to hear what you went through, but thank you for this video as it was really helpful for me. The past year I've been supporting my mom in taking care of my father after a stroke, and what you said about being a caretaker really resonated with me. It is life-changing and the most difficult thing I've ever done, and I thank you for the reminder that it is also a privilege. Best wishes to you and your family.
Gil, you are seriously not just one of my favorite youtubers, but one of my favorite people. I am so glad to hear how you've been there for your mom and family and she is so much better for it. I hope that she continues to make progress and overcomes all of these health challenges. With you and the rest of her family, I'm sure she can do it.
Keep fighting the good fight.
Sending love from New Jersey
The old adage...if it doesn't kill you it will make you stronger, lets hope that's the case for everyone involved...stay strong and god bless.
Last summer my mom had a heart attack and was on life support. It happened in the morning right when she arrived at work. This was also during the time there were strict rules of not allowing visitors, so I didn't get to be with her and had to let her go after 9 days of being on the respirator. They only allowed visitors once the decision was made to let her go. She looked like she aged 10 years in that one week. It's hard to watch the person who brought you into this world suffer and having to let her rest. She was only 50 at the time. Thank you for sharing your story, Gil.
so sorry to hear!! thank you for sharing.
I’m seeing this video 2 years after the fact, still, I’m so sorry for your pain. You do so much good for so many people, your mother must be so proud! ❤
I can completely resonate with this video . I’m 24 and I watch your videos to keep up to date with your videos to try my best to eat healthy for a healthy life. My mother went through something similar with breast cancer but she didn’t make it … triple negative breast cancer … had to take off of work and school(for 6 months) to help her to the best of my ability and I was so grateful that I had the opportunity to do such an honorable deed …care for my mother and the words you used such as “sacrifice” although it has a negative connotation it is true and I see it as a positive . Cheers and I hope she is doing well . 🙏🙏🙏 Usually the most rewarding path is the road less taken is what I learned from my experience.
You’ve really been through it! I was a nurse for 25 years, but in the last 6 years I’ve cared for both my parents as they were dying. And Briefly with my mother in law, she died very quickly, and now with my father in law. After all of that my husband and I found amazing caregivers for his dad because his decline has been very slow. He’s been bed ridden now for over a year. My husband developed atrial fib and his heart disease was ,so bad he had bypass surgery and carotid endarterectomy and now has prostate cancer. I think it was accentuated due to the hardships that accompany going through the emotional and physical difficulties from years of caregiving loved ones.
I had a similar experience with my dad -- it was the most exhausted I've ever been too. Great advice on getting help with the daily care. Best wishes for you and your mom.
It is so touching to listen to your family story.God bless everyone in your family
What a wonderful son you are! It has been a privilege to find your channel! Aloha
I hope your mother is better now. My mom has metastatic gynecological cancer but the doctor's say her cancer usually responds well with chemotherapy, she looks well and is exercising, doing her treatment and eating better. But yes it's something hectic. God bless your mother and family.
best wishes for her and the family!!!
This is so important. Even your willingness to stop fighting when she was shows true compassion. Understanding that depth of compassion to yourself -- getting help -- should be prioritized as well. Your suffering counts too. Hope you both continue to recover well.
I’m just seeing this today. Wish I could have sent you well wishes at the time. Dr. Gil, your mother is an angel to have given birth to three doctors and I’m sure a lovely non-doctor. Thank you for all you do, you and your entire family. Happy Holidays!
It takes an incredible amount of strength to be able to talk about this. I commend you for your ability to be able to discuss this as openly and truthfully as you have. You have given strength and courage to more people than you could imagine through sharing this and I am very thankful to be a part of a community with a leader as strong and brave as yourself. Love you Gil.
That´s an interesting life in the words of a Brazilian psychoanalyst, Contado Calligaris. This is your mother your family then you are a doctor and an excellent medical media educator pouring out on her all your love, knowledge, and inspiration. Wonderful life. All due respect to you and your brothers and sisters since Brazil.
What a wonderful son you are
I had a similar experience with my husband who had spindle cell carcinoma, there was never a primary found, but he had malignant growths in his lung, liver and both sides of his brain. We were given a matter of weeks. Because I had worked in the hospital where he was admitted,
I insisted they try operate, they told us he wouldn’t survive. We are now 16 years down the line, and he even went back to work.
