You Can Still Have Babies After 35 | Adam Ruins Everything
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- The data that "modern" fertility advice is based on is actually straight-up medieval.
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Once I asked a classmate why he was in the same class as his niece. His answer:” my parents thought that at 49 they didn’t need protection anymore.”
I know so many stories like this it's funny. There are a lot of older women having unprotected sex (that haven't started menopause yet) that think they just can't get pregnant. It's wild
Both of my great grandparents from my mom side had kids even when they were past 40, my grandfather's youngest and oldest brother were over 20 years difference same for my grandmother her youngest brother and her niece (from her oldest sister) grew up together.
Darwin is rolling in his grave after seeing this comment 😆
My aunt and uncle had a son about two years older than their first grandchild.
While not that close in age, my grandparents also stopped using protection and as a result the ended up with twins who are nearly 13 years younger than my mom who is the oldest, I even attended my aunts high school graduation and was old enough that I still remember it nearly 20 years later.
I couldn’t get pregnant at 28 even with fertility treatments.
I’m now 38 and 18 weeks pregnant, a complete surprise. Baby is completely healthy too. 🤷♀️
**Update**
My son is now two months old and totally happy and healthy!
Life truly works in mysterious ways
Congratulations! Hope everything goes smoothly
Congratulations!
Congratulations! Hope everything goes alright!
Hope it goes well!
My Mother was 45 when I was born, and I turned out...
Okay bad example.
couldnt agree more
My sister was born when my mom was 45 :)
My mom was 44when I was born
r/suicidebywords
My mother was 47
"We're gonna be parents!"
Adam is the Charles Boyle of this relationship.
A man of culture as well I see
This is the only valid comment here
NINE NINE!!!!!!
@@aedynlamo NOINE NOINE!!
Gina is easily the best character
Love how Adam says we're going to be parents like if it's a threeway relationship
Unless Adam has been doing some shenanigans
That's a plot twist
“Blank” “what?”
Is it not
Adam + them in a three-way relationship? Looks like someone has been reading my Adam Ruins Everything fan fiction
Imagine you are having sex and say some wrong things, and adam pops out.
Nightmare
There was an episode like that
Please tell me
Second hand embarrassment is my favourite
Yeah, especially since you said "pops out" not "pops up" My imagination is way to good for phrasing like that *shudder
@@millielach545 really?
*ADAM RUINS GOO GOO GA GA*
It's so cool, the French women are even coughing in French!
You are my idol
Lady: [Coughs in French]
Le cough
*Heavy metallic coughing*
No that’s them speaking
Me: Screw school. I can just watch these.
Adam: enters my room.
Me: oh shit! I take it back! I take it back!
Actually
Adam: actually, school is bad
Me: epic
I'm pretty sure he would come in half agreeing with you like in the weed episode
AHAHAHAHAHA
😂😂😂
“If you’re not ready for a baby yet...” DON’T HAVE ONE. One of the worst things you can do for yourself - not to mention your partner and the potential kid(s) - is having a baby before you’re ready. I have heard too many stories of people rushing into child rearing because “the clock is ticking!” and “it’s now or never!” If you’re not ready, please PLEASE don’t do it.
Effeffia Gonalick you’re never truly ready, you don’t know what it’s like to have a kid until you have one, if you want a kid and you’re over the legal age of consent then go for it, if you’re already pregnant, keep it.
You're never ready
Go have a kid at 45 and let me know how you like it
@@Zachery_ Nope nope nope. You are very wrong. If you know in your heart of hearts that you're not ready to have a child then DO NOT HAVE A KID! Even if you're in the early stages of pregnancy and you feel like the kid is a mistake, you have every right to abort the kid before yours & that childs life is ruined. There are so many stories of kids being abused by thier own families cause of the parents weren't actual fit parents to begin with and even then you don't have a right telling people to have children.
Or even worse.
Having a baby to save your marriage.
Of all the selfish reasons to place such a responsibility on a child....this is the worst.
Another thing he doesn't really touch on is that having kids later in life also might prevent you from having them with the wrong person. My parents had me at an older age and I honestly prefer it that way. They told me about the people they almost had kids with when they were at the "right" age and they were... not great. It took them awhile to find each other, but it was worth it because they love each other so much. Even today, I truly believe they're soulmates. When I was a kid, a "friend" made fun of my dad for being older, but that same kid came from a broken home with divorced parents. I was lucky to grow up in a loving home with parents who gave me a great childhood, all because they had me and my sibling later in life.
Adam isnt a bad Dude but he messes-up his Research All the time. Maybe its time to replace him with
Some-More-News and/or Second-Thought?
I always worry that the women who have children later in life are most likely to have kids with special needs.
I feel like when they have a baby Adam will just be that uncle that isn’t really related but hangs out with you guys anyways
From what I heard, Adam is in real life Emily's brother so he WILL be an uncle to the baby.....
@@girlgarde his sister's name irl is Emily, but not "this" Emily!! This is Emily Axford
Actually babies dont love you and just pretend to love you to mooch off of you
@@stephaniesnedden4849 no a dog is more likely to do that your baby does love you if that was untrue babies wouldn’t be so clingy to there parents and that would also mean toddlers children teenagers and adults don’t love there parents but unless your a abusive parent your child most likely loves you; dogs are more likely to mooch off of you for food and shelter your human baby does not. Do you not realize there’s a difference from depending on someone and using someone but I doubt you do since your parents never showed you love and you now have a resentment for them and you try to tell yourself everyone has the same feelings as you so you won’t feel so alone anymore or your just stupid
@@chinuamiller
🤣🤣🤣
If you lost fertility at 35, then why would your body wait an extra 15 years to go through menopause?
You are smart
My friend her mother had early menopause, at 30 or so. So she is willing to try for a kid at 28, but otherwise she would have waited. Averages are just averages. Some girls have their first period at 8, others at 15, almost 16. Family history might be a better indicator than the averages. Some women are over 50 when menopause starts and can get pregnant of healthy babies in their late 40's. And you can screen nowadays if that happens, to make sure the baby is healthy.
@@MissMoontree I’m 27 going on 28, and I’m still trying to build and maintain a long-term healthy relationship with a guy right now, so eventually I can settle down and have kids of my own within the next few years.
My mom had me at 31, my middle brother at 33, and my youngest brother at 38 going on 39. We all turned out fine, though I was born with mild right sided hemi CP, due to a prenatal stroke. That wasn’t due to my mom being “close to advanced maternal age,” or being unhealthy during her pregnancy, though. That was just something that happened randomly by fate. My youngest brother was born two months early via c-section at 2lbs and 2oz, but both he and my mother survived the experience and turned out okay in the end. My maternal aunt had her first and oldest son at 39 going on 40. I remember she had somewhat elevated blood pressure, but both she and her son turned out completely fine. She had her daughter 8 years ago at 43, and they both turned out fine.
Based on the success rate of other women on my mother’s side of the family getting pregnant and conceiving over 35, I think my chances will be pretty good until at least my early-mid 40s. I still did just get an AMH test, just to check my egg capacity. I know quality is what matters, not capacity, but the more eggs you have, the greater chance at having viable ones for fertility. The less opportunity of finding viable ones for fertility.
In truth, for the average modern woman, most of us can have a successful pregnancy up to about 45 years of age. I also don’t think advanced maternal age should be a term that gets broadly applied to expecting mothers under 40 because, while not impossible, serious complications and fertility issues under that age for most of us are still pretty rare until the early forties. If there are significant fertility issues before the forties, it usually is due to something other than age. Yeah, there is a slight increase in risks associated with pregnancy over 35, but if you’re noticing serious complications in fertility before your mid-late 40s (under 45), it’s usually due to other underlying issues of autoimmune disorders, inherited premature or early menopause, personal health, and/or poor personal lifestyle choices. It usually has little to nothing to do with the maternal age range of 35/36-45 in and of itself. There’s not always a preventable cause for early natural infertility in and of itself, but age in and of itself is generally not the main factor of fertility issues.
