Tom B. - AA Speaker - "Emotional Sobriety" and 12-Step Alcoholism Recovery
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- Опубликовано: 27 май 2013
- Awesome share by one of the best AA speakers, Tom B. This is perhaps the BEST talk on the topic of "emotional sobriety" I have ever heard! MUST LISTEN! :) From the book Alcoholics Anonymous: "In spite of the great increase in the size and span of this Fellowship, at its core it remains simple and personal. Each day, somewhere in the world, recovery begins when one alcoholic talks with another alcoholic, sharing experience, strength, and hope."
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This speaker tape saved me from killing myself after a horrible breakup. I will forever be grateful for A.A. and everything my higher power has taught me. I never thought I could love myself as deeply as I do now
Bianca Gutierrez I hear you! Hopefully you are going well ODAAT 🕉
Glad you still here
Needed this. Not had a drink since aug 24, 2008. But I had become too dependent on the people around me to validate what I wanted to feel
This comment inspired me beyond belief. Thank you for sharing your pain and hope
Can't find the original. Everthing is hyjacked today. Used to habd cds of Tom Brady. He got it wht we suffer.
I never out myself only when it will save a sorrowful life. #5 years sobe and will tell anyone who will listen. To helll with sponsors. Until you get a grip on the wreacjkaaaage of your past and forgive yourself you will never attain Soundness of min.
No rebuttal needed .
I was a beyond hopeless alcohilic. Group meetings are are hot bed of mental efos looking like they know.
Suffering is what alcoholics do. You can not help anyone who can't undrstand the road to recovery.
Recovery is real. AA will try to make you believe that if tou do the so called work you will ne fine. Total bullshit.
I defy anyone to tell me otherwise.
I am done. Go to one metting every Sunday and just listen.
TM
Two years in...glad I heard this. youtube AA speakers have been a huge part of my sobriety. Sandy, Bob D., Sister B, .Joe and Charlie and others have helped so much. Working out of my truck alone isn't conducive to early sobriety when it's me alone with my thinking.
OH, MY WORD! 24.5 years sober and this is just where I am - EXACTLY! Thank God for the recent crisis - it's all about my EMOTIONAL SOBRIETY! I was blind but now I can see.
I've listened to this probably more than 50 times. Life changing.
Understand and make peace with the beasts within us. Tapes start playing. Understand them and Recover.
Deep rooted belief systems built over our lives influence our thinking today. Tapes start playing.
The wars over, put down your weapons.
Give everything to God.
Let go.x
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This talk can be relevant for anyone, not just folks in the rooms.
As a member of Al-Anon Family Groups, I’d been feeling “stuck” in my recovery; frustrated. Now I know why. I am so grateful for this God-inspired talk, that has opened a doorway, and I will be listening to it again (and again). Thank you.
After listening to this, my program has gotten so filled with humility and awareness of whole new areas which were in the dark. But the sunlight of the spirit is always moving around in our lives
This is fantastic, it’s back when people cared more about your life and saving it then your feelings and you could say things that you can’t say now and to be honest with you I’m newer in recovery and I wish I could find a meeting that was old-school AA that’s what I need I don’t need to be coddled and I don’t need people to beat around the bush because it’s life and death for me!
By far the best share I’ve heard recorded on the topic of emotional sobriety
Man, the demand for control of people and things has come back hard after 7 years. Stopped working the program and sure enough, old thinking is creeping back in, causing me pain. Just got a new sponsor and heading to a beginners meeting. Time to go from dry to sober again!
Nothing will matter more In your life than getting back at it. I know this is 5 years later but I hope you found some peace
This is the real deal.
AA at its rawest form.
Thank you Tom for being authentic and a servant of god. I pray for the 113 people that did not have the capacity to understand purity of heart.
Very powerful message. I listened to this a few times and turns on the light in my diseased mind. It really made me realize the facts of this fatal disease. Highly recommended! ❤️
This circuit of AA speakers is 2nd to NONE! They are THE BEST at translating the literature and explaining the application of the spiritual principles! These humble people SAVE LIVES! THANK YOU FOR BEING APART OF MY JOURNEY 🙏🏼❤
Thanks Tom, Today is my first day of sobriety and I am exactly who you talk about. Thanks for making me aware of this defect. As I progress, I will be aware to look for this..
