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  • Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024

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  • @HealthyGamerGG
    @HealthyGamerGG Год назад +1484

    Thanks for the great conversation 💚

    • @Zamuelinho
      @Zamuelinho Год назад +21

      You help so much people Doc, have a great day/week/month/year/life, always looking forward to what you will discuss next

    • @ClearBlueSky1
      @ClearBlueSky1 Год назад +9

      Ikr, huge huge fan of dr k and his dharma 😊...

    • @shaxpx
      @shaxpx Год назад +5

      Dr K is the best

    • @ziwuri
      @ziwuri Год назад +11

      @@cadel8142 what are you talking about lmao

    • @stevenhocking6407
      @stevenhocking6407 Год назад +2

      And no thank you comment from Emily lol. I'm not surprised, you can tell she's very afraid of her emotions

  • @absolutejoshofc
    @absolutejoshofc Год назад +1777

    Nothing scarier than telling a silly story from your childhood and having someone respond with “you’re telling this like it’s supposed to be funny”

    • @katelynmckenna8961
      @katelynmckenna8961 Год назад +57

      Literally! I was like.. wait Emily how is this funny :(?

    • @sage0x
      @sage0x Год назад +10

      Have you ever been diagnosed with leukemia?

    • @holeephuck4421
      @holeephuck4421 Год назад +71

      ​@@sage0x That's funny

    • @Vincisomething
      @Vincisomething Год назад +97

      That's like the meme where this person said "not any more than normal" when their therapist asked if they had any thoughts of suicide or depression. And their therapist said, "the normal amount is 0"

    • @tigershenanigans6878
      @tigershenanigans6878 Год назад +7

      @@Vincisomething This made me think

  • @naoseioq1234
    @naoseioq1234 Год назад +639

    Seeing Emily cry is like seeing your dad cry, it's not something you thought it was possible until it happens

    • @GianniJohn
      @GianniJohn Год назад +8

      I think is more than burnout.!!

    • @mikielgrato5705
      @mikielgrato5705 7 месяцев назад +5

      your dad must be cute af

    • @JM-st1le
      @JM-st1le 5 месяцев назад +1

      @mikiel lol

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад +2

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

    • @hiesenberg9323
      @hiesenberg9323 5 дней назад

      cus extra emily is and will always be a charachter. This interview is what made her remove that fake mask.

  • @LukeH2003
    @LukeH2003 Год назад +1141

    Seeing influencers/streamers like her be vulnerable is really important to see. I'm happy that you shared this vulnerability with us.

    • @anon-il9qf
      @anon-il9qf Год назад +29

      I don't know about that...conversations like this are usually best had behind closed doors, due to their private nature. You expose too much of yourself, people may use it against you. Even "nice" people when they know your secret can start using it in conversations to try to make you feel bad or shame you.

    • @LukeH2003
      @LukeH2003 Год назад +23

      That is important, but I think it is good to let the viewers get a view into the humanity of their entertainers

    • @twobraincellsbl1582
      @twobraincellsbl1582 Год назад +34

      @@anon-il9qfone thing that’s good about this type of content is that it helps people that have the same or similar problems as the creator

    • @anon-il9qf
      @anon-il9qf Год назад +7

      @@twobraincellsbl1582 Yeah, but you do have to watch out, people like to use people's weaknesses against them, instinctively. They like having "leverage" over somebody, or a good zinger they can bring up if that person acts "out of line" ever.

    • @carronline1
      @carronline1 Год назад +7

      @@anon-il9qf i agree with it being better to be done in private due to the subject per say, but i also see the good in doing it more public as it can encourage other people after seeing it to find the help they may need or to be more open to trying it which can help alot more people than having it not shown

  • @skywarthur
    @skywarthur Год назад +941

    First time I've actually seen Emily outside her "entertainer shell", just made me like her more. I used to see her as a cartoon/twitch character, now I see her more like a real person.

    • @anon-il9qf
      @anon-il9qf Год назад +33

      Psychology is a great field and the more people can talk about it the more people can study it and understand it (because honestly academic psychology is full of lots of bad ideas and wrong concepts and blind trust in some untested concepts that have become the establishment).

    • @uli11
      @uli11 Год назад +13

      If she's like other streamers, she will slowly let more of herself show through. She will still be an animated entertainer, but she will be more human as well- integrated.
      I get a sense E.E. is on this path.

    • @PeterFnPorker
      @PeterFnPorker Год назад +4

      and that my friend is a great insight because EVERYONE is living in their own reality and the sooner you can see that the more empathetic you will become

    • @kissesuwu5282
      @kissesuwu5282 Год назад

      ​​​@@anon-il9qf If you've ever studied psychology, even at a basic level, you understand it's extremely immoral to utilize untested theories. Even in academic psychology, you are told about some theories and ideas that don't work. You are not told that they do work, you are told that they're part of the history of psychology. You know theories like that don't work because it's very possible to look at used methods and study the effectiveness of treatment. Also psychology is chock full of scientific studies like any other science. This is because of the fact that therapy is a form of healthcare. It is good to advocate for it to advance, but to claim that it's the wild west in therapy is a crazy statement.

    • @millicentwilson9567
      @millicentwilson9567 Год назад +2

      I don't understand. She's already came outside of her "entertainer shell" on stream before. She doesn't have a problem expressing when she's annoyed, or feels disgust towards something.

  • @AlexH274
    @AlexH274 Год назад +694

    Dr K is so good at peeling back the character. The real Emily needed this. & it helps us all to watch this chat.

    • @JacobHayden911
      @JacobHayden911 Год назад +8

      "the real Emily"? Do you think she's faking her gitty up beat twitch persona?

    • @Raltez
      @Raltez Год назад +57

      ​@@JacobHayden911 I'm only a few minutes in (mainly just watch dr k), but yeah that was kind of my first thought too. I wouldn't say she's faking anything, though, just that you can tell she's making an extra effort to keep things light and positive. Nothing wrong with that as long as you let yourself feel negative things too.

