It’s sad because I was raised by my aunt as well and she did an amazing job however the feeling of knowing you have two parents that are alive and well who chooses not to raise you is a sick feeling
just my 2cents worth of thoughts - But it sounds like your Aunt was a unique person who stepped in on your behalf - not many kids have that, some sadly are stuck with the parents who birthed them. Hugs -
@@jmariew9966 Agreed 100%! I see people with kids smoking weed around them, playing filthy music, cursing around them, throwing trash out their window while on the road, no car seat for them, babies in the front seat and so on... I was raised by just my dad after my parents split at the age of ten. Dad was a coal miner who worked 12+ hours a day who after his shift came home, got cleaned up, went to sleep then repeat and one of my fondest memories with him was a time we went to a tobacco shop so he could get his cherry skoal, after we were back in his truck just getting settled in and in front of us was someone in their car who opened his door and proceeded to throw trash out, not just a paper wrapper or something, fast food cups, bags, cans etc... Dad said nothing while we watched what said person was doing he just got out of his truck, walked up and started throwing all that persons trash back in his car all over him while saying things i couldnt hear but knew was something along the lines that let that person know he was unworthy of breathing the same oxygen we did lol. Mom on the other hand was nothing like dad. She would send me to her plug about a half a mile down the road with cash to get what she told me was her "medicine" as early as 5 years old, beat me with fists when I was around maybe 7ish cause I poured out a 6 pack of beer, watched her bring in men while dad was at work as well as having to listen to them having sex from the next room. I could go on forever with that woman but wont.... Like you said, count yourself lucky and don't hold any grudges or let your parents choosing their needs over you hurt you cause if you had lived with them instead of your aunt your life most likely would have been full of toxicity and destructive influences.
I had physical custody of my daughter for two years because the mom sent her to me. I immediately submitted for a modification and they ignored it for two whole years. Still charged me and garnished my wages even though my daughter was living with me exclusively and they knew it. I was at risk of being sent to jail, having my DL revoked and a number of other legal issues all because my ex didn’t think it through and got us into the legal system. Fast forward to today I now have 100% legal and physical custody because my ex got caught up in some legal stuff with CPS and had all her parental rights taken away and other children placed in foster care. I say all this to remind everyone it’s not always up to you. The states are incentivized to put men on CS orders and collect on the interest whether you’re a good father or not
You missed when the mother came to court. She had asked her sister if she would like her niece and nephew for the summer and never came back for them. When the mother came to court she said she had decided she didn’t want to be a mother anymore! She wanted to concentrate on her career. She was the most annoying woman ever, and resisted even paying, but the judge put a stop to that and ordered her to pay. This father’s smugness is also annoying. He comes to court dripping in jewels , works at a bank which basically is a 9 to 5. But he only picks up the child when he can, and doesn’t think he should regularly do that or contribute money? A woman who has no children took his child in, and he is calling her money hungry?
I deal with that same shit, my kids dad only gives when he sees fit. He says cuz my kids are on disability that's his child support. POS only knows how to buy toys and treats and only pays for the phone bill. That won't feed 2 kids.
I agree 100%. In a new vein I think the aunt is liable to ASK for what the child needs. None of this, "He should know better" nonsense. That doesn't take care of a child but I'm glad she took him to court.
Bc those are always on the top corner of the paper when you get served or in the middle. But I agree how did he not know what it was about yet he knew the date time and location. That's normally right on the front page. The details are in the rest of the packet. I have a copy of my own paperwork for when I had Court for my child. My baby dad did the same thing and then screamed out "that's all you beeps want is my money" naw dead beat Derek. Said the one who literally left me and took all my money and left me with nothing for your daughter but You laid down with all 4 of us and made these babies with us you can financially support all 4 of your babies.
The marshall tells you when they hand you the paperwork. The paperwork and extra copies are to ensure there is no way you don't know the claim and also to have a copy on you.
The child is four, if she wants someone to help with bills theirs four things she can do. 1. Get a job 2. Ask 3. Give the son to the father he didn't lose custody he was alienated from his son by the mother 4. Get married so you can have a joint income coming into the home. This is why women get a bad reputation with men. If YOU want something YOU should ask. Definitely when someone is already paying child support for this child.
@sadiehumboldt you don't know that. Just a little background since you obviously didn't do research; the mother was having a disagreement with him, so she took the kids and dropped them at the sister's and left them there for months while he (assumingly) was looking for her and the kids, he clearly hints at the sister and mother manipulating others against him.
@@lovablechipz7742 you absolute goofball, he has a stable job and a good income. if he wanted his kid he would fight for custody, idk how some of yall are so braindead
It amazes me that these people want to dump their child on this woman and think that they don't have any responsibilities to their child, expecting the aunt to foot the bill for their child. The fact that the father hasn't even put his child on his insurance or even checked on how much the insurance would cost. The kid is four or five years old.
I don’t believe this man is a Financial Advisor AT ALL.. I work for a FA & he makes his own schedule. He’s a family oriented man & work NEVER comes before it. I guess he thought saying that would make him sound so busy & unable to care for his child lol this guy is a joke.
He could be great at his job but not a good parent, two separate things. And he said he works for a bank so probably doesn’t have the ability to fully set his schedule, but that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t have custody and take care of his child. Seems like the aunt would have no problem helping him out
@@nenecuba4068 you can tell he really aiint giving any money just by the way he has snickered everytime he says he pay money he contradicted him self by saying he had paid 300-500 monthly then when the judge brung it up that it was combined he said you can say that.
As a person who went through something similar. What I will say is that you can tell that the reason why he didn't have custody of his child. It's because of something that they did.
His gross attitude to paying $900PM for his child's wellbeing, bills, food, taken and picked up from school, and being taken care of 7 days a week by someone else is unbelievable.
Why shouldn't she spend that money on herself? If I'm looking after someone else's kid I am going to be expecting to be paid. That is not her child. She is not the mum.
It never fails to amaze me that people don't think they are responsible, financially, not to mention emotionally, for the children they bring into this world. My dad didn't. He even got out of the Marines after 8 years because they were going to take money from his monthly check for child support for my brother and I. He lived 35 miles from us and I can count on the fingers of both hands how many times I saw him in 40+ years. People are sorry individuals that won't take care of their children properly. The lowest of the low in my book.
Same here. My parents divorced when I was 6 months old. My "dad" used to give my mom about $300 every time he showed up. He showed up like 5 times during my childhood. He went out to live his best life not caring about me whatsoever. Got a new wife and 2 kids with her. Had a huge house with a pool. Software engineer, once when i visited him, he talked about elephants that he had seen in Asia. Meantime I didnt even have enough money to buy ice cream in the summer as a child. As far as he is concerned he has a total of 2 kids. He never calls, never messages, he just doesnt care. I dont think he regrets or feels guilty at all about not having any type of relationship with me.
I don't think he was saying he's not supposed to take care of them, It's more like his job is to take care of the child, clothes, and such, more than likely she's recieving government assistance already for said child as far as financial and food goes. But she keeps bringing up her bills like the child is running up all the bills by himself. She hasn't even shown what her bills were BEFORE the child entered the home.
I was blessed with 2 amazing parents. My dad worked nights at the post office, busting his butt so he could take care of his kids. Mom worked days, and dad would be there to get us off to school, was home when we got home from school to help us with our homework, and even cooked dinner, so when mom got home from her job she didn't have to. We may not have had a lot of money, but we always had a roof over our heads, clothes on our back, and food in our belly!!
sure its just the fact that they just need to understand if they didnt want to pay child support then he should have took custody over his child @@jamesclugston1626
@@jamesclugston1626noncustodial but the kid is with the aunt, not even the mom. That’s the point; the dad would take precedence over an aunt so what happened that he doesn’t have his kid?
And doesn’t have an account of money. Thinks electric bill is not about the child having electricity whole someone does 100% of the work to raise the kid. People are just tremendous lol
Settling these kind of things outside of court is usually temporary, that parent will choose when they will contribute to this child and then they’ll forget and you’ll have to continue to remind them. I can understand why she would want this to be a more legal thing.
I am glad to see others who see this too. Like you get sick of asking someone to show up and do their part. It comes off as begging when you have to ask every month for money to help with some groceries. Its worse when she has NO kids of her own
Also, notice he has another on the way. Aunt is probably thinking, I better set this by the court before this other child is born 'cause the new one is probably from a newer functioning relationship and will therefore have advantage with a mother and father there.
My mom and dad came to an agreement and he had it automatically transfered to her account each month. Then she decided to go to court to mandate it because he missed a single month due to being sick and not getting a decent check. At the time, I spent half the week with her, half with him. The court ended up making him pay less than their original agreement. Was funny.
I found him very condescending yet I found the judge kinder to him then to Emma is raising the two kids plus a3 because I swear I heard her say that she has three kids there now .