2 years sober and this was me to a T. I ruined the best thing in my life by doing the exact things to cause what I feared the most to happen. This is a powerful message. I am blessed to see this now. Thank You
This really hit my heart.My sobriety date is 9-1-1012...By the Grace of God im sober today.Thank you so much this truly put a different inpack on my sobriety.
“It seems to have a life of its own” so true, so hard to change character, I been working on it for 8 years
Almost 20 years sober, and have yet to attain sobriety! Thanks, Tom, for leading me closer.
What do you mean?
we're still learning
Hugs
Alberto Adol
I really appreciate your comment as somebody that’s got almost 5 years I can relate and your comment just makes me realize that it’s a very long learning process one day at a time
Thanks for sharing this in December 2022 20th an old old timer one day at a time God is good to those who seek him step 2 each and everyday for this old gal!! 73 yrs old 40yrs one day at a time sometimes a heartbeat at a time ! 🙏 prayers for all seeking and those who have the honor of finding this God sent program AA for those who want it not need it!! Much 💘 keep coming back the program works if you work it!! Just 4 today 🙏steps 1-3 emotional distress is not allowing God to be in charge of you while you find you in soberity all of guilty of all that Bill W. Said and the speaker is talking about 🙏
Man, this gentlemen hit some soft spots in my gut... Great talk
Once I put down drink...I am crazy...Emotional Sobriety keeps me teaches me to love myself Unconditionally...I had to reach many emotional bottoms before letting go of people places things feelings thoughts...guilt. resentment. remorse..... ODAT...8/4/1970...God bless you all my loves..TY for my recovery.
I am currently going through a particularly painful breakup at almost five years sober and this message is right on point. It is exactly what I needed to hear. AA continually saves me from me. I am so grateful that this program exists. It is only because of AA that I am alive today.
Continues to save me from myself as well! Prayers for you my friend 🙏🏾
Agreed and I understand the pain. I’m recovering from a painful breakup myself at almost 20 years of continuous sobriety. Going to meetings, sponsoring and being sponsored, service, etc., almost every day. But some things are just hard. Thank God for AA and thank AA for the God that I have in my life today. Blessings.
Yes
Great message. Helped me understand so much what I am struggling with in my recovery. I have told friends in the fellowship about this as well, my friends who are struggling as well.Thank you tom!
44:30 The chief barrier to emotional sobriety is self-hate.
This is such a great talk. Thanks for the upload and thank you Tom B, much love.
Life changing.
WOW, I’m 34, listened to the best Tom, THANK YOU, I AM BLESSED
I did a 'lucky dip' in picking this one out of a list. it's boxing day 2015 and I couldn't get to a mtg. I found this deeply moving as it described exactly how I have been feeling for a few years. i'm grateful that he suggested how to work through this with the programme and,for me, help from my sponsor. I know that I was meant to hear this today. thank you
Trying to love yourself can be a clever trap into further egotism that just wears a different mask. Letting go of the false self is the only way to actually “love yourself” in which I have found the term “loving myself” to be misleading. Great talk. 🙏
omg i needed this today....10yrs sobriety and i still need to remain teachable. those old belief systems are still prevalent today. i have so much to loose if i ever pick up again.
The 'Earl' Tom refers to is the late Earl Husband. an AA historian in oklahoma city, helped 1000,s of people with is 4th step meetings in his home on monday nights.
Earl Hightower?? 😳
Late... Is he dead???? Earl hH
@@Pippipopfugl Earl Husband from oklahoma city, I know the Earl H, I think he is alive and well
Thank you. Never heard of the other guy so I got nervous...
@@Pippipopfugl earl husband was a wonderful AA
We keep what we have with vigilance, sharing is growing..... universal law
A sacrifice to God is a broken spirit. A humble and contrite heart God will not despise. Psalm 51
Excellent Speaker... Grateful for my time as a friend of Bill and Bob 😉
So grateful to hear
Wow, I'm a third of the way into this and getting blown away! (In a good sense of the word) I'm well into my 5 years and on the down hill side to 6 years of sobriety. I have many of those questions He's asking! Am I in the 5-year menopause??!?
Ha! Maybe , maybe!
Can't wait to hear more...
Really enjoyed listening to this. It hit me right between the eyes. So much of what I am struggling with was here in this talk. Really powerful. Thank you Tom for your insights.
