Respectfully, for story six, 19 is old enough to know that throwing out someone else's food is not a choice if it grosses you out. And even if the baby daddy's parents cater to her enough to have her expect people to do that for her, it's wild she did it at a stranger's house herself instead of asking.
Totally agree.. its not op’s responsibilty to cater to her pregnant needs. What if the op didnt have a chair? Shed still have to sit on the ground or whatever… people are too entitled
Totally not the AH. Pregnant women are not handicapped. What would she have done if OP didn't bring a chair? As to sit on his back or something? Why is it his responsibility to give up his chair?
They bought their own chair and the pregnant woman just feels entitled to have it. I don’t think it matters whether that person has a disability or not and they shouldn’t ever have to prove how bad their disability is. People with invisible disabilities get challenged so often just to use things they have planned ahead and booked.
I’m actually pregnant and in that case I’d absolutely would say “f*ck them pregnants!” 😂. That makes absolutely no sense. I know I’m pregnant for months now.. so I act and plan accordingly.
Pregnancy/Steak: if you can’t stand the smell of steak, throwing it in the trash won’t get the smell out of the house. You literally have to open all the windows to air out the smell. You know your own body, leave the house. Take a rain check. And you don’t know what smell you can’t take until you’re hit with it so prior knowledge might help but not always.
You guys are too nice to pregnant women, I have been pregnant 4 times and never did I use it to get my way, chair lady and stake girl are abusing their pregnancies and obviously their family are catering to them just because they are pregnant.
the thing is though i would never force one to sit on the ground i would give up my chair not because she can get her way because i don't want on my conscience that i let a pregnant woman sit on the ground
@@ChrissaToddBut if I put myself in Op's shoes, I have really bad back problems and couldn't put myself in intense pain to give my chair. Sitting on the ground would cause some problems and standing for too long could become really painful. With Op needing to sit for his knees, she was told that he needs the chair to not be pain yet she is still persistent
@@ChrissaToddI mean in this situation he didn’t “let” her sit on the ground. Like OP said she could have just sat in the car since they didn’t think to bring a chair. She made the choice to sit on the ground.
Story 6: just because she’s pregnant,it doesn’t mean she’s entitled to throwing the hosts food in the trash and trashing their kitchen with her perfume. She is the asshole here, and not her boyfriend. It’s her responsibility to say in advance if there is something she can’t smell or eat. Being pregnant doesn’t give you the right to act like such an entitled asshole in someone else’s house.
100% agree with you! I dont think the bf was the asshole. She could have left the kitchen if the smell made her sick or called ahead herself is she knew certain smells would make her sick. I dont see how any of that was the bfs responsibility.
also not how breastmilk works... the first months of life baby needs calostrum ... the first milk that comes out... much more so being an ICU baby,,, she wasn't producing calostrum any more because the baby she has is months older... they already are irresponsibly underfeeding their baby... Also if you already know you wont be able to afford formula (which is already a terrible situation) you should be doing everything in your power to be able to produce enough milk for you own baby not figuring out ways to steal it
it blows my mind how the mother of that child doesn't even want to breastfeed her own baby... like, there are mothers who can't or rather use formula, but in this case they wanted the child to have breastmilk, just not her own, but OP's. They didn't even try. Already feel bad for the child
That story was super upsetting. As a mom who has been breastfeeding & pumping for almost 8 months, I would’ve been super pissed if someone stole my milk. I have a small freezer as well and don’t have extra storage to build my stash past a month. OP expressed how much she didn’t want to pump and was trying to save as much as possible so she could end her pumping journey as early as possible. When i first started breastfeeding it was painful and hurt and so tiring (still is sometimes) but i knew i was going to do everything possible to make it work for my son. SIL not even trying to build her supply? I don’t feel bad for her. Its Not OPs problem or responsibility to provide for an extra baby. As a parent, they need to step up and do what they can. Pre-baby i took classes online on breasfeeding / mom stuff in general. WIC also has classes and lactation consultation. There are so many options then to steal someones milk. They dont call it liquid gold for nothing.
as someone who is young and has physical disabilities i know to come prepared for events that i know i might have to stand for. i have fibromyalgia and standing for a long time sucks. i’m literally only gonna be 21 and have to use a cane and walker on most days. so op in the first story is not the ah.
The milk story: the mom clearly has a favorite child: the spoiled, entitled son who date another entitled girl. Mom, brother and sil are absolutely the AH. They treated op like a milky cow, that's horrible
The pumping story made me soooo mad, I struggled with my supply and pumping extra is amazing and if someone took my milk I’d be soooooooo pissed off, pumping is exhausting and time consuming. SIL can pump and get her own milk if not there are moms who will donate milk if needed. Smh 🤦🏼♀️ I couldn’t pump enough and found a great donor mom who gave me milk for my daughter till she was 2 years old and I really appreciated her!
My milk didn't come in for 2 days, which is pretty standard. Babies aren't usually hungry right away. The colostrum is pre-milk that's what the baby needs most. A lactation consultant would've helped her at the hospital. Yes it's incredibly painful at first. Nursing stimulates the uterus and causes contractions that are painful. After giving birth it's the last thing you want to go through but is necessary. Also your nipples feel so painful you can hardly stand it. That girl was avoiding the discomfort. In which case formula should be used, however, her milk won't come in unless she's proactive.
having been preggo more than 2 times - throwing steak in the rubbish won't get rid of the smell. It's now just rubbish steak. I dunno what her plan was throwing it out to 'get rid of the smell.'
