Hi Christina. Your videos have helped me a lot and your strength to face things. I would like to send a small gift of appreciation do you have a method to send money to you? You deserve it
@@lindsaypeek63 I'm so glad the content has been helping you along your journey. Donations can be sent via my PayPal Me link here. Thank you so much for your generosity. www.paypal.me/theheartalchemist
Got a much deeper understanding of the process and how it works. Love your delivery, great explanation, and analogies. Thank you, thank you, again thank you!!!
NOTES 1. Projections- Pay attention to how you outwardly project yourself into the outside world. What you project onto others is a mirror of yourself. Whatever you dislike in others is somewhere inside yourself. 2. Emotional Triggers- Pay attention to what triggers you. Catch yourself before acting on the trigger and take a deep breath. 3. Patterns- Notice repeating patterns in your life. 4. Introspection- Ask yourself and journal these three questions: 1.What parts of yourself do you dislike? 2.What parts of yourself do you judge 3.What parts of yourself do you fear? 5. The goal of Shadow Work is integration- he more you shine a light on the shadow the smaller it gets. Tips 1. Don't Antagonize the shadow. It's about showing shadow love and acceptance and bringing it closer. 2. Observe it without judgment. Judgment is a form of nonacceptance. 3. Past life regression. 4. Childhood Review. Journaling Exercise- Three Questions- 1. Was I completely accepted by those around me as a child? 2. What was expected of me? 3. What behaviors and emotions were judged by my parents? 5. Retrieve your gifts. Since shadow also contains untapped gifts and talents. Discover those gifts that you had repressed. Journaling Exercise- 1 question- 1. If I weren't afraid, what would I do with my life? Another way is the shamanic journeying.
Az a 27 years old man, I've always been very emotional and i used to think that's a sign of weakness. I tried doing research on how i could be like a robot and heartless but it didn't work out. Oh my. After watching this video i looked myself in the mirror and i apologized to myself for not accepting part of myself and as soon as i put my hand on my heart, 2 drops of tear started falling down and i got goosebumps. I felt like i could understand myself for the first time and it hurt how aggressively i was treating myself.
I’ll be working on that too. I’m 21 and I always hated how emotional and sensetive I am, I’ve tried to be heartless so hard but it put me in more stress. Now I decided to embrace this part of myself, maybe being emotional is not that bad. I’m glad it worked for you (:
As a 26 year old women who has been in relationships with men who have rejected their shadow so deeply and learned to turn off their heart chakras and became incredibly robotic, there is nothing more attractive than a sensitive man who not only accepts his shadow but wears it proudly. Please don't reject this side of yourself. Your sensitivities are beautiful.
Ive reseached like you, how to think without emotion.. Mum used to leave me alone alnight at 6mnths old, then foster care then childs home, she met my step dad by this time i was vulnerable craving luv, ye he luved me from 8 until 13. Mum never got me help, all my life ive never been put first or felt important.
Please never disconnect from this part of yourself again 💗 It is healthy for a man to be connected to his emotions (and therefore empathy). Your connection to your emotions enables you to form healthier, safer emotional connections, relationships. I personally don’t find anything attractive about men who act like robots and are emotionally unavailable. Emotions are not a weakness; they’re your internal GPS and something that makes you real, raw, human. It is truly sad that so many of us are programmed to believe that feeling emotions is weak, shameful when in reality that is one of the most important things in forming healthy, safe emotional connections with others 💗
I'm 62 years old. I did inner-child work 30 years ago recovering from a brutal childhood. I found 3 inner children ages 6, 12, and 16. But I also found an inner- self who was 62, unbathed, indigent, sitting in a bar very very angry with everything and everyone - particularly angry with me. Through 32 years I've occasionally tried to figure out why she was there and what I was supposed to do to help her. So, I've done my best to ignore her. While listening to your video about shadow work, that angry old woman within me became very loud. Now, I know how to help her. And she will help me. Thank you, Christine.
So glad Julia! Look deeper into reiki, spiritual healing, and watch watch watch positive videos and see yourself heal. It takes a long time but worth it and makes life exciting again
Posted 3 years ago and this vid continues to have great value. I’m the ‘sensitive little boy ‘ and I hated feeling so much emotion from those around me. People pleasing as a tactic to keep peace between warring parents. My mother had open heart surgery a few years ago but she didn’t bother to tell me about it afterwards she said I can’t handle those type of things I get to sensitive. Well, that sensitivity was a great warning bell one day when I walked into a mall restroom and something said get out now leave. I turned around and saw a man that I didn’t see when I walked in. I left immediately. Two months later that man was arrested at serial killer, Jeffrey Dahmer. Whatever told me to get out of that bathroom and made the hairs on my body stand up, you can’t buy that on Amazon and you can’t get it with a perfect FICA credit score.
Oh my goodness! I am so happy you are here to share your story with us. It is amazing how you felt or sensed that you needed to like get out of there immediately! Sometimes we ignore those subtle warnings I am glad you trusted and just left.
I'm not gonna lie, this made me cry at the end. My spiritual journey has just started and I just feel like there's hope and that I'm gonna heal soon. I've been unhappy and anxious my whole life, even in early childhood, and the prospect that life is beautiful and soon I'll be able to understand all aspect of myself and not feel so blindsighted is overwhelming. Happiness feels so foreign to me that I feel weird expressing it, like I shouldn't be. But here I am. Things are really changing.
@beautiful disasteri need see if ur awakening is one that it all affected you om on a level more better brighter person but it was feelings ur mind told u also that being im a state before 8t happened u were i lost love ones feelings and it's amount of intuiition im feeling that it's been gone and family i still live with by the way are my children my love i had once my blindness and smoke clouds of fog all stemmed of heavy drug abuse so i blocked thoughts feelings down inside i had enlightenment and i was scared do love you you are not seeing now really been gone its eggshells now they demand to walk over for me cuz there scared overload of hurt and pains still there i mean if it's that I've been training for it om a long type of level my own seeing that there in a spot of his own texts or pictures or locked locations he's been it's wat I've asked for i want to have unhealthy way of living is me and i need to get it out soon or later
I feel this. I have always had very superficial feelings of high and lows. It wasn't till Jr year of hs I started feeling happiness. I was starting to get too happy I didn't know it existed and got fearful and sabotaged it. My childhood was more awful than my brain would ever let me jnow. It protected me for so long. Im awakening and I dont know what stage.
How to spot shadows: Projections Triggers Repeating Patterns Introsprections (What do you dislike? What do you Fear?) Shadow work: - Dont judge the shadow (self acceptance) - Observed - Past Lives Regression - Childhood Review - Retrieve your gifts
@@anu7982 not always. Sometimes sleep paralysis is caused by your physical body which hasn't waken up yet. For example: my mind is awaken but my body is still sleeping...after 3 minutes my body awakes and I get out of my bed
@@mydream8329when I turn back and see the instances of sleep paralysis , that time I was physically and mentally exhausted . It happened when my mind was entangled in too much with fears and uncertainitirs and tension and at the same time physically weak . 🤔that's why I asked it's relation to shadow 😊🖐️now I get it somehow from ur answer . Body must be tired and mind still awake with worries ,so it's possible not to allow to sleep which can happen in waking up in the middle of rem state of sleep 🤔
@@mydream8329 do you know any inner work to do especially when you are stuck with narcissistic parents. Even I don't have a healthy study pattern. Studying became a struggle for me as I used to study in my childhood due to fear only ? I am stuck in my house with no career now . My parents are too strict . Do you know any inner work related to studies ? I am having this anxiety and restlessness due to which I am not able to sit and study or concentrate for hours ,do you know any thing to overcome this ?
I watched a woman supporting the Ottawa Freedom Convoy in Canada and she told the interviewers her view of the rally. She was so calm and collected and seemed to be as grounded as the earth itself (meanwhile I'm thousands of miles away ready to jump straight out of my own skin) and she attributed her outlook to shadow work. I had to look it up. Now I'm starting a new journey. Thank you for your guidance 🥰
Much was revealed to me when I started to look at what triggered me the most. Because of years of verbal abuse and fear as a child, I get triggered when I feel like I'm being talked down to. I also get defensive . Now that I'm aware of where all that anger comes from,. I can begin to heal.
Having that awareness is so powerful and helpful. Celebrating you for taking the time to reflect, not everyone is ready to look back at where their triggers come from. Sending much support to you on your healing journey. -A
#4 and #5 fear was instilled in me as a child. Never allowed to talk, trauma made me repress this through my whole life. I want to watch healing the inner child. I am now 66 and still working on myself. I want to thank you for all of your videos.
For years, I took the term “Shadow Work” for granted thinking self-introspection alone was cutting it. I didn’t have clear and direct enough questions to ask myself, or a clearly outlined process to follow. This is immensely helpful.
That is very wise. Reminds me a bit about a certain perspective about self care for those of us who suffer from depression: if you were a child how would you take care of yourself?
Heyyy my awakening was really fast intense and made me basically have a paranoid episode but the ENTIRE time my mantra that kept me grounded and litteraly felt like kept me from letting suicidal thoughts turn to action was "love, light, and everything bright, look to the light and the shadows fall behind where they belong"🖤 not that we can ever ignore theyre there. But must be kept in its place as everything els in this existence. Balance💙
@@mtvcribbs326 this was me up until very recently.. very fast as well, to the point that now I'm.. idk.. descending but not? I kinda needed those words today, so thank you!
