I have to back up your assessment Taylor, you are a very effective communicator. Deliberate and intentional. And from the heart. That, and your life experiences and what you have learned from them is why I dial you up in the morning. And for today, I'll listen more and say less! Keep it coming.
Become someone you would be proud to know , in my life it has kept me in check and the number one thing I always think about when I say this is if you have no ethics, you have nothing !
I have found during my many decades of leadership, oftentimes the simplicity of communication is often not received in the same manner as it was sent. Most problems between people is a misunderstanding of words. Take the word substandard. When used correctly, it defines a persons output as not meeting the minimum standard. Often the term substandard is received by the person as a personal reference. I have learned it is not the intent of the sender that is vital, it is how the message is received completes the communication loop.
Sounds good, sometimes communication tells you exactly what you need to know right away....but so does the lack of it, some people have big problems with not communicating....Thanks Cav
Story 62 and some late morning 🌄 coffee ☕️. There's the voice back again. Guess what? Your human. We all trip/fall and get back up. By listening to your stories, you have saved me more than once from doing utterly something stupid, from road rage to dealing with my adult kids. Stay safe. Enjoy the sun.
Communication… Serious, Lost in the Sauce and not letting the snake take a bite. Silent is often so golden. Great nuggets! Another great one Taylor. Less is more and keep spreading the good picture!
In my Army training on writing and speaking, one thing that was always stressed in communication was the importance of clarity. Wow, truer words were never spoken!
Great message! Communication, use it or go home! I like the 5 second rule. Wait a bit before responding. Your statement about ego being a weapon system in a previous video was epic. It’s dangerous to go unchecked with certain things, especially ego/communication/lack there of. Thanks man!
I remember a line in a movie, forget which; "There's things you can't take back, bullets fired out of gun and words spoken from your mouth" I guess you can't unring a bell but foresight is better than hindsight.
Most people see an argument as something that must be won. So they overdo. Speak too much. Get all more complicated. You don't need to win anything. Just let it go and love yourself. Silence is gold.
I'm taking 2 college courses on communication and it's HUGE! Appreciate the highlighted video on these things we can struggle with! One Day At A Time ODAAT
One thing I've learned over the past few years is to determine what's funny and what's mean. Talking trash and giving your buddies a hard time is part of how guys communicate. But it can go too far. I remember one of my friends set himself up for what would have been a brutal take down. Would it have been funny? Hell yeah. Would everyone else have laughed? Yup. But ultimately, I kept it to myself because it would also have been genuinely hurtful to my friend. Don't leave your actual buddies wondering "Dude, are we actually friends?" when all is said and done.
One thing I learned the hard way, and still struggle with, is when comms go south how do we go the train back on the track to love/peace what have you? One of the easiest things to do is apologize. Don't just say "sorry" you have to say "I'm sorry that I ......." this way it's has more impact when it lands. This is even more important when you are NOT in the wrong because it can completely disarm the other person or at the very least it deescalates. Which is a win for the situation even if it feels like a loss for the ego. It's harder to do this than it is to say it believe me. I often think about how I can apologize for my part of the situation in the comms breakdown even if I'm not wrong I 100% added energy to the situation that wasn't necessary or helpful. It's not often said but a bite of humble pie can help us long term in many ways (even unforeseen ways) even if we are in the right. (From your USAF brother) -Peace
Men need to grow leather skin. With all the evolving,growing and knowledge and experince rolled into life lessons, we need that thick skin so that we can take any harsh words and stories about ourselves and carry on. Maybe take some good from it and reflect, because the way we respond can ruin a situation or relationship. Being quiet with calculated response is better for 99% of situations. Dont be abused....but know your limits and when to walk away, for your good and everyone around you. Its not your job to solve everyones problems, its good advice and positive vibes that we need to create and have around us that make for harmony and great memories in the long run. Failures seem to most like a burden or blemish. Without some scars and an easylife we learn nothing. Only consistency and accountability will succceed
"Come, step back from your close view of the obstacles that seem to surround you. Close your eyes to them for a while and create a new picture. Leave the past and the present out of your consideration and make a new life, a new day, beginning with tomorrow. Build it up part by part in your mind and in your conversations and contacts with those around you until you have a perfect picture of the future that is just beyond today’s horizon. Then step forward bravely into this picture; and with determination start your journey along the line that leads to your new life. You will find yourself master of the picture and of those realities, and you will find in it the greatest happiness and rewards, and every effort, every thought devoted to it." H. Spencer Lewis
Accepting that the outcome you want is out of your control and not expectating the other person to be your robot who has no feelings or thoughts of theor own. They are a totally different person. Let them be themself. Who you care about.
