Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.
Yeah, I'm not sure where you're coming from with the adopted brother story. The guy isn't an AH, it is his house, and he doesn't owe his parents or adoptive brother anything. His parents had a do-over child and basically through him to the wolves with no help and no support, and their adopted son is much younger than him and there is no relationship there at all. The guy is fully within his rights both morally and legally to refuse to rent out a room in his house, which he doesn't want to rent out, for a discounted price to an adoptive brother he doesn't know or have any obligation to, in order to help out his parents who essentially disowned the moment they adopted their new son.
@@GiordanDiodato Screw them. They barely know each other. You can't look up to someone you don't know and expect stuff from them for free. If you looked up to an athlete are you entitled to live in their house?
When my mother was confined to a wheelchair, she went to live with my brother and his good for nothing girlfriend who (she did) stole her meds regularly I blame her for my mother's death a few months later BTW, years later, I had a heart attack and as I was recovering, my sister hired this same woman and her family to clean my home for me as I was recovering She cleaned my house alright. she left a window open, came back later and there was nothing left when I got home. It's been 8 years and I STILL haven't been able to replace everything. But she did spend 4 years in prison because of me
@@just-there not just that. Depending on the meds and the patients out come it may count as almost killing someone out of negligence or even killing someone out of negligence. It depends if the patient stays alive or not. And if the thief was aware what they stole.
Ok on the last story... I have big boobs and respectfully if someones parents were coming over I'd definitely cover up. He didn't mean harm. He isn't responsible for her emotions.
The last story I understand girlfriend & sister point of view I’m woman myself if there someone parents r coming or something went sweatshirt with zipper OP not the asshole the sister have her own insecurities what I see OP is being respectful to his parents it goes for OP girlfriend she would want OP wear his pants or shirt if her parents come over it goes both ways I’m not taking sides it’s just my opinion
Omg I love you. I'm sick of women acting like they can do whatever they want whenever they want and no one can tell them different I hate this mindset because there is no such respect for anyone's opinion but themselves. They are way too sensitive and they need to grow up There's no way I'm going to be in front of potential in-laws in basically a bra And then I'm sick of women being like I'm sick of guys hitting on me and they're so creepy and blah blah blah. I can't believe they want to come up to me at the gym and then just sit and stare at me and everything else while at the same time you are wearing some very very revealing and sexually motivating attire. I'm not talking about like gym shorts and like actual sports bra and covers stuff up. I've seen women wear like the stringy things I guess that have some support but they're still stringy. You cannot blame someone for staring when you want to wear that. Because obviously you're showing something off and because you're showing at all people are looking. You wear that for attention and then you want to get mad when you get it. You can't have it both ways They complain about being monetized and how people won't respect them cuz they're a woman but all the while they're wearing stuff to get that attention. You're trying to look good which is fine. But don't complain when you get attention
Story 4: I don't think OP is the jerk. He was estranged from his family, and now they reach out to him because they want free housing? Where was his family when OP needed them the most? I think his parents are being too entitled to what he worked hard to have, without any of their help. NTA
Giving natural born kid literally nothing and letting him starve while giving their adopted kid everything he could possibly want for free doesn't help either His parents said they couldn't help him pay for college because they have their new golden child to raise is the nail on the coffin to me I'd have told my parents exactly what I thought of them and their precious little angel and never talk to me again
Absolutely. OP has a resource that they covet. He's not giving in so now they're attacking him and calling him a jerk. Notice how it's only convenient to have anything to do with him again because they want something from him. The selfish, unhinking, entitled gall! I would absolutely stick to my guns and not give in.
Ehhhh, sexist is not quite the right word IMO. To me they just sound insecure. Everyone reacts impulsively sometimes, I'd be more interested to see how they react to him explaining his intentions. That would be the best indicator of their true characters.
Disagree on the adopted brother story. Parents have their do-over kid that they actually wanted. OP doesn't owe that family a thing. The Yoga story. As a bisexual woman, if I had a partner that wouldn't throw on a shirt when company came over, especially my mother...they wouldn't be my partner for very long.
Ye, as a dude, I wouldn't want my parents to get the wrong idea. But he should apologise and the most sure and classic way is with some chocolates. A well know fact is that chocolates server as great gifts from many occasions if it's a birthday, apology or even a proposal 😊. Tbh if I were in the MHA universe then my quirk would be quirkiness
@@GiordanDiodato We don't know that the kid likes OP. For all we know it could have been the parents' idea to have the kid try to plead with OP as another angle to get what _they_ want.
The second story is IDENTICLE to one story my automotive teacher talked about. And guess whst, after gathering all this evidence to OSHA, the shop cleaned up their act
The OP in story 4 is NOT a jerk at all. The parents did nothing to help him through school and now want to use him to help their other son. He owes them nothing.
4th story: I have to disagree with the host here OP went to college on his own dime. He had to pay rent and work to pay for school, rent, bills, food etc. and had to skip quite a few meals to get buy because "We can't afford you because we have a new son. But when their golden child wants to go to school, they give him everything, including the kitchen sink and expect you and your partner to let him move in with OP rent free? I would've have told mom and dad to go and do something anatomically impossible And if other family members say that you're wrong, let them know how they treated you and see if they still think so "Because you're family" is just an excuse to abuse you further. I would suggest that you go totally no contact with your parents
You obviously didn’t pay attention to the story. OP said that his parents would pay for rent and expenses. The second child wouldn’t be paying rent, but OP isn’t having to pay for him to live there. We don’t know all the details about the second child anyway. OP being snobbish saying how his parents couldn’t afford the rent doesn’t paint him in a good light either. That fact he says that his partner is a “kind soul” and getting to him doesn’t help him either. He is a jerk for how he put things, but him saying no is his decision.
@@nicholasb7352 I may have gotten that ONE fact wrong but I stand by statement Op's parents let him (I say him for simplicity's sake, I don't know what OP's gender is) go off to college but did not support him with a single penny for support. He had to pay his own tuition, books, rent, bills, food etc. and he had to go hungry for days because he couldn't afford food. Meanwhile, his parents who "couldn't afford to support OP because of their newly adopted golden child, hereafter refer to as GC. For TWO YEARS, OP went hungry, couldn't socialize or do ANYTHING except to work to support himself through school on his own dime. Then, when GC goes to school, they are willing to pay his way completely and provide rent and expenses AND they want OP to let him live with him while doing NOTHING for their natural born child? No Op wasn't snobbish. The fact that OP's partner was a "kind soul" who would let GC live with them after all of this is an insult to OP OP's parents treated him like shit. all so they could have their precious do over kid I can't say how GC fits into this, personally, but the parents could go to hell for what they did to OP. Snobbish? I don't think so
@@nicholasb7352 my man if they are paying for child 2 rent and expenses I can guarantee you they will pay for other stuff like books and tuition. That is highly unfair to the OP since the family wants cheaper/more convenient housing. Let’s not get started about the issue with him working and schooling… I barely passed studying all day I don’t want to imagine being this OP.
Have to agree with you on this one. There's no reason to take him in and with parents like that who knows if they would even pay the rent and expenses.
This is for the last story. I'm female so I can clear some stuff up a bit. They, especially the sister, misunderstood. They thought you were being controlling. An no, you shouldn't fully apologize. 'I didn't mean to seem controlling. I just didn't want either of you uncomfortable do to my parents seeing you shirtless. •But• I didn't want my parents uncomfortable ,misunderstonding, or judging you both. I'm sorry my request was misunderstood. I wasn't trying to be controlling. I just wanted everyone comfortable and safe." Something like that should clear it up. Explain your side and apologize for seeming controlling but not for what you said. If either has any common sense they'll accept and move passed it.
I agree, the assumption it had anything to do with breast size was on her, not on him. As a man I also assumed he simply wanted the women to be "clothed" when his parents entered. I'd ask a boyfriend to put a shirt on as well, and would even dream of opening the door for my parents without a shirt on. It is not a sign of disrespect to anyone's body but simply the norm I was brought up in. While I think it is usefull to have a conversation, apologizing for her misunderstanding him is something I'd personally not do either. And i find the gf's position rather revealing. Does she believe you are obsessed with her sister's breast size and seriously think you were concerned with that? Or does she simply believe you need to cater to the insecurities of her sister?
yeah, by the fact that he was putting on a shirt before he even asked them I think explaining this would hopefully smooth out the misunderstanding. And if that doesn't work making a joke that he doesn't want a whole load of questions from his Mum about the "less than fully clothed" women he is keeping in the garage ...
