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I feel the struggle of not wanting to cut in to your "pretty and expensive fabric" I´m working on a dress right now and im probably at the 19th mock up XD (I just want to dubble check if the pattern i myself made is still the way I made it 15 versions ago XD)
With you on that, I use to work in a noisy factory in my late teens for 4 years, which damaged my ears so then had to wear hearing aids from aged 22 (now 60) and they made my life hell on earth at how much noise is out there. (Love my new aids they have noise canceling built in for screeching brats in shopping malls) 😹😹 for the first time in years it felt like I had my normal hearing back my friend who fitted me for these new aids laughed at my reaction to the noise once we left the her office(sound proofed) 😹😹do I wear my hearings more now, 😹😹you bet I do. At least when the noise starts getting to me I can just unplug unlike those with great hearing so there is the upside to hearing loss 😹 I love Charlie’s version of this dress but the um modest part of me would have left the front um a little less low cut😹😹but Charlie looked great in her own design
@@dawsie I was always very protective of my hearing because my father and his brother were both deaf almost by machinery in the 1930s and '40s. I even wore earplugs when I worked at call centers because they got so noisy. I had my hearing checked when I was 40 and the technician was very surprised at how much I could hear from my age. Also it turns out I have ADHD in autism lol so I'm super sensitive to noise which is part of the reason why I was wearing ear plugs not just to protect my hearing. I almost always have a pair in my car and I'm a native Floridian so I'm happy that they can sit in hot vehicles for so long lol I usually kept more than one pair in case friends needed them. Pro tip it's also a good way to make friends at a concert.
SAME. I spent half of my 20s in most military airplane, then most of my 30s secluded while raising two kids. Not only has my tolerance for repetitive noise gotten microscopic, but my tolerance for loud areas (concerts, indoor water park, amusement park, etc) has also diminished to the point that I no longer enjoy them. :(
When you show off the gores in your seemingly plain black dress in the reveal, it reminded me of those birds in nature docs that show off their iridescent feathers during their little mating dances in ways that you could NEVER expect😂 I hope you know what I’m talking about
Um, EXCUSE ME. That dress is gorgeous!! It’s even better because you look so happy in it. Every formal dress you’ve made has been so cool. I hope you had a fantastic time!
as an anxious human with childhood trauma, you are not alone in getting triggered by tone of voice or just noise stimulation. sending you love & wishing you peace. ps you are so creative and talented, and you ROCKEDDDDD this!!! 😍🔥🖤
So. How many people asked you that night, "Who made your dress?" Nicely done. You are showing how versatile a pattern can be when you try making it in different materials.
And fear of cutting is a LEGITIMATE thing! I took HOURS yesterday to figure out how to cut a circle skirt out of quilting cotton. (Yes, I know Mood's calculator and was referencing it.) Hours. There might (was) paper involved to make sure I wasn't screwing it up. I needed 1.5 years of fabric, have *5* yards in my possession, and was still paralyzed. 🤦🏻♀️
I did that for my child for Halloween.... scared to cut it, because I bought all they had and had to figure out how many quarter circle panels I could get at kid's requested length to make it as full as possible. (Then sewed on bias tape about 6" from the edge, and it took almost two whole packages!)
If you dont feel like felling the seams or top stitching the seams down. You can use a rolled hem foot for the seems instead of a flat foot. It makes the seam thinner so less likely to show. I also think this would be stunning if you put a few crystals on the mesh parts. Just a handful on each panel for a slight sparkle.
Could you do a seam tape type thing? To keep it ironed back? (though ngl, recently bought black evening wear, straight up trained .. had to literally pick up that train and look at it up close to notice the topstitching on the hem)
Same here with loud noises, in Basic training, we had KP duty out in the field, and i was in charge of laying out bread. All of a sudden, the soldier next to me started banging the ladle on the metal top of the container in front of him. Without even thinking, I backhanded him in the chest. When I looked up at him, it wasn't the same soldier that started there. It was a Drill Sergeant. My eyes got big as saucers, mouth hit the floor, I started profusely apologizing, and he just pointed to the ground. My platoon drill sergeants walked up wanting bread and asked who was doing push ups since they knew our platoon was in charge that day, and I identified myself while continuing the push ups. Not to toot my horn, but I was a very good soldier, so they were shocked when he told them I hit him. Later, I explained, and nothing more happened, and years later, as we ran into each other, we all laughed, but I learned loud noises are serious triggers for me.
That grey hoodie dress you are wearing in the beginning always reminds me of some ttrpg character, probably a novice cleric or something along those lines. I love that. Also: I love this evening dress version. On a first glance it's like "oh fancy" and than you start to twirl and it's "oooh, fancy and dramatic and sexy."
That dress is BREATHTAKING and you are PERFECT in it. It looks designer (and it IS custom designed), and I get the confidence issues out with people who bought "fancy" dresses, but I am telling you... you absolutely nailed it. *And it hath ze pockets.* Perfection! Chef's kiss, no notes, all of that. And when you get creative, you aren't only helping yourself, but you lift our moods, too! Changin' the world out here, you are. Very, very impressive. And thank you for including puppy cameos as always. :D (Ugh, the noise you can't control. I feel my cortisol surging in sympathy.)
I’ve been wanting to work on making my own wardrobe and this video really helped me with some of the overwhelm thats stopping me from doing that. I’ve watched many of your videos and the fact that you have made so many different pieces using this one pattern as the base really makes a full wardrobe project seem reasonable. At this point I feel like if I start making a few pieces just to see what I like once I’ve found one or two patterns that I enjoy the rest will be “easy”.
Very true, you can never go wrong with the pattern Charlie is using, because of the raglan sleeves it lends itself to being sleeveless with great results, plus a Princess cut dress is the best choice, I have one with raglan sleeves an one with standard inserted sleeves. Both are great for creating your own style. Once you have made it as per instructed it gives you so many ideas on what and how you use them for your own ideas. Most dresses are based from the basic design. If you sit and go through a pattern book you will see how they all are just based on this one pattern block. I learnt this when I did my collage course on pattern drafting. Once you have a pattern block base that fits you like a glove you can do anything with the pattern. You should watch the “Closet Historian” she works from only one basic pattern block drafted to her personal size and from that she can change it to be a darted out fit or a princess seamed at the arm hole area or from the shoulder all depending on how she wants her outfits to look. She has made modern outfits to historical outfits all from her one basic block pattern.
