I am NOT my dyslexia, I am NOT my hayfever, I am NOT depression, I am NOT anxiety, I am NOT conditions, I AM ME, I have struggled (and struggling) with these, but they DO NOT define who I am. Julia, I have watched alot of your videos and I just wanted to say thank you.
No you are NOT! You are you. I love this baelathlas. Thanks so much for taking the time to share you kind words - it's people like you that are making the world a better, more loving place.
I appreciate this. I'm living with HIV (and depression), and often hear people say "I'm HIV" to which I usually respond "then you're the biggest virus I've ever seen!" We DO tend as humans to affiliate ourselves with our diagnoses and forget that we are whole people...thanks
And in my language [Polish] we can only say "I have depression". It's quite a serious word. Usually if you admit it, people will treat you like a total wacko...
But how do you know? It affects every second of my life. I choose my clothes based by my depression. I am not depression, but I am depressed. There is a difference. I understand that people usually have trouble distinguishing the two, but I can. I am not my depression, I am not my anxiety. However, I am depressed, I am anxious.
You are experiencing depression. You are struggling with depression. But you are not defined as depression. Believe it or not, there is more to you than that. You may not see it through the dark cloud of depression, but there is. Maybe we are playing with semantics, but the words we chose do have an impact on our psyche for better, or for worse. And if you find it helpful and empowering to define yourself as depressed or anxious or both, then I totally support that. If it's working for you, great! If it's not, it's okay to be open to something different.
Hi Julia Kristina, I just recently started following this channel, and I wanted to say that this video was really well timed. My best friend was telling me earlier today that as bad as depression can get, it doesn't define me, and here you are saying exactly the same. I guess I just needed to hear outside perspectives. Thanks so much for putting this out there!
Wow! That's really powerful Andrew. And yes, sometimes we need to hear the same thing 2 or 3 times before we start taking it seriously. I'm so grateful you found this one helpful.
Thank you. But the message, even though you explained it, is still fuel for my depression at least. This feeds the thought "I have no reason to complain. I dont nees to struggle. I shouldnt be depressed." Thank you for the video still. It is nice to listen to when im not toxic.
Bravo beautiful lady. At first I thought wow you have lots of courage to say that out loud but you hit the nail on the head with that and spoke absolute truth. We have a joke in the family when someone says "I'm hungry " we respond with "hi hungry". Like they are introducing themselves as hungry. What a laugh. I will take what you said on board and encourage those around me to change their language and see it from this angle. Thank you. Would love to chat more about this and your perspectives. I feel I'm on the same path when watching your videos
Same as my little girl who has dyslexia.. I don't like when people say she's dyslexic.. I'm like no..shes Elliott and has Dyslexia. And I'm Carri, and suffer for depression a lot of the time. Thank You
I agree with you wholeheartedly!!! I have always had a problem with labels being put on people as though they were the symptom. like, "oh, he's just a drug addict." NO, he is a PERSON with a drug addiction problem!!! Big difference in my mind and I really would like to see more people learn to change their thinking on this. Thanks for the video and keep up the good work.
Thank you Julia, for sometime now and particuarly last year I thought that I was going through depression. I know now thanks to my counselor, family, friends, and you that I'm not depressed and that is not the real me. There is no specific date of when I will be healed but all I know is that I need to take it one day at a time and focus on the present. And when I feel thoughts of happiness and joy that is the real me.
I've been struggling with depression for a few days now, but I managed to pull through it recently. It was this thought here that I think helped me get through it, and will help me not suffer as bad the next time. Thank you, Julia.