I'm disabled but it's an invisible disability and people see me as an AH if I don't give up seats for people. It's just horrible to be treated badly because people can't see what's wrong with me.
I’m pregnant and I’m APPALLED with the pregnant women on these stories!! When you’re pregnant, you’re just a person.. who is pregnant. You’re not extra special, it doesn’t give you a free pass to being entitled and an a-hole! Preggo with the chair DOESN’T deserve that chair and preggo with the steak should just freaking leave then. Knowing the menu doesn’t necessarily helps because the sickness can just hit you all of a sudden. But if it does you a have a lot of options, non of which is throwing people’s things away! I don’t actually buy the “I’m feeling sick”. She just wanted attention really.
Honestly, the only person who owes you something if you’re pregnant is either the person who got you pregnant or the parents you are a surrogate for. Her needing to sit is the husband’s responsibility, not the random strangers.
Wheelchair, rollator, walker, folding chair cane, or camping chair If someone who can't stand for prolonged periods of time brought a device to sit on, you're an entitled asshole for asking to borrow theirs. This doesn't even include the name calling. Why is your first response to REPEATEDLY ask a stranger to, essentially, borrow their disability aid? Including after their disability was explained to you? Why not talk to the event organizers to see if their is an accommodation that can be made for her due to her inability to stand in line? Why is your first, second, and third response to bother a stranger? And then to call that (disabled) stranger an asshole when they politely decline?
I was sick for 3 months with my first and 6 months with my second. I left the room when baby daddy was cooking. I would never tell him what he could or couldn’t eat.
Pregnant lady story: if I showed up to an event heavy pregnant that I thought there would be seats at to find no seats I would either accept my fate and sit on the ground, knowing it would be a pain to get me up, or I or my husband would detour to a store to get one if possible. If the OP hadn't brought their own chair she had a leg to stand on to make the request, but not for someone's personal property!
Story 5: OP should have def texted her mom smthg along the lines of "do i look like a dairy cow to you?", bc the entitlement is WILD. Milk is difficult to produce!
yeah I was a bit taken aback by the reaction. As a person who grew up poor, kids can't give consent to that. And what happens later down the line, when the kid goes to school? Being poor can isolate you from so much and seeing other kids being able to afford proper clothes, trips, going out to eat, etc. is so painful. So yeah, don't have kids if you can't afford that 🤠
It's awful to go and say your pain isn't that bad so give up the thing YOU brought to not be in pain to someone else who didn't plan ahead could be comfortable.
As a child of a family who are full of 'meth heads' I do really give props to the uncle. Cause as someone who lives with this everyday for the past 18 years of my life it's hard to try and get your loved ones sober. Big ups to that uncle.
I was pregnant at 19, I would’ve NEVER and have never thrown someone else’s food out. I didn’t even stop my partner from eating stuff that made me sick bc I thought it was unfair
Exactly I thought the same thing I was pregnant at 16. And I had all day sickness and never stopped anyone from eating even if it made me sick to smell
Idk if you ever made "YOU ARE THE DRAMA YOU PIECE OF SH*T" a sound byte but you should have if you didnt. That got me so good i had to listen to it again
Because english isn't my first language, I was soooo confused when you guys said chronic infidelity and was like mocking this man, cause I really thought it meant he couldn't have children, like infertility, so I was like poor man, but then I was oh NVM 💀
My nana has a similar system for Christmas lunch where basically the married women help out in the kitchen until a man (usually my dad or uncle) is asked to help cut the turkey but I figured it was just tradition and my nana’s kitchen is very small but that story kinda makes me question it a little bit
Did I get her pregnant??? Then nope it’s my chair, she should have been prepared. When I was pregnant I couldn’t stand for long periods of time without being in a ton of pain , I would have come prepared.
Story 4: "It's best for everyone if she plays along". No. What OP means is "it's best for YOU to play along". Oh and before my grandfather passed at the age of 91, HE always cooked. He passed in 2018, was born in 1927. If he wasn't the least bit sexist, when he was born during a time when that was the NORM, what are OP's families excuse?
Personally, I dont think asking to see someone disability diagnosis, joke or not, is appropriate. As a disabled person myself, the amount of times someone has asked me or someone I knew to “show them” my diagnosis is staggering. Like Josh implied, it *is* ableist to call the disabled person an asshole in situation. They brought their own accommodations, and then someone asked to *take their disability accommodation*. Them saying no isnt being an asshole. No, Im not calling the pregnant women an asshole for asking at first, but OP gave multiple answers, and hell, if the pregnant woman couldnt stand, she couldve brought her OWN chair. They all knew how long they would have to wait, the pregnant women should know that she cant stand for a while.
the brothers girlfriend could have checked numerous books out of the library, most hospitals also provide breast-feeding support. If they are not married, does she even have insurance?
For story one ntah I’ve been on both sides extremely pregnant and I have chronic knee pain on my right side from childhood sports I should be wearing a brace everyday. If I’m prepared and your not… your freaking loss I’m not suffering bc of your decision
The chronic cheater guy, I'm beyond certain that in 2020 he did something else egregious, and he just feels like it's not even worth mentioning. He'd rather believe that this was all spontaneous. The human brain is something else.
