For sure! The one that got me the most is the insecurity about your future. I too struggle with this insecurity more than I would like to. I don't have plans on the future but I do know my future is worth something and it's abundant, I just don't know exactly what it will be that get's me to that point. I try writing things down because I have a journal as well (several) but the plans switch up so much that I end up feeling stuck instead of progressive. It's a on-going cycle I know I can break out of, I just don't know how at times. Something is changing within the next 2 years for me though. I have not the slightest idea what it is but something in my spirit tells me I'm on to something and I won't have to suffer with this insecurity for much longer in my life. Thanks for sharing.
My boobs and weight are my issue right now too. I’m tall but I feel like I need to lose a extra 30 lbs for my back to feel better. My weight fluctuates too!
I think when you stop looking at and comparing yourself to other people…just take a look at yourself and what you DO have. You appreciate and love yourself that much more. You’re beautiful as you are 🥰
Perfectly worded! Sis is just going through the motions! The fact that she spoke so honestly about the financial insecurities hit hard. Im almost 40 but I keep striving to be better. It never stops...and, to be honest, I live for the challenge.
Ayana, i feel the same way with money. My father and mother spoiled me and anything i wanted they bought. When I finished high school my dad paid my way through college and and paid out of pocket for everything. He paid my bills and rent for me to stay off campus and bought me a new car every 4 years. Then I married an amazing man who does the same and wouldn’t even let me teach for my debit card. He literally doesnt let my account get below so much and never scolds me for over spending. Its bad sis! I have taken i initiative to get a job and stop being depenedant on my dad and husband for my every need. Its fabulous to have but it causes an inability to understand the value of money.
I had to pause and comment. I think your mouth and face is perfect. You will be thanking God when you get in your 40 and 50 and still look young. Chile that is a blessing from God. Now I can continue to watch. 😚
My main insecurity is being seen as “cute” when I want to be sexy or beautiful, you know? I just have a baby face so I think I’m seen a certain way because of that.
It’s absolutely not childish to journal. It’s therapeutic. I hope you still do it currently since this video is from a year ago. Also we definitely all have insecurities but Ayana GIRRRRRL you are sooo FN pretty naturally
The first insecurity I’m still learning to overcome is definitely my body, which I feel like is on a lot of peoples’ list.. secondly for me is not being secure enough with myself as a whole to believe that something (someone) better is in store for me so continuing to settle for the lesser 😕
Your round face makes you look so beautiful though... I have really harsh features (strong jaw line and strong eyebrows and big lips) and I often wish I had more delicate features like yours. On the internet a lot of people say that unusual features are pretty but irl a simple beauty is often just so refreshing. I think you're so feminine and pretty! Your big eyes and small nose and pouty lips (not small at all imo) make you very feminine! Anyway I think you're really beautiful!! Like a doll!
My three biggest insecurities are my weight I struggle with gaining and keeping on weight, my future and feeling like I’m failing, and lastly not feeling good enough
I love how honest you are. I have pcos and it makes me extremely hairy. I even have a full beard. I tried to remove it with laser and it eventually came back. As I get older I dont care as much but I remember that my teenage years I used to cry about it all the time.
All through jr. high (now it’s middle school) I was a little chubby and round-faced. A teacher said I looked like a cute cabbage patch doll and it stuck. I have the same issue with being top heavy and a fluctuating weight. It’s a struggle and I’ve decided to just be the healthiest version of myself. I’m in my 40s and will likely be carded for the rest of my life ☺️
Real talk you’re not alone I’m 32 and still trying to figure out finances myself…in a sense we’re the same not necessarily a spoon in my mouth lol but an excellent support system definitely…i just knew whatever I would fuck up they would fix…I’m definitely better now sooo much better lol but still growing and learning fa sho
"My dad got my fxcked up" 🤣🤣🤣 I think you're really pretty though. You just have a baby face I didn't even know you were 30 so that just means you found the fountain of youth. I have a round face too and used to want a sharper jawline but I've learned to accept the things that I do have. But girl your are absolutely gorgeous 😍😍🥰. Also I love your transparency♥️
My biggest insecurity is my smile and failing at giving my children a well balanced life. As far as my smile I just got braces and I’m already seeing results so yaayyy but I am a new mom. I had my children back to back unintentionally, they are 11mos and 22mos. Being a mom is a lot of work and I honestly still havent processed it fully. I don’t have any motherly influences for guidance or help. I just moved in with my dad so my daughters can have a positive and responsible male role model since I failed at picking a good biological father for them. To wrap everything up I’m going back to therapy. Also, I think you are beautiful and you don’t look like a cabbage patch doll. You think your lips are too small and I think mine are too big. We all want what we don’t have LOL. I read somewhere that our brains aren’t fully developed until mid-late 20s which is probably why your thinking started to make a shift at that time. I moved out at 18, always had my own place, job and car but my dad never failed to remind me that I wasn’t “grown” yet and he was always there to clean up my mess when I’d make impulsive decisions. I didn’t understand him until I had my first daughter at 26 and I looked back like wow I was really just baby adult, I wasn’t grown at all. I think the insecurities you have are normal and as long as we all as individual focus on ourselves and not comparing our lives to others we will all be okay ! Love yooouuuuu💕
You aren’t failing to give your kids a balanced life, you are succeeding at that by moving in with your dad. They are going to LOVE growing up with grandpa. They won’t feel like they are missing out on anything. It’s interesting how different people can see a situation. I think you’re doing a great job and sound like a wonderful mom. They are lucky to have you
I’m 4’11 with DDs and a small torso. Literally an inch away from my belly button. So unless I wear something fitted, they make me bigger as well. But I give thanks a lot that I don’t have any back issues
I'm 5'2" but also have a proportionally short torso and 34G - I probably have more torso than ya'll just because of the slight height advantage, but a few years ago when I was getting fitted for my bridesmaid dress for my sister's wedding, I had to be completely re-measured once I pointed out where my "natural waist" was by bending to side. Lady was like, "THAT'S WHERE YOUR WAIST IS?" (she is just a friend, not a professional so no hate to her)
Everybody have their own. It’s funny when others try to embarrass a person, when their nothing but beautiful and not one of them. They look stupid in the end
Babygirl…Cabbage Patch dolls have been the highest selling dolls across the world for decades! They come in all shades and Every girl/woman wants one, so trust me that’s a BIG FLEX…you’re beautiful ❤️❤️❤️
Mine is for sure my future, I relate to that so much. I went to college and worked so many jobs and once covid hit I realized that life really just isn’t for me. I’m still trying to figure out how to accomplish the things I do want though.
