How the Pain-Body Affects Relationships | Eckhart Tolle

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  • Опубликовано: 15 окт 2024
  • The Pain-Body can bring suffering to relationships, any kind of relationship in our life. Eckhart shares how most human unhappiness comes from relationships with other humans, and shares tips on how to navigate them.
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  • @susieque3195
    @susieque3195 2 года назад +208

    This man has completely changed my life and I just love him to death and he’s funny too

  • @MJ-ge6jz
    @MJ-ge6jz 2 года назад +119

    Relationships are an excellent tool to speed up your spiritual practice. Baptism by fire!

  • @Ammasgrasshopper
    @Ammasgrasshopper 2 года назад +193

    'If you live alone, the pain-body can still feed on your negative stream of thoughts.' So true.

    • @dublingirl1691
      @dublingirl1691 Год назад +1

      💯🎯

    • @lesliemontagne6797
      @lesliemontagne6797 Год назад +4

      Yes, that was a WOW moment for me; learning how we create “crazy” and conflicting problems all by ourselves!!!

    • @ronamain8689
      @ronamain8689 Год назад

      Yes...keeps cropping up.😮

    • @MarcinHopa8
      @MarcinHopa8 Год назад

      Oh so true 😭😭❤️

  • @CitrusSimon
    @CitrusSimon 2 года назад +251

    We all need to continue practicing, regardless of where we are. One foot in front of the other. And listening closely. It's the simple things that keep us present. When we do become unconscious, and blame another, or the even the weather, it is an opportunity to witness the ego...."Ah, there it is, it took control of me, but that is not me" Its wonderful when we have moments when we realise that we are not our thoughts, its almost as if we are a part of nature?

    • @crystalmccoy
      @crystalmccoy 2 года назад +3

      Thank you for that ⤴️💚

    • @Jessilavender
      @Jessilavender 2 года назад +11

      well said peace to you my friend.
      we are nature ♥️♥️

    • @CitrusSimon
      @CitrusSimon 2 года назад +4

      @@Jessilavender Thank you Jessi. It seems the ego thinks it is in nature? Quite a limiting belief system, to only see ourselves in nature. But it is a relief, and a blessing to know, that we are a real part of nature. 🌻

    • @tinfoilhatter
      @tinfoilhatter 2 года назад +3

      indeed: i might be part-pain-body, i might be a pitiful creature, but doggone it, nobody's-gettin'-the-better-of-me, unless i do, haha...

    • @CitrusSimon
      @CitrusSimon 2 года назад +4

      Ha! Hilarious, tinfoilhatter! "nobody's-gettin'-the-better-of-me, unless I do" Sounds like the classic schizophrenic tug of war we all go through, and we could get a mental health label if it is detected by doctors!

  • @santiago1983ism
    @santiago1983ism Год назад +220

    I ruined a relationship with a very sweet girl because of my "pain body", and ended up ending our relationship 2 years ago, in early 2021, thinking that the problem was her. To this day I regret it, that I left her. It's not easy to deal with this sadness, longing and regret.

    • @bernadetteyelland3969
      @bernadetteyelland3969 Год назад +47

      It can be very difficult to let go of the past, to forgive yourself, when we see our mistakes, when we become aware of a new understanding. What amazing awareness you have come to now, though! I hope you will one day be able to release the pain and live more in place of embracing what you have learned through it.

    • @santiago1983ism
      @santiago1983ism Год назад +11

      @@bernadetteyelland3969 thank you friend!

    • @newhumandynamics7097
      @newhumandynamics7097 Год назад +43

      That needed to happen to learn the lesson my friend. I know it sucks, but it was a blessing in disguise. Something even better will show up after you've healed your wound and found peace within yourself. BTW, notice how u blamed her, now you're blaming yourself. Forgiveness is a powerful means to dissipate guilt and grief (which keep you stuck in the past), so cut yourself some slack, we all make mistakes.

    • @jillh2186
      @jillh2186 Год назад +27

      I agree with Mary that commented can you contact her again sometimes people that love each other do need to figure things out apart maybe she misses you and would like to be with you again.

    • @samra3654
      @samra3654 Год назад +18

      My partner left me after 5 years because he wanted to enjoy his life with his new friends..specially that female friend became so important that he started to ignore me and now after more than a year of chasing, calling different people, begging I am here in spirituality..trying to release myself and him..we both are guilty..I can't let him go..I am stuck..but I will try my best to cut our ties..it is painful to hear these harsh things from a person who once loved you so much..I am surrendering to universe..I am building my belief for universe

  • @sovereign.spirit
    @sovereign.spirit 2 года назад +162

    Thank you for all the free content you have provided us over the years. It is truly a gift 💜

    • @natureisallpowerful
      @natureisallpowerful 2 года назад +8

      I'll second that 👍

    • @mindsigh4
      @mindsigh4 2 года назад +9

      amen, i needed to hear some of these messages many times,
      else i would have gotten enthused for a bit & then overtaken by unconscious habits, & then been discouraged, & moved on,
      but by Tolle reiterating
      certain themes, such as feeling the energy body, combined with breathing,
      if he returns to a theme
      it impresses upon me the worth of pursuing it,.. partly becuz i trust Tolle, he has a very good track record with me & been proven right so far, about what is vital in my experience.