A man who works as a financial advisor in a bank and does not feel he has to fully support his child...He should have custody and pay for daycare and pick him up after school. What is this malarkey about the demands of his job? It’s a 9-5!
You've obviously never been a financial advisor. They work out of banks and they often work late hours. It's never just 9-5 for those people. Most banks only have one financial advisor, 9-7 every day. Some days it's 9-9. Those people work like dogs.
@FiMiPickney I was responding to her comment about being a financial adviser. Furthermore, it has to do with that they work long hours so obviously doing all of that in addition is extremely tiring. I realize that everyone thinks parents Superman and Wonder Woman but it doesn't negate the fact that it makes them tired. It's absolutely ridiculous that people think that parents don't deserve sympathy or a helping hand. I'd like to see you work as a financial advisor while taking care of a child.
The parents that don’t even have custody of their own children, they’re living with aunties, grandparents sisters, who then have the balls to be confused why they should pay child support. I will never get over it
These unparents are insane. truly delusional. The audacity to be annoyed that they are being forced into an obligation that is literally their own is just pathetic.
This is crazy ! This lady got dump her sister’s kids because she decided she doesn’t want them anymore, so she has to forced her through the courts to pay child support, now she’s trying to get her sisters ex to pay child support as well and she’s called “greedy” WTF .!! This lady deserves all the support she can get , she deserves a medal , good on her !.
Most of the children in the foster care system are biracial. These men never supported their own women now their doing the same in the Mexican and yt community. It’s not a shocker . It’s always someone else’s fault and not their own .
@@unrulysuwoo3075 I don't know where you live but that's pretty basic for utilities for a small home where I live. I don't think shes trying to say the kid ran that up all by their self but she is providing a comfortable home for the child, heating cooling, hot water for baths, rent... certainly child support should be covering a portion of that.
I looked at it during ope enrollment how much the difference is for just me and a dependant. If someone asked me right now, I would have no idea. I don't have it in front of me, and I don't remember
I really hate his attitude... he is so arrogant, so full of himself and yet he is a terrible father! Someone else is taking care of your kid and you call her money hungry.... i can't stand him😡😡😡😡😡😡
Vonda, I just "discovered" your show. It's addicting. A great concept and well produced. Thanks for all your work. Educational and sooo entertaining with your cast of everyday people and your diverse hairstyles🤩
She do seem money hungry but he do need to send money for his child. But bills ain't his child which let's u know child support or not she's not spending it on the child
@@qu33nT How is she money hungry for asking to accommodate utilities being used by HIS CHILD? If he doesn’t want to give her money to help take care of HIS CHILD, then he can take the kid. you’re are more worried about her asking for money than the fact that the father of the child doesn’t love his child enough to raise him
He is everything that is wrong in a nutshell. He never once said give me my son I’ll take care of him. He think it’s a joke he about to pay. He won’t be laughing long 😂
It's really messed up that some of these parents come to court with expensive jewellery and nice expensive clothes but complain about paying for their own kids
Why do people think the only expense a child have is food, they contribute to every bill in that house, food, light, water , gas for car. Everything so why people think child support must only cover food is beyond me
This! I am disabled at this point with a daughter of 9. I have a friend that has the same income as me and she keeps telling me her financial state is so much worse... and I keep telling her that besides food and clothes a kid also uses a lot more energy
Thank you! The bills had everything to do with it. Child support is for the bills, food, clothes, school etc.The least he coulda did was contribute to that since she has his child. The aunt was valid in everything that she said.
I hate how that guy thinks it's not necessary to pay and it's just for the Aunt. No. It's not even her child. But she's there for him every day financially, physically, emotionally. Teaches him, reads, cooks, bathes, tucks him in at night. So what he is paying is still a lot cheaper than what he would have to pay for a 24/7 childcare. He's lucky there's a loving family member taking care of HIS child.
Why don’t these dudes understand the impact that kids have on electricity, gas and water? I PROMISE you her bills would be lower if she wasn’t taking care of _several_ kids that aren’t hers. 😒
Unbelievable just being a caretaker of a child around the clock pays more than $200 a week plus having to buy the child's needs out of that be responsible for raising the child to be a respectable adult, extracurricular, emotioal needs, health appointments. I find it disgusting when these parents complain about support when they are so neglectful to their children and have the audacity to call the person stepping up greedy
He has a job. His child is just now going into pre-K. Single dad that works 40-50 hrs a week isn't getting custody of his pre-K child in this world if the mom or this case the aunt and mom can keep that from happening.
This dad is delusional AF. Why doesn't he have custody of his own son? If he was amazing he wouldn't be going through this. He would have full custody of HIS child. WTF 😒
I don't know. This feels like she baited him with this. Think about it. The scenario is plausible. The mom was the one who had the child initially when her and dad broke up. Dad was never asked for more than $20 or $30 here and there. At some point 9 months ago, the aunt was asked to take the child because mom doesn't want her kids anymore. So she agrees knowing that child support would be paid by both mom and dad. She doesn't ask him for anything for 9 months because she makes more than enough to pay for the kids (she doesn't look poor at all) and thus at the end of 9 months not only does she start receiving somewhere around $1500-$2000/month between the 2 parents but she also gets a bunch of backpay that she can use on whatever she wants. You don't seriously think a child uses $2000/month in electricity or bills do you? When the rent and all the major expenses were already covered by the aunt's income? This is extra income for her guaranteed. She sits there whining about her electricity bill and yet she looks like she's got a good-paying job. Granted they're not her kids but if she didn't care about them then she should've said no to taking care of them. Most likely the dad didn't take his son because he didn't have time and also because he didn't want to split him from his sibling.
Sadly and this is going to sound racist and sexist but it's because of the stereotypes form some reason a dad that acknowledges there child is considered good and a black dad who acknowledges there child is considered great. The reason this has happened is because of the stereotypes that a black man will always run out on the family and that a white man's only job it teach his son how to become him and threaten to kill every boyfriend his daughter brings home and society has normalized this kind of behavior by setting it as the standard and anything above this as amazing which is honestly just disgusting.
Honestly i don’t even blame her for trying to get money. He seems like a fully functioning adult with a good job. He’s more than capable to take care of his child but believes the below bare minimum is good enough.
I don't think that's the case. He probably was paying her money when she asked for it. It's not his fault that she never asked for the money. He was surprised that she took him to court as she obviously never even talked to him about money. And her excuse of that "he should know" is ridiculous. No one is psychic and he knew that she was getting money from the mom. He probably thought that was enough for the kid. This was frivolous and the only reason she got away with it is because the law allows for it. Something tells me that going forward he's not going to be sending her the cash app amounts or the school supplies. She wants child support? That makes her responsible for everything.
@@jessicaarmstrong5035? Just want to say that is common sense to think you child needs food, water, heat, you don't have to be mind reader to know that. Even my ex new that his child still need food ,water, ect and he put himself on child support. What he's doing is weponising Incompetence. Acting like he doesn't know the basics to living so he can skip the payment part. He new the kid need stuff with is evidence sense he bought the kids school supplies, then only thing that need to be Comunidad was the pusiflic amount of money. That's it he didn't need to ask if she need money because common sense states that she obviously does all he need was how much she need for his kid.
@Thecloud4932 I'm not saying that he shouldn't pay. I'm saying that he is at least trying and she shouldn't disparage him for what he hasn't done. Furthermore, you say he's weaponising incompetence but how do you know he's just not that incompetent? You don't have any idea about his intelligence. You assume you do because that's what YOU would do. It's not fair to assume that someone has the same level of competence that you do unless you know them. There are a lot of parents out there who messed up because what we consider to be common sense isn't common sense to them. Perhaps instead of making assumptions you should walk a mile in THEIR shoes.
@@jessicaarmstrong5035 the thing is he did say. She stated that she didn't talk about school thing yet he NEW to buy school supplies with out being told. He also has a high Intelligence job, being a backers accountant calls for at least 4 years of math credit. With is only aglbra and you can only get those credits with an A or B in the class (i have these credits). Its clear he new what he need to do and chose not to. (Also didn't say you said he should not pay. I got that part. I'm just saying that he should have now he need to pay)
@@jessicaarmstrong5035 also I have learning disabilities. I DO walk a mile in there shoes. I can't read correctly I have to get help reading and writing, but I still understand what need to get paid for a child because I need to pay it for myself. You say "don't make assumptions" yet you did the exact same thing.
I'm confused. He states he's a "good father", but it almost seems as though he doesn't want to pay child support. I know plenty of good fathers some who actually put themselves on child support. If he was truly providing consistent financial support, wouldn't he have the figures?
They literally dropped their kids off with her(the sister) and just didn't care. She's taking care of their kids. And deserves everything because by all rights she could surrender the children to the state.
