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This podcast will save lives. I believe that in my soul. It’s helping me. This is what our world needs right now. I wish everyone could hear this and get it. But I realize that you have to be open and willing to learn that there may be another way. We don’t need to stay in our suffering. Thank you Laura & Carl for sharing these videos and for being so open and vulnerable. 💗
As a fellow budding professional in the field, I find this therapist's approach to adolescent and family therapy both nuanced and pragmatic. Her emphasis on systemic interventions, rather than solely focusing on the identified patient, demonstrates a sophisticated understanding of family dynamics. I particularly appreciate her stance on balancing appropriate boundaries with empathetic connection, which aligns well with current best practices in the field. Her insights on the importance of parental self-work and modeling healthy behaviors reflect a deep grasp of intergenerational patterns and their impact on family functioning. Additionally, her perspective on addressing sensitive topics like self-harm and suicidality shows a commendable balance between taking such issues seriously while avoiding unnecessary escalation. Overall, her methodology appears to be grounded in evidence-based practices while remaining flexible and client-centered, which is crucial when working with the complex needs of adolescents and their families.
I agree. I'm generally anti-therapy because most of the people I've seen go into psychology are extremely dysfunctional themselves. I don't know her personally, but she seems quite competent.
In the African Community these conversations are not happening. My father had 3 wives and the trauma, harm and betrayal we had to endure and witness has forever damaged my family. but that was normalized and considered ok. You are giving an insight on how you and your children have healed from something many will never be able to. Also have to echo some of the others this was my favorite episode and your best guest. Irina really gave insight while even opening up and sharing her own personal experience. You all went deep and we felt it. nice work B-side ! :)
Carl you are the man I love that you are back. You are fully back and real and raw and have such a gift to communicate. Christians need to take this come back as a time to connect with each other, be real and know that no matter what we can be ok. You have shown me to never give up on myself and never stop pushing. No one is perfect and I love how you have been human on a public level. Really are my hero.
Another q: I'm actually a teenager, and I love watching your guys' podcast. The honesty is so refreshing, praise the Lord. I want to ask : What can someone do if their sibling is struggling with mental health as far as creating an environment where hope is existent and healing is easier, but also not enabling whatever caused/causes the breach in their mental health? (Keeping in mind that Said sibling has already gone to all the resources that can be afforded by the parents)
Each and every video has been a blessing for me! No sealing at affair all of this can be used in so many avenues of life each episode is legendary! I love that you guys show authentic real Jesus followers keep doing youre thing im here for it!!!
As a parent of two children who have grappled with eating disorders and self-harm, I recognize the paramount importance of this dialogue. I deeply appreciate the unreserved transparency exhibited throughout the discussion with Laura, Carl and the family therapist Irina. Did anyone catch her full name or is there a way to find her?
I have watched all your podcasts now and I think I’m addicted for sure!! Every word and every topic is so so relevant in my family. It’s absolutely incredible and beautiful how far you have come as a family in healing! Thank you sooo much for sharing and being so transparent. I honour your bravery!
I love this podcast!!! Cant stop watching! I need more of this Irina therapist so informative and so much education I literally had to grab a pen and taking notes!! LOVE HER! Thank you Carl and Laura for taking the time to help parents with this type of education. The best episode so far we need more of her!!
2:40 HERE'S MY QUESTION CARL&LAURA: How do adult children get their parents to go to therapy? It's such a blessing that the two of you embraced it....I'm praying for the same for my parents. Had they don't this years ago we probably would've had more light and less hell in the home I grew up in. Would really love practical tips for how you approach the conversation as an adult to parents that may be skeptical AND sensitive to how their unheralded traumas impacted their kids!
10:51 such a good point. I grew up like this and the way I reacted wasn't leaned helplessness but perfectionism. My parents chastised me a lot when I got things wrong and it made me overcompensate. I ended up going to an Ivy League college, graduate school, and have a great job -- all things I couldn't have accomplished if I didn't have drive.... but it took me a long time to realize what the source of my drive was and why I had so much internal conflict even though outwardly it seemed like I was doing so well to everyone. ... I think the other thing people have to keep in mind about the advice from therapist or anyone who wants to help you with your kids, is that kids are all different. There is no kid who is the same as the other, reactions may be varied to these methods and tactics as well. W
I am so so thankful for this episode...all of the episodes have been so insightful,helpful, and even convicting at times...but this was drink of water that I didn't think I needed!!! Thank you so much to Irina and The Lentz's for being open and providing so much insight! Thank you, thank you! I am so happy for the restoration that the Lord along with therapy, has brought to your family! Keep it up!
