Shad you’ll probably never see this but your book has been changing my life. I’m always telling everyone to read this book and I’m really passionate about it. I think everyone on earth should read this book. I’m so grateful to you for giving me this knowledge. I am forever grateful ❤️❤️❤️
Notes Listening to self talk is like learning a new language. It takes practice and repetition. The 6 Key Points are: 1. Select the topic you want to work on most first. 2. Listen everyday. 3. Listen to self talk in the background when you’re doing something else 4. The best times of the day to listen is while getting ready in the morning, while driving in car, and while exercising. 5. Listen to self talk before you go into a meeting. 6. Focus on each topic for about 2-3 weeks, then you can move on to another topic. 7. Set a goal to Listen to self talk for 15 minutes a day and do that for at least 21 days.
What self-talk do you recommend for wishing things were different than they are? And YES, I have accepted the reality of the situation, but I can not shake the despair and grief around it. I'm dealing with my mother, who has a terminal illness, and she is no longer able to communicate. I am her caregiver and will be dealing with this situation probably for a couple more years. Every day, I live in stress and despair. What am I supposed to say to myself in this situation? I'm just asking for the self-talk portion, and not any advice on the situation. I have plenty of advice already.
When you say it's like "learning a language," remember a LOT of people have tried to learn a new language and not done very well. This sets up a feeling of failure in my mind right away when I hear it. I learned a language but never felt confident or fluent and always feel badly about that.
CR R, Thank you for your comments. Everyone learns to use their first language by hearing it spoken in the background of their lives, and they learn to use the language as perfectly as the people around them were speaking it. Listening to self-talk in the background is very similar to learning that first language, by listening to it in the background. But learning new self-talk is easier because we’re already speaking the basic language-English-we’re just adding new vocabulary and phrases. It might help to know that for more than forty years, many tens of thousands of people have learned positive self-talk very successfully in this way. Also, keep in mind that the focus here isn’t on passing a language test, it’s on changing your thinking over time. CR R, thank you again. I hope that helps.
Dr . Shad, I downloaded the new app. It's awesome. I noticed there are programs directed towards woman and young ladies. I am wondering if you plan on making programs geared towards men?
Hi Shad is there a difference and/or an advantage between listening to a full program vs listening to the 10-18 minute sessions apart at different times throughout the day. For example I listen to the weight loss session on the self talk + app and on that session there is a 48 minute in length program and there are 3 sessions that are broken up into (3). Is splitting it into the 3 weight loss sessions of staying with (session 1) , sitting down to eat (session 2) & saying no (session 3) a better idea to let the mind absorb the self talk better?
I recommend focusing on a single session at a time, although there are many people who listen to two or three in a single listening period. The key is to do what is most comfortable for you, but without overdoing it. When people try to listen to too much self-talk too rapidly they can go into overwhelm and may even stop listening because it was just too much. Remember, the purpose of listening to positive self-talk is the same as that of learning a new language. When you approach it in that way, it makes sense to take it slower and stay with each session long enough for it to begin to be wired into your brain. That’s how language learning works. Let me know if I can help you in any other way, and keep being incredible!
Hi Shad, I have two quick questions for you, I hope you’ll answer. First, I don’t know if I have understood well what you mean when you say “you don’t have to really listen”. Even if I don’t hear the words that I’m playing in the background because I’m thinking about something else or I’m focused on something else it will still work? Second, I don't have to do anything else but listen, right? My brain will make sure that everything that I listen to will became an actual fact in my life, right?
We learned our first language by hearing it in the background of our lives when we were young. Learning positive self-talk works the same way. With repetition, the brain wires it in, and it becomes part of our language-but in this case, our ‘success’ language. Regarding your second question, there’s nothing magic about it. Listening to positive self-talk changes your beliefs about yourself, and that changes your attitude, and your attitude changes your actions, and the right actions change your outcome. I hope that helps. All my best to you!
Listening to self-talk usually works well in a second language. Many people even use self-talk listening sessions to help them improve their language comprehension, so while they’re practicing English, they’re also wiring their brain to think in the positive.
Hello Sir,I am from India.I am a big fan of urs...Sir, please suggest some self talk to improve health....I will be very grateful towards u.... waiting for your reply Sir
How much long we record our self talk?can we record just as affirmations.which we repeat again and again.second can we subliminals also a kind of self talk?
Joshua Torres, thank you for the post. Focus on one subject to start with for the first three weeks or until you’re completely comfortable listening. Then you can add other programs, but no more than three subjects at a time.
@@shadhelmstetter I had already started with three subjects from the gate (positive selftalk for self esteem, mastering goals and taking control of my life). Should I discount the use of mastering goals and taking control of my life? I am a few days shy of my three week mark. I don't want to overload my subconscious and it be a detriment or prolong results.
Hello doctor, I’m from India n I’m lil weak psychologically, this video helped me to move forward so ordering ur book . I feel low when some one dies, feeling something happens To me n my health. pls help me how to overcome it.