Aww. I think im gonna go hug my sweet sensitive little boy ❤️ he's 3 and I'm determined not to raise him to be another emotionally stunted man. We need to do better for your children ❤️
@Eyes Wide Open I'm so sorry to hear that. I just wanna hug every person who ever felt unwanted or not loved as a child. Glad you have someone who loves and understands you ❤️
Coming for a 19 year old dude - give him as much love as he needs, but when he grows up a little don't overprotect him , let him build conpitence and confidence in him self, let him learn biking, skating and sports,
Christina, I don't know if you'll ever read this, but I wanted to say thank you for making this video. After watching, I decided to try meditating, and then I asked myself the questions posed in the video to myself. The answers I got were, brutal. I kept asking questions and getting some of the most painful realizations I have ever had in my life. I won't get too personal but without this video I don't think I could have moved forward on this type of self-improvement and made such enormous progress in a small span of time. We have to be ready for any answers we get and i felt the time had come for me. Thank you so much!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
Sublimation in the form of art is my favorite. Not only is it productive, it could also resonate with people (creating empathy and maybe another person feeling understood by you, which might feel like some sort of intimacy) or it could create beauty from what you might feel is ugly and make you realize that ugly can also be beautiful when seen through the right pair of eyes.
Just like when naruto faced his inner shadow self who hated villagers for treating him bad, and hugged his shadow self and embraced it to heal instead of fighting it
@@ilostmyjacket3997 i mean its personal opinions but i wouldn't say The best anime, but its surely among the top ......have u seen death note and fate ubw they are pretty awesome too
I cannot believe how quickly I am able to take in your information, process it, implement it, heal, grow, thrive and assist myself and others! Thank you so much for sharing your gifts and talents! All my love!!
I never realized how long i’ve been doing shadow work without even knowing. Now that I have knowledge on this topic I see my triggers, fears etc with a loving perspective. Thank you for this video.
Shadow has completely being ruining my life, and this video is completely saving it. This is exactly the breakdown I needed to understand and turn my life around. Thank you
I get defensive when I feel as if I am getting blamed for something I didn't do and I get angry when I can't express my emotions and then and then the list goes on really. IT all just makes me want to be alone.
Maybe you were/are the scapegoat in your family. Of course you become defensife if you’re blamed about things you did not do! But look: if you’re a scapegoat, defenciveness does not help! Look information about what it is to be a scapegoat in the family system! (For example Dr Ramani’s videos).
Look into narcissistic personality disorder and apply the traits to whomever you are living with. Partner, parent, sibling, roommate. Or employer or someone at work. Its possible your feelings of self are being brainwashed into you by someone wishing to gain control of you by creating situations to tear you down and make you feel like you can't handle shit in your life. I hope to god I'm wrong. There is much to learn. Good luck chuck.
Omg you get me. This is how I feel abs it's been affecting my bf a lot bc he wants to know what's wrong but I physically cannot out words together why he hurt me or why I'm mad. Idk what to do
I am 45 years old. Almost a year ago I went to rehab for drugs and alcohol. Ever since I've been on this amazing journey to find myself in this world we live in. I found you when I learned and decided to do the shadow work. You explain everything so well!! Thank you!!! I need this in my life to heal.. What resinated with me the most was Triggers, since I've been in rehab and "trigger" is quite a common term. And I have unknowingly been doing some what of shadow work diving into my triggers and recognizing what bothers me in general. I am excited to continue this work with your help and embrace my new fulfilled life! again, thank you!!
It took me about 6 months to finally watch this video. Was too scared to look into my own shadow. I have given up my power to my shadow. That’s why I have been incomplete. From now on I’ll try to embrace my shadow more. Thanks Christina ❤
Growing up gay in rural Australia, I know I denied so much of myself for so long, that really resonated with me when you said, the moment you began turning away from your truth your shadow is born. The moment you try/fail to live up to your parents expectations, it grows. I don't think I do this anymore..but I know I need to explore the past, do the work, reset my wiring. It's time to go in. Thanks as always Christina. x
I'm currently one of those people who can be nice one minute and snap the next... I know its just another thing I have to work on/with . Im glad to know its my shadow and can be worked on
Among my 9 months of being entrapped in an intense shadow, this video made the most sense and provided really valuable insights. Even theraphy sessions weren’t this helpful. Thank you
I’m a healer and coming into my powers as I keep healing. I had deep childhood traumas and multiple traumas since 5 years old. I’ve always felt like I didn’t “fit in” and growing these powers make me feel even more that way. I’m just starting looking into shadow work so I’m guided and following my guidance
i don't know if this is on the same level but when i was 7 i was gand r*aped by an entire class of boys....at an after school club. i fought to defend myself but i was slapped etc...How do we do shadow work on such dark things like that? For instance i fear minority men and their sexuality...because i have almost only had bad to severe assults from them...possibly because i am bi-racial. Nobody not even my therapist has any words to say on this. Sorry if this is too extreme for your eyes.
@@AccidentalWarrior144 Hi there… what a horrific, traumatic experience you had. I am so very sorry. I send you such love on your healing journey. Continue to be compassionate with yourself - it takes time but you are clearly on your path to healing just by asking the questions and through your willingness to explore. I’d consider reading “The Body keeps Score” and possibly looking into some trauma release exercises (TRE), using affirmations found on RUclips (many can play while your sleeping), reiki, and maybe even some plant medicines if that calls you. You definitely fit in… this community loves you. ❤️
You obviously are a very strong woman , you have survived this far after such a horrific disrespect to your body & soul , so keep drawing on that strength as you heal from this . You will heal just keep seeking help from people of wisdom such as this beautiful one here . Turn inward for strength but don't fall into yourself cutting off the world trust me it does no good at all . Face those fears up close & personal to make them insignificant . You can do this , GOD BLESS & BLESSED BE !!!! Sending positive reinforcement waves to you !!
I to have always felt as though I simply am not like most people. I've never had a true friend, probably because of that feeling. I've always been a loner as well.
Sameeee. (TW.?) I just remember that every time after school I would literally start crying because I was so exhausted and my mom would put crosses around me and would tell me to stop crying Omg it was so bad
As a teen, I learned Transcendental Meditation... it was so deep that a tsunami of suppressed/repressed childhood memories flooded into my awareness. Cue up the shadow! It’s been a wild ride, this lifetime, but I have no regrets about that. Sure, bubbling up childhood shit isn’t pleasant, but it’s probably going to erupt sometime... why not approach it with meditating, however style feels right for you, with gentle openness? When we heal our crap, it ripples healing outward. Bonus. 💙🙏🏼
I’m actually flabbergasted at the similarities that I face with your life journey . I started my healing work after my dad passed away around two years back and I always found my dad emotionally unavailable but the most startling fact is that I too lived my life being fearful of coming in power . Just recently I gained my power back and started my RUclips channel . I played small all my life for others , it’s sad but I’m glad that I finally did the inner work to heal all the core wounds !!
I am 78 y.o. Entered the seminary at 14 to have a "happy" future away from a dysfunctional family life. My ordination made my family very happy, except me. My shadow taught me "l am not good enough, not perfect!" To this day, despite the many talents I have and heightened spirituality as a Buddha follower and into daily meditation , introspection, the shadow of abandonment and insufficiency still knocks on my door. The thought of previous life times helps me to understand the intensity of my shadow, how the positive aspects of my current life are what's real, to be validated every morning and moment of the day. Thanks for the insights and tools to live with positive energy as long as I am on this planet.
LOVED the video! so well explained, and detailed. Thank you so much for your precious help! * don't mind me just writting this down to come back to it. the general timestamps are in the description box, i just did a bit more detailed - there's stuff i didn't specify, within the topics; everything is important- this is just to watch it later and to know where everything was part 1- 1:35- what the shadow is part 2- 15:20- the problem with the shadow part 3- 19:20- how to spot the shadow (4 ways): ->1st way -19:25 - projections ->2nd -21:40 - emotional triggers ->3rd -24:22 - patterns ->4th -25:31 - introspection part 4- 26:41- how to do shadow work - 28:08 top 5 tips 1-> 28:10- do not antagonize the shadow 2-> 29:24- observation without judgment 3-> 31:35- past life regression 4-> 32:40- childwood review 5-> 36:13- retrieve your gifts
“Triggers are my best friend!” This will be my mantra for today while paying close attention to the shadow side of me coming out. Scary but needed to grow.
The most interesting part of this video to me, is that there is a cache of forgotten abilities, perspectives, gifts, we left aside in favour of shutting down and picking up those coping mechanisms.. and that we can find it.
English isn't my first language so 40 minutes can be hard but the way you talk, your examples, your advices.. everything is so clear and easy to understand ! Thank you so much, I'm following for more videos !
I started crying when you gave the example of the boyfriend talking to an attractive woman.....ive had reoccurring patterns in my relationships of there always been some "other" woman. I have huge fears around my partner (when I'm in a relationship) finding other women attractive or desiring other women sexually. I've done a lot of healing and self development work but recently found that this is still unresolved. Thank you for this video...I'm going to work on this.
I am 65 and have done so much work over the years. I have always felt there was this huge block keeping me from reaching my potential - in so many aspects. I recently had a session with an alchemist who mentioned shadow to me. It was this session that led me to your channel. How to spot shadow really resonated with me. This is huge!!! I always thought there was something dark dogging my steps all the time but shadow makes soooo much sense!!! Thank you!! I can’t wait to dig into more of your videos! 🙏❤️
I’ve GOT to give you mad respect for your depth of understanding of the topic. Most teachers cannot reach this width and depth. This topic is practically a lifestyle at my home and it’s very rare to hear others explain dynamic/practical principles/mechanics of the topic. Stay the course. Peace, integration, balance, awareness and respect. 🥂🥂🥂✊🏽
Unfortunately many things happen that are out of our control. It's often difficult to reconcile when we realize that as children we were set down a difficult path. It is certainly expected that we mourn our childhood, especially when our vulnerabilities are underlined. For me, I found that as an adult, caring for myself as if I were caring for a child was very healing.
"Do not antagonize the shadow!" is the tip that resonated with me the most for sure! That is the crux...the point where either we learn and grow from an experience or sink the anchor of despair into it.
Wow when you talk about how the shadow can effect you and ruin your relationships among other things.... Omg.... that hit home. This really hits my soul.