Our bodies are imperfect. No one designed them, so all kinds of bits and bobs are incongruous or vestigial or whatever.
Back in those days, a woman was "Old" at 35. :/
Uh no. The mortality rate was brought down by all the babies dying, but if you survived when you were a kid you would probably live past 35, barring any fatal injury or disease
Keenan Horrigan
Lol you should have started with "Um, actually,"
Keenan Horrigan
but you probably will end up with post-pox scars allover your body, hronic diseases or disabled. And then they maybe burn you in the middle of the town, because, dunno, your hair is red, so you're a witch, or something.
ah, fun times.
In the 1700s,very few people lived past 40. Most people did die in their 30s due to bad hygiene. In the 1600s the plague and other diseases killed them off. Not that babies actually died during the 1600s in comparison to the late 1800s and early 1900s. Babies were more likely to survive then.
Considering how easily women would die from childbirth in those days coupled with how many times the average woman gave birth, living to 35 would still be considered an accomplishment.
My mom gave birth to me at 40. Fertility isn't a problem. HOWEVER today she's almost 60 and wants to be a grandmother, and I'm still 18, don't see babies soon, so 35 is a good EMOTIONAL deadline.
What’s weird about this comment is that on some level it argues that your own mom shouldn’t have had you due to her age. That’s a strange undertone.
This also assumes though that your children will actually want kids at all. I find people planning to be a grandparent quite a weird thing to do, because its not really something I have any control over. I could have three kids by 30 but none of them have kids of their own. Or I could have three kids by 40 and then have lots of grandchildren. Its not a decision that is up to me, so I feel like giving myself an emotional deadline for grandchildren is not practical. I cant control that. Better to have children when I am ready, and to focus on that.
Don't reproduce just to appease your boomer mom.
@@hl6994 is there anything stopping old couples to adopt? if they REALLY want so badly the feeling of being grandparents, they can adopt young children, give them a loving home, and have that, it is a bit untradicional, but hey, they do they, and i'll be happy for them, but i also don't see myself having kids
@@San-lh8us I think it depends on your country. Being too old can disqualify you from adoption in some places. And also adopting a child to be your grandchild is a very different experience from your child having a grandchild. Adopting a grandchild means 24 hour care and love and support. I think most people who want to be grandparents want the fun of spoiling and playing with the child, and having the relief of giving them back to a parent. So adoption might not work
I can’t have babies after 35
Cause I’m a male
Kyan2005 but can you impregnate someone after 35?
Haha
LoL
@@Zachery_
Well looking at mans biological build up a man can vertilize a female untill the day he dies althoug the qualety of the sperm drops and reduces the chance
Kyan2005 Well usually the lifespan of a dog is fifteen years. I think a dog having kids, let alone living to thirty-five is a miracle.
I needed to hear this. I'm 26 and I felt like it meant I had at most nine years to cram all the kids I want. Still want them young but it's hard getting financially stable in these times!
How many kids do you really want that need to be "fit" in 9 years?!
@@somethingsomethingsomethingg that's her business lol
This is a myth created by society so that there are more people to work for aholes that govern countries.
I feel the same way
Find your stability first
My mother, who has had fertility problems her entire life, had me when she was 37 and then had my brother when she was 41. It took her several months to become pregnant and my brother only had a small breathing problem when he was born. She's 49 now and her doctor said she could probably still have kids if she wanted to
So you are 12 cool
for a scientifically better example due to a longer observation period; my mom had me when she was 39 and i'm 25 now. i've never had any health problems that could be tied to genetics or birth defects.
Ashton Smith For someone who's only 12, your grammar, syntax and spelling are excellent. Please don't allow them to turn you into another drone and congratulations to your parents.
Us and our mums are the same age, high five and tell ur mum that they’re cool
Also your better at writing than most kids in my school. Hope u enjoy stuff
"Just a small breathing problem"....
Sometimes waiting is both a choice and non choice. I'm 37 and haven't met someone to settle down yet. Would it have been nice to have a child earlier in life? Yes. However that wasn't in my cards. So for those who are criticizing those who have children later in life please think first. No ones time line is the same.
Most people aren't condemning couples who haven't yet had the opportunity to have children (case in point, you), it's condemning those that have the ability and a stable situation, but sit on it.
That is such a hard position to be in with all the societal pressure and expectations. I hope you find a suitable partner soon, or you can even explore other avenues (adoption, sperm donor, embryo adoption, even) if financially feasible.
agreed I am also unfortunate enough to not really have a choice. I meet so few women and even less who ever plan on having kids, I feel like I will never have a family at this rate... meanwhile dumb bimbos and assholes have oops babies all the time and then still somehow end up with a fine life. I strive for it and fall short...
I'm not trying to blame you or anything close to that, I'm just curious. Did you think you had plenty of time? Was finding Mr. Right a real priority when you were 23, 25? Did you have lengthy relationships with men you knew you'd never marry or settle down with, for whatever reason? Again, this is not at all an attempt to blame you, more just trying to understand how you got where you are. Unintentional childlessness among women your age is too often the result of this bs we've been sold that says it's OK to put it off, you have more than enough time, put yourself first, etc., and videos like this do not help. You do still have time, take care of yourself, make sure you don't have any minor issues that could be fixed now. You never know the future, I know many couples who married within weeks or a few months of meeting, and they've all been married for decades. Your life can change very quickly, but if you do want kids, do all you can now to make it easier in the future. Good luck, whatever happens.
For some reason, people really love to judge when it comes to this issue. People criticize parents who "choose the wrong partner" and end up getting divorced or raising the children as single mothers. Parents get criticized if they have the children before they are financially ready and have to turn to any type of assistance. Parents get criticized if they both work full time and put their kids in daycare from a young age. At yet, it's also wrong to wait until you are with the right person and have the resources to raise a child??? You can't win, some people will find a reason to criticize no matter what you do. Good for you for recognizing that waiting was the right thing to do in your situation. Happy families exist in all shapes, sizes and forms. Everyone needs to find what works for them.
My mom had me at a perfect age (24yo). And she's been a crappy mother who forced me into the role of parenting her (that's called parentification).
Please wait until you're emotionally mature enough to take care of a person. And preferably have a stable job and relationship.
And whatever you do, never tell yourself that it will all work out because you 'love your baby sooooo much': claiming a feeling is pretty easy, actually acting on that feeling is hard (giving your baby a warm and encouraging environment takes work)
That's exactly it. My mom always said she would have been a shitty mother in her 20s. Also shit taste in men lol. That's why she waited until 40/42 to have children and it worked out really well. Obviously she's less physically fit now than the moms of other people my age, but the stability, certainty patience and even wisdom that comes with a little more age have definitely been worth it for both of my parents.
@@baguettegott3409 I just turned 28, and I want to wait till my 30s to have kids of my own. I come from women who safely gave natural conception to healthy children between their early 30s-early 40s. Yes, every woman is going to be different in their natural fertility, but that’s not really about age in and of itself until the mid-late forties. It’s about personal diet, personal health, genetics, poorly treated autoimmune disorders, certain medications you’re taking, whether you have any medical conditions that affect natural fertility, whether you can or could treat those conditions to overcome fertility issues, and so on.
It goes to show just how ageist, greedy, misogynistic, and shallow the US corporate world still is in regards to their continued usage of these outdated statistics about the effects of aging and natural fertility in women. Even professionally licensed gynecologists still stand behind these very outdated stats to make money for fertility treatments off of many of otherwise perfectly healthy young women between their late-twenties to thirties, even though they know better or should know better by now.
My mother was around 40 when she gave birth to my little sister.
She’s also better than me in any possible way.
Your mother or your sister?
Kyle My sister.
Alabama secretly intensifies
@@BasicHumanRights0 BEGONE ALABAMA!
That must be a confidence booster.
