Have you guys discussed how soon you want to start a family? If it’s a couple years down the road you could live somewhere else for a time and move back to Ohio (if you’re still inclined to) when you’re ready. This is the only time in your life when you get to make that decision without having to factor what’s best for the children. I’d take advantage of it now and not ever wonder “what if.”
I think one thing this is really showing both of you is that you are truly a team and truly happy TOGETHER! The common theme is that you're happy when you're together - regardless of where that is!
What really helps me in making big life changing decisions is that nothing is permanent, you can always change your mind. So let's say you decide to move to Charlotte and buy a house here, but a year down the line, you feel like you really miss that vicinity of your families and "old" friends, of course you're allowed to pick up things, sell the house and move some place more desirable. Maybe it's not the most convenient thing to do, but certainly, it's not impossible. This way of thinking takes away so much weight I personally put on those decisions that becomes a little bit easier to see what I really want and not "need" to do. I hope it helps 🤞🏻
Ultimately you’ll know what feels right for *you*, but as someone in their mid-30s who got married and had a baby over the last couple last years, if I were in your shoes, I’d really try to make the most of the freedom you have right now. You’ve set up your life to be able to travel and live anywhere for the time being. Nothing is impossible, but once you settle down and have kids, you might not have an opportunity like this for a while because your priorities will change by necessity. Savor this moment! You’re still young :)
Clancy as an outsider looking in, I think Cincinnati is your comfort zone and it is comfortable. I get it, we live in cincy too and my husbands family is here. Everyone says we shld stay if we plan on having kids because it takes a village. It is a hard decision but if you can realize that cincy is your comfort zone it might help you make a decision on whether or not you want to get out of your comfort zone. Praying for your clarity!🥰
As a new mom - if you have family you get along with, being near them is a god send. I have leaned heavily on my family and in laws. I don't know how I would have survived that first year without them. So if you're considering kids anytime soon, I would highly suggest being near one of your families.
Absolutely! I was a mess living away from family when I had my babies. We moved back to be near family. It broke my heart my kids didn't know their cousins and grandparents well. We also really needed the support system with our kiddos.
I was just going to comment this! It’s a win for you as a couple, your child, and the family members. We literally wouldn’t be able to have date nights without my mom 🤣 and my daughter is so in love with my mom and it’s so nice having someone I 100% trust to watch her whenever I need.
I went through the same thing when I first got married. We didn’t own anything yet and I tried to convince my husband we should move south just for the experience because neither of us had ever lived somewhere other than our hometown. We never did for lots of reasons but then started having kids and bought land in our hometown and built a home. So now we’re gonna be here for at least 18 years😂 I don’t regret it too much because we can still go places on vacation, it’s just a bit harder now!
I’ve been dealing with chronic illness since 2014, and just started getting symptoms of ulcerative colitis. I thought I had healed my stomach issues (ibs/sibo related) but it’s always another day another new symptom. Thankfully my doctors in nyc have helped way more than the ones I saw in Denver. You’re not alone in constantly feeling like shit and not getting answers. Hope you feel better soon or at the very least find some type of relief!
This church experience makes me so excited for you! I am a Christian and have been praying for you since I started watching around 2016 or 2017! I truly love you and you have brightened up my life!
I was 19 when I bought my house. Make sure you look at location, school zone. Also look at interest rates. Make sure it is locked in and won't change. As far as having a child, I bought my house and wasn't pregnant. I moved an hour away. It is really hard for family to come and help. If i was closer it would be easier. I will say I love my house how I do wish I had house goals, lol . I wish it was closer because it is harder for my child to bond with family because they are over an hour away. You all will decide what is best no matter what A house is an investment. Good luck
being away from everyone is exciting for a short period. once the excitement settles, the “homesick” feeling starts creeping in. If i were in your shoes, I’d pick cincinnati.
Hi Clancy, I know what it is like to not feel well and have those symptoms for an extended period of time and frequently. It is awful and really interferes with everyday life. I hope you feel better. 💗
Nausea always makes my jaw clench & I get the shivers as well. I think it a fight or flight response because being nauseated is kind of scary and is the WORST feeling. Don’t forget how much stress you have been under over the past few months. It can really mess with your immunity.❤
I moved to the UK from Australia, got married and now having baby #2. I am 27 hour flight away from all of my family and my husband is a 3 hour flight away from his family. Yes being far away from your family when you have kids can be hard, but you cherish your family so much more in my opinion if your far away and travel to see them. For us it just makes sense. I grew up living far away from my grandparents and always LOVED getting on a plane and having a big holiday in a different country visiting family every year 😊
I live in Southern California so I could not imagine living in the cold, so I understand you completely there, but there really is nothing like your kids being able to grow up with their family around, especially grandparents. As a mom of two, there's nothing like seeing the joy in my kids' faces to see their grandparents! Bonus: free babysitting 😄
The florida house architecture isn’t really my cup of tea either (and I’m a Floridian) but to be fair all of our homes since 2005 are built with strict hurricane protocols! The traditional stucco fl home withstands storms the best 👏👏
As an older person I can tell you that if you have a loving support system you’ll want to be near them especially when you start having a family. Plus I’ve lived in NC most of my life and if you’re gonna live in Charlotte you might as well live in Ohio. I wish you the best in whatever decision you make!!
I’m sorry you’ve been so sick. The nausea could be from the constant congestion. It runs down while your sleeping and could be irritating your stomach. I hope the medications help you feel better!