* Grew up with an immigrant mom who put the fear of God into me if I failed any class and repeatedly said that I should only do what I love (special effects work) as ‘a hobby’ * Spent summers with cousins who ‘playfully’ made fun of me for how ‘white’ I behaved and how much I love Godzilla and Ultraman * Went through special ed from kindergarten to 12th grade - separate busing, separate classes, endured being talked down to by adults AND my own peers * Vividly remember times after school when I really just wanted to relax and be a kid, only to be driven to my dad’s office because my parents didn’t have a housekeeper to look after me All of these experiences drilled beliefs into my psyche like: “You’re worthless” “Don’t express yourself” “You’re an outcast who’ll never make friends” “Your desires/interests don’t matter” Each one severely kneecaped me from growing into my own person. It’s only recently, however, that I started to heal via a deep dive into subconscious mind work (Abraham Hicks, Neville Goddard, and now Shadow Work). Thanks for giving me some much needed clarity on what I have to do to liberate myself.
Just THANK YOU. Coming from someone who‘s been trying to do this for years but never quite new where to start and on behalf of everyone who felt the same. You changed some lifes!🖤
The part of ”why care about the shadow” was very eye-opening too. It really made me understand the importance of the shadow work. And the whole video gave courage, will and tools to do it. Thank you.
Thank you! I’ll absolutely check it out. Congrats on your recovery if you’re an addict as i am. I know how hard it is, and thankfully we don’t ever have to live that way anymore. Took me over 7 years to finally get 17 months this month. Blessed be✨
Around the 12 min mark, I started to swell up in tears. Thank you so much for this benevolent video and for expressing your gifts upon the world. I was lead to view your video specifically. Now I see why. Blessings to everyone's journey.
Thank you, I realize I was judging my shadow and trauma that was surfacing and my body's response to the shadow. My shadow would come in, and my body would respond with dissociation and I would get mad, frustrated that it was back again and believe I wasn't good enough, because I was still dissociated and couldn't heal... my dislike, judgement, and fear is all of my shadow itself, my darkness that I keep surrounded by light so no one can see it, not even me... Also same with past lives, as I was in my power in past lives I was rejected in horrible ways so this lifetime I protected myself, I put myself in a box this time, I fragmented myself so that no one could see the true me and no one would hurt me again. It is time to be whole, pull all of me back together in the present moment and step into my true power as the shaman I am.
Hi Christina, I've just come across your videos tonight. Everything you said has resonated with me. I've had tons of counselling and CBT, nothing really worked. I've been feeling like I'm possessed for some time now, but listening to your video it makes sense, I've been feeding my shadow side forever, starting from childhood, I've always maintained my over critised, children should be seen n not heard shit, nothing I did was any good, my appearance, my friends etc etc. I'm fairly insecure/low self esteem, self loathing, but il never give up. I will follow your teachings and stop feeding my shadow. Love you xxx
I had such a deeply profound realization about my shadow while watching this, my mind is completely blown. I had all the information, I just needed someone to spell out the connections for me.
Initially thought this video would be too long but I am very thankful I watched it all the way through. I feel I have a lot more clarity regarding my shadow and what’ needs to be done. Catching it won’t be so hard now Thank you so much 🙏🏾🌍🦋
My girlfriend sent me this video as I was looking up shadow work. She brought this to my attention about what I could be facing. This video really intrigued my mental state but more importantly made me want to discover my shadow. Because it’s apart of me and to keep myself honest about who the real me is.
"Intention of Working/Journaling on the Shadow: -Healing -Bringing Light/Conscious awareness -Integration and -Embracing our shadow aspects Making it smaller and having less affect on our life" 35:21 Powerful stuff to develop!
For some reason, just looking at you makes me emotional and I feel myself getting choked up . Listening to your words, made me feel extremely sad, yet oddly comforted. Thank you so much for this. Will rewatch this until I feel strong enough to venture out
4 Ways to spot and become aware of your shadow: 1. Projections . What you project and reject about others, you deny about yourself. 2. Emotional Triggers. Remember, triggers re your best friends bc they show you what your shadow is. 3. Patters. Repeating patterns and stories in your life. 4. Introspection. There's no trigger here. You spot the shadow before it's triggered. To find out... Ask 3 questions a What parts of yourself do you dislike? b. What parts of yourself do you judge? c. What parts of yourself do you fear?
Well as a lifelong informal musician...teaching myself ! All kinds of songs and patterns so scales on my instrument ....the " lifelong" endeavor ultimately has been to MMMAYYBE come up with one really great instrumental piece....it's exactly like the " shadow" has had this capacity forever!! In my life...like with the " shadow" popping up n out??=" Oh; THIS!!???"-- and I'm playing like Mozart, jr.!!-- really FLYING !! On my instrument....i guess that's " The Shadow"-- the " gifts" ARE EVVVERRR " SOOO THERRRE"--!!! and ALLL ALONG... Since my very earliest days toying with my instrument!!!
Thank you for doing this video, Christina. ❤🙏 I asked my higher self for guidance on how to do shadow work to once and for all integrate my shadows and was directed to this video. I'm so excited to start meditation and the tips given here. Thanks again! 😊
So much of this video resonates with me; acceptance as a child, relationships with parents, past lives, and triggers that flip my internal switch that takes me from 0 - psycho in seconds.
One of my favorite mantra that helped me go through my shadows was “I can’t heal if I can’t feel,it brought all shadows up to the surface,so healing become easy.
Wow that’s powerful I appreciate you sharing that. I’m just now noticing how afraid I was to feel, had no clue until tears of relief came just from giving myself basic attention and care and acknowledging how I feel in the moment or what’s going on within… thanks for that easy to remember mantra 🙏
That; “if I weren’t afraid, what would I do with my life” was presented to me during my NDE in 2008, and I was shown! The things I dreamed of doing, but was to afraid to do! they showed me the desires of my heart, and challenged me to REALLY LIVE THEN! to face the fears and still GO FOR IT! I’m so so Thankful for you! You are inspirational and Beautiful! I love your laugh Thank you so much for your service and your contributions to an ever growing need of Awakening Souls. Love you ❤💋
Wow, i think this video has unlocked something i have really struggled with. I was raised and have only experienced women in my life. Really, there have not been any men at all around me. But most experiences with women have been heavily dominant towards me. I was raised by my mother and the people around her that men are all evil and being male is something to be ashamed of. So, apart from my outward appearance, and sexuality, i am mostly in feminine energy. I have "less manly" tastes and behaviours. I have really struggled to balance my energy. I know i need to find and integrate my masculine energy, but had no idea how, or what it even means to be in masculine energy. It seems even going back to past life memories i have, that i have run from masculine behaviours, due to a tragic experience in my last life. So, i feel my DM energy is hidden in my shadow. The only time i tend to show any type of masculine energy at all is when im triggered, but it tends to be through dominance behaviours. I feel i have some direction to my healing work now.
Wow @ you being able to write this! I don’t think many men would be able to admit to feeling this way! I’m so proud of you!!! Good luck with your shadow work and healing!!! 💫💫💫💫
I never really did shadow work properly but somehow I healed my shadow by intention. I asked universe “I dont know what it is but I want to heal it” 😂 I repeated this everytime I felt pain, then I received a lot of hint about my wound. One day, I suddenly realized that I couldn’t love human or myself because my mom judged me “you don’t love your mom, you can’t love noone.” That was when I broke free from the curse. I realized I am not what she said, and I dont have to behave and feel like what she said. I have ability to love, I am the love. She said I dont love her, but I always love her.
24:37 "Repeating patterns" Your example: "losing yourself in relationships." I am resonating *so much* with that example. This has been a recurring theme in ALL of my romantic relationships. I would just.. "lose" my identity and myself. Now reflecting back on it, this has also been a semi-theme in friendships. But in romantic relationships I would lose myself all the time. I am very happy for learning this. How can I diminish that shadow aspect? Just by asking myself what feeling occurs by the realization and sitting through it? (Btw Dylan James has recommend your chanel, he is an mindset/manifestation-coach. I absolutely LOVE your videos!!!)
Hey! I have experienced the same thing and what helped me was that I realized losing myself in relationships meant I would abandon myself and that led to an anxious attachment style in relationships. I was afraid of being my true self and setting boundaries because I was afraid if I did, my partner would leave me. I decided to show up for myself by being the type of lover I wished to have (eg. Hugging myself when I am sad, dedicating love songs to myself, being more open minded toward myself and others). These are just examples but YOU, and only you, know what you would like your ideal partner to be like. When you start showing up as your ideal partner and loving yourself, you will naturally start setting up better boundaries for yourself because you will not be afraid to lose people because you already have yourself. You will then attract and maintain friendships and relationships where people respect your boundaries and the relationships with those who don't respect your boundaries will naturally fade away. I hope this helps and good luck on your journey!
Wow! Yes! 😮 This is one of my biggest fears. To be all that I know I can be. Fear to be seen and have attention on myself. Fear that others may become jealous. Fear of being seen as a “Know it all”. Fear of judgement and rejection. I love this famous quote by Marianne Williamson, Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.”
Honest review: At first I was annoyed but as I continued to listen, I found you extremely helpful! I think that annoyance is a trigger. Lol... I love that you said to Love your shadow. I have been working on that on and off but now I will make it a priority. I'm going to share this with my enlightened daughter.
