Brooke telling Tana "It might not be all its cracked up to be" is the definition of a GOOD FRIEND. Never break up with her Tana youre literally thriving without alcohol please stick with it ❤🎉
Tana I’m fully sober now after several years of that slippery slope of wanting to have moderation, being able to for a bit, completely going too far, being that “fun” but crazy friend, feeling awful, and desperately wanting to be able to have my romanticized version of drinking. Piece of advice, the fact you want to be able to drink in moderation more than anything, and are extensively researching how you can drink, fixating on it so much, all things I did and I realized that that in itself is letting alcohol have a lot of pull on your life. It’s taking up a lot of mental real estate for you rather than fully letting go of something you know has been more bad than good and putting that energy into new hobbies, learning things, and replacing boredom with things that lift you up. I’ve been in your exact shoes and wondering if I could reintroduce alcohol in the future but that left me in that limbo of still thinking about it all the time. You do you but just my perspective ❤
“Mental real estate” i like that imma use that, very good points here. And not to mention all the reasons she listed, bored, pain relief, are literally exactly the backbone of dependency and then addiction one drink would not stop at one drink for her 🥲
@@ayal7616 Thank you! 😊 You make such a good point, using it for pain relief or to avoid what’s going on in your head, even if it’s just as something you do whenever you’re bored, not productive because it’s not addressing the cause. I was definitely 🧐 about the wine for back pain, figured the weed would already address that but might I suggest physio and yoga for our girl
14:40 tana i am so so proud of you for staying this sober. these past few months i’ve seen a new side of you of just happiness. please stay sober because i do think this is your journey.
Brooke- drinking everyday, even drinking not into oblivion, just drinking everyday IS A PROBLEM. It is so hard on your liver, it softens the world in a way that makes it hard to take away those 2 drinks everyday. Be careful, it’s very easy to say that everyday drinking isn’t a problem just bc it’s not so messy!
came here to say this! alcoholism is so often framed as "yeah they just aren't capable of stopping, they always drink to black out, etc." but.. any substance you use on a daily basis as an emotional crutch, even just to take the edge off, is an addiction. because when life gets especially hard, your brain knows where to look to feel good and numb that away, its a slippery slope for sure. that's why they say admittance is the first step. at the end of the day, no one knows what you're going through like you do, so its all about being completely honest with yourself. love you Brooke!
@@Ang_848 that is so sad. Sometimes starting is the hardest part. I encourage kindness and even offering help in any form you can, going to a meeting together or even just listening. That makes me so sad for them
As a (now sober) alcoholic, it unfortunately took me my entire 20s to realize it. I went back and forth through sobriety and heavy binge drinking. At one point i was sober for 2 years and then told myself that i could go back to drinking moderately. Within 6 months i was worse into the alcoholic slide than ever. It CAN be done. But some of us are just wired differently and the victory is realizing that alcohol is life destroying to us
This has been a huuuuge battle with my fiance over the last 2.5 years. I’ve worked in drug and alcohol addiction treatment for 3.5 years and I got sober in 2022 to support him (also because I too had an unhealthy relationship with alcohol, but I was a binge drinker so it wasn’t that hard for me to stop). He white knuckled it for 4 months before he finally realized that he can’t drink moderately and that he *is* an alcoholic. That was 3 months ago and he now has just over 7 months sober. I’m so proud of him I can’t even express it. He doesn’t participate in AA due to the “religious” aspect, but he is in SMART recovery, so every month I buy him a chip that has a different quote for each month. He now has a little collection displayed in our room. 🥰
I really appreciate the conversation about ADHD. I have ADHD and watching people online glamorize it or treat it like a trivial thing is so hard. Because there are days where I truly feel like I cannot function and my mental illness is ruining my life -so watching people treat it like a quirky. Funny thing is really difficult and invalidating. And Makes other people think that it’s not as severe of an illness as it is.
@@EdgyVeg I totally understand the struggle too but just wanted to let you know that ADHD is a form of neurodivergence, not a mental illness. Apologies if you were alluding to mental illnesses such as depression caused by ADHD but I thought I’d leave this here just in case.
I'm thinking this like... I'm not deep into Tana lore but I've never heard her mention going to a physio or biokineticist which most people with scoliosis need to function. She's got money to afford the hundred treatment options between "live with pain" and "self medicate with alcohol" :(
Tana I really think you should talk with Jeff and Trevi, and other friends in recovery actively that can actually understand and support you from a recovery perspective
brooke and tana’s discussion about substance abuse, prescription (or not) medication use, and mental illness is so refreshing and honest. thank you both for bringing such stigmatized topics to light and being so transparent (from an anxiety, depression, add/adhd ridden gorl)
Hi girls! I’m a silent fan here and also someone a little bit older. My brother passed away last year at the age of 39 to cirrhosis. Alcohol shouldn’t be taken lightly, or daily at that. It’s so easily purchased and abused in our society that what we find normal truly isn’t. His drinking habits started from normal ‘partying’ to something that ended up taking his life. Seeing someone go through the stages of end of life like he did at so young has an everlasting impact so hearing about all of this makes me want to not be a silent follower and say: be careful!
I second this! I’m so sorry for the loss of your brother. I knew someone who “didn’t drink in excess” but he drank small amounts everyday so when he ended up in the hospital for something else, he was withdrawing so bad that he ended up in a coma and died.
God bless you, your brother in heaven, and your loved ones. Thank you for sharing your story. My condolences and prayers are with you. ✝️🙏🏼💜💟💜💟💜💟💜💟💜💟💜💟
Super proud of you Tana for being so self aware at such a young age. Whatever you decide regarding your sobriety, you’ve got a good head on your shoulders and will figure it out. I’ve been Cali sober for 4 years, and the hardest thing in the beginning is the boredom. I told this to my sponsor and this is what she said; “ if you wanna stop being bored, stop being boring.” 😅 She ate me up with that one
Please do cancelled crewnecks and hoodies. I would LOVE a white camo sweatshirt with cancelled in pink font… i would literally wear it everyday for the rest of my life 💗
QUEEEN DO NOT BREAK THE SOBER STREAK RNNNNN, YOUVE GOT YOUR OUID AND YOU CAN STILL HAVE A GOOD TIME!! moderation works for a while until you realize your tolerance changes and then the amount of alcohol you’ll want is more!,
Our society treats alcohol as a normality. People with addiction having alcohol as their DOC it’s complicated because like you said it’s so easy to get back into the cycle. Yet, I think the addict in you still craves the alcohol and the romanticized version of being drunk. I’m so proud of you tana and the way you’re talking about this is so incredible. Smoke your tree you’ve got this ❤
@@ritalabarberayeah, actually, harm reduction is actually one of the safest, most effective long term ways to treat substance abuse. But keep being a douchebag for the sake of being a douchebag. Like by your stupid logic all of us who like to light up a joint may as well just be junkies, use what minimal brain cells are in there before you put your words out to the world.
as someone going thru the same struggles as tana this is so comforting to hear. i cannot moderate my drinking at all so i completely stopped then after awhile i just felt bored and left out. so i drank again and it almost was worse than before i stopped. it’s very isolating to recognize the inability to be ‘normal’ when it comes to social things like drinking. i hope one day we can figure it out or be happy sober. love u tana and it’s been so amazing to grow with you thru past decade 🫶🏻🥲
Tana babe your whole friend group doesn’t drink in moderation and they’re 10000% functional alcoholics. You’re jealous of people who also have drinking problems but handle it differently than u!
