Mark, I am glad you state this happens in church. There is a lack of awareness to behavior modification and really seeking and asking God to soften your heart to encourage and strengthen the body through genuine love. Reason I say this is because of lack of genuine kindness can have some serious negative effect.
Something to keep in mind, regarding Romantic Love; Love is about what you can do for the other person, not how they make you feel for yourself. As for other Relational Love, you need to be willing to receive.
I can testify today that I have overcome the love bombing that I had a very bad situation with it all my life Ty JESUS for freedom I pray blessings for this RUclips channel
🤯😱 this makes sooooo much sense! I’ve always thought there was something wrong with me feeling uncomfortable with the super smothering love my Christian friends give out. Often times, the love was too much too soon and felt disingenuous. Thanks for addressing this, Mark!
Thanks for this Mark. It was eye opening. After getting saved I was naive and jumped headfirst into church life, and ran into a lot of love bombing. Extreme affection, then poof, they vanish. I couldn't figure out what I did wrong. Sadly I started doing it too. After awhile I realized it was dysfunctional and cut it out; I have healthier relationships now. Sometimes I still mess up and go a little too fast, but I'm not nearly as bad as I was. Thanks for reminding me that Peter went through it too, I'm not as crippled with shame now. Appreciate you brother 🙏
Ugh, love bombing. I never knew what that was until about 2013. It feels weird in the moment but then years later I recognized it. He said: "You put a spell on me." I was never comfortable with that statement. It was gross.
Wow..what truth is being shared. Remember.. This describes a trait of narcissism, which if we have the ability to see this about ourselves, we are not Narcissists. That might be most of us..emotionally neglected..get nurtured by our True Father..God can and will heal if we allow snd trust Him.
So good! I appreciate you speaking up on needing sobriety relationally and I wish I would’ve learned these things years ago. My parents were mentally abusive and I never learned proper love. I go to codependency anonymous meetings to try to recover from this very real addiction of codependency (other people, their acceptance of me, etc). I’m finally beginning to see clearly after accepting Jesus 7 years ago but still not understanding my relational struggles. Your books and videos have been a Godsend. My biggest struggle lately (outside of cleaning up the mess of my codependency), is figuring out how to navigate staying in relationship with my parents who are growing older and sicker but are just as unsafe for me as ever. Secular psychology talks a lot about no-contact. I’m trying to clean up my life and it’s taking a lot without even bringing the matter of my parents into the picture, but adding them in creates even more instability in me, though I am trying to not let it be so, they simply have that affect on me based on my lifetime of abuse by them. I would so appreciate a video around this topic if it’s not too much to ask, either way, thanks so much for your ministry!
@@h-o-n-e-y-b hey sis! Just felt to share some things from my walk with the Lord. One thing He convicted me of a couple years ago is the power of the tongue and what we speak over ourselves. I was intrigued by CODA and wanted to give it more of a chance but something I couldn’t bring myself to do was declare that I was codependent or that I was a recovering codependent or whatever. It just made me believe more of the enemies lies that were harming me. Another thing was how much focus there was on trauma. Of course I need to heal and not avoid pain but it almost became the forefront of my focus rather than Jesus and what He did on the cross. He overcame the world so instead of focusing on the hurt or the memories etc I can choose to thank Him for being bigger and greater than those things. So I don’t magnify or minimize the darkness but rather bring it to the light. And another thing was how in CODA and environments like this I was hyper focused on symptoms of trauma like CPTSD etc which also leaves less room for me to accept the truth that Jesus heals and has healed. Of course we need to recognize where we are weak but in that weakness we have the Prince of Peace who is our strength. I’m happy to talk more and thank you for sharing, I pray this blesses you 🙏☺️
Very insightful thank you! I pray that God gives us the Grace and compassion to deal with these things whether in us or others we may have a relationship with🙏🏾
Thank you Mark, I didn't realize how much I needed to hear this today. I didn't even know what it was but I've done it for sure. I just want to know when can we expect to see the love 'bomber jacket' merch? ...incoming!!
Hi Mark My name is Paul.Im from long Island New York. I'm a Christian dealing with High functioning Autism. I struggle with a variety of different challenges. I would really like to see you do a few videos on dealing with autism as a Christian. Thank you for all that you do.your videos make a big difference in my life and walk with Good
Also I m wondering can you also possibly consider touching upon the topic of how to cope with sensory overload/challenges associated with Group home Living . As I feel that this would make a huge difference in the lives of Christians dealing with Autism and Group home Living for someone who is a Christian
Thank you so much please keep me and my suggestions in mind and may God bless you and continue to Prosper you in your Ground breaking ministrie and God bless millisa as well
Love Bombing sounds like the plot to every Lifetime movie I’ve ever seen. lol The example you gave about the man coming up to you after you spoke at a conference, sounds like a personality disorder. Not being mean it’s just weird, but the person is probably just extremely lonely. What is the opposite of love bombíng? I may be on the other side of the spectrum because I tend to be untrusting of people. I tend to push others away. I have severe anxiety and I know no one will understand my situation, so it’s easier to push people away than to take a chance and get rejected. I used to be an over sharer, but learned my lesson!!
