IMPORTANT PLEASE READ - Welcome to my 2020 All My Pets Video. It's a LONG video because today's video is 2 videos in 1. It starts off with All My Pets, and then there's a break and we go into life updates. I have taken the months I needed to process and protect myself, and I'm finally ready to start talking about what happened at the end of 2019 and early this year (why I disappeared, what happened to the other animals, etc..). I have added time stamps so you can navigate this video. Please feel free to ask questions, but understand that there is still a lot I cannot say because I have a long legal road ahead and I cannot jeopardize my case in my quest to getting free of my abuser and finding true safety. Please do not send abuse to my abuser. Nothing can be said or done to change what happened to me, but we can spread love instead and learn from my experiences. I love you all so much. Thank you for your patience with me this year while I got back on my feet and processed everything I went through. Life knocked me for six, but I am doing so well. I feel happy, healthy and surrounded by love and support. The Creature Crew are a huge part of this. Thank you. I love you. AND we're 700K strong!! YAAAS!
This went from me watching the cutest animals to a "heart crushing" story and I'm sorry that you had to go through this because you are without a doubt, such a grest person
@@Emzotic please don't apologize for telling your story. Everyone who watched it was given ample warning and chose to do so anyway. I can't speak for anyone else, but I know I watched it to support you. And also to tell you that I am one of three children of an abusive father and though it may take a while for the little ones to figure it out- they will all come to understand the reasons why you had to leave the way you did. Thank you for sharing, wishing you endless love and the best of everything...
It makes me anxious to think of how many stars had to align to get you out of that situation right before quarantine. So happy you had a friend looking out for you!!
@@moakristiansson5257 Honestly thats where my brain went the immediate second the "stay at home" orders were made. Mostly because I know I'd be screwed if this happened during my childhood.
@@flamingsalamander4974 Yes, definitely, men can be (and are) also victims of domestic violence. Sadly that's often forgotten, not taken seriously, and even mocked when they speak up and try to seek help. It breaks my heart how often it occurs and that a lot of men won't talk about it because of how they're treated. I commend you for sharing that it has happened to you.
Side note: the fact that she was able to go through her story and information on domestic violence without tearing up AND in chronological order that is put together just shows the amount of reflection and thought she went through. AND meanwhile giving advice on how to take care of animals while under stressful situations (showing how animals are just always a priority for her). And you can just tell she went from someone who has in denial into someone that is so informed of the signs of domestic violence and the terminology (ex. The stage of isolation, stone walling, gaslighting, etc). Regardless if anyone has faced domestic violence, this video is just so empowering as everyone can take and learn something from this. How we have been blessed with such an amazing person idk. Also bless Kait for being THAT friend that everyone needs.
My mom has been with my dad for 22 years and the entire time I was listening to your story I was nodding along because it was what he's done to her for my entire life. Today they hit breaking point and I sent her this video with the time stamp for your story and it finally helped her realize what my dad has been doing for years. She is financially stuck with him and things are hard but I wanted to thank you for being the wake-up call for her. I'd rather she know and understand what is being done to her and be able to prepare for the blowup than get blindsided. It is frightening how nice they can be to their children when they treat their spouse so poorly, and I say this as the child of a narcissist. I'm so happy you got out of there and are doing well. It gives me hope for my own mother and my siblings being okay if things go the way I fear. Love you Em, thank you for sharing such a vulnerable part of your life.
Em, I'm in a situation like that right now. I've been thinking if I stay here and help him get control, but you just made me realize I can't stay here. I'm miserable! I am going to get help. Thank you! 💖 I'm so sorry you went through this. I'm sending you love! You are so brave!!
I hope you did get the help because you cant help someone who is abusive. It takes a long time for them to change and they wont change when they have someone there they can abuse.
Be careful with posting. When you leave, you don't want the abuser to know. It causes more issues. I lucked out--mine realized I was not happy, and was starting to realize that I was going to leave. He kicked me out because I went to a funeral and may have gotten covid. He took the dog, and gave me the ashes of my cat that died a month before. I'm still fighting to get the paperwork done for the divorce, but I am in a much better place. It's painful and hard, but keep yourself safe. If they learn that you can leave, then they will try to sabotage you at every step.
That “i’m not afraid anymore” said with that smile, those strong glowing eyes, that bravery and empowerment... it gave me the chills. I am completely spechless right now
i watched it over a few times and cried each time because she is so empowered and strong and it just makes me so so so so happy for her and proud of her
"is anybody still here?.." we're all still here Em. we love you and you've helped a lot of us, we're here to help you too. we're an online family and we stick together. love you em❤️ 🐾
The part about Grinchy: Thank you so much for what you did and are doing for Grinchy. I was not aware of the plight of hornbills before you made your videos about him, and I'm so much better prepared to stand against the abusive practices of wild caught animal exporters. You did everything you could reasonably have done for him, and at great cost to yourself, both financially and psychologically, and on an ongoing basis. Not everyone has the strength to do that, but thank you for doing it anyway
@@Emzotic You did well! You did everything you could for him and gave him an amazing life. He was happy, cared for, and truly loved. The bond between a human and animal is what’s so beautiful and I know he was happy to be with you. You’re such an amazing person and I thrive to be as caring and strong as you are. You deserve so much happiness just as Grinchy did and received. Take care 👍
@@Emzotic your plan to scatter his ashes in Africa is fantastic; I'm confident it will bring you the closure you need and honor his life in the best way possible. On the 1 year anniversary of my first cat's death, I went on a road trip to scatter some of her ashes at each of the places where we had lived together. It was a long road trip, as we had travelled a lot together, but that trip really brought me out of the darkness. It was a great opportunity for me to relive my greatest memories of her, rather than being stuck in the moment of her passing. In the same way, I hope that you can go to Africa and experience the beauty and freedom that Grinchy experienced before his capture, and free yourself from the suffering you know he went through.
The bit about rehoming animals hit me really hard. When I was in an abusive relationship I was so scared because he would threaten my hamster and so I got a friend to find someone to take them in. He got so mad when he saw I had rehomed them. But I knew for sure then that they were safe. And I was finally able to get myself out without worrying that he would hurt them in retaliation. I'm so proud of you.
I have a special needs ferret and he was abused in his last home, he gets stressed and Sick very easily. I went 8 hours away (I’m 14) just to get him. I love him with all my heart ❤️
I knew as soon as you left what happened. He reminded me so much of my sons dad. I didn’t connect the dots until you said you moved without him. Without all those pets. It just broke my heart to hear grinchy died. I hope you continue to grow and heal. I’ve been out for 9 years and it’s still hard. I love your content. Thanks so much for sharing
yes. that thought process was something that narcissistic abuse kind of encourages as well and victims or narcissistic abuse are greatly empathetic. These kids would have had to deal with the instability either way. And staying longer would be well terrible for all partys.
I know I’m late to this video, but I hope you still see this, Em. As a fellow step-mom, that role is one of the most difficult and thankless jobs out there.... but it sounds to me that you took all the steps possible to take care of them despite the difficult decisions you had to take to take care of yourself. There are a lot of step-moms out there who totally understand what you went through and are still going through... please, if you ever want to vent anonymously to people who get what you’re going through, post on r/stepmoms on Reddit. We’re here for you ❤️
when you took a sip of your drink and shouted “that is disgusting!” in the middle of a serious conversation i just laughed at the comedic relief. life sure is a lot sometimes; thank you so much for sharing and cheers to happier times
Please don’t apologize to us. This is about YOU, and YOUR healing journey. You had enough courage to tell all of us, and you get to tell us as much or as little information as you wanted to. You need to process these emotions, and nobody has the right to hinder them or tell you otherwise.