When I was 12, I was talking to my friends and we overheard a girl say "I find it so creepy if anyone in the class has a mother over 40." My mother was 50 at the time. Before I could say anything, the teacher (we were in a sex ed lesson) told her how disrespectful she was being and how his mother was 54 when he was 12.
The reason I've encountered (among myself and friends) for opting to have kids before the late 30s has more to do with having the energy to do things with your kids. I personally was raised by older parents and I didn't get to do as many activities as my peers because of it. That's legit the only reason I would consider having kids at a younger age than 35.
My mum had me at 42 and i couldn't agree more, I'm now 17 and the relationship I have with my parents is just so different to all of my friends'
I hope that, even though it's different, you still find your bond with them special :)
Absolutely, I love them and I love what they taught me growing up, but as a kid it was definitely different. That's all :)
7tuesdaybabe My sister had kids at 18 and they'll probably grow up and tell you the same thing you're saying about parents not being energetic/active. My parents were 24 and 28 and I don't remember doing anything active with them. It has more to do with how you're raised than it does by what age your parents raise you. My youngest sister was born when my mom was 35 for example and I remember coming home from college and she was teaching my mom how to shuffle (that rave dance), at that point my mom was 49. I don't remember my mom ever doing anything like that with me though. The point is, if you want to be an active energetic parent you can be, regardless of age
Well I guess it just depends on the person because my mom is 52 and I am 15 and honestly she’s a bit more active than all my other friends parents she does Zumba takes me out she’s interested in the things I’m interested in
My mum had a kid when she was literally 46 and my step dad was 51 (and the kids are fine)
You ave to agree that is pushing it
wow let's risk our kids having horrible conditions for the rest of their lives
And there's nothing wrong with that and don't let anyone bully you into believing it is. All this push to get women to procreate as early as possible after the age of 18 is more about social mores and antiquated sexism that defines women by the idea that our sole purpose is to reproduce and devote our lives to child rearing. When it doesn't work, some jackass accusing you of being "amoral" and risking the health of your offspring. Because if berating, harassing and shaming doesn't work, then let's accuse you of being a horrible, amoral human being instead, because ... science.
Candace Nicholson not really. They're finding the same is true for men. The quality of both eggs and sperm goes down with age, and it's more likely there will be more problems if either party is older when having a baby. Not to mention the logic of it. By 40 you won't be as energetic as your 20's, and having a baby is not easy. Toddlers will want to play and run and move constantly, and you'll probably get less sleep if they're a crier. That's more stress on an older body, for both men and women.
Yes, really, it is, Peter. Everything I stated was true. The pressure for women to procreate is largely based on social conditioning and antiquated sexism. Yes, human beings age. That's not news. Yes, you're not as energetic at 40 as you are at 20. But you are likely more financially stable, more patient, and more mature and experienced with life so that you make better choices for yourself and your offspring. There's much more to child rearing than your ability to handle less sleep during a toddler's growing years.
And eggs and sperm don't deteriorate significantly in quality, they deteriorate more so in *quantity*. But that message gets muddled (like the video above showcases) in a manner to scare people, primarily women, into thinking their children may be born with deformities and pressure them into having children young, when they're less likely to be able to support them financially and will be trapped in a life raising kids in an environment that may be more harmful to the child's growth and psychologically development -- two areas that are just as important as whether or not a child has a lot of energy and wants to run around and play all day.
As I said, there's nothing wrong with having a child in your 40s. The statistics change regarding certain health issues, but they're still comparatively small and remain highly unlikely. Which is no more detrimental than raising a child in poverty or in an environment where the parents can't be around because they're constantly working in order to be able to afford to feed, clothe and provide care for that child.
There's nothing wrong with Erica Steven's mother having given birth at 46, and these desperate attempts to paint women as negligent, amoral or borderline criminal for doing so is all about social conditioning and sexism -- which was my point in my response to her, if you recall.
But there's one fatal flaw that makes sure if you have the willing and can have children before 35 then do it. Take me as an example, I was 17 when my parents are 65. I have to take care of them and I always feel stressful cuz they are still working incredibly hard for me and won't retiring because I can't afford everything myself. And live in London is even harder for me.
Early caregiving is something that needs to be addressed more often. I was 21 when my dad turned 65 (24 when my mom reached 65). I was 17 (3 weeks away from turning 18) when I had to start taking care of my mom. I've had to take care of her in some capacity ever since (with zero help). The caregiving duties went up 3 yrs ago and have been high ever since. I'm beyond tired of caregiving and want to move and resume (and in a way, start) my life.
Our stories are why people shouldn't have kids after turning 40.
Very true, but then this is why we should be advocating that countries have stronger social support systems, so that people don't need to worry about continuing to work into their old age. Pensions, national health insurance, superannuation and social security schemes are supposed to protect the elderly, while a well-subsidised, regulated higher education system decreases the burden on both parents and their children to pay for college. This can be achieved by higher tax rates and mandatory superannuation, distributed proportionately across all income brackets. That may draw off a higher amount of income initially, but translates to money in the bank and a better social welfare system in the future.
Unfortunately people vote precisely against the agenda that benefits them most, because they want to preserve the right to accrue as much money as they can right now. They are driven by an incredible fear that their money will be sucked up and gone by the time they retire, yet at the same time make the biggest financial decisions of their lives (buying property, having children) right there and then, thus ironically ensuring that happens. They don't realise that the whole argument is controlled by the only people rich enough to afford making millions a year (while not wanting to pay their social dues back) and industries like private insurance, who scam everyone else to keep their high profit lines, which is why people are forced to make these decisions.
That is the comment i am looking for. Take the situation from other perspective. I married when i was 23 with big love, we travelled eveywhere and enjoyed as much as we could. Our first boy entered the area when me and my wife in 27, we took good care of him. My second boy borned when we were 32 and we just cant look after him as the first one and as we wanted. We clearly decided its not about having two kids (first one is started kindergarten and he is just an easy boy) but we are just old and lacking energy compared to age of 27. Now we are full of regrets why we didnt make a baby when we first married.
If you think you are a stable and logical person, have childs like between age of 22-28.
Oh also do not wait for first child fully grown (him/her go to school) to have second. Its ridiculous, it is not like what you think, 2-3 years of period is well enough
Errr if you think people are senile at 65 you either have terrible genetic luck in your family or poor self care. Most people who have adhere to healthy diet and exercise are still going very strong at 65. On the other hand, smokers and those who are morbidly obese have a high chance of serious life altering or ending disease by 50 :/
I would know. My parents are 60 and they're doing great, and are in better shape than some of my friends whose parents are 15 years younger lol
@@finchborat that's unfortunate but not common. Most people are still highly independent, and many are still working, at 65. Becoming dependent at 65 is not standard "senility." That is illness. And while risk of cancer and early onset dementia does increase with each year age, the risks arent really exponential until 80+
Know why Mormon women stop having kids at 35?
Because 36 is way too many!
I'm done 😂
Magicaleb I fail to understans this joke, explain.
The question is worded to sound like it is about age, but the answer is worded to sound like it is talking about number of children.
Know why Mormon women stop having kids at 35 (years old)?
Because 36 (kids) is way too many (but 35 kids is not too many to them)!
What about the Mormon part?
thegreen mormons are known for having large numbers of children (they lead the nation both in numbers and in when they start).
Love this one. My mom was 36 when she had me and 40 when she had my younger sister, no issues getting pregnant and we're both extremely healthy people. She always says she's so glad she waited to have kids because she was a better mom due to more life experience and the stability that comes with age. And it shows since she was an amazing mom!
some people forget that some couples prefer to settle down, buy a house, have stable jobs and all that shit before having a baby. My mom had me at 30 (first try was a miscarriage, and omg! she wasn't past 35) and she had to quit her job, then we had to move out. Third time, another miscarriage, still before 35, fourth time, my brother, we moved out again, I lost all of my friends. Now we're moving out once again. You can't really choose whether to be lucky or not. And I respect couples who prefer to settle down before making such a hard choice rather than having a baby right away and fucking up their lives.