Yeah a long speech like that always works wonders with hysterical women. Or, you can realize they are fishing for cash and prizes and thus, just buy the harlots a bracelet or something. 🤨
Same thing buuuut my roommate was EXTREMELY LACTOSE INTOLERANT sooo I poured out her LACTOSE milk and put normal milk in the same box hehehhehehehehehehehe
Story 5: as a girls point of view, I personally don’t think that op was in the wrong. His parents were coming over and I wouldn’t want my bf’s parents to think anything bad. So, I would say he’s not a jerk
Yeah, he probably really was just a bit too straight forward with his words. Meaning he should have told them why he said what he said, his reasoning which was to prevent an uncomfortable situation for the girls and/or his parents
The last story definitely sounds like a misunderstanding. It's not wrong to ask someone to put on a shirt when family are coming over, but I can see how someone might take that the wrong way. Clearing up that misunderstanding can hopefully heal things over. For the story for the adopted brother, I agree that it'd be best to have a closed conversation with the parents as to why the op doesn't want to help out. I'd hope that the parents would understand the op's frustrations since there were times when they were in college and couldn't even eat at times. If the parents can't understand after that point, then that's a loss of them and not the op's fault.
Story 1: Not a jerk, poetic justice 'nuff said. Story 2: Not a jerk, if it had gone on, sooner or later they would have seriously injured someone or even get someone killed. Story 3: Not a jerk, the OP saved a lot of people from losing their retirement fund.
Play area story: I kind of resent you calling the Mom entitled after she calmed down after realizing that OP did, in fact, work there. Mothers tend to get a bit defensive when their babies are hurt, it's our instinct as mothers, and given that she even sent an apology with chocolates for OP, I'd say she's the opposite of entitled, an entitled mother would have acted like she did nothing wrong.
Last story was not a jerk u asked them to have some class ur parents are there and ur girlfriend represents u and the fact she acted that way I wouldn't be with her no more
The first story reminded me of a story I heard on a scary story podcast about a lady with schizophrenia in Finland and she would always get these weird feelings in her attic and see a lady and thought it was her schizophrenia and was going to the doctors for months because she wanted to fix her medication before it got worse but in the end when she went to move out her brother the only other person has been in there since she moved in finally went up to the attic and nearly fell down the stairs screaming because he saw the lady and I’ll never forget this line as she realized she wasn’t in her delusions but actually there “she’s been doing this the whole time and she hasn’t hurt me yet so we should both be OK” 😂😂😂
100% disagree with story 4, the parents essentially stopped caring about OP and got a do over child instead of actually doing their parental responsibility of setting their biological child up for success. I get some parents might not want to pay for college, but they should have at aided him to where he was at least not starving himself half dead instead and could be comfortable pursuing his studies. I completely support adoption, but it shouldn’t ever be at the expense of your existing child’s wellbeing, they should have waited 5 years when OP had two feet to stand on. It seems the parents got bored of OP as he was becoming an adult and essentially tossed him to the curb to have a do over. That resentment is earned and OP doesn’t owe them anything, I would have gone completely no contact if that happened to me.
There is no indication that they neglected them. He said he was resentful because he had to pay for housing not because they stopped caring about him. Hes taking it out on his adoptive brother because his wallet took a hit. He's entitled to be upset about having a hardship his brother wont but he's still in the wrong and should give his brother a chance because he blatantly has not.
@@ailemoonstream7505 exactly but now they are paying for the other childs housing and they told him they couldn't help him because they have a young child. So yes they did neglect him.
@@ailemoonstream7505 pretty sure starving your college child is negligence whether you like it or not. Personally they owe him nothing which is ok. However giving the child 2 better conditions than child one by a crap ton there are issues in parenting. Like honestly if I was in that situation pretty much would have exploded for expecting anything after that.
I don't blame you at all. You need those medications to stay balanced. Sounds like you need better roommates and bravo for doing it, because they deserve it
I know I'm kinda old fashioned, but I don't understand how anyone can feel comfortable in the presence of another person, that isn't immediate family, in just underwear. I immediately lose a lot of respect for someone who does so intentionally as I see it as being disrespectful toward yourself and others
Story 4 - if the narrator thinks the OP has ANY obligation to this adopted "brother" then he should cease offering comments on these stories. That has to be THE DUMBEST opinion I've seen AITJ offer. Ever. How anyone could possibly construe that the OP owes the adoptee ANY obligation is unfathomable.
Story 1: this sounds like a classic prank. But I must say since they openly said they got high on meds then It was a dead giveaway to who was taking your stuff...
The last story as a female I hate sports bras so I might be bias but the man should not need to apologize for anything. How is that even controlling in the first place! Was is that so DAMN HARD to put on A SHIRT! The guy should say “I didn’t want you guys to feel uncomfortable or feel judged by my parents is all” he shouldn’t apologize PERIOD!? If the girlfriend and sister can’t understand that he wasn’t controlling then what next? Op: Hey I need you to do the dishes or laundry for me please? I’ll do the dryer and put them away? Gf: WHY ARE YOU SO CONTROLLING!? I’M NOT GOING TO DO ANYTHING FOR YOU!? 😑the sisters should apologize to OP TO HIM for giving him ANY KIND OF LOOK!? Like what would happen if he went over shirtless and it was a girl neighbor? Will they assume he’s cheating on her?
I agree, he asked them to put on a shirt because his parents were over- and the fact that the parents went into the garage should say a lot that he wasn’t saying it to be controlling. In fact- he even puts one on himself! Like put it this way, if his gf’s parents were coming over, wouldn’t she want to be respectful and look presentable? I mean I get it’s their house and they are only there for a moment but still. Know what- he shouldn’t have to explain or apologize for asking them to put a shirt on, why? Because it’s his house! And if he did the explanation you provided is well enough what should be said. Either way- his gf and gf’s sister over reacted to his small request and reason why. The gf’s sister took it the wrong way because she didn’t think of it any other way- I kinda think that she’s self centered to think that the Poster was only saying it because of her breast, and the gf should have backed him up instead of taking her sister’s side, I mean family and all but- ain’t he you’re bf??
@@iden_low5315 it’s understandable. How was he supposed to know? No one told him in the first place! And what about the sister? Is she really that self conscious about her breasts that she gets upset because she was told to put on a shirt? If she really was self conscious she wouldn’t be wearing just a sports bra she would be wearing a tank top over it or something like that.
@@oliviajeanne7709 EXACTLY! Why you doing yoga in a sports bra if you’re self conscious?! I know well enough that a lot of people (including myself) have their own insecurities, me, I wear pants a lot because I’m self conscious about my legs. But when push comes to shove I do wear shorts or skirts if I need to. See? There’s always a solution to small problems! So she made a big deal over something that was unrelated to the whole principle
Her initial reaction was understandable. If I had any kids I’m sure I would panic if I saw a stranger holding my bloody child, but everything after that was out of line
As someone who also is a first aider from St John’s Ambulance. When a kid gets injured the parents have a split second panic but no aggression the mom was definitely too aggressive. At least she apologised
When Op from the last story has dinner at his girlfriend parents house he should take a break to go to the bathroom and come out shirtless just before they sit down to eat. That should get the point across that no it's not because you have big breasts, it's because it is uncomfortable to see somebody half-naked.
The issue is the dinner table at someone else's house is generally not the right place to be shirtless. But wearing sports bras while doing workouts in your own home is totally normal, plenty of people do it in public gyms with no problem.
Or just use clear communication to try and clear up the misunderstanding. It reveals more about people's character when they react to clarification or apologies.
Regarding the hazing: Always depends on the type of hazing. I think some of the stuff pretty common around mechanics in germany is to get the "Stift" (apprentice) walk into storage and ask or search for the indicator fluid, grease to make the anvil sound nicer or a replacement bubble for the spirit level. It's just a stupid joke that makes the stift feeld stupid for a minute or two and probably get a laugh out of him too. This type of hazing is completly fine in my opinion.
Story 2 When you got the sunburn and vomiting I would have gone to the police and told them about it because they put your life in danger and they should have been punished for that. Some of them going to jail would have taught never to play games with people's lives on a hot day ever.
For the last story, coming from a male, I think he was just misunderstood, but when he didn't apologise and try to clear everything up was a definite jerky move.
Last story - It may have been that the sister was the teacher but she was in his home. If you are going into someone's home then I feel that you should be willing to abide by what they ask of you. He did not disrespect her she disrespected him by making assumptions of his request.
