I like this channel. You're fair and call out the bullshit from all angles. I think its a dangerous strategy to scream from the mountain tops about "zaddy" and pedestalizing any man! Its a very foolish move and makes women loom desperate, especially for unambiguous bw. This is why i cant totally get behind divestors because they do too much! Any man listening to that and getting an actual ego boost is WEIRD!
thank you! thats why i have to balance my content with decentering men videos because i feel like even though its great to have pretty privilege etc, we still shouldnt open our selves up to @buse and codependency.
That WM fetish stuff started, when "Colorism" was gaining real popular on social media. That's something I noticed. And Chrissie at first wasn't pro racemixing. She started off as Pro Black.
@@LifeIsNotoriouscan someone's ideals/ perspective change? I get pandering and it's a real issue but is someone allowed to change their stance at all?
girl at this point I don't even date them anymore also I have noticed the increase in the manosphere/red pill talking points they've been talking since lately (even though they are the ogs of it) and let me not get into the abuse.
I don't know any Black or MLS women irl who pedestalize WM thankfully. I assume it's a grift a lot of the time because you have to be totally ignorant to think that WM as a whole are heroes in a romance novel -- they're just men. It's one thing to prefer or only want to date certain men, it's quite another to project prestige onto that whole race and fetishize how a portion of them conquered others, including people like you. Sounds like self hate and masochism to me. I'm a lesbian, so its' not like I'm trying to dissuade competition for WM lol. I grew up in a mixed environment and worked with them, and while they have been generally nice to me, I've seen awful behavior just like any other man.
So... I may have a slightly different POV based on personal experience. I completely agree that DUST comes in ALLLLL Shades, but I got sick of being fetishized and objectified by BM. I watched your video titled "When BM think they own you" and it was 100% accurate. Now my father is Italian American white and he raised me as a single parent after my parents got divorced, so I think I felt more comfortable with WM in general. Throughout my dating history, BM treated me the worst. And when KS became popular it made sense bc it showed me how a lot of them think. So in 2022, I made the conscious effort to exclude BM from my dating pool all together. And now I'm engaged to the most amazing man who cherishes me, loves me, and respects me. Could I have that with a BM? I don't know. It's possible but I don't think a lot of BM are socialized for marriage or relationships. Why are they the most LEAST MARRIED MALE DEMOGRAPHIC?? I'm not saying I agree with divestors 100%, but I understand their Villain Origin Story.😂🤣 At the end of the day, I want WOC to go WHEREVER they are celebrated... and to open their options. Cast a bigger net, get a bigger fish.💕
yes youre agreeing with what i said in the video lol. i personally dont date uabm either , i just dont want women to be @bused no matter who the guy is.
💯💯💯 agree! The return on your investments are lower with BM. They just aren't socialized to be great partners. It's always about game and screwing their wives/girlfriends over. The way they think is too degenerate.
As someone who dates exclusively white men but has been in a healthy relationship with one for almost 8 months now. I know exactly what you’re talking about, I’m not mixed but I grew up in the suburbs around a lot of mostly white people, so I don’t really have a “black” experience. But I can say I’ve come across dusty white men as well, I enjoy dating white guys but there’s some sectors I’d never cross into because of behavior like this. I don’t date the ones who put me on a pedestal over white women either, that’s a red flag and shows his weird fetish
I also grew up in heavily white suburban areas. White men aren’t mysterious at all to me. So many are trash so I can tell if you’re unimpressive. Both my ex bf and husband are white incidentally and neither of them had savior complexes
It's actually kind of new in the US for WOC to pedestalize WM, especially ABW. This is a new phenomenon for our country. In fact, we used to look at (and talk about) foreign BW like they were crazy for being with a WM until very recently. The biracials in America was heavily the results of BM and other r¤ces of women. The internet has helped us all see that men are men and that BM, in particular, did not deserve to be the exclusive choice of BW, especially when they weren't even choosing BW exclusively themselves. So, I definitely disagree with your analysis that "WOC all across the world" have always pedestalized WM. We here in America have not.