    • @AlexH274
      @AlexH274 Год назад +40

      @@JacobHayden911 Did you even watch this? She plays the Character of ExtraEmily, she is Emily. Just like Actors, wrestlers, celebrities, you have a public image, and the real self. Does NOT mean you are fake.

    • @BingDwenDwen
      @BingDwenDwen Год назад +38

      @@JacobHayden911 every streamer personality amplifies during stream, doesn't mean they are always like their twitch personality in real life, but doesn't mean they are faking it either. I think the meaning of real emily, is that the real us may be hidden in all of us, suppressed by society standards and expectations.

    • @xolboh6463
      @xolboh6463 Год назад

      ​@@AlexH274stop justifying witch burning for your entertainment. There was no reason for this. If you really wanna help and not just shove a '"I told you so" in the face of Emily, then just be her really good friend you asshole

  • @natediggitydog8
    @natediggitydog8 Год назад +466

    Seeing her be genuinely sad/upset and emotional was insanely refreshing. I don’t think she has any idea how likable she is. She can truly be herself and she’s beautiful. She doesn’t have to be the “happy” version all the time. Just be genuine and we will connect with that. It’s scarier, sure. But this was a very refreshing look at how she really is a genuinely beautiful person

    • @llama079
      @llama079 Год назад +8

      she's not really likable tbh, i mean after this i think she will be

    • @CatcherMorningstar
      @CatcherMorningstar Год назад +2

      This could be an Asian thing

    • @natediggitydog8
      @natediggitydog8 Год назад +46

      @@llama079 she is. She’s hilarious, intelligent and genuinely sweet. A bit of a psychopath, maybe, but likable lol

    • @anon-il9qf
      @anon-il9qf Год назад

      @@llama079 You're high on cocaine if you think she's not likeable when she's one of the fastest growing twitch channels on twitch in a long while.
      The idea that you have to fix what isn't broken, like with emily, is nuts.
      Emily has a perfectly great personality which is based around a default happy mode. She means well, and wants to be happy because it's the right thing to do (because it is).
      I think you're unironically jealous of her, and want her to be ugly like you, because you're depressed and don't want others to be happy.
      Stay mad.

    • @Dropthebeat365
      @Dropthebeat365 Год назад +1

      @@llama079her growth says otherwise.

  • @NeonNijahn
    @NeonNijahn Год назад +474

    Holy cow. Making yourself this vulnerable in front of people is so brave. Sending positive vibes.

    • @anon-il9qf
      @anon-il9qf Год назад +5

      I mean, Dr K should've been smart enough to not poke too deeply, and also I think conversations like this should be had behind closed doors slightly. I don't blame emily, of course, I think she just went into the conversation to make content and to make it light hearted, not to take it too seriously.

    • @donn1473
      @donn1473 Год назад +19

      @@anon-il9qf I think dr K did a great job and went just deep enough for the time being.

    • @aClownBaby-
      @aClownBaby- Год назад +3

      @@anon-il9qf Yeah and he didn’t poke “too deep” at all, if there even is something like too deep

    • @NeuroLifting
      @NeuroLifting Год назад +2

      ​@anon I don't think you watched the whole video. Also like people have stated, it's a therapy session, Emily knows what it is and will have watched others like Mizkif and other friends on here. She didn't just do this for the content.

    • @jonnyj.
      @jonnyj. Год назад +4

      @@anon-il9qf Having absolutely everything happen behind closed doors is why a LOT of viewers dont think of content creators as humans. You only have to look at the top twitch streamers to see this very clearly. Maybe think a little?

  • @MrToastyTank
    @MrToastyTank Год назад +450

    Emily has a lot of depth to her and is a beautiful person for the amount of effort she puts into trying to be her best self.

    • @Afasia420
      @Afasia420 Год назад +5

      Those xqc dating-thingies really showed her true colors.
      I would argue it's easy to dismiss her personality for the upbeat appearances

    • @getoutofmylobby4347
      @getoutofmylobby4347 Год назад +14

      @@Afasia420 you HAVE to be trolling my guys. PLEASE tell me u are trolling.

    • @wipeyourbuttocks
      @wipeyourbuttocks Год назад +4

      @@FUzzYPotAt0 you need a session with Dr K

    • @FUzzYPotAt0
      @FUzzYPotAt0 Год назад +1

      @@wipeyourbuttocks i see you didnt have any friends growing up

    • @wipeyourbuttocks
      @wipeyourbuttocks Год назад

      @@FUzzYPotAt0 :(

  • @jackmeriustacktheritrix
    @jackmeriustacktheritrix Год назад +180

    it's okay to cry or for your voice to shake, it happens to me all the time during therapy even if we're not talking about things that are sad or super emotional, it just means you're speaking from the heart and/or feeling something real ❤

    • @anon-il9qf
      @anon-il9qf Год назад +2

      I think it's because Dr K is, either consciously or unconsciously is being super like imposing and off-putting with his voice and so on.
      This is one of the reasons I don't like Dr K, I think half of what he says is smart and good, and the other half is like either blind research and study regurgitation, and it's him having an ego trip. I think Dr K gets off and likes to feel important, and to tell his patients how they feel, vs investigating with the patient how they feel and getting the patient to realize why they feel how they feel, etc.
      Like all of Dr K's mannerisms are off if he wants to come off as a welcoming empathetic neutral and non judgemental person, he comes off as extremely judgemental, dismissive, short, his remarks are very short and pointed like slurs, and it seems like he wants to gain power in the conversation and the relationship with the patient, basically strip down the patient, humiliate the patient, then tell the patient how they really feel.
      I actually worry, that Dr K might unironically have a complex where he likes to intentionally get patients or people around him even to humiliate themselves in front of him, and then after he does enough humiliating, or humiliation-bait where they expose themselves to him, then he can come in and try to give them some kind of feedback, but mostly feed off of the power dynamic and power imbalance in the conversation, where he is the sole judge in the conversation, the sole authority, and is actively like aggressively getting a person to weaken themselves, so he can tell them, force them even, to accept his conclusions.