Shawn I not only could I say no in story 1 I’d say hell no esp when she asked a second time like good luck to you when the child comes If not even you can take no for an answer
For story 4 I'm saying OP is not the asshole. As a child of a family who is just like OP's family, standing up for her or her not going to the kitchen, especially the first meeting is going to be nothing but terrible for her. They will talk and ask her questions nonstop. If anything, they will probably think that him doing all that is because of her and be rude to her. If anything, I'd say that she stays at home and not attend the dinner. I've had family members literally chase the guys of the kitchen because "a man can't wash dishes".
With my maternal grandparents, my grandmother didn't like having other people in the kitchen except for my grandfather peeling potatoes, but he always did most of the clean up after dinner and all the dishes. My paternal grandparents helped each other with both cooking and cleaning, one would wash the dishes the other would dry and put away.
Throwing the steak out seriously doesn't make sense: on the plate or in the trash, its still going to smell the same. Pregnancy can be tough, and the hormones can be INSANE, its the entitlement that makes the pregnant teenager (and in all of these stories today, truly) the asshole, and communication with a little more empathy and a lot less selfishness would have solved the majority of problems.
Story 6- I know you guys are trying to be sensitive to pregnant women. I appreciate that. But gf is 10000% the asshole. Not the brother (I don’t like that you blamed him) not the host, THE GF. I couldn’t stand the smell of bbq chicken when I was pregnant. If I made the mistake of not letting someone know that before hand, I would’ve been extremely apologetic and asked that we please reschedule for another night. In no universe, would I have thrown out their food. Hormones or not… that’s not hormones… that’s psychotic 😂 Sorry not sorry. You don’t go into someone’s kitchen, who you don’t even know, throw out their food, and spray perfume everywhere. This has nothing to do with pregnancy or age. That girl is rude and entitled, and always has been. Pregnant or not. Women deserve respect while pregnant, and we deserve to get “a pass” on A LOT of things. This is not that
Also, to give you guys a little bit of info, even if they weren’t prepared, and didn’t know how to stimulate milk (like me 😂 I didn’t know when I gave birth) the nurses in the hospital will tell you everything! They will either give you formula, and teach you how to formula feed, or teach you how to breast feed. There is no excuse. For some reason, they were hell bent on inconveniencing the sister and stealing her breast milk. I honestly think they did prepare… prepared to just take the sister milk. It seems very premeditated. P.S. gestation period is actually 10 months 😉
OP with the dinner story…I wish he hadn’t yelled at ol girl but I get how in the heat of the moment you just snap without thinking. I’m not made at him for putting them out though. She threw away their food, steak…in this economy, without even knowing if he had anything else to cook for them. For all she knew they would have been stuck eatin chips watchin her eat Chinese. So I get throwin them out cause after that, the nights ruined. I can’t just sit at a table and keke it up with you pretending like you didn’t do what you did 5 minutes ago. Y’all gotta kick rocks.
The milk story got me heated. Breastfeeding is hard, but exclusively pumping is harder! The time, effort, and dedication it takes to build a stash is too much, especially for a mom with a baby that young. You have to be consistent in your pumping schedule or tou risk your milk drying out. At 4 months post-partum, I'm sure that new mom is just tired to her bones, but she soldiers on, for her baby. Add to the fact that her mom, sil, and brother all feel entitled to her milk when her sil did not even try to breastfeed? The absolute nerve. She (sil) did nothing to try and educate herself about breastfeeding yet she wants breastmilk? And they also can't afford formula? Make it make sense. As early as now, I feel sorry for OP's nephew. He has idiots for parents.
I’m sorry but just cus your pregnant don’t mean you get everything. It’s op chair that they brought 🤷🏾♀️ they don’t gotta give it. Yeah it would be nice but even if they didn’t have a bad back or knees they can still say no. Maybe they should invest in a portable chair if she can’t stand for long periods
I was going on a cruise and we were in the waiting hall, waiting to get on board. I was very visibly pregnant, heavy and starting to feel terrible and it showed. Not one person would get up and offer a seat. In the end I was basically collapsing and sat on the floor. I was even more hurt that my husband wouldn't go and ask someone to move to have me seated. He's ex husband now.
For the one with the pregnant 19 year old and the steak. I’m sorry but was she raised with no manners? Going to someone’s house and touching what isn’t hers AND throwing it away?! She lucky it wasn’t me I would have taken that stake out of the trash and slapped her with it. Wtf?! If the smell is making you nauseous we can eat outside if there is a patio and eating area outside or you can tell the host the truth and go home. Better yet how about all of you go out and eat with outdoor seating? And the one with the brother and sis in law stealing the sisters formula! Wtf?! You had resources and other options there is no excuse to rely on your sister to provide for your own child. Why was the plan? Keep up this story until when?? 🤨
And by resources and options I mean that they could have gotten donations from other people or if they can’t afford to have the baby there is also adoption
Story 5 with the breast milk I would have lost my effing mind if some family stole my breast milk storage. Pumping sucked for me and I struggled for every ounce I managed to produce. Sounds like a Momma’s boy situation and OP should not have to deal with that crap
Breastfeeding doesn't have to be painful. It typically isn't. Latch issues and other things can cause pain. I had to wear a cover for a while, but around 3 months it fell off as she was latching and I was terrified, but she latched and it was fine & we never had another pain issue. Being full hurts, but is usual easily remedied
Story 3 - I do think its messed up that her sister didn't invite her husband. Not sure if there is a history there, but that does indeed seem rude. For the entire family to be invited but not her husband makes it seem like there they have a negative vibe with one another.