I seriously love you. That guy seems so weird. I watched one video of his and it came off cringey. I'm 22 years and i recently found your channel. I used to watch Chrissie because i wanted to show support for DSBW....I'm Ls by the way. She always got me depressed and made me feel unwanted which is exactly how i felt in school trying to make friends with DSBW. I ended up having only indian friends 😅 just cause they were nice to me......just wanna say thank you for getting me out of that headspace i was in when watching Chrissie's videos. anyway i definitely agree with you. Dust comes in all shades and when it comes to dating for me, personality comes before the color of one's skin. Dating someone or thinking they are better just for having white skin is wrong and it's definitely gonna cause problems later on cause some of these men like that cringey guy prey on low self esteem women.
When it comes to attraction, I prefer Native American/Indigenous American men, then Asian, then white men, in that order haha. I've never been attracted to black men or African men. The closest thing to black I'll date is heavily mixed men who don't look black, but look mixed.
I largely date brown men with dark hair/eyes, so I've dated across races, but the majority of them have been indigenous American/mestizo Latino. I guess I go for them because a) similar phenotype that I'm attracted to and b) we still have a lot of stuff culturally in common but there's less blatant disrespect/entitlement than what I've dealt with coming from the black community. I can attest right now that there are def problems with native/Latino men (a lot of them overlapping generational/colonial problems that the African diaspora has to deal with like mental health issues, but also just general anti-blackness and shitty male attitudes). The ones with the latter traits I definitely didn't keep around for long lol.
Most of time its not WM bringing them up. It's the opposite. They've put their selves there. I be on social media, And I never see WM bring them up. When I think of WM prefrences. I think of them what WW and AW.
I'm a 22 yo girl. My family and I are cubans, and MGM like most latinos. I haven't been with anyone yet cause it's not easy for me to fall in love, I'm very shy and introverted. I want a happy marriage like the one my mom and dad have, it's either that or be single forever which I don't mind, I'm an only child and learned to love my own company from a young age. I've lived in different countries in other continents because of my parents' work and I still would like someone that's at least another latino like me. There's something unique about having such common cultural backgrounds that I would like to preserve, and if my future partner has a similar phenotype that's even better so our children would resemble us. I'm very aware of all the flaws in the Latin-American community, especially because of colonialism, I just have to be very careful with who I choose and make sure they're open minded, respectful and educated like my parents.
Im mixed black asian and Scottish and my husband is mexican .. we met in school, i fell in love qith his fun caring nurturing character his race did not come across my mind really
@@ExoticalsUnited I have a channel. @Stacey Nelson TV I’m gonna do it on this channel. I plan on telling the full story about this one particular creep. It’s taking me years to get the courage.
oh i just randomly made it that way because its fall, theres no particular reason behind it lol 😂 in college people used to say that cuffing season is when it gets colder and youre looking for someone to snuggle with and keep you warm over the holidays
It’s very cringey when bw praise Jack Harlow when we know he only likes light skin women. Very embarrassing..
I know this wm…I’ve seen his videos before and man…he’s so creepy
yes! hes just using his channel as a way to attract BW seggs partners...
He seems like a gold mine for divestors
WM just STARE at me ... like their fetish is so strong , they stare with their WW on their arms, in the workplace, etc...they scare me FR
omg yes!
This has happened to me before too and their wives start glaring.
Right...like I dont want him either sis....chill..lmaooo@@prettygookbaby
I like the focus on WM/WW because they are the most destructive to our lives since they hold the most power in society. .@@ExoticalsUnited
Omg!!!! So true
I like this channel. You're fair and call out the bullshit from all angles. I think its a dangerous strategy to scream from the mountain tops about "zaddy" and pedestalizing any man! Its a very foolish move and makes women loom desperate, especially for unambiguous bw. This is why i cant totally get behind divestors because they do too much! Any man listening to that and getting an actual ego boost is WEIRD!
thank you! thats why i have to balance my content with decentering men videos because i feel like even though its great to have pretty privilege etc, we still shouldnt open our selves up to @buse and codependency.
That WM fetish stuff started, when "Colorism" was gaining real popular on social media.
That's something I noticed. And Chrissie at first wasn't pro racemixing. She started off as Pro Black.
yes i remember when chrissie was pro black
@@LifeIsNotoriouscan someone's ideals/ perspective change? I get pandering and it's a real issue but is someone allowed to change their stance at all?
“First of all, “dust” comes in all shades.”