Like taking 5 shots at dinner as a casual drink isn’t normal. A casual drink at dinner is being like wow a margarita would be banging with the chips and queso but you’re not drinking with the intention of getting drunk or tipsy! Just bc it would pair good w the meal. Ya know
@@Writrpaws1682it’s wild to me that people don’t understand a shot counts as a whole drink lol. Just because it throws back in one swoop. That’s five drinks. Most mixed drinks are 1-2 shots worth.
@@Cashhhhewit’s all about the intention. Ur not taking a tequila shot because it pairs well with pasta. Ur taking 5 in a row to get drunk (not appropriate for the context). A drink you sip on at dinner is much diff and is ordered for the taste.
“I just want what everyone else is able to have so badly.” I felt that to my core, I’ll be 10 years sober from alcohol in December. That feeling might not ever fully go away, but you learn that you have something not everyone has - the ability to be aware of your needs and to follow them for the best life possible.
I LOVE SEEING TANA SOBER & IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH MAKOA. it is so amazing to see how far she has come. she is so strong for staying sober for such a long period of time after drinking hard for years. she has overcome so much and im so proud of her.
I respect both Tana & Brooke being SO transparent with the talk about drugs. They both have talked about their past with drug abuse, which is so helpful and healing to watch. Talking about taking Xanax as prescribed or even Wellbutrin is so important. We need to normalize taking pills to function. Until I got onto mood stabilizers, my life was in SHAMBLES. Took a minute to get the right dosage because we had to build it up in my body before jumping to a high mg , but it was SO worth it! I love both these girls so much. They help heal me everyday.
Tana, nothing good in life is easy. Hearing you talk about getting anything you want, your sobriety may be a very hard life lesson that in life you cannot have every single thing you want. No matter how much influence, fame and money a person can have, they still cannot have everything they want in this world. Best of luck to you in your sobriety ❤
my therapist said it is not possible for an alcoholic to drink in moderation, so do not relapse please! you’ve been so responsible and amazing role model
another addict here babe. moderation just isn't for girlies like us. it works for a little bit of time, but then the withdrawals come back, you go back to it when you're upset and then it's always available and you're doing it at 11am. just stay sober if you can. boring is okay. ilysm
my grandmother was sober for eight years and just started her journey on a healthy relationship with alcohol. it is possible tana, but you cannot be obsessive over it.
Lauren Elizabeth became sober because she had the same kind of experiences and tendancies with drinking, and she made a video (maybe a few years ago now) talking about how she’s no longer sober because she worked on her relationship with alcohol to be able to drink moderately without binging or going on benders! i definitely think it’s possible but takes a lot of work. you got this tana❤
It’s VERY risky . And everyones trauma and relationship with drugs/alcohol is different . She can hear it from her therapist not a random RUclips comment without real insight. That’s a nice thought but you clearly don’t have a real addict in your life .
I’m gonna be big sis right now: Tana! I have been sober from alcohol for 7 years now and I’m 35. It was really hard when I was 27 years old vs now because alcohol was so centered in my life. As I have gotten older, it has been so much easier to stay sober because now everyone has grown up and what we consider “fun” has changed drastically. Second! Sobriety is a daily thing. Stop looking at it as an absolute. Always tell yourself “I can drink again someday, but I’m going to stay sober today.” I promise that will help a lot with the internal battle you’re having now. Thiiiiiiiird: C-sections are an actual surgery. Post C-section, you can’t walk and the postpartum recovery is a lot longer. I had my girls naturally and I was up walking around like I was never even pregnant pretty much immediately after they were born! Plus, no scarring. Anyway! You are both crazy cute and absolutely hilarious. Loooove you guys!
As someone who’s currently struggling with alcohol thank you I needed to hear this and I hope Tana sees this your such a kind and genuine soul thank you
Thank you for talking about alcohol so openly tana. Im 22 and exactly the same way. Hearing you got sober helped me get sober a few months ago. I dont moderate either, even if thats my plan before i drink, when i start drinking i dont want to stop. I appreciate hearing you talk about it. I dont want to quit for life either but i dont want to embarrass myself again
Please stick with it! I feel like I lost my 20s to blacking out and hangovers. I’m 29 now and can’t say I am happy or proud of a single night like that. It’s always regret.
I used to really struggle with moderation. I always blacked out/ binge drank. I quit drinking for years. It was hard and I felt everything you’re going through Tana. I can now say I can drink in moderation. It took 6 years for me to get to this point. Hearing how bad you want to do it now though.. I don’t think it’s time.
Well said. I can now drink in moderation as well, but my life and mindset about alcohol is completely different than it was when I was drinking heavily.
I feel like in my 20s I was binge drinking because it was still fun to do that, however when I turned 30 everything changed. I got GERD pain twice as bad, especially with dark liquor, my hangovers were horrible. Now I'm 35 and I hardly ever get hungover but I also don't drink heavy. I can have a couple of Shots and a couple beers and then I'm ready for bed before I do anything crazy.
Iv known a lot of alcoholics in my lifetime and have struggled with addiction myself . But the ones who drink moderately now still go back and forth between active addiction , they’re never at peace . It’s also very easy to twist the meaning of “moderate” . Addiction doesn’t go away .
@@HaywoodJablomi_420 Many people struggle with responsible drinking in their 20s then do go on into their 30s, 40s, 50sm having far more maturity and different priorities, not having any issues with alcohol. If someone doesn't think they can have fun without alcohol, even if their issue is just immaturity, they aren't ready to drink responsibly. Those who drink moderately can take it or leave it and don't crave having a drink. They would also be just as happy with a non-alcoholic version.
i hope tana knows that there's a lot of people out there that can relate to her. sobriety is not easy, especially if your intent isn't to necessarily to stay sober. it's also super conflicting when people around you are drinking and it feels like you're missing out. making the decision to not drink or try drinking again is completely up to you. its truly different for everyone and i just hope you make that decision when you feel completely READY to! i've felt the same ways you have (currently am) and hearing you talk about it made me realize some things :')
1:16:10 the whole convo before this on bri and grace was SOOOO well articulated. Brooke and Tana’s ability to relate and have a high-level conversation about a situation is very underrated. you girls kill it!