Omg exactly here with the independence insecurities! Mine are a bit different but I’m insecure about how much I rely on my family for things. Now that I have a job I like buying my own clothes, but I still need to work on learning recipes and getting my license as a young adult. I’m very grateful for my parents and my family but I also want to know that I can make it out there on my own and that they won’t have to worry about me. Great video though! 💙
My number one insecurity is not knowing. It is hard for me not to look at and compare my RUclips journey with other content creators not knowing where this journey is going to take me. Especially since I dream of it being my full time job... oneday. Thank you for being transparent and sharing.
This was a great video! It was raw and honest! It’s so good that people like you are so open about these things! You are absolutely beautiful! I too have insecurities! I hate my smile! Orthodontics is soooooo expensive and most insurances DO NOT COVER IT! I just want a beautiful smile like yours, but between bills and just trying to survive I’ve given up on ever getting my teeth fixed. I don’t smile or hide it cause I hate it. Wearing mask actually makes me happy sadly! The first thing people see when they look at you is your smile. Though my teeth are healthy, they just are not straight. It cost 7,000 to get my teeth fixed! I’ve saved 4,874 dollars but like I said life is hard. I’d do anything for a smile like yours! You’re such a inspiration! Thanks for being open and honest. I personally think you’re perfect. Please keep the videos coming! ❤️
I relate to this so much and I wanna commend you on how real your content is, the truth is most people don’t even know where they want to be in the next 5 years, I’m one of them. I rely heavily in my faith in God, without that I would be a mess 24/7. But your content is soo relatable
Defiantly feel you on so many things…..it’s so normal to not know what you want to do years down the line. Sometimes you just have to stick with something and see “where it takes YOU”
I can definitely relate with having some of those insecurities. While there are some that I personally would never mention on RUclips, I have my own insecurities around weight, my personality type, and even me being older in a young girl's world. In your case, your round face is so beautiful. I know many girls who have gotten facial-feminization surgery because they were not content with their faces, but your face is gorgeous, Ayana. You are a gorgeous young lady! When it comes to weight, you are beautiful and I'm saying this as someone who struggles with the same exact insecurity because I know what I see when I see you. I would kill to have your girlish figure. I know that insecurities are human nature, but I hope that you find some solace in what I shared with you. You are beautiful, Ayana. Never forget that! Although I have yet to directly deal with my own insecurities completely, I'm en route and I';m applying pressure to ensure that they don't overtake my existence. Thank you so much for sharing.
Loved this video!! My biggest insecurities was my butt, stomach and arms. This was years ago now I don’t care🤣🤣 how I changed was I started working out and my body changed and I loved it! Thanks for sharing yours! Takes real courage to make a video like this. You remind me of a Sagittarius even though I think you’re a Capricorn we are so blunt! My daughter will be a Capricorn I can’t wait 🤰🏽💗💗
I really like your personality. I didn’t realize you were on GUHH at first but I knew u looked familiar. You’re a very humble girl who has a realistic and nice outlook on life 💕
Chile, the way I can relate to u so much is crazyyy🤦🏾♀️. With weight and financial independence and my future smh. I honestly think about those things every single day. I'll say this tho, ppl thinking u look like a cabbage patch will pay off wen you get older! Lol. When your 50 your gonna look 40 and honestly that's a goal of mine to look younger than I am or just overall look good for my age when I get older. Ain't nothin wrong with yo lips! Just the other day I was saying how unique they are and I meant that in the nicest most positive way. They fit your face and if I'm not mistaken I think u got it from your mom right? Meanwhile I look like the female version of my daddy 🤦🏾♀️ lol.
I also struggle with how I look and I’ve been practicing body neutrality! It’s hard for me to convince myself I’m beautiful bc it just seems so fake???????? But it’s been very helpful to appreciate my body for what it is. For example, I hate my stomach area. Instead of me saying “I’m BEAUTIFUL and my stomach is BEAUTIFUL” I say: “this area keeps my organs inside, it’s doing it’s job to keep me alive, thank you stomach area!” I find that to be a little more realistic and it helps me ground myself. My body’s job is to keep me alive, not to be appealing to the rest of the world.
Our physical similarities mainly attracted me to your channel , I love it here lol but I’m preparing to get a breast reduction - my back is on fire! Also we both have “cute” round faces , I’m 27 with a kid now (mad grown😂) & still have people refer to me as “cute” like honey I’m grown as hell . So I definitely understand a lot of your physical insecurities.
Lol people tell me I look like a cute mrs piggy. I definitely don’t wanna hear that either. Your literally so relatable I swear. I can relate to almost everything your saying. I’m 32 still trying to figure out financial independence and I didn’t grow up with a silver spoon. We are all just trying to figure it out.
