A good woman will raise her son to be a good husband to another woman. A narcissistic woman will raise her son to only serve herself. And when another woman is part of his life all hell breaks loose.
completely agree. women like that, get jealous when their son find women that they want to be happy with . They know how to use diplomatic ways to always succeed poisoning their sons and separating them from the one they love
9 months pregnant with one and didn’t know it until it was too late! She tells me if she wasn’t his mom she’d date him better than any of his past girlfriends have. Weird af. Like what?
They are so possessive! Jealous moms! Do yourself a favor and MOVE FAR AWAY! Dealing with one and may have to leave the relationship 😭 Set boundaries and protect your peace.
Most traumatizing thing ever to date a mamas boy. Wished I was joking. Ladies that’s the first red flag ever. Let this be your warning…don’t date a mamas boy please.
@@kbleo90 Oh no! I would be very careful! You don't want to be involved with a narcissistic mother in law or a mama's boy if you fiance is one because in the end it wouldn't be worth it honestly. Just my opinion.
How do you know when your dealing with a narcissistic mother n law? What are the signs? I feel I’m drifting toward this predicament but I’m unsure, I could be a little dramatic. I’ll give you one example: I recall my fiancé and I sitting at a table discussing him departing from the army because he was so depressed…she sat right there and said I raised my kids better than this and where you gone go? I told her if it isn’t something he’s passionate about he should get out and she was so upset. She’s the reason he even joined
Worst thing about dating a Mama's Boy is that, not all the time your man would always be there for you. His mom will always be the decision maker in his entire life. Having a relationship like this is so hard that You can't just leave that man even if he's a mama's boy because you've fallen in love with him since then
I’m UNSURE 😐 to tell him the L word bc I know saying it won’t make us closer bc there’s “his apt” where he won’t stay too long away from where mama lives. Very attentive towards me. We have a great time but there’s that “wall”
I blocked a guy and his mom came into MY JOB to “talk to me” and tell me how I was in the wrong. He was getting too clingy way too quickly and it gave major red flags because we’d only been on 2 dates. I politely told her this is where I work and that I cannot answer her at this time. I was shaking I was so terrified. Watch out ladies.
This video was spot on! I was unknowingly involved with a Mamas boy. It took me awhile to figure out what the problem was and YES I was the other woman. His mother was the main lady in his life and they lived together. He was 45 years old and had no desire to move out and detach from his mama. I eventually realized it was a dead end and that our relationship could not grow because he was already emotionally involved and attached to his Mom. The only solution was for me to let him go and move on.
I'm living this right now. I am married to a mama's boy and this is my life right here!! I have said countless times that I'm tired of being a sister wife and i've finally done something about.
Same here . When I met my boyfriend’s mom she said to me , we’re going to share him . He also lived with his mom , he makes 6 figures and has been living home since his divorce 10yrs ago . His mom told me that her son was going to be with me til the Lord calls her home and he pays her bills , she’s an able body working woman in her 60’s. I got out tht mess immediately.
I feel you, girl. I feel like he would choose his mama over his kids as well. It’s coming to the end for us. Just a thought of me never talking about his mama and thinking about her, makes me believe that it’s the best decision.
my cousin married a mama's boy and it is pure hell for her. The mom tried to physically abuse her because my cousin wasn't a doormat like she wanted her to be.
I used to think it was sweet, until I realized how attached he was .. he calls him mom constantly and has her very involved in his decisions, and I never saw anything wrong with it, because I’m also very close to my mom, too.. but we were on a couple’s vacation recently and he called his mother several times a day, which is pretty normal for him, so I didn’t question it.. but when I really reflect on it, he did it at inappropriate times, like when we were spending quality time together.. when i really wanted him to be present in the moment.. and I understand he wants to involve her in things, but it felt like I was competing for his attention.. I really did start to feel like the other woman subconsciously.. and his mom is super sweet and never made me feel left out, but I’m definitely coming to realize how unhealthy those boundaries are.. we broke up during that trip.. because we kept fighting.. the underlying issue was that I was feeling insecure and neglected, and at the time I couldn’t figure out why.. I’m starting to put the pieces together ... absolutely mind blowing .. thank you for this video ...
my ex invited his mother to our romantic getaway in hawaii, i had to spend a week with her while she's in her bikinis. i felt constantly that she was somehow "seducing" him and comparing me to her. so gross i ran away fast
Oh my GOD YOU HAVE NAILED THIS ON THE HEAD!! I’m currently in the process of leaving and getting away from this!! Every single thing u said u nailed on the head! I can’t even point certain things out because EVERYTHING IS SO TRUE WHAT UR SAYING! And he proposed to me but I can not wait to be away from him and have her out of my life. He has made small changes but fell right back into those ways and I am tired of feeling crazy and being unhappy and I’m running! Now he has set an example for me and showed me what to look out for!
When my husband proposed to me his mom would literally tell me “youre stealing my son…” and hug him tight infront of me. Severalllll times. I hope you got away girl 🥲
I just broke off my traditional engagement with a man. How did it work out for you? My God I went thru it .thank God I walked. It's not been 1month and 3weeks.
The hardest part of dating a mamas boy for me is that i feel i will always come second to her. He has been mentioning getting married and having a baby, which is what i want more than anything in the world. But so far i don't feel that i come first which makes me wonder if i should marry someone who won't put my feelings before his mothers and whenever i want to spend time together alone, he will constantly invite her out with us.