  • @musudespertar883
    @musudespertar883 Год назад +37

    Even though we learn from difficult relationships, we should discern the lessons and figure out how long we want to stay there learning the same lessons through suffering. ✨🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @CatWoman6
      @CatWoman6 Год назад +4

      That's what I'm wondering. Is the problem reoccurring because of Me or because I am still with him and have to deal with his unconsciousness.

    • @ActionmediaUK
      @ActionmediaUK Год назад +2

      Unconscious relationships have to have some bonus - somewhere or else we have to be off ; my husband is totally unconscious but I just go off to meditate and do yoga and he cooks dinner - It takes all sorts to make a world..

    • @CatWoman6
      @CatWoman6 Год назад

      @@ActionmediaUK I wouldn't call it an unconscious relationship. We just all have our moment of disconnect but on the whole I am seeing we are better than I realised.

    • @chrismccaffrey8256
      @chrismccaffrey8256 Год назад +1

      ​@CatWoman6 do you have to deal with his unconsciousness, or your perception of and response to his unconsciousness?

  • @StephanieJeanne
    @StephanieJeanne 2 года назад +61

    I loved that you used Smeagol from Lord of the Rings as a physical representation of the pain body! That will stick with me. Great talk. Thank you! ☺️✌️

    • @tinfoilhatter
      @tinfoilhatter 2 года назад +2

      i pity-the-fool, haha, truly, and we mustn't deny pitying ourselves, it's not only natural, it's nurtural, right? well, now, then again, there may-or-may-not be such things as too-much-of some good things or what-not, how much is enough, right? [well, how much have we got?] [ha ha]

  • @susanmadison6466
    @susanmadison6466 2 года назад +31

    I've have had a huge opportunities the past three years to choose between being a victim or not reacting to what I see as personal persecution.
    The ego in me has screamed, "But THIS is different! I am a victim!"
    However, when I am able to disengage from my thoughts and seek love....I disengage from my need to be right.

    • @Michelle-bv1ko
      @Michelle-bv1ko 8 месяцев назад

      Do you notice the osin body overreaction in otgers, & if you do, how do you respond or even tell them about their "pain body"? I'm living with someone whose PB is very active when he can't change things. I have to sit out his bad mood or histrionics🙄.

  • @melissabrzescinski494
    @melissabrzescinski494 Год назад +5

    The pain body. This explanation just flipped the light on for me. I’ve been feeding mine unknowingly and boy have I manifested some garbage. I ended a great relationship in this way and I regret it. I’ve had major back issues with sciatica which has caused sleep deprivation and a need for pain medication. Through all of this my emotional pain body is an overreacter and hypersensitive. I blew it with a man I love. I’m taking steps to correct myself by reaching for better feeling thoughts. It takes practice (lots) to pull myself out of the negative thoughts cycle. I hope one day my love will come back to me. I’m coming back to me, that’s the most important thing. Thank you for the wisdom.

  • @veraintuizione6497
    @veraintuizione6497 2 года назад +45

    I could hear the teachings of Eckart Tolle in eternum ... They are so full of truth, humanity and wisdom, they are so deep, that my heart expands into the whole universe. Eternally grateful
    💓❤️💓❤️🙏💓❤️💓❤️

    • @tinfoilhatter
      @tinfoilhatter 2 года назад

      he does seem to have figured out a thing-or-two, well it's more than that, obviously, it's just that he's got a way-about-him, ain't he tho? if he were here, i might be too star-struck to say a word, he's very kind to allow all this sort of thing, oops, knowing that some people might act-a-fool, and possibly reflect poorly on the whole thing, well, we're not about to allow that, eh? ha ha, sorry, sorry, there's no chance he's gonna read these things, i hope: because i may or may not have said any of it, okay? [forgive me, you know-who-ya-are, yeah? thanks, and hey, you're great, i don't-gotta-tell-ya-that, right?] [haha, sorry, thank you, i love ya, ho-opo-nopono, right?]

    • @veraintuizione6497
      @veraintuizione6497 2 года назад

      @@tinfoilhatter ?