@@elisahamilton73 doesn't matter. Family or not it isn't her kids. She shouldn't have to do any of this but she choose to and wants more money for it? Sounds like she's confused and just want money for her bills
@@ZhenMitch Some families are different. There are grandparents with custody over their grandchildren because they don't want them in the system, and there are aunts, uncles, sisters, brothers, etc. that have custody over a relative child because they don't want them to end up in the system. Yes, she does have a choice and her choice is to help her family members out. The reason she mentioned her bills was because those are fixed costing, versus a child which would be a variable cost (school, medical bills, entertainment, etc.).
My father was a amazing father! A REAL father. He was there EVERY DAY. Every penny he made went towards something that my siblings and I were involved in. He took care of everything. My dad worked every day and came home and helped my mother with us . Every thing my parents did after we were born was for us. It’s not always about money but sir you need to raise your standards of what you think a a amazing father is. My husband is a amazing father. My brothers are amazing fathers.
This had nothing to do with the child she wants some help with that absurd light bill. This lady expected him to act without clear concise communication.
@@ameliacatlover1985 you are both wrong. Maintaining a child is to keep them clean, warm, fed and entertained and that costs money. What is to stop him from being a 'great father' and getting custody and actually do all of the above and not just when it's convenient to his schedule....because it will cost more, both in time and money. He can turn up at will and think he's a brilliant dad for the afternoon at the park and a kids meal or buying some pencils and a school bag.
He said he works at the bank, he has a set schedule, plus he's expecting, sad he can have a child with another women and leave the 1st one with his aunt.
I’m disappointed that she didn’t lay into him like she usually does. She shouldn’t have to ask for money he should be volunteering it. She’s not even the mother. Ugh!
Yeah!! I said the same thing an if he such in amazing father why isn’t the child with him. She never ask him that!! I can’t believe she said the bills doesn’t mean anything.
Um he already does and when it comes to child support its so much some people have to work 3 jobs 60 hours a week or more just to pay it and it's horse shit
The aunt was erroneously expressing in reference to bills. Child support does consider household expenses that children live under in portions of said bill according to each child, NOT all of it…
exactly this whole time he was laughing and he just wont stop saying she is money hungry but she is the one taking care of HIS kid. Her bringing the bills for proof was her explaining that she needs help taking care of her responsibilities PLUS a child it is just too much. Idk man this episode got me aggravated at the father if you can even call him that.
@@redacted2147 he doesn’t involve himself in his sons though. I bet you he doesn’t know his sons teacher or his primary care number. Like he didn’t even know if the insurance he placed on his child was the best plan there was. All that money and he doesnt bother making sure his childs needs are met at all.
I love that he keeps saying she's money hungry because she's asking him to pay for HIS child. And why do you think she brought up the bills? Because while child support isn't for bills those bills do matter because the money you spend on all your necessary bills is less money you have to spend on the child.
@@kathleencooney1518 i agree could u see the look of satisfaction on her face when she finally knew she was getting money from him it should be a set amount because she already receives support from the mother and two other kids she took in from her sister so in total shes making money on this
@@whatweredoin8779 No, the total cost of the child should be split 50/50 depending on both parents' income and the needs of the child. So yes the child support seems high, but if the parents don't like it they are welcome to take their own child in. This aunt isn't just paying things for a child that isn't hers, she's taking care of it and responsible for it 24/7. All the while the parents are demeaning her commitment.
@whatweredoin8779 kids cost alot daycare alone cost 400 a week. An who doesn't want the best for their kids. Y should her kids get privileges an then her nieces have to watch them do activities etc the bio parent have raised no kids an don't understand the cost
@@whatweredoin8779 I seriously doubt that she is. The kids could all be in foster care, people they don't know them, CPS can move the children, split them up, and with people who are in it just for the money that the state pays them.
"King" should have custody of HIS son! Then he MIGHT be able to figure out how the electric bill and the water bill and the housing bill and the heating and air conditioning bills and the food and clothing bills and the medical bills and the insurance bill, etc., etc., etc., ALL factor into CHILD SUPPORT! And no, for the ignoramuses out there, child support does NOT pay for the custodian's ENTIRE electric bill or rent or any of the other necessary things, but it DOES pay for the portion which the child or children use(s)!
You are making very sweeping statements based upon a single scenario that didn’t provide enough background detail for any such determination to be made. You do not know what the money is being used for, or diverted to. The man skirted around his concerns but never vocalized them. If the payments being levied are in accordance to the laws of the jurisdiction, that’s all there is to it. Pay what you must, and hope that some small portion of it eventually makes its way to the child. But there are too many situations and too many cases where this simply isn’t true. The only point where you and I 100% agree is that the man should have custody of his son. But I can say exactly the same thing about the mother, as well. Again, not enough information was provided in the scenario to know the hows and the whys of it. Perhaps both were unsuitable. In any event, the episode was very interesting and thought provoking. Thank you, Judge Vonda B!
I understand what you are saying but there’s multiple people in the house so it’s not like the electric bill would be much different if the child wasn’t there
The reason she is probably having trouble paying the electric bill is because she spent money on caring for the child that would have gone to that bill instead if she didn't have those expenses. "King" could have custody of his son very quickly as the mother has abandoned him and the aunt does not have legal claim to him. He apparently doesn't want custody and for the sake of the child it is best he not go to a parent who does not want him/
She doesn't even ask to be paid for looking after the children of these irresponsible parents, and yet they think of her as greedy! I hope the court starts punishing parents who don't take care of their own children!
So he can give financial advice for a bank ... yet he struggled to understand that it takes more to raise a child and he sits there laughing @the lady with no children raising his child 🤑 he was left to insult her by calling her money hungry 😶
@@docdat3468 agreed, especially if you aren't super in your childs life to know that sort of stuff, now him not being in the childs life is an issue in itself, but thats not part of the comment here lmao
In my experience, when a parent says they're "good parents' or "amazing parents" they're usually bad parents. Actual good parents don't feel the need to go around saying it, and more often than not, good parents question their parenting. The good parents I know are going around saying things like, "Well, I try to be a good parent," or "I hope I made the right decision," that kind of thing. Good parents doubt their own parenting abilities all the time...the ones who don't give a rat's ass how the kid turns out are walking around, patting themselves on the back, and telling everyone who will listen how amazing they are, because they bought their kids a pair of shoes this year.
Well if he was "an amazing father" hed have custody of his child instead of letting the aunt take full parental responsibility for a child that isnt even hers. So that right there proves he isnt amazing.
He was a WHOLE CLOWN I bet he ran to the pawn shop to try to hock some of that jewelry if it's real! he almost cried when the Judge said how much he has to pay! I feel for the lil boy it seems that neither one of his parents want to actually act like a parent! I saw the first show with the so called mom on there smh......
These “parents” that don’t have custody of their kids and do not financially support their own kids on a regular basis have the audacity to be mad at child support baffles me. It takes money to raise a child. They think all it is, is the person that had custody being money hungry. 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ my main question would be, then why don’t you have custody of your own child??????
He should have stepped up to be the father he say he is & get custody of his child & pay for day care while he is working or a family member baby sitter & it's a win win. He has his child & he is well taken care of.
He knows because he was old enough to become a dad! This auntie should not be out of pocket one cent! Where is this coming from - man you are the parent, parent.
This "father" is disgusting. He is not "an amazing Dad", as he says. I can't imagine getting financial advice from him when he doesn't even support or take care of his own son. He seems totally irresponsible.
I’m really confused why the judge was so rude to the aunt as if she was in the wrong and the dad was being a great dad- why was it never asked why the dad didn’t have custody of his kid?
Man, when his 2nd child comes..... He's going to figure out exactly how much pampers, formula, school clothes, bills, doctor's appointments, babysitters, and food cost..... And that's just the basics....
what a misogynist! Ever sigh, every mutter, every eye roll was meant to denigrate and put down. Good on her for standing up for her and his child's rights.
I saw this one first and then had to go back to watch the one with the mom. So crazy how these people treat their kids like things that went out of style instead of human beings.
His attitude is a reflection of his own upbringing.. probably had next to nothing and expects his son to inherit that same tough life. He doesn’t care about his son nor his loving conditions.. out of sight out of mind
Exactly, and her point being missed or looked over constantly was so annoying. She’s not expecting him to pay her bills, she’s bringing up the fact that any additional person in a home means more of everything - more water, more electricity, more gas, etc., so he needs to pay for his child because the child has need besides just clothing and food that the aunt is providing
I choked when he said amazing father ! 😂 he doesn’t buy clothes for his child , shoes where his child stays lol idk why he keeps laughing . Money or hungry or not you not happy w child support take your kid pay a sitter!
