“ when you want to do something, it’s all you want to do. When you don’t wanna do something, it feels like death.” THIS IS THE MOST ACCURATE. Jess, thank you for speaking to this! Never finishing things has made me feel like such a failure over the years! The tricks and tools are so helpful!
I found out I was ADHD and had an anxiety disorder in my 30s. At that time I tried the medication. At first it was a God send and amazing. I could remember what I read for the first time ever in my life. I read self help books and the harry potter series lol. Then I found out what the meds could do to your liver and I decided after five years to go off my meds. I had a new husband and a better moral support. Now I'm back to tons of lists and I can't remember anything. I like your ideas on little rewards. I'm totally stealing that idea. Thank you for this video! I listened to your podcast today as well ❤ I send you a message on that note.😊
I am bipolar. It’s a difficult disorder to manage. My sister got me started watching your channel yrs ago. My gardens always flopped. Last yr i became discouraged & didn’t even try. This yr i was really struggling and i decided to give the vegetable garden another try. I watched hrs of your videos, James who has the food forest and others. But mostly you. I have worked and prayed for months and i have the biggest and most productive garden ever! My whole family has noticed how much i have improved in my mental health plus they’ve been eating good! It has become my sanctuary and it brings me so much peace and calms my over active brain. Almost all my tomatoes are massive. I’ve found vegetables i never knew i liked. I’m eating better. My family are vegetable gluttons now. I call my garden The Bipolar Garden. It’s a double hot mess! I hope you read this Jess. You should know what a huge impact you’ve made on my life. Not to mention all the thousands of others. God is using you in amazing ways my sister. Thank you so much. I can’t tell you what you’ve meant to me and didn’t even know it. LOL. PS……. I’m deep into planning next years Bipolar Garden!
@@sherror don’t give up. I get over and if I’m stressed it makes it hard but most of the time gardening brings me peace and one with our Lord Jesus. What I do is make it pretty so I have a place to relax and I plant and grow what I can handle. Sometimes I plant lots of food and other times I have food yet I have more of a flower garden. Hope this makes sense my brain 🧠 is struggling today lol . Bless you for afar 🙏🏽
As a female gardener, diagnosed with ADHD this year. I can tell you, there are so many times I have felt connected to this channel but never as much as I do now 🥰 thank you Jess, I appreciate you so much, sweet stranger friend ❤️
I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 42 after years and years of being misdiagnosed with everything under the sun. I did take medication for all of those wrong diagnoses and obviously none of them worked but I got to experience all of the negative side effects of those medications. When I was diagnosed with ADHD, I had my doubts after all I had been through; but I was desperate. I did take medication at the beginning and it was amazing! It worked so well but even with insurance it was exorbitantly expensive and I had other financial obligations. So I’ve been living with this for more than a couple of decades, but with finally an accurate diagnosis for the last 12 years. Some days I am on the top of my game, other days, I simply cannot function - AT ALL. My garden reflects both of these days at the same time 😂. Honestly, I am not managing well at all. 😢 I love my garden and I hate my garden. Thanks for this, Jess, I really needed the encouragement and the tips. I love this channel and I love you for you. Have a blessed day.
I was just diagnosed the ripe young age of 68......answers so many questions about my life experiences. Also, found out it runs in my family, I can pinpoint past relatives likely having it. And one of my kids has it too. Oy vey
My sister you are not alone. I will do very well and then I hit a wall out of nowhere. Keep learning and allowing yourself grace. If you need a cheering section reach out to me I will celebrate your efforts even the ones that don’t make it all the way. Starting is such a big deal.
Both my sons were diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 7. They were restless, inattentive and their teachers pushed and pushed us to medicate them, so we did. We didn’t know any different. It was awful. The side effects were worse than the ADHD symptoms, then we couldn’t get them off of it. Fast forward now they are 17 and 19, they are finally medication free, and I wished we had never medicated them in the first place and just took their technology away. That was most of what was causing the issues! Nature is the best therapy. Our brains aren’t meant to be constantly stimulated every minute of every day, just like small children aren’t meant to sit still in a chair for an entire 8 hour school day. God Bless you for your candid video ❤
I have ADHD. Personally I think it’s improperly categorized as a deficiency. I have extremely fast reflexes (I can catch things I knock over), I react while driving before I think which has saved my life multiple times. These were all survival traits we needed when life was a lot harsher. I think telling ppl that there’s something wrong with them for having survival instincts is ridiculous. There’s nothing wrong with your boys. If anything, I bet they’re extremely great at hand eye coordination and athleticism. It’s not a deficiency. Modernity is the deficiency.
I was in middle school when I struggled in school and was constantly studying but only to get a (C) in the 70s . and adhd was not a diagnosis, I’m a quick learner though with hands on a visual learner. As I got older and wanted a career after kids were grown again I struggled especially during tests so I too was diagnosed as a adhd but I tried the drugs but soon like the next day went off . I learned to do stuff w/o meds and yes I have half projects every where. But I do love to garden and so thankful I have found like gardeners ,
Gabor Mate has a great book called “Scattered Minds” - he calls it a domaine divergent disorder. I read it when my son was diagnosed and the whole time was mad at him (Gabor, not my son 😊). I was mad because I kept seeing myself and didn’t want to admit it…. 15 years later our whole family runs 50% through the generations with a formal diagnosis - I do roll my eyes when undiagnosed people joke about an ADHD moment….. oh baby, it’s not a moment…. It’s a lifestyle 😅. We have all tried medication over time…. And honestly, if you are in a crisis it can be good (maybe 🤷🏻♀️)…. We have a saying “live life in your pocket” (pool ball reference). Garden and music are my pocket, driving a garbage truck is my nieces, my son can do magic with an excavator, my sister with social policy…. Every brain has a different pocket. Gabor calls us sensitives and has in interesting view on the evolutionary purpose of sensitives.
I used to complete assessments for teenagers in a high school and it was amazing how many parents were more off the scale than their children. Take care Jess…..you are amazing. Love from the UK xxxx
I'm 73 and have never been diagnosed with ADHD but I have always had problems with shutting my brain off for sleep or easily getting distracted in the garden and end up not doing everything I intended to do and lay in bed wanting to be bk in the garden at 10 pm to finish what I started. To slow down my 100 mph brain at night I listen to my audio Bible and that helps a lot.
Thank you for sharing this about yourself. You are young enough to be my daughter. My projects have always had projects. I’m relating to so much of what you are saying. God bless you and thank you again for being such a good teacher in all your videos. 🏖 from Long Island, NY
Thank you! You have just spoken my life. I am 64 and recently learned that the things I’ve experienced and beat myself up over have a name. My gardening experience is like yours. I appreciate that you explained it so well. I was telling my husband, “Listen! She’s saying the same things I say!” Even being able to get more done when someone is with me. Very affirming. God bless you.
I make lists. 2 column lists. First column is everything that I think needs to be accomplished. Second column is everything I actually do. This way I'm not disappointed that after a long busy day, I haven't crossed much off my list.
That's a great tip! I try to add the things I have done that wasn't on the list then cross them out just so I feel like I did something. But making 2 columns is brilliant!
I love my lists! I couldn't get anything done without structuring myself. Both my kids have ADHD and now all my grandchildren. I hate it for them because so many people just don't understand how our brains are.
Your videos are pavlovian for me at this point. 0 motivation to do garden tasks and then I turn on one of your videos and suddenly I'm like LETS GO. Forever grateful ❤
I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 57! Medication changed so much for me; less impulsive, better retentive memory, sound became 2 dimensional with background noise staying in the background not forefront and center, I found that I did have a sense of direction, more able to handle change, and more adaptable. I wish i had been treated as a child for I had to study about 4 hours a night to hold Cs and low Bs. I chose to do 2 years of college in 4 because I knew I had learning differences, that and being able to highligt my text books got me an AAS Degree. So we ADHDers can muddle along without meds but the right meds can certainly help. People are born with ADHD its not acquired as an adult (barring brain injury). Thank you, Jess, for your transparency and for your consistent diligent work with your videos!
Definitely born with it. Thank you for adding that. And you don’t “grow out of it”. That drives me crazy. When we’ve been diagnosed as children, we learn to adapt to what works for us as we age, and we learn what behavior is acceptable to society and we make adjustments to make others comfortable, but it’s temporary.
I really appreciate this topic! I think gardening attracts a lot of people with ADHD because there are so many different things to do with it. It is the only thing I am able to maintain but your tools are super helpful. Now if I can figure out how to keep a clean house. Dust is like weeds! 😂
Thank you! I was diagnosed at the age of 54. Just this year. I cried. My life would have been so much easier, especially in my 20's, had I known. I'm not medicating. I learned over the years to somewhat manage. Now, I know I'm not lazy. I love that you keep it real here! BTW, I had to pause the video about 5 times. You know ADD!