I totally agree with you! Yes you guys could easily meet friends in St. Pete, but like you mentioned, the older you get, you don’t go out as much on the town meeting friends like your early 20’s. Once you get married and “settle down” and get older, it’s SOOOO NICE to have solid years-long friends and family near. And Cinci is way cheaper than Florida! Whatever decision you all make will be the right one! Don’t stress 😊
Lol the last vlog I watched you were talking about throwing up and my husband in the background was like “why is this girl talking about throwing up” and then I watched this vlog and my husband walked in when you were talking about throwing up and he’s like “why do you watch a girl talking about throwing up all the time?” LOL and now he calls you throw up girl 😂
Just moved back home after living in SoCal for a couple years and I am so happy with this decision. When I was living far from my family and friends, I constantly felt like I was in survival mode because I didn't have that safety net. It was so taxing on my mental health
I think it’s normal to feel conflicted! I live in NYC but my parents have a place in south Florida. When I’m in the city I’m always set on living here and love having friends around but when I’m in Florida I’m ALWAYS tempted to move here so I think it’s normal to have a change of opinion/plans when you’re in an area for a bit of time
These big life decisions are hard! I’d consider going to do another month in Charlotte or St Pete - I think since y’all are further removed from being there you’re forgetting how much you loved it! I don’t envy the decisions you’re making ❤
i mean this in the most respectful way possible but it seems like you’re just choosing the safer option bc moving to a new place is scary. however, i moved from South Carolina to Cali and it felt like a diff planet but it was the best decision i ever made!! 🖤✨
Hope you are feeling better! I had the same stomach issued when I had my last sinus and upper respiratory infection. My Dr called it "booger belly". Once the antibiotics knocked out the infection and I rebalanced everything I felt so much better. I hope that is the case for you as well. Your priorities will always be shifting, so find somewhere you feel most comfortable and have a great support system.
Definitly not angry but concerned for you and Zac! I hope your illness isn't a product of stress or anxiety or anything. It's a strange time but you will find a place to settle down. I am with you that family is invaluable to have nearby when kids come along. I moved back to my hometown after I had kids because I realized how important (and helpful) it is! Personally not a fan of Florida to raise kids but you gotta go with your gut and just look and look and look. You'll find it!
I love the Clancy vlogs!! I went to the er today for a sinus check and they told me i had Covid!! what a mess. at least your news is better. your thumbnails are so fun to see what you come up with!!
Clancy, you can always sell the house and move if you don’t like it where ever you decide. Buying a house isn’t a marriage, you don’t have to stay forever. Have FUN right now and just do what feels right for now, it doesn’t have to be permanent! ❤️ Also- I just threw up like a month ago for the first time in over a decade! It’s the worst!
I’m so sorry you’re feeling sick lately Clancy! I hope and pray you start feeling better soon! Please keep being your genuine authentic self! I love you show us your good days and bad days as well. We’re all human and need to remind ourselves it’s okay to show that we’re not always okay. ❤
Whenever I live somewhere, or even when I travel somewhere, I always say “it’s not where I am, it’s who I’m with” so if you’ve got a solid group of people in Cincinnati then you should definitely do it!
I got married at 24 and moved to Florida right after. Got pregnant and knew I needed to go home despite absolutely hating my home state. We just celebrated our 10 year anniversary, and are pregnant with our 5th boy and still live in the state we both absolutely hate because family has been an important piece of raising our kids.
Best of luck on wherever you decide to live!!! I’m househunting in Cincy right now and you are so right - it is the most gut-led and emotionally trying journey seeing photos to seeing it in person. Whatever will be is right for you ❤
Our family has been so sick this yr between lingering coughs and rotavirus, it's been a rough yr. But thankfully everyone has finally recovered, hope you both feel better soon.
***Clancy, there’s a sever stomach bug that you get sick, get better a few days and then it attacks you again. Like 2 weeks solid. Rest and stay hydrated with pedialyte to keep your electrolytes in order. Good luck honey. Btw. Highly contagious
It’s okay to change your mind. Here is more food for thought (not to over complicate things). Maybe Charlotte is the sweet spot. Warmer, but you still have seasons, not as far as FL from both of ya’ll’s parents so that means more possibility of visiting a bit more or them visiting you more. And also close enough to do beaches on the weekends if you wanted.
When you get sick you should always CHANGE YOUR TOOTHBRUSH! So important!! Viruses can hang out there for quite sometime, they're very sturdy and you can just keep reinfecting yourself unknowingly. Throw your current brush away and get out a freshy, repeat as needed.
I was just about to say the same thing! It's amazing how an illness can linger on your toothbrush. I've taught my sons to do it as well, and also plenty of friends. People just don't think of it at the time.
Hi Clancy, hope you’re feeling better! I’m 28 and my bf and I have been through the wringer and back again trying to come to a decision where we want to live. I constantly toy with the idea of leaving our hometown, but truly it’s where our support system is. I want to want to leave, but I get severe anxiety over the thought of moving so far from home. I pray you get the clarity you need, I understand this “floating aimlessly” feeling and it’s not fun!!😂❤
Hi Clancy, I also think your rising anxiety is when you do not feel in control and for the moment; the finding a home is sending your stress and anxiety levels through the roof and your body carries the lung, digestive symptoms are an added side effect of your rising anxiety. But you process life through your prefrontal lobes and you are very right brain and by being analytical and problem solving - anxiety serves to motivate you to try to solve a problem - you cannot resolve in a moment eg finding a new home and spending your hard earned money - and this is one of the biggest decisions of your life - this is not an easy decision to make - and all of the latter results in your rising anxiety. Hope this helps.
