Bruh... That dude is almost 100% me -_- The main reason I tried some dating apps is that they're supposed to help you find people who are into the same shit as you are. And given my limited interests and the fact that I actually really want to have shared interests with my partner, I thought it was a good idea. From my personal experience, I can say that it isn't, lol.
That's a risk you take when you approach women. If you're hot, they think you approaching them is cute and desirable. If you're ugly, then they just think you're creepy. FeelsBadMan
she is right on many things like don't do datings apps, be outside and not just at home, frequent places and have places you regularly go to outside, use things that makes you attractive like good clothes and good hygiene and perfume, like dress up a bit, but as a guy you are the one who has to initially flirt with a girl and the secret to that is just to not be too invested, like it's easier to flirt with a girl you aren't really that into because you don't care if it goes well or not, that's really the big trick to flirting.
Ask yourself a pretty important question then. What do you like? What do you like to do? See? Partake in? After you got an answer just find a place that does that and go there. If you have nothing, you got much bigger problems in your hands.
I met my GF of four years through my online dungeons and dragons group. It started with me discussing about the name of her characters bird, which had the same name as a character from a book series I liked. We talked more and more to the point where I felt I could confide everything to her. Eventually she asked me if I liked her. I'd never had a girl (least of all a woman) ask me that before but I knew the answer was yes. We then started dating online which resulted in her flying down to where I lived for a week so we could meet in-person. That week of her visiting was easily the best I'd ever had in my life and it hurt me to my soul to see her off to the airport at the end of it. She then told me that week was all that she needed to know who I was and that she planned on moving to where I was in order to be with me. Doing the things that you like to do and making yourself a little more sociable in those things can lead to you meeting people who are special to you.
Yes you should become confident in yourself and overall become the best version of yourself but do NOT EXPECT it to change your luck w women. Too many guys will think if they become confident it’s a 100% guarantee they’ll finally get laid but the truth is sometimes it unfortunately might not happen as soon as they expect. Looks still do matter. But you still should work on yourselves so you can have multiple different sources of happiness because making getting laid your sole source is what leads you down to feeling lonely & bitter.
This is generally good advice for women or fem presenting people, but if you're a guy you need to do all that while learning how to approach people in socially acceptable ways. If you're a guy it's not likely that you're going to trip and fall into a relationship unless you're really lucky, even if you're good looking
I mean I get dates on dating apps. Main issue is that you aren’t normally getting the most stable people because most women don’t use them. So the type that do aren’t always the happiest
Lies, i've been a regular in a local gym for more than a year now, and not a single soul apart from the recepcionist has ever talked to me, or even as much as glanced in my direction, and i do wear cologne, keep my hair and beard trimmed, and i shower everyday.
Basic hygine will get you surprisingly far. Literally just shower, wear deodorant, groom yourself, and wear a decent cologne. Itll get you so far because a lot of people dont do that.
Anyone that needs to be told basic stuff like bathe themselves has zero shot of at a healthy relationship. There's something broken inside when that isn't a default course of action.
Well then you start doing more since those things are kinda the bare minimum. The real mistake people make is not putting themselves in enough coed situations where dating is acceptable. You can’t be an engineer working with all dudes then go home and play video games then be surprised you haven’t met anyone yknow.
@@badart3204 can’t expect stuff to just happen immediately either, look at the activities she talked about as something to treat yourself not just dating.
Make an effort to make yourself look better than you feel you are, and in time you notice that grooming has become a habit and you actually are that person you thought you weren't.
This is ok advice. Dating apps are awful, don't use them. They're designed to keep you swiping until you get desperate enough to buy their "premium features". The gym is a place to exercise. Don't bother people by trying to flirt with them. One method I don't hear often is to have a family member, or friend, match-make for you. You might not be initially attracted to whoever you're matched with but that person would be vetted. So you know that they are genuine.
Moth girl actually makes good points.
Listen to her, guys.
She is right about dating apps. They are completly useless and just money makers.
Bruh... That dude is almost 100% me -_-
The main reason I tried some dating apps is that they're supposed to help you find people who are into the same shit as you are. And given my limited interests and the fact that I actually really want to have shared interests with my partner, I thought it was a good idea.
From my personal experience, I can say that it isn't, lol.
instructions unclear, she called the police when I tried talking to her
That's a risk you take when you approach women. If you're hot, they think you approaching them is cute and desirable. If you're ugly, then they just think you're creepy. FeelsBadMan
she is right on many things like don't do datings apps, be outside and not just at home, frequent places and have places you regularly go to outside, use things that makes you attractive like good clothes and good hygiene and perfume, like dress up a bit, but as a guy you are the one who has to initially flirt with a girl and the secret to that is just to not be too invested, like it's easier to flirt with a girl you aren't really that into because you don't care if it goes well or not, that's really the big trick to flirting.
