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  • Walking through loss is never easy, but my hope in sharing this episode is to let others know they are not alone if they’re going through something similar. Thanks for your prayers and constant love and support. 🤍 Love you guys tons. Thanks for being here!
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Комментарии • 115

  • @priscillaavery3117
    @priscillaavery3117 2 дня назад +26

    I’ve been estranged from my family since I was 24. I’m 52. They never met my children, or had anything to do with my life. All because the color of his skin. We have been married forever now and have 5 children. And my parents and brother will have to live with their choices. I wish you love and peace. My parents are in their 90s and my brother has stage 4 stomach cancer. And my younger brother died at 24. So I am yet to cross that same bridge… but it is coming soon!

    • @brittanyibanez554
      @brittanyibanez554 2 дня назад +3

      I could have written this story almost exactly- except I’m in my late 30s and they’re in their late 70s. Butttt 5 kids and “wrong colored hubby” is all exact. Wild. Sending you hugs. ❤

    • @ro-g2b
      @ro-g2b 2 дня назад +2

      Same here - i was 23 and going on 9 years from being disowned(from my whole family- I just have 3 first cousins who still talk to me). My now husband and I have been together for 10 yrs and married for 1yr and have a 7month old. I love my life though and wouldn’t trade it for the world ❤

    • @walkingwithmessiah8959
      @walkingwithmessiah8959 2 дня назад +2

      My Father when He came back into the picture before He died, was the same way. My husband was the wrong skin color and I believe one of the reasons He left me out of His will. We have been together 22 years, 4 kids. He has been at the same job almost 30 and has His own Heating and cooling(duct work) company also(which He named Agape Heating and cooling LLC). He takes care of me, and Has been so good to me, loved me when no one else but Jesus did. We are both born again and know Jesus and serve Him. I’ve watched miracles happen in our lives. It used to hurt so badly, but Jesus healed my heart.
      Love your name. My one and only niece is named Priscilla.

  • @priscillatrinh1932
    @priscillatrinh1932 2 дня назад +7

    Not sure you will ever read this but thank you Sam. I needed this. I was adopted when I was 2 years old. My bio dad passed away unexpectedly in sept 2019 and it still tears me up to this day. Never had my mom or dad and it’s been so difficult to cope. I needed to hear your words that I am still loved regardless. It’s hard to go through life not being understood. Also, thankfully I have my own little family now and a beautiful daughter that has helped heal me in so many ways. Thank you again Sam much for being so vulnerable and I am so sorry for your loss. 🫶🏻

  • @rosemariebellisimo384
    @rosemariebellisimo384 День назад +4

    My dad left when I was just 1-2.. I looked for him all my life and I FINALLY located him on Facebook in 2019.. just to see that he passed away in 2018 from cancer. I cried harder than I’ve cried in my life until two years ago when I lost my mom.
    My point being, it’s so valid to mourn the relationship you wish you had, and I am sending you so much love. Feel better soon 💛
    I found peace in watching my partner raise our three babies because I know my kids will never feel my pain.

  • @jeannineb9015
    @jeannineb9015 2 дня назад +4

    Sending you big hugs 🤗 My dad left us when I was a child and I always missed his daily presence and longed for the love I saw my friends get from their dads. It was also very hard on me when he passed.
    I’m so grateful to have a husband who has been a constant for our boys. Allow yourself to grieve and heal, you’re an amazing woman!

  • @jenniwilliams3295
    @jenniwilliams3295 2 дня назад +3

    You aren't alone. And I really appreciate that you guys show the ups and downs. I'm really sorry for your loss.

  • @subconsciouslyaware
    @subconsciouslyaware 2 дня назад +6

    I had to assist my significant other with this. It was hard, I didn't know how to help. He had to learn who his father was, by cleaning up the apartment he died in. He found out they had a lot in common and I think that hit a soft spot for him. All I can say is hang in there, be thankful for your sister and your mama, and also dan...even if maybe he doesn't know what to say. Im sending love to you and your family. Hang in there

  • @ljhearn123
    @ljhearn123 2 дня назад +3

    My dad and step mom kicked me out of their home at 17 for not submitting to the Christian religion. They moved across the country to start a nonprofit (bed and breakfast) organization in the mountains and haven’t spoken to me since. That was 8 years ago. When I was pregnant with my first child and had given birth, I sent my dad a picture of her and he said “I’ll pray for that baby.” I’ve let the years wither away without communication because I gave up. Unfortunately you cannot MAKE somebody love you….. that was a really tough lesson I had to come to terms with. It still eats at me almost daily that we don’t speak, and knowing I’ve been completely disowned/shut out. As a mother, I wholeheartedly disagree with how they’ve treated me, and I would/will NEVER do my own child like that. Absolutely blows my mind. Could. NEVER. I’m so sorry you’re going through this but in my own selfishness, I’m very relieved to know I’m not alone. Sending love your way. You’re not alone either momma. 🫶🏼

  • @christinecorr9185
    @christinecorr9185 2 дня назад +3

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I was put here on earth to be a mother figure to kids that were on the street without parents. You are in my prayers.