    • @underscore2554
      @underscore2554 Год назад +42

      @@anon-il9qf ???? weird take imo, a lot of this is baseless. He’s just trying to reach a balance of professionalism and friendliness, and he might not reach it for you

    • @jackmeriustacktheritrix
      @jackmeriustacktheritrix Год назад +9

      @@underscore2554 yeah I dont get that impression either, he seems to be doing pretty standard CBT most of the time

    • @FlipMyNormals
      @FlipMyNormals Год назад +8

      @@anon-il9qf How many comments do you need to respond to telling people they are wrong to feel heard? It's ironic that all of your run on sentence responses try to label Dr. K as some narcissist with villainous intent. Projecting?

    • @rocketrichard8264
      @rocketrichard8264 Год назад +3

      @@underscore2554I agree with you. Dr K I thought was being pretty gentle and very professional in not wanting to dig too deep because he could see her pain so close to the surface. Emily has created this public persona as a type of defence mechanism due to her trauma.

  • @spencer6709
    @spencer6709 Год назад +143

    Its easy to see that Emily's happy demeanor is learned behavior from having to be perfect. Its so sad but also heartwarming to see her fall out of the act. ❤

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @akuwardmoments
    @akuwardmoments Год назад +79

    As an Asian American who also grew up in Nebraska, I really felt you on a lot of things, ESPECIALLY the family pressure. I ended up staying on the academic path, but admittedly, I think you inspired something in me to consider streaming too.
    Cheers, Emily! Good luck with everything :D

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

    • @good4goblin
      @good4goblin 2 дня назад

      From everything I've heard ALL asian parents be tripping HARD with putting unnecessary pressure on their kids. I've never talked to an asian that didn't have this.

  • @kylemichel3006
    @kylemichel3006 Год назад +131

    1:11:33 wow. What a moment. NAIL. HEAD. I love Dr.K's sessions, as there is always something that will resonate with me. So much perspective in this dialogue that I think summarizes the whole episode.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @ramonvdelst
    @ramonvdelst Год назад +68

    This one did hurt to watch because you see someone who is calling for help without actually calling for help or even realizing she might need it. Really hope Emily continues talking to Dr.K and maybe even offline

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @iamme725
    @iamme725 Год назад +204

    its always hard to tell with people like Emily if you're getting their honest feedback, or if they're just telling you what they think you want to hear to please you.

    • @cryptidian3530
      @cryptidian3530 Год назад +14

      Agreed. Even when she's talking about something completely trivial, she's giggling. This isn't a diss, but it can be hard to tell if she's just faking being nice or she's actually excited about something trivial.

    • @Tpoleful
      @Tpoleful Год назад +33

      While you cannot tell whether she is happy or not, you can still see her compassionate nature. She does want to uplift other people and avoid letting others down. So, she is not faking being nice.

    • @Kaybye555
      @Kaybye555 Год назад +5

      ​@@Tpoleful that's not what op is saying though

    • @Kaybye555
      @Kaybye555 Год назад +8

      The thing is, what kind of feedback would you get? Always positive. Although this is nice, it wouldn't give you much to go for. Her personality is good for a hype man (maybe going to the gym and just sharing things like "hey I read a book this week!" But if you want a "what could I do to fix this or to become bette, she might get too caught up in being nice, she might never get to a point or actually tell you. I wouldn't recommend getting proactive feedback from someone with this personality but instead get close to someone like this when you need reassurance or a listen

    • @jonnyjoker01
      @jonnyjoker01 Год назад +7

      ​@@Kaybye555 Well, your comment made me realize why nobody wants to be close to me. I mean it's more like the other way around actually. It is actually me who - by my behavior - kind of not let people close to me, unknowingly. I've known myself to be a people pleaser for a long time, but never thought that it affects my life this deep. People usually say that I'm such a great person to talk to... but yeah that's just it, it feels good to talk but there's nothing below that. Deep inside they probably feel that it's kind of fake.
      A good takeaway for me personally is that I should be more honest and open about my thoughts. I think I can manage doing that slowly. Just be less afraid about speaking my mind. How could people get to know ME otherwise? And how can I expect anyone wanting to get to know me if I'm shallow on the surface?
      Thank you so much for your comment, it made things click into place in my brain.

  • @geordangundelfinger
    @geordangundelfinger Год назад +774

    Squeex really diversifying his content.

    • @TomHardysUglierYoungerBrother
      @TomHardysUglierYoungerBrother Год назад +61

      Right? This is a huge switch up from Mario 64!! Has he been using Rogaine as well!? Lookin good Squeex my boi.

    • @tyler.walker
      @tyler.walker Год назад +46

      He didn’t even say “Bazinga!” once during this whole stream 🙄

    • @InnerMedium
      @InnerMedium Год назад +20

      No but for real have Squeex on though!

    • @libit2362
      @libit2362 Год назад +2

      HAHAHAHA

    • @bugbreadbuns
      @bugbreadbuns Год назад +2

      Classic

  • @Geeageee
    @Geeageee Год назад +105

    I've literally never watched Emily before, just sometimes peruse healthygamer content, but I genuinely hope the best for her. It's so insanely difficult to be vulnerable in front of other people, especially strangers. She's a really brave person and truly deserves to be happy and enjoy her success.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @allenhooper8532
    @allenhooper8532 Год назад +27

    Thank you Emily for expressing vulnerability.
    It warms my heart to see a fellow people-pleaser have these authentic conversations.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @koziol552
    @koziol552 Год назад +124

    Emily, I think the main thing you need to realize is that most of your viewers simply like you as a person and that is the main reason why they watch you. You being entertaining, high energy, a people pleaser, making all the best jokes…these are all just bonuses after the fact.
    All you have to do is go on stream and be yourself. Relax, have fun, do the things you want to do…and everyone will support you. No one wants you to burn out or feel overwhelmed. Most people care way more about your well being then about how good your content is.