You rescued Grinchy from a terrible fate of being stuck in a cage in an exotic bird store so at the very least, Grinchy's last years were much better and he knew he was being loved. It is sad there aren't enough animal rehabilitation for reintroduction into the wild these days. You did what you could, my condolences.
I'm so sorry to hear what you've been going through, Em. We miss you, but I'm sure I'm not the only one that feels like you need to take care of yourself before you can put everything into your videos again. As always, I love seeing your animals! 😍 Thank you for the explanation of everything, too. Xoxoxo
“Sometimes when things don’t add up, you have to subtract yourself.” Probably the most powerful statement I’ve heard. I’m so happy you’re taking care of yourself and your animals like always. I’ve always know you as the female Steve Irwin because of how well you treat your animals. I’m so sorry for your loss with some of your previous animals. Thank you so much for sharing what you can. You’re so strong and so amazing and you deserve the world. You’re a shining light of heaven above and I truly love you and what this channel entails. We’re here for you and ready to give all our love and support to you! 💚
The "I'm not afraid anymore" face, was the face of a warrior queen. I'm so proud of you Em and I'm so grateful to Kait for being there to get you! xoxox
I agree, don't bother trying to defend yourself against a narcissists claims. Say goodbye to the mutual friends who don't denounce the behavior of a narcissist because you don't need those friends. I couldn't go no contact because we coparent, but I can absolutely shut off the level of communication we are currently at. After years of having left, we get along much better.
"A person who is a broken cup has to choose to fix themselves" This hit home for me. I developed a substance abuse issue while dating my ex girlfriend because I felt like I had to be everything for her. A therapist, a partner, a parent, a wallet. The whole time she would put me down and undermine my self confidence.
I’m brand new to your channel but can I just say that I made it through your whole video and you my dear are strong and amazing!! Thank you for sharing your story with all of us
I came here to see how everything was going, pets and so on but... I wasn't expecting to learn about narcissistic abuse and that somehow... I connected the dots on those things to my relationship... It's just one or two things but I am going to read on this and will hopefully talk this out with my doctor soon about this. Thank you.
@@2cat4life It really does, blessings to you both live life because you both are precious enjoy and always make the best out of everything because you deserve to.
I'm so sorry for your loss of grinchie. I think that the spreading of grinchies ashes in africa is a beautiful idea. We will be here with you for that journey and with your recovery from the domestic abuse sittuation. Stay safe and well, I hope the future is better and brighter than this past year year or so.
My mother is a narcissist, it's awful, I hope you can get through this whole thing safely, don't worry about us being entertained, we just want you to be safe and happy
Em, you're amazing. You don't have to feel like you owe it to us to tell us about your life, you can keep things private-- none of us are going to worry about it or be upset or angry about it or anything. It's really brave of you to share everything with us, we love you
I love how she posted this, and how she talked about it. Personally I have struggled with "narcissistic abuse" from my ex bestfriend. Yes, it can be from a friend, family member, and or spouse. We were very close because he was dating my friend and in the beginning he was really nice but it turned into hurtful words, and statements that made me doubt myself and my existence when he didn't get something he wanted. If you are ever going through something like that please know that you aren't the only one and get help or if you can LEAVE. Nobody should have to go through that.
I had this experience too. It was a really close friend, he seemed so empathetic and charming and loving at first. As time went on he slowly showed more and more disrespect, putting me down, making me question my reality. It was a slow enough progression that I didn’t realize what was happening until I was already stuck in an abusive loop. Thank god I had other good friends who helped me see that as much as I wanted him to be the person I thought he was at first, he just wasn’t.
"creature features are coming back" me: *biggest smile* :D i dont care how you are gonna do those and with whoes pets or animals. as long as its you teaching us about the animal im happy haha :D
As someone who have gone through abuse I can say that it's important to seek professional help after to deal wit the trauma. And the types of therapy that have helped me most are ACT, DBT and Compassion. And make sure you have people around you who know what you have gone through so they can help you to be safe from both others and yourself. And if you are struggling just know you are not alone ♡
Watching the narcissist who had me wrapped around his finger since highschool, still texting me every couple of months cus they realised i was the only person who actually tried to be their friend is the best feeling ever lol😂 hes so mad and he deserves to feel like!
My dad is a narcissist and while he is no longer in my life i get how something like this would take so long to heal, sending you love and support to anyone in a narcissistic or abusive relationship.
I suffered years of emotional/domestic violence in my childhood home until about high-school. It never stops infuriating me to find out how many other people are in the same situation. I truly hope this video can inspire anyone in the same situation to know you have options. You can get out and you deserve to be safe
As a domestic violence survivor of a narcissist ( I prefer the term survivor not victim ) thank you for sharing your story Em. You have helped and possibly saved lives with your story. The way you were able to beautifully articulate your story while giving advice and lesson learned shows just how far you have come. I am so proud of you for putting you and your animals first.
@@Emzotic I know, I still haven't told my story - but you inspire me to keep going, and I know that there are many others on this channel going on this journey too. 💖
I wanted to point out that my counselor told me something that will always stick with me: Mental illness or even substance abuse can be a reason but it’s not an excuse, those two things are not the same and using it as an excuse is not taking appropriate responsibility.
Me: I've grown up with rats, Cats, dogs, a turtle, snake, birds, foster/rescues, and brothers. I can totally handle pets on my own! Also me: omfg I killed my plant because I forgot to water it.
Yup plants are so hard! It seems like animal people aren't plant people. I am sure there are people who can do both but not me! I have managed a few succulents.... That's about it!
I finally cut my abusive ex out of my life last year and I'm still struggling with the idea that I may have to get a restraining order against him as he has stalked me and tries still to contact me, including moving very close by to me. He was a horrible narcissist and I went through every type of abuse with him, I know how horrible it is and how they get into your head and make you feel. I'm so sorry you went through that, it's a horrifying thing to go through
You'll probably never see this, but I gotta say, you have a lovely voice/accent. I could listen to you talk for hours. Plus you know what you're talking about so I'm glad I found your channel! I wish you all the best in your new chapter in life and I hope you're still doing well in 2022. Your dog Keba is beautiful! Cheers
Everyone needs a friend like Kate in their corner. No matter what’s happening it’s so important to drop everything to help a friend out before something happens that can’t be taken back
I mean.. he did have a few exes before Em, who shared the same story like hers, so I’m not surprised. Also, he just gave me bad vibes, his whole demeanor just seems fake
Honestly I always got super bad vibes from the guy, hasn't been accused of being abusive by other women too?? In either case I'm glad she's out of the relationship!
I personally feel really sad when I watch Em's older videos with him in it bc back then I had no idea how horrible of a man he was. I always thought they were so happy together.