☺
My parents where 24 when i was Born.
As for miscarriage... lets just say i know for a fact i couldnt have been a surprise.
Rumpel Felt oy, my mum is single and had me at 25! i turned out pretty good, and she even went back to college a few years ago! stop shaming women into having babies when you want them to have them, and let them decide on their own! I love my mum, and she is easily the strongest and most hard working person I know.
of course, abortions are a blessing nowadays in terms of modern science. a lot of people think its 'immoral' or killing a 'baby' (which it isnt, people who claim this have no understanding of basic biology or what a fetus actually is), but its really not that different from a period. its immoral to bring life into this world that you nether will want nor can take care of, least to me. course if your opinion differs, then go by your values, but no one can deny nor make you get an abortion. if you make a mistake your life you do not have to suffer, and nether does your potential offspring. if you dont have a baby when you are not ready, you can wait until you are mentally and or financially ready to have one, and im sure that baby will do loads better than the baby you nether wanted nor could take care of.
point is, dont let anyone shame you into making a decision as important as deciding when and if to have offspring. make sure you educate yourself on your options, and make a choice regarding your situation and wants. your decision can result in a potential new being, and if you do have a child you need to make an educated choice.
Spongebob Squarepants my parents had me after marrying for 7 years. I’d say that’s a smart decision.
3:05
nobody:
the woman subtitles: I can eat egg
It is true it said i can eat egg
Underarrated comment
Its even better with how slow it was
“A grazing industry, i can eat egg”
-ghetto elsa
Actually, she says "I can eat" before adam starts talking about the egg freezing industry. Somehow, I find this funnier.
I was aware about fertility not decreasing as much after the 30's, but they got me on the birth defects thing. damn, publicity is scary.
Víctor Barraza oh please!!! Birth defects happens at lot when the women are in their early 20s
Lies, damned lies, and statistics.
It is technicaly not a lie, 2x 0,5% is 1% and thats what scared me the most
hummingbirdgirl07 Yeah because there's way more women that have babies in their twenties.
If you're force to choose a drink from a table that has 1 cup of 50 being poison vs the table with 100 cups where 1 is poison, that 100 cup table might be much more comforting.
what is that high tech pregnancy test that literally just says *"pregnant"*
we're in 2017 while emily is in 2057
The kind that's convenient for television programs
squid's buns Actually I believe Clear Blue digital is one that reads "Pregnant" or "not pregnant" so we are in the future 😂
They actually do have those they are just more expensive and why spend the extra money for the display.
Howard Ackerman In personal experience, trying to decide if that second line was there or not was difficult! So I opted for clearblue rather than the original method. The instructions on the original said that any second line (no matter how faint) meant pregnant. However, all of the clearblue ones said not pregnant. So overall, it stopped a lot of confusion.
Me: ADAM FOR PRESIDENT!
Adam: Actually, Presidency
Me: NO! HSUSHSHSHSHSHSHSHSSSHHH
Yoy
Oogly Boogly Boo yeah, sounds like something he’d do.
He and Matpat should make a fact fight
Jorge Luis De Jesús Cruz Romero they both would be shoved away from their friends if they did that. I just imagine both talking about research on and on and their friends slowly pushing them out the door, closing it and continuing to have a party.
"You know what happens when people get scared? Corporate America swoops in to take advantage." Why is this so accurate.
My mom had me when she was 37, and she hasn’t shown signs of Menopause so far!
Blake Babcock - Are you 13?
Blake Babcock 45+
Blake Babcock that's....something you shouldn't know.
Raik why!?
Same :D
Can you still have babies after 35? Of course, everything mentioned in this video is correct! Although, what was not mentioned are the fatal risks associated with pregnancy after 35. The ideal age to have children is anywhere between the age of 20 & 35, reasons being their are less complications that happen during intrapartum (during birth). For instance, an abruption of the placenta is very common in women below the age of 20 and above the age of 35, the unlucky women who face this condition can have signs and symptoms such as a rigid abdomen and painful vaginal bleeding or no symptoms at all! Basically the placenta abrupts and the mother can loose up to 2 Liters of her own blood! This in return decreases blood pressure & increases heart rate to compensate for the loss of blood; causing death.
Reference: I'm a registered nurse
I am a nurse as well and this video made me cringe.Thank you for your comment I hope more people understand it's not just a matter of getting pregnant it's about staying pregnant , having a healthy baby , mother and delivery
Completely agree with you! And thank you, for your'e lovely input :)
Well thank you sir! I hope people due their research before making decisions such as this one.
Andry Hernandez exactly, but that wasn't going to improve the video, so I guess they said to themselves "let's keep that out", the serious issue is not about getting pregnant after 35, is about the complications that might lead to death in the worst case (baby, mom, or both) or more expensive pregnancies at least. That's why advice from a humor video about serious stuff is not usually recommended without further serious research.
and what is the extra percentage of fatality risks between 35 and 40 years old exactly?
Man, I envy the baby they're going to have. I would love a sort of nerdy semi-uncle who randomly visits a lot to ruin popular beliefs.
Toast I would hate listening to him constantly because he gets stuff wrong constantly, especially when he gets political or when he’s talking about a business, then his biases really show.
That would be awesome
I have one but replace ruining beliefs with video games and you've hit the nail on the head.
Toast I love u for that that is the best thing I herd all year
TheRogueToast funniest comment I’ve read on here
It's funny to me that we don't talk more about fertility on the male side. I feel as though everyone knows about the risk of chromosomal defects from the mother's input, but most people don't talk about prospective fathers who, say, smoke cigarettes, for example, until they go to attempt to have a baby and find that his fertility has taken a hit.
My husband is 42 and I turn 30 in a couple weeks, and he has a now-13-year-old, so with those three factors there has literally never been a "good time" for us to have a baby if we decided we want one. I think we're getting to that point, though. 😬
Also I think it would be good for this myth to die in particular because young mothers' incomes often never recover after the hit of having kids - and that's an added level of stress that families really don't need.
Between the age of 25-40, my grandma had 12 kids and each and every one of them came out fine.
Her housing situation was a different story.
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I'm 12 right now my dad is 69 and my mom is 67 so...
Kikuyu Kiiru wdym
Your dad will be 80 when your 23? That sucks
they're older than my f*cking grandparents my mum and dad's side (no offense)
Kikuyu Kiiru it’s not a good joke if you have to explain why it’s funny
Kikyo4815 Nope. That just tells you the level of intelligence from the person not understanding the joke ;-)
This just had a profound effect on my metal health... For the better. I'm under so much stress because I'm a 35 year old woman and there is NO END to friends and family, even strangers, telling me I need to hurry up and have kids. Like I'm destined to have a mutant if I wait even one more month. I honestly need a little more time to develop my relationship first. I'm going to go read that researchers book. I cannot thank you enough.
I wish society wasn't so obsessed with pressuring both women and men about certain things. This show is so needed. Were not always right about everything and even research can be misleading. Thx Adam I really appreciate this.
People are so pushy and annoying
I've actually had multiple friends have trouble getting pregnant in their "prime" and then had no trouble mid 30's.
Just sort of skimmed over the miscarriage becoming more common part, lol.
Again, it's not age dependent. It's a lot related to genetics.
Not just miscarriage
Risk of 21 trisomy(Down syndrome) is also higher in babies born to older women
@@priya30081 yes, and older eggs have a a higher chance to present genetic anomalies. Unfortunately, that's why chromosomal issues are more common in babies born to women over 35.
@@abizitgill4310 Not by as much as people think, the increase is actually rather small.
@@livkellermann4895 Not by as much as people think though.
my mom had me when she was 42. I'm fine. her pregnancy was fine. lots can go wrong when you have a baby when you are young. lots can go wrong when you are older. do what you want.
