Timestamps for everyone who needs it for later reference 00:00 00 - Introduction, reasons for this talk 11:30 01 - Physical, bilogical dimension of child marriage 12:35 02 - Psychological dimension of child marriage 13:56 03 - Power dynamic in child marriage 18:20 04 - The educational dynamic 19:50 05 - Abuse 21:43 06 - Do you support child marriage? 25:25 07 - How normal was the engagement of Aisha to the Prophet PBUH? 32:10 08 - How did Aisha describe the Prophet PBUH? 34:25 09 - Qualities of Aisha 53:26 10 - Other opinions about her age 57:13 11 - Conclusion
@@MenacingRabbit hadiths were written by people during prophet(PBUH) life and after He passed away too so hadiths could be corrupted but Quran will remain same till the judgment day because it's promised by Allah Almighty
@@zahid7505 but most hadiths that are found in Sahih Bukhari and Sahih Muslim are authentic and hadiths written by Ibn Maja,Tirmithi,Abu Dawood and Nasa'y also mostly authentic.
syed zaid these Hadiths didn’t get released until around 200 years after the death of prophet (SWS) how do we know they are authentic if people have different view points of things they hear ?
The guy claims that a 9 year old girl from the 7th century had an adult body. The guy said that since this 9-year-old girl had reached puberty, she was an adult and therefore mature enough to be with a 54 yo man. How can you trust this nonsense? Who is this guy ? Is he IBN Katir ? Tabari ? Or maybe you just heard a reassuring speech that downplayed the fact that your prophet slept with a 9-year-old girl.
@@9pdaghistory cultural things extra plays a role i assure you aysha ra was mature women and her age can be marked cultuarally Because there was tradition of marking age of women after they hit puberty if you want resources i would say RUclips and scroll there will be a website link for Islamic teaching history check it out. And the age of asma ra if connect it all together do your research. I had already done mine Various resources, views, and numerical doc i substracted added divided for approximate age wallahi she was more than 9.and i am not saying sahih bukhari is wrong hope you got my point
This video has destroyed all of my small doubts and insecurities on this subject. It also gave me a new level of respect towards Aisha(ra). I will recommend this video to anyone who asks about this subject. May Allah bless you and help you grow this Channel!
@@excelsior31107 The defintion of a "minor" is new. 18 isn't when people become adults. read some more of hsitory, an "adult" being a person who is 18 is a UN reslution. The UN isnt the "absolute law" we must follow etc.
@@ozairazeem2278 i can't believe he just said that,now it should hv been some other language! okay,these people r really innovative in digging out faults in islam like THEY r the worst enemies of islam, i understand that people in this modern era think they r the smartest beings and people in the past were just dumb and couldn't even think of these things and were hating islam for silly reasons while these people hv such STRONGER proofs...m expecting more from them in the future just to see how creative they get and finally when they realize they were being used,without even them knowing about it...anyway brother protect ur sanity and stay away from these keyboard warriors cz if they really wanted answers,there r better options than comment sections and someone above said that they'd b killed if they asked questions,lol here people aren't just questioning but straight out blaming,abusing,swearing at us and our religion and r still alive, how long is it gonna take them to finally recognize their real enemy...
@@excelsior31107 Was the oxford student disctionary around 1400 years ago? Of course not! Was Oxford university around then? no! Was even Oxford, the town, founded? I'm not even sure about that The point is, why do people need to follow what the student dcitinary says? it isn't divine guidance. Yes, to your second point, many of the Arabs where ignorant pagans, unaware of God's laws. they did stupid and evil stuff, as ignorant people tend to do. But after guidance came to them through the Prophet many converted. It's important to note that the Prophet, his family, and a few others where Chrtisans during that time, not like the other pagans. and Christians then didn't believe Jesus was god or anything (search "Ebionite Christians"). Muslims don't bow to any stone. they bow to God God who is above all creations, in the Eighth Heaven. Not a false Prophet. there's scientific Miracles in the Quran that prove that Islam is true. the Bibe prophesied the coming of a last Messenger: "I still have much to tell you, but you cannot yet bear to hear it. 13However, when the Spirit of truth comes, He will guide you into all truth. For He will not speak on His own, but He will speak what He hears, and He will declare to you what is to come." Also,I agree with your last point. The Saudi leadership is very bad.
"understanding the age of our mother Aisha ra. doesn't mean that we support child marriage" the highlight of this beautiful lecture Jazakallahu Khair, may Allah Bless our scholar, Syaikh Omar Suleiman with many blessing
unfortunately for most non Muslims this lecture just means that people like Sh. Omar Sulaiman and his followers don't support child marriages. What he said doesn't reflect what people think inside Yemen or Afghanistan with regards to child marriage (according to their opinion, and yes I've spoken to a lot of Americans regarding this and they still feel antsy if you give them the anthropology explanation).
if. the. country. law agree. if. teen . girl agree then. what is. non. muslims. problem. it happnt. america. asia. africa. none will. talk. about why evry. country. have own . laws we. all know. none. force. to. make. this. laws the. case. is. close
This issue of Aisha (ra)'s age was on my head the whole morning today even as i was reading and listening to Quran. Now im watching this as tears come to eyes and i have goosebumps. May Allah bless his last messenger and our beloved mother as well as Shaikh Omar for sharing his knowledge.
This lecturer spends a lot of time trying to argue that a little girl was mature enough to be an adult, which I think is ridiculous and unnecessary. There was already evidence in the Quran and some hadiths that Aisha was older, not a little girl. Oxford University scholar Dr. Joshua Little has debunked the Aisha marital age hadith and all derivative hadiths with his 2022 PhD thesis, the most comprehensive academic study ever done on the subject of Aisha’s marital age Hadith. Watch his lecture for details "Why the Aisha Marital Age Hadith is a FORGERY: An EXCLUSIVE Lecture by Dr. Joshua Little".
According to Ibn Kathir: ‘Asma was ten years elder to her sister Aisha [Al-Bidayah wan Nihayah (8/371)] Now let us look at age of Asma (ra) when she passed away: According to Ibn Hajr Al-Asqalani: Asma (ra) lived for 100 years and she died in 73 or 74 AH (Taqrib ut Tahdhib) So Asma was 28 when she migrated to Medina. That means Aisha (ra) was 18 when she migrated to Medina. And she shifted to the Prophet’s ﷺ house within a year of two after the Hijrah (migration). That proves that Aisha (ra) was between 19-21 when she consummated her marriage with the Prophet ﷺ If child marriages we're permissible wouldn't you believe that so, why would there be quran verse about
Average modern Muslim trying to reconcile civilization with barbarianism. Any and all Muslim hadith cam be proven as a forgery because they were written decades after Muhammad died. @@calitaliarepublic6753
Most girls hit puberty by age 11, so its ok for us to sleep with 11 year old girls? Justify it as much as you like, in the end the main prophet of your religion slept with a 9 year old child.
Who is this guy ? Is he IBN Katir ? Tabari ? I'm sorry but you've just heard a reassuring speech that downplayed the fact that your prophet slept with a 9-year-old girl. There are at least 14 hadiths Sahi that spoke about her age 6/7 yo when she got married and 9yo when he consumed the marriaged. Moslim 1422 , Bukari 5134 In the hadiths we read that she played with dolls and swung on a swing.
@F S definitely we all have a devine purpose, you should really empty your cup and approach islam with and empty cup and a open mind. Perhaps you may leave fulfilled with the reality of what you find if you are sincere and honest in your intention. Good intentions yield good fruits and bad intentions yield bad fruits.
Look mate this is the way god planned it accept it or reject it that's your choice. 1500 years ago is not ancient times mate mankind is much longer on this earth and ancient times in my mind would be much much more ancient then 1500 years ago. I doubt you even watched this video but you commenting. Everyone on this earth is receiving Divine assistance every day, some more than others depending on your connection and relationship with god. Everyone is entitled to divine assistance however not everyone is equal. Just like a person who has more intelligence than others not everyone has the same connection with god. Only prophets were blessed with stronger connection with god than the rest of us. Anyway your mind is very set up on one idea and that is a very distorted view of islam. The quran itself is a miracle and also the prophet himself a miracle. The quran is a miracle which is available to you now in this modern time. Just like me you also need to not take out one specific message or just focus on the controversial issues as your argument. Please watch this video again and also please answer my question.
@F S In Biblical times people were married at a very young age. Girls were usually betrothed before they reached puberty - majority of the time the marriage would have consummated when the girl reached puberty, and that was usually between the ages of 8, 9 or older,(Note: when a girl reached puberty prior to the 20th century, she was considered to be an adult in most cultures/societies). In this article I will mostly quote Scholarly sources to prove that marriage in ancient Israelite times took place at a very young age, sometimes the girls who were married off were pre-pubescent. There was no law against a pre-pubescent girl being married off. Actually as you will read further, you will come to realise that the Mishnah gave approval for a Man to have intercourse to a betrothed girl, any-time after the age of three years old. Related Articles: 12 year old Mary’s marriage with 90 year old Joseph the Carpenter Bible sanctions pre-pubescent marriages (child marriage) Age of Consent in European & American History “Rabbi Solomon in his comment on Genesis, says that Rebecca, when she was married to Isaac, was but three Years of Age. His words run thus, ‘When Abraham was come from Mount Moria, he received the joyful News of Rebecca. Isaac was at that Time Thirty seven years old; and then did Sarah die. The time, from birth of Isaac to the death of Sarah, was Thirty seven Years, And Sarah was Ninety Years old when Isaac was born; and One Hundred and Twenty Seven Years old when she died: As it is said in Gen 23:1 . Sarah was one hundred and twenty-seven years old. Behold, the Age of Isaac was Thirty Seven Years, at the Time of the Birth of Rebecca. And when he had waited for her three Years, till she was fit for marriage, he took her to wife.” According to this Account, Rebecca was a very notable Girl at three years of age. But that a girl of three Years old is fit for marriage, is maintained very plainly in the Jewish writings; particularly, in Emek Hamelech, in the following passage, ‘our blessed sags, of blessed memory, say, that a female is not fit for marriage, ‘till she is arrived at the Age of three years and one day.’
Ms Rana Not much physically. Women are still gaining height until their mid-teens and our pelvises are still widening until our early 20s. Having an fully-grown adult male, who is going to likely be larger than a teenager, mate with a young teen is not in the girl’s best interest physically. Not to mention the increased potential for abuse due to the increased disparity both between physical size and societal power on many levels.
I am very pleased to find this while studying the Qur'an, and getting ready to convert. I will share this video also to those like me are at peace being called by our Allah to do so. Thank you.
@@yunaru3643 so you didn't watch the video and just gone out of your way to come with nonsense and insult Muslim in a Islamic channel. I dare you go to a place full of Muslims irl and say this nonsense. Please do that. I would never go to Christian channel and insult their beliefs and saints - why should I?
@@yunaru3643 again, nothing but opinions and misconceptions. This video by itself debunks anything you say. Educate yourself brother and always prove what you say.
@@yunaru3643 yeah okay, i didnt deny that lol. Im just saying that it was a normal thing back then, i mean if you watch the video he clearly explains it very well, better than me. So watch the video
Shaykh Omar Suleiman has such a pleasant manner of delivering his lectures. He is always smiling and talks with so much dignity, respect and awe about Prophet Muhammad and his Wives and Companions mashaAllah. I always feel inspired listening to him. May he be able to continue to inspire our Ummah and revive our Imaan and may Allah reward him and his family with a beautiful abode in Jannah. Ameen
By Allah, you can't help but feel yourself taken aback and diving deeper in the knowledge he is sharing. He, Mufti Menk and Sheikh Yasir Qadhi have that effect on me.
@@sadiez11What is that dumb argument, it‘s like saying when someone smiles because for example they debunked the Rebecca age, then I couldn’t also say what you say because that doesn’t make sense
DID your mum have sexual intercourse when she was nine, would you be ok with that? If your mum had sex at 9yrs old or if you had daughters would you be ok with them having sex at 9yrs. If you are ok with such behavior, how do you justify that. Having an issue with 9yr old children having sex/raped is not anti Islamic it is pro human.
@Uthman The Muslim Uthman there is logic behind it, if love is logic. You love and care for your daughter, that is what's behind it. Please can you explain to be also how you accept, like when Muhammad defeated that jewish tribe and rounded up all the male members of that tribe and any that had reached puberty and I think that was done by if they had pubic hair, he had them all beheaded and that night raped the wife of the chief of that tribe. Who had earlier that day witnessed all her male relatives being beheaded, like do you then say that he was the most beautiful human ever created. In 7th century Arabia that might have been the way but come on it's not godly, it's not righteous as having slaves, sex slaves is not. Please and I mean this, can you explain that to me. How you except this as the model to live your life.
@Uthman The Muslim I'm going to try and find the links for you, I never asked you to give up anything, I asked you how you accepted how Muhammad behaved towards non muslims. I'm not religious but am spiritual. I don't believe any abrahamic faith is correct. I do believe this amazing universe with its billions and billions of solar systems didn't come from nothing and I believe that light, ie sun light certainly sustains life and that people should try to be a light in their lifes, i.e. treat people with decency and honesty. Tell me this, do muslims adopt children?
@@pinpoint3770 age of marriage is something that society who agree about, not Allah, Allah makes the Maqasid which are some objectives that society needs to protect such as life, body, mind, religion, soul, when you understand this philosophy you'll stop criticizing and revert to live within it, May Allah SWT guide you to real truth
@@olgamartin4016 i mean... Do some research (scholarly research not a quick google search) or keep the hate to yourself? 🤷 I was raised Catholic and Ive read the Quran as an adult. If a 30yo with ADHD can figure this out then there is hope for you sweet Olga. May the Lord bless you with tolerance and kindness cuz girl you got the devil on your shoulder.
Take a 15-year-old from a city to a 15-year-old in a rural village, then tell me if you don't see any difference. People have been blinded by their arrogance.
LoL take a 15 year old boy from an indigenous village in Somalia or Chad and bring in a 30 year old man from America and let me know if anyone can spot the difference. LoL. I remember the shock I felt when I met people like that back when I was studying in Africa.
@@lastluck3113 I'm basically saying that I know what the brother is talking about because I've seen people like that (ie. teenagers from indigenous cultures who look like full grown adults)
@@Hasan-eh2sx The OP did. He made the comparison between 2 15 year olds to say that there is a big difference between 6 year old girls of 7th century Arabia and 6 year old girls of 21st century America. This isn't a valid comparison because Aisha wasn't 15 she was 6. I'm sure if you took 6 year old Aisha she would be the same as any other 6 year old here in America.
Personally, if a person were to ask me whether or not the Prophet married a child, I would answer by saying, "you tell me what you think her age was: the books of history show that she was mentally stable to the point that she was abe to do household chores, interact and debate with people at an intelligent level despite them being senior to her, witness battles and help treat the wounded, and was able to do all that without suffering any psychological or emotional setbacks. So now you tell me how old do you think she was?" What I'm saying is that after giving all the evidences proving her maturity as an adult woman, I would ask that person to ask themselves how old they think she was. They'll definitely say that it sounds like she was in fact a fully developed adult, and that way I don't have to give them a free lesson in human anthropology :D
From your name, you seem to be Hindu. I do not want to go into details here, but keep in mind we are not talking about two average (Ayesha and the Prophet) people here. Ayesha was beautiful and highly intelligent--men and women came to here to better understand the Quran. Someone once asked a great sufi: "Was Muhammad a man?". The sufi answered: "Yes, he was a man, but to say he was just a man is like saying a diamond is just another stone." I think you get the point. Shanti!!!
@@xvarshney2690 yah so that basically shows it wasn't for inappropriate intent, he legit waited for three years and they were happy. Kinda shows the actual relationship they had was more pure than how so many try to pretend it was. Nowadays people don't even wanna have a relationship if they don't do it in the first couple of dates so... Think of it not with how this current world goes, that's the main misconception
@@xvarshney2690 show me which verse prophet (pbuh) married Aisha before puberty. I'm wondering the verse on that. You it is possible to reach puberty as young as 6. That is possible.
Except that 9-year-olds, even mentally mature ones, are not physically developed enough to safely bear children. Since the age of onset of menstruation has gotten younger over the centuries, it’s very likely that he consummated the marriage (when she was 9) before she even began menstruating, before she developed pubic hair, and possibly before she even had much breast development. Physically, a child, and no where near old enough to safely (on average) make it through a pregnancy and childbirth.
The haters of Islam changed the image of Aisha in my mind from a positive one to a negative one over the years. Thank you for reminding me of the character of our mother, and how beautiful their marriage was. I love my Ummah, truly.
Her character is not the point. The fact that she was groomed from an extremely young age is the point. Muhammads character is what muslims are so afraid to objectively look at
Hadith Bukhari 5134 , Moslim 1422 says that she was a child playing with dolls. The problem here is not Aisha but the prophet sleeping with a 9 yo girl .
@@sadiez11 People who are ignorant of history are only one who have this viewpoint. An extremely narrow viewpoint that is obviously malicious and not objective in intent.
@@omarkhodammi7132 here's the answer, people in 1400 years ago are really different comparing people nowdays, that's why you can't compare 12 yo now, with 12 yo 1400 years ago, it's fine to ask but don't be disrespect
@@omarkhodammi7132 what's wrong with you? what I said was today is different than yesterday, what's your religion? I believed all religions is about peace not hate, unless you're atheist, that's explain a lot. and you're lack of moral. may Allah forgive you and show you why there's God. why there's religions. research more, may Allah show the way. don't let hate control yourself, if you really hate us, leave us alone, we didn't even sexualising kids nowdays, we have moral, not like you, world already changed my friend. may Allah bless you.
@@omarkhodammi7132 My Iranian Bro, watch FullMetalTheist’s video “The End of the Pedophile Argument”. And if you want to build respectful dialogue with people, don’t insult them, that will never help your case.
Thank you for this! It's one of the most beautiful things I've heard and yes I was told the age narrative and I ask God for forgiveness for my ignorance towards the Prophet and his wife. The more I learn about Islam the more I realize I've been conditioned to hate it even though Yeshua says God and love your neighbor. I got alot of praying to do.
It's like laughing at Jesus and saying why did he always ride a donkey instead of driving a car or flying in a plane? Coz there were no cars or planes in Jesus time. The only mode of transport was the donkey so he rode the donkey however ridiculous it may seem to us in our age. You can't judge Jesus by our standards today. In the same way you can't judge Prophet Muhammad by our standards today. He lived 1500 years ago. In his time, the common culture of the Arabian peninsula and the World at large especially and including Europe was the marriage of young girls. That was the old World culture which some people still practice today even in America. It was as socially acceptable in those days as slavery was and many other things which we condemn today as socially unacceptable.
THAT'S NOT A BIG DEAL. ALLAH SWT LOVE WHO QUESTIONS EVERYTHING. BECAUSE ALLAH SWT HIMSELF GIVE A CHALLENGE IN QURAN THAT ALLAH SWT'S DEEN IS FLAWLESS. SO ASK ANYTHING YOU WILL GET YOUR ANS.
@@speshwemmick6225 you dont know anything about the bible. Not only was the Prophet mentioned multiple times in Isaiah (such as the oracle concerning Arabia in Isaiah 21:13-17) but his name was mentioned in Shir Hashirim (Song of Solomon) 5:16 (Machamadim). In fact the entire narrative in that chapter talks about prominent events that happened in his life. Those verses describe exact circumstances that happened in his life when angel Gabriel revealed revelation to him.