  • @Amanda23442
    @Amanda23442 2 дня назад +5

    I’m so sorry for your loss, Sam. I’m sending you my condolences and prayers for you and your family!🙏🏼! You are an amazing and inspiring person, and you are so sweet!! I’m so glad I subscribed to your channel!🩷. I’m always going to support your channel Sam! Sending you my condolences, and support!!🙏🏼. I’ll pray for you during this time🖤

  • @brittanycarriere9423
    @brittanycarriere9423 2 дня назад +1

    I honestly couldn't be more thankful that I found your channel when I did! Watching you this year has done something to me Sam!
    Your such an incredible human being, your soul is raw and real and your channel is so refreshing, I love seeing it all! Thank you showing us what real life looks like! We don't see it to often anymore!
    Sending so much love and light from Canada xoxoxo

  • @EVREST_PAWS
    @EVREST_PAWS 21 час назад

    Thank you for sharing. As a woman walking this earth as an orphan, what had very complicated relationships with her parents, your words touched my heart immensely. My thoughts are with you.

  • @holylightbulb
    @holylightbulb День назад +1

    I'm so sorry for your loss 💕Please take all the time you need to grieve and recover

  • @rubyroseadventures
    @rubyroseadventures 2 дня назад +2

    My husband lost his father a few years ago. His dad was an abusive alcoholic as far back as he could remember. When my husband found out about his death, he cried. It was more of a sadness that came over him as he was grieving for a relationship he always wanted but never had.

  • @jacquelinehertenstein26
    @jacquelinehertenstein26 2 дня назад +1

    Sending you so much love right now Sam!!! The biggest part of my healing journey was understanding what broke my father. The abuse he encountered and endured through. Honestly, it showed me my childhood could have been significantly worse. The cycle of abuse was still there, but not on the level my father experienced. I learned to afford him a lot of forgiveness for what he did, because I knew how bad it could have been. That might sound crazy to people that have zero idea of what abuse looks like. But despite what my father was taught in childhood, he did a pretty good job of trying to be the opposite. We’re not very close, but I still love him unconditionally!!! That shows I’m a strong loving human being!!! That shows I have a level of compassion and forgiveness that exceeds the norm! You do too babe!!! Grieve losing him as long as you need to!!!! It’s a heartache and loss that many people will never understand, for good reasons. But many also understand the heartache and loss you feel right now!!! 🤗🤗❤️😢❤️🤗🤗

  • @poohswop
    @poohswop 2 дня назад +1

    Sorry for the loss of your Dad. You have an amazing man in your life. No he isn't your Dad, but so many women would do anything to have your Dan. So your kids are very lucky. God Bless you Sam!!!!

  • @cheshirecatswiftie
    @cheshirecatswiftie 2 дня назад

    Lost my Mom when I was 35, (Stage 4 Ovarian Cancer) & I’d had a complicated relationship with her that wasn’t easy… since then, am now estranged from my sister, my one & only daughter & my Dad due to their choosing. There is so much grief in losing what you never had. Thank you for being vulnerable, feel less alone with you sharing. Sending love. ❤

  • @tammyreyna123
    @tammyreyna123 День назад

    My heart hurts for you. Saying a prayer for you and all of us that have things we don’t speak about behind our smiles and “happy” life.
    Thank you so much for sharing this. It was incredibly healing for me to hear such a similar experience.
    You are most certainly not alone.

  • @MelissaBryant-ni8ht
    @MelissaBryant-ni8ht 2 дня назад

    Not only have you had to “grieve” him over the years…now, you’re grieving him all over again on a permanent level!
    I’m soooo sorry Sam❤😢

