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Where did you get that pink puffed wing backed chair in the corner of your room, I have been searching for one exactly like that since I had mines taken away when I was about 10, aaahhh it's such a lovely chair and so cozy yet I have only been able to find it on a rental prop store online T^T I never expected to see one again in a youtube video!
He did SO much, guys 😭 so much behind the scenes that you don’t even see, like he made me all the breakfast, tea that I could drink during filming breaks, warming up SO much hot water during the hair washing scenes, running back and forth between the bedroom and kitchen, and walking up before the sun came up to help me set up for filming and get the dark morning shots 🥺
@@maggievowell3271 I did include him a bit in my “responding to your assumptions about me” video but yes! He should definitely be featured in a full Q&A 💕
@@DarlingDesi I personally would love to learn a little more about him! Whatever you both are comfortable sharing with us of course ☺️ I feel like as book lovers, we all turn into romantics so I am rather curious what your story is. But again, whatever you’re comfortable with!
To be honest, I’m from an Eastern European country and walking is a big thing there. Want to talk? Let’s go on a walk and talk about it. Bored? Go on a walk. Nice day? Go on a WALK. I moved to Canada and nobody does this here. You’re either walking SOMEWHERE or you’re doing it in the woods on a hike.
@@sandsand9403 I can confirm, I am from Italy and in summer, after dinner people walk close to the seaside or walk in the afternoon! We also walk in the nice days of the winter. If a friend have a problem we just walk while talking, if you are stressed you walk, if there's a guy that likes you, he may ask you to take a walk and talk!
It doesn't take too long, actually. I have been doing the morning routine from the book as well. About the same time it would take for you to take a shower, blowdry your hair, brush your teeth, style your hair, put on your clothes, and apply perfume. It actually takes less time, in my experience.
i read somewhere that women who didn't have ladies' maids relied on their husbands to help them dress, so having your husband help is still pretty accurate!
@@lizanna6390 Depends on the historical period. But the reality is that until relatively recently in human history, it was INCREDIBLY rare for a woman to live entirely alone, and it was just so accepted that assistance would be needed with buttons and whatnot that people stepped up and did each other's buttons every day. Husbands did up their wives' buttons, fathers their orphaned daughter's, the maiden aunt who lived with her brother's family would help her sister-in-law, even housewives would help a live-in maid of all work if they had only the one maid.
I kept imagining how shockingly scandalous it would have been for a Victorian lady to allow her valet or footman to dress her and brush her hair lol. Wonderful video, Des ❤ Looking forward to the Victorian night routine!
the "stand up wash" is almost exactly what my family calls 'bird baths' or sink baths. we did that when we went camping, or times we had a power out or similar.
no one cares but during my brief stint in the military I made time in the morning to do extra stretches and breathe/meditate some by bird-bathing instead of waiting ten minutes in line for 2 mins in a shower stall. some peeps were MAD about that and reported me to a drill sargent?? for not washing AT ALL? but it worked for me bc i was ORDERED TO SKIP THE LINE so i could shower every morning
So my grandmother had one of those stand up bath thingies. She kept it as decoration mostly, I'm not sure if she ever used that one specifically but I suspect she may have used one in the past as a child because when I was growing up my mother taught me to wash myself exactly like this with the sink in the mornings. You'd fill the sink up with warm water and get a wash cloth and get it wet. Put a little soap on it and wash yourself. Mainly my mother taught me to wash areas like my genitals and arm pits (and as I got older she instructed under the chest). This was done in addition to showering in the evenings most nights. I never realized this wasn't normal until I started sleeping over friend's houses and stuff. When I asked my mom about it, she said that it was just something her mother taught her to do as well and she thought it was good practice. It's kind of interesting to realize that this is something that was probably in my family for generations, way back to these Victorian days.
These were decorative items that resurfaced in the 70s through the 80s. Not actually Victorian, more Victorian inspired. I had a few. They could be picked up practically anywhere for little $$. Sorry.
I am from '76, and learned to wash by the sink before I was a teen. I would love to do something like this now after I come home from somewhere as I do not want to get in my bed without getting clean first or sitting in my clean chair without getting clean first ( I have another chair for when I cannot wash first ), but I never know when my boyfriend needs washroom ( is without a gallbladder and also, overactive bladder ) so I do better with showers to be done faster. But I either wait until he has done his washroom biz before I shower or when he goes to sleep for the night.
the “wE aRe NoT tIgHtLaCiNg!!!!” brought a smile to my face. i appreciate when people talk about that since it’s not a proper way to really even wear a corset and is the main reason they’re considered so awful for people. corsets are great! you just gotta wear it right
I think the servants actually might not have comminly had shoes or house slippers to wear around the house, tbh. I believe the uniform was provided by the household, but I don't think shoes were a part of that uniform.
@@terenarosa4790 my parents, (mom) practically has a fit if she sees any of us walk around the house without shoes on. Shes tolerated my dad a bit, but not really us. She has given up with sending us back upstairs to put them on, but is definitely snarky when we dont wear them. And she only wants us wearing closed-toed shoes. Again, she tolerates me wearing flip flops on weekends, but will not let anyone else wear them. I didn't even get a pair flip flops until I was 13. Honestly, I thought wearing shoes inside was a normal thing.
Sadly I cannot perform the first task. Because I live in Florida and if I left the windows open every roach, mosquito and alligator would crawl through 😕😕
It’s weird that people are saying “omg your husband helped you!” Guys that’s her husband! Jeesh it wasn’t that hard lol get new men guys lol anyway beautiful video !!
Ruth is SO knowledgeable! I’ve watched many of the historical documentaries that’s she’s been in. “Secrets of the Castle” “Tudor Farm” “Victorian Farm” and “Edwardian Farm” are some favorites.