He did have chemo and radiotherapy, plus 3 big ops. We enjoy every day, life is so precious. We lead a very simple life, good organic food and gentle walking every day. Our thoughts are with you
Hazel
Bro. Im so sorry. I hope your mother recovers. Thank you for being an inspiring man. Thank your mother for her resilience. This is hard, but i am proud of you both.
thank you!!! she's MUCH better now :)
Amen, amen! I have been experienced all of this with my mom through two primary cancers (of three total) in the course of two years. My sister is a former ICU RN and I am an inpatient clinical pharmacist. We have said multiple times we cannot imagine how we would have been able to navigate our mom’s treatments and hospitalizations during Covid. We were able to be constantly be present during all of her treatments and hospitalizations. Believe me when I say multiple practitioners came into to her room asking who is the pharmacist and who is the RN-lol. You are so blessed to have your former classmate taking care of your mother. And you are so right about it being a privilege to be able to take care of our parents after all they have done for us. Thank you so much for sharing this with us! It is so hard when you are in the middle of the crisis and I cannot imagine those who do not know how to navigate within the medical system. Prayers for you and your family as you continue to take care of your mom ❤️
My grandma passed earlier this year and I think my way of coping with it and the way I found strength was to support other family members through it. Stay strong!
Yes...and being that you are a doctor has to be another factor, that you need to be there and on top of everything (which is understandable). I agree, it is a privelege to be able to do that. My nurse friend has an 85 y/o mom that has always lived with her. She went on dialasys 8 years ago. She quit working to stay home and care for her. It got so bad, hard on my friend mentally. I was like a stalker..calling her daily because she was ready to end her own life. She alone (other sibling no help at all) doing it all. I finally was able to convince her she need to be in assisted living facility ( the nice one a mile away). She goes daily to feed her at each meal. I believe children who are able to and do actually stay that involved are treasures. ❤❤
May your wonderful mom recover and enjoy many many more years by the grace of God. I know she is a wonderful mom…because her children especially you are also wonderful - for giving to all of us the knowledge to care for our health!! Ble blessed…and may you enjoy your mom for years to come!!
Thanks for sharing. Even though I live so far away from my Dad I was blessed to be by my Dad's side while he passed. With this whole virus situation I wasn't even sure if I would be allowed to travel to be with him. I haven't even grieved yet the loss of my Dad because I am so thankful to have been able to be with him 😢
Wow. This is the only youtube channel that I watch on a regular basis. I watch it on TV, so I can't leave comments on the other videos. But they all have a thumbs up, and I'd love to smash the bell icon...if I could find it....I did subscribe. I don't know if what I do online will transfer to the tube, but I'll always do a search. Such a wonderful son!
The health videos always made me think that Dr Gil was a person of very high character. This video not only confirmed those high expectations, but took it to a whole another level. Your mother raised one heck of a kid. Thanks to all you do for us and her.
“Where there’s life there’s hope.” I agree with your thinking, not giving up until there’s truly nothing left to be done. Good point about not being afraid to ask for help early on. God bless you and your family. I’m watching this a year later. I hope and pray all is well.
As I am listening to this, all I can think of is this was a God thing don’t you see? The fact that this friend of yours was there right at the moment was a miracle. I hope you believe in the Lord Jesus because that’s exactly what happened here praise God for his help and thank God your mother God help and you’re such a wonderful son.
Be tough man, I recently lost my mom and ya, its heavy on the heart and the mind...You have to do what you can...
So much ❤❤❤ for you. I am a recent subscriber to your channel but just saw this today with very heavy heart. Such raw emotions. Very glad that your mum was strong to come out if this. How is she now? You made a great point about caring. Losing sleep for that long would drive anyone go insane. But you were such a wonderful son. And no shame in taking help and being present better. Thanks for what you do for this community. Lots of good wishes and prayers your way.
Dear Doctor, you are a Great Son! God bless you and your family forever.
Oh you are such a loving and sweet son. I really hope she will be ok. ❤
Thank you for being brave and sharing your many truths. You help us even when things are far from perfect. Life is not always straight forward and easy for any of us or our families. We need to have more of these kinds of videos to guide us through...
Best wishes to you and your mom. From Hong Kong. Appreciate you address these big topics in life!
I went through all these since long ago. My mom passed away from can cancer twenty years ago and my father left us early this year after many years of aging and sickness. I miss them every day. Can remember every detail of their look and voice just like yesterday.