Giving a Golden Shoutout here (trademark pending) TCav is an absolute beast on and off the battlefield. Funny enough communication has always been a passion of his, at least from what I could observe. We were both in 3rd Phase Land Nav together and this is the first time young frogmen would be getting their comms on using a Line of sight (LOS) HF radio (An old WW2 relic of a device but great at doing what it does). We had students coming up with all kinds of goofy responses like "Solid Copy" "Over and Out" "Roger Dodger" etc. Point is Taylor made it a point to address the entire class about using proper verbiage and Pro Words over the net. At the end of the day efficient comms can make the difference between life and death and within our own lives and family units it is no different. Much respect and keep putting out the good word. LLTB.
Hey brother, ive been watching you for about a month on and off dont really get on youtube much but your content has helped me keep on pushing forward but I need some guidance from someone who's already been through some real shit. I don't really have a strong father figure or any big brother to offer that. I'm not asking you to do that, just need some advice. I got out of the Army a few years ago on a chapter 9 alcohol rehab failure discharge, general under honorable. I've always wanted to join the legion ever since I learned about them from a platoon mate in basic when I was 17 at fort Benning. I'm 23 now, working a good paying job, still fairly in shape. But the legion has been calling for me man ever since i was 17, I always thought the US army got soft even though I was infantry, but I guess I was weak in my own way with how I let alcohol fuck my contract up when I only had less than a year left. I cut that shit down alot. i just need a hell yeah go grab it or something I'm in limbo. You think it's still worth it? I'm probably taking a one way trip to France no matter what you say but it's cool to have someone to talk to that's already been in it. Your content has sparked that fire back in me. Everybody around me is dull just looking for their next petty ass paycheck and little debbies to munch on. Driving me insane lol. Also this is an edit but man, you're set apart from all these other influencers who act like they haven't ever had any vices, real struggles, suicidal ideation. Your shit is real and I appreciate that alot and I'm sure alot of other people do too. I hope you go far brother
An interesting thing regarding the quote about not attaching emotion to thought; training your self to respond this way is a skill which is taught in therapy for people with anxiety disorders and it applies to everyone.
I think that Tony Robbins got it wrong on that one. Being in love is not a choice it's just something that happens. Respect in any relationship is vastly more important than love or just being in love. We fall in and out of love but the respect is what remains. As someone had more than a couple relationships, I can tell you that one of the most important things to do, is to ask the question of do you need an ear, or do you need an answer. By asking questions such as this, you can better understand how to reply, and what is being requested from you.
💯 amazing message. Communication is everything. Project me, under construction. Keeping this message close to my heart. Great message, thanks brother 🙏🏼 🤙🏼
Yeah remember that time when you flaunted violating the Legion’s social media policy. Then acted like it wasn’t your fault when you got in trouble. Déserteur. Personnalité antisociale.
I've just watched your interview with James English, and apart from being a very interesting podcast, i was wondering about your program to help people. Can you tell me more please ? Thank you Sir.
Words I have tried to live by (Recently anyway): "It's better to keep ones mouth shut and be thought a fool, than to open ones mouth and remove all doubt." No sure who said this first but it's a god way to live. Especially in todays world where everyone has an opinion, even if that opinion is uninformed.. Peace out.