A proper corset was just like a bra, that which offered support for either a high/middle/working class. In certain circles, and time periods it was tightened or made in such a way that it was a risk for health but most women were at no greater risk than those who use bras today. In older pictures and illustrations, you'll see working class women going about their days, which was filled with a lot of laborious activities, without a struggle. A vast majority of "costume corsets" nowadays are NOT created properly, the way the fabric is cut (the shape) and the support is positioned/and used wrong and will do more harm than a real one. Which should be specifically made for your individual body type, and follow a previously created design for the shape desired.
@@lillian3689 I figured I had to say something before people started bashing on corsets! They're wonderful support tools, when used and made correctly.
@@KarsynMacenna I know! I made a civil war era corset for reenactments, and I'll be honest, my first mockup was terribly uncomfortable! but after making alterations and adjusting it to my body, it is SUPER comfortable and supportive. PSA: My organs are all still in the correct place and my abdominal and back muscles are strong as ever 😂
Seems like they spent the whole day just to getting already, and when they finished the “getting already for the day routine” it is already time for bed.
@@GreedIslxnd nothing is wrong with them, some people are just light sleepers and cant sleep to the sound of someone elses snoring/breathing. Plus it gets hot. Also i like to take up a lot of space, and so do men. Sleeping next to someone is highkey impractical as hell and theyre very normal for not liking to sleep next to someone
Yesss thank you for talking about tightlacing! It wasn't a proper practice at all, a well fitting, properly laced corset was more supportive than modern bras! And gave a nice shape
Haha I was just about to comment with this, I'm hoping it was joke and they didn't actually think water with a slice of lime in it would detect carbonic acid!
I had never heard of anyone besides me who doesn't sleep with husband in the same bedroom. Me and my husband don't either, because we value sleep so much. It's bliss!!!! He usually gets up super early on weekends and comes into my bed to snuggle, it's so comfortable living like this.
@@sushibaby5896 me either. I have been with my husband for nearly 45 years. He is very sick and frail. I am so thankful that I have had him with me almost every night; to touch, to love, any time. I will treasure all those years of memories when he is gone.
@@gramcrackergrammy Exactly. I think you might regret or think 'what if.." the day your partner is no longer here. All those nights being separate from one another.. I could never. Everyone is different, but to have your man sleeping next to you being so close to each other while your souls travel to the spirit realm is special.
we cannot be more different aesthetic-wise (im a goth and a punk!) but damn your videos make me so happy, im so glad i discovered you this month 😭 i really needed this after a whole day of studying, all of your videos are so relaxing! (also, i do love the victorian era, and all of this was very interesting!)
I'm kinda goth and punk too, but I couldn't live in a dark interior without sunlight😁 I do love how they look, but I need light around me. I was so awed about the interior and everything in the video, beautiful 🥰 I'd like a home like that, but more in a pastel goth feel, with pink skulls etc.
I hate the idea of showering right after I wake up. I only shower later in the evening to relax. This method of stand-up bathing right after waking up is brilliant! I'll incorporate it into my own routine!
Enlisting your husband to be your ladies' maid/butler is just too darn cute. What a good sport 😊 Loved this! I still use rosemary/nettle-infused water as a hair rinse. It gives it a lovely softness and shine.
Love this video and how nice that your husband was willing to help you! So much effort goes into your videos. I just recently found you and appreciate all of your hard work. Wishing you and everyone here a great day💕✨
He honestly worked so hard on this video with me 😭💖 He streams games on Twitch every day and he spent 2 days not streaming at all because he was helping me film so much 🥺💗
Also, the muscles becoming weak and such was a myth. Corsets didn't cause physical conditions like that. And the corset wouldn't ever be shown, you would wear it underneath the shirt.
@@violetlove1893 apologies for responding so late! I use rosemary water which I make by boiling rosemary and putting in a spray bottle! I usually just spray and douse my roots at night after I wash my hair.
I have never heard of another couple who have separate beds! Besides myself and partner, that is. Sleep is so valuable to me, and now I have a 2 month old, well.. we value our own sleep spaces. I love this video! Subscribed
A corset was used very much like a bra today. It was the foundation of the outfit and gave support to the breasts and upper body. It helped hold the weight of the petticoats and final skirt along with the panniers or hoop skirt depending on the era. Going without a corset was dangerous. You would have no support for the heavy skirts
As per usual this video is so lovely! First of all I can't get over how obsessed I am with your standing wash station. In LOVE! Secondly, A+ on historical accuracy girl!! You really went all out and I adore it. Thirdly, YES JARED! The COMMITMENT. Get this man an oscar. Fourthly, Love giving credit where credit is due. Ruby has done an amazing job in video as well and its so lovely to see creators encouraging and inspiring each other. Lastly, Thank you so much for all the time you put into these videos. There are so many details that could go unnoticed such as the intense research, the multiple camera angles, things purchased etc. This is like netflix series quality. Thanks for such a great video!
Yes, we stan Ruby Granger !!! And you definitely can romanticize the period without forgetting historic truth. Oh and your vids are a big inspiration for us :)
I adore all the time effort and love you put into all of your content! It’s so apparent that you adore what you do, and all your outward positivity rubs off on your viewers! Thank you so much for everything you do 😭❤️
Every time I watch one of your videos I'm always shocked when I get to the end. Feels like five minutes pass. I LOVE the way you see the world and how you're helping us see it that way, too.
