How The Covert Narcissist Deals With The Death of YOUR Loved One - (Series Part 1)
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
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A Covert Narcissist sees every change in circumstance as an opportunity to manipulate to get their daily needs and requirements realised and maintain a position of control within their interpersonal relationships. In this mini series we will cover how a narcissist treats the news of your loved ones death and reacts towards you and in part 2 we will look at how a narcissist will react to the passing of a loved one of their own. The Narcissists reactions are highly predictable dependent on their own needs and their positioning in their behaviour cycles. Indeed coupled with extensive examination of other behaviours demonstrated by an individual you suspect may be a narcissist, understanding these additional behaviour patterns covered in this series should be helpful in that determination.
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Believe it or not, they delight in your loss, feign genuine concern, and prey on your vulnerability!!!
You are right!
All food for demonic spirits.
My youngest brother committed suicide. I was crying, grieving, the narc said, you act like you're the only one to ever lose a brother. Discusting demon.
Unbelievable
I'm sorry for your loss ❤️🩹🫶
WOW The Comments I Read Of How Extremely Barbaric The Narcs To Many... I Give My Condolences To You ALL
Very sorry you had to hear this. May he RIP...
THAT is a horrible thing to say to anyone grieving. ONLY a NARC could say such a thing. At least you need no further proof you were dealing with a NARC. Take care of yourself.
I believe the first time I noticed an extreme behavior is when my mother died and I was beyond inconsolable. The narcissist in my life, shut off like a light switch, went stone cold, no emotions, no expression, no sound (complete silence). I could have mistaken him for a wall. It was chilling. These creatures are truly demons in the flesh.
My Condolences😢
Exactly like my female narc, never she'd one tear
@@kirkhogan2688 yup, same here. In this case a male narc, not a tear either, just a blank stare and zero emotional support.
@kathrynhogan3387 not really when we understand we are lied to about everything about these creatures that are demons in the flesh. Sentiments and statements like yours though, that are snide cheap shots, are a typical response by a narcissist that always blames the people they commit horrendous human rights violations against.
@kathrynhogan3387 I think what is bewildering is how anyone but a narcissist, psychopath, sociopath would imply the blame lies with anyone they target. The reason narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths and all the labels these demons go by, get away with what they do, is because the world empowers them, by doing exactly what they do, and blaming the person they commit horrendous human rights violations against. Clearly you don't understand anything about a narcissist or maybe you do. Your reply sounds to me like a classic narcissist point of view.
My cat of 14 years died in 2018. I met a "friend" of mine (We had known each other 10 years) for dinner one week later. He had met my cat on several occasions and knew he had passed away. He did not ask how I was doing but used the whole dinner to talk about himself. When he finally said, "So how are you doing?" I replied, "I'm ok given that Lawrence (my cat) died." His response was, "Well, you'll just have to get over that," and he continued on speaking about himself. That was the last time I ever saw him.
I'm dating a man who is narcissistic. I put my dog down and later that day I was talking to my sister alone while he slept, I couldn't sleep. I was sitting in my car because only 1 room has ac, he interrupted my conversation thinking I was cheating on him and talking to some dude... he had zero ability to realize what I was going through. I like a lot about him, but it's like he's an empty person. I feel like he'll always be that way, I address things when I see them hoping he can grow. He has a lot of self awareness and uses logic to try to be more empathetic... but sometimes I don't really know if he truly values trying to connect with another person emotionally, or if it's more about control and will never change. It makes me sad these people are really this way permanently, it's hard to believe because it's a miserable existence. I can tell he doesn't want to be how he is, because it's like a prison for them.
@@SimpleArtisan I'm so sorry to hear about your dog. I wish you all the best in figuring out your relationship.
I lost both my parents within the same year. One day during this time of grief, I was having a really hard day - anxious, lonely, sad, and I had COVID. I asked my then husband/narc to please stay home with me that day (Sunday). I flat out said that I was really not well and needed him - his comfort and support and that I was scared. He left for the entire day and went to his brother's house for a BBQ. He came home about 8:00 p.m. and then laid in the bed opposite of me. That was the beginning of the end.
Just when I think the brutality of a narcissist spouse can't get worse I find they do. ❤
Thank God it ended. You are blessed. It took me decades to realize this is my brother. They will steal, cheat and murder. They are cunning and its difficult to catch them.
Oh gosh my heart was breaking 💔 when I read your comment. How absolutely horrendous for you to try and cope with all of this on top of having covid yourself! His reaction was SO heartless and it is perfectly clear that he WANTED to break your heart even more how utterly selfish and spiteful to do this purposely to hurt you even more! My ex-narc would purposely hurt and break me so I can empathise to a degree either what you were going through 😢
As heartbreaking as it was that was the red warning light you needed to see your situation was never going to work out. Am so glad you got out and pray you are on a positive healthier road to recovery in your life. Take special care of yourself you are very important and look in the mirror and love yourself. You are so worth being loved and respected 💝🙏
After my Dad's funeral, I was at my parents house in my old bedroom changing. My Covert Narc wife comes right in as I was changing with the Narc "Smerk" on her face, walks all around the room and surveys everything in the room to see what I had. I ask her what she is doing and she said that she had to talk to me. After the nonsense answer, she give me a dirty look and walks out the room. Needles to say, she filed for divorce last year and I will be glad to heal and move on. BUT THESE PEOPLE ARE EVIL AND COLD!!!
Be well❤
Absolutely heartbreaking for you but know you can heal now going forward in a more positive healthy way. So sorry you endured this trauma take special care
If it isn’t bad enough: the eye scanning on everything you had is insulting but it shows real insecurity and need for control from the scanner.
Imagine no one is dead (yet) and many years left to go and noticing the same scanning (what do you have that I might want and I’m afraid someone else will take it).
Things or ppl and relationships.Eye scanning suggests things are more important than the others.
It’s a real gut punch.
"Basically your services have stopped." Exactly. Excellent sentence.
Yep, it pretty much sums up what we are to them: services, to satisfy their needs, and nothing more. When we're no longer useful , they're done with us.
Thanks Paula. I wish I had this information 34 years ago when my dear 18 year old brother died in a motorcycle accident. I had only been married for 4 years at the time and had 3 young children the youngest was a newborn. My husband was so unsupportive and callous at this time and acted terribly towards me and my mother. It was the first time that I described him in my diary as having no empathy for me. He treated the whole thing as an inconvenience and just wanted me to get over it and carry on as usual. I was not allowed to fully grieve my brother and as a result, I ended up leaving my husband 1 year later and went to stay with my mother, I thought our marriage was over but he was not finished with me yet and he begged me to return, he would not leave me alone and so I came back after only 1 week. I wish now that I had have been stronger to withstand his hoovering. I returned and patched things up with him, but I never forgot how he treated me at that time. 7 years later his own father passed away and what a different story that was, he was so focussed on his family and especially his mother that it was so unreal to me. I eventually left after 37years of marriage and many other instances of his hypocritical behaviour too many to list.