Sorry, I have to tell in my native lenguage: el vestido es sensacional!! es hermoso, te queda perfecto, hiciste un trabajo maravilloso!! Tu creatividad es enorme!! Felicitaciones!!! Saludos y cariños desde Argentina!!❤❤❤❤
Maybe this should have been sponsored by Bose instead! 😂 (jokes aside, my noise cancelling headphones have saved me so much energy by reducing overstimulation) The dress is wonderful! Cool, beautiful, and sexy, also with the practical pockets of our dreams! ❤
You are absolutely right to dislike even the semblance of conflict. Our whole family is the same, and some of us actually get physically ill from shouting matches. You're a perfect fit for RUclips videos. The fact that you share your process is very helpful to others. And your delight when something works out is --- delightful. And yes, you made the right decision to do a shaped neck band. Anything else would have cheapened the final effect.
Okay, first, love that the phrase on the phone at the end of the video, when you were thanking Babbel again, was "Nós já estamos melhor." "We're already better." Perfect way to end the video, when you'd just been talking about feeling better by being creative. :) Second, please tell me Mat woke up enough to notice how spectacular that gown looked on you! Acorda, Mateus! Elogie tua esposa! Okay, *i* feel better now. 😂 Seriously, it really did come out beautiful. Well done!
Another way to do the mesh cutout might be to stich the mesh on before cutting the other fabric off. It's what Bernadette Banner did for her lacy dress. Might make it a little less stressful.
I'm at 16:20 and I totally see what you mean! The dress is beautiful so far! And most evening gowns tend to look more formal without sleeves. If you do sleeves, they usually have to be purposefully loose and shaped, like butterfly or fluttery or something. OR they must be very well fitted. Any inbetween tends to look casual. If you hadn't/didn't cut out the neckline, I think a mesh cap sleeve that goes into a V-shape mesh back would look gorgeous! Pro-tip for static. Hand wash, then toss it in the dryer on a low heat gentle cycle with a fabric softener dryer sheet. It won't have static when it comes out. Love that you finished the dress without sleeves, then made a matching bolero! Now you can mix and match the pieces! Fun, comfy, and formal! What's not to love?
That dress is the BOMB! And you are stunning in it. Your bright smiling face totally pulled it all together. And Matt looked so handsome in his new suit. You two are adorable. Love the vid. Big Hugs
That dress is absolutely gorgeous! It's amazing and you look amazing in it! I'm so happy it all worked out for you and that your mood was boosted during the creation process. Have a good day!
What a gorgeous final product!!! And girl, the neurodivergent "overstimulated but you still have things to do so you just have to deal with it and keep going" feels are SO REAL! But I'm so glad you could brighten your mood with this project, and you look absolutely stunning in it. Amazing!
Hey! I love your videos, they are so calming to watch somehow, and the tutorials are also great and well-explained. I like it very much how you talk about other stuff, unrelated to sewing (I enjoyed a lot the video with the map and the stories from each place, I would really like to watch more like that). I also profoundly dislike conflict. I have made a split-side skirt using your videos, and plan to do a pinafore ^_^. Please keep making videos, they (and you) are amazing!
That dress is a-ma-zing!!! It fits you perfectly! Mat must have felt 10 feet tall having you on by his side 😊 Nice suit too btw 😉 Best of all you were comfortable, which is priceless. I hear you on noise and seasonal depression! I am in Belgium so really far north and our winter days are so short! Plus it's a rainy climate so it's overcast most days, no snow to amplify the sunlight and rain almost every day... 😟 December was a nightmare for me this year; I live in a row house which means I have neighbours attached on both side. The house next door sold in the fall and the new neighbours are having major renovations done before they move in. We have 100% brick construction inside and out, wood-framed partition walls don't exist; it's all plaster over solid brick. 3 weeks of jackhammer sounds, and vibrations, from 7:30 to 18:00, 6 days a week!!! Some days I would wake up to them working on the wall against my bed's headboard 😳 I had to wear earplugs daily to stay sane! My poor pup got cotton balls stuffed in his ears and wore a Happy Hoody snood to keep them in place. It was rough! Thankfully they are almost finished now and there's a lot less noise.
First question 10 second in - I'm HERE for spur-of-the-moment chaos interspersed with ridiculously overthought and amazingly executed designs (see the 10 circle skirt that was the reason I found you and is still my favorite of your dresses).
I love that you're weird. It's like- I feel relieved I'm not the only one who behaves in such a way... hahahaha and you know what- I have a good ol time being ME! Happy sewing, and I ADORE how courageous you are to just DO the things you want and figure it out! Kudos.
The advantage of a pattern you like and have made a few times is it gives you a great starting point for these sort of changes. 😊. And it’s important to normalise talking about mental health. 💕
I literally bought your favorite dress pattern because of your hoodie dress. You wearing it made me want one too. You have showed me that patterns can be so much more than the instructions say. So I am going to make my own hoodie dress. Hahahaha
I really appreciate you talking about stress and such, and not just limiting it to the project. It’s like hanging out with a friend ❤ I’m watching while I cross stitch today
A couple of years back, I was living with my ex on the 16th floor of a skyscraper in Tokyo. One night I was home alone and the wind was absolutely insane. It felt like there was a group of people in each room of the flat just shrieking at the top of their lungs, it was so unbelievably loud. I couldn't sleep all night and honestly considered moving into the garbage room or something just to escape it. I think I still have ptsd from it. I feel your pain. The dress is gorgeous! It's giving me a bit of an Elvira-vibe. I love it! I'd love one for myself but I have nowhere to wear it (the supermarket? Dropping my future kid off at kindergarten?).. Meanwhile, I still can't get over that latest hoodie-dress that you made. I wish you had made a video for it because it looks so comfy and nice.. If you ever decide that you need one in a different color, you already know that there's a whole bunch of us who want a video of it.