Another aspect of communication is that there is a sizable portion of adults who are nearly impossible to communicate with... or who simply don't really care about anyone but themselves. You can be as nice and articulate and as crystal clear with them as possible.... and they'll still say up if you say down. Often these people will have very few - if any - close relationships because they're so shallow and difficult to deal with... and I'm lucky enough to have a couple of them in my immediate family lol 😂 Thanks for these talks, TCav 👍 👌
How was your communication level in the seals verus your communication in the legion. Where you able to express to others in the legion to get things done/mission
Thank you very much,Taylor,Awesome how you explain deep shit in a way anyone can get,keep it going, i am a musician,been around the block and heard a lot of shit and to be honest i get the upside down budda thing and even more seriously my only input into the seals is from you and Don shipley,why or how anyone would disrespect you guys is beyond me.Very inspiring,i understand the dark passenger and i grasp how a lot of people lack basic social skills because no ones ever told them in a way they understand.I am in north east england,i hate the cold,never ending is the rain, my uncle was one of the dudes that swam from whitley bay to the lighthouse on boxing day,for sport,never understood it realy,but i do totaly get that thanks to proper hard cases, i sleep better at night, i am in Durham,north east england,if you are ever over this side of the pond,you are more than welcom.Cheers.
Right on brother. I used to stress! Stress about not saying the right thing at times! But being in the military like you said being able to maintain that Frame and swallow it and continue forward has helped a lot in relationships and communication. Fucking spot on man.
T-"The Great Communicator"-SAY it straight out lads-articulate what you need to be articulated in a decent consice manner-OR ELSE-your message will get lost in what I call the "SCRAMMBLER BUTTON"--keep it concise -and decent lol timothy
This was an extremely good topic (communication). Good shit TCAV, thank you for your testimony and all the inspiration you give. -Georgie Porgie 1/144,000
Ha! The man with the tan is back in the sun - with a 'stache too! ("Some things are better left unsaid" someone sang and there's gold in that tin, there's truth in that song.) Career diplomats, intelligence officers, Vegas gamblers and men with more than ten divorces on their backs know and undersign that success and survival depend SOLELY on what you DON'T say, rather than what you babble and blur, articulate or yawn, preach or simply answer. Once again, thanks man!
"you don't have to apologize for what you don't say," but be willing to understand that maybe YOU are the one who is wrong. And you don't have to apologize if you change positively. And show it through changed actions. Maturity is key here too. All about the cohesiveness of your team/family/coworker.
Awesome video brother! I have a saying can't always be at war! At work at home! Communication is key! You can't read someone's mind! So it's critical! You have to pick your battles! When something has to be expressed, communicated! It's important to think before we speak! Especially if it's negative, hurtful! Words can't be taken back! We've all been guilty of that! Always forward Brother! Sincerely US Army Vet!
Mindfulness meditation really has helped me observe communication objectively, it helps me stay above most situations. Although, holding back what I'm thinking can be hard sometimes with the people I'm closest to. I feel that saying what's on my mind, and being radically honest, although it is misconstrued at times, is still my way of trying to offer help. I guess if you're like me in that way, finding the right life partner is vital, otherwise, someone who misunderstands can never truly be helped. Such is life 😔
Those of us with kids…in the context of comms…saw this today. If we constantly criticize or say harsh things when we’re upset…they don’t stop loving you. They stop loving themselves. Ooof. 🙏🏼
In the previous post Anger, someone was really having a go at Cav saying he's not saying anything original, then at the end of the post Taylor mentions Tony Robbins. I'm all for self improvement having used sarcasm without due care and attention with a manager saying years ago " I'm gonna make sure this guy never gets a decent job again"! Seemed to be proven right so far! Anyway, Robbins in one of his DVD's, talks about humans love Security but also love Novelty, something shiny and new or something different, a need to be entertained. It looks like Communication is satisfying Security a subjective personal thing but the Novelty part a hunger for a wider objectivity.
Thank you, Taylor. My favorite part of story 62, is where you mention that our emotions are attached to our words. Putting that together with "you can't unring a bell", I practice choosing my words wisely. I'd rather read the other person than the other way around.
I love this…. I’m taking away that you don’t have to always share your thoughts. And if you are approaching it as the observer, you’ll see that. Great stuff thanks for the knowledge bombs!
@@normancameron6165 Loving yourself may look like- not being addicted. Not being around toxic people. Making good choices. Being healthy as you can. Looking after yourself. Being kind to yourself....loving yourself.