Thank you for all you do, especially about their evil presence, I was feeling it for a few weeks.
And today I left him and blocked him everywhere.
I feel so peaceful now, knowing he can't reach me, unless he actually drives to my house.
It took me a long time to leave because he would sweet talk me back and I didn't have enough money to leave.
But now I've left him and I'm so happy, but there's a lot of work ahead. Bless you 🙏
Please change your locks, and get a security system for your house/apartment.
So truly gutted for your horrendous situation but please know you have done the right thing. Keep believing in yourself and know that you are a strong lovable person. Start learning to luv yourself each day it is very healing. I pray for a happy joyful life going forward you CAN do it trust me!
Yes. Change all locks. Get security cameras outside your home. Also get a personal security alarm keep it on you at all times as well as your phone. Don’t hesitate to call police if you hear any suspicious noises or activity. Get locks on your ceiling manhole, inside. ❤❤❤
My narc caused a lot of trouble about how i wasn't answering the phone cheerfully when my dad was dying of cancer. He said I was answering another male friend cheerfully. Had us go to the pastor's for me to answer, or to be judged on that. Then when my dad died he said someone told him that the worst pain is losing a child, it's worse than losing a parent. Much as it is true, I hadnt said I was in the worst pain nor had I talked about the pain I was in. I was stunned at the timing of his words. I think he meant to tell me what I was going through didn't really matter. I foolishly went on to marry him, stayed 11 years had 4 kids with him, all thinking the Christian in him will get to treating me right. It never happened. Thank God for divorce. I feel very stupid because I had all the red flags but believed the Christian talk. But glad to be rebuilding my life now. We coparent with minimal contact.
How traumatic for you and understand fully about the Christian side of things. It is just something to hide behind and disguise their true inner being. My exnarc said he was a Christian too and after 24 years of hell and 2 daughters did I draw the line of no return. The healing was very long and slow and was breaking me but am in a happier healthy place now. I genuinely pray you are too and don’t stop believing that you are a good lovable person each day 🙏🛐
A narcissist is a false self. Ego based and in denial of the spiritual realm. They are doomed unless they wake up
Oh, yes!
They are doomed regardless. Look at all the shit they dumped.
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They can't be saved because they can't repent. They will all go to hell.
DO NOT GIVE THE ENEMY A SEAT AT YOUR TABLE AT ANY TIME ONCE YOU KNOW YOU ARE DEALING WITH A NARCISSIST. IF THEY WILL PULL THE RUG OUT FROM UNDER YOU WHEN YOU NEED THEM THE MOST , THEY ARE SHOWING YOU THERE BROKEN CONSCIENCE AND THERE IS NO LINE THAT THEY WONT CROSS .
So true
‘Your loved one’s death is an inconvenience for the narcissist.’ I have absolutely positively experienced this entirely!!! You are spot on! And it is soooo mind-blowing the level of selfishness, the emotional hurt done at this deep time of grief😮😢😮I almost was convinced that the narcissist participated in unaliving my loved one based on the responses. Thank you for sharing this and understanding this reality! My experience finally feels validated!
Mine said I was ‘lucky’ to lose my mother, because his parents would spend all his inheritance!! 🥺 And made it all about him!
That's what they do, they spin the event to get the attention.
My ex narcissistic husband turned up to my LOVELY Dad's funeral, looking back I should have asked him to leave, he DESTROYED my lovely Dad's last few years by the way he treated me and my children, my Dad was DEVASTED by his behaviour, he was on holidays when my mother passed but did get a text, it's HORRIFIC what they are capable of doing, they are EXTREMELY DAMAGES INDIVIDUALS. GREAT video Paula, ENJOY your stay in States .
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When his dad died no one in his family told him. When he found out, only emotion was anger
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The brother was not going to tell the sister that the mother died. Cops informing has just left his house. Had the sister not asked outright, she would have received a, 'younger sister channeling the dead mother guilting baiting flying monkey crap.'. That was in 2019. Been sober since. A day at a time 🙏🕊️
His family is truly horrible. We all react differently. Of course, he would feel anger and rage. That ought to be obvious.
So true! Before I knew what I was dealing with, my covert narc, our 3 children and I were visiting my family in the US (we live in Europe). The day before we were to fly back, my parents, brothers and their families gathered at a restaurant for a farewell dinner. During that dinner, my husband, who'd been acting strangely for the better part of our holiday, took me asidie out of the clear blue and said he thought we needed to separate. It felt as if I'd had all the wind knocked out of me, I was completely blindsided! I tried to maintain my composure as best I could and tried to cry it out in the bathroom so my family wouldn't notice. The next day, as we waved goodbye to my family from the bus to the airport, I wondered what I was even going back for and thought "one of these people, I'll never see again" because my sister-in-law was struggling with ovarian cancer. We go back and I asked my husband whether he was moving out or I? He acted like he hadn't meant it. The next day, my mom had a stroke, the day after that she died and I was paralyzed with grief over my mom and my marriage and I couldn't think straight. Should I fly back? My husband said it wasn't necessary...she was dead and there was nothing I could do. Besides, he needed me more. He offered no sympathy whatsoever. It was devastating! It was my sister-in-law who said "you have to come back" and she arranged a flight for me and the baby. My husband was furious that I was being so selfish! His barbs at me continued to fly at me over the ocean. It was so awful!
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I haven't watched the video yet so I am just going off the title. My experience has been with narcissists, in general, is that they will verbally express their condolences but they don't really care. Some are really good at faking empathy and you can't tell the difference sometimes between real and fake empathy. I had a former "friend" who was a covert narc and he was excellent at faking kindness and compassion at the appropriate times. However, as soon as a narcissist can, they will flip the script and ask you to either do something for them or they will make it about them in some way. The focus will never be on you or your grief except for (possibly) when you tell them about a death and they feign empathy. I learned that a lot of these people are able to use words and emotions really convincingly to make you believe they actually care. I needed to learn how to read the room and realize that just because someone says something doesn't mean they actually mean it. Actions, over time (1 year or more), are key. Paula, thanks for this video and I'm looking forward to watching it!
Thank you. This creeps stop at nothing. You are a mark and target and lucky to be alive. They truly do not care and truly dispise the good.