  • @Arlene_DOTK
    @Arlene_DOTK День назад

    I understand, Sam fully 🙏❤️
    My parents were only married for 2 years. My dad used to abuse my mom. She took me (2 year's old) and my baby sister and left one day when he was at work to escape. He never paid my mom child support and occasionally saw us. Last time I saw him I was 6 years old. Never saw or heard from him after that (I'm 44 years old). I was never mad, just confused until my teens. But I don’t hold grudges or malice. I've ALWAYS wanted a relationship with my Dad. I only had 1 question I would ask him "Why did you feel you couldn't be a Father to your daughters? ". And it wouldn't matter what his answer was. I just wanted to know either way. I forgave him a very long time ago, just wanted to get to know him, love him, and spend time with him because he helped make me and is my parent. He abandoned his whole family, not only his daughters. It has been the strangest feeling my whole life having a Dad out there that I don’t know, can't find, and doesn't want to find or know me.
    Found out he passed in 2019 and it was surreal. I was heart broken 💔 to loose my Dad 2x without ever getting to know him. I have no idea why life dealt me this. I've cried and asked God so many times. But God knows best and I keep reminding myself of that. He had a cold heart for his whole life. Not 1 person attended his funeral because no one in the family knew where he was (he hid his whole life). A few years after COVID I went to visit his gave site and the funeral home told me they burried him alone and I was the 1st person to ever come see him. I brought him flowers and needed to visit him. He is out of the province but when I get the opportunity to visit him, I definitely will. He's my Dad and I still love ❤️ him even though I know nothing about him. I pray he is in heaven 🙏
    God bless and keep anyone who has been through something similar ❤

  • @roro051
    @roro051 2 дня назад

    I lost my mom back in 2021 and I’m still grieving the loss of my mom, my dad right now is suffering from dementia and has cancer and bedridden. Agreed, it is a very vulnerable place and I’m still doing therapy. I’m so sorry for your loss

  • @janetkt-ut
    @janetkt-ut 2 дня назад

    Thank you for sharing real life stuff. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad last year….it is a definite blessing we have a Father in Heaven. Prayers for you and your family. 🙏🏻

  • @Elizabeth.Shafer
    @Elizabeth.Shafer 2 дня назад

    I'm so sorry for your loss and for all that you have gone through. I'm praying for your healing ❤

  • @Animal_loves_2
    @Animal_loves_2 2 дня назад

    I’m so sorry for your loss 🥺💔 sending virtual hugs and prayers God wrap his arms around you during this difficult time.

  • @staceyerikson4982
    @staceyerikson4982 День назад

    Thanks for sharing. The hardest part is not being able to be sad because of the bond you had with yoir dad, but insread, feeling sad because the man that should have been there for you always and forever, wasnt. Now to be dealing with the fact you will never have a chance at reconsiliation that was stolen from you.
    Hopefully I am making sense.

  • @taylorfixler2025
    @taylorfixler2025 День назад

    So sorry for your loss. I also have an estranged father and am unsure how I will react to his passing when the time comes. This brought good perspective that grief comes in many forms.

  • @sabrinadrabing595
    @sabrinadrabing595 День назад

    I’m so sorry sweetheart! God wants to be your Father and there is nothing like His love and comfort!Hugs!❤️🙏🏻

  • @ailanisd8594
    @ailanisd8594 23 часа назад

    I’m sorry for your loss. At the end of the day he’s still your father. I’m glad you could reconnect with your brother and I hope you continue to grow that relationship.

  • @kindnessmatters4068
    @kindnessmatters4068 20 часов назад +1

    God does waste our pain...
    💔🙏🏼❤️‍🩹 He loves us so so much. 😢❤

  • @Ateleskuyabogz
    @Ateleskuyabogz 2 дня назад +1

    I’m sorry for your loss, I know the feeling and it’s so tough 😢

  • @Mrs.YahuahIsKing1229
    @Mrs.YahuahIsKing1229 21 час назад

    It hurts my heart to see you hurting. Praying for you and your siblings, Sam ❤

  • @CaliChrissy
    @CaliChrissy 2 дня назад

    So very sorry Sam. My husband's mother chose to cut him out of her life after his father died. She went to live with his half sister in OK. They waited 6 months before telling my husband his mother had died.
    I had both my parents at home but I lost my mother very young (I was 24 and she was only 52) and I lost my father in 2020 from cancer after caring for him for many years. Sending so much love to all of you.

  • @amandaritchie9567
    @amandaritchie9567 22 часа назад

    My father abandoned my family when I was 3 or 4 years old. I had a sibling that was an infant, and then my mom of course. I "found" him when I was 16 and tried for a relationship. He was still pretty much estranged from me and he had NO contact with the rest of my family. He passed away around when my son turned 1. I completely understand your emotions. Praying for you.

  • @paigemaxwell8541
    @paigemaxwell8541 2 дня назад

    Prayers and love for you! May God wrap his arms around you during this difficult time, providing peace and comfort for your soul. 🙏🏼♥️

  • @cindykelly3367
    @cindykelly3367 День назад

    So sorry for your loss. Prayers for comfort.

  • @hcountry0885
    @hcountry0885 2 дня назад +1

    I'm so so sorry sam for your loss praying 🙏🏻 and sending hugs 🫂 🤗

  • @cindystephens6997
    @cindystephens6997 2 дня назад

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my father 20 years ago suddenly and I hadn’t talked to him for several months because I was going through my horrible divorce. It was so hard. I made sure since then to stay connected with my mom even when we didn’t have a great relationship. I know how much your heart is hurting. I’m so glad you are a sister in Christ and know that God will always be there for you.