    • @tinfoilhatter
      @tinfoilhatter 2 года назад +1

      @@veraintuizione6497 i was agreeing with you, not in-so-many-words

    • @veraintuizione6497
      @veraintuizione6497 2 года назад +4

      @@tinfoilhatter thanks for replying now I got it. Maybe it depends by our different experiences and so on. Teachings' Tolle have conquered my heart from the first time I listened to them. ❤️ To me they are of VITAL help❤️ Probably you would have to listen to them more times to permitting they enter in your heart ❤️

    • @tinfoilhatter
      @tinfoilhatter 2 года назад +2

      @@veraintuizione6497 at least twenty-some years, i'm familiar wit' his words,
      not always have they fallen on receptive bits of me, but we try to avail ourselves whenever and however it's convenient...it seems endlessly helpful, his words and ideas, or expressions and impressions he shares...
      thanks, yes, i really liked the guy immediately, i don't remember what year that was, when i saw some book or another, : he was nuthin' but a name to me then, and much later he became a well-known celebrity, as seen-on-tv...

  • @Faith-sr8zw
    @Faith-sr8zw 2 года назад +8

    I should've watched this before an argument with my significant other. I had this saved but didn't get round to watching it yet

  • @Sockdarner007
    @Sockdarner007 Год назад +18

    My god, this guy just distilled and expressed in a wonderful way exactly what my beautiful wife and I have been struggling with for about 8 years. It’s given me hope that we can manage this now That i can see it clearly, and restore us to where we should be. Our love is real but we somehow find a way to conflict and anger and it drives me to despair.
    Thank you so very much - I believe this so well timed ( I won’t overshare as to why)that it is almost divine.

  • @deannastone8313
    @deannastone8313 2 года назад +14

    I absolutely forget all I have learned and forget all about my peaceful frequency when I am confronted or approached negatively.

    • @karennoble1076
      @karennoble1076 Год назад +5

      Same here De Anna.i understand him well intellectually but have difficulty practicing, resistance.

  • @yukio_saito
    @yukio_saito 2 года назад +34

    3:19
    So true. But unaware therapists are utterly useless. They are reactive because they are not aware of their own emotional pain. It's uncomfortable or harmful for clients. I fired such incompetent therapists. Therapists should take care of their own pain-body before giving clients therapy.

    • @dianeyoung8068
      @dianeyoung8068 Год назад +4

      So true, I have experienced the same thing.

    • @yukio_saito
      @yukio_saito Год назад +3

      @@dianeyoung8068 Sad to hear that. I hope your things got better after that.

  • @rogerlin9602
    @rogerlin9602 2 года назад +39

    Know thyself. There are two levels.
    Your thoughts and emotions in reactive mode, and your awareness of them.
    Thanks Eckhart. 🌷🌴💖🕊🐌🌱🌼🐦🍁🦋

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад +1

      ▪️Tʜᴀɴᴋꜱ ғᴏʀ Cᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛɪɴɢ

    • @sharieallen2719
      @sharieallen2719 2 года назад

      @@user-kp5qk3bs9b You're a great teacher Eckhart !

  • @BecomeConsciousNow
    @BecomeConsciousNow 2 года назад +10

    I have this problem. It's so difficult to let go of.

  • @missmelissa3573
    @missmelissa3573 Год назад +8

    I need to watch these videos to tolerate a horrible marriage and try to stay together for the kids. So far I’ve had zero luck detaching from the mind. I’m very much grounded in the 3D world.

    • @stinaljungstrom8691
      @stinaljungstrom8691 Год назад +5

      But isn't leaving an option? Your kids will see the horrible relation and grow up in it. Maybe better that they see you peaceful and happy by yourself? And maybe later on in a new and better relation? I separated and later on met my husband. He is much more like a father to my son, than my son's biological father ever has been. My son is more like my husband, than he is like me; with interests, taste of music, playing the guitarr and workning with programming. It's nothing we forced. My son was very interested in computers from an early age and asked a friend of mine and my husband everything about programming and computers. He also asked about how to play the guitarr and learned. They just had things in common. It's your life to live the best way you can. I hope you feel in your heart if your patner is right for you, and the relation can be healthy and worth fighting for. Best of luck!

    • @trishbyers9809
      @trishbyers9809 Месяц назад +1

      With the awareness you displayed, you are not very much grounded in the 3D world.

  • @Misslotusification
    @Misslotusification Год назад +16

    12:05: Pain-body waking up. Wanting some kind of drama, making something little into something big to create some negative reaction. Some make it to give the couple some reality.

  • @natureisallpowerful
    @natureisallpowerful 2 года назад +25

    I have identified lots of forms of my character through this lovely man. Hes allowed me to have a good, thorough understanding and examination of my ego and my true self. sometimes they both other times they are clearly separate. As longs I stay aware and keep practicing connecting with nature, mindfulness, meditation, breathing and positive attention to the universe, I'll be.