TW❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤍🤎I am so proud of you. I have grown up with a narsastic father. He emotional verbally and mentally abused me. He allowed my 2 sisters to physically abuse me. He also blamed me for the sexual harassment[borderline abuse) that one sister did to me. I ended up getting a restraining order on my older sister as she became very violent at a drop of a hat(it got extended for six months and it’s over now). My father and younger sister blamed me and all 3 took of and moved leaving me homeless. Thank god I get SSI as I’m legally blind but it wasn’t enough to stay in hotels luckily the simulose checks helped me pull through. I finally found a room to rent but now there trying to screw me over as I think the roomate is also a narsasist. As she was stalking me with cameras (I’m pretty sure. I’m having a professional come out) and on top of that the manigment is helping her. (wholenew thing that I’m going through so I can’t exactly explain) but now I might be homeless again as at the end of this month I have court.. You are right the narsasist blames you so you start tearing yourself down. I have2 types of anxiety and depression as well as ptsd because of him. I am glad you have shared I thought I was alone because nobody understood what I whent through or cared to listen. Thank you so so so much this is so validating. You are spot on with the cycle of the narsasit.❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤍🤎Ps my ultimate goal is to get a servace dog after I find a stable home but now I have hope👍
I was suddenly discarded after a narcissistic ex and made homeless. To this day its the best thing that ever happened to me. It wasn't until MONTHS later that I realised how broken he had made me, that I didn't even recognise myself. Three years later I am STILL recovering. Do im so proud of you xxx
Recovery takes time. I left my abuser 5 years ago and I'm still dealing with the effects. I didn't realise how broken i was until i started dating again. I don't think I'll ever fully recover, i think ill always carry those scars. But I'm not scared anymore. I'm proud of how far you've come. its a long and difficult road but you're doing amazing.
It’s pretty unfair that you can go through something like that and have it effect you for so long. Really makes you realize how much damage people can do to each other.
Going on ten years for me and unfortunately some things don't really go away, they just get easier to cope with, I guess. It's weird, I still have ingrained responses almost a decade later. Therapy is the best thing ever.
Keep the proof that he said we could have the skunks for sure you will need that also whatever Twain did to make the scones his property legally which I don’t think he’s going to hold up but that is evidence that they are his mostly the fact that your ex agreed to give discounts to him is what you were going to need in court and also tell Twain not to leave them or let them out of his sight because if this guy got his hands on them he will be the owner until a court case he wins them back.. I wasn’t willing to go through years of court and wait all that time to get my own dog back so I had him meet me in a public parking lot and made him Let me take her for a walk just around the parking lot and that’s how I got her back and that is perfectly legal considering the fact that she was my dog in the first place and I didn’t steal her and I didn’t go on his property or break any laws. It’s kind of messed up that people can just steal other peoples pets but you can and the only way to get them back is waiting through the civil court case process... or be smart about it and get the animal back legally like I did. This comment if you think he will see it and it will help him in anyway but I just thought you should know how I dealt with it. By the way that was the hardest thing I ever had to go through she has been with me for 15 years and she’s been the only one there for me this entire time through boyfriends and moves and everything and I never felt so super mom powerful in my life I was so mad that he would actually try and steal my dog (when he had his own dog too!!) Pets are very emotional things to have to deal with in a break up but you can’t let your emotions determine how you deal with these things so just advice to people who are dealing with us just to Carefully think things through before you do anything at all because your instinct my tea to go over and get the animal and I could turn really bad really fast or you could get arrested or whatever you need to think about the animal and your end goal and if that means being nice to someone you hate to achieve that then you need to do that.
The smile when you said, "I'm not afraid anymore," was so empowering, I could feel it. You ARE healing, you ARE succeeding, you ARE amazing❤ you're a beautiful, courageous person, and life teaches you lessons in strange ways, look how much stronger you are after this experience. You put those pieces back together so strong that nothing will be able to shake you❤
"Niffler is a Marshall's ferret" incorrect, he is a pancake (and I love him) Thank you for opening up here and I wish you all the luck with the healing journey, you've taken the hardest step already ❤ Your openness about what you've been through has been really inspiring, especially for those of us who struggle to come to terms with abuse. You and your sweet animals deserve all the happiness in the world!
I just saw this now and I'm awed at how much I relate to your situation. I have never been in an abusive narcissistic relationship, but my father is a narcissist. He's been in and out of many failed relationships, and whenever one of them ends, he calls the sweet, smart, loving, totally undeserving women "angry women". I'm incredibly close with my mother, and I was close with my stepmother. Coming from the child of a narcissist, I want you to know that when those kids grow up, they will totally, completely understand and will hold absolutely no grudges against you. You did what you needed to do to protect yourself. My stepmother is so much happier now, and I'm grateful that she was able to get out of her horrible situation! As for my mother, the stories I've heard from her of when she left (when I was 3 and my sister was 1) she felt the exact same as you: terrified about leaving, free when she finally got out. She had to have her amazing dad and brother-in-law come to protect her from his wrath. He hasn't been physically abusive since a court case when I was around 5 or 6 years old, but he's been emotionally and verbally abusive. Luckily I have places to go to escape when I'm at his house, and I have about 8 months to go until I'm 18. I just wanted to say that you are not alone and that you are so, so strong, and that those children that you loved will know why you did what you did. They may not understand today, but that will support you when they know how horrible he was to you. It makes me so, so happy to hear that you and all your animals are safe!! I'm so proud of you and it makes me feel triumphant to know that you are a survivor! Sending you so much love and support ❤️❤️❤️
I also forgot to mention that my mother is in a loving relationship now and has been for 10+ years! If you want another relationship just know that there are people out there who are loving and understanding and can really, really help you through anything. There is hope! And also I'm so so glad you have the "I'm not afraid anymore" and "it's not my fault" mindsets because those each are so valuable. I respect and admire you so much! Best wishes ❤️
I had two hissing cocroaches but one of them died sadly, and I also have had many cats at the moment I have two cats and I also have a rabbit and she is an Albino, and we are thinking of getting a border Collie :)
I’m very sorry that you’ve gone through abuse no one deserves it. I was abused as a child and I know how that is. I’m so glad that you’re finding clarity and healing. Love you so much I hope you’re doing better personally❤️❤️❤️
I’m proud of you, Em ❤️ I know that sentiment doesn’t mean much from a stranger on the internet, but I mean it with every bit of my heart! Thank you for opening up, I know it’s incredibly hard and you still have a lot to go through but I’m wishing you nothing but love ❤️
Dobby and Niffler are soo cute! I’m getting 2 or 3 ferrets soon! I’m soo excited! I’ve done soo much research, and know like..EVERYTHING about ferrets!
Congrats their very fun animals. My sister had 3 back when I was a little tyke growing up their hilarious. Just be prepared for alot of cleaning and things going missing but you already knew that 🙂
my dog heard your voice cracking and tried giving my phone many cuddles. we love you Em. you have shown me a love and passion for animals i didnt know i had. I know it's difficult to move past, but you are so brave for taking those steps.
I was in a narcissistic friend group well 3 people in the friend group were narcissistic and one of them I happened to be best friends with and I hated going away from them and it took a LONG time to get away from them caused they kept bringing me back somehow but once I walked away and cut my tie as in no contact it was the most amazing and freeing feeling I had ever felt and I’m so grateful I was able to do that and I really hope that any of you watching this will have the courage to walk away cause just like em said your don’t deserve it you are worth so much more it is difficult but sssoo worth it I promise
The rabbit care is very bad rabbit don't belong in things like that rabbits are house pets the belong in a pin or free roam for more information check out "Lennon the bunny" RUclips channel
I had a toxic abusive "friend" he would always tell me i was his "best female friend" and so on. But he would be both physically and mentally abusive. Looking back at it i dont know how i excused it for so long, but in the moment i truly didnt think he was doing anything wrong. Just upset that when i first tried as a kid to get help adults would just tell me "boys will be boys" and "he likes you but doesn't know how to show it" stop teaching children that abuse = love.