The dress looks incredible! Perfect or not, does not matter. Love the neckline, and it looks great on you. Oh the noise… I love natural noises, but we just moved out of a large apartment complex, where our upstairs neighbors were running, or dropping things, or walking “stoutly,” I don’t know… but ARGH! The constant noise was infuriating. Then you add in weekly gardeners with leaf blowers, twice weekly dumpster pick-ups, etc.. I am profoundly grateful for the home we are now renting which is SUPER quiet. Sometimes my ears ring with the silence.
I wonder if you could get a pattern off of that jumpsuit to clone it? Of course, it is in black with pockets and looks amazingon you so it is already perfect.
I'm getting ready to start on a dress for the opening night of the opera... which is black tie, my escort will be in tails, I'm terrified but I think the mockup will be essential... I'm using a vintage gunne sax pattern, the one Rachel Maksy uses the skirt of. And I am doing the same it's a formal dress but the bodice will be a vintage 1940s pinafore that is double breasted. My plan is to make the bodice look like a tuxedo and wear a tuxedo shirt under and a bow tie, I'm working on the cummerbund problem at the moment, and by working I mean I'm ignoring it because you won't see my shirt tucked in. 😮 15:08 pretty 😍
I agree, everyone is creative in some way! I say creativity feeds the soul. Our creativity is an expression of our unique self, and at the same time can bridge the distance across culture, race, language, gender, age, class, or any other barrier we may have.
❤ that’s a really versatile pattern❤. As much as you use it, I would suggest fusing a thin iron on interfacing to the back of it. Interfacing really extends the life of a tissue pattern. Yes, it costs more than just buying a new one on sale but tissue patterns backed with interfacing are so nice to use that it’s worth it for favorites. I actually save every tiny interfacing scrap and put them on the backs of my favorite patterns crazy quilt style. If I don’t have enough to cover the whole thing, I start by fusing scraps to the areas I pin as it keeps the tissue from being damaged by the pins.
Wowsa. Very sexy dress. Can also relate with the noise stimulation, I get that every day when I go into the office with all the computers, printers and chatting going on, getting to work from home 2 days a week is such a blessing, can’t imagine how stressed I would feel if home was inescapably noisy as well. Hope the plumbers are done 😊
I love how putting on the sleeves was like putting the dress in sport mode 😎 The gown is stunning, and it's *bonkers* that it's from the same pattern as all your comfy, cozy dresses. Brilliant!
Loved the dress, it really looked great on you. Not sure of the front plunge neckline but then I’ve always been a bit of a prude as my darling hubby likes to tell me😹😹😹as me Mom use to keep reminding me I was born 200 years too late for my style of outfits😹😹😹😹just glad you actually got to go to this function unlike your other black dress you made last time 😊
Oh, to be 30 yrs younger & be able to wear that dress!!!! It's absolutely STUNNING! Of course, it helps that it's draping an incredibly beautiful woman....So glad you had fun 💖💖💖
Creativity is indeed a blessing - good for your mental health! I am a full time sewist (though old enough that I still go with "seamstress", gendered as the word is. In this online world where we all exist, I certainly understand why I shouldn't call myself a "sewer" - and am still amused that my computer really wants to change it to "sexist", lol), and you have been great company while I cut out and sew both bags and Dragons! So glad you're here, and I'm looking forward to the next project.
17:31 YES!!! If you need sleeves later you can make a true bolero jacket. Maybe with some fancies on it. Beading, lace, cutouts, inserts, whatever floats your boat. 22:27 Ahahahaha! Same wavelength.
Hey! Teacher here. I have several students who get really overstimulated by sound. They wear headphones to cut down on the volume of the noise. You may have already thought about or tried this, but I've seen it totally change a student's ability to cope with classroom stress, so I wanted to mention it. Thanks for a great video!
Wanna take second halfway through this to say i completely get what you mean about sensory issues and overstimulation. Lots of small things that build up can be so much more stressful than the same amount of stress but one that just has one source. Also, thank you for uploading right when i needed to be distracted, one of my fur babies is sick and i just need to wait
relatable about the loud noises. I had a housemate who would always set me on edge because he slammed car doors, stomped around the house, etc. Making a lot of noise even if he wasn't mad. Also I LOVE the silhouette of that dress. I'm not much for boob windows but the silhouette without the sleeves is just 😍
I. Am. In. Love! I need this dress asap, I just bought the pattern 😂 I hope this is okay, but how do you keep the "girls" in place? It's always a problem for me in low cut dresses like this 😅
I have hyperacusis and I relate to what you describe. The wind howling always seems like it’s screaming at me, it’s difficult to handle. If you need tools to handle noise, you can get special earplugs that filter the sound and take the edge off. It doesn’t warp them of make it difficult to have a conversation, they’re almost invisible when worn, and it can change your life. For me they don’t do enough for extreme situations but they help, and I also have noise blocking earmuffs and earplugs. There are several brands, my friends use Loop (they have different models) and I use the Alpine Music Safe. There are others but I didn’t try them. Great video, I love both dresses (the one you made and the one you wear !)
"I've just been in a weird mood lately" I cannot stress enough how comforting it was to hear that from another adult. I have a bespoke combination of stressors and neurodivergencies that just...gets real odd sometimes. My brain just doesn't quite work sometimes and there's not a whole lot to be done about it other than get a cup of tea and try my best. Also OMG I too hate yelling, only my brain classifies anything with an angry tone as "yelling", whether the volume is raised or not. This causes problems when I'm trying to describe interpersonal problems to my family members. My ultimate worst sound thing is music from another room when I need it to be quiet because my brain will just latch onto it and I cannot block it out
13:43 you’re speaking on how even the wind has begun to over stimulate you. I’m 28, I have ADHD and low grade autism and I very well understand this feeling of overwhelmed and anxiety. In the past few years I’ve discovered “loops” they are a special type of ear plug with varying decibel ranges for noise clanclation. I’ve found them immensely helpful for allowing me to participate in the day to day without allowing overstimulation. Just something you might wanna give a try. They have allowed me so much freedom and the ability to participate in so many more events and activities that I previously would’ve been incapable.