  • @sheeplove3429
    @sheeplove3429 2 года назад +14

    My children were my observers when I was overreacting, so helpful!

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ▪️Tʜᴀɴᴋꜱ ғᴏʀ Cᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛɪɴɢ

  • @stephenwastaken
    @stephenwastaken 2 года назад +21

    I’m often consumed by the pain body, but I’m now conscious of it and have been for just over a year thanks to Elkhart’s teachings.
    I still struggle to control it, it’s not easy, but I always know I’m going forwards, not backwards.

    • @tinfoilhatter
      @tinfoilhatter 2 года назад +1

      onward'n'upwardz... n-words'n' up-words, right?

    • @yukio_saito
      @yukio_saito 2 года назад +4

      Same. Sometimes I'm hijacked by my own pain-body. Everyday is a practice of becoming aware of it.

    • @mindsigh4
      @mindsigh4 2 года назад +1

      @@yukio_saito
      yes, everyday is a different dreaming

    • @Varryify
      @Varryify 2 года назад +5

      You don't necessarily have to control it. It's already a great feat if you don't let it control your actions. It's okay to feel what you feel.

  • @rebecca_stone
    @rebecca_stone 3 месяца назад +1

    This makes so much sense! So many challenges in my last and most significant relationship are explained by this, and it's a great reflection exercise on how I contributed. Thank you for this video!

  • @AK56fire
    @AK56fire 2 года назад +19

    Absolutely correct Eckhart... I've experienced all the thought patterns that you've described in this video. It's a constant struggle of being aware..

  • @melaniefudge6204
    @melaniefudge6204 Год назад +3

    This man is such a sweet heart 😊

  • @thednmshow
    @thednmshow 2 года назад +5

    I wonder how many people-while watching this video-had an image of themselves or their significant other as the “pain-body” Ego will do it’s best to point its fingers towards the other, when in reality, it’s you Eckhart is talking about.

    • @Nika-je6zd
      @Nika-je6zd Год назад +4

      Usually it is both sides.

  • @patmoar7242
    @patmoar7242 Год назад +3

    I needed this right now, eckhart. I discovered you in 2016 but I fell off the path. I’m back. Thank you.

  • @barryminor616
    @barryminor616 2 года назад +11

    Thank YOU alllllll for your support and unique contributions UPcoming together ✌️💓👣🤸🏻🌞😋🍯💦🎶🌀💖

  • @Chopin4321
    @Chopin4321 2 года назад +18

    be aware, be conscious.. and let ego dissapear.. be you or yourself not both,, be like God watching you.. pure harmony.. good energy.. like ET

    • @tinfoilhatter
      @tinfoilhatter 2 года назад

      sure...just let people walk-on-thru, doin' whatever they want, they're gonna do that anyway, right?

  • @ActionmediaUK
    @ActionmediaUK Год назад +3

    This is so helpful. Presence or conscious awareness can make the world a more peaceful place - the pain body dissolves as if from ice to water to vapour under loving attention.. After the year I have had - these teaching have been invaluable so that I do not make things worse

  • @AK56fire
    @AK56fire 2 года назад +9

    Thanks for being there and showing us the light.

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ▪️Tʜᴀɴᴋꜱ ғᴏʀ Cᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛɪɴɢ

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ᴍs ᴋᴀᴛʜʀʏɴ ʟɪɴᴄᴋ ✚𝟏𝟓𝟏𝟐𝟔𝟔𝟔𝟕𝟎𝟗𝟕✔
      ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs👌

  • @kethakidesilva5342
    @kethakidesilva5342 2 года назад +13

    What a masterpiece. ....everything in a nutshell. ...💗💗💗

  • @wheezyouttahere2555
    @wheezyouttahere2555 2 года назад +13

    Thank you for this, the pain-body can be quite insidious so we need to be aware of how it functions

  • @meriaaronwalker552
    @meriaaronwalker552 Год назад +7

    All these years of reading and listening to you.... and I think I just actually encountered the pain body in me. Not a concept of it... but the thing itself. Thank you for your persistence in sharing again and again and again... Thank you for this clip here on YT.

  • @ActionmediaUK
    @ActionmediaUK Год назад +1

    He is so funny - his delivery makes us laugh and that helps.....