Between the two parents for the two different kids, the aunt is still only getting about $1600 a month, and depending on where this is taking place, that could be barely enough to house them. A 2 bedroom apartment in a bad neighborhood is easily $1800 where I am from
I got to give that chick that point when the judge asked her how do you think he knew he had to pay for school stuff and she said I don't know cuz summer just ended.... Laughed my ass off.
The numbers just don't add up to on his finances. Has anyone looked at the jewelry he is wearing? He obviously wears it to impress everyone with his lucrative financial background. Then to hear what his gross and net are...it just doesn't add up. He's either hiding his real income or he's a fraud/con-man.
@@laundrygoddess4 I'm glad that the court system where you are does not take one side over the other but the whole system is broken and need a big overhaul but the judges are so ingrained in their position along with the laws it's never a even playing field
I think it was a mistake to leave the negotiation option on the table because now he's going to go badger her into an agreement that drop. s his amount down considerably. He goes by King for a reason.
She managed to get her delusional sister to rightfully pay childsupport and also managed to get the bum of a father as well to pay childsupport too... while she takes care of her nephews ... this woman is a legend!... An "amazing" father that does not take care and maintain directly his child... okkk... maybe I have been using "amazing" properly during all this time and the definition of "amazing" is different.
I don't understand how he is just so passive aggressive about it. You let your child live with someone else and think you don't have any accountability for the cost of raising them. Those parents are not only negligent but they are ignorant. So sad to here that there is another innocent, sweet baby coming into the world, hopefully he will treat that child with more respect.
I found you & you came up & I just love you Judge . You always help the right person. I am now your favorite southern grandma original from Louisiana but we have moved 2 hours up to our family farm in Arkansas. Had 3 cancers & died for 37 minutes but God said send that Italian/Native American/Creole chick back she talks too muck. I am 61 & married my husband at 19. Have had 30 surgeries 6 more in the next 4 months. Going to go back & watch all your old ones too . Got my cousins & BFF watching you too ! God Bless You Judge ! Love your favorite Southern Grandma ❤❤❤❤
It’s sad because I was raised by my aunt as well and she did an amazing job however the feeling of knowing you have two parents that are alive and well who chooses not to raise you is a sick feeling
just my 2cents worth of thoughts - But it sounds like your Aunt was a unique person who stepped in on your behalf - not many kids have that, some sadly are stuck with the parents who birthed them. Hugs -
Agreed.
@@jmariew9966 Agreed 100%! I see people with kids smoking weed around them, playing filthy music, cursing around them, throwing trash out their window while on the road, no car seat for them, babies in the front seat and so on... I was raised by just my dad after my parents split at the age of ten. Dad was a coal miner who worked 12+ hours a day who after his shift came home, got cleaned up, went to sleep then repeat and one of my fondest memories with him was a time we went to a tobacco shop so he could get his cherry skoal, after we were back in his truck just getting settled in and in front of us was someone in their car who opened his door and proceeded to throw trash out, not just a paper wrapper or something, fast food cups, bags, cans etc... Dad said nothing while we watched what said person was doing he just got out of his truck, walked up and started throwing all that persons trash back in his car all over him while saying things i couldnt hear but knew was something along the lines that let that person know he was unworthy of breathing the same oxygen we did lol. Mom on the other hand was nothing like dad. She would send me to her plug about a half a mile down the road with cash to get what she told me was her "medicine" as early as 5 years old, beat me with fists when I was around maybe 7ish cause I poured out a 6 pack of beer, watched her bring in men while dad was at work as well as having to listen to them having sex from the next room. I could go on forever with that woman but wont.... Like you said, count yourself lucky and don't hold any grudges or let your parents choosing their needs over you hurt you cause if you had lived with them instead of your aunt your life most likely would have been full of toxicity and destructive influences.
@@williammullens63 yes indeed happy for you sounds like your dad did really well.
The issue i have from this site why is the son living with his aunt instead of the dad
If you don't want to pay someone else to support your child; get them in your physical custody and support them yourselves. 💯
Right like why don’t you have custody of your child the judge definitely should’ve asked
Exactly
It’s not always that easy
I had physical custody of my daughter for two years because the mom sent her to me. I immediately submitted for a modification and they ignored it for two whole years. Still charged me and garnished my wages even though my daughter was living with me exclusively and they knew it. I was at risk of being sent to jail, having my DL revoked and a number of other legal issues all because my ex didn’t think it through and got us into the legal system.
Fast forward to today I now have 100% legal and physical custody because my ex got caught up in some legal stuff with CPS and had all her parental rights taken away and other children placed in foster care.
I say all this to remind everyone it’s not always up to you. The states are incentivized to put men on CS orders and collect on the interest whether you’re a good father or not
Right. It’s like where is the gratitude for what she is doing for YOUR child?
Why doesn't either parents have their own kids?!
You missed when the mother came to court. She had asked her sister if she would like her niece and nephew for the summer and never came back for them. When the mother came to court she said she had decided she didn’t want to be a mother anymore! She wanted to concentrate on her career. She was the most annoying woman ever, and resisted even paying, but the judge put a stop to that and ordered her to pay.
This father’s smugness is also annoying. He comes to court dripping in jewels , works at a bank which basically is a 9 to 5. But he only picks up the child when he can, and doesn’t think he should regularly do that or contribute money? A woman who has no children took his child in, and he is calling her money hungry?
@@Mop222Thank you for the update.
Exactly!!
If he works in a bank, he isn't paid well enough to be dripping in jewels. Must be faux or a gift from someone.
He is a slimy bastard.
Child resides with her, she needs MONEY.
“don’t be sorry, just don’t do it”. This needs to be on a t-shirt!
That and, "You obviously came here to waste my time!"
I’d pay for those shirts 🤣🤣🤣
I used the “Don’t be sorry just don’t do it” on my grandson the other day. Lol
It is 😀 I watched one of her other videos, and she said she has about 3 tshirts coming out with her sayings 😀
and “you just came here to waste my time”😂💀
Nothing pushing my buttons more than parents who think all kids need is clothes and food here and there.
i’ll never understand that. My ex is like that. hoping we can get child support soon for once
I deal with that same shit, my kids dad only gives when he sees fit. He says cuz my kids are on disability that's his child support. POS only knows how to buy toys and treats and only pays for the phone bill. That won't feed 2 kids.
He didn't even pay for food!
I agree 100%. In a new vein I think the aunt is liable to ASK for what the child needs. None of this, "He should know better" nonsense. That doesn't take care of a child but I'm glad she took him to court.
I had a friend that literally would buy his kids 1 pair of shoes from Target once a year!😢
How did he show up to court at the right time and location without reading the paper he received with the court information? 😂😂😂
Had the new baby mama read it.
Okkkkk he just stupid
Bc those are always on the top corner of the paper when you get served or in the middle. But I agree how did he not know what it was about yet he knew the date time and location. That's normally right on the front page. The details are in the rest of the packet. I have a copy of my own paperwork for when I had Court for my child. My baby dad did the same thing and then screamed out "that's all you beeps want is my money" naw dead beat Derek. Said the one who literally left me and took all my money and left me with nothing for your daughter but You laid down with all 4 of us and made these babies with us you can financially support all 4 of your babies.
The marshall tells you when they hand you the paperwork. The paperwork and extra copies are to ensure there is no way you don't know the claim and also to have a copy on you.
😂😂😂😅
*I love the use of The Judge's beverage cup, as a sarcastic prop.*
*Watching her peek over the top, as she takes in the info on the case.*
🥰🥰
I love seeing her drink her tea. 😮
The mug should say “don’t be sorry just don’t do it.”
Y🤣ap
It’s funny when she do it🤣😂😂
She IS totally right . She doesn't have to Ask for money for HIS kid. This man IS full of himself
The child is four, if she wants someone to help with bills theirs four things she can do.
1. Get a job
2. Ask
3. Give the son to the father he didn't lose custody he was alienated from his son by the mother
4. Get married so you can have a joint income coming into the home.
This is why women get a bad reputation with men. If YOU want something YOU should ask. Definitely when someone is already paying child support for this child.
@@lovablechipz7742it’s not even her kid tho. Clearly he don’t want his kid, the least he can do is pay
@sadiehumboldt you don't know that.
Just a little background since you obviously didn't do research; the mother was having a disagreement with him, so she took the kids and dropped them at the sister's and left them there for months while he (assumingly) was looking for her and the kids, he clearly hints at the sister and mother manipulating others against him.
Who would trust this "financial advisor" with their money?
@@lovablechipz7742 you absolute goofball, he has a stable job and a good income. if he wanted his kid he would fight for custody, idk how some of yall are so braindead
It amazes me that these people want to dump their child on this woman and think that they don't have any responsibilities to their child, expecting the aunt to foot the bill for their child. The fact that the father hasn't even put his child on his insurance or even checked on how much the insurance would cost. The kid is four or five years old.