Yup, they're disconnected from their own humanity and have contempt for it, because they were shamed to the core. Alot of them were, and because of that, they can't go there for other people.
I got conned into a relationship after my husband had died. With hindsight I must have been the ideal victim. Thank you so much Paula for all your advice and support with your videos. I am now learning to unpick how it happened that what I experienced with this covert narcissist felt so "familiar".....going back into my own childhood now, and there's a clear parallel to how I was raised by my mum. It's so shocking to realise all of this, but I always "knew" that when my husband passed away she was secretly pleased (not saying she's aware of it herself, but maybe she is ?) that I didn't have anymore what she never found in her own marriage. It's still painful to think that this is the truth even though my gut instinct knows that it is.
On another note I am now almost one year past leaving the narc I got involved with, and I saw him from afar on the street the other week. Guess what? It didn't bother me at all😊. Thanks again Paula. I am so grateful I found your channel xx
when i was 14 my boyfriend's best friend shot himself in front of me (5 feet away & his blood splattered on my shirt) Sunday morning at 3 am. the next day/ monday morning my narcissist mother said "you are NOT the one who died so you are going to school" on Monday morning. (no empathy) the school counselor saw that i was traumatized & sent me home for 2 months... and my mother was surprised that i was traumatized by this experience
You are in my prayers 🙏🏾❤️
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Malignant Narc, after death of her husband, first concern was she would no longer receive his pension! All they are concerned about is loss of goods, services and loss of narcissistic supply ❤
Very interesting how I was treated. Mine appeared to be supportive and behind my back was using his own “grief” as an excuse to seriously betray me. I know he was upset but to go through all of it and find out what he was doing behind my back made me completely shut down for three long years, in fact, ten years later I still haven’t recovered. To this day I don’t know how I’ve made it this far.
Keep on healing, love yourself!
Ugh...so sorry. I shut down life for a decade after he divorced me with no warning. I didn't know what narcissism was. He came back into my life in 2022. I felt like I had a pulse again. Then discarded me after so much fun and traveling together in three months. Now I'm being triggered with more vivid memories two years later. I am so angry.
@@paysha did you pay for the traveling and fun from your inheritance so when it had gone he left . Stay strong and don’t get dragged back in they never change
I found the narcissist's reaction to death bizarre.... A red flag that I did not recognize was how the narcissist dealt with the death of his own grandparent - blackout drunk. Also, when the narcissist got drunk his fear obsession with death would surface, vacilating between "I want to die" and "I don't want to die". When my beloved pet died, the narcissist used it to gain attention for himself. The narcissist viewed the future death of my parents as opportunity.
The most dreadful of times when my daughter aged 38 passed away through pneumonia ,leaving her partner and three children aged 3,9 and 11 years old behind.
Sooo accurate. 😢I got the call that my mother died and he looked at me crying and walked out of the room. When I asked him why he would do that he reminded me that his mother died when he was 18 and I needed to deal with it and get over it like he did. 😭💔
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It's beyond comprehension❤ be well.
I'm so sorry.
I informed my ex of my mother’s death and funeral, he answered that it wasn’t worth the bother for such a small ceremony. A month later his mother died, no one had anything nice to say about her, but he made sure I knew that they had a very big ceremony. I wasn’t invited thank goodness 😅
Come from a family of narcs, one sibling is the ringleader, the others flying monkeys. I’m the youngest and the scapegoat. I had a very close relationship with my mother who was also an empath as am I. The ringleader sibling manipulated our mother into moving closer to them. As the scapegoat I had moved far away from all of them years before. Mom eventually went into assisted living near this sibling and this sibling had power of attorney and a joint banking account with Mom. As Mom’s health failed and her bank account got smaller, this sibling grew more and more resentful and as our mother was near death, arranged for our mother to be sent by ambulance 1,000 miles away to another sibling to die there. Mom only lasted about 10 days after she arrived there. During that time she had Mom under her “spell” she tried very hard to turn Mom against me. When Mom was alive and of sound mind, I asked her to please remove me from her will because I did not want to be involved in anyway in my family of origin’s dysfunctional mess and I knew that how it would be at the reading of my Mom’s will so I ruined that for them and preemptively removing myself. Best decision ever! Turned out though that my Mom did not remove me and after she had passed I received a small inheritance in installments all carefully controlled by this narc sibling. I never expected anything and never asked for a dime from any of them. I was mad they had contacted me and I didn’t want to accept it, but the other sibling who received my Mom by ambulance, convinced me to take it, that our Mom would have wanted me to have it. I reluctantly deposited it, but it still makes me mad to this day because I wanted nothing from their hand.
To this day, I have no idea where my Mother is buried. No one told me anything. There was a family gathering later on in her honor, but I didn’t attend, and neither did the sibling who received my mother by ambulance 1,000 miles away 10 days before she died.
Prior to my Mother’s death, two older siblings had passed away. I was never told about their funeral arrangements either or where they are buried. I call this sibling and her main flying monkey sibling, “The Body Snatchers”. Consequently, I’ve had to mourn these loses and find closure alone. But I’m doing OK now and am grateful to have gotten away from them years before.
I had told my Mom, when I had asked her to remove me from her will, that all I ever had hoped, for in my relationship with her I had already received, her unconditional love and deepening friendship we had cultivated through the years, all the things that money can’t buy. Miss you and love you Mom. Until we meet again. 😘
If there was any doubt in your mind about this person, once you lose a loved one there will no longer be any doubt. Absolutely disgusting.🤢
I agree. The lack of empaty cannot be unseen😢
I have been through this with a ex and it’s an experience l will never forget. He still presents occasionally and asks to re enter my life. I thank god l went thru this so l will never forget who he is and his like ….male or female they never change and l will never go back ever. I just watch the manipulation attempts and lm totally unmoved. This is the gift. The act is so low it’s inhuman and unforgettable it changes us. Sending love and healing to anyone in recovery.
My mother did this when I lost the father of my son. She made it all about herself. She rolled her eyes at me when I said I am in pain, and all I need is some support right now, not a fight. When she didn’t respected my need for peace and quiet grieving, I sent her out of my house. She smeared me to other family members, they turned their backs on me and never asked about my part of the story.
My guess would be many a narcissistic situation-ship have ended because someone had to deal with a serious illness or death of a loved one. Mine did. Why? Because it was impossible for all of my attention and care to be on the adult toddler. How dare I care about or spend time with anyone else? It made the narcissist furious!! In retrospect it was a blessing in disguise for me to be able to realize it was time to cut this relationship off immediately before it proceeded any further. In my case I was not in too deep to get out yet - thankfully. They will handle it with anger, resentment and childishness - like every other adult responsibility normal people attend to. PS The relative in question lived so there was no inheritance in the offing .. this truly is their SOLE interest in ANYONE’S death ..