Fashion Historian here! This video was such a delight and the dressing and outfit was great for what you had on hand EXCEPT for the corset part!😂as much as modern fashion has brought back the item and styled it as one would as an accessory like a vest (very similar to what you did!), to Victorians it was more or less their precursor to the bra- and had you actually gone with your day, it would almost be compared to you going out in modern times with your bra over your shirt! Another interesting fact is that a majority of doctors against corsetry are what we consider the “anti-vaxxers” of the era- they often twisted information and created hoaxes like muscle atrophy to try to influence ladies’ husbands into disdaining from “indulgences” but more or less again in a modern analogy imagine your husband trying to take away your bra☠️Other than that your video brought a great, fun light to the Victorians’ routine!
Hi there! And not at all- to the point of which I never made the point of people wearing corsets 24/7, very much today where people don’t wear their bras 24/7. In historical actuality there’s only a small percentage of Victorians that wore theirs day and night. And to clarify my analogy, it is similar to the fact that doctors who knew nothing of women’s systems were creating false information to fearmonger society.
YES, thank you for pointing this out. I was actually scanning the comments to see if anyone else noticed this. As someone who wears a corset the historical way all day, every day, it through me for a loop to see her wearing it on the outside, lol. But very pleasant and cute video. It's nice to see these types of videos being made.
thank GOD someone else said it, I was so on board with this video and then she started talking about corsets and it all came crumbling apart, like.... ma'am....
Oh my goodness! I absolutely adore you! My daughter (35), granddaughters (13, 12, & 8) and I (57) are all about all of your content 😊 It’s as though you created your channel just for us 🥰🥰🥰
It’s not odd. Sure being cozily wrapped in a loved ones arms is great until it’s just to itchy/sweaty. When you fall asleep, his snoring starts. Honestly, there are many kinds of snoring. Most of them disturbing. The restlessness of one or both of you constantly waking the other up. I’m mean sex can be done before going to separate beds, in the middle of the night when one summons the other, or even during the day. It doesn’t just happen when two people are sleeping in the same bed. You can even lovingly fall asleep in each other’s arms after said sex. But as soon as the disturbances start, a sweet kiss and off to your own bed is just as sweet. Then there is the good morning sex that can and does still happen! It’s not weird to sleep in separate beds. It’s just for the peaceful sleeping periods. 😉
Wow... this morning routine takes a lot of work and time. My morning routine consist of me opening my eyes jumping out of bed, putting on my shirt and pants while brushing my teeth at lighting speed as i was late for whatever i was late for (as always) and lastly rushing out the door-
No dressing without a petticoat! And your underpants, (did I miss them?) or one piece, with the long bloomers and opening for easy toilet detail, those were bare essentials! Where I live (in Scandinavia) i can find actual period white cotton undergarments from the period, not noticably used, in second hand stores with focus on older styles, often trimmed with hand made lace, for dead cheap too! Very comfortable, and really cute as over all country summer garments too!
I've been searching for a video like this for so long!! Gives me big Anne vibes and I'm soooo here for it. Think I'm going to try and do something like this every morning now, it helps me romanticise life and pretend I'm in a regency movie haha. Tomorrow will be getting up early and going for a walk through the forest in true Lizzie fashion💞
That sounds AMAZING!! I honestly can’t wait until summer so I can walk through all the meadows and fields in a flowy dress and live my best pride and prejudice life.
I can't believe for a couple so young you're both so accepting of the fact that it's super difficult for a lot of people to share a bed. I'm like that but whenever I try and explain this to anyone, they don't believe me, until the first night we're sharing a bed and neither of us have slept because I've been too self-aware and freaked out about moving too much (and then still moving too much anyway) that we both end up with bags under our eyes and grumpy for the start of the day. LIKE BELIEVE ME WHEN I SAY THIS. AAAAAAH XDDD
i just LOVE LOVE LOVE when women youtubers are creators have their own world and want to film something special and take their boyfriends/husbands with them hahahaha i absolutely love to watch them do the absolute most just for their girlfriends/wives that will always make me crack like women have so much power lmaooo i love us
You and your husband are adorable! I also recommend TV-series Victorian Farm with Ruth Goodman, it is really fun and a great look into Victorian times.
I started watching that as part of my research for this video! 😃 I knew never knew about it before. It really shows the reality of the lower and working class during the Victorian era. Super eye opening and entertaining at the same time :)
Hey! Just a heads up for anyone that wants to try the homemade toothpaste recipe! Coconut oil will clog your drain. I would recommend using a powder recipe and forgoing the coconut oil. But love the video!!!!
Adorable!!! Love your bedroom, too! Just wondering why you wore the corset outside your clothing? Some wonderful tips we can use today that do not include harsh chemicals, i.e. toothpaste, hair washing, etc. Charming!!
Over 15 years ago my partner and I decided to sleep in separate beds and absolutely loved it. It worked well for us! I love that they do the same. My Sleep is very important for me 😊
I don’t believe corsets actually caused muscles atrophying. Corsets actually encourage proper posture and work muscles more. I think that belief is from the same sources that believed women’s bodies required corsets for their uterus might fall out 😳 I’m just parroting dress historians I enjoy on here. Love your aesthetic and your videos. Psuedo-Victorian outfit and hair is on point 🙌🏼
Idk dude I've heard that some women wore them so much they were unable to hold up their upper body properly. You have to think, the human body wasn't meant to wear corsets so there could have been negative side effects such as this.
@@mariferj8320 I’ve never heard of that actually happening though? Is that true or a myth made up by the men at that time. Like the fact that corsets were generally dangerous. They’re not unless they don’t fit properly or they are tight laced which most people didn’t do. Idk though I could be wrong
Someone had to say it🙏 there are multiple sources that say that corsets didn't cause detrimental damage to the body of a woman, including many amazing sources on RUclips!