I can relate to some of this< Lindsay. For me it is, unfortunately, my seeing narcissism and using others in a sister and brother in Christ. A lot of entitlement. Also I definitely have been guilty of neediness in an unhealthy way
@@margaretgrosskreuz8687 looking back in my my younger years, some of what mark said resonated with me, like the desire to have a rescuer. That was definitely me a few decades back. I didn’t have a close relationship with my family and always felt completely alone, so I had some major neediness going on. Lots of narcissistic and entitled individuals out there for sure.
I also guard myself from others. I come to realize that it is just fear of rejection. I'm introverted and sometimes I feel I have to pretend to be extroverted which is exhausting. I feel like people won't like the real me or the quiet me. So I just stay away from people. I learned that you just have to be yourself. There will be some that will accept you and some won't. It's ok.❤
This video is also SO needed and not easily understood until you’ve seen the ugly side of love bombing. I grew up Mormon and a lot of my family still is and it definitely fed those “highs” to me at a young age where I was becoming addicted to love bombing. It’s so truly harmful to then go on to want to rush all your relationships and need such heightened relational feelings that are just not healthy.
Mark...please help I just want to be able to be free from such thoughts, at least learn to let them pass and accept that i have them if i can't be rid of them outright, but how does anyone do thaf with things as truly beyond abominable as what i have? I can't even be at peace with "knowing i don't want to think this" anymore, since i know what needs to be done i always am in shame and whatnot whenever they pop up or even get worse because i worry about them or don't want to think them...at this point its as if i'm in the same misery i feared at the start where i would just end up willfully wanting this...
Hey man, if you try with all your might to just "get rid of the thoughts" they're gonna keep coming. the pressure needs to be lifted somewhere. I used to think everything was hopeless in this arena but that's a lie. it takes time and work. you clearly do not willfully want these thoughts since they cause such a disturbance. I know what you're going through, it's really tough. I'm praying for you 🤗
Mark, I am glad you state this happens in church. There is a lack of awareness to behavior modification and really seeking and asking God to soften your heart to encourage and strengthen the body through genuine love. Reason I say this is because of lack of genuine kindness can have some serious negative effect.
Something to keep in mind,
regarding Romantic Love;
Love is about what you can do for the other person, not how they make you feel for yourself.
As for other Relational Love, you need to be willing to receive.
I can testify today that I have overcome the love bombing that I had a very bad situation with it all my life Ty JESUS for freedom I pray blessings for this RUclips channel
🤯😱 this makes sooooo much sense! I’ve always thought there was something wrong with me feeling uncomfortable with the super smothering love my Christian friends give out. Often times, the love was too much too soon and felt disingenuous. Thanks for addressing this, Mark!
WOW, Mark, this one was an EYE OPENER for sure! 👀👍
Thanks for this Mark. It was eye opening. After getting saved I was naive and jumped headfirst into church life, and ran into a lot of love bombing. Extreme affection, then poof, they vanish. I couldn't figure out what I did wrong. Sadly I started doing it too. After awhile I realized it was dysfunctional and cut it out; I have healthier relationships now. Sometimes I still mess up and go a little too fast, but I'm not nearly as bad as I was. Thanks for reminding me that Peter went through it too, I'm not as crippled with shame now. Appreciate you brother 🙏
Ugh, love bombing. I never knew what that was until about 2013. It feels weird in the moment but then years later I recognized it. He said: "You put a spell on me." I was never comfortable with that statement. It was gross.
Satan is always rushing us. One we often forget our ignore our instincts.
Wow..what truth is being shared. Remember.. This describes a trait of narcissism, which if we have the ability to see this about ourselves, we are not Narcissists.
That might be most of us..emotionally neglected..get nurtured by our True Father..God can and will heal if we allow snd trust Him.
Seen this happen in my own life, thanks for the awareness Mark
So good! I appreciate you speaking up on needing sobriety relationally and I wish I would’ve learned these things years ago. My parents were mentally abusive and I never learned proper love. I go to codependency anonymous meetings to try to recover from this very real addiction of codependency (other people, their acceptance of me, etc). I’m finally beginning to see clearly after accepting Jesus 7 years ago but still not understanding my relational struggles. Your books and videos have been a Godsend. My biggest struggle lately (outside of cleaning up the mess of my codependency), is figuring out how to navigate staying in relationship with my parents who are growing older and sicker but are just as unsafe for me as ever. Secular psychology talks a lot about no-contact. I’m trying to clean up my life and it’s taking a lot without even bringing the matter of my parents into the picture, but adding them in creates even more instability in me, though I am trying to not let it be so, they simply have that affect on me based on my lifetime of abuse by them. I would so appreciate a video around this topic if it’s not too much to ask, either way, thanks so much for your ministry!
