Im 58 years old, I started avoiding negative people 10 years ago and I am better for it.I have my family, children my wife and my friends and some business associates. That’s all I want, because everyday I am happy.
7 дней назад
Another tip: never join anything. There are narcisists in group gathering who want to control others. We are not involved in community or group activities.
People was telling me, that I am anti social, but this video explain it better. My time is special to me, and I am living the last 1/3 of my life, I have given / lived the other 2/3 for them. I want to be a peace and enjoy the treasures of life that god has given to me
I just turned 70 and I been blocked some people out on phone or visit I'm single and enjoy my last days that the lord Jesus Christ have for me I don't around just anywhere
7 дней назад
@@johnrobinson4281 I deleted "iffy" friends online, no longer answer certain emails. Some friendships fizzle over time.
6 дней назад
@@johnrobinson4281 Some people had to be blocked recently, no longer important to my current activities/interests. I hate phone chatting also.
That is so True 👍. I have told my daughter to choose who you invite or have around you very Carefully! One person that definitely needs to hear all of the ones mentioned, is my HUSBAND, he can't say NOOO!!
Good advice, since retiring I avoid certain people more incl siblings. Some thrive on gossip and trivia. Best to be unavailable, not answering calls, messages. I no longer travel far off. I church online and will not join any group or organization, they accomplish nothing. Me and hubby keep to ourselves. Casual talk with aquaintence: best to keep it brief.
While I understand wanting peace, have you considered that complete isolation might not be healthy. Maybe finding a balance between solitude and meaningful connections could be worth exploring? 🤔
That sounds like a peaceful and intentional way to live Prioritizing your well-being is so important What’s one thing you and your hubby enjoy doing together the most
Unfortunately learnt this too late...now 65yrs and recently realized this.,,amazing how people who took u for granted will make comments like 'you hiding or you're cooped up in your flat when they realize you're avoiding them...I've replied that l value my peace and my home is my happy place...my sanctuary...❤😂
I never go visit ANYONE without an invitation. And even then l sometimes don't go if it's just an obligational invite. I can feel when it's just a "let's get this out of the way" type invite.
People today are glued to computers, I rarely see people interacting in this retirement community. Some watch TV all day/leave it running all the time.
@@BrianHolmes-b9mI agree 💯. Not watching constant “ breaking news “ of this good for nothing fellow is a waste of time n energy. I also don’t go to anyone’s house including my children without invitation. I love nature, go to park, go for hike, go to gym.. read up on how to stay healthy n fit.
@@penman1289 No one needs people coming over unless invited. We have computers and streaming services on TV to watch. Mindless chit chat is not what some of us want.
this is helpful to me, because I've been feeling guilty about leaving a bad friendship from childhood. And also guilty about wanting to wait for a good friendship, instead of forcing myself to be out there joining things that I have little interest in.
You’re not alone in feeling that way Choosing quality over quantity in friendships is a form of self-care Have you noticed more peace since letting go of that old friendship
6 дней назад+1
@@YourHealthyLifePath Some old friendships get stale when interests change, same goes for siblings or cousins in retirement. For example I am not into spectator sports or large gatherings.
Ive lived alone for 25 years. I love it. And i learned to say "NO". NEIGHBORS want to come over on the pretence to visit but they just want to dump their troubles/garbage on you. It makes them feel better but you end up with their bad energy and feel Burden.
After growing up in a large dis functional family and constantly arguing and back biting my siblings while outwardly portraying affection for betrayal negatively about me and narsistic behaviour of my parents and self serving manipulative behaviour I learned to distance myself from my siblings and my parents and friends who were two faced and gossip mongers who sadly were tolerated by my kindness to free childcare and being their when they wanted me for something they borrowed to never return what they had borrowed to never see them unless they needed me again. I decided to cut ties to my own self worth and self peace to the point where I was able to be happy with my own self esteem was badly damaged and affected by my own family members.
A beautiful video.I am 76years of age.Could find certain tips or advice,or suggestions to follow which will definitely change the way the leftover life is lived.Really good Video worth sharing.
#2 really hits home. Has for many years prior to being elderly. Always was this way. They are ticked off that I don't want to see them anymore, but that's just too bad. Life is a lot better without them.