2:40 HERE'S MY QUESTION CARL&LAURA: How do adult children get their parent to go to therapy? How do you convince them? It's such a blessing that the two of you embraced it....I'm praying for the same for my parents. Had they done this years ago we probably would've had more light and less hell in the home I grew up in. Would really love practical tips for how you approach the conversation as an adult to parents that may be skeptical AND sensitive to how their unheralded traumas impacted their kids!
I wish I had this information when I was raising my daughter trying to co parent with an addict in recovery but this is helping me now how to talk with her as a young adult. Can’t wait for the next episode!
Thank you for allowing your test to be your family's testimony to others, showcasing God's restorative work of healing and hope. Love the practicality of this Pod. Would love to hear more from a Biblical standpoint on parenting and raising teens as well as how you guys each went through your personal journey through the trials & your personal growth with the Lord. Now that you have experienced God's Character in new ways, how has that impacted your relationship with Him.
I have a question, how do therapists ensure that they don’t project their trauma onto their clients/patients or even give guidance that comes from a place of their own trauma; is it a skill they acquire in their training?
Thank you all, I’ve learned so much! Irene, could you please advise me how to loving be present for a child who is 14, and says he does not want to be gay, but now he has a very supportive friend group who encourages the choice to be openly gay? I am not foolish to think that my husband and myself carry the influence with a teen child with all of the outside influences that currently exist. I just want to love him well, and of course control the outcome, lol! Thank you again♥️
God has been so faithful to me I exalt his name now and everyday of my life.☦️🙏❤️Awesome God ❤️my family are happy once again and can now afford anything for my family even with my Retirement.$67k weekly returns has been life changing, after so much struggles.
31:24 "once you switch your role of a parent from trying to look good, to trying to serve, solely, things change" I had to pause to process this. I am not even a parent, I am only a daughter (a grownup one) and this episode has tremendously helped me consider how to address issues in my upbringing and in my relationship with my parents nowadays. The quote I highlighted above... I had to pause to process it. Amazingly well said.
Can you also explain the difference or line between supporting your child and doing too much for them. I have teens with ADHD and ASD and find understanding their limits hard.
Do you guys have tips on finding therapists?? I have tried a few, some are better than others, but the hardest part is finding a good faith based therapist! Because it is such a big and valuable part of my life, it feels hard to find someone that understands wanting to live a faith based life.
Hi Carl & Laura Can you guys please address the question …. How do those of us that really need the resources that You & Carl had like Onsight, The Rehab he went to, Your Betrayal Trauma therapist, Dr. Daniel Amen etc., Carl’s therapist that he had on the Pod….My husband and I are in desperate need of this level of resources but don’t have the finances for this level of care. How were you guys able to make this possible? Did insurance cover any of it? How can you guys guide others like myself and my husband?
@lisayturralde5370 Carl is on staff at Transformation Church. He's not a pastor, he's in marketing or strategy or something like that. Maybe I misunderstood you. I thought you were asking how they afford therapy.
I think assume the why is basic human sin nature and impulsivity. If they love God, and maybe even if they don't, talk about self-control, thinking through actions and consequences since their frontal lobe isn't fully developed, bring in a helpful scripture without using it as a weapon, listen to their thoughts or feelings that they had before, during, and/or after the event, then pray for them and hug them if they're open to both. And do all that calmly, in a brief amount of time, unless they want to talk more. Parenting is hard!! I hope others comment as well.
They'll probably already sense something had happened anyway. Probably better to manage via therapist that discussion and the ones that will come out of it
🤔Why are you even here?? Seriously! This is to help educate ppl on the things to do and the things NOT to do, after moral failures (and we've all had them!) This IS part of their story..a huge part I might add! So if you're "over it" why not just scroll on and not interject your "opinion" on the matter..I mean you know what they say about opinions, don't you?😊
You’re teaching the church that you can be fixed by a human being, and can not be fixed without money. This is idolatry. So the people who can’t affrod therapy what do they do?