@@Bellaozi Dont do drugs most people can tell if you are in the wrong crowd new that when i was eighteen, was in army 6 years done nothing special ye went abroad i dont love myself but i no myself Rebecca
Lack of communication or poor communication is the biggest point of failure for most situations. A good friend gave me this checklist when I’m thinking of saying something I’m not sure would be of benefit. 1. Does this NEED to be said? 2. Does this need to be said by ME? 3. Does this need to be said by me right NOW? Good stuff TCAV!
Hey brother, how’re you landing on this SEAL in-house fighting after the explosive allegations made about prominent members of the community? I personally hate it all the way around. I hate snitches, i hate shoddy operators, I hate the optics this gives the peanut gallery (ironically us in this moment) but I’m at a similar impasse with the idea of writing about my experiences. Therapist says it’s great for the soul because it gets it out of the head and into the world, but to tell my story includes a lot of other people with stuff they would really rather not have known to the world. I want the peace of coming clean but not at the expense of my brothers in arms. How do you land on this topic?
Good vrs Bad Communication starts with Mindfulness 🙂as Most Wounds in life are Self induced . i know as i have had to learn this the hard way many times in my life 😔
Taylor I've been following the beginning I completely changed everything to make it great then last week I had worst shit happen can I get a hold of You please and call You I can leave a number or email😢
Looking back I realize how many times the urge to share is just self-indulgence; sometime due to anger, but sometimes due to needing someone to agree or “see” because I haven’t taken responsibility to internally validate myself already. Oversharing in a pleasant way can be selfish and can take advantage also. So true not everything needs to be communicated. 🪷 Inner peace first. Mustache 💥
Spot on! Also, repeatedly unburdening yourself on others with the same issue, without any personal accountability is not cool...or at least it's not for me.
Good Morning Peace
I have to back up your assessment Taylor, you are a very effective communicator. Deliberate and intentional. And from the heart. That, and your life experiences and what you have learned from them is why I dial you up in the morning. And for today, I'll listen more and say less! Keep it coming.
I appreciate that brother🤙🏼
Don't have to apologize for shit you don't say is golden. Less is more for sure.
Sh*t hits.
T-Cav is the beast! Love this guy and his philosophy on all subjects.
👊🏼
Pretty sick Fireman’s ‘stache 🙂
On it
Would love to see a video on what you eat in a day. Or a day in the life of you form what you eat to your workout etc.
In the work!
The word is powerful. If comms is to spread rumors or guess work, keep that shit to yourself!
Become someone you would be proud to know , in my life it has kept me in check and the number one thing I always think about when I say this is if you have no ethics, you have nothing !
Well said
I mean every word of it Taylor ,Thank you !
That’s something I need to work on is communication 🙏🏻
We all do
Great points.....we all need to remember that silence itself is a form of communication.
I have found during my many decades of leadership, oftentimes the simplicity of communication is often not received in the same manner as it was sent. Most problems between people is a misunderstanding of words. Take the word substandard. When used correctly, it defines a persons output as not meeting the minimum standard. Often the term substandard is received by the person as a personal reference. I have learned it is not the intent of the sender that is vital, it is how the message is received completes the communication loop.
Sounds good, sometimes communication tells you exactly what you need to know right away....but so does the lack of it, some people have big problems with not communicating....Thanks Cav
There's a balance to be sure
Story 62 and some late morning 🌄 coffee ☕️. There's the voice back again. Guess what? Your human. We all trip/fall and get back up. By listening to your stories, you have saved me more than once from doing utterly something stupid, from road rage to dealing with my adult kids.
Stay safe. Enjoy the sun.
U KNOW
Communication… Serious, Lost in the Sauce and not letting the snake take a bite. Silent is often so golden. Great nuggets! Another great one Taylor. Less is more and keep spreading the good picture!
ALWAYS‼️👊🏼
In my Army training on writing and speaking, one thing that was always stressed in communication was the importance of clarity. Wow, truer words were never spoken!
Great message! Communication, use it or go home!
I like the 5 second rule. Wait a bit before responding.
Your statement about ego being a weapon system in a previous video was epic.
It’s dangerous to go unchecked with certain things, especially ego/communication/lack there of.
Thanks man!