Alcoholism ruins relationships. People get tired , alcoholics ruin their lives , hurt the people around them. Speaking from a person who’s significant other is an alcoholic. There will never be moderation. There is never just 1 drink. Or just for special occasions. He’s almost 1 year sober and he’s doing amazing ! Tana you don’t need alcohol. You don’t need what other people can have. Your friends are just functioning alcoholics. Eventually they won’t be.
Quotes about moderation that help me stay sober: “I’d rather keep the tiger in a cage than on a leash.” “The only people who can successfully moderate don’t need the word “moderate” to describe how they drink.”
bro these quotes are so funny.. we have not been put on this earth to not indulge in our vices, but our vices are deadly we can moderate. have fun people, drink that drink you will not be alive again.
@@bambi.pink333that’s such a horrible take lmfao alcohol is quite literally one of the worst things you can put into your body. If you want to enjoy a long life, do not drink. Most vices (addictions) will be detrimental to your mind and body.
As a recovering alcoholic- the way you speak about alcohol and the mental obsession that you’re having with drinking and wanting to control is is clear cut sign of an alcoholic. The thing is- you won’t know until you know - so if you feel like you wanna try and see how it goes do it but just know recovery is such an amazing way to live life. Alcohol lowers your energetic vibration and there’s so many downsides to drinking and tbh it’s just not worth it if you are truly an alcoholic. Sending you love and I hope you figure out what’s best for your journey. Love you Tana
My boyfriend use to struggle with alcoholism but taught himself to drink moderately so i believe in you. It’s all about how much you want it. He didn’t like who he was when he was over drinking and if you just do that self reflection, it can help a lot. And I’ve seen the self reflection in you a lot since you’ve gone sober
So....definitely one of your older fans here, and also one who has been sober for well, many many years. And I just wanna say everything you're feeling Tana is normal. Just desperately searching for a way to be a casual drinker. For some way to be able to know that one or two is enough. But girl....I am telling you....one is too many and will never ever be enough. I promise you. Its super hard to really come to terms with being an addict. Accepting that even though other people around you are capable of having one or two, that you are not. I'm not an expert and everyone is different, but in my experience, it truly has to be all or nothing. Unfortunately. I GET YOUUUUU when u say you're bored all the time. Girl. I get that. But I promise you that feeling does not last forever. After a few years (which seems forever) you will be okay living life on life's terms. (Especially as you get older.) You will find fun and joy in sobriety. You will go to bed ine day and realize....wow....I didn't even think about getting high or drinking today. At all. I promise you. Just hold on. Cause you are fucking killing it!!
Im 4 years sober at 27 and its definetly hard sometimes especially in the context of feeling like you're missing out because all your friends can drink and be okay. The realization that not only can i not drink in moderation, but it also leads to droog use nightly, was when i became okay with not drinking again. I have thoughts of drinking again someday, but for now im genuinely grateful for my sobriety at the end of the day, no longer fighting with those demons daily. I do smoke the sweet ganj but that is what helps lol. I feel Tana so much through her sobriety journey and wish her the best.
OMFG the perks of being an Aussie means randomly seeing this pop up 7 seconds ago midday on a sunday. I love you guys so much. come to aus please please please xoxox
100%. The ones who say they drink in moderation actually mean 1. They have 1-2 a night (still classified as too much) or 2. Only drink on the weekends but binge when they do so.
I went to rehab 2 years ago, thinking about going back again even after doing well for so long. Sometimes life happens and it’s easy to relapse. I love how real Tana is , makes me feel like I’m not alone with my drug and alcohol problems. Everyone that is “clean” always seems so happy and blah blah but truthfully it’s not all that easy and they’re hiding the urges that they have. Finding other things to do, adjusting to being sober in social situations, mending relationships, etc; it’s a lot. Manifesting some strength for the rest of 2024 ❤
Tana thank you for sharing your thoughts about wanting to drink moderately but being unable to quell that “addict” brain. I hope you’re exploring different avenues to find peace. Ask yourself why you are unable to stop and find the answer. Explore within yourself and know yourself deeper. And also maybe ask yourself why drinking with friends is meaningful, versus perhaps finding other ways of connecting with others. Maybe sober themed dinner parties
Im assuming it's because she's so used to this wild, chaotic life that just being sober feels boring. It's not boring though, it's peace. I have to think the friend group also plays a role more than she thinks because if I was around a bunch of people who partied all the time, I'd feel pressure to as well
Tana, coming from a 4 year recovered mild alcoholic/crippling M30 and H addict, I can now drink moderately and haven’t gotten hammered in years. I’ve experienced how great life can be with out chasing that high so I don’t feel the need to numb any pain anymore because I can cope Healthily. I know not everyone can find that self control but maybe one day you’ll get there if you really put your mind to it. I’ve always resonated with you and I’m so proud of you that you’re living a sober life, you’re doing amazing ❤ much love
Tana, I appreciate you sharing about your sobriety Journey and wanting to moderately drink. I relate to you a lot in doing everything in extremes. I would love to keep hearing about how you go about your good girl era. Brooke, I love how amazing you are at listening to Tana and not shutting her wanting to begin to drink normally. Clearly you want what is best for her while also listening to what she wants with her life. I wish I knew people like you two IRL :) -Rian Crosson
Im 65 days sober today and I couldnt agree more that everything tana is saying. I think about my wedding or vacations and not being able to drink and it feels like defeat and sadness. Even though I litterally cant drink modertley and im always the "blackout friend" who embarsses themself. Iv lost most of my friends so im happy for you that you're friends have stuck by you.
Just remember how it feels to wake up the next day! I blackout. I binge. And I can confidently say my only emotion to those nights is embarrassment and regret. You don’t want that for your wedding!
I’ve gone through the same mourning over these celebrations and casual moments a drink sounds so nice and has become so ingrained in me, but trust over time your relationship to those events and to alcohol will change. We can focus less on the drink we wish we could have and more on connecting with people, dancing, being present, and waking up feeling refreshed.
I just hit 3 years sober so I completely understand the mental battle that comes along with sobriety. Your first year is going to be difficult, there’s no doubts about it. But, I’m now at the point where even the thought of alcohol disgusts me! I agree with Brooke about the community. Obviously idk your exact situation, buttt something that helped me immensely to want to stay sober was having a group of girls around me who were also sober but still had fun to look up to. So proud of you, keep up the hard work🤍
Damn Tana I appreciate your honesty about sobriety. My boyfriend is going through the struggles of staying sober. He said the exact thing you’re saying now, last night. Thank you for staying vulnerable and honest. I wish you the best of luck on your sobriety, please keep it up, and understand you’re a real influencer. I appreciate you
as someone who is terrified of getting sick i’m praying yall are okay diarrhea is my worst fear/enemy having to even TELL people that’s going on is terrifying LET ALONE NOT BEING ABLE TO ROT IN BED ALL DAY??? all power to yall for real
the way i just watched the wiz khalifa podcast and had no idea she got bailed on and didn’t know the girls! she was so professional i would never have known!!