My mother died from cancer. I know what you mean by person you know for whole life to become unrecognizable. It's shock to watch they are losing their own identity and become stranger. In the end, they don't recognize you, and they don't recognize themselves. It's like someone wiped their mind and replace it with child who doesn't recognize anything around them. Combine that with all dramatic physical changes. You feel like you lost them already, because person you're seeing is someone else.
And yes, I agree that it's very irritating when people behave like your parent already died. Even more irritating if it's the closest family. And they're trying to force you to accept it. That's not what anyone would do if someone is important for them. You will fight until their last breath to save them. Anything less is not acceptable.
What a touching story! Gil, you are an amazing person and awesome son.
My sincere sympathies. Wishing your Mom the best possible outcome and hoping for continued comfort and strength for you to help you get through the rest of this journey.
Wishing you all the best Gil, grateful you took the time to share. Stay strong
Oh wow. So sorry your mom is going through this. I know it's also incredibly hard for u and people who love her.
I'm new to your channel and this was one of the first videos I watched. It made me cry because I think it is something a lot of people who have experienced cancer - either themselves or within their close circles - can relate to. I lost my own mother to lung cancer that had metastasized into her brain and which had initially been mistaken for an inner ear infection. She died during Covid, within 3 months of her diagnosis. All of the experiences you've spoken about - watching your mother dramatically and rapidly decline in health, having to be the one who carried and lifted her from one place to the next, having to be the one who fed her etc - resonated with me. The epiphany you had at the end of your video where you said caring for her was not a burden but a privilege is one I also experienced - I used those exact words when my mother said she was being a burden to me and I used those exact words to discredit anyone who implied the same. Our mindset as a family was exactly the same as your family's, i.e. that we will accept a terminal diagnosis when my mother is dead and not a moment before. Obviously people react differently to these situations - there is no right or wrong way to cope with such news. But from my point of view, I found it so much easier to accept my mother's death when it was cocooned in the knowledge that, despite a terminal diagnosis, we fought for and were able to secure chemotherapy, radiotherapy and - what was at the time quite new and risky - immunotherapy to maximise her practically non-existent chances of survival. I know my mother would like to be remembered not as someone who died from cancer, but as someone who died fighting cancer, and this is how I choose to tell her story to others. I am so glad that the outcome was more positive for your own mother and I know that having the support of her family made a world of difference. Only those who are kind have the capacity to love, and your love for your mother is self-evident. She is blessed to have you in her life, and the world is blessed to have another kind soul. May you and your family live long and prosper.
3:15 My aunt developed cancer due to immunosuppressants after a liver transplant (due to hepatitis). She fought it on and off for decades.
My wife developed HPV-caused cervical cancer and had radiotherapy. One of the risks of it is that if you get the irradiated area wet within a certain period of time, it can cause blistering. It caused darkening of the skin for her (she was already pretty dark because she was Javanese). The radiotherapy wasn't really bad (she had both internal and external) but the chemotherapy really messed her up, and we had problems with the medical staff, including neglect, abuse and malpractice (in Indonesia). She was traumatized by the chemo, causing her to be unwilling to consume things she'd liked prior to it, especially if she consumed it right before or during and, as her disease progressed, she started to have poor gustatory and olfactory function. As a result, she became weaker and eventually died of hypoglycemic shock. By then, her cancer, which was found when it was 2b, had advanced to stage 4, and she had a double nephrostomy (tubes to both kidneys to drain urine so that she wouldn't drown in it because her bladder's exit was blocked by the expanding cancer in her cervix). It was very traumatizing for her, and I ended up with PTSD and depression because I was almost always with her for doctor's visits and inpatient stays, sleeping on the floor next to her and trying to find her food she'd eat. It was hard to listen to your story because it reminded me so much of our experience. I don't know what your mom's situation is now, but I feel what you feel and I hope for the best!
PS: You shouldn't have cut out the parts where you broke down.
So sorry you guys went through this. You were there for her and she is blessed.😢
My paternal grandparents’ health declined significantly if their 90’s. They had 6 loving adult children (all 50-60’s yr olds). They all decided to hire a care taker to be there 4 days a week. She was the best care taker we could have asked for (cooked, cleaned, washed them, sat with them, gave them meds, etc). She was with my grandparents until my grandmother died and continued to be their for my grandfather. She went to both of their funerals. Becoming a caretaker suddenly or making it a profession is hard physically and mentally. Well wishes to you and your family Dr. Gil.
God bless you Gil and your mother and family. My heart goes out to you. Stay strong and thank you.
Was an addict . Gambled for over 50 years lost in excess of half a million . 24th of Aug. 2000 decided never again . Never gambled after that date and never will again.