I love this reality check! Language really DOES matter! I don't suffer from depression myself, but this video has been so helpful at giving me some solid understanding and supportive talking points when talking with friends or colleagues who are suffering from depression.
sure that this is precious! cause it relates also to my idea that all those symptoms like depression/burn out etc,.. are NORMAL in a society based on the fulfilment of general ideas of TO BE OK..and to this we have to add the stress on the job related to the business market system..it is normal we FEEL depressed/down or in burn out! we have to find the way to GET RID OF STRESS..cause for sure we will take it in..but the point is how to structure and healthy routing to daily get rid of it! Thank you DOctressse for your insight!! You are a star!!!
my wife has depression we have been together for 5 years and we have a lil girl I try so hard to help she goes to therapy and take meds it's so hard to see and live with but I won't give up on her
I am in an earlier stage of recovery and it helps me to accept that this is part of me, but it is also made me hopeless that it will pass. I have the same relationship with my back pain.
Good point is that language choice matters as it frames the situation in a certain way. Would prefer to say "struggling but staying positive and taking necessary steps to make things better" rather than "Oh so depressing" or "I am semi depressed" etc etc
I wish you are my therapist 😭 have seen psychologist couple times, the last one is making me feel even more worst 😢 she said I'm not being grateful enough and should not feel this way. And also pray to god a lot more. Well lady, I also know that for years. I pray countless of times but I still strugling with depression
Thank you for this video. I think it's really helpful to be able to separate me and it, because then it's easier to fight. Like if i wake up and feel miserable and don't wanna get out of bed it helps to externalize my feelings and say that's just my depression because then I can fight it and carry on (well sometimes...)
Absolutely Jane. You can even ask yourself when you don't want to get out of bed: "What words is depression using to try to hold me back and derail my day right now?"
I agree with you. But I’ve never thought that I’m depressed. I only say to people that I have a depression. Some people think that this is a laughing matter and that makes me angry, but I don’t show it. 😞 Instead of it, I laugh uncomfortably
Really good video, Julia! I think this is one of the problems that keeps the stigma of mental illness going. Our illness becomes our identity. We don't say to someone dealing with a physical disease that they are cancered, or COPD. But we put that label on those with mental illness for some reason.
I know Leslie - and it's not good. And the thing is, we also put those label on ourselves. When we are struggling with mental illness, we often stigmatize ourselves, so when others do it too, can we really be so surprised? As the saying goes: Change starts with me - If I want others to change their language and perception, I need to be willing to do the same.
Thanxs a Million for the very clear distinction on this Thanks for your very valuable insight and clarity on ways to move Forward... seeing thoughts,feelings,judgements and criticisms from the lie of depression" I CAN See NOW "will be of great benefit to stop identifying with it as an identity Her that's powerful!!!!! Thankyou so Much So glad I'm able to watch you Your Amazing Julia⭐
Yess I am struggling with depression or anxiety....I don't know what it is....but my thoughts and emotions continuesly stoping me to feel good about myself ..if in the moment I think something good or feel something good the next moment some bad feeling is generating inside. I have habit of negative thinking for so many years , although people like me but I never considered myself that I am worthy or I am so good. For so many years the relation with my self is really bad. I want to get out of it. It made me a fake person which crushes me. I want to be genuine with me and others .
Abso-freaking-lutely. And eating disorders, and addiction, and self-doubt... and the list goes on. No matter what the problem is, the problem is the problem.
I am not depressed. I am sometimes struggling with side effects of severe depression? It is not me. Not my fault. Thank you for the distinction. But sometimes i feel so bad that my throat is chocking , my chest is aching and my mind is bliping in and out of focus. I lose cognition focus for a few hours, i cant watch a movie, nor read right, nor think right. In such times, i just wait it out/ sleep it away/ avoid other people. Like a senseless mind storm. After such episodes , after resting, i regain the normal ground mode. In that mode i am focused , solid cognition. I defeated a chess master twice, being in that mode. Trouble is, that the normal ground mode never last more than an hour. I am myself, only one hour a day.
Someone who I really love is struggling with depression and think they will never be happy ever again in their life. I want to show them this video, but I'm scared as they do not really believe in 'talking' or 'therapy'... What is the best thing for me to do? Thank you so much for your videos Julia Kristina! They help a lot!