I have never been diagnosed but I know I have it. I remember as a child being always worried about stuff that I should not have. I worried about my grandma dying and would go stand by her window at night til she would holler at me and tell me to go home. We lived next door to her and I was like 11 or 12. I did well in school but was a constant procrastinator. I have chosen not to be diagnosed or to take meds because my mom was an addict(long hard story). I’m functioning well but I’m still procrastinating lol. My grandma passed in 2004. It broke my heart but I know she is with her Lord and Savior. I miss her so much still. Thanks for being open about this. This is why I love your channel.❤
Jessica, Your videos are simply joyful. I have to say that your words of encouragement ring true for many of us, even those without an ADHD diagnosis, so thank you :)
This is honestly one of the most validating and encouraging videos to me as a late-diagnosed ADHD woman gardener. Soooo many of these things resonate with me and the suggestions you make are really helpful.
I was diagnosed with ADHD last year and it has changed my life. I use a lot of these techniques to manage the things I don't want to in my life (which for me is mostly house work and paperwork). I wanted to give you a shout out because watching the way you garden and preserve food is what made me feel like I could do it. I've watched other channels that talk about gardening and they are so structured and rigid and like if you don't have everything right then you'll fail and that just overwhelmed me and made me not want to even try. I like your more go with the flow method of gardening, that it should be fun, and you can do it the way you want to and it made it feel more approachable. I'm now 4 years into gardening and loving it. I love the cyclical and seasonal nature of growing and preserving food. I think it has really helped my ADHD to tap more into these natural cycles. Not only does it make more sense to my brain but it also helps me handle winter better. I live in a place with a short growing season and a long cold winter. Which can be really rough on your mental health if you frame it as, "I spend most the year waiting for summer and it only lasts 3 months". But living more seasonal means that I enjoy each one. I love the hustle and bustle of summer, watching my plants grow, preserving. But I also recognize the magic of fall, and the preserving push it brings. And by the time the first snow falls I usually sigh a sigh or relief and lay down and take a nap. So, anyway, thanks for making this video, it's nice to feel seen.
😮omg I am truly blown away…. I have never been diagnosed however, I’ve always been very judgmental about myself not being able to manage time or finish the tasks at hand. 😭 it makes so much sense… THANK YOU JESS!! You are truly a blessing to me. Please keep me in your prayers!!! Lord knows I am going through a hard time right now!
i am 66 year’s old and i have lived with ADHD my whole entire life. Now my children have it and now my grandchildren have it it put you in the world of your own and nobody else understand especially since school systems. Never once have I ever gave up on my family or my kids. 💚
Thank you Jess diagnosed last year at 53, I grieved for my younger self especially after spending decades getting help for my children. Every time I hear or watch people share their experiences with ADHD I learn more grace. x
I was lucky enough to be diagnosed as a child. I have always known that my brain was different. Anxiety and depression are something that we are very prone to BECAUSE of the processing of dopamine. I still struggle with it. This is why I have to find joy in everything consciously. In EVERYTHING I do, I have to find something joyful about it. For instance, I hate, absolutely hate, doing the dishes. So when I have dishes, I need to do. I tell myself, “imagine how nice it’s going to be because I won’t have to wash it later.” or, “If I get this done now, I won’t have to wash it before I use it for dinner.” This doesn’t always work but it frequently does help with the executive disfunction. All these tips are fantastic. One thing I have learned is to not give up on myself. You CAN do anything. You might need to find a way to get started and connected. If you get disconnected, let it sit for a bit. Many times you can come back to it later no problem. One thing that helps me is to put on a video or book about the topic I’m working on. I “watch” sewing videos if I have a big sewing or quilting project for instance. And yes the habits are never ever easy. Heck, I have a very hard time brushing my teeth. I know that it sounds ridiculous but it’s true. I have to have my husband remind me every single night.
I have never officially been diagnosed withADHD but have always thought I was. Your vlog was spot on for the way I work and process in the garden. I felt like you were talking about me the whole time because it was so accurate. I am going to share this vlog with my husband because your explanation is so on point! Thank you for giving voice to how ADHD people process! God has so gifted you with the ability to express in words what many of us can’t . This blog was a huge blessing for me!
I was told when I was fifteen that I had a learning disability but diagnosis would be difficult due to coping skills. At 23 I was diagnosed ADHD. I think the stigma is melting. It’s more okay to say I’m different and I process differently. During my exploration for answers I saw my permanent record. This was what the teachers recorded for each other that was never meant for me nor my parents to view. They said Kristen is struggling but she’s not a behavior problem. Year after year different words same sentiment. Now teachers see that students like me need help as well. And people like you make it okay to be an adult that needs structure and pattern and motivators to get through tasks. Thank you for living your life out loud so the rest of us can.
I thank you. I to am ADHD, as are my children. Its been a long journey, and is not over yet. It's a small part of a big party bag. I didnt realize all that this is till i had children and it was so hard for them in school, social situations, and in life general. It is heredity, and im the gal! God made me like this for a reason, and i believe He has used me for a purpose. Maybe to understand others who are misunderstood. To God be the glory in all of it! He can use a faithful idiot.😊 referring only to myself.❤
You keep kicking butt, Jess. ADHD is no joke. I'm 45 and I was diagnosed with ADHD. My mom took me to my Dr and told him that she was not going to put me on any of those meds they had back then. My Dr. looked at my mom and told her, mind you I was 5 years old but the Dr. said to her, you take him home, and you fix him a whole pot of black coffee and let him drink it. Well, I'm a coffeeholic now lol, but it absolutely helped me and the coffee did the opposite then it normally does. It completely calmed me down and as a rodeo photographer it really helps lol. Anyhow, One day I will buy some of yalls coffee lol, but you're doing really well with someone that has ADHD. Gardening is good for the soul and your body physically.
I assumed you had ADD for years (OG follower since 2019). I've always followed your mental squirrel trails and thought you think and talk like me, which I love! I first learned that I have ADD when I was 18, 30 years ago. I highly recommend the book Driven to Distraction. It completely opened my eyes and changed my life. I actually read it again every few years. Also, carnivore and beef organ supplements seems to be helping me stay on track during my work hours. Love you lots.
I don’t know if I officially have add but I do have add tendencies. Add in 2 kids 5 and just turned 4. Oh man. I just feel like I spin around in chaotic circles all day. Leaving half done tasks in my wake. If I am pulled from something. It’s a 50% chance I’ll even remember to go back it it. Curious how Jess handled having small children with add. For me I just try to enjoy the season of littles. I know it won’t always be like this.
I am feeling very blessed to know you (through RUclips) and wanted to let you know that you have had a positive effect on my life. I am saving this to listen to again because WOW it hits close to home for me!
I was almost 40 when I was diagnosed, and finally all my life struggles (and “personality traits”) made sense. That “aha” moment like you mentioned when reflecting on my childhood and beyond. I had many of those same struggles but never considered ADHD because of the traditional way it’s taught in the medical field. I am a registered nurse with a degree in psychology as well…😂 Medication is immensely helpful but still not 100%. Knowing so many other successful people live with this and still thrive is inspiring and comforting.
What a great video Mrs. Jess! Between anxiety and adhd, my garden was my little piece of heaven on earth. During covid, I even got chickens, rabbits and quail. All on about 10k sqft of urban yard. What a tremendous blessing you and your family have been for creating my peace in such a busy and topsy turvy world. One of the things that helped me was automation. Automated waterers, fans, lights and anything that helped keep it moving forward when my energy levels were at their lowest. We're in the process of moving now, to a much smaller property, but with the pay off of moving to a county setting in just a few years when I retire. Keep up the great work and may GOD continue to pour HIS blessings upon you all!
💚 Thank you, Jess..you are such a Gem..and for so many. Reading all these comments is truly amazing! So many lives are touched by you and your gift of word crafting and sharing your heart and brain, , including mine. Showers of Blessings for us All. 💚
I don't typically comment but... this really was everything I needed to hear and made me realize why I love gardening so much because it really give me a the dopamine kick that my ADHD brain is looking for 😂
Thank you for posting this! I will turn 66 tomorrow and was diagnosed in my late 40's. It was an incredible Ah ha moment for me as well. I did choose to go the meds route and it was truly life changing for me. It took me from being someone who worked harder than anyone I knew, but felt I accomplished nothing, which is horribly damaging to one's self esteem, to be able to focus and finish tasks. I think however one decides to handle their own mental health care is a personal choice with no right or wrong answers. Good luck in your journey Jess and as always, just shining a light in general, but especially for this issue ❤❤
Jess, I wonder how many people consider you their best friend, the person they turn to when they’re down, the person who lifts them up when they need it most. You touch so many lives!! God uses you to shine His light in so many ways in so many lives/homes/relationships. Thank you for obeying Him!! I’ve not been diagnosed with ADHD nor do I claim to have it, but I do have to always have something planned. Occasionally, I will find that I have nothing planned, nothing on my calendar. Those times are so dark, so depressing. I’ve just always said I need something to look forward to. I enjoy my daily life, but I NEED to have something planned that I can look forward to, whether it be a trip across the country or a family dinner.
No ADHD here, but I have OCD and have had to go through the same processes as it sounds like a lot of people here in the comments to take it from debilitating to liveable. I have a 7 year-old and I can already start to see some OCD traits, bless his heart. Now I say thank you Lord for giving me the experience to help him when no one helped me back then.