You are the exception. Not the rule. People really shouldn't be having kids that late. Ask your mom how hard her pregnancy and delivery was. I know it was hard on me and I'm extremely young
Bella Deee YOU are the exception. Not the rule.
This one knows what they're talking about.
musiclover81493 That's what she's saying you dope.
My mother had me when she was 44, and she said I was the easiest of her pregnancies.
Miss leading title, I thought it meant you can have more then 35 babies
How did your misinterpretation or inability to comprehend what your reading equate to a "misleading" title?
+Pierredirects This is what people call a "joke." It subverts expectations in a comedic manner. Hope this helps.
Yeah, the misspelling was hilarious. I blame public schools.
The world record is actually close to 70 births to the same woman.
Those ice effects was legit Doctor Who levels great.
I mean Dr Who doesn't have a huge budget but the effects weren't too shabby
My mom had me at 43 and didn’t go infertile until 57, just goes to show that your age is becoming less and less of a worry when medicine and living conditions improve as much as they are now
I'm watching this a bit too late. I was exactly in this panicky mode as I turned 32 this year. I thought it was already too late but immediately after my husband and I started trying for a baby, I got pregnant. All the doctors were scaring me about infertility since I was 24. I was told I had PCOS and hypothyroidism. Even when 31 and having regular periods, I was told that I'm bleeding every month without any eggs being released and was asked to take so many medicines. But I had unprotected sex just once and immediately got pregnant.
Congratulations on getting pregnant! Hope you and your baby are doing well ❤
Doctors are only taught what Big Pharma/corporations want them to know…err, “Know”
I hope you actually wanted to try for a baby and weren't JUST doing it because "oh no, the wall!"
If Emily and Murph have a kid I'm going to shit myself
Andrew Flash *Spoilers for Season 2*
Technically they do, but Adam took them across an alternative timeline, in where Emily does get pregnant. In reality, Emily was not pregnant.
Well, the episode premiered last night, so that's the only way you can know.
Andrew Flash And Emily will shit herself too! Only it won't be shit
We have to wait 9 months to really see though ;(
Donnie Montoya it actually will be, among other things.
My mother had me at 38, and my dad was a bit older than her, and I'm perfectly fine, so
Damn I was waiting for a punchline
Anecdotes are no scientific data.
@@CoCreeed tell that to anti-vaxxers lol.
Lies
Same
We're gonna be PARENTS...
- Adam, 2017
I am with you there
My first thought was "Go *away* Adam, they don't want you here! >:(" emoticon and all
I bet you 50$ he's the father!
I'm kinda excited now for future episodes where Adam ruins babies or something
+Issa Beganović right!!!! I was like wait what do you mean we're going to be parents lol
Over 35 is considered a high risk pregnancy by the Mayo clinic, which they sourced. Adam and College humor don't bring up increased chance for hypertension and diabetes in pregnancy with advanced maternal age. Paternal age over 40 is also associated with increased problems. It may not happen to you, but weigh your decision with an expert who cares.
SusanRN92 paternal age has a direct linear relationship with down syndrome
And, if it matters to you, the chance of the baby not having grandparents increases.
SusanRN92 this video is weird it almost seems like Adam/research team didn't bother to ask doctors about the issue but consulted and viewed trash mags. I mean yes the risk of becoming infertile is fairly low but every doctor I've met say avoid having kids after 40. It's not that it's impossible just problems and side effects and complications become worse and harder to manage.
Nah.....my doctor advised me not to get my tubes tied because women can have babies well into their early 40s.
I was 38 when I had my last and 34 when I had my first and in 2017 most good OBGYNs don't freak out at 40 year olds having babies.
I don't say everyone over 35 will have difficulties with pregnancy, childbirth, and genetic defects. But the risks certainly increase, and this video is disappointing as it decides for viewers about risk. Every doctor should know not to make that decision for you, only you can decide if the risk is tolerable. I am saying, get informed from a professional, think about your circumstances, and consider the possible consequences. Maybe you are okay with the increased chance of preeclampsia, diabetes, c-section, down syndrome. If you are fortunate to pull through, remember, you will have a teenager when you are in your mid fifties, and may be supporting a 20 something going to college when you are retiring. They may then have to change their life plans then to care for you. Good luck to the families who have their first over 35.
GOTTA GET BAKIN NOW
Christian Beastonn bacon*
She said "bakin'" not "bacon"
IF she had said BACON. She would have been right. She would always be right.
Bill Murray epic bacon!
GOTTA GET BACON NOW
I wish this was more widely known. At 39 I took out my IUD, had 1 period and got pregnant! I remember my doctor telling me "don't be surprised if it takes awhile to get pregnant, that can happen when you are older." Well wow, she was wrong! Getting pregnant that fast sent me into a tail spin, questioned my belief in statistics and medicine. I went down a rabbit hole and discovered that age is less of a factor in getting pregnant then most people think. Yet the medical field still pushes this BS. It made me really mad and made me question any statistics and studies. Turns out, if you have a problem getting pregnant at 38, you might have had a problem at 28 too. You just weren't trying at 28 so you wouldn't know that. Also, the man plays a huge role in this whole process too, which is rarely mentioned. When a man is older a woman is more likely to miscarry, but this isn't talked about like the false narrative pushed that women have difficulty getting pregnant after 35.
I just turned 28, and I want to wait till my 30s to have kids of my own. I come from women who safely gave natural conception to healthy children between their early 30s-early 40s. Yes, every woman is going to be different in their natural fertility, but that’s not really about age in and of itself until the mid-late forties. It’s about personal diet, personal health, genetics, poorly treated autoimmune disorders, certain medications you’re taking, whether you have any medical conditions that affect natural fertility, whether you can or could treat those conditions to overcome fertility issues, and so on.
It goes to show just how ageist, greedy, misogynistic, and shallow so much of the US corporate and professions world still is in regards to their continued usage of these outdated statistics about the effects of aging and natural fertility in women. They rarely talk about the fact that men have a biological clock on their fertility too. Even certain professionally licensed gynecologists still stand behind these very outdated and misogynistic statistics in regards to the decline of natural female fertility and age to make money for fertility treatments off of many perfectly healthy young women between their late-twenties to thirties. It’s just really sad because many these people are professionally licensed medical doctors. I get wanting to be compensated for any career or job, including in the medical field, but it’s really tragic how so many professionals in our country have become so motivated by a desire for fame and money to the point that they’re willing to deliberately belittle, deceive, and manipulate customers, clients, and patients to do so.
I mean my mom had my brother (who is a healthy baby) when she was 40 so this is news to me
bands.and.stuff boom same
bands.and.stuff boom my mom had my sister at 44
my mom gave birth to me when she was at her 40sh. My IQ is 114 (average), speaking 4 languages (2 primary, 2 secondary), play music instruments. Birth in 40sh is normal in my place, it's normal to have babies before menopause, that's simple junior high school biology.
Ahmad Vawaid Sulthon I hope English is one of your secondary languages because that free IQ test you had taken might be lying to you :)
My mom had my younger sister when she was 42 and she is really healthy.
guess date night worked out for them after all
Jerad Berry ii
Jerad Berry I
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Jerad Berry lmao
Now I just can’t stop thinking why they didn’t have a condo
i'm 23 and my parents are both 18
S Newton wth
new meta
S Newton Seems legit
Wheres a "this doesnt add up" meme when u need one?
Wait something doesn't add up here
I used to think my mom was old for having me at 28... I’m now 26 and can’t imagine how scary that was for her because i now realize how young that is and 28 doesn’t seem like a big number
Just have kids when you are able to support them. And before 45, preferably. Some people have kids at 23, and some people have kids 39. Neither age is better or worse so long as the parent is able to properly support the baby.
Not gonna lie, this comment is the best in this sea of politics. 100% agreed. Sure you have the 0.5% increase but is that worth having a kid when you're not financially ready? Or when you don't have the time to raise a kid? I personally believe its fine to have a kid at 40, so long as you're healthy and able to take care of it.