My biggest insecurities are my boobs and my arms. After watching your breast reduction video a couple months back, it definitely inspired me to go forward with my breast reduction! My consultation is next week 🤞🏾
Wow that was a lot. I do this all the time just think of what I should be doing, am I doing enough or just feeling stuck. I've had to learn to just focus on me and it's ok to not be sure. Even doing so I still have days where I will stress and feel like I'm not doing enough so I think having a journal is good and a good way of just checking in on yourself. I loved this vlog. Thanks 😊✌🏽👍🏽👏🏽❤
It’s so funny how we compare ourselves to others who have their own insecurities because we don’t see it. I always look at you like dang I wish I had her body and I wish I was as pretty as her. To hear you speak about your insecurities just put that into check for me even more to not compare and work on being the best version of myself.
I love your honesty! The fact that you are self aware and really working to fix or accept those insecurities is commendable. I’ll watch you for the next 20 years because you being yourself and authentic will always be rare. I wish I had thick brows and lashes 😭 if I don’t fill in my brows I look so undone and I want to be easy breezy. And ever since we had to start wearing mask my eyes have become dry and I could no longer get eye lash extensions without ongoing irritation 😫. Thank you for sharing.
Insecurities…. I hate that I have them, but one of my biggest insecurities are the dark circles under my eye. I used to cry a lot as a kid so I think all that rubbing around the eyes gave me what I have right now. Just dealt with it for years up until the pandemonium when I got on RUclips and just started learning how to do my make up. Concealer saves lives! Lol. Still dealing with insecurities with my teeth. That’s the one thing people like to throw out as an insult alot. It doesn’t bother me as much as it used to since no one is lining up to help pay for teeth straightening but it does still bother me. I always feel like I can never get a nice photo when I go out because people make me feel bad for wanting to take more than one pic since I don’t think I look good in any first or 2nd shot taken with a camera. They make it seem more vain than it actually is. It kinda hit a head a couple years ago with social media and all the beautiful photos I felt like other people were posting that I wasn’t able to. I decided to just start to give myself words of affirmation and throw that middle finger up to anyone who disagrees!
Hey Girly, this was a really good topic. We all have looked at other people and their lives and said " Damn i wish that was me" in one way or another. So throughout my life thus far there was a time period when i felt insecure about my skin tone (PLEASE DON'T JUDGE ME) i am black and i am also dark skin and i use to get comments alot from the opposite sex like "she's cute/pretty to be dark skin and it use to make me sooo upset. it was like why can't you just say i'm pretty why does my skin tone play a part. On top of that i have always been a small framed women there were/are times were i gain weight and fill out more but for the most part i am tall and somewhat slim. So now its like i get over looked because i am slim and not big and curvy; don't get me wrong i got a little something its not that i have no shape BUT the way the world is now if your not THICK with a big butt and big boobs and a extra small waist then your not attractive. So there was a period in time when i was like Damn and i definitely felt some kind of way. Those things don't bother me as much any more because i over time i just had to love who i was and the skin i am in; i wasn't going to get surgery (NO SHADE TO ANYONE WHO HAS HAD ENHANCEMENTS) but i said that route wasn't for me. i would just live my best life and take care of myself inside and out the best way i knew how to be happy and healthy physically and mentally
I defiantly can relate to a few of the things you mentioned in the video. At the moment I'm really not happy with how much weight I've gained around my face, which now i avoid taking pictures. I've also just recently graduated university and even though i have ideas, I'm not sure how to execute them. I'm just taking one day at a time, and not letting things stress me out too much and i feel like i need to just stay focused on myself and i will eventually get to a place where I'm happy with certain things. Love your videos Ayana, keep up the good work
Ayana, you are one of my favorite youtubers and I just started watching you this year. Your transparency and personality separates you from the rest and your gorgeous on top of that. I always watch your videos and think you could be my friend in real life lol. Just keep making content and speaking your mind bc you audience loves it!
I be sooo happy when yu post Ayana! LMAO to yu feeling like yo dad got yu F'd up... Yu spoke on ah couple of my insecurities... & tho I keep having to remind myself... 🤔Yu right on track & W👌KE!! Yo silver spoon should be more typical... Yu actually got to enjoy the years... like yu suppose to🤞🤞 THANK YU for sharing pieces of yu with us🤗😍😁
Lol that cabbage patch insert have me thinking of the commercials from the 80s and the theme music. I had a bomb childhood with all my toys but...the dolls were cute. I understand that grown women don't want to be called cute but that's when I turn on the sexiness...
@@ayanafite Girl you wear it well. I think wearing caftans and high low dresses are sexy too. Wearing the hair up in a messy bun with your favorite perfume of body spritz adds to the whole lure as well. Smoky eye and a nude lip. Wearing anklets, beaded necklaces all lend to that side of your femininity that will only grow as you age.
Yes , i believe everyone has or had some kind of insecurities. i always hated my mosquito bite titties and I’m 25 yrs old it always made me feel and look as a little girl as well as my baby face . People would think I’m 16 or 18 when I am grown . I feel i also need to stop comparing my body shape to other women and love me . I also never really had a strong support system my mom raised me to be very independent and get it before coming to her. Besides that my future I’m still trying to find it at 25 ! I am cosmetologist finished that now I’m back in school for Medical administration assistant . I’m still trying to find my passion and what makes me happy . I been considering about RUclips but trying to figure out how to work the camera 🎥.
Aside from the tremendous financial support from loved ones (which I'm soooo glad that you have; more Black women should have this because we have enough to deal with in this world), breast size, and lip size, I share the same insecurities as you. Presently, my three biggest insecurities are the keloids I have on my face and body, my fluctuating weight, and uncertainty about my future. I'm crying as I am writing this comment. I'm normally an upbeat and happy person, but sometimes looking at my face makes me sad. Thank you for creating a safe space for people 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚.
So similar! I have a round face too and I’ve been told I look like a cabbage patch doll. They are cute and I loved those dolls as a kid but I’m grown! 😂 I also have not breast and even with weight loss, they are still big and they make me look bigger. I’m afraid of getting a reduction. I need to do more research.