I'm becoming aware of a new idol in the church: therapy. God can't heal or restore? Prayer is superficial, trite, and powerless? Only the rich can heal? Prosperity gospel offshoot. Therapy used to be what the rich and famous did instead of seeking God. The therapist is a nice lady and says some helpful things, but you could also read some excellent parenting books and get mentored by a successful, older parent. But I believe fasting, prayer, and repentance are most important.
Well, therapy helped me restore my relationship with God. And understand the unhealthy environment in the church I was in. If you can't build a good relationship with people, and you learn that in childhood, you'll have troubles building a relationship with God.
Interestingly one of God's names is Wonderful Counsellor. Just as He Jehovah Rapha and still uses medical professionals to heal us, so can Be used talking therapists to counsel us. Fun fact: not all therapy is paid or expensive
Let us know your thoughts and experiences in the comment section below!
Thank you for rocking with us and turning the "Lights On"
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This podcast will save lives. I believe that in my soul. It’s helping me. This is what our world needs right now. I wish everyone could hear this and get it. But I realize that you have to be open and willing to learn that there may be another way. We don’t need to stay in our suffering. Thank you Laura & Carl for sharing these videos and for being so open and vulnerable. 💗
As a fellow budding professional in the field, I find this therapist's approach to adolescent and family therapy both nuanced and pragmatic. Her emphasis on systemic interventions, rather than solely focusing on the identified patient, demonstrates a sophisticated understanding of family dynamics. I particularly appreciate her stance on balancing appropriate boundaries with empathetic connection, which aligns well with current best practices in the field. Her insights on the importance of parental self-work and modeling healthy behaviors reflect a deep grasp of intergenerational patterns and their impact on family functioning. Additionally, her perspective on addressing sensitive topics like self-harm and suicidality shows a commendable balance between taking such issues seriously while avoiding unnecessary escalation. Overall, her methodology appears to be grounded in evidence-based practices while remaining flexible and client-centered, which is crucial when working with the complex needs of adolescents and their families.
I agree. I'm generally anti-therapy because most of the people I've seen go into psychology are extremely dysfunctional themselves. I don't know her personally, but she seems quite competent.
In the African Community these conversations are not happening. My father had 3 wives and the trauma, harm and betrayal we had to endure and witness has forever damaged my family. but that was normalized and considered ok. You are giving an insight on how you and your children have healed from something many will never be able to. Also have to echo some of the others this was my favorite episode and your best guest. Irina really gave insight while even opening up and sharing her own personal experience. You all went deep and we felt it. nice work B-side ! :)
Same❤
Carl you are the man I love that you are back. You are fully back and real and raw and have such a gift to communicate. Christians need to take this come back as a time to connect with each other, be real and know that no matter what we can be ok. You have shown me to never give up on myself and never stop pushing. No one is perfect and I love how you have been human on a public level. Really are my hero.
Another q: I'm actually a teenager, and I love watching your guys' podcast. The honesty is so refreshing, praise the Lord. I want to ask :
What can someone do if their sibling is struggling with mental health as far as creating an environment where hope is existent and healing is easier, but also not enabling whatever caused/causes the breach in their mental health? (Keeping in mind that Said sibling has already gone to all the resources that can be afforded by the parents)
Irina needs her own weekly podcast!
Each and every video has been a blessing for me!
No sealing at affair all of this can be used in so many avenues of life each episode is legendary!
I love that you guys show authentic real Jesus followers keep doing youre thing im here for it!!!
This was so helpful as a mom to pre-teen boys and their younger sister. Thank you for sharing.
As a parent of two children who have grappled with eating disorders and self-harm, I recognize the paramount importance of this dialogue. I deeply appreciate the unreserved transparency exhibited throughout the discussion with Laura, Carl and the family therapist Irina. Did anyone catch her full name or is there a way to find her?
Irina Jodzio I think
I have watched all your podcasts now and I think I’m addicted for sure!! Every word and every topic is so so relevant in my family. It’s absolutely incredible and beautiful how far you have come as a family in healing! Thank you sooo much for sharing and being so transparent. I honour your bravery!
I love this podcast!!! Cant stop watching! I need more of this Irina therapist so informative and so much education I literally had to grab a pen and taking notes!! LOVE HER! Thank you Carl and Laura for taking the time to help parents with this type of education. The best episode so far we need more of her!!
