Thank you for making these videos. I really like your calm tone of voice and way of explaining things. Very inspiring. Even though i'm a single mom, and my life situation is a lot different from yours, your advice and your examples of what you do are still super helpful, and inspired me to do some things differently myself. I don't have the option to reschedule stuff, and time off is rarely time off when you have kids, as there is an endless list of stuff that needs to get done. But here are my thoughts, maybe they will inspire someone else too. -On bad days, dinner is one of my toughest hurdles to get through. So making double portions of freezer-friendly dinners will be a priority for the next while, so i have something that is easy to get ready. -Maybe a saturday just gets to be a Disney marathon instead of cleaning the whole house and trying to get kids to do as they are told and not get in the way. -Or maybe we go to a park with a playground, so the kids can run around and play while i sit in peace on a blanket in the shade. - Here is something i already try to do: tell people close to you that you are having a bad day might help too. That way, they will know that today is not a good day for that big thing they need to discuss with you. And if you end up snapping at them, they might treat you with kindness and forgiveness because they understand where it came from, rather than take it personal, get angry at you and snap back. This has to be done in a good way of course, and maybe you need to talk with them beforehand on a good day, explain where you are coming from, and make an agreement with them about what you each do in those situations. Listen to their point of view too. It can't just be the "you better not cross me today -approach". I have an agreement with my kids, that they can always ask me how i am doing, or if i am angry, and i will be honest and kind with them. If i am just busy or energetic, they get an explanation, and if i am actually having a bad day, them asking me is often a sign to me that i need to slow down, recenter myself, and give them some reassurance and positive attention. This takes some practice, but a hug and a sincere apology goes a long way.
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Thank you for making these videos. I really like your calm tone of voice and way of explaining things. Very inspiring.
Even though i'm a single mom, and my life situation is a lot different from yours, your advice and your examples of what you do are still super helpful, and inspired me to do some things differently myself.
I don't have the option to reschedule stuff, and time off is rarely time off when you have kids, as there is an endless list of stuff that needs to get done.
But here are my thoughts, maybe they will inspire someone else too.
-On bad days, dinner is one of my toughest hurdles to get through. So making double portions of freezer-friendly dinners will be a priority for the next while, so i have something that is easy to get ready.
-Maybe a saturday just gets to be a Disney marathon instead of cleaning the whole house and trying to get kids to do as they are told and not get in the way.
-Or maybe we go to a park with a playground, so the kids can run around and play while i sit in peace on a blanket in the shade.
- Here is something i already try to do: tell people close to you that you are having a bad day might help too. That way, they will know that today is not a good day for that big thing they need to discuss with you. And if you end up snapping at them, they might treat you with kindness and forgiveness because they understand where it came from, rather than take it personal, get angry at you and snap back. This has to be done in a good way of course, and maybe you need to talk with them beforehand on a good day, explain where you are coming from, and make an agreement with them about what you each do in those situations. Listen to their point of view too. It can't just be the "you better not cross me today -approach".
I have an agreement with my kids, that they can always ask me how i am doing, or if i am angry, and i will be honest and kind with them. If i am just busy or energetic, they get an explanation, and if i am actually having a bad day, them asking me is often a sign to me that i need to slow down, recenter myself, and give them some reassurance and positive attention. This takes some practice, but a hug and a sincere apology goes a long way.