17 years ago, my husband was 25 years old and his father thought he was too young to marry. If my children want to marry at 18 years old we would be worried of how they will handle family. Life changes as compared to the past. Thank you so much for your clarity. May Allah SWT keep you strong and ease any of your difficulty. Ameen
This video has answered all my questions. Thank you for teaching us this precious lecture. I will value Aisha's (RA) legacy and talk about her with great respect and admiration. May God bless you.
@@13dr9 Thank you for sharing the video. It was informative and cleared that Muhammed was not a pedophile. However I still have concerns with child brides being allowed in Islam and that Muhammed who is considered the best role model for humanity married a child for many reasons. - women/girls who are silent are considered as giving their consent - if these women/girls are married off then they need to constantly attend to the sexual needs of their husband even if they don't want to and even if its during when they're riding a camel (marital rape) - There is no family planning and the child/woman must continue to give birth at the risk of losing her own life because healthcare wasn't as advanced back then and even if they were too poor to raise their children (if either they have little income or end up with too many children). Normally most of these children are then sold of to slavery or the weakest are left to die - It is encouraged in the Quran to first verbally admonish, then forsake in bed and then strike against married women/girls who 'show disloyalty or ill-conduct' by their husbands (psychological abuse and domestic violoence). This leads to many women and girls ending up in abusive relationships because men take advantage of this verse. There are many videos like this one here or the one your reference stating that Aisha was taken well care of by Muhammed and never once abused her. And yet there is the hadith from Aisha herself stating that Muhammed stuck her in the chest and caused her pain after he confronted her and realised that she followed him that night. This is without following the paramaters commanded in the Quran. I am aware that historically child marriage was considered normal at the time. But Islam did not completely stop this tradition like it did with burying daughters alive, nor did it at least set parameters to protect women and children from ending up in abusive relationships or even recognise their proper rights to consent for marriage, sex and child labour. Do you have any more information that addresses these specific concerns?
@@itachi7285 Add me of a platform and we can discuss all of these issues. I alone can tell you that your last bulleted point is misquoted and misinformed. That one can be explained by a single quranic verse.
The filthiest people in our culture today are judging the purest people of a time and culture they don't understand. Pure ignorance. Peace and blessings on our Prophet and Aisha.
This is all false, Sahih Al Bukhara says that she was allowed to play with dolls, and it was not idolatry for her, permitted for her because she was a prepubescent child… The false prophet (*PISS* be on him) climbed on top of a Child (your prophet was a pedophile and sex predator)
@@sheiksaleem3790 please enough of delusional bullshit, Muhammad was a terrible human being that is a fact, wake up to yourself. This is the man you follow what a disgraceful grub.
@@Vllili hey brother I'm Muslim alhamdulillah but I wanna talk with you so maybe if you have Instagram can you give me it so we can talk I wanna ask you something about Aisha and our prophet pbuh
I am glad brother, you have touched this topic. I have been attacked hundreds of time about this issue in Europe. You have explained so well. May Allah have special blessings threat you speak about holy prophet peace be upon him and our mother of ummah hadrat Ayesha peace be upon her.
@@Parmenides7 Did you even watch the video? Marriage 1450 years ago compared to the 21st century are two completely different things. Isn't it ironic that only recently people have brought up the marriage of Aisha (RA) as an issue but nobody during the Prophets time used that as an excuse? There is both a physical/biological and psychological difference between a 9-year old female 1450 years ago compared to that of today. Surely it would be considered disgusting for you to marry a 9-year old girl today because of the culture you're in but during the Prophet's time, Christians, Jews, and others who had problems with Muhammed (SAW) never thought of that as an issue. Coincidence? I think not
PhD Alex Jonson Muhammad and all the Prophets/Messengers of this world were perfect in the sense that they were incapable of “major sin” which even Omar explains. If they were created with any room for error, they wouldn’t pray or have the need to ask for forgiveness. And you’re right the Quran and Hadith can never change and unlike many Holy Scriptures never did change, but there is a concept of evolving contexts. That is why we have scholars to debate on circumstances today. Many women during the prophets time, even before the prophets time, got married young, and had kids at the age of 12-13, even the mother of Jesus, Maryam. Age difference was not a problem during those times that is why no one sought to attack the prophet with that until the 21st century
PhD Alex Jonson Dude were just gonna go on and on. I’m going to just sum it up here. In Islam, 3 things are required for marriage from a females perspective. Puberty, maturity, and consent. Our mother Aisha (RA) had all 3. And comparing the Earth is flat to this is utter nonsense. If the Quran said the Earth is flat, I would not be a Muslim today. There is scientific justification for that. Quran is the way of life and any ambiguities are to be interpreted through the prophet. The psychosocial maturity of Aisha surpassed that of most 9 year olds in today’s time period as did the mother of Jesus and thousands of other women at the time, who were marrying at much greater age differences than that of the prophet. In no way am I claiming the Quran and the authentic Sunnah to be wrong. Understanding society, women, and marriage at the time of Moses, Jesus, Muhammad, and today are crucial. Similar to how people today view the hijab. Christians will come up to a Muslim woman and claim it’s oppression, backwards, and downright barbaric. However in the meantime, the mother of their Lord wore the exact same thing.
Always I am brought to tears when I hear anything about her RA. May Allah bless her immensely. What an incredible woman & role model for our selves and our daughters 💚
@@edward1412 well- I would say NO. In our society and what is culturally acceptable that would not be ok. But 1400+ years ago it was different. It was normal to marry after you hit puberty. My grandma got married at 13 and she had a long happy marriage. That was 60 years ago. Times have changed. What’s ok now probably wouldn’t be ok then and vice Versa
@@edward1412 ok… let’s say what your trying to say is right (which it isn’t) he was a human. He desired women.. and so what?? Go him he did it in the most moral manner 👍🏼
@@edward1412 😂😂😂 don’t compare yourself dude. Not every woman. His wives. The majority widowed lonely women. And remember at the time they (women) were vulnerable and at more risk. Anyway. You’ll never get it unless you open your mind a bit. Allah guides whom He wills
Aisha r.a is one of the most respected women in her time till now in Islam. We don’t talk abt great women of Islam without including her in the conversation. So dignified was she! If her marriage to the Prophet (pbuh) is so despicable in her lifetime, her reputation would have been reflected as such.
Unfortunately the name you carry is that of a woman who was so bad and disrespectful to the Prophet, that Allah gave the Prophet the option to divorce her and put her in the same class as with the wives of Noah and lot. Sahih Muslim 1479 a 'Umar b. al-Khattab (Allah be pleased with him) reported: When Allah's Apostle (ﷺ) kept himself away from his wives, I entered the mosque, and found people striking the ground with pebblesand saying: Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) has divorced his wives, and that was before they were commanded to observe seclusion 'Umar said to himself: I must find this (actual position) today. So I went to 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) and said (to her): Daughter of Abu Bakr, have you gone to the extent of giving trouble to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)? Thereupon she said: Son of Khattab, you have nothing to do with me, and I have nothing to do with you. You should look to your own receptacle. He ('Umar) said: I visited Hafsa daughter of 'Umar, and said to her: Hafsa, the (news) has reached me that you cause Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) trouble. You know that Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) does not love you, and had I not been (your father) he would have divorced you. (On hearing this) she wept bitterly. I said to her: Where is Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)? Shesaid: He is in the attic room. I went in and found Rabah, the servant of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ), sitting on the thresholds of the window dangling his feet on the hollow wood of the date-palm with the help of which Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) climbed (to the apartment) and came down. I cried: 0 Rabah, seek permission for me from Allah's Messenger (way peace be upon him). Rabah cast a glance at the apartment and then looked toward me but said nothing. I again said: Rabah, seek permission for me from Allah's Messenger (ﷺ). Rabah looked towards the apartment and then cast a glance at me, but said nothig. I then raised my voice and said: 0 Rabah, seek permission for me from Allah's Messenger (ﷺ). I think that Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) is under the impression that I have come for the sake of Hafsa. By Allah, if Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) would command me to strike her neck, I would certainly strike her neck. I raised my voice and he pointed me to climb up (and get into his apartment). I visited Allah's Messenger (ﷺ), and he was lying on a mat. I sat down and he drew up his lower garment over him and he had nothing (else) over him, and that the mat had left its marks on his sides. I looked with my eyes in the store room of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ). I found only a handful of barley equal to one sa' and an equal quantity of the leaves of Mimosa Flava placed in the nook of the cell, and a semi-tanned leather bag hanging (in one side), and I was moved to tears (on seeing this extremely austere living of the Holy Piophet), and he said: Ibn Khattab, what wakes you weep? I said: Apostle of Allah, why should I not shed tears? This mat has left its marks on your sides and I do not see in your store room (except these few things) that I have seen; Ceasar and Closroes are leading their lives in plenty whereas you are Allah's Messenger. His chosen one, and that is your store! He said: Ibn Khattab, aren't you satisfied that for us (there should be the prosperity) of the Hereafter, and for them (there should be the prosperity of) this world? I said: Yes. And as I had entered I had seen the signs of anger on his face, and I therefore, said: Messenger of Allah, what trouble do you feel from your wives, and if youhave divorced them, verily Allah is with you, His angels, Gabriel, Mika'il, I and Abu Bakr and the believers are with you. And seldom I talked and (which I uttered on that day) I hoped that Allah would testify to my words that I uttered. And so the verse of option (Ayat al-Takhyir) was revealed. Maybe his Lord, if he divorce you, will give him in your place wives better than you..." (Ixv. 5). And if you back up one another against him, then surely Allah is his Patron, and Gabriel and the righteous believers, and the angels after that are the aidera (lvi. 4). And it was 'A'isha, daughter of Abu Bakr, and Hafsa who had prevailed upon all the wives of Allah's Prophet (way peace be upon him) for (pressing them for mote money). I said: Messenger of Allah, have you divorced them? He said: No. I said: Messenger of Allah, I entered the mosque and found the Muslims playing with pebbles (absorbed in thought) and saying: Allah's Messenger has divorced his wives. Should I get down and inform there that you have not divorced them? He said: Yes, if you so like. And I went on talking to him until I (found) the signs of anger disappeared on his face and (his seriousness was changed to a happy mood and as a result thereof) his face had the natural tranquillity upon it and he laughed and his teeth were the most charming (among the teeth) of all people. Then Allah's Apostle (ﷺ) climbed down and I also climbed down and catching hold of the wood of the palm-tree and Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) came down (with such ease) as if he was walking on the ground, not touching anything with his hand (to get support). I said: Messenger of Allah, you remained in your apartment for twenty-nine days. He said: (At times) the month consists of twenty-nine days. I stood at the door of the mosque and I called out at the top of my voice: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) has not divorced his wives (and it was on this occasion that this) verse was revealed:" And if any matter pertaining to peace or alarm comes within their ken, they broadcast it; whereas, if they would refer it to the Apostle and those who have been entrusted with authority amongst them, those of them who are engaged in obtaining intelligence would indeed know (what to do with) it" (iv 83). And it was I who understood this matter, and Allah revealed the verse pertaining to option (given to the Prophet (may peace be upon him in regard to the retaining or divorcing of his wives).
“O Prophet, why do you make impermissible that which God made allowed to you, seeking to [simply] please your wives. God is All-Forgiving, All-Merciful. Allah has already ordained for you [Muslims] the dissolution of your oaths. And Allah is your protector, and He is the Knowing, the Wise. And [remember] when the Prophet confided to one of his wives a statement; and when she informed [another] of it and Allah showed it to him, he made known part of it and ignored a part. And when he informed her about it, she said, “Who told you this?” He said, “I was informed by the Knowing, the Acquainted.” If you two [wives] repent to Allah , [it is best], for your hearts have deviated. But if you cooperate against him - then indeed Allah is his protector, and Gabriel and the righteous of the believers and the angels, moreover, are [his] assistants. Perhaps his Lord, if he divorced you [all], would substitute for him wives better than you - submitting [to Allah ], believing, devoutly obedient, repentant, worshipping, and traveling - [ones] previously married and virgins.” [66:1-5][
Allah also in this verse Allah tells the Prophet if you divorce them I will give you wives better than them. So if this is the case how is Aisha this great woman she is made out to be.
alhamdulillah. i was from christian fmly. since young, i love to read about prophet pbuh life story. now i become a muslim.. i hope can meet him in paradise. just sad that many non believers always attack islam nowadays in many ways. i want to say that anything what the non believers claimed about islam, i will always love Allah and prophet pbuh till i die.
My own mother Allah bless her was 16 when she met my father and barely 18, she had her first child, my big sister and then 5 more kids followed over the years. She was protestant n my father muslim. They were together until she died 3 years ago at 51. Oh three weeks to her death she decided to revert to Islam out of her own will. Those days it was normal for girls to even have kids at sixteen. Now you wyd be imprisoned in my country. Age of consent always increases with time.
I started listening to this brother, then he came, "portraying a Hollywood image of Muslim men, through Mohammad SAW as angry old and abusive and portraying Muslim women through Ayesha RA as vulnerable and in need of rescue" that's when I hit the like and decided to subscribe... It's as if this image of poor defenseless Muslim women is being forced upon the world, even though there are those of us who are coming ahead as military personnel, doctors, engineers, artists, writer, entrepreurs, thought leaders, activists etc. with a scarf on our heads and saying out loud in the media NO ONE FORCED US, WE ARE DOING IT OF OUR OWN LOVE FOR ALLAH.... Still they keep portraying the abuse cases in Muslim world as an evidence for Islam's badness... As if there are no abuse cases in the west... And you were so right when you said it's a part of colonial plan...indeed it's nothing but psychological warfare, no educated person believes their fox new shit, whether Muslim or non Muslim.
Child marriage is not only a problem with Muslims, but in the USA several states have introduced Age limits between 2017 and 2019. Progress is slow, but happens. This contrasts with Iraq where the government tried to introduce a law lowering the maarriage age to 8 (2017) and yemen where clerics blocked raising the marriage age. Generally speeaking child-marriages are increasing in many Islamic countries. Do you not think that degeneration is partly owing to Muahmmed/Aisha's example?
@@cbcc3029 absolutely not, the example of Mohammad SAW and Aisha RA has as much to do with lowering marriage ages in Muslim countries as the engagement ages of Mary AS at 13 to Joseph AS at 90 years to is to the increasing marriage ages in Christian countries, meaning absolutely nothing. The reason I brought Mary AS and Joseph's example here also had partly to do with making you realize that even though these ages were widely held to be true about them, current researchers hold that there is no proof or basis to those numbers. The same goes for Hazrat Aisha's RA age, where one scholar a long time (ago 200 years after her death) wrote that he heard his father say that she was 6 years old at the time of nikah and 9 years old at consummation, also that particular scholar when narrated these 2 narrations was said to suffer from memory loss during that part of his life by many other scholars. Exactly in the same way, many Muslim researchers today hold that there is no proof of her age at the time of marriage, except for the 2 narrations by a scholar whose memory was doubted by other scholars of his time during later part of his life. Secondly, as it is clear from the above video and you can search in other places as well, lower marriage age has been the norm in asian countries (India, china, arab etc.) since before the time of Mohammad SAW, even if we are to believe that Aisha RA really was 9 at the time of consummation, this marriage was not setting a trend rather following an existing trend in the continent. At that time even european countries and the west had the same age of marriage, that is puberty. A boy and a girl were considered eligible for marriage all over the world at puberty. Today however the west is increasing the legal age of marriage. Not just the age of marriage but even the age of dependency, meaning in many western countries fully grown people are considered CHILDREN until the age of 20. those 20 years olds in a vast majority of cases have become parents of 2 children themselves while still being considered CHILDREN by the state. Now sir, I have a question for you. Do you think that in the western countries, the alarmingly high number of girls 12 to 13 years olds sleeping around with older men, sneaking boys into their bedrooms, teen moms whose children not only become a burden on state financially but a burden on the mother who can not focus on the children who suffer due to the absence of a father and develop psychological problems, the majority of the population of the west being born out of wedlock has something to do with the increasing age limit of marriage (the most fertile time of the human lifecycle they are not allowed to marry, so they find other ways to fulfill their biological urges)? Not to mention the trend marrying late despite whatever the legal limits?
@ozymandias nullifidian why would you wonder about my beatings? btw I am not with him anymore Alhamdolillah. My Allah got me out, I would never have walked out of that door was it not for my Allah.
@ozymandias nullifidian are you suggesting Islam gives right to Muslim men to abuse women? Secondly, I would NEVER EVER EVER DEFEND MISOGYNY, so please don't make false allegations on me, I have never once defended misogyny or misandry.
@ozymandias nullifidian sure please show me those verses and ahadith, I assure you you will not be showing me anything new that I don't know of or that I haven't answered many many before you as well. I support islamic ideology, I don't support whatever picture you have made up in your mind, you seem to be assuming you know everything there is to know about Islam (in case you are not defaming Islam on purpose that is) but judging by your comments I am sure you don't.
What a life-changing lecture this is! Thank you for this beautiful lecture. It really opened my eye and heart for Aisha (r.a) on a different level. I am reminded once again how i should strive to be as a muslim woman.
The virtues of our mother 'Aisha radiAllahu Anha (RA) reached its highest when Allah (SWT) chose for his beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) to die within her arms as a commemoration of their heart touching love story. 😍 💕 May Allah SWT allow us to meet with our mother Aisha RA in Jannat ul-Firdous , Allahumma Aameen ....💖
I like how he discussed what is taboo and he was the one who answered my and many from the west question. He did not hesitate to answer my and many peoples question! He is the first to answer a taboo question. I think it is important for new people to hear this and know what is real.
Undeniable fact, even the enemies of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) at that time never using this to attack him. They never make a fuss to the marriage of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and Aisha (ra) at that time. They use everything to attack Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). But they never think the marriage of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and Aisha (ra) as a flaw and using this against him. This is prove that there was nothing wrong with their marriage at that time.
This lecture is so beautiful and the words are so beautiful that my heart is at peace. May Allah ease our hearts and grant us the beauty and sweetness of Imaan.
I needed this lesson the first name ALLAH gave me through a muslim man who owned a market..he cried when I expressed my faith in ALLAH alone..ALHAMDULILLAH may ALLAH bless you Brother Omar with a most beautiful and favorable level of Jannah. ...if only I could share the level of relevance this lesson has for me..masha Allah! Subhanna ALLAH..!!!
I am learning about Islam and I somehow can feel a deep love for 'Aîsha (ra) more than any other woman of Islam... I can't really explain it but I love it :)
@@Zoolandera-es5blда в 12 лет женщин у христиан тоже джагали видимо за это не накажет .😂или Ребекка 3 года тоже хорошо прекрасно имба ?бл всё больше ржу.
Alhamdulillah. This man Omar Suleiman is such a great lecturer! I have been listening to his lectures recently. And now he has become my favorite lecturer.
@@shubhsingh7559 Surat No. 33 Ayat NO. 4 Allah has not made for a man two hearts in his interior. And He has not made your wives whom you declare unlawful your mothers. And he has not made your adopted sons your [true] sons. That is [merely] your saying by your mouths, but Allah says the truth, and He guides to the [right] way.
I‘ve listened to this on spotify about a month ago during my commute to work and I wanted to applaud and cheer so bad 💯💯💯💯 GREAT talk, especially because it is given with confidence, with words of certainty of faith and with sovereignty, not needing to pander to anyone or dilute anything while also being clear enough for non-muslims to understand. 1000000/10 definitely 💯💯💯💯💯
Really like this lecture. It's good that you also explored the dynamics of what defines child marriages today - elements of power dynamics, education levels and culture. Very great in depth talk. Wish there were more lectures as well researched and written as this one on different topics.