"Don't be that guy peaking over the fence" - "Send it" lol
😆👊🏼
I remember a line in a movie, forget which; "There's things you can't take back, bullets fired out of gun and words spoken from your mouth" I guess you can't unring a bell but foresight is better than hindsight.
AND rhe BEST information is hindsight/advanced warning of events allows one to be agile/sidestep a problem
before it becomes a greater problem -ok lol
@@timoakes450 and front sight and rear sight aligned, Remember your sight picture. Pew pew
Sailor communication. We work hard. We play hard. We stay hard.
Most people see an argument as something that must be won. So they overdo. Speak too much. Get all more complicated. You don't need to win anything. Just let it go and love yourself. Silence is gold.
So true.
I'm taking 2 college courses on communication and it's HUGE! Appreciate the highlighted video on these things we can struggle with! One Day At A Time ODAAT
That Scorpio full moon
Gonna drrrrraaaaw it out of you
If you wanna heal for real
“ Heal For Real”
🔔
Heather! HEAL FOR REAL‼️👊🏼
Be smart! Roger that !
One thing I've learned over the past few years is to determine what's funny and what's mean. Talking trash and giving your buddies a hard time is part of how guys communicate. But it can go too far. I remember one of my friends set himself up for what would have been a brutal take down. Would it have been funny? Hell yeah. Would everyone else have laughed? Yup. But ultimately, I kept it to myself because it would also have been genuinely hurtful to my friend. Don't leave your actual buddies wondering "Dude, are we actually friends?" when all is said and done.
One thing I learned the hard way, and still struggle with, is when comms go south how do we go the train back on the track to love/peace what have you? One of the easiest things to do is apologize. Don't just say "sorry" you have to say "I'm sorry that I ......." this way it's has more impact when it lands. This is even more important when you are NOT in the wrong because it can completely disarm the other person or at the very least it deescalates. Which is a win for the situation even if it feels like a loss for the ego. It's harder to do this than it is to say it believe me. I often think about how I can apologize for my part of the situation in the comms breakdown even if I'm not wrong I 100% added energy to the situation that wasn't necessary or helpful. It's not often said but a bite of humble pie can help us long term in many ways (even unforeseen ways) even if we are in the right. (From your USAF brother) -Peace
Yep! like constantly walking around with one nerve left, everyone keeps plucking it..
Men need to grow leather skin. With all the evolving,growing and knowledge and experince rolled into life lessons, we need that thick skin so that we can take any harsh words and stories about ourselves and carry on. Maybe take some good from it and reflect, because the way we respond can ruin a situation or relationship. Being quiet with calculated response is better for 99% of situations. Dont be abused....but know your limits and when to walk away, for your good and everyone around you. Its not your job to solve everyones problems, its good advice and positive vibes that we need to create and have around us that make for harmony and great memories in the long run. Failures seem to most like a burden or blemish. Without some scars and an easylife we learn nothing. Only consistency and accountability will succceed
"Come, step back from your close view of the obstacles that seem to surround you. Close your eyes to them for a while and create a new picture. Leave the past and the present out of your consideration and make a new life, a new day, beginning with tomorrow. Build it up part by part in your mind and in your conversations and contacts with those around you until you have a perfect picture of the future that is just beyond today’s horizon. Then step forward bravely into this picture; and with determination start your journey along the line that leads to your new life. You will find yourself master of the picture and of those realities, and you will find in it the greatest happiness and rewards, and every effort, every thought devoted to it." H. Spencer Lewis
I like Wisky tango foxtrot ...
Accepting that the outcome you want is out of your control and not expectating the other person to be your robot who has no feelings or thoughts of theor own. They are a totally different person. Let them be themself. Who you care about.
CAV is fucking back !!! Do you want to be right or happy!!! Great cast Bro!!’
U KNOW‼️👊🏼
Giving a Golden Shoutout here (trademark pending) TCav is an absolute beast on and off the battlefield. Funny enough communication has always been a passion of his, at least from what I could observe. We were both in 3rd Phase Land Nav together and this is the first time young frogmen would be getting their comms on using a Line of sight (LOS) HF radio (An old WW2 relic of a device but great at doing what it does). We had students coming up with all kinds of goofy responses like "Solid Copy" "Over and Out" "Roger Dodger" etc. Point is Taylor made it a point to address the entire class about using proper verbiage and Pro Words over the net. At the end of the day efficient comms can make the difference between life and death and within our own lives and family units it is no different. Much respect and keep putting out the good word. LLTB.