Gar O Brien, It’s better to focus on one key subject area at a time, at least once a day for a minimum of two to three weeks, and then move on to another topic. Your brain will wire in the new messages stronger by listening to the same programs repeated each day.
I registered on your website www.selftalkplus.com. My credit card got charged but never received any response email with account details. I tried emailing your customer support, no response. Tried calling your customer support, goes directly to voicemail. I don't know how to contact you guys.
You can listen while you're sleeping, but the sessions are more effective if you're awake, and play them in the background while you're doing something else.
You’re great- however I not sure if you’re aware but your customer service team is awful. I wanted to become certified as a self talk coach, I sent countless emails to the email on your website, nobody responded. I figured, I’m not going to drop a few thousand to join if the customer service isn’t even going to email me back because it gives off the energy of a scam. Worst customer service team…
I am so sorry you’ve had a customer service problem. Our customer service person is in the hospital, and we’re all hoping for a full recovery. Meanwhile, if you’ll contact me directly at shadhelmstetter@gmail.com, I’ll make sure your request gets handled right away. Have an incredible day!
Reading your book right now. Thanks so much for the book. Now I found your channel.
Shad you’ll probably never see this but your book has been changing my life. I’m always telling everyone to read this book and I’m really passionate about it. I think everyone on earth should read this book. I’m so grateful to you for giving me this knowledge. I am forever grateful ❤️❤️❤️
Can i know the name ?
@@anandvalluru6564 book name is "what to say when you talk to yourself "
Book name ??? Shad helmstettr'book
Love your work Dr. Helstetter! It’s a gift to mankind!
dear sir, we need more videos from you.
Great video. Thank you Sir.
Just wondering why would anyone dislike this video!
Thanks, Shad. I just listen to each one for one month.
Amazing!!!! I'm forever grateful for this information Dr Shad!
It's amazing and life transforming. Thank you. God bless you
Thank you Doctor. You changed my life for the better.
How? I just want to hear a testimony for motivation. I am currently reading his book :)
Sir Your service fantastic, it's change my life.
Notes
Listening to self talk is like learning a new language. It takes practice and repetition.
The 6 Key Points are:
1. Select the topic you want to work on most first.
2. Listen everyday.
3. Listen to self talk in the background when you’re doing something else
4. The best times of the day to listen is while getting ready in the morning, while driving in car, and while exercising.
5. Listen to self talk before you go into a meeting.
6. Focus on each topic for about 2-3 weeks, then you can move on to another topic.
7. Set a goal to Listen to self talk for 15 minutes a day and do that for at least 21 days.
Namaste sir I'm a big fan of you
Chad you're book changed my life
Can you listen, stream self talk plus on the computer?
I've always loved this message
Do you have videos on self talk about anxiety n fear?
What self-talk do you recommend for wishing things were different than they are? And YES, I have accepted the reality of the situation, but I can not shake the despair and grief around it. I'm dealing with my mother, who has a terminal illness, and she is no longer able to communicate. I am her caregiver and will be dealing with this situation probably for a couple more years. Every day, I live in stress and despair. What am I supposed to say to myself in this situation?
I'm just asking for the self-talk portion, and not any advice on the situation. I have plenty of advice already.
Listen to “Stress,” “Positive Living,” and “Quality of Life.”
Self talk to become more assertive?
thanks for the new mindset peace and blessing
Thank you so much for valuable advice to bring into practice.
Thank you, Borkar. Have an incredible day!
Dear Dr my question i make my affirmations tape or listening other self talk tape thank you the answer!
When you say it's like "learning a language," remember a LOT of people have tried to learn a new language and not done very well. This sets up a feeling of failure in my mind right away when I hear it. I learned a language but never felt confident or fluent and always feel badly about that.
CR R, Thank you for your comments. Everyone learns to use their first language by hearing it spoken in the background of their lives, and they learn to use the language as perfectly as the people around them were speaking it. Listening to self-talk in the background is very similar to learning that first language, by listening to it in the background. But learning new self-talk is easier because we’re already speaking the basic language-English-we’re just adding new vocabulary and phrases. It might help to know that for more than forty years, many tens of thousands of people have learned positive self-talk very successfully in this way. Also, keep in mind that the focus here isn’t on passing a language test, it’s on changing your thinking over time. CR R, thank you again. I hope that helps.
Dr . Shad, I downloaded the new app. It's awesome. I noticed there are programs directed towards woman and young ladies. I am wondering if you plan on making programs geared towards men?
Hi Shad is there a difference and/or an advantage between listening to a full program vs listening to the 10-18 minute sessions apart at different times throughout the day. For example I listen to the weight loss session on the self talk + app and on that session there is a 48 minute in length program and there are 3 sessions that are broken up into (3). Is splitting it into the 3 weight loss sessions of staying with (session 1) , sitting down to eat (session 2) & saying no (session 3) a better idea to let the mind absorb the self talk better?