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@@dante224real1 I am not pretending it is OK, I know and believe it is OK. You are right, I am not stupid to think that the family system of the 7th century is the same today, that even human biological development of the 7th century is same as it is today. Even the laws gorverning marriage age in US have evolved within the last 100 to 200 years. How much more thousand years ago.
my great grandma married at 10 and got 14 children, my grandma also married at 10 and got 9 children, i looked up their pictures, back then they really look like grown up lady compare to kids nowadays. At 6 they master all chores, learning herbs and very well handle with animals, while kids nowadays only know smartphone games. How different our lifestyle is.
@@sambatra6162 all they’re saying is that what we consider a child now was not the same back then. You had British monarchs being married at 10 and no one batted an eye. No ones marrying a 10 yr old now bc they are actual children
In my opinion the problem isn’t about aisha raa necessarily, the problem is that child brides in the middle east is far away from this story, when a girl is wed off she is cut off from her family, abused and crushed mentally, and what’s infuriating is that the Muslim imams and men in general they rarely speak about these issues and how to prevent/ handel them, they rarely defend women against misogynists who say women are dumb and only good for sex they shouldn’t have dreams aspirations or goals, even though aisha is prescribed as this strong opinionated educated women muslim girls are advised to be against that, to be silent, complimet and to endure injustice.
Considering how intellectual our mother Aisha was and how many things we have learned through her and what sahabas have learned from her Mashaallah, we tend to forget that she was so little when she was married so intelligent💗 I myself tend to forget so clever she was ....Humayraa our mother in Islam 💗 I am Muslim and I love Islam and I want to die as one inshaallah
Wallahi i hear and i believe. I do not question anything in the Quran and sunnah. Islam is perfect , our Prophet sallalahu alayhi wa salam was perfect. May Allah make us obey him unconditionally without even questioning anything in islam ameen
1. The Prophet married her when she was at least 17-18 years old. Aisha had a sister-Esma who was 10 years older than her. She died in 73 (Hijri calendar) when she was 100 years old. (You can find it in all sources). It means that during hijrat (in 622 AD) she was 27 years old. So, her younger sister was 17 years old. And as the marriage between them took place after hijrat SHE WAS AT LEAST 17 YEARS OLD. 2. Arabs consider age of the women not from the birth of a child, but from the time when they reach puberty. So, in hadith it says that she was 9 years old when they married and it means thet it was 9 years that she reached puberty, NOT THAT SHE WAS 9 YEARS OLD. Aisha was engaged with a man called Jubair who and whose family were idolaters. They rejected her because his family was afraid that she will turn them into Islam. If Aisha was 9 years old in 622, it means that she was born in 613 when Quran has been already revealed. And Quran forbids a muslims to marry non-muslims. So, if Aisha indeed was born in 613 , her father (who was among the first to accept Islam) will never engage her with a non-muslim. So, we came to conclusion that she was born many years earlier. ”And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe. And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even though she might please you. And do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you. Those invite [you] to the Fire, but Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember” Al-Bakarah-221.
@Syed Rafsan Imam Historians agree that Asmaa’, Aisha’s sister، was at least 27 during Hijra, as referenced by the great historian and biographer ibn-ul Atheer in his book Ussd-ul-Ghaba. Since Asmaa’ was at most 10 years older than her sister (as ibn Abdel Barr said in his book al-Istee’aab fy Ma’rifat il-Asshaab), that puts Aisha at the age of 17 at the time of Hijra, which makes her at least 19 at the time she married the Prophet (pbuh).
@Syed Rafsan Imam I you didnt know there are strong and weak hadits! Not all hadiths are strong! Look for proof in the Quran where maturity to own ones own finances and getting married require to reach a certain age and puberty! 4:6, 24:31, 24:58-29.
@Syed Rafsan Imam Hadith cant have both strong and weak roots at the same time. If any hadith is not in line with historical facts or other hadiths it leads to questions right? 5 reasons why Aisha was at least 18 years old when she got married to the Prophet Muhammad (pubs): 1-In Bukhari, Kitab-ul-Manaaqib, it is narrated that Aisha said: لم أعقل أبوي قط إلا وهما يدينان الدين ولم يمر علينا يوم إلا يأتينا فيه رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم طرفي النهار بكرة وعشية فلما ابتلي المسلمون خرج أبو بكر مهاجرا قبل الحبشة “I became conscious of the world after my parents had accepted Islam. And every day, the Prophet (pbuh) would visit us twice, earlier and later in the day. After the community went through severe trials (when Islam was publicly pronounced) Abu-Bakr decided to head to Abyssinia (to flee persecution ) When does a child reach the age of consciousness? At least at the age of 5 or 6 right? Aisha was telling her memories, remembering the Prophet’s visits to her house when she was young. The trials of the Muslims started with the public pronouncement of Islam, which happened in the 3rd year of the Prophet’s mission. This precipitated a severe wave of persecution for the Muslims. They had no choice but to flee Mecca in the 5th year of Islam. This indicates that by the 5th year, Aisha was at least 7 or 8 years old. If Hijra took place in the 13th year, then she must have been at least 15 or 16. If she got married to the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) over 2 years after Hijra, then she must have been at least 18 when it happened. 2- In Bukhari, Kitab Tafseer-ul-Quran, it is narrated that Aisha (RA) said: لقد أنزل على محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم بمكة وإني لجارية ألعب بل الساعة موعدهم والساعة أدهى وأمر “It was revealed to the Prophet (pbuh) in Mecca, while I was a still playing as a child, the ayah [from surat al-Qamar]: “The last hour is the time when they shall truly meet their fate; and that last hour will be most calamitous, and most bitter”(Quran 54:46). So Aisha was conscious enough to understand the verses of the Quran and remember their meaning. Surat al-Qamar was revealed in the 6th year of the Prophet’s mission as Qurtubi mentioned. Now how old Aisha must have been at the time? At least 8 or 9 I would say. If Hijra took place in the 13th year, then she was at least 15 or 16 at the time, which puts her at the age of 17 or 18 when she got married. 3- Imam Ahmad narrates the circumstances of Aisha’s marriage to the Prophet (pbuh). He says that al-Mut’am b. A’dy proposed to her for his son Jubayr. When the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) approached Abu-Bakr asking for her hand in marriage, he told him that another family already approached him about the same thing and that he had to honor that. Later, Abu Bakr met al-Mut’am and his wife. He sensed hesitate from the mother of Jubayr. She said: “أخشى أن تُصبأ عائشةُ جبيرا” or “I worry Aisha would convert my son Jubayr to Islam". Abu Bakr asked the father about it, and he said that he had a similar concern as his wife. The marriage was called off and Abu Bakr told the Prophet (pbuh) That Aisha was available. How old must she have been in order to have this kind of influence? She must have been a charismatic, eloquent adult for Jubayr’s family to be concerned that she might convert their son to Islam. She definitely was not a child. 4- Muhammad b. Is’haaq, the great historian and biographer of Islam, and the teacher of ibn-Hishaam and Tabari, created a list of the first people that accepted Islam in his book as-Seera an-Nabawiyyah. He places Aisha at #19. Since the first 20 conversions must have happened in the first year, then Aisha was at least 5 years old to have that kind of consciousness (she was probably older). If she was at least 5 in the first year, then at Hijra she was at least 18 right? Which puts her at the age of 20 when she got married to the Prophet (pbuh) two years later. 5- Historians agree that Asmaa’, Aisha’s sister، was at least 27 during Hijra, as referenced by the great historian and biographer ibn-ul Atheer in his book Ussd-ul-Ghaba. Since Asmaa’ was at most 10 years older than her sister (as ibn Abdel Barr said in his book al-Istee’aab fy Ma’rifat il-Asshaab), that puts Aisha at the age of 17 at the time of Hijra, which makes her at least 19 at the time she married the Prophet (pbuh).
Omar, Salaam Alaikum, Thank you for the amazing work you do and the passion for Islam displayed in every speech, it is a great help to those of us converting to Islam from non traditional backgrounds.
Baraak Allahu feek, I used to feel very conflicted on this topic when an islamophobe brought it up. Alhamdulilah I feel a lot more confident now in retorting them. May Allah bless you in your life and all your works!
You are a BEAUTIFUL soul, Sh. Suliman🌿 ... May Allah enlighten you all the more and grant you His ever-lasting guidence, love, light, and guardianship❤🙏 ...
Really enjoyed this lecture and learned a great deal. We were having discussions on this exact topic within the family and my son was repeating a lot of the arguments brought forward by the haters. Jazak Allah Khair, and now I can have a much better discussion with him on this topic.
Although I'm not Muslim, I have always been drawn to the figure and wisdom of Aisha (RA). This lecture was so helpful for my religion research paper on Islam, specifically when discussing the prominent women of Islam throughout history!
Sheikh Omar never fails to impress! May Allah(swt) be pleased with him. The problem with our society today is that we've become too quick to judge. We create our own opinions based on the our limited knowledge , which is why we are restricted to see the greater picture. Doubts are meant to be cleared, we need to put in efforts to seek answers. But sadly we've come to a point where we think that our perception of things is the most superior of the entire human race and that our beliefs are the ultimate truth. May Allah(swt) bless us with insight and wisdom!
My Great Grandmother (AR) got married at the age of 11 in Palestine, they didn’t know there age but said “whenever I was born it was Cold and whenever I got married 11 cold seasons passed” ❤ AR Siti
00:00 00 - Introduction, reasons for this talk 11:30 01 - Physical, bilogical dimension of child marriage 12:35 02 - Psychological dimension of child marriage 13:56 03 - Power dynamic in child marriage 18:20 04 - The educational dynamic 19:50 05 - Abuse 21:43 06 - Do you support child marriage? 25:25 07 - How normal was the engagement of Aisha to the Prophet PBUH? 32:10 08 - How did Aisha describe the PROPHET PBUH 34:25 09 - Qualities of Alisha 53:26 10 - Other opinions about her age 57:13 11 - Conclusion
Falsehood Basher all your three videos are about sunnis saying something they didn’t. This shows your background as a shia who hates our mother Aisha RA
This was absolutely brilliant, Ma Sha Allah. Thoroughly enjoyed it and made copious notes. May Allah reward in ABUNDANCE all those who contributed to this superb video. Allah hummah barek.
It is stated in the Holy Qur’an; “There is no compulsion in religion, the right path and wrong path, both have been clearly explained and explicitly differentiated from each other”. (2:256)
“When you’re pleased with me you swear by the Lord of Muhammad (SAW), and when you’re mad at me you swear by the Lord of Abraham (SAW)” That made me laugh loool, love that subtle passive aggressiveness. May Allah swt be pleased with her!
My aunt married at 9 her daughters are grandmothers .. she is so happy with her big family many and many lovers of sons and grandsons and grandsons of sons around her 😍😍😍
@@concerned_parent when they keep saying things like this and I've read a few message on here very similar. That their relatives was married at a very young age and no issues. Do they mean they had sexual intercourse, when they say they were married??? There is a difference between being married at a very young age and having sex at such an age. A 9yr old is a child today and was a child 1400 yrs ago. No twisting and turning can change that. It's wrong for any body whether that person is 12 yrs old child or a 50 yrs old man if they sexual interfer in anyway with a child they are wrong, guilty of a disgusting crime. Anybody who tries to excuse that, need a good long hard look at themselves
This was normal in those times. There are some girls whose body matures early, especially in the Arabs .. At a time when your grandparents used to put iron clothes that had a lock on his wife's vagina and they treated her as a kind of animal, Muslims used to treat women lightly and follow the words of the Messenger when he said: Be gentle with the bottles (he meant women) as a metaphor for their tenderness and weakness, and he used to say: Your best is your best for his family .. And he said: I recommend you to women well .. He used to compete with his wife in running .. and he used to help her in household work despite his preoccupation with the affairs of the state and so much more. @@Zappy9518
@@Zappy9518 totally agree with you! sex with a minor is a disgusting crime and it should never be excused. It's wrong, the worst sin, and it will be punished by God.
Subhanallah...what a beautiful narration about our mother Aishah RA. I am literally loving this women, who has been so maligned by disbelievers..She is a women above all women..someone to emulate and rever.
Yes there is Hadith in Bukhari that Aish’a age was six when she married then her marriage was consummated at 9. What a horrible thing to say about the prophet. So I did some research concluded her age was between 18-22 based on the following:- 1) Most if not all the people who reported this took it from one source, Hisham ibn Orwat Ibn Al Zbeir Ibn Al Awwam who was born after Aisha passed away. Hisham is a trust worthy source in general. But get this, he lived in Madina for 71 years, never said anything about Aisha’s age then moved to Iraq in the last 10 years of his life where he suddenly narrated this. It was mentioned that his memory and mind was weaken with age to the point that biggest scholars of Islam like Malik ibn Anas refused to take anything he said after leaving to Iraq. He mixed the dates of Hijra ( when prophet migrated to Madina) and Bi’tha ( first revelation) 2) There are sources In Bukhari and other books saying Asma’ the older sister of Aisha was bigger than her by 10 years and Asma’ was born in the 27 years before Hijra which is 14 years before First revelation which means Aisha was 4 at that time and since the prophet married her 2 years from Hijra that puts her age to 19. 3) There is Quranic text that mandates physical and mental maturity for marriage. In fact Islam is the only religion that has this (quran 4:6) “Test the orphans until they reach the age of marriage, and then if you find them mature of mind hand over to them their property” Some ignorant opinions say Surat Altalaq (divorse) 65:4 that states if absolutely men need to divorce women they need to wait till they give birth if pregnant, or three months if they have no menstruation such as due to menopause or medical condition ( amenorrhea) and that’s to ensure they won’t be divorced while being pregnant. These ignorant people say no menstruation here include young children. How sick is this? A verse that is so feminist and all about women rights to be changed to include not only children abuse but also divorcing them. Crazy. 4) There are many contradictions that will stem from the assumption that Aisha age was six at marriage including taking her to war when she was 7 (Badr Gaswa) and when she was 8 (Ohod Gazwa). Of corse she was at least 20 years when she went to war with the prophet perhaps to render medical help. 5) Finally let’s not pretend that young girls don’t marry around the world. According to wikipedia as of today Massachusetts allows girls as young as 12 to get married, Utah 14 and Mississippi 15.
1. al-Bukhari said the marriage was consummated when she was 9 (as you know, but you didn't mention that the Bukhari also emphasized that Aisha was still playing with dolls at the time) 2. Al-Tabari also says she was 9 when the marriage was consummated 3. ibn Ishaq / ibn Hisham also says she was 9-10 years old Also, why would you need the 5) point if you're confident Aisha was 18-22?
@@LordJagd It’s funny to me because muslim scholars say she is 9. 😂 Crazy the extent muslims will go to change history. Aisha wasn’t even mature enough to let bread sit.
@@treydevercelly7518 What's doubly absurd is that they'll stretch the reliability of hadith with things like Aisha's age but won't question other things like Muhammad splitting the moon. And I found these on the Wikipedia pages on Aisha's age so the actual verses should be easy to find there.
This was the one topic that had my faith shaken and this video was the most concise and informative one I could find to dissuade my doubts. I have watched a few other videos that seem very emotionally charged rather than intellectually honest but this video has cleared me of doubt Alhamdulillah. The topic itself is one that I would find personally difficult to explain to someone on the opposing end, but at the very least my personal biases have been expunged. JazakAllah Khair, may Allah keep us on the straight path and clear of doubt, Ameen.
It still should. Shecwas crying when he came into her, she was crying and didn't know what is going on. She in her own words said she was SCARED to bother him. That's not consensual. Also please learn about Stockholm syndrome, trauma bonding. An abused person CAN AND WILL think alit of the person who is abusing them. Just because a girl is having a period doesn't mean she's ready for sex and child birth. Also do you see how Muhammed kept changing the rules for people.??? Oh look staying too long after dinner is bad says allah. .. Abused people CAN be confident, they can stand up for people and plead her case. Muhammed said it was okay for the woman who was beat so bad by her husband tgat she was yellow and green. Read these again and tell me if you think that is not ONLY OKAY but behavior of a PERFECT person who is an example for all ages. Also I dare ypu to find a child bride who is glad they got married to an older man. Science shows us it's damaging. I ask you to take these things into consideration.
Jazak Allahu khayr for this informative lecture, Sheikh Omar. You mentioned how important it is to face our own biases and that is very true. One thing I learned that I had not considered is how the Islamophobes have a wider agenda than just to critique Aisha (radiAllahu anha)'s age and the Prophet (SAW)- I didn't know how they'd use that to perpetuate the stereotypes they love and to colonize lands. May Allah reward you for this and protect us all. Ameen
This is the best response I’ve heard after so many years and unlike the fake Mufti Abu Layth in U.K. who prioritises logic before the Words of Quran and Sunnah this is dealt in an academic manner which no one can refute. Well done Yaqeen Institute
whether her age was 9, 16 and 22 ... 0ne thing ..She loved him at the time of marriage after the marriege and after his death SAW .... .. she was clearly an extrordinary person ... he treated her like an equal at whatever the age was .... one thing .... she gets the biological signal of being ready for marrige .... she agrees to a marrige and she is in love with the person ..after that why do you care if she was 9 16 or 22 ... no one cares ..she was old enough to get married and if she wants to get married to someone ..she has the right to do it ... Asalamualaikum
I’m sorry but a 9 year old can’t “love” a 50 year old man unless it’s like a father-daughter relationship. And that’s probably how she saw him which makes it even more screwed up considering he consummated the marriage when she was merely 9!
@@IceBerg1620 can we talk about the age difference that i bet still existing in your country first? Now u come and act shocked when you can just ask around. Again, no one forced your sister or daughter, but something that was normalised 1500 years ago cannot be argued :)
@@jieun208 there is no way a 7 year old girl would ever agree to marry an 40 years old man, she was forced against her will, stop making stupid excuses for your prophet.
@@IceBerg1620 Aisha (RA) was betrothed to another man before she was even married to the prophet pbuh, so I’m saying again: it’s not because nowadays it’s shocking that it was before 1500 years. You can only take a look to girls living in villages and compare them to girls in the city and they are not alike in maturity! Now the law keeps raising the marriage age because we’re not as generations decades ago. But we’re talking about centuries? U get it or still not?
Subhan Allah. Such a comprehensive and well rounded talk on this very sensitive topic conducted so beautifully. May Allah swt bless you immensely in both worlds, Sheikh Omar, and may He reward you for all your efforts, aameen.
This was the best discussion about this topic that I've come across. I've always thought it contradictory for anyone to use the Hadiths that mention her age to criticize the prophet but completely ignore the entire rest of the Hadiths that demonstrate her strength and confidence and the Hadiths *from her directly* regarding how she felt back then. Truly a disservice to her and everyone she helped and inspired. May Allah be pleased with her and with Omar Sulaiman for giving this talk and encouraging others to be stronger in their faith even in the face of adversity and criticism.