Okay so all the hair tips are actually great still today! Rosemary oil is great for hair growth, you shouldn’t wash your hair more than once a week, and oil is the best thing for smoothly, healthy, shiny hair!! Except brushing does clean it by removing building on the scalp!
I’m so glad Cherie Moore told us about you being her older sister, not only that but the fact you are about books is freaking amazing!! New subscriber!!
A video idea is to go around your city and visit a bunch of "free little libraries"! They are so cute and you can take a book for free and give one back to the community! This would be so fun to watch!
Ah this has been on my watch list for ages, so happy to finally get the time to see it! Thanks for such a lovely, wholesome video, your joyful disposition is infectious 🤗
My Grandmother was born in the late 1800's. She rarely took a bath in her 100 years of life. She said " You wash down as far as possible then you wash up as far a possible, then you wash possible!" Lol
Omfg one of my aunts/uncles says ‘possible’ to mean your area... lol like when they would judge me wearing a denim mini at 17 ‘we can almost see possible’ 😅
Thank you so much for sharing this video! You guys did an awesome job. As a mom with grown children, I would encourage you guys to sleep together! That is one of the coolest parts of being married. It does take some getting used to, but it does connect you together. It may comfort your husband to have you near. You both are so precious! God Bless.
My heart completely melted the whole video when Jared was helping you!! So so so sweet! You guys make me believe in real love ! And this video is so incredibly well made, I'm so so shook and impressed! You're really talented Desi !
I watched the whole 21min video without skipping any scene, which is pretty rare. I mean I enjoyed watching this ! Beautifully filmed 🧡 love the warm voice of yours. Im fantasized by your charm, not the victorian era.
Corsets are undergarments and so would be worn underneath a blouse, and nightgowns are typically worn underneath the corset. You have all the right stuff, but the right order is very important too!
As an experiment, a Polish woman wore all 11 layers of Victorian dress on a hot 100degree August afternoon. You’d have thought she’d have passed out from heat stroke, wouldn’t you? Actually, she said it was not half bad. The Victorians wore natural fibers that all breathed. She was left wondering why modern women suffocate themselves during the summer, wearing synthetic garments that were like plastic bags. This video is real eye bleach due to its aesthetics. Thank you for posting.
I'm usually in 2 or 3 layers, even in the summer, to protect my skin from the sun. I try to find 100% cotton or linen clothing and I am just fine. If what you're wearing is breathable fabric, you honestly don't get super hot.
I really appreciate who supportive and nice your husband is , it’s so cute 🥺🥺🤍🤍 Love you so much from Kuwait 🇰🇼🤍🤍 Also can you review some Victorian / vintage movies or series and stuff It’s really entertaining 🤍🤍
Ooh side topic, I genuinely love that you guys sleep in separate rooms! That is literally my dream and I hope to be in that situation at some point in my life 🥲
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m blown away by your creativity in every video.
Where did you get that pink puffed wing backed chair in the corner of your room, I have been searching for one exactly like that since I had mines taken away when I was about 10, aaahhh it's such a lovely chair and so cozy yet I have only been able to find it on a rental prop store online T^T I never expected to see one again in a youtube video!
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wool- no thank you... #vegan #woolkills
What toxins are in normal matresses?
Can we just take a moment and appreciate that her husband does all that for the video. We need more supporting men like that 🙈☺️
He did SO much, guys 😭 so much behind the scenes that you don’t even see, like he made me all the breakfast, tea that I could drink during filming breaks, warming up SO much hot water during the hair washing scenes, running back and forth between the bedroom and kitchen, and walking up before the sun came up to help me set up for filming and get the dark morning shots 🥺
@@DarlingDesi AWW that is SO PRECIOUS!! You should make a Q&A video including him! 🥺
@@maggievowell3271 I did include him a bit in my “responding to your assumptions about me” video but yes! He should definitely be featured in a full Q&A 💕
@@DarlingDesi I personally would love to learn a little more about him! Whatever you both are comfortable sharing with us of course ☺️ I feel like as book lovers, we all turn into romantics so I am rather curious what your story is. But again, whatever you’re comfortable with!
I just hope Jared got a nice mattress, too!
YES, VICTORIANS AND THEIR WALKING LMAO- The only era with such an aggressive passion for walking. "Let's take a walk through the grOuNDs, shall we??"
I figured that’s how they stayed so thin without rigorous exercise. No yoga in a corset! 😂😂
Not much else to do tbh
To be honest, I’m from an Eastern European country and walking is a big thing there. Want to talk? Let’s go on a walk and talk about it. Bored? Go on a walk. Nice day? Go on a WALK. I moved to Canada and nobody does this here. You’re either walking SOMEWHERE or you’re doing it in the woods on a hike.
@@sandsand9403 I can confirm, I am from Italy and in summer, after dinner people walk close to the seaside or walk in the afternoon! We also walk in the nice days of the winter. If a friend have a problem we just walk while talking, if you are stressed you walk, if there's a guy that likes you, he may ask you to take a walk and talk!
As someone that loves walking, I wish it would make a comeback
Dang by the time Victorian women were done with morning routines they pretty much have to jump right in to night routine.
For some reason I'm the same😅 It always takes me forever to get ready. It was ofc different when I had to wake early and run to work.
😂😂
It doesn't take too long, actually. I have been doing the morning routine from the book as well. About the same time it would take for you to take a shower, blowdry your hair, brush your teeth, style your hair, put on your clothes, and apply perfume.
It actually takes less time, in my experience.
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The aesthetics in this video are INCREDIBLE. Very beautifully filmed.
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i read somewhere that women who didn't have ladies' maids relied on their husbands to help them dress, so having your husband help is still pretty accurate!