I literally just " met " you and I'm so thankful , and this video just increased my admiration for you , your care for her throughout is uplifting , makes me think of my parents ...
Bless you and your family….sending our prayers
Thank you Gil. Thank you not only for making quality medical knowledge accessible to the masses, but also for showing such humanity and courage in caring for your mom. The world is a better place with your contributions. ❤
Gil, what a heart-wrenching yet very loving video to watch. You are obviously a wonderfully caring son and I'm sure your mom so appreciates you. I'm a retired RN and have been through similar ordeals with my mother and my first husband. Being a full-time caregiver is truly exhausting. Watching someone you love in so much pain is agonizing. I'm glad your mom's pain is under control at the moment and I hope it stays that way. For anyone going through this, definitely ask for help. Utilize other family members, doctors, nurses, home health aides and any kind of public service available. Sending you, your mom, and siblings my very best wishes for continued healing and recovery. If I was there in PT, I'd give you a gigantic hug!
This has really inspired me to be more present in the lives of those around me - it's amazing to hear about how much you guys did to help your mum. It seems like she's doing better now which is great, and I hope you and all your family are doing well too ❤️
enjoy every second. life's fleeting! :)
You are an amazing good-hearted and honest person, your family is proud of you I am sure! Just as someone else commented, even if you do one video per year we will be enormously grateful. Thank you for all the amazing work and honesty that you share with this youtube community. I am sure we all feel lucky to be part of your channel.
I had my tragedies too, I lost my mother, father, and brother. Knowing we did what we could and even more helps a bit. Some days are better some days are worse, but for some reason, we keep on going, aren't we?
I wish you all the strengths in the world and I hope all will be good/all is good ❤️
thank you Anna!!!
What a wonderful son you are to your mom, and what a testimony of Gods love .you are modeling by honoring and being by her side in the darkest time of her life. G
We grasp at the minutes we have with our loved ones when the end seems near. The privilege you are given is almost overwhelmed with the sense of duty and need to help them recover. It is a burden that is unmatched in our lives. My wife was in the hospital 12 days for a systemic shutdown that seemed unrecoverable. End stage renal disease had taken it's toll and her peritoneal dialysis stopped working. I was devastated, she had no desire to be on Hemo dialysis. But 11 month of trips trips to the clinic and days of doctor visits and every ologists known to mankind I still have the privilege of having her with me.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom. It is a great joy we share to be able to spend time with our loved ones. The growth and empathy that happens in your life will make your life better.
Hang in there and make videos when you can. Stay strong and thank you for sharing your story. It's something will treasure all of your life.
I agree 100% that it is a privilege to care for our parents during such difficult times. My Dad died when I was 18 and mum had leukemia before this but survived, when she sadly passed away with Ovarian cancer many years later, my manager gave me time off to care for her in hospital. It was emotionally tiring and physically draining, but I will always be grateful to my boss for allowing me to be there for mum. Thankyou for sharing this I could see it was very difficult for you emotionally to talk about this. I hope your mum got through this ok I am new to this channel and appreciate your advice on many matters of health.
Thank you for your openness and willingness to share what has obviously been a heart wrenching and is an on-going experience. We were definitely concerned when your videos stopped. We appreciate your honesty and transparency and pray for all the best for you, your mom and your family.
Wow, Gil, what an ordeal! Sounds horrific, exhausting, and "rewarding" all at the same time. Thanks for sharing all of that! And I truly hope things continue to improve for your mom, even if slowly and haltingly.
My father-in-law lived with us for many years and about 9 years ago was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, so we went through a couple of years of different treatments of chemo, radiation, etc. My wife was a freelance photographer and I'm a full-time web developer so it was much more on her to take him to see doctors and do much of the more direct care in the last months of his life. She also described it to me as a "privelege" to do this, so you're not alone in that thinking. I think I've been a bit afraid of this happening with my own mom, who is 91 now and has increasing mobility issues that make doing much on her own more and more difficult. This is due to deteriorating bones and joints, but luckily nothing has broken, just lots of pain and she doesn't respond well to pain medication. Anyway, in some ways I've dreaded this idea of having to take care of her more directly, but I need to change that attitude based on your and my wife's sentiments!
One quick question - it sounds like she continues to have these chronic infections. You may have mentioned why, but I'm not sure. Is this because she is on drugs that reduce her immune function since she's had a kidney transplant and without those drugs her body might reject the kidney? If not, do they know why the infections continue to happen?