Brandon B
Thanks! (:
he's not saying that having a kid at 40 is better than having a kid at 20 what he's saying is that having a kid you can provide for is always the best solution. if you are 20 and you have a kid that you cant provide for and the kid has to grow up poor or without his parents (because they don't have the time to raise the kid) is worse than a finacially stable loving 40 year old having a kid.
Gabriel Perez i just think that you have to take both things in consideration since it's not worth it to just have a baby when you can't take care of it just because the chances go slightly up when you're older.
the statistics dont tell you the whole story. They tell you a trend. He did say "as long as the parent is able to properly support the baby" The statistics could mean a lot of things and one of them could be that there are a lot more health-related deaths and issues in the 40+ demographic than in the 20-30+ demographic. Obviously, dead people cant have babies, neither should/can sick/disabled people. Nobody is denying the stats of increasing your chances of sickness/death the longer you wait but rather that the whole "you wont be able to have kids then" statement is bullshit. Thats it
My mum had me when she was 45. I'm glad of this because it means she has a good job and more money to raise me. But now I'm fifteen and she's sixty. I just hope she has a good long life.
Same, Idk why she had me so late compared to my 10 year older sister
*Ice to meet you*
I can't even...
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Highlighting the real.issues!
These ice puns are giving me Batman and Robin flashbacks....
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I’m an after 35 baby and I’m glad my parents waited for financial stability and being with the right person
My mother gave birth to my brother and me at age 40 and 42. We are both extremely healthy.
you just cant handle the truth.
No one, including the people on the show, are saying you *have* to have a baby when you're in your thirties just because. They're saying scare tactics and society telling other people when to have kids needs to stop.
Cuz personal stories equate to statistics 7_7
Word ShizonHeiwajima14!!!
Same, my mom had me at 40 :)
Lol my mom had me at 45 and I don't think I'm THAT messed up
Maja samme!!!!!! My mom had me at 45 and everyone’s like is that your grandma
My had me we she was 40
Renee Travis same
You're lucky, most people born at that age either get DS (Dosn Syndrome) or some other Gene Deformities.
AnonymousStranger YouDon'tKnowMe Did you watch the video? Adam just explained that the age of your mother when you were born has very little effect on your chances to get a birth defect. Or are those issues you mentioned something not classified as a birth defect?
WhaAAAT? I thought everyone died after 35.
That would explain why you wouldn't be able to have babies.
+Wolfsplash McWarriorsTrash
You're thinking of Logan's Run.
Not quite
In the 1600's, the life expectancy was about 35 years old, this means that half of all people died before reaching the age of 35
Keep in mind that this was the life expectancy at birth, most of those deaths were within the first few years of life, and once someone hit the age of 10, their odds of living past 35 increased to near certainty
So. I’m 38, and I’m going to be a first time Mom anytime now. I did not use fertility to get there, although I did get checked out by a doctor and everything was working great. Most of the time infertility happens for unknown reasons. And well, I became pregnant when we stopped trying. I think a lot of it was stress but what do I know?!
I’ve had a very healthy, non problematic pregnancy. The best advice I have is find a OB GYN practice that’s non alarmist until they have to be. Make sure they are science based too.
I just turned 28, and I want to wait till my 30s to have kids of my own. I come from women who safely gave natural conception to healthy children between their early 30s-early 40s. Yes, every woman is going to be different in their natural fertility, but that’s not really about age in and of itself until the mid-late forties. It’s about personal diet, personal health, genetics, poorly treated autoimmune disorders, certain medications you’re taking, whether you have any medical conditions that affect natural fertility, whether you can or could treat those conditions to overcome fertility issues, and so on.
It goes to show just how ageist, greedy, misogynistic, and shallow so much of the US corporate and professions world still is in regards to their continued usage of these outdated statistics about the effects of aging and natural fertility in women. They rarely talk about the fact that men have a biological clock on their fertility too. Even certain professionally licensed gynecologists still stand behind these very outdated and misogynistic statistics in regards to the decline of natural female fertility and age to make money for fertility treatments off of many perfectly healthy young women between their late-twenties to thirties. It’s just really sad because these people are professionally licensed medical doctors. I get wanting to be compensated for any career or job, including in the medical field, but it’s really tragic how so many professionals in our country have become so motivated by a desire for fame and money to the point that they’re willing to deliberately belittle, deceive, and manipulate customers, clients, and patients to do so.
wait until 50 with pregnancy, you will still like 30 to 40 years of life plus with all medicine advancements you body would be as healthy as 20 years old😂😂😂😂😂@@Schoolgirl325
Well one negative consequence not mentioned here is that the baby will grow up with older grandparents and parents, hence less time spent with them before they die (yay optimism!)
my grandparents are alive and I was never close with any of them. Not having grandparents isn't a big deal.
Bob M that would be much more affected by your parents health. My parents could die in their 70's or their 90's, a much bigger range than the 5 years less because they had me "late"
Nicole well who's fault is that 😂
People can drop dead at anytime, try that again my friend.
I can actually relate to this because my mom give birth to me at age 42 and my dad was 45. He is now at retiring age and he can't do it because he has to support me through college, and I'm only in high school.
The risk of miscarriage goes up massively by the time you hit your 40s. Miscarriage takes an enormous physical and mental toll. It's not something to just be dismissed. It
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Miscarriages don’t create living beings
@@bruhwhat3608 Yeah and? Doesn't mean they don't hurt, physically and emotionally. Just because you lose your baby before birth doesn't mean you don't morn, or that you didn't lose your baby.
@Kiki Melendez what are you on about? An increased risk of miscarriage in your mid to late 30s on doesn't mean you need to get pregnant as a teenager. There's the entirity of your 20s to mid 30s to start a family before the risk of miscarriage rises substantially. And anyway, pregnancy before you're in your late teens is risky because the body isn't developed enough yet to have a baby.
@@strangekat2840 yea ik its traumatizing from what i heard i have also followed utubers suffering from a miscarriage they are upset, as soon as your baby is concieved u have an emotional bond with ur child
I love how he acted like miscarriages were no big deal because the question was about birth defects, I know a couple women who are still pretty messed up from their miscarriages, it is a very traumatizing experience.
Because truthfully miscarriages aren't a big deal it's body's way of getting rid of a bad egg and it's natural,we make the mistake getting too attached too early
Yea getting attached to something that's been growing inside you for 9 months is stupid.
do you also get attached to the parasite that you had for 9 month and shit it out?
Brilliant comparison. I've never had a parasite in my gut for 9 months, but I feel like If I knew If I carried it for 9 months, shit it out, and I could teach it how to crawl, walk, speak, share all my interests with it, and had a life span of 60-80 years and kinda looked like me, I would be very attached to it.
But hey, that's just me.
Carrying something for a full nine months is different then say the first two trimesters in which miscarriages are incredibly common to happen ..it's being realistic yes it's sad and bad but it's not traumatic like 911 something to scar you for the rest of your life.. miscarriages are to be expected... getting all emotionally tore up after every miscarriage means you need to work on yourself
My mom gave birth to me at 37 and she always told me how much she hated that her pregnancy was referred to as "geriatric" and always asked doctors to not use the term
My parents had me when my mom was 40 and my dad was 46 it is unlikely that my dad will live to see me have children so that's a reason why you should have children earlier.
Well he still has like 40 years left after having you. You and your partner could have kids at 30 and he should be able to see them.
86 is a bit high to set your expectations for life expectancy. It may be approaching average, but by no means a high probability.
My dad was 51, he's probably not gonna drop down dead in 10 years so I think your okay
My dad will never see me have children because I'm not having children. Sucks that you don't always get what you want or expect and might have to find fulfillment other ways.