Alhamdulillah for this lecture.. Yall don't know how much the doubts came and attacked me all this time, even though i tried to avoid it and kill it as much as I can, but the whispers are still there.. Thank you Imam for an amazingly well lecture 😃
@@veronica5080 No no, its not that. People often talk abt this but everyone give their own opinion ,Aisha R.A was this age, that age. Veronica, this is the arabic culture back then, if it was an issue back then, there must be a criticism from ancient people. In today's world it is not practiced anymore. If you want to know anything let me know. 😍
Why are people arguing about her age of marriage when she stated she has been the happiest woman alive when she was with the prophet. When she didn’t argue about that why would you actually argue about it instead of her? Are you seriously this dumb? Why are people debating over this when she had shown how much she loves the prophet. And mind you the prophet(pbuh) was very much NOT a pedophile. He had 11 wives who were over 40 or even 50. Why are y’all tryna point fingers at him for abusing her when she herself clearly said he never raised a hand on her and mind you that hadeeth about striking is not about abusing or hitting her it is mistranslated and the striking was actually poking her or jabbing his finger. Now you are telling me that even poking is an act of aggression? Secondly why are y’all arguing about her being assaulted or abused by the prophet (pbuh) as if y’all knew her personally and she actually told you how cruel our prophet was???? You don’t even have a damn base or anything to argue and discriminate and point fingers at. When she herself said she was so overjoyed by her marriage to the prophet and she has defended him and loved him so much, why are you saying she was abused??? You think she who was known to being so rebellious and intelligent and mischievous to actually defend her abuser?? You are arguing about something nonexistent. You don’t know her personally and was not at her time to be her friend you have no right to actually say she was abused when she was clearly saying the exact opposite. So shut your damn hypocritical and lying mouth up. And third of all in a time and place when people only had access to meat dates and milk and actually ate that everyday what kind of physique do you think they would have? When science clearly showed that the nearer you are to the equator the less is the age of puberty between 9-13 for women (puberty which only was considered part of childhood in the 20th century because at that time people of that age couldn’t take responsibility as an adult because all their life they have been pampered like kids when they were very much adults) you think humans at that time were psychologically and physically the same as they were today?? Where technology had made our lives so much easier?? That so many of our responsibilities have been taken off our shoulder?? At a time when the only thing that humans knew was actually live in a harsh atmosphere no matter what age. Why are you not debating over why men at the age of 15 went to war when now at this age and time they are considered children? That’s because at a harsh atmosphere and environment people psychologically and physically were much older than people were now. Now you see a 20 year old not taking responsibility for anything and only sitting their ass down and playing video games when clearly their age is that of an adult and they are acting childishly. You think at that time people were living such a good time that you could have whatever work you wanted to do? And you could eat whatever you wanted to eat? At that time if you acted so carefree and childishly your life would have been on the line. That was like 1400 years ago. People didn’t have time to act so childishly when everyday you would be afraid of getting killed. People at that time and place matured at a very young age physically and psychologically and mentally and emotionally. A time where the thing you should think of is how to live another day, not which kind of food is your favorite. If you don’t understand a thing I said and still argue about this subject then your brain clearly has some nails loose and you actually should be concerned about your thinking.
Must be very happy when she saw her old Husband whoring around with ever woman who offers herself to him. Fact she was jealous a lot of times. And Safiya was also very young teenager. But Aisha his favorite wife (why?) was the youngest. after realizing Muhammad can't impregnate a child he moved on with his pedophilia.
SI pp0 the word islamophobe is not correct these are people who are ungrateful immature ignorant and uneducated that is what they are don't give them another word to put in the dictionary stick to the truth not too made up wordsppp0ppp may Allah reward all of you and give us the guidance and forgiveness from Allah amen
There are many victims of abuse that are so victimized and confused that they are attached to and even love their abusers and know no other way of living. So you cannot determine if abuse occurred by only observing if the apparent victim was “confident” or “loved” the one suspect of being an abuser. It’s so psychologically complicated that looking on the surface, like how the victim behaves etc, is so flawed and so insufficient to come to the conclusion on whether abuse occurred or not.
SubhanAllah! Explained so beautifully. Very clear points were brought up in this lecture Alhamdulillah. JazakAllahu kheiran kaseerah. May peace and blessings be upon Aisha RA and Prophet Muhammad SAW.
30min mark the story of how Aishas marriage to jubayr was cancelled is interesting. they cancelled it because they thought aisha would convert him. Now if she was truly 6 years old at that time. That would make no sense. Nor would it make sense if she was 9 years old. The age some say aisha married the prophet, 3 years after cancelling jubayrs engagement. BUT, if aisha was born in 605 (instead of 615). It would make aisha 16 at the time jubayr cancelled the engagement and 19 when she married the prophet pbuh. That is an age where someone could convert someone else, especially someone of aishas intellect. I suspect someone messed up aishas date of birth by a decade somehow. Most likely by getting her date of birth wrong. She was born 4/5 years prior to islam, and not 4/5 years after islam.
All we need to know is that she had the mindset of an adult, whether she was 6 or 16, she was extremely intelligent and was mature enough to get married.
Aisha and jubayr marriage was meant to be after aisha reach maturity. When she is mature she can definitely influence her husband. That was the jubayr parents thinking about. Not converting their son now, but after or long after they got married. This is the problem when you say someone has messed up aishas age. Aisha herself narrated and this narration has multiple chain.
@nasser jilanee I understand your point regarding trustworthiness chain of narration. But discrepancy in number is not the ONLY main reason why hadith is not sahih. Slight number discrepancy such as age, duration in mecca or madinah is not important to the scholars compared to fiqh, theology. It is important to historian. And more so in modern society. However, is the number so problematic that we become so apologetic regarding aisya age? when it is not even theology and it doesnt deteriorate the prophet PBUH moral value anyway? In fact i rather someone defend the sahih value of hadith then to defend the age of Aisya RA. Even the other proof of Aisya age being older is still controversial because it is based on (you guess it..........) hadith
5 reasons why Aisha was at least 18 years old when she got married to the Prophet Muhammad (pubs): 1- In Bukhari, Kitab-ul-Manaaqib, it is narrated that Aisha said: لم أعقل أبوي قط إلا وهما يدينان الدين ولم يمر علينا يوم إلا يأتينا فيه رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم طرفي النهار بكرة وعشية فلما ابتلي المسلمون خرج أبو بكر مهاجرا قبل الحبشة “I became conscious of the world after my parents had accepted Islam. And every day, the Prophet (pbuh) would visit us twice, earlier and later in the day. After the community went through severe trials (when Islam was publicly pronounced) Abu-Bakr decided to head to Abyssinia (to flee persecution ) When does a child reach the age of consciousness? At least at the age of 5 or 6 right? Aisha was telling her memories, remembering the Prophet’s visits to her house when she was young. The trials of the Muslims started with the public pronouncement of Islam, which happened in the 3rd year of the Prophet’s mission. This precipitated a severe wave of persecution for the Muslims. They had no choice but to flee Mecca in the 5th year of Islam. This indicates that by the 5th year, Aisha was at least 7 or 8 years old. If Hijra took place in the 13th year, then she must have been at least 15 or 16. If she got married to the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) over 2 years after Hijra, then she must have been at least 18 when it happened. 2- In Bukhari, Kitab Tafseer-ul-Quran, it is narrated that Aisha (RA) said: لقد أنزل على محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم بمكة وإني لجارية ألعب بل الساعة موعدهم والساعة أدهى وأمر “It was revealed to the Prophet (pbuh) in Mecca, while I was a still playing as a child, the ayah [from surat al-Qamar]: “The last hour is the time when they shall truly meet their fate; and that last hour will be most calamitous, and most bitter”(Quran 54:46). So Aisha was conscious enough to understand the verses of the Quran and remember their meaning. Surat al-Qamar was revealed in the 6th year of the Prophet’s mission as Qurtubi mentioned. Now how old Aisha must have been at the time? At least 8 or 9 I would say. If Hijra took place in the 13th year, then she was at least 15 or 16 at the time, which puts her at the age of 17 or 18 when she got married. 3- Imam Ahmad narrates the circumstances of Aisha’s marriage to the Prophet (pbuh). He says that al-Mut’am b. A’dy proposed to her for his son Jubayr. When the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) approached Abu-Bakr asking for her hand in marriage, he told him that another family already approached him about the same thing and that he had to honor that. Later, Abu Bakr met al-Mut’am and his wife. He sensed hesitate from the mother of Jubayr. She said: “أخشى أن تُصبأ عائشةُ جبيرا” or “I worry Aisha would convert my son Jubayr to Islam". Abu Bakr asked the father about it, and he said that he had a similar concern as his wife. The marriage was called off and Abu Bakr told the Prophet (pbuh) That Aisha was available. How old must she have been in order to have this kind of influence? She must have been a charismatic, eloquent adult for Jubayr’s family to be concerned that she might convert their son to Islam. She definitely was not a child. 4- Muhammad b. Is’haaq, the great historian and biographer of Islam, and the teacher of ibn-Hishaam and Tabari, created a list of the first people that accepted Islam in his book as-Seera an-Nabawiyyah. He places Aisha at #19. Since the first 20 conversions must have happened in the first year, then Aisha was at least 5 years old to have that kind of consciousness (she was probably older). If she was at least 5 in the first year, then at Hijra she was at least 18 right? Which puts her at the age of 20 when she got married to the Prophet (pbuh) two years later. 5- Historians agree that Asmaa’, Aisha’s sister، was at least 27 during Hijra, as referenced by the great historian and biographer ibn-ul Atheer in his book Ussd-ul-Ghaba. Since Asmaa’ was at most 10 years older than her sister (as ibn Abdel Barr said in his book al-Istee’aab fy Ma’rifat il-Asshaab), that puts Aisha at the age of 17 at the time of Hijra, which makes her at least 19 at the time she married the Prophet (pbuh). @/micdrop
Excellent talk highlighting the virtues of Hazrath A'isha and the beautiful marriage and relationship between her and the Prophet (pbuh). Another thing to point out is average life expectancy in those days was much lower in the 30's which explains why people would get married and have kids at an early age.
- At that time, in the place called Darun-Nadwa, where serious decisions such as war were taken, ceremonies of “wearing shirts” were also held for young girls who reached puberty. They began to count their ages starting from that day. For example, if a girl participated in this ceremony at the age of 10, according to Arabs, that girl would become 1 year old a year after the ceremony. When she turned 10, she actually turned 19 years old. “Darun-Nadwa” was essentially a council of nobles. The leaders of the Quraysh tribes in Makkah above the age of forty could attend this assembly, where all kinds of war and peace decisions were made, opinions were determined, wedding ceremonies and shirt-wearing ceremonies for young girls who reached puberty were held. According to Ibn Ishaq, before Qusayy had Darun-Nadwa built, those meetings were held in his house. Qurayshis were so devoted to him that wedding ceremonies used to be held in his house and any event that happened to them was discussed there; decisions to wage wars against other tribes were also made there. Clothing the girls who reached puberty in shirts was also done in his house; the part of the shirt that should be left open was torn there and put on the girl; then the girl would be taken home and dressed in a normal way. (1) The person who led that ceremony was called “muhayyid” (2). (3) The meaning of this ceremony was as follows: This girl entered puberty; anyone who wanted to marry her could marry her. That ceremony was held in the presence of everyone. (4) To sum up, it can be said that there was a custom in the ancient Arabs that a ceremony was held for a girl who entered puberty and that girls were known by their age after menstruation. (5) References: 1) Ibn Hisham, Sirah, 1/77; DIA, Daru’n-nedve item. 2) Muhayyid: It means the person who performs the hayd (menstruation) ceremony. This title was given to Abdiddar, one of the sons of Qusayy, for performing this ceremony. For more information, see Azraqi, Akhbaru Makkah (History of Makkah), p. 113-114. 3) Ibn Hisham, 1/77-78; Azraqi, Akhbaru Makkah (History of Makkah), p. 113-114; Balazuri, Futuhul-Buldan, (Translated by Mustafa Fayda), Siyer Yayınları, Istanbul 2013, p. 58. 4) Muhammed Hamidullah, İslam Müesseselerine Giriş, (Transl. İhsan Süreyya Sırma), Beyan Yayınları, Istanbul 2013, p. 42. 5) see Musa Jarullah, Hatun, p. 81, Kitabiyat Yay. Transl. Mehmet Görmez.
💐جزاك الله خيرًا يا شيخ سليمان For those who are saying these are lies or even dare to say bad things abt our beloved prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him) just know one thing all you’re writing or saying don’t even get the chance to make us lose our faith in this beautiful religion or make us unfollow the guide of our most beloved prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him), and whatever you’re saying abt our most beloved prophet won’t even reach him and it won’t even decrease from his magnificent and high status with ALLAH (S.W.T) and also in our hearts ♥️ Just for ur information, u will only seduce those who are already hypocrites and disbelievers ☺️ So I advise u to stop unless there will be a terrifying punishment after death for u or u just want to gain sins by barking bad words out against Islam and Muslims . Hope u guys be a lil bit educated abt other religions and if something was disturbing u just ask politely and ask ALLAH for guidance, not like the way I see in this comment section. Ah, BTW you will be accounted on the day of judgment for every single word you’re saying or writing so be careful 😉!!
It was Arab tradition to marry in early age but Hazrat Ayesha RA went to Hazrat Muhammad pbuh after adulthood... These two points just end this discussion My understanding... May Allah guide me if i am wrong
Beautiful Lecture! Although I never had any problem with this marriage coz I have good knowledge of History and Anthropology. BUt happy that Yaqeen Institute uploaded papers and supported with such an wonderful video. I hope Layman in western and eastern world will understand and able to explain away.
Never had a problem with the marriage, a 53 year old man having sex with a 9 year old and you've never had a problem with it, that explains one of the big problems with your so called religion
@@garylantow-humble7611 One of the big problems with your argument is how it doesn't make sense. You can't judge a 9 year old by today's standards to a 9 year old 1400 years ago it just doesn't make sense. At the time Aisha was both physically and mentally mature enough to be considered an adult.Their lives were completely different. 12 year olds back then already had CHILDREN. Heck you can't compare a 9 year old literally 50 years back to a 9 year old of today. Only two generations back it was normal for a 10 year old to get married can you imagine 1400 years ago? Ofcourse not! Life has changed 9 year olds today aren't capable of getting married because they aren't mature both physically and mentally to do so. Today marrying 9 year olds is haram(forbidden) in Islam becuase it will harm them.
The times I have come across Historians using marriage ages in the past they used mean age of first marriage not some legal age at which contracts were allowed. Those studies all showed mean marriage ages in the twenties in the West. So his facts are wrong and his extrapolation to the past is wrong, He also neglects to mention that the Romans had a Marrriage age of 12 for women and Muhammed would not have been allowed to marry Aisha at 6 or 9 if they had lived under Roman rule.. If the incidence of child marriage at the age of 9 was high in Arabia, the mortality rates for mothers and babies would be through the roof.
Surah An-Nisa 4:3, Allah states in the Quran, If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, MARRY WOMEN of your choice, Two or three or four; The point to highlight here is that the word of Allah in Quran is MARRY WOMEN so it has to be women and it was reveal to the same Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.) therefore there is no point discussing the age of Ai'shia (r.a.) after 1400 years. If someone teaches us the correct methodology to understand Quran then we will not find any conflicts. And if we find any conflicts, then turn towards the book of Allah. Chapter close No point of discussion because indeed it is an ultimate guidance to mankind.
JazakAllah khair sheikh for talking about this issue. I didn't know how to answer people about this and I didn't know whom to ask this question. Even though I found this video 2 years later after it had been posted. I am greatful to Allah for letting me watch it.
Timestamps for everyone who needs it for later reference
00:00 00 - Introduction, reasons for this talk
11:30 01 - Physical, bilogical dimension of child marriage
12:35 02 - Psychological dimension of child marriage
13:56 03 - Power dynamic in child marriage
18:20 04 - The educational dynamic
19:50 05 - Abuse
21:43 06 - Do you support child marriage?
25:25 07 - How normal was the engagement of Aisha to the Prophet PBUH?
32:10 08 - How did Aisha describe the Prophet PBUH?
34:25 09 - Qualities of Aisha
53:26 10 - Other opinions about her age
57:13 11 - Conclusion
Thank you ❤
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Jazak Allah Khair
Thank you.
“I swear by Allah, none of you truly believes until you trust Allah more than you trust that which is in your hands” Aisha (RA)
Anyone knows the source of this hadith ?
Is the Hadith more important or the Koran ? I’m learning about Islam, can anyone help ?
@@MenacingRabbit hadiths were written by people during prophet(PBUH) life and after He passed away too so hadiths could be corrupted but Quran will remain same till the judgment day because it's promised by Allah Almighty
@@zahid7505 but most hadiths that are found in Sahih Bukhari and Sahih Muslim are authentic and hadiths written by Ibn Maja,Tirmithi,Abu Dawood and Nasa'y also mostly authentic.
syed zaid these Hadiths didn’t get released until around 200 years after the death of prophet (SWS) how do we know they are authentic if people have different view points of things they hear ?
Why is this video, not the first thing that comes up when anyone searches about this topic? WOW. He just saved me. Subhan Allah.
The guy claims that a 9 year old girl from the 7th century had an adult body.
The guy said that since this 9-year-old girl had reached puberty, she was an adult and therefore mature enough to be with a 54 yo man.
How can you trust this nonsense?
Who is this guy ? Is he IBN Katir ? Tabari ? Or maybe you just heard a reassuring speech that downplayed the fact that your prophet slept with a 9-year-old girl.
@@9pdaghistory cultural things extra plays a role i assure you aysha ra was mature women and her age can be marked cultuarally
Because there was tradition of marking age of women after they hit puberty if you want resources i would say RUclips and scroll there will be a website link for Islamic teaching history check it out. And the age of asma ra if connect it all together do your research. I had already done mine
Various resources, views, and numerical doc i substracted added divided for approximate age wallahi she was more than 9.and i am not saying sahih bukhari is wrong hope you got my point
People will look for what they want to hear. Those who refute the truth will be drawn to lies. But those who seek the truth will find it.
Comical
Because he just tell things that you want to hear, while hiding the ugly stuffs.
A habitual behaviour in Muslim "scholars".
This video has destroyed all of my small doubts and insecurities on this subject. It also gave me a new level of respect towards Aisha(ra).
I will recommend this video to anyone who asks about this subject.
May Allah bless you and help you grow this Channel!
@@party_posse have you watched the video?
@@excelsior31107 The defintion of a "minor" is new. 18 isn't when people become adults. read some more of hsitory, an "adult" being a person who is 18 is a UN reslution. The UN isnt the "absolute law" we must follow etc.
@@ozairazeem2278 i can't believe he just said that,now it should hv been some other language! okay,these people r really innovative in digging out faults in islam like THEY r the worst enemies of islam, i understand that people in this modern era think they r the smartest beings and people in the past were just dumb and couldn't even think of these things and were hating islam for silly reasons while these people hv such STRONGER proofs...m expecting more from them in the future just to see how creative they get and finally when they realize they were being used,without even them knowing about it...anyway brother protect ur sanity and stay away from these keyboard warriors cz if they really wanted answers,there r better options than comment sections and someone above said that they'd b killed if they asked questions,lol here people aren't just questioning but straight out blaming,abusing,swearing at us and our religion and r still alive, how long is it gonna take them to finally recognize their real enemy...
@@vedatveziroglu9436 ameen
@@excelsior31107 Was the oxford student disctionary around 1400 years ago? Of course not! Was Oxford university around then? no! Was even Oxford, the town, founded? I'm not even sure about that
The point is, why do people need to follow what the student dcitinary says? it isn't divine guidance.
Yes, to your second point, many of the Arabs where ignorant pagans, unaware of God's laws. they did stupid and evil stuff, as ignorant people tend to do. But after guidance came to them through the Prophet many converted. It's important to note that the Prophet, his family, and a few others where Chrtisans during that time, not like the other pagans. and Christians then didn't believe Jesus was god or anything (search "Ebionite Christians").
Muslims don't bow to any stone. they bow to God
God who is above all creations, in the Eighth Heaven.
Not a false Prophet. there's scientific Miracles in the Quran that prove that Islam is true. the Bibe prophesied the coming of a last Messenger:
"I still have much to tell you, but you cannot yet bear to hear it. 13However, when the Spirit of truth comes, He will guide you into all truth. For He will not speak on His own, but He will speak what He hears, and He will declare to you what is to come."
Also,I agree with your last point. The Saudi leadership is very bad.