Also a great student but didn't graduate high school. I was bored. I felt trapped. I LOVED college (I had much more control) and achieved advanced degrees. I have had many different careers because, again... I get bored. I always have a wonderful start to the gardening season and let it go by the end, but I love all the "fresh starts" that come with gardening. 🤩
I dont have ADHD but man was audiobooks a GAME CHANGER. 4 hrs of weeding and fertilizing ahead? much much easier with audiobooks. I found I would overthink myself into pain in the garden before, I'd anxiety spiral myself with bad thoughts, and past convos and all my failings, and then audiobooks just...quiets it
Diagnosed when I was 17, now 43. Thanks to my mom who was aware of the symptoms and struggles! Thank you Jess for your transparency. I still struggle, but have way more acceptance and grace for myself. I work full time outside of my home and manage my household, and my garden is what keeps me sane. However, at times it can be completely overwhelming. BUT… it is one of my tools to reign myself back in. After alot of convincing and cheering myself on, preparing…I’ll spend 15, 20, 30 minutes at a time with an audiobook and my thoughts and I can recenter myself to where I want to be. One hour, one day at a time. I can’t imagine a winter without my garden fresh tomato and spaghetti sauce. Thank you Jess!❤
Diagnosed at 41- and its a relief to know finally…. and at the same time its heartbreaking to know that had I been diagnosed earlier my life would have been so much different. But now I know…. So I am ready to move forward.
I do have an opinion and will express it. Children and adults with ADHD are all different as those of us unaffected are all different as my students with ADHD taught me. My ADHD students either loved school or didn't, and they were advanced or not, eager to learn or not motivated. Some more severe than others, some medicated, some not, they were just children and I loved them. The same goes for adults with the diagnosis. They have now probably learned systems by which they function best with some medicated, some not. Great! That's the way all people need to function, doing what works best for them. You are just a person who has figured out what works best for you, one who has had to work harder at it than most, but you are doing it. Kuddos to you! On behalf of other in your situation, thank you.
I will remark on one student, 2nd grader, with ADHD who was overwhelmed quite easily. When overwhelm came he turned very aggressive and violent to other students and adults alike. He had a 1 on 1 adult with him most of the time, always on the playground, and that helped. I guess that was our way of body doubling. I always thought his aggressive tendency was something we didn't know much about, but parents were unwilling to investigate. Thanks for bringing your body doubling forward and how that helps you.
I was diagnosed with ADHD right before getting kicked out of college for low grades and attendance. Within the last year Autism was added to that as we worked with my son to help him. My whole life I was told I was a lazy bum who never finished anything and had so much wasted potential. It took a long time to learn to love my brain and the way God wired it to work and honestly it is a choice I frequently have to make to accept myself rather than hate what I think others see. While it is a constant struggle gardening has been a constant over the last few years. I have been so thankful for your videos as they make me feel seen and accepted for how my brain does gardening. Both I and my son have gotten so much inspiration and dopamine boosts to get back out there when we fall into a melt down from your channel. Thank you for sharing and allowing a place at the table for those of us whose brains work differently. ❤️
Jess this is pure gold. I have never been diagnosed with neurodivergency but I have some stroooooooong suspicions. I identify with everything single point you discussed here, and your vids throughout the last few years, when I first your channel, are the biggest reason I never gave up. "Put a chair in your garden"; "Things want to grow"; "If my pigs can start a garden with their poop, surely I can start one with my best efforts"; "The best medicine for the garden is the gardener"; "Turn your waiting room into a classroom"; "There's always next year". Seeing your gardening successes and the fact that you're completely human has caused me to truly believe that I am actually a gardener too. ❤
Hey Jess, I was in the Dentist chair when I onnected the dots. The hygienist and I were talking . Everything I said she said a letter ADHD🫢. They used other words when I was a Child and this women understood it . Magical! Hang there everyone step by step❤. JO JO IN VT 💞
Thank you for making this video. I actually made a video title my neurodivergent mind on gardening. Everything you said resonated with me and my husband was watching with me and he was like this is you! He’s very neurotypical. 😂😂
I've always felt we were very much kin, one of my special interests as an Autistic person is knowledge gathering and I can tell it's one of yours as well with ADHD. There's nothing like knowing something new! But being alive as an adult who was diagnosed ADHD in 8th grade and then diagnosed with Autism at age 31 is one of the most difficult things you can do. These differences are neurological and genetic. Figuring out how my brain is wired was the most beneficial thing I've ever done in my life. Being self aware about how my brain processes information differently was one of the saving graces for me. Also, adhd IS a disability, so is Autism. This is not a bad thing, it's just a difference.
There is an extra level of pleasure to digging up bright purple potatoes, and harvesting that fruit variety you know you'd never get to eat otherwise. As much as I love seed saving, seed catalogue and researching new garden varieties is a huge part of the fun I would not go without.
This video is exactly the kind of content that I needed. I was also diagnosed with ADHD as an adult a few years ago, and I constantly feel like I am losing a battle with the garden and my brain. I am at that point of overwhelm with the garden with the rain and weeds. Thank you for sharing, I know this will be a video I come back to time and time again when I need a pick-me-up from a friend who understands ❤
I am not officially diagnosed; however, I’m pretty sure there is no question. And that knowledge has given me grace for myself as well. My sister told me recently she’s known my whole life but it’s just who I am and she wouldn’t want me any different. Getting my hands in the dirt grounds me so much! Or my feet in the grass. I have so many unfinished projects, but that gives me something to jump back too. Thanks for sharing your heart
No wonder I love you and this is the first that I heard that you had ADD. I was diagnosed about 2 years ago at 47 during the change of life and it has gotten so hard. I have been put through a lot of gas lighting medically, For over ten years to the point I felt I was feeling like I’m slowly dying. Thank you for making this and sharing your story. Your story is my story. Im 49 now and I’m still struggling and trying to find balance plus menopause and autoimmune is almost breaking me but I stay strong with God. I know now that ADD diagnosis makes sense, It has affected me as a kid but back then they did no studies on girls and our brains work a lil differently. I pray I can get better but the medical industry has hurt me more than help and I’m trying to figure it out still but I’m so very tired and I’m trying to stay hopeful. Again thank you 🙏🏽 and God bless you
Wow! You’ve so defined who I am! Flitting all over and never accomplishing one thing! I was hyperactive when little but I’m thinking it was undiagnosed ADHD. (No, I’m not putting it as a crutch to define my failures). Thank you for bringing this subject to light. I’ve been trying to bring balance to my life by trying to alter and maneuver around my thinking. Great overwhelm has always hung over my spirit. Thinking something was wrong with me but realizing I’ve been cutting out all the things that bring me joy; like sitting outside with coffee in the morning. God bless you, sweet Girl. ❤
Wow, Jess! This video is the epitome of why I continually find myself so drawn to your channel and your style of teaching folks how to garden. Over the years, you have regularly and repeatedly helped me to better understand and articulate how my own brain works. 🧠 I felt so seen and understood while watching this. I gardened for several years before I found you, but learning from and alongside you is truly what has made me the successful gardener I am today. Thank you so much for putting all these great tips in one place!! 💚
I’m a 70 year old gardener. And some of the things you say I have went through for years. I know I have more years to go so I will definitely use your advice and have my coffee in the garden. And plan my day accordingly, I didn’t know about dopamine. Thank you so much. I know I’ll have a happier life. Love your video.
Is there a way to do 10 thumbs up? You are so amazing in your explanations of life and giving us hope. These comments can be broadened to so many areas of living, not just gardening. 👍👍👍👍👍
Gardening is the best adhd hobby because I get super motivated in Feb/March due to winter blues, my husband helps me plant and water, and if I lose interest I get food and flowers, because seeds will grow!
ADHD or not there are so many valuable tools that everyone can take away from what you are saying. I always hear Jess in the back of my head with her mantras, I love "it's not failure, it's lessons." I'll be saying that to myself more. You are such a motivation! Thank you for all that you do!
2 of my boys have ADHD....even into their adulthood. I hated them being on meds...they were zombies. I changed their diets, no red dyes, no sugars, fructose, dextrose etc. Natural foods, organic, grown at home. Charts with chores, and remembering to talk to them about getting things done ONE thing at a time. My oldest said having ADHD was like sitting in a room full of tv's that were all on different channels and trying to watch just one. They both graduated (with MUCH help) and we knew college was not an option for them. They both went into the trades....both are licensed plumbers. They are doing great, son #2 just started his own business and is doing very well. ADHD is constantly being studied.....drugs are not always the answer. Sometimes it just takes a lot of "self" research and study and work to get them through.
@@OZARKMEL try a Phosphatidylserine supplement. It’s a key component in cells. Also omega 3 with coq10, magnesium and amino acids . I take 2 400mg a day of the Phosphatidylserine and the tv analogy pretty much goes away I call it mental swirl.
Well, this explains alot. ❤❤❤. I have always had MULTIPLE projects going on. Family and friends often don't understand why I don't get them done when I start them. I have had to be regimental with some things in order to get them accomplished. You spoke to me deeply today. So grateful for your channel. God has blessed me with you and your channel. Thank you😊
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child and wow what a difficult journey it's been. I will be 62 this month and have learned alot all these years. Anyway thank you so much for this video and your words, I needed to hear all of this.... By the way, you are wonderful. I watch both your channels all the time. God bless you. Yes for me also~ Gardening is my life and my jam 🌞
How did you know that I was overwhelmed & ready to quit my summer garden? Having someone with me in the garden (even someone disinterested) is exactly what I've felt I needed lately. Wow, you explained everything to a T. I really needed to hear this. God bless you for sharing❤. You are a deep, deep well...a treasure for all who hear you speak. Keep at it.