Hope you're feeling better soon! I can understand the feeling of being indecisive about where to live. I went through something like that nearly 4 years ago now, but then I ended up getting a job offer for a specific city, so the decision was made easy for me. I will be happy for you guys no matter what decision you make!
Pick a warm place that has consistent, direct, cheap flights to both Ohio and New York. Then family visits with the baby will be easier. My husband and I are expecting our first baby early this summer, and my family lives in Canada and his lives overseas! We don't have any friends in our state yet, lol. But despite living far, we have QUALITY visits when we do visit home. When I lived near family I didn't see them more often than I do now, haha. You also work remotely so you won't really need family to babysit your kids while you work.
I'm long hauling with chronic immunity and spinal issues. If people get mad at that.. they are insane. I'm sorry you don't feel well... truly. Good for you for advocating for you. Keep at it and I hope you see improvement soon. Hugs!!
So happy you finally went to the Doctor. If you are sick for more than 7 days I promise you won't be improving alone. I truly miss living in Cincinnati. I think Cincy is a great place to raise a family and own a house with great restaurants and major sports teams. In the end, you and Zac will make the right choice.
Clancy, you are entitled to be sick anytime it happens ! If you're sick, you're sick, it happens. It's going around more than usual. Ignore the bad comments.
I moved an hour and a half away from family for a job and always said it would only be for a year. It’s been 9 years now and I just had a baby…I so wish I never made the move and miss my family like crazy. Me and my husband plan to move closer to my family next year once I’m vested at my job. Don’t move far! You’ve done your traveling and exploring and at this age it’s hard to make new solid friendships. I vote to stay closer to family and friends 💜
Clancy and Zac- my boyfriend and I understand where you are at. We moved last spring from NH back to Long Island (my parents have a rental property there, so we are saving money) and we miss our NH lifestyle so much that we are looking to go back. When you find the right fit, you will know.
Aww, I hope in the end y’all are both happy! I think staying close to friends and family is such a big plus, and like you said, it’s so much cheaper when it comes to buying! You can always vacation back to your favorite spots… 💕
I would definitely not buy a house in FL right now. It's only a matter of time before the bottom drops out of the property market with what's happening with the government, schools and healthcare.
Just to clarify with you Clancy, Catholic is basically a denomination of Christianity. They both have a similar belief and faith but slightly different. There are all different denominations within The Church. For example Baptist, Lutheran , Presbyterian, etc. Some churches are just nondenominational, like the church you’ve been attending, I presume. I’m so glad you’ve been going to church and enjoying it. Praying for you and Zac! Praying for your faith!!!!
I would not rush into buying your family home now. Go live where it wil be warmer during the winters for 2-3 yrs. Trust me, once you start having kids then there is no turning back. I enjoyed being married for 7 years before we had children. Then move back if you are still missing your friends and family.
I am so sorry you have been so sick Clancy, get well soon hun :) It boggles me anyone would get upset with the fact you are sick you truly do not deserve that. I hope you are well and feeling 100 percent soon.
Why don't you and Zach get an Airbnb in St. Pete for a month or two, and then see how you feel about things after that? I say this because live abroad, and my friends and I always talk about how going back home is like stepping back into the Matrix. It's comfortable, easy, and fun, but there's a reason that we left. If we all got complacent in the "comfortability" of home, we'd be cutting our potential short! Obviously, doing that isn't the right decision for everyone, but I can totally relate to how you're feeling and wanted to throw in my two cents!
I'll also add that it is SO NICE being able to go home for a visit! At least for my fiance and I, when we come back home, we spend so much more *quality* time with everyone that we love. It's different than when we lived there (in a really good way). The nice thing about your job and Zach's job is that if you do decide to move away and have kids, you can spend long stints visiting both of your families (if you want). It's kind of the best of both worlds. That's a huge bonus!
can't wait to see your house journey!! it's nice to have all the options open but makes it that much harder to make a decision. I think it would be a good thing to stay around family if you're planning on having kids in the next few years too, and if you can get what you like for cheaper, it's a pretty good win all around.
I'm from NH, but moved to OH in 98. Thought I'd move back, but met my husband and stayed. I honestly love it here. Shopping and dining in downtown miamisburg is so quaint, yellow springs is awesome and fun, etc. And the downtown foodie scene has exploded in recent years. 😋 Even with inflation, Dayton is a big bang for your buck. We have talked about NC for retirement, but I'm happy here for now raising our daughter.
Sinus stuff can cause nausea so hopefully the meds will fix it. What you say about staying there makes perfect sense. You have the freedom to rent an air b&b for a month or 2 in FL over winter if you want. At least until you have kids in school. Friends and family once you have kids will be important.
You can always vacation in Florida, especially since you both work remote. You could probably go to FL for several weeks a year and still be saving money by living in Ohio!
But Clancy… I hear you. I’ve lived away from my friends and family and it was horrible and I felt so lonely. On the other hand even though Ohio feels perfect there’s a reason you guys went in this nomad journey. There’s a reason you wanted to head south and I think it was mainly the weather. Mainly because you wanted to enjoy the entire year and not just half. I get both sides and like y’all said the other day because you have so many options it makes it more difficult. I think when you do eventually make this final decision don’t take in JUST your current emotion. Take in everything. How many times would you see Zacs parents when you lived there? If the answer is once every two months then it’s not worth it to stay when you can still travel with both of you having that freedom. And I get it if st Pete renting and the prices is still too much but just take in everything
Lovely message about how excited you were to find this type of church service. Thanks for being comfortable sharing. I don’t remember you being sick until recently so I’m not sure why people would make a negative comment.