What a fool this man said he is a financial advisor ..i wouldnt let him loose with the change thats fallen in between my sofa
I don’t believe this man is a Financial Advisor AT ALL.. I work for a FA & he makes his own schedule. He’s a family oriented man & work NEVER comes before it. I guess he thought saying that would make him sound so busy & unable to care for his child lol this guy is a joke.
He could be great at his job but not a good parent, two separate things. And he said he works for a bank so probably doesn’t have the ability to fully set his schedule, but that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t have custody and take care of his child. Seems like the aunt would have no problem helping him out
Dude is full of pride. Just slick.
“I’m an amazing father, I see my child when I can” 😂 He has a good job, seems stable, he could get full custody.
@@nenecuba4068 you can tell he really aiint giving any money just by the way he has snickered everytime he says he pay money he contradicted him self by saying he had paid 300-500 monthly then when the judge brung it up that it was combined he said you can say that.
She is raising his child! The fact that he is snickering about it all and upset about paying child support is not a good father ..
He will never make the effort to get full custody because it would really cramp his style. Afterall, he is the "King".
You would think
did i miss why he doesnt have custody?
the BROKEST King EVER🤣🤣🤣
Looking at you I see why you would say that.. lol You wish you could look like king
😂😂😂😂
@@KingBailey3wipe you’re dirty mouth after zipping his pants 😂
$60k is wayyyy more money than the average American household income. He’s just weird
and JACKSON 🤣🤣🤣
How can you claim to be an amazing father when someone else is raising your kid?
the judge should ask "do you want the custody back?"
He says he sees his child when he can cause he has a rough schedule with his job
As a person who went through something similar.
What I will say is that you can tell that the reason why he didn't have custody of his child. It's because of something that they did.
And complains about supporting him. He's repulsive, arrogant and selfish. Thank goodness the little boy has his Aunt. ❤️🇺🇸
He never lost custody the mom took her kids and dropped them off at the sister's and never came back
His gross attitude to paying $900PM for his child's wellbeing, bills, food, taken and picked up from school, and being taken care of 7 days a week by someone else is unbelievable.
i think he could be mad bc shes gonna spend the money on herself rather than the child
@mihaelavelichkovska6063 no he's gaslighting her to make it seem that way but he definitely needs to pay for that child staying there with her
Why shouldn't she spend that money on herself? If I'm looking after someone else's kid I am going to be expecting to be paid. That is not her child. She is not the mum.
Lol ...I know this happens in the real world, but this is not real and people get so mad!
@@walkingwithkate7900 that money is for the child's clothes and shoes and other items needed
It never fails to amaze me that people don't think they are responsible, financially, not to mention emotionally, for the children they bring into this world. My dad didn't. He even got out of the Marines after 8 years because they were going to take money from his monthly check for child support for my brother and I. He lived 35 miles from us and I can count on the fingers of both hands how many times I saw him in 40+ years. People are sorry individuals that won't take care of their children properly. The lowest of the low in my book.
Same here. My parents divorced when I was 6 months old. My "dad" used to give my mom about $300 every time he showed up. He showed up like 5 times during my childhood. He went out to live his best life not caring about me whatsoever. Got a new wife and 2 kids with her. Had a huge house with a pool. Software engineer, once when i visited him, he talked about elephants that he had seen in Asia. Meantime I didnt even have enough money to buy ice cream in the summer as a child. As far as he is concerned he has a total of 2 kids. He never calls, never messages, he just doesnt care. I dont think he regrets or feels guilty at all about not having any type of relationship with me.
I don't think he was saying he's not supposed to take care of them, It's more like his job is to take care of the child, clothes, and such, more than likely she's recieving government assistance already for said child as far as financial and food goes. But she keeps bringing up her bills like the child is running up all the bills by himself. She hasn't even shown what her bills were BEFORE the child entered the home.
I was blessed with 2 amazing parents. My dad worked nights at the post office, busting his butt so he could take care of his kids. Mom worked days, and dad would be there to get us off to school, was home when we got home from school to help us with our homework, and even cooked dinner, so when mom got home from her job she didn't have to. We may not have had a lot of money, but we always had a roof over our heads, clothes on our back, and food in our belly!!
Agree 100%
@@princesongoku You would be amazed how much those kinds of bills shoot up.
“I’m an amazing father” then why is your child not living with you then??? And why he keep chuckling like a villain!?
honestly thats all i could keep thinking, like if thats the case why dont you have custody over your child
You do know that non-custodial parent does not equal unfit? Right?
sure its just the fact that they just need to understand if they didnt want to pay child support then he should have took custody over his child @@jamesclugston1626
Facts!
@@jamesclugston1626noncustodial but the kid is with the aunt, not even the mom. That’s the point; the dad would take precedence over an aunt so what happened that he doesn’t have his kid?
The audacity of him to call her money hungry when he doesn't even take daily care of his child.
I know, he should ask custody of he's child. Instead
Like i did...
And doesn’t have an account of money. Thinks electric bill is not about the child having electricity whole someone does 100% of the work to raise the kid. People are just tremendous lol
This show is reenactments.actors. its written on the main page
Settling these kind of things outside of court is usually temporary, that parent will choose when they will contribute to this child and then they’ll forget and you’ll have to continue to remind them. I can understand why she would want this to be a more legal thing.
I am glad to see others who see this too. Like you get sick of asking someone to show up and do their part. It comes off as begging when you have to ask every month for money to help with some groceries. Its worse when she has NO kids of her own
Also, notice he has another on the way. Aunt is probably thinking, I better set this by the court before this other child is born 'cause the new one is probably from a newer functioning relationship and will therefore have advantage with a mother and father there.
My mom and dad came to an agreement and he had it automatically transfered to her account each month.
Then she decided to go to court to mandate it because he missed a single month due to being sick and not getting a decent check. At the time, I spent half the week with her, half with him.
The court ended up making him pay less than their original agreement. Was funny.
This is the kind of guy that deserves to pay the max in child support. He probably pops up like once or twice a month or on holidays and birthdays.
if he 'has time'
I found him very condescending yet I found the judge kinder to him then to Emma is raising the two kids plus a3 because I swear I heard her say that she has three kids there now .
A man who works as a financial advisor in a bank and does not feel he has to fully support his child...He should have custody and pay for daycare and pick him up after school. What is this malarkey about the demands of his job? It’s a 9-5!
You've obviously never been a financial advisor. They work out of banks and they often work late hours. It's never just 9-5 for those people. Most banks only have one financial advisor, 9-7 every day. Some days it's 9-9. Those people work like dogs.
I laughed when he said he worked in a bank... thought he meant a mobster bank or something
@@jessicaarmstrong5035what does that have to do with taking care of his child.....you don't think other parents have even tighter schedules???
@FiMiPickney I was responding to her comment about being a financial adviser. Furthermore, it has to do with that they work long hours so obviously doing all of that in addition is extremely tiring. I realize that everyone thinks parents Superman and Wonder Woman but it doesn't negate the fact that it makes them tired. It's absolutely ridiculous that people think that parents don't deserve sympathy or a helping hand. I'd like to see you work as a financial advisor while taking care of a child.
The parents that don’t even have custody of their own children, they’re living with aunties, grandparents sisters, who then have the balls to be confused why they should pay child support. I will never get over it
These unparents are insane. truly delusional. The audacity to be annoyed that they are being forced into an obligation that is literally their own is just pathetic.
That’s the truth! “Un-parents” is a word I’ve never heard, but it sums up the situation very well! 👍🏾
i know!!!! We said the same thing!!!
It isn’t about the child she need help with that ridiculous ass light bill
What is the mother doi. To help herself y’all don’t like to help yall selves sometimes
@@doughyslatt6397 that’s the AUNT not the mom.
Why can't he take his child? Why can't this amazing father father his child full time.
* The so-called dad is pimping himself out to any female who believes this pimp to be a rich player.
because he's missing teeth!!!....LOL I know that has nothing to do with this case but my GOD please get on a payment plan and get an implant!!!
@@MsZenia1hes an actor. This show is reenactments. Not the real cases. Its written on her page lol
This is crazy ! This lady got dump her sister’s kids because she decided she doesn’t want them anymore, so she has to forced her through the courts to pay child support, now she’s trying to get her sisters ex to pay child support as well and she’s called “greedy” WTF .!! This lady deserves all the support she can get , she deserves a medal , good on her !.
Most of the children in the foster care system are biracial. These men never supported their own women now their doing the same in the Mexican and yt community. It’s not a shocker . It’s always someone else’s fault and not their own .
Le seul commentaire sensé !!! 👏🏾👏🏾
It's not crazy and she's not greedy. Both parents are responsible for supporting their child, whether the child lives with them or not.