She Slapped again ladies and gents! 💯🤣 I swear you speak straight to my heart at the most perfect times! We love and bless you Jess 🙏 Thank you as always for sharing your experience and heart with us. Such great advice. 🙏🥰🙏
I'm with you, though I am gardening with Cancer and the loss of my right hand. I used to have a beautiful, lush productive garden, but it has become overwhelming these past 6 years little by little. Overwhelm, at least for me is the biggest issue to battle. Any produce I can harvest is a blessing for me and my Significant other.
Also gardening with cancer. I skipped gardening last year, but this year I decided I wasn’t giving it up to wait to ‘get past’ the next treatment or test. Living in the moment as much as possible.
@@amylitton2613 Sometimes it is a real battle to get motivated, then to stay on top of things for me. But I discover that once I'm outside in the garden, I want to stay there! A strong attitude that nothing will stop us, especially cancer is the trick. Mind over body.
Raising chickens has been the turning point for me in managing to stick with the garden all summer long. It forces me outside at dawn and dusk, and since I'm already out there, sweaty and in my anti-mosquito armor, I might as well strap on the knee pads and gloves and weed the peppers. This is the first year my garden has looked lovely in August, and I owe it all to my darling egg layers, and they are amply rewarded with overripe cucumbers for their service :)
My adult son has told me for years that I am ADHD. I didn’t believe him until listening to you. We share the same struggles. We also share the same chair in the garden. Didn’t know why I love a chair on the garden. Now I do. You’ve inspired me to learn more about adhd and how to cope with it.
I had you in my ears while I was outside picking beans (a variety you suggested called calima bush beans) when you mentioned other people using your videos as motivation. I definitely do that but you're like my timer. I'll listen to the video while doing a task :)
🙏This was SOOOO beneficial to me!! I don't think I'm ADD, but either you've convinced me I am, or your advice is just FANTASTIC cross the board, for EVERYONE! Love you, Jess! Never stop sharing your philosophy with us!💚💚💚
I’m 54 and undiagnosed but pretty sure I have ADHD…you’ve just described me to a T ! I really think it happens often in creative people (I’m a fine artist) been like this all my life…thanks for sharing how you cope…regardless of a diagnosis, these are so helpful! 🌸🐝
Gosh I wish I could write a comment to you that means AS MUCH to you as this video means to me… I just wanna hit you with a beam of “thank you” nearly every video but especially, about every 6 months, you create a video that changes/hugs my brain chemistry ❤
It has been a huge calming thing for me to be honest. I have adhd/ anxiety bad to where the doctor prescribed me meds morning and at night while asleep.. i said I didn’t feel good on it cause i felt like a zombie … finally said no and learned some coping strategies .. crocheting was fun but it kept me from getting up and staying active.. i found gardening 101 videos and i said hey .. i can do that! My family said “ oh another hobby” it was hard to have the support to be honest but just mixing my potting mix it truly makes me feel calm and knowing that im growing these things for my family and that i know i can share with my neighbors.
One of the chimes that just clicked for my ADHD hubby was "don't put it down, put it away" Sounds so obvious, and I've said to him "put this away!" and it sits on deaf ears. But "don't put it down, out it away" has helped him (and me 😅) tremendously
Gardening is the only hobby I've been able to keep a love for year after year because there is so much variety and so much dopamine to be had. Every flower that blooms, every piece of food I harvest makes my head and my heart sing. I've got reminders to water because living in Ireland you don't have to water every day. I've even got a reminder on my Google Calendar for when I need to start tomato and pepper seeds at the end of January every year. There are times in the middle where it feels more like a chore than a fun hobby and there isn't any dopamine to be found. During those times I would almost rather be doing dishes than tending to the garden. Almost. But I remind myself that soon everything will be blooming and I just need to keep going a little bit longer for that reward. Gardening with ADHD isn't easy. To be honest, nothing is easy with ADHD. But it is worth every bit of struggle.
Oh goodness. I have known my whole life I have ADHD, I had assumed you had it from the first video I watched of you in 2019 lol. It is a real struggle to live with for me. It's funny that we can recognize our own (people with it) though. We have big feelings and imaginations. It's hard for others to relate to us to be honest. But we are beautifully and wonderfully made!!! So we don't fit the norm or learn like others. That's okay!!
Two years ago was my diagnosis. I was 60. I feel you. ADDitude (free) online magazine, and adhd podcasts have been an immeasurable help and support. *hugs*
Specific things that have helped me: 1. Growing on arch trellises (especially switching to stringless pole green beans) 2. Large tomato cages so I don’t have to prune and tie up 3. A mailbox full of clippers/gloves/hand shovels
Thanks for sharing Jess! In my 60s and still figuring out “me”. I can totally relate to late in life diagnosis of ADHD. Since 2020 following and learning from you and your Roots and Refuge channel, Charles “Mr no dig”, The Impatient Gardener, Northlawn Flower Farm, and You Can’t Eat the Grass has inspired this great gardening activity for my health and sanity. I didn’t realize it at the time. Just was something to keep me busy. But once I started couldn’t stop. Guess I’ll be growing and learning for as long as I physically can but that’s all we can hope for! Thanks for all you do!!!
Jess, just like a good preacher who the Lord has laid a particular message on his heart, I truly believe the Lord has sent you to deliver messages. I gave up gardening several years ago. I just simply talked myself out of it. I didn’t need one more failure. I truly saw myself as you were talking just now. Yes. That’s what I do, yes, that’s exactly how I feel, or see things. My best friend and former garden buddy has been trying to get me back to gardening recently. And I’m slowly seeing a hope at the end of this long dark tunnel. I have to say, the Lord truly gave you the message I needed to hear today. I needed to know I’m not alone, I’m not the only one, there is hope. Jess, thank you! Thank you Lord for Jessica. Thank you for the message my heart and soul desperately needed and unknowingly wanted. Thank you.
My husband and I both have ADHD. Managing a homestead takes a lot of grace for ourselves and each other. Thankfully God continues to give us the passion to push on and reap the abundance.
ADHD is my 20 yr old sons SUPER POWER!!! Smart as a tack, but struggled in high school. Can't clean his room. But at his job, he's a BEAST! Youngest person to ever hold his position in the corporation. Excels far and above others in his position, leads and trains people a decade older than himself. It's amazing! SUPER POWER
I didn't realize the body double thing was something others deal with! I sit on my son's bed and talk to him while he picks up and puts away. What would take him all day ends up taking about 15 minutes when I do that. He's also learned that sticky notes are his best friend.
This is my life!! I only had 1 doctor tell me she thought I have add which totally makes sense. Focusing on one task at a time is such a struggle and my husband tells me I have so many things I start and not finish. Thank you for validating so many of us. ❤
“ when you want to do something, it’s all you want to do. When you don’t wanna do something, it feels like death.” THIS IS THE MOST ACCURATE. Jess, thank you for speaking to this! Never finishing things has made me feel like such a failure over the years! The tricks and tools are so helpful!
I would say even if you do want to do it getting started feels like death.
@@christinenatvig2313yes! It’s always the hardest part for me…which is why the “timer trick” doesn’t work for me. I started, and now I can’t stop 😂
Yeeess! Exactly!!!!!
Yesss 100% this!!!
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Raise your hand if Jessica & her RUclips and/or podcast acts as your body-double when in the garden!
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I found out I was ADHD and had an anxiety disorder in my 30s. At that time I tried the medication. At first it was a God send and amazing. I could remember what I read for the first time ever in my life. I read self help books and the harry potter series lol. Then I found out what the meds could do to your liver and I decided after five years to go off my meds. I had a new husband and a better moral support. Now I'm back to tons of lists and I can't remember anything. I like your ideas on little rewards. I'm totally stealing that idea. Thank you for this video! I listened to your podcast today as well ❤ I send you a message on that note.😊
I am bipolar. It’s a difficult disorder to manage. My sister got me started watching your channel yrs ago. My gardens always flopped. Last yr i became discouraged & didn’t even try. This yr i was really struggling and i decided to give the vegetable garden another try. I watched hrs of your videos, James who has the food forest and others. But mostly you. I have worked and prayed for months and i have the biggest and most productive garden ever! My whole family has noticed how much i have improved in my mental health plus they’ve been eating good! It has become my sanctuary and it brings me so much peace and calms my over active brain. Almost all my tomatoes are massive. I’ve found vegetables i never knew i liked. I’m eating better. My family are vegetable gluttons now. I call my garden The Bipolar Garden. It’s a double hot mess! I hope you read this Jess. You should know what a huge impact you’ve made on my life. Not to mention all the thousands of others. God is using you in amazing ways my sister. Thank you so much. I can’t tell you what you’ve meant to me and didn’t even know it. LOL. PS……. I’m deep into planning next years Bipolar Garden!