I never cared enough about myself to be sober and make good decisions. I met my partner and understood that he deserves a good person because he is so amazing and that was enough for me to get clean. I can casually drink 5 years later but I don’t surround myself with the people that need that lifestyle.
y’all HAVE to do the 50/50 drop, it’s so on brand. gives something for all of the audience, plus a lot of us are a mix of the two of you so we’d fw both. then u can do a few collabed items to tie it all together and represent the both of you. pushing the image of two strong personalities coming together to perfectly fit one another 🥰
The adderall convo made me feel so relieved hahahahha. ADHD medication slander has been bonkers lately, I find no joy in being on adderall but I LEGIT cannot formulate thoughts or prioritize even like… getting a glass of water is hard. It’s a major disability 😭 really not taking this stuff for funsies
i definitely do think its being overprescribed and there are people taking it who have things going on besides adhd that manifest similarly, but like i cannot imagine people taking it for fun?? especially because im on concerta which i feel like is very chill and moderated because its extended release
it seems like sooo many ppl have ADD/ADHD nowadays, so in turn it’s minimized/not seen as a debilitating since “everyone has it and they’re fine”. same w anxiety/depression
@@BK-2003 Most of those people who “have it and are fine”, never actually got diagnosed! Or they were lucky to get treatment as children, while their brain was still developing. Either way, it’s disrespectful to minimise others illness or disability.
i love love love that you said you don’t want to be sober forever because you don’t have to!!! i’ve learned that you just have to be sober “today”. like it really is a one day at a time thing. i just wake up every morning & say today i’m not drinking. i relate to everything you’re saying. once you pass from abuser to addict though i’ve never heard that you can go back. it’s just if you decide to do it again it will be like an addict no matter what.
i think just living in acceptance for me has been a big thing. but for me if i’m controlling my drinking i’m not having fun & if i’m having fun i’m not in control.
Truly appreciate Tana talking about her struggles with alcohol. ❤ us struggling girlies feel the same. Tana is you see this~ I got sober from heroin in 2015. I relapsed on alcohol 2 years ago. I keep getting sober and failing. The more I give attention and obsess over the thought and wish of being able to have a drink, makes me fail. But also, it’s like dealing with a food addiction. If you starve yourself, you might binge. Give yourself some leeway with a great support system!!
Tana will unfortunately never be sober for good until she comes to grasp with the fact that it is not a failure to be sober. It’s the hardest positive change a person can make. As soon as she fully understands that she could very well lose everything/everyone someday to substances if she keeps on this path, that’s when she will finally be able to let go.
omg two episodes in less than a week y’all are matching my freak rn
AS FUCK
They are making up for posting late for like EVER im surprised to be watching this on a Sunday!!
✨️ is somebody gonna match my freak ✨️
✨️is somebody gona match my nasty✨️ @sweetbean666
Speaking in song lyrics is cringe girl
A Father’s Day post for the fatherless girls is essential
I’m here for that 😂 🙌
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THIS
They are my fathers
THIS ONE 🎉
Brooke continually encouraging Tana to not break her sobriety made me tear up. I love them. Stay strong Tana! 🩷
Brooke: I don’t have an addictive personality
Brooke: I drink every single day
Make it make sense
if your parents had an addictive personality...you probably have one too.. just makes me laugh when ppl say that type of shit
Yeah its sad she should know moderate/ “more responsible use” frequently is still not super great for you!
No offence brookie ily but ive been there before 😢
@@emeriep7468she chooses to do that tho, she isn’t dependent on it
Tana - Brooke is the REALEST friend you've ever had - she is so honest and loving about wanting you to stay sober
your life hasn’t become boring it’s peaceful.
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Yes!! Life should feel “boring” sometimes if you’re at peace compared to the chaos you might have been used to before
@@sarahcdubz exactlyy
THIS! Was gonna comment that.. its not fun you thrive on anymore its the peace and contentment that keeps u going
So true 😭
the fact that we’re all up explains why we’re Tana’s fans
Yes Queen
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Lol ‘exaaaactly’
watching at 8 am after my pilates class because i'm a brooke girlie 💗 lol 😂
I mean... I dont wanna scare you but, wait till you hear about time zones
Brooke telling Tana "It might not be all its cracked up to be" is the definition of a GOOD FRIEND. Never break up with her Tana youre literally thriving without alcohol please stick with it ❤🎉
Tana I’m fully sober now after several years of that slippery slope of wanting to have moderation, being able to for a bit, completely going too far, being that “fun” but crazy friend, feeling awful, and desperately wanting to be able to have my romanticized version of drinking.
Piece of advice, the fact you want to be able to drink in moderation more than anything, and are extensively researching how you can drink, fixating on it so much, all things I did and I realized that that in itself is letting alcohol have a lot of pull on your life.
It’s taking up a lot of mental real estate for you rather than fully letting go of something you know has been more bad than good and putting that energy into new hobbies, learning things, and replacing boredom with things that lift you up.
I’ve been in your exact shoes and wondering if I could reintroduce alcohol in the future but that left me in that limbo of still thinking about it all the time. You do you but just my perspective ❤
this is so insightful and beautifully worded ♥️ so proud of you btw
@@torid3023 Aww thank you so much that’s so sweet! 💕
“Mental real estate” i like that imma use that, very good points here. And not to mention all the reasons she listed, bored, pain relief, are literally exactly the backbone of dependency and then addiction one drink would not stop at one drink for her 🥲
@@ayal7616 Thank you! 😊 You make such a good point, using it for pain relief or to avoid what’s going on in your head, even if it’s just as something you do whenever you’re bored, not productive because it’s not addressing the cause. I was definitely 🧐 about the wine for back pain, figured the weed would already address that but might I suggest physio and yoga for our girl
Montreal, Canadaaaaa ❤
tana rehashing what her sobriety journey has been so far was actually so nice and relatable to hear
14:40 tana i am so so proud of you for staying this sober. these past few months i’ve seen a new side of you of just happiness. please stay sober because i do think this is your journey.
this feels like a “you up?” text
LMFAO same energy
So many of us here acting like… fuck it.. “yea” 😂😂
@@Hey367Lo😂😂😂
that’s exactly what the late night posts are
Brooke- drinking everyday, even drinking not into oblivion, just drinking everyday IS A PROBLEM. It is so hard on your liver, it softens the world in a way that makes it hard to take away those 2 drinks everyday. Be careful, it’s very easy to say that everyday drinking isn’t a problem just bc it’s not so messy!
came here to say this! alcoholism is so often framed as "yeah they just aren't capable of stopping, they always drink to black out, etc." but.. any substance you use on a daily basis as an emotional crutch, even just to take the edge off, is an addiction. because when life gets especially hard, your brain knows where to look to feel good and numb that away, its a slippery slope for sure. that's why they say admittance is the first step. at the end of the day, no one knows what you're going through like you do, so its all about being completely honest with yourself. love you Brooke!