    • @matthiassheehan4630
      @matthiassheehan4630 Год назад +2

      awesome comment i thought the same thing i wish she reads this lol

    • @TeiaiCEO
      @TeiaiCEO Год назад +3

      let's be real bro, if she was a fat guy or an ugly chick most people wouldn't even give her a chance to show that personality. she is being realistic when she realizes she is now in her prime

    • @overshot8331
      @overshot8331 Год назад +1

      ​@@TeiaiCEO she could be in her 'prime' based on the type of content she makes right now. But she is so smart and talented that I think she will be able to pivot her content to other genres and avenues and be equally successful if not more.

    • @TeiaiCEO
      @TeiaiCEO Год назад +3

      @@overshot8331 and that's what her worry is. she is scared of a change which is inevitable once her 'prime' goes away.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @alienfish7
    @alienfish7 Год назад +36

    I think this may be one of the first times I've seen Emily actually break character and it's so refreshing! Big kudos to Emily for being vulnerable and sharing this part of herself with so many people!

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @tomw8329
    @tomw8329 Год назад +304

    Man, she really needs an off-air therapist. She's awesome and I like watching her streams, but there's a TON of baggage below the surface. Hopefully this is just a healthy first step for her.

    • @rocketrichard8264
      @rocketrichard8264 Год назад +106

      I think she thought it would be a great content idea without thinking about the real impact it would have on her. You could see how surprised she was when her pain came to the surface so quick and she had trouble hiding it. Made me sad because she puts enormous pressure on herself and she feels like she needs to have her happiness turned to 15.

    • @user-dj9iu2et3r
      @user-dj9iu2et3r Год назад +16

      I think you should let her decide what she “needs.”
      Case in point: Doctor K has told countless others that they should seek therapy during/after their conversations together.

    • @Turnpost2552
      @Turnpost2552 Год назад +1

      has to make money some how.

    • @woody_you_want
      @woody_you_want Год назад +7

      Most people need some sort of therapy

    • @sebbiesydenham3077
      @sebbiesydenham3077 9 месяцев назад

      @@woody_you_want no most people don't. You don't need another human, who's incentive is to milk as much money from you, to tell you about your own life. The reason people enjoy therapy is because they receive sympathy from it. It's a clever way to rinse weak minded people of their money. The only way to fix your weak mind is by doing it yourself.

  • @Catburys
    @Catburys Год назад +64

    i really loved watching this stream!! discussions about mental health aren't easy but they are *so* important! well done emily :)

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @itsmeeverest
    @itsmeeverest Год назад +24

    When she genuinely answered "We get used to getting hot showers!" I was giggling despite all the serious discussions. God bless her. Pls protect her at all cost. 💝

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      --is the translated text

  • @OofieTV
    @OofieTV Год назад +19

    I love these interviews. I can tell they are definitely beneficial for the streamers, it would be such a cool experience to get help from Dr. K .

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @falseprophet3284
    @falseprophet3284 Год назад +36

    The overwhelming positive tone has always put me off of her streams but watching this really opened my eyes to the fact that she is human.

    • @PeachyCat-3990
      @PeachyCat-3990 Год назад +10

      Yes - this is why I have a hard time watching her streams for lengthy periods. I hope she can continue to mature emotionally after this.

    • @mawangshallhang
      @mawangshallhang Год назад +5

      It’s like an adult that’s still mentally 9.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

    • @patsca_
      @patsca_ 2 месяца назад

      @@Liex09go away

  • @dandydaikon5029
    @dandydaikon5029 Год назад +94

    This was hilarious and really emotional at the same time. It takes a lot of strength to open up like this, especially in front of so many people.
    Also I didn't know squeex did therapy, good for him!

    • @DizzyChi21
      @DizzyChi21 Год назад +4

      That's not squeex..I'm pretty sure lmao

    • @user-dj9iu2et3r
      @user-dj9iu2et3r Год назад +4

      Hilarious? Is not the word I would use for this chat. Maybe I’m just old but I tear’d up for this girl a couple of times.
      She literally won’t let herself feel an entire part of her being.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @Uncle_Hubert
    @Uncle_Hubert Год назад +39

    Thought it was so funny how Dr. K immediately went on a breastfeeding tangent.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      --is the translated text

  • @TheQuasimodoH
    @TheQuasimodoH Год назад +13

    Emily is so selfless it was hard for her to start saying she was there for herself- the tears- being there for other people first - relatable

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      --is the translated text

  • @ShadowtheRonin
    @ShadowtheRonin Год назад +30

    Have to keep pausing because Emily crying makes me cry lol 😭 Emily I wish all of your dreams come true and you never feel like a failure or fear failing ever again.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      --is the translated text

  • @tehgamist7139
    @tehgamist7139 Год назад +15

    Literally two people in one body - it must be EXHAUSTING maintaining that.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @Kaykaylul
    @Kaykaylul Год назад +15

    I love Emily's spirit. Such a sweet soul. You are doing amazing em, I and many others are so amazed and inspired and proud of you. Can't wait to see where your path takes you!