Looking at the thumbnail and thinking “who told you your lips were small”, I thought your lips were cute and pouty even before the fillers. Gurl I wished I look like you. 🥺
Hey Ayana I must say everyone has insecurities an it’s ok but you’re just fine as you’re Sista Sista God has made us the way we’re are much ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ enjoy your weekend. Peace and blessings
Great video growing up one of my insecurities was I had big lips but now I love my lips because people pay to have lips just like my lips now and by the way when someone tell you look like Cabbage Patch doll that is a compliment you are beautiful
I’m so insecure about my round face & having thyroids issues makes it worse lol . I look bloated 90% of the time . When I wear glasses I look like Lavender from Matilda 😂😩
🤣🤣🤣 when I was a young girl everyone loved small lips and you got picked on really bad for having big lips…so moral of the story is love yourself exactly the way you are!
My biggest insecurities: 1) My buck teeth(as if they are pushing out more and more. 2) My dark lips, my sister is of dark skin myself but her lips are rose pink. 3)My thighs(cellulites) 4)Also did I mention my big head. 5) My belly pooch( tried exercising for six months still no progress and I had cut out sodas and hydrate on water, no results so I stop. At the end of the day nobody has the right to pick on other ppls insecurities since nobody is perfect, whether they told you about it or didn't and ppl find it so funny to always pick on me like the worse...then they have the saying that ppl don't notice what you notice about yourself but that saying don't make any sense to me since I'm normally a closed off person yet ppl find it so funny to always pick on me sigh.😔
Same! I have big boobs and it makes me look larger than what I actually am. I’m thinking about a breast reduction. I’m so top heavy and I just want to be balanced.
I would say my biggest insecurities are the proportion of my boobs to my ass when I look at myself at the mirror side ways. I don’t have enough money to get a breast reduction so I’m just trying my best to love myself the way I am by wearing bras that make my breast look really small and putting on dresses that flatter my body type. My second insecurity is the fact that I’m very obsessed with having all the skin on my body look exactly the same shade coz I’m light skin, and I noticed some parts of my body are a little more melaninated than other parts, most people don’t notice but I notice and it used to really disturb me before now until I realized that as black people that are within the shades of being light to chocolate, your melanination can’t be the same. So I don’t care anymore. I’m pretty and that’s cool for me
Does any of this resonate with y’all?
For sure! The one that got me the most is the insecurity about your future. I too struggle with this insecurity more than I would like to. I don't have plans on the future but I do know my future is worth something and it's abundant, I just don't know exactly what it will be that get's me to that point. I try writing things down because I have a journal as well (several) but the plans switch up so much that I end up feeling stuck instead of progressive. It's a on-going cycle I know I can break out of, I just don't know how at times. Something is changing within the next 2 years for me though. I have not the slightest idea what it is but something in my spirit tells me I'm on to something and I won't have to suffer with this insecurity for much longer in my life. Thanks for sharing.
My boobs and weight are my issue right now too. I’m tall but I feel like I need to lose a extra 30 lbs for my back to feel better. My weight fluctuates too!
ayana you are beautiful inside and out.
You need your own show.
I release my pain through the pen as well. Its very therapeutic. Ive used juicy, so I would have to say you look delicious.😉
I think when you stop looking at and comparing yourself to other people…just take a look at yourself and what you DO have. You appreciate and love yourself that much more. You’re beautiful as you are 🥰
Perfectly worded! Sis is just going through the motions!
The fact that she spoke so honestly about the financial insecurities hit hard. Im almost 40 but I keep striving to be better. It never stops...and, to be honest, I live for the challenge.
@@vondamiller5463 THAT is why you WILL get everything you want in life 👏🏽
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I think it's so much easier said than done but I do agree 💯💛
@@Ashley-og9ti 💯 ❤️
Ayana, i feel the same way with money. My father and mother spoiled me and anything i wanted they bought. When I finished high school my dad paid my way through college and and paid out of pocket for everything. He paid my bills and rent for me to stay off campus and bought me a new car every 4 years. Then I married an amazing man who does the same and wouldn’t even let me teach for my debit card. He literally doesnt let my account get below so much and never scolds me for over spending. Its bad sis! I have taken i initiative to get a job and stop being depenedant on my dad and husband for my every need. Its fabulous to have but it causes an inability to understand the value of money.
How do you have a bank account with out a job?
FIT 305 you can get a bank account without a job lol. I got my first bank account as a kid.
I’m the same way my Dad spoils me rotten.
Shit do husband have an identical brother
I had to pause and comment. I think your mouth and face is perfect. You will be thanking God when you get in your 40 and 50 and still look young. Chile that is a blessing from God. Now I can continue to watch. 😚
Yes!!! I tell myself this all the time cus ppl always tell me I look 12 and I tell them good so by the time I’m 45 I should be expected to look 25☺️
i feel like her round face fits perfectly with her eyes and the rest of her features . it compliments her perfectly
ABSOLUTELY!!!
@@slothyyolo7223 I agree.
My main insecurity is being seen as “cute” when I want to be sexy or beautiful, you know? I just have a baby face so I think I’m seen a certain way because of that.
I remember that being a thing in high school and college.
Baby face yeah that's so relatable.
Same, going on 25 and people still think I’m younger than 20
My grandma always tells me baby face ages the best because you don’t get wrinkles the same.
Me too.
Round faces are the best. You look young your whole life. You are gorgeous! You don’t need to change a THING!
This is comforting I have a round face and I always wish I could have had more chin
It’s absolutely not childish to journal. It’s therapeutic. I hope you still do it currently since this video is from a year ago.
Also we definitely all have insecurities but Ayana GIRRRRRL you are sooo FN pretty naturally
The first insecurity I’m still learning to overcome is definitely my body, which I feel like is on a lot of peoples’ list.. secondly for me is not being secure enough with myself as a whole to believe that something (someone) better is in store for me so continuing to settle for the lesser 😕
NEVER settle for less 💕
@Jenny yea we definitely have to work on this!