Simmius The First same but my dad was 38
my science teacher who i love (because he’s a great teacher and an overall smart guys, not because i’m weird like that) was talking about genetics and somehow the good old 35 myth came up... he starts talking about how his wife had to get tested by a geneticist because she was pregnant at 35, he even went as far as to say that your fertility rate slowly declines up until 35 when it skyrockets.
i was honestly sad, at this point, this should be a commonly know thing. he’s always pushing us to use valid sources and check our facts yet he just went off of a french census from the 1700s.
just thought i would share. it made me sad.
Wait, he said it declines until it "skyrockets" at 35?
Craig Colby in the USA that is true, but not in the rest of the developed world
marisa schuldes so did you speak up?
Actually it takes like one Google search to see this video is bullshit but what does a New Zealand University study in 2011 know.
But the later a species reproduce it will likely slow evolution, considering over the last several thousand or so years the average human generation was 14 years apart.
Please do an Adam ruins everything on porn.
No! Not Porn!
Ooo. that'll just make us like it more.
they did one on sex
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!
The irony is he'd probably promote it.
Not to mention the frozen eggs only have a limited shelf life. Even doctors that come on talk shows make it seem like you could freeze eggs at 18 & use them at 32 “when you’re stable & life is perfect”
What is the shelf life? Just curious.
@@harringt100 10 years, if I remember the response of an OBGYN to this video correctly (spoiler: She wasn't happy with the way Adam presented this topic.)
Also, one of the reasons why so many women hadn't used their frozen eggs as of the making of this video was that the technology is still pretty young and many women had only frozen their eggs for a couple of years yet and weren't ready for children yet.
Ya know... adoption is a thing
You can skip the morning sickness too.
Plus it shouldn't be a last resort- they need homes/parents.
While I am rather taken aback by your profile picture you make a fair point nonetheless..
My mom's friend loves us kids coming over to their house coz she has no children. She doesn't want to bear a child though, she just wants to take care of other children and adopt coz she had this memory when she was young. The forest where she used to play was destroyed and turned into a subdivision. She always says that there are too many people in Earth and making even just another one wouldn't be helpful.
If want a baby though, it can cost $15,000 to $30,000.
In Ireland you have to be under 40 to adopt. I think if you adopt from another country that rule doesn't apply
Next: Adam Ruins Adoption lol
my mom has a friend who gave birth to twins when she was 45.
:)
I heard somewhere that the chances of having twins are higher when the woman is either pretty young or pretty old when having children. Might have something to do with it.
PGraveDigger1 that’s a pretty cool fact!! probably :0 :D
dottybing my mom had my youngest brothers who are twins at 41. I have 8 siblings
Thats how old my mom was when she had me I'm 25 now :)
I‘m living in Switzerland and I never heard of this 35 year countdown. Why is america so poorly educated?
I live in America, and I've never heard of it either.
Our country is basically run with corporations and greed, oops.
The guns and racism. Thats why we are retarded
Hier könnte ihre Werbung stehen im from mexico and I've never heard about it, we're a third world country for fucks sake!!!
I'm from India and this shit is so true here. Girls are pressured to get married by 25 because guys apparently don't want to marry older girls and if you don't get married early then the chances of having babies is very less. Never believed this shit. Bunch of ignorant and illiterate twats here.
My mother had my brother at 42 and me at 46 with absolutely no complications. He’s a lawyer and I’m in grad school. Don’t let age scare you.
Exactly! It's also important to check within your own family. My paternal aunts told me that apparently women on that side of the family can have babies up to 50!
My mom had my sister when she was 38. And my aunt is pregnant and she is 45. Lol.
Ancedotal.
she will be in her mid to late 60's when her kid graduates University, thats's slightly terrifying
@@laxmitty21 I mean, not really, my mom had me at 36, my dad was 31 at the time
I'm in high school and my dad runs marathons, ultramarathons, that are 116 km (seriously, I don't know how he does It, he's done It two following years and took him over 16 hour each) and studying another degree even if he's antes engineer because he got tired and was so, so he got a two year indemnization and now he haves almost two years (we will get a job before obviously) to study or do whatever he wants
My mom started an editorial some years ago of mistery books and she works in marketing so its easier for her, she's also studying italian
They are both really into social media and technology and love yo travel
I think people get too paranoid about age, but I'm not American so maybe it's just American culture? I guess
In Spain we have one of the top three Life expectancy so yeah xd not pretty paranoid about age
laxmitty21 not if you intend to live until 100. Lifespans are increasing. Get used to being around for the long haul!
@@CheeseBae facts
I always thought the over 35 thing was silly because if you look at any families from 100 years ago when people were having a dozen kids, the mother often still was having children into her 40s
I still wanna meet my grandkids and see them grow up so I'd rather not wait that long
Because having to take care of children is not annoying whatsoever. I have a cousin and when she was a baby... holy shit, words can not describe how much I wanted to kill myself. Crying, shitting, pissing, crying again.
Each to their own, I suppose.
Eternal Fire I mean I'll be real with you I'm not excited about those parts
My parents had me when mom was 32 and dad was 40. This left me feeling like I was running a clock of "if I want my kids to meet and know my parents, I need to hurry up." I'm 28 with a 3 month old, but it was a genuine concern of mine as my dad is 68 and mom turns 60 this year.
This is a *very* important episode. Planning is one of the most important parts of parenthood, and being unprepared leads to bad parenting skills and commitments you weren't ready to make being made, all because you were scared that you didn't have time. Knowing that you have time helps women be ready to take on the responsibilities of having a child, be certain they want one, and keeps them from being stressed that they can't change their mind later so they have to do it soon. I don't want kids, but my sister does, and I want her to know that she has a lot of time to be financially, mentally, and physically ready to have a baby. She doesn't have to rush it.
Yeah damn right! Ruin that shit Adam!
I love it when people ruin babies
The only REAL question is if Emily is actually pregnant or not💀
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Babylonian 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Babylonian BRUH GOT DAMN
Babylonian you're the man america needs.
At her age, better "late" than pregnant, I always say.
Yeah my parents had kids in their 40's. They died of natural causes by the time I was an adult, ended up homeless at 18 when I had to move away from my job to take care of my father in his last weeks, ended up with nothing. Took years to get it together enough to get back in college and get my life back on track.
So I hope everyone getting pregnant in their 40's is pretty damn sure they'll make it to their 70's, or at least has enough money to leave their kids if they die of bad health or complications etc. in the kid's senior year of high school.
Jeffrey Hendrix You've been through a lot! they say what doesn't kill you makes you stronger...good luck to you.
sometimes, what doesnt kill you severely wounds you...
Jeffrey Hendrix did your parents not have life insurance? My parents are in their 70s and I'm 23. They both have life insurance, no debt and own their homes. If anything would have happened to them when I was young I would have been taken care of. Same goes for my BF whose parents are in the same age range as mines.
My parents had me in their early thirties and still died bro. Shit happens.
i get born at my mom 45 without problem. not every case it is the same.
Not like I have examples.
My parents haven't even finished high school when I was born.
Mostly because I was stupid at the time, and came out undeveloped, and two months early.
exactly.....and no one even pays attention to your comment....lol
I just don't want to die when my kid is in college
Zedward you won't. you'll be 60ish.
Zedward then look after yourself, unless you have them at about 60 then there wont be a problem as the average death rate is much higher these days, for example my grandma is 83 and active. So unless someone had a baby at 60 there really isnt a problem
Zedward October 12th, 2024, sorry. Not even the Doctor can save you. Fixed point in time.
Sounds like a blessing to me. "Hey Dad! I'm gonna take a year off from school to find myself. Also, I'm doing porn."
Zedward my mum was in her 40s when she had both me and my sibling (and FWIW we were both natural births with no complications and have no health or psychological issues). I am not in my mid-20s, my sibling is early 20s and a student, our mum is in her mid-60s and still all-go all the time. I am confident that even if I have kids at a similar age as her they will have a grandma for their childhoods at least (my maternal grandparents are both still alive and living independently also!) I'm not sure you realise how old is old.