Update? I’m going through the same thing and we are at the same point of talking about marriage but I’m always second. Were your able to get him to understand
In a mommas boy case, if your not good enough for the mother you will not be good enough for her son, i know its pretty rough but the only thing you can do is leave him or stay and put up with the stress, pain, aggravation, disrespect, etc i pray for whoever is going thru this God Bless you 💜🙏🏽🙌🏾
My boyfriend and the father of my twins not only a Mama’s boy, but also a Dada’s boy as well. I will describe the parents as the biggest losers I’ve ever known.They didn’t gain anything in life, no assets, the family members don’t like them, but they raised their children , unfortunately, my boyfriend, and his sister making them believe that they owe them everything just because they fed them till 18 yo. Every step he makes, he calls his parents, sometimes even before telling me. They didn’t succeed in life in anything. That’s why I don’t understand what good advice they can give him. Also, things started going for my boyfriend only after we started dating. It feels like he took all my luck, but for me it changed in an opposite way. I let the parents know that I don’t like them and I don’t talk to them at all, there were many reasons for that. They also always asking for money my boyfriend and their daughter who is a single mother and struggling herself, both are struggling. I’ve been talking to him and letting him know that it bothers me. It got a little better, but not really. He doesn’t talk to them in front of me anymore, but he always talks to me with their words and conversations. I know they tell him certain things and he repeats them to me. When we went on vacation to Bali he called his parents every 5 minutes and the mom was mad as f*ck that he took me there, but not her. And you could see he felt guilty. It was a red flag that I didn’t pay attention at. Before him my boyfriends didn’t have parents, I guess I was lucky in the way, and didn’t have experience like this. I am done with that people. It’s energy draining. I give up. On top of all of this I believe he is a bipolar. One moment happy like crazy, another moment just suddenly mad for no reason and doesn’t say why. It’s a crazy roller coaster. He was driving me crazy for 5 years and I am done now.
When I was a child I spoke as a child I acted like a child, when I became a man I put away childish things and acted mature. 💜💛🇺🇸💪🏾🙏🏾 the old me is gone. I still have flaws. I’m making progress daily and stay true to my self. 💯💪🏾 I agree ☝️ treat a young lady like a queen ✅
His mother killed our daughter she wouldn’t let me call 911 and she was having a seizure she told me I was aggravating her because I was praying too loud and she tried to take my grandkids from me at that time she was 83 years old these folks are devils
me too and he kept saying if she asked me to die for her i will and i had doubts if she asked you to divorce me after we get married will do this and he said yes and we have been together for two years and his mom keeps giving him excuses why he can't marry me and got him a new girl when she saw him depressed and lonley and never thought of me as a bride even though she knows i love him and he keeps asking her permission to marry me since we met i hope he get hurt the same he hurt me i never will forgive him or his mother
If you happen to stay in long enough and have sons (her grandsons) she will live to belittle you as a mother, and she will set examples of herself and convince her son that you were a bad choice of a wife and now mother of his kids. She will never truly sleep because she will be watching you to be witness of any little flaw or mistake you have.
"If you can't handle my mom at her worst, then you don't deserve me at my best" But his mom is always at her worst and he is always not doing his best.
Came across this video, but I was dealing with this same situation. Just got out of this relationship due to his mother and how she treated me. It was very weird how she would act with him like he was her husband, but it was definitely a relief to get away from a mama's boy because it drained me mentally. Everything you shared in your video related to what I was going though. I really enjoyed your video !
I feel ur pain.. I thought I was trippin but see this is o so true.. coming from a mother of 3boys I’m nutin like this but now find myself wit a momma’s boy 😫
My boyfriends mum literaly burnt her face "by accident" just like a day before he had to fly over and visit me after over a year of not seeing each other due to covid regulations. So he did not come. I always thought it is between us two to overcome the physical distance and other challenges, but now I realize how much I underestimated the role of his mum. Feeling so helpless and angry realizing I will actually never win.
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy Means girls also love their father but none judges them but when a boy loves his mom everyone would call him mama's boy. So much hypocrisy omg.
Oh Lord, my ex had to ask his mama if it was ok for me to fly over during the end of covid to see him. And when I did he spent most of his time with her while I sat in his apartment alone. Never again!
This man tried to have me running errands with her and driving her around while he sleeps 🤦🏾♀️ I shut that shit down. He lives with her. Im just so over it. I tried to overlook it but what he just did tonight pissed me off so bad.
My last two exes were mamas boys 🙄 the first one-we were in love and talked about our futures together all of the time until she convinced him he was a “lone wolf” that would be a terrible father and husband. The second one was more obvious. I met his family on date 2. He called her by her first name instead of “mom” and they went to rock concerts and sky diving together. On Christmas she dressed really sexy while I was in a dorky Christmas sweater, she would see my car at his place and invite herself over, On Valentine’s Day he left me alone to go spend time with her and the kicker, the weekend after our breakup she took him to another rock concert. She really liked me though, because I’m shy of course. Both of these guys said they saw themselves marrying me and then suddenly turned heel...suspiciously quick after things started getting more serious 🧐
He WAS divorced, came back to mama after. PART of his excuse of staying there: she’s told she’s gonna develop Parkinson’s Within 10 yrs. he said to me “I’ve promised I’ll support her!”
My mom tried and I decided to become a drag queen to piss her OFF. So we don't speak anymore. My brother is a submissive 60 year old man acting like a momma's boy.
Yea she loves u now bc she’s makin it like she’s pleasin him.. until u are not doin what she wants u to do or put him in awkward situations to choose between u or her 😫
The crazy thing is his dad was in his life, but his dad worked a lot when he was a child so he was never really home and guess what his mom was a stay at home mom literally almost his whole life 😐
Found this to be so true. I suspected this to be my situation only after marriage but only confirmed recently when his father passed away. I feel it's something I misjudged and allowed to a certain extent but not something I will not keep up with.