I am 55 yrs old and finally awakened and sometimes cannot unsetand a lot of those RUclips channels about all of THIS! But YOU my beautiful soul have a way of bringing across the message to the masses in such a way that is not only understandable but actually doable . I want to thank you for being you . I will look further into your videos for I have just become awake and am overwhelmed right now . 😮❤🙏🏻🌏
I had to pause your video to tell you that when you said "do you know a person that's kind and good then all of a sudden has a temper tantrum?" I instantly recognized myself. So yeah, I have to do my shadow work and I am glad that I am here for guidance. Thank you
A few years ago I had a severe breakdown. My biggest fears came knocking on my door and I couldn't outrun them anymore. The dark night of my soul. So my ego went crazy, but eventually came to it's senses through honesty and surendering. So a lot of stuf you mention I already did on my path. Now I like it to take it a step further so thank you for your valuable tips. I will certainly use them ❤
I have given myself the past 5 months to journal my dreams (shadow work). Wow! Very powerful shadow work. I’ve worked all the way up to the present. This video has helped me to integrate all that journaling (as well as MUCH past journaling), and see it as having to do with only me (not others). OMG! This is the final piece to my shadow work. My childhood in this life was not pleasant AT ALL! It’s really easy to blame others when you’re dealing with trauma from all your lives as well as this one. I also could be angry that it took me 55 years in this life to reach the point I’m at now, but I’m even over that, because from a spiritual perspective I have TOTALLY set myself up for a GREAT next life as well as the next phase of this life. Shadow work is hard, but what’s harder is NOT doing it. I almost let my shadow destroy me in this life. I am so grateful I gave myself the space and time to do it. Thank You Christina Lopes for bringing it all home in this video! Because I knew all of what you talked about, but not in such a complete way like this. Even the journal entries I had done at some point in my life (probably many times), but needed to integrate them in my mind and heart in this way, in order to FULLY claim my power. Namaste to ALL 🌈🙏
This is so deep. There was plenty times where I had to rewind to grasp the full meaning. Day after day I reach a deeper level to my personal spiritual awakening and i am grateful to have come across this video 🙏🏼❤💯💯
What a fantastic video, really clear and lots of important information on our spiritual journey. Christina, you are one of my real favorites on RUclips! Great work, as always.
I find it hard opening up and being myself around people, I'm often cautions and am a huge people pleaser. One thing you said really struck a chord with me, with the childhood review. - Was I completely accepted and what behaviours and emotions were judged... I was quite an annoying kid, always playing and finding ways to make people laugh, even if it was myself (not sure its much of a gift but hey ho) and on this one occasion I was in a car with my brother and mother, I was obviously being annoying, my mum said if I kept annoying my brother she would kick me out of the car, anyway I obviously carried on, bearing in mind I was 5/6 years old, my mum stopped the car, made me get out, left me by the side of the road and drove away, I felt abandoned and cried my eyes out....She obviously came back within 5 minutes but to me it was forever. Bringing that emotion/memory up today made me cry, bearing in mind that I'm 26 years old and have probably cried about 3 times in my adult life, my relationship with my mum has never been uber strong, tho I'm trying to improve it, and I always felt she loved my brother more, which I think always affected me.. I hope I can integrate this feeling of not being good enough. Anyway, thanks for doing what you do and shining light on the shadows
I have so much work to do, but I’m ready to get started! There’s so much about me that I’ve never been able to control, and it makes so much sense that I can’t control it because I keep trying to reject or push it away instead of integrating it in my life. I’m hoping with a lot of focus and persistence I can finally heal the parts of me that feel so empty and alone.
I watched this video on a friend's device. SO helpful. I'm old to start this journey, I just turned 60. I was triggered by a show I was watching, one character claimed to have been angry, the second replied that it wasn't anger, but rather fear and hurt. I recognized that as true for me, and it sent me looking for what I'm hiding 😊 Subscribed and heading to your website. Thank you 💖
Hi Maria, I too am 60, but the way I see it is, I have all the time in the world because I am eternal, immortal. We are never to old to begin, there is only now anyway.
Heads above anyone else's explanation, thank you!!! So many well meaning readers, etc all talk about "childhood wounds" and at 71 years old I have EXAUSTED my childhood from this Life and whatever imperfections. But my folks gave much love and were very supportive in my growth and strength. But I know many of my past lives had trauma, etc. Tks for reinforcing what I have always felt.
This was a very insightful video for me and so much makes sense now. I struggled with depression for almost my whole life and it wasn't until this year that I was able to face it head on. The part where she talks about the shadow being a separate entity really resonated with me. A big part of my depression was the inability to love and accept myself. Because of that I always felt like 2 different people: The person everyone knew I could be, could grow into, the girl who had so much potential VS. the terrible person I thought I was. I always thought I had to be one or the other until I learned that wasn't the case. I'm just a human with flaws and emotions that has every chance to better herself and grow. That being said, I'm excited to start this journey and see where it leads me. Thank you so much for the informative video! I'll definitely be coming back to review it when needed lol
I feel such an abundance of gratitude for you and for finding your channel. I’ve been trying so hard to do shadow work, and my therapist really doesn’t fully understand what I was needing (I honestly could articulate what I was asking for either, but I knew I was missing something and I wasn’t tapping into the deep deep hurt and darkness I have within myself.) this is exactly what I needed. I’m so excited to start my journey of acceptance towards my shadow self. When you mentions being self critical THAT was my biggest problem. I run away and push away my shadow. Everything about this video is just magic. Thank you so much.
Wow.... I started step 4 when you were talking in part 2. I have always seen my shadow as a separate being ...she has her own personality and I even named her when I was 16...but recently I've been on a spiritual journey and I noticed she was more silent than usual....I think we are merging.
Currently I still “stay small” though my entire being knows there’s so much more. This will be a beautiful slow and painful process, though there’s no doubt in my mind that it’s worth it. How does one say MORE thank you? Simply put....thank you.
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Hi Christina. Your videos have helped me a lot and your strength to face things. I would like to send a small gift of appreciation do you have a method to send money to you? You deserve it
@@lindsaypeek63 I'm so glad the content has been helping you along your journey. Donations can be sent via my PayPal Me link here. Thank you so much for your generosity. www.paypal.me/theheartalchemist
@@ChristinaLopes I really appreciate your work and your true sincerity in wanting us to grow and succeed. This free content is so valuable!
hups I always been playing with my shadow it does mean anything ;-)
Got a much deeper understanding of the process and how it works. Love your delivery, great explanation, and analogies. Thank you, thank you, again thank you!!!
NOTES
1. Projections- Pay attention to how you outwardly project yourself into the outside world. What you project onto others is a mirror of yourself. Whatever you dislike in others is somewhere inside yourself.
2. Emotional Triggers- Pay attention to what triggers you. Catch yourself before acting on the trigger and take a deep breath.
3. Patterns- Notice repeating patterns in your life.
4. Introspection- Ask yourself and journal these three questions:
1.What parts of yourself do you dislike?
2.What parts of yourself do you judge
3.What parts of yourself do you fear?
5. The goal of Shadow Work is integration- he more you shine a light on the shadow the smaller it gets.
Tips
1. Don't Antagonize the shadow. It's about showing shadow love and acceptance and bringing it closer.
2. Observe it without judgment. Judgment is a form of nonacceptance.
3. Past life regression.
4. Childhood Review. Journaling Exercise- Three Questions-
1. Was I completely accepted by those around me as a child?
2. What was expected of me?
3. What behaviors and emotions were judged by my parents?
5. Retrieve your gifts. Since shadow also contains untapped gifts and talents. Discover those gifts that you had repressed. Journaling Exercise- 1 question-
1. If I weren't afraid, what would I do with my life?
Another way is the shamanic journeying.
Thank you for the notes
Thank you
Thank you for this so much
Kayla you really laid it out on the line thank u🌹
You da real mvp ^^
Az a 27 years old man, I've always been very emotional and i used to think that's a sign of weakness. I tried doing research on how i could be like a robot and heartless but it didn't work out. Oh my. After watching this video i looked myself in the mirror and i apologized to myself for not accepting part of myself and as soon as i put my hand on my heart, 2 drops of tear started falling down and i got goosebumps. I felt like i could understand myself for the first time and it hurt how aggressively i was treating myself.
I’ll be working on that too. I’m 21 and I always hated how emotional and sensetive I am, I’ve tried to be heartless so hard but it put me in more stress. Now I decided to embrace this part of myself, maybe being emotional is not that bad. I’m glad it worked for you (:
As a 26 year old women who has been in relationships with men who have rejected their shadow so deeply and learned to turn off their heart chakras and became incredibly robotic, there is nothing more attractive than a sensitive man who not only accepts his shadow but wears it proudly. Please don't reject this side of yourself. Your sensitivities are beautiful.
@EagleJunkie23 I think it is mostly bad religious shit what you are calling masculine mentality.
Ive reseached like you, how to think without emotion..
Mum used to leave me alone alnight at 6mnths old, then foster care then childs home, she met my step dad by this time i was vulnerable craving luv, ye he luved me from 8 until 13. Mum never got me help, all my life ive never been put first or felt important.
Please never disconnect from this part of yourself again 💗 It is healthy for a man to be connected to his emotions (and therefore empathy). Your connection to your emotions enables you to form healthier, safer emotional connections, relationships. I personally don’t find anything attractive about men who act like robots and are emotionally unavailable. Emotions are not a weakness; they’re your internal GPS and something that makes you real, raw, human. It is truly sad that so many of us are programmed to believe that feeling emotions is weak, shameful when in reality that is one of the most important things in forming healthy, safe emotional connections with others 💗
I'm 62 years old. I did inner-child work 30 years ago recovering from a brutal childhood. I found 3 inner children ages 6, 12, and 16. But I also found an inner- self who was 62, unbathed, indigent, sitting in a bar very very angry with everything and everyone - particularly angry with me. Through 32 years I've occasionally tried to figure out why she was there and what I was supposed to do to help her. So, I've done my best to ignore her. While listening to your video about shadow work, that angry old woman within me became very loud. Now, I know how to help her. And she will help me. Thank you, Christine.
As a young teen awakening in this beautiful world, your content is really helpful. Stay safe and blessed 💜💜💜
Same 😊
@Akshay H Kumar India
@Akshay H Kumar Uttar Pradesh
And you?