  • @snailtime737
    @snailtime737 2 года назад +6

    He makes me feel high 😇

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ▪️ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛ

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ᴍs ᴋᴀᴛʜʀʏɴ ʟɪɴᴄᴋ ✚𝟏𝟓𝟏𝟐𝟔𝟔𝟔𝟕𝟎𝟗𝟕✔
      ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs👌

  • @anahigimenez7381
    @anahigimenez7381 2 года назад +8

    To be vigilant 🙏
    Thank you dear Eckhart 🙏

  • @gavinspeaks
    @gavinspeaks 2 года назад +8

    When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.”
    ― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
    ~Much Love from a Law of Attraction RUclipsr💜

    • @CitrusSimon
      @CitrusSimon 2 года назад

      Thanks Gavin. It's almost as if, Love is some sort of expanding energy?

  • @d.b.7695
    @d.b.7695 Год назад +3

    Wisdom and humor in one package and delivered in such a genuine way. His teachings unfolded further insights for me and installed peace

  • @NunnysSupernaturals
    @NunnysSupernaturals 2 года назад +6

    Eckhart is the best 💐❤️💐

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ▪️ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛ

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ᴍs ᴋᴀᴛʜʀʏɴ ʟɪɴᴄᴋ ✚𝟏𝟓𝟏𝟐𝟔𝟔𝟔𝟕𝟎𝟗𝟕✔
      ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs👌

    • @NunnysSupernaturals
      @NunnysSupernaturals 2 года назад

      @@user-kp5qk3bs9b cheers ‘Eckhart’ 👌

  • @sherinsoliman7706
    @sherinsoliman7706 2 года назад +7

    Amazing very clear explanation to what happen to us thanks eckharttolle for what you spread in the world 🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @lorrainemisra3183
    @lorrainemisra3183 2 месяца назад

    I love you Eckart tolle. Thank you for pointing I love that you bring humor when it is hurting me the most

  • @echo_surfer
    @echo_surfer 5 месяцев назад

    so much practical wisdom and humor. i get something out of each talk, even when i listen to the same one over again. i accidentally listened on 1.5 speed and find it made it easier for me to understand his accent, for some reason. 🧐

  • @Shelly_Renee825
    @Shelly_Renee825 2 года назад +10

    Omg!!! I just returned from a trip with 6 people just as you described 😪

    • @tinfoilhatter
      @tinfoilhatter 2 года назад +1

      sorry, again it seems i'm 'inspired' to make another 'comment' but to ask, y'know, how did it go, if you're at liberty to discuss any of it or, y'know what i mean? i feel as if anything you share, will be most helpful but you're not obliged to disclose anything unduly, or inappropriately, - obviously, right? 'travelling' is such a perennial luxury/burden/obligation/curse tho, isn't it?? i sometimes miss it, but then many times am glad-i-did, ha ha...sorry: too much information? it's very easy to 'un-say' things, here in the you-tubes, ha ha
      in any case, there's no harm, no foul: i always try to remember: 'i-ask'd-for-that', haha~

  • @ronamain8689
    @ronamain8689 Год назад +1

    All relationships are doomed if you are looking for someone to fulfill your needs. You have to BE yourself. It means an Eckhart meditation every day...as many as you can fit in! ❤

  • @cleverkins
    @cleverkins 2 года назад +6

    Thank you, Eckhart.

  • @noisyverset
    @noisyverset 2 года назад +7

    Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙏💜
    Reflection on one’s perceived perception on a meta cognitive level- opens up the mind for understanding, not only from one’s own perspective, but from more perspectives, without letting the ego controlling your thoughts. Choosing peace and love in the present moment, even though circumstances oppose it- can- if not rid of the lesser peaceful energies- give room for positive energies. Is it possible to rid hate using hate? Goodness is goodness, and hate is not goodness- but they are both parts of “everything”. Unconscious badness can be sorted out by responding to negativity using positivity. However, if it is intended evilness, not responding- or respond at least only through goodness- might be the answer.
    Remember- there’s color in darkness just as in light.
    Greetings from a survivor of a long narcissistic relationship.
    Peace ✌️💜

    • @tinfoilhatter
      @tinfoilhatter 2 года назад +1

      what, hate? hey, i'm-a-hatter, not-some-hater, ha ha, but speakin' from experience, it don't-feel-so-great after a little while, of course maybe that's my excuse for never quite bein' sure it's not about to overtake-a-guy, with little or no notice: well, vigilancy's more than-a-feeling, so it's-been-said, eh? i appreciate the thoughts, and/or the words'n'whatnots, to be sure: i just felt oddly compelled, or maybe inspired to say somethin' sorta, kinda what, uh, ever-i-just 'said', so-to-speak, haha... [sorry: meaning, thanks, it wasn't entirely lost-on-a-guy, so to speak, sha-zammo, man~~~]

    • @Jewelmind
      @Jewelmind 2 года назад +1

      Bless you!