It went from all three of us getting along, him being in love with me to him talking about me to his mom to her hating me and ignoring me to now all true colors are out even with him walking around the house in his boxers to her being naked under her night gown, awake all night _them two.
I believe this is my situation and now im pregnant and its definitely not a fun experience its like she's his queen and im just something off the streets. We've been together for 2yrs. I can definitely tell she doesn't like me. But im just gonna keep praying for us because im getting tired, and the way he cuts our time for her and does everything for her is weird but at least it's not someone else ig. But i have to let God work this out.
I think im married to a mommas boy 😭 i had a huge argument yesterday because my MIL came over to pick up his dirty laudry, took it to her house to wash & fold it, then drove back to drop it off. When we have a washing machine at our house.. i really felt disrespected & like my role as his wife has stomped on & overlooked. I had to get out of the house because i felt like crying. I went to go park at my nearest Target parking lot & after i tried to process my emotions i texted him & i expressed my feeling to him & he just left me on read.. i dont know what to do
Sounds like my Mil when I first met my husband he lived with his mum and she did everything for him including making docs appointments doing his budget cooking and cleaning, we are split and guess where he’s back living yep with his mummy
I must say, having lived through this with a husband who was extremely enmeshed with his narcissistic mother, this video is absolutely thoroughly explained and covers everything possible that occurs in these situations. Excellent content ❤
My story tops the 🎂; I have 3 sons with a mommas boy. So technically speaking, I have 4 sons 😫 I truely didn't see the signs from the beginning. When we first got together he would ask me to help feed her household ( being a nice person i didnt mind ), or in some cases she would be in the background on phone calls asking my bf if I had money or anything to spare. He would act like he had an attitude about it , but never set boundaries. When I started to notice , I started putting my foot down and she never liked me since. Their relationship is weird because if me and him argues, he tells her. She babysits his ex ex girlfriends (the girlfriend before his ex ) kids until this day & it's rare I get a babysit for my children ( aka her grandchildren) he says nothing about it to her although he knows it is extremely disrespectful to me. Whenever me and her talk, she'll purposely be sarcastic starting all of her sentences with " hope you don't get bent out of shape ". As an adult I think that if u start a sentence like that, whatever follows might not be something nice just over her and him
I’m so glad I have the knowledge to spot a ‘mamma boy” right away so I don’t get trapped in a relationship with one. The last mom like me I didn’t care and I interviewed her and had to go. The next one I blocked him from my cell phone and he upset I’m not giving him and he doesn’t know what to do.
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy it’s insanity! I can write a book on dating mamma boys. I need to find a therapist on why I keep attracting those parasites.
I think I have a mommas boy 😔. He can’t see how she manipulates him & her narcissism. She gets angry at him everytime he doesn’t have money to give her for a bill. & then she blames me for his decisions. He doesn’t even know how much any of the bills are or the even the mortgage for the house like you have the right to know this cuz you coming up out the pocket right? I’ve been staying with them for 8 months now & I haven’t been able to do anything for myself because she’s taking money out of me every month. 250$ to be exact that’s more than half of my check. (We’re 20 btw) & the messed up part about it is.. they KNOW why I had to live with them so instead of giving me time to accumulate she decided me staying there should benefit her.
It can happen too in households where the husband even if he is providing he's not tuning into the emotional needs of his wife she turns her son into her husband. Happened with my MIL
What about if the man is a Godmothers boy? He is in his 30’s and has lived with his godmother on and off for over a decade and she coddles him more then his actual mother. Is that more strange?
I remember when I was having a conversation with this "man" and I had said something that hurts his feelings, he went like "I'm gonna tell my mom...." 😥😂
I’m dating a 31 year old who’s living with his mother. He has a great career… I asked him to move out and she said “she can’t understand why he needs to move back out.” She invites herself on our dates. They travel together.
This one SEEMS stable, smart, good job, but the things that he goes home for: to babysit the cat when Mom and her bf go on vacation. It won’t be just feed morning and night, staying home WITH the cat 24/7 til she returns. I don’t see this relationship developing anywhere. He’s too attached to living@ home. My offer of living together is now off the table! He’s a great guy but,.........am I wasting my time? I’m NOT young lmao 😂
YES. Please drop him. Stopping by to check on the cat is one thing but staying with it like it's a baby is creepy. My guess is he used the cat as an excuse for his attachment to home. Or he is overprotective of the cat because he is actually desperate for his mom's approval.
Is it even worth it to give him a chance? I mean I’m so confused but it seems that I’m not even giving him the opportunity to cut the umbilical cord cord
To be honest I married a mamas boy and his mom launched a campaign before I got to know them well. She picked even our own house. Divorced that one and Lo and behold dated another one. He lives away from his mom but said if we marry he wants to move his mom in. We ended things now because I asked him why as the last born kid out of 6 children he is the ONLY one who wants to do for her and it’s not an equal share??? She has daughters usually daughters care for their moms but I feel like God showed me I would suffer there. Plus he was just too angry. To comfortable watching me suffer and very jealous.
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I’m about to exit a long term relationship with a mommas boy as I write this. His mother has no friends, a man she lives with full time, a bad attitude and is very aggressive towards me. Her son doesn’t see the way I am treated as disrespectful and he chooses to make excuses for her instead of setting boundaries. So I said buh BYE I want a relationship with 1 person not 2.
Mine never wanted to move out from his mummy’s to live with me instead and he keeps running back to his mothers with every disagreement and staying there
I dated a moms boy and she said to me “ he can’t date no one I’m not close with “ yea definitely had to leave that, I’m dating your son not you, not saying a bond can’t be created but no it’s hard , mother in laws always want to feel top tier to ANY WOMAN!