@@sherror don’t give up. I get over and if I’m stressed it makes it hard but most of the time gardening brings me peace and one with our Lord Jesus. What I do is make it pretty so I have a place to relax and I plant and grow what I can handle. Sometimes I plant lots of food and other times I have food yet I have more of a flower garden. Hope this makes sense my brain 🧠 is struggling today lol . Bless you for afar 🙏🏽
As a female gardener, diagnosed with ADHD this year. I can tell you, there are so many times I have felt connected to this channel but never as much as I do now 🥰 thank you Jess, I appreciate you so much, sweet stranger friend ❤️
Love this channel 😊😊😊
I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 42 after years and years of being misdiagnosed with everything under the sun. I did take medication for all of those wrong diagnoses and obviously none of them worked but I got to experience all of the negative side effects of those medications. When I was diagnosed with ADHD, I had my doubts after all I had been through; but I was desperate. I did take medication at the beginning and it was amazing! It worked so well but even with insurance it was exorbitantly expensive and I had other financial obligations. So I’ve been living with this for more than a couple of decades, but with finally an accurate diagnosis for the last 12 years. Some days I am on the top of my game, other days, I simply cannot function - AT ALL. My garden reflects both of these days at the same time 😂. Honestly, I am not managing well at all. 😢 I love my garden and I hate my garden. Thanks for this, Jess, I really needed the encouragement and the tips. I love this channel and I love you for you. Have a blessed day.
I was just diagnosed the ripe young age of 68......answers so many questions about my life experiences. Also, found out it runs in my family, I can pinpoint past relatives likely having it. And one of my kids has it too. Oy vey
Learn some tricks to make life easier - Jess has certainly outlined a nice set of things that will help. Good luck!
My sister you are not alone. I will do very well and then I hit a wall out of nowhere. Keep learning and allowing yourself grace. If you need a cheering section reach out to me I will celebrate your efforts even the ones that don’t make it all the way. Starting is such a big deal.
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In almost the same boat here at 38! I work with seven minutes timer, thats the best thing ive found so far.
Both my sons were diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 7. They were restless, inattentive and their teachers pushed and pushed us to medicate them, so we did. We didn’t know any different. It was awful. The side effects were worse than the ADHD symptoms, then we couldn’t get them off of it. Fast forward now they are 17 and 19, they are finally medication free, and I wished we had never medicated them in the first place and just took their technology away. That was most of what was causing the issues! Nature is the best therapy. Our brains aren’t meant to be constantly stimulated every minute of every day, just like small children aren’t meant to sit still in a chair for an entire 8 hour school day. God Bless you for your candid video ❤
I have ADHD. Personally I think it’s improperly categorized as a deficiency. I have extremely fast reflexes (I can catch things I knock over), I react while driving before I think which has saved my life multiple times. These were all survival traits we needed when life was a lot harsher.
I think telling ppl that there’s something wrong with them for having survival instincts is ridiculous. There’s nothing wrong with your boys. If anything, I bet they’re extremely great at hand eye coordination and athleticism.
It’s not a deficiency. Modernity is the deficiency.
I have ADHD born in the 80s so I didn’t have any screen time to distract me. I wish that would solve my ADHD too.
I was in middle school when I struggled in school and was constantly studying but only to get a (C) in the 70s . and adhd was not a diagnosis, I’m a quick learner though with hands on a visual learner. As I got older and wanted a career after kids were grown again I struggled especially during tests so I too was diagnosed as a adhd but I tried the drugs but soon like the next day went off . I learned to do stuff w/o meds and yes I have half projects every where. But I do love to garden and so thankful I have found like gardeners ,
Gabor Mate has a great book called “Scattered Minds” - he calls it a domaine divergent disorder. I read it when my son was diagnosed and the whole time was mad at him (Gabor, not my son 😊). I was mad because I kept seeing myself and didn’t want to admit it…. 15 years later our whole family runs 50% through the generations with a formal diagnosis - I do roll my eyes when undiagnosed people joke about an ADHD moment….. oh baby, it’s not a moment…. It’s a lifestyle 😅. We have all tried medication over time…. And honestly, if you are in a crisis it can be good (maybe 🤷🏻♀️)…. We have a saying “live life in your pocket” (pool ball reference). Garden and music are my pocket, driving a garbage truck is my nieces, my son can do magic with an excavator, my sister with social policy…. Every brain has a different pocket. Gabor calls us sensitives and has in interesting view on the evolutionary purpose of sensitives.
I used to complete assessments for teenagers in a high school and it was amazing how many parents were more off the scale than their children. Take care Jess…..you are amazing. Love from the UK xxxx
Your description of the activities that don't interest you or give you dopamine were like dying was spot on!
7:02 New t-shirt idea, “Gardening itself is…inherently awesome…” Jessica Sowards, Roots & Refuge Farm
I'm 73 and have never been diagnosed with ADHD but I have always had problems with shutting my brain off for sleep or easily getting distracted in the garden and end up not doing everything I intended to do and lay in bed wanting to be bk in the garden at 10 pm to finish what I started. To slow down my 100 mph brain at night I listen to my audio Bible and that helps a lot.
Thank you for sharing this about yourself. You are young enough to be my daughter. My projects have always had projects. I’m relating to so much of what you are saying. God bless you and thank you again for being such a good teacher in all your videos. 🏖 from Long Island, NY
Watching this thru tears.. I will be 60 on Sunday and I have struggled for years without understanding my emotions.. Thank you so much Jess.
I feel your pain.
So true for me too.
Thank you! You have just spoken my life. I am 64 and recently learned that the things I’ve experienced and beat myself up over have a name. My gardening experience is like yours. I appreciate that you explained it so well. I was telling my husband, “Listen! She’s saying the same things I say!” Even being able to get more done when someone is with me. Very affirming. God bless you.
I make lists. 2 column lists. First column is everything that I think needs to be accomplished. Second column is everything I actually do. This way I'm not disappointed that after a long busy day, I haven't crossed much off my list.
That's a great tip! I try to add the things I have done that wasn't on the list then cross them out just so I feel like I did something. But making 2 columns is brilliant!
I love my lists! I couldn't get anything done without structuring myself. Both my kids have ADHD and now all my grandchildren. I hate it for them because so many people just don't understand how our brains are.
Jess! Thank you, thank you, thank you. Perfect timing. You are a real human being.
Your videos are pavlovian for me at this point. 0 motivation to do garden tasks and then I turn on one of your videos and suddenly I'm like LETS GO. Forever grateful ❤
I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 57! Medication changed so much for me; less impulsive, better retentive memory, sound became 2 dimensional with background noise staying in the background not forefront and center, I found that I did have a sense of direction, more able to handle change, and more adaptable. I wish i had been treated as a child for I had to study about 4 hours a night to hold Cs and low Bs. I chose to do 2 years of college in 4 because I knew I had learning differences, that and being able to highligt my text books got me an AAS Degree.
So we ADHDers can muddle along without meds but the right meds can certainly help. People are born with ADHD its not acquired as an adult (barring brain injury).
Thank you, Jess, for your transparency and for your consistent diligent work with your videos!
Definitely born with it. Thank you for adding that. And you don’t “grow out of it”. That drives me crazy. When we’ve been diagnosed as children, we learn to adapt to what works for us as we age, and we learn what behavior is acceptable to society and we make adjustments to make others comfortable, but it’s temporary.
I really appreciate this topic! I think gardening attracts a lot of people with ADHD because there are so many different things to do with it. It is the only thing I am able to maintain but your tools are super helpful. Now if I can figure out how to keep a clean house. Dust is like weeds! 😂
Thank you! I was diagnosed at the age of 54. Just this year. I cried. My life would have been so much easier, especially in my 20's, had I known. I'm not medicating. I learned over the years to somewhat manage. Now, I know I'm not lazy.
I love that you keep it real here!
BTW, I had to pause the video about 5 times. You know ADD!
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I have never been diagnosed but I know I have it. I remember as a child being always worried about stuff that I should not have. I worried about my grandma dying and would go stand by her window at night til she would holler at me and tell me to go home. We lived next door to her and I was like 11 or 12. I did well in school but was a constant procrastinator. I have chosen not to be diagnosed or to take meds because my mom was an addict(long hard story). I’m functioning well but I’m still procrastinating lol. My grandma passed in 2004. It broke my heart but I know she is with her Lord and Savior. I miss her so much still. Thanks for being open about this. This is why I love your channel.❤
Jessica,
Your videos are simply joyful. I have to say that your words of encouragement ring true for many of us, even those without an ADHD diagnosis, so thank you :)
I highly recommend the book "Stolen Focus" for anyone who wants understanding. The author spends a lot of time on the topic of ADHD.
Gail - Just reserved it at my library. Must be popular, I'm 4th on the wait list. 😄
@@Jane_Snow_ Great! This is a book that I'm reading page by page, not skipping around.
Thanks for the recommendation!
I agree, Gail. I was thinking of commenting the same thing.
@@TheFlamingoHouse did you read the book, too?
This is honestly one of the most validating and encouraging videos to me as a late-diagnosed ADHD woman gardener. Soooo many of these things resonate with me and the suggestions you make are really helpful.
I was diagnosed with ADHD last year and it has changed my life. I use a lot of these techniques to manage the things I don't want to in my life (which for me is mostly house work and paperwork).