400 dollars for light bill from a 4 year old
@@unrulysuwoo3075 I don't know where you live but that's pretty basic for utilities for a small home where I live. I don't think shes trying to say the kid ran that up all by their self but she is providing a comfortable home for the child, heating cooling, hot water for baths, rent... certainly child support should be covering a portion of that.
Amazing father doesn't even know how much medical insurance is??? he is the reason why good guys get screwed
HE is the reason? lol
I looked at it during ope enrollment how much the difference is for just me and a dependant. If someone asked me right now, I would have no idea. I don't have it in front of me, and I don't remember
That's why We just get passports and leave amerikkkan black women here
I really hate his attitude... he is so arrogant, so full of himself and yet he is a terrible father! Someone else is taking care of your kid and you call her money hungry.... i can't stand him😡😡😡😡😡😡
Wow, he's an amazing dad!!!! Sarcasm.....
Why doesn't he have his child anyway?
The moneys for his Son , hes a fool of a father,laughing like a ignorant moron,
She picked a bad man to lay with and have a child with, what a dummy.
Vonda, I just "discovered" your show. It's addicting. A great concept and well produced. Thanks for all your work. Educational and sooo entertaining with your cast of everyday people and your diverse hairstyles🤩
You’re very welcome and thank you for your kind words!❤️❤️
He spends to much on all that jewelry
I just discovered it as well and have been binge watching it 😊
@@ameliacatlover1985 me too I love this judge
I love it too, but these people are all actors.
People kill me with "other priorities" and their kids don't live with them😳
She's money hungry but she's raising your child when you are fully capable of doing so yourself? 😂😂😂 AND ITS NOT EVEN HER KID!
She’s not money hungry. She’s supporting his child 100%
@@mommyheada lol did you not understand how my comment was written?
She do seem money hungry but he do need to send money for his child. But bills ain't his child which let's u know child support or not she's not spending it on the child
@@qu33nT How is she money hungry for asking to accommodate utilities being used by HIS CHILD? If he doesn’t want to give her money to help take care of HIS CHILD, then he can take the kid. you’re are more worried about her asking for money than the fact that the father of the child doesn’t love his child enough to raise him
Please! She's raising his child so both parents need to pay fawk you mean
He is everything that is wrong in a nutshell. He never once said give me my son I’ll take care of him. He think it’s a joke he about to pay. He won’t be laughing long 😂
Exactly
he did say he would like to have his son
He needs to get slapped all around
@@idcimtink facts they’ve been to court already about it too
Am I the only one that see something wrong with him wearing his hat in court befor a Judge?
It's really messed up that some of these parents come to court with expensive jewellery and nice expensive clothes but complain about paying for their own kids
I noticed his jewelry too. Now he will be supporting his child, not buying himself junk.
Why do people think the only expense a child have is food, they contribute to every bill in that house, food, light, water , gas for car. Everything so why people think child support must only cover food is beyond me
Or those who say all of it should only be spent on the child for toys, games, etc...🤷♀️
In USA you cannot detrmind child cost on water clearly so no. In this country theres a formula for those costs.
This!
I am disabled at this point with a daughter of 9. I have a friend that has the same income as me and she keeps telling me her financial state is so much worse... and I keep telling her that besides food and clothes a kid also uses a lot more energy
Thank you! The bills had everything to do with it. Child support is for the bills, food, clothes, school etc.The least he coulda did was contribute to that since she has his child. The aunt was valid in everything that she said.
I hate how that guy thinks it's not necessary to pay and it's just for the Aunt. No. It's not even her child. But she's there for him every day financially, physically, emotionally. Teaches him, reads, cooks, bathes, tucks him in at night. So what he is paying is still a lot cheaper than what he would have to pay for a 24/7 childcare. He's lucky there's a loving family member taking care of HIS child.
Why don’t these dudes understand the impact that kids have on electricity, gas and water? I PROMISE you her bills would be lower if she wasn’t taking care of _several_ kids that aren’t hers. 😒
Well Said!
also the whole time antagonizing her. Laughing acting like that $800 is just for her bills.
He is far from an awesome Dad!
Hahahahahahaha. You're so wrong.
Unbelievable just being a caretaker of a child around the clock pays more than $200 a week plus having to buy the child's needs out of that be responsible for raising the child to be a respectable adult, extracurricular, emotioal needs, health appointments.
I find it disgusting when these parents complain about support when they are so neglectful to their children and have the audacity to call the person stepping up greedy
Totally agree...
Why won't he just file for custody of his own child? Men like him annoy me smh
Because he doesn't want to be bothered.
It cost more
He has a job. His child is just now going into pre-K. Single dad that works 40-50 hrs a week isn't getting custody of his pre-K child in this world if the mom or this case the aunt and mom can keep that from happening.
@@papabearandjfamily4694 lol the victim father right.
@@papabearandjfamily4694 so hard working mom's are nothing? Fathers get away with waking away from their children. It's disgusting
This dad is delusional AF. Why doesn't he have custody of his own son? If he was amazing he wouldn't be going through this. He would have full custody of HIS child. WTF 😒
I don't know. This feels like she baited him with this. Think about it. The scenario is plausible. The mom was the one who had the child initially when her and dad broke up. Dad was never asked for more than $20 or $30 here and there. At some point 9 months ago, the aunt was asked to take the child because mom doesn't want her kids anymore. So she agrees knowing that child support would be paid by both mom and dad. She doesn't ask him for anything for 9 months because she makes more than enough to pay for the kids (she doesn't look poor at all) and thus at the end of 9 months not only does she start receiving somewhere around $1500-$2000/month between the 2 parents but she also gets a bunch of backpay that she can use on whatever she wants. You don't seriously think a child uses $2000/month in electricity or bills do you? When the rent and all the major expenses were already covered by the aunt's income? This is extra income for her guaranteed. She sits there whining about her electricity bill and yet she looks like she's got a good-paying job. Granted they're not her kids but if she didn't care about them then she should've said no to taking care of them. Most likely the dad didn't take his son because he didn't have time and also because he didn't want to split him from his sibling.
I hate when parents think they are “amazing”. Acknowledging your child is the bare minimum of parenting.
Sadly and this is going to sound racist and sexist but it's because of the stereotypes form some reason a dad that acknowledges there child is considered good and a black dad who acknowledges there child is considered great.
The reason this has happened is because of the stereotypes that a black man will always run out on the family and that a white man's only job it teach his son how to become him and threaten to kill every boyfriend his daughter brings home and society has normalized this kind of behavior by setting it as the standard and anything above this as amazing which is honestly just disgusting.
“Im an amazing dad but my kid doesn’t life with me and Im not regularly supporting them” 😂 cracks me up
@@hollyb750 I was about to say the same thing! I’m AMAZING, but my child doesn’t live with me or his mother. They’re both sorry.
Yes he’s an “amazing” father whose child has to live with their aunt
@@hinarahyuga1684 dude, i know a guy who beats his kids n wife black and blue, he still praise himself as a great parent!
Honestly i don’t even blame her for trying to get money. He seems like a fully functioning adult with a good job. He’s more than capable to take care of his child but believes the below bare minimum is good enough.
I don't think that's the case. He probably was paying her money when she asked for it. It's not his fault that she never asked for the money. He was surprised that she took him to court as she obviously never even talked to him about money. And her excuse of that "he should know" is ridiculous. No one is psychic and he knew that she was getting money from the mom. He probably thought that was enough for the kid. This was frivolous and the only reason she got away with it is because the law allows for it. Something tells me that going forward he's not going to be sending her the cash app amounts or the school supplies. She wants child support? That makes her responsible for everything.
@@jessicaarmstrong5035? Just want to say that is common sense to think you child needs food, water, heat, you don't have to be mind reader to know that. Even my ex new that his child still need food ,water, ect and he put himself on child support. What he's doing is weponising Incompetence. Acting like he doesn't know the basics to living so he can skip the payment part. He new the kid need stuff with is evidence sense he bought the kids school supplies, then only thing that need to be Comunidad was the pusiflic amount of money. That's it he didn't need to ask if she need money because common sense states that she obviously does all he need was how much she need for his kid.
@Thecloud4932 I'm not saying that he shouldn't pay. I'm saying that he is at least trying and she shouldn't disparage him for what he hasn't done. Furthermore, you say he's weaponising incompetence but how do you know he's just not that incompetent? You don't have any idea about his intelligence. You assume you do because that's what YOU would do. It's not fair to assume that someone has the same level of competence that you do unless you know them. There are a lot of parents out there who messed up because what we consider to be common sense isn't common sense to them. Perhaps instead of making assumptions you should walk a mile in THEIR shoes.