Vultures of the first degree and should be living in hell from where they come from. So glad you got out and keep on looking up and going forward. You are worth it all
Dear Guinness, welcome; but Remy cannot be replaced. From: Remy Fan
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Love Remy too 😊❤
This is all True
Lost my uncle and my husband..was delighted in his death and said very bad things..i froze in this horrible state.
I couldn't believe the Disrepect for my loved one and Disrespect for me. Right in front of our children.
I was angry and told him that..
But he Justified all of it.
This was a huge Confirmation for me
I couldn't Believe this horrible Evil°
Met him after several deaths, it was an inconvenience to him, he went through all my family memoirs took sold everything valuable, went through everything, in the garage and storage , filled it with junk so I wouldn’t know.
Hard to believe these sadists exist, the cruelty, slander, stealing evil.
That’s what happened, she discarded me right after Mom died. When I asked why, she gaslit me and said I had a negative world view.
OMG! Same happened to me when I lost my Mom/Best friend! I was devastated,but I lived with and took care of her until her last breath. He started treating me so cold and said that I wasn’t the same happy silly women he met 7yrs ago and that I was getting negative. Needless to say, after she passed he wld ghost me for a week to two weeks, until i eventually broke it off. He went arnd telling everyone that all he was doing was giving me time to heal and I just broke up with him. I have had to heal on my own for two yrs now, and still learning how to love myself and find happiness without my mom arnd. Now he has started trying to get me back!! These people are absolutely crazy!! Strange individuals!! Many Blessings to you and anyone else going through struggles. 🙏🙏🙏
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@@djw8504 thanks. actually mine was a double-whammy, by breadcrumbing and not communicating, she managed to stretch it out and the actual breakup was on my birthday.
@@djw8504 please don’t let him love bomb you he probably thinks any inheritance you get is his stay strong
II remember years ago when my Maddie died she was the closest thing in my life a beautiful Beagle an angel I dont know how even to explain she was my child best friend my ex being an covert narcissist knew all of that and when Maddie died she yelled at me fro not having her there with me I tried to explain she was too far to get at the vet on time and made me feel like all of this was my fault I dont know why but hearing you speak brought all of that back and to confirm to stay away from her it took ten years of my life to break up with her but every day I stll think of my Maddie
thank you
god bless et merci beaucoup
Good point. When in grief your judgement may not be as sound as you would like it to be . Be kind 2 yourself.
When my Father Passed my mum came home from the hospital and the first thing she said was , Well marion, your father finally told me i was too good for him.i was 20 👹,Violent, Abusive Muther.
When my Half Brother died at age 76, i Wasnt even Told.
A Lifetime of horror bad decisions Caring for the Uncaring.
I Was 52 when i Realised, i was so gullible,
Shes 94 now and ive been no contact for 7 odd years.
She only married dad for a pension and i was a seal the deal baby.
I can proudly say i never heard dad yell at her . And he never fought back.
I imagine she will have cut me from her will. She never visited me, and Didnt want to know my Children.
I hear you loud and clear.
This has happened to me.
My best passed away while I was fighting my own battle with cancer.
As I shook a bit physically as I cried at the service he said “you’re embarrassing yourself- everyone is staring at you like a freak “.
Then I was reminded countless times as to how this isn’t “how he planned to spend his day”.
Couldn’t stay for the reception.. it was horrible. Again I myself was battling cancer and his best friend had recently passed away of cancer and I supported my partner 100%.. and boy did he milk the empathy from everyone and then even punished me stating that it was ok because he just lost his best friend. Even stating that I was not to speak his friends name as if I wasn’t worthy-
Thank you for these videos they care so helpful ❤
My sister who lives thousands of miles away, and is the only remaining member of my nuclear family, I called because I really felt the need to talk to a family member at the time (4 days after) my son had taken his own life, said to me when I called… “Don’t you have any friends you can talk to? “You know I work from home and I am busy”.
I knew full well she worked from home and never called her during the day. This day was different though and I needed her. I thought that would be obvious. She sure showed me not to bother her with my trivial needs she could not take a moment of her precious time to give me.
My “friend” (ex), when I was saying I just could not ‘Pull myself up by my bootstraps’ at this time, like he wanted me to do, and was still in grief and shock a few months later, scoffed and said
“It’s not like he was a genius or anything, that helped a lot of people in the world”.
He was just annoyed that my new situation in life was inconvenient to his comfort being around me. I wasn’t the same happy bubbly person I had always been before the tragedy. Actually, my son WAS a true scholastic genius, but hadn’t reached the point in life where he could be of service to humanity yet at Age 26.
Needless to say, both became very unimportant people in my life.
I would keep in mind that the one consistency with a narcissist is dishonesty , they will say anything to personally gain something for themselves no matter how small, a can of Fanta, or a large inheritance or anything that may turn up.
Thank you 🙏 Paula.
Tomorrow 5.26.2024 will be the 3rd year anniversary of the day of the discard by that demon hidden behind a well constructed mask. A planned event knowing that the day was my father’s birthdate. He passed sway in 2007. If the choice was mine to make…knowing what I know now that I did not then, I would have wished for the opposite to have happened.
Yeah, I said it!
Anywho… slowly healing and rebuilding.
Have a beautiful weekend! Be safe.
Attention on him , for him, what he wants 24/7 drained the life and everything else out of me. They do give you a hard time, bullying, taking, slander, cheating you name it.
❤Dear Ms. Paula...You are simply beautiful-inside and out. And Mr. Remy , well, what can I say...so adorable! May our loving God bless you both, as well as everything that is alive on Earth. Amen. Xo...
Two of my narcs said the same thing when someone had died,"that's very emotional". They only spoke about the feeling but they didn't actually feel anything.
One of the things that opened my eyes to the fact that my dad was a narcissist, was remembering that when my mom died in 1993 my dad forbade us (My sisters and I) to cry. We had to cry privately as teenagers. I was 15. He told us that we had no right to cry and that because he knew my mom for 25 years and we only knew her for 15 or so that he deserves to cry more. I didn't come to that realization until 14 years after he passed away in 2007. 😢 It was 2021 when I came to that realization listening to Dr. Ramani. Narc Con, you are definitely the icing on the cake of my realizations. Thank you for everything you do!
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She was getting consoled by another man in front of me and had people laugh at me about it at our friends funeral(seen him look over and check out her behind while friend was being lowered) so i knew not to invite her to my grandmas funeral.its like she was pissed she cudnt humiliate me at my grandmas too.thank you god for preparing me for this cold transaction.