    • @debbiemckenna5
      @debbiemckenna5 Год назад +1

      How do you recover from the pain body? I too am a survivor of Narc abuse from my father and surprise my ex husband. I am 52 yrs old and in therapy since my 20s. Even being aware it still hurts. I am afraid to get into any relationships because I don’t want to hurt anyone. So I isolate myself. 1 extreme to the other. I really am in so much pain. I can’t live like this. I am dying inside. Any suggestions??

  • @theodorurhed
    @theodorurhed 5 месяцев назад +2

    In my experience the painbody is the exact opposite expression of its utmost desire, hence its destructiveness. If love is blocked from being expressed it becomes a painbody

  • @wondergirl60s
    @wondergirl60s 2 года назад +5

    My favorite topic in your book!

  • @Parkitloveit
    @Parkitloveit 2 года назад +10

    Thank you for being here, in my ears and eyes, after that in my mind, and then in my soul and heart. These days I often realised while interacting with other human beings that in the middle of a sentence I remember the good feeling I have when being with you and then I stop and then continue interacting but accompanied by this good feeling, smiling, giving comfort, hope and reminding others of being safe and loved in the here and now. Thank you for helping me improve my interactions with others.

    • @tinfoilhatter
      @tinfoilhatter 2 года назад +1

      hey, homie: don't i know-you-somewheres?
      [yes, it seems i didn't, but that's only-in-'this-reality', i guess, haha, nice to meet you, i admire people who can speak in foreign 'lenguas']

  • @jeankelly5859
    @jeankelly5859 2 года назад +4

    So Powerful..Wow Thank you Eckhart For this Wonderful Explanation..

  • @ushaacharya2957
    @ushaacharya2957 Год назад +1

    Thank you Ekhart 🙏❤️

  • @giselar.12
    @giselar.12 2 года назад +5

    🌸Thank you very much 🌸
    I don’t like drama but unfortunately there are not only happy moments.Thinking positive is very important.🌸🙏😊

  • @SRKhan774
    @SRKhan774 2 года назад +3

    Perfect timing

  • @Jewelmind
    @Jewelmind 2 года назад +4

    Thank you Eckart ! As usual its a wonderful speech. Wishing everyone else some peace.

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ▪️Tʜᴀɴᴋꜱ ғᴏʀ Cᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛɪɴɢ

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ᴍs ᴋᴀᴛʜʀʏɴ ʟɪɴᴄᴋ ✚𝟏𝟓𝟏𝟐𝟔𝟔𝟔𝟕𝟎𝟗𝟕✔
      ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs👌

  • @cvetkapisek8785
    @cvetkapisek8785 2 года назад +5

    Very good to know this in order to observe and get the solution at he right time. So important to be alert and recognize it before drama happens, o yes! Thanks a lot.

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ▪️Tʜᴀɴᴋꜱ ғᴏʀ Cᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛɪɴɢ

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ᴍs ᴋᴀᴛʜʀʏɴ ʟɪɴᴄᴋ ✚𝟏𝟓𝟏𝟐𝟔𝟔𝟔𝟕𝟎𝟗𝟕✔
      ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs👌

  • @gateparasamgate2261
    @gateparasamgate2261 2 года назад +2

    Das ist etwas vom Besten, was ich schon gehört habe... auch wenn man schon seit Jahrzehnten spirituell unterwegs ist - sehr einfach und hilfreich!

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ▪️Tʜᴀɴᴋꜱ ғᴏʀ Cᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛɪɴɢ

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ᴍs ᴋᴀᴛʜʀʏɴ ʟɪɴᴄᴋ ✚𝟏𝟓𝟏𝟐𝟔𝟔𝟔𝟕𝟎𝟗𝟕✔
      ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs👌

  • @ToddSloanIAAN
    @ToddSloanIAAN 2 года назад

    The first 53 seconds of this matters give me liberation

  • @deeonugarapulcountryyugger6629
    @deeonugarapulcountryyugger6629 2 года назад +1

    Thank you

  • @malizina1
    @malizina1 Год назад

    Thank you !

  • @nabechannel1921
    @nabechannel1921 2 года назад +7

    Thanks so much for sharing it helps 🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕🌺🌺🌺🌿🌿🌿

  • @ivee111
    @ivee111 2 года назад +2

    Thank you Eckhart 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💜💙💚

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ▪️Tʜᴀɴᴋꜱ ғᴏʀ Cᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛɪɴɢ

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ᴍs ᴋᴀᴛʜʀʏɴ ʟɪɴᴄᴋ ✚𝟏𝟓𝟏𝟐𝟔𝟔𝟔𝟕𝟎𝟗𝟕✓
      ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs👌