If someone expects me to uphold a sexist traditional, idgaf what their impression of me is. Their opinion means nothing. And if my partner values their impression more than my self-respect, screw them, too.
Tbf to the brother with the pregnant gf, its impossible to know all the things that will set off the gag reflex while pregnant. Things that didnt bother you the first few months become a problem and vice versa. It might not have been steak but one of the spices etc... shes still an ahole for throwing out someone elses food (who the f has the balls to do that?!) But the big brother is also one for not changing plans when it was obviously a problem she couldnt control
Last story goes for aholery is the 19 yo gf, the parents then the brother! OP is not an ahole at all and he had every right to be pissed and kick them out. He said she threw out the steak and it was uncooked he hadnt even cooked it yet! Im sorry i dont feel bad for her at all 19 or not just because youre pregnant doesnt mean the world should bow to your demands and the world doesnt revolve around you or your baby! She should have basic manners, common decency and common sense. Some peoples children i swear!
The only way the tradition of woman going to the kitchen would be okay is if it wasn’t expected for the guests to cook. When I grew up, my dad was the cook. If my mom was in there she would burn something 😂. If instead the reasoning they separate was in order to have guy and girl time (ya know we need girl talk 😉) with the woman in the kitchen only due to the fact the hostess cooks in her family. That would make sense and I would then gladly help out because I’m nice like that but I would refuse if it was expected.
also first person can do what he did never said he couldn't but still the asshole. he is being selfish regardless. he didn't even have to go they are not his kids :P
idk for me i am on YTA for story 1 like yeah its' their own chair but idk maybe it's the canadian in me i would let a pregnant woman sit in my chair, idk about the knees and i get that can suck but a pregnant woman shouldn't be forced to sit on the ground
First story, no matter what he's the asshole. It's his right to say no, sure it's still the humanly decent and kind thing to do he refused. Still an asshole he's allowed to be but still is. He's morally wrong nonetheless. Yes she should have planned ahead but she didn't. Especially when they left - as a partially disabled person. Yes the person 20+yrs younger is actively not planning ahead. He didn't have to be there early or at all it's his nephews not his kids. Being selfish is still asshole even if he's allowed to be.
Well if hes morally wrong and an asshole for not giving his own chair, and for not making himself be in pain so she would feel more comfortable, she too is an AH for feeling entitled to his chair. Just cause her condition is visible, doesnt make his any less valid. Or both could be lazy
Would you be saying it if he were in a wheelchair? You also have no idea what his relationship to his nephews is like. Maybe he doesn't have kids as his own and his nephews are the closest to his own children he's going to get. You also don't know how the pregnant couple is going to see. Could be a friend for all you know. As a fully disabled person, you're an asshole. And you need to work on your internalized ableism. OP in this case should probably get a rollator so people like you who don't understand invisible disabilities will realize they're being horrible.
You do know if Op arrived later or wasn't there at all, the pregnant woman still would have to stand right? She would still be standing until the school opens cause that was his chair he brought.
What? He’s not the asshole. Point, blank, period. Just because those aren’t his children doesn’t mean anything you don’t know if he raised them. You don’t know anything about the situation. All you need to know is that he came prepared they didn’t end of story.
Omg the milk story 🤬 I pumped the first 2 months because same reason, but managed to get my son to latch.. exclusively pumping is SO hard! I would have to get up every 2 hours and pump, 1am, 3 am, 5am 7am etc. luckily my partner would feed baby in the night so I could pump and get some sleep… and the SIl not even pumping in those early days 😨 pumping and latching is what helps your supply. Also being able to freeze 4oz is not an oversupply! That’s just barely enough really, because if something comes up and you don’t get time to pump for a session then you’re going to need that 4oz. Brother and SIL should just go buy formula because they aren’t going to get far if they keep doing what they’re doing. 🫠 My son is now 5 months and I’m lucky enough to have about 300oz frozen. And that’s only a few days worth if I was to switch him to just bottles.
For me, the mom is even worst than them. She is instigating the situation and deciding over her daughter's milk supply! and she helped them lie! just awful
@@nualavi7688 yes the mom is terrible too! Clearly she doesn’t understand how hard pumping is.. it’s good that op can put the frozen milk at her dads though
Respectfully, for story six, 19 is old enough to know that throwing out someone else's food is not a choice if it grosses you out. And even if the baby daddy's parents cater to her enough to have her expect people to do that for her, it's wild she did it at a stranger's house herself instead of asking.
Handicap or not, OP brought their own chair to wait in line. It’s not like a subway or bus. The pregnant lady doesn’t have to wait in the line.
The husband was the AH for not prepared anything for his pregnant wife 🤣
@@mongviemong the wife is too. She could have prepared herself.
Totally agree.. its not op’s responsibilty to cater to her pregnant needs. What if the op didnt have a chair? Shed still have to sit on the ground or whatever… people are too entitled
Totally not the AH. Pregnant women are not handicapped. What would she have done if OP didn't bring a chair? As to sit on his back or something? Why is it his responsibility to give up his chair?
They bought their own chair and the pregnant woman just feels entitled to have it. I don’t think it matters whether that person has a disability or not and they shouldn’t ever have to prove how bad their disability is. People with invisible disabilities get challenged so often just to use things they have planned ahead and booked.