@Jenny thank you love, I hope therapy goes great for u as well ❤️
I thought your makeup was done when you were doing your hair! You are GORGEOUS!
Omgg!!! Thank youuuuuu 💕
I love your openness and honesty. It's refreshing in this day and age of smoke and mirrors.
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It's beautiful 😍 ❤ ♥
Your round face makes you look so beautiful though... I have really harsh features (strong jaw line and strong eyebrows and big lips) and I often wish I had more delicate features like yours. On the internet a lot of people say that unusual features are pretty but irl a simple beauty is often just so refreshing. I think you're so feminine and pretty! Your big eyes and small nose and pouty lips (not small at all imo) make you very feminine! Anyway I think you're really beautiful!! Like a doll!
YOU are beautiful as well I'm sure of it 😊💛
Yh she’s so beautiful...she doesn’t even know..I watch her vids and I wonder sometimes
She looks like a little doll baby, it’s hard to believe she’s close to 30 or is 30
I'm so glad you did this channel, reality TV didn't really show this side of you. Your soooooo relatable
My three biggest insecurities are my weight I struggle with gaining and keeping on weight, my future and feeling like I’m failing, and lastly not feeling good enough
I love how honest you are. I have pcos and it makes me extremely hairy. I even have a full beard. I tried to remove it with laser and it eventually came back. As I get older I dont care as much but I remember that my teenage years I used to cry about it all the time.
"My dad got me fu*ked up!!" Lmao!!!! Ayana girl, Cabbage Patches are the shit! I had 3 of em. You are beautiful!!!😍
Why he give me all these traits?! 😂
All through jr. high (now it’s middle school) I was a little chubby and round-faced. A teacher said I looked like a cute cabbage patch doll and it stuck. I have the same issue with being top heavy and a fluctuating weight. It’s a struggle and I’ve decided to just be the healthiest version of myself. I’m in my 40s and will likely be carded for the rest of my life ☺️
Just turned 32 and people still think I’m 20…. it’s a blessing and a curse 😭
“Because those are the ones that’ll fuck you up”…. lol yoooo felt that fr
Real talk you’re not alone I’m 32 and still trying to figure out finances myself…in a sense we’re the same not necessarily a spoon in my mouth lol but an excellent support system definitely…i just knew whatever I would fuck up they would fix…I’m definitely better now sooo much better lol but still growing and learning fa sho
Im trying to gain financial independence too, my husband pays for everything.
It’s so hard to have to ask for everything!
Cabbage patch dolls are cute with their clear skin and dimples. 😊
I think she's over being called cute though lol. I feel her because I'm 29 and my face is round so I appear younger than what I am.
That’s a great way to think of it. Lol
"My dad got my fxcked up" 🤣🤣🤣 I think you're really pretty though. You just have a baby face I didn't even know you were 30 so that just means you found the fountain of youth. I have a round face too and used to want a sharper jawline but I've learned to accept the things that I do have. But girl your are absolutely gorgeous 😍😍🥰.
Also I love your transparency♥️
My biggest insecurity is my smile and failing at giving my children a well balanced life. As far as my smile I just got braces and I’m already seeing results so yaayyy but I am a new mom. I had my children back to back unintentionally, they are 11mos and 22mos. Being a mom is a lot of work and I honestly still havent processed it fully. I don’t have any motherly influences for guidance or help. I just moved in with my dad so my daughters can have a positive and responsible male role model since I failed at picking a good biological father for them. To wrap everything up I’m going back to therapy.
Also, I think you are beautiful and you don’t look like a cabbage patch doll. You think your lips are too small and I think mine are too big. We all want what we don’t have LOL. I read somewhere that our brains aren’t fully developed until mid-late 20s which is probably why your thinking started to make a shift at that time. I moved out at 18, always had my own place, job and car but my dad never failed to remind me that I wasn’t “grown” yet and he was always there to clean up my mess when I’d make impulsive decisions. I didn’t understand him until I had my first daughter at 26 and I looked back like wow I was really just baby adult, I wasn’t grown at all. I think the insecurities you have are normal and as long as we all as individual focus on ourselves and not comparing our lives to others we will all be okay !
Love yooouuuuu💕
You aren’t failing to give your kids a balanced life, you are succeeding at that by moving in with your dad. They are going to LOVE growing up with grandpa. They won’t feel like they are missing out on anything. It’s interesting how different people can see a situation. I think you’re doing a great job and sound like a wonderful mom. They are lucky to have you
@@buggy627 thank you I really appreciate your words💕
I’m 4’11 with DDs and a small torso. Literally an inch away from my belly button. So unless I wear something fitted, they make me bigger as well. But I give thanks a lot that I don’t have any back issues
My back was KILLING me girl!
I’m 4’11 with 32DDD smh. Surprisingly I dont have any extreme back issues neither
I totally can relate. Just remember.. you are not alone.
I'm 5'2" but also have a proportionally short torso and 34G - I probably have more torso than ya'll just because of the slight height advantage, but a few years ago when I was getting fitted for my bridesmaid dress for my sister's wedding, I had to be completely re-measured once I pointed out where my "natural waist" was by bending to side. Lady was like, "THAT'S WHERE YOUR WAIST IS?" (she is just a friend, not a professional so no hate to her)
I suffer from trichotillomania (hair pulling disorder) it sucks, but I continue on with life!
Everybody have their own. It’s funny when others try to embarrass a person, when their nothing but beautiful and not one of them. They look stupid in the end
It's so true not to judge a book by their cover. I wouldn't think someone like Ayana would be this humble and relatable
It’s the realness of her content fa me ❤️💯if not reality tv have you thought about acting... try it !!