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this is alot to take in.. I hit rock bottom Saturday afternoon.. I want to live sober for me and my family..
hi my friend keep believing in the power of the room and get right in about the right people and u will do well I don't know anyone that has found this easy may god bless you
+Joe Ballard that's my problem.. I'm in my own circle,i have nobody but me..I've been to slot of AA meetings and it seems everyone looks at me as a outsider.. I am I'm alone in this fight.. but I'm a good fighter too.. I know how to win but it's not a simple process to go thew my friend..
A don't know where u go to meetings mind ur head will always try to separate u from everyone have u spoke from the body of the hall and said a need help it's one of the hardest things I've dne but it's been the best I'm just back from a relapse and a had to ask for help all because I couldn't cope with emotional side of it x
+Joe Ballard I'm in Ohio my friend.. small town USA.. let's just say it's not like I'm stepping in a good church and you pick up on Gods vibe.. its totally different.. like everyone is just going through the motions.. that's how it feels to me..
+Joe Ballard well greetings my friend and thanks.. you seem genuine and true. I'm glad we met my friend..
and yes I will email you so we can talk.. thank you for the chat.. talk soon.. peace to you and your sobriety!
It a beautiful sharing experience and talk he hard . The root of happiness is fear . Self inventory is needed and even though I can’t change overnight . Your intentions as he said has a big part in recovery and life . That I am sick and. It self fish . To any recovering alcoholic that struggling I understand.
It is hard but people like this man gives me hope to hear of his success
Bless You Tom. and thank you for the awakening
Wow! I've got a lot of sacrificing to do. This is great. It scares the shit out of me because you just read my mail. I know the one that healed me before. I just need to totally surrender to Him again and Daily. Thanks Tom B.
Great talk. Thank you so much. I need to say though that the comment/joke about latent homosexuality took away from the message.
I agree I was turned off right away with that "joke." Not an example of emotional sobriety at all.
This is a wonderful message
Wow, what a talk! Insight!
Thank God 4 Bill n Bob n the program of AA.
Beautiful powerful message
Thank you Tom
This share brought up so much for me , its so insightful about our condition , Thank you for posting.
So glad I heard this today.
Wonderful message, efficiently delivered. I find it very helpful to me. Thanks for posting it.
Thank you Tom, just what I've been looking for. I
well im gonna listen to this speaker on friday 22nd and 23rd july
its the live show .ive read everyones comments and thankyou for being honest enough to say what you mean .? i will listen to share .then post ! thank god for his grace today .
emotional sobriety is the thing that a can't seem to mange
Joe Ballard I hop that you're doing well.
A deeper more meaningful way to live while in sobriety or not!!
This awareness will help me.....forever, as long as my mind remains open & I'm teachable!
Adaa
Life changing
great message. True understanding of what the program can bring to any person
Wish you all could here the original Tome Brady. Bad to the bone, Hate highjakers of his awesome talks!
For 37 years I’ve watched guys take Bill‘s letter and throw it at people to overthink all this. Friends, don’t take yourself too serious this stuff distracts from the basics. Go back to the basics. It’s not this complicated. Our program is simple. You are lovely whoever you are, stay in the work and progress and it will transform you. Don’t overthink.❤
Yes. Your right. Those that can take this train of thought it will help. But if it's too much just stay with the basics and keep moving forward. Thank you forbyiur thoughts.
thank you.
as chuck c says uncover discover and discard. easier said then done. Thanks Tom B.....courage is the ability to let go of the familiar
+eric zahler Hi Eric, thanks for your sharing, Here is an old Irish saying,
WHEN ALL IS SAID AND DONE, THERE IS MORE SAID THAN DONE...AND JUST BECAUSE A THING IS EASY SAID, IT IS NOT EASY DONE!!!
God bless you and yours.
Would love to see the round up or convention listed in the info so I can look for other speakers from the same one. Other than that suggestion.. love your channel. Thank you :)
Sobering Talk. Stayblessed!
Some really good stuff here.....not sure if I agree with all of it but....sure did touch me and made sense on what emotional sobriety is....but gee if I was too think that much about everything I would go nutz!....I so get it though.. after going to the beach at night ...feeling like a teenager all over again...feels like a dream.....and now I am left with feelings ....and not sure where to go with them.....scared as f-ck to go..... dinner tonight not sure...don't want to say no but afraid to say yes....and so it goes....confused....