Did lower class woman wear clothes that were tricky to get in to without help?
@@lizanna6390most likely not
@@lizanna6390 Depends on the historical period. But the reality is that until relatively recently in human history, it was INCREDIBLY rare for a woman to live entirely alone, and it was just so accepted that assistance would be needed with buttons and whatnot that people stepped up and did each other's buttons every day. Husbands did up their wives' buttons, fathers their orphaned daughter's, the maiden aunt who lived with her brother's family would help her sister-in-law, even housewives would help a live-in maid of all work if they had only the one maid.
thats honestly so adorable and sweet
Really? Interesting.
I can immagine the mother in law watching this. "I knew it, look how she treat my little boy " 🤣
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I WAS THINKING THE SAME LOL.
Poor boy 😂😂
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I kept imagining how shockingly scandalous it would have been for a Victorian lady to allow her valet or footman to dress her and brush her hair lol. Wonderful video, Des ❤ Looking forward to the Victorian night routine!
You should consider writing romance novels!!
@@cynthiabarker522 I second this! 🤣
@@cynthiabarker522 YESSSSSS YES YES YES YES
@@a-wanderer-44 wow everyone knows that!😂Who wouldn't know that? 😝 We are imagining the scenario and having fun. omg don't u get it, it was a joke 🤦
@@a-wanderer-44 It's oki, all good 😊
the "stand up wash" is almost exactly what my family calls 'bird baths' or sink baths. we did that when we went camping, or times we had a power out or similar.
no one cares but during my brief stint in the military I made time in the morning to do extra stretches and breathe/meditate some by bird-bathing instead of waiting ten minutes in line for 2 mins in a shower stall. some peeps were MAD about that and reported me to a drill sargent?? for not washing AT ALL? but it worked for me bc i was ORDERED TO SKIP THE LINE so i could shower every morning
@@kaylynxup lol that would be me too!!!
We called it a flannel wash in my house growing up!
@@Amethystfaeth me too! Sometimes it’s just easier than dealing with a shower. But I have to know now, what does your family call them?
@@Amethystfaeth same
So my grandmother had one of those stand up bath thingies. She kept it as decoration mostly, I'm not sure if she ever used that one specifically but I suspect she may have used one in the past as a child because when I was growing up my mother taught me to wash myself exactly like this with the sink in the mornings. You'd fill the sink up with warm water and get a wash cloth and get it wet. Put a little soap on it and wash yourself. Mainly my mother taught me to wash areas like my genitals and arm pits (and as I got older she instructed under the chest). This was done in addition to showering in the evenings most nights. I never realized this wasn't normal until I started sleeping over friend's houses and stuff. When I asked my mom about it, she said that it was just something her mother taught her to do as well and she thought it was good practice. It's kind of interesting to realize that this is something that was probably in my family for generations, way back to these Victorian days.
These were decorative items that resurfaced in the 70s through the 80s. Not actually Victorian, more Victorian inspired. I had a few. They could be picked up practically anywhere for little
$$. Sorry.
@@onesunnyday5699if her family had one that was antique, it could well have been Victorian rather than a 70’s remake. Sorry.
I am from '76, and learned to wash by the sink before I was a teen.
I would love to do something like this now after I come home from somewhere as I do not want to get in my bed without getting clean first or sitting in my clean chair without getting clean first ( I have another chair for when I cannot wash first ), but I never know when my boyfriend needs washroom ( is without a gallbladder and also, overactive bladder ) so I do better with showers to be done faster. But I either wait until he has done his washroom biz before I shower or when he goes to sleep for the night.
the “wE aRe NoT tIgHtLaCiNg!!!!” brought a smile to my face. i appreciate when people talk about that since it’s not a proper way to really even wear a corset and is the main reason they’re considered so awful for people. corsets are great! you just gotta wear it right
I love that your husband is wearing a button down shirt, slacks, and a belt...but no shoes. 😂
What kind of uncultured monster wears shoes inside the house?! In the bedroom no less!
I think the servants actually might not have comminly had shoes or house slippers to wear around the house, tbh. I believe the uniform was provided by the household, but I don't think shoes were a part of that uniform.
What, inside?
@@terenarosa4790 my parents, (mom) practically has a fit if she sees any of us walk around the house without shoes on. Shes tolerated my dad a bit, but not really us. She has given up with sending us back upstairs to put them on, but is definitely snarky when we dont wear them. And she only wants us wearing closed-toed shoes. Again, she tolerates me wearing flip flops on weekends, but will not let anyone else wear them. I didn't even get a pair flip flops until I was 13. Honestly, I thought wearing shoes inside was a normal thing.
everyone arguing why he isn't wearing shoes XD
Sadly I cannot perform the first task. Because I live in Florida and if I left the windows open every roach, mosquito and alligator would crawl through 😕😕
Don't forget the spiders and snakes and animal critters. No windows open, unless...you have heavy duty screens.
@@princessglittersparkle4146 hahah true
And alligator 😂
@@edenbenson3782 it's too much here lol 😂😂
There are some real creeps out there too. I’m way too paranoid to leave my window open while I sleep.
It’s weird that people are saying “omg your husband helped you!” Guys that’s her husband! Jeesh it wasn’t that hard lol get new men guys lol anyway beautiful video !!
Lol I was thinking the same thing haha 😆
U can see there’s no such man out ther 🤣🤣
🤣🤣Right
Lolollll
Do people not realize these are monetized?
Ruth is SO knowledgeable! I’ve watched many of the historical documentaries that’s she’s been in. “Secrets of the Castle” “Tudor Farm” “Victorian Farm” and “Edwardian Farm” are some favorites.