Where do you find positive,careing people when you are long time house bound & painfully disabled & dumped on by every one because you can’t do what they used you for in the past? 🙏
I've actually made friends on facebook. You can reach out to all of your past friends, too. Maybe join a church or other organization and ask for visits?
6 дней назад
I know several like that, few visits form family even. Several have dogs or cats.
*😎🇮🇳✝️ After retirement or 60 years, stay at home and enjoy your life reading God's word. Pray for others in need. Spend your time and money wisely. Avoid travelling. Attend phone calls whom you know well. Avoid lending money. 💐👍🙏*
If they ask you to lend money, pretend you don’t have much money or you are broke. Avoid the users.
7 дней назад
I travelled when younger, some people couldn't then for various reasons. If people want to travel and have the means that is their choice. I chose not to at my age.
I want to share the Islamic culture and how Muslims treat elderly people who are given much respect and are shown hospitality even if they are not members of the family. Muslims do not believe in sending their elderly parents to Caring Homes. The elderly when visiting any Muslim homes are greeted with a kiss on the head and spend the evening giving good advice and life-related experiences. If someone or even strangers try to misbehave, people always stop it. There is a lot to say on the topic and I am sure, hospitality to the Elders is also given in other cultures.
If,not impossible it is very rare to find such a situation.Hence the advice seems to be impractical.In old age one should lead a spiritual life."Know thyself" "Self realisation is essential before God realisation."
I knew a person who would give a fraction of what someone came to borrow. He would add that it was a donation . Then he would tell the surprised onlookers that he had SAVED the unlent amount, as the borrower would have never repaid the borrowed amount.
6 дней назад
Best not to loan stuff out esp. money. People told me they never got repayed and person avoided them. I said "tell them to go to the bank".
How to find such place which you have mentioned you have to compromise to some extent
6 дней назад
Cutting ties with others no longer compatible or suitable, etc is easier than ever. It's called blocking, changing your number or just simply avoiding them. People outgrow others over time in most cases when interests change..
This write up doesn’t fit in everyone’s life….. Alhumdulillah for the Faith in One& only God …..and in All His Messengers His countless blessings….in this world & hopes…..happiness in forever peaceful abode after I leave this temporarily world.اللهم آتنا فى الدنيا حسنة وفى الاخرة حسنة وقنا عذاب النار آمين
I think these tips are not only for the elderly but also very reasonable for the young generation.
I was thinking on the same line and I was about to write that comment. But I saw your comment topping the comment section. Well done!
The young think that friendships are everything. It is a natural process.
Im 58 years old, I started avoiding negative people 10 years ago and I am better for it.I have my family, children my wife and my friends and some business associates. That’s all I want, because everyday I am happy.
Another tip: never join anything. There are narcisists in group gathering who want to control others. We are not involved in community or group activities.
People was telling me, that I am anti social, but this video explain it better. My time is special to me, and I am living the last 1/3 of my life, I have given / lived the other 2/3 for them. I want to be a peace and enjoy the treasures of life that god has given to me
That’s a beautiful mindset Protecting your peace is so important What’s one treasure of life you’re enjoying the most right now
@ spending time talking with God, don’t laugh, a regular conversation, when I am alone with myself. Talking out loud
I just turned 70 and I been blocked some people out on phone or visit I'm single and enjoy my last days that the lord Jesus Christ have for me I don't around just anywhere
@@johnrobinson4281 I deleted "iffy" friends online, no longer answer certain emails. Some friendships fizzle over time.
@@johnrobinson4281 Some people had to be blocked recently, no longer important to my current activities/interests. I hate phone chatting also.
This is a 💎 gem of information and guidance for the seniors and people in general.
These rules are not just for seniors but for all people of all ages.
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Exactly🔥🔥🔥
That is so True 👍. I have told my daughter to choose who you invite or have around you very Carefully! One person that definitely needs to hear all of the ones mentioned, is my HUSBAND, he can't say NOOO!!
yes sir veerry true
Yes! Very True
Good advice, since retiring I avoid certain people more incl siblings. Some thrive on gossip and trivia. Best to be unavailable, not answering calls, messages. I no longer travel far off. I church online and will not join any group or organization, they accomplish nothing. Me and hubby keep to ourselves. Casual talk with aquaintence: best to keep it brief.