@@pratishdhiman4332 I don’t think it’s the bond it’s really the boundaries, I believe if boundaries are set an respectful on both ends than there shouldn’t be any issues.
My ex-bf was exactly like this. His father was never around so my ex was the only child and in the husband role. he was always telling me 'my mother is my priority and my number one, You can't compete with her.' But she was the one who tries to compete wtf.. I was always feeling like a thirdweel. And oneday she starts to hate me and he said 'my mom doesnt want you' and i apologised from her for nothing! now, we broke up, she won BUT actually by cutting the mama's boy im the one who win..
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I want to know because im a widow and i have dated other men who don't want to be a father figure... My dad doesn't care about my son nor my brothers my family sucks
My situation with my new Beau. I've dated this type before... but they were able to let go of the mama. With this one, I don't think he's very open to it... as the mom has advised him to be the man of the house bc his father passed away when he was 21. He talks about marriage and all of us living together... Im not with it. She's very dominant. I think I'm gonna ask him what his priorities are... I didn't come all this way in my life to live with someone's momma. She's amazing but Nope. I want a husband. Boundaries will be placed soon my love.... and this will be non-negotiable. I lived thru that before and it only separated my previous relationship.
There are no dangers. She already knows how to deeply admire a man and sit in her feminine energy. You just need to be a devoted partner to a daddies girl.
A good woman will raise her son to be a good husband to another woman. A narcissistic woman will raise her son to only serve herself. And when another woman is part of his life all hell breaks loose.
Wonderful observation
had been thinking exaclty this. well put. :)
completely agree. women like that, get jealous when their son find women that they want to be happy with . They know how to use diplomatic ways to always succeed poisoning their sons and separating them from the one they love
@@onetimedream Means like girls also love their father but we don't judge them but when a boy loves his mother why everyone calls him Mam's boy
@@pratishdhiman4332 it's easier for a woman to break away from the father than the son from the mother
9 months pregnant with one and didn’t know it until it was too late! She tells me if she wasn’t his mom she’d date him better than any of his past girlfriends have. Weird af. Like what?
Oh my goodness 🙄. Sending you love ❤️
Wtf is wrong with that woman my god
Omg I’m the same boat just had the baby and it got worst
They are so possessive! Jealous moms! Do yourself a favor and MOVE FAR AWAY! Dealing with one and may have to leave the relationship 😭 Set boundaries and protect your peace.
Wtf…
Most traumatizing thing ever to date a mamas boy. Wished I was joking. Ladies that’s the first red flag ever. Let this be your warning…don’t date a mamas boy please.
A Mama's boy sounds like a son-husband which often happens when the mother is a narcissist. She could even have a real husband and a son-husband.
I like that yes!!
This is legit my fiances mother. No fn joke
@@kbleo90 Oh no! I would be very careful! You don't want to be involved with a narcissistic mother in law or a mama's boy if you fiance is one because in the end it wouldn't be worth it honestly. Just my opinion.
Means like girls also love their father but we don't judge them but when a boy loves his mother why everyone calls him Mam's boy
How do you know when your dealing with a narcissistic mother n law? What are the signs? I feel I’m drifting toward this predicament but I’m unsure, I could be a little dramatic. I’ll give you one example: I recall my fiancé and I sitting at a table discussing him departing from the army because he was so depressed…she sat right there and said I raised my kids better than this and where you gone go? I told her if it isn’t something he’s passionate about he should get out and she was so upset. She’s the reason he even joined
Worst thing about dating a Mama's Boy is that, not all the time your man would always be there for you. His mom will always be the decision maker in his entire life. Having a relationship like this is so hard that You can't just leave that man even if he's a mama's boy because you've fallen in love with him since then
I’m UNSURE 😐 to tell him the L word bc I know saying it won’t make us closer bc there’s “his apt” where he won’t stay too long away from where mama lives. Very attentive towards me. We have a great time but there’s that “wall”
WHEWWWWWWW 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 PREACH
Means like girls also love their father but we don't judge them but when a boy loves his mother why everyone calls him Mam's boy
@@pratishdhiman4332 Try taking up the role of a wife staying at in laws place putting up with 'Daddy' s lil girl'
Completely true... You cannot leave them easily if you fall in love with them and your life living with them will be hell.
Just ignore both of their relationship. Take yourself out of the situation and let them have at it.
😂😂😂
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy nothing wrong setting healthy boundaries 😆
Amen 😂
I blocked a guy and his mom came into MY JOB to “talk to me” and tell me how I was in the wrong. He was getting too clingy way too quickly and it gave major red flags because we’d only been on 2 dates. I politely told her this is where I work and that I cannot answer her at this time. I was shaking I was so terrified. Watch out ladies.
😳😂🤣 not all momma's are like that some of them would stay out of their son relationships. I wouldn't want my mom to do that I'd feel so cringe
Lol!!!!!!
Imagine when you find out after you’re filing for divorce, they had a bank account together during your entire marriage
Oh my goodness 🤦🏽♀️
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy 😂🤣
That’s f*cked up
Oh wow! 😮
This video was spot on! I was unknowingly involved with a Mamas boy. It took me awhile to figure out what the problem was and YES I was the other woman. His mother was the main lady in his life and they lived together. He was 45 years old and had no desire to move out and detach from his mama. I eventually realized it was a dead end and that our relationship could not grow because he was already emotionally involved and attached to his Mom. The only solution was for me to let him go and move on.
Well done for moving forward ❤️💕
I'm living this right now. I am married to a mama's boy and this is my life right here!! I have said countless times that I'm tired of being a sister wife and i've finally done something about.
I feel you. I thought I was alone.