I wanted to give you a shout out because watching the way you garden and preserve food is what made me feel like I could do it. I've watched other channels that talk about gardening and they are so structured and rigid and like if you don't have everything right then you'll fail and that just overwhelmed me and made me not want to even try.
I like your more go with the flow method of gardening, that it should be fun, and you can do it the way you want to and it made it feel more approachable.
I'm now 4 years into gardening and loving it. I love the cyclical and seasonal nature of growing and preserving food. I think it has really helped my ADHD to tap more into these natural cycles. Not only does it make more sense to my brain but it also helps me handle winter better. I live in a place with a short growing season and a long cold winter. Which can be really rough on your mental health if you frame it as, "I spend most the year waiting for summer and it only lasts 3 months". But living more seasonal means that I enjoy each one. I love the hustle and bustle of summer, watching my plants grow, preserving. But I also recognize the magic of fall, and the preserving push it brings. And by the time the first snow falls I usually sigh a sigh or relief and lay down and take a nap.
So, anyway, thanks for making this video, it's nice to feel seen.
😮omg I am truly blown away…. I have never been diagnosed however, I’ve always been very judgmental about myself not being able to manage time or finish the tasks at hand. 😭 it makes so much sense… THANK YOU JESS!! You are truly a blessing to me. Please keep me in your prayers!!! Lord knows I am going through a hard time right now!
🙏🏼. I’m as blown away as you! Just mindblown! Explains so many things👍🏻
i am 66 year’s old and i have lived with ADHD my whole entire life. Now my children have it and now my grandchildren have it it put you in the world of your own and nobody else understand especially since school systems. Never once have I ever gave up on my family or my kids. 💚
Thank you Jess diagnosed last year at 53, I grieved for my younger self especially after spending decades getting help for my children. Every time I hear or watch people share their experiences with ADHD I learn more grace. x
I was lucky enough to be diagnosed as a child. I have always known that my brain was different. Anxiety and depression are something that we are very prone to BECAUSE of the processing of dopamine. I still struggle with it. This is why I have to find joy in everything consciously. In EVERYTHING I do, I have to find something joyful about it. For instance, I hate, absolutely hate, doing the dishes. So when I have dishes, I need to do. I tell myself, “imagine how nice it’s going to be because I won’t have to wash it later.” or, “If I get this done now, I won’t have to wash it before I use it for dinner.” This doesn’t always work but it frequently does help with the executive disfunction.
All these tips are fantastic. One thing I have learned is to not give up on myself. You CAN do anything. You might need to find a way to get started and connected. If you get disconnected, let it sit for a bit. Many times you can come back to it later no problem.
One thing that helps me is to put on a video or book about the topic I’m working on. I “watch” sewing videos if I have a big sewing or quilting project for instance.
And yes the habits are never ever easy. Heck, I have a very hard time brushing my teeth. I know that it sounds ridiculous but it’s true. I have to have my husband remind me every single night.
I think of doing dishes or folding laundry as creating order out of chaos. I love order. I had chaos. It's a mind trick, and it works for me.
Thank you, I so relate to this!❤
I watch Jess while I do the dishes. She's basically the only way I can get myself to do it. I have to cook my myself though. ☺️
I have never officially been diagnosed withADHD but have always thought I was. Your vlog was spot on for the way I work and process in the garden. I felt like you were talking about me the whole time because it was so accurate. I am going to share this vlog with my husband because your explanation is so on point! Thank you for giving voice to how ADHD people process!
God has so gifted you with the ability to express in words what many of us can’t . This blog was a huge blessing for me!
I was told when I was fifteen that I had a learning disability but diagnosis would be difficult due to coping skills. At 23 I was diagnosed ADHD. I think the stigma is melting. It’s more okay to say I’m different and I process differently. During my exploration for answers I saw my permanent record. This was what the teachers recorded for each other that was never meant for me nor my parents to view. They said Kristen is struggling but she’s not a behavior problem. Year after year different words same sentiment. Now teachers see that students like me need help as well. And people like you make it okay to be an adult that needs structure and pattern and motivators to get through tasks. Thank you for living your life out loud so the rest of us can.
I thank you. I to am ADHD, as are my children. Its been a long journey, and is not over yet. It's a small part of a big party bag. I didnt realize all that this is till i had children and it was so hard for them in school, social situations, and in life general. It is heredity, and im the gal! God made me like this for a reason, and i believe He has used me for a purpose. Maybe to understand others who are misunderstood. To God be the glory in all of it! He can use a faithful idiot.😊 referring only to myself.❤
You keep kicking butt, Jess. ADHD is no joke. I'm 45 and I was diagnosed with ADHD. My mom took me to my Dr and told him that she was not going to put me on any of those meds they had back then. My Dr. looked at my mom and told her, mind you I was 5 years old but the Dr. said to her, you take him home, and you fix him a whole pot of black coffee and let him drink it. Well, I'm a coffeeholic now lol, but it absolutely helped me and the coffee did the opposite then it normally does. It completely calmed me down and as a rodeo photographer it really helps lol. Anyhow, One day I will buy some of yalls coffee lol, but you're doing really well with someone that has ADHD. Gardening is good for the soul and your body physically.
I assumed you had ADD for years (OG follower since 2019). I've always followed your mental squirrel trails and thought you think and talk like me, which I love! I first learned that I have ADD when I was 18, 30 years ago. I highly recommend the book Driven to Distraction. It completely opened my eyes and changed my life. I actually read it again every few years.
Also, carnivore and beef organ supplements seems to be helping me stay on track during my work hours. Love you lots.
Thanks for the book.
I don’t know if I officially have add but I do have add tendencies. Add in 2 kids 5 and just turned 4. Oh man. I just feel like I spin around in chaotic circles all day. Leaving half done tasks in my wake. If I am pulled from something. It’s a 50% chance I’ll even remember to go back it it. Curious how Jess handled having small children with add. For me I just try to enjoy the season of littles. I know it won’t always be like this.
Oops didn’t mean for this as a to reply to this comment. 🤭
Looks like a book I should definitely check out 👍🏻
I am feeling very blessed to know you (through RUclips) and wanted to let you know that you have had a positive effect on my life. I am saving this to listen to again because WOW it hits close to home for me!
I had no idea how much I needed to hear this today.. thank you ❤
I was almost 40 when I was diagnosed, and finally all my life struggles (and “personality traits”) made sense. That “aha” moment like you mentioned when reflecting on my childhood and beyond. I had many of those same struggles but never considered ADHD because of the traditional way it’s taught in the medical field. I am a registered nurse with a degree in psychology as well…😂 Medication is immensely helpful but still not 100%. Knowing so many other successful people live with this and still thrive is inspiring and comforting.
What a great video Mrs. Jess! Between anxiety and adhd, my garden was my little piece of heaven on earth. During covid, I even got chickens, rabbits and quail. All on about 10k sqft of urban yard. What a tremendous blessing you and your family have been for creating my peace in such a busy and topsy turvy world. One of the things that helped me was automation. Automated waterers, fans, lights and anything that helped keep it moving forward when my energy levels were at their lowest. We're in the process of moving now, to a much smaller property, but with the pay off of moving to a county setting in just a few years when I retire. Keep up the great work and may GOD continue to pour HIS blessings upon you all!
💚 Thank you, Jess..you are such a Gem..and for so many. Reading all these comments is truly amazing! So many lives are touched by you and your gift of word crafting and sharing your heart and brain, , including mine. Showers of Blessings for us All. 💚
I don't typically comment but... this really was everything I needed to hear and made me realize why I love gardening so much because it really give me a the dopamine kick that my ADHD brain is looking for 😂
Thank you for posting this! I will turn 66 tomorrow and was diagnosed in my late 40's. It was an incredible Ah ha moment for me as well. I did choose to go the meds route and it was truly life changing for me. It took me from being someone who worked harder than anyone I knew, but felt I accomplished nothing, which is horribly damaging to one's self esteem, to be able to focus and finish tasks. I think however one decides to handle their own mental health care is a personal choice with no right or wrong answers. Good luck in your journey Jess and as always, just shining a light in general, but especially for this issue ❤❤
Jess, I wonder how many people consider you their best friend, the person they turn to when they’re down, the person who lifts them up when they need it most. You touch so many lives!! God uses you to shine His light in so many ways in so many lives/homes/relationships. Thank you for obeying Him!!
I’ve not been diagnosed with ADHD nor do I claim to have it, but I do have to always have something planned. Occasionally, I will find that I have nothing planned, nothing on my calendar. Those times are so dark, so depressing. I’ve just always said I need something to look forward to. I enjoy my daily life, but I NEED to have something planned that I can look forward to, whether it be a trip across the country or a family dinner.
No ADHD here, but I have OCD and have had to go through the same processes as it sounds like a lot of people here in the comments to take it from debilitating to liveable. I have a 7 year-old and I can already start to see some OCD traits, bless his heart. Now I say thank you Lord for giving me the experience to help him when no one helped me back then.
Also a great student but didn't graduate high school. I was bored. I felt trapped. I LOVED college (I had much more control) and achieved advanced degrees. I have had many different careers because, again... I get bored. I always have a wonderful start to the gardening season and let it go by the end, but I love all the "fresh starts" that come with gardening. 🤩
I know, the growing aspect of it keeps it interesting for me: it’s constantly changing.