The first person I ever loved called me ugly everyday and when I told him I didn’t want a relationship with him because I thought he was bad for me he made me feel like I was bad for him and needed him. People told me he was just being a boy and that he liked me a lot. I didn’t realize at the time how much he damaged me.
@@Vermin404 thank you for that! What hurt the most is I was really young at the time and people said I was too young to be abused which makes zero sense.
@@Sidzee256 yeah that happend to me too. Its really frustrating because when you are a child you look up to adults. So when an adult tells you that your overreacting or lying, you believe them.
The instant anger I felt when Part 2 started.. The second you mentioned domestic violence I literally yelled "he better not have put a f-cking hand on her, I swear to god..."
YOU ARE A STRONG INCREDIBLE WOMAN, and to anyone who has survived domestic and narsassitic abuse your all so incredible as strong and I love you all , keep fighting you can get through this❤️❤️❤️
Watching this video made me realize that my ex-boyfriend did all of this to me, and I'm a bit taken aback by just how insidious it really can be. I love you, Em. I'm glad you're in a better place in life.
I’m so sorry for the loss of Grinchy, you loved that bird and gave him his best life after all he had been through. I’m also sorry for all you went through and while you didn’t owe an explanation I hope by telling us it frees a part of your soul. I also hope you see you aren’t alone and I’m proud of you for getting yourself and your animals to a safe place. Sending love and hugs♥️
Grinchy knew you loved him so much, Em. He was an amazing bird that I think really brought all of us together. And I think scattering his ashes in Africa would be absolutely amazing. He’ll finally be going home. You’re so strong, and I am so proud of you for being able to get through this. Edit: I’d also like to add that I love you brought up that it’s okay to rehome an animal if you can’t care for the animal anymore. When I was very depressed, I thought about rehoming my rabbit, but was shamed for bringing it up. Now, I am grateful I didn’t rehome him, because I love him SO much. He’s best friends with my cat, and he’s family to me.
Sending love. I related to this so hard. I had an abusive partner in my 20s. She (were are both female) had a disability, couldn't drive and was chronically unemployed, so from the outside it looked like I had all the power in the relationship. She was also smaller and weaker than me, so even though she was physically violent, I refused to call it abuse for a long time because she didn't "really hurt me." But someone that loves you doesn't hit or shove or otherwise physically assault you, whether it does any actual damage or not. I've been out of that situation for a long time now. I'm glad you got out too. Here's hoping for good things in the coming year.
Yesterday my Dad's divorce was finalized. My family is free of our "mother" and we finally don't have to be afraid of her anyone. It's so much better not waking up scared I might go back to her. It's so nice getting away. I'm so happy for you.
You know, I thought something seemed off between you two for a while before the split. Can't explain it. It must be difficult to go through things in public. We're proud of you.
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IMPORTANT PLEASE READ - Welcome to my 2020 All My Pets Video. It's a LONG video because today's video is 2 videos in 1. It starts off with All My Pets, and then there's a break and we go into life updates. I have taken the months I needed to process and protect myself, and I'm finally ready to start talking about what happened at the end of 2019 and early this year (why I disappeared, what happened to the other animals, etc..). I have added time stamps so you can navigate this video. Please feel free to ask questions, but understand that there is still a lot I cannot say because I have a long legal road ahead and I cannot jeopardize my case in my quest to getting free of my abuser and finding true safety. Please do not send abuse to my abuser. Nothing can be said or done to change what happened to me, but we can spread love instead and learn from my experiences. I love you all so much. Thank you for your patience with me this year while I got back on my feet and processed everything I went through. Life knocked me for six, but I am doing so well. I feel happy, healthy and surrounded by love and support. The Creature Crew are a huge part of this. Thank you. I love you. AND we're 700K strong!! YAAAS!
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💖💖💞I hope you and all of your amazing pets are doing well 💖
We love and care for you Em
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@@emmasaquariums2947 Everyone here in Colorado is thriving ❤️ thank you xxx
When you said “I’m not afraid anymore” you literally were the vision of empowerment. Thank you for sharing your story. 💜
When she said that, I actually started to cry. It’s so beautiful❤️
Did you see her smile after she said that? That. Was pure. Empowerment. I’m so proud of her.
that hit me so hard
I think you all need to look into the other side of this story is all im saying.
@@countryboycitylife3482 Both sides make some sense, but there is a LOT we cannot see.
This went from me watching the cutest animals to a "heart crushing" story and I'm sorry that you had to go through this because you are without a doubt, such a grest person
Sorry. This video is a roller coaster. Love you xxx
@@Emzotic please don't apologize for telling your story. Everyone who watched it was given ample warning and chose to do so anyway. I can't speak for anyone else, but I know I watched it to support you. And also to tell you that I am one of three children of an abusive father and though it may take a while for the little ones to figure it out- they will all come to understand the reasons why you had to leave the way you did. Thank you for sharing, wishing you endless love and the best of everything...
@@Emzotic thanks for making this amazing content em
Kiba looks like a small bear, he's a beauty!
You’re everywhere 😶
Oh I thought it was a girl lol
@@esmen292 I have seen your channel on infinite and caylus.
he really is.
so cute
It makes me anxious to think of how many stars had to align to get you out of that situation right before quarantine. So happy you had a friend looking out for you!!
@@moakristiansson5257 Honestly thats where my brain went the immediate second the "stay at home" orders were made. Mostly because I know I'd be screwed if this happened during my childhood.
today we fight for all the women who are trapped in a house with their abusers during quarantine🖤
Let's fight for all women AND men who are trapped in a house with their abusers during quarantine :) ♥
@@anexxshady Thank you for bringing up men. As a man who was in an abusive relationship, men CAN be abused too. Abuse does not discriminate.
@@anexxshady I was gonna comment this :)
@@flamingsalamander4974 Yes, definitely, men can be (and are) also victims of domestic violence. Sadly that's often forgotten, not taken seriously, and even mocked when they speak up and try to seek help. It breaks my heart how often it occurs and that a lot of men won't talk about it because of how they're treated. I commend you for sharing that it has happened to you.
@@CarrieP1981 Thank you ☺️
Side note: the fact that she was able to go through her story and information on domestic violence without tearing up AND in chronological order that is put together just shows the amount of reflection and thought she went through. AND meanwhile giving advice on how to take care of animals while under stressful situations (showing how animals are just always a priority for her). And you can just tell she went from someone who has in denial into someone that is so informed of the signs of domestic violence and the terminology (ex. The stage of isolation, stone walling, gaslighting, etc). Regardless if anyone has faced domestic violence, this video is just so empowering as everyone can take and learn something from this. How we have been blessed with such an amazing person idk. Also bless Kait for being THAT friend that everyone needs.
I want to like this comment twice. I agree strongly.
everybody here is so respectful and kind omg i love this
Yep
"you can never pour enough of yourself to fill a cup that is broken"
... that hit me like a freight train
Right?
Omg, I know. I was speechless...
1:14:42 no, Em, we're not worried about how you're going to keep us entertained. We're glad you're getting through a horrible situation.
True!
@samantha ?
@samantha what are you having trouble understanding?
Yeah we’re here to learn :D and know more about you
@samantha I know. I was asking what part of the sentence was giving you trouble.
My mom has been with my dad for 22 years and the entire time I was listening to your story I was nodding along because it was what he's done to her for my entire life. Today they hit breaking point and I sent her this video with the time stamp for your story and it finally helped her realize what my dad has been doing for years. She is financially stuck with him and things are hard but I wanted to thank you for being the wake-up call for her. I'd rather she know and understand what is being done to her and be able to prepare for the blowup than get blindsided. It is frightening how nice they can be to their children when they treat their spouse so poorly, and I say this as the child of a narcissist. I'm so happy you got out of there and are doing well. It gives me hope for my own mother and my siblings being okay if things go the way I fear. Love you Em, thank you for sharing such a vulnerable part of your life.