Of all human behaviours ,flirting is one of the most stupid ones
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@@baxter22071990 for men it is because it's really contradictory and not at all what the movies tries to teach men.
Pretty good advice, especially from someone so maidenless
My problem is i dont know how to meet people cuz i dont like going anywhere
Ask yourself a pretty important question then.
What do you like?
What do you like to do? See? Partake in?
After you got an answer just find a place that does that and go there.
If you have nothing, you got much bigger problems in your hands.
how the 0% wife giving advice
I met my GF of four years through my online dungeons and dragons group. It started with me discussing about the name of her characters bird, which had the same name as a character from a book series I liked. We talked more and more to the point where I felt I could confide everything to her. Eventually she asked me if I liked her. I'd never had a girl (least of all a woman) ask me that before but I knew the answer was yes. We then started dating online which resulted in her flying down to where I lived for a week so we could meet in-person. That week of her visiting was easily the best I'd ever had in my life and it hurt me to my soul to see her off to the airport at the end of it. She then told me that week was all that she needed to know who I was and that she planned on moving to where I was in order to be with me.
Doing the things that you like to do and making yourself a little more sociable in those things can lead to you meeting people who are special to you.
Yes you should become confident in yourself and overall become the best version of yourself but do NOT EXPECT it to change your luck w women. Too many guys will think if they become confident it’s a 100% guarantee they’ll finally get laid but the truth is sometimes it unfortunately might not happen as soon as they expect. Looks still do matter. But you still should work on yourselves so you can have multiple different sources of happiness because making getting laid your sole source is what leads you down to feeling lonely & bitter.
Considering her past not sure i want dating advice from her
One drink every time she says "like".
It will be as deadly as russian roulette.
Don’t ask the fish how to catch them, ask the fisherman
This is generally good advice for women or fem presenting people, but if you're a guy you need to do all that while learning how to approach people in socially acceptable ways.
If you're a guy it's not likely that you're going to trip and fall into a relationship unless you're really lucky, even if you're good looking
I mean I get dates on dating apps. Main issue is that you aren’t normally getting the most stable people because most women don’t use them. So the type that do aren’t always the happiest
gravitate towards you? isnt that only for females?
It happens to both men and women, its just more common with females.
Lies, i've been a regular in a local gym for more than a year now, and not a single soul apart from the recepcionist has ever talked to me, or even as much as glanced in my direction, and i do wear cologne, keep my hair and beard trimmed, and i shower everyday.
go outside?
Cant wait for tomboy gardy
Basic hygine will get you surprisingly far. Literally just shower, wear deodorant, groom yourself, and wear a decent cologne. Itll get you so far because a lot of people dont do that.
The bar is low now, so it is easy to exceed it.
Anyone that needs to be told basic stuff like bathe themselves has zero shot of at a healthy relationship. There's something broken inside when that isn't a default course of action.
And when that doesn't work?
Then shave your head and become a monk
Then don't be celibate and make it involuntary.
Well then you start doing more since those things are kinda the bare minimum. The real mistake people make is not putting themselves in enough coed situations where dating is acceptable. You can’t be an engineer working with all dudes then go home and play video games then be surprised you haven’t met anyone yknow.
@@badart3204 can’t expect stuff to just happen immediately either, look at the activities she talked about as something to treat yourself not just dating.
Buy a fleshlight or go to a brothel. Same end result and you save a lot of money in the long run.
Fake what til you make what?
Everything. Confidence, especially
Make an effort to make yourself look better than you feel you are, and in time you notice that grooming has become a habit and you actually are that person you thought you weren't.
Might not be in the cards for me, tbh but if i hang in there, maybe I'll get the cards I need.@@jamesbernadette6216
Confidence.
If you are not confident in yourself, fake it. At some point, you will start to feel confident in yourself.
Everything huh? So what's Everything? I'd like to know your opinion.@@jacobsheets2540
This is ok advice.
Dating apps are awful, don't use them. They're designed to keep you swiping until you get desperate enough to buy their "premium features".
The gym is a place to exercise. Don't bother people by trying to flirt with them.
One method I don't hear often is to have a family member, or friend, match-make for you. You might not be initially attracted to whoever you're matched with but that person would be vetted. So you know that they are genuine.