When my uncle died, I came home upset and was met with "I don't know why you're upset; you knew he had cancer, this can't be a surprise." I think of that moment often and am grateful he's no longer in my life.
My ex Narcissist’s mother died 8 years ago. I do believe both of his parents were Narcissists. I did not have the knowledge then. If I look back on the wake and funeral from years ago, one word comes to mind :TRIANGULATION. He invited his ex girlfriend to the wake. I left before she came. His ex wife was there also with his ex mother in law. The church was filled with ex’s. He was in a very foul mood also. I was not allowed to sit with his immediate family that morning. We had been together 4 years by then. After the funeral he made a big production and got in my car. His ex wife gave me the rage-full stare down. I honestly believe now that no attention was on him. Interesting to look back and analyze old drama from an NPD lens. Welcome back to the US. Greetings from Minnesota.
My sister and mum passed away in 2018. I took a very long time to recover from this loss. My wife also displayed "care" in public. But at home, I was on my own. I inherited funds. And that is why she kept up public appearances as "caring" partner.
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I finally figured this out a few months ago, so you're video acknowledges exactly what I thought - thank you for making this!!
My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer's at the beginning of 2021 .. i was devastated because I knew what would be coming. From that point on until my dad passed in Nov 2022 .. my fiance just about every month during that two years was creating drama .. having temper tantrums and leaving for a few days, week or two. After my dad passed he continued with his drama and chaos .. and basically discarded me. Booked himself a two-week vacation and then thought when he got back that I'd be there for him. Its been a year since I've seen him, and while my life is drama-free .. i still struggle with the loss and abandonment at the time i needed him the most .. he wasn't here for me .. I didn't realize just how much he wanted me all to himself ..
They don’t give a flying chuck if you lose anybody!!
Selfish, heartless people
❤☮️ Happy Summer Day to All!
This teaching helped bring much clarity in regards to my father’s s*icid# when I was 14 and sis was 12. My mother’s brigade of sisters and grandmother all packed up and drove from Missouri to Idaho and descended on our broken home. Except the one Aunt who recognized the abuse in us children.
Sis isolated herself in her room and I stayed away from the house. All attention was focused on The Mom. There is a lot I don’t remember between the ages of 14 - 23. But I do remember sis and I being shunted aside. The prevailing feeling was we were kids, and we’d magically “get over it”.
Sadly, it makes sense in light of narcissistic parents/adults behaviors towards their children.
Wow, the narcissistic spectrum is a trip. Scrambles my brains.
Excellent topic Paula. This has caused me much confusion as a young adult. I lost 2 best friends to a drug OD when i was 17. My mother knew these people. She didnt have a reaction, didnt ask me how i felt. Didnt ask about the funeral or what i was going through. Infact she ignored me more than she ever had. I overlooked it until i lost MANY people in my 20s to 30s. We dont discuss death, unless its her speaking about the 2nd Coming of Christ. Ugh.
Now, you flip it to her. I know she's a Narc though undiagnosed. She wanted something from me the other week. I wouldn't entertain any of it. She text me that she lost 3 people in one month. I humored her and i asked who? Who died, that was so important? She told me 3 people. One is a stranger, she visits at the hospital. One is a distance relative I've never met, drug OD. "A tragedy" yet i got clean off heroin 3 years ago, and I'm still told I'm not clean. ...still picked at and badgered.
The other was a business contact, another i have never heard of!
Complete manipulation...she was mimicking what she thought i would be empathetic to. Why? We are in the middle of a house deal that shes stalling on, so i cant get on with my life. Now my BF thinks he can mediate. 🙄 been like this for a long time.. its been 8 months he has watched it. I really dont want to taint my relationship with my BF more than my family has tried. She brought my BF a bunch of old garbage toys the other morning. Dumped it on my porch.
I was quite offended. The way she talks to this man is that he is some lazy bum. No, hes taking care of me while I've been sick. She has no idea what's going on with my health. No one is going to treat someone whos so kind to me, like that. Or his little boy. Unfortunate.
Get out and enjoy Paula!!🌈🙏 Thank you and thanks to everyone in the community here. 💜
You have an amazing depth and grasp of the condition of narcissist traits and disorder. Thank you for your work to educate and inform.
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When my mother died, my narcissist said nothing and continued to work on his car. I had five minutes to grieve and had to go back to taking care of my little ones, aged 3 and 1, and doing house chores. . At my mother's wake,, he wanted to leave mid way through, and told me how he believed I wouldn't let him use the car to go back home.
You're always on the go!
I had a beloved cat pass away a couple years ago. No kids, no spouse, no family, this cat was my soul for 12 wonderful years. A lady I worked with had the audacity to approach me right after the holidays and only 4 months after he’d died (with no family I spend all American holidays alone, with no cat it was especially painful) and ask me “you’ve been so different lately, have I done something wrong?” She was upset I wasn’t giving her the attention she was used to getting. I told her “my best friend just died right before the holidays which I just spent alone. What about that has anything to do with you??” She was never the same around me after that, you could cut the tension with a knife because she wasn’t the center of attention anymore, and I wound up leaving that company about 7 months later. Grief cycles can come and go for years. How dare anyone pressure you to get through it faster, or make it all about themselves.
This was 💯 in my situation the day after the funeral he was at my door and I found out later he was married with a family 😡 he was angry when I put a stop to he’s games, complete no contact & blocked 😊 thankyou Paula for all the information you put out there 🌹
❤Welcome to my magical country, Ms. Paula! You and Mr. Guinness are a sight for sore eyes. I do, however, miss darling Mr. Remy. Blessings...
You and me both!
Spot on, Paula!
So true, that is exactly how my X dealt with the loss of my mom and dad. Jealous because of the time taken to deal with all the preparations after death and time spent with them before death.
A couple of months after his wife of 28 years died, Narc partner pursued me when I was not doing well after my divorce. There were large bright red flags but I was lonely and vulnerable so didn’t see them 🙃
When my father died Narc partner answered his phone when I was starting the Eulogy at the private wake! Couldn’t cope with attention on me.
He pursued his next “victim” 8 months after her third husband died. Yes, she was at a vulnerable time. It’s all about him and his gain.
He helps people out when he can gain validation and admiration but if it’s not going to stroke his ego and give him gain……he runs!