Ok drama queen
Em, I'm in a situation like that right now. I've been thinking if I stay here and help him get control, but you just made me realize I can't stay here. I'm miserable! I am going to get help. Thank you! 💖 I'm so sorry you went through this. I'm sending you love! You are so brave!!
I hope you did get the help because you cant help someone who is abusive. It takes a long time for them to change and they wont change when they have someone there they can abuse.
I wish you the best♡♡♡ I'm sending you so so much love because you deserve it♡
Wishing you love and safety, no one deserves to be hurt
Be careful with posting. When you leave, you don't want the abuser to know. It causes more issues.
I lucked out--mine realized I was not happy, and was starting to realize that I was going to leave. He kicked me out because I went to a funeral and may have gotten covid. He took the dog, and gave me the ashes of my cat that died a month before. I'm still fighting to get the paperwork done for the divorce, but I am in a much better place.
It's painful and hard, but keep yourself safe. If they learn that you can leave, then they will try to sabotage you at every step.
Lori how are you doing now??
That “i’m not afraid anymore” said with that smile, those strong glowing eyes, that bravery and empowerment... it gave me the chills. I am completely spechless right now
I read this right when that happened.
i watched it over a few times and cried each time because she is so empowered and strong and it just makes me so so so so happy for her and proud of her
rest in peace Grinchy we miss him/her was chi's gender ever confirmed?
Grinchy was how i found your channel and i am so glad i did
Actually no, but I’m 99% certain based on coloration and behavior that he was boy
"Sometimes when things don't add up, you have to subtract yourself."
I really like that
Beautiful!
Omg, I know!
you should name the hissing roaches "Hiss" and "Pssst" ..or "You left you water running" and "That cat is angry"
omg- how'd you come up with these?! x,D
pffft- That cheered me up
Amazing names :)
"that cat is angry" is probably the best pet name
"is anybody still here?.." we're all still here Em. we love you and you've helped a lot of us, we're here to help you too. we're an online family and we stick together. love you em❤️ 🐾
The part about Grinchy: Thank you so much for what you did and are doing for Grinchy. I was not aware of the plight of hornbills before you made your videos about him, and I'm so much better prepared to stand against the abusive practices of wild caught animal exporters. You did everything you could reasonably have done for him, and at great cost to yourself, both financially and psychologically, and on an ongoing basis. Not everyone has the strength to do that, but thank you for doing it anyway
Thank you Tremolo. Wild caught birds are just... it’s heartbreaking. I really did try everything for him..
@@Emzotic You did well! You did everything you could for him and gave him an amazing life. He was happy, cared for, and truly loved. The bond between a human and animal is what’s so beautiful and I know he was happy to be with you. You’re such an amazing person and I thrive to be as caring and strong as you are. You deserve so much happiness just as Grinchy did and received. Take care 👍
@@Emzotic yeah the wild is special for its untapped Nature.and we should keep it that way
@@Emzotic your plan to scatter his ashes in Africa is fantastic; I'm confident it will bring you the closure you need and honor his life in the best way possible. On the 1 year anniversary of my first cat's death, I went on a road trip to scatter some of her ashes at each of the places where we had lived together. It was a long road trip, as we had travelled a lot together, but that trip really brought me out of the darkness. It was a great opportunity for me to relive my greatest memories of her, rather than being stuck in the moment of her passing. In the same way, I hope that you can go to Africa and experience the beauty and freedom that Grinchy experienced before his capture, and free yourself from the suffering you know he went through.
The bit about rehoming animals hit me really hard. When I was in an abusive relationship I was so scared because he would threaten my hamster and so I got a friend to find someone to take them in. He got so mad when he saw I had rehomed them. But I knew for sure then that they were safe. And I was finally able to get myself out without worrying that he would hurt them in retaliation.
I'm so proud of you.
Glad you’re safe from that person, I wish you well
I have a special needs ferret and he was abused in his last home, he gets stressed and Sick very easily. I went 8 hours away (I’m 14) just to get him. I love him with all my heart ❤️
Hope he's settled 😊
I knew as soon as you left what happened. He reminded me so much of my sons dad. I didn’t connect the dots until you said you moved without him. Without all those pets. It just broke my heart to hear grinchy died. I hope you continue to grow and heal. I’ve been out for 9 years and it’s still hard.
I love your content. Thanks so much for sharing
I was a child that was hurt and confused, I forgive you, and I forgive all the mothers who have to leave. You're all so strong.
yes. that thought process was something that narcissistic abuse kind of encourages as well and victims or narcissistic abuse are greatly empathetic. These kids would have had to deal with the instability either way. And staying longer would be well terrible for all partys.
Today I donated 50 dollars to the domestic violence campaign when I saw this video. I am so sorry about what has happened in the past year
idk why but the first names that came to my mind for the cockrouches are : sushi and dumpling. \ ('-') /
Those are great names ❤️❤️❤️
@@Emzotic omg hi em! i just wanted to say that you are so Barve and so strong. you're such a inspiring person ❤️
Sally and Jack (nightmare before Christmas). Halloween time I guess it's on my mind 😘
I have 2 called cabbage and meatball 😅
I know I’m late to this video, but I hope you still see this, Em. As a fellow step-mom, that role is one of the most difficult and thankless jobs out there.... but it sounds to me that you took all the steps possible to take care of them despite the difficult decisions you had to take to take care of yourself. There are a lot of step-moms out there who totally understand what you went through and are still going through... please, if you ever want to vent anonymously to people who get what you’re going through, post on r/stepmoms on Reddit. We’re here for you ❤️
"Sometimes if things don't add up, you just have to subtract yourself"- Emzotic
Niffler slithering like a snake on the carpet while you were talking about dobby killed me 🤣🤣🤣🤣 had to rewind and watch it a few times. Lol silly boy
Hahahahaa!! He loves to drag his belly around!
i was coming to comment the same thing haha
yes! he really seems to like that carpet
when you took a sip of your drink and shouted “that is disgusting!” in the middle of a serious conversation i just laughed at the comedic relief. life sure is a lot sometimes; thank you so much for sharing and cheers to happier times
also i think dobby thinks her name is “DOBBY NO NO NO NO NO”
Ha maybe he is a naughty boy but oh so adorable.
Dobby is a girl, niffler is the boy
Like how Jenna and Julien's dog Bunny is actually named "Yes!"
🤣😂
I really don’t think the “justice system” actually gives justice to victims most of the time.
Please don’t apologize to us. This is about YOU, and YOUR healing journey. You had enough courage to tell all of us, and you get to tell us as much or as little information as you wanted to. You need to process these emotions, and nobody has the right to hinder them or tell you otherwise.
You rescued Grinchy from a terrible fate of being stuck in a cage in an exotic bird store so at the very least, Grinchy's last years were much better and he knew he was being loved. It is sad there aren't enough animal rehabilitation for reintroduction into the wild these days. You did what you could, my condolences.
I'm so sorry to hear what you've been going through, Em. We miss you, but I'm sure I'm not the only one that feels like you need to take care of yourself before you can put everything into your videos again. As always, I love seeing your animals! 😍 Thank you for the explanation of everything, too. Xoxoxo
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“Sometimes when things don’t add up, you have to subtract yourself.”