@Akshay H Kumar 😎 cool
I am a teen having a spiritual awakening too. I do videos on it myself
Hiii, I was thinking of offing myself today, I’ve come to the conclusion that’s it’s better to work on myself and live than end it all so here we are.
I’m glad you’re still here. 💜
It is most definitely better to work on ourselves. Wishing you peace & life.
You cannot escape you will be born again & just have the same crisis until you learn how to overcome it and ascend
@@phatshroom6662 that's one eye opening statement right there.
So glad Julia! Look deeper into reiki, spiritual healing, and watch watch watch positive videos and see yourself heal. It takes a long time but worth it and makes life exciting again
Posted 3 years ago and this vid continues to have great value.
I’m the ‘sensitive little boy ‘ and I hated feeling so much emotion from those around me.
People pleasing as a tactic to keep peace between warring parents.
My mother had open heart surgery a few years ago but she didn’t bother to tell me about it afterwards she said I can’t handle those type of things I get to sensitive.
Well, that sensitivity was a great warning bell one day when I walked into a mall restroom and something said get out now leave.
I turned around and saw a man that I didn’t see when I walked in.
I left immediately.
Two months later that man was arrested at serial killer, Jeffrey Dahmer.
Whatever told me to get out of that bathroom and made the hairs on my body stand up, you can’t buy that on Amazon and you can’t get it with a perfect FICA credit score.
Wow! Incredible…..so glad you’re here to share the story!
All I can say is wow!
Oh my goodness! I am so happy you are here to share your story with us. It is amazing how you felt or sensed that you needed to like get out of there immediately! Sometimes we ignore those subtle warnings I am glad you trusted and just left.
I'm not gonna lie, this made me cry at the end. My spiritual journey has just started and I just feel like there's hope and that I'm gonna heal soon. I've been unhappy and anxious my whole life, even in early childhood, and the prospect that life is beautiful and soon I'll be able to understand all aspect of myself and not feel so blindsighted is overwhelming. Happiness feels so foreign to me that I feel weird expressing it, like I shouldn't be. But here I am. Things are really changing.
Me as well. It makes me emotional and I’m new to this
Stay strong !
I need to watch 3 times or more to get it
@beautiful disasteri need see if ur awakening is one that it all affected you om on a level more better brighter person but it was feelings ur mind told u also that being im a state before 8t happened u were i lost love ones feelings and it's amount of intuiition im feeling that it's been gone and family i still live with by the way are my children my love i had once my blindness and smoke clouds of fog all stemmed of heavy drug abuse so i blocked thoughts feelings down inside i had enlightenment and i was scared do love you you are not seeing now really been gone its eggshells now they demand to walk over for me cuz there scared overload of hurt and pains still there i mean if it's that I've been training for it om a long type of level my own seeing that there in a spot of his own texts or pictures or locked locations he's been it's wat I've asked for i want to have unhealthy way of living is me and i need to get it out soon or later
I feel this. I have always had very superficial feelings of high and lows. It wasn't till Jr year of hs I started feeling happiness. I was starting to get too happy I didn't know it existed and got fearful and sabotaged it. My childhood was more awful than my brain would ever let me jnow. It protected me for so long. Im awakening and I dont know what stage.
How to spot shadows:
Projections
Triggers
Repeating Patterns
Introsprections (What do you dislike? What do you Fear?)
Shadow work:
- Dont judge the shadow (self acceptance)
- Observed
- Past Lives Regression
- Childhood Review
- Retrieve your gifts
Is sleep paralysis related to shadow ?
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@@anu7982 not always. Sometimes sleep paralysis is caused by your physical body which hasn't waken up yet. For example: my mind is awaken but my body is still sleeping...after 3 minutes my body awakes and I get out of my bed
@@mydream8329when I turn back and see the instances of sleep paralysis , that time I was physically and mentally exhausted . It happened when my mind was entangled in too much with fears and uncertainitirs and tension and at the same time physically weak . 🤔that's why I asked it's relation to shadow 😊🖐️now I get it somehow from ur answer . Body must be tired and mind still awake with worries ,so it's possible not to allow to sleep which can happen in waking up in the middle of rem state of sleep 🤔
@@mydream8329 do you know any inner work to do especially when you are stuck with narcissistic parents. Even I don't have a healthy study pattern. Studying became a struggle for me as I used to study in my childhood due to fear only ? I am stuck in my house with no career now . My parents are too strict . Do you know any inner work related to studies ? I am having this anxiety and restlessness due to which I am not able to sit and study or concentrate for hours ,do you know any thing to overcome this ?
I watched a woman supporting the Ottawa Freedom Convoy in Canada and she told the interviewers her view of the rally. She was so calm and collected and seemed to be as grounded as the earth itself (meanwhile I'm thousands of miles away ready to jump straight out of my own skin) and she attributed her outlook to shadow work. I had to look it up. Now I'm starting a new journey. Thank you for your guidance 🥰
Much was revealed to me when I started to look at what triggered me the most. Because of years of verbal abuse and fear as a child, I get triggered when I feel like I'm being talked down to. I also get defensive . Now that I'm aware of where all that anger comes from,. I can begin to heal.
Having that awareness is so powerful and helpful. Celebrating you for taking the time to reflect, not everyone is ready to look back at where their triggers come from. Sending much support to you on your healing journey. -A
Same.
I have the same problem, have realized it, but still get it. No one feels comfortable when someone is talking down to them, regardless of the trigger.
A lot of people take constructive criticism as an insult then lash out.
Love ur username 😂
#4 and #5 fear was instilled in me as a child. Never allowed to talk, trauma made me repress this through my whole life. I want to watch healing the inner child. I am now 66 and still working on myself. I want to thank you for all of your videos.
I was in the same situation fear and told I'm a nervous child. Fast forward 57 years still nervous. Thank God I found this.
Dee Godfrey 🤗🤗🤗🤗
Dee Godfrey 🙏🙏🙏.. bless you
I relate so much ❤️
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For years, I took the term “Shadow Work” for granted thinking self-introspection alone was cutting it. I didn’t have clear and direct enough questions to ask myself, or a clearly outlined process to follow. This is immensely helpful.
I think thats what I was doing as well. I always thought, yup done the shadow work 😂
Alas, its only too late when we die ..
In my first bout of awakening in my early 20s, my mantra was "what would you do if you werent afraid?"
Omg I’m soooooo stealing this!!!!! Iconic!!!! 🤍🤍🤍🤍
That is very wise. Reminds me a bit about a certain perspective about self care for those of us who suffer from depression: if you were a child how would you take care of yourself?
You are an angel...love you from the Core of my heart...thank you so much...!!!
Heyyy my awakening was really fast intense and made me basically have a paranoid episode but the ENTIRE time my mantra that kept me grounded and litteraly felt like kept me from letting suicidal thoughts turn to action was "love, light, and everything bright, look to the light and the shadows fall behind where they belong"🖤 not that we can ever ignore theyre there. But must be kept in its place as everything els in this existence. Balance💙
@@mtvcribbs326 this was me up until very recently.. very fast as well, to the point that now I'm.. idk.. descending but not? I kinda needed those words today, so thank you!
Aww. I think im gonna go hug my sweet sensitive little boy ❤️ he's 3 and I'm determined not to raise him to be another emotionally stunted man. We need to do better for your children ❤️
Same! My son will be 3 in November and I refuse to raise a toxic male. I want him to know it’s okay to have emotions. That’s what makes us human
@@Kristii17 I rounded up but he turns 3 in November too! On the 20th 😊 and good for you mama!! The shit STOPS here ❤️👏
@Eyes Wide Open I'm so sorry to hear that. I just wanna hug every person who ever felt unwanted or not loved as a child. Glad you have someone who loves and understands you ❤️
Coming for a 19 year old dude - give him as much love as he needs, but when he grows up a little don't overprotect him , let him build conpitence and confidence in him self, let him learn biking, skating and sports,
@@Kristii17 make sure to look after yourself so you won't be a toxic female.
Christina, I don't know if you'll ever read this, but I wanted to say thank you for making this video. After watching, I decided to try meditating, and then I asked myself the questions posed in the video to myself. The answers I got were, brutal. I kept asking questions and getting some of the most painful realizations I have ever had in my life. I won't get too personal but without this video I don't think I could have moved forward on this type of self-improvement and made such enormous progress in a small span of time. We have to be ready for any answers we get and i felt the time had come for me.
Thank you so much!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
My artistic side was in my shadow. I was shamed as a kid for wanting to read or write. As an infp my joy was affected.
Sublimation in the form of art is my favorite. Not only is it productive, it could also resonate with people (creating empathy and maybe another person feeling understood by you, which might feel like some sort of intimacy) or it could create beauty from what you might feel is ugly and make you realize that ugly can also be beautiful when seen through the right pair of eyes.
Omggggg I think no was too!! I need to work through this I think. Thank you.
Reading isnt artistic! Hehe
Wow I can totally relate. I was extremely insulted for writing poetry and maintaining a diary......
Samee... INFP 😭
Just like when naruto faced his inner shadow self who hated villagers for treating him bad, and hugged his shadow self and embraced it to heal instead of fighting it
😂😭😂😭😂😭
Thats true, Naruto always had a lot of spiritual undertones
Yes, I swear Naruto is the best anime ever
@@zygunther You are awesome
@@ilostmyjacket3997 i mean its personal opinions but i wouldn't say The best anime, but its surely among the top
......have u seen death note and fate ubw they are pretty awesome too
I cannot believe how quickly I am able to take in your information, process it, implement it, heal, grow, thrive and assist myself and others! Thank you so much for sharing your gifts and talents! All my love!!
Hey 🖐🏻 i have a question what did you do after you found out what you don't like and what triggers you
I loved the question “If I weren’t afraid what would I do with my life” Dang that hit home.
Bam!!
So...what is your answer?
I never realized how long i’ve been doing shadow work without even knowing. Now that I have knowledge on this topic I see my triggers, fears etc with a loving perspective. Thank you for this video.