2:40 HERE'S MY QUESTION CARL&LAURA:
How do adult children get their parents to go to therapy? It's such a blessing that the two of you embraced it....I'm praying for the same for my parents. Had they don't this years ago we probably would've had more light and less hell in the home I grew up in. Would really love practical tips for how you approach the conversation as an adult to parents that may be skeptical AND sensitive to how their unheralded traumas impacted their kids!
10:51 such a good point. I grew up like this and the way I reacted wasn't leaned helplessness but perfectionism. My parents chastised me a lot when I got things wrong and it made me overcompensate. I ended up going to an Ivy League college, graduate school, and have a great job -- all things I couldn't have accomplished if I didn't have drive.... but it took me a long time to realize what the source of my drive was and why I had so much internal conflict even though outwardly it seemed like I was doing so well to everyone.
... I think the other thing people have to keep in mind about the advice from therapist or anyone who wants to help you with your kids, is that kids are all different. There is no kid who is the same as the other, reactions may be varied to these methods and tactics as well. W
Thank you Carl lentz for these talks. As a young adult it has helped me understand myself in areas i never thought needed any help .
I am so so thankful for this episode...all of the episodes have been so insightful,helpful, and even convicting at times...but this was drink of water that I didn't think I needed!!! Thank you so much to Irina and The Lentz's for being open and providing so much insight! Thank you, thank you! I am so happy for the restoration that the Lord along with therapy, has brought to your family! Keep it up!
2:40 HERE'S MY QUESTION CARL&LAURA:
How do adult children get their parent to go to therapy? How do you convince them? It's such a blessing that the two of you embraced it....I'm praying for the same for my parents. Had they done this years ago we probably would've had more light and less hell in the home I grew up in. Would really love practical tips for how you approach the conversation as an adult to parents that may be skeptical AND sensitive to how their unheralded traumas impacted their kids!
I wish I had this information when I was raising my daughter trying to co parent with an addict in recovery but this is helping me now how to talk with her as a young adult. Can’t wait for the next episode!
Best episode to date. By far
This episode had so many good nuggets. Thank you
Thank you for allowing your test to be your family's testimony to others, showcasing God's restorative work of healing and hope. Love the practicality of this Pod. Would love to hear more from a Biblical standpoint on parenting and raising teens as well as how you guys each went through your personal journey through the trials & your personal growth with the Lord. Now that you have experienced God's Character in new ways, how has that impacted your relationship with Him.
I have a question, how do therapists ensure that they don’t project their trauma onto their clients/patients or even give guidance that comes from a place of their own trauma; is it a skill they acquire in their training?
They absolutely need to do their own personal healing work. This should be a requirement for all therapists but sadly I think is rare.
We attract what we need to heal.
Thank you all, I’ve learned so much! Irene, could you please advise me how to loving be present for a child who is 14, and says he does not want to be gay, but now he has a very supportive friend group who encourages the choice to be openly gay? I am not foolish to think that my husband and myself carry the influence with a teen child with all of the outside influences that currently exist. I just want to love him well, and of course control the outcome, lol!
Thank you again♥️
God has been so faithful to me I exalt his name now and everyday of my life.☦️🙏❤️Awesome God ❤️my family are happy once again and can now afford anything for my family even with my Retirement.$67k weekly returns has been life changing, after so much struggles.
Hello how do you make such weekly??
I'm a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down of myself because of low finance but I still believe in God.
@@babytruca02Maria Angelina Alexander I really appreciate her efforts and transparency.
I remember giving her my first savings $20000 and she opened a brokerage account for me it turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me.
This is a definition of God's unending provisions for his people. God remains faithful to his words. I receive this for my household.🙏❤
I heard a CNBC news host spoke highly big about this name and her strategies, how she has been helpful to many people. Been trying to reach her since.
31:24 "once you switch your role of a parent from trying to look good, to trying to serve, solely, things change"
I had to pause to process this. I am not even a parent, I am only a daughter (a grownup one) and this episode has tremendously helped me consider how to address issues in my upbringing and in my relationship with my parents nowadays. The quote I highlighted above... I had to pause to process it. Amazingly well said.
Did either one of you read any books along the way that you would recommend?