"understanding the age of our mother Aisha ra. doesn't mean that we support child marriage" the highlight of this beautiful lecture
Jazakallahu Khair, may Allah Bless our scholar, Syaikh Omar Suleiman with many blessing
unfortunately for most non Muslims this lecture just means that people like Sh. Omar Sulaiman and his followers don't support child marriages. What he said doesn't reflect what people think inside Yemen or Afghanistan with regards to child marriage (according to their opinion, and yes I've spoken to a lot of Americans regarding this and they still feel antsy if you give them the anthropology explanation).
not really. pubescent marriages! NOT Children you fool. Grow Up!!!
if. the. country. law
agree. if. teen . girl
agree then. what
is. non. muslims. problem.
it happnt. america. asia. africa. none
will. talk. about why
evry. country. have
own . laws we. all
know. none. force.
to. make. this. laws
the. case. is. close
So what about Sure 65:4?
Actually it does. In Muslim countries men take child brides and justify it on the fact that Muhammad did it so it must be okay
This issue of Aisha (ra)'s age was on my head the whole morning today even as i was reading and listening to Quran. Now im watching this as tears come to eyes and i have goosebumps. May Allah bless his last messenger and our beloved mother as well as Shaikh Omar for sharing his knowledge.
This lecturer spends a lot of time trying to argue that a little girl was mature enough to be an adult, which I think is ridiculous and unnecessary. There was already evidence in the Quran and some hadiths that Aisha was older, not a little girl. Oxford University scholar Dr. Joshua Little has debunked the Aisha marital age hadith and all derivative hadiths with his 2022 PhD thesis, the most comprehensive academic study ever done on the subject of Aisha’s marital age Hadith. Watch his lecture for details "Why the Aisha Marital Age Hadith is a FORGERY: An EXCLUSIVE Lecture by Dr. Joshua Little".
According to Ibn Kathir: ‘Asma was ten years elder to her sister Aisha
[Al-Bidayah wan Nihayah (8/371)]
Now let us look at age of Asma (ra) when she passed away:
According to Ibn Hajr Al-Asqalani: Asma (ra) lived for 100 years and she died in 73 or 74 AH
(Taqrib ut Tahdhib)
So Asma was 28 when she migrated to Medina. That means Aisha (ra) was 18 when she migrated to Medina. And she shifted to the Prophet’s ﷺ house within a year of two after the Hijrah (migration). That proves that Aisha (ra) was between 19-21 when she consummated her marriage with the Prophet ﷺ
If child marriages we're permissible wouldn't you believe that so, why would there be quran verse about
Average modern Muslim trying to reconcile civilization with barbarianism. Any and all Muslim hadith cam be proven as a forgery because they were written decades after Muhammad died. @@calitaliarepublic6753
Most girls hit puberty by age 11, so its ok for us to sleep with 11 year old girls? Justify it as much as you like, in the end the main prophet of your religion slept with a 9 year old child.
Who is this guy ? Is he IBN Katir ? Tabari ?
I'm sorry but you've just heard a reassuring speech that downplayed the fact that your prophet slept with a 9-year-old girl.
There are at least 14 hadiths Sahi that spoke about her age 6/7 yo when she got married and 9yo when he consumed the marriaged. Moslim 1422 , Bukari 5134
In the hadiths we read that she played with dolls and swung on a swing.
Ayesha's age is a non-issue--except to haters of Islam. She was a remarkable person, and the Prophet (PBUH) was not just any ordinary human.
@F S definitely we all have a devine purpose, you should really empty your cup and approach islam with and empty cup and a open mind. Perhaps you may leave fulfilled with the reality of what you find if you are sincere and honest in your intention. Good intentions yield good fruits and bad intentions yield bad fruits.
@F S Do you know what is the definition of a prophet? Or Do you believe in God and that he sent "Super Heroes" ;) to guide mankind?
Look mate this is the way god planned it accept it or reject it that's your choice. 1500 years ago is not ancient times mate mankind is much longer on this earth and ancient times in my mind would be much much more ancient then 1500 years ago. I doubt you even watched this video but you commenting. Everyone on this earth is receiving Divine assistance every day, some more than others depending on your connection and relationship with god. Everyone is entitled to divine assistance however not everyone is equal. Just like a person who has more intelligence than others not everyone has the same connection with god. Only prophets were blessed with stronger connection with god than the rest of us. Anyway your mind is very set up on one idea and that is a very distorted view of islam. The quran itself is a miracle and also the prophet himself a miracle. The quran is a miracle which is available to you now in this modern time. Just like me you also need to not take out one specific message or just focus on the controversial issues as your argument. Please watch this video again and also please answer my question.
@F S In Biblical times people were married at a very young age. Girls were usually betrothed before they reached puberty - majority of the time the marriage would have consummated when the girl reached puberty, and that was usually between the ages of 8, 9 or older,(Note: when a girl reached puberty prior to the 20th century, she was considered to be an adult in most cultures/societies). In this article I will mostly quote Scholarly sources to prove that marriage in ancient Israelite times took place at a very young age, sometimes the girls who were married off were pre-pubescent. There was no law against a pre-pubescent girl being married off. Actually as you will read further, you will come to realise that the Mishnah gave approval for a Man to have intercourse to a betrothed girl, any-time after the age of three years old.
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“Rabbi Solomon in his comment on Genesis, says that Rebecca, when she was married to Isaac, was but three Years of Age. His words run thus, ‘When Abraham was come from Mount Moria, he received the joyful News of Rebecca. Isaac was at that Time Thirty seven years old; and then did Sarah die. The time, from birth of Isaac to the death of Sarah, was Thirty seven Years, And Sarah was Ninety Years old when Isaac was born; and One Hundred and Twenty Seven Years old when she died: As it is said in Gen 23:1 . Sarah was one hundred and twenty-seven years old. Behold, the Age of Isaac was Thirty Seven Years, at the Time of the Birth of Rebecca. And when he had waited for her three Years, till she was fit for marriage, he took her to wife.”
According to this Account, Rebecca was a very notable Girl at three years of age. But that a girl of three Years old is fit for marriage, is maintained very plainly in the Jewish writings; particularly, in Emek Hamelech, in the following passage, ‘our blessed sags, of blessed memory, say, that a female is not fit for marriage, ‘till she is arrived at the Age of three years and one day.’
gary lantow-humble Correct, a better word is pederast.
I am African American and my maternal Aunt got married at 13 or 14 years old. She has now been married for 70 years.
good point. muslim divorce rates are very low. some call it fear, some call it indoctrination
13 or 14 is significantly different from 6 or 9.
How old was her husband (one of my great-grandmothers married at 13, but her husband was 15, not a grown-ass adult)?
Ms Rana Not much physically. Women are still gaining height until their mid-teens and our pelvises are still widening until our early 20s. Having an fully-grown adult male, who is going to likely be larger than a teenager, mate with a young teen is not in the girl’s best interest physically. Not to mention the increased potential for abuse due to the increased disparity both between physical size and societal power on many levels.
That's how it was back then
I am very pleased to find this while studying the Qur'an, and getting ready to convert. I will share this video also to those like me are at peace being called by our Allah to do so. Thank you.
Ma Sha Allah. Inform all of us when you revert
@@yunaru3643 so you didn't watch the video and just gone out of your way to come with nonsense and insult Muslim in a Islamic channel. I dare you go to a place full of Muslims irl and say this nonsense. Please do that. I would never go to Christian channel and insult their beliefs and saints - why should I?
@@yunaru3643 again, nothing but opinions and misconceptions. This video by itself debunks anything you say. Educate yourself brother and always prove what you say.
@@yunaru3643 yeah okay, i didnt deny that lol. Im just saying that it was a normal thing back then, i mean if you watch the video he clearly explains it very well, better than me. So watch the video
update?
Shaykh Omar Suleiman has such a pleasant manner of delivering his lectures. He is always smiling and talks with so much dignity, respect and awe about Prophet Muhammad and his Wives and Companions mashaAllah. I always feel inspired listening to him. May he be able to continue to inspire our Ummah and revive our Imaan and may Allah reward him and his family with a beautiful abode in Jannah. Ameen
But he use taqqya!
By Allah, you can't help but feel yourself taken aback and diving deeper in the knowledge he is sharing. He, Mufti Menk and Sheikh Yasir Qadhi have that effect on me.
Smiling while talking about child marriage is quite disturbing and disgusting! It's sick NOW and it was sick THEN
@@sadiez11do better
@@sadiez11What is that dumb argument, it‘s like saying when someone smiles because for example they debunked the Rebecca age, then I couldn’t also say what you say because that doesn’t make sense
My mom was married when she was 15 and that was completely alright at her time. Now 20 years later it is not normal even in her village.
that is modern thinking, why is allah not modern like the village people?
DID your mum have sexual intercourse when she was nine, would you be ok with that? If your mum had sex at 9yrs old or if you had daughters would you be ok with them having sex at 9yrs. If you are ok with such behavior, how do you justify that. Having an issue with 9yr old children having sex/raped is not anti Islamic it is pro human.
@Uthman The Muslim
Uthman there is logic behind it, if love is logic. You love and care for your daughter, that is what's behind it.
Please can you explain to be also how you accept, like when Muhammad defeated that jewish tribe and rounded up all the male members of that tribe and any that had reached puberty and I think that was done by if they had pubic hair, he had them all beheaded and that night raped the wife of the chief of that tribe. Who had earlier that day witnessed all her male relatives being beheaded, like do you then say that he was the most beautiful human ever created. In 7th century Arabia that might have been the way but come on it's not godly, it's not righteous as having slaves, sex slaves is not. Please and I mean this, can you explain that to me. How you except this as the model to live your life.
@Uthman The Muslim
I'm going to try and find the links for you, I never asked you to give up anything, I asked you how you accepted how Muhammad behaved towards non muslims. I'm not religious but am spiritual. I don't believe any abrahamic faith is correct. I do believe this amazing universe with its billions and billions of solar systems didn't come from nothing and I believe that light, ie sun light certainly sustains life and that people should try to be a light in their lifes, i.e. treat people with decency and honesty. Tell me this, do muslims adopt children?
@@pinpoint3770 age of marriage is something that society who agree about, not Allah, Allah makes the Maqasid which are some objectives that society needs to protect such as life, body, mind, religion, soul, when you understand this philosophy you'll stop criticizing and revert to live within it, May Allah SWT guide you to real truth
I am forever thankful to my father for honoring me by giving me the name Aisha Humairah.
@@olgamartin4016 i mean... Do some research (scholarly research not a quick google search) or keep the hate to yourself? 🤷 I was raised Catholic and Ive read the Quran as an adult. If a 30yo with ADHD can figure this out then there is hope for you sweet Olga. May the Lord bless you with tolerance and kindness cuz girl you got the devil on your shoulder.
Allahuma barik, same name as my mother, who was named by her father as well, if I can recall correctly (my grandfather).
loll u area humairah LMAOOOOO
@@olgamartin4016 Jesus (AS - peace be upon him) in Islam.
@@olgamartin4016 so Muhammad (SAW - peace and blessings be upon him) Followed his teachings technically as well as Aisha (RA)
Take a 15-year-old from a city to a 15-year-old in a rural village, then tell me if you don't see any difference. People have been blinded by their arrogance.
LoL take a 15 year old boy from an indigenous village in Somalia or Chad and bring in a 30 year old man from America and let me know if anyone can spot the difference. LoL.
I remember the shock I felt when I met people like that back when I was studying in Africa.
@@lastluck3113 I'm basically saying that I know what the brother is talking about because I've seen people like that (ie. teenagers from indigenous cultures who look like full grown adults)
Aisha wasn't 15 she was 6 years old.
@@anthonygloria5192 no one was talking about her age
@@Hasan-eh2sx
The OP did. He made the comparison between 2 15 year olds to say that there is a big difference between 6 year old girls of 7th century Arabia and 6 year old girls of 21st century America.
This isn't a valid comparison because Aisha wasn't 15 she was 6. I'm sure if you took 6 year old Aisha she would be the same as any other 6 year old here in America.
Personally, if a person were to ask me whether or not the Prophet married a child, I would answer by saying, "you tell me what you think her age was: the books of history show that she was mentally stable to the point that she was abe to do household chores, interact and debate with people at an intelligent level despite them being senior to her, witness battles and help treat the wounded, and was able to do all that without suffering any psychological or emotional setbacks. So now you tell me how old do you think she was?"
What I'm saying is that after giving all the evidences proving her maturity as an adult woman, I would ask that person to ask themselves how old they think she was. They'll definitely say that it sounds like she was in fact a fully developed adult, and that way I don't have to give them a free lesson in human anthropology :D
Well, the Prophet had to wait for some three years before the marriage was consummated. He did marry Aisha before the onset of her puberty.
From your name, you seem to be Hindu. I do not want to go into details here, but keep in mind we are not talking about two average (Ayesha and the Prophet) people here. Ayesha was beautiful and highly intelligent--men and women came to here to better understand the Quran. Someone once asked a great sufi: "Was Muhammad a man?". The sufi answered: "Yes, he was a man, but to say he was just a man is like saying a diamond is just another stone." I think you get the point. Shanti!!!
@@xvarshney2690 yah so that basically shows it wasn't for inappropriate intent, he legit waited for three years and they were happy. Kinda shows the actual relationship they had was more pure than how so many try to pretend it was. Nowadays people don't even wanna have a relationship if they don't do it in the first couple of dates so... Think of it not with how this current world goes, that's the main misconception
@@xvarshney2690 show me which verse prophet (pbuh) married Aisha before puberty. I'm wondering the verse on that. You it is possible to reach puberty as young as 6. That is possible.
Except that 9-year-olds, even mentally mature ones, are not physically developed enough to safely bear children. Since the age of onset of menstruation has gotten younger over the centuries, it’s very likely that he consummated the marriage (when she was 9) before she even began menstruating, before she developed pubic hair, and possibly before she even had much breast development. Physically, a child, and no where near old enough to safely (on average) make it through a pregnancy and childbirth.
The haters of Islam changed the image of Aisha in my mind from a positive one to a negative one over the years. Thank you for reminding me of the character of our mother, and how beautiful their marriage was. I love my Ummah, truly.
Then you need to do sth Akhi
Her character is not the point. The fact that she was groomed from an extremely young age is the point. Muhammads character is what muslims are so afraid to objectively look at
@@sadiez11Do watch the video with an open mind
Hadith Bukhari 5134 , Moslim 1422 says that she was a child playing with dolls.
The problem here is not Aisha but the prophet sleeping with a 9 yo girl .
@@sadiez11 People who are ignorant of history are only one who have this viewpoint. An extremely narrow viewpoint that is obviously malicious and not objective in intent.
His face looks so bright and kind . MasyaAllah
@@omarkhodammi7132 In time you will certainly know its truth.
@@omarkhodammi7132 here's the answer, people in 1400 years ago are really different comparing people nowdays, that's why you can't compare 12 yo now, with 12 yo 1400 years ago, it's fine to ask but don't be disrespect
@@omarkhodammi7132 what's wrong with you? what I said was today is different than yesterday, what's your religion? I believed all religions is about peace not hate, unless you're atheist, that's explain a lot. and you're lack of moral. may Allah forgive you and show you why there's God. why there's religions. research more, may Allah show the way. don't let hate control yourself, if you really hate us, leave us alone, we didn't even sexualising kids nowdays, we have moral, not like you, world already changed my friend. may Allah bless you.
How does his look matter? So bright? Lol racism much
@@omarkhodammi7132 My Iranian Bro, watch FullMetalTheist’s video “The End of the Pedophile Argument”. And if you want to build respectful dialogue with people, don’t insult them, that will never help your case.
Thank you for this! It's one of the most beautiful things I've heard and yes I was told the age narrative and I ask God for forgiveness for my ignorance towards the Prophet and his wife. The more I learn about Islam the more I realize I've been conditioned to hate it even though Yeshua says God and love your neighbor. I got alot of praying to do.
It's like laughing at Jesus and saying why did he always ride a donkey instead of driving a car or flying in a plane? Coz there were no cars or planes in Jesus time. The only mode of transport was the donkey so he rode the donkey however ridiculous it may seem to us in our age. You can't judge Jesus by our standards today. In the same way you can't judge Prophet Muhammad by our standards today. He lived 1500 years ago. In his time, the common culture of the Arabian peninsula and the World at large especially and including Europe was the marriage of young girls. That was the old World culture which some people still practice today even in America. It was as socially acceptable in those days as slavery was and many other things which we condemn today as socially unacceptable.
THAT'S NOT A BIG DEAL. ALLAH SWT LOVE WHO QUESTIONS EVERYTHING. BECAUSE ALLAH SWT HIMSELF GIVE A CHALLENGE IN QURAN THAT ALLAH SWT'S DEEN IS FLAWLESS. SO ASK ANYTHING YOU WILL GET YOUR ANS.
@@iluvradiantscholar9758 don’t compare pedophile and the disrespect of a child’s innocence to riding a donkey …
may the all mighty lead us on his straight path, love your neighbor is a beautiful thing, and could you imagine if we all really acted upon it
@@speshwemmick6225 you dont know anything about the bible. Not only was the Prophet mentioned multiple times in Isaiah (such as the oracle concerning Arabia in Isaiah 21:13-17) but his name was mentioned in Shir Hashirim (Song of Solomon) 5:16 (Machamadim). In fact the entire narrative in that chapter talks about prominent events that happened in his life. Those verses describe exact circumstances that happened in his life when angel Gabriel revealed revelation to him.
17 years ago, my husband was 25 years old and his father thought he was too young to marry. If my children want to marry at 18 years old we would be worried of how they will handle family. Life changes as compared to the past. Thank you so much for your clarity. May Allah SWT keep you strong and ease any of your difficulty. Ameen
This video has answered all my questions. Thank you for teaching us this precious lecture. I will value Aisha's (RA) legacy and talk about her with great respect and admiration. May God bless you.
Dear brother kindly watch this video on RUclips too -(End of the peodophile argument by Full metal theist)
@@13dr9 Thank you for sharing the video. It was informative and cleared that Muhammed was not a pedophile. However I still have concerns with child brides being allowed in Islam and that Muhammed who is considered the best role model for humanity married a child for many reasons.
- women/girls who are silent are considered as giving their consent
- if these women/girls are married off then they need to constantly attend to the sexual needs of their husband even if they don't want to and even if its during when they're riding a camel (marital rape)
- There is no family planning and the child/woman must continue to give birth at the risk of losing her own life because healthcare wasn't as advanced back then and even if they were too poor to raise their children (if either they have little income or end up with too many children). Normally most of these children are then sold of to slavery or the weakest are left to die
- It is encouraged in the Quran to first verbally admonish, then forsake in bed and then strike against married women/girls who 'show disloyalty or ill-conduct' by their husbands (psychological abuse and domestic violoence). This leads to many women and girls ending up in abusive relationships because men take advantage of this verse. There are many videos like this one here or the one your reference stating that Aisha was taken well care of by Muhammed and never once abused her. And yet there is the hadith from Aisha herself stating that Muhammed stuck her in the chest and caused her pain after he confronted her and realised that she followed him that night. This is without following the paramaters commanded in the Quran.
I am aware that historically child marriage was considered normal at the time. But Islam did not completely stop this tradition like it did with burying daughters alive, nor did it at least set parameters to protect women and children from ending up in abusive relationships or even recognise their proper rights to consent for marriage, sex and child labour.
Do you have any more information that addresses these specific concerns?
@@itachi7285 Add me of a platform and we can discuss all of these issues. I alone can tell you that your last bulleted point is misquoted and misinformed. That one can be explained by a single quranic verse.