The 4th story is kind of a toss-up. You can't make the older one pay if you never gave the older one the same thing you're giving the younger 1. You can't spoil your kids for this particular reason. Not saying treat them good and not reward them but you can't sit there and respect one not to resent the other when you're choosing the favorite child. A conversation might help but it might not change the older ones mine. So I understand where he is coming from at the same time you can actually stop the heart even if there is no love there.
Last story: All OP had to do was grab his shirt and say "That's my parents coming for the freezer". Presumably there are three yoga mats on the floor and it's obvious to anyone what's going on, and if he didn't think it was, a simple "We're doing a yoga session" would suffice. Both women were wearing more than his parents would see at any beach or pool, and it was entirely up to them if they wanted to throw on a top. There was no reason to ask them to cover up as if they were indecent. He may not have been a jerk per se, but overstepped. Still a tempest in a teapot.
My Ex-wife stole my pain meds while i recovered from a back injury. I was given Oxy following a back injury where I basically could not move. My ex-wife had an addiction to pain medication in which she would pop Tylenol 3 (Tylenol with Codine) like they were Skittles. When she found out my doctor prescribed my Oxy-Codone for a severely pulled muscle in my back, she immediately assumed that because I hardly ever took any pain medication that I would just give them to her. I had enough pills to last a month, but would likely only need to take them for two weeks. The extra pills were in case I had more or less pain so that I could regulate my pain levels as needed. The first few days, I would take a pill every 6 hours and could actually get up and function. I still had to work a 12 hour day, but it was office work, so I could sit at a desk and still function. I took my pain medication with me and had a co-worker drive me to work and home. After three days, I realized I wouldn't need to take any of the pills during the work day and used them mostly to sleep through the night. This proved to be a mistake. When I came home from work, I had intended to take a pill, take my shower, and then go to bed early for the evening. I noticed the pill bottle was missing from my desk. I just figured I had left the bottle in my night stand in the bedroom, so went to look for it. It was nowhere to be seen. I asked my ex-wife and replied "Oh, I have the bottle. I figured you don't take pain pills and that it would be OK for me to take them." She handed me the bottle and out of the 30 pills that had remained, there were six left. She had been taking them 3-4 at a time all day long. I just looked at her in disbelief. "I'm recovering from a back injury in which I can hardly move without extreme physical pain, and you figured I wouldn't need them?" Are you insane?" I took the rest of the pills and took them over the next 3 days until I ran out. They managed to last until the weekend. When I woke up on Saturday morning, the pain was back. The second I moved, it felt like someone twisting a screw driver into my lower back. Then there was the grinding feeling all of it enough to very nearly make me scream out in pain. She would just look at me with her cold, dead eyes, chain smoking he cigarettes no hint of compassion. Then she'd make comments about how I couldn't take pain, and that every day she was in pain for fibromyalgia and that my pain was nothing compared to hers. Instead of sleeping in the bed with her, I went and laid down on the floor of the living room. I forced myself to bear the pain through gritted teeth. I would lay flat on the floor and cry myself to sleep at how much it hurt. Monday came and I had to call in to work because I could barely make it out the door and certainly could not make it up or down the flight of stairs from my apartment. SHe griped about me missing work and that I would get fired. I'd had enough and just looked at her and said, "I would be at work if someone hadn't stolen my pain medication. What kind of person steals their spouse' pain medication?" She blew up at me for accusing her of stealing my pain pills and we ended up getting into a big argument. She locked herself in the bedroom and I just laid down on the floor and fell asleep. I was restless that evening and stretched my legs out. My back still hurt when I moved but something told me to twist my waist slightly, so I did. I felt the most horrify series of pops in my back, followed by a nauseating crunch and the pain was instantly gone. I couldn't believe what had happened, so I got up. My back was a little bit sore, but I no longer felt pain when moving. Excited, I got up and got dressed, deciding to go tot he all night Walmart to try walking. I did fine. The next morning I went to back to work and after a few days, was back to normal. But the fact she would screw me over just for her own addiction stuck with me for the next few months and was one of the factors that motivated me to eventually leave her. It's been ten years, but I still think about that when I think I'm having problems with my current spouse.
For the yoga one: The OP isn't a jerk. It had nothing to do with big boobs. A quest is at the door and it's not her house, put a shirt on. It might have been a misunderstanding but OP isn't a jerk at all. Even if she's there for work and not just as a visit it isn't her house.
I personally disagree with the OP's parents adopted story: The parents clearly think OP sees their son (relationships go both ways so while their adopted son may view OP as their sibling, OP doesn't and thus there isn't a relationship) as family, and thus would expect a familial experience with him living with OP. That is wrong though, it would merely be a rental relationship and thus it's likely many boundaries would be pushed and/or broken.
In Story 1, the original poster should have brought up in conversation that they are just so silly because the got their medications mixed up including their laxatives so that was close, and they would forget their head if it was not screwed on.
I remember from when I was little, maybe 6 or 7, I was at a playground with my brother and one of my dad's friend's kids, we used to go to their house after school and had walked to the local park after as our dad had to work extra late that day before he could come pick us up. While at the park, I was up on one of the bigger structures with a slide and climbing wall and everything waiting to get on the slide when this kid next to me says something like "Hey, watch this!" And proceeds to smash his face directly into the nearest metal pole. That ended with kids running and we went home after that, so, yeah, that was just a little traumatic
story 2: he saved future employees lives and saved others. story 4: yes and no because he was also thinking how his parents would not even be able to afford to pay for his rent and the factthat they made him feel like he cant have help to get in to university made it worse.
Story 3: omg was that rly u?? One of my cousins was involved in that case (he wasn't in the fbi, but he assisted investigations in 1992 and in the following operation sunstroke)
For the University story: We don't know how is the brother, only a vague description, for the question "Is the OP the AH?" No, in my opinion, but in that situation "I would have changed a few words of the answer, such as "I have nothing against you, brother, but father/mother, how did you make me live at the time? I had to live in rented apartments, which are very expensive, and now you are coming to me to ask to host a brother who has been helped more than me, therefore, as I have experienced the difficulties, he too can suffer them, when I went to university you didn't have enough money for me because you had to think of him, and now you have no money , but only for him? But please, screw yourself." and to the relatives who accused "you are the jerk" to the OP, I would have explained: "Look, you don't know the whole story, but I first had to live in rented apartments and then when I was able to put some penny i was able to spend less living on campus, they hardly helped me at all, and they want me to help them in THEIR time of need? lol, my parents can go to *D*uck theirself".
For some reason in the last post OP was voted the jerk. The people of reddit probably saw a "woman cover up" thing and started foaming at the mouth. While he did ask them to cover up, he clearly covered up himself, that should have been a sign. Also, OP later made a post a few weeks later, about his GF's older sister (she has 4; 2 younger, a twin, and the older one). The GF apparently basically lives there although they have separate apartments; has a lot of her belongings there, sleeps, showers, etc. there. OP comes home, sees GF with her niece (OS's kid) on the couch, he greets them. Goes towards his room. GF says "I left clothes in your gaming room". OP asks why, GF says OS is in there napping. OP says that its his apartment, not a hotel and doesn't want someone in his room sleeping. GF gets up, wakes up OS and takes her home. GF says since it isn't a hotel, she wont be staying there anymore. OP later edits it saying that GF apologized, but said "we both have boundary issues we need to get over". It seems GF is a bit self centered. While its right to defend her sister in the Yoga story, but still going a bit far with it was somewhat of a jerk move. Outright saying that her older sister can sleep on OP's bed saying that she thought OP wouldn't care, then putting the blame on OP as well as herself is just a sole jerk move. Just because you are an exception to a rule, doesnt mean everyone in your family is too. Also to say that OP has boundary issues is a jerk move on it's own, he didnt overstep boundaries there (maybe the Yoga story, sure) but she certainly did. She should have texted him when she said sis could. Thats the bare minimum.
The story about the parents and the adopted son. No, he is not the storyteller's brothers. His parents adopted the 7 year old as their son,. He did not adopt the 7 year old as his brother. Even though they have the same last name, he is not really his blood brother. He has no obligation to help them or him.
Last story: I (FYI Female) don't think that OP was a jerk. I wouldn't want anyone seeing me in a sports bra. Even if it was my boyfriend or best friend. Boy or girl I would put something on and I definitely would appreciate the heads up if I was in that position. I am very self consciously uncomfortable with nothing/next to nothing on in front of anyone, even other girls. I wouldn't want the parents to get the wrong idea either. Just my opinion.