I can see how much you care about them. Do you think showing this video will make them think you are trying to get them to go to therapy? Or just see if it's a useful way for them to start re-thinking how they see their struggle with depression?
I would hope the second one! ( although I would really love if they could consider therapy, because I think it would really help!) Thank you so much for your work and your reply! it's very helpful!! :)
i am anxiety though. its all i am. i am nothing else. have nothing else outside of anxiety. even though this is about depession, its still about mental illness in general. and right now and as far back as i can remember, anxiety IS me. ive made it my identity, and worked around it into my personality. may not be true for alot of other people. but it is for me.
Really great video! I struggle with depression and I guess for me, it feels like it IS me because it controls my thoughts. I don't know how to identify what is depression in my head versus me. It's to the point where my regular thoughts are controlled bydepression. So then where am I? What are my thoughts? Who am I? It's so much a part of me that I can't separate myself from it. How does one with my type of case go about treating depression? Identifying that it is not you, is important, of course. But then how do you distinguish between your thoughts and the depression's thoughts?
Great question erd140. Any negative, hopeless, self-defeating, self-critical thoughts are the depression. Basically any thoughts that are coming in and trying to push you down and make you feel like crap is the depression. You, my friend, are still in there, you are. I know you are. Anytime you start to feel content, connected, at peace, happy, grateful, love, joy, if even for a moment, that is you. Take stock of those moments. Notice those moments. Relish in those moments, and remind depression that YOU are still in there and the depression will not have the final say.
Julia Kristina Counselling Thank you so much for taking the time to read and reply to my comment. I have screenshotted your words and will try to remember them when negative thoughts come in. It's hard to recognize it in the moment, it's more after that I am able to reflect that maybe my thoughts are not right. But hopefully with continuous practice it will be easier. Again, thank you so much for making these videos. They mean a lot to me
Elaborate more on what some lies depression gives us. And what to do so we don’t believe in them. My whole day I fight with negative thoughts. I am aware they’re negative and also get negative feelings when they arrive.
I was also wondering if you had any advice/ opinions regarding medication? My therapist referred me to a psychiatrist but I am very confused about everything and whether medication is the right choice for me (my appointment is later this week)
A good psychiatrist will give you all of the relevant information with as little bias as possible, and then allow you to make an informed decision. It could also be good for you to see a counsellor afterward so you can talk through it all and then come to a decision that feels right for you. Let us know how it goes!
I've been told that when you say "I am", it's a wise idea to be careful about what words follow. They may end up becoming true whatever they are. This video tends to compliment that.
When I watched this video comment I said “are you me? No. You don’t know what I’ve been through. You do not know me at all.” But then when I watched the video, I actually have to say thanks.
Cute thought experiment but I would need some proof to back it up. I've got decades of depression as proof that I am my depression and would love to be proved wrong with facts.
I am hoping it will feel empowering for them - but we never know exactly where people are at and what they are able to receive. If you are wondering, you can always explain your intention and tell them, "I just saw this video and wanted to share it with you - I'm hoping you will find it helpful and encouraging, because the last thing I'd ever want to do is be insensitive or hurt you."
Aryan Dawar Hi. I have severe depression and yes, this video is not something I would recommend to anyone with depression. Being told that me and my depression are two different things is not helpful. It makes me feel guilty for being depressed. Just wanted to let you know.
Bríet Sveinsdóttir Thanks a lot for your help :) But I actually I did showed her this video. we were having a convo and she said that she took this test about depression (online) and found she was severly depressed. Jokingly she said that they scared her so I shared this video with her. She found it motivating :D. Thanks again though :)
So, what she's saying here is that basically, you can't let depression define you... sure, you have depression but you are not Depressed. That is not your name... ok, just had to clear that up. Continue scrolling through the comments or whatever
See if you never had it, you can't say anything about it. Cause it didn't cone and go. It's always there. Yeah sometimes we can be happy, but it never lady and it never leaves. I hope a lot of people are helped by your word. I really do. Just try to think about how depression works.