This is my issue. I’m so ready to walk away from my marriage. His mom wins because I’m tired of fighting
Same here . When I met my boyfriend’s mom she said to me , we’re going to share him . He also lived with his mom , he makes 6 figures and has been living home since his divorce 10yrs ago . His mom told me that her son was going to be with me til the Lord calls her home and he pays her bills , she’s an able body working woman in her 60’s. I got out tht mess immediately.
I just got through 4 years with a mama boy. It was so unfair and sad. And weird! He even choose her over his kids. Ugh.
Oh my goodness 💆🏽♀️
You have kids? I bet he even shared with her all intimate details 😂🤣
I feel you, girl. I feel like he would choose his mama over his kids as well.
It’s coming to the end for us.
Just a thought of me never talking about his mama and thinking about her, makes me believe that it’s the best decision.
@@aylara84 they will learn when they pass away!!
my cousin married a mama's boy and it is pure hell for her. The mom tried to physically abuse her because my cousin wasn't a doormat like she wanted her to be.
Gosh that’s for real 🤦🏽♀️
Speechiegirl1 I agree where are you from
@barry congratulations marrying your Mummy i give my regards to the happy couple
Hey how are you @speechiegirl1
I saw the red flags the moment I met her. I could see right through the fake nice right away
I’m going thru the same crap
I used to think it was sweet, until I realized how attached he was .. he calls him mom constantly and has her very involved in his decisions, and I never saw anything wrong with it, because I’m also very close to my mom, too.. but we were on a couple’s vacation recently and he called his mother several times a day, which is pretty normal for him, so I didn’t question it.. but when I really reflect on it, he did it at inappropriate times, like when we were spending quality time together.. when i really wanted him to be present in the moment.. and I understand he wants to involve her in things, but it felt like I was competing for his attention.. I really did start to feel like the other woman subconsciously.. and his mom is super sweet and never made me feel left out, but I’m definitely coming to realize how unhealthy those boundaries are.. we broke up during that trip.. because we kept fighting.. the underlying issue was that I was feeling insecure and neglected, and at the time I couldn’t figure out why.. I’m starting to put the pieces together ... absolutely mind blowing .. thank you for this video ...
img it seems so familiar with me.....
my ex invited his mother to our romantic getaway in hawaii, i had to spend a week with her while she's in her bikinis. i felt constantly that she was somehow "seducing" him and comparing me to her. so gross i ran away fast
That's the same for me but even worse the mom is toxic and disrespectful to everyone.
I’m going through this with my boyfriend and I’m honestly just ready to leave but I love him and he’s a good man so is so unfortunate.
Did you guys ever get back together or did he continue to pursue you afterwards?
I just left a mama's boy he's 38 and he can't make decisions. He wants me for a serious relationship but he doesn't know when he wants to settle down.
Oh my GOD YOU HAVE NAILED THIS ON THE HEAD!! I’m currently in the process of leaving and getting away from this!! Every single thing u said u nailed on the head! I can’t even point certain things out because EVERYTHING IS SO TRUE WHAT UR SAYING! And he proposed to me but I can not wait to be away from him and have her out of my life. He has made small changes but fell right back into those ways and I am tired of feeling crazy and being unhappy and I’m running! Now he has set an example for me and showed me what to look out for!
❤️❤️❤️
When my husband proposed to me his mom would literally tell me “youre stealing my son…” and hug him tight infront of me. Severalllll times. I hope you got away girl 🥲
I just broke off my traditional engagement with a man. How did it work out for you?
My God I went thru it .thank God I walked. It's not been 1month and 3weeks.
@@janetwairagu4462 proud of you ❤
The hardest part of dating a mamas boy for me is that i feel i will always come second to her. He has been mentioning getting married and having a baby, which is what i want more than anything in the world. But so far i don't feel that i come first which makes me wonder if i should marry someone who won't put my feelings before his mothers and whenever i want to spend time together alone, he will constantly invite her out with us.
Update? I’m going through the same thing and we are at the same point of talking about marriage but I’m always second. Were your able to get him to understand
She liked me at first. Pushed for us to even date. Now she hates me and pushes for him to leave me.
In a mommas boy case, if your not good enough for the mother you will not be good enough for her son, i know its pretty rough but the only thing you can do is leave him or stay and put up with the stress, pain, aggravation, disrespect, etc i pray for whoever is going thru this God Bless you 💜🙏🏽🙌🏾
Iam glad I left that mess
he is enjoyimg his mama now
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Lmao 🤣 right
Means like girls also love their father but we don't judge them but when a boy loves his mother why everyone calls him Mam's boy
My boyfriend and the father of my twins not only a Mama’s boy, but also a Dada’s boy as well.
I will describe the parents as the biggest losers I’ve ever known.They didn’t gain anything in life, no assets, the family members don’t like them, but they raised their children , unfortunately, my boyfriend, and his sister making them believe that they owe them everything just because they fed them till 18 yo. Every step he makes, he calls his parents, sometimes even before telling me. They didn’t succeed in life in anything. That’s why I don’t understand what good advice they can give him. Also, things started going for my boyfriend only after we started dating. It feels like he took all my luck, but for me it changed in an opposite way.
I let the parents know that I don’t like them and I don’t talk to them at all, there were many reasons for that. They also always asking for money my boyfriend and their daughter who is a single mother and struggling herself, both are struggling.
I’ve been talking to him and letting him know that it bothers me. It got a little better, but not really. He doesn’t talk to them in front of me anymore, but he always talks to me with their words and conversations. I know they tell him certain things and he repeats them to me.
When we went on vacation to Bali he called his parents every 5 minutes and the mom was mad as f*ck that he took me there, but not her. And you could see he felt guilty. It was a red flag that I didn’t pay attention at.