You're wrong and I hope you suffer the same way. X
I’m actually pregnant and in that case I’d absolutely would say “f*ck them pregnants!” 😂. That makes absolutely no sense. I know I’m pregnant for months now.. so I act and plan accordingly.
Pregnancy/Steak: if you can’t stand the smell of steak, throwing it in the trash won’t get the smell out of the house. You literally have to open all the windows to air out the smell. You know your own body, leave the house. Take a rain check. And you don’t know what smell you can’t take until you’re hit with it so prior knowledge might help but not always.
You guys are too nice to pregnant women, I have been pregnant 4 times and never did I use it to get my way, chair lady and stake girl are abusing their pregnancies and obviously their family are catering to them just because they are pregnant.
the thing is though i would never force one to sit on the ground i would give up my chair not because she can get her way because i don't want on my conscience that i let a pregnant woman sit on the ground
@@ChrissaToddBut if I put myself in Op's shoes, I have really bad back problems and couldn't put myself in intense pain to give my chair. Sitting on the ground would cause some problems and standing for too long could become really painful. With Op needing to sit for his knees, she was told that he needs the chair to not be pain yet she is still persistent
@@ChrissaToddI mean in this situation he didn’t “let” her sit on the ground. Like OP said she could have just sat in the car since they didn’t think to bring a chair. She made the choice to sit on the ground.
Exactly && the fact that she sprayed a bunch of perfume after !! Personally fragrances was worse than meat for me during my pregnancy.
Story 6: just because she’s pregnant,it doesn’t mean she’s entitled to throwing the hosts food in the trash and trashing their kitchen with her perfume. She is the asshole here, and not her boyfriend. It’s her responsibility to say in advance if there is something she can’t smell or eat. Being pregnant doesn’t give you the right to act like such an entitled asshole in someone else’s house.
100% agree with you! I dont think the bf was the asshole. She could have left the kitchen if the smell made her sick or called ahead herself is she knew certain smells would make her sick. I dont see how any of that was the bfs responsibility.
also not how breastmilk works... the first months of life baby needs calostrum ... the first milk that comes out... much more so being an ICU baby,,, she wasn't producing calostrum any more because the baby she has is months older... they already are irresponsibly underfeeding their baby... Also if you already know you wont be able to afford formula (which is already a terrible situation) you should be doing everything in your power to be able to produce enough milk for you own baby not figuring out ways to steal it
it blows my mind how the mother of that child doesn't even want to breastfeed her own baby... like, there are mothers who can't or rather use formula, but in this case they wanted the child to have breastmilk, just not her own, but OP's. They didn't even try. Already feel bad for the child
That story was super upsetting. As a mom who has been breastfeeding & pumping for almost 8 months, I would’ve been super pissed if someone stole my milk. I have a small freezer as well and don’t have extra storage to build my stash past a month. OP expressed how much she didn’t want to pump and was trying to save as much as possible so she could end her pumping journey as early as possible. When i first started breastfeeding it was painful and hurt and so tiring (still is sometimes) but i knew i was going to do everything possible to make it work for my son. SIL not even trying to build her supply? I don’t feel bad for her. Its Not OPs problem or responsibility to provide for an extra baby. As a parent, they need to step up and do what they can. Pre-baby i took classes online on breasfeeding / mom stuff in general. WIC also has classes and lactation consultation. There are so many options then to steal someones milk. They dont call it liquid gold for nothing.
Did you know that there's like groups on facebook where moms who overproduce milk offer it to other women?
She could have gone that route.
as someone who is young and has physical disabilities i know to come prepared for events that i know i might have to stand for. i have fibromyalgia and standing for a long time sucks. i’m literally only gonna be 21 and have to use a cane and walker on most days. so op in the first story is not the ah.
The milk story: the mom clearly has a favorite child: the spoiled, entitled son who date another entitled girl. Mom, brother and sil are absolutely the AH. They treated op like a milky cow, that's horrible
The pumping story made me soooo mad, I struggled with my supply and pumping extra is amazing and if someone took my milk I’d be soooooooo pissed off, pumping is exhausting and time consuming. SIL can pump and get her own milk if not there are moms who will donate milk if needed. Smh 🤦🏼♀️
I couldn’t pump enough and found a great donor mom who gave me milk for my daughter till she was 2 years old and I really appreciated her!
My milk didn't come in for 2 days, which is pretty standard. Babies aren't usually hungry right away. The colostrum is pre-milk that's what the baby needs most. A lactation consultant would've helped her at the hospital. Yes it's incredibly painful at first. Nursing stimulates the uterus and causes contractions that are painful. After giving birth it's the last thing you want to go through but is necessary. Also your nipples feel so painful you can hardly stand it. That girl was avoiding the discomfort. In which case formula should be used, however, her milk won't come in unless she's proactive.
having been preggo more than 2 times - throwing steak in the rubbish won't get rid of the smell. It's now just rubbish steak. I dunno what her plan was throwing it out to 'get rid of the smell.'
I'm disabled but it's an invisible disability and people see me as an AH if I don't give up seats for people. It's just horrible to be treated badly because people can't see what's wrong with me.
I’m pregnant and I’m APPALLED with the pregnant women on these stories!! When you’re pregnant, you’re just a person.. who is pregnant. You’re not extra special, it doesn’t give you a free pass to being entitled and an a-hole!