Probably the most powerful statement I’ve heard. I’m so happy you’re taking care of yourself and your animals like always. I’ve always know you as the female Steve Irwin because of how well you treat your animals. I’m so sorry for your loss with some of your previous animals. Thank you so much for sharing what you can. You’re so strong and so amazing and you deserve the world. You’re a shining light of heaven above and I truly love you and what this channel entails. We’re here for you and ready to give all our love and support to you! 💚
When you said “I’m not afraid anymore” I got chills.
The "I'm not afraid anymore" face, was the face of a warrior queen. I'm so proud of you Em and I'm so grateful to Kait for being there to get you! xoxox
Am I gonna be jealous of most of these pets: yessss
Jealous that you want them or jealous that you aren't one of Em's pets? 🤣🤣🤣
They’re kind of awesome ❤️🦦❤️
@@MorticiaAttoms Hahaha! They do get very spoiled!!!
@@MorticiaAttoms I want them soo badly 😂 unfortunately I can’t really have any pats rn because we have little space and it would be unfair to them
Summer Bell that’s probably a mix I would want to be kiba or niffler
I agree, don't bother trying to defend yourself against a narcissists claims. Say goodbye to the mutual friends who don't denounce the behavior of a narcissist because you don't need those friends.
I couldn't go no contact because we coparent, but I can absolutely shut off the level of communication we are currently at. After years of having left, we get along much better.
"A person who is a broken cup has to choose to fix themselves"
This hit home for me. I developed a substance abuse issue while dating my ex girlfriend because I felt like I had to be everything for her. A therapist, a partner, a parent, a wallet. The whole time she would put me down and undermine my self confidence.
gonna send a lot of good vibes for you, hope u doing well now
Thank you both so much, I'm definitely healing.
I’m brand new to your channel but can I just say that I made it through your whole video and you my dear are strong and amazing!! Thank you for sharing your story with all of us
I came here to see how everything was going, pets and so on but...
I wasn't expecting to learn about narcissistic abuse and that somehow... I connected the dots on those things to my relationship...
It's just one or two things but I am going to read on this and will hopefully talk this out with my doctor soon about this.
Thank you.
good luck dude, i been in a narcissist relationship for years before, it gets better i promise
@@2cat4life It really does, blessings to you both live life because you both are precious enjoy and always make the best out of everything because you deserve to.
You are definitely not a victim, you’re a warrior and a survivor. I send you a lot of love and wish you all the best!
I'm so sorry for your loss of grinchie. I think that the spreading of grinchies ashes in africa is a beautiful idea. We will be here with you for that journey and with your recovery from the domestic abuse sittuation. Stay safe and well, I hope the future is better and brighter than this past year year or so.
wait danny abused her??
Em and everyone else who has survived such terrible things are such strong, beautiful, worthy people. Have a great day to anyone who reads this
Em: Can keep over 50 pets healthy and happy
Also em: ALL MY PLANTS ARE DEAD!!!!!
My mother is a narcissist, it's awful, I hope you can get through this whole thing safely, don't worry about us being entertained, we just want you to be safe and happy
Em, you're amazing. You don't have to feel like you owe it to us to tell us about your life, you can keep things private-- none of us are going to worry about it or be upset or angry about it or anything. It's really brave of you to share everything with us, we love you
Thank you so much. I understand, but I wanted to give some clarity because I know the community was confused for a while. 💜❤️
I love how she posted this, and how she talked about it. Personally I have struggled with "narcissistic abuse" from my ex bestfriend. Yes, it can be from a friend, family member, and or spouse. We were very close because he was dating my friend and in the beginning he was really nice but it turned into hurtful words, and statements that made me doubt myself and my existence when he didn't get something he wanted. If you are ever going through something like that please know that you aren't the only one and get help or if you can LEAVE. Nobody should have to go through that.
I had this experience too. It was a really close friend, he seemed so empathetic and charming and loving at first. As time went on he slowly showed more and more disrespect, putting me down, making me question my reality. It was a slow enough progression that I didn’t realize what was happening until I was already stuck in an abusive loop. Thank god I had other good friends who helped me see that as much as I wanted him to be the person I thought he was at first, he just wasn’t.
"creature features are coming back" me: *biggest smile* :D i dont care how you are gonna do those and with whoes pets or animals. as long as its you teaching us about the animal im happy haha :D
As someone who have gone through abuse I can say that it's important to seek professional help after to deal wit the trauma. And the types of therapy that have helped me most are ACT, DBT and Compassion. And make sure you have people around you who know what you have gone through so they can help you to be safe from both others and yourself.
And if you are struggling just know you are not alone ♡
Watching the narcissist who had me wrapped around his finger since highschool, still texting me every couple of months cus they realised i was the only person who actually tried to be their friend is the best feeling ever lol😂 hes so mad and he deserves to feel like!
My dad is a narcissist and while he is no longer in my life i get how something like this would take so long to heal, sending you love and support to anyone in a narcissistic or abusive relationship.
I suffered years of emotional/domestic violence in my childhood home until about high-school. It never stops infuriating me to find out how many other people are in the same situation. I truly hope this video can inspire anyone in the same situation to know you have options. You can get out and you deserve to be safe
Thank you Steph. I’m so glad you’re out of that situation. How cruel...
Names for the cockroaches:
Jim and Dwight
Andy and Justin
Batman and Joker
Tony and Steve
I’ll think of some more later 💕
Adam and steve
Chili and Beans
Shaggy and Scooby
Derek and Spencer
Thor and Odin (or Loki)
Mozart and Beethoven (cause they hiss - making music 😄)
@emzotic I got plenty of names ☺️
@@RoseMairie I love Mozart and Beethoven!
JIM AND DWIGHT
As a domestic violence survivor of a narcissist ( I prefer the term survivor not victim ) thank you for sharing your story Em. You have helped and possibly saved lives with your story. The way you were able to beautifully articulate your story while giving advice and lesson learned shows just how far you have come. I am so proud of you for putting you and your animals first.
"I'm not afraid anymore". I believe you. You're an absolute inspiration, Em.
What you are doing is invaluable. Thank you for showing more people that it is okay to talk, thank you for being here. Here is to a new chapter!
Thank you so much.. it was hard to do 🥺
@@Emzotic I know, I still haven't told my story - but you inspire me to keep going, and I know that there are many others on this channel going on this journey too. 💖
I wanted to point out that my counselor told me something that will always stick with me:
Mental illness or even substance abuse can be a reason but it’s not an excuse, those two things are not the same and using it as an excuse is not taking appropriate responsibility.
Me: I've grown up with rats, Cats, dogs, a turtle, snake, birds, foster/rescues, and brothers. I can totally handle pets on my own!
Also me: omfg I killed my plant because I forgot to water it.
Yup plants are so hard! It seems like animal people aren't plant people. I am sure there are people who can do both but not me! I have managed a few succulents.... That's about it!
That's me 😂 I can keep animals alive and happy but plants? I'm lucky I have a succulent that's made it over a year and is still alive.