I was happy to give my Grandmother her last mothers day dinner a year ago, was still with the ex narc at that time, he wanted to go to a friends (female he would have cheated on me with) out of town to celebrate mothers day that year. Somehow got him to allow me ro host it for my family. My grandmother died a week later. The narc didnt even offer to attend her funeral and projected what he had done by telling me a story of how one of his coworkers had cheated on her husband during a funeral. They ALWAYS tell on themselves if you have ears to hear. My ex is malignant and bisexual, using me to cover that other side of him. Grieve the loss of your loved ones with family members and get far away from these types of people. Sending love and life to all survivors of this form of abuse. May we use this knowledge to awaken more because it is so insidious and healthy people just do not understand. And become unbeknownst to themselves gaslighters and flying monkeys ❤
I was there for him when he travelled back home for his uncle's funeral. I had watched his store for a week and I had barely known him at the time. When my grandmother died two months later, however, he said "we don't have time for this." As if my grandmother's death was an inconvenience, a hindrance. He hated it. He wouldn't even comfort me during my grief. He even seemed disgusted with me. And now I am truly disgusted with him.
They wont even say my condolences to you and family!
Paula, i learned something today. My friend said he did not do funerals. Now i understand why. No emotions to show.
Funny, my narc mother goes to random stranger’s funerals, l think to watch the emotions.
TimmyWitty. Yes, they copy other people and how they handle life.
@MaryAnderson-xs5wd It's like f"kng "Invasion of the Body Snatchers"!! This is the 'supply' they need in order to know how to act like a real human being. Their mirror, of sorts. It's absolutely chilling.
I had a bff who had an absolute meltdown to me over the phone because neither her two daughters nor her husband were going to be home when she arrived there, and she couldn't be alone! Meanwhile, I'm a single mom with two boys, one married and the youngest had just left the 'nest' to join the Army. I was going home to an empty house every night!
When one of my best friends died my ex hung up on me texted me that im not a man for needing a girl to talk to and i need to grow up. And she ghosted me for 10 days. We were together for over 5 years at that point. That was the first time i started to look into what was wrong with her
Wow!
That is just horrid. They're really good at the sucker punches, aren't they?
Blessings Paula
My narc left me and my 3 children when my Mother passed 5 weeks ago
Was more concerned for his car have not come to see my 2 youngest children.
His father passed last year and i stood shoulder to shoulder infront and protected him.
Helped with the funeral and totally arranged the wake food etc....
How EVIL AND VERY VERY VERY WICKED.
The day my sister died my husband went to the pub came home very drunk i opened the door to let him in and to lower his voice, i said stop shouting my sister just died today, he reacted by giving me a punch and gave me a black eye that i had to wear sunglasses to hide...
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I remember when my dad passed 'he' made himself scarce & on the very day of the funeral drunken calls & txts, trying to make the day about 'him'... Fortunately the funeral & wake were some miles away in my home town, & though that unfortunately wasn't my awakening... I did say it was appalling behaviour to be harranging me on the very day of the funeral after weeks of avoidance & what sort of character does that!!... Needless to say 'he' went back to avoidance throughout most of my grieving process apart from 'heat test' apologies: which, so trauma bonded was I... I ultimately excepted & so began another cycle... 🤢 It was some time before my full awakening & 'he' was a frenemy for a good while before I did finally awaken... I wasted SO many years on this particular 'blackhole'... & had so much of my life sabotaged... I'm very glad to be out the other side ✨ He did take 20 years of my life in one way or another though... & I'm still working through some of the complex grief of this tbh; even though its nearly 12 months since going no contact. It was an experience I'd had with another one (covert narc') that eventually lead me to understanding what 'he' was (narco'path). Then what my 'mother' was... Psychopath: whom trained me as scapegoat with perpencities to feel sorry for narco'paths... 🤢 No contact is now firmly established with all ❤ & the last few years have been spent learning, recovering & in alot of introspection & growing self love & appreciation of the real ones i have left ✨🧡🌿 Paula's wonderful info was my 1st seeds of understanding & I'm SO grateful ❤ & Remi is a soothing treat too✨🐕🧡 Thank you for all you do 🧡
To anyone struggling: you'll get through this ✨❤️🌿 Be patient with yourself 🤗 Lots of self care, discovery & re-discovery of your wonderful essence ✨🙏🧡🌈💫✌️😉
I know, my mother died and my brother refused to say something on the funeral. He and lot of others where connected via Internet due to the Covid situation and distance. After the funeral I did not hear from him so called him and the only thing he did was complaining about the performance of the connection😔. At that moment I was confused but after I learned about narcissistic behavior recognized his strange behavior then and always when having contact.
Welcome to NYC, Paula! Wishing you a wonderful time. Love both Remy and Guinness.
Thank you so much!
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I needed this. It's been since December 2022 that he dumped me in a parking lot at 2 am in the morning 3000 miles away from any family. I got a nice job. I saved and finally moved into my apartment. I have been grateful for narc con and counseling. I have learned so much, but then something happened. It is like I'm feeling pain all over again. Two years later...all the memories are even more vivid and I'm feeling angry that he is haunting me. Is this normal?
Yes it’s safe to grieve now…do so and look then to your next life purpose/passion 🌹
Thank you, Paula. ❤ 🙏
2 weeks after my Dad passed away, she came over to meet me. I thought I was having a heart to heart conversation with her. Later that day, she told me I'm using the death of my Father as a sympathy card, then proceeded to discarding me like I'm a worthless piece of trash. I was with this awful, miserable person for 10 years. I wasted the prime of my life on her.
I finally discarded the Narcissist in my life. Holding my boundaries, maintaining no contact. Being made to feel like a narcissist for discarding him. Getting the guilt trips, because he's my Father. 🙄 Oh the irony. Of course reverse uno is being projected on me.
Our Mom passed night before around 10 PM, at 8am brothers pull up wear sunglasses, didn't recognize them whole other persona & attitude. Neither planned for present or retirement. I was opposite, first thing my narc younger brothers sarcastically mocked "So what are you going to do now Dori? They went to a lawless lawyer to change terms behind my back out of greed. Five years later still in court, suspended older brother as Trustee, caught them red handed embezzling massive amounts, pure evil malice destruction envy. Omitted small income property my Mom & I bought for a song, no mortgage from even existing in the assets. Turned into total creepy thieves con artists. I lost my Mom, friend & business partner we were so close, still I'm devastated with the loss. Plus dream of one day having A whole new loving family like the good lucky people enjoying simple pleasures in life. Even though having a hard time, refuse to let them steal my joy.
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So true. They will take advantage of your loved ones death.
My dad was in hospital after suffering from a stroke and other medical complications in 2014. My ex and i went for lunch on a Friday afternoon and i told her i almost lost my father . I repeated it a second time thinking she did not hear me. Her reply with a smug look on her face was why don’t ya go back there then. On the Sunday i received a call from my sister that my dad had died.