Janisch! My MAN‼️👊🏼🔱
@@tcavofficial SOLID COPY!
T YOU NEED A SHAVE STARTING TOO LOOK LIKE A BANDITO😂😂😂
Just want y’all to know, u guys help me so much, I feel like I’m not alone
your videos are truly appreciated.
I appreciate that!
Hey brother, ive been watching you for about a month on and off dont really get on youtube much but your content has helped me keep on pushing forward but I need some guidance from someone who's already been through some real shit. I don't really have a strong father figure or any big brother to offer that. I'm not asking you to do that, just need some advice. I got out of the Army a few years ago on a chapter 9 alcohol rehab failure discharge, general under honorable. I've always wanted to join the legion ever since I learned about them from a platoon mate in basic when I was 17 at fort Benning. I'm 23 now, working a good paying job, still fairly in shape. But the legion has been calling for me man ever since i was 17, I always thought the US army got soft even though I was infantry, but I guess I was weak in my own way with how I let alcohol fuck my contract up when I only had less than a year left. I cut that shit down alot. i just need a hell yeah go grab it or something I'm in limbo. You think it's still worth it? I'm probably taking a one way trip to France no matter what you say but it's cool to have someone to talk to that's already been in it. Your content has sparked that fire back in me. Everybody around me is dull just looking for their next petty ass paycheck and little debbies to munch on. Driving me insane lol. Also this is an edit but man, you're set apart from all these other influencers who act like they haven't ever had any vices, real struggles, suicidal ideation. Your shit is real and I appreciate that alot and I'm sure alot of other people do too. I hope you go far brother
Email me: tcavofficial@gmail.com
Use the 80/20 rule. Listen 80% and speak 20% or less!
An interesting thing regarding the quote about not attaching emotion to thought; training your self to respond this way is a skill which is taught in therapy for people with anxiety disorders and it applies to everyone.
I think that Tony Robbins got it wrong on that one. Being in love is not a choice it's just something that happens. Respect in any relationship is vastly more important than love or just being in love. We fall in and out of love but the respect is what remains. As someone had more than a couple relationships, I can tell you that one of the most important things to do, is to ask the question of do you need an ear, or do you need an answer. By asking questions such as this, you can better understand how to reply, and what is being requested from you.
Yeah but to stay in a relationship i need love and respect
Clear, concise and short
Yeah, this dude preaches no BS. Speaks from the language I finally can understand unlike other snowflakes.
Big T... What Up... the Bar is looking solid... Stay Strong!!!
WE STAY STRONG!👊🏼
Gino Jennings
💯 amazing message. Communication is everything.
Project me, under construction. Keeping this message close to my heart.
Great message, thanks brother 🙏🏼 🤙🏼
Wonderful!
Great talk, thank you! 👍
Good Video!
😀
Yeah remember that time when you flaunted violating the Legion’s social media policy. Then acted like it wasn’t your fault when you got in trouble.
Déserteur. Personnalité antisociale.
Def didnt flaunt. Higher purpose calls the smart man answers
I've just watched your interview with James English, and apart from being a very interesting podcast, i was wondering about your program to help people. Can you tell me more please ? Thank you Sir.
Yes brother email me: tcavofficial@gmail.com
Words I have tried to live by (Recently anyway): "It's better to keep ones mouth shut and be thought a fool, than to open ones mouth and remove all doubt." No sure who said this first but it's a god way to live. Especially in todays world where everyone has an opinion, even if that opinion is uninformed.. Peace out.
True that
Another aspect of communication is that there is a sizable portion of adults who are nearly impossible to communicate with... or who simply don't really care about anyone but themselves. You can be as nice and articulate and as crystal clear with them as possible.... and they'll still say up if you say down. Often these people will have very few - if any - close relationships because they're so shallow and difficult to deal with... and I'm lucky enough to have a couple of them in my immediate family lol 😂 Thanks for these talks, TCav 👍 👌
True
How was your communication level in the seals verus your communication in the legion. Where you able to express to others in the legion to get things done/mission
Challenging in the Legion with the language barrier
Here is an idea for you: on April 30th title your video 'Honneur." Let your fandom see what you have to say about that subject.😒
I have all the honor in the world in the areas that matter.