  • @jenniferburns1658
    @jenniferburns1658 День назад

    My daughters have been estranged from their father since they were 18 and 11. They had 2 uncles die unexpectedly in their 60’s and are terrified they will lose him now that he is in his 60’s.
    I’m so very sorry for your loss Sam.

  • @AshleyHinkle2
    @AshleyHinkle2 2 дня назад +2

    My father past about 2 years ago, the last conversation I had with him I said some horrible things and to this day I still am trying to find a way to cope and be able to move past it

  • @kimcrane3506
    @kimcrane3506 День назад

    I was born in 1969 to a father who wanted a son, he already had my sister and made it very evident that he DID NOT want me. He and my mom separated when I was 11 months old. I grew up always with this underlying feeling of failure and not understanding what love was. We never had a relationship. I tried many times to reach out over the years, but learned that I needed to protect my heart. He passed away in August 2007. An old friend gifted me with an hour with a medium (sorry if you don't believe in them). The first person that reached out was my dad. He told me that the issue was NEVER me, that it was him and he was sorry. There were a lot of things that happened during that session, things that this person knew, that there was no way she could have known.
    Sam, my wish for you is that you find the peace you deserve. We forgive people, not for them, for us! I believe your dad's soul can hear you. Yell at him, tell him how he made you feel. Get that stuff out and forgive him. You're a beautiful lady, you deserved to have a daddy and I'm sorry that yours failed you. Please know in your heart that deep down he loved you, he just dealt with his own demons and for whatever his reason was unable to show you. I will keep you in my prayers and pray that you find peace ❤️

  • @Lisa-f9x2d
    @Lisa-f9x2d День назад

    Your not alone, I experienced the same thing, I actually tried to contact him the year before he died, but could not find him. I found my 1/2 siblings since then, but I feel the loss as well, I would have loved the opportunity to talk to him , … thank you for sharing and being real , saying a prayer for you 🙏❤️

  • @SuzannaM-ex7jk
    @SuzannaM-ex7jk 2 дня назад

    I’m so sorry for your loss. This hit close to home, my dad passed away in March and he said in his will that he didn’t claim me and two of my brothers, so I not only lost him and the possibility of a relationship with him one day, I also lost my only sister and two other brothers, because they decided since he disowned me and my brothers, that they would disown us too. It’s been a hard year realizing in the blink of an eye I lost half my family, but God has given me such an amazing husband that has been there for me every step of the way and God has been there every step of the way.

  • @terrieharms6610
    @terrieharms6610 2 дня назад

    I’m so sorry for your loss Sam. Please know you are not alone. Most of my life I’ve been estranged from my father for most of my life. In the last two years he has been to his him 3 times. I always wonder when I will get the call he is in the morgue. I feel like I have grieved over and over for him. I think I will be fine when I get that call but seeing this is just a reminder that I might be and that’s ok. I have also lost my Grandpa who was much like my father 4 years ago and that grief is still raw. Prayers for peace and healing.

  • @kellycastle7610
    @kellycastle7610 2 дня назад +1

    We love you! 🫂

  • @Mrsmack23
    @Mrsmack23 2 дня назад

    My deepest condolences to you and your family 💜💜💜 I am praying for your continued strength during this difficult time.

  • @walkingwithmessiah8959
    @walkingwithmessiah8959 2 дня назад

    Sam your story sounds so much like mine. My dad was in and out when small, lost contact for 10 years. He came and did the same thing when I was around 19, and lost contact with Him another 9 years. I had a sister from California that I never met but prayed for every night since I was 10 years old, anticipating the day I could meet her. My dad found her 3 years before He died in 2012. I was 29 years old. He stayed with my mom next door through His cancer treatments when we reconnected, but little did I know when He reconnected with my Sister they wrote up a will that purposely by name before He ever became sick to leave her everything and it said, child(my name) is to get nothing.
    She and her son showed up from Arizona a week and a half before He died. She had no emotional connection to me at all and was shaking when she showed up, and went straight to His will before even speaking to me. She lied and manipulated the entire time. When He passed because she was power of attorney, she waited two weeks to bury Him, and spent time getting wasted at a casino. She lied about the VA getting His property if I didn’t sign papers for his property, to probate it, which She never did. I was young, mourning His loss and the fact that He told me on His death bed that He couldn’t help that He loved her more than me.
    After His funeral she went back west and hasn’t spoken to me since. She got what she wanted and it wasn’t a relationship with me.
    It hurt me so badly I went into a deep depression and I fell on my knees at the end of my bed when it was all said and done and I cried out to my Heavenly Father. Before He passed He gave me one thing and that was a guitar(a beginner one). I asked Jesus to teach me to play it so I could sing His praises. He did. I’m not the best but I learned.
    A few years ago I wrote a piece on what a father was and it was about my Step father. The prize was a very beautiful large picture of an original painting of a guitar from an art gallery. It reminded me of the love of my Heavenly Father. I won it before I knew what it was.
    Because of my rejection issues not only by my father but mother also, I put myself in some really dangerous positions giving myself away from the age of 16-21.
    I prayed for a husband, family and The Lord sent me my husband. That was 22 years ago. I have my family and my husband.
    You have Jesus, and Dan, and a Heavenly Father also that loves you so much.
    There’s a lot more to my testimony, and I’ve tried to share it but I also break down and cry because the truth is, Jesus has healed me, but the memories are still painful.
    It’s a process, but more and more everyday, I’m learning that Jesus really does love me.
    My scripture is Psalm 27.