Same. Definitely diving deeper with it now, though!
Shadow has completely being ruining my life, and this video is completely saving it. This is exactly the breakdown I needed to understand and turn my life around. Thank you
Shadow work can also be positive qualities about ourselves we disown... I do that a lot.. 😳 disown my good qualities
Thank you for pointing this out!
Great point Cheryl!!!!🥰
Mine is confidence! I have 0 confidence in myself. It's in here somewhere...
My shadow has my life a living hell. Thank you for this. Today is the day I begin my shadow work.
I believe in you :)
Good luck, love❤️
Hope you’re well,
how’s your progress?
How is your work going so far?
Good luck on your journey, we believe in you and you can do this!!
I get defensive when I feel as if I am getting blamed for something I didn't do and I get angry when I can't express my emotions and then and then the list goes on really. IT all just makes me want to be alone.
Maybe you were/are the scapegoat in your family. Of course you become defensife if you’re blamed about things you did not do! But look: if you’re a scapegoat, defenciveness does not help! Look information about what it is to be a scapegoat in the family system! (For example Dr Ramani’s videos).
I'm the same way and barely started to realize it
Look into narcissistic personality disorder and apply the traits to whomever you are living with. Partner, parent, sibling, roommate. Or employer or someone at work.
Its possible your feelings of self are being brainwashed into you by someone wishing to gain control of you by creating situations to tear you down and make you feel like you can't handle shit in your life.
I hope to god I'm wrong. There is much to learn. Good luck chuck.
Omg you get me. This is how I feel abs it's been affecting my bf a lot bc he wants to know what's wrong but I physically cannot out words together why he hurt me or why I'm mad. Idk what to do
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I am 45 years old. Almost a year ago I went to rehab for drugs and alcohol. Ever since I've been on this amazing journey to find myself in this world we live in. I found you when I learned and decided to do the shadow work. You explain everything so well!! Thank you!!! I need this in my life to heal.. What resinated with me the most was Triggers, since I've been in rehab and "trigger" is quite a common term. And I have unknowingly been doing some what of shadow work diving into my triggers and recognizing what bothers me in general. I am excited to continue this work with your help and embrace my new fulfilled life! again, thank you!!
I’ve been on a similar journey. Congrats on doing the work. I wish you all the joy, wisdom and peace that this amazing journey brings🙏🎈
Congratulations on your sobriety! I wish you nothing but, joy, success and love in your new found self!
Congratulations 💗
I'm on a similar journey..
6 months clean at 46 years old.
Single, alone, scared but excited.
🙏
May we all heal along the way..
Congratulations! You won’t regret it.
So 😊 for you!
It took me about 6 months to finally watch this video. Was too scared to look into my own shadow. I have given up my power to my shadow. That’s why I have been incomplete. From now on I’ll try to embrace my shadow more. Thanks Christina ❤
I’m Native American a “shadoweaver” it is very important work!
I create illusion through the eyes of the hive
Cherokee from Oklahoma ❤️yes
That's so cool. What exactly does a shadoweaver do?
@@JasmineRenyse Turn on the lights💡
Yes, could you explain me what it consist of? Because someone recommended it is my work but I am clueless what it means or why I was told this
Growing up gay in rural Australia, I know I denied so much of myself for so long, that really resonated with me when you said, the moment you began turning away from your truth your shadow is born. The moment you try/fail to live up to your parents expectations, it grows.
I don't think I do this anymore..but I know I need to explore the past, do the work, reset my wiring. It's time to go in. Thanks as always Christina. x
I am so happy that there are people like you who take the time to bring this information to the public in such an organized and informative fashion
I'm currently one of those people who can be nice one minute and snap the next... I know its just another thing I have to work on/with . Im glad to know its my shadow and can be worked on
As soon as you said “sensitive little boy” 💙
I see my own son battling against fears that are currently being instilled in him at his dad's house...
But he has me & we have Christina, lol.
This did hit deep bro when she said this. Wow
Lauren Michelle Aww I can imagine how he feels but yess he has you and you/we all have Christina!
Yes 😭
@@laurenmichelle6346 this channel is amazing, wish you both well.
Among my 9 months of being entrapped in an intense shadow, this video made the most sense and provided really valuable insights. Even theraphy sessions weren’t this helpful. Thank you
I’m a healer and coming into my powers as I keep healing. I had deep childhood traumas and multiple traumas since 5 years old. I’ve always felt like I didn’t “fit in” and growing these powers make me feel even more that way. I’m just starting looking into shadow work so I’m guided and following my guidance
i don't know if this is on the same level but when i was 7 i was gand r*aped by an entire class of boys....at an after school club. i fought to defend myself but i was slapped etc...How do we do shadow work on such dark things like that? For instance i fear minority men and their sexuality...because i have almost only had bad to severe assults from them...possibly because i am bi-racial. Nobody not even my therapist has any words to say on this. Sorry if this is too extreme for your eyes.
@@AccidentalWarrior144 Hi there… what a horrific, traumatic experience you had. I am so very sorry. I send you such love on your healing journey. Continue to be compassionate with yourself - it takes time but you are clearly on your path to healing just by asking the questions and through your willingness to explore. I’d consider reading “The Body keeps Score” and possibly looking into some trauma release exercises (TRE), using affirmations found on RUclips (many can play while your sleeping), reiki, and maybe even some plant medicines if that calls you. You definitely fit in… this community loves you. ❤️
@@AccidentalWarrior144 go for Lama fera healing it will help you
You obviously are a very strong woman , you have survived this far after such a horrific disrespect to your body & soul , so keep drawing on that strength as you heal from this . You will heal just keep seeking help from people of wisdom such as this beautiful one here . Turn inward for strength but don't fall into yourself cutting off the world trust me it does no good at all . Face those fears up close & personal to make them insignificant . You can do this , GOD BLESS & BLESSED BE !!!! Sending positive reinforcement waves to you !!
I to have always felt as though I simply am not like most people. I've never had a true friend, probably because of that feeling. I've always been a loner as well.
the problem with the childhood review part: I don’t remember most of my childhood due to trauma. so like. i don’t know these things
It’s possible that I will as u work on the shadow self...I’ve experienced this...it’s overwhelming when it happens
Sameeee. (TW.?) I just remember that every time after school I would literally start crying because I was so exhausted and my mom would put crosses around me and would tell me to stop crying Omg it was so bad
Meditate and let it all come back. Meditation is powerful brotha
I love Puns meditate and let it alll come back, meditation is powerful brotha
As a teen, I learned Transcendental Meditation... it was so deep that a tsunami of suppressed/repressed childhood memories flooded into my awareness. Cue up the shadow! It’s been a wild ride, this lifetime, but I have no regrets about that. Sure, bubbling up childhood shit isn’t pleasant, but it’s probably going to erupt sometime... why not approach it with meditating, however style feels right for you, with gentle openness? When we heal our crap, it ripples healing outward. Bonus. 💙🙏🏼
I’m actually flabbergasted at the similarities that I face with your life journey . I started my healing work after my dad passed away around two years back and I always found my dad emotionally unavailable but the most startling fact is that I too lived my life being fearful of coming in power . Just recently I gained my power back and started my RUclips channel . I played small all my life for others , it’s sad but I’m glad that I finally did the inner work to heal all the core wounds !!
I am 78 y.o. Entered the seminary at 14 to have a "happy" future away from a dysfunctional family life. My ordination made my family very happy, except me. My shadow taught me "l am not good enough, not perfect!" To this day, despite the many talents I have and heightened spirituality as a Buddha follower and into daily meditation , introspection, the shadow of abandonment and insufficiency still knocks on my door. The thought of previous life times helps me to understand the intensity of my shadow, how the positive aspects of my current life are what's real, to be validated every morning and moment of the day. Thanks for the insights and tools to live with positive energy as long as I am on this planet.
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LOVED the video! so well explained, and detailed. Thank you so much for your precious help!
* don't mind me just writting this down to come back to it. the general timestamps are in the description box, i just did a bit more detailed - there's stuff i didn't specify, within the topics; everything is important- this is just to watch it later and to know where everything was
part 1- 1:35- what the shadow is
part 2- 15:20- the problem with the shadow
part 3- 19:20- how to spot the shadow (4 ways):
->1st way -19:25 - projections
->2nd -21:40 - emotional triggers
->3rd -24:22 - patterns
->4th -25:31 - introspection
part 4- 26:41- how to do shadow work
- 28:08 top 5 tips
1-> 28:10- do not antagonize the shadow
2-> 29:24- observation without judgment
3-> 31:35- past life regression
4-> 32:40- childwood review
5-> 36:13- retrieve your gifts
Doing shadow work is what led to my spiritual awakening. Blessed 🙌
“Triggers are my best friend!” This will be my mantra for today while paying close attention to the shadow side of me coming out. Scary but needed to grow.
The most interesting part of this video to me, is that there is a cache of forgotten abilities, perspectives, gifts, we left aside in favour of shutting down and picking up those coping mechanisms.. and that we can find it.
Well said.
English isn't my first language so 40 minutes can be hard but the way you talk, your examples, your advices.. everything is so clear and easy to understand ! Thank you so much, I'm following for more videos !
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"Don't antagonise the shadow"...that's huge. Thank you!
I started crying when you gave the example of the boyfriend talking to an attractive woman.....ive had reoccurring patterns in my relationships of there always been some "other" woman. I have huge fears around my partner (when I'm in a relationship) finding other women attractive or desiring other women sexually. I've done a lot of healing and self development work but recently found that this is still unresolved. Thank you for this video...I'm going to work on this.
i can so relate. just feeling ao triggered by that (when my bf talks to other women ) .. how have you been healing it ?
Check out Thais Gibson on RUclips. Relationship attachment styles.
This is so relatable..
Fear of abandonment, maybe. Maybe you were left alone for a long period of times when you were a child.