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад +1

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @SomberSora
    @SomberSora Год назад +14

    This was so so so so good. What a raw and real experience. I’m glad you decided to share this on RUclips because I really needed to hear it. Even though my upbringing was very different I definitely resonate with a lot of the same struggles and thoughts that were expressed here so seeing it really broken down was refreshing, especially since you have a very bubbly persona on stream that always brightens the mood.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @SILENTIMACT74
    @SILENTIMACT74 Год назад +17

    Props to you Emily for being vulnerable and not only streaming the conversation but uploading it for historical purposes. This took some serious courage and I'm excited to follow you success.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @Janethecurly
    @Janethecurly Год назад +11

    I just watched for 15 mins and I'm sobbing now. I want her to express out what she really felt, then I realized that I deserve that, too. I'm a person like her. This hits hard at home.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      --is the translated text

  • @ratfacekick
    @ratfacekick Год назад +579

    Emily's mom unintentionally taught her that love is conditional. We aren't here for your looks or content Emily, we're here because we love you and think you're funny and enjoyable as shit doing anything as a fellow earthling. Your value isn't tied to those things

    • @anon-il9qf
      @anon-il9qf Год назад +11

      I mean I don't know about that, but probably her mom was a bit forceful in telling her what to do vs letting emily choose what to do, which is why she (emily) harbors resentment.
      I don't think her mom is a bad person now though. But I don't know how emily feels about her parents :/

    • @ratfacekick
      @ratfacekick Год назад +68

      @@anon-il9qf I dont think she's a bad person either. Its just survival mechanisms that have been passed down for generations

    • @R3M13N
      @R3M13N Год назад +26

      Kinda cringe, ngl.

    • @Astheniumn
      @Astheniumn Год назад +26

      I think all love is conditional, it's just that people have tighter conditions than others.

    • @aClownBaby-
      @aClownBaby- Год назад +13

      @@Astheniumn Conditional based on performance isn’t a good thing imo. Should be based on personality and who you really are as a person, especially parents

  • @smashdriven1640
    @smashdriven1640 4 месяца назад +2

    I really love this advice from Dr. K that we don’t have to be happy all the time and it’s ok to fail because that’s how we grow.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @blogical4320
    @blogical4320 Год назад +21

    Damn its painful for me to see her cry like this..🙃 breaks my heart...for the 1st time im seeing her tear up...its feels good too that she is opening up about what she has been through or what she is going through so that she can get all the support she needs..❤

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @christianahmose3106
    @christianahmose3106 Год назад +4

    Emily, I relate to you in a lot of ways. I also hate the idea of disappointing others and feeling like a failure. I tend to not give my all so that I don't have to be judged for doing things wrong. After all, you can't fail if you didn't even put in effort in the first place. I was very much a people pleaser growing up and I still carry some of that with me in my 30s. I am also from Nebraska as well, so we share way more in common than I would've thought when I first discovered you. I think you are going to be okay just like Dr. K told you at the end. You are such a genuinely kind person, and you should be proud of your accomplishments. I hope you get to the point where you are able to be completely comfortable with all sides of you, particularly "terrified Emily". Accepting all aspects of who you are and allowing it to come naturally is an important part of dealing with all the things that life throws at you. Thank you for the conversation with Dr. K and showing your fans that it's okay to not always measure up to people's expectations. I believe in you and I have complete confidence that when you get to my age, 32, you'll have so much more to offer the world than you thought you did :)

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @Jkoihm
    @Jkoihm Год назад +9

    Having your parents show you that failing is okay relieves the stress and helped me realize to be less hard on myself.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @_SixthDay_
    @_SixthDay_ Год назад +9

    I would just like to say I’m happy Emily can open up to us and would like to say thank you. It hasn’t been the easiest year for me but Emily really has brought some light into it. I could care less what she does I’m just glad she takes the time out of her day to stream for us.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @jREMsleep
    @jREMsleep Год назад +7

    As a recovering people pleaser, this hit HARD… I hear you and I see you Emily ❤

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      --is the translated text

  • @scumbagdyln
    @scumbagdyln Год назад +6

    I appreciate you being vulnerable and sharing; although not nearly as successful, I experience a lot of the same trauna and it was nice to have someone to relate to.
    huge respect, emily 💜

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @Goldenskittlee
    @Goldenskittlee Год назад +7

    Aww I relate to Emily so much; it's really hard to show venerability especially when you feel it will affect how people see you

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @Justango69
    @Justango69 Год назад +9

    Dr K is the best, I love that guy. He did a great job framing this conversation. I hope Emily got some good insight out this, and can find ways to motivate herself and find joy thru her wins, rather than stressing over potential failures. :)

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @dylanriess9884
    @dylanriess9884 Год назад +11

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @IsaiahCelloBrown
    @IsaiahCelloBrown Год назад +18

    Dr. K: *asks for the 3rd or 4th time* "Is it okay to fail?"
    Emily: "Yes! 🤩😁🙃"
    Dr. K: "No it's not.... what the fuck?"
    Emily: "oop. 😋"
    This sent me 😭😭 such a powerful moment.
    No disrespect. Alot of love.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @iTRYMLGaming
    @iTRYMLGaming Год назад +12

    She is the savior of twitch. Never clean ur room Emily ur going to be great and we will all watch u succeed with smiles :)

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @stikfamaster2
    @stikfamaster2 Год назад +14

    I loved watching this stream vod (saw it oh the HG channel the other day) and I really appreciate you for talking about this stuff

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      --is the translated text

  • @quinnwaterman1535
    @quinnwaterman1535 Год назад +7

    Much love Emily, happy you are a streamer! And that you were so open with Dr. K 😇

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      --is the translated text

  • @april99.
    @april99. Год назад +11

    I haven’t even watched the whole video, but I just needed to say that I am so proud of Emily for opening up like this. It is not easy especially in front of so many people. Total badass.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @hipunpun
    @hipunpun Год назад +17

    Takes incredible courage to open up and be vulnerable in front of a live audience, you should be proud of that.
    Promise people will be here for you even if you show negative emotions ❤

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      --is the translated text

  • @colehulen3481
    @colehulen3481 Год назад +29

    Seeing Emily get sad made me want to cry :(

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @cbot9302
    @cbot9302 Год назад +10

    I never related to EE much, but somehow her way of processing emotions suddenly seems so much like mine. Able to gloss over apparently deep, introspective questions with a correct (both to you and the person who asked it) answer, but then almost crying over the simplest things.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      --is the translated text

  • @kaypopTV
    @kaypopTV Год назад +4

    44:21 is right when you can tell that she has started reflecting on herself and being open. it's really awesome. mentioning the self awareness and "going through the motions" and then being ready to dive past that was really cool to see. i don't watch emily much (not because of anything negative, just can't watch many streams at all anymore) but it really makes me respect her as a fellow person who wants to learn more about themself