  • @tranqulitytoo
    @tranqulitytoo 2 года назад +2

    Oh yes beautifully put. Thank you 💚🌟🙏🦋

  • @lynnpearson5866
    @lynnpearson5866 2 года назад +2

    Thank You Eckhart 🙏💕

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ▪️ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛ

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ᴍs ᴋᴀᴛʜʀʏɴ ʟɪɴᴄᴋ ✚𝟏𝟓𝟏𝟐𝟔𝟔𝟔𝟕𝟎𝟗𝟕✔
      ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs👌

  • @adamradziwanowski8693
    @adamradziwanowski8693 2 года назад +2

    Very good explanation. Thanks

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ▪️Tʜᴀɴᴋꜱ ғᴏʀ Cᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛɪɴɢ

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ᴍs ᴋᴀᴛʜʀʏɴ ʟɪɴᴄᴋ ✚𝟏𝟓𝟏𝟐𝟔𝟔𝟔𝟕𝟎𝟗𝟕✔
      ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs👌

  • @radicalhonesty3628
    @radicalhonesty3628 2 года назад +8

    trying to focus on the video
    and it's so hard.
    I just can't. too many thoughts
    and feelings in me.
    I've fallen in a trap again. a terrible horrible painful awful trap.
    falling for yet again: another
    unavailable person.
    dear God, why do I do this to myself?
    I'm old now and I've never ever had love.
    never ever have I been in a real romantic relationship...
    the pain of this is so horrific:
    it truly rapes my soul.

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ▪️ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛ

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ᴍs ᴋᴀᴛʜʀʏɴ ʟɪɴᴄᴋ ✚𝟏𝟓𝟏𝟐𝟔𝟔𝟔𝟕𝟎𝟗𝟕✔
      ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs👌

    • @Varryify
      @Varryify 2 года назад +2

      Have you made yourself available to your self? If you never felt love because you felt that love was unavailable in other persons you could try to first finding it in yourself. The love you so desperately search for in other beings is also present in you.

  • @DrNikitaKalda
    @DrNikitaKalda Месяц назад

    Thanku Echkart

  • @hivinibrahim1401
    @hivinibrahim1401 2 года назад +2

    Thank you 🙏🙏

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ▪️ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛ

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ᴍs ᴋᴀᴛʜʀʏɴ ʟɪɴᴄᴋ ✚𝟏𝟓𝟏𝟐𝟔𝟔𝟔𝟕𝟎𝟗𝟕✔
      ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs👌

  • @Jad3dJane
    @Jad3dJane 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for this fantastic video

  • @نينا-ق7ب
    @نينا-ق7ب Год назад

    Thank you ❤

  • @NeilRevin-sb6lt
    @NeilRevin-sb6lt Год назад +2

    Is the root of all suffering the inability to stay focused on the present moment?
    What I mean by suffering includes depression, anxiety, grief, loneliness, bipolar disorder, panic attacks, social isolation, shame, guilt, regret, low self-esteem, stress, anger, jealousy, heartbreak, emotional trauma, etc.

    • @CatWoman6
      @CatWoman6 11 месяцев назад +1

      Pretty much.

  • @donnamurray5259
    @donnamurray5259 5 месяцев назад

    Thanks!

  • @flowerzurich3035
    @flowerzurich3035 2 года назад

    Thank you so much

  • @amin_abdollahi_369
    @amin_abdollahi_369 9 месяцев назад

    Thank you🌸❤❤

  • @lisapayne9514
    @lisapayne9514 2 года назад

    Wow. This video really did speak to me. X

  • @dalibofurnell
    @dalibofurnell Год назад

    Very insightful

  • @sandrawright8109
    @sandrawright8109 2 года назад +2

    Why is it I understand all this but completely forget it and end up causing the usual drama and stress normally over nothing or my own insecurity?

  • @frankiefranfraser
    @frankiefranfraser Год назад +7

    I am guessing "possesed" is the spooky word 😂💖

    • @FredLeahy
      @FredLeahy 2 месяца назад

      Think you’re right!

  • @V_future_V
    @V_future_V Год назад

    That’s why I always knew we need to be identified to our persona to heal by periods. Being into the drama to change the perception of it, but it happen by cycles and it take many cycles for some of us. That’s okay

  • @shatakshijadhav7954
    @shatakshijadhav7954 Год назад +2

    I love this ❤

  • @peterlijaba3805
    @peterlijaba3805 Год назад

    Why it must be so troublesome and comblicated, I don't expect an answer, really 😊

  • @purge2--u--nite342
    @purge2--u--nite342 2 года назад +12

    On health Note 🎵.... Always go the holistic approach 1st BEFORE going to Dr. Feel-good 💊 aka big pharma 👿

  • @nigratruo
    @nigratruo Месяц назад

    Golum: "Myyyyy PREEEEEEECIIOUUUSS!!!!!"