@@jessicaarmstrong5035 the thing is he did say. She stated that she didn't talk about school thing yet he NEW to buy school supplies with out being told. He also has a high Intelligence job, being a backers accountant calls for at least 4 years of math credit. With is only aglbra and you can only get those credits with an A or B in the class (i have these credits). Its clear he new what he need to do and chose not to. (Also didn't say you said he should not pay. I got that part. I'm just saying that he should have now he need to pay)
@@jessicaarmstrong5035 also I have learning disabilities. I DO walk a mile in there shoes. I can't read correctly I have to get help reading and writing, but I still understand what need to get paid for a child because I need to pay it for myself. You say "don't make assumptions" yet you did the exact same thing.
judge was seemingly charmed by this dude. She was a little too cold towards the aunt. Uncalled for.
Yes I felt that way too. It turned me off. The aunt isn't obligated to take care of his son. The auntie was valid all the way thru
I don’t think the judge was charmed by him at all, he was arrogant and really got on my nerves with his conceited laughter!
I'm confused. He states he's a "good father", but it almost seems as though he doesn't want to pay child support. I know plenty of good fathers some who actually put themselves on child support. If he was truly providing consistent financial support, wouldn't he have the figures?
He does not want to pay child support. The amazing father he is.and why is the Judge being so much to him I dont understand.
They literally dropped their kids off with her(the sister) and just didn't care. She's taking care of their kids. And deserves everything because by all rights she could surrender the children to the state.
Facts, she was a single, free woman with no kids before all this
This is her fault tho...why she taking care of kids that don't belong to her
@@ZhenMitch they are her family
@@elisahamilton73 doesn't matter. Family or not it isn't her kids. She shouldn't have to do any of this but she choose to and wants more money for it? Sounds like she's confused and just want money for her bills
@@ZhenMitch Some families are different. There are grandparents with custody over their grandchildren because they don't want them in the system, and there are aunts, uncles, sisters, brothers, etc. that have custody over a relative child because they don't want them to end up in the system. Yes, she does have a choice and her choice is to help her family members out.
The reason she mentioned her bills was because those are fixed costing, versus a child which would be a variable cost (school, medical bills, entertainment, etc.).
Give him his child. Let him deal with it because it's his responsibility and you live your life happy with no headaches
My father was a amazing father! A REAL father. He was there EVERY DAY. Every penny he made went towards something that my siblings and I were involved in. He took care of everything. My dad worked every day and came home and helped my mother with us . Every thing my parents did after we were born was for us. It’s not always about money but sir you need to raise your standards of what you think a a amazing father is. My husband is a amazing father. My brothers are amazing fathers.
That's great to hear and your brothers lead by example of the way your mom and dad were! We need more parents like yours
Its wasn’t just the father that wasn’t doing right. But the mother ain’t doing right either.
This had nothing to do with the child she wants some help with that absurd light bill. This lady expected him to act without clear concise communication.
@@tyronehuston1260 totally agree. She just wants the dough. That's all she cares about which is honestly sad, especially for the child
@@ameliacatlover1985 you are both wrong. Maintaining a child is to keep them clean, warm, fed and entertained and that costs money. What is to stop him from being a 'great father' and getting custody and actually do all of the above and not just when it's convenient to his schedule....because it will cost more, both in time and money. He can turn up at will and think he's a brilliant dad for the afternoon at the park and a kids meal or buying some pencils and a school bag.
If your financial advisor dresses like that, RUN!
I was thinking the same thing. I bet he definitely is not a financially advisor. Get your son
He said he works at the bank, he has a set schedule, plus he's expecting, sad he can have a child with another women and leave the 1st one with his aunt.
He doesn't speak like a financial professional. Maybe he's the money counter at the local trap house?
Charlie Wilson wannabe
and the painted nails!!
The audacity of the parent who doesn’t parent. Wow! Take ur kid then. Smh. The judge should have offered custody.
If this dude is a banker financial adviser I'm taking my money out straight away
Giggles, can't read a court summons and knows no numbers.
Also what he means his schedule is hard to pick up his kids banks have the best schedules
I’m disappointed that she didn’t lay into him like she usually does. She shouldn’t have to ask for money he should be volunteering it. She’s not even the mother. Ugh!
Yeah!! I said the same thing an if he such in amazing father why isn’t the child with him. She never ask him that!! I can’t believe she said the bills doesn’t mean anything.
Um he already does and when it comes to child support its so much some people have to work 3 jobs 60 hours a week or more just to pay it and it's horse shit
The sister or whatever dodged every question I've seen for rn
The aunt was erroneously expressing in reference to bills. Child support does consider household expenses that children live under in portions of said bill according to each child, NOT all of it…
exactly this whole time he was laughing and he just wont stop saying she is money hungry but she is the one taking care of HIS kid. Her bringing the bills for proof was her explaining that she needs help taking care of her responsibilities PLUS a child it is just too much. Idk man this episode got me aggravated at the father if you can even call him that.
800-900 dollar to let somebody else take care your child is cheap..and the man should GROW UP!!
Right. It costs $3k a month just to raise one child. He's so delusional!!!!!
He calls her money hungry yet he has all that jewelry bling that he spends on himself
Thats his money tho
@@redacted2147 he doesn’t involve himself in his sons though. I bet you he doesn’t know his sons teacher or his primary care number. Like he didn’t even know if the insurance he placed on his child was the best plan there was. All that money and he doesnt bother making sure his childs needs are met at all.
@@redacted2147which he had because he wasn't raising his child.
I love that he keeps saying she's money hungry because she's asking him to pay for HIS child. And why do you think she brought up the bills? Because while child support isn't for bills those bills do matter because the money you spend on all your necessary bills is less money you have to spend on the child.
He should pay a set amount for his child. Any side agreement he has with the Mom or Auntie should cease.
@@kathleencooney1518 i agree could u see the look of satisfaction on her face when she finally knew she was getting money from him it should be a set amount because she already receives support from the mother and two other kids she took in from her sister so in total shes making money on this
@@whatweredoin8779 No, the total cost of the child should be split 50/50 depending on both parents' income and the needs of the child. So yes the child support seems high, but if the parents don't like it they are welcome to take their own child in. This aunt isn't just paying things for a child that isn't hers, she's taking care of it and responsible for it 24/7. All the while the parents are demeaning her commitment.
@whatweredoin8779 kids cost alot daycare alone cost 400 a week. An who doesn't want the best for their kids. Y should her kids get privileges an then her nieces have to watch them do activities etc the bio parent have raised no kids an don't understand the cost
@@whatweredoin8779 I seriously doubt that she is. The kids could all be in foster care, people they don't know them, CPS can move the children, split them up, and with people who are in it just for the money that the state pays them.
Just shows up all this gold but can’t pay for his baby
He has other priorities and that’s why his son lives with his aunt instead of his Dad.
"King" should have custody of HIS son! Then he MIGHT be able to figure out how the electric bill and the water bill and the housing bill and the heating and air conditioning bills and the food and clothing bills and the medical bills and the insurance bill, etc., etc., etc., ALL factor into CHILD SUPPORT! And no, for the ignoramuses out there, child support does NOT pay for the custodian's ENTIRE electric bill or rent or any of the other necessary things, but it DOES pay for the portion which the child or children use(s)!
You are making very sweeping statements based upon a single scenario that didn’t provide enough background detail for any such determination to be made.
You do not know what the money is being used for, or diverted to. The man skirted around his concerns but never vocalized them.
If the payments being levied are in accordance to the laws of the jurisdiction, that’s all there is to it. Pay what you must, and hope that some small portion of it eventually makes its way to the child. But there are too many situations and too many cases where this simply isn’t true.
The only point where you and I 100% agree is that the man should have custody of his son. But I can say exactly the same thing about the mother, as well. Again, not enough information was provided in the scenario to know the hows and the whys of it. Perhaps both were unsuitable.
In any event, the episode was very interesting and thought provoking. Thank you, Judge Vonda B!
I understand what you are saying but there’s multiple people in the house so it’s not like the electric bill would be much different if the child wasn’t there
@@Reecekeyz He (and his ex) still needs to pay for his kid's portion.
The reason she is probably having trouble paying the electric bill is because she spent money on caring for the child that would have gone to that bill instead if she didn't have those expenses.
"King" could have custody of his son very quickly as the mother has abandoned him and the aunt does not have legal claim to him. He apparently doesn't want custody and for the sake of the child it is best he not go to a parent who does not want him/
@@peterkottke2570 That is a very reasonable assessment of the situation depicted in the scenario.
She doesn't even ask to be paid for looking after the children of these irresponsible parents, and yet they think of her as greedy! I hope the court starts punishing parents who don't take care of their own children!