Somthing similarly happened at one of my friends birthday party. We were at a trampoline park and he fell and there was like a lot of cuts. his lips were busted and it looked like he was coughing up blood (he wasnt)
*Story 1:* I've heard of Schizophrenia, it's where one is unable to determine reality from fiction. But I've never understood how one gets it, and how is a doctor able to *"diagnose"* it. And to the point of this story, why the hell would anyone steal someone else's medication? Even if it was an accident, that they didn't know it was their friend's, they're usually clearly marked *"Medication for this condition".* If the roommate bothered to look, he would've noticed.
The girls were the jerks. I (being a girl) do not want to be seen in my sports bra by a stranger. And didn't he explain his parents were coming in. I don't understand how that was disrespectful to them. Unless they take everything that's said to them as disrespectful. 😮
Those roommates could have potentially sued him for what could have been claimed as a boobytrap. All they would need to do is prove he swapped the pills with the intention of it being a trap for them
Wow, I love how a lot of the comments are more of "First post heare!" and not actual video commentary... SMH Final story: Definite communication breakdown. Apologies are deserved from both sides for both overreacting and misphrasing without viewpoint explanation.
Last story.. not a jerk.. no apologies needed from the guy.. the gf and sister should though; who thinks its ok to parade around strangers in the bare minimum of clothing... as a female.. i couldnt do it.. its disgusting and impolite
With the story about the yoga girlfriend, I am a woman and I completely agree with the boyfriend. In this scenario, the intent is what was being ignored and butt hurt feelings were front and center. He could have given them a heads up, and the girls can get theirs out of their ass.
To anyone who is expecting to end up in a roommate situation: invest in a mini safe. Keep your money/medication/any small stuff you really don't want your roommates getting into in that safe.
Last story: not a jerk. His house, his parents, his rules. Yes, she is his yoga teacher, he's her client, he's paying her. If your job requires you to go to other people's houses and yet you can't respect very simple requests due to them having guests, please find a new job. If anything she should be apologising to him. Not to mention the guy didn't ask them to do anything he wasn't willing to do, he put on a shirt as well, and yet she doesn't realise that she's not the only person on the planet and not everything is aimed directly at her. "Lets all dress up to look a bit more presentable" "THIS IS A PERSONAL ATTACK AGAINST MEEEEEEEEE!"
What's up with the narrator in the last story? He's saying that the guy should apologize because SHE feels that he did something wrong, when he clearly didn't. This results in the classic "i'm sorry that you feel you need an apology" statement.
Also with the fourth story I have to disagree with the host. OP is not a jerk. The parents did not do much of anything for them and did everything for Chris. Not only did the parents decided they weren't going to help the original poster anymore, forth more effort for Chris then they ever did for OP. The parents said that they would could cover the cost of rent and OP mentioned that it would be very much expensive for the location if it was to be rented and while they could have actually milked their parents for money by accepting, that would be more malicious compliance. On top of that they don't really know Chris all that well and it just so happened that Chris decided they wanted to go to the same college area as the original poster. I think this was done deliberately.
The last story triggerd me a bit first off the sister is a guest in ops house so him asking for them to put on a shirt is in his rights second iv grown up in a house of wemon meaning i was the only male in the house so i can understand them better then i like to admit the sister and the wife are being overly touchy its only good manners to not answer the door shirtless and among legal reasons
Adoption story. I’m not saying the OP is a jerk, however, I don’t think we’re getting the whole story. For example, the child was already 7yo when adopted. The poor kid must’ve had a crappy crappy time up till adoption. Somewhere along the line, something went wrong and it was WAY before the OP went to college…
To be fair to the soft play staff story, the mother would've been told by another child what happened. She could've been told "Timmy's face is bleeding and the boy/girl is holding them on the floor because of the blood." And immediately the mother would assume an older kid hurt her child and is trying to restrain them to hide it. We have to remember that all her context of the situation has come from another child. Once she realised they were a member of staff, she relaxed and listened, so I don't feel like she is a Karen. As someone who works in a school, the context a 6-10 year old can give you about an accident can make it sound like another kid has been murdered like "Josh headbutted Luke and now he's on the floor crying and I think he's bleeding and Josh keeps shouting at everyone", when all that's happened is two kids who are friends banged heads playing football together and one kid is trying to help his friend he accidentally hurt
I am a female and I have a larger-than-average chest size and I would like to weigh in on the last story. This is just a massive misunderstanding. While the sister's reaction was probably a product of insecurity borne from a history of being disrespected (which is totally understandable), your girlfriend really did not help the situation. Both women overreacted to a very mundane situation. You 100% should NOT apologize for making the request but I would recommend trying to clear the air with the sister by explaining yourself and apologizing for any misunderstanding that resulted. I am bothered by your girlfriend's reaction, though. Have you two not been together long? Is it typical for her to assume the worst about you like that? The sister I kinda get but the girlfriend... Idk, there's just something that is not sitting well with me about it.
The last story I think not a jerk. My sister and I both have big…and I personally would like a heads up if I was wearing a sports bra and either my boyfriends or my sisters boyfriends parents were there. I might be a lot more conservative but I wouldn’t be around my boyfriends parents or my sisters boyfriend and his family with just a sports bra on. I’d want to be more covered than that. I would have thought explaining himself would have made it clear. Also ops gfs sister seems like the jerk. She not only misunderstood but instead of dealing with it like an adult and telling op that hey that upset me when u said that and then listening to his explanation she just told him off and then left. She must have a large ego as well to think she is the main character in this story. She is at him house and when he requested them to cover up for his parents they refused to. Now if he had blown up at them I would say he is a jerk. I wouldn’t be with anyone who disrespected my parents and they could have done that. Some paréate conservative and don’t think it’s right to wear a sports bra around others like that. I think op needs to take another look at his gf. She should have been more respectful.
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Last story, as a woman they were over reacting. It's his house not theirs, he has nothing to apologize for
Yeah, I'm not sure where you're coming from with the adopted brother story. The guy isn't an AH, it is his house, and he doesn't owe his parents or adoptive brother anything. His parents had a do-over child and basically through him to the wolves with no help and no support, and their adopted son is much younger than him and there is no relationship there at all. The guy is fully within his rights both morally and legally to refuse to rent out a room in his house, which he doesn't want to rent out, for a discounted price to an adoptive brother he doesn't know or have any obligation to, in order to help out his parents who essentially disowned the moment they adopted their new son.
but the adoptive brother looks up to OP
@@GiordanDiodato Screw them. They barely know each other. You can't look up to someone you don't know and expect stuff from them for free. If you looked up to an athlete are you entitled to live in their house?
It always pisses me off when someone steals meds. People need it for a damn reason especially if it's strong
It is a felony. Technically that is practicing medicine without a liscense
When my mother was confined to a wheelchair, she went to live with my brother and his good for nothing girlfriend who (she did) stole her meds regularly
I blame her for my mother's death a few months later
BTW, years later, I had a heart attack and as I was recovering, my sister hired this same woman and her family to clean my home for me as I was recovering
She cleaned my house alright. she left a window open, came back later and there was nothing left when I got home. It's been 8 years and I STILL haven't been able to replace everything. But she did spend 4 years in prison because of me
@@just-there not just that. Depending on the meds and the patients out come it may count as almost killing someone out of negligence or even killing someone out of negligence. It depends if the patient stays alive or not. And if the thief was aware what they stole.
Ok on the last story... I have big boobs and respectfully if someones parents were coming over I'd definitely cover up. He didn't mean harm. He isn't responsible for her emotions.
Yeah and he’s not responsible for her insecurities
The last story I understand girlfriend & sister point of view I’m woman myself if there someone parents r coming or something went sweatshirt with zipper OP not the asshole the sister have her own insecurities what I see OP is being respectful to his parents it goes for OP girlfriend she would want OP wear his pants or shirt if her parents come over it goes both ways I’m not taking sides it’s just my opinion
@@oliviajeanne7709 exactly!
@@pandamoon8067 I agree 💯%!
Omg I love you. I'm sick of women acting like they can do whatever they want whenever they want and no one can tell them different
I hate this mindset because there is no such respect for anyone's opinion but themselves. They are way too sensitive and they need to grow up
There's no way I'm going to be in front of potential in-laws in basically a bra
And then I'm sick of women being like I'm sick of guys hitting on me and they're so creepy and blah blah blah. I can't believe they want to come up to me at the gym and then just sit and stare at me and everything else while at the same time you are wearing some very very revealing and sexually motivating attire.