A different prospective… I moved from Texas (where all my friends and family live) to Florida in august. I have three children. And I’m only 25. And it has been the absolute best. I’m so happy here. It’s like I’m on vacation all the time. My husband is an entrepreneur. While I miss my family and friends… there were so many signs for me to move to Florida.
Praying that you feel better really soon! And I know that God will lead you and Zac into the right direction regarding your living situation. ❤️ can’t wait until Wednesday!!
Something that helps me when I have my stomach issues is drinking tea. Just something warm and refreshing. Mint tea and green tea specifically. It usually does the trick and I have an easier time eating. Also I totally empathize with the hate comments when you're sick part. I have chronic illnesses and if I ever complain (which I hardly do) I get criticized for it? I mean if you are sick I can understand talking about it. Hope you start feeling better soon! Take it easy!
Looking forward to seeing the home you will be touring tomorrow. No question staying near family has so many pluses. One reason I have lived in Charlotte my entire life, my parents live in Charlotte and both of my grandmothers lived in Charlotte until their passing. One thing for sure, buying a home is far better than renting for the majority of people. The only real reason to rent is if one is planning on moving often. Good luck on your journey, homeownership will unfortunately escape alot of young buyers in the next decade due to cost, rates etc.
Praying for you. Hope you feel better soon! I'm glad you're enjoying church. It's a wonderful thing to discover a church that you love, and a preaching style that you enjoy. Also church families are nice just because of the support you gain with them, and it's a GREAT way to meet friends especially if you start getting involved in things around the church. Anyway, Ohio is a fantastic place to live, despite the weather and the current issues with fires, and train derailmnets. I lived here my entire life (Near Akron/Canton) area, so I can see Zac's side of thing when he doesn't really want to stay in Ohio. It's a common thing around people who were born, and raised here. You just kind of want to get the heck out of there. Moving is a big choice, that you can't always change too quickly especially if you're buying a house. Good Luck, I'm praying for you guys to find peace with any decision you make. ❤
Ohio isn’t going anywhere! You can always move back when you have kids. If I were you I would choose somewhere warm, you can always use the home as a rental property in the future
I moved from the west coast to the Midwest and winter is soooo rough. I don’t like it! But you can always vacation during winter (that’s what I do). I also moved away from my family and I wish that I was closer to them especially with kids.
Clancy there’s a stomach flu going around. Me and my kids got it… a lot of other parents are struggling with it all around the country. It sounds like the same thing we had! It took us about 2 weeks to get over it.
One day you will have kids and you will not have the freedom to live anywhere your heart desires. Girl, take advantage that you don’t have kids and live it up anywhere you want, have fun and enjoy your child free life. You may not have this freedom once the kids come.
Happy Saturday clancy an zac glad u enjoy church. Stomach bug an nauseous hope u are not expecting 🤔. No explanation for throwing up hope you feeling better
My 2 cents: Buying a house with the mortgage rate so high...7%. That's pretty high if you guys get 30 year mortgage...of course you can always change it if it lowers but you still have to pay to change to lower rate. We are looking to buy a house (our current house we have 4% mortgage rate) but putting it on hold until rates get a little lower. It's weird to predict because we're not in recession because of low unemploymet but then inflation is still a thing.
Honestly Clancy, it’s common to announce you’re using the bathroom before ordering where I’m from if it’s not busy in the store. Some places reserve the bathroom for paying customers so it’s better safe than sorry 😂
I’m a decade older than you, but bought a house and started a family in Cincinnati and my parents and sister are in Dayton. It’s nice to have my niece and nephews 45 minutes away and my kids get to see their cousins more often.
Clancy I’m 29 and I’m changing my mind every 2 seconds about big life decisions lol I feel you
Hahaha that makes me feel better about my indecisiveness 😂💞
29 too and feel the same way lol
I am the ghost of your future - at 32 still struggling with some of the same decisions from years ago!
Take it from someone who just had a baby, having support close by makes a world of a difference
Yes it does!!
Totally agree!! I’m 3 months postpartum and I’m so thankful we have our families close by
Agreed!!
Agree ❤
Have you guys discussed how soon you want to start a family? If it’s a couple years down the road you could live somewhere else for a time and move back to Ohio (if you’re still inclined to) when you’re ready. This is the only time in your life when you get to make that decision without having to factor what’s best for the children. I’d take advantage of it now and not ever wonder “what if.”
I think one thing this is really showing both of you is that you are truly a team and truly happy TOGETHER! The common theme is that you're happy when you're together - regardless of where that is!
What really helps me in making big life changing decisions is that nothing is permanent, you can always change your mind. So let's say you decide to move to Charlotte and buy a house here, but a year down the line, you feel like you really miss that vicinity of your families and "old" friends, of course you're allowed to pick up things, sell the house and move some place more desirable. Maybe it's not the most convenient thing to do, but certainly, it's not impossible.
This way of thinking takes away so much weight I personally put on those decisions that becomes a little bit easier to see what I really want and not "need" to do. I hope it helps 🤞🏻
Ultimately you’ll know what feels right for *you*, but as someone in their mid-30s who got married and had a baby over the last couple last years, if I were in your shoes, I’d really try to make the most of the freedom you have right now. You’ve set up your life to be able to travel and live anywhere for the time being. Nothing is impossible, but once you settle down and have kids, you might not have an opportunity like this for a while because your priorities will change by necessity. Savor this moment! You’re still young :)
Absolutely agree with you!
THIS 100%
Exactly!