Wonderful dress! Also, for being overwhelmed by the noise, I highly recomment the earplugs usually worn when working with loud engines or stuff like that. It's a life saver for me at least, discreet enough to pass as music earbuds and small enough to be carried in your pocket
23:13 i really wanna make this dress but tea-length, and lace overlaying solid fabric where you put the mesh (bc im not daring enough to show that much of my business lol however this dress looks absolutely STUNNING on you lol good work and a job well done lol 🎉
WOW! THAT IS GORGEOUS!! I love that this pattern is so versatile! It's magical!! Oh, yeah, WIND. Don't move to Colorado. Here in Southern Colorado, we have 6 weeks of wind in the spring. Not breezes. WIND. 30 MPH at its slowest, predictably from 10 AM to 10 PM. We have the highest self- un-aliving rate in the nation at that time. They (scientists , doctors, politicians) used to speculate that it was either cabin fever or a change in people's ions that caused the spike in un-alivement. I think it's just the constant hell of the wind for twelve hours a day. And when we get a stretch of wind at night -- yeah, not good.
Eh meh gurd!!!!!!!! Stunning, absolutely stunning. And yeah, noise intolerance is very real. And so is creative therapy. Except in my case it's a hook and some yarn
I have a set of walkie talkies that I wish I could lend to your plumbers! Except I fervently hope that they're done by the time I'm watching this. I hate yelling too, and I hope it wasn't too hard to recover from. ETA: Holy crap, Charlie, you look like a million bucks in this dress!!! You must have totally held your own amidst all the designer dresses, and probably upstaged many of them. ❤❤❤
Creativity is truly the thing that has got me through the worst times of my life. I find that when I can't control my world crumbling down around me, I do well to focus on something I can control - like knitting a cute stuffed animal or sewing a dress that i love. Making things has been what saved my sanity more times than I can count.
Fantastic outcome!!! I think the shaping continues to look wonderful and the neckline you went with in the end really suited you and I'm so glad it was comfy too! And yes the headache + wind + ppl yelling would def make me overwhelmed too!
Beautiful dress, and from your favourite pattern, I can see the endless possibilities from that pattern 👌 I also believe everyone can make something and being creative keeps you sane ❤️
You are fearless. You looked so gorgeous in that dress. Thanks for the suggestion on being creative… it’s a real thing. Thanks for sharing your projects….and puppy… your puppy is the sweetest. ❤
YES. I've even just used hand lotion before in desperate situations, and that also does the trick, but instead of applying it to the fabric, I put it on my legs or hose or arms or whatever bit is being awkwardly clung to.
It's really becoming too. Not everyone could wear that but you look great in it. For some reason, I want to see it with some fabulous embroidered fabric as a shawl, jacket or bolero. Green with silver? Oh! Blue with silver! Yes. Wait, what? You are an adult who knows what she likes and doesn't have to modify her clothing to suit strangers in the internet? I need more coffee. :D
This is (hopefully) too late to be useful for the plumbing, but when i have to stay home with irritating noise I play music through noise cancelling headphones. The bose ones are comfy enough in my experience! I also sympathize with the wind noise affecting your sleep, I used to live around there and it does make it difficult!
It is gorgeous. I think it could have been nice if the front was solid and you did mesh sleeves with crepe cuffs. Of course that would require having enough of mesh fabric 😂
My favorite dress you’ve designed yet! So beautiful! The halter idea was perfect. I do need to know your undergarment secret for no nip slip though - boob tape?? Or are you just God’s favorite? 😂
LOL I totally understand your cringe around loud people. My BF's father has been almost totally deaf since his 20s so communicating with him is loud speaking and now yelling. It's a conversation but yelled. My superior hearing and non-confrontational temperament screams, "Why are you YELLING?!"
If the front V is a bit wider than you would like, you could bring two plackets up either side of the V to add around the neck. You could add black or silver beading to it, too.
This dress is beautiful and you look absolutely incredible in it! I totally understand the sensory overwhelm, and being creative is such a great way of managing it ❤
That's a really cool dress! I loved how when you were standing still you couldn't really see the mesh in the skirt so it was like a fun surprise when you moved. Very cool
I get the noise thing. I have 4 kids, ages 5 and down. Ear plugs or headphones without music on have really helped me. And dang it, I declare this is the year I actually use that McCalls pattern. I have a summer dress cut out but now I need an evening dress.
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I feel the struggle of not wanting to cut in to your "pretty and expensive fabric" I´m working on a dress right now and im probably at the 19th mock up XD (I just want to dubble check if the pattern i myself made is still the way I made it 15 versions ago XD)
Noise stress is a real thing, it's been getting worse for me as i get older. You are not alone in this. I love how the neckline turned out!
With you on that, I use to work in a noisy factory in my late teens for 4 years, which damaged my ears so then had to wear hearing aids from aged 22 (now 60) and they made my life hell on earth at how much noise is out there. (Love my new aids they have noise canceling built in for screeching brats in shopping malls) 😹😹 for the first time in years it felt like I had my normal hearing back my friend who fitted me for these new aids laughed at my reaction to the noise once we left the her office(sound proofed) 😹😹do I wear my hearings more now, 😹😹you bet I do. At least when the noise starts getting to me I can just unplug unlike those with great hearing so there is the upside to hearing loss 😹
I love Charlie’s version of this dress but the um modest part of me would have left the front um a little less low cut😹😹but Charlie looked great in her own design
@@dawsie I was always very protective of my hearing because my father and his brother were both deaf almost by machinery in the 1930s and '40s. I even wore earplugs when I worked at call centers because they got so noisy. I had my hearing checked when I was 40 and the technician was very surprised at how much I could hear from my age. Also it turns out I have ADHD in autism lol so I'm super sensitive to noise which is part of the reason why I was wearing ear plugs not just to protect my hearing. I almost always have a pair in my car and I'm a native Floridian so I'm happy that they can sit in hot vehicles for so long lol I usually kept more than one pair in case friends needed them. Pro tip it's also a good way to make friends at a concert.
SAME. I spent half of my 20s in most military airplane, then most of my 30s secluded while raising two kids. Not only has my tolerance for repetitive noise gotten microscopic, but my tolerance for loud areas (concerts, indoor water park, amusement park, etc) has also diminished to the point that I no longer enjoy them. :(
Same, if I catch an inkling of anger or disapproval I am panicked
Gorgeous dress! That center mesh cutout is spicy! Love it!