Thank you very much,Taylor,Awesome how you explain deep shit in a way anyone can get,keep it going, i am a musician,been around the block and heard a lot of shit and to be honest i get the upside down budda thing and even more seriously my only input into the seals is from you and Don shipley,why or how anyone would disrespect you guys is beyond me.Very inspiring,i understand the dark passenger and i grasp how a lot of people lack basic social skills because no ones ever told them in a way they understand.I am in north east england,i hate the cold,never ending is the rain, my uncle was one of the dudes that swam from whitley bay to the lighthouse on boxing day,for sport,never understood it realy,but i do totaly get that thanks to proper hard cases, i sleep better at night, i am in Durham,north east england,if you are ever over this side of the pond,you are more than welcom.Cheers.
👊🏼🤙🏼
Always on point . It’s always worth watching one of your videos first thing in the morning, gives you good perspective for the rest of the day .
Love that!
The stache looks sick 😎
Sometimes, less is best.
Right on brother. I used to stress! Stress about not saying the right thing at times! But being in the military like you said being able to maintain that Frame and swallow it and continue forward has helped a lot in relationships and communication. Fucking spot on man.
👊🏼
Very true we tend to hurt the ones we love by not communicating
Or over communicating
Dude.
Did Musk or his
cohorts pay you?
Who are you to me?
Do you plan to
make the trip?
I relied on you.
DUDE.
IS THIS A SULK?
OR ARE YOU GONE?
I appreciate you T Cav. More than you know. Keep it going!
I appreciate that
Make your words few and your few words wise.
BOOM
T-"The Great Communicator"-SAY it straight out lads-articulate what you need to be articulated in a decent consice manner-OR ELSE-your message will get lost in what I call the "SCRAMMBLER BUTTON"--keep it concise -and decent lol timothy
Straight up
@@tcavofficial lol timothy
This was an extremely good topic (communication). Good shit TCAV, thank you for your testimony and all the inspiration you give.
-Georgie Porgie 1/144,000
🫵🏻👊🏼
@@tcavofficial We wish you lots of abundance in success, love, and health Bro.
😎👍🧐💪😎
Sun's out guns out ! 💪👊🇬🇧
Yeahhh!👊🏼
Andy Wang is a warrior
Lol old school reference
I’ve never understood a handlebar mustache. Or almost any mustache, for that matter.
To each their own, though.
Don't overthink it
@@tcavofficial😆 right!
“Be ever mindful of what you say, to whom, and when”. Sometimes less is more. Timing is everything.
Stache Game 💯
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What's more important than communication is a shirt :)
If you had a body like that, you know you'd go shirtless as much as possible, too
@@YeseniaV92 You got me, haha!
Ha! The man with the tan is back in the sun - with a 'stache too! ("Some things are better left unsaid" someone sang and there's gold in that tin, there's truth in that song.) Career diplomats, intelligence officers, Vegas gamblers and men with more than ten divorces on their backs know and undersign that success and survival depend SOLELY on what you DON'T say, rather than what you babble and blur, articulate or yawn, preach or simply answer. Once again, thanks man!
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Fear the moustache!
U KNOW‼️😆🤙🏼
Always motivational! :::cheers to ya::::
"you don't have to apologize for what you don't say," but be willing to understand that maybe YOU are the one who is wrong. And you don't have to apologize if you change positively. And show it through changed actions. Maturity is key here too. All about the cohesiveness of your team/family/coworker.
Awesome video brother! I have a saying can't always be at war! At work at home! Communication is key! You can't read someone's mind! So it's critical! You have to pick your battles! When something has to be expressed, communicated! It's important to think before we speak! Especially if it's negative, hurtful! Words can't be taken back! We've all been guilty of that! Always forward Brother! Sincerely US Army Vet!