These people really are sick.
Looking back now when she told me to go back it was her way of discarding me. The she roped me back in with constant hovering of fake support because she knew i would be coming into some money from my dad’s will. I wish i knew about these vile people back then.
My narcissistic neighbor came over some weeks after the death of a very close friend of my father and the only thing she said was "It's a bummer he died, he was going to show me around in his house, but now I'll never be able to buy it." I felt a bit nauseous when I heard that, like "okay, what in the world did the mouth say right there?!"
I can’t wait for the part 2. Her mother passed and during the whole process she kept thanking me for taking care of so much and being there for her emotionally. I also caught on to 2 other guys from the past coming around and trying to be friends again. they also came to all the viewings and sat through the entire funeral service. Just 3 months before her mother getting sick and through that year and a half of her mother being sick I was getting weird vibes and she was acting different. She was taking me into the bedroom but not getting into bed with me, just staying on top of the sheets and blankets and ignoring me. I didn’t say anything but I paid attention. Then one day the kids asked if I went out for a smoke at 11:30 the night before and I said “no, I was sleeping at that time” then my other boy asked if I came in the house around 12:00 midnight because he had his window open and it sounded like there was something going on at the side of the house. I started putting things together and I told her that the neighbours have cameras so I’m going to ask for footage. She said “go ahead, I don’t know what it’s going to do for you but whatever”. When I asked the neighbour to look between certain times they said they could hear things but they couldn’t see anything because the cameras did not face my property. I then told her that I was going to install cameras on my house. She said “I think you should so we feel comfortable around here”. After I did those 2 guys stopped coming around, arguments started happening and she started blaming me for working so much and not spending time with her in our relationship. I asked why this is all coming up now and she said “you think I was ok with you not holding my hand when we went here or there?” I said “come to think of it, you never did care to hold my hand but you did here and there. Why?, were you holding someone else’s hand back then and they started coming back around just before your mom got sick?” Did that ever hit like a ton of bricks. I have heard words come out of someone’s mouth like that in my life! I was told I’m insecure, I’m bipolar, I’m crazy, I’m a narcissist, a piece of shit, if I would’ve spent more time with her, maybe we would have been happier, I can go fuk myself, I was never there for her, I was always a problem and I could go on and on with the words that came out of her mouth. I sat there thinking to myself. I run a successful landscaping business, we travel, we enjoy life, we give to the community, we help our family and friends and thank god everyday for blessing me the light of day to go enjoy everything I love in life. How could this be happening. I started putting more of the puzzle together and now I understand why those 2 came back, why 2 of my other friends stopped coming for coffee, going to the gym, calling to see how I was doing and stopped picking up my phone calls. All I have to say is “WHEN SOMEONE DOES YOU WRONG, THEY CANT FACE YOU ANYMORE SO THE DISAPPEAR” her friends stopped calling and started name calling me. Remember I said she called me a narcissist? Well, lucky me these phones listen to us and videos started popping up on my phone. I decided to start watching and maybe learning about it. Let me tell you how she started losing her mind when I was watching them. “Turn the sh*t off!, they’re manipulating your mind!, this is going to fuk up our relationship!, what are you going to do, listen to them! some random people on RUclips, they don’t know me!, they don’t know us!. I sat there and told her “maybe they don’t know us but boy does it ever sound like you and this is why you don’t want me to listen to it”. “Is there a problem with me educating myself? You called me a narcissist so what wrong with me educating myself and maybe looking at something I never did before? Maybe I have to change my ways and it will help our relationship, wouldn’t that be good?” Those people on RUclips are bullsh*t, you want to listen to them, they will destroy us!”. I started laughing and told her “they can’t destroy what you’ve already destroyed. 23 years and you can drop me like a sack of potatoes?”.
I have a question I’d like to ask. When the narcissist is caught, do they keep you away from their friends and family? because her friends started saying that they’re scared for their safety and don’t want to see me. It actually hurts to hear these words but I’m sure it’s because they knew all along of what she was doing. Am I correct or am I going crazy? She has even managed to turn my family against me. It’s actually crazy. When I say I’m shut off from everyone, I mean everyone! I love being alone anyways because I like my peace and going by the water but not like this. I feel like everyone looks at me sideways now.
She's running a smear campaign against you and telling massive lies to her friends and YOUR family so they'll be afraid of you, possibly discard you, and you won't be able to confide in or 'share notes' with them about what a rotten person she is. Your mistake was telling her about checking the neighbors cameras or having some installed. Hindsight is 20/20, I know, but don't ever tell them what you're doing to catch them and / or protect yourself from them. Please protect yourself. Make them do all of their communication through texts so there's a permanent record of their words to you. These people are DIABOLICAL and will take everything from you to try to destroy you.
I experienced the worst of the family narcissists while caring for my dying mother.they showed me who they are during a very difficult time. I’m not going to attend the funeral because I know what will happen.
Great video as usual Paula
I too love new york and manhattan, was there in February.
In part 2,I do hope you bring up how the narcassist acts with a death on their side?
My female narc acted very strangely , no emotion no tears,
I got on very well with both her parents and when her father died was asked not to attend the funeral, not to send flowers etc,like I didn't exist, this quite hurt me , as I liked her father alot,
I have always wondered what she was hiding, if she was?
I never met her brothers or sisters
After awhile I was then blamed for not being supportive enough to her!🤣
I wanted so bad to be there for her as my own father died yrs ago and had no support...,so nw the pain she'd go through!
I hope part two answers these questions...
As I never understood someone including her own daughters that showed not one ounce of emotion!
I sobbed my heart out when my own father died yrs ago, so found this very disturbing!
I'd also be interested in a video about when a narc experiences a death. When my mother's 3rd husband died, I was shocked and so confused at her behavior, and lack of emotion. Also, the weeks and days leading up to his death, her behavior was very strange, as well.
@@christinelamb1167How did he die? Are you insinuating she may have had something to do with his death?
@@timmywitty1432 No, she didn't do anything to cause his death. He had been not feeling well, but the doctor didn't run any tests until he was severely ill. Then they found out he had end stage leukemia. But my mother's lack of care or emotion was pretty stunning. Not out of the norm for her, though. She never cared much for what anyone else was going through, including illness. Then, after he died, all she cared about was if his kids (all grown adults) were going to contest the will.
I never saw her shed an actual tear over his death.
You not sending flowers would feed into a smear campaign against you and not attending…you are ‘so bad and don’t care’…🌹
I did say to all her children ,that I wanted to be at the funeral, and that I felt it wasn't right not to be there,but if they are narcsssitic too , it's all a game to them!