When you show off the gores in your seemingly plain black dress in the reveal, it reminded me of those birds in nature docs that show off their iridescent feathers during their little mating dances in ways that you could NEVER expect😂 I hope you know what I’m talking about
It is nice seeing this side of U. I believe U living a life worth living! Ciao.
Um, EXCUSE ME. That dress is gorgeous!! It’s even better because you look so happy in it. Every formal dress you’ve made has been so cool. I hope you had a fantastic time!
I'll "2nd" that! Well, "84th that" technically, but you know what I mean.
as an anxious human with childhood trauma, you are not alone in getting triggered by tone of voice or just noise stimulation. sending you love & wishing you peace. ps you are so creative and talented, and you ROCKEDDDDD this!!! 😍🔥🖤
I love that your cutout mirrors the lapel line of his suit
So. How many people asked you that night, "Who made your dress?" Nicely done. You are showing how versatile a pattern can be when you try making it in different materials.
And fear of cutting is a LEGITIMATE thing! I took HOURS yesterday to figure out how to cut a circle skirt out of quilting cotton. (Yes, I know Mood's calculator and was referencing it.) Hours. There might (was) paper involved to make sure I wasn't screwing it up. I needed 1.5 years of fabric, have *5* yards in my possession, and was still paralyzed. 🤦🏻♀️
I did that for my child for Halloween.... scared to cut it, because I bought all they had and had to figure out how many quarter circle panels I could get at kid's requested length to make it as full as possible. (Then sewed on bias tape about 6" from the edge, and it took almost two whole packages!)
If you dont feel like felling the seams or top stitching the seams down. You can use a rolled hem foot for the seems instead of a flat foot. It makes the seam thinner so less likely to show.
I also think this would be stunning if you put a few crystals on the mesh parts. Just a handful on each panel for a slight sparkle.
I was thinking to stich with silver metallic thread.
Could you do a seam tape type thing? To keep it ironed back? (though ngl, recently bought black evening wear, straight up trained .. had to literally pick up that train and look at it up close to notice the topstitching on the hem)
"Let's cut a hole in the thing that I like. It'll be fine." No other statement ever uttered has made me feel so understood.
Same here with loud noises, in Basic training, we had KP duty out in the field, and i was in charge of laying out bread. All of a sudden, the soldier next to me started banging the ladle on the metal top of the container in front of him. Without even thinking, I backhanded him in the chest. When I looked up at him, it wasn't the same soldier that started there. It was a Drill Sergeant. My eyes got big as saucers, mouth hit the floor, I started profusely apologizing, and he just pointed to the ground. My platoon drill sergeants walked up wanting bread and asked who was doing push ups since they knew our platoon was in charge that day, and I identified myself while continuing the push ups. Not to toot my horn, but I was a very good soldier, so they were shocked when he told them I hit him.
Later, I explained, and nothing more happened, and years later, as we ran into each other, we all laughed, but I learned loud noises are serious triggers for me.
That grey hoodie dress you are wearing in the beginning always reminds me of some ttrpg character, probably a novice cleric or something along those lines. I love that.
Also: I love this evening dress version. On a first glance it's like "oh fancy" and than you start to twirl and it's "oooh, fancy and dramatic and sexy."
I very much agree with being anxious with loud/“angry” voices, I’m the same 😅
That dress is BREATHTAKING and you are PERFECT in it. It looks designer (and it IS custom designed), and I get the confidence issues out with people who bought "fancy" dresses, but I am telling you... you absolutely nailed it. *And it hath ze pockets.* Perfection! Chef's kiss, no notes, all of that. And when you get creative, you aren't only helping yourself, but you lift our moods, too! Changin' the world out here, you are. Very, very impressive. And thank you for including puppy cameos as always. :D
(Ugh, the noise you can't control. I feel my cortisol surging in sympathy.)
I’ve been wanting to work on making my own wardrobe and this video really helped me with some of the overwhelm thats stopping me from doing that. I’ve watched many of your videos and the fact that you have made so many different pieces using this one pattern as the base really makes a full wardrobe project seem reasonable. At this point I feel like if I start making a few pieces just to see what I like once I’ve found one or two patterns that I enjoy the rest will be “easy”.
Very true, you can never go wrong with the pattern Charlie is using, because of the raglan sleeves it lends itself to being sleeveless with great results, plus a Princess cut dress is the best choice, I have one with raglan sleeves an one with standard inserted sleeves. Both are great for creating your own style. Once you have made it as per instructed it gives you so many ideas on what and how you use them for your own ideas. Most dresses are based from the basic design. If you sit and go through a pattern book you will see how they all are just based on this one pattern block. I learnt this when I did my collage course on pattern drafting. Once you have a pattern block base that fits you like a glove you can do anything with the pattern. You should watch the “Closet Historian” she works from only one basic pattern block drafted to her personal size and from that she can change it to be a darted out fit or a princess seamed at the arm hole area or from the shoulder all depending on how she wants her outfits to look. She has made modern outfits to historical outfits all from her one basic block pattern.
I also recommend Mariah Pattie's channel for breaking down the barriers to sewing your own wardrobe and making stuff you'll actually wear
Sorry, I have to tell in my native lenguage: el vestido es sensacional!! es hermoso, te queda perfecto, hiciste un trabajo maravilloso!! Tu creatividad es enorme!! Felicitaciones!!!
Saludos y cariños desde Argentina!!❤❤❤❤
Maybe this should have been sponsored by Bose instead! 😂 (jokes aside, my noise cancelling headphones have saved me so much energy by reducing overstimulation)
The dress is wonderful! Cool, beautiful, and sexy, also with the practical pockets of our dreams! ❤
You are absolutely right to dislike even the semblance of conflict. Our whole family is the same, and some of us actually get physically ill from shouting matches. You're a perfect fit for RUclips videos. The fact that you share your process is very helpful to others. And your delight when something works out is --- delightful. And yes, you made the right decision to do a shaped neck band. Anything else would have cheapened the final effect.
Okay, first, love that the phrase on the phone at the end of the video, when you were thanking Babbel again, was "Nós já estamos melhor." "We're already better." Perfect way to end the video, when you'd just been talking about feeling better by being creative. :) Second, please tell me Mat woke up enough to notice how spectacular that gown looked on you! Acorda, Mateus! Elogie tua esposa! Okay, *i* feel better now. 😂
Seriously, it really did come out beautiful. Well done!