So he can give financial advice for a bank ... yet he struggled to understand that it takes more to raise a child and he sits there laughing @the lady with no children raising his child 🤑 he was left to insult her by calling her money hungry 😶
She’s right….. “He bought school supplies he should’ve known to bring school clothes” I mean it’s common sense 🤦🏽♀️
Wouldn't do it because I surely wouldn't buy the right stuff
@@docdat3468 agreed, especially if you aren't super in your childs life to know that sort of stuff, now him not being in the childs life is an issue in itself, but thats not part of the comment here lmao
@@kyleyoung9326 even if I would be in his life in such a case i wouldn't because I have 0 fashion style and wouldn't like my kid to look like a clown
I wouldnt bc i bought the supplies she can buy the clothes
Just because u start a new school year doesn't mean u need new clothes
He said he's expecting a child but he doesn't even take care of his other kid?
In my experience, when a parent says they're "good parents' or "amazing parents" they're usually bad parents. Actual good parents don't feel the need to go around saying it, and more often than not, good parents question their parenting. The good parents I know are going around saying things like, "Well, I try to be a good parent," or "I hope I made the right decision," that kind of thing. Good parents doubt their own parenting abilities all the time...the ones who don't give a rat's ass how the kid turns out are walking around, patting themselves on the back, and telling everyone who will listen how amazing they are, because they bought their kids a pair of shoes this year.
Bingo!!!!
Well if he was "an amazing father" hed have custody of his child instead of letting the aunt take full parental responsibility for a child that isnt even hers. So that right there proves he isnt amazing.
If he believe to be an "amazing father" why doesn't he take his child under his wing.
GOD BLESS THIS AUNT. SHE IS SUCH A KIND SOUL FOR TAKING IN THESE CHILDREN ❤❤
He was a WHOLE CLOWN I bet he ran to the pawn shop to try to hock some of that jewelry if it's real! he almost cried when the Judge said how much he has to pay! I feel for the lil boy it seems that neither one of his parents want to actually act like a parent! I saw the first show with the so called mom on there smh......
What's the name of that episode?
@@PORTMIAMIMIKE here’s the link to the one w the mom: ruclips.net/video/od86Hs7qAYE/видео.html
"Amazing, dad" .. really? .. why isn't his child living with him then?....
Say it with me, "Non-custodial Parent does not mean unfit."
@@jamesclugston1626in some cases yes but from the most of what I seen as a county clerk, it was. 🤷🏽
If he was an amazing father he would be fighting for full custody of his child🤷
These “parents” that don’t have custody of their kids and do not financially support their own kids on a regular basis have the audacity to be mad at child support baffles me. It takes money to raise a child. They think all it is, is the person that had custody being money hungry. 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ my main question would be, then why don’t you have custody of your own child??????
He should have stepped up to be the father he say he is & get custody of his child & pay for day care while he is working or a family member baby sitter & it's a win win. He has his child & he is well taken care of.
He don’t want hood kid and daycare is way more expensive than he was ordered to pay.
He knows because he was old enough to become a dad!
This auntie should not be out of pocket one cent!
Where is this coming from - man you are the parent, parent.
This "father" is disgusting. He is not "an amazing Dad", as he says. I can't imagine getting financial advice from him when he doesn't even support or take care of his own son. He seems totally irresponsible.
He does not take care of his own child and is resentful to support financially. That sir is not being a great dad
I’m really confused why the judge was so rude to the aunt as if she was in the wrong and the dad was being a great dad- why was it never asked why the dad didn’t have custody of his kid?
I don't understand why he don't have custody of his own child and he wouldn't have to go through all this
He said it he has "other priorities" 😂😂
That’s what I’m saying 🤦♂️
Right! Because he’s such an “amazing” father 🙄 The child is probably better off where he is.
FACTS!! I mean like as many times as he said he’s an “amazing dad” why don’t you have custody of your child then?
He didnt ask for it
As he dont want to get custody in the first place...
Man, when his 2nd child comes..... He's going to figure out exactly how much pampers, formula, school clothes, bills, doctor's appointments, babysitters, and food cost..... And that's just the basics....
It’s sad the father can not express himself properly. How can you not communicate the total or year to date number of your cash app payments.
what a misogynist! Ever sigh, every mutter, every eye roll was meant to denigrate and put down. Good on her for standing up for her and his child's rights.
Not saying he’s right but that means he hates women?
I saw this one first and then had to go back to watch the one with the mom. So crazy how these people treat their kids like things that went out of style instead of human beings.
His attitude is a reflection of his own upbringing.. probably had next to nothing and expects his son to inherit that same tough life. He doesn’t care about his son nor his loving conditions.. out of sight out of mind
When she sips her tea and looks up over cup....I giggle everything single time
I'd be RICH with the amount of You Knows this lady can dish out.
How can you be an amazing father if you don't have your kid at home?
“Don’t be sorry, just don’t do it”. Love that line
I going to start using that with my kids.
YOU CAME HERE TO WASTE MY TIME is my favorite line.. U know its good when she says that
She brought the bill as an example. She wasn't saying pay my electricity every month. She gave it as an example.
Right
Exactly, and her point being missed or looked over constantly was so annoying. She’s not expecting him to pay her bills, she’s bringing up the fact that any additional person in a home means more of everything - more water, more electricity, more gas, etc., so he needs to pay for his child because the child has need besides just clothing and food that the aunt is providing
I choked when he said amazing father ! 😂 he doesn’t buy clothes for his child , shoes where his child stays lol idk why he keeps laughing . Money or hungry or not you not happy w child support take your kid pay a sitter!
Love the videos Judge 🙌🏾 you keep doing the right thing and treating everyone fairly , God Bless you 🙌🏾🙌🏾
He seems to have the idea that claiming ignorance about court paper excuses him from all responsibility.
This clown over there blinged out having to be asked to do what a real man should do without being asked. Please.
Between the two parents for the two different kids, the aunt is still only getting about $1600 a month, and depending on where this is taking place, that could be barely enough to house them. A 2 bedroom apartment in a bad neighborhood is easily $1800 where I am from
I hate how the judge reprimanded her for interrupting but didn’t tell him anything when he interrupted when she was talking….
I got to give that chick that point when the judge asked her how do you think he knew he had to pay for school stuff and she said I don't know cuz summer just ended.... Laughed my ass off.
I have just subscribed and I’m about to go through every video like a tv show series! 🙌🏽 Get it girl, we do not accept bs or excuses.❤
The numbers just don't add up to on his finances. Has anyone looked at the jewelry he is wearing? He obviously wears it to impress everyone with his lucrative financial background. Then to hear what his gross and net are...it just doesn't add up. He's either hiding his real income or he's a fraud/con-man.
The whole country needs a judge like her that will look at a case fairly and not be one sided as in most states where the woman rules
It's not the gender that matters most where I am. It's who plays the court game better
You do realize family law was created by men and upheld mostly by men?
@@laundrygoddess4 I'm glad that the court system where you are does not take one side over the other but the whole system is broken and need a big overhaul but the judges are so ingrained in their position along with the laws it's never a even playing field
I think it was a mistake to leave the negotiation option on the table because now he's going to go badger her into an agreement that drop. s his amount down considerably. He goes by King for a reason.
She managed to get her delusional sister to rightfully pay childsupport and also managed to get the bum of a father as well to pay childsupport too... while she takes care of her nephews ... this woman is a legend!... An "amazing" father that does not take care and maintain directly his child... okkk... maybe I have been using "amazing" properly during all this time and the definition of "amazing" is different.
I just found your channel a couple weeks ago...I love watching paternity court and your channel came into my suggested feed! I've been binge watching!
He should file for custody for his son ,something about him tells me he doesn’t want that . I could be wrong
He looks and acts more like a pimp than a banker. He had the act, let him pay for that child for 18 years.
in reference to all of the horror stOries that I hear about child support, I must say Judge Vonda B is a fair judge NY & NJ NEEDS JUDGES LIKE HER.
I don't understand how he is just so passive aggressive about it. You let your child live with someone else and think you don't have any accountability for the cost of raising them. Those parents are not only negligent but they are ignorant. So sad to here that there is another innocent, sweet baby coming into the world, hopefully he will treat that child with more respect.
If he's passive aggressive so is the judge. She basically agreed that they shouldn't be there.
I found you & you came up & I just love you Judge . You always help the right person. I am now your favorite southern grandma original from Louisiana but we have moved 2 hours up to our family farm in Arkansas. Had 3 cancers & died for 37 minutes but God said send that Italian/Native American/Creole chick back she talks too muck. I am 61 & married my husband at 19. Have had 30 surgeries 6 more in the next 4 months. Going to go back & watch all your old ones too . Got my cousins & BFF watching you too ! God Bless You Judge ! Love your favorite Southern Grandma ❤❤❤❤
I’m curious as to why he won’t just get his son
Because it will cost more both in time and money.
@@elisahamilton73 Right..
He has other priorities
Because he is doing other things he has no business. His girlfriend don’t want that child
For a "financial advisor" he is sure ignorant about finances.