Luckily we stick together and they make some of the most unique and creative friends!!
I dont have ADHD but man was audiobooks a GAME CHANGER. 4 hrs of weeding and fertilizing ahead? much much easier with audiobooks. I found I would overthink myself into pain in the garden before, I'd anxiety spiral myself with bad thoughts, and past convos and all my failings, and then audiobooks just...quiets it
Diagnosed when I was 17, now 43. Thanks to my mom who was aware of the symptoms and struggles! Thank you Jess for your transparency. I still struggle, but have way more acceptance and grace for myself. I work full time outside of my home and manage my household, and my garden is what keeps me sane. However, at times it can be completely overwhelming. BUT… it is one of my tools to reign myself back in. After alot of convincing and cheering myself on, preparing…I’ll spend 15, 20, 30 minutes at a time with an audiobook and my thoughts and I can recenter myself to where I want to be. One hour, one day at a time. I can’t imagine a winter without my garden fresh tomato and spaghetti sauce. Thank you Jess!❤
Diagnosed at 41- and its a relief to know finally…. and at the same time its heartbreaking to know that had I been diagnosed earlier my life would have been so much different. But now I know…. So I am ready to move forward.
I felt the same way, yet am grateful for all that I have accomplished.
I do have an opinion and will express it. Children and adults with ADHD are all different as those of us unaffected are all different as my students with ADHD taught me. My ADHD students either loved school or didn't, and they were advanced or not, eager to learn or not motivated. Some more severe than others, some medicated, some not, they were just children and I loved them. The same goes for adults with the diagnosis. They have now probably learned systems by which they function best with some medicated, some not. Great! That's the way all people need to function, doing what works best for them. You are just a person who has figured out what works best for you, one who has had to work harder at it than most, but you are doing it. Kuddos to you! On behalf of other in your situation, thank you.
I will remark on one student, 2nd grader, with ADHD who was overwhelmed quite easily. When overwhelm came he turned very aggressive and violent to other students and adults alike. He had a 1 on 1 adult with him most of the time, always on the playground, and that helped. I guess that was our way of body doubling. I always thought his aggressive tendency was something we didn't know much about, but parents were unwilling to investigate. Thanks for bringing your body doubling forward and how that helps you.
The crunch of the gravel under your feet is one of my favorite sounds 😍
I was diagnosed with ADHD right before getting kicked out of college for low grades and attendance. Within the last year Autism was added to that as we worked with my son to help him. My whole life I was told I was a lazy bum who never finished anything and had so much wasted potential. It took a long time to learn to love my brain and the way God wired it to work and honestly it is a choice I frequently have to make to accept myself rather than hate what I think others see. While it is a constant struggle gardening has been a constant over the last few years. I have been so thankful for your videos as they make me feel seen and accepted for how my brain does gardening. Both I and my son have gotten so much inspiration and dopamine boosts to get back out there when we fall into a melt down from your channel. Thank you for sharing and allowing a place at the table for those of us whose brains work differently. ❤️
Jess this is pure gold. I have never been diagnosed with neurodivergency but I have some stroooooooong suspicions. I identify with everything single point you discussed here, and your vids throughout the last few years, when I first your channel, are the biggest reason I never gave up. "Put a chair in your garden"; "Things want to grow"; "If my pigs can start a garden with their poop, surely I can start one with my best efforts"; "The best medicine for the garden is the gardener"; "Turn your waiting room into a classroom"; "There's always next year". Seeing your gardening successes and the fact that you're completely human has caused me to truly believe that I am actually a gardener too. ❤
Hey Jess, I was in the Dentist chair when I onnected the dots.
The hygienist and I were talking . Everything I said she said a letter ADHD🫢.
They used other words when I was a
Child and this women understood it .
Magical!
Hang there everyone step by step❤.
JO JO IN VT 💞
Thank you for making this video. I actually made a video title my neurodivergent mind on gardening. Everything you said resonated with me and my husband was watching with me and he was like this is you! He’s very neurotypical. 😂😂
I've always felt we were very much kin, one of my special interests as an Autistic person is knowledge gathering and I can tell it's one of yours as well with ADHD. There's nothing like knowing something new! But being alive as an adult who was diagnosed ADHD in 8th grade and then diagnosed with Autism at age 31 is one of the most difficult things you can do. These differences are neurological and genetic. Figuring out how my brain is wired was the most beneficial thing I've ever done in my life. Being self aware about how my brain processes information differently was one of the saving graces for me. Also, adhd IS a disability, so is Autism. This is not a bad thing, it's just a difference.
There is an extra level of pleasure to digging up bright purple potatoes, and harvesting that fruit variety you know you'd never get to eat otherwise.
As much as I love seed saving, seed catalogue and researching new garden varieties is a huge part of the fun I would not go without.
Fellow ADHDer here. Your random 🐿️ 🐿️🐿️ moments in this video made me laugh. So relatable !
This video is exactly the kind of content that I needed. I was also diagnosed with ADHD as an adult a few years ago, and I constantly feel like I am losing a battle with the garden and my brain. I am at that point of overwhelm with the garden with the rain and weeds. Thank you for sharing, I know this will be a video I come back to time and time again when I need a pick-me-up from a friend who understands ❤
I am not officially diagnosed; however, I’m pretty sure there is no question. And that knowledge has given me grace for myself as well. My sister told me recently she’s known my whole life but it’s just who I am and she wouldn’t want me any different. Getting my hands in the dirt grounds me so much! Or my feet in the grass. I have so many unfinished projects, but that gives me something to jump back too. Thanks for sharing your heart
Beth here...I hate the way we "label" everyone with everything instead of "defining" it. Thank you for defining the issue.
No wonder I love you and this is the first that I heard that you had ADD. I was diagnosed about 2 years ago at 47 during the change of life and it has gotten so hard. I have been put through a lot of gas lighting medically, For over ten years to the point I felt I was feeling like I’m slowly dying. Thank you for making this and sharing your story. Your story is my story. Im 49 now and I’m still struggling and trying to find balance plus menopause and autoimmune is almost breaking me but I stay strong with God. I know now that ADD diagnosis makes sense, It has affected me as a kid but back then they did no studies on girls and our brains work a lil differently.
I pray I can get better but the medical industry has hurt me more than help and I’m trying to figure it out still but I’m so very tired and I’m trying to stay hopeful. Again thank you 🙏🏽 and God bless you
🙏🏻 I can relate!
I think with technology and society growing at such a rapid pace it has rewired our brains differently. It is all good if we all slow down at times.
Now THIS is a video I need, lol.
I like that shirt it is a good cut and color on you. 🐓🐔🐇🐰
Wow! You’ve so defined who I am! Flitting all over and never accomplishing one thing! I was hyperactive when little but I’m thinking it was undiagnosed ADHD. (No, I’m not putting it as a crutch to define my failures). Thank you for bringing this subject to light. I’ve been trying to bring balance to my life by trying to alter and maneuver around my thinking. Great overwhelm has always hung over my spirit. Thinking something was wrong with me but realizing I’ve been cutting out all the things that bring me joy; like sitting outside with coffee in the morning. God bless you, sweet Girl. ❤
Wow, Jess! This video is the epitome of why I continually find myself so drawn to your channel and your style of teaching folks how to garden. Over the years, you have regularly and repeatedly helped me to better understand and articulate how my own brain works. 🧠 I felt so seen and understood while watching this. I gardened for several years before I found you, but learning from and alongside you is truly what has made me the successful gardener I am today. Thank you so much for putting all these great tips in one place!! 💚
She’s definitely all that. Love this channel 😊😊😊
I’m a 70 year old gardener. And some of the things you say I have went through for years. I know I have more years to go so I will definitely use your advice and have my coffee in the garden. And plan my day accordingly, I didn’t know about dopamine. Thank you so much. I know I’ll have a happier life. Love your video.
Is there a way to do 10 thumbs up? You are so amazing in your explanations of life and giving us hope. These comments can be broadened to so many areas of living, not just gardening. 👍👍👍👍👍
Dearest Jess, you have answered over 40 years of questions!
Gardening is the best adhd hobby because I get super motivated in Feb/March due to winter blues, my husband helps me plant and water, and if I lose interest I get food and flowers, because seeds will grow!
Oooh the symbolism of being so overwhelmed by the weeds that you don’t notice the peppers. ❤
Every isle of my garden is blocked like the cucuzie!! I didn’t tie up maters or cucumbers. And now it’s crazy trying to harvest! 😂
Same here
ADHD or not there are so many valuable tools that everyone can take away from what you are saying. I always hear Jess in the back of my head with her mantras, I love "it's not failure, it's lessons." I'll be saying that to myself more. You are such a motivation! Thank you for all that you do!
2 of my boys have ADHD....even into their adulthood. I hated them being on meds...they were zombies. I changed their diets, no red dyes, no sugars, fructose, dextrose etc. Natural foods, organic, grown at home. Charts with chores, and remembering to talk to them about getting things done ONE thing at a time. My oldest said having ADHD was like sitting in a room full of tv's that were all on different channels and trying to watch just one. They both graduated (with MUCH help) and we knew college was not an option for them. They both went into the trades....both are licensed plumbers. They are doing great, son #2 just started his own business and is doing very well. ADHD is constantly being studied.....drugs are not always the answer. Sometimes it just takes a lot of "self" research and study and work to get them through.