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

    • @kaypopTV
      @kaypopTV 3 месяца назад

      @@Liex09 nah

  • @sackthevaulthunter8028
    @sackthevaulthunter8028 Год назад +49

    Great stream. It's good hearing other people's experience growing up with asian tiger parents. Also, made me weep a bit😢

  • @Brandon-vj6zz
    @Brandon-vj6zz Год назад +2

    Thank you for opening up to us Emily, as someone who also struggles with anxiety, strict parents and being a people pleaser I can relate as well. You are brave for sharing your mental health problems on a public platform and allowing everyone to see your vulnerable side ❤

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @jimystimz4731
    @jimystimz4731 Год назад +8

    Emily is so great, in so many ways, I'm happy for her no matter what happens.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @LuckyOwl360
    @LuckyOwl360 Год назад +6

    I love that you gave him feedback at the end to summarize main talking points so that you can allow the discussion to percolate in your mind and refer back to it - that is a symptom of a very “self improvement” focused mindset that serves you extremely well & it will be beneficial for him to start doing that following his interviews more if he actually implements your feedback. I would want the same!!
    You did a wonderful job & I’m sure it was very helpful and engaging for your followers to see more of the “real” you so to speak. To be human is to be a mix of both positive and negative emotions and experiences, so for your audience to fully relate to you they have to get the full experience. I see your desire to make others happy by portraying positivity as much as you can as a very noble thing to do, but it has pros and cons in the way it impacts yourself and the way it prevents your viewers from fully relating and connecting to you (which isn’t inherently bad btw)
    I can articulate this as I’ve experienced it myself to a lesser extent in my job and also my personal life- as someone who was taught to be independent and avoid “burdening” others with my emotions or problems, my intent was to be a good friend/coworker etc but the result was people who needed MY help felt the relationship was one sided and it was hard to fully get to know the “real” me, so at times I sensed they felt I was… not fake exactly but they perceived the relationship as unbalanced because I didn’t share or “need” others the way they needed me and I always would put a smile on or play group therapist in my relationships with them. It’s not my fault for being programmed that way by my upbringing/society, but I have been taking steps to grow and improve my relationships. After 26 years on this planet just a few months ago I asked my sister for a small favor, and it brought her SUCH joy to do something for me. I could tell it was appreciated by her moreso than it was by me!!
    This may not all apply to your situation but I just want to say that if you keep working at emotional self awareness and become more open and accepting to vulnerability, you’ll go far; in life, but also in content creation. Just look at your peers’ most popular videos and you’ll see what I mean 😊 People want to engage with you at your happy and bubbly and they will at your sad and struggling too.
    SIDEBAR: if you read all this, ask Miz if he ever saw my DM from November 17, 2021 asking to put together an all female SM64 tourney. I name dropped you & I like to pretend that’s how you got discovered (this isn’t parasocial btw I swear, I was clout chasing) 😂😂😂 I’m so glad you took off and it has been a joy to see you blossom. I was watching other small sm64 streamers to see how I could improve & you were one I connected with moreso than most. I wasn’t shocked to see you finally blow up and gain a sizeable following, although I never pictured you’d be this huge!! Congrats, it was so well deserved.
    Good luck, Emily!!!

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @jeremygold0
    @jeremygold0 Год назад +20

    thanks for doing this em ❤

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @urdumtoo
    @urdumtoo Год назад +3

    this was amazingly insightful, I relate to this so much. Thank you for putting yourself out there Emily.
    When I was younger, I was told I smile too much. Even though I genuinely felt happy, sometimes it was a way to hide behind problems I didnt want to face

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @Heinrick192
    @Heinrick192 Год назад +3

    This was one of the best conversations I've seen on RUclips. It was quite an emotional journey, and I felt compelled by both Alok's guidance and direction, and Emily's "coming to terms", if you will. Been a fan of HG for a while, but this one hit different. Consider me a new sub!

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @RichardHernandez-up2ih
    @RichardHernandez-up2ih Год назад +1

    damn i needed this, i been dealing with this for over 10 years now and it has destroyed my own life it's self hate and disappointment in myself the breaks me everytime just for someone else just for the fucking trauma the damn childhood trauma

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      --is the translated text

  • @mweinz
    @mweinz Год назад +3

    thanks for sharing Emily, I can relate to a lot of things you've gone through. I appreciate your honesty

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @TheMirandalorian
    @TheMirandalorian 8 месяцев назад +2

    What a sweet girl... i just wanna give her a hug! Seeing the pain... hearing everything she said, i connect with every single thing! You can kinda see the bubbliness is manifesting as a coping mechanism for people pleasing ❤

  • @Mimikz
    @Mimikz Год назад +4

    She's so sweet I hope all of the pressure isn't getting to her too bad. She really does work really hard and needs more breaks!

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      --is the translated text

  • @rjgamboa4058
    @rjgamboa4058 Год назад +3

    I’m glad we see this side of Emily as we all know she plays a character on stream. Always good to see someone’s real side

    • @overshot8331
      @overshot8331 Год назад +2

      She is just an extra version of herself on stream. Its not like she is playing a character that's been written for her like actors do in movies.

  • @ChrisTheNjord
    @ChrisTheNjord Год назад +2

    Wow, proud of Emily for being so strong and open about these things, it’s hard. Actually helped me, too, I approach so much with the same attitude and that feeling, so seeing someone else, let alone a bigger content creator also going through the same, kind of eye opening.
    Emily is wholesome😁

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @SealSore65_
    @SealSore65_ Год назад +7

    I love how Dr K shows so much compassion and genuine care for the people he speaks to. His therapy sessions with streamers are so good to see a side of the streamer (actor) you never usually see. Twitch is full of entertainers and actors, It's nice to see their genuine side.
    One thing I noticed is Twitch chat really struggle with empathy, Instead of just saying nothing in these meaningful scenarios they will spam emotes (usually Sadge or something crying related) not realising that someone feeling genuine emotion (Emily) Isn't going to want to see a little green frog crying, knowing It's coming from real humans, fly down her screen in such a meaningful, emotional time.
    It's not wrong that Twitch chat does this, It could just be that they need to feel a sense of importance or maybe a connection they feel with Emily (as If she is reading it like a message from her friend) I just find it somewhat robot like, could just be autism, very interesting nevertheless.