Before him my boyfriends didn’t have parents, I guess I was lucky in the way, and didn’t have experience like this.
I am done with that people.
It’s energy draining. I give up.
On top of all of this I believe he is a bipolar. One moment happy like crazy, another moment just suddenly mad for no reason and doesn’t say why. It’s a crazy roller coaster. He was driving me crazy for 5 years and I am done now.
When I was a child I spoke as a child I acted like a child, when I became a man I put away childish things and acted mature. 💜💛🇺🇸💪🏾🙏🏾 the old me is gone. I still have flaws. I’m making progress daily and stay true to my self. 💯💪🏾 I agree ☝️ treat a young lady like a queen ✅
How are you doing?!
Now that's a King!
Yessss. Run! Run! Run! It's never too late to reclaim own life
I was competing for his love against mom
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His mother killed our daughter she wouldn’t let me call 911 and she was having a seizure she told me I was aggravating her because I was praying too loud and she tried to take my grandkids from me at that time she was 83 years old these folks are devils
me too and he kept saying if she asked me to die for her i will and i had doubts if she asked you to divorce me after we get married will do this and he said yes and we have been together for two years and his mom keeps giving him excuses why he can't marry me and got him a new girl when she saw him depressed and lonley and never thought of me as a bride even though she knows i love him and he keeps asking her permission to marry me since we met i hope he get hurt the same he hurt me i never will forgive him or his mother
Means like girls also love their father but we don't judge them but when a boy loves his mother why everyone calls him Mam's boy
I thought you women love a challenge 😂
If you happen to stay in long enough and have sons (her grandsons) she will live to belittle you as a mother, and she will set examples of herself and convince her son that you were a bad choice of a wife and now mother of his kids. She will never truly sleep because she will be watching you to be witness of any little flaw or mistake you have.
Sounds true and awful
"If you can't handle my mom at her worst, then you don't deserve me at my best"
But his mom is always at her worst and he is always not doing his best.
Damn. That shit is so funny because it’s so true!
This is true!!! 😂
@@TheOfficialPrettyPrincessright??? Mom never remarried. He loses jobs like crazy and it’s true broke men are angry. 😢
Came across this video, but I was dealing with this same situation. Just got out of this relationship due to his mother and how she treated me. It was very weird how she would act with him like he was her husband, but it was definitely a relief to get away from a mama's boy because it drained me mentally. Everything you shared in your video related to what I was going though. I really enjoyed your video !
Well said. I totally agree these relationships are emotionally draining.
This behavior is very common in African men.
My husband calls his mom 'honey' and 'cutie pie'. Is it just me or does anyone else find that strange?
It depends how old she is. If she is 95 it’s cute but anything less it’s strange
No it's not normal. My ex called her 'sweetheart' and that was her name on his phone. Everyone thought that was his girlfriend whenever the phone rang
Listening to this has my jaw open the whole time it is exactly what I am going threw omg 😳 I can’t
I feel ur pain.. I thought I was trippin but see this is o so true.. coming from a mother of 3boys I’m nutin like this but now find myself wit a momma’s boy 😫
My boyfriends mum literaly burnt her face "by accident" just like a day before he had to fly over and visit me after over a year of not seeing each other due to covid regulations. So he did not come. I always thought it is between us two to overcome the physical distance and other challenges, but now I realize how much I underestimated the role of his mum. Feeling so helpless and angry realizing I will actually never win.
It’s a tough one and walking away is often best. Mama’s boys are painful to love
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy Means girls also love their father but none judges them but when a boy loves his mom everyone would call him mama's boy. So much hypocrisy omg.
Oh Lord, my ex had to ask his mama if it was ok for me to fly over during the end of covid to see him. And when I did he spent most of his time with her while I sat in his apartment alone. Never again!
This man tried to have me running errands with her and driving her around while he sleeps 🤦🏾♀️ I shut that shit down. He lives with her. Im just so over it. I tried to overlook it but what he just did tonight pissed me off so bad.
Why you didn’t want to run errands with her? That’s bonding time.🥺🥺
This was so painfully accurate. I wish I had seen this earlier.
Thanks god I can control my mother when she tries to manipulate me
My last two exes were mamas boys 🙄 the first one-we were in love and talked about our futures together all of the time until she convinced him he was a “lone wolf” that would be a terrible father and husband.
The second one was more obvious. I met his family on date 2. He called her by her first name instead of “mom” and they went to rock concerts and sky diving together. On Christmas she dressed really sexy while I was in a dorky Christmas sweater, she would see my car at his place and invite herself over, On Valentine’s Day he left me alone to go spend time with her and the kicker, the weekend after our breakup she took him to another rock concert. She really liked me though, because I’m shy of course.
Both of these guys said they saw themselves marrying me and then suddenly turned heel...suspiciously quick after things started getting more serious 🧐
Means like girls also love their father but we don't judge them but when a boy loves his mother why everyone calls him Mam's boy
Maybe crazy mothers behind closed doors threating their son's or something 😂
He WAS divorced, came back to mama after. PART of his excuse of staying there: she’s told she’s gonna develop Parkinson’s Within 10 yrs. he said to me “I’ve promised I’ll support her!”
love this! this situation is soooo difficult. it is NOT competition
My bfs mom LITERALLY told me that they have a Bobbi and Whitney type of relationship .... like whaaat 🙃💀💀
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What's that
😂😂😂
Hectic. These are the type of "men" that fall apart once the mom passes away. What now??????