Never a more accurate statement! 😂😂
This is honestly so relatable because I'm a plant person who sucks at caring for animals 😂
I have 5 rats
I finally cut my abusive ex out of my life last year and I'm still struggling with the idea that I may have to get a restraining order against him as he has stalked me and tries still to contact me, including moving very close by to me. He was a horrible narcissist and I went through every type of abuse with him, I know how horrible it is and how they get into your head and make you feel. I'm so sorry you went through that, it's a horrifying thing to go through
Go back to him
You'll probably never see this, but I gotta say, you have a lovely voice/accent. I could listen to you talk for hours. Plus you know what you're talking about so I'm glad I found your channel! I wish you all the best in your new chapter in life and I hope you're still doing well in 2022. Your dog Keba is beautiful! Cheers
Everyone needs a friend like Kate in their corner. No matter what’s happening it’s so important to drop everything to help a friend out before something happens that can’t be taken back
I could of never imagined that he would be so horrible to you...
I actually always got some bad vibes from him. I’m glad she’s out of that relationship
@@Mai2727 me as well, whenever he came on the channel I would sense some sort of tension and got some negative vibes from him.
I mean.. he did have a few exes before Em, who shared the same story like hers, so I’m not surprised. Also, he just gave me bad vibes, his whole demeanor just seems fake
Honestly I always got super bad vibes from the guy, hasn't been accused of being abusive by other women too?? In either case I'm glad she's out of the relationship!
I personally feel really sad when I watch Em's older videos with him in it bc back then I had no idea how horrible of a man he was. I always thought they were so happy together.
I'm so proud of you for talking about this and spreading awareness so people can help themselves get out of similar situations. Much love
Thank you Amber xxxx
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@@Emzotic Never apologise to anyone for your emotions and how you feel, you are you, you cannot change that. :)
My friend has ferrets and suki one of his ferrets has an obsession with stealing spoons
TW❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤍🤎I am so proud of you. I have grown up with a narsastic father. He emotional verbally and mentally abused me. He allowed my 2 sisters to physically abuse me. He also blamed me for the sexual harassment[borderline abuse) that one sister did to me. I ended up getting a restraining order on my older sister as she became very violent at a drop of a hat(it got extended for six months and it’s over now). My father and younger sister blamed me and all 3 took of and moved leaving me homeless. Thank god I get SSI as I’m legally blind but it wasn’t enough to stay in hotels luckily the simulose checks helped me pull through. I finally found a room to rent but now there trying to screw me over as I think the roomate is also a narsasist. As she was stalking me with cameras (I’m pretty sure. I’m having a professional come out) and on top of that the manigment is helping her. (wholenew thing that I’m going through so I can’t exactly explain) but now I might be homeless again as at the end of this month I have court.. You are right the narsasist blames you so you start tearing yourself down. I have2 types of anxiety and depression as well as ptsd because of him. I am glad you have shared I thought I was alone because nobody understood what I whent through or cared to listen. Thank you so so so much this is so validating. You are spot on with the cycle of the narsasit.❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤍🤎Ps my ultimate goal is to get a servace dog after I find a stable home but now I have hope👍
I was suddenly discarded after a narcissistic ex and made homeless. To this day its the best thing that ever happened to me. It wasn't until MONTHS later that I realised how broken he had made me, that I didn't even recognise myself. Three years later I am STILL recovering. Do im so proud of you xxx
Recovery takes time. I left my abuser 5 years ago and I'm still dealing with the effects. I didn't realise how broken i was until i started dating again. I don't think I'll ever fully recover, i think ill always carry those scars. But I'm not scared anymore. I'm proud of how far you've come. its a long and difficult road but you're doing amazing.
It’s pretty unfair that you can go through something like that and have it effect you for so long. Really makes you realize how much damage people can do to each other.
It takes time. Just left mine. Can't see the light yet, but I know it there and I'm safe
@@cathydemuth8241 you'll get there. The light is there. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family, it makes it easier.
Going on ten years for me and unfortunately some things don't really go away, they just get easier to cope with, I guess. It's weird, I still have ingrained responses almost a decade later. Therapy is the best thing ever.
This is Dobby’s world and we’re just living in it 😂
And nifflers😂
You are incredibly brave. Hopefully 2021 will bring you far more joy than sorrow. Onwards and upwards. Xx
Thank you. I will make sure that it does :) xxx
I literally wish I could just give her a hug 🥺 it’s unbelievable the strength she and other have to go through and leave those situations.
Keep the proof that he said we could have the skunks for sure you will need that also whatever Twain did to make the scones his property legally which I don’t think he’s going to hold up but that is evidence that they are his mostly the fact that your ex agreed to give discounts to him is what you were going to need in court and also tell Twain not to leave them or let them out of his sight because if this guy got his hands on them he will be the owner until a court case he wins them back..
I wasn’t willing to go through years of court and wait all that time to get my own dog back so I had him meet me in a public parking lot and made him Let me take her for a walk just around the parking lot and that’s how I got her back and that is perfectly legal considering the fact that she was my dog in the first place and I didn’t steal her and I didn’t go on his property or break any laws. It’s kind of messed up that people can just steal other peoples pets but you can and the only way to get them back is waiting through the civil court case process... or be smart about it and get the animal back legally like I did. This comment if you think he will see it and it will help him in anyway but I just thought you should know how I dealt with it.
By the way that was the hardest thing I ever had to go through she has been with me for 15 years and she’s been the only one there for me this entire time through boyfriends and moves and everything and I never felt so super mom powerful in my life I was so mad that he would actually try and steal my dog (when he had his own dog too!!)
Pets are very emotional things to have to deal with in a break up but you can’t let your emotions determine how you deal with these things so just advice to people who are dealing with us just to Carefully think things through before you do anything at all because your instinct my tea to go over and get the animal and I could turn really bad really fast or you could get arrested or whatever you need to think about the animal and your end goal and if that means being nice to someone you hate to achieve that then you need to do that.
The smile when you said, "I'm not afraid anymore," was so empowering, I could feel it. You ARE healing, you ARE succeeding, you ARE amazing❤ you're a beautiful, courageous person, and life teaches you lessons in strange ways, look how much stronger you are after this experience. You put those pieces back together so strong that nothing will be able to shake you❤
"Niffler is a Marshall's ferret" incorrect, he is a pancake (and I love him)
Thank you for opening up here and I wish you all the luck with the healing journey, you've taken the hardest step already ❤ Your openness about what you've been through has been really inspiring, especially for those of us who struggle to come to terms with abuse. You and your sweet animals deserve all the happiness in the world!