I recommend focusing on a single session at a time, although there are many people who listen to two or three in a single listening period. The key is to do what is most comfortable for you, but without overdoing it. When people try to listen to too much self-talk too rapidly they can go into overwhelm and may even stop listening because it was just too much. Remember, the purpose of listening to positive self-talk is the same as that of learning a new language. When you approach it in that way, it makes sense to take it slower and stay with each session long enough for it to begin to be wired into your brain. That’s how language learning works. Let me know if I can help you in any other way, and keep being incredible!
Please translate the wonderfull book in spanish. Thank you
Hi Shad, I have two quick questions for you, I hope you’ll answer. First, I don’t know if I have understood well what you mean when you say “you don’t have to really listen”. Even if I don’t hear the words that I’m playing in the background because I’m thinking about something else or I’m focused on something else it will still work? Second, I don't have to do anything else but listen, right? My brain will make sure that everything that I listen to will became an actual fact in my life, right?
We learned our first language by hearing it in the background of our lives when we were young. Learning positive self-talk works the same way. With repetition, the brain wires it in, and it becomes part of our language-but in this case, our ‘success’ language. Regarding your second question, there’s nothing magic about it. Listening to positive self-talk changes your beliefs about yourself, and that changes your attitude, and your attitude changes your actions, and the right actions change your outcome. I hope that helps. All my best to you!
Sir is selftalk should be in one's mother tongue?
Listening to self-talk usually works well in a second language. Many people even use self-talk listening sessions to help them improve their language comprehension, so while they’re practicing English, they’re also wiring their brain to think in the positive.
Hello Sir,I am from India.I am a big fan of urs...Sir, please suggest some self talk to improve health....I will be very grateful towards u.... waiting for your reply Sir
Mallika, I would recommend you listen to the self-talk program "Health & Fitness." You can find it at www.selftalkplus.com.
@@shadhelmstetter Thanks Sir
How much long we record our self talk?can we record just as affirmations.which we repeat again and again.second can we subliminals also a kind of self talk?
Please sir post some more videos.
Dónde puedo conseguir tus libros en español?
En la rambla.
Sir, I see you recommending one program at a time but I also heard you say up to three programs is fine. Which one is more true? Thanks in advance
Joshua Torres, thank you for the post. Focus on one subject to start with for the first three weeks or until you’re completely comfortable listening. Then you can add other programs, but no more than three subjects at a time.
@@shadhelmstetter I had already started with three subjects from the gate (positive selftalk for self esteem, mastering goals and taking control of my life). Should I discount the use of mastering goals and taking control of my life? I am a few days shy of my three week mark. I don't want to overload my subconscious and it be a detriment or prolong results.
@@shadhelmstetter By the way, thank you Dr. Helmstetter. You left no stone unturned and have giving me hope at a low point in life.
@@joshuatorres5033 you should be fine to continue. You’ll know if you’re overdoing it.
@@shadhelmstetter thanks for the reply
Can you please add some self talks for confidence
Check out “Believing in Incredible You!”
Hello doctor, I’m from India n I’m lil weak psychologically, this video helped me to move forward so ordering ur book . I feel low when some one dies, feeling something happens To me n my health. pls help me how to overcome it.
Is there an example of a good self talk session on RUclips?
You can listen to any of the self-talk audio sessions free for the first 30 days at www.selftalkplus.com.
@@shadhelmstetter thank you very much!
@@shadhelmstetter Thanks. Can I listen to two different programs at once or is it better to listen to the programs one at a time. Thank you.
Thank You
Is it ok to listen to multiple subjects for a good amount of time per day. Example, an hour of self talk directed towards all areas of your life?
Gar O Brien, It’s better to focus on one key subject area at a time, at least once a day for a minimum of two to three weeks, and then move on to another topic. Your brain will wire in the new messages stronger by listening to the same programs repeated each day.
+Shad Helmstetter Thank you for the prompt reply Shad. Appreciate your time and expertise. Love your channel and books. 👍👌
I registered on your website www.selftalkplus.com. My credit card got charged but never received any response email with account details. I tried emailing your customer support, no response. Tried calling your customer support, goes directly to voicemail. I don't know how to contact you guys.
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Sir, can we listen to selftalk while sleeping ... When the consciousness is shut down
You can listen while you're sleeping, but the sessions are more effective if you're awake, and play them in the background while you're doing something else.
@@shadhelmstetter Thanks sir Very Helpful
ASMR gold.
Rene, thank you so much!
You’re great- however I not sure if you’re aware but your customer service team is awful. I wanted to become certified as a self talk coach, I sent countless emails to the email on your website, nobody responded. I figured, I’m not going to drop a few thousand to join if the customer service isn’t even going to email me back because it gives off the energy of a scam. Worst customer service team…
I am so sorry you’ve had a customer service problem. Our customer service person is in the hospital, and we’re all hoping for a full recovery. Meanwhile, if you’ll contact me directly at shadhelmstetter@gmail.com, I’ll make sure your request gets handled right away. Have an incredible day!
Self talk to become more assertive?