😂…that one sentence layed me out because it’s extremely accurate. 👏
☠️
girl at this point I don't even date them anymore also I have noticed the increase in the manosphere/red pill talking points they've been talking since lately (even though they are the ogs of it) and let me not get into the abuse.
Right ! Who CREATED colorism racism etc
Swirlers and divestors have both lost their collective minds!
This ! How are you going to swirl and then not respect the products of swirling (us?) ☠️
I love that you’re posting videos back to back with great topics🥳😍
Thank you beautiful! I’m trying to post as many as possible ❤️
@@ExoticalsUnitedwhy😅
@@rtgp2.0 why not ? ☠️
I don't know any Black or MLS women irl who pedestalize WM thankfully. I assume it's a grift a lot of the time because you have to be totally ignorant to think that WM as a whole are heroes in a romance novel -- they're just men. It's one thing to prefer or only want to date certain men, it's quite another to project prestige onto that whole race and fetishize how a portion of them conquered others, including people like you. Sounds like self hate and masochism to me. I'm a lesbian, so its' not like I'm trying to dissuade competition for WM lol. I grew up in a mixed environment and worked with them, and while they have been generally nice to me, I've seen awful behavior just like any other man.
Yup, men are men
The dust takes different forms but it's still dust.
Exactly. Dust comes in all shades
So... I may have a slightly different POV based on personal experience. I completely agree that DUST comes in ALLLLL Shades, but I got sick of being fetishized and objectified by BM. I watched your video titled "When BM think they own you" and it was 100% accurate. Now my father is Italian American white and he raised me as a single parent after my parents got divorced, so I think I felt more comfortable with WM in general. Throughout my dating history, BM treated me the worst. And when KS became popular it made sense bc it showed me how a lot of them think. So in 2022, I made the conscious effort to exclude BM from my dating pool all together. And now I'm engaged to the most amazing man who cherishes me, loves me, and respects me. Could I have that with a BM? I don't know. It's possible but I don't think a lot of BM are socialized for marriage or relationships. Why are they the most LEAST MARRIED MALE DEMOGRAPHIC?? I'm not saying I agree with divestors 100%, but I understand their Villain Origin Story.😂🤣 At the end of the day, I want WOC to go WHEREVER they are celebrated... and to open their options. Cast a bigger net, get a bigger fish.💕
yes youre agreeing with what i said in the video lol. i personally dont date uabm either , i just dont want women to be @bused no matter who the guy is.
@@ExoticalsUnited Amen, Sis. I can agree with that 100%.
💯💯💯 agree! The return on your investments are lower with BM. They just aren't socialized to be great partners. It's always about game and screwing their wives/girlfriends over. The way they think is too degenerate.
As someone who dates exclusively white men but has been in a healthy relationship with one for almost 8 months now. I know exactly what you’re talking about, I’m not mixed but I grew up in the suburbs around a lot of mostly white people, so I don’t really have a “black” experience. But I can say I’ve come across dusty white men as well, I enjoy dating white guys but there’s some sectors I’d never cross into because of behavior like this. I don’t date the ones who put me on a pedestal over white women either, that’s a red flag and shows his weird fetish
exactly! the WM who do that are no different than the BW who do that 😂
I also grew up in heavily white suburban areas. White men aren’t mysterious at all to me. So many are trash so I can tell if you’re unimpressive. Both my ex bf and husband are white incidentally and neither of them had savior complexes
When WOC pedestalize WM, how that’s been going on in the 🇺🇸, & the rest of the 🌍. Don’t see that coming to a 🛑, EVER!
It's actually kind of new in the US for WOC to pedestalize WM, especially ABW. This is a new phenomenon for our country. In fact, we used to look at (and talk about) foreign BW like they were crazy for being with a WM until very recently. The biracials in America was heavily the results of BM and other r¤ces of women.
The internet has helped us all see that men are men and that BM, in particular, did not deserve to be the exclusive choice of BW, especially when they weren't even choosing BW exclusively themselves. So, I definitely disagree with your analysis that "WOC all across the world" have always pedestalized WM. We here in America have not.
Yes it's not the same from bm and ww
@@edt4080Agreed!