I work somewhere where this person drinks everyday and laughs “I’m not an alcoholic right?!” And I just 😅 it’s very sad
@@Ang_848 that is so sad. Sometimes starting is the hardest part. I encourage kindness and even offering help in any form you can, going to a meeting together or even just listening. That makes me so sad for them
@@payton.elizabeth totally agree but however their family knows and I would never overstep that boundary as they are my boss 😳
@@Ang_848 oh dear, those are some complicated layers. Sending much love to you all, they will heal in their own time hopefully ❤️
As a (now sober) alcoholic, it unfortunately took me my entire 20s to realize it. I went back and forth through sobriety and heavy binge drinking. At one point i was sober for 2 years and then told myself that i could go back to drinking moderately. Within 6 months i was worse into the alcoholic slide than ever. It CAN be done. But some of us are just wired differently and the victory is realizing that alcohol is life destroying to us
This has been a huuuuge battle with my fiance over the last 2.5 years. I’ve worked in drug and alcohol addiction treatment for 3.5 years and I got sober in 2022 to support him (also because I too had an unhealthy relationship with alcohol, but I was a binge drinker so it wasn’t that hard for me to stop). He white knuckled it for 4 months before he finally realized that he can’t drink moderately and that he *is* an alcoholic. That was 3 months ago and he now has just over 7 months sober. I’m so proud of him I can’t even express it. He doesn’t participate in AA due to the “religious” aspect, but he is in SMART recovery, so every month I buy him a chip that has a different quote for each month. He now has a little collection displayed in our room. 🥰
I really appreciate the conversation about ADHD. I have ADHD and watching people online glamorize it or treat it like a trivial thing is so hard. Because there are days where I truly feel like I cannot function and my mental illness is ruining my life -so watching people treat it like a quirky. Funny thing is really difficult and invalidating. And Makes other people think that it’s not as severe of an illness as it is.
@@EdgyVeg I totally understand the struggle too but just wanted to let you know that ADHD is a form of neurodivergence, not a mental illness. Apologies if you were alluding to mental illnesses such as depression caused by ADHD but I thought I’d leave this here just in case.
HAHAHAH BROOKE “why don’t we get you a back brace…. There has to be steps to take before relapsing”
lmao😂😂😂😂
I'm thinking this like... I'm not deep into Tana lore but I've never heard her mention going to a physio or biokineticist which most people with scoliosis need to function. She's got money to afford the hundred treatment options between "live with pain" and "self medicate with alcohol" :(
this is exactly what a girl like me wanted to see right before her nightly smoke sesh
real
Literally 😂
Herr with you😂
Realll
no but LITERALLY
Tana I really think you should talk with Jeff and Trevi, and other friends in recovery actively that can actually understand and support you from a recovery perspective
im sure she talks with them all the time theyre friends 😭 like as if she hasnt tried that
brooke and tana’s discussion about substance abuse, prescription (or not) medication use, and mental illness is so refreshing and honest. thank you both for bringing such stigmatized topics to light and being so transparent (from an anxiety, depression, add/adhd ridden gorl)
You should definitely have like brooke’s canceled merch and tana’s cancelled merch and show the polar opposite styles
The way that I actually know your Adam and Eve commercial by heart is scary
crying
It’s my man’s fav part of the pod!! 😂😂😭
Hi girls! I’m a silent fan here and also someone a little bit older. My brother passed away last year at the age of 39 to cirrhosis. Alcohol shouldn’t be taken lightly, or daily at that. It’s so easily purchased and abused in our society that what we find normal truly isn’t. His drinking habits started from normal ‘partying’ to something that ended up taking his life. Seeing someone go through the stages of end of life like he did at so young has an everlasting impact so hearing about all of this makes me want to not be a silent follower and say: be careful!
I second this! I’m so sorry for the loss of your brother. I knew someone who “didn’t drink in excess” but he drank small amounts everyday so when he ended up in the hospital for something else, he was withdrawing so bad that he ended up in a coma and died.
Also lost my Aunt recently this way.
i’m so sorry for your loss 🫶
thank you for sharing, your brothers in our prayers 🩷🩷🩷
God bless you, your brother in heaven, and your loved ones. Thank you for sharing your story. My condolences and prayers are with you. ✝️🙏🏼💜💟💜💟💜💟💜💟💜💟💜💟
sobriety is the biggest blessing I promise
one moment at a time
Super proud of you Tana for being so self aware at such a young age. Whatever you decide regarding your sobriety, you’ve got a good head on your shoulders and will figure it out. I’ve been Cali sober for 4 years, and the hardest thing in the beginning is the boredom. I told this to my sponsor and this is what she said; “ if you wanna stop being bored, stop being boring.” 😅 She ate me up with that one
yasss there's so many other things to do that aren't harmful and detrimental to our health ❤
Please do cancelled crewnecks and hoodies. I would LOVE a white camo sweatshirt with cancelled in pink font… i would literally wear it everyday for the rest of my life 💗
QUEEEN DO NOT BREAK THE SOBER STREAK RNNNNN, YOUVE GOT YOUR OUID AND YOU CAN STILL HAVE A GOOD TIME!! moderation works for a while until you realize your tolerance changes and then the amount of alcohol you’ll want is more!,
real, if you have an addictive personality especially. you will go from a few to blacked out again and b like wtf
Our society treats alcohol as a normality. People with addiction having alcohol as their DOC it’s complicated because like you said it’s so easy to get back into the cycle. Yet, I think the addict in you still craves the alcohol and the romanticized version of being drunk. I’m so proud of you tana and the way you’re talking about this is so incredible. Smoke your tree you’ve got this ❤
Take a super strong edible lol
Agree!
Yeah, replace one drug with another, that's helpful advice
@@ritalabarberayeah, actually, harm reduction is actually one of the safest, most effective long term ways to treat substance abuse. But keep being a douchebag for the sake of being a douchebag. Like by your stupid logic all of us who like to light up a joint may as well just be junkies, use what minimal brain cells are in there before you put your words out to the world.
i just had someone try to tell me COKE was not that big of a deal because a lot of people do it…like yeah that’s kind of the problem.
another night of the cancelled podcast getting posted 2 minutes before i’m about to go to bed… it’s like they want me to stay awake
REAL i was just bout to go to bed
@@mckennakingsley2852same 😭
i always see it when im looking for the perfect "black screen white noise"
Mood yet it’s 5 am and just saw they uploaded
Usually I stay up till like 3am then I wake up and it was posted at like 3.15🥲🥲🥲
so refreshing to hear this convo on addiction and the craving to be able to use in moderation and the complexities of how it feels.
as someone going thru the same struggles as tana this is so comforting to hear. i cannot moderate my drinking at all so i completely stopped then after awhile i just felt bored and left out. so i drank again and it almost was worse than before i stopped. it’s very isolating to recognize the inability to be ‘normal’ when it comes to social things like drinking. i hope one day we can figure it out or be happy sober. love u tana and it’s been so amazing to grow with you thru past decade 🫶🏻🥲
Tana babe your whole friend group doesn’t drink in moderation and they’re 10000% functional alcoholics. You’re jealous of people who also have drinking problems but handle it differently than u!
