I’m going through this now at my current company. This is my first job and I have realized over the course of the past 2 years I’ve been here that my manager is a nice leader. At first I thought it was a good thing, but over time I’ve seen how his “niceness” has destroyed our trust and respect in him. My team makes fun of him behind his back, mocks his decisions, and has no confidence in his plans or ideas.
Thank you for sharing your insights. Your wisdom, which comes from your experience and the way you see the world, has been applicable not only in business, but in different areas of my life as well. Keep doing what you're doing!
Thank you Leila! Ive been really struggling with this. This is great guidance and makes me see that there is a way to have. Good heart & still have self respect too. 💝
I've had to learn this the hard way by through trial and error. I realized that how I was raised and how I let people treat me was a cause that crept into my leadership style. It would fuck up my decision making process and make me look incompetent over time. Great knowledge on you part. Thank you for taking the time to articulate that
This needed to be said, and I appreciate this video. Obviously as always it’s important to balance this perspective among other leading strategies, too (which some folks in these comments may not understand). You rock. Thanks for this!
It's a like personal training. You simply can't handle people with "kid gloves". They are coming to you for accountability! They need that! Holding people to what they said they wanted to do is key. You don't have to hurt feelings but you can't be attached to what you think clients think of you. You are giving honest data, feedback, its not emotional, but it can be. Tell people the truth & your reputation will attract the exact people who need you and you want to train!! No one will grow if you insulate them from reality. GUIDE them, support them, encourage! But don't soften the failures or deadlines. Have fun! Do the hard things!
I think this can be boiled down to 'do what is required to win'. Winning means putting the business interests and those of the general team over a person who cannot perform as well. Being nice lets mediocre people stay, being kind and wanting to win means that you let people go.
👏🏾Leila is undoubtedly one of the most valuable managers and leaders I know when it comes to clear communication. The concept of emotional intelligence seems to elude many managers and leaders today, but Leila is doing an incredible job of helping others understand that emotional discomfort is often a catalyst for growth, enabling teams to reach their full potential.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Hi Leila, I remember listening to this story on one of your podcast episodes (I hope that I am remembering that correctly). Thank you again for sharing your experience and lessons and doing so in a way that is easy to understand and connect with. Kindness over 'niceness' always! 😊
Niceness is weakness. Nice avoids confrontation and offense. Nice doesn't hold others accountable. Be KIND. Kindly set boundaries. Kindly handle confrontation with humility. Kindness is strength, but it will make you enemies. Be ok with that! Even Jesus was kind, not nice.
I’m going through this now at my current company. This is my first job and I have realized over the course of the past 2 years I’ve been here that my manager is a nice leader. At first I thought it was a good thing, but over time I’ve seen how his “niceness” has destroyed our trust and respect in him. My team makes fun of him behind his back, mocks his decisions, and has no confidence in his plans or ideas.
Thank you so much ❤
Thank you for sharing your insights. Your wisdom, which comes from your experience and the way you see the world, has been applicable not only in business, but in different areas of my life as well. Keep doing what you're doing!
Thank you Leila! Ive been really struggling with this. This is great guidance and makes me see that there is a way to have. Good heart & still have self respect too. 💝
You absolutely CRUSHED this. I couldn’t agree with you more!
I've had to learn this the hard way by through trial and error. I realized that how I was raised and how I let people treat me was a cause that crept into my leadership style. It would fuck up my decision making process and make me look incompetent over time. Great knowledge on you part. Thank you for taking the time to articulate that
She's been consistent since starting her channel. Great video! This will help a lot of people. It helped me a lot!
I was just promoted to my first leadership position, and this is my biggest weakness. Thank you, Leila. Time for some hard conversations.
Kindness Always Wins
This needed to be said, and I appreciate this video. Obviously as always it’s important to balance this perspective among other leading strategies, too (which some folks in these comments may not understand).
You rock. Thanks for this!
beautiful office. i like this setting and info amazing as always.
Phenomenal info
This video is so necessary. This one and all the others to say the truth 🙌🏽
Excellent
Trying to overcome this mindset myself for my business. Thank you 🙏🏽
thank u i am nice and it is stressing me out smfh. i gotta be better!
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What I needed right now! Thank you Leila ❤
Amazing!
It's a like personal training. You simply can't handle people with "kid gloves". They are coming to you for accountability! They need that! Holding people to what they said they wanted to do is key. You don't have to hurt feelings but you can't be attached to what you think clients think of you. You are giving honest data, feedback, its not emotional, but it can be. Tell people the truth & your reputation will attract the exact people who need you and you want to train!! No one will grow if you insulate them from reality. GUIDE them, support them, encourage! But don't soften the failures or deadlines. Have fun! Do the hard things!
I think this can be boiled down to 'do what is required to win'. Winning means putting the business interests and those of the general team over a person who cannot perform as well.
Being nice lets mediocre people stay, being kind and wanting to win means that you let people go.
👏🏾Leila is undoubtedly one of the most valuable managers and leaders I know when it comes to clear communication. The concept of emotional intelligence seems to elude many managers and leaders today, but Leila is doing an incredible job of helping others understand that emotional discomfort is often a catalyst for growth, enabling teams to reach their full potential.
Thank you Leila. Your amazing videos are helping me build an amazing business.
Also your advices also help my personal life! 💗
Yes and no. Too much confrontation is bad. This is really not as cut and dry as you lay it out to be.
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Hi Leila,
I remember listening to this story on one of your podcast episodes (I hope that I am remembering that correctly). Thank you again for sharing your experience and lessons and doing so in a way that is easy to understand and connect with. Kindness over 'niceness' always! 😊
agreed!
Niceness is weakness. Nice avoids confrontation and offense. Nice doesn't hold others accountable. Be KIND. Kindly set boundaries. Kindly handle confrontation with humility. Kindness is strength, but it will make you enemies. Be ok with that! Even Jesus was kind, not nice.
Someone should show this to Justin Baldoni 😅
Please make us a giveaway to encourage ❤❤
I was skeptical at first but The Censored Guide to Wealth on Bovolorus really blew my mind
Pls start a nonprofit for young women to get inspired by your work!!
wtf are you talking about?
1st here again for my daily dose of mental peace 🕊️🕊️🕊️
wtf are you talking about. If you want mental peace then get off RUclips. And nobody cares that you’re “1st” on the video. Grow up.