Right! They should do a year in Florida and then see how it goes. Move back home when it’s time to buy and have babies. ❤️
Clancy as an outsider looking in, I think Cincinnati is your comfort zone and it is comfortable. I get it, we live in cincy too and my husbands family is here. Everyone says we shld stay if we plan on having kids because it takes a village. It is a hard decision but if you can realize that cincy is your comfort zone it might help you make a decision on whether or not you want to get out of your comfort zone. Praying for your clarity!🥰
As I've gotten older and my parents have gotten older, I've realized the most important thing is being close to loved ones.
As a new mom - if you have family you get along with, being near them is a god send. I have leaned heavily on my family and in laws. I don't know how I would have survived that first year without them. So if you're considering kids anytime soon, I would highly suggest being near one of your families.
Amazing advice. Thank you! ❤️❤️ (I can’t imagine having kids without family nearby!)
Absolutely! I was a mess living away from family when I had my babies. We moved back to be near family. It broke my heart my kids didn't know their cousins and grandparents well. We also really needed the support system with our kiddos.
I was just going to comment this! It’s a win for you as a couple, your child, and the family members. We literally wouldn’t be able to have date nights without my mom 🤣 and my daughter is so in love with my mom and it’s so nice having someone I 100% trust to watch her whenever I need.
I went through the same thing when I first got married. We didn’t own anything yet and I tried to convince my husband we should move south just for the experience because neither of us had ever lived somewhere other than our hometown. We never did for lots of reasons but then started having kids and bought land in our hometown and built a home. So now we’re gonna be here for at least 18 years😂 I don’t regret it too much because we can still go places on vacation, it’s just a bit harder now!
I’ve been dealing with chronic illness since 2014, and just started getting symptoms of ulcerative colitis. I thought I had healed my stomach issues (ibs/sibo related) but it’s always another day another new symptom. Thankfully my doctors in nyc have helped way more than the ones I saw in Denver. You’re not alone in constantly feeling like shit and not getting answers. Hope you feel better soon or at the very least find some type of relief!
I feel like Zac is right. Ohio is nostalgic and both of your comfort zones. I think if you guys go somewhere else, you'll love it.
This church experience makes me so excited for you! I am a Christian and have been praying for you since I started watching around 2016 or 2017! I truly love you and you have brightened up my life!
I was 19 when I bought my house.
Make sure you look at location, school zone. Also look at interest rates. Make sure it is locked in and won't change.
As far as having a child, I bought my house and wasn't pregnant. I moved an hour away. It is really hard for family to come and help. If i was closer it would be easier. I will say I love my house how I do wish I had house goals, lol . I wish it was closer because it is harder for my child to bond with family because they are over an hour away.
You all will decide what is best no matter what
A house is an investment. Good luck
being away from everyone is exciting for a short period. once the excitement settles, the “homesick” feeling starts creeping in. If i were in your shoes, I’d pick cincinnati.
Hi Clancy, I know what it is like to not feel well and have those symptoms for an extended period of time and frequently. It is awful and really interferes with everyday life. I hope you feel better. 💗
Thank you💞💞
Nausea always makes my jaw clench & I get the shivers as well. I think it a fight or flight response because being nauseated is kind of scary and is the WORST feeling. Don’t forget how much stress you have been under over the past few months. It can really mess with your immunity.❤
Just be gentle with yourself! Your mind will probably continue to change and that's okay ❤ big decisions take time!
I moved to the UK from Australia, got married and now having baby #2. I am 27 hour flight away from all of my family and my husband is a 3 hour flight away from his family. Yes being far away from your family when you have kids can be hard, but you cherish your family so much more in my opinion if your far away and travel to see them. For us it just makes sense. I grew up living far away from my grandparents and always LOVED getting on a plane and having a big holiday in a different country visiting family every year 😊
I live in Southern California so I could not imagine living in the cold, so I understand you completely there, but there really is nothing like your kids being able to grow up with their family around, especially grandparents. As a mom of two, there's nothing like seeing the joy in my kids' faces to see their grandparents! Bonus: free babysitting 😄
Same! Southern Cali here!
It’s never free - there’s always strings attached 😂
@@Odiekins true!!
@@Tiffssweetspot don't love the cost of living here, but can't beat the weather!
The florida house architecture isn’t really my cup of tea either (and I’m a Floridian) but to be fair all of our homes since 2005 are built with strict hurricane protocols! The traditional stucco fl home withstands storms the best 👏👏
As an older person I can tell you that if you have a loving support system you’ll want to be near them especially when you start having a family. Plus I’ve lived in NC most of my life and if you’re gonna live in Charlotte you might as well live in Ohio. I wish you the best in whatever decision you make!!
Love how happy & open you are about going to church ❤
I’m sorry you’ve been so sick. The nausea could be from the constant congestion. It runs down while your sleeping and could be irritating your stomach. I hope the medications help you feel better!