The filthiest people in our culture today are judging the purest people of a time and culture they don't understand. Pure ignorance. Peace and blessings on our Prophet and Aisha.
100% and you can see it in their tone and language they are nothing but losers
For the first time I have seen someone really explain the truth of Aisha. Makes a big difference to my perception!
Malayaali😊
It feels so good to hear it from you .
This is all false, Sahih Al Bukhara says that she was allowed to play with dolls, and it was not idolatry for her, permitted for her because she was a prepubescent child…
The false prophet (*PISS* be on him) climbed on top of a Child (your prophet was a pedophile and sex predator)
@@1Tim1.15 🤣😂 sahe bukari may be ur father wrote??? There has so many myth and false hadeeth on the world ! It should be watch who and why wrote!
@@sheiksaleem3790 please enough of delusional bullshit, Muhammad was a terrible human being that is a fact, wake up to yourself. This is the man you follow what a disgraceful grub.
Our mother Aisha (R. A) 💕
@@bobmac1819 so what we love her
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@@bobmac1819He married her when she was nine years old and did not consummate her until after she reached puberty
@@Vllili hey brother I'm Muslim alhamdulillah but I wanna talk with you so maybe if you have Instagram can you give me it so we can talk I wanna ask you something about Aisha and our prophet pbuh
@@Theoneandonlybish what wow
Most beautiful discussion about Aisha (RA) I have ever heard ❤
The Noor face of Imam Omar Suleiman
Ma Sha Allah may Allah give him more Noor on the day of judgement Ameen😃
I am glad brother, you have touched this topic. I have been attacked hundreds of time about this issue in Europe.
You have explained so well.
May Allah have special blessings threat you speak about holy prophet peace be upon him and our mother of ummah hadrat Ayesha peace be upon her.
@@Parmenides7 Did you even watch the video? Marriage 1450 years ago compared to the 21st century are two completely different things. Isn't it ironic that only recently people have brought up the marriage of Aisha (RA) as an issue but nobody during the Prophets time used that as an excuse? There is both a physical/biological and psychological difference between a 9-year old female 1450 years ago compared to that of today. Surely it would be considered disgusting for you to marry a 9-year old girl today because of the culture you're in but during the Prophet's time, Christians, Jews, and others who had problems with Muhammed (SAW) never thought of that as an issue. Coincidence? I think not
@@Parmenides7 10:50 U should start from this part of the video. It's where he gives dives into the meat of the issue
PhD Alex Jonson Muhammad and all the Prophets/Messengers of this world were perfect in the sense that they were incapable of “major sin” which even Omar explains. If they were created with any room for error, they wouldn’t pray or have the need to ask for forgiveness. And you’re right the Quran and Hadith can never change and unlike many Holy Scriptures never did change, but there is a concept of evolving contexts. That is why we have scholars to debate on circumstances today. Many women during the prophets time, even before the prophets time, got married young, and had kids at the age of 12-13, even the mother of Jesus, Maryam. Age difference was not a problem during those times that is why no one sought to attack the prophet with that until the 21st century
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PhD Alex Jonson Dude were just gonna go on and on. I’m going to just sum it up here. In Islam, 3 things are required for marriage from a females perspective. Puberty, maturity, and consent. Our mother Aisha (RA) had all 3. And comparing the Earth is flat to this is utter nonsense. If the Quran said the Earth is flat, I would not be a Muslim today. There is scientific justification for that. Quran is the way of life and any ambiguities are to be interpreted through the prophet. The psychosocial maturity of Aisha surpassed that of most 9 year olds in today’s time period as did the mother of Jesus and thousands of other women at the time, who were marrying at much greater age differences than that of the prophet. In no way am I claiming the Quran and the authentic Sunnah to be wrong. Understanding society, women, and marriage at the time of Moses, Jesus, Muhammad, and today are crucial. Similar to how people today view the hijab. Christians will come up to a Muslim woman and claim it’s oppression, backwards, and downright barbaric. However in the meantime, the mother of their Lord wore the exact same thing.
Always I am brought to tears when I hear anything about her RA. May Allah bless her immensely. What an incredible woman & role model for our selves and our daughters 💚
@@edward1412 well- I would say NO. In our society and what is culturally acceptable that would not be ok. But 1400+ years ago it was different. It was normal to marry after you hit puberty. My grandma got married at 13 and she had a long happy marriage. That was 60 years ago. Times have changed. What’s ok now probably wouldn’t be ok then and vice Versa
@@edward1412 ok… let’s say what your trying to say is right (which it isn’t) he was a human. He desired women.. and so what?? Go him he did it in the most moral manner 👍🏼
@@edward1412 😂😂😂 don’t compare yourself dude. Not every woman. His wives. The majority widowed lonely women. And remember at the time they (women) were vulnerable and at more risk. Anyway. You’ll never get it unless you open your mind a bit. Allah guides whom He wills
Aisha r.a is one of the most respected women in her time till now in Islam. We don’t talk abt great women of Islam without including her in the conversation. So dignified was she! If her marriage to the Prophet (pbuh) is so despicable in her lifetime, her reputation would have been reflected as such.
His reputation, more so. Which it wasn't, obviously.
His reputation? The best
I am beyond proud to carry the name of the mother of the believers
Unfortunately the name you carry is that of a woman who was so bad and disrespectful to the Prophet, that Allah gave the Prophet the option to divorce her and put her in the same class as with the wives of Noah and lot.
Sahih Muslim 1479 a
'Umar b. al-Khattab (Allah be pleased with him) reported:
When Allah's Apostle (ﷺ) kept himself away from his wives, I entered the mosque, and found people striking the ground with pebblesand saying: Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) has divorced his wives, and that was before they were commanded to observe seclusion 'Umar said to himself: I must find this (actual position) today. So I went to 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) and said (to her): Daughter of Abu Bakr, have you gone to the extent of giving trouble to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)? Thereupon she said: Son of Khattab, you have nothing to do with me, and I have nothing to do with you. You should look to your own receptacle. He ('Umar) said: I visited Hafsa daughter of 'Umar, and said to her: Hafsa, the (news) has reached me that you cause Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) trouble. You know that Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) does not love you, and had I not been (your father) he would have divorced you. (On hearing this) she wept bitterly. I said to her: Where is Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)? Shesaid: He is in the attic room. I went in and found Rabah, the servant of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ), sitting on the thresholds of the window dangling his feet on the hollow wood of the date-palm with the help of which Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) climbed (to the apartment) and came down. I cried: 0 Rabah, seek permission for me from Allah's Messenger (way peace be upon him). Rabah cast a glance at the apartment and then looked toward me but said nothing. I again said: Rabah, seek permission for me from Allah's Messenger (ﷺ). Rabah looked towards the apartment and then cast a glance at me, but said nothig. I then raised my voice and said: 0 Rabah, seek permission for me from Allah's Messenger (ﷺ). I think that Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) is under the impression that I have come for the sake of Hafsa. By Allah, if Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) would command me to strike her neck, I would certainly strike her neck. I raised my voice and he pointed me to climb up (and get into his apartment). I visited Allah's Messenger (ﷺ), and he was lying on a mat. I sat down and he drew up his lower garment over him and he had nothing (else) over him, and that the mat had left its marks on his sides. I looked with my eyes in the store room of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ). I found only a handful of barley equal to one sa' and an equal quantity of the leaves of Mimosa Flava placed in the nook of the cell, and a semi-tanned leather bag hanging (in one side), and I was moved to tears (on seeing this extremely austere living of the Holy Piophet), and he said: Ibn Khattab, what wakes you weep? I said: Apostle of Allah, why should I not shed tears? This mat has left its marks on your sides and I do not see in your store room (except these few things) that I have seen; Ceasar and Closroes are leading their lives in plenty whereas you are Allah's Messenger. His chosen one, and that is your store! He said: Ibn Khattab, aren't you satisfied that for us (there should be the prosperity) of the Hereafter, and for them (there should be the prosperity of) this world? I said: Yes. And as I had entered I had seen the signs of anger on his face, and I therefore, said: Messenger of Allah, what trouble do you feel from your wives, and if youhave divorced them, verily Allah is with you, His angels, Gabriel, Mika'il, I and Abu Bakr and the believers are with you. And seldom I talked and (which I uttered on that day) I hoped that Allah would testify to my words that I uttered. And so the verse of option (Ayat al-Takhyir) was revealed. Maybe his Lord, if he divorce you, will give him in your place wives better than you..." (Ixv. 5). And if you back up one another against him, then surely Allah is his Patron, and Gabriel and the righteous believers, and the angels after that are the aidera (lvi. 4). And it was 'A'isha, daughter of Abu Bakr, and Hafsa who had prevailed upon all the wives of Allah's Prophet (way peace be upon him) for (pressing them for mote money). I said: Messenger of Allah, have you divorced them? He said: No. I said: Messenger of Allah, I entered the mosque and found the Muslims playing with pebbles (absorbed in thought) and saying: Allah's Messenger has divorced his wives. Should I get down and inform there that you have not divorced them? He said: Yes, if you so like. And I went on talking to him until I (found) the signs of anger disappeared on his face and (his seriousness was changed to a happy mood and as a result thereof) his face had the natural tranquillity upon it and he laughed and his teeth were the most charming (among the teeth) of all people. Then Allah's Apostle (ﷺ) climbed down and I also climbed down and catching hold of the wood of the palm-tree and Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) came down (with such ease) as if he was walking on the ground, not touching anything with his hand (to get support). I said: Messenger of Allah, you remained in your apartment for twenty-nine days. He said: (At times) the month consists of twenty-nine days. I stood at the door of the mosque and I called out at the top of my voice: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) has not divorced his wives (and it was on this occasion that this) verse was revealed:" And if any matter pertaining to peace or alarm comes within their ken, they broadcast it; whereas, if they would refer it to the Apostle and those who have been entrusted with authority amongst them, those of them who are engaged in obtaining intelligence would indeed know (what to do with) it" (iv 83). And it was I who understood this matter, and Allah revealed the verse pertaining to option (given to the Prophet (may peace be upon him in regard to the retaining or divorcing of his wives).
“O Prophet, why do you make impermissible that which God made allowed to you, seeking to [simply] please your wives. God is All-Forgiving, All-Merciful. Allah has already ordained for you [Muslims] the dissolution of your oaths. And Allah is your protector, and He is the Knowing, the Wise. And [remember] when the Prophet confided to one of his wives a statement; and when she informed [another] of it and Allah showed it to him, he made known part of it and ignored a part. And when he informed her about it, she said, “Who told you this?” He said, “I was informed by the Knowing, the Acquainted.” If you two [wives] repent to Allah , [it is best], for your hearts have deviated. But if you cooperate against him - then indeed Allah is his protector, and Gabriel and the righteous of the believers and the angels, moreover, are [his] assistants. Perhaps his Lord, if he divorced you [all], would substitute for him wives better than you - submitting [to Allah ], believing, devoutly obedient, repentant, worshipping, and traveling - [ones] previously married and virgins.” [66:1-5][
Allah also in this verse Allah tells the Prophet if you divorce them I will give you wives better than them. So if this is the case how is Aisha this great woman she is made out to be.
@@arkofsalvation1 May I ask if you are Shia?
@@begum5977 yes of course
alhamdulillah. i was from christian fmly. since young, i love to read about prophet pbuh life story. now i become a muslim.. i hope can meet him in paradise. just sad that many non believers always attack islam nowadays in many ways. i want to say that anything what the non believers claimed about islam, i will always love Allah and prophet pbuh till i die.
Peace be upon you sister...
May Allah guide & honor you in this life & hereafter
MaashaAllah
Inshallah May all Muslims get the privilege to stand together our prophet Muhammad Saw Inshallah Ameen 🤲
In shaa Allah
another lukewarm christian u probably never studied ur bible talked with priests I feel sad for you jesus is the only that saves
My own mother Allah bless her was 16 when she met my father and barely 18, she had her first child, my big sister and then 5 more kids followed over the years. She was protestant n my father muslim. They were together until she died 3 years ago at 51. Oh three weeks to her death she decided to revert to Islam out of her own will. Those days it was normal for girls to even have kids at sixteen. Now you wyd be imprisoned in my country. Age of consent always increases with time.
I started listening to this brother, then he came, "portraying a Hollywood image of Muslim men, through Mohammad SAW as angry old and abusive and portraying Muslim women through Ayesha RA as vulnerable and in need of rescue" that's when I hit the like and decided to subscribe... It's as if this image of poor defenseless Muslim women is being forced upon the world, even though there are those of us who are coming ahead as military personnel, doctors, engineers, artists, writer, entrepreurs, thought leaders, activists etc. with a scarf on our heads and saying out loud in the media NO ONE FORCED US, WE ARE DOING IT OF OUR OWN LOVE FOR ALLAH.... Still they keep portraying the abuse cases in Muslim world as an evidence for Islam's badness... As if there are no abuse cases in the west... And you were so right when you said it's a part of colonial plan...indeed it's nothing but psychological warfare, no educated person believes their fox new shit, whether Muslim or non Muslim.
Child marriage is not only a problem with Muslims, but in the USA several states have introduced Age limits between 2017 and 2019. Progress is slow, but happens.
This contrasts with Iraq where the government tried to introduce a law lowering the maarriage age to 8 (2017) and yemen where clerics blocked raising the marriage age.
Generally speeaking child-marriages are increasing in many Islamic countries.
Do you not think that degeneration is partly owing to Muahmmed/Aisha's example?
@@cbcc3029 absolutely not, the example of Mohammad SAW and Aisha RA has as much to do with lowering marriage ages in Muslim countries as the engagement ages of Mary AS at 13 to Joseph AS at 90 years to is to the increasing marriage ages in Christian countries, meaning absolutely nothing. The reason I brought Mary AS and Joseph's example here also had partly to do with making you realize that even though these ages were widely held to be true about them, current researchers hold that there is no proof or basis to those numbers. The same goes for Hazrat Aisha's RA age, where one scholar a long time (ago 200 years after her death) wrote that he heard his father say that she was 6 years old at the time of nikah and 9 years old at consummation, also that particular scholar when narrated these 2 narrations was said to suffer from memory loss during that part of his life by many other scholars. Exactly in the same way, many Muslim researchers today hold that there is no proof of her age at the time of marriage, except for the 2 narrations by a scholar whose memory was doubted by other scholars of his time during later part of his life.
Secondly, as it is clear from the above video and you can search in other places as well, lower marriage age has been the norm in asian countries (India, china, arab etc.) since before the time of Mohammad SAW, even if we are to believe that Aisha RA really was 9 at the time of consummation, this marriage was not setting a trend rather following an existing trend in the continent. At that time even european countries and the west had the same age of marriage, that is puberty. A boy and a girl were considered eligible for marriage all over the world at puberty. Today however the west is increasing the legal age of marriage. Not just the age of marriage but even the age of dependency, meaning in many western countries fully grown people are considered CHILDREN until the age of 20. those 20 years olds in a vast majority of cases have become parents of 2 children themselves while still being considered CHILDREN by the state.
Now sir, I have a question for you. Do you think that in the western countries, the alarmingly high number of girls 12 to 13 years olds sleeping around with older men, sneaking boys into their bedrooms, teen moms whose children not only become a burden on state financially but a burden on the mother who can not focus on the children who suffer due to the absence of a father and develop psychological problems, the majority of the population of the west being born out of wedlock has something to do with the increasing age limit of marriage (the most fertile time of the human lifecycle they are not allowed to marry, so they find other ways to fulfill their biological urges)? Not to mention the trend marrying late despite whatever the legal limits?
@ozymandias nullifidian why would you wonder about my beatings? btw I am not with him anymore Alhamdolillah. My Allah got me out, I would never have walked out of that door was it not for my Allah.
@ozymandias nullifidian are you suggesting Islam gives right to Muslim men to abuse women?
Secondly, I would NEVER EVER EVER DEFEND MISOGYNY, so please don't make false allegations on me, I have never once defended misogyny or misandry.
@ozymandias nullifidian sure please show me those verses and ahadith, I assure you you will not be showing me anything new that I don't know of or that I haven't answered many many before you as well. I support islamic ideology, I don't support whatever picture you have made up in your mind, you seem to be assuming you know everything there is to know about Islam (in case you are not defaming Islam on purpose that is) but judging by your comments I am sure you don't.
What a life-changing lecture this is! Thank you for this beautiful lecture. It really opened my eye and heart for Aisha (r.a) on a different level. I am reminded once again how i should strive to be as a muslim woman.
The virtues of our mother 'Aisha radiAllahu Anha (RA) reached its highest when Allah (SWT) chose for his beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) to die within her arms as a commemoration of their heart touching love story. 😍
💕 May Allah SWT allow us to meet with our mother Aisha RA in Jannat ul-Firdous , Allahumma Aameen ....💖
Ameen
Aameen ❤
I like how he discussed what is taboo and he was the one who answered my and many from the west question. He did not hesitate to answer my and many peoples question! He is the first to answer a taboo question. I think it is important for new people to hear this and know what is real.
I love Sheikh Omar Suleiman for the sake of Allah SWT such a pure heart, soft spoken, and humble. May Allah be pleased with him Ameen ❤️
Undeniable fact, even the enemies of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) at that time never using this to attack him. They never make a fuss to the marriage of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and Aisha (ra) at that time. They use everything to attack Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). But they never think the marriage of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and Aisha (ra) as a flaw and using this against him. This is prove that there was nothing wrong with their marriage at that time.
It was the norm back then, idiot.
This lecture is so beautiful and the words are so beautiful that my heart is at peace. May Allah ease our hearts and grant us the beauty and sweetness of Imaan.
I can help you brother with more details if you want
@@muslimlife4154 Dear brother kindly watch this video on RUclips too -(End of the peodophile argument by Full metal theist)
I needed this lesson the first name ALLAH gave me through a muslim man who owned a market..he cried when I expressed my faith in ALLAH alone..ALHAMDULILLAH
may ALLAH bless you Brother Omar with a most beautiful and favorable level of Jannah.
...if only I could share the level of relevance this lesson has for me..masha Allah!
Subhanna ALLAH..!!!
I am learning about Islam and I somehow can feel a deep love for 'Aîsha (ra) more than any other woman of Islam... I can't really explain it but I love it :)
@@Zoolandera-es5blshe died at the age of 67 go and educate yourself
@@Zoolandera-es5blда в 12 лет женщин у христиан тоже джагали видимо за это не накажет .😂или Ребекка 3 года тоже хорошо прекрасно имба ?бл всё больше ржу.
Short yet perfect talk masha Allah. What a woman she (r.a) was! What an inspiration! Allah chose the best for the best.
Alhamdulillah. This man Omar Suleiman is such a great lecturer! I have been listening to his lectures recently. And now he has become my favorite lecturer.
@@shubhsingh7559 she wasn't his daughter in law as Zayd RA was his slave, and not a real son.
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Surat No. 33 Ayat NO. 4
Allah has not made for a man two hearts in his interior. And He has not made your wives whom you declare unlawful your mothers. And he has not made your adopted sons your [true] sons. That is [merely] your saying by your mouths, but Allah says the truth, and He guides to the [right] way.
I‘ve listened to this on spotify about a month ago during my commute to work and I wanted to applaud and cheer so bad 💯💯💯💯 GREAT talk, especially because it is given with confidence, with words of certainty of faith and with sovereignty, not needing to pander to anyone or dilute anything while also being clear enough for non-muslims to understand. 1000000/10 definitely 💯💯💯💯💯
Really like this lecture. It's good that you also explored the dynamics of what defines child marriages today - elements of power dynamics, education levels and culture. Very great in depth talk. Wish there were more lectures as well researched and written as this one on different topics.