Again, best of luck to your mom and your family and thanks for sharing this very moving account of this ordeal!
I'm wondering the same. Maybe he needs to do another Video to answer all the questions 💚🌈🌍🦋🤗
it's a mix of the immunosuppression and the lesions left by the radiation that allow bugs to get in. it would be less of an issue in an immunocompetent patient
I'm so sorry to hear you went through all this! I wish your mom a soon recovery. Be strong and stay positive...the worst has passed! Sending hugs to all of you!
I too felt it a privilege to care for my mother who passed from pancreatic cancer. It's a very personal process, one of deep love and that is something you could never quite understand until you've been through it. Bless you Gil.
I'm so sorry you've gone through this. I know how difficult it is. Thank you for sharing with us, I hope you're family will heal and find strength. 💗
Gil, te agradeço profundamente por cada palavra sua neste vídeo. E te envio um abraço muito apertado.
I just recently found your channel. Thanks so much for all you do. Prayers for your mom.
Oh my Gil. hang in there. best of wishes for your mom
I'm so sorry for what you and your family have gone through, but I'm glad that it didn't end in tragedy and that you have persevered enough to tell your story even if it hasn't been resolved.
You're a real rarity in these digital spheres, and I'll be thrilled to see a new video coming from you when the time is right. All the best!
Wow Gil thank you for sharing all this with us , you just reminded us that you just never know what people are going through😢
Thank you for sharing your testimony, you are an amazing son remember turn to God for everything he is with us always and will give us strength if you already haven't read biblical texts to her, God bless will pray for your mom.
Dear Dr. Carvalho, I have just watched this video. It´s deeply touching. Deep respect for what you´ve been doing for your mother. I hope she is doing much better now. Best wishes from Austria, and thank you for the the excellent job you are doing with your videos and above all for being such a good human. ❤❤❤
I am sorry about this. Prayers.
Oh dear sorry about your mum I hope she is getting better now.
much better!! thanks!
Gosh. That's heart wrenching. This reminds us to treasure every moment we can share. I'm calling my mom right now.
I am sending you a hug.
I have a 93 year old mother. I understand the privilege of caring for a loved mother.
I greatly appreciate your videos, I do not always agree . I appreciate. the information details so one can make their own decision.
I feel you my friend. My father died of cancer ~2 yrs ago and it was a horrible experience for the entire family. I bet you have all the nutrition anticancer weaponry aligned to help her keep that cancer at bay. I wish her a promptly and full recovery, and long years of good health and happiness to come. Never give up on her... like you said, until the last minute... whatever they say. Be reasonable but stand strong.
The best for you and your family.
I wish my father who had bladder cancer got that kind of hopeful care. How lucky for your mom and your family that many of you are doctors. We who are on the outside of the medical field are at the mercy of the doctors and care team and hope they treat your loved one like their own family. He died at the age of 77. He wasn't ready to go either. They recommended he have his bladder removed and he could live with an ostomy bag. Not so easy. He had complications with the surgery where his intestines got twisted and he couldn't eat. It got very complicated after that, the cancer metastasized and he went down hill from there until he went into hospice and passed away. No we did not sue the doctor but we were all so devastated. Happy for you that your mom recovered with your great care.
I second that with life being short and that tomorrow could be our last day. I always lived healthy, athletic, and lately vegan but cancer hit me a few months ago at age 39. I am kinda lucky in that it is supposed to be one of the easiest treatable cancers but still you never know. I wish your mother fast and a full recovery. I missed you brother, love from Switzerland :-)
I know this experience, although it was my Dad shouldering all the work to take care of my mom who was a quad for decades. It's draining, and it was even more draining at the end, and it's probably one of the most significant and painful experiences a person can go through when they lose their mom. But we are all mortal, and I'm starting experience losing more and more family and friends.
Those who don’t want to have kids should listen to this.
That was a great video. Even in my condition, I have to help my parents and brother who are going through their own health problems. Some times it is stressful and frustrating. It wasn't until recently that the thought entered my mind. The sacrifices and efforts we are making for each other is buying us a little more time together. Together we are sharing in each others struggles and joys. Not all people will have the ability to make the little moments count, whether in the good or bad. I'm not ready to lose either of them, but when the day comes, I'll be okay knowing, that in these moments that God has graced us with each other, that we weren't alone and we were loved which is a rare treasure to have. I could only pray that each one of us would have at least person in this life to share in the good and bad.