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So don't even hope in the direction you maybe thinking ,it still won't help🤣🤣🤣
@@Barr.JoyO. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm curious 🤷🏽♀️
Means like girls also love their father but we don't judge them but when a boy loves his mother why everyone calls him Mam's boy
@@pratishdhiman4332 Daddy's girls are tougher than mamas' boy though
My mom tried and I decided to become a drag queen to piss her OFF. So we don't speak anymore. My brother is a submissive 60 year old man acting like a momma's boy.
Hahaha!
You’re a queen!!!!
😂😂😂😂
Omg I think I’m dating a mommas boy. She loves me tho at least that’s what he says.
Oh dear. It helps if she is fan but you will need to fall in line 😉
Yea she loves u now bc she’s makin it like she’s pleasin him.. until u are not doin what she wants u to do or put him in awkward situations to choose between u or her 😫
The crazy thing is his dad was in his life, but his dad worked a lot when he was a child so he was never really home and guess what his mom was a stay at home mom literally almost his whole life 😐
Basically don’t date a mommas boy
Yep!😂
❤💞💖Chingy you've outdone yourself with this one!!! OMG- GREAT ACCURATE Information. Love It Sis & Thank You for this topic!!!
Found this to be so true. I suspected this to be my situation only after marriage but only confirmed recently when his father passed away. I feel it's something I misjudged and allowed to a certain extent but not something I will not keep up with.
Just got my life back from this nightmare!!!
The worst!
It went from all three of us getting along, him being in love with me to him talking about me to his mom to her hating me and ignoring me to now all true colors are out even with him walking around the house in his boxers to her being naked under her night gown, awake all night _them two.
Oh my goodness! 🤗🌸
I believe this is my situation and now im pregnant and its definitely not a fun experience its like she's his queen and im just something off the streets. We've been together for 2yrs. I can definitely tell she doesn't like me. But im just gonna keep praying for us because im getting tired, and the way he cuts our time for her and does everything for her is weird but at least it's not someone else ig. But i have to let God work this out.
So sorry to hear it 🤗🌸
Yeah. Competing with mom's near to impossible 😂
Thank you for your advice. I ran away from my African ex-husband.
I grew up in Kenya and I have seen mother's boys so much that I have too many stories to tell.
Oh dear 😅
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy I even had one guy tell me his Mum washes his clothes at age 30.
@@veronicambiyu5359 what's wrong with that. I had nephew visit for 3 years he's 20 I washed he's clothes
I think im married to a mommas boy 😭 i had a huge argument yesterday because my MIL came over to pick up his dirty laudry, took it to her house to wash & fold it, then drove back to drop it off. When we have a washing machine at our house.. i really felt disrespected & like my role as his wife has stomped on & overlooked. I had to get out of the house because i felt like crying. I went to go park at my nearest Target parking lot & after i tried to process my emotions i texted him & i expressed my feeling to him & he just left me on read.. i dont know what to do
Sounds like my Mil when I first met my husband he lived with his mum and she did everything for him including making docs appointments doing his budget cooking and cleaning, we are split and guess where he’s back living yep with his mummy
IF HIS MAMA STILL CLAIM HIM ON HER TAXES......
CHILE HUNNY MOVE ON REAL FASTTT 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I must say, having lived through this with a husband who was extremely enmeshed with his narcissistic mother, this video is absolutely thoroughly explained and covers everything possible that occurs in these situations.
Excellent content ❤
Thanks for sharing!❤️❤️❤️
You're so pretty. I love your look. 💜
Thank you 💕
My story tops the 🎂; I have 3 sons with a mommas boy. So technically speaking, I have 4 sons 😫 I truely didn't see the signs from the beginning. When we first got together he would ask me to help feed her household ( being a nice person i didnt mind ), or in some cases she would be in the background on phone calls asking my bf if I had money or anything to spare. He would act like he had an attitude about it , but never set boundaries. When I started to notice , I started putting my foot down and she never liked me since. Their relationship is weird because if me and him argues, he tells her. She babysits his ex ex girlfriends (the girlfriend before his ex ) kids until this day & it's rare I get a babysit for my children ( aka her grandchildren) he says nothing about it to her although he knows it is extremely disrespectful to me. Whenever me and her talk, she'll purposely be sarcastic starting all of her sentences with " hope you don't get bent out of shape ". As an adult I think that if u start a sentence like that, whatever follows might not be something nice just over her and him
This sounds absolutely terrible! I’m so sorry to hear this. Just sounds like he is an immature man who is incapable of setting healthy boundaries.
I’m so glad I have the knowledge to spot a ‘mamma boy” right away so I don’t get trapped in a relationship with one. The last mom like me I didn’t care and I interviewed her and had to go. The next one I blocked him from my cell phone and he upset I’m not giving him and he doesn’t know what to do.
It’s a rough ride with a mamas boy😫
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy it’s insanity! I can write a book on dating mamma boys. I need to find a therapist on why I keep attracting those parasites.
I think I have a mommas boy 😔. He can’t see how she manipulates him & her narcissism. She gets angry at him everytime he doesn’t have money to give her for a bill. & then she blames me for his decisions. He doesn’t even know how much any of the bills are or the even the mortgage for the house like you have the right to know this cuz you coming up out the pocket right? I’ve been staying with them for 8 months now & I haven’t been able to do anything for myself because she’s taking money out of me every month. 250$ to be exact that’s more than half of my check. (We’re 20 btw) & the messed up part about it is.. they KNOW why I had to live with them so instead of giving me time to accumulate she decided me staying there should benefit her.
This is SO eye-opening ........... wow..
It can happen too in households where the husband even if he is providing he's not tuning into the emotional needs of his wife she turns her son into her husband. Happened with my MIL
Amen Queen! Everything you said is true darling ❤️
What about if the man is a Godmothers boy? He is in his 30’s and has lived with his godmother on and off for over a decade and she coddles him more then his actual mother. Is that more strange?