Ah yes 35...
*has vietnam flashbacks*
Shane Skworoda Is Gay what
I feel like he should've talked about if there are risks to having children as men get older. Just because men can always theoretically have children does that mean they should for the safety of the baby?
It's just a promo snippet from a 20~25 min show though
I believe the risk for men is significantly smaller than it is for women, which is probably why.
... I'm sorry, what? I'm heavily distracted by your dumpling cat avatar...
Veronica Munn Though what you said is true, another factor comes into play. The DNA of both men and women degrade as they age, meaning that though men can have kids later in life, their kids are also more likely to have defects.
Veronica Munn haha no
My mom had me at 38 and I was completely fine. My mother had her first child when she was 25 and that child came out with deformities and only lived for 6 hours. I'm not saying this is the rule but 35 just seems like such a random number and you could definitely have children be on that
"Were gonna be parents" -Adam
Imagine how awkward it was
They "were"? What happened? Miscarriage? :(
we're*
Oh god no loss.jpg pls
threesome?
Why is everyone ignoring the fact that it is easier to herd toddlers when your back and knees dont hurt. And i dont want my 18 year old kids wiping my ass and dealing with my old person smell.
My dad was 46 when my mom was pregnant with me. She was 37 at that time. That was in 1991. They are both still very active and full of energy. Its not about how old you are, it's about how old you feel. If you think you have one foot in the grave in your thirties, than thats your problem. So that's not a fact, it's your opinion. Just let people live their lives as they want.
darkPachira
Have a kid at 40, he's saying it's harder to stay up, you don't have the same energy as a 22 year old. A 22 year old can go on 2 hours of sleep, Chase toddlers around and be active without really trying too hard.
A 40 year old might already be having health problems. I think it's unfair to have children that late, knowing you are in fact WAY closer to death by just numbers. It is how you feel, truly...
But imo I want to see the most I can of my child's life. Not just 1/3 of it.
You need help wiping you're ass at 58?
Fiona C you mean the age my dad died of lymphoma? yeah i wiped his ass for three months while i watched him die.
I worked as a CNA in a long term care facility for 5 years and, yeah my youngest was 52
Accordian to scientific studies from NYU, 90% of readers didn't notice that I switched the first word for an instrument.
Zephyrus Auron thank you for this
Zephyrus Auron I noticed it and had to stop after the third word and read the sentence again because I thought it was shit grammar...
I thought you had bad spelling two words in until I read the whole thing
I thought autocorrect fucked you over or something
Zephyrus Auron now this joke is actually relevant
My mom had me when she was 48
Now that I think bout it I’m probably adopted
Well the fertility truth is true. However, the chance of down syndrome in mothers over the age of 35 significantly increases. The chance of a baby with down syndrome is 1 in 1000 for mother's who are pregnant before 30 years, but it's 1 in 400 in mother's above 35 and increases even more when reaching 40 years.
did you even watch the video?
N M did u?
because I'm just stating that chance of down syndrome increases significantly.. It's not just doubled.. It's more than that..but the video was downplaying it
kaewi88 source?
N M after 40 .. the chance of down syndrome is something like 1 in 40 babies depending on each country's statistic
N M And Adam even said that he is wrong about shit. Not everything on this is gospel
I always thought it was more about the issue of age difference rather than fertility like not wanting to have to take care of a 10 year old when you're 45.
Eman C. Well then I'm screwed then haha. Not getting married or having a kid anytime soon and not by choice. by the time I do, I'll have to have one right away to even make it before 34-35 and that's just the first kid. It's not as financially easy to have children these days. By the time I'm financially stable I will be around 30ish. I struggle And I'm Just speaking for myself. I have a stable full time job that includes benefits and can't save enough. others I know struggle any type of job be it part time or full time.
Rozanna Barqawi
So you're worrying about a moaning, entitled drama queen as your child? Aren't we forgetting it's the parents who shape their children? Teach a good kid and have a good kid.
ZENE0 n' Stuf never mentioned a child's behavior once in my reply. It's about being responsible as a parent to have enough money to support a child with the basic necessities. Has nothing to do with entitlement. The behavior and shaping of a child has nothing to do with anything I wrote about. Simply talking about not bringing a child into the world you can't provide for. I'm very good with my money but my current paychecks from my full time job that I had to go to college to get mostly go to bills right now. Things became more expensive, pay more into taxes, and wages remained the same. It may have been easier for previous generations I believe. Some people do hideous things to make more money, but I believe in making an honest living. One of my friends works three part time jobs and pays for health benefits out of pocket. Not a good situation to bring a child into. It's just extremely unfair to assume that people are choosing to put off having children for selfish reasons or because they can't raise them right. Having children early and being able to provide for them is a privilege some can't afford. Strictly talking about the finances involved. There are psychological stressors that occur when a child is brought up in poverty. If you can wait a little, make a smart choice and have a child later on in a better financial situation, why not? Why make a child suffer because you need to have them five years earlier? Again, I'm not talking about being worried about a spoiled child. That literally has nothing to do with it. I grew up in a one bedroom apartment with my parents and younger brother. Wasn't ideal. We have the privilege these days of planning when to have a child with the advances of birth control.
At least you will have the emotional maturity to take care of a kid at that age (or later). I know plenty of people who had babies in their 20s and would still go out and party, and neglect their kids. Most people today are still like kids themselves in their 20s. And a 10 year old doesn't require much energy anymore, they can take care of a lot of things by themselves at that age. also, 45 isn't old.
My dad had me at 50 and had my youngest brother at 56. It only made him stay younger for longer and today at 74 he looks 60.
I personally feel that it's a good idea to have kids in your mid or late 20's to 30's so you'll have more years to spend with your kids.
Yeah, and also you get to see your grandkids... Actually there was a lady in my family that got to see her great-great-grandchild :D But of course, everyone should be able to choose their path of life.
Not to mention energy. It's not easy raising a child and it won't get any easier as you get older.
Yeah I don't want to be 60 when my first kid is finishing University.
Greg Polkinghorne because being 55 will make it different how?
@@tonylvez nobody said 35, they just said younger. And yeah, 5-10 years makes a huge difference
I struggled with infertilty despite having a period, but at the end of the day it gave my family time to realise that pregnancy wasn't a good idea for me.
Adoption is an option!!!!
leah rose it took my parents a year to officially adopt me my siblings didn't take long either. Yeah, it was expensive but my siblings and I got a better chance at life as well as my parents got the chance to have a family. I think people who really want a family won't mind the price, mine didn't, nether did my cousin's parents, also when you give birth it's still expensive due to hospital bills and past appointments, and prenatal care..It depends on the situation. Not every adoption takes forever
leah rose in a lot of countries adoption is nearly free sometimes it even pays!
ad *option*
K Man please don't use that as your response to a friend with fertility issues. Please. It's a completely different conversation and is likely to make them feel bad.
I actually have and they often say they never considered it and it made them feel better.
My mom had me at 47.
Bri Swifty cool
that just gave me a glimmer of hope....thanks
Oh snow!
When u r 25 she is 72? Nice.
GoldenGamer wtf lol
May someone explain how exactly this video appeals specifically to the "leftists"? It just seems like a harmless video to me...
It appeals to leftists because it encourages them to put off having kids so that they can continue to say "look our replacement rate is low, thats why we need to import millions of muslims"
^Is it so bad to just not want kids?
Yes, it is bad for high IQ populations to not have children. When high IQ populations are encouraged to not have kids and the fertility rates of low iq places (africa) have birth rates of 8 per women, well, lets just say this is not sustainable.
You do acknowledge its animalistic instincts to care about breeding so much like that... But I suppose I see your point?
I'm trying to be open minded so I'm not trying to correct you, but isn't this video just saying you don't have to have a baby so early? I didn't think it implied not to have babies.
Jean Twenge was my psychology of personality professor last semester. She was a great teacher :)