  • @s33850
    @s33850 2 дня назад

    I was emotionally estranged from my father most of my life (he financially supported me/my mom but not without emotional abuse/threats). I stopped calling him dad and called him by his name starting when I was about 12 (I didn’t feel like he acted like a dad and therefore didn’t deserve the title and he never even questioned it or asked why). When he died, other than some financial anxiety(he was still supporting myself and my mom financially and providing health insurance even though we hadn’t lived in the same house for almost four years), I just felt relief. There really wasn’t any sadness or grief.

  • @thealwaysmrswright
    @thealwaysmrswright 2 дня назад

    This is devastating. But your faith is so strong and this message is exactly what SO many people need to hear. Stay close to the Lord, and He WILL guide you through this storm. I’m so thankful that you married an incredible man who is healing generational trauma for your sweet children. They won’t ever feel the way you have and I know that also brings you peace. I’m praying for your heart during this time! ❤

  • @ThePerryBunch
    @ThePerryBunch День назад

    Ily SAM your such a badd ass. I truly admire you and all you do. Just know your so loved and I definitely understand were ur coming from. My dad live 10 mins away and he's got such a Good life and I'm his only child and he's never had a desire to be in my life. My whole family passed away all I have is one sister and 4 girls and one is deceased. I crave for family so much and all these ppl with all their big families is something I always wanted. We're stronger then most SAM and gods got a huge plan for us. Prayers.

  • @Odiekins
    @Odiekins 2 дня назад +1

    You’re not alone! My mother cut my sister and I out for the last time. We’re not in contact in her, my father, or our maternal grandmother. She was only there for us when there was some benefit to her, and it took a long time to figure out we did not have the relationship we had thought we were trying to repair many times. So yes, she was around, but deceivingly so. Eventually, we will be making peace with essentially three ghosts. Blood does not equal family. You’re incredibly lucky if you find close relationships with your family of origin, but I’ve found the deepest connections with my chosen family. Life happens for us, not to us. Hang in there, Sweetie ❤

    • @kimcrane3506
      @kimcrane3506 День назад +1

      I love that, I've never heard that before... 'Life happens FOR us, not TO us!!' Thank you for sharing that ❤️

    • @Odiekins
      @Odiekins День назад

      @@kimcrane3506 🩶🩶🩶🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @sheribynum4164
    @sheribynum4164 2 дня назад

    Continuing prayer for you and your family. Know that you are loved.

  • @lorismith2919
    @lorismith2919 2 дня назад

    I'm so sorry for your loss. Even though you didn't have a relationship with your father, it's still a loss just the same. Your are grieving the loss of the opportunity to rebuild your relationship. I'm so sorry Sam. 💓

  • @jarenboterf
    @jarenboterf 2 дня назад

    So sorry for your loss, Sam. I don't have a relationship with my dad either. My sisters and I have tried to have a relationship with him, but he continued to push us away and chose his wife's girls over us. So that has been hard for me. Still trying to work through all of those emotions and it's been almost 5 years. Our youngest is 5 and he has only met her once since she was born. Praying for you during your time of mourning. 💜😘🥰

  • @glitterprincess5672
    @glitterprincess5672 День назад

    Sam I’m so sorry for your loss!! I had a similar situation but with my mother!! I lost my father which was extremely painful and then a year later my mother passed and hadn’t spoke to her in years and it hurt so much worse but in a different way!! I will pray for you!!