I can relate to this!
I am 65 and have done so much work over the years. I have always felt there was this huge block keeping me from reaching my potential - in so many aspects. I recently had a session with an alchemist who mentioned shadow to me. It was this session that led me to your channel. How to spot shadow really resonated with me. This is huge!!! I always thought there was something dark dogging my steps all the time but shadow makes soooo much sense!!! Thank you!! I can’t wait to dig into more of your videos! 🙏❤️
I’ve GOT to give you mad respect for your depth of understanding of the topic. Most teachers cannot reach this width and depth. This topic is practically a lifestyle at my home and it’s very rare to hear others explain dynamic/practical principles/mechanics of the topic. Stay the course. Peace, integration, balance, awareness and respect. 🥂🥂🥂✊🏽
focus on small talk with new age spiritual teachers always leave me disappointed. Love how OP can nail things down with honesty & authenticity
It's crazy to think that our loved ones have the reigns on the decisions we make. Shadow work is harder than I thought it would be. 🧘🏻♂️
I can relate.. My parents being an authority figure and this somehow reflects how i act on my relationships.. Being controlling and disrespecting.
Unfortunately many things happen that are out of our control.
It's often difficult to reconcile when we realize that as children we were set down a difficult path.
It is certainly expected that we mourn our childhood, especially when our vulnerabilities are underlined.
For me, I found that as an adult, caring for myself as if I were caring for a child was very healing.
"Do not antagonize the shadow!" is the tip that resonated with me the most for sure! That is the crux...the point where either we learn and grow from an experience or sink the anchor of despair into it.
Wow when you talk about how the shadow can effect you and ruin your relationships among other things.... Omg.... that hit home. This really hits my soul.
* Grew up with an immigrant mom who put the fear of God into me if I failed any class and repeatedly said that I should only do what I love (special effects work) as ‘a hobby’
* Spent summers with cousins who ‘playfully’ made fun of me for how ‘white’ I behaved and how much I love Godzilla and Ultraman
* Went through special ed from kindergarten to 12th grade - separate busing, separate classes, endured being talked down to by adults AND my own peers
* Vividly remember times after school when I really just wanted to relax and be a kid, only to be driven to my dad’s office because my parents didn’t have a housekeeper to look after me
All of these experiences drilled beliefs into my psyche like:
“You’re worthless”
“Don’t express yourself”
“You’re an outcast who’ll never make friends”
“Your desires/interests don’t matter”
Each one severely kneecaped me from growing into my own person. It’s only recently, however, that I started to heal via a deep dive into subconscious mind work (Abraham Hicks, Neville Goddard, and now Shadow Work). Thanks for giving me some much needed clarity on what I have to do to liberate myself.
I love Godzilla too!
I need to do this journaling exercise too.
Just THANK YOU. Coming from someone who‘s been trying to do this for years but never quite new where to start and on behalf of everyone who felt the same. You changed some lifes!🖤
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The part of ”why care about the shadow” was very eye-opening too. It really made me understand the importance of the shadow work. And the whole video gave courage, will and tools to do it. Thank you.
Why only part? Because material is about everything mentioned in it...It cant be disconnected just like that. Because it can make nonsense.
Just got done reading "The War of the Gods in addiction." Highly recommended for those struggling with addiction of any kind.
Nice, I wanna check it. Can you give me a paraphrased explanation?
Thank you! I’ll absolutely check it out. Congrats on your recovery if you’re an addict as i am. I know how hard it is, and thankfully we don’t ever have to live that way anymore. Took me over 7 years to finally get 17 months this month. Blessed be✨
Interesting. Will check out. I have 3.5 years!
Around the 12 min mark, I started to swell up in tears. Thank you so much for this benevolent video and for expressing your gifts upon the world. I was lead to view your video specifically. Now I see why. Blessings to everyone's journey.
I finally see this at 33...but better late than never. Got a lot to work on.
Thank you, I realize I was judging my shadow and trauma that was surfacing and my body's response to the shadow. My shadow would come in, and my body would respond with dissociation and I would get mad, frustrated that it was back again and believe I wasn't good enough, because I was still dissociated and couldn't heal... my dislike, judgement, and fear is all of my shadow itself, my darkness that I keep surrounded by light so no one can see it, not even me... Also same with past lives, as I was in my power in past lives I was rejected in horrible ways so this lifetime I protected myself, I put myself in a box this time, I fragmented myself so that no one could see the true me and no one would hurt me again. It is time to be whole, pull all of me back together in the present moment and step into my true power as the shaman I am.
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As soon as I typed in shadow work I immediately got tense, sad and scared 😭 I am not ready for this 😣
The little boy in her example was me😂😂😂. Decades later and I'm now working on my Heart Chakra to allow myself to actually feel emotions again hahaha
Me to 😅
Me tooo🥴
Literally man! I needed this so much💯💪🏾🔮
Me too
This is brilliant. So refreshing to hear Jung mentioned, and the fact that shadow is a mixture of negative and positive.
Hi Christina, I've just come across your videos tonight. Everything you said has resonated with me. I've had tons of counselling and CBT, nothing really worked. I've been feeling like I'm possessed for some time now, but listening to your video it makes sense, I've been feeding my shadow side forever, starting from childhood, I've always maintained my over critised, children should be seen n not heard shit, nothing I did was any good, my appearance, my friends etc etc. I'm fairly insecure/low self esteem, self loathing, but il never give up. I will follow your teachings and stop feeding my shadow. Love you xxx
I had such a deeply profound realization about my shadow while watching this, my mind is completely blown. I had all the information, I just needed someone to spell out the connections for me.
Initially thought this video would be too long but I am very thankful I watched it all the way through. I feel I have a lot more clarity regarding my shadow and what’ needs to be done. Catching it won’t be so hard now Thank you so much 🙏🏾🌍🦋
My girlfriend sent me this video as I was looking up shadow work. She brought this to my attention about what I could be facing. This video really intrigued my mental state but more importantly made me want to discover my shadow. Because it’s apart of me and to keep myself honest about who the real me is.
My shadow keeps attracting darkness but I feel it is now attracting spiritual awareness
What if you can’t remember your childhood ? I mostly remember being sad and that I didn’t fit in and I didn’t belong.
@Chris Williams tre?
Therapy is shadowwork and a therapist can help you deal with that
I feel you Angelina 💗
This hit home.
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"Intention of Working/Journaling on the Shadow:
-Healing
-Bringing Light/Conscious awareness
-Integration and
-Embracing our shadow aspects
Making it smaller and having less affect on our life"
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Powerful stuff to develop!
For some reason, just looking at you makes me emotional and I feel myself getting choked up . Listening to your words, made me feel extremely sad, yet oddly comforted.
Thank you so much for this. Will rewatch this until I feel strong enough to venture out
How did it go I'm starting today? For some reason I've grown very nervous to do this but I know I need this to achieve things I want and need.
4 Ways to spot and become aware of your shadow:
1. Projections
. What you project and reject about others, you deny about yourself.
2. Emotional Triggers. Remember, triggers re your best friends bc they show you what your shadow is.
3. Patters. Repeating patterns and stories in your life.
4. Introspection. There's no trigger here. You spot the shadow before it's triggered. To find out... Ask 3 questions
a What parts of yourself do you dislike?
b. What parts of yourself do you judge?
c. What parts of yourself do you fear?
Thank you!!
Well as a lifelong informal musician...teaching myself ! All kinds of songs and patterns so scales on my instrument ....the " lifelong" endeavor ultimately has been to MMMAYYBE come up with one really great instrumental piece....it's exactly like the " shadow" has had this capacity forever!! In my life...like with the " shadow" popping up n out??=" Oh; THIS!!???"-- and I'm playing like Mozart, jr.!!-- really FLYING !! On my instrument....i guess that's " The Shadow"-- the " gifts" ARE EVVVERRR " SOOO THERRRE"--!!! and ALLL ALONG... Since my very earliest days toying with my instrument!!!
Thank you so much! This is very helpful. Love and Light to you, brother ❤
Thank you for doing this video, Christina. ❤🙏 I asked my higher self for guidance on how to do shadow work to once and for all integrate my shadows and was directed to this video. I'm so excited to start meditation and the tips given here. Thanks again! 😊
So much of this video resonates with me; acceptance as a child, relationships with parents, past lives, and triggers that flip my internal switch that takes me from 0 - psycho in seconds.
One of my favorite mantra that helped me go through my shadows was “I can’t heal if I can’t feel,it brought all shadows up to the surface,so healing become easy.
Wow that’s powerful I appreciate you sharing that. I’m just now noticing how afraid I was to feel, had no clue until tears of relief came just from giving myself basic attention and care and acknowledging how I feel in the moment or what’s going on within… thanks for that easy to remember mantra 🙏
That; “if I weren’t afraid, what would I do with my life” was presented to me during my NDE in 2008, and I was shown! The things I dreamed of doing, but was to afraid to do! they showed me the desires of my heart, and challenged me to REALLY LIVE THEN! to face the fears and still GO FOR IT! I’m so so Thankful for you! You are inspirational and Beautiful! I love your laugh
Thank you so much for your service and your contributions to an ever growing need of Awakening Souls. Love you ❤💋
The fact that we are here to integrate the shadow, and not being told it’s bad and it needs to go away completely is a huge weight off my shoulders.
Wow, i think this video has unlocked something i have really struggled with. I was raised and have only experienced women in my life. Really, there have not been any men at all around me. But most experiences with women have been heavily dominant towards me. I was raised by my mother and the people around her that men are all evil and being male is something to be ashamed of. So, apart from my outward appearance, and sexuality, i am mostly in feminine energy. I have "less manly" tastes and behaviours. I have really struggled to balance my energy. I know i need to find and integrate my masculine energy, but had no idea how, or what it even means to be in masculine energy. It seems even going back to past life memories i have, that i have run from masculine behaviours, due to a tragic experience in my last life. So, i feel my DM energy is hidden in my shadow. The only time i tend to show any type of masculine energy at all is when im triggered, but it tends to be through dominance behaviours. I feel i have some direction to my healing work now.