Preggo with the chair DOESN’T deserve that chair and preggo with the steak should just freaking leave then. Knowing the menu doesn’t necessarily helps because the sickness can just hit you all of a sudden. But if it does you a have a lot of options, non of which is throwing people’s things away! I don’t actually buy the “I’m feeling sick”. She just wanted attention really.
Honestly, the only person who owes you something if you’re pregnant is either the person who got you pregnant or the parents you are a surrogate for. Her needing to sit is the husband’s responsibility, not the random strangers.
Wheelchair, rollator, walker, folding chair cane, or camping chair
If someone who can't stand for prolonged periods of time brought a device to sit on, you're an entitled asshole for asking to borrow theirs. This doesn't even include the name calling.
Why is your first response to REPEATEDLY ask a stranger to, essentially, borrow their disability aid? Including after their disability was explained to you? Why not talk to the event organizers to see if their is an accommodation that can be made for her due to her inability to stand in line? Why is your first, second, and third response to bother a stranger? And then to call that (disabled) stranger an asshole when they politely decline?
If I recall correctly from story 3, people were also pointing out that it's illegal to have someone working for you "off the books".
33:58 John, never apologize for getting angry at these kinds of abusive men. On the contrary, everyone should get as upset as you are.
I was sick for 3 months with my first and 6 months with my second. I left the room when baby daddy was cooking. I would never tell him what he could or couldn’t eat.
Pregnant lady story: if I showed up to an event heavy pregnant that I thought there would be seats at to find no seats I would either accept my fate and sit on the ground, knowing it would be a pain to get me up, or I or my husband would detour to a store to get one if possible. If the OP hadn't brought their own chair she had a leg to stand on to make the request, but not for someone's personal property!
Story 5: OP should have def texted her mom smthg along the lines of "do i look like a dairy cow to you?", bc the entitlement is WILD. Milk is difficult to produce!
If you can't afford to have a kid, don't have a damn kid.
yeah I was a bit taken aback by the reaction. As a person who grew up poor, kids can't give consent to that. And what happens later down the line, when the kid goes to school? Being poor can isolate you from so much and seeing other kids being able to afford proper clothes, trips, going out to eat, etc. is so painful. So yeah, don't have kids if you can't afford that 🤠
But... but... who's supposed to take care of them when they're old? /s
It's awful to go and say your pain isn't that bad so give up the thing YOU brought to not be in pain to someone else who didn't plan ahead could be comfortable.
As a child of a family who are full of 'meth heads' I do really give props to the uncle. Cause as someone who lives with this everyday for the past 18 years of my life it's hard to try and get your loved ones sober. Big ups to that uncle.
The ugly snort laugh from new button "I dont know how to read" was followed much-needed belly laugh. Thanks guys.
I was pregnant at 19, I would’ve NEVER and have never thrown someone else’s food out. I didn’t even stop my partner from eating stuff that made me sick bc I thought it was unfair
Exactly I thought the same thing I was pregnant at 16. And I had all day sickness and never stopped anyone from eating even if it made me sick to smell
“Oversupplier” talking about her like she is cattle. Nice nice
Idk if you ever made "YOU ARE THE DRAMA YOU PIECE OF SH*T" a sound byte but you should have if you didnt. That got me so good i had to listen to it again
Because english isn't my first language, I was soooo confused when you guys said chronic infidelity and was like mocking this man, cause I really thought it meant he couldn't have children, like infertility, so I was like poor man, but then I was oh NVM 💀
Ooohhh guys you Just gave me the best idea !!! Prepare a menu of all the meals i can cook , and stick it on the fridge, no more brain storming ❤️😂😂
My nana has a similar system for Christmas lunch where basically the married women help out in the kitchen until a man (usually my dad or uncle) is asked to help cut the turkey but I figured it was just tradition and my nana’s kitchen is very small but that story kinda makes me question it a little bit
Did I get her pregnant??? Then nope it’s my chair, she should have been prepared. When I was pregnant I couldn’t stand for long periods of time without being in a ton of pain , I would have come prepared.
Story 4: "It's best for everyone if she plays along".
No. What OP means is "it's best for YOU to play along".
Oh and before my grandfather passed at the age of 91, HE always cooked. He passed in 2018, was born in 1927.
If he wasn't the least bit sexist, when he was born during a time when that was the NORM, what are OP's families excuse?
Personally, I dont think asking to see someone disability diagnosis, joke or not, is appropriate.
As a disabled person myself, the amount of times someone has asked me or someone I knew to “show them” my diagnosis is staggering.
Like Josh implied, it *is* ableist to call the disabled person an asshole in situation.
They brought their own accommodations, and then someone asked to *take their disability accommodation*. Them saying no isnt being an asshole.
No, Im not calling the pregnant women an asshole for asking at first, but OP gave multiple answers, and hell, if the pregnant woman couldnt stand, she couldve brought her OWN chair.
They all knew how long they would have to wait, the pregnant women should know that she cant stand for a while.
the brothers girlfriend could have checked numerous books out of the library, most hospitals also provide breast-feeding support. If they are not married, does she even have insurance?
For story one ntah I’ve been on both sides extremely pregnant and I have chronic knee pain on my right side from childhood sports I should be wearing a brace everyday. If I’m prepared and your not… your freaking loss I’m not suffering bc of your decision
The chronic cheater guy, I'm beyond certain that in 2020 he did something else egregious, and he just feels like it's not even worth mentioning. He'd rather believe that this was all spontaneous. The human brain is something else.
