Excellent video Lauren! Your point about 'being judged' is powerful. This happens naturally. Even if a person is not 'being judgemental' of you they naturally form an opinion of you - even if it is subconsciously. Love this challenge too!
This is interesting. My first reaction is that I dress to be comfortable, since I never wear heels or uncomfortable shoes. But when I am just hanging around at home I wear baggy sweats and a t shirt and no bra because it's the most comfortable and no one sees me. But when I go out of the house I wear jeans and a nicer top (still comfy) with a bra, and some makeup. So obviously there must be more to it than comfort or else I'd wear my baggy house clothes everywhere. A lot of my dressing is for what I DON'T want, rather than what I want. I don't want to be looked at as lazy or dirty or gross, I don't want to be ignored when I try to go in a store or a business, so I do make some effort to look sane, responsible, and like I give a fuck about life. So I guess #1 is trying to pass for normal so that I can get a little respect and move about my business safely and efficiently. I view the world as an emotional battlefield almost, an obstacle course to endure and survive.. So my clothes are like a cloak of protection in a way, I want to blend in just enough to not receive negative attention and not have people ruin my day.. #2 is I don't want to look ugly. I don't ever think I am capable of looking pretty, but I do aim for "not ugly". Then #3 is where I try to have some uniqueness and creativity. I want to be seen as artistic and interesting, but subtly, not Miss Crazypants. And always ALWAYS want to avoid looking like I am trying too hard. Even when I was younger and dressed cooler and bolder, I always wanted to not look like I tried too hard. In my mind, looking like you tried TOO hard and looking like you are too THIRSTY for attention is the kiss of death in any look. It's the opposite of cool. You sometimes have to put in a lot more effort to make it look 'easy" and cool like you have more interesting things to do.
Well said so I will give you three words that came to mind when reading your comments. Comfortable, polished and effortless. Street style comes to mind. Hope your doing well!
What an interesting way to look at or think about fashion. I love it! I have always liked fashion but never thought of it as a tool and a way to drive my wardrobe choices. Cool. Thanks!
This exercise really makes you think outside of just personal tastes, I like it. I'd say confidence, grit and grace. And, that means I must attempt to define what those things look like as a style. Very interesting!
effortless, cohesive, unique, feminine(not ultra feminine or girly) sorry I added one extra. thanks for the video, usually when people ask me what my personal style is, I don't ever know what to say cos I can never stick to one personal style. this video has made me realize that I care more about how whatever I'm wearing on the day feels like (hope I'm making sense) and these words reflect the vibe I hope I'm sending out, whether I'm rocking jeans or a suit.
My words are Original, Chic, Confident. I also want my clothes to not convey this to others but simply be timeless (to an extent... I am not a trendy person, I don't think it's bad, but people tend to just follow suit with "what's in"), good quality (certain brands or stores cater to fast fashion so their pieces tend to be rushed and without good craftsmanship) and comfortable (it has to fit right and the materials cannot feel uncomfortable).
Naomi that sounds fantastic. I don’t know much about fashion but I think, that going with every trend is nothing about style. The fact that you got an own style is more than most people could say about themselves.
I Love this idea of 3 words. I already have mine. And I do it magnificently. Classy, Sexy and Feminine/Playful. You would think those 3 words are totally different. But I pull it off like a pro.
Great question! While I have three words for my style (classic, elegant, comfortable) those are not what I would say I want other to know about me. My three words for that would be confident, intelligent, pretty. This is a great exercise and I think I may keep refining my words as I think more about it. Please do a video on how style for our words!
I love grunge-y looks (lumpy jumpers, scuffed boots, things that look well worn), but I am a corporate lawyer. There are no 3 words that can describe how I want to look and how I am expected to look :(
You made this video 5 years ago about finding your style with 3 words and now Allison Bornstein is blowing up on TikTok talking about choosing 3 words but you seem to be the OG.
I find that when you start a new job it's never a good idea to look too powerful - too successful. Also, you don't want to look like your husband earns a lot of money and your pay cheque is petty cash. You can't look or dress better than your boss and even your peers. It feels like you need to under-dress. Sometimes not fair.