    • @Mystic_Kitty
      @Mystic_Kitty Год назад +2

      "Could be autism"??? LMAO. No but I see what you mean I literally don't even read chat when someone gets emotional on these sessions. It's better to just say something like "I feel you" or something like that then to spam emotes lol.

    • @SealSore65_
      @SealSore65_ Год назад +3

      @@Mystic_Kitty Yeah, I guess I'm just being an armchair psychologist (Dr K probably wouldn't approve of that) but autism just came to mind. I know autistic people can lack empathy as well as showing emotion naturally, so that was just the first thing that came to mind; could be a plethora of reasons.
      It just feels really weird to be honest.

    • @minority86
      @minority86 9 месяцев назад

      ​@@SealSore65_parasocial twitch chat don't know how to be serious this is reality TV to them

  • @Lethalmax
    @Lethalmax Год назад +2

    Emily, I'm new to your videos. I've been watching them for a few month and have very much enjoyed them. I wanted to say I am extremely proud of you for talking about your feelings, it is hard to do and you should be proud of yourself as well. It takes great strength to talk about weaknesses. We all have them, and it makes life easier when you talk about them with someone. We love you!

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @gangsta2319
    @gangsta2319 Год назад +3

    She is beautiful, kind and open heart what is he trying to say in my sense, if he try to add else extra it's on him

  • @Shroudey
    @Shroudey 27 дней назад

    'Unless you blame them, you can't forgive them' is something that just really hit home for me, beautifully worded

  • @Blondip
    @Blondip Год назад +6

    The “Emily who are you here for” was crazy even for me if i was asked that question in her position, jesus i’d be out.

    • @mister_christopher
      @mister_christopher Год назад

      That was a definite gut punch psychological question. And many therapists and psychologists use it to really feel out people that are there just to waste their time or that actually need the help and want it.

  • @supersploof
    @supersploof Год назад +2

    Proud of you Emily for opening up! You work so hard you deserve the life you’ve built for yourself, seeing this other side of you helps us as viewers to understand your personality a little deeper and I think that’s a great thing! So thank you for allowing us this insight into your life and mindset, keep being great

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @yche5843
    @yche5843 Год назад +6

    As an Asian with parents that have high expectations, this is so relatable. I think I it took a toll with the relationship, I’m just not that close with my parents

    • @Turnpost2552
      @Turnpost2552 Год назад +2

      Asian parent definatly have this stereotype nailed. I feel like most asian need therapy because of the trauma.

    • @littlewigglemonster7691
      @littlewigglemonster7691 8 месяцев назад

      As a not Asian that grew up with strict parents I can agree. Me and my parents are very transactional and that's it. I don't even remember last time we said I love you

  • @souleaterevans4589
    @souleaterevans4589 Год назад +2

    I totally feel Emily on dealing with parents who made mistakes, yet the world still expects you to thank them for your trauma, even in your own head. Otherwise we're suddenly disrespectful, ungrateful, and so on. At the very least, that's how we see it in our heads. We punish ourselves for their missteps.

  • @rockerdude
    @rockerdude Год назад +5

    Damn he’s really good! So much deep rooted family trauma that I hope one day she breaks and doesn’t pass the cycle. Even him telling her he’s proud of her made her emotional, I wonder if her parents have ever told her that :/ much love to you Emily! You can do it! And if you don’t it’s totally ok :)❤

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @nikkilim9991
    @nikkilim9991 Год назад +2

    Thank you so much Emily for showing this side of yourself and opening up. Vulnerability is a constant struggle for me. This entire discussion was so relatable and reminds me of myself in therapy especially in the initial days. You're doing great, you should definitely be genuinely happy with yourself. I also struggle with celebrating wins. The vulnerability and self reflection is SO important to normalize in social media and in content creation. Young people and people in general need to see that they are normal for feeling sad or anxious. Self reflection is healthy and so important.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @kitlow2970
    @kitlow2970 Год назад +3

    the thing that makes Emily stand out is her personality. that will translate into longevity.

  • @user-wy3bp2yz8c
    @user-wy3bp2yz8c Год назад +12

    i think emily is still trying to please her parents

    • @mister_christopher
      @mister_christopher Год назад +5

      I don’t think she ever will. Their standards and expectations were set so high for their daughter that she’ll never reach them because they’re the ones in control of where the bar is set.

  • @dad_bob14
    @dad_bob14 Год назад +14

    Yooo, I just wanna say, I appreciate your vulnerability Emily. This was very cathartic* for me but more importantly it looked like it was for you. Keep at it Emily, I hope you are able to find an outlet for you to have moments like this to reset and YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO IT FOR CONTENT hahaha

    • @marcoalvarez6101
      @marcoalvarez6101 Год назад +4

      Hey I don't mean this in a mean way but I think you meant cathartic and not lethargic just so you know for the future

    • @sush1iii
      @sush1iii Год назад +1

      lethargic? did you meant cathartic?:o

    • @dad_bob14
      @dad_bob14 Год назад

      @Marco Alvarez yes, thank you hahaha

    • @dad_bob14
      @dad_bob14 Год назад +1

      @@sush1iii I did, lolz

  • @2darker
    @2darker 8 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks Emily, for being brave when allowed me to learn so much about myself. Good luck you, i must go now and digest these thoughts further. Nuff luv, peace