Like taking 5 shots at dinner as a casual drink isn’t normal. A casual drink at dinner is being like wow a margarita would be banging with the chips and queso but you’re not drinking with the intention of getting drunk or tipsy! Just bc it would pair good w the meal. Ya know
@@Jvideowatcherthank youuu I was thinking this like 5 shots at dinner… why hahahah
THIS
@@Writrpaws1682it’s wild to me that people don’t understand a shot counts as a whole drink lol. Just because it throws back in one swoop. That’s five drinks. Most mixed drinks are 1-2 shots worth.
@@Cashhhhewit’s all about the intention. Ur not taking a tequila shot because it pairs well with pasta. Ur taking 5 in a row to get drunk (not appropriate for the context). A drink you sip on at dinner is much diff and is ordered for the taste.
“I just want what everyone else is able to have so badly.” I felt that to my core, I’ll be 10 years sober from alcohol in December. That feeling might not ever fully go away, but you learn that you have something not everyone has - the ability to be aware of your needs and to follow them for the best life possible.
you’re awesome, congrats on your sobriety!!
So true!
@@marianareis258 aw thank you so much!
I LOVE SEEING TANA SOBER & IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH MAKOA. it is so amazing to see how far she has come. she is so strong for staying sober for such a long period of time after drinking hard for years. she has overcome so much and im so proud of her.
I respect both Tana & Brooke being SO transparent with the talk about drugs. They both have talked about their past with drug abuse, which is so helpful and healing to watch.
Talking about taking Xanax as prescribed or even Wellbutrin is so important. We need to normalize taking pills to function. Until I got onto mood stabilizers, my life was in SHAMBLES. Took a minute to get the right dosage because we had to build it up in my body before jumping to a high mg , but it was SO worth it!
I love both these girls so much. They help heal me everyday.
Tana, nothing good in life is easy. Hearing you talk about getting anything you want, your sobriety may be a very hard life lesson that in life you cannot have every single thing you want. No matter how much influence, fame and money a person can have, they still cannot have everything they want in this world. Best of luck to you in your sobriety ❤
my therapist said it is not possible for an alcoholic to drink in moderation, so do not relapse please! you’ve been so responsible and amazing role model
Her addiction is trying to sallow her back up , it’s knocking at her windows and picking the locks at her door .
another addict here babe. moderation just isn't for girlies like us. it works for a little bit of time, but then the withdrawals come back, you go back to it when you're upset and then it's always available and you're doing it at 11am. just stay sober if you can. boring is okay. ilysm
i’m dying at the airborne photo😭😭 “i don’t think i’ve ever seen u airborne” got me
I’m over 16 months sober. Tana you’re not missing anything! You know what alcohol brings. And it’s poison. Sobriety is sexy!
my grandmother was sober for eight years and just started her journey on a healthy relationship with alcohol. it is possible tana, but you cannot be obsessive over it.
Lauren Elizabeth became sober because she had the same kind of experiences and tendancies with drinking, and she made a video (maybe a few years ago now) talking about how she’s no longer sober because she worked on her relationship with alcohol to be able to drink moderately without binging or going on benders! i definitely think it’s possible but takes a lot of work. you got this tana❤
This
It’s VERY risky . And everyones
trauma and relationship with drugs/alcohol is different . She can hear it from her therapist not a random RUclips comment without real insight. That’s a nice thought but you clearly don’t have a real addict in your life .
I’m gonna be big sis right now: Tana! I have been sober from alcohol for 7 years now and I’m 35. It was really hard when I was 27 years old vs now because alcohol was so centered in my life. As I have gotten older, it has been so much easier to stay sober because now everyone has grown up and what we consider “fun” has changed drastically.
Second! Sobriety is a daily thing. Stop looking at it as an absolute. Always tell yourself “I can drink again someday, but I’m going to stay sober today.” I promise that will help a lot with the internal battle you’re having now.
Thiiiiiiiird: C-sections are an actual surgery. Post C-section, you can’t walk and the postpartum recovery is a lot longer. I had my girls naturally and I was up walking around like I was never even pregnant pretty much immediately after they were born! Plus, no scarring.
Anyway! You are both crazy cute and absolutely hilarious. Loooove you guys!
aww
Love this hope she sees ❤
you’re so lovely
bumpppppp
As someone who’s currently struggling with alcohol thank you I needed to hear this and I hope Tana sees this your such a kind and genuine soul thank you
Thank you for talking about alcohol so openly tana. Im 22 and exactly the same way. Hearing you got sober helped me get sober a few months ago. I dont moderate either, even if thats my plan before i drink, when i start drinking i dont want to stop. I appreciate hearing you talk about it. I dont want to quit for life either but i dont want to embarrass myself again
Please stick with it! I feel like I lost my 20s to blacking out and hangovers. I’m 29 now and can’t say I am happy or proud of a single night like that. It’s always regret.
i want a “she ate but I couldn’t” tee for brooke😭
Brookie drinking daily IS alcoholism…. Feeling like u need the drink and then following through with that feeling everyday is alcoholism
I used to really struggle with moderation. I always blacked out/ binge drank. I quit drinking for years. It was hard and I felt everything you’re going through Tana.
I can now say I can drink in moderation.
It took 6 years for me to get to this point. Hearing how bad you want to do it now though.. I don’t think it’s time.
Well said. I can now drink in moderation as well, but my life and mindset about alcohol is completely different than it was when I was drinking heavily.
I feel like in my 20s I was binge drinking because it was still fun to do that, however when I turned 30 everything changed. I got GERD pain twice as bad, especially with dark liquor, my hangovers were horrible. Now I'm 35 and I hardly ever get hungover but I also don't drink heavy. I can have a couple of Shots and a couple beers and then I'm ready for bed before I do anything crazy.
same, but i had to learn how to have fun without it.
Iv known a lot of alcoholics in my lifetime and have struggled with addiction myself . But the ones who drink moderately now still go back and forth between active addiction , they’re never at peace . It’s also very easy to twist the meaning of “moderate” . Addiction doesn’t go away .