  • @purelight8791
    @purelight8791 Год назад +1

    Pls advise how to get rid of pain body?

  • @sunitakharatmal
    @sunitakharatmal Год назад +2

    Can the pain body remain active for a year? My husband once a year overreact on small arguments to divorce and is under its grip of sabotaging marriage for a year. After a year or more, he is slowly settling down to be normal and over flattering.

    • @meeraraj0
      @meeraraj0 Год назад

      Sounds like a narcissist. Next time ignore him or say, ok let's get divorced. Hes playing you dear

  • @aravindhbalaji6578
    @aravindhbalaji6578 Месяц назад

    15:04 Very true!!!

  • @hivinibrahim1401
    @hivinibrahim1401 Год назад

    Thamk you ❤

  • @toxicfighter5282
    @toxicfighter5282 Год назад +1

    I need some help 💔. My love and i having the same breakups on the same parts. But we confirm we love each other. She closes down and I get in pain and fear. We both say we see 2 different people at times. Now im in pain i see i was not the happy consensus person i was when we are happy. So I though it was here but actually its me. My pain body makes me a different man. Fear fysicall pain takes me over. How do I beat such a aggressive pain body?! Im trying to focus on my inner peace and presence. Please help!❤

  • @louiseboyd8896
    @louiseboyd8896 Год назад +2

    My relationship was an utter nightmare for 30 years until I started helping out his pain body with financial help....that makes him stop bickering with me...we have an intense intimate relationship which helps me cope with tragic things happening in my life....I am blessed with abundance....so the money I give him puts a stop to the drama, and that's how I like it...although it's unconventional, I am in my zen energy....this works for me....I am 73 years old and not about looking for another partner....

  • @peaceone9733
    @peaceone9733 Год назад

    Where can I find the video of the beautiful wooshing waterfall in the background at the end?

  • @quantom3392
    @quantom3392 2 года назад +3

    You can get there from here or here from there and the time it takes is now

  • @barrie888
    @barrie888 2 года назад

    thankyou Sir

  • @silvief1
    @silvief1 2 года назад +4

    Does it also apply to relationships with ourselves?

    • @theresakozar4315
      @theresakozar4315 2 года назад +2

      Silvief1 thank you for asking this question. While we may all have our own opinions about the answer to it, and all are valid for each of us, in my own experience, it is so 100% of the time.

    • @silvief1
      @silvief1 2 года назад +1

      @@theresakozar4315 Thank you for being vulnerable. It seems that you have recognised the past that you want to heal from and I would like to congratulate for taking the decision to do that. I understand that it's a difficult journey but your in the right company here on this channel. I am also working on heeling my past, closing it and move on. Have a nice day.

    • @theresakozar4315
      @theresakozar4315 2 года назад

      Thank you for your reply Syilvief1. I hope you don’t mind that I updated my reply to delete the extra comments I made. I realise I don’t need to seed irrelevant past ideas about myself to others! Enjoy your day too.

    • @silvief1
      @silvief1 2 года назад

      @@theresakozar4315 It's a matter of your choice to edit the comment. I have found it quiet helpful for me and possibly other people too. Have a nice day.

  • @zubeirwaran-bari8730
    @zubeirwaran-bari8730 Год назад

    2:48 levels of self discovery

  • @debbiesdirt7928
    @debbiesdirt7928 2 года назад

    My little precious....

  • @artemisa8888
    @artemisa8888 2 года назад +1

    is that high pitch bell really necessary?

  • @Angrymobs62
    @Angrymobs62 2 года назад

    Relationships and the lack thereof

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ▪️ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛ

    • @user-kp5qk3bs9b
      @user-kp5qk3bs9b 2 года назад

      ☎ᴛᵉˣţ𝄍✉𝑾𝒉𝔮ᴛᵗ𝑠𝑨𝑝𝑝 ᴍs ᴋᴀᴛʜʀʏɴ ʟɪɴᴄᴋ ✚𝟏𝟓𝟏𝟐𝟔𝟔𝟔𝟕𝟎𝟗𝟕✔
      ʀᴇɢᴀʀᴅɪɴɢ ʙᴛᴄ/ᴇᴛʜ ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɪᴅᴇᴀs👌

  • @tinfoilhatter
    @tinfoilhatter 2 года назад +5

    i guess then, the best we can hope for is to 'weaken' [or perhaps 'tame'] that pain-body, somehow, such that it doesn't interfere with others' plans for us then, or what? i think maybe we'd better find a better name for that thing... haha

  • @leclaireguy263
    @leclaireguy263 7 месяцев назад +1

    Sir I love you

  • @anitavirginillo
    @anitavirginillo Год назад

    So how would we know if we are over reacting if it is unconscious?