Me too, I'm a huge fan
Love her!!! 😊
I LOVE your husband's presence in this! It really does amp up the production value and he is so sweet
A proper corset was just like a bra, that which offered support for either a high/middle/working class. In certain circles, and time periods it was tightened or made in such a way that it was a risk for health but most women were at no greater risk than those who use bras today.
In older pictures and illustrations, you'll see working class women going about their days, which was filled with a lot of laborious activities, without a struggle.
A vast majority of "costume corsets" nowadays are NOT created properly, the way the fabric is cut (the shape) and the support is positioned/and used wrong and will do more harm than a real one. Which should be specifically made for your individual body type, and follow a previously created design for the shape desired.
and i was worried no one was going to say anything. THANK YOU
@@lillian3689 I figured I had to say something before people started bashing on corsets! They're wonderful support tools, when used and made correctly.
@@KarsynMacenna I know! I made a civil war era corset for reenactments, and I'll be honest, my first mockup was terribly uncomfortable! but after making alterations and adjusting it to my body, it is SUPER comfortable and supportive.
PSA: My organs are all still in the correct place and my abdominal and back muscles are strong as ever 😂
Yeah and whoever invented bras should be shot! I hate the damn things!
Seems like they spent the whole day just to getting already, and when they finished the “getting already for the day routine” it is already time for bed.
Exactly
I like how you typed hope instead of whole
@Lulu H shit🤦🏽♀️😂😂that was a typo but I jus left it cuz ik someone was going to say exactly what u said lol
@Lulu H lol that's good I hope u have a good day
They had nothing better to do the whole day so
Omg, I'm not the only one who doesn't like sleeping with other people. I'm happy to know I'm, not the only one who thinks this causes a lack of rest.
Me and my partner don't share the same bed either. I love the peace and sleep
I can't sleep beside another person either 😕
Fuck is wrong with y'all😂
@@GreedIslxnd nothing is wrong with them, some people are just light sleepers and cant sleep to the sound of someone elses snoring/breathing. Plus it gets hot. Also i like to take up a lot of space, and so do men. Sleeping next to someone is highkey impractical as hell and theyre very normal for not liking to sleep next to someone
my boyfriend and I live together and have different bedrooms
Yesss thank you for talking about tightlacing! It wasn't a proper practice at all, a well fitting, properly laced corset was more supportive than modern bras! And gave a nice shape
When that man brushed your hair starting from your ends my heart melted because I knew right then...he truly cares about you.
Lime water would've been from lime as in limestone, not lime the fruit.
Thankfully someone said it
Haha I was just about to comment with this, I'm hoping it was joke and they didn't actually think water with a slice of lime in it would detect carbonic acid!
I was so confused when she said that. No wonder
This was a sweet mistake that a young person made on their journey to learn new things. Never be afraid to make a mistake as you grow. ❤️
Came to say this
I had never heard of anyone besides me who doesn't sleep with husband in the same bedroom. Me and my husband don't either, because we value sleep so much. It's bliss!!!! He usually gets up super early on weekends and comes into my bed to snuggle, it's so comfortable living like this.
Same here. We are all not alone. Many many people value sleep this much. 😴
Or just value some sleep space actually 😀
I could never sleep alone, night cuddles are the best
@@sushibaby5896 me either. I have been with my husband for nearly 45 years. He is very sick and frail. I am so thankful that I have had him with me almost every night; to touch, to love, any time. I will treasure all those years of memories when he is gone.
@@gramcrackergrammy Exactly. I think you might regret or think 'what if.." the day your partner is no longer here. All those nights being separate from one another.. I could never. Everyone is different, but to have your man sleeping next to you being so close to each other while your souls travel to the spirit realm is special.
we cannot be more different aesthetic-wise (im a goth and a punk!) but damn your videos make me so happy, im so glad i discovered you this month 😭 i really needed this after a whole day of studying, all of your videos are so relaxing! (also, i do love the victorian era, and all of this was very interesting!)
Me toooo I define my style like "Dark cottagecore" Beautiful things around with a touch of darkness
@@ElGrimorioNegro that sounds beautiful 🥺
I think that goth intersects with her aesthetic a little bit since its partly inspired by victorian mourning wear
I'm kinda goth and punk too, but I couldn't live in a dark interior without sunlight😁 I do love how they look, but I need light around me. I was so awed about the interior and everything in the video, beautiful 🥰 I'd like a home like that, but more in a pastel goth feel, with pink skulls etc.
Same-
I hate the idea of showering right after I wake up. I only shower later in the evening to relax. This method of stand-up bathing right after waking up is brilliant! I'll incorporate it into my own routine!
I shower at night so as to not get in bed dirty. I shower other times of day if I went out of the house to keep a clean bed and what chair I sit on.
Me too! Doesn't make sense getting into clean sheets, unbathed. And I feel refreshed when I wake up, already having been cleaned.
Enlisting your husband to be your ladies' maid/butler is just too darn cute. What a good sport 😊
Loved this! I still use rosemary/nettle-infused water as a hair rinse. It gives it a lovely softness and shine.
Your videos are the embodiment of the peacefulness of early spring and the comfort of a nice, cool autumn day
Love this video and how nice that your husband was willing to help you! So much effort goes into your videos. I just recently found you and appreciate all of your hard work. Wishing you and everyone here a great day💕✨
He honestly worked so hard on this video with me 😭💖 He streams games on Twitch every day and he spent 2 days not streaming at all because he was helping me film so much 🥺💗
@@DarlingDesi how sweet is that?! Share his twitch and I’ll share his info with my gamer friends!
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Also, the muscles becoming weak and such was a myth. Corsets didn't cause physical conditions like that. And the corset wouldn't ever be shown, you would wear it underneath the shirt.