Wow @ you being able to write this! I don’t think many men would be able to admit to feeling this way! I’m so proud of you!!! Good luck with your shadow work and healing!!! 💫💫💫💫
look into Tony Gaskins. If you can afford it, try getting coaching from him. He might be able to help point you in the right direction
I never really did shadow work properly but somehow I healed my shadow by intention. I asked universe “I dont know what it is but I want to heal it” 😂 I repeated this everytime I felt pain, then I received a lot of hint about my wound. One day, I suddenly realized that I couldn’t love human or myself because my mom judged me “you don’t love your mom, you can’t love noone.” That was when I broke free from the curse. I realized I am not what she said, and I dont have to behave and feel like what she said. I have ability to love, I am the love. She said I dont love her, but I always love her.
As soon as you said burned at the stake I got chills and I now realize I need to look into my past lives
You somehow gave better theraputic advice in one video than my therapist ever has, really needed to hear all this
All of it i wrote notes the whole video. i need to do this for myself ❤ you're video was amazing, the best one i watched so far
24:37 "Repeating patterns" Your example: "losing yourself in relationships." I am resonating *so much* with that example. This has been a recurring theme in ALL of my romantic relationships. I would just.. "lose" my identity and myself. Now reflecting back on it, this has also been a semi-theme in friendships. But in romantic relationships I would lose myself all the time.
I am very happy for learning this. How can I diminish that shadow aspect? Just by asking myself what feeling occurs by the realization and sitting through it?
(Btw Dylan James has recommend your chanel, he is an mindset/manifestation-coach. I absolutely LOVE your videos!!!)
@LEO I thought about that for a while. But no, I do not have bpd. I had an unstable childhood and attachment problems
@@LuanEevee I have this same issue in romantic relationships , had unstable traumatic childhood
I hear ya! Lots of repressed feelings at a very young age. Wishing everyone well on their journey! We got this!
Hey! I have experienced the same thing and what helped me was that I realized losing myself in relationships meant I would abandon myself and that led to an anxious attachment style in relationships. I was afraid of being my true self and setting boundaries because I was afraid if I did, my partner would leave me. I decided to show up for myself by being the type of lover I wished to have (eg. Hugging myself when I am sad, dedicating love songs to myself, being more open minded toward myself and others). These are just examples but YOU, and only you, know what you would like your ideal partner to be like. When you start showing up as your ideal partner and loving yourself, you will naturally start setting up better boundaries for yourself because you will not be afraid to lose people because you already have yourself. You will then attract and maintain friendships and relationships where people respect your boundaries and the relationships with those who don't respect your boundaries will naturally fade away. I hope this helps and good luck on your journey!
@@noellam788 I love this so much thank you this helped a lot
You literally saved my life.. Im so thankful to you.. You are my spirit guide.. 😍❤💖💖
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Yes! 😮
This is one of my biggest fears. To be all that I know I can be.
Fear to be seen and have attention on myself.
Fear that others may become jealous.
Fear of being seen as a “Know it all”.
Fear of judgement and rejection.
I love this famous quote by Marianne Williamson,
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.”
Wow! Projection is such a powerful tool. Again, thank you for unpacking a hugely misunderstood topic in a lucid and grounded fashion. Namaste 🙏
Honest review: At first I was annoyed but as I continued to listen, I found you extremely helpful! I think that annoyance is a trigger. Lol... I love that you said to Love your shadow. I have been working on that on and off but now I will make it a priority. I'm going to share this with my enlightened daughter.
I am 55 yrs old and finally awakened and sometimes cannot unsetand a lot of those RUclips channels about all of THIS! But YOU my beautiful soul have a way of bringing across the message to the masses in such a way that is not only understandable but actually doable . I want to thank you for being you . I will look further into your videos for I have just become awake and am overwhelmed right now . 😮❤🙏🏻🌏
I just got back into the dating realm. This is definitely helping me heal the past and not to project it to my current situation. Thank you so much!!
I had to pause your video to tell you that when you said "do you know a person that's kind and good then all of a sudden has a temper tantrum?" I instantly recognized myself. So yeah, I have to do my shadow work and I am glad that I am here for guidance. Thank you
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A few years ago I had a severe breakdown. My biggest fears came knocking on my door and I couldn't outrun them anymore. The dark night of my soul. So my ego went crazy, but eventually came to it's senses through honesty and surendering. So a lot of stuf you mention I already did on my path. Now I like it to take it a step further so thank you for your valuable tips. I will certainly use them ❤
I have given myself the past 5 months to journal my dreams (shadow work).
Wow! Very powerful shadow work. I’ve worked all the way up to the present. This video has helped me to integrate all that journaling (as well as MUCH past journaling), and see it as having to do with only me (not others).
OMG! This is the final piece to my shadow work. My childhood in this life was not pleasant AT ALL! It’s really easy to blame others when you’re dealing with trauma from all your lives as well as this one.
I also could be angry that it took me 55 years in this life to reach the point I’m at now, but I’m even over that, because from a spiritual perspective I have TOTALLY set myself up for a GREAT next life as well as the next phase of this life.
Shadow work is hard, but what’s harder is NOT doing it. I almost let my shadow destroy me in this life. I am so grateful I gave myself the space and time to do it.
Thank You Christina Lopes for bringing it all home in this video! Because I knew all of what you talked about, but not in such a complete way like this. Even the journal entries I had done at some point in my life (probably many times), but needed to integrate them in my mind and heart in this way, in order to FULLY claim my power.
Namaste to ALL 🌈🙏
This is so deep. There was plenty times where I had to rewind to grasp the full meaning. Day after day I reach a deeper level to my personal spiritual awakening and i am grateful to have come across this video 🙏🏼❤💯💯
What a fantastic video, really clear and lots of important information on our spiritual journey. Christina, you are one of my real favorites on RUclips! Great work, as always.
what helped me the most was “was i completely accepted as a child” and any questions regarding parents 🤍
I find it hard opening up and being myself around people, I'm often cautions and am a huge people pleaser. One thing you said really struck a chord with me, with the childhood review. - Was I completely accepted and what behaviours and emotions were judged... I was quite an annoying kid, always playing and finding ways to make people laugh, even if it was myself (not sure its much of a gift but hey ho) and on this one occasion I was in a car with my brother and mother, I was obviously being annoying, my mum said if I kept annoying my brother she would kick me out of the car, anyway I obviously carried on, bearing in mind I was 5/6 years old, my mum stopped the car, made me get out, left me by the side of the road and drove away, I felt abandoned and cried my eyes out....She obviously came back within 5 minutes but to me it was forever. Bringing that emotion/memory up today made me cry, bearing in mind that I'm 26 years old and have probably cried about 3 times in my adult life, my relationship with my mum has never been uber strong, tho I'm trying to improve it, and I always felt she loved my brother more, which I think always affected me.. I hope I can integrate this feeling of not being good enough. Anyway, thanks for doing what you do and shining light on the shadows
I turned 39 yesterday and I can't tell you how much I needed this video
I have so much work to do, but I’m ready to get started! There’s so much about me that I’ve never been able to control, and it makes so much sense that I can’t control it because I keep trying to reject or push it away instead of integrating it in my life. I’m hoping with a lot of focus and persistence I can finally heal the parts of me that feel so empty and alone.
I watched this video on a friend's device. SO helpful. I'm old to start this journey, I just turned 60. I was triggered by a show I was watching, one character claimed to have been angry, the second replied that it wasn't anger, but rather fear and hurt. I recognized that as true for me, and it sent me looking for what I'm hiding 😊 Subscribed and heading to your website. Thank you 💖
you’re not old, now is the perfect time for you to start 🥰🥰
It's never too late! ❤️
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Hi Maria, I too am 60, but the way I see it is, I have all the time in the world because I am eternal, immortal. We are never to old to begin, there is only now anyway.
Heads above anyone else's explanation, thank you!!! So many well meaning readers, etc all talk about "childhood wounds" and at 71 years old I have EXAUSTED my childhood from this Life and whatever imperfections. But my folks gave much love and were very supportive in my growth and strength. But I know many of my past lives had trauma, etc. Tks for reinforcing what I have always felt.
This was a very insightful video for me and so much makes sense now. I struggled with depression for almost my whole life and it wasn't until this year that I was able to face it head on. The part where she talks about the shadow being a separate entity really resonated with me. A big part of my depression was the inability to love and accept myself. Because of that I always felt like 2 different people: The person everyone knew I could be, could grow into, the girl who had so much potential VS. the terrible person I thought I was. I always thought I had to be one or the other until I learned that wasn't the case. I'm just a human with flaws and emotions that has every chance to better herself and grow. That being said, I'm excited to start this journey and see where it leads me.
Thank you so much for the informative video! I'll definitely be coming back to review it when needed lol
I feel such an abundance of gratitude for you and for finding your channel. I’ve been trying so hard to do shadow work, and my therapist really doesn’t fully understand what I was needing (I honestly could articulate what I was asking for either, but I knew I was missing something and I wasn’t tapping into the deep deep hurt and darkness I have within myself.) this is exactly what I needed. I’m so excited to start my journey of acceptance towards my shadow self. When you mentions being self critical THAT was my biggest problem. I run away and push away my shadow. Everything about this video is just magic. Thank you so much.
Wow.... I started step 4 when you were talking in part 2. I have always seen my shadow as a separate being ...she has her own personality and I even named her when I was 16...but recently I've been on a spiritual journey and I noticed she was more silent than usual....I think we are merging.
Currently I still “stay small” though my entire being knows there’s so much more. This will be a beautiful slow and painful process, though there’s no doubt in my mind that it’s worth it.
How does one say MORE thank you? Simply put....thank you.