@@h-o-n-e-y-b hey sis! Just felt to share some things from my walk with the Lord. One thing He convicted me of a couple years ago is the power of the tongue and what we speak over ourselves. I was intrigued by CODA and wanted to give it more of a chance but something I couldn’t bring myself to do was declare that I was codependent or that I was a recovering codependent or whatever. It just made me believe more of the enemies lies that were harming me. Another thing was how much focus there was on trauma. Of course I need to heal and not avoid pain but it almost became the forefront of my focus rather than Jesus and what He did on the cross. He overcame the world so instead of focusing on the hurt or the memories etc I can choose to thank Him for being bigger and greater than those things. So I don’t magnify or minimize the darkness but rather bring it to the light. And another thing was how in CODA and environments like this I was hyper focused on symptoms of trauma like CPTSD etc which also leaves less room for me to accept the truth that Jesus heals and has healed. Of course we need to recognize where we are weak but in that weakness we have the Prince of Peace who is our strength. I’m happy to talk more and thank you for sharing, I pray this blesses you 🙏☺️
So wise that you realized you had to reparent yourself. God bless you, continually.
@marcydelgenio8169 you too sweet friend 🙏
Very insightful thank you! I pray that God gives us the Grace and compassion to deal with these things whether in us or others we may have a relationship with🙏🏾
never seen it broken down like this. Such a great video, brother!
Thank you Mark, I didn't realize how much I needed to hear this today. I didn't even know what it was but I've done it for sure. I just want to know when can we expect to see the love 'bomber jacket' merch? ...incoming!!
I wish I heard this earlier. But it’s good for my understanding and learning of what happened
I got another guy thinking about the afterlife today. Thank you for your encouragement
You nailed it right on the head. Needed this teaching. Thank you, Mark, as always.
Hi Mark My name is Paul.Im from long Island New York.
I'm a Christian dealing with High functioning Autism. I struggle with a variety of different challenges. I would really like to see you do a few videos on dealing with autism as a Christian. Thank you for all that you do.your videos make a big difference in my life and walk with Good
Also I m wondering can you also possibly consider touching upon the topic of how to cope with sensory overload/challenges associated with Group home Living . As I feel that this would make a huge difference in the lives of Christians dealing with Autism and Group home Living for someone who is a Christian
Thank you so much please keep me and my suggestions in mind and may God bless you and continue to Prosper you in your Ground breaking ministrie and God bless millisa as well
Love Bombing sounds like the plot to every Lifetime movie I’ve ever seen. lol The example you gave about the man coming up to you after you spoke at a conference, sounds like a personality disorder. Not being mean it’s just weird, but the person is probably just extremely lonely.
What is the opposite of love bombíng?
I may be on the other side of the spectrum because I tend to be untrusting of people. I tend to push others away. I have severe anxiety and I know no one will understand my situation, so it’s easier to push people away than to take a chance and get rejected. I used to be an over sharer, but learned my lesson!!
I can relate to some of this< Lindsay.
For me it is, unfortunately, my seeing narcissism and using others in a sister and brother in Christ. A lot of entitlement.
Also I definitely have been guilty of neediness in an unhealthy way
@@margaretgrosskreuz8687 looking back in my my younger years, some of what mark said resonated with me, like the desire to have a rescuer. That was definitely me a few decades back. I didn’t have a close relationship with my family and always felt completely alone, so I had some major neediness going on. Lots of narcissistic and entitled individuals out there for sure.
I also guard myself from others. I come to realize that it is just fear of rejection. I'm introverted and sometimes I feel I have to pretend to be extroverted which is exhausting. I feel like people won't like the real me or the quiet me. So I just stay away from people. I learned that you just have to be yourself. There will be some that will accept you and some won't. It's ok.❤
My goodness I’ve done a few of these things. Thanks Mark for the good word 🙏
This video is also SO needed and not easily understood until you’ve seen the ugly side of love bombing. I grew up Mormon and a lot of my family still is and it definitely fed those “highs” to me at a young age where I was becoming addicted to love bombing. It’s so truly harmful to then go on to want to rush all your relationships and need such heightened relational feelings that are just not healthy.
I grew up Mormon as well..I hear you. 100%.
Wow,Thank You!
Mark can you please talk about the topic of not being ashamed of the gospel because I feel like ashamed and when I try to fix I get into to compulsion
Thank you for your sharing Mark ,,,,, Appreciated ✈️🪂
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Dude, like everything you say
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Mark...please help
I just want to be able to be free from such thoughts, at least learn to let them pass and accept that i have them if i can't be rid of them outright, but how does anyone do thaf with things as truly beyond abominable as what i have?
I can't even be at peace with "knowing i don't want to think this" anymore, since i know what needs to be done i always am in shame and whatnot whenever they pop up or even get worse because i worry about them or don't want to think them...at this point its as if i'm in the same misery i feared at the start where i would just end up willfully wanting this...
Hey man, if you try with all your might to just "get rid of the thoughts" they're gonna keep coming. the pressure needs to be lifted somewhere. I used to think everything was hopeless in this arena but that's a lie. it takes time and work. you clearly do not willfully want these thoughts since they cause such a disturbance. I know what you're going through, it's really tough. I'm praying for you 🤗
@@Swagu33 what do you mean"put the energy elsewhere"
@@jabre7761 I didn't say that in my comment 😅
Wait, you aren't who I want you to be Mark. Dang it. I thought you ere just a robot.