Well they can, technically. But you probably get it, not that common.
The dedication to this and her marriage bring so sweet, made me subscribe
rosemary is also proven to help hair growth and heal/prevent hair loss! I use rosemary water on my hair everyday~
I didn’t know that, how do you use it do you make a spray or wash your hair with it like she did?
What's best to use essential oil or ready made Rosemary water? Do you put it in your own shampoo? Conditioner? Or rinse the shampoo with it?
@@katj3443 oops my bad! i just saw this. I boiled some rosemary, and spray and douse my roots in it at night!
@@violetlove1893 apologies for responding so late! I use rosemary water which I make by boiling rosemary and putting in a spray bottle! I usually just spray and douse my roots at night after I wash my hair.
@@ahoneysuckle I’m just grateful you replied lol, face books all over the place with notifications plus people have lives so lol no bad feelings.
I have never heard of another couple who have separate beds! Besides myself and partner, that is. Sleep is so valuable to me, and now I have a 2 month old, well.. we value our own sleep spaces. I love this video! Subscribed
Loved it! I’m 73 and a child of the 50s. Brought back such funny memories! 😂
Part of the value in studying history is realising how different things once were and how different things could still be.
A corset was used very much like a bra today. It was the foundation of the outfit and gave support to the breasts and upper body. It helped hold the weight of the petticoats and final skirt along with the panniers or hoop skirt depending on the era. Going without a corset was dangerous. You would have no support for the heavy skirts
As per usual this video is so lovely! First of all I can't get over how obsessed I am with your standing wash station. In LOVE! Secondly, A+ on historical accuracy girl!! You really went all out and I adore it. Thirdly, YES JARED! The COMMITMENT. Get this man an oscar. Fourthly, Love giving credit where credit is due. Ruby has done an amazing job in video as well and its so lovely to see creators encouraging and inspiring each other. Lastly, Thank you so much for all the time you put into these videos. There are so many details that could go unnoticed such as the intense research, the multiple camera angles, things purchased etc. This is like netflix series quality. Thanks for such a great video!
Yes, we stan Ruby Granger !!! And you definitely can romanticize the period without forgetting historic truth. Oh and your vids are a big inspiration for us :)
OMG i watch Ruby Granger to!
@@miloexogiantrabbit365 ahhhh me toooo
Every morning do you acknowledge all the negative things occurring in the world currently before you can enjoy your day 😂😂
I went to school with her :/
I adore all the time effort and love you put into all of your content! It’s so apparent that you adore what you do, and all your outward positivity rubs off on your viewers! Thank you so much for everything you do 😭❤️
That’s absolutely the nicest thing to say 🥺💕 Thank you, Bella! 💗
Every time I watch one of your videos I'm always shocked when I get to the end. Feels like five minutes pass. I LOVE the way you see the world and how you're helping us see it that way, too.
I love how you say that your husband and you do not sleep in the same bedroom to ensure a good night's sleep! Bravo!
they be doing more in their morning routines then i in 7 months
Never thought I'd be vibing with this sort of thing, but the quality of your videos is *so* good. I'm obsessed!
Fashion Historian here! This video was such a delight and the dressing and outfit was great for what you had on hand EXCEPT for the corset part!😂as much as modern fashion has brought back the item and styled it as one would as an accessory like a vest (very similar to what you did!), to Victorians it was more or less their precursor to the bra- and had you actually gone with your day, it would almost be compared to you going out in modern times with your bra over your shirt! Another interesting fact is that a majority of doctors against corsetry are what we consider the “anti-vaxxers” of the era- they often twisted information and created hoaxes like muscle atrophy to try to influence ladies’ husbands into disdaining from “indulgences” but more or less again in a modern analogy imagine your husband trying to take away your bra☠️Other than that your video brought a great, fun light to the Victorians’ routine!
So are you saying that wearing a corset nearly 24/7 is healthy? Just trying to understand your side of this pro-vax comparison...
Hi there! And not at all- to the point of which I never made the point of people wearing corsets 24/7, very much today where people don’t wear their bras 24/7. In historical actuality there’s only a small percentage of Victorians that wore theirs day and night. And to clarify my analogy, it is similar to the fact that doctors who knew nothing of women’s systems were creating false information to fearmonger society.
Thank you for saying this. I was enjoying the video until the corset part and was about the comment the same thing.
YES, thank you for pointing this out. I was actually scanning the comments to see if anyone else noticed this. As someone who wears a corset the historical way all day, every day, it through me for a loop to see her wearing it on the outside, lol. But very pleasant and cute video. It's nice to see these types of videos being made.
thank GOD someone else said it, I was so on board with this video and then she started talking about corsets and it all came crumbling apart, like.... ma'am....
Oh my goodness! I absolutely adore you! My daughter (35), granddaughters (13, 12, & 8) and I (57) are all about all of your content 😊 It’s as though you created your channel just for us 🥰🥰🥰
Can we take a minute to appreciate her hubby for being such a sweetheart and gentleman!! I find it very odd that they don’t sleep in the same room...
Most probably for video's sake : then it was not done (in the bourgeois society ) for husband and wife to share the same bedroom .
Yes I have heard ppl do this but I cldnt not sleep with my mate. It's another form of comfort and intimacy. Holding him lovingly is the best.
It’s not odd. Sure being cozily wrapped in a loved ones arms is great until it’s just to itchy/sweaty. When you fall asleep, his snoring starts. Honestly, there are many kinds of snoring. Most of them disturbing. The restlessness of one or both of you constantly waking the other up. I’m mean sex can be done before going to separate beds, in the middle of the night when one summons the other, or even during the day. It doesn’t just happen when two people are sleeping in the same bed. You can even lovingly fall asleep in each other’s arms after said sex. But as soon as the disturbances start, a sweet kiss and off to your own bed is just as sweet. Then there is the good morning sex that can and does still happen!