Shawn I not only could I say no in story 1 I’d say hell no esp when she asked a second time like good luck to you when the child comes If not even you can take no for an answer
For story 4 I'm saying OP is not the asshole. As a child of a family who is just like OP's family, standing up for her or her not going to the kitchen, especially the first meeting is going to be nothing but terrible for her. They will talk and ask her questions nonstop. If anything, they will probably think that him doing all that is because of her and be rude to her. If anything, I'd say that she stays at home and not attend the dinner.
I've had family members literally chase the guys of the kitchen because "a man can't wash dishes".
With my maternal grandparents, my grandmother didn't like having other people in the kitchen except for my grandfather peeling potatoes, but he always did most of the clean up after dinner and all the dishes. My paternal grandparents helped each other with both cooking and cleaning, one would wash the dishes the other would dry and put away.
Throwing the steak out seriously doesn't make sense: on the plate or in the trash, its still going to smell the same. Pregnancy can be tough, and the hormones can be INSANE, its the entitlement that makes the pregnant teenager (and in all of these stories today, truly) the asshole, and communication with a little more empathy and a lot less selfishness would have solved the majority of problems.
Story 6- I know you guys are trying to be sensitive to pregnant women. I appreciate that. But gf is 10000% the asshole. Not the brother (I don’t like that you blamed him) not the host, THE GF. I couldn’t stand the smell of bbq chicken when I was pregnant. If I made the mistake of not letting someone know that before hand, I would’ve been extremely apologetic and asked that we please reschedule for another night. In no universe, would I have thrown out their food. Hormones or not… that’s not hormones… that’s psychotic 😂 Sorry not sorry. You don’t go into someone’s kitchen, who you don’t even know, throw out their food, and spray perfume everywhere. This has nothing to do with pregnancy or age. That girl is rude and entitled, and always has been. Pregnant or not. Women deserve respect while pregnant, and we deserve to get “a pass” on A LOT of things. This is not that
Also, to give you guys a little bit of info, even if they weren’t prepared, and didn’t know how to stimulate milk (like me 😂 I didn’t know when I gave birth) the nurses in the hospital will tell you everything! They will either give you formula, and teach you how to formula feed, or teach you how to breast feed. There is no excuse. For some reason, they were hell bent on inconveniencing the sister and stealing her breast milk. I honestly think they did prepare… prepared to just take the sister milk. It seems very premeditated.
P.S. gestation period is actually 10 months 😉
OP with the dinner story…I wish he hadn’t yelled at ol girl but I get how in the heat of the moment you just snap without thinking. I’m not made at him for putting them out though. She threw away their food, steak…in this economy, without even knowing if he had anything else to cook for them. For all she knew they would have been stuck eatin chips watchin her eat Chinese.
So I get throwin them out cause after that, the nights ruined. I can’t just sit at a table and keke it up with you pretending like you didn’t do what you did 5 minutes ago. Y’all gotta kick rocks.
Oh! And The boyfriend in the cooking story should be in the kitchen cooking with his girlfriend, thats a good compromise! Lol.
Story 2's alco unlce needs a few pointers from the meth uncle...he got clean just for the occasion
Normally just listen to the show so don’t know when it changed, but digging Josh’s new set up
I think outraged John by dumb b***h dude is my favorite John ❣
The milk story got me heated. Breastfeeding is hard, but exclusively pumping is harder! The time, effort, and dedication it takes to build a stash is too much, especially for a mom with a baby that young. You have to be consistent in your pumping schedule or tou risk your milk drying out. At 4 months post-partum, I'm sure that new mom is just tired to her bones, but she soldiers on, for her baby. Add to the fact that her mom, sil, and brother all feel entitled to her milk when her sil did not even try to breastfeed? The absolute nerve. She (sil) did nothing to try and educate herself about breastfeeding yet she wants breastmilk? And they also can't afford formula? Make it make sense. As early as now, I feel sorry for OP's nephew. He has idiots for parents.
I’m sorry but just cus your pregnant don’t mean you get everything. It’s op chair that they brought 🤷🏾♀️ they don’t gotta give it. Yeah it would be nice but even if they didn’t have a bad back or knees they can still say no. Maybe they should invest in a portable chair if she can’t stand for long periods
I was going on a cruise and we were in the waiting hall, waiting to get on board. I was very visibly pregnant, heavy and starting to feel terrible and it showed. Not one person would get up and offer a seat. In the end I was basically collapsing and sat on the floor. I was even more hurt that my husband wouldn't go and ask someone to move to have me seated. He's ex husband now.
Eyyy. John's KURIPOT shirt 👌
For the one with the pregnant 19 year old and the steak. I’m sorry but was she raised with no manners? Going to someone’s house and touching what isn’t hers AND throwing it away?! She lucky it wasn’t me I would have taken that stake out of the trash and slapped her with it. Wtf?! If the smell is making you nauseous we can eat outside if there is a patio and eating area outside or you can tell the host the truth and go home. Better yet how about all of you go out and eat with outdoor seating? And the one with the brother and sis in law stealing the sisters formula! Wtf?! You had resources and other options there is no excuse to rely on your sister to provide for your own child. Why was the plan? Keep up this story until when?? 🤨
And by resources and options I mean that they could have gotten donations from other people or if they can’t afford to have the baby there is also adoption
Good morning everyone 🥰
Story 5 with the breast milk I would have lost my effing mind if some family stole my breast milk storage. Pumping sucked for me and I struggled for every ounce I managed to produce. Sounds like a Momma’s boy situation and OP should not have to deal with that crap
Breastfeeding doesn't have to be painful. It typically isn't. Latch issues and other things can cause pain. I had to wear a cover for a while, but around 3 months it fell off as she was latching and I was terrified, but she latched and it was fine & we never had another pain issue. Being full hurts, but is usual easily remedied
Story 3 - I do think its messed up that her sister didn't invite her husband. Not sure if there is a history there, but that does indeed seem rude. For the entire family to be invited but not her husband makes it seem like there they have a negative vibe with one another.