I'm sorry I don't agree with this. Me saying that I am depressed actually makes me feel better. Saying that i'm struggling with depression or whatever makes it seem like I have no control over it which makes it much worse.
Depression is a known medical condition. It is a genuine illness. It’s too simplistic to say this as if it is just down to negative thinking. It’s more than that, people who are depressed need a label so that they can justify or understand there is a reason that they feel like this. People who are depressed need to have treatment that restores the correct chemical conditions in the brain. I don’t understand your argument when you say despite depression that people are t depressed? It’s more than jus feeling sorry for yourself or something silly like that it’s when you feel that your life has no meaning. You have no motivation to pull yourself up and become active, it’s the most awful feeling knowing that your life is ticking away and you can’t stop it or change it
My girlfriend say that have depression...i always be there for my girlfriend but i do not why suddenly my girlfriend didnt chat...care about me anymore without any news ...sudden silent make me crazy
But saying "I am depressed" is completely different than saying "I am depression." To me, it's no different than saying "I am tired" or "I am hungry." It's a state of being, which maybe can change in the future which the proper help. Or you might been dealing with it for years and have both bad days and really great days. I don't see that as "pathologizing" it.
I really need help with this she has given up and stop fighting she is a RN nurse and I am trying so hard please I'm on Facebook message me if you could talk to her are just idk her name is Tori fox and she has manic depression thanks
I find it so funny how everybody agrees with her but everybody bashed Prince EA His video was titled YOU ARE NOT DEPRESSED yet the world condemned him about his opinion hmmmm I wonder why??😂😂😂😂
Julia, good content but you have an agitated way of speaking and waving your hands that is off putting. If you can twick these things, you would most likely get a wider audience, if you care.
I am NOT my dyslexia, I am NOT my hayfever, I am NOT depression, I am NOT anxiety, I am NOT conditions, I AM ME, I have struggled (and struggling) with these, but they DO NOT define who I am. Julia, I have watched alot of your videos and I just wanted to say thank you.
No you are NOT! You are you. I love this baelathlas. Thanks so much for taking the time to share you kind words - it's people like you that are making the world a better, more loving place.
I appreciate this. I'm living with HIV (and depression), and often hear people say "I'm HIV" to which I usually respond "then you're the biggest virus I've ever seen!" We DO tend as humans to affiliate ourselves with our diagnoses and forget that we are whole people...thanks
In Spanish we say "I feel" instead of "I am" depressed, sad, happy, anxious...
YES! I love that Gina.
gina gonzalez this is not true. You also say I am.
"This is not true" or "you ALSO say I am"? I'm a lier or not? Lol
gina gonzalez I feel broke
gina gonzalez u clearly don’t speak English either
And in my language [Polish] we can only say "I have depression". It's quite a serious word. Usually if you admit it, people will treat you like a total wacko...
I do agree, it doesn't make struggle easier thought... Life still sucks
As a woman who has had depression in her life for nearly 35 years, this DEFINITELY resonates, and is DEFINITELY spot on...thank you.
Janet, I am incredibly grateful to hear you say that. I hope it gave you even a glimmer of light to shine through the grey cloud of depression.
But how do you know? It affects every second of my life. I choose my clothes based by my depression. I am not depression, but I am depressed. There is a difference. I understand that people usually have trouble distinguishing the two, but I can. I am not my depression, I am not my anxiety. However, I am depressed, I am anxious.
You are experiencing depression. You are struggling with depression. But you are not defined as depression. Believe it or not, there is more to you than that. You may not see it through the dark cloud of depression, but there is. Maybe we are playing with semantics, but the words we chose do have an impact on our psyche for better, or for worse. And if you find it helpful and empowering to define yourself as depressed or anxious or both, then I totally support that. If it's working for you, great! If it's not, it's okay to be open to something different.