Can you also explain the difference or line between supporting your child and doing too much for them. I have teens with ADHD and ASD and find understanding their limits hard.
Do you guys have tips on finding therapists?? I have tried a few, some are better than others, but the hardest part is finding a good faith based therapist! Because it is such a big and valuable part of my life, it feels hard to find someone that understands wanting to live a faith based life.
Hi Carl & Laura
Can you guys please address the question …. How do those of us that really need the resources that You & Carl had like Onsight, The Rehab he went to, Your Betrayal Trauma therapist, Dr. Daniel Amen etc., Carl’s therapist that he had on the Pod….My husband and I are in desperate need of this level of resources but don’t have the finances for this level of care. How were you guys able to make this possible? Did insurance cover any of it? How can you guys guide others like myself and my husband?
He's on staff at Transformation Church.
@@RCGWho who is ?
@lisayturralde5370 Carl is on staff at Transformation Church. He's not a pastor, he's in marketing or strategy or something like that.
Maybe I misunderstood you. I thought you were asking how they afford therapy.
Family’s***
@@claire9241 🤦♀️ why?🤷♀️
Does Irina have a website?
What should replace the “why” when talking to teens about their behavior or decision making?
I think assume the why is basic human sin nature and impulsivity. If they love God, and maybe even if they don't, talk about self-control, thinking through actions and consequences since their frontal lobe isn't fully developed, bring in a helpful scripture without using it as a weapon, listen to their thoughts or feelings that they had before, during, and/or after the event, then pray for them and hug them if they're open to both. And do all that calmly, in a brief amount of time, unless they want to talk more. Parenting is hard!!
I hope others comment as well.
Dis ordered eating- wow never heard of that.
What does it look like to affirm how a child uses the phone and social media (in checking what they're doing periodically)?
Our boys were 7 & 9when husband and I went through infidelity, they are now 16 & 18. Do we need to tell them what we went through? If so how?
They'll probably already sense something had happened anyway. Probably better to manage via therapist that discussion and the ones that will come out of it
I am curious what people should do who can’t afford all this therapy?
Read your Bible, get to know an older, godly, wise person. Read Transformation of the Inner Man by John and Paula Sandford.
Does she work with kids who have lost a parent/ widowed parents trying to help their kids thru this?
She has a website. Look in the show notes for her name.
Can you pls share Irina’s contact info, ty!
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OMG Love the guest! I can see how teens love her! I loved her! @irinajodziotherapy you have a gift. More of her PLEASE🙏!!!!!!
Can this be the last children saga please, can we move on..
Oh be nice😏🫵🏻
🤔Why are you even here?? Seriously!
This is to help educate ppl on the things to do and the things NOT to do, after moral failures (and we've all had them!)
This IS part of their story..a huge part I might add!
So if you're "over it" why not just scroll on and not interject your "opinion" on the matter..I mean you know what they say about opinions, don't you?😊
@@totallytenacious1 you feel better now? Lmfao
@@Hotshotscott do you?
@@totallytenacious1 sure do
🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
You’re teaching the church that you can be fixed by a human being, and can not be fixed without money. This is idolatry.
So the people who can’t affrod therapy what do they do?
The church needs professional help at times. Whether it is addictions, trauma, etc.
If you are broke like I am, find a way to fit it in the budget.
I'm becoming aware of a new idol in the church: therapy. God can't heal or restore? Prayer is superficial, trite, and powerless? Only the rich can heal?
Prosperity gospel offshoot.
Therapy used to be what the rich and famous did instead of seeking God.
The therapist is a nice lady and says some helpful things, but you could also read some excellent parenting books and get mentored by a successful, older parent. But I believe fasting, prayer, and repentance are most important.
Well, therapy helped me restore my relationship with God. And understand the unhealthy environment in the church I was in. If you can't build a good relationship with people, and you learn that in childhood, you'll have troubles building a relationship with God.
Nobody is answering my question, brothers and sisters. What do the poor people do to be delivered? Are they doomed?
Interestingly one of God's names is Wonderful Counsellor. Just as He Jehovah Rapha and still uses medical professionals to heal us, so can Be used talking therapists to counsel us.
Fun fact: not all therapy is paid or expensive
This was really good! Let me get some therapy....sheeeesh! 🫡✨️