Can't narrow it down quite to three, partly because my style hinges on internal contradictions (ex. modest/attention-grabbing) for interest. The six words I would use are *bold, eccentric, shameless, modest, sensual, and alluring.* My signature pieces are flowy, sheer, and strongly inspired by hijabi clothing, but in sheer fabrics or with slitted designs that show rather a lot in little hints and glimpses. (I design a lot of my own clothing.)
I have never thought of it as what I am portraying to others. I dress for how I feel and what makes me feel right about myself. Which is mostly classy, modest, unique and lovely.
Love this video Lauren and I've watched it more than once and it's helped me to pick my three (and a bit) words- confident, chic and put together - so that I feel comfortable & attractive. Keep up the great videos :)
Wise, elegant, sophisticated. Thank you for this great way and it hits right on me cause this is what I have been thinking and trying to do these days. Also love your channel!
Hello Lauren, Thank you, I love your videos and newsletters!! I'm a freelance photographer and need to mix 1.professional/business with 2.creativity/twist while being 3. feminine (thinking of famke janssen, eva green) what would be a good clothing outfit when meeting with clients/agencies/art directors?
Hello Lauren! Your videos are so helpful and inspiring! So I have a fashion question for you, and I hope you'll be able to answer it! I love accessories and sunglasses but I never know how to wear them. Is there a particular style for each type of sunglasses, necklaces, and other accessories? Can you please do a video about that ? It would be amazing!
Hi Lauren, love your advice; I am wondering if you could do a video on how to deal with "haters". Meaning, I try to dress polished, super professional and fashionable/stylish. I find that woman do not respond well to this and find woman who like to look good intimidating. This has effected me in trying to get jobs ran by women or interviews with them. I feel like dressing down is the only way other woman feel comfortable including me. I want to be seen by people in the ways you describe in your videos and yourself but I feel like it works against me? What should I stay true to if its having a negative effect?
Constance Goldwing Personally, I find that other women like style and are not intimidated by it. Perhaps you could ask yourself this, "How can I look good and still be approachable?" Stay stylish and beautiful ... physically and in personality! When women start coming up to you saying, "I love your (dress, scarf, etc.). Where did you get it?" you will know that you have succeeded!
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Excellent video Lauren!
Your point about 'being judged' is powerful. This happens naturally. Even if a person is not 'being judgemental' of you they naturally form an opinion of you - even if it is subconsciously. Love this challenge too!
My 4 words:
Confident ... Competent... Kind ... Integrity
Love these!
Lauren Messiah i hope you understand my comment as well as i understood your video
This is interesting. My first reaction is that I dress to be comfortable, since I never wear heels or uncomfortable shoes. But when I am just hanging around at home I wear baggy sweats and a t shirt and no bra because it's the most comfortable and no one sees me. But when I go out of the house I wear jeans and a nicer top (still comfy) with a bra, and some makeup. So obviously there must be more to it than comfort or else I'd wear my baggy house clothes everywhere.
A lot of my dressing is for what I DON'T want, rather than what I want.
I don't want to be looked at as lazy or dirty or gross, I don't want to be ignored when I try to go in a store or a business, so I do make some effort to look sane, responsible, and like I give a fuck about life. So I guess #1 is trying to pass for normal so that I can get a little respect and move about my business safely and efficiently. I view the world as an emotional battlefield almost, an obstacle course to endure and survive.. So my clothes are like a cloak of protection in a way, I want to blend in just enough to not receive negative attention and not have people ruin my day..
#2 is I don't want to look ugly. I don't ever think I am capable of looking pretty, but I do aim for "not ugly". Then #3 is where I try to have some uniqueness and creativity. I want to be seen as artistic and interesting, but subtly, not Miss Crazypants.
And always ALWAYS want to avoid looking like I am trying too hard. Even when I was younger and dressed cooler and bolder, I always wanted to not look like I tried too hard.