I totally agree with you! Yes you guys could easily meet friends in St. Pete, but like you mentioned, the older you get, you don’t go out as much on the town meeting friends like your early 20’s. Once you get married and “settle down” and get older, it’s SOOOO NICE to have solid years-long friends and family near. And Cinci is way cheaper than Florida! Whatever decision you all make will be the right one! Don’t stress 😊
Exactly!!! Cincy just feels right. Idk!! Thank you! 💞
Lol the last vlog I watched you were talking about throwing up and my husband in the background was like “why is this girl talking about throwing up” and then I watched this vlog and my husband walked in when you were talking about throwing up and he’s like “why do you watch a girl talking about throwing up all the time?” LOL and now he calls you throw up girl 😂
Just moved back home after living in SoCal for a couple years and I am so happy with this decision. When I was living far from my family and friends, I constantly felt like I was in survival mode because I didn't have that safety net. It was so taxing on my mental health
I think it’s normal to feel conflicted! I live in NYC but my parents have a place in south Florida. When I’m in the city I’m always set on living here and love having friends around but when I’m in Florida I’m ALWAYS tempted to move here so I think it’s normal to have a change of opinion/plans when you’re in an area for a bit of time
These big life decisions are hard! I’d consider going to do another month in Charlotte or St Pete - I think since y’all are further removed from being there you’re forgetting how much you loved it! I don’t envy the decisions you’re making ❤
i mean this in the most respectful way possible but it seems like you’re just choosing the safer option bc moving to a new place is scary. however, i moved from South Carolina to Cali and it felt like a diff planet but it was the best decision i ever made!! 🖤✨
Same. I’m from the midlands and moved to SoCal. Husband is military. I feel like I have lived in the 2 most beautiful states and feel spoiled ❤
Hope you are feeling better! I had the same stomach issued when I had my last sinus and upper respiratory infection. My Dr called it "booger belly". Once the antibiotics knocked out the infection and I rebalanced everything I felt so much better. I hope that is the case for you as well. Your priorities will always be shifting, so find somewhere you feel most comfortable and have a great support system.
Booger belly hahah I love that 😂
Definitly not angry but concerned for you and Zac! I hope your illness isn't a product of stress or anxiety or anything. It's a strange time but you will find a place to settle down. I am with you that family is invaluable to have nearby when kids come along. I moved back to my hometown after I had kids because I realized how important (and helpful) it is! Personally not a fan of Florida to raise kids but you gotta go with your gut and just look and look and look. You'll find it!
I love the Clancy vlogs!! I went to the er today for a sinus check and they told me i had Covid!! what a mess. at least your news is better. your thumbnails are so fun to see what you come up with!!
The perfect Sunday morning part.. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️so happy you are enjoying church!!
Clancy, you can always sell the house and move if you don’t like it where ever you decide. Buying a house isn’t a marriage, you don’t have to stay forever. Have FUN right now and just do what feels right for now, it doesn’t have to be permanent! ❤️
Also- I just threw up like a month ago for the first time in over a decade! It’s the worst!
Honestly when you work from home the winter weather doesn't feel so bad
I’m so sorry you’re feeling sick lately Clancy! I hope and pray you start feeling better soon! Please keep being your genuine authentic self! I love you show us your good days and bad days as well. We’re all human and need to remind ourselves it’s okay to show that we’re not always okay. ❤
Thank you, Alondra!!!🥹💞
Happy Weekend! Thank you for sharing your life with us. Hope you're feeling better and have some clarity about things! sending love
Thank you!!!💞
Whenever I live somewhere, or even when I travel somewhere, I always say “it’s not where I am, it’s who I’m with” so if you’ve got a solid group of people in Cincinnati then you should definitely do it!
I got married at 24 and moved to Florida right after. Got pregnant and knew I needed to go home despite absolutely hating my home state. We just celebrated our 10 year anniversary, and are pregnant with our 5th boy and still live in the state we both absolutely hate because family has been an important piece of raising our kids.
“z and c” literally is zac 🤣
Clancy remember the feeling of the warm air and not freezing for months at a time.
Do Not push him cuz He WILL recent you at some point! My husband did that to me with Alaska and I still have harbored feeling against that!
Best of luck on wherever you decide to live!!! I’m househunting in Cincy right now and you are so right - it is the most gut-led and emotionally trying journey seeing photos to seeing it in person. Whatever will be is right for you ❤
Ahh good luck to you, too!!! Couldn’t agree more. Whatever is meant to be will be ❤️
Our family has been so sick this yr between lingering coughs and rotavirus, it's been a rough yr. But thankfully everyone has finally recovered, hope you both feel better soon.
***Clancy, there’s a sever stomach bug that you get sick, get better a few days and then it attacks you again. Like 2 weeks solid. Rest and stay hydrated with pedialyte to keep your electrolytes in order. Good luck honey. Btw. Highly contagious
My friend and her husband had the same thing with all of your symptoms. I hope you start feeling better soon. 💜💜
It’s okay to change your mind. Here is more food for thought (not to over complicate things). Maybe Charlotte is the sweet spot. Warmer, but you still have seasons, not as far as FL from both of ya’ll’s parents so that means more possibility of visiting a bit more or them visiting you more. And also close enough to do beaches on the weekends if you wanted.
When you get sick you should always CHANGE YOUR TOOTHBRUSH! So important!! Viruses can hang out there for quite sometime, they're very sturdy and you can just keep reinfecting yourself unknowingly. Throw your current brush away and get out a freshy, repeat as needed.
I was just about to say the same thing! It's amazing how an illness can linger on your toothbrush. I've taught my sons to do it as well, and also plenty of friends. People just don't think of it at the time.
Once your body fights the virus, don't you have antibodies?
Hi Clancy, hope you’re feeling better! I’m 28 and my bf and I have been through the wringer and back again trying to come to a decision where we want to live. I constantly toy with the idea of leaving our hometown, but truly it’s where our support system is. I want to want to leave, but I get severe anxiety over the thought of moving so far from home. I pray you get the clarity you need, I understand this “floating aimlessly” feeling and it’s not fun!!😂❤
Praying and wishing you both best success! Everything will fall into place! Don’t worry or stress over it!
Hi Clancy, I also think your rising anxiety is when you do not feel in control and for the moment; the finding a home is sending your stress and anxiety levels through the roof and your body carries the lung, digestive symptoms are an added side effect of your rising anxiety. But you process life through your prefrontal lobes and you are very right brain and by being analytical and problem solving - anxiety serves to motivate you to try to solve a problem - you cannot resolve in a moment eg finding a new home and spending your hard earned money - and this is one of the biggest decisions of your life - this is not an easy decision to make - and all of the latter results in your rising anxiety. Hope this helps.