You're very brave Em. Hopefully I can (at least) become half as brave, determined, and kind as you are. Stay safe 🐕🦝🐭🐼🦦
I hope you never have to be, but I’m sure you already are ❤️❤️
I just saw this now and I'm awed at how much I relate to your situation. I have never been in an abusive narcissistic relationship, but my father is a narcissist. He's been in and out of many failed relationships, and whenever one of them ends, he calls the sweet, smart, loving, totally undeserving women "angry women". I'm incredibly close with my mother, and I was close with my stepmother. Coming from the child of a narcissist, I want you to know that when those kids grow up, they will totally, completely understand and will hold absolutely no grudges against you. You did what you needed to do to protect yourself. My stepmother is so much happier now, and I'm grateful that she was able to get out of her horrible situation! As for my mother, the stories I've heard from her of when she left (when I was 3 and my sister was 1) she felt the exact same as you: terrified about leaving, free when she finally got out. She had to have her amazing dad and brother-in-law come to protect her from his wrath. He hasn't been physically abusive since a court case when I was around 5 or 6 years old, but he's been emotionally and verbally abusive. Luckily I have places to go to escape when I'm at his house, and I have about 8 months to go until I'm 18. I just wanted to say that you are not alone and that you are so, so strong, and that those children that you loved will know why you did what you did. They may not understand today, but that will support you when they know how horrible he was to you. It makes me so, so happy to hear that you and all your animals are safe!! I'm so proud of you and it makes me feel triumphant to know that you are a survivor! Sending you so much love and support ❤️❤️❤️
I also forgot to mention that my mother is in a loving relationship now and has been for 10+ years! If you want another relationship just know that there are people out there who are loving and understanding and can really, really help you through anything. There is hope! And also I'm so so glad you have the "I'm not afraid anymore" and "it's not my fault" mindsets because those each are so valuable. I respect and admire you so much! Best wishes ❤️
I had two hissing cocroaches but one of them died sadly, and I also have had many cats at the moment I have two cats and I also have a rabbit and she is an Albino, and we are thinking of getting a border Collie :)
I’m very sorry that you’ve gone through abuse no one deserves it. I was abused as a child and I know how that is. I’m so glad that you’re finding clarity and healing. Love you so much I hope you’re doing better personally❤️❤️❤️
I’m so sorry.. that must have been so confusing as a child. I’m glad you’re (hopefully) ok now :) xx
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@@Emzotic niff is like a banana
I’m proud of you, Em ❤️ I know that sentiment doesn’t mean much from a stranger on the internet, but I mean it with every bit of my heart! Thank you for opening up, I know it’s incredibly hard and you still have a lot to go through but I’m wishing you nothing but love ❤️
It means more to me than I can possibly say. Thank you so much... 💜💜💜💜
having those succulents in her enclosure is adorable omg
Your friend is amazing for just swooping in to come and get you. I'm so glad to hear that you have people there to support you! ❤️
I stopped watching you because I thought you were another animal hoarder youtuber. Now it's clear! I'm glad you got away from that situation.
Dobby and Niffler are soo cute! I’m getting 2 or 3 ferrets soon! I’m soo excited! I’ve done soo much research, and know like..EVERYTHING about ferrets!
You can be my expert ferret consultant!!!
@@Emzotic Yay! I love your content soo much!
Congrats their very fun animals. My sister had 3 back when I was a little tyke growing up their hilarious. Just be prepared for alot of cleaning and things going missing but you already knew that 🙂
Do i have an online class to go to? Yes. Will i watch this vid instead? YES.
Yo same
Omg your studies are so important tho!!! Go study!! 🤣
@@techtubular...borgwater go to school!! 🤣❤️
♥@@Emzotic OMG! your my favorite youtuber i love you so much!!!
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my dog heard your voice cracking and tried giving my phone many cuddles. we love you Em. you have shown me a love and passion for animals i didnt know i had. I know it's difficult to move past, but you are so brave for taking those steps.
I was in a narcissistic friend group well 3 people in the friend group were narcissistic and one of them I happened to be best friends with and I hated going away from them and it took a LONG time to get away from them caused they kept bringing me back somehow but once I walked away and cut my tie as in no contact it was the most amazing and freeing feeling I had ever felt and I’m so grateful I was able to do that and I really hope that any of you watching this will have the courage to walk away cause just like em said your don’t deserve it you are worth so much more it is difficult but sssoo worth it I promise
The rabbit care is very bad rabbit don't belong in things like that rabbits are house pets the belong in a pin or free roam for more information check out "Lennon the bunny" RUclips channel
I had a toxic abusive "friend" he would always tell me i was his "best female friend" and so on. But he would be both physically and mentally abusive. Looking back at it i dont know how i excused it for so long, but in the moment i truly didnt think he was doing anything wrong.
Just upset that when i first tried as a kid to get help adults would just tell me "boys will be boys" and "he likes you but doesn't know how to show it"
stop teaching children that abuse = love.
@garret223 aw thank you!
The first person I ever loved called me ugly everyday and when I told him I didn’t want a relationship with him because I thought he was bad for me he made me feel like I was bad for him and needed him. People told me he was just being a boy and that he liked me a lot. I didn’t realize at the time how much he damaged me.
@@Sidzee256 Man im sorry you had to go through that, its inzane how normalized abuse is in relationships...
@@Vermin404 thank you for that! What hurt the most is I was really young at the time and people said I was too young to be abused which makes zero sense.
@@Sidzee256 yeah that happend to me too. Its really frustrating because when you are a child you look up to adults. So when an adult tells you that your overreacting or lying, you believe them.
The instant anger I felt when Part 2 started.. The second you mentioned domestic violence I literally yelled "he better not have put a f-cking hand on her, I swear to god..."
YOU ARE A STRONG INCREDIBLE WOMAN, and to anyone who has survived domestic and narsassitic abuse your all so incredible as strong and I love you all , keep fighting you can get through this❤️❤️❤️
"You can never pour enough of yourself to fill a cup that's broken" .... I felt that.
I love your videos!!! I have learnt so much and I'm watching your videos since you started your chanel and I am subscribed!!! ☺
Watching this video made me realize that my ex-boyfriend did all of this to me, and I'm a bit taken aback by just how insidious it really can be.
I love you, Em. I'm glad you're in a better place in life.
Thats why this video is incredibly important. Please please educate yourself to protect yourself. Im glad this person is your ex. Stay safe friend
HOW IS THERE 2 THUMBS DOWN ALREADY?? Anyway I'm gonna watch all this then comment again if I want to say anything :) love you em
Love you 😘
Be that nob she used to go out with
@@dpedroam4107 what?
I remember looking at him and thinking jeez he’s batting and I remember thinking that dude must just be a really awesome guy.....guess not
I can't feel your pain but i can imagine it 😫😥
Thank you ❤️✨ I hope you never have to xx
26:00 Kiba "Ok Mom I'll be patient while you explain to the viewers what a wonderfully delicious treat I will have mmmmmm. I can't wait"
I’m so sorry for the loss of Grinchy, you loved that bird and gave him his best life after all he had been through. I’m also sorry for all you went through and while you didn’t owe an explanation I hope by telling us it frees a part of your soul. I also hope you see you aren’t alone and I’m proud of you for getting yourself and your animals to a safe place. Sending love and hugs♥️
Grinchy knew you loved him so much, Em. He was an amazing bird that I think really brought all of us together. And I think scattering his ashes in Africa would be absolutely amazing. He’ll finally be going home.
You’re so strong, and I am so proud of you for being able to get through this.
Edit: I’d also like to add that I love you brought up that it’s okay to rehome an animal if you can’t care for the animal anymore. When I was very depressed, I thought about rehoming my rabbit, but was shamed for bringing it up. Now, I am grateful I didn’t rehome him, because I love him SO much. He’s best friends with my cat, and he’s family to me.
Sending love. I related to this so hard. I had an abusive partner in my 20s. She (were are both female) had a disability, couldn't drive and was chronically unemployed, so from the outside it looked like I had all the power in the relationship. She was also smaller and weaker than me, so even though she was physically violent, I refused to call it abuse for a long time because she didn't "really hurt me." But someone that loves you doesn't hit or shove or otherwise physically assault you, whether it does any actual damage or not. I've been out of that situation for a long time now. I'm glad you got out too. Here's hoping for good things in the coming year.
And there's me just tryna get like one million youtube accounts so that Em could have over a million subscribers ;-;
Hahahahahaaaa! I will have them when they’re earned! Thank you 🙏🏻
Yesterday my Dad's divorce was finalized. My family is free of our "mother" and we finally don't have to be afraid of her anyone. It's so much better not waking up scared I might go back to her. It's so nice getting away. I'm so happy for you.
You know, I thought something seemed off between you two for a while before the split. Can't explain it. It must be difficult to go through things in public. We're proud of you.