@@edt4080yes it is
I seriously love you. That guy seems so weird. I watched one video of his and it came off cringey. I'm 22 years and i recently found your channel. I used to watch Chrissie because i wanted to show support for DSBW....I'm Ls by the way. She always got me depressed and made me feel unwanted which is exactly how i felt in school trying to make friends with DSBW. I ended up having only indian friends 😅 just cause they were nice to me......just wanna say thank you for getting me out of that headspace i was in when watching Chrissie's videos.
anyway i definitely agree with you. Dust comes in all shades and when it comes to dating for me, personality comes before the color of one's skin. Dating someone or thinking they are better just for having white skin is wrong and it's definitely gonna cause problems later on cause some of these men like that cringey guy prey on low self esteem women.
Exactly! Thanks for watching beautiful!
When it comes to attraction, I prefer Native American/Indigenous American men, then Asian, then white men, in that order haha. I've never been attracted to black men or African men. The closest thing to black I'll date is heavily mixed men who don't look black, but look mixed.
Everything just to dilute the N word blood in your genes😂
@@FightToday-i4byeah because they are almost extint now due to the mass genocide of indigenous/ native american tribes that happened in colonialism.
Damn you call out everybody 💯😭 Wake me up because I’m brainwashed
LOL i have to call out the hypocrisy i see everywhere!
I am with you completely on the whole vetting thing!
I largely date brown men with dark hair/eyes, so I've dated across races, but the majority of them have been indigenous American/mestizo Latino. I guess I go for them because a) similar phenotype that I'm attracted to and b) we still have a lot of stuff culturally in common but there's less blatant disrespect/entitlement than what I've dealt with coming from the black community. I can attest right now that there are def problems with native/Latino men (a lot of them overlapping generational/colonial problems that the African diaspora has to deal with like mental health issues, but also just general anti-blackness and shitty male attitudes). The ones with the latter traits I definitely didn't keep around for long lol.
Most of time its not WM bringing them up. It's the opposite.
They've put their selves there.
I be on social media, And I never see WM bring them up.
When I think of WM prefrences. I think of them what WW and AW.
I'm a 22 yo girl. My family and I are cubans, and MGM like most latinos. I haven't been with anyone yet cause it's not easy for me to fall in love, I'm very shy and introverted. I want a happy marriage like the one my mom and dad have, it's either that or be single forever which I don't mind, I'm an only child and learned to love my own company from a young age. I've lived in different countries in other continents because of my parents' work and I still would like someone that's at least another latino like me. There's something unique about having such common cultural backgrounds that I would like to preserve, and if my future partner has a similar phenotype that's even better so our children would resemble us. I'm very aware of all the flaws in the Latin-American community, especially because of colonialism, I just have to be very careful with who I choose and make sure they're open minded, respectful and educated like my parents.
Im mixed black asian and Scottish and my husband is mexican .. we met in school, i fell in love qith his fun caring nurturing character his race did not come across my mind really
Yup I don’t f w them atollll 🙅🏽♀️
yeah i dont pedestalize whiteness.
Same.
Yes!!!! Omg I’m glad someone said this.
Great Video, sis! MLS Date and marry strategically please 🙏🏽
thank you beautiful! and yes we need to vet all men equally 😭
I’m here ❤
Will do, sis💞💕💓
I got a story that I’m gonna make a video of one day. 💯👏🏼 great commentary!
Shared 💛❤️🌟 blessings beautiful🌟
omg stacey please make a channel! 😍
@@ExoticalsUnited I have a channel. @Stacey Nelson TV
I’m gonna do it on this channel.
I plan on telling the full story about this one particular creep. It’s taking me years to get the courage.
Omg I’m so glad you made a video of this!!! I do not like wm who do this. I do date white men who doesn’t seek out to date blk women.
Finally someone said it 😂
This!
Girl not the wizard voice 2:32 💀
LMAO thats one of my many troll voices 😂😂😂
Hi, new here. Why is October exotical cuffing season? Great videos, keep it up!
oh i just randomly made it that way because its fall, theres no particular reason behind it lol 😂 in college people used to say that cuffing season is when it gets colder and youre looking for someone to snuggle with and keep you warm over the holidays
Love your channel ❤
thank you so much!
I would like to marry a white guy from my country Sudan and white people in my country are a minority.
WTF is that video @ 0:58 😭
😂
Lol