  • @robkwatson1
    @robkwatson1 2 дня назад

    So sorry for your loss! I had a difficult time with my adopted father. (My biological father left when i was about 1 year old. Never met him.) He was verbally abusive to my mom and me when i was little. When he left, he raised my brother (his biological son) away from us. I had to beg him to see me. He passed in 2021 and i found then that he had even written me out of the will. That really stung, not because of any inheritance, but that was his final lack of acknowledgement of me. It hurt, especially since when he adopted me he gave me his first name as my middle. If it wasn't for the rest of my family on that side always treating me like blood, i would have been devastated.

  • @aldnd69
    @aldnd69 2 дня назад

    My thoughts are with and sending you my love. Stay Strong Sam ❤

  • @Melanie-bi3fv
    @Melanie-bi3fv 2 дня назад

    Sam, my ❤ breaks for you! I don't ever remember a time seeing you in so much pain, and it actually radiates off of the screen. I had a relationship with my bio dad when I was younger, until around 12 when he stopped speaking to me because my older sistet, who had gone to live with him for 2 years, decided to move back home with my mom where I lived. She had always lived there, too, until she wanted to try living with him for a while. Anyway, after that, our relationship never recovered. He has an entire other family with kids and grandkids, and we were just left behind. It hurts so bad, especially after we had kids and I realized the love that is there and how I could NEVER leave my kids behind, anywhere. It definitely showed me the kind of parent I didn't want to be.

  • @abberry5331
    @abberry5331 2 дня назад

    I know how hard this is…so similar to my situation…God works through all of this I promise! Keep your head up and keep leaning on God!

  • @nat7630
    @nat7630 2 дня назад

    I had to walk away from my mom’s crazy in 2010. I gave it my all… and she was just really someone that for 24 of my 32 years at the time was super dysfunctional and unwilling to get help. Too long to explain. I was not sure of her status in life when I received a call in spring 2023 to pick up her ashes and that she died in March 2021. Definitely not mourning who she became but mourning the mom I didn’t have from about age 8 on. She put her landlord as her health power of attorney (just one of the many things she did along the way) and he sidnr pick up her ashes, and hasn’t responded to requests to release the ashes. The chaos continues. Never ending. Dad died when I was 9 months old. I never had a chance of coming out normal from my childhood. I get that mourning…. Soooooo true in both cases.

  • @deniseskinner2205
    @deniseskinner2205 2 дня назад

    I’m so sorry. I had a similar non existent relationship with my biological father. I found out a few years ago at the age of 50, that he was actually not my father. 23 and me revealed a father that did not know I existed. He has chosen not to connect with me. Life is just so confusing sometimes.
    Hang in there, hugs💕

  • @MichelleHenderson-gw4oe
    @MichelleHenderson-gw4oe 2 дня назад

    I'm so sorry for your loss Sam.

  • @rbwkn
    @rbwkn День назад

    Thank you for sharing this ❤I'm so sorry sweetie! my parents, husbands parents and my moms have been estranged to me 10 years now since my husband and I left the religious cult we were raised in. I never got one phone call, text, visit, email ect from my moms parents. Several yrs later my grandpa got alzheimers. I saw him last yr for the first time In 9 yrs. He told me to stop calling him grandpa bc he "didn't know who the hell" I was. It gage me some closure. All the anger I felt toward him at the moment felt pointless. I worry about when he, my grandma and parents pass. If I'm even invited to the funeral I'll be shunned. I think I'll just grieve in my own way. My dad's parents aren't in the cult so we just focus on them. It's been so hard for neither of us to have parental guidance. When his parents heard we left the cult, they wrote a letter cutting off contact with us. It was heartbreaking.

  • @brookecasey2404
    @brookecasey2404 2 дня назад

    My father was in and out of my life until I grew up early at 19, I wasn't able to give him my attention as I was growing up and he hated it... I had my first son at 21 in 2018, he stopped talking to me after meeting my son a handful of times when he was a baby because he didn't like my children's father...
    I haven't heard from him since 2019... in 2020 I gave birth to my second son, who has many medical challenges and has a terminal condition... my baby has been told he will die young... I'm not a fan of my baby daddy either but we co parent really well knowing how dark our future looks.. my babies come first.. I've tried to reach out many times and he has said he doesn't care... he has custody of my half brother whom I love very much I think I miss him most... it sucks I won't get to see my brother again until my dad dies... unfortunately it feels like he already died and so when that time comes it won't feel any different but getting to see my beautiful baby brother again is an absolute dream!
    Sometimes God gives good people harder lives to become even better people... we all have something to learn and will never know until/if God allows us to know... I remind myself of this every day...
    You are so strong and you are an amazing mom, the past might’ve been harder but you have a whole future to change and look forward to, may you find peace in anyway you can, the love that you missed out on you go give it to your babies 10x bigger and it will help heal your soul! Sending lots of love your way! ❤

  • @Dawn2dusk30
    @Dawn2dusk30 День назад

    So I lost my dad In march 2024 and we we’re never close He was closer to my sister and the day he passed we were there but my heart is broken even though my relationship with him wasn’t good at all. I miss him everyday. We never talked on the phone a lot but I miss him.
    Rip to your dad.
    ❤️

  • @mariontollison5385
    @mariontollison5385 2 дня назад

    Sending hugs, sorry for your loss!