I'm not talking about like gym shorts and like actual sports bra and covers stuff up. I've seen women wear like the stringy things I guess that have some support but they're still stringy. You cannot blame someone for staring when you want to wear that. Because obviously you're showing something off and because you're showing at all people are looking. You wear that for attention and then you want to get mad when you get it. You can't have it both ways
They complain about being monetized and how people won't respect them cuz they're a woman but all the while they're wearing stuff to get that attention. You're trying to look good which is fine. But don't complain when you get attention
Story 4: I don't think OP is the jerk. He was estranged from his family, and now they reach out to him because they want free housing? Where was his family when OP needed them the most? I think his parents are being too entitled to what he worked hard to have, without any of their help. NTA
Giving natural born kid literally nothing and letting him starve while giving their adopted kid everything he could possibly want for free doesn't help either
His parents said they couldn't help him pay for college because they have their new golden child to raise is the nail on the coffin to me
I'd have told my parents exactly what I thought of them and their precious little angel and never talk to me again
@@dragonweyr44 I agree
Absolutely. OP has a resource that they covet. He's not giving in so now they're attacking him and calling him a jerk. Notice how it's only convenient to have anything to do with him again because they want something from him. The selfish, unhinking, entitled gall! I would absolutely stick to my guns and not give in.
The girlfriend and her sister demand understanding from the dude, but refuse to give any to him. Those girls are sexist jerks!
Ehhhh, sexist is not quite the right word IMO. To me they just sound insecure. Everyone reacts impulsively sometimes, I'd be more interested to see how they react to him explaining his intentions. That would be the best indicator of their true characters.
"Why are we having diarrhea??" "I don't know dude, maybe we shouldn't have take that dudes meds?" "You're right duuuuude" Cue end screen
Disagree on the adopted brother story. Parents have their do-over kid that they actually wanted. OP doesn't owe that family a thing. The Yoga story. As a bisexual woman, if I had a partner that wouldn't throw on a shirt when company came over, especially my mother...they wouldn't be my partner for very long.
but at the same time, that kid really likes OP and it isn't his fault that OP's parents got a do over son. he didn't ask to be adopted by them.
Ye, as a dude, I wouldn't want my parents to get the wrong idea. But he should apologise and the most sure and classic way is with some chocolates. A well know fact is that chocolates server as great gifts from many occasions if it's a birthday, apology or even a proposal 😊.
Tbh if I were in the MHA universe then my quirk would be quirkiness
@@GiordanDiodato We don't know that the kid likes OP. For all we know it could have been the parents' idea to have the kid try to plead with OP as another angle to get what _they_ want.
@Giordan Diodato How can the kid like OP if he barely knows him? He said at max they see each other twice a year.
@@cybermainstreamyes, but the parents couldve fed the kid lies through the years.
The second story is IDENTICLE to one story my automotive teacher talked about. And guess whst, after gathering all this evidence to OSHA, the shop cleaned up their act
The OP in story 4 is NOT a jerk at all. The parents did nothing to help him through school and now want to use him to help their other son. He owes them nothing.
4th story: I have to disagree with the host here
OP went to college on his own dime. He had to pay rent and work to pay for school, rent, bills, food etc. and had to skip quite a few meals to get buy because "We can't afford you because we have a new son. But when their golden child wants to go to school, they give him everything, including the kitchen sink and expect you and your partner to let him move in with OP rent free?
I would've have told mom and dad to go and do something anatomically impossible
And if other family members say that you're wrong, let them know how they treated you and see if they still think so
"Because you're family" is just an excuse to abuse you further. I would suggest that you go totally no contact with your parents
You obviously didn’t pay attention to the story. OP said that his parents would pay for rent and expenses. The second child wouldn’t be paying rent, but OP isn’t having to pay for him to live there. We don’t know all the details about the second child anyway. OP being snobbish saying how his parents couldn’t afford the rent doesn’t paint him in a good light either. That fact he says that his partner is a “kind soul” and getting to him doesn’t help him either. He is a jerk for how he put things, but him saying no is his decision.
@@nicholasb7352 I may have gotten that ONE fact wrong but I stand by statement
Op's parents let him (I say him for simplicity's sake, I don't know what OP's gender is) go off to college but did not support him with a single penny for support. He had to pay his own tuition, books, rent, bills, food etc. and he had to go hungry for days because he couldn't afford food.
Meanwhile, his parents who "couldn't afford to support OP because of their newly adopted golden child, hereafter refer to as GC.
For TWO YEARS, OP went hungry, couldn't socialize or do ANYTHING except to work to support himself through school on his own dime.
Then, when GC goes to school, they are willing to pay his way completely and provide rent and expenses AND they want OP to let him live with him while doing NOTHING for their natural born child?
No
Op wasn't snobbish.
The fact that OP's partner was a "kind soul" who would let GC live with them after all of this is an insult to OP
OP's parents treated him like shit. all so they could have their precious do over kid
I can't say how GC fits into this, personally, but the parents could go to hell for what they did to OP.
Snobbish? I don't think so
@@nicholasb7352 my man if they are paying for child 2 rent and expenses I can guarantee you they will pay for other stuff like books and tuition. That is highly unfair to the OP since the family wants cheaper/more convenient housing. Let’s not get started about the issue with him working and schooling… I barely passed studying all day I don’t want to imagine being this OP.
Have to agree with you on this one. There's no reason to take him in and with parents like that who knows if they would even pay the rent and expenses.
@@skittlemenow They probably would
GC does stand for Golden Child after all
Next time you notice your pills going missing, set up a camera and take the footage to the police
why do you want the police involved?
Sounds good to me
@@CyberRaveLights hi William or should I say purple guy?
@@viviennemorgan7217 put them in prison for being the thieving druggies they are.
A good idea... if OP could afford a camera setup. If not? What the OP did might be the only recourse.
This is for the last story. I'm female so I can clear some stuff up a bit. They, especially the sister, misunderstood. They thought you were being controlling. An no, you shouldn't fully apologize. 'I didn't mean to seem controlling. I just didn't want either of you uncomfortable do to my parents seeing you shirtless. •But• I didn't want my parents uncomfortable ,misunderstonding, or judging you both. I'm sorry my request was misunderstood. I wasn't trying to be controlling. I just wanted everyone comfortable and safe." Something like that should clear it up. Explain your side and apologize for seeming controlling but not for what you said. If either has any common sense they'll accept and move passed it.
hey it's ok.
I agree, the assumption it had anything to do with breast size was on her, not on him. As a man I also assumed he simply wanted the women to be "clothed" when his parents entered. I'd ask a boyfriend to put a shirt on as well, and would even dream of opening the door for my parents without a shirt on. It is not a sign of disrespect to anyone's body but simply the norm I was brought up in.
While I think it is usefull to have a conversation, apologizing for her misunderstanding him is something I'd personally not do either. And i find the gf's position rather revealing. Does she believe you are obsessed with her sister's breast size and seriously think you were concerned with that? Or does she simply believe you need to cater to the insecurities of her sister?
Amen to that
yeah, by the fact that he was putting on a shirt before he even asked them I think explaining this would hopefully smooth out the misunderstanding. And if that doesn't work making a joke that he doesn't want a whole load of questions from his Mum about the "less than fully clothed" women he is keeping in the garage ...
Yeah a long speech like that always works wonders with hysterical women. Or, you can realize they are fishing for cash and prizes and thus, just buy the harlots a bracelet or something. 🤨
Same thing buuuut my roommate was EXTREMELY LACTOSE INTOLERANT sooo I poured out her LACTOSE milk and put normal milk in the same box hehehhehehehehehehehe
Story 5: as a girls point of view, I personally don’t think that op was in the wrong. His parents were coming over and I wouldn’t want my bf’s parents to think anything bad. So, I would say he’s not a jerk
Yeah, he probably really was just a bit too straight forward with his words. Meaning he should have told them why he said what he said, his reasoning which was to prevent an uncomfortable situation for the girls and/or his parents
If my in-laws thought smth bad becuz I was in a sports bra and sweats because I was exercising, I think I'd have to re-think my relationship with them
The last story definitely sounds like a misunderstanding. It's not wrong to ask someone to put on a shirt when family are coming over, but I can see how someone might take that the wrong way. Clearing up that misunderstanding can hopefully heal things over. For the story for the adopted brother, I agree that it'd be best to have a closed conversation with the parents as to why the op doesn't want to help out. I'd hope that the parents would understand the op's frustrations since there were times when they were in college and couldn't even eat at times. If the parents can't understand after that point, then that's a loss of them and not the op's fault.