@@HaywoodJablomi_420 Many people struggle with responsible drinking in their 20s then do go on into their 30s, 40s, 50sm having far more maturity and different priorities, not having any issues with alcohol. If someone doesn't think they can have fun without alcohol, even if their issue is just immaturity, they aren't ready to drink responsibly. Those who drink moderately can take it or leave it and don't crave having a drink. They would also be just as happy with a non-alcoholic version.
when tana said wow men used to build things like this , now they just paint their nails and gaslight . I choked 💀AINT THAT THE TRUTH 😂
i hope tana knows that there's a lot of people out there that can relate to her. sobriety is not easy, especially if your intent isn't to necessarily to stay sober. it's also super conflicting when people around you are drinking and it feels like you're missing out. making the decision to not drink or try drinking again is completely up to you. its truly different for everyone and i just hope you make that decision when you feel completely READY to! i've felt the same ways you have (currently am) and hearing you talk about it made me realize some things :')
1:16:10 the whole convo before this on bri and grace was SOOOO well articulated. Brooke and Tana’s ability to relate and have a high-level conversation about a situation is very underrated. you girls kill it!
Alcoholism ruins relationships. People get tired , alcoholics ruin their lives , hurt the people around them. Speaking from a person who’s significant other is an alcoholic. There will never be moderation. There is never just 1 drink. Or just for special occasions. He’s almost 1 year sober and he’s doing amazing !
Tana you don’t need alcohol. You don’t need what other people can have. Your friends are just functioning alcoholics. Eventually they won’t be.
Quotes about moderation that help me stay sober:
“I’d rather keep the tiger in a cage than on a leash.”
“The only people who can successfully moderate don’t need the word “moderate” to describe how they drink.”
bro these quotes are so funny.. we have not been put on this earth to not indulge in our vices, but our vices are deadly we can moderate. have fun people, drink that drink you will not be alive again.
@@bambi.pink333that’s such a horrible take lmfao alcohol is quite literally one of the worst things you can put into your body. If you want to enjoy a long life, do not drink. Most vices (addictions) will be detrimental to your mind and body.
@@ghostoftaurus I do not want a long life, I want to meet my friends in a pub and have a good time.
@@bambi.pink333please go. you’re truly so ignorant.
@@bambi.pink333ok then shut up why is miss “I wanna die” giving life advice
I love how honest Tana is about her struggles with sobriety and her mindset on it at this point in time ! Keep slaying queens
the brandy melville scrunchie insert had my jaw on the FLOOR
As a recovering alcoholic- the way you speak about alcohol and the mental obsession that you’re having with drinking and wanting to control is is clear cut sign of an alcoholic. The thing is- you won’t know until you know - so if you feel like you wanna try and see how it goes do it but just know recovery is such an amazing way to live life. Alcohol lowers your energetic vibration and there’s so many downsides to drinking and tbh it’s just not worth it if you are truly an alcoholic. Sending you love and I hope you figure out what’s best for your journey. Love you Tana
My boyfriend use to struggle with alcoholism but taught himself to drink moderately so i believe in you. It’s all about how much you want it. He didn’t like who he was when he was over drinking and if you just do that self reflection, it can help a lot. And I’ve seen the self reflection in you a lot since you’ve gone sober
I love this lil niche community of the internet. yall are the best
So....definitely one of your older fans here, and also one who has been sober for well, many many years. And I just wanna say everything you're feeling Tana is normal. Just desperately searching for a way to be a casual drinker. For some way to be able to know that one or two is enough. But girl....I am telling you....one is too many and will never ever be enough. I promise you. Its super hard to really come to terms with being an addict. Accepting that even though other people around you are capable of having one or two, that you are not. I'm not an expert and everyone is different, but in my experience, it truly has to be all or nothing. Unfortunately. I GET YOUUUUU when u say you're bored all the time. Girl. I get that. But I promise you that feeling does not last forever. After a few years (which seems forever) you will be okay living life on life's terms. (Especially as you get older.) You will find fun and joy in sobriety. You will go to bed ine day and realize....wow....I didn't even think about getting high or drinking today. At all. I promise you. Just hold on. Cause you are fucking killing it!!
Tana thinking about what she’s gonna eat next while eating already is MEEEEEEE bahaha never felt anything more
Not sure how it took me so long to start watching cancelled podcast but I now that I have I am sooo obsessed. Love you guys!
Im 4 years sober at 27 and its definetly hard sometimes especially in the context of feeling like you're missing out because all your friends can drink and be okay. The realization that not only can i not drink in moderation, but it also leads to droog use nightly, was when i became okay with not drinking again. I have thoughts of drinking again someday, but for now im genuinely grateful for my sobriety at the end of the day, no longer fighting with those demons daily. I do smoke the sweet ganj but that is what helps lol. I feel Tana so much through her sobriety journey and wish her the best.
there’s just no way i was watching old podcasts at 2 am wishing for a new ep but remembering it was WAY too soon
"The dichotomy and lore of it all" for merch 😂
OMFG the perks of being an Aussie means randomly seeing this pop up 7 seconds ago midday on a sunday. I love you guys so much. come to aus please please please xoxox
Lucky 😂 this was posted at 2am for me 😂😂😂
@@jordangundry1995fr, still awake tho 😜
I’m in the uk and awoke to this ❤
happy fathers day!
literally gonna cry brooke is such an amazing friend supporting tana's sobriety
love Brooke for trying to keep you accountable towards your goals, she loves you Tana! a real friend but you knew that
putting my airpods on in the club to listen to this i’m being so fr
Brooke always worries about Tana being TMI but that’s why Tana is where she is rn… her success is rooted in over sharing and authenticity
every alcoholics great obsession is to drink in moderation
it is the alcoholics in my family say it a lot
100%. The ones who say they drink in moderation actually mean 1. They have 1-2 a night (still classified as too much) or 2. Only drink on the weekends but binge when they do so.
I went to rehab 2 years ago, thinking about going back again even after doing well for so long. Sometimes life happens and it’s easy to relapse. I love how real Tana is , makes me feel like I’m not alone with my drug and alcohol problems. Everyone that is “clean” always seems so happy and blah blah but truthfully it’s not all that easy and they’re hiding the urges that they have. Finding other things to do, adjusting to being sober in social situations, mending relationships, etc; it’s a lot. Manifesting some strength for the rest of 2024 ❤
I just had my first sober birthday and it was absolutely worth not drinking and waking up into this new year NOT feeling hungover and regret.
it’s 2 am and i’m READY
Literally just got home but fuck it
Yasss
Same east coast stand up 💪💪💪💅🏽😂
Tana thank you for sharing your thoughts about wanting to drink moderately but being unable to quell that “addict” brain. I hope you’re exploring different avenues to find peace. Ask yourself why you are unable to stop and find the answer. Explore within yourself and know yourself deeper. And also maybe ask yourself why drinking with friends is meaningful, versus perhaps finding other ways of connecting with others. Maybe sober themed dinner parties
Im assuming it's because she's so used to this wild, chaotic life that just being sober feels boring. It's not boring though, it's peace. I have to think the friend group also plays a role more than she thinks because if I was around a bunch of people who partied all the time, I'd feel pressure to as well
Tana, coming from a 4 year recovered mild alcoholic/crippling M30 and H addict, I can now drink moderately and haven’t gotten hammered in years. I’ve experienced how great life can be with out chasing that high so I don’t feel the need to numb any pain anymore because I can cope
Healthily. I know not everyone can find that self control but maybe one day you’ll get there if you really put your mind to it. I’ve always resonated with you and I’m so proud of you that you’re living a sober life, you’re doing amazing ❤ much love
Adhd talk was a relief cause as I’m sure u know the shortage is bad so glad to hear u actually need it !