  • @sammyymarie3
    @sammyymarie3 2 дня назад

    My dad passed away August 23rd, 2024 so I feel the pain of the loss.. I'm sorry for yours.

  • @aleshiacatherine
    @aleshiacatherine 2 дня назад

    My father died of a drug overdose in 2019 when I was 24. I chose not to speak to him (he also never put in any effort to reach out to me) because of his life choices for years. I was a police officer and I couldn’t be around that type of lifestyle. It was so hard for me when I learned of his passing. It hit me like I never would have expected. I had to many unanswered questions and couldn’t help but blame myself for choosing not to speak to him. Take time to grieve. It was one of the hardest things I ever went through. The what ifs killed me and the option to not be able to speak to him ever is really hard. I honestly don’t know if I ever would have. But knowing I can’t now is really hard.

  • @christinapugs75gmailPugs
    @christinapugs75gmailPugs 2 дня назад

    I havent had a relationship with my dad since for 25 yrs. Unfortunately, He was very abusive mentally and physically to both my brother and I so, We never had a relationship together. Unfortunately, He Resented me because my mom got pregnant with me so, they had to get married at 18. He thinks i ruined his life. He's still alive he's 68 yrs old now. I recently got ahold of 1 of my aunts to get his num so, i sent him a text with a picture of my 2 yr old granddaughter but, he never responded to me. Im so sorry youre going through this. Sending blessings your way. You're not alone. ❤

  • @mariegallagher5044
    @mariegallagher5044 День назад

    I completely understand I had to cut ties with my parents in 2016 for my own mental health I've told my counselor when they pass I won't mourn because of the relationship we had but I'll mourn what could have been.

  • @MarshaMorrison1977
    @MarshaMorrison1977 2 дня назад

    Awe Sam I'm sorry my prayers are with your family 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @carlajoyswan
    @carlajoyswan 2 дня назад

    Praying for you. Our heavenly father is so good

  • @amytippetts5002
    @amytippetts5002 13 часов назад

    Hugs and prayers to you and your family 🙏💓

  • @susanm2525
    @susanm2525 2 дня назад

    Sorry for your loss. I unfortunately have the same kind of relationship with my bio dad, when I was 16 he told me he didn't want me when my mom was pregnant with me , but once I was born that all changed. In all honesty it didn't change. He was cheating on my mom at the time. By the time I was 1 the were no longer together. I was fortunate though that my mkm met my Dad (stepdad) when I was 4. He was the best Dad! We lost him 10 years ago unfortunately due to cnacer. He is forever missed!. We had 30 great years with him!

  • @joyhecker7190
    @joyhecker7190 День назад +1

    I thought I recognized the area with the pics you posted. I live in Arizona.

  • @amberwilliams2856
    @amberwilliams2856 День назад

    I am so sorry you are going through this. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @crystalritter2082
    @crystalritter2082 День назад

    My daughter's are 14&11 and their pos dad after we split in 2014 and I had the girls, decided he'd only be in their life whwn it was convenient for him and they're now struggling as young girls and teens amd I worry.. I hope and pray they grow up to be great young ladies like you.. you turned out great considering hun

  • @sarahmarie5660
    @sarahmarie5660 День назад

    Praying. For you Sam ❤

  • @LynesofDoodles
    @LynesofDoodles 2 дня назад

    Sending love and I can totally understand where you’re coming from ❤

  • @awhitney7414
    @awhitney7414 День назад

    I am so sorry Sam. I hope you find the peace to grieve in your own way at your own pace, whatever that needs to look like ❤🙏 I have this very fear, i guess in a way I feel like i have grieved that relationship many times throughout childhood. I am happy for you that you got to connect with your half brother that is beautiful ❤ that was a really good scripture too❤ I wish for you a great day my friend and perhaps another visit with nurse alfalfa- seems it was just what the Dr ordered 🤭

  • @lorijohnson1790
    @lorijohnson1790 День назад

    I'm so sorry for your loss

  • @danettidso8786
    @danettidso8786 День назад

    Sending big hugs and prayers ❤️ 🤗 🙏

  • @daniellestrong2894
    @daniellestrong2894 День назад

    I am so sorry for your loss I am praying for you ♡♡

  • @breeannwalker8309
    @breeannwalker8309 2 дня назад

    I went through the same at 27. Most of my family are addicts. We were never close due to his reasoning. I never got to say how I feel to him or anything.