Equally
Can never marry a mamas boy. They’re cute to date though ☺️
I remember when I was having a conversation with this "man" and I had said something that hurts his feelings, he went like "I'm gonna tell my mom...." 😥😂
Your energy is radiant ✨ beautiful queen
It’s truly unfortunate, mothers usually will out live their sons. So it’s a serious problem that will never get better.
This scares me
It’s a pill for sure
Amen beautiful Queen. I agree with this video.
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Do you have a video that tells the difference between a mama's boy and a man who is good to his mom?
No but will create one 🤗
You have such a sweet voice. Amazing video!
Thank you 🙏🏾
Thank you for this. Really! This video is everything 🙌🏻
Ty having this issue!!!😣😣
Is thier a difference between a Mamas boy and a guy that loves his mom. Is the only didference that he doesn't live with his mom.
A man that loves his mum has a mind of his own. Makes decisions with his woman without running them by mum.
9:19 could be the only reason, most of these toxic moms let their son to be with a girl..☠️
Very good video. So on point 🙌👍
Yes Run Run
Make absolute sense! Thanks!
Then they drop my mom cooks better than you
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@@blackswanrelationshipacademy 😠
I’m dating a 31 year old who’s living with his mother. He has a great career… I asked him to move out and she said “she can’t understand why he needs to move back out.” She invites herself on our dates. They travel together.
This is incredibly unhealthy
This is SO CREEPY and too real
This one SEEMS stable, smart, good job, but the things that he goes home for: to babysit the cat when Mom and her bf go on vacation. It won’t be just feed morning and night, staying home WITH the cat 24/7 til she returns. I don’t see this relationship developing anywhere. He’s too attached to living@ home. My offer of living together is now off the table! He’s a great guy but,.........am I wasting my time? I’m NOT young lmao 😂
YES. Please drop him. Stopping by to check on the cat is one thing but staying with it like it's a baby is creepy. My guess is he used the cat as an excuse for his attachment to home. Or he is overprotective of the cat because he is actually desperate for his mom's approval.
I remember how she didn't smile at me when I walked past her in rooms
Thank you for this giving insight 💯❤️
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I see what you mean I think my mom is narcissist that she doesn't have it her way but I try to ignore it and not get to me
Is it even worth it to give him a chance? I mean I’m so confused but it seems that I’m not even giving him the opportunity to cut the umbilical cord cord
To be honest I married a mamas boy and his mom launched a campaign before I got to know them well. She picked even our own house. Divorced that one and Lo and behold dated another one. He lives away from his mom but said if we marry he wants to move his mom in. We ended things now because I asked him why as the last born kid out of 6 children he is the ONLY one who wants to do for her and it’s not an equal share??? She has daughters usually daughters care for their moms but I feel like God showed me I would suffer there. Plus he was just too angry. To comfortable watching me suffer and very jealous.
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what if a comment is made about the shoes size? thought it was weirdddd
I’m about to exit a long term relationship with a mommas boy as I write this. His mother has no friends, a man she lives with full time, a bad attitude and is very aggressive towards me. Her son doesn’t see the way I am treated as disrespectful and he chooses to make excuses for her instead of setting boundaries. So I said buh BYE I want a relationship with 1 person not 2.
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Learned a lot. Thank you.
Mine never wanted to move out from his mummy’s to live with me instead and he keeps running back to his mothers with every disagreement and staying there
Oh dear 😅
I dated a moms boy and she said to me “ he can’t date no one I’m not close with “ yea definitely had to leave that, I’m dating your son not you, not saying a bond can’t be created but no it’s hard , mother in laws always want to feel top tier to ANY WOMAN!
Good move!❤️
@Star Monroe Means like girls also love their father but we don't judge them but when a boy loves his mother why everyone calls him Mam's boy
Sounds like a mom's problem not a guy you were with poor dude
@@pratishdhiman4332 I don’t think it’s the bond it’s really the boundaries, I believe if boundaries are set an respectful on both ends than there shouldn’t be any issues.
My ex-bf was exactly like this. His father was never around so my ex was the only child and in the husband role. he was always telling me 'my mother is my priority and my number one, You can't compete with her.' But she was the one who tries to compete wtf.. I was always feeling like a thirdweel.
And oneday she starts to hate me and he said 'my mom doesnt want you' and i apologised from her for nothing!
now, we broke up, she won BUT actually by cutting the mama's boy im the one who win..
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Thank you for your advice!
I did dating a mama`s boy and i dum him !
Thank you for this video... put alot in perspective for me again.
💔 so painful
This is mad especially with Caribbean and African Men
What about sons of widows ?
Makes no difference
I want to know because im a widow and i have dated other men who don't want to be a father figure... My dad doesn't care about my son nor my brothers my family sucks
Its is awful. he tells her everything no privacy. No ONE step without her approval. I thought it's nice till i went through it
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My situation with my new Beau. I've dated this type before... but they were able to let go of the mama. With this one, I don't think he's very open to it... as the mom has advised him to be the man of the house bc his father passed away when he was 21. He talks about marriage and all of us living together... Im not with it. She's very dominant. I think I'm gonna ask him what his priorities are... I didn't come all this way in my life to live with someone's momma. She's amazing but Nope. I want a husband. Boundaries will be placed soon my love.... and this will be non-negotiable. I lived thru that before and it only separated my previous relationship.
What’s the dangers of dating a daddy’s girl? And what if your mom is deceased? How can you be a mommas boy then?
There are no dangers. She already knows how to deeply admire a man and sit in her feminine energy. You just need to be a devoted partner to a daddies girl.
Suggestion...BE a mamas girl!!!