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While I understand wanting peace, have you considered that complete isolation might not be healthy. Maybe finding a balance between solitude and meaningful connections could be worth exploring? 🤔
That sounds like a peaceful and intentional way to live Prioritizing your well-being is so important What’s one thing you and your hubby enjoy doing together the most
Slightly drastic, but I can understand the tendency 🙏🏼
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Unfortunately learnt this too late...now 65yrs and recently realized this.,,amazing how people who took u for granted will make comments like 'you hiding or you're cooped up in your flat when they realize you're avoiding them...I've replied that l value my peace and my home is my happy place...my sanctuary...❤😂
I learned this. I stay home where i can control what gies on.
"You have a remarkable ability to understand life's deeper truths."
I never go visit ANYONE without an invitation. And even then l sometimes don't go if it's just an obligational invite. I can feel when it's just a "let's get this out of the way" type invite.
Yes i think so
People today are glued to computers, I rarely see people interacting in this retirement community. Some watch TV all day/leave it running all the time.
I quit watching tv since trump first campaign and I found so relaxing . Never go back to watching tv.
@@BrianHolmes-b9mI agree 💯. Not watching constant “ breaking news “ of this good for nothing fellow is a waste of time n energy.
I also don’t go to anyone’s house including my children without invitation.
I love nature, go to park, go for hike, go to gym.. read up on how to stay healthy n fit.
Bla, bla, bla...I just want to be left alone. I don't want people to come over. I have been praying for peace. I just want to be alone.
Was you this miserable when you were young.
@@penman1289 No one needs people coming over unless invited. We have computers and streaming services on TV to watch. Mindless chit chat is not what some of us want.
What's your point
I have my wife and Doberman at 77 a limited time left with them a very high comfort zone . Very Blessed either one of them can take out most anyone ☀️
DITTO !
I don't visit anyone. My peace and quiet is important to me. I don't welcome visitors. I love my own company and spending time with my Savior.
I have basically given up on humanity (few exceptions).
I love my own too
Very very true😊
He who loves the world, loves not the father.
Thanks a lot for this advice..at 88 still traveling with my children but with your advice thanks for enlightening my mind .
The reverse is also true. Don’t welcome toxic people, people that are selfish, people that indulge in backbiting.
This video I would like to repeat often for my nourishment of my mind and soul.Thank you.
I'm always impressed by how much thought and detail goes into each video. Keep inspiring us!
I took it to my heart,mind, body, and soul.thank u so very much.much love 🥰💜👍🙏🏻💯💯💯
Keep yourself stress free for we have worked and done what we needed to do. We are now waiting and watching for the Almighty
Yes Thank you God Amen
this is helpful to me, because I've been feeling guilty about leaving a bad friendship from childhood. And also guilty about wanting to wait for a good friendship, instead of forcing myself to be out there joining things that I have little interest in.
You’re not alone in feeling that way Choosing quality over quantity in friendships is a form of self-care Have you noticed more peace since letting go of that old friendship
@@YourHealthyLifePath Some old friendships get stale when interests change, same goes for siblings or cousins in retirement. For example I am not into spectator sports or large gatherings.
Ive lived alone for 25 years. I love it. And i learned to say "NO". NEIGHBORS want to come over on the pretence to visit but they just want to dump their troubles/garbage on you. It makes them feel better but you end up with their bad energy and feel Burden.
Excellent advice.
As I age, I am much less likely to allow people to disrespect and/or use me.
Been there.
Done that.
Not fun.
Very very precious pieces of information that should be applied in true spirit
After growing up in a large dis functional family and constantly arguing and back biting my siblings while outwardly portraying affection for betrayal negatively about me and narsistic behaviour of my parents and self serving manipulative behaviour I learned to distance myself from my siblings and my parents and friends who were two faced and gossip mongers who sadly were tolerated by my kindness to free childcare and being their when they wanted me for something they borrowed to never return what they had borrowed to never see them unless they needed me again. I decided to cut ties to my own self worth and self peace to the point where I was able to be happy with my own self esteem was badly damaged and affected by my own family members.
A beautiful video.I am 76years of age.Could find certain tips or advice,or suggestions to follow which will definitely change the way the leftover life is lived.Really good Video worth sharing.
Excellent piece of advice
Brilliant advice & oh,how so true! 🙏
Valuable advice. It certainly resonates with me.
#2 really hits home. Has for many years prior to being elderly. Always was this way. They are ticked off that I don't want to see them anymore, but that's just too bad. Life is a lot better without them.
Useful advice. Worth following.
Spot on!
Yes, very useful message.
Well explained and that's goes for toxic family members too
Amen to everything in this video
Where do you find positive,careing people when you are long time house bound & painfully disabled & dumped on by every one because you can’t do what they used you for in the past? 🙏
I've actually made friends on facebook. You can reach out to all of your past friends, too. Maybe join a church or other organization and ask for visits?
I know several like that, few visits form family even. Several have dogs or cats.
Very precious informations ? Thank you so much ..
Good Advice. Thank you.
I am from Yangon. Burma
Very good advise.
Thanks.
*😎🇮🇳✝️ After retirement or 60 years, stay at home and enjoy your life reading God's word. Pray for others in need. Spend your time and money wisely. Avoid travelling. Attend phone calls whom you know well. Avoid lending money. 💐👍🙏*
If they ask you to lend money, pretend you don’t have much money or you are broke. Avoid the users.
I travelled when younger, some people couldn't then for various reasons. If people want to travel and have the means that is their choice. I chose not to at my age.
I want to share the Islamic culture and how Muslims treat elderly people who are given much respect and are shown hospitality even if they are not members of the family. Muslims do not believe in sending their elderly parents to Caring Homes. The elderly when visiting any Muslim homes are greeted with a kiss on the head and spend the evening giving good advice and life-related experiences. If someone or even strangers try to misbehave, people always stop it. There is a lot to say on the topic and I am sure, hospitality to the Elders is also given in other cultures.
I think I am sailing in the same BOAT 😮😮
Thanks!
True... well said 😊
Goodpiece❤Thanks
Good advice.
Thanks,good Advise.Worth Following.
Beautiful. But easier said than done
True real❤️😅❤️😅
Shared it!
Right, that’s me staying at home with my dog then.
Thanks for sharing valuable informations
This is the way I feel about America with Trump in office.
I never visit my neighbors because they party all night. I’m really frustrated with people like that.
I never visit my neighbors 'cuz they're alcoholic idiots who love to gossip,
and are NOT capable of minding their own damn business.
Good advice
You just described the home I live in.
If,not impossible it is very rare to find such a situation.Hence the advice seems to be impractical.In old age one should lead a spiritual life."Know thyself" "Self realisation is essential before God realisation."
Very nice
Excellent
Good info. But one should not get isolated particularly a widow / widower who has nobody at home to speak or listen to.
We use computers and phones to communicate or eat out occasionally. Some would rather listen to TV news or play music than have people over.
Good One
We want to D/LOAD, HOW?
Very nice message..🙏👍
I knew a person who would give a fraction of what someone came to borrow. He would add that it was a donation . Then he would tell the surprised onlookers that he had SAVED the unlent amount, as the borrower would have never repaid the borrowed amount.
Best not to loan stuff out esp. money. People told me they never got repayed and person avoided them. I said "tell them to go to the bank".
Really helpful advice, thank you for all this knowledge, admirable !
May be simplified!
That's an interesting point I'm curious who’s on the list and why What’s the most surprising one
Very hoy msg
I feel comfortable alone in my house never have urge to visit anyone.
Avoid mean or unwelcoming people. I find I don't like going much anywhere. The people who enjoy me are my cats.
How to find such place which you have mentioned you have to compromise to some extent
Cutting ties with others no longer compatible or suitable, etc is easier than ever. It's called blocking, changing your number or just simply avoiding them. People outgrow others over time in most cases when interests change..
Soo true
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Is it all about me ?
In the End the Medical Community Will have their way with Us ! 👴
I promise I wont
This write up doesn’t fit in everyone’s life….. Alhumdulillah for the Faith in One& only God …..and in All His Messengers His countless blessings….in this world & hopes…..happiness in forever peaceful abode after I leave this temporarily world.اللهم آتنا فى الدنيا حسنة وفى الاخرة حسنة وقنا عذاب النار آمين
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