Story 1: Not a jerk, poetic justice 'nuff said.
Story 2: Not a jerk, if it had gone on, sooner or later they would have seriously injured someone or even get someone killed.
Story 3: Not a jerk, the OP saved a lot of people from losing their retirement fund.
Play area story: I kind of resent you calling the Mom entitled after she calmed down after realizing that OP did, in fact, work there. Mothers tend to get a bit defensive when their babies are hurt, it's our instinct as mothers, and given that she even sent an apology with chocolates for OP, I'd say she's the opposite of entitled, an entitled mother would have acted like she did nothing wrong.
2nd story:
OP may have saved someone's life if the workplace harassment had not been reported.
That wasn’t just workplace harassment, that stepped into literal torture methods territory.
Last story was not a jerk u asked them to have some class ur parents are there and ur girlfriend represents u and the fact she acted that way I wouldn't be with her no more
The first story reminded me of a story I heard on a scary story podcast about a lady with schizophrenia in Finland and she would always get these weird feelings in her attic and see a lady and thought it was her schizophrenia and was going to the doctors for months because she wanted to fix her medication before it got worse but in the end when she went to move out her brother the only other person has been in there since she moved in finally went up to the attic and nearly fell down the stairs screaming because he saw the lady and I’ll never forget this line as she realized she wasn’t in her delusions but actually there “she’s been doing this the whole time and she hasn’t hurt me yet so we should both be OK” 😂😂😂
100% disagree with story 4, the parents essentially stopped caring about OP and got a do over child instead of actually doing their parental responsibility of setting their biological child up for success. I get some parents might not want to pay for college, but they should have at aided him to where he was at least not starving himself half dead instead and could be comfortable pursuing his studies. I completely support adoption, but it shouldn’t ever be at the expense of your existing child’s wellbeing, they should have waited 5 years when OP had two feet to stand on. It seems the parents got bored of OP as he was becoming an adult and essentially tossed him to the curb to have a do over. That resentment is earned and OP doesn’t owe them anything, I would have gone completely no contact if that happened to me.
There is no indication that they neglected them. He said he was resentful because he had to pay for housing not because they stopped caring about him. Hes taking it out on his adoptive brother because his wallet took a hit. He's entitled to be upset about having a hardship his brother wont but he's still in the wrong and should give his brother a chance because he blatantly has not.
@@ailemoonstream7505 exactly but now they are paying for the other childs housing and they told him they couldn't help him because they have a young child. So yes they did neglect him.
@@ailemoonstream7505 pretty sure starving your college child is negligence whether you like it or not. Personally they owe him nothing which is ok. However giving the child 2 better conditions than child one by a crap ton there are issues in parenting. Like honestly if I was in that situation pretty much would have exploded for expecting anything after that.
I don't blame you at all. You need those medications to stay balanced. Sounds like you need better roommates and bravo for doing it, because they deserve it
4th story: Not a jerk. Cold, not cruel.
If it's the OPs home he has a right to ask anyone in his home to put on a shirt. The girls seem like entitled jerks. They need to grow up.
I know I'm kinda old fashioned, but I don't understand how anyone can feel comfortable in the presence of another person, that isn't immediate family, in just underwear. I immediately lose a lot of respect for someone who does so intentionally as I see it as being disrespectful toward yourself and others
I see you never went to the beach in summer, huh?
@Olga R. I fail to see what that has to do with the price of tea in China... if you wear only underwear to a beach, then you're mental.
Story 4 - if the narrator thinks the OP has ANY obligation to this adopted "brother" then he should cease offering comments on these stories. That has to be THE DUMBEST opinion I've seen AITJ offer. Ever. How anyone could possibly construe that the OP owes the adoptee ANY obligation is unfathomable.
Fr. He needs to keep his comments to himself or the channel needs a new host.
Family guy had a perfect quote for the yoga story. “ Men. We don’t know what we did!”
Story 1: this sounds like a classic prank.
But I must say since they openly said they got high on meds then It was a dead giveaway to who was taking your stuff...
The last story as a female I hate sports bras so I might be bias but the man should not need to apologize for anything. How is that even controlling in the first place! Was is that so DAMN HARD to put on A SHIRT! The guy should say “I didn’t want you guys to feel uncomfortable or feel judged by my parents is all” he shouldn’t apologize PERIOD!? If the girlfriend and sister can’t understand that he wasn’t controlling then what next?
Op: Hey I need you to do the dishes or laundry for me please? I’ll do the dryer and put them away?
Gf: WHY ARE YOU SO CONTROLLING!? I’M NOT GOING TO DO ANYTHING FOR YOU!?
😑the sisters should apologize to OP TO HIM for giving him ANY KIND OF LOOK!? Like what would happen if he went over shirtless and it was a girl neighbor? Will they assume he’s cheating on her?
I agree, he asked them to put on a shirt because his parents were over- and the fact that the parents went into the garage should say a lot that he wasn’t saying it to be controlling. In fact- he even puts one on himself! Like put it this way, if his gf’s parents were coming over, wouldn’t she want to be respectful and look presentable? I mean I get it’s their house and they are only there for a moment but still.
Know what- he shouldn’t have to explain or apologize for asking them to put a shirt on, why? Because it’s his house! And if he did the explanation you provided is well enough what should be said. Either way- his gf and gf’s sister over reacted to his small request and reason why.
The gf’s sister took it the wrong way because she didn’t think of it any other way- I kinda think that she’s self centered to think that the Poster was only saying it because of her breast, and the gf should have backed him up instead of taking her sister’s side, I mean family and all but- ain’t he you’re bf??
I’m saying that b/c he probs didn’t know she was self conscious about her breasts
@@iden_low5315 yeah it’s stupid how people over react on the littlest of things ya know?
@@iden_low5315 it’s understandable. How was he supposed to know? No one told him in the first place! And what about the sister? Is she really that self conscious about her breasts that she gets upset because she was told to put on a shirt? If she really was self conscious she wouldn’t be wearing just a sports bra she would be wearing a tank top over it or something like that.
@@oliviajeanne7709 EXACTLY! Why you doing yoga in a sports bra if you’re self conscious?! I know well enough that a lot of people (including myself) have their own insecurities, me, I wear pants a lot because I’m self conscious about my legs. But when push comes to shove I do wear shorts or skirts if I need to. See? There’s always a solution to small problems! So she made a big deal over something that was unrelated to the whole principle
The nose bleed story, that lady was out of line for accusing OP of hurting her kid. She better damn well be sorry for that.
She gave an apology card and a box of chocolate
Her initial reaction was understandable. If I had any kids I’m sure I would panic if I saw a stranger holding my bloody child, but everything after that was out of line
@Dr. Jesse & Mr. Hayden I'd have asked what happened not "what did YOU do?"
As someone who also is a first aider from St John’s Ambulance. When a kid gets injured the parents have a split second panic but no aggression the mom was definitely too aggressive. At least she apologised
@@vault111legend7 like I said, I have no kids so I have no experience in that field
When Op from the last story has dinner at his girlfriend parents house he should take a break to go to the bathroom and come out shirtless just before they sit down to eat. That should get the point across that no it's not because you have big breasts, it's because it is uncomfortable to see somebody half-naked.
The issue is the dinner table at someone else's house is generally not the right place to be shirtless. But wearing sports bras while doing workouts in your own home is totally normal, plenty of people do it in public gyms with no problem.
Or just use clear communication to try and clear up the misunderstanding. It reveals more about people's character when they react to clarification or apologies.
Regarding the hazing: Always depends on the type of hazing. I think some of the stuff pretty common around mechanics in germany is to get the "Stift" (apprentice) walk into storage and ask or search for the indicator fluid, grease to make the anvil sound nicer or a replacement bubble for the spirit level.
It's just a stupid joke that makes the stift feeld stupid for a minute or two and probably get a laugh out of him too. This type of hazing is completly fine in my opinion.
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Story 2 When you got the sunburn and vomiting I would have gone to the police and told them about it because they put your life in danger and they should have been punished for that. Some of them going to jail would have taught never to play games with people's lives on a hot day ever.
4th story
He's not an ahole
He is not his brother and even if he was he had no obligation to aka help him
Story 1: That is definitely delicious revenge in thieving roommates! Bet they couldn't get off the toilet! 😅😂😊
For the last story, coming from a male, I think he was just misunderstood, but when he didn't apologise and try to clear everything up was a definite jerky move.