Tana, I appreciate you sharing about your sobriety Journey and wanting to moderately drink. I relate to you a lot in doing everything in extremes. I would love to keep hearing about how you go about your good girl era.
Brooke, I love how amazing you are at listening to Tana and not shutting her wanting to begin to drink normally. Clearly you want what is best for her while also listening to what she wants with her life. I wish I knew people like you two IRL :)
-Rian Crosson
Appreciate the honesty on this episode revolving substances, medications, sobriety, etc.
Im 65 days sober today and I couldnt agree more that everything tana is saying. I think about my wedding or vacations and not being able to drink and it feels like defeat and sadness. Even though I litterally cant drink modertley and im always the "blackout friend" who embarsses themself. Iv lost most of my friends so im happy for you that you're friends have stuck by you.
Just remember how it feels to wake up the next day! I blackout. I binge. And I can confidently say my only emotion to those nights is embarrassment and regret. You don’t want that for your wedding!
I’ve gone through the same mourning over these celebrations and casual moments a drink sounds so nice and has become so ingrained in me, but trust over time your relationship to those events and to alcohol will change. We can focus less on the drink we wish we could have and more on connecting with people, dancing, being present, and waking up feeling refreshed.
please stay sober tana! you’re thriving!
I just hit 3 years sober so I completely understand the mental battle that comes along with sobriety. Your first year is going to be difficult, there’s no doubts about it. But, I’m now at the point where even the thought of alcohol disgusts me! I agree with Brooke about the community. Obviously idk your exact situation, buttt something that helped me immensely to want to stay sober was having a group of girls around me who were also sober but still had fun to look up to. So proud of you, keep up the hard work🤍
Damn Tana I appreciate your honesty about sobriety. My boyfriend is going through the struggles of staying sober. He said the exact thing you’re saying now, last night. Thank you for staying vulnerable and honest. I wish you the best of luck on your sobriety, please keep it up, and understand you’re a real influencer. I appreciate you
as someone who is terrified of getting sick i’m praying yall are okay diarrhea is my worst fear/enemy having to even TELL people that’s going on is terrifying LET ALONE NOT BEING ABLE TO ROT IN BED ALL DAY??? all power to yall for real
the way i just watched the wiz khalifa podcast and had no idea she got bailed on and didn’t know the girls! she was so professional i would never have known!!
So happy for Tana’s sobriety journey ♥️ She deserves a life sans as much drama and toxicity as she can control, on her own end.
They're the most relatable!! So many of the issues Tana is worrying about are adhd related but so needed to be talked about. Love yous
i’m loving the more serious pods
I never cared enough about myself to be sober and make good decisions. I met my partner and understood that he deserves a good person because he is so amazing and that was enough for me to get clean. I can casually drink 5 years later but I don’t surround myself with the people that need that lifestyle.
These videos are always uploaded when I need them most.
I’m on a low dose of naltrexone for my eating disorder, and I hate to say it, but it’s helped SO much.
y’all HAVE to do the 50/50 drop, it’s so on brand. gives something for all of the audience, plus a lot of us are a mix of the two of you so we’d fw both. then u can do a few collabed items to tie it all together and represent the both of you. pushing the image of two strong personalities coming together to perfectly fit one another 🥰
wow 2 eps less then a week apart feeling blessed keep up the hard work!!!
OMG I WAS REWATCHING THE LAST EPISODE, AND YALL JUST UPLOADED
The adderall convo made me feel so relieved hahahahha. ADHD medication slander has been bonkers lately, I find no joy in being on adderall but I LEGIT cannot formulate thoughts or prioritize even like… getting a glass of water is hard. It’s a major disability 😭 really not taking this stuff for funsies
i definitely do think its being overprescribed and there are people taking it who have things going on besides adhd that manifest similarly, but like i cannot imagine people taking it for fun?? especially because im on concerta which i feel like is very chill and moderated because its extended release
it seems like sooo many ppl have ADD/ADHD nowadays, so in turn it’s minimized/not seen as a debilitating since “everyone has it and they’re fine”. same w anxiety/depression
@@BK-2003 Most of those people who “have it and are fine”, never actually got diagnosed! Or they were lucky to get treatment as children, while their brain was still developing.
Either way, it’s disrespectful to minimise others illness or disability.
Praying for a safe recovery from surgery today Brooke! I had mine done in 2020. Best decision EVER!
i love love love that you said you don’t want to be sober forever because you don’t have to!!! i’ve learned that you just have to be sober “today”. like it really is a one day at a time thing. i just wake up every morning & say today i’m not drinking. i relate to everything you’re saying. once you pass from abuser to addict though i’ve never heard that you can go back. it’s just if you decide to do it again it will be like an addict no matter what.
i think just living in acceptance for me has been a big thing. but for me if i’m controlling my drinking i’m not having fun & if i’m having fun i’m not in control.
i also do think makoa is a gift of your sobriety & i love that he is so good for you!
Truly appreciate Tana talking about her struggles with alcohol. ❤ us struggling girlies feel the same. Tana is you see this~ I got sober from heroin in 2015. I relapsed on alcohol 2 years ago. I keep getting sober and failing. The more I give attention and obsess over the thought and wish of being able to have a drink, makes me fail. But also, it’s like dealing with a food addiction. If you starve yourself, you might binge. Give yourself some leeway with a great support system!!
This is exactly what i needed in my life right now.
honestly, with how many times its said in the podcast, merch saying "do you know what i mean?" would be iconic
Thank you guys for talking about addiction. I lost someone to pills and it’s a terrible experience. Thank you for using your platform responsibly ❤
Tana will unfortunately never be sober for good until she comes to grasp with the fact that it is not a failure to be sober. It’s the hardest positive change a person can make. As soon as she fully understands that she could very well lose everything/everyone someday to substances if she keeps on this path, that’s when she will finally be able to let go.
Tana we love u. We understand the struggle and it’s good ur talking about this so deeply when a lot of other people don’t shed light on