Another way to do the mesh cutout might be to stich the mesh on before cutting the other fabric off. It's what Bernadette Banner did for her lacy dress. Might make it a little less stressful.
I'm at 16:20 and I totally see what you mean! The dress is beautiful so far! And most evening gowns tend to look more formal without sleeves. If you do sleeves, they usually have to be purposefully loose and shaped, like butterfly or fluttery or something. OR they must be very well fitted. Any inbetween tends to look casual.
If you hadn't/didn't cut out the neckline, I think a mesh cap sleeve that goes into a V-shape mesh back would look gorgeous!
Pro-tip for static. Hand wash, then toss it in the dryer on a low heat gentle cycle with a fabric softener dryer sheet. It won't have static when it comes out.
Love that you finished the dress without sleeves, then made a matching bolero! Now you can mix and match the pieces! Fun, comfy, and formal! What's not to love?
That dress is the BOMB! And you are stunning in it. Your bright smiling face totally pulled it all together. And Matt looked so handsome in his new suit. You two are adorable. Love the vid. Big Hugs
That dress is absolutely gorgeous! It's amazing and you look amazing in it! I'm so happy it all worked out for you and that your mood was boosted during the creation process. Have a good day!
At this point, you need to laminate that pattern! Turned out great, well done!
Rub your floor down or your fabric with a dryer sheet that always helps with match
I can’t believe you can create such an elegant final product in your endearing “winging-it” sort of way; GORGEOUS!!
What a gorgeous final product!!! And girl, the neurodivergent "overstimulated but you still have things to do so you just have to deal with it and keep going" feels are SO REAL! But I'm so glad you could brighten your mood with this project, and you look absolutely stunning in it. Amazing!
Hey! I love your videos, they are so calming to watch somehow, and the tutorials are also great and well-explained.
I like it very much how you talk about other stuff, unrelated to sewing (I enjoyed a lot the video with the map and the stories from each place, I would really like to watch more like that).
I also profoundly dislike conflict.
I have made a split-side skirt using your videos, and plan to do a pinafore ^_^. Please keep making videos, they (and you) are amazing!
That dress is a-ma-zing!!! It fits you perfectly! Mat must have felt 10 feet tall having you on by his side 😊 Nice suit too btw 😉
Best of all you were comfortable, which is priceless.
I hear you on noise and seasonal depression! I am in Belgium so really far north and our winter days are so short! Plus it's a rainy climate so it's overcast most days, no snow to amplify the sunlight and rain almost every day... 😟
December was a nightmare for me this year; I live in a row house which means I have neighbours attached on both side. The house next door sold in the fall and the new neighbours are having major renovations done before they move in. We have 100% brick construction inside and out, wood-framed partition walls don't exist; it's all plaster over solid brick. 3 weeks of jackhammer sounds, and vibrations, from 7:30 to 18:00, 6 days a week!!! Some days I would wake up to them working on the wall against my bed's headboard 😳
I had to wear earplugs daily to stay sane! My poor pup got cotton balls stuffed in his ears and wore a Happy Hoody snood to keep them in place.
It was rough! Thankfully they are almost finished now and there's a lot less noise.
First question 10 second in - I'm HERE for spur-of-the-moment chaos interspersed with ridiculously overthought and amazingly executed designs (see the 10 circle skirt that was the reason I found you and is still my favorite of your dresses).
I love that you're weird. It's like- I feel relieved I'm not the only one who behaves in such a way... hahahaha and you know what- I have a good ol time being ME!
Happy sewing, and I ADORE how courageous you are to just DO the things you want and figure it out! Kudos.
The advantage of a pattern you like and have made a few times is it gives you a great starting point for these sort of changes. 😊. And it’s important to normalise talking about mental health. 💕
I literally bought your favorite dress pattern because of your hoodie dress. You wearing it made me want one too. You have showed me that patterns can be so much more than the instructions say. So I am going to make my own hoodie dress. Hahahaha
Ok, I never thought of pinning to a sports bra, that’s genius for trying on incomplete garments!
STUNNING. WOW! ❤
As a goth lady this dress feels like something I NEED. I absolutely adored this one.
You should check out her dress with the spider web-back. It’s equally gorgeous! ❤
I really appreciate you talking about stress and such, and not just limiting it to the project. It’s like hanging out with a friend ❤ I’m watching while I cross stitch today
A couple of years back, I was living with my ex on the 16th floor of a skyscraper in Tokyo. One night I was home alone and the wind was absolutely insane. It felt like there was a group of people in each room of the flat just shrieking at the top of their lungs, it was so unbelievably loud. I couldn't sleep all night and honestly considered moving into the garbage room or something just to escape it. I think I still have ptsd from it. I feel your pain.
The dress is gorgeous! It's giving me a bit of an Elvira-vibe. I love it! I'd love one for myself but I have nowhere to wear it (the supermarket? Dropping my future kid off at kindergarten?)..
Meanwhile, I still can't get over that latest hoodie-dress that you made. I wish you had made a video for it because it looks so comfy and nice.. If you ever decide that you need one in a different color, you already know that there's a whole bunch of us who want a video of it.
The dress looks incredible! Perfect or not, does not matter. Love the neckline, and it looks great on you.
Oh the noise… I love natural noises, but we just moved out of a large apartment complex, where our upstairs neighbors were running, or dropping things, or walking “stoutly,” I don’t know… but ARGH! The constant noise was infuriating. Then you add in weekly gardeners with leaf blowers, twice weekly dumpster pick-ups, etc.. I am profoundly grateful for the home we are now renting which is SUPER quiet. Sometimes my ears ring with the silence.
I wonder if you could get a pattern off of that jumpsuit to clone it? Of course, it is in black with pockets and looks amazingon you so it is already perfect.