It’s not weird to sleep in separate beds. It’s just for the peaceful sleeping periods. 😉
Yeh it’s not odd, I live having my own room. It’s really whatever works for the people in the relationship. I love cuddles but I need my sleep.
He wasn't playing her husband lol
This was so sweet. And your husband is absolutely the best sport.
Her husband is so supportive , really a nice man.
wouldn't you, if your wife was getting money
@@sweetiepie4328 lmfaoooo😂😂😂😭
i feel like victorian, cottagecore, fairycore, and royalcore go well all together
Wow... this morning routine takes a lot of work and time. My morning routine consist of me opening my eyes jumping out of bed, putting on my shirt and pants while brushing my teeth at lighting speed as i was late for whatever i was late for (as always) and lastly rushing out the door-
I loveeee Victorian era is the most beautiful time I’ve ever seen in my lifee
No dressing without a petticoat! And your underpants, (did I miss them?) or one piece, with the long bloomers and opening for easy toilet detail, those were bare essentials! Where I live (in Scandinavia) i can find actual period white cotton undergarments from the period, not noticably used, in second hand stores with focus on older styles, often trimmed with hand made lace, for dead cheap too!
Very comfortable, and really cute as over all country summer garments too!
“For breakfast”
Me: ugghhhhhhh this is still only the morning? I forgot, I’m exhausted.
I've been searching for a video like this for so long!! Gives me big Anne vibes and I'm soooo here for it. Think I'm going to try and do something like this every morning now, it helps me romanticise life and pretend I'm in a regency movie haha. Tomorrow will be getting up early and going for a walk through the forest in true Lizzie fashion💞
That sounds AMAZING!! I honestly can’t wait until summer so I can walk through all the meadows and fields in a flowy dress and live my best pride and prejudice life.
I can't believe for a couple so young you're both so accepting of the fact that it's super difficult for a lot of people to share a bed. I'm like that but whenever I try and explain this to anyone, they don't believe me, until the first night we're sharing a bed and neither of us have slept because I've been too self-aware and freaked out about moving too much (and then still moving too much anyway) that we both end up with bags under our eyes and grumpy for the start of the day. LIKE BELIEVE ME WHEN I SAY THIS. AAAAAAH XDDD
i just LOVE LOVE LOVE when women youtubers are creators have their own world and want to film something special and take their boyfriends/husbands with them hahahaha i absolutely love to watch them do the absolute most just for their girlfriends/wives that will always make me crack like women have so much power lmaooo i love us
You and your husband are adorable! I also recommend TV-series Victorian Farm with Ruth Goodman, it is really fun and a great look into Victorian times.
I started watching that as part of my research for this video! 😃 I knew never knew about it before. It really shows the reality of the lower and working class during the Victorian era. Super eye opening and entertaining at the same time :)
As a huge fan of the Victorian Period, I am absolutely obsessed with this video, your aesthetic in general, your kindness, and everything!
Oh my gosh! This is such a wonderful and interesting topic for a dissertation!!!
I want to read it!! It sounds super interesting
i would love to read it!
I'd like to read it too!
I wish I could read it!
Hey! Just a heads up for anyone that wants to try the homemade toothpaste recipe! Coconut oil will clog your drain. I would recommend using a powder recipe and forgoing the coconut oil. But love the video!!!!
or spit it into a paper towel and throwing it into biowaste ?
We use baking soda, that's it. Deodorant is baking soda mixed with corn starch. We don't use shampoos or conditioners either.
Ooh yeah that drain clog happened to me, searching for an alternative cause I loved making my own toothpaste
Can’t you just run hot water for a little while after?
No it doesn't just run hot water
Adorable!!! Love your bedroom, too! Just wondering why you wore the corset outside your clothing? Some wonderful tips we can use today that do not include harsh chemicals, i.e. toothpaste, hair washing, etc. Charming!!
Over 15 years ago my partner and I decided to sleep in separate beds and absolutely loved it. It worked well for us! I love that they do the same. My Sleep is very important for me 😊
Hubs brushing hair is a full vibe 🤩
I don’t believe corsets actually caused muscles atrophying. Corsets actually encourage proper posture and work muscles more. I think that belief is from the same sources that believed women’s bodies required corsets for their uterus might fall out 😳 I’m just parroting dress historians I enjoy on here. Love your aesthetic and your videos. Psuedo-Victorian outfit and hair is on point 🙌🏼
Idk dude I've heard that some women wore them so much they were unable to hold up their upper body properly.
You have to think, the human body wasn't meant to wear corsets so there could have been negative side effects such as this.
@@mariferj8320 I’ve never heard of that actually happening though? Is that true or a myth made up by the men at that time. Like the fact that corsets were generally dangerous. They’re not unless they don’t fit properly or they are tight laced which most people didn’t do. Idk though I could be wrong
@@charlief2085 idk I remember seeing it on one of those history RUclips channels but who knows how accurate that is. Yeah I'm not sure 🤷♀️
Thank you!! I wanted to say something, but you said it better than I could lol
Someone had to say it🙏 there are multiple sources that say that corsets didn't cause detrimental damage to the body of a woman, including many amazing sources on RUclips!
Okay so all the hair tips are actually great still today! Rosemary oil is great for hair growth, you shouldn’t wash your hair more than once a week, and oil is the best thing for smoothly, healthy, shiny hair!! Except brushing does clean it by removing building on the scalp!
Growing up, and when visiting Grandmother’s home, we called it a