Hope you're feeling better soon! I can understand the feeling of being indecisive about where to live. I went through something like that nearly 4 years ago now, but then I ended up getting a job offer for a specific city, so the decision was made easy for me. I will be happy for you guys no matter what decision you make!
Pick a warm place that has consistent, direct, cheap flights to both Ohio and New York. Then family visits with the baby will be easier. My husband and I are expecting our first baby early this summer, and my family lives in Canada and his lives overseas! We don't have any friends in our state yet, lol. But despite living far, we have QUALITY visits when we do visit home. When I lived near family I didn't see them more often than I do now, haha. You also work remotely so you won't really need family to babysit your kids while you work.
I'm long hauling with chronic immunity and spinal issues. If people get mad at that.. they are insane. I'm sorry you don't feel well... truly. Good for you for advocating for you. Keep at it and I hope you see improvement soon. Hugs!!
So happy you finally went to the Doctor. If you are sick for more than 7 days I promise you won't be improving alone. I truly miss living in Cincinnati. I think Cincy is a great place to raise a family and own a house with great restaurants and major sports teams. In the end, you and Zac will make the right choice.
Clancy, you are entitled to be sick anytime it happens ! If you're sick, you're sick, it happens. It's going around more than usual. Ignore the bad comments.
I moved an hour and a half away from family for a job and always said it would only be for a year. It’s been 9 years now and I just had a baby…I so wish I never made the move and miss my family like crazy. Me and my husband plan to move closer to my family next year once I’m vested at my job. Don’t move far! You’ve done your traveling and exploring and at this age it’s hard to make new solid friendships. I vote to stay closer to family and friends 💜
What a bummer that your time with Zac was spent being sick :(. Hope you are on the mend!
Thank you! 💞
Clancy and Zac- my boyfriend and I understand where you are at. We moved last spring from NH back to Long Island (my parents have a rental property there, so we are saving money) and we miss our NH lifestyle so much that we are looking to go back. When you find the right fit, you will know.
Aww, I hope in the end y’all are both happy! I think staying close to friends and family is such a big plus, and like you said, it’s so much cheaper when it comes to buying! You can always vacation back to your favorite spots… 💕
I know you know this but You & Zac will know exactly where to live when you see it. You two are Awesome ♥️. Feel Better, both of you.
I would definitely not buy a house in FL right now. It's only a matter of time before the bottom drops out of the property market with what's happening with the government, schools and healthcare.
Just to clarify with you Clancy, Catholic is basically a denomination of Christianity. They both have a similar belief and faith but slightly different. There are all different denominations within The Church. For example Baptist, Lutheran , Presbyterian, etc. Some churches are just nondenominational, like the church you’ve been attending, I presume. I’m so glad you’ve been going to church and enjoying it. Praying for you and Zac! Praying for your faith!!!!
I would not rush into buying your family home now.
Go live where it wil be warmer during the winters for 2-3 yrs. Trust me, once you start having kids then there is no turning back. I enjoyed being married for 7 years before we had children. Then move back if you are still missing your friends and family.
I am so sorry you have been so sick Clancy, get well soon hun :) It boggles me anyone would get upset with the fact you are sick you truly do not deserve that. I hope you are well and feeling 100 percent soon.
Why don't you and Zach get an Airbnb in St. Pete for a month or two, and then see how you feel about things after that? I say this because live abroad, and my friends and I always talk about how going back home is like stepping back into the Matrix. It's comfortable, easy, and fun, but there's a reason that we left. If we all got complacent in the "comfortability" of home, we'd be cutting our potential short! Obviously, doing that isn't the right decision for everyone, but I can totally relate to how you're feeling and wanted to throw in my two cents!
I'll also add that it is SO NICE being able to go home for a visit! At least for my fiance and I, when we come back home, we spend so much more *quality* time with everyone that we love. It's different than when we lived there (in a really good way). The nice thing about your job and Zach's job is that if you do decide to move away and have kids, you can spend long stints visiting both of your families (if you want). It's kind of the best of both worlds. That's a huge bonus!
Hi clancy!!! Hope you’re having an amazing weekend 🎉
Wow, you’re fast!!! Haha. Thank you, and you too!!!🥰
can't wait to see your house journey!! it's nice to have all the options open but makes it that much harder to make a decision. I think it would be a good thing to stay around family if you're planning on having kids in the next few years too, and if you can get what you like for cheaper, it's a pretty good win all around.
I'm from NH, but moved to OH in 98. Thought I'd move back, but met my husband and stayed. I honestly love it here. Shopping and dining in downtown miamisburg is so quaint, yellow springs is awesome and fun, etc. And the downtown foodie scene has exploded in recent years. 😋 Even with inflation, Dayton is a big bang for your buck. We have talked about NC for retirement, but I'm happy here for now raising our daughter.
You can always be a “snowbird” and go south for the winter months. Own close to family and go on lots of warm vacations.
Sinus stuff can cause nausea so hopefully the meds will fix it. What you say about staying there makes perfect sense. You have the freedom to rent an air b&b for a month or 2 in FL over winter if you want. At least until you have kids in school. Friends and family once you have kids will be important.
They’re adding pickle ball courts to downtown Cincy. Another reason to move back here 😁
I hope you are feeling better!
As you get older and start a family,, it's important to be near people you love and can count on.