But you are right Paula,(as usual)
Thankfully as I live so far away any smear campaign I had ,wouldn't of filtered down to me,only people we both had a mutual friendship with she blocked,
Thank you for your reply Paula, it answers yet another question that has bugged me for awhile...
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Thank you for you channel. Helps explain what happened.
Welcome!
LOL! Hi Paula, great video tutorial/s as per. Remy sometimes needs a little break from the 'hustle bustle' that goes with the territory of executive production producer/assistant director. Somehow though, I know you'll manage. Enjoy everything that New York has to offer, Cheers! 💖💖🥰
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My mom was put in a nursing home, with dementia, months before she passed. He began an affair at that time, because I was distracted and not around. When she passed, I got a pat on the shoulder and an I'm sorry. After 14 yrs, that was the just of the condolences I received from him. He showed up at her viewinfor 25min and left to be with his girlfriend.
2 weeks later he walked out. This was his mother- in-law. I was left alone to grieve the loss of my mother and the loss of my relationship simultaneously.
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They're just not fully human. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom. Be good to yourself. 😢❤
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Welcome back to NY! We miss Remi. Enjoy your holiday, blessings!!!!
Thank you! You too!
❤☮️ A dog on the window sill! How cute! 😊
I've been waiting for someone to do a video on this topic .hears why...I lost my mother at age 35, my, now I know, narc husband at the time, displayed all of this while raising our 11yr old. I lived in Australia when she passed, and had to come back to N.Z alone for the funeral. That marriage ended a year later. I moved back home to N.Z, & got together with a guy I had been seeing before my X husband. We had a baby, & all was well, until my father passed away. ( 6 years apart from mums death). Andddd the exact same thing happened 😢 Now this time I'm living in the South Island, I needed to going up north the Dad's funeral, alone!😢 Neither men were supportive at all, and I nearly lost my mind over it. I left that relationship quicker than the marriage before. I am now 50, & I am healed from both parent's deaths. I am co partnering with my 2nd child's father, & we get on mostly okay, for our child's sake. Last week his father became unwell, with a tired heart, & will need surgery asap. His parents are well into there 70s and health issues are at play. My question is ( as I live in a small town with his entire family all living here) when the time comes, how do I navigate the situation. I will have my daughter to think of, as it's her only Grandparents. I know for a fact that he will want me at his side for support. Here's where I stand and feel, the abandonment I felt when my father died, was insane, it caused a major breakdown, ,& I really don't want to be the " supporter" for him, yes he's still single, & I just know in my heart he will want that. I still carry resentment towards him, & always felt deep down, when it's your turn, good luck! Such a bad way if thinking, I do know this, but how do I navigate a situation, when it certainly wasn't done for me, it broke the family. I also know I'm already thinking the worst before hand, I just can't help it . Am I wrong to be feeling this way ? I am a Christian, and believe in forgiveness, but I'm struggling on this one already.
There is such a thing as righteous anger. Jesus showed it. You co-parent your daughter with him and that is enough. Let him find his sympathy from someone he hasn't emotionally abandoned. You don't owe him a thing.
@annahedonia 156 Thanks for commenting , that's a great point 🙌💯
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I’m all out of hope
One more bad dream
Could bring a fall
When I'm far from home
Don't call me on the phone
To tell me you're alone
It's easy to deceive
It's easy to tease
But hard to get release
Eyes without a face
(Les yeux sans visage)
Eyes without a face
(Les yeux sans visage)
Eyes without a face
Got no human grace
You're eyes without a face
I spent so much time
Believing all the lies
To keep the dream alive
Now it makes me sad
It makes me mad at truth
For loving what was you
Eyes without a face
(Les yeux sans visage)
Eyes without a face
(Les yeux sans visage)
Eyes without a face
Got no human grace
You're eyes without a face
When you hear the music, you make a dip
Into someone else's pocket then make a slip
Steal a car, go to Las Vegas
Ooh, gigolo pool
Hanging out by the state line
Turning holy water into wine
Drinkin' it down, oh
I'm on a bus, on a psychedelic trip
Reading murder books, tryin' to stay hip
I'm thinkin' of you, you're out there so
Say your prayers
Say your prayers
Say your prayers
Now I close my eyes
And I wonder why
I don't despise
Now all I can do
Love what was once
So alive and new
But it's gone from your eyes
I'd better realize
Eyes without a face
(Les yeux sans visage)
Eyes without a face
(Les yeux sans visage)
Eyes without a face
Got no human grace
You're eyes without a face
Such a human waste
You're eyes without a face
And now it's getting worse
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Mine was actually happy at the death of my Mom. His Mother passed away over 20 years ago. He told me....Ain't no fun when the rabbit got the gun. I told him, everybody dies. That was horrible!
Thanks Paula! Enjoy your trip ❤
Thank you, I will do best 🥰
His father died he didn't even cry he was like a stone and he never spoke about it. He went straight back to work like nothing happened and he claimed his father was close to him and I doubted it. If anything he criticed his parents alot especially his mother.
My youngest brother, whom I have come to believe is a covert narcissist, waited until after our mother's death to manipulatively move to take control of our family property and business. I've been dealing with the hurt and pain of that betrayal, still trying to understand his behavior. (I wound up filing a lawsuit to get free of the partnership and to get a portion of my inheritance) Just the year before Mom's death, however, he became involved with a woman (he was married and had two teens). His wife's father passed away and he went with her to the funeral in another state, but chose the night after the funeral to tell his wife about the other woman - he wanted her permission, apparently, to change their marriage to "open." I've wondered at the sheer cold-bloodedness of his timing, but this makes sense. It was his opportunity to manipulate his wife into agreeing (which she did, for a time). It's confusing because there are signs of autism, especially in the other brother - are they both autistic underneath it all? Can they be both? It's chilling how cold-blooded the younger one is.
Are autistic people cold-blooded? I don't think so. You're dealing with an Antisocial Personality Disordered (ASPD) person a.k.a. Psychopathic, possibly Narcissistic, too.
❤ Enjoy your time in NY! I had a sociopathic associate for a time. A gynoid. No soul?
🇹🇹💯🇹🇹 Hi hi. It's great to hear your take on this topic.
Tell Guinness hi for me.
Incidentally, I have a cat called Whiskee!
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Good morning Paula and sweet Remy I missed this video was moving to a different town in the state I live in. Manhattan NYC awesome welcome to my city and state born and raised I'm from the borough of Queens 😊🍎
Great city Shirlspark 🥰
Thank you so much Paula, this is so true. I hope you enjoy Manhattan ❤🙏❤️I also look forward to a discussion about energy, I am sure that it will be insightful too.