In my mind, looking like you tried TOO hard and looking like you are too THIRSTY for attention is the kiss of death in any look. It's the opposite of cool. You sometimes have to put in a lot more effort to make it look 'easy" and cool like you have more interesting things to do.
You said it all girl !!
Agree 100% with everything ;)
Thanks, it is hard to explain because it's not as simple as 3 words.
Appreciate you sharing :)
Well said so I will give you three words that came to mind when reading your comments. Comfortable, polished and effortless. Street style comes to mind. Hope your doing well!
I think my three words would be confident, easy-going and creative
What an interesting way to look at or think about fashion. I love it! I have always liked fashion but never thought of it as a tool and a way to drive my wardrobe choices. Cool. Thanks!
This exercise really makes you think outside of just personal tastes, I like it. I'd say confidence, grit and grace. And, that means I must attempt to define what those things look like as a style. Very interesting!
Would implement this advice every time getting ready or shopping... My 3 words will be Casual, chic, put-together!
effortless, cohesive, unique, feminine(not ultra feminine or girly) sorry I added one extra.
thanks for the video, usually when people ask me what my personal style is, I don't ever know what to say cos I can never stick to one personal style. this video has made me realize that I care more about how whatever I'm wearing on the day feels like (hope I'm making sense) and these words reflect the vibe I hope I'm sending out, whether I'm rocking jeans or a suit.
Easy, breezy, covergirl ;)
political, intelligent, modest
My words are Original, Chic, Confident. I also want my clothes to not convey this to others but simply be timeless (to an extent... I am not a trendy person, I don't think it's bad, but people tend to just follow suit with "what's in"), good quality (certain brands or stores cater to fast fashion so their pieces tend to be rushed and without good craftsmanship) and comfortable (it has to fit right and the materials cannot feel uncomfortable).
Naomi that sounds fantastic. I don’t know much about fashion but I think, that going with every trend is nothing about style. The fact that you got an own style is more than most people could say about themselves.
my three would be classy, fun and timeless
Smart, sexy, powerful
Classy, intelligent, kind.
I would have to say...pretty💋, professional👩 and approachable😊
I Love this idea of 3 words. I already have mine. And I do it magnificently. Classy, Sexy and Feminine/Playful. You would think those 3 words are totally different. But I pull it off like a pro.
This is such a great idea and video! My three words are: comfy (number 1 priority), competent, and edgy.
Great question! While I have three words for my style (classic, elegant, comfortable) those are not what I would say I want other to know about me. My three words for that would be confident, intelligent, pretty. This is a great exercise and I think I may keep refining my words as I think more about it. Please do a video on how style for our words!
Formiddable, formal, sexy
interesting, simple, cool :)
i love this! my words would be unique, smart and girly
smart, modern, and creative (not to mention gentle & kind) are my words. Love your channel, Lauren!
Simple, effortless and appropriate.
For me the words are fit, feminine and stil comfortable in a stylish way.
I love grunge-y looks (lumpy jumpers, scuffed boots, things that look well worn), but I am a corporate lawyer. There are no 3 words that can describe how I want to look and how I am expected to look :(
Fashionable, Fun, Confident. Great question. Definitely makes me think about what I'm purchasing and how I can choose items better. Thank you!
colorful, fun and strong
It's incredibly difficult... I think intelligent, kind and feminine. This simple task really made me think about myself, you know?
Truth... fashion is a HUGH tool!
You made this video 5 years ago about finding your style with 3 words and now Allison Bornstein is blowing up on TikTok talking about choosing 3 words but you seem to be the OG.
* my three words : Fashionable, powerful, go-getter!
Good question. My 3 words or phrases are: I mean business, fashion designer, and easy lux.
Creative, intelligent, feminine. I was going to add powerful, but intelligence is already considered powerful. People tend to respect intelligence.
Sophisticated, classic, sexy.
I find that when you start a new job it's never a good idea to look too powerful - too successful. Also, you don't want to look like your husband earns a lot of money and your pay cheque is petty cash. You can't look or dress better than your boss and even your peers. It feels like you need to under-dress. Sometimes not fair.