You can always vacation in Florida, especially since you both work remote. You could probably go to FL for several weeks a year and still be saving money by living in Ohio!
This is so true.
But Clancy… I hear you. I’ve lived away from my friends and family and it was horrible and I felt so lonely. On the other hand even though Ohio feels perfect there’s a reason you guys went in this nomad journey. There’s a reason you wanted to head south and I think it was mainly the weather. Mainly because you wanted to enjoy the entire year and not just half. I get both sides and like y’all said the other day because you have so many options it makes it more difficult. I think when you do eventually make this final decision don’t take in JUST your current emotion. Take in everything. How many times would you see Zacs parents when you lived there? If the answer is once every two months then it’s not worth it to stay when you can still travel with both of you having that freedom. And I get it if st Pete renting and the prices is still too much but just take in everything
Lovely message about how excited you were to find this type of church service. Thanks for being comfortable sharing. I don’t remember you being sick until recently so I’m not sure why people would make a negative comment.
A different prospective… I moved from Texas (where all my friends and family live) to Florida in august. I have three children. And I’m only 25. And it has been the absolute best. I’m so happy here. It’s like I’m on vacation all the time. My husband is an entrepreneur. While I miss my family and friends… there were so many signs for me to move to Florida.
Really want to hear your and Zach’s thoughts on the Ohio train derailment
Praying that you feel better really soon! And I know that God will lead you and Zac into the right direction regarding your living situation. ❤️ can’t wait until Wednesday!!
Thank you!!❤️❤️
Something that helps me when I have my stomach issues is drinking tea. Just something warm and refreshing. Mint tea and green tea specifically. It usually does the trick and I have an easier time eating.
Also I totally empathize with the hate comments when you're sick part. I have chronic illnesses and if I ever complain (which I hardly do) I get criticized for it? I mean if you are sick I can understand talking about it. Hope you start feeling better soon! Take it easy!
Looking forward to seeing the home you will be touring tomorrow. No question staying near family has so many pluses. One reason I have lived in Charlotte my entire life, my parents live in Charlotte and both of my grandmothers lived in Charlotte until their passing. One thing for sure, buying a home is far better than renting for the majority of people. The only real reason to rent is if one is planning on moving often. Good luck on your journey, homeownership will unfortunately escape alot of young buyers in the next decade due to cost, rates etc.
Praying for you. Hope you feel better soon! I'm glad you're enjoying church. It's a wonderful thing to discover a church that you love, and a preaching style that you enjoy. Also church families are nice just because of the support you gain with them, and it's a GREAT way to meet friends especially if you start getting involved in things around the church. Anyway, Ohio is a fantastic place to live, despite the weather and the current issues with fires, and train derailmnets. I lived here my entire life (Near Akron/Canton) area, so I can see Zac's side of thing when he doesn't really want to stay in Ohio. It's a common thing around people who were born, and raised here. You just kind of want to get the heck out of there. Moving is a big choice, that you can't always change too quickly especially if you're buying a house. Good Luck, I'm praying for you guys to find peace with any decision you make. ❤
I lived in Ohio my whole life as well until 3 years ago, I also lived in North Canton for 4 years for college! Small world! Haha
Ohio isn’t going anywhere! You can always move back when you have kids. If I were you I would choose somewhere warm, you can always use the home as a rental property in the future
Your definitely not sick all the time…
Only true followers know how healthy you live your lifestyle. I love your videos ♥️ long time follower here!
I moved from the west coast to the Midwest and winter is soooo rough. I don’t like it! But you can always vacation during winter (that’s what I do). I also moved away from my family and I wish that I was closer to them especially with kids.
Clancy there’s a stomach flu going around. Me and my kids got it… a lot of other parents are struggling with it all around the country. It sounds like the same thing we had! It took us about 2 weeks to get over it.
You can always visit the warm places often and have your home base in Ohio. Take your time to decide! You don’t have to rush!
Big fan of yours
We moved back to Michigan bc of family. It's hard to live places without that support
One day you will have kids and you will not have the freedom to live anywhere your heart desires. Girl, take advantage that you don’t have kids and live it up anywhere you want, have fun and enjoy your child free life. You may not have this freedom once the kids come.
Happy Saturday clancy an zac glad u enjoy church. Stomach bug an nauseous hope u are not expecting 🤔. No explanation for throwing up hope you feeling better
Z & C 😂😂😂😂
Clancy: we’re branding ourselves that way
Love it you are so funny Clancy!!!
My 2 cents: Buying a house with the mortgage rate so high...7%. That's pretty high if you guys get 30 year mortgage...of course you can always change it if it lowers but you still have to pay to change to lower rate. We are looking to buy a house (our current house we have 4% mortgage rate) but putting it on hold until rates get a little lower. It's weird to predict because we're not in recession because of low unemploymet but then inflation is still a thing.
As long as you know what denomination you like, and what kind of format you want, in a big city you will find a church to call home.
Morning Clancy! Hope you feel better soon! Gonna use this vlog as some company while I paint my nails for my schools event tonight woo haha!
I looove watching RUclips videos while I do my nails! Haha #lifegoals
Clancy I hope you feel better and I has throw up in las year but I throw up this month.
Honestly Clancy, it’s common to announce you’re using the bathroom before ordering where I’m from if it’s not busy in the store. Some places reserve the bathroom for paying customers so it’s better safe than sorry 😂
I’m the same way with signs. If something happens, I’m like oh this was the sign I needed 😂
I’m a decade older than you, but bought a house and started a family in Cincinnati and my parents and sister are in Dayton. It’s nice to have my niece and nephews 45 minutes away and my kids get to see their cousins more often.