Babygirl…Cabbage Patch dolls have been the highest selling dolls across the world for decades! They come in all shades and Every girl/woman wants one, so trust me that’s a BIG FLEX…you’re beautiful ❤️❤️❤️
Mine is for sure my future, I relate to that so much. I went to college and worked so many jobs and once covid hit I realized that life really just isn’t for me. I’m still trying to figure out how to accomplish the things I do want though.
Omg exactly here with the independence insecurities! Mine are a bit different but I’m insecure about how much I rely on my family for things. Now that I have a job I like buying my own clothes, but I still need to work on learning recipes and getting my license as a young adult. I’m very grateful for my parents and my family but I also want to know that I can make it out there on my own and that they won’t have to worry about me.
Great video though! 💙
Ppl say I look like a cabbage patch doll too. And I know they don't mean it in a bad way but I still don't want to hear it.
I told you guys consistency is the key to her channel yessss girl and im here every upload now let me go watch youuuu
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@@ayanafite you’re doing a great job and i like us your followers non toxic just love do you boo
My number one insecurity is not knowing. It is hard for me not to look at and compare my RUclips journey with other content creators not knowing where this journey is going to take me. Especially since I dream of it being my full time job... oneday. Thank you for being transparent and sharing.
You are on fire with these videos🔥❤️! I like how transparent & open you are.
I’m always scared of being TOO open so thank you! 💕
This was a great video! It was raw and honest! It’s so good that people like you are so open about these things! You are absolutely beautiful! I too have insecurities! I hate my smile! Orthodontics is soooooo expensive and most insurances DO NOT COVER IT! I just want a beautiful smile like yours, but between bills and just trying to survive I’ve given up on ever getting my teeth fixed. I don’t smile or hide it cause I hate it. Wearing mask actually makes me happy sadly! The first thing people see when they look at you is your smile. Though my teeth are healthy, they just are not straight. It cost 7,000 to get my teeth fixed! I’ve saved 4,874 dollars but like I said life is hard. I’d do anything for a smile like yours! You’re such a inspiration! Thanks for being open and honest. I personally think you’re perfect. Please keep the videos coming! ❤️
I loooooooove your videos you’re very beautiful to me but it is refreshing to see you actually talk about real life issues ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Girl you pretty af! You and your girlfriend have the most cute faces I've seen in awhile!
P.S. my hubby agrees with me.
I relate to this so much and I wanna commend you on how real your content is, the truth is most people don’t even know where they want to be in the next 5 years, I’m one of them. I rely heavily in my faith in God, without that I would be a mess 24/7. But your content is soo relatable
Defiantly feel you on so many things…..it’s so normal to not know what you want to do years down the line. Sometimes you just have to stick with something and see “where it takes YOU”
My favorite thing is definitely your accountability! You’re doing so great❤️
I can definitely relate with having some of those insecurities. While there are some that I personally would never mention on RUclips, I have my own insecurities around weight, my personality type, and even me being older in a young girl's world. In your case, your round face is so beautiful. I know many girls who have gotten facial-feminization surgery because they were not content with their faces, but your face is gorgeous, Ayana. You are a gorgeous young lady! When it comes to weight, you are beautiful and I'm saying this as someone who struggles with the same exact insecurity because I know what I see when I see you. I would kill to have your girlish figure. I know that insecurities are human nature, but I hope that you find some solace in what I shared with you. You are beautiful, Ayana. Never forget that! Although I have yet to directly deal with my own insecurities completely, I'm en route and I';m applying pressure to ensure that they don't overtake my existence. Thank you so much for sharing.
Being older in a young girl's world, personality type. These are insecurities I have that I thought no one else even thinks about! 💛
Loved this video!! My biggest insecurities was my butt, stomach and arms. This was years ago now I don’t care🤣🤣 how I changed was I started working out and my body changed and I loved it! Thanks for sharing yours! Takes real courage to make a video like this. You remind me of a Sagittarius even though I think you’re a Capricorn we are so blunt! My daughter will be a Capricorn I can’t wait 🤰🏽💗💗
I really like your personality. I didn’t realize you were on GUHH at first but I knew u looked familiar. You’re a very humble girl who has a realistic and nice outlook on life 💕
Chile, the way I can relate to u so much is crazyyy🤦🏾♀️. With weight and financial independence and my future smh. I honestly think about those things every single day. I'll say this tho, ppl thinking u look like a cabbage patch will pay off wen you get older! Lol. When your 50 your gonna look 40 and honestly that's a goal of mine to look younger than I am or just overall look good for my age when I get older. Ain't nothin wrong with yo lips! Just the other day I was saying how unique they are and I meant that in the nicest most positive way. They fit your face and if I'm not mistaken I think u got it from your mom right? Meanwhile I look like the female version of my daddy 🤦🏾♀️ lol.
Everyone has insecurities but we have to love ourselves no matter what
Love you❣
Love you more! ❤️
Omg Ayana your insecurities are so relevant to mines, I'm so relating and I totally understand.
Mad respect to you for even dropping this video and not just talking about your body. We on the same boat really lol.
I also struggle with how I look and I’ve been practicing body neutrality! It’s hard for me to convince myself I’m beautiful bc it just seems so fake???????? But it’s been very helpful to appreciate my body for what it is. For example, I hate my stomach area.
Instead of me saying “I’m BEAUTIFUL and my stomach is BEAUTIFUL”
I say: “this area keeps my organs inside, it’s doing it’s job to keep me alive, thank you stomach area!”
I find that to be a little more realistic and it helps me ground myself. My body’s job is to keep me alive, not to be appealing to the rest of the world.
I’m loving your content! You’re so transparent and raw. 💛✨
Our physical similarities mainly attracted me to your channel , I love it here lol but I’m preparing to get a breast reduction - my back is on fire! Also we both have “cute” round faces , I’m 27 with a kid now (mad grown😂) & still have people refer to me as “cute” like honey I’m grown as hell . So I definitely understand a lot of your physical insecurities.