  • @mykelcurry794
    @mykelcurry794 Год назад +5

    I couldnt let go of when she said, "I wouldn't have to take hot showers :D:D!!". Shes terrified of failure because failure obviously had consequences. Her parents pushed her to be successful but at what cost

  • @Marzetty23
    @Marzetty23 Год назад +1

    I wish more therapists were like Dr K
    I have had so many and they just rry and get ke to do silly word tricks and stuff and it never works. I feel like Dr K is so good at diggingout stuff you wouldnt normally think about or say.
    Im glad Emily did this too, i hope she enjoyed it

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @drearmouse9510
    @drearmouse9510 Год назад +3

    Damn, EE's such a genuine person. Straight up best girl++.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @martian_chan
    @martian_chan Год назад +2

    Its nice to see the actual person behind the character. It didnt take long to notice that Emily puts on a face for her community and maybe for most people around her but I hope she allows herself to be authentic and not feel like she needs to be this "happy" person all the time

  • @M4TTX93-yb2ze
    @M4TTX93-yb2ze Год назад +4

    Awh emily, you're a gem kid, don't ever be afraid to be yourself.

  • @ColtonBlumhagen
    @ColtonBlumhagen 11 месяцев назад +2

    Wow Emily amazing job. This is incredibly brave of you to do this publicly. I truly believe you have a bright future in your streaming career. You have made some great connections already & I definitely see you lasting quite a long time. Surely beyond your 5 years.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      --is the translated text

  • @numanumame
    @numanumame Год назад +3

    When Dr. K asked what she would be like as a mom and she went full on tiger mom mode with cherry on top lmao.
    I do agree though that this interview is for Emily to process privately so she can at least lessen the burden of being burned out and be able to dish out content without the cost of her health.

  • @nxcyer
    @nxcyer Год назад +2

    I'm soooo glad you did this Emily, you don't know how happy this made me to see you be able to get so much off your chest. I'm a VERY empathetic person, and I love helping others, I'm not as '😃' as you but I try to be as upbeat as possible. Tbh, it made me tear up just watching you get teary eyed. Much love from me to you, I hope you will continue having HealthyGamerGG on occasionally for your health. Please continue being yourself, you have sooo many people (myself included) that adore you, and wouldn't change a thing about you. You bring a smile to my face every time I watch any stream or YT video with you in it. I wish I could give you a hug through this screen

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @lukeari8777
    @lukeari8777 Год назад +6

    Ive never seen Dr K so stunlocked before

  • @llmagei
    @llmagei Год назад +1

    I’ve had the same challenges myself as a successful Asian American and the feelings of failure and trauma. My childhood and professional experience is very similar to yours. Thanks doing this with Dr K, I bawled my eyes out 😭😭

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @SudSk1
    @SudSk1 Год назад +4

    This is 100% the best episode I've ever watched. DR. K, You're a weapon.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @goodguyhayden
    @goodguyhayden Год назад +2

    Great video! Helped me realize there are others going through similar thoughts and mental burdens as myself. Seems like an obvious thing but sometimes it’s good to get a reminder you’re not alone.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      -is the translated text

  • @JustGavinBennett
    @JustGavinBennett Год назад +5

    33:00 just wanted to add input, whenever I see a streamer being down on themselves or unsure in life, or negative on stream; it’s usually met with tons of hearts from their community / chat. I don’t think she’d lose viewers, but instead gets lots of support from them in a rough time

  • @superwin9000
    @superwin9000 Год назад +1

    This is actually really cool to see Emily be different and open up about herself.
    Plus this might be the only time we get to see her cry.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      --is the translated text

  • @PositiveRaincloud
    @PositiveRaincloud Год назад +5

    Frick, I wish my therapist was as good as Dr. K. My therapist will put 2minutes of input into a 1hour session of me talking, and I feel like I'm just talking to someone without getting any feedback or solutions. Maybe it's time to change therapists.

    • @IlllIlIIllllIllIIIlIllI
      @IlllIlIIllllIllIIIlIllI Год назад

      If you don't feel like he's working in a way that benefits you the most, definitely try changing. Some people would love to be able to talk themselves through, and sessions like that may help the therapist understand how your work yourself through your thought process, but if you're not seeing a benefit to it, definitely try changing. Guided therapy is definitely needed in some cases.

    • @littlewigglemonster7691
      @littlewigglemonster7691 8 месяцев назад

      I would agree sir I went through years of therapy 4 of them, until I found my current one, it's a game changer when you find someone that clicks. Highly suggest not settling till you find someone that clicks with you

  • @franktaber
    @franktaber Год назад +2

    Without a doubt, this video made me like Emily way more. She shouldn’t be afraid to show both sides on stream. It makes her more likeable and relatable. I can’t relate to someone that’s happy 24/7, but I can relate to someone doing everything they can to not fail and please everyone.

  • @blazingmonolith4323
    @blazingmonolith4323 Год назад +4

    Emily seems like an amazing human being, but she was conditioned to be that way. She really is hard on herself, but she keeps so much bottled up. I really feel bad for her, but at the same time if she is truly happy than I hope she doesnt change. I think that this conversation will help her look inside a little bit even if shes not ready to be sad yet, she will acknowledge that and learn from it. She's an incredibly smart girl and it will make sense eventually.

  • @a-liminal
    @a-liminal Год назад +2

    Extra Emily is an absolute joy. I don't use twitch but her youtube vids always has something fun going on.

    • @Liex09
      @Liex09 3 месяца назад

      "Everything exists with its opposite, we must remember death sometimes so that we can understand the value of life. Let's seek to live life in the right way and prepare for death in the right way.
      We must believe in the Creator and all his prophets, It is important for us to try to find the Creator and turn to him, He gave us reason, conscience and will and set us free, It would be good for us to approach this issue openly, We can do some more research in many ways to improve ourselves on this subject.
      Transitory life..."
      is the translated text

  • @SMOgamer10
    @SMOgamer10 Год назад +3

    It’s incredible that she is crying and sounding cheery at the same time lol