I forget how I came across your videos now that I have watched your series, but you have helped me really break thru my understanding of boundaries. Boundaries are a major life lesson for me. I am trying to do better but until this point in my life have only lived on both of the polar opposites and little of the in between. I sit in boundariless too long, then when it’s too much I swing to boundarifull. Boundaries are something I’ve looked into before, tried to educate myself on, however it is rarely talked about how boundaries are also meant to protect others from ourselves and not solely to be protected from the outside world. This makes sense to me when I am one who battles my worthiness what feels like minute to minute sometimes. Not feeling like I am one who deserves to be treated well makes it difficult to set AND keep boundaries that would make me feel protected FROM others which is what a majority of the information out there talks of - boundaries to keep others from violating you. Tight now it is a lot less overwhelming for me to think about exercising boundaries that would serve to keep safe the ones I love. It enables me a place that I feel more confident to confidently start practicing SOME kind of boundaries, to just get the ball rolling. Exploding on others makes me feel like garbage, feeding the my unworthiness and harsh self critic. Of course external only mirrors the internal, but again a place for me to optimistically start and at very least a new starting point for me. I thank you from the bottom of my heart 💚
So helpful I find it confusing with self absorbed people that are unable to reflect back and make everything about themselves. If I step back they push and demand more connection. When I’ve explained how that feels and affects me they say that makes them feel bad rather than hearing me. So I find fear arises in my solar plexus because I don’t want to hurt them but also don’t want to stay in that dynamic. I know if they knew better they wouldn’t behave that way. I find I stop speaking because my brain is not sure what to do and I don’t want to harm For myself I’ve been doing some breathwork and self talk to comfort my solar plexus This is an old perplexing dynamic for me. I think I at times I am boundaryless and when in an abusive situation boundaryfull Hope that makes sense:) I’m now wondering if it’s boundaryless that I wrote this lol
I forget how I came across your videos now that I have watched your series, but you have helped me really break thru my understanding of boundaries. Boundaries are a major life lesson for me. I am trying to do better but until this point in my life have only lived on both of the polar opposites and little of the in between. I sit in boundariless too long, then when it’s too much I swing to boundarifull.
Boundaries are something I’ve looked into before, tried to educate myself on, however it is rarely talked about how boundaries are also meant to protect others from ourselves and not solely to be protected from the outside world. This makes sense to me when I am one who battles my worthiness what feels like minute to minute sometimes. Not feeling like I am one who deserves to be treated well makes it difficult to set AND keep boundaries that would make me feel protected FROM others which is what a majority of the information out there talks of - boundaries to keep others from violating you. Tight now it is a lot less overwhelming for me to think about exercising boundaries that would serve to keep safe the ones I love. It enables me a place that I feel more confident to confidently start practicing SOME kind of boundaries, to just get the ball rolling. Exploding on others makes me feel like garbage, feeding the my unworthiness and harsh self critic. Of course external only mirrors the internal, but again a place for me to optimistically start and at very least a new starting point for me. I thank you from the bottom of my heart 💚
Love this, thank you Heather! :)
So helpful
I find it confusing with self absorbed people that are unable to reflect back and make everything about themselves. If I step back they push and demand more connection. When I’ve explained how that feels and affects me they say that makes them feel bad rather than hearing me. So I find fear arises in my solar plexus because I don’t want to hurt them but also don’t want to stay in that dynamic. I know if they knew better they wouldn’t behave that way.
I find I stop speaking because my brain is not sure what to do and I don’t want to harm
For myself I’ve been doing some breathwork and self talk to comfort my solar plexus
This is an old perplexing dynamic for me.
I think I at times I am boundaryless and when in an abusive situation boundaryfull
Hope that makes sense:)
I’m now wondering if it’s boundaryless that I wrote this lol
thank you !