@@dante224real1 Kindly watch this video on RUclips-(End of the peodophile argument by Full metal theist)
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@@dante224real1 For what?
@@dante224real1 I am not pretending it is OK, I know and believe it is OK. You are right, I am not stupid to think that the family system of the 7th century is the same today, that even human biological development of the 7th century is same as it is today. Even the laws gorverning marriage age in US have evolved within the last 100 to 200 years. How much more thousand years ago.
my great grandma married at 10 and got 14 children, my grandma also married at 10 and got 9 children, i looked up their pictures, back then they really look like grown up lady compare to kids nowadays. At 6 they master all chores, learning herbs and very well handle with animals, while kids nowadays only know smartphone games. How different our lifestyle is.
@@dante224real1 dude idk but you should have read the great grandma part
@@imtiaznazir2987 I bet the dude has a great grandma that married even younger.
@@dante224real1 exactly!!
@hakimazhukha do you not realize how problematic what you're saying is?
@@sambatra6162 all they’re saying is that what we consider a child now was not the same back then. You had British monarchs being married at 10 and no one batted an eye. No ones marrying a 10 yr old now bc they are actual children
In my opinion the problem isn’t about aisha raa necessarily, the problem is that child brides in the middle east is far away from this story, when a girl is wed off she is cut off from her family, abused and crushed mentally, and what’s infuriating is that the Muslim imams and men in general they rarely speak about these issues and how to prevent/ handel them, they rarely defend women against misogynists who say women are dumb and only good for sex they shouldn’t have dreams aspirations or goals, even though aisha is prescribed as this strong opinionated educated women muslim girls are advised to be against that, to be silent, complimet and to endure injustice.
Considering how intellectual our mother Aisha was and how many things we have learned through her and what sahabas have learned from her
Mashaallah, we tend to forget that she was so little when she was married so intelligent💗
I myself tend to forget so clever she was ....Humayraa our mother in Islam 💗
I am Muslim and I love Islam and I want to die as one inshaallah
Wallahi i hear and i believe. I do not question anything in the Quran and sunnah. Islam is perfect , our Prophet sallalahu alayhi wa salam was perfect. May Allah make us obey him unconditionally without even questioning anything in islam ameen
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1. The Prophet married her when she was at least 17-18 years old. Aisha had a sister-Esma who was 10 years older than her. She died in 73 (Hijri calendar) when she was 100 years old. (You can find it in all sources). It means that during hijrat (in 622 AD) she was 27 years old. So, her younger sister was 17 years old. And as the marriage between them took place after hijrat SHE WAS AT LEAST 17 YEARS OLD.
2. Arabs consider age of the women not from the birth of a child, but from the time when they reach puberty. So, in hadith it says that she was 9 years old when they married and it means thet it was 9 years that she reached puberty, NOT THAT SHE WAS 9 YEARS OLD.
Aisha was engaged with a man called Jubair who and whose family were idolaters. They rejected her because his family was afraid that she will turn them into Islam. If Aisha was 9 years old in 622, it means that she was born in 613 when Quran has been already revealed. And Quran forbids a muslims to marry non-muslims. So, if Aisha indeed was born in 613 , her father (who was among the first to accept Islam) will never engage her with a non-muslim. So, we came to conclusion that she was born many years earlier.
”And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe. And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even though she might please you. And do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you. Those invite [you] to the Fire, but Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember” Al-Bakarah-221.
What is the age of Fatima rz when the marriage of Ayesha rz?
@Syed Rafsan Imam Historians agree that Asmaa’, Aisha’s sister، was at least 27 during Hijra, as referenced by the great historian and biographer ibn-ul Atheer in his book Ussd-ul-Ghaba. Since Asmaa’ was at most 10 years older than her sister (as ibn Abdel Barr said in his book al-Istee’aab fy Ma’rifat il-Asshaab), that puts Aisha at the age of 17 at the time of Hijra, which makes her at least 19 at the time she married the Prophet (pbuh).
@Syed Rafsan Imam I you didnt know there are strong and weak hadits! Not all hadiths are strong! Look for proof in the Quran where maturity to own ones own finances and getting married require to reach a certain age and puberty! 4:6, 24:31, 24:58-29.
@Syed Rafsan Imam Hadith cant have both strong and weak roots at the same time. If any hadith is not in line with historical facts or other hadiths it leads to questions right?
5 reasons why Aisha was at least 18 years old when she got married to the Prophet Muhammad (pubs):
1-In Bukhari, Kitab-ul-Manaaqib, it is narrated that Aisha said: لم أعقل أبوي قط إلا وهما يدينان الدين ولم يمر علينا يوم إلا يأتينا فيه رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم طرفي النهار بكرة وعشية فلما ابتلي المسلمون خرج أبو بكر مهاجرا قبل الحبشة “I became conscious of the world after my parents had accepted Islam. And every day, the Prophet (pbuh) would visit us twice, earlier and later in the day. After the community went through severe trials (when Islam was publicly pronounced) Abu-Bakr decided to head to Abyssinia (to flee persecution ) When does a child reach the age of consciousness? At least at the age of 5 or 6 right? Aisha was telling her memories, remembering the Prophet’s visits to her house when she was young. The trials of the Muslims started with the public pronouncement of Islam, which happened in the 3rd year of the Prophet’s mission. This precipitated a severe wave of persecution for the Muslims. They had no choice but to flee Mecca in the 5th year of Islam. This indicates that by the 5th year, Aisha was at least 7 or 8 years old. If Hijra took place in the 13th year, then she must have been at least 15 or 16. If she got married to the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) over 2 years after Hijra, then she must have been at least 18 when it happened.
2- In Bukhari, Kitab Tafseer-ul-Quran, it is narrated that Aisha (RA) said: لقد أنزل على محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم بمكة وإني لجارية ألعب بل الساعة موعدهم والساعة أدهى وأمر “It was revealed to the Prophet (pbuh) in Mecca, while I was a still playing as a child, the ayah [from surat al-Qamar]: “The last hour is the time when they shall truly meet their fate; and that last hour will be most calamitous, and most bitter”(Quran 54:46). So Aisha was conscious enough to understand the verses of the Quran and remember their meaning. Surat al-Qamar was revealed in the 6th year of the Prophet’s mission as Qurtubi mentioned. Now how old Aisha must have been at the time? At least 8 or 9 I would say. If Hijra took place in the 13th year, then she was at least 15 or 16 at the time, which puts her at the age of 17 or 18 when she got married.
3- Imam Ahmad narrates the circumstances of Aisha’s marriage to the Prophet (pbuh). He says that al-Mut’am b. A’dy proposed to her for his son Jubayr. When the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) approached Abu-Bakr asking for her hand in marriage, he told him that another family already approached him about the same thing and that he had to honor that. Later, Abu Bakr met al-Mut’am and his wife. He sensed hesitate from the mother of Jubayr. She said: “أخشى أن تُصبأ عائشةُ جبيرا” or “I worry Aisha would convert my son Jubayr to Islam". Abu Bakr asked the father about it, and he said that he had a similar concern as his wife. The marriage was called off and Abu Bakr told the Prophet (pbuh) That Aisha was available. How old must she have been in order to have this kind of influence? She must have been a charismatic, eloquent adult for Jubayr’s family to be concerned that she might convert their son to Islam. She definitely was not a child.
4- Muhammad b. Is’haaq, the great historian and biographer of Islam, and the teacher of ibn-Hishaam and Tabari, created a list of the first people that accepted Islam in his book as-Seera an-Nabawiyyah. He places Aisha at #19. Since the first 20 conversions must have happened in the first year, then Aisha was at least 5 years old to have that kind of consciousness (she was probably older). If she was at least 5 in the first year, then at Hijra she was at least 18 right? Which puts her at the age of 20 when she got married to the Prophet (pbuh) two years later.
5- Historians agree that Asmaa’, Aisha’s sister، was at least 27 during Hijra, as referenced by the great historian and biographer ibn-ul Atheer in his book Ussd-ul-Ghaba. Since Asmaa’ was at most 10 years older than her sister (as ibn Abdel Barr said in his book al-Istee’aab fy Ma’rifat il-Asshaab), that puts Aisha at the age of 17 at the time of Hijra, which makes her at least 19 at the time she married the Prophet (pbuh).
Your logical explanation is really applaudible. Excellent explained.
Omar, Salaam Alaikum, Thank you for the amazing work you do and the passion for Islam displayed in every speech, it is a great help to those of us converting to Islam from non traditional backgrounds.
Happy Ramadhan !!!!✨
This is by far the best answer regarding accusation of child marriage by our beloved prophet pbuh. Alhamdulillah
Baraak Allahu feek, I used to feel very conflicted on this topic when an islamophobe brought it up. Alhamdulilah I feel a lot more confident now in retorting them. May Allah bless you in your life and all your works!
Assasi1965 William Have you even watched the video?
You are a BEAUTIFUL soul, Sh. Suliman🌿 ... May Allah enlighten you all the more and grant you His ever-lasting guidence, love, light, and guardianship❤🙏 ...
Really enjoyed this lecture and learned a great deal. We were having discussions on this exact topic within the family and my son was repeating a lot of the arguments brought forward by the haters. Jazak Allah Khair, and now I can have a much better discussion with him on this topic.
May Allah guide your son ameen
Although I'm not Muslim, I have always been drawn to the figure and wisdom of Aisha (RA). This lecture was so helpful for my religion research paper on Islam, specifically when discussing the prominent women of Islam throughout history!
Sheikh Omar never fails to impress!
May Allah(swt) be pleased with him.
The problem with our society today is that we've become too quick to judge. We create our own opinions based on the our limited knowledge , which is why we are restricted to see the greater picture. Doubts are meant to be cleared, we need to put in efforts to seek answers. But sadly we've come to a point where we think that our perception of things is the most superior of the entire human race and that our beliefs are the ultimate truth. May Allah(swt) bless us with insight and wisdom!
My Great Grandmother (AR) got married at the age of 11 in Palestine, they didn’t know there age but said “whenever I was born it was Cold and whenever I got married 11 cold seasons passed” ❤ AR Siti
00:00 00 - Introduction, reasons for this
talk
11:30 01 - Physical, bilogical dimension of
child marriage
12:35 02 - Psychological dimension of
child marriage
13:56 03 - Power dynamic in child
marriage
18:20 04 - The educational dynamic
19:50 05 - Abuse
21:43 06 - Do you support child marriage?
25:25 07 - How normal was the
engagement of Aisha to the Prophet
PBUH?
32:10 08 - How did Aisha describe the PROPHET PBUH
34:25 09 - Qualities of Alisha
53:26 10 - Other opinions about her age
57:13 11 - Conclusion
Thank u sir you just cleared my heart from the whispers of Setan 😊😊
@@falsehoodbasher7240 i think u are the devip
@@falsehoodbasher7240 what lie????
Falsehood Basher all your three videos are about sunnis saying something they didn’t. This shows your background as a shia who hates our mother Aisha RA
Same here
@@omarkhodammi7132 May Allah Show you the right way brother.Ameen
This was absolutely brilliant, Ma Sha Allah. Thoroughly enjoyed it and made copious notes. May Allah reward in ABUNDANCE all those who contributed to this superb video. Allah hummah barek.
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Don't worry you also gonna get rewarded if u not being an absolute ASSHOLE
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Man I was joking with u 😂😂😂
You wasn't an asshole
I was just kidding 😂
Sorry Mate..
Do u have notes?
It is stated in the Holy Qur’an;
“There is no compulsion in religion, the right path and wrong path, both have been clearly explained and explicitly differentiated from each other”. (2:256)
This brought true tears to my eyes. Ya Allah please make me of those who enter Jannah elfidaws. I can’t wait to meet her اللهم امين
“When you’re pleased with me you swear by the Lord of Muhammad (SAW), and when you’re mad at me you swear by the Lord of Abraham (SAW)”
That made me laugh loool, love that subtle passive aggressiveness. May Allah swt be pleased with her!
I love that XDD
when was aisha angry at the prophet (saw)?
@@lemortedbrian6070 many times they used to debate or aisha used to ask for mediator to solve their prblms
My aunt married at 9 her daughters are grandmothers .. she is so happy with her big family many and many lovers of sons and grandsons and grandsons of sons around her 😍😍😍
@@concerned_parent when they keep saying things like this and I've read a few message on here very similar. That their relatives was married at a very young age and no issues. Do they mean they had sexual intercourse, when they say they were married??? There is a difference between being married at a very young age and having sex at such an age. A 9yr old is a child today and was a child 1400 yrs ago. No twisting and turning can change that. It's wrong for any body whether that person is 12 yrs old child or a 50 yrs old man if they sexual interfer in anyway with a child they are wrong, guilty of a disgusting crime. Anybody who tries to excuse that, need a good long hard look at themselves
This was normal in those times. There are some girls whose body matures early, especially in the Arabs .. At a time when your grandparents used to put iron clothes that had a lock on his wife's vagina and they treated her as a kind of animal, Muslims used to treat women lightly and follow the words of the Messenger when he said: Be gentle with the bottles (he meant women) as a metaphor for their tenderness and weakness, and he used to say: Your best is your best for his family .. And he said: I recommend you to women well .. He used to compete with his wife in running .. and he used to help her in household work despite his preoccupation with the affairs of the state and so much more.
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@@Zappy9518 totally agree with you! sex with a minor is a disgusting crime and it should never be excused. It's wrong, the worst sin, and it will be punished by God.
Subhanallah...what a beautiful narration about our mother Aishah RA. I am literally loving this women, who has been so maligned by disbelievers..She is a women above all women..someone to emulate and rever.
It's ok to cry during a lecture, right?
It is indeed 😅 you are not alone!
nah
Yes there is Hadith in Bukhari that Aish’a age was six when she married then her marriage was consummated at 9. What a horrible thing to say about the prophet. So I did some research concluded her age was between 18-22 based on the following:-
1) Most if not all the people who reported this took it from one source, Hisham ibn Orwat Ibn Al Zbeir Ibn Al Awwam who was born after Aisha passed away. Hisham is a trust worthy source in general. But get this, he lived in Madina for 71 years, never said anything about Aisha’s age then moved to Iraq in the last 10 years of his life where he suddenly narrated this. It was mentioned that his memory and mind was weaken with age to the point that biggest scholars of Islam like Malik ibn Anas refused to take anything he said after leaving to Iraq. He mixed the dates of Hijra ( when prophet migrated to Madina) and Bi’tha ( first revelation)
2) There are sources In Bukhari and other books saying Asma’ the older sister of Aisha was bigger than her by 10 years and Asma’ was born in the 27 years before Hijra which is 14 years before First revelation which means Aisha was 4 at that time and since the prophet married her 2 years from Hijra that puts her age to 19.
3) There is Quranic text that mandates physical and mental maturity for marriage. In fact Islam is the only religion that has this
(quran 4:6) “Test the orphans until they reach the age of marriage, and then if you find them mature of mind hand over to them their property” Some ignorant opinions say Surat Altalaq (divorse) 65:4 that states if absolutely men need to divorce women they need to wait till they give birth if pregnant, or three months if they have no menstruation such as due to menopause or medical condition ( amenorrhea) and that’s to ensure they won’t be divorced while being pregnant. These ignorant people say no menstruation here include young children. How sick is this? A verse that is so feminist and all about women rights to be changed to include not only children abuse but also divorcing them. Crazy.
4) There are many contradictions that will stem from the assumption that Aisha age was six at marriage including taking her to war when she was 7 (Badr Gaswa) and when she was 8 (Ohod Gazwa). Of corse she was at least 20 years when she went to war with the prophet perhaps to render medical help.
5) Finally let’s not pretend that young girls don’t marry around the world. According to wikipedia as of today Massachusetts allows girls as young as 12 to get married, Utah 14 and Mississippi 15.
Her age is mentioned in more than just one hadith. God bless you
1. al-Bukhari said the marriage was consummated when she was 9 (as you know, but you didn't mention that the Bukhari also emphasized that Aisha was still playing with dolls at the time)
2. Al-Tabari also says she was 9 when the marriage was consummated
3. ibn Ishaq / ibn Hisham also says she was 9-10 years old
Also, why would you need the 5) point if you're confident Aisha was 18-22?
@@LordJagd It’s funny to me because muslim scholars say she is 9. 😂 Crazy the extent muslims will go to change history. Aisha wasn’t even mature enough to let bread sit.
@@LordJagd Could you post the exact verses that say she is 9? (I want to save them for future reference)
@@treydevercelly7518 What's doubly absurd is that they'll stretch the reliability of hadith with things like Aisha's age but won't question other things like Muhammad splitting the moon. And I found these on the Wikipedia pages on Aisha's age so the actual verses should be easy to find there.
MashaAllah may Allah ﷻ preserve and protect Shaykh Omar.
This was the one topic that had my faith shaken and this video was the most concise and informative one I could find to dissuade my doubts. I have watched a few other videos that seem very emotionally charged rather than intellectually honest but this video has cleared me of doubt Alhamdulillah. The topic itself is one that I would find personally difficult to explain to someone on the opposing end, but at the very least my personal biases have been expunged. JazakAllah Khair, may Allah keep us on the straight path and clear of doubt, Ameen.
It still should. Shecwas crying when he came into her, she was crying and didn't know what is going on. She in her own words said she was SCARED to bother him. That's not consensual.
Also please learn about Stockholm syndrome, trauma bonding. An abused person CAN AND WILL think alit of the person who is abusing them.
Just because a girl is having a period doesn't mean she's ready for sex and child birth.
Also do you see how Muhammed kept changing the rules for people.??? Oh look staying too long after dinner is bad says allah. ..
Abused people CAN be confident, they can stand up for people and plead her case.
Muhammed said it was okay for the woman who was beat so bad by her husband tgat she was yellow and green. Read these again and tell me if you think that is not ONLY OKAY but behavior of a PERFECT person who is an example for all ages.
Also I dare ypu to find a child bride who is glad they got married to an older man. Science shows us it's damaging.
I ask you to take these things into consideration.
@@terryvest906 give the sources of ur information dont say things like that without no evidence
@il3l534 there is plenty of evidence. Every single study that has been done HAS the same findings.
What I wrote is also in the hadiths.
@@il3l534 do you not read the hadith? It's all in there.
May Allah bless the soul of everyone who works towards the uplifting of the status of Islam these days and forever. Ameen.
Jazak Allahu khayr for this informative lecture, Sheikh Omar. You mentioned how important it is to face our own biases and that is very true. One thing I learned that I had not considered is how the Islamophobes have a wider agenda than just to critique Aisha (radiAllahu anha)'s age and the Prophet (SAW)- I didn't know how they'd use that to perpetuate the stereotypes they love and to colonize lands. May Allah reward you for this and protect us all. Ameen
My mum married at 14 and my dad was 24. They are still married. Allah bless them
Your dads a pedo
Pedo
Through her we get to know Islam better. We respect her not only because she is the wife of our prophet, but she has also narrated so many hadiths.
This is the best response I’ve heard after so many years and unlike the fake Mufti Abu Layth in U.K. who prioritises logic before the Words of Quran and Sunnah this is dealt in an academic manner which no one can refute.
Well done Yaqeen Institute
whether her age was 9, 16 and 22 ... 0ne thing ..She loved him at the time of marriage after the marriege and after his death SAW .... .. she was clearly an extrordinary person ... he treated her like an equal at whatever the age was .... one thing .... she gets the biological signal of being ready for marrige .... she agrees to a marrige and she is in love with the person ..after that why do you care if she was 9 16 or 22 ... no one cares ..she was old enough to get married and if she wants to get married to someone ..she has the right to do it ... Asalamualaikum
@Truthful4ever Or maybe you stop supporting paedophilia.