  • @isaiahjudy2914
    @isaiahjudy2914 2 дня назад

    Prayers ❤

  • @samanthabaxter8688
    @samanthabaxter8688 2 дня назад

    Sam- I am so sorry for your loss. My mom's mother left her and her siblings when they were in their teens. My mom hates her, and I'm unsure of how she will react when that day does come. What is the best way to comfort someone who loses a distant parent?

  • @chyanncahill-hassett6299
    @chyanncahill-hassett6299 2 дня назад

    I am so sorry for your loss of your dad sorry 😭

  • @melaniecox5533
    @melaniecox5533 2 дня назад

    My dad and I didn't have the best relationship do to my step mother and I had some good times as a child but, he is now gone he pasted in December 23 2022 and he didn't have a will and it has been hard because my brother and I also don't have a great relationship at all so splitting the inheritance has been really rough and stressful so I understand your pain right now cuz I'm still going through it 2 years later! My prayers for you beautiful 💜💜💜💜💜💜

  • @katiethornton2020
    @katiethornton2020 День назад

    I'm so sorry for you loss

  • @thirtysomething4532
    @thirtysomething4532 2 дня назад

    I was estranged from my dad for 15 years. In that time I got married twice. And had 3 kids that he never met. Well a few years ago we reconnected things were going great. He met my kids ans my husband. 3 months after he met my kids and husband he died from covid. It's been hard

  • @taramcilwain6147
    @taramcilwain6147 2 дня назад

    Lost my day October 3 2023
    To drugs and cancer
    No one understands
    It’s so hard

  • @tinad6994
    @tinad6994 2 дня назад

    I feel this I lost my father recently and we didn’t know each other well it’s very hard and weird spot and year mourning what you miss prayers

  • @jennrocchi6385
    @jennrocchi6385 2 дня назад

    I'm so sorry Sam ❤

  • @SusanSheehy
    @SusanSheehy 2 дня назад

    Sending you love and hugs.

  • @wendydavis4314
    @wendydavis4314 День назад

    Sending some virtual hugs💙💛

  • @maryamsaqib8549
    @maryamsaqib8549 2 дня назад

    Stay strong sam

  • @jeffsarmywife1
    @jeffsarmywife1 2 дня назад

    I so understand this. Im scared of getting the call of mine passing away. He left when i was 9, and now im 39, and he chose not to be in mine or my brothers life. Idk how im going to feel when he passes away.

  • @amysettle85
    @amysettle85 2 дня назад

    I never met my biological father. After he brutally abused my mother during her pregnancy with me trying to abort me,once she had me held me and said thats not my child handed me back and walked away. I started searching for him and his family i ended up finding him, problem is it was 2 months 2 late he had passed away. Its rough i was never able to ask my questions or to know why? Why he abused my mom? Why try to kill me? Why say im not his and i look just like him? So many questions left unanswered. But i know one day ill have answers even if they come from God himself on what lessons im supposed to learn from it

    • @dawnesparzagonzalez4600
      @dawnesparzagonzalez4600 2 дня назад +1

      Hurt people, hurt people. There are no answers that will justify what he did. Just know that you are a wonderful person, and you deserve to be happy. Don't Worry, Be Happy!! Life is too short to dwell on things we can not change.

    • @amysettle85
      @amysettle85 2 дня назад

      @@dawnesparzagonzalez4600 thank you

  • @hannahsobkowiak7980
    @hannahsobkowiak7980 19 часов назад

    Bless you 🙏🏼

  • @bethlima2451
    @bethlima2451 День назад

    Amen!!!

  • @abberry5331
    @abberry5331 2 дня назад

    Amen!

  • @mickeyh.9892
    @mickeyh.9892 2 дня назад +1

    I have went through the same situation, he even made me Executor of His estate, he didn't have anything but I had to make the decision where his body goes. I had to give the permission for the coroner to take the body to where he wanted it to go and to be.. So yeah, and I had no relationship with him. He didn't want a relationship because of my step, dad. Anyways, you don't see me on here. Crying about it life goes on. You have God get over it. Don't put it on social media for people to feel sorry for you.
    And I feel like this is exactly what you're doing right now ... lol of course you're going to bring up the pictures book. 😂 if you believe in God, and truly believe not false teachers. You would know that God walks with us, so be on the positive not just say it KNOW it. But I'm not to sure with you. You still believe That Sergacy is right then you should know that's not God's way, it's science just a transaction.

    • @robinwandoff2014
      @robinwandoff2014 День назад

      Mickey did you get up on the wrong side of the bed or just a hateful individual? If you don't like what Sam and Dan post, just move on. Your kind is not appreciated or needed here. Go make someone else miserable like yourself.