I do have to say that suddenly stopping meth won't kill hum. But an alcoholic if they just suddenly stop drinking it can kill them. Just FYI 😊
Maybe instead of Reddit maybe a tumbler?? It’s still around and open and it’s coming back around to being kind of popular again?
This is also why you should diversify your repertoire of content 🖤🖤 appreciate you guys!
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If someone expects me to uphold a sexist traditional, idgaf what their impression of me is. Their opinion means nothing. And if my partner values their impression more than my self-respect, screw them, too.
Tbf to the brother with the pregnant gf, its impossible to know all the things that will set off the gag reflex while pregnant. Things that didnt bother you the first few months become a problem and vice versa. It might not have been steak but one of the spices etc... shes still an ahole for throwing out someone elses food (who the f has the balls to do that?!) But the big brother is also one for not changing plans when it was obviously a problem she couldnt control
Last story goes for aholery is the 19 yo gf, the parents then the brother! OP is not an ahole at all and he had every right to be pissed and kick them out. He said she threw out the steak and it was uncooked he hadnt even cooked it yet! Im sorry i dont feel bad for her at all 19 or not just because youre pregnant doesnt mean the world should bow to your demands and the world doesnt revolve around you or your baby! She should have basic manners, common decency and common sense. Some peoples children i swear!
Please please please start your own Reddit alternative. On the original The moderators have gone mad with power and need to be stopped
The only way the tradition of woman going to the kitchen would be okay is if it wasn’t expected for the guests to cook. When I grew up, my dad was the cook. If my mom was in there she would burn something 😂.
If instead the reasoning they separate was in order to have guy and girl time (ya know we need girl talk 😉) with the woman in the kitchen only due to the fact the hostess cooks in her family. That would make sense and I would then gladly help out because I’m nice like that but I would refuse if it was expected.
also first person can do what he did never said he couldn't but still the asshole. he is being selfish regardless. he didn't even have to go they are not his kids :P
idk for me i am on YTA for story 1 like yeah its' their own chair but idk maybe it's the canadian in me i would let a pregnant woman sit in my chair,
idk about the knees and i get that can suck but a pregnant woman shouldn't be forced to sit on the ground
But also, a physically impaired person shouldn't be kicked off their own chair and made to be in pain
First story, no matter what he's the asshole. It's his right to say no, sure it's still the humanly decent and kind thing to do he refused. Still an asshole he's allowed to be but still is. He's morally wrong nonetheless. Yes she should have planned ahead but she didn't. Especially when they left - as a partially disabled person. Yes the person 20+yrs younger is actively not planning ahead. He didn't have to be there early or at all it's his nephews not his kids. Being selfish is still asshole even if he's allowed to be.
Well if hes morally wrong and an asshole for not giving his own chair, and for not making himself be in pain so she would feel more comfortable, she too is an AH for feeling entitled to his chair. Just cause her condition is visible, doesnt make his any less valid. Or both could be lazy
Would you be saying it if he were in a wheelchair?
You also have no idea what his relationship to his nephews is like. Maybe he doesn't have kids as his own and his nephews are the closest to his own children he's going to get.
You also don't know how the pregnant couple is going to see. Could be a friend for all you know.
As a fully disabled person, you're an asshole. And you need to work on your internalized ableism.
OP in this case should probably get a rollator so people like you who don't understand invisible disabilities will realize they're being horrible.
You do know if Op arrived later or wasn't there at all, the pregnant woman still would have to stand right? She would still be standing until the school opens cause that was his chair he brought.
What? He’s not the asshole. Point, blank, period. Just because those aren’t his children doesn’t mean anything you don’t know if he raised them. You don’t know anything about the situation. All you need to know is that he came prepared they didn’t end of story.
Omg the milk story 🤬 I pumped the first 2 months because same reason, but managed to get my son to latch.. exclusively pumping is SO hard! I would have to get up every 2 hours and pump, 1am, 3 am, 5am 7am etc. luckily my partner would feed baby in the night so I could pump and get some sleep… and the SIl not even pumping in those early days 😨 pumping and latching is what helps your supply.
Also being able to freeze 4oz is not an oversupply! That’s just barely enough really, because if something comes up and you don’t get time to pump for a session then you’re going to need that 4oz. Brother and SIL should just go buy formula because they aren’t going to get far if they keep doing what they’re doing. 🫠
My son is now 5 months and I’m lucky enough to have about 300oz frozen. And that’s only a few days worth if I was to switch him to just bottles.
For me, the mom is even worst than them. She is instigating the situation and deciding over her daughter's milk supply! and she helped them lie! just awful
@@nualavi7688 yes the mom is terrible too! Clearly she doesn’t understand how hard pumping is.. it’s good that op can put the frozen milk at her dads though