I love your face! It’s soft and round. My face is very angular and I’m super insecure about it. People always think I’m older and I hate it.
Lol people tell me I look like a cute mrs piggy. I definitely don’t wanna hear that either. Your literally so relatable I swear. I can relate to almost everything your saying. I’m 32 still trying to figure out financial independence and I didn’t grow up with a silver spoon. We are all just trying to figure it out.
Oh hell nah. We would have to square up at that point 😂💕
My biggest insecurities are my boobs and my arms. After watching your breast reduction video a couple months back, it definitely inspired me to go forward with my breast reduction! My consultation is next week 🤞🏾
Literally all of your insecurities are my insecurities! Round face, big boobs, lips.. EVERYTHING!! Thank you for being so open!
morning happy Friday hope everyone has a wonderful weekend stay safe 💙 love the consistency 💕
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Your skin is FLAWLESS!!!
Wow that was a lot. I do this all the time just think of what I should be doing, am I doing enough or just feeling stuck. I've had to learn to just focus on me and it's ok to not be sure. Even doing so I still have days where I will stress and feel like I'm not doing enough so I think having a journal is good and a good way of just checking in on yourself. I loved this vlog. Thanks 😊✌🏽👍🏽👏🏽❤
I have a round face too! And when I gain weight it makes it worse 😫
It’s so funny how we compare ourselves to others who have their own insecurities because we don’t see it. I always look at you like dang I wish I had her body and I wish I was as pretty as her. To hear you speak about your insecurities just put that into check for me even more to not compare and work on being the best version of myself.
I love your honesty! The fact that you are self aware and really working to fix or accept those insecurities is commendable. I’ll watch you for the next 20 years because you being yourself and authentic will always be rare. I wish I had thick brows and lashes 😭 if I don’t fill in my brows I look so undone and I want to be easy breezy. And ever since we had to start wearing mask my eyes have become dry and I could no longer get eye lash extensions without ongoing irritation 😫. Thank you for sharing.
I admire and respect your honesty. I hope you find your way soon! 💕 love from the UK 🇬🇧 xx
Insecurities…. I hate that I have them, but one of my biggest insecurities are the dark circles under my eye. I used to cry a lot as a kid so I think all that rubbing around the eyes gave me what I have right now. Just dealt with it for years up until the pandemonium when I got on RUclips and just started learning how to do my make up. Concealer saves lives! Lol. Still dealing with insecurities with my teeth. That’s the one thing people like to throw out as an insult alot. It doesn’t bother me as much as it used to since no one is lining up to help pay for teeth straightening but it does still bother me. I always feel like I can never get a nice photo when I go out because people make me feel bad for wanting to take more than one pic since I don’t think I look good in any first or 2nd shot taken with a camera. They make it seem more vain than it actually is. It kinda hit a head a couple years ago with social media and all the beautiful photos I felt like other people were posting that I wasn’t able to. I decided to just start to give myself words of affirmation and throw that middle finger up to anyone who disagrees!
Hey Girly, this was a really good topic. We all have looked at other people and their lives and said " Damn i wish that was me" in one way or another. So throughout my life thus far there was a time period when i felt insecure about my skin tone (PLEASE DON'T JUDGE ME) i am black and i am also dark skin and i use to get comments alot from the opposite sex like "she's cute/pretty to be dark skin and it use to make me sooo upset. it was like why can't you just say i'm pretty why does my skin tone play a part. On top of that i have always been a small framed women there were/are times were i gain weight and fill out more but for the most part i am tall and somewhat slim. So now its like i get over looked because i am slim and not big and curvy; don't get me wrong i got a little something its not that i have no shape BUT the way the world is now if your not THICK with a big butt and big boobs and a extra small waist then your not attractive. So there was a period in time when i was like Damn and i definitely felt some kind of way. Those things don't bother me as much any more because i over time i just had to love who i was and the skin i am in; i wasn't going to get surgery (NO SHADE TO ANYONE WHO HAS HAD ENHANCEMENTS) but i said that route wasn't for me. i would just live my best life and take care of myself inside and out the best way i knew how to be happy and healthy physically and mentally
When I 1st saw you on growing up hip hop I was omg she has a round face like me! She’s so freaking pretty with those big brown eyes😍
I defiantly can relate to a few of the things you mentioned in the video. At the moment I'm really not happy with how much weight I've gained around my face, which now i avoid taking pictures. I've also just recently graduated university and even though i have ideas, I'm not sure how to execute them. I'm just taking one day at a time, and not letting things stress me out too much and i feel like i need to just stay focused on myself and i will eventually get to a place where I'm happy with certain things. Love your videos Ayana, keep up the good work
Girl I'm in the exact same position. I hope you get where you want to be tho.
@@Divastarchick2008 Thanks Girl, we will both get there
I never noticed your lips were small. Your brave for sharing your insecurities with us👌
Your face, eyes and lips are so gorgeous.
My insecurities is my lower belly I want to get my stomach as flat as I can but I like bread smh 🤦🏾♀️ I also want to have a career job
Ayana, you are one of my favorite youtubers and I just started watching you this year. Your transparency and personality separates you from the rest and your gorgeous on top of that. I always watch your videos and think you could be my friend in real life lol. Just keep making content and speaking your mind bc you audience loves it!
I be sooo happy when yu post Ayana! LMAO to yu feeling like yo dad got yu F'd up... Yu spoke on ah couple of my insecurities... & tho I keep having to remind myself... 🤔Yu right on track & W👌KE!! Yo silver spoon should be more typical... Yu actually got to enjoy the years... like yu suppose to🤞🤞 THANK YU for sharing pieces of yu with us🤗😍😁
Girl you're beautiful inside and out don't worry about the outside cuz they'll never see nothing good if anybody not even themselves
Lol that cabbage patch insert have me thinking of the commercials from the 80s and the theme music. I had a bomb childhood with all my toys but...the dolls were cute. I understand that grown women don't want to be called cute but that's when I turn on the sexiness...
