This reminds me of one of my favorite quotes: "Strange as it may seem, the world needs more conflict, not less. "The goal cannot and should not be to eliminate conflict. Conflict is an inevitable-and useful-part of life. "The challenge is not to eliminate conflict but to transform it. It is to change the way we deal with our differences-from destructive, adversarial battling to hard-headed, side-by-side problem-solving. "In today’s world, characterized by flatter organizations, faster innovation, and the explosion of the Internet, it is clearer than ever that to accomplish our work and meet our needs, we often have to rely on dozens, hundreds, perhaps thousands of individuals and organizations over whom we exercise no direct control. "We simply cannot rely on giving orders-even when we are dealing with employees or children. To get what we want, we are compelled to negotiate.... "Hierarchies tend to bottle up conflict, which comes out into the open as hierarchies give way to networks. "Democracies surface rather than suppress conflict, which is why democracies often seem so quarrelsome and turbulent when compared with more authoritarian societies." --Getting to Yes, by Fisher, Roger; Ury, William
My wife and I have attended all three of the Restore conferences over the past few years, Joseph Grenny was a huge highlight the first year. We were thrilled to see him this year again, and his talk was once again, one of the best for us. Thanks for introducing him to us, love all his work!
Sounds so much like Non-violent communication by Marshall Rosenberg . Another example of coming to shared true principles even though they began with different research questions. 😍
This was absolutely fantastic! One of the most needed and useful episodes of any podcast I have ever listened to and I listen to thousands. And yes it is absolutely crucial to differentiate between conflict and contention. Conflict is inevitable as part of social and human interaction. Contention is a matter of the heart and flows from pride more than desire of healthy or true relationship. One of the challenges I face in applying this material is that I struggle to be fluent in articulating the jumble of thoughts in my head at any given point. It is very hard for me to be direct because sometimes the thoughts and feelings aretoo jumbled and ambiguouss in my head or that I cannot remember concrete instances when things happened to create the feelings. Anyway, thank you for such a timely and critical conversation! This is one I will listen to multiple times and share with everyone I know. Yes, this should definitely be taught in schools and homes.
Before you discuss a problem with someone, maybe write down your needs, wants, points you want to make, and what you want the result to be if the conflict is to be resolved..
This reminds me of one of my favorite quotes:
"Strange as it may seem, the world needs more conflict, not less.
"The goal cannot and should not be to eliminate conflict. Conflict is an inevitable-and useful-part of life.
"The challenge is not to eliminate conflict but to transform it. It is to change the way we deal with our differences-from destructive, adversarial battling to hard-headed, side-by-side problem-solving.
"In today’s world, characterized by flatter organizations, faster innovation, and the explosion of the Internet, it is clearer than ever that to accomplish our work and meet our needs, we often have to rely on dozens, hundreds, perhaps thousands of individuals and organizations over whom we exercise no direct control.
"We simply cannot rely on giving orders-even when we are dealing with employees or children. To get what we want, we are compelled to negotiate....
"Hierarchies tend to bottle up conflict, which comes out into the open as hierarchies give way to networks.
"Democracies surface rather than suppress conflict, which is why democracies often seem so quarrelsome and turbulent when compared with more authoritarian societies."
--Getting to Yes, by Fisher, Roger; Ury, William
Joseph Grenny is an amazing person ☺️
So valuable. The LDS culture where I live often confuses healthy conflict resolution with contention.
Really worthwhile listen! Thank you!
My wife and I have attended all three of the Restore conferences over the past few years, Joseph Grenny was a huge highlight the first year. We were thrilled to see him this year again, and his talk was once again, one of the best for us. Thanks for introducing him to us, love all his work!
Sounds so much like Non-violent communication by Marshall Rosenberg . Another example of coming to shared true principles even though they began with different research questions. 😍
This is so so good. 😅 😮💨 I’m going to share it with a few people I hope to have critical conversations with. Thank you🙏🏼
This was absolutely fantastic! One of the most needed and useful episodes of any podcast I have ever listened to and I listen to thousands. And yes it is absolutely crucial to differentiate between conflict and contention. Conflict is inevitable as part of social and human interaction. Contention is a matter of the heart and flows from pride more than desire of healthy or true relationship.
One of the challenges I face in applying this material is that I struggle to be fluent in articulating the jumble of thoughts in my head at any given point. It is very hard for me to be direct because sometimes the thoughts and feelings aretoo jumbled and ambiguouss in my head or that I cannot remember concrete instances when things happened to create the feelings.
Anyway, thank you for such a timely and critical conversation! This is one I will listen to multiple times and share with everyone I know. Yes, this should definitely be taught in schools and homes.
Before you discuss a problem with someone, maybe write down your needs, wants, points you want to make, and what you want the result to be if the conflict is to be resolved..
Loved this. Thank you.