I'm getting ready to start on a dress for the opening night of the opera... which is black tie, my escort will be in tails, I'm terrified but I think the mockup will be essential... I'm using a vintage gunne sax pattern, the one Rachel Maksy uses the skirt of. And I am doing the same it's a formal dress but the bodice will be a vintage 1940s pinafore that is double breasted. My plan is to make the bodice look like a tuxedo and wear a tuxedo shirt under and a bow tie, I'm working on the cummerbund problem at the moment, and by working I mean I'm ignoring it because you won't see my shirt tucked in. 😮 15:08 pretty 😍
I've been over the see-through trend but this is lovely and perfect!
To eliminate static, use safety pins & attach them to seams along the skirt, they are hidden and eliminate the static.
I agree, everyone is creative in some way! I say creativity feeds the soul. Our creativity is an expression of our unique self, and at the same time can bridge the distance across culture, race, language, gender, age, class, or any other barrier we may have.
❤ that’s a really versatile pattern❤.
As much as you use it, I would suggest fusing a thin iron on interfacing to the back of it. Interfacing really extends the life of a tissue pattern. Yes, it costs more than just buying a new one on sale but tissue patterns backed with interfacing are so nice to use that it’s worth it for favorites.
I actually save every tiny interfacing scrap and put them on the backs of my favorite patterns crazy quilt style. If I don’t have enough to cover the whole thing, I start by fusing scraps to the areas I pin as it keeps the tissue from being damaged by the pins.
Wowsa. Very sexy dress. Can also relate with the noise stimulation, I get that every day when I go into the office with all the computers, printers and chatting going on, getting to work from home 2 days a week is such a blessing, can’t imagine how stressed I would feel if home was inescapably noisy as well. Hope the plumbers are done 😊
I love how putting on the sleeves was like putting the dress in sport mode 😎
The gown is stunning, and it's *bonkers* that it's from the same pattern as all your comfy, cozy dresses. Brilliant!
Loved the dress, it really looked great on you. Not sure of the front plunge neckline but then I’ve always been a bit of a prude as my darling hubby likes to tell me😹😹😹as me Mom use to keep reminding me I was born 200 years too late for my style of outfits😹😹😹😹just glad you actually got to go to this function unlike your other black dress you made last time 😊
Oh, to be 30 yrs younger & be able to wear that dress!!!! It's absolutely STUNNING! Of course, it helps that it's draping an incredibly beautiful woman....So glad you had fun 💖💖💖
Aw, I bet you'd look lovely! Beauty has no age ❤
@oopsallbugs unfortunately, gravity still wins with all of us.
Just WOW!!!!! You have just proven that beauty doesn't have to be painful or uncomfortable
Creativity is indeed a blessing - good for your mental health! I am a full time sewist (though old enough that I still go with "seamstress", gendered as the word is. In this online world where we all exist, I certainly understand why I shouldn't call myself a "sewer" - and am still amused that my computer really wants to change it to "sexist", lol), and you have been great company while I cut out and sew both bags and Dragons! So glad you're here, and I'm looking forward to the next project.
MUGLER WHO??? this dress and the mesh panels and your mood when you're wearing it - all so gorgeous
Wow! You look "drop-dead gorgeous!"
I wish the plumbers had seen it--They would have been speechless.
17:31 YES!!! If you need sleeves later you can make a true bolero jacket. Maybe with some fancies on it. Beading, lace, cutouts, inserts, whatever floats your boat.
22:27 Ahahahaha! Same wavelength.
Hey! Teacher here. I have several students who get really overstimulated by sound. They wear headphones to cut down on the volume of the noise. You may have already thought about or tried this, but I've seen it totally change a student's ability to cope with classroom stress, so I wanted to mention it.
Thanks for a great video!
Wanna take second halfway through this to say i completely get what you mean about sensory issues and overstimulation. Lots of small things that build up can be so much more stressful than the same amount of stress but one that just has one source. Also, thank you for uploading right when i needed to be distracted, one of my fur babies is sick and i just need to wait
I love how you just go off on your whims. You're like "I'm learning so I will try this" and you just try it.
relatable about the loud noises. I had a housemate who would always set me on edge because he slammed car doors, stomped around the house, etc. Making a lot of noise even if he wasn't mad.
Also I LOVE the silhouette of that dress. I'm not much for boob windows but the silhouette without the sleeves is just 😍
22:13 you can use stitch witchery for your seams and hem if the fabric will allow for ironing it.
I. Am. In. Love! I need this dress asap, I just bought the pattern 😂
I hope this is okay, but how do you keep the "girls" in place? It's always a problem for me in low cut dresses like this 😅
The stimulation of wind really is a thing. As a former teacher the children were always a bit more jumpy, boisterous and noisy on windy days
I have hyperacusis and I relate to what you describe. The wind howling always seems like it’s screaming at me, it’s difficult to handle.
If you need tools to handle noise, you can get special earplugs that filter the sound and take the edge off. It doesn’t warp them of make it difficult to have a conversation, they’re almost invisible when worn, and it can change your life. For me they don’t do enough for extreme situations but they help, and I also have noise blocking earmuffs and earplugs. There are several brands, my friends use Loop (they have different models) and I use the Alpine Music Safe. There are others but I didn’t try them.
Great video, I love both dresses (the one you made and the one you wear !)
"I've just been in a weird mood lately" I cannot stress enough how comforting it was to hear that from another adult. I have a bespoke combination of stressors and neurodivergencies that just...gets real odd sometimes. My brain just doesn't quite work sometimes and there's not a whole lot to be done about it other than get a cup of tea and try my best.
Also OMG I too hate yelling, only my brain classifies anything with an angry tone as "yelling", whether the volume is raised or not. This causes problems when I'm trying to describe interpersonal problems to my family members. My ultimate worst sound thing is music from another room when I need it to be quiet because my brain will just latch onto it and I cannot block it out
13:43 you’re speaking on how even the wind has begun to over stimulate you. I’m 28, I have ADHD and low grade autism and I very well understand this feeling of overwhelmed and anxiety. In the past few years I’ve discovered “loops” they are a special type of ear plug with varying decibel ranges for noise clanclation. I’ve found them immensely helpful for allowing me to participate in the day to day without allowing overstimulation. Just something you might wanna give a try. They have allowed me so much freedom and the ability to participate in so many more events and activities that I previously would’ve been incapable.
I've been watching for a while. But I feel this video and all the rollercoaster of it IN MY SOUL!! ALSO, this dress came out SO SO SEXY! GREAT JOB!