Mindfulness meditation really has helped me observe communication objectively, it helps me stay above most situations. Although, holding back what I'm thinking can be hard sometimes with the people I'm closest to. I feel that saying what's on my mind, and being radically honest, although it is misconstrued at times, is still my way of trying to offer help. I guess if you're like me in that way, finding the right life partner is vital, otherwise, someone who misunderstands can never truly be helped. Such is life 😔
Those of us with kids…in the context of comms…saw this today. If we constantly criticize or say harsh things when we’re upset…they don’t stop loving you. They stop loving themselves. Ooof. 🙏🏼
In the previous post Anger, someone was really having a go at Cav saying he's not saying anything original, then at the end of the post Taylor mentions Tony Robbins.
I'm all for self improvement having used sarcasm without due care and attention with a manager saying years ago " I'm gonna make sure this guy never gets a decent job again"!
Seemed to be proven right so far!
Anyway, Robbins in one of his DVD's, talks about humans love Security but also love Novelty, something shiny and new or something different, a need to be entertained.
It looks like Communication is satisfying Security a subjective personal thing but the Novelty part a hunger for a wider objectivity.
Being vulnerable about what you are afraid of feeling sometimes is what she needs. To understand you and come to a place that works for everybody
Thank you, Taylor. My favorite part of story 62, is where you mention that our emotions are attached to our words. Putting that together with "you can't unring a bell", I practice choosing my words wisely. I'd rather read the other person than the other way around.
I learn that “if you have nothing to say, say nothing”.
100% Spot on! Keep throwing the Truth out !
I love this…. I’m taking away that you don’t have to always share your thoughts. And if you are approaching it as the observer, you’ll see that. Great stuff thanks for the knowledge bombs!
Jim‼️ It's in the path to elevation that we get more and more clear on how to decipher👊🏼
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you are in love with your self thats why you have never being married crack on
What? I am in a beautiful relationship.
Without self love first .. most relationships are doomed to fail.
Loving yourself is not the same as ego
@@Bellaozi Disagree yes know yourself i dont love myself i no my faults ect that makes me a better person i can then see other persons point off view
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Loving yourself may look like- not being addicted. Not being around toxic people. Making good choices. Being healthy as you can. Looking after yourself. Being kind to yourself....loving yourself.
@@Bellaozi Dont do drugs most people can tell if you are in the wrong crowd new that when i was eighteen, was in army 6 years done nothing special ye went abroad i dont love myself but i no myself Rebecca
Lack of communication or poor communication is the biggest point of failure for most situations. A good friend gave me this checklist when I’m thinking of saying something I’m not sure would be of benefit.
1. Does this NEED to be said?
2. Does this need to be said by ME?
3. Does this need to be said by me right NOW?
Good stuff TCAV!
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This of those videos you save for sure!
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“Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger;”
James 1:19
Hey brother, how’re you landing on this SEAL in-house fighting after the explosive allegations made about prominent members of the community? I personally hate it all the way around. I hate snitches, i hate shoddy operators, I hate the optics this gives the peanut gallery (ironically us in this moment) but I’m at a similar impasse with the idea of writing about my experiences. Therapist says it’s great for the soul because it gets it out of the head and into the world, but to tell my story includes a lot of other people with stuff they would really rather not have known to the world. I want the peace of coming clean but not at the expense of my brothers in arms. How do you land on this topic?
I dont like dirty laundry aired outside of the community
Good vrs Bad Communication starts with Mindfulness 🙂as Most Wounds in life are Self induced . i know as i have had to learn this the hard way many times in my life 😔
Taylor I've been following the beginning I completely changed everything to make it great then last week I had worst shit happen can I get a hold of You please and call You I can leave a number or email😢
Email me we'll setup consultation call: tcavofficial@gmail.com
@@tcavofficial Thanks 😥
Looking back I realize how many times the urge to share is just self-indulgence; sometime due to anger, but sometimes due to needing someone to agree or “see” because I haven’t taken responsibility to internally validate myself already. Oversharing in a pleasant way can be selfish and can take advantage also.
So true not everything needs to be communicated. 🪷 Inner peace first.
Mustache 💥
Spot on!
Also, repeatedly unburdening yourself on others with the same issue, without any personal accountability is not cool...or at least it's not for me.