@@Blahblah-xb4nb i dont support pedophilia
I’m sorry but a 9 year old can’t “love” a 50 year old man unless it’s like a father-daughter relationship. And that’s probably how she saw him which makes it even more screwed up considering he consummated the marriage when she was merely 9!
Visionary Tribe she wasn’t 9. She was 19-20
@@VisionaryTribe we are talking about 1450 years ago, and my grandmother was married at age of 13 only 50 years ago
My grandmother was married at 12 years of age and she was born in 1930 and my mother was married at 14 so yeah back in the day it was normal.
exactly my grandma married at 8 years old, her first child when she had 13..
so did your mother marry a 50 year old man when she was 14?
@@IceBerg1620 can we talk about the age difference that i bet still existing in your country first? Now u come and act shocked when you can just ask around.
Again, no one forced your sister or daughter, but something that was normalised 1500 years ago cannot be argued :)
@@jieun208 there is no way a 7 year old girl would ever agree to marry an 40 years old man, she was forced against her will, stop making stupid excuses for your prophet.
@@IceBerg1620 Aisha (RA) was betrothed to another man before she was even married to the prophet pbuh,
so I’m saying again: it’s not because nowadays it’s shocking that it was before 1500 years.
You can only take a look to girls living in villages and compare them to girls in the city and they are not alike in maturity! Now the law keeps raising the marriage age because we’re not as generations decades ago. But we’re talking about centuries? U get it or still not?
Subhan Allah. Such a comprehensive and well rounded talk on this very sensitive topic conducted so beautifully. May Allah swt bless you immensely in both worlds, Sheikh Omar, and may He reward you for all your efforts, aameen.
I havnt watched a lot of your talks but I really love your attitude and way of explaining. May Allah bless you my brother.
This was the best discussion about this topic that I've come across. I've always thought it contradictory for anyone to use the Hadiths that mention her age to criticize the prophet but completely ignore the entire rest of the Hadiths that demonstrate her strength and confidence and the Hadiths *from her directly* regarding how she felt back then. Truly a disservice to her and everyone she helped and inspired.
May Allah be pleased with her and with Omar Sulaiman for giving this talk and encouraging others to be stronger in their faith even in the face of adversity and criticism.
Alhamdulillah for this lecture.. Yall don't know how much the doubts came and attacked me all this time, even though i tried to avoid it and kill it as much as I can, but the whispers are still there.. Thank you Imam for an amazingly well lecture 😃
Also watch the lecture of Adnan Rashid on this topic.This lecture will give you more certanity.Inshallah
Me too
@@veronica5080 Her doubts are due to the influence of her society.
Can you prove it to me why this is wrong?
@@veronica5080 No no, its not that. People often talk abt this but everyone give their own opinion ,Aisha R.A was this age, that age.
Veronica, this is the arabic culture back then, if it was an issue back then, there must be a criticism from ancient people. In today's world it is not practiced anymore.
If you want to know anything let me know. 😍
Why are people arguing about her age of marriage when she stated she has been the happiest woman alive when she was with the prophet. When she didn’t argue about that why would you actually argue about it instead of her? Are you seriously this dumb? Why are people debating over this when she had shown how much she loves the prophet. And mind you the prophet(pbuh) was very much NOT a pedophile. He had 11 wives who were over 40 or even 50. Why are y’all tryna point fingers at him for abusing her when she herself clearly said he never raised a hand on her and mind you that hadeeth about striking is not about abusing or hitting her it is mistranslated and the striking was actually poking her or jabbing his finger. Now you are telling me that even poking is an act of aggression? Secondly why are y’all arguing about her being assaulted or abused by the prophet (pbuh) as if y’all knew her personally and she actually told you how cruel our prophet was???? You don’t even have a damn base or anything to argue and discriminate and point fingers at. When she herself said she was so overjoyed by her marriage to the prophet and she has defended him and loved him so much, why are you saying she was abused??? You think she who was known to being so rebellious and intelligent and mischievous to actually defend her abuser?? You are arguing about something nonexistent. You don’t know her personally and was not at her time to be her friend you have no right to actually say she was abused when she was clearly saying the exact opposite. So shut your damn hypocritical and lying mouth up. And third of all in a time and place when people only had access to meat dates and milk and actually ate that everyday what kind of physique do you think they would have? When science clearly showed that the nearer you are to the equator the less is the age of puberty between 9-13 for women (puberty which only was considered part of childhood in the 20th century because at that time people of that age couldn’t take responsibility as an adult because all their life they have been pampered like kids when they were very much adults) you think humans at that time were psychologically and physically the same as they were today?? Where technology had made our lives so much easier?? That so many of our responsibilities have been taken off our shoulder?? At a time when the only thing that humans knew was actually live in a harsh atmosphere no matter what age. Why are you not debating over why men at the age of 15 went to war when now at this age and time they are considered children? That’s because at a harsh atmosphere and environment people psychologically and physically were much older than people were now. Now you see a 20 year old not taking responsibility for anything and only sitting their ass down and playing video games when clearly their age is that of an adult and they are acting childishly. You think at that time people were living such a good time that you could have whatever work you wanted to do? And you could eat whatever you wanted to eat? At that time if you acted so carefree and childishly your life would have been on the line. That was like 1400 years ago. People didn’t have time to act so childishly when everyday you would be afraid of getting killed. People at that time and place matured at a very young age physically and psychologically and mentally and emotionally. A time where the thing you should think of is how to live another day, not which kind of food is your favorite. If you don’t understand a thing I said and still argue about this subject then your brain clearly has some nails loose and you actually should be concerned about your thinking.
Must be very happy when she saw her old Husband whoring around with ever woman who offers herself to him.
Fact she was jealous a lot of times. And Safiya was also very young teenager. But Aisha his favorite wife (why?) was the youngest.
after realizing Muhammad can't impregnate a child he moved on with his pedophilia.
This lecture shows how much Sheikh worked on this topic, Helped a lot May Allah be pleased with you
masya allah . listening to imam's speech about aishah is better and more touching than watching hindi movies
May Allah reward u brother Omar...
SI pp0 the word islamophobe is not correct these are people who are ungrateful immature ignorant and uneducated that is what they are don't give them another word to put in the dictionary stick to the truth not too made up wordsppp0ppp may Allah reward all of you and give us the guidance and forgiveness from Allah amen
@theraven900 Give us proof, otherwise all of your claims are false mate.
Amiin
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lol your claim was debunked
@@swissapologetics The dolls thing
"Indeed it is not the eyes that are blind but the hearts"
There are many victims of abuse that are so victimized and confused that they are attached to and even love their abusers and know no other way of living. So you cannot determine if abuse occurred by only observing if the apparent victim was “confident” or “loved” the one suspect of being an abuser. It’s so psychologically complicated that looking on the surface, like how the victim behaves etc, is so flawed and so insufficient to come to the conclusion on whether abuse occurred or not.
SubhanAllah! Explained so beautifully. Very clear points were brought up in this lecture Alhamdulillah. JazakAllahu kheiran kaseerah. May peace and blessings be upon Aisha RA and Prophet Muhammad SAW.
Umme Aisha RA was itself an institution of Islam where most of the Hadiths were informed by her.
30min mark the story of how Aishas marriage to jubayr was cancelled is interesting.
they cancelled it because they thought aisha would convert him.
Now if she was truly 6 years old at that time. That would make no sense. Nor would it make sense if she was 9 years old. The age some say aisha married the prophet, 3 years after cancelling jubayrs engagement.
BUT, if aisha was born in 605 (instead of 615).
It would make aisha 16 at the time jubayr cancelled the engagement and 19 when she married the prophet pbuh.
That is an age where someone could convert someone else, especially someone of aishas intellect.
I suspect someone messed up aishas date of birth by a decade somehow.
Most likely by getting her date of birth wrong. She was born 4/5 years prior to islam, and not 4/5 years after islam.
Even sahih hadiths get basic numbers such as the age of Muhammad to be contradictory so it's definitely possible.
All we need to know is that she had the mindset of an adult, whether she was 6 or 16, she was extremely intelligent and was mature enough to get married.
@@harissahab2743 the truth matters.
always.
Aisha and jubayr marriage was meant to be after aisha reach maturity. When she is mature she can definitely influence her husband. That was the jubayr parents thinking about. Not converting their son now, but after or long after they got married. This is the problem when you say someone has messed up aishas age. Aisha herself narrated and this narration has multiple chain.
@nasser jilanee I understand your point regarding trustworthiness chain of narration. But discrepancy in number is not the ONLY main reason why hadith is not sahih. Slight number discrepancy such as age, duration in mecca or madinah is not important to the scholars compared to fiqh, theology. It is important to historian. And more so in modern society. However, is the number so problematic that we become so apologetic regarding aisya age? when it is not even theology and it doesnt deteriorate the prophet PBUH moral value anyway? In fact i rather someone defend the sahih value of hadith then to defend the age of Aisya RA. Even the other proof of Aisya age being older is still controversial because it is based on (you guess it..........) hadith
5 reasons why Aisha was at least 18 years old when she got married to the Prophet Muhammad (pubs):
1- In Bukhari, Kitab-ul-Manaaqib, it is narrated that Aisha said:
لم أعقل أبوي قط إلا وهما يدينان الدين ولم يمر علينا يوم إلا يأتينا فيه رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم طرفي النهار بكرة وعشية فلما ابتلي المسلمون خرج أبو بكر مهاجرا قبل الحبشة
“I became conscious of the world after my parents had accepted Islam. And every day, the Prophet (pbuh) would visit us twice, earlier and later in the day. After the community went through severe trials (when Islam was publicly pronounced) Abu-Bakr decided to head to Abyssinia (to flee persecution )
When does a child reach the age of consciousness? At least at the age of 5 or 6 right? Aisha was telling her memories, remembering the Prophet’s visits to her house when she was young. The trials of the Muslims started with the public pronouncement of Islam, which happened in the 3rd year of the Prophet’s mission. This precipitated a severe wave of persecution for the Muslims. They had no choice but to flee Mecca in the 5th year of Islam. This indicates that by the 5th year, Aisha was at least 7 or 8 years old. If Hijra took place in the 13th year, then she must have been at least 15 or 16. If she got married to the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) over 2 years after Hijra, then she must have been at least 18 when it happened.
2- In Bukhari, Kitab Tafseer-ul-Quran, it is narrated that Aisha (RA) said:
لقد أنزل على محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم بمكة وإني لجارية ألعب بل الساعة موعدهم والساعة أدهى وأمر
“It was revealed to the Prophet (pbuh) in Mecca, while I was a still playing as a child, the ayah [from surat al-Qamar]: “The last hour is the time when they shall truly meet their fate; and that last hour will be most calamitous, and most bitter”(Quran 54:46).
So Aisha was conscious enough to understand the verses of the Quran and remember their meaning. Surat al-Qamar was revealed in the 6th year of the Prophet’s mission as Qurtubi mentioned. Now how old Aisha must have been at the time? At least 8 or 9 I would say. If Hijra took place in the 13th year, then she was at least 15 or 16 at the time, which puts her at the age of 17 or 18 when she got married.
3- Imam Ahmad narrates the circumstances of Aisha’s marriage to the Prophet (pbuh). He says that al-Mut’am b. A’dy proposed to her for his son Jubayr. When the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) approached Abu-Bakr asking for her hand in marriage, he told him that another family already approached him about the same thing and that he had to honor that. Later, Abu Bakr met al-Mut’am and his wife. He sensed hesitate from the mother of Jubayr. She said: “أخشى أن تُصبأ عائشةُ جبيرا” or “I worry Aisha would convert my son Jubayr to Islam". Abu Bakr asked the father about it, and he said that he had a similar concern as his wife. The marriage was called off and Abu Bakr told the Prophet (pbuh) That Aisha was available.
How old must she have been in order to have this kind of influence? She must have been a charismatic, eloquent adult for Jubayr’s family to be concerned that she might convert their son to Islam. She definitely was not a child.
4- Muhammad b. Is’haaq, the great historian and biographer of Islam, and the teacher of ibn-Hishaam and Tabari, created a list of the first people that accepted Islam in his book as-Seera an-Nabawiyyah. He places Aisha at #19. Since the first 20 conversions must have happened in the first year, then Aisha was at least 5 years old to have that kind of consciousness (she was probably older). If she was at least 5 in the first year, then at Hijra she was at least 18 right? Which puts her at the age of 20 when she got married to the Prophet (pbuh) two years later.
5- Historians agree that Asmaa’, Aisha’s sister، was at least 27 during Hijra, as referenced by the great historian and biographer ibn-ul Atheer in his book Ussd-ul-Ghaba. Since Asmaa’ was at most 10 years older than her sister (as ibn Abdel Barr said in his book al-Istee’aab fy Ma’rifat il-Asshaab), that puts Aisha at the age of 17 at the time of Hijra, which makes her at least 19 at the time she married the Prophet (pbuh).
@/micdrop
Excellent talk highlighting the virtues of Hazrath A'isha and the beautiful marriage and relationship between her and the Prophet (pbuh). Another thing to point out is average life expectancy in those days was much lower in the 30's which explains why people would get married and have kids at an early age.
- At that time, in the place called Darun-Nadwa, where serious decisions such as war were taken, ceremonies of “wearing shirts” were also held for young girls who reached puberty. They began to count their ages starting from that day. For example, if a girl participated in this ceremony at the age of 10, according to Arabs, that girl would become 1 year old a year after the ceremony. When she turned 10, she actually turned 19 years old.
“Darun-Nadwa” was essentially a council of nobles. The leaders of the Quraysh tribes in Makkah above the age of forty could attend this assembly, where all kinds of war and peace decisions were made, opinions were determined, wedding ceremonies and shirt-wearing ceremonies for young girls who reached puberty were held.
According to Ibn Ishaq, before Qusayy had Darun-Nadwa built, those meetings were held in his house. Qurayshis were so devoted to him that wedding ceremonies used to be held in his house and any event that happened to them was discussed there; decisions to wage wars against other tribes were also made there. Clothing the girls who reached puberty in shirts was also done in his house; the part of the shirt that should be left open was torn there and put on the girl; then the girl would be taken home and dressed in a normal way. (1)
The person who led that ceremony was called “muhayyid” (2). (3) The meaning of this ceremony was as follows:
This girl entered puberty; anyone who wanted to marry her could marry her. That ceremony was held in the presence of everyone. (4)
To sum up, it can be said that there was a custom in the ancient Arabs that a ceremony was held for a girl who entered puberty and that girls were known by their age after menstruation. (5)
References:
1) Ibn Hisham, Sirah, 1/77; DIA, Daru’n-nedve item.
2) Muhayyid: It means the person who performs the hayd (menstruation) ceremony. This title was given to Abdiddar, one of the sons of Qusayy, for performing this ceremony. For more information, see Azraqi, Akhbaru Makkah (History of Makkah), p. 113-114.
3) Ibn Hisham, 1/77-78; Azraqi, Akhbaru Makkah (History of Makkah), p. 113-114; Balazuri, Futuhul-Buldan, (Translated by Mustafa Fayda), Siyer Yayınları, Istanbul 2013, p. 58.
4) Muhammed Hamidullah, İslam Müesseselerine Giriş, (Transl. İhsan Süreyya Sırma), Beyan Yayınları, Istanbul 2013, p. 42.
5) see Musa Jarullah, Hatun, p. 81, Kitabiyat Yay. Transl. Mehmet Görmez.
Allahu Akbar, May Allah let us study the lives of our Mothers of Islam and emulate their noble characters. Ameen 🤲 powerful lecture
Ameen Allah!
💐جزاك الله خيرًا يا شيخ سليمان
For those who are saying these are lies or even dare to say bad things abt our beloved prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him) just know one thing all you’re writing or saying don’t even get the chance to make us lose our faith in this beautiful religion or make us unfollow the guide of our most beloved prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him), and whatever you’re saying abt our most beloved prophet won’t even reach him and it won’t even decrease from his magnificent and high status with ALLAH (S.W.T) and also in our hearts ♥️
Just for ur information, u will only seduce those who are already hypocrites and disbelievers ☺️
So I advise u to stop unless there will be a terrifying punishment after death for u or u just want to gain sins by barking bad words out against Islam and Muslims .
Hope u guys be a lil bit educated abt other religions and if something was disturbing u just ask politely and ask ALLAH for guidance, not like the way I see in this comment section.
Ah, BTW you will be accounted on the day of judgment for every single word you’re saying or writing so be careful 😉!!
It was Arab tradition to marry in early age but Hazrat Ayesha RA went to Hazrat Muhammad pbuh after adulthood... These two points just end this discussion
My understanding... May Allah guide me if i am wrong
It was her level of maturity that determined her marriage and the generation at the time that accepted it
Beautiful Lecture!
Although I never had any problem with this marriage coz I have good knowledge of History and Anthropology. BUt happy that Yaqeen Institute uploaded papers and supported with such an wonderful video. I hope Layman in western and eastern world will understand and able to explain away.
History and anthropology do not justify a 6 year old getting married to a grown man.
It is immoral for a Prophet to marry a child.
Never had a problem with the marriage, a 53 year old man having sex with a 9 year old and you've never had a problem with it, that explains one of the big problems with your so called religion
gary lantow-humble who said they had sex
@@garylantow-humble7611 One of the big problems with your argument is how it doesn't make sense. You can't judge a 9 year old by today's standards to a 9 year old 1400 years ago it just doesn't make sense. At the time Aisha was both physically and mentally mature enough to be considered an adult.Their lives were completely different. 12 year olds back then already had CHILDREN. Heck you can't compare a 9 year old literally 50 years back to a 9 year old of today. Only two generations back it was normal for a 10 year old to get married can you imagine 1400 years ago? Ofcourse not! Life has changed 9 year olds today aren't capable of getting married because they aren't mature both physically and mentally to do so. Today marrying 9 year olds is haram(forbidden) in Islam becuase it will harm them.
The times I have come across Historians using marriage ages in the past they used mean age of first marriage not some legal age at which contracts were allowed.
Those studies all showed mean marriage ages in the twenties in the West. So his facts are wrong and his extrapolation to the past is wrong,
He also neglects to mention that the Romans had a Marrriage age of 12 for women and Muhammed would not have been allowed to marry Aisha at 6 or 9 if they had lived under Roman rule..
If the incidence of child marriage at the age of 9 was high in Arabia, the mortality rates for mothers and babies would be through the roof.
May Allah grant us Jannah and make us a friend of Prophet (Peace be upon him) Ameen.
Surah An-Nisa 4:3, Allah states in the Quran,
If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, MARRY WOMEN of your choice, Two or three or four;
The point to highlight here is that the word of Allah in Quran is MARRY WOMEN so it has to be women and it was reveal to the same Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.) therefore there is no point discussing the age of Ai'shia (r.a.) after 1400 years.
If someone teaches us the correct methodology to understand Quran then we will not find any conflicts. And if we find any conflicts, then turn towards the book of Allah. Chapter close No point of discussion because indeed it is an ultimate guidance to mankind.
could you please also explain Sure 65:4?
@@ChristianPrinceTeaches you misunderstood Jesus Words why bother understand the interpretation of the verse.😎
❤ really glad this exists.. i needed a gentle/ intelligent / intellectually stimulating and loving breakdown of this
JazakAllah khair sheikh for talking about this issue. I didn't know how to answer people about this and I didn't know whom to ask this question. Even though I found this video 2 years later after it had been posted. I am greatful to Allah for letting me watch it.
Exactly same here. Such an enlightening video
Mashaallah Tabarakallah. I really really enjoy listening to this. Jazakallah khair, ya Sheikh. May Allah Azzawajal bless you 😍