Idk how to turn mine on 😂
@@ayanafite Girl you wear it well. I think wearing caftans and high low dresses are sexy too. Wearing the hair up in a messy bun with your favorite perfume of body spritz adds to the whole lure as well. Smoky eye and a nude lip. Wearing anklets, beaded necklaces all lend to that side of your femininity that will only grow as you age.
You don't have small lips, you have full lips with a small mouth. there's a difference
Yes , i believe everyone has or had some kind of insecurities. i always hated my mosquito bite titties and I’m 25 yrs old it always made me feel and look as a little girl as well as my baby face . People would think I’m 16 or 18 when I am grown . I feel i also need to stop comparing my body shape to other women and love me . I also never really had a strong support system my mom raised me to be very independent and get it before coming to her. Besides that my future I’m still trying to find it at 25 ! I am cosmetologist finished that now I’m back in school for Medical administration assistant . I’m still trying to find my passion and what makes me happy . I been considering about RUclips but trying to figure out how to work the camera 🎥.
Aside from the tremendous financial support from loved ones (which I'm soooo glad that you have; more Black women should have this because we have enough to deal with in this world), breast size, and lip size, I share the same insecurities as you. Presently, my three biggest insecurities are the keloids I have on my face and body, my fluctuating weight, and uncertainty about my future. I'm crying as I am writing this comment. I'm normally an upbeat and happy person, but sometimes looking at my face makes me sad. Thank you for creating a safe space for people 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚.
I was just where you are. Everything you named are things that you can change. Just focus and believe in yourself 💕
@@ayanafite Thank you for your kind and edifying words 💚😊!
Thank you for your HONESTY!!! ❤
Awww you’re really pretty and cabbage patch dolls are cute asf sis lol❤️❤️ love your channel❤️❤️❤️
You have such pretty eyes! It’s the first thing I noticed
I love your videos. The honesty and transparency is really helping me face some things. Thank you.
Lmao 🤣 I use to get called a cabbage patch doll too.Your lucky your face isn’t all sunk in 💀
Your beautiful inside and out. I’m loving your channel.
So similar! I have a round face too and I’ve been told I look like a cabbage patch doll. They are cute and I loved those dolls as a kid but I’m grown! 😂 I also have not breast and even with weight loss, they are still big and they make me look bigger. I’m afraid of getting a reduction. I need to do more research.
Girl I feel you. I’m the same way. Round baby face with small lips. Like my lips are so small on such a round big face
Looking at the thumbnail and thinking “who told you your lips were small”, I thought your lips were cute and pouty even before the fillers.
Gurl I wished I look like you. 🥺
Hey Ayana I must say everyone has insecurities an it’s ok but you’re just fine as you’re Sista Sista God has made us the way we’re are much ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ enjoy your weekend. Peace and blessings
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@@ayanafite Thanks for Always reply bak Sista Sista ❤️🥰
Great video growing up one of my insecurities was I had big lips but now I love my lips because people pay to have lips just like my lips now and by the way when someone tell you look like Cabbage Patch doll that is a compliment you are beautiful
i love theses videos 🤍 and DEFINITELY resonate with me chile .. KEEP TFE VIDEIS COMING ! 🤍🤍
GIRL DO MORE RANTS!!!!! I AM OBSSEESSSEED LIKE THOSE AN HAIRSTYLISTS AND MUAS I LOVED THOSE OK? OK. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻💓
God created you ayana. You are loved
Ayana you're perfect the way you are.
Thank you so much! ❤️
Why are you so funny 🤣 “oh that b**** got some small lips”
I never noticed how round your face was but to me it works for you it make you look soo young
Well thank you for opening up
I’m so insecure about my round face & having thyroids issues makes it worse lol . I look bloated 90% of the time . When I wear glasses I look like Lavender from Matilda 😂😩
You is freaking gorgeous
🤣🤣🤣 when I was a young girl everyone loved small lips and you got picked on really bad for having big lips…so moral of the story is love yourself exactly the way you are!
My biggest insecurities:
1) My buck teeth(as if they are pushing out more and more.
2) My dark lips, my sister is of dark skin myself but her lips are rose pink.
3)My thighs(cellulites)
4)Also did I mention my big head.
5) My belly pooch( tried exercising for six months still no progress and I had cut out sodas and hydrate on water, no results so I stop.
At the end of the day nobody has the right to pick on other ppls insecurities since nobody is perfect, whether they told you about it or didn't and ppl find it so funny to always pick on me like the worse...then they have the saying that ppl don't notice what you notice about yourself but that saying don't make any sense to me since I'm normally a closed off person yet ppl find it so funny to always pick on me sigh.😔
Mine is upper lip hair but you know what Ms. Pearl say from Friday 😂😂
I just realized i have a lot of insecurities but they don't consume me either
Same! I have big boobs and it makes me look larger than what I actually am. I’m thinking about a breast reduction. I’m so top heavy and I just want to be balanced.
I would say my biggest insecurities are the proportion of my boobs to my ass when I look at myself at the mirror side ways. I don’t have enough money to get a breast reduction so I’m just trying my best to love myself the way I am by wearing bras that make my breast look really small and putting on dresses that flatter my body type. My second insecurity is the fact that I’m very obsessed with having all the skin on my body look exactly the same shade coz I’m light skin, and I noticed some parts of my body are a little more melaninated than other parts, most people don’t notice but I notice and it used to really disturb me before now until I realized that as black people that are within the shades of being light to chocolate, your melanination can’t be the same. So I don’t care anymore. I’m pretty and that’s cool for me
You are beautiful with a beautiful body stop it girl your a real baddie 💅🏾