Wonderful dress!
Also, for being overwhelmed by the noise, I highly recomment the earplugs usually worn when working with loud engines or stuff like that. It's a life saver for me at least, discreet enough to pass as music earbuds and small enough to be carried in your pocket
23:13 i really wanna make this dress but tea-length, and lace overlaying solid fabric where you put the mesh (bc im not daring enough to show that much of my business lol however this dress looks absolutely STUNNING on you lol good work and a job well done lol 🎉
This dress is so fabulous! I love the ways you've been changing this pattern to suit so many needs and situations. It's so inspiring!
WOW! THAT IS GORGEOUS!!
I love that this pattern is so versatile! It's magical!!
Oh, yeah, WIND. Don't move to Colorado. Here in Southern Colorado, we have 6 weeks of wind in the spring. Not breezes. WIND. 30 MPH at its slowest, predictably from 10 AM to 10 PM. We have the highest self- un-aliving rate in the nation at that time. They (scientists , doctors, politicians) used to speculate that it was either cabin fever or a change in people's ions that caused the spike in un-alivement. I think it's just the constant hell of the wind for twelve hours a day. And when we get a stretch of wind at night -- yeah, not good.
I'm from Kansas and during the pioneer days they talked about prairie madness. People would literally go crazy from the constant wind.
Eh meh gurd!!!!!!!! Stunning, absolutely stunning. And yeah, noise intolerance is very real. And so is creative therapy. Except in my case it's a hook and some yarn
I have a set of walkie talkies that I wish I could lend to your plumbers! Except I fervently hope that they're done by the time I'm watching this. I hate yelling too, and I hope it wasn't too hard to recover from.
ETA: Holy crap, Charlie, you look like a million bucks in this dress!!! You must have totally held your own amidst all the designer dresses, and probably upstaged many of them. ❤❤❤
the sheer godets are so sexy, giving the high slit effect without the actual terror of a high slit 😂 glad you enjoyed making and wearing it!
Creativity is truly the thing that has got me through the worst times of my life. I find that when I can't control my world crumbling down around me, I do well to focus on something I can control - like knitting a cute stuffed animal or sewing a dress that i love. Making things has been what saved my sanity more times than I can count.
Sewing helps my mental health so much that if I’m in a crappy mood around my husband he’ll tell me to go sew for a while so I’m in a better mood. 😊
Fantastic outcome!!! I think the shaping continues to look wonderful and the neckline you went with in the end really suited you and I'm so glad it was comfy too!
And yes the headache + wind + ppl yelling would def make me overwhelmed too!
Beautiful dress, and from your favourite pattern, I can see the endless possibilities from that pattern 👌 I also believe everyone can make something and being creative keeps you sane ❤️
You are fearless. You looked so gorgeous in that dress. Thanks for the suggestion on being creative… it’s a real thing. Thanks for sharing your projects….and puppy… your puppy is the sweetest. ❤
Love your dress. Elegant with a bit of sexiness. AND pockets!!!
“Creativity is a blessing.” - Charlie 🎉❤
My mum's solution for staticky fabric: put a tiny amount of laundry softener on your hands and run them lightly over the fabric. Works every time.
YES. I've even just used hand lotion before in desperate situations, and that also does the trick, but instead of applying it to the fabric, I put it on my legs or hose or arms or whatever bit is being awkwardly clung to.
1 part downy & like 10 parts water. Spray the whole carpet and anything on the house giving you issues.
*sprays down the ugly kitchen cabinets and the wonky shower handle*
It's really becoming too. Not everyone could wear that but you look great in it. For some reason, I want to see it with some fabulous embroidered fabric as a shawl, jacket or bolero. Green with silver? Oh! Blue with silver! Yes. Wait, what? You are an adult who knows what she likes and doesn't have to modify her clothing to suit strangers in the internet? I need more coffee. :D
So amazing and beautiful. Well… that’s YOU AND the dress. 👍
This is (hopefully) too late to be useful for the plumbing, but when i have to stay home with irritating noise I play music through noise cancelling headphones. The bose ones are comfy enough in my experience! I also sympathize with the wind noise affecting your sleep, I used to live around there and it does make it difficult!
Mint tea daily solves much of that kind of mood stuff.
13:45
I clipped your take on how talking about what's causing stress can help you feel better so that i can listen to again when I'm stressed.
French seams are gold when it comes to mesh. The smaller the better. You can use zipper feet or cording feet to get closer, I've heard.
It looks amazing! I love that you made it a halter.
It is gorgeous. I think it could have been nice if the front was solid and you did mesh sleeves with crepe cuffs. Of course that would require having enough of mesh fabric 😂
A narrow strip of rhinestones from jo-ann's trim section would be pretty on the
My favorite dress you’ve designed yet! So beautiful! The halter idea was perfect. I do need to know your undergarment secret for no nip slip though - boob tape?? Or are you just God’s favorite? 😂
That dress looks very comfortable and I love the style.
LOL I totally understand your cringe around loud people. My BF's father has been almost totally deaf since his 20s so communicating with him is loud speaking and now yelling. It's a conversation but yelled. My superior hearing and non-confrontational temperament screams, "Why are you YELLING?!"
If the front V is a bit wider than you would like, you could bring two plackets up either side of the V to add around the neck. You could add black or silver beading to it, too.
This dress is beautiful and you look absolutely incredible in it!
I totally understand the sensory overwhelm, and being creative is such a great way of managing it ❤
I love how the skirt looks opaque while you are still and then transforms to shear as you move. Gorgeous!
This is a showstopper dress! WOW❣️
This is beautiful. Both classy and sassy.
The more I look at your hoody dress 👗you're wearing, the more I want one for myself 😊. I really love 😍 your pale gray and purple dress👗😊.
That's a really cool dress! I loved how when you were standing still you couldn't really see the mesh in the skirt so it was like a fun surprise when you moved. Very cool
Thank you, creativity is a saving grace.
I get the noise thing. I have 4 kids, ages 5 and down. Ear plugs or headphones without music on have really helped me.
And dang it, I declare this is the year I actually use that McCalls pattern. I have a summer dress cut out but now I need an evening dress.