If I was op in the first story I would totally blast the name of that shitty excuse for a mechanics shop
Swap medications with laxatives i need to remember this for mine 😂😂😂
19:13 his house, his rules. He says cover up because he has company coming, you cover up or get out.
Last story - It may have been that the sister was the teacher but she was in his home. If you are going into someone's home then I feel that you should be willing to abide by what they ask of you. He did not disrespect her she disrespected him by making assumptions of his request.
The bleeding nose kids mom was nice enough to give them a box of chocolates and apologize not in person but I wouldn’t either being embarrassed
The 4th story is kind of a toss-up. You can't make the older one pay if you never gave the older one the same thing you're giving the younger 1. You can't spoil your kids for this particular reason. Not saying treat them good and not reward them but you can't sit there and respect one not to resent the other when you're choosing the favorite child. A conversation might help but it might not change the older ones mine. So I understand where he is coming from at the same time you can actually stop the heart even if there is no love there.
Can we get a picture of the yoga instructor from the last story? Asking for a friend!😂😂😂😂
Last story: All OP had to do was grab his shirt and say "That's my parents coming for the freezer". Presumably there are three yoga mats on the floor and it's obvious to anyone what's going on, and if he didn't think it was, a simple "We're doing a yoga session" would suffice. Both women were wearing more than his parents would see at any beach or pool, and it was entirely up to them if they wanted to throw on a top. There was no reason to ask them to cover up as if they were indecent.
He may not have been a jerk per se, but overstepped. Still a tempest in a teapot.
My Ex-wife stole my pain meds while i recovered from a back injury. I was given Oxy following a back injury where I basically could not move. My ex-wife had an addiction to pain medication in which she would pop Tylenol 3 (Tylenol with Codine) like they were Skittles. When she found out my doctor prescribed my Oxy-Codone for a severely pulled muscle in my back, she immediately assumed that because I hardly ever took any pain medication that I would just give them to her. I had enough pills to last a month, but would likely only need to take them for two weeks. The extra pills were in case I had more or less pain so that I could regulate my pain levels as needed.
The first few days, I would take a pill every 6 hours and could actually get up and function. I still had to work a 12 hour day, but it was office work, so I could sit at a desk and still function. I took my pain medication with me and had a co-worker drive me to work and home. After three days, I realized I wouldn't need to take any of the pills during the work day and used them mostly to sleep through the night. This proved to be a mistake.
When I came home from work, I had intended to take a pill, take my shower, and then go to bed early for the evening. I noticed the pill bottle was missing from my desk. I just figured I had left the bottle in my night stand in the bedroom, so went to look for it. It was nowhere to be seen.
I asked my ex-wife and replied "Oh, I have the bottle. I figured you don't take pain pills and that it would be OK for me to take them." She handed me the bottle and out of the 30 pills that had remained, there were six left. She had been taking them 3-4 at a time all day long.
I just looked at her in disbelief. "I'm recovering from a back injury in which I can hardly move without extreme physical pain, and you figured I wouldn't need them?" Are you insane?" I took the rest of the pills and took them over the next 3 days until I ran out. They managed to last until the weekend.
When I woke up on Saturday morning, the pain was back. The second I moved, it felt like someone twisting a screw driver into my lower back. Then there was the grinding feeling all of it enough to very nearly make me scream out in pain. She would just look at me with her cold, dead eyes, chain smoking he cigarettes no hint of compassion. Then she'd make comments about how I couldn't take pain, and that every day she was in pain for fibromyalgia and that my pain was nothing compared to hers.
Instead of sleeping in the bed with her, I went and laid down on the floor of the living room. I forced myself to bear the pain through gritted teeth. I would lay flat on the floor and cry myself to sleep at how much it hurt. Monday came and I had to call in to work because I could barely make it out the door and certainly could not make it up or down the flight of stairs from my apartment. SHe griped about me missing work and that I would get fired.
I'd had enough and just looked at her and said, "I would be at work if someone hadn't stolen my pain medication. What kind of person steals their spouse' pain medication?"
She blew up at me for accusing her of stealing my pain pills and we ended up getting into a big argument. She locked herself in the bedroom and I just laid down on the floor and fell asleep.
I was restless that evening and stretched my legs out. My back still hurt when I moved but something told me to twist my waist slightly, so I did. I felt the most horrify series of pops in my back, followed by a nauseating crunch and the pain was instantly gone. I couldn't believe what had happened, so I got up. My back was a little bit sore, but I no longer felt pain when moving. Excited, I got up and got dressed, deciding to go tot he all night Walmart to try walking. I did fine.
The next morning I went to back to work and after a few days, was back to normal. But the fact she would screw me over just for her own addiction stuck with me for the next few months and was one of the factors that motivated me to eventually leave her.
It's been ten years, but I still think about that when I think I'm having problems with my current spouse.
A safe business doesn’t get scared or worried when worksafe rocks up.
For the yoga one: The OP isn't a jerk. It had nothing to do with big boobs. A quest is at the door and it's not her house, put a shirt on. It might have been a misunderstanding but OP isn't a jerk at all. Even if she's there for work and not just as a visit it isn't her house.
Story 2: The OP should have also complained to the labor board about the wage theft as well as not being granted sick leave for an on the job injury.
I personally disagree with the OP's parents adopted story:
The parents clearly think OP sees their son (relationships go both ways so while their adopted son may view OP as their sibling, OP doesn't and thus there isn't a relationship) as family, and thus would expect a familial experience with him living with OP. That is wrong though, it would merely be a rental relationship and thus it's likely many boundaries would be pushed and/or broken.
The car work shop should be well beyond are a lot of legal problems right now I would definitely fight these guys
In Story 1, the original poster should have brought up in conversation that they are just so silly because the got their medications mixed up including their laxatives so that was close, and they would forget their head if it was not screwed on.
next time you had medication pills , you should hide them in the cabinets so your roommates won't get into them.
but it's just my opinion and thought.
I think OP's response was genius.
@@MikinessAnalog well I think you're wrong about that.
@@viviennemorgan7217 I think you're not thinking about the fact they are roommates.
They got a lock and that didn't work, did you not watch story 1?
I remember from when I was little, maybe 6 or 7, I was at a playground with my brother and one of my dad's friend's kids, we used to go to their house after school and had walked to the local park after as our dad had to work extra late that day before he could come pick us up. While at the park, I was up on one of the bigger structures with a slide and climbing wall and everything waiting to get on the slide when this kid next to me says something like "Hey, watch this!" And proceeds to smash his face directly into the nearest metal pole. That ended with kids running and we went home after that, so, yeah, that was just a little traumatic
story 2: he saved future employees lives and saved others.
story 4: yes and no because he was also thinking how his parents would not even be able to afford to pay for his rent and the factthat they made him feel like he cant have help to get in to university made it worse.
Story 3: omg was that rly u?? One of my cousins was involved in that case (he wasn't in the fbi, but he assisted investigations in 1992 and in the following operation sunstroke)
For the University story: We don't know how is the brother, only a vague description, for the question "Is the OP the AH?" No, in my opinion, but in that situation "I would have changed a few words of the answer, such as "I have nothing against you, brother, but father/mother, how did you make me live at the time? I had to live in rented apartments, which are very expensive, and now you are coming to me to ask to host a brother who has been helped more than me, therefore, as I have experienced the difficulties, he too can suffer them, when I went to university you didn't have enough money for me because you had to think of him, and now you have no money , but only for him? But please, screw yourself." and to the relatives who accused "you are the jerk" to the OP, I would have explained: "Look, you don't know the whole story, but I first had to live in rented apartments and then when I was able to put some penny i was able to spend less living on campus, they hardly helped me at all, and they want me to help them in THEIR time of need? lol, my parents can go to *D*uck theirself".
Lol that probably scare them shitless
Story 4 definitely not the jerk your home your choice family or not
I swear the stories on this channel are growing ever more unhinged.
For some reason in the last post OP was voted the jerk. The people of reddit probably saw a "woman cover up" thing and started foaming at the mouth. While he did ask them to cover up, he clearly covered up himself, that should have been a sign.
Also, OP later made a post a few weeks later, about his GF's older sister (she has 4; 2 younger, a twin, and the older one). The GF apparently basically lives there although they have separate apartments; has a lot of her belongings there, sleeps, showers, etc. there. OP comes home, sees GF with her niece (OS's kid) on the couch, he greets them. Goes towards his room. GF says "I left clothes in your gaming room". OP asks why, GF says OS is in there napping. OP says that its his apartment, not a hotel and doesn't want someone in his room sleeping. GF gets up, wakes up OS and takes her home. GF says since it isn't a hotel, she wont be staying there anymore. OP later edits it saying that GF apologized, but said "we both have boundary issues we need to get over".