THANK YOU- although running naked thru the woods- is ok...
Incredible!
A M A Z I N G ❤❤❤❤
Certain aspects of this talk resonate deeply with me, certain aspects do not. The rest of the talk resonates somewhat but with no real clarity. I am early in my recovery but not sober, yet. I am however, grateful for finding these talks.
Listen to it again as time goes on, much like the program evolves as we stay sober longer, this talk carries more weight/different perspective in time.
How u doing now
Great, great talk!!!
Amazing
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Under it all I am an emotional baby.
Is there anyway to get a message to Toms family? I love this man. I’m sorry I never got to meet him.
The book Alcoholics Anonymous has great program in it that ties together well if you stick to it
Ok. So at what point do you become sober?
soo very true
good tape! rule 62 don't take yourself so seriously!
what book about the desert fathers did he mention?
kevroy1212 The Philokalia
Thanks!
He refers to bobd s earlier talk and one other.. during thus weekend.. how can i find out which ones they were?
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Well I don't know if anybody on here will see my comment.
But if anyone does please give some feed back .
I'm going though a rough time In my life.
Not because of wanting to drink.
I have been clean and sober since may 15 2001.
I'm here because a friend of mind that's been in and out of
AA rooms and prison for years.
Finally it was looking pretty good for him.
The last time when he got out of state prison.
He did great for at least 5 years.
Well this past weekend that all change
Saturday he got wasted and got piss off because his dog was eating his food.
And started to beating him and his girlfriend
Was trying to get the dog away from him and she got beat on too.
She took the dog and ran To her car .
As she was leaving he got his deer rifle and started shooting at her car and almost shot her in head.
And. He had a 6 hour stand off with the state police.
And finally surrender with out incident.
And my problem is
It ok for me to say he's not friend any more?
And I know there's no straight answer to this.
But I just feel mad upset about this.
Just wondering if there is any of my AA fellows could give me some kind of feed back.
Thank you.
Barry Guyer Al Anon has worked wonders for me.
Wren Field. Yeah maybe i should do some alnon meetings
I am just have a very time with this.
You know because this is someone that i
Knew since high school .
I Party with him got sober with him .
Well I stayed sober
But he was sober off and on pretty much his whole life.
He is one those I guess that unconstution incapable of being honest with himself
.I just can't believe that he was trying to kill her.
But I need to remember he was probably in a blackout.
But any way thanks for responding
And maybe I will try go to some alnon meetings
Barry Guyer Hugs and prayers. I hope you can find some peace.
@@barryguyer8005 Do you love him enough to let him go...How is this affecting my sobriety..There are people who were toxic to my sobriety...Grateful that his girlfriend.dog. he are alive. Let God hold you in his arms.
Is he saying anybriety during some parts?
I believe he is say anything in- ebriety. Not having emotional sobriety.
I can’t listen and no get chocked up I wish I could sit with him I was told from an age of 5 I was garbe niw I 57 and been in AA since 93 and have been misarable and dint want to live but I still wake up and go again I want friends but don’t know how I always gave things away to make friends I grew up with a bunch of guys and always got drunk or high
Now I have everything I want in life after going nothing living in one rented room alone never lost job but I’m so sad married a girl in last drunk but ever day hoping to feel better but I cannot go for coffee with someone but I’m a boss I never lost a job I’m very caring for anyone who’s hurting but for me I’m garbage
This speech to me is a blind persons view of aca. That is all 😂😂😂😂
Tom Brady is good and smart and ACA is what he is talking about really. He didnt even realize this fact.
XOXO cool
Present. Day 1 again. “Keep coming back...” someone run tell the President about a utopia. Now we aren’t a glum lot...
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No worries my friend tc gb 🙏
Its interesting when Tom B. says we never arrive yet the books says, "We are one hundred men and women who have recovered from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body. The book also says "We are not cured, what we have is a daily clemency dependent on our spiritual condition. The book can sometimes be very confusing. Do we get free or not? Do we get this new freedom, new peace , and new hippieness or not? There are several promises in the book we just have to keep practicing these spiritual principles until the end of breath as we await out transition. Amen?