This is a great thought process with fashion! My 3 words are confident, classic, smart 🤓
My 3words: attractive, comfortable , effortless,
I think they are and I hope to make this true while I shop; classy, powerful and energetic
awesome video as always 😍 my words would be strong, determined and a bit of sexy
Sophisticated, Quirky, Classic
My words are distinctive yet reasonable.
Kathy B.
put-together, creative and powerful :)
I am 4'9 what should be the ideal length of my hair to look taller. I have wavy hair.
classy, put together, expensive 🤔😅
Confident, luxurious, graceful.
Strong, Subtle-Sexy and RocknRoll
you look alot like Zoe Kravitz..love your videos btw
i hope she sticks to fashion and doesnt become a motivational speaker like the other people i watch
kind, relaxed, and classy
A Great tip, Thank you Lauren😊😊
you won me over with this video,great advice :)
Conifident, kind, friendly, and independent.
clean, simple, easy, it works.
Creative, edgy, and romantic.
Smart ,professional,attractive
Power full, fashionable.
Confident, creative and smart!
professional, bold and chic!
Chic, switched on, little jewel, hip
Elegant, chic and sophisticated
Can't narrow it down quite to three, partly because my style hinges on internal contradictions (ex. modest/attention-grabbing) for interest. The six words I would use are *bold, eccentric, shameless, modest, sensual, and alluring.*
My signature pieces are flowy, sheer, and strongly inspired by hijabi clothing, but in sheer fabrics or with slitted designs that show rather a lot in little hints and glimpses. (I design a lot of my own clothing.)
I couldnt thank you enough... thankyou so much for eye opener...my 3 words are comfidence, trustworthy, creative
Classy, confident, sexy
Intellectual, classic, confident
I have never thought of it as what I am portraying to others. I dress for how I feel and what makes me feel right about myself. Which is mostly classy, modest, unique and lovely.
Love this video Lauren and I've watched it more than once and it's helped me to pick my three (and a bit) words- confident, chic and put together - so that I feel comfortable & attractive. Keep up the great videos :)
sciency
cheerful
but edgy
Edgy, fitted, polished
Reliable, casual, educated.👜
Cool, edgy and effortless
thankyou so much for this!
Classic, elegant, chic.
simple ... chic ... boss
bold,fun,girly
Thanks for being so straightforward and realistic!
You're great
Thank you
Edgy, Sophisticated, Confident
Wise, elegant, sophisticated. Thank you for this great way and it hits right on me cause this is what I have been thinking and trying to do these days. Also love your channel!
confident,powerful,classy
Hello Lauren,
Thank you, I love your videos and newsletters!!
I'm a freelance photographer and need to mix
1.professional/business with
2.creativity/twist while being
3. feminine (thinking of famke janssen, eva green)
what would be a good clothing outfit when meeting with clients/agencies/art directors?
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Hi Lauren, thx.
Hello Lauren! Your videos are so helpful and inspiring! So I have a fashion question for you, and I hope you'll be able to answer it!
I love accessories and sunglasses but I never know how to wear them. Is there a particular style for each type of sunglasses, necklaces, and other accessories?
Can you please do a video about that ? It would be amazing!
Great question! Stay tuned :-)
I surely will! Thank you!
Great idea! Gonna try this out.
Cute, casual and fun!
Hi Lauren, love your advice; I am wondering if you could do a video on how to deal with "haters". Meaning, I try to dress polished, super professional and fashionable/stylish. I find that woman do not respond well to this and find woman who like to look good intimidating. This has effected me in trying to get jobs ran by women or interviews with them. I feel like dressing down is the only way other woman feel comfortable including me. I want to be seen by people in the ways you describe in your videos and yourself but I feel like it works against me? What should I stay true to if its having a negative effect?
Constance Goldwing
Personally, I find that other women like style and are not intimidated by it. Perhaps you could ask yourself this, "How can I look good and still be approachable?"
Stay stylish and beautiful ... physically and in personality!
When women start coming up to you saying, "I love your (dress, scarf, etc.). Where did you get it?" you will know that you have succeeded!
Great question, adding to my list!