It seems GF is a bit self centered. While its right to defend her sister in the Yoga story, but still going a bit far with it was somewhat of a jerk move. Outright saying that her older sister can sleep on OP's bed saying that she thought OP wouldn't care, then putting the blame on OP as well as herself is just a sole jerk move. Just because you are an exception to a rule, doesnt mean everyone in your family is too. Also to say that OP has boundary issues is a jerk move on it's own, he didnt overstep boundaries there (maybe the Yoga story, sure) but she certainly did. She should have texted him when she said sis could. Thats the bare minimum.
The story about the parents and the adopted son. No, he is not the storyteller's brothers. His parents adopted the 7 year old as their son,. He did not adopt the 7 year old as his brother. Even though they have the same last name, he is not really his blood brother. He has no obligation to help them or him.
Outstanding video thanks
Last story: I (FYI Female) don't think that OP was a jerk. I wouldn't want anyone seeing me in a sports bra. Even if it was my boyfriend or best friend. Boy or girl I would put something on and I definitely would appreciate the heads up if I was in that position. I am very self consciously uncomfortable with nothing/next to nothing on in front of anyone, even other girls. I wouldn't want the parents to get the wrong idea either. Just my opinion.
Somthing similarly happened at one of my friends birthday party. We were at a trampoline park and he fell and there was like a lot of cuts. his lips were busted and it looked like he was coughing up blood (he wasnt)
*Story 1:* I've heard of Schizophrenia, it's where one is unable to determine reality from fiction. But I've never understood how one gets it, and how is a doctor able to *"diagnose"* it. And to the point of this story, why the hell would anyone steal someone else's medication? Even if it was an accident, that they didn't know it was their friend's, they're usually clearly marked *"Medication for this condition".* If the roommate bothered to look, he would've noticed.
The girls were the jerks. I (being a girl) do not want to be seen in my sports bra by a stranger. And didn't he explain his parents were coming in. I don't understand how that was disrespectful to them. Unless they take everything that's said to them as disrespectful. 😮
Lol that first story was great 😂 he got them back good
Story 2: Where I work, getting pay docked like OP did is completely illegal.
Bro his parents were coming in his parents honestly I think she has no self shame
Iv heard that “ not taking in my adopted brother “ one before
Those roommates could have potentially sued him for what could have been claimed as a boobytrap. All they would need to do is prove he swapped the pills with the intention of it being a trap for them
Nah bro got the jimmy neutron iq💀💀
Story #4's situation: I think we can blame/thank Dominic Toretto for the misguided concept of "Family".
swapped the medication or the friends?
Wow, I love how a lot of the comments are more of "First post heare!" and not actual video commentary... SMH
Final story: Definite communication breakdown. Apologies are deserved from both sides for both overreacting and misphrasing without viewpoint explanation.
hazing may be a thing, but there is a limit
Hey op my dad had a story where to bully’s kept taking his candy so he sprinkled laxatives on the candy and they ran
Last story.. not a jerk.. no apologies needed from the guy.. the gf and sister should though; who thinks its ok to parade around strangers in the bare minimum of clothing... as a female.. i couldnt do it.. its disgusting and impolite
It looks to me like the officer made an honest, lazy mistake but I was already getting lazy vibes from him.
for story two: call Osha they will deal with it
With the story about the yoga girlfriend, I am a woman and I completely agree with the boyfriend. In this scenario, the intent is what was being ignored and butt hurt feelings were front and center. He could have given them a heads up, and the girls can get theirs out of their ass.
For operation disconnect I know it was exactly 240 people arrested in salt lake City
"her sister has big boobs" dude you chose the wrong girl to be your gf
I'm a girl and the last story I don't think the guy was a jerk
To anyone who is expecting to end up in a roommate situation: invest in a mini safe. Keep your money/medication/any small stuff you really don't want your roommates getting into in that safe.
Last story: not a jerk. His house, his parents, his rules. Yes, she is his yoga teacher, he's her client, he's paying her. If your job requires you to go to other people's houses and yet you can't respect very simple requests due to them having guests, please find a new job. If anything she should be apologising to him.
Not to mention the guy didn't ask them to do anything he wasn't willing to do, he put on a shirt as well, and yet she doesn't realise that she's not the only person on the planet and not everything is aimed directly at her.
"Lets all dress up to look a bit more presentable" "THIS IS A PERSONAL ATTACK AGAINST MEEEEEEEEE!"
The last one is not the jerk he only asked a favor
For story #2, the op probably have greater effect if they sent the evidence straight to OSHA
What's up with the narrator in the last story? He's saying that the guy should apologize because SHE feels that he did something wrong, when he clearly didn't. This results in the classic "i'm sorry that you feel you need an apology" statement.
Also with the fourth story I have to disagree with the host. OP is not a jerk. The parents did not do much of anything for them and did everything for Chris. Not only did the parents decided they weren't going to help the original poster anymore, forth more effort for Chris then they ever did for OP. The parents said that they would could cover the cost of rent and OP mentioned that it would be very much expensive for the location if it was to be rented and while they could have actually milked their parents for money by accepting, that would be more malicious compliance. On top of that they don't really know Chris all that well and it just so happened that Chris decided they wanted to go to the same college area as the original poster. I think this was done deliberately.
The last story triggerd me a bit first off the sister is a guest in ops house so him asking for them to put on a shirt is in his rights second iv grown up in a house of wemon meaning i was the only male in the house so i can understand them better then i like to admit the sister and the wife are being overly touchy its only good manners to not answer the door shirtless and among legal reasons
Adoption story. I’m not saying the OP is a jerk, however, I don’t think we’re getting the whole story. For example, the child was already 7yo when adopted. The poor kid must’ve had a crappy crappy time up till adoption. Somewhere along the line, something went wrong and it was WAY before the OP went to college…
To be fair to the soft play staff story, the mother would've been told by another child what happened. She could've been told "Timmy's face is bleeding and the boy/girl is holding them on the floor because of the blood." And immediately the mother would assume an older kid hurt her child and is trying to restrain them to hide it. We have to remember that all her context of the situation has come from another child. Once she realised they were a member of staff, she relaxed and listened, so I don't feel like she is a Karen. As someone who works in a school, the context a 6-10 year old can give you about an accident can make it sound like another kid has been murdered like "Josh headbutted Luke and now he's on the floor crying and I think he's bleeding and Josh keeps shouting at everyone", when all that's happened is two kids who are friends banged heads playing football together and one kid is trying to help his friend he accidentally hurt
“My male point of view” major beta soy vibes from that
I am a female and I have a larger-than-average chest size and I would like to weigh in on the last story. This is just a massive misunderstanding. While the sister's reaction was probably a product of insecurity borne from a history of being disrespected (which is totally understandable), your girlfriend really did not help the situation. Both women overreacted to a very mundane situation. You 100% should NOT apologize for making the request but I would recommend trying to clear the air with the sister by explaining yourself and apologizing for any misunderstanding that resulted. I am bothered by your girlfriend's reaction, though. Have you two not been together long? Is it typical for her to assume the worst about you like that? The sister I kinda get but the girlfriend... Idk, there's just something that is not sitting well with me about it.
The mechanics there sound like the folks in r/niceguys posts
The last story I think not a jerk. My sister and I both have big…and I personally would like a heads up if I was wearing a sports bra and either my boyfriends or my sisters boyfriends parents were there. I might be a lot more conservative but I wouldn’t be around my boyfriends parents or my sisters boyfriend and his family with just a sports bra on. I’d want to be more covered than that.
I would have thought explaining himself would have made it clear. Also ops gfs sister seems like the jerk. She not only misunderstood but instead of dealing with it like an adult and telling op that hey that upset me when u said that and then listening to his explanation she just told him off and then left. She must have a large ego as well to think she is the main character in this story. She is at him house and when he requested them to cover up for his parents they refused to. Now if he had blown up at them I would say he is a jerk. I wouldn’t be with anyone who disrespected my parents and they could have done that. Some paréate conservative and don’t think it’s right to wear a sports bra around others like that. I think op needs to take another look at his gf. She should have been more respectful.
Who the fuck actually wants to abuse anti-psychotic meds? Anxiety meds I could understand as those are widely abused, but not anti-psychotics.