Hi Julia Kristina, I just recently started following this channel, and I wanted to say that this video was really well timed. My best friend was telling me earlier today that as bad as depression can get, it doesn't define me, and here you are saying exactly the same. I guess I just needed to hear outside perspectives. Thanks so much for putting this out there!
Wow! That's really powerful Andrew. And yes, sometimes we need to hear the same thing 2 or 3 times before we start taking it seriously. I'm so grateful you found this one helpful.
Thank you. But the message, even though you explained it, is still fuel for my depression at least. This feeds the thought "I have no reason to complain. I dont nees to struggle. I shouldnt be depressed." Thank you for the video still. It is nice to listen to when im not toxic.
Bravo beautiful lady. At first I thought wow you have lots of courage to say that out loud but you hit the nail on the head with that and spoke absolute truth. We have a joke in the family when someone says "I'm hungry " we respond with "hi hungry". Like they are introducing themselves as hungry. What a laugh. I will take what you said on board and encourage those around me to change their language and see it from this angle. Thank you. Would love to chat more about this and your perspectives. I feel I'm on the same path when watching your videos
So glad you liked it Justin. I really appreciate you saying so.
Same as my little girl who has dyslexia.. I don't like when people say she's dyslexic.. I'm like no..shes Elliott and has Dyslexia. And I'm Carri, and suffer for depression a lot of the time. Thank You
I agree with you wholeheartedly!!! I have always had a problem with labels being put on people as though they were the symptom. like, "oh, he's just a drug addict." NO, he is a PERSON with a drug addiction problem!!! Big difference in my mind and I really would like to see more people learn to change their thinking on this. Thanks for the video and keep up the good work.
Thank you Julia, for sometime now and particuarly last year I thought that I was going through depression. I know now thanks to my counselor, family, friends, and you that I'm not depressed and that is not the real me. There is no specific date of when I will be healed but all I know is that I need to take it one day at a time and focus on the present. And when I feel thoughts of happiness and joy that is the real me.
EXACTLY!, This is what my dad said.. He explained it well & you explained it perfectly too.
"I feel " " whatever the emotion is ... instead.. 👏😃
I am not depressed!!! Thank you Julia!! It’s not me!!! Soldiering on....
I've been struggling with depression for a few days now, but I managed to pull through it recently. It was this thought here that I think helped me get through it, and will help me not suffer as bad the next time. Thank you, Julia.
I love this reality check! Language really DOES matter! I don't suffer from depression myself, but this video has been so helpful at giving me some solid understanding and supportive talking points when talking with friends or colleagues who are suffering from depression.
sure that this is precious! cause it relates also to my idea that all those symptoms like depression/burn out etc,.. are NORMAL in a society based on the fulfilment of general ideas of TO BE OK..and to this we have to add the stress on the job related to the business market system..it is normal we FEEL depressed/down or in burn out! we have to find the way to GET RID OF STRESS..cause for sure we will take it in..but the point is how to structure and healthy routing to daily get rid of it!
Thank you DOctressse for your insight!! You are a star!!!
my wife has depression we have been together for 5 years and we have a lil girl I try so hard to help she goes to therapy and take meds it's so hard to see and live with but I won't give up on her
I agree with you 100%. I'm struggling, but i will win because it's not me.
Yesss!!!
I am in an earlier stage of recovery and it helps me to accept that this is part of me, but it is also made me hopeless that it will pass. I have the same relationship with my back pain.
Good point is that language choice matters as it frames the situation in a certain way. Would prefer to say "struggling but staying positive and taking necessary steps to make things better" rather than "Oh so depressing" or "I am semi depressed" etc etc
you are absolutely right
I wish you are my therapist 😭 have seen psychologist couple times, the last one is making me feel even more worst 😢 she said I'm not being grateful enough and should not feel this way. And also pray to god a lot more. Well lady, I also know that for years. I pray countless of times but I still strugling with depression
Thank You Julia!! You life changer..
ive binged watched your videos so many times.