@@OZARKMEL try a Phosphatidylserine supplement. It’s a key component in cells. Also omega 3 with coq10, magnesium and amino acids . I take 2 400mg a day of the Phosphatidylserine and the tv analogy pretty much goes away I call it mental swirl.
Well, this explains alot. ❤❤❤. I have always had MULTIPLE projects going on. Family and friends often don't understand why I don't get them done when I start them. I have had to be regimental with some things in order to get them accomplished. You spoke to me deeply today. So grateful for your channel. God has blessed me with you and your channel. Thank you😊
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child and wow what a difficult journey it's been. I will be 62 this month and have learned alot all these years. Anyway thank you so much for this video and your words, I needed to hear all of this.... By the way, you are wonderful. I watch both your channels all the time. God bless you. Yes for me also~ Gardening is my life and my jam 🌞
I have to add something creative and different to normal everyday tasks. Then I can do the mundane. The chair in the garden is a must.
How did you know that I was overwhelmed & ready to quit my summer garden? Having someone with me in the garden (even someone disinterested) is exactly what I've felt I needed lately. Wow, you explained everything to a T. I really needed to hear this. God bless you for sharing❤. You are a deep, deep well...a treasure for all who hear you speak. Keep at it.
She Slapped again ladies and gents! 💯🤣
I swear you speak straight to my heart at the most perfect times! We love and bless you Jess 🙏
Thank you as always for sharing your experience and heart with us.
Such great advice. 🙏🥰🙏
I'm with you, though I am gardening with Cancer and the loss of my right hand. I used to have a beautiful, lush productive garden, but it has become overwhelming these past 6 years little by little. Overwhelm, at least for me is the biggest issue to battle. Any produce I can harvest is a blessing for me and my Significant other.
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Also gardening with cancer. I skipped gardening last year, but this year I decided I wasn’t giving it up to wait to ‘get past’ the next treatment or test. Living in the moment as much as possible.
All the best feeling can be the little things. Harvesting is definitely a good feeling 😊😊
@@amylitton2613 Sometimes it is a real battle to get motivated, then to stay on top of things for me. But I discover that once I'm outside in the garden, I want to stay there! A strong attitude that nothing will stop us, especially cancer is the trick. Mind over body.
@@elizabethfarkas6468 yes!
Raising chickens has been the turning point for me in managing to stick with the garden all summer long. It forces me outside at dawn and dusk, and since I'm already out there, sweaty and in my anti-mosquito armor, I might as well strap on the knee pads and gloves and weed the peppers. This is the first year my garden has looked lovely in August, and I owe it all to my darling egg layers, and they are amply rewarded with overripe cucumbers for their service :)
My adult son has told me for years that I am ADHD. I didn’t believe him until listening to you. We share the same struggles. We also share the same chair in the garden. Didn’t know why I love a chair on the garden. Now I do. You’ve inspired me to learn more about adhd and how to cope with it.
I had you in my ears while I was outside picking beans (a variety you suggested called calima bush beans) when you mentioned other people using your videos as motivation. I definitely do that but you're like my timer. I'll listen to the video while doing a task :)
Podcasts are my go to when I'm in the garden
🙏This was SOOOO beneficial to me!! I don't think I'm ADD, but either you've convinced me I am, or your advice is just FANTASTIC cross the board, for EVERYONE! Love you, Jess! Never stop sharing your philosophy with us!💚💚💚
I’m 54 and undiagnosed but pretty sure I have ADHD…you’ve just described me to a T ! I really think it happens often in creative people (I’m a fine artist) been like this all my life…thanks for sharing how you cope…regardless of a diagnosis, these are so helpful! 🌸🐝
Gosh I wish I could write a comment to you that means AS MUCH to you as this video means to me… I just wanna hit you with a beam of “thank you” nearly every video but especially, about every 6 months, you create a video that changes/hugs my brain chemistry ❤
I am in Western Australia. I am 68 years old and have recently been diagnosed with ADHD. It explains so much for me.
I’ve never felt so understood in my entire life, and I’m not kidding.
It has been a huge calming thing for me to be honest. I have adhd/ anxiety bad to where the doctor prescribed me meds morning and at night while asleep.. i said I didn’t feel good on it cause i felt like a zombie … finally said no and learned some coping strategies .. crocheting was fun but it kept me from getting up and staying active.. i found gardening 101 videos and i said hey .. i can do that! My family said “ oh another hobby” it was hard to have the support to be honest but just mixing my potting mix it truly makes me feel calm and knowing that im growing these things for my family and that i know i can share with my neighbors.
❤ I am so grateful for you Jess 🙏
Your honesty is Blessing to all of us 💯%
I spend alot of time in my garden with you 🌱 Thank you for being here ❤
One of the chimes that just clicked for my ADHD hubby was "don't put it down, put it away" Sounds so obvious, and I've said to him "put this away!" and it sits on deaf ears. But "don't put it down, out it away" has helped him (and me 😅) tremendously
Gardening is the only hobby I've been able to keep a love for year after year because there is so much variety and so much dopamine to be had. Every flower that blooms, every piece of food I harvest makes my head and my heart sing.
I've got reminders to water because living in Ireland you don't have to water every day. I've even got a reminder on my Google Calendar for when I need to start tomato and pepper seeds at the end of January every year.
There are times in the middle where it feels more like a chore than a fun hobby and there isn't any dopamine to be found. During those times I would almost rather be doing dishes than tending to the garden. Almost. But I remind myself that soon everything will be blooming and I just need to keep going a little bit longer for that reward.
Gardening with ADHD isn't easy. To be honest, nothing is easy with ADHD. But it is worth every bit of struggle.
Oh goodness. I have known my whole life I have ADHD, I had assumed you had it from the first video I watched of you in 2019 lol. It is a real struggle to live with for me. It's funny that we can recognize our own (people with it) though. We have big feelings and imaginations. It's hard for others to relate to us to be honest. But we are beautifully and wonderfully made!!! So we don't fit the norm or learn like others. That's okay!!
I’ve been watching your channel for years. You have helped and inspired so many people all around the world.😊😊😊
Thank you. Perfect timing, at age 65 I was just in the hospital for a physical problem and I was told in an “oh by the way” you have ADHD.
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May I ask how they decided that? I've been diagnosed, but haven't found anything that works.
Two years ago was my diagnosis. I was 60. I feel you. ADDitude (free) online magazine, and adhd podcasts have been an immeasurable help and support. *hugs*
How do you get diagnosed?
@@carenmcfarland7034 my psych diagnosed me.
Specific things that have helped me: 1. Growing on arch trellises (especially switching to stringless pole green beans) 2. Large tomato cages so I don’t have to prune and tie up 3. A mailbox full of clippers/gloves/hand shovels
Thanks for sharing Jess! In my 60s and still figuring out “me”. I can totally relate to late in life diagnosis of ADHD. Since 2020 following and learning from you and your Roots and Refuge channel, Charles “Mr no dig”, The Impatient Gardener, Northlawn Flower Farm, and You Can’t Eat the Grass has inspired this great gardening activity for my health and sanity. I didn’t realize it at the time. Just was something to keep me busy. But once I started couldn’t stop. Guess I’ll be growing and learning for as long as I physically can but that’s all we can hope for! Thanks for all you do!!!
Jess, just like a good preacher who the Lord has laid a particular message on his heart, I truly believe the Lord has sent you to deliver messages. I gave up gardening several years ago. I just simply talked myself out of it. I didn’t need one more failure. I truly saw myself as you were talking just now. Yes. That’s what I do, yes, that’s exactly how I feel, or see things. My best friend and former garden buddy has been trying to get me back to gardening recently. And I’m slowly seeing a hope at the end of this long dark tunnel. I have to say, the Lord truly gave you the message I needed to hear today. I needed to know I’m not alone, I’m not the only one, there is hope. Jess, thank you! Thank you Lord for Jessica. Thank you for the message my heart and soul desperately needed and unknowingly wanted. Thank you.
My husband and I both have ADHD.
Managing a homestead takes a lot of grace for ourselves and each other. Thankfully God continues to give us the passion to push on and reap the abundance.
Possibly the most useful and encouraging content on your channels so far! Keep it coming Jess! So helpful!
ADHD is my 20 yr old sons SUPER POWER!!! Smart as a tack, but struggled in high school. Can't clean his room. But at his job, he's a BEAST! Youngest person to ever hold his position in the corporation. Excels far and above others in his position, leads and trains people a decade older than himself. It's amazing! SUPER POWER
I didn't realize the body double thing was something others deal with! I sit on my son's bed and talk to him while he picks up and puts away. What would take him all day ends up taking about 15 minutes when I do that. He's also learned that sticky notes are his best friend.
This is my life!! I only had 1 doctor tell me she thought I have add which totally makes sense. Focusing on one task at a time is such a struggle and my husband tells me I have so many things I start and not finish. Thank you for validating so many of us. ❤