It's like counseling in "my home". 😏😧😃 hugs
Thank you for this video. I think it's really helpful to be able to separate me and it, because then it's easier to fight. Like if i wake up and feel miserable and don't wanna get out of bed it helps to externalize my feelings and say that's just my depression because then I can fight it and carry on (well sometimes...)
Absolutely Jane. You can even ask yourself when you don't want to get out of bed: "What words is depression using to try to hold me back and derail my day right now?"
I agree with you. But I’ve never thought that I’m depressed. I only say to people that I have a depression. Some people think that this is a laughing matter and that makes me angry, but I don’t show it. 😞 Instead of it, I laugh uncomfortably
I love the idea. It is really hard to separate it out. I find it has really helped to name it (with a person/pet's name).
Oh I love that Carrie! "Well, here comes Dick again trying to wreak havoc in my life!" lol
Julia Kristina Counselling haha. mine is Gizmo (specifically my inner critic). I know someone who named their anxiety Chet.
That is hilarious! I love it.
Really good video, Julia! I think this is one of the problems that keeps the stigma of mental illness going. Our illness becomes our identity. We don't say to someone dealing with a physical disease that they are cancered, or COPD. But we put that label on those with mental illness for some reason.
I know Leslie - and it's not good. And the thing is, we also put those label on ourselves. When we are struggling with mental illness, we often stigmatize ourselves, so when others do it too, can we really be so surprised? As the saying goes: Change starts with me - If I want others to change their language and perception, I need to be willing to do the same.
+Julia Kristina Counselling Thats true also. I'll keep that in mind. Thank you for your feedback!
Thanxs a Million for the very clear distinction on this Thanks for your very valuable insight and clarity on ways to move Forward... seeing thoughts,feelings,judgements and criticisms from the lie of depression" I CAN See NOW "will be of great benefit to stop identifying with it as an identity Her that's powerful!!!!! Thankyou so Much So glad I'm able to watch you Your Amazing Julia⭐
So glad it connected with you Graham. Thanks for taking the time to say so.
Yess I am struggling with depression or anxiety....I don't know what it is....but my thoughts and emotions continuesly stoping me to feel good about myself ..if in the moment I think something good or feel something good the next moment some bad feeling is generating inside. I have habit of negative thinking for so many years , although people like me but I never considered myself that I am worthy or I am so good. For so many years the relation with my self is really bad. I want to get out of it. It made me a fake person which crushes me. I want to be genuine with me and others .
I think this is also relevant when it comes to anxiety too
Abso-freaking-lutely. And eating disorders, and addiction, and self-doubt... and the list goes on. No matter what the problem is, the problem is the problem.
I am not depressed. I am sometimes struggling with side effects of severe depression?
It is not me. Not my fault. Thank you for the distinction.
But sometimes i feel so bad that my throat is chocking , my chest is aching and my mind is bliping in and out of focus.
I lose cognition focus for a few hours, i cant watch a movie, nor read right, nor think right.
In such times, i just wait it out/ sleep it away/ avoid other people.
Like a senseless mind storm.
After such episodes , after resting, i regain the normal ground mode.
In that mode i am focused , solid cognition. I defeated a chess master twice, being in that mode.
Trouble is, that the normal ground mode never last more than an hour.
I am myself, only one hour a day.
You have helped me so much! Thank you for making videos! ❤️
so grateful to hear that Layla. Thanks for taking the time to say so.
I'm new to your channel but it has helped me understand more about depression and what to say and what not to say
Really grateful to hear that.
Hi Julia. Was wondering if you could do a vid on the anger/depression relationship. My depression seems to manifest itself in this manner mostly.
Toward yourself or others Michael?
Julia Kristina Counselling Towards others. Thanks
-came to be mad, stayed because it was actually a good video-
Someone who I really love is struggling with depression and think they will never be happy ever again in their life. I want to show them this video, but I'm scared as they do not really believe in 'talking' or 'therapy'...
What is the best thing for me to do?
Thank you so much for your videos Julia Kristina! They help a lot!
I can see how much you care about them. Do you think showing this video will make them think you are trying to get them to go to therapy? Or just see if it's a useful way for them to start re-thinking how they see their struggle with depression?
I would hope the second one!
( although I would really love if they could consider therapy, because I think it would really help!)
Thank you so much for your work and your reply! it's very helpful!! :)
The second one makes sense. There's no reason you can't add something like "...but i can still beat my depression."
You are absolutely correct! I definitely know that it's not me....
i am anxiety though. its all i am. i am nothing else. have nothing else outside of anxiety. even though this is about depession, its still about mental illness in general. and right now and as far back as i can remember, anxiety IS me. ive made it my identity, and worked around it into my personality. may not be true for alot of other people. but it is for me.
I hope identifying yourself like this is healing and helpful for you.
Really great video! I struggle with depression and I guess for me, it feels like it IS me because it controls my thoughts. I don't know how to identify what is depression in my head versus me. It's to the point where my regular thoughts are controlled bydepression. So then where am I? What are my thoughts? Who am I? It's so much a part of me that I can't separate myself from it.
How does one with my type of case go about treating depression? Identifying that it is not you, is important, of course. But then how do you distinguish between your thoughts and the depression's thoughts?
Great question erd140. Any negative, hopeless, self-defeating, self-critical thoughts are the depression. Basically any thoughts that are coming in and trying to push you down and make you feel like crap is the depression. You, my friend, are still in there, you are. I know you are. Anytime you start to feel content, connected, at peace, happy, grateful, love, joy, if even for a moment, that is you. Take stock of those moments. Notice those moments. Relish in those moments, and remind depression that YOU are still in there and the depression will not have the final say.
Julia Kristina Counselling Thank you so much for taking the time to read and reply to my comment. I have screenshotted your words and will try to remember them when negative thoughts come in. It's hard to recognize it in the moment, it's more after that I am able to reflect that maybe my thoughts are not right. But hopefully with continuous practice it will be easier. Again, thank you so much for making these videos. They mean a lot to me
It is so helpful to me , even all the questions of viewers really make me sorted out about depression
Elaborate more on what some lies depression gives us. And what to do so we don’t believe in them. My whole day I fight with negative thoughts. I am aware they’re negative and also get negative feelings when they arrive.
I was also wondering if you had any advice/ opinions regarding medication? My therapist referred me to a psychiatrist but I am very confused about everything and whether medication is the right choice for me (my appointment is later this week)
A good psychiatrist will give you all of the relevant information with as little bias as possible, and then allow you to make an informed decision. It could also be good for you to see a counsellor afterward so you can talk through it all and then come to a decision that feels right for you. Let us know how it goes!
Thank you so much. ❤
Julia Kristina, God bless you.
And YOU Kate
I've been told that when you say "I am", it's a wise idea to be careful about what words follow. They may end up becoming true whatever they are. This video tends to compliment that.
Would you please talk abt dhystymia? And how could we fight it if we hate going to therapy?
Will do Ale!
Julia Kristina Counselling thank you!
When I watched this video comment I said “are you me? No. You don’t know what I’ve been through. You do not know me at all.” But then when I watched the video, I actually have to say thanks.
Cute thought experiment but I would need some proof to back it up. I've got decades of depression as proof that I am my depression and would love to be proved wrong with facts.
Thanks Julia
This is a revelation
You are right!
Just wondering. will sharing this video with someone who might have depression make them angry or frustrated or more depressed?
I am hoping it will feel empowering for them - but we never know exactly where people are at and what they are able to receive. If you are wondering, you can always explain your intention and tell them, "I just saw this video and wanted to share it with you - I'm hoping you will find it helpful and encouraging, because the last thing I'd ever want to do is be insensitive or hurt you."
Thanks a lot for such a quick and supportive reply. I hope this might help her. Btw your videos are so awesome :D
Absolutely my pleasure Aryan. And thank you so much for your supportive words - they really mean a lot!
Aryan Dawar Hi. I have severe depression and yes, this video is not something I would recommend to anyone with depression. Being told that me and my depression are two different things is not helpful. It makes me feel guilty for being depressed. Just wanted to let you know.
Bríet Sveinsdóttir Thanks a lot for your help :) But I actually I did showed her this video. we were having a convo and she said that she took this test about depression (online) and found she was severly depressed. Jokingly she said that they scared her so I shared this video with her. She found it motivating :D. Thanks again though :)
im not just a name either tho
Very true!
So, what she's saying here is that basically, you can't let depression define you... sure, you have depression but you are not Depressed. That is not your name... ok, just had to clear that up. Continue scrolling through the comments or whatever
Yes, that's right.
See if you never had it, you can't say anything about it. Cause it didn't cone and go. It's always there. Yeah sometimes we can be happy, but it never lady and it never leaves. I hope a lot of people are helped by your word. I really do. Just try to think about how depression works.
Very good!
Yes, I am.
Totally agree. Although I have to say I was a little miffed at the beginning before you explained yourself... haha.
That's understandable Kat! Glad it all makes sense and ended up landing well within you.
Thank you JUlia!
had to slow this down to 0.75 speed
Mike Guitar So agree!
I thank you!
Bloody hell you have just cured deppression
I am not depression but I am depressed
I'm sorry I don't agree with this. Me saying that I am depressed actually makes me feel better. Saying that i'm struggling with depression or whatever makes it seem like I have no control over it which makes it much worse.
You know what Yodenue? If the way you are doing it is helpful, empowering and healing then absolutely, keep it up!
Depression is a known medical condition. It is a genuine illness. It’s too simplistic to say this as if it is just down to negative thinking. It’s more than that, people who are depressed need a label so that they can justify or understand there is a reason that they feel like this.
People who are depressed need to have treatment that restores the correct chemical conditions in the brain.
I don’t understand your argument when you say despite depression that people are t depressed? It’s more than jus feeling sorry for yourself or something silly like that it’s when you feel that your life has no meaning. You have no motivation to pull yourself up and become active, it’s the most awful feeling knowing that your life is ticking away and you can’t stop it or change it
I believe you and i must try to that thingking
My girlfriend say that have depression...i always be there for my girlfriend but i do not why suddenly my girlfriend didnt chat...care about me anymore without any news ...sudden silent make me crazy
But what if you've been diagnosed with depression.
Well said!
So basically what you're saying here, is that I'm not depressed, I *have* depression? Is this an English lesson?
But saying "I am depressed" is completely different than saying "I am depression." To me, it's no different than saying "I am tired" or "I am hungry." It's a state of being, which maybe can change in the future which the proper help. Or you might been dealing with it for years and have both bad days and really great days. I don't see that as "pathologizing" it.
Love this!
So glad!
Dang thanks I almost forgot that Depressed isn’t my name
I haven’t been able to get over it, 😪 hate myself
It's like trying to kick your own ass!
It is really a helpful talk
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I feel melancholy all the freakin time ! Is it normal ?
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I really need help with this she has given up and stop fighting she is a RN nurse and I am trying so hard please I'm on Facebook message me if you could talk to her are just idk her name is Tori fox and she has manic depression thanks
telling yourself "I'm depressed" only confirms it with your sub-concious mind.... stop saying it!
I find it so funny how everybody agrees with her but everybody bashed Prince EA His video was titled YOU ARE NOT DEPRESSED yet the world condemned him about his opinion hmmmm I wonder why??😂😂😂😂
Oh..... Wow. That... was good. Thanks.
SO glad you found it helpful!
You said the same thing over and over again you are not depressed
I am dilyn
Listening to Prince EAs false information I see?
Julia, good content but you have an agitated way of speaking and waving your hands that is off putting. If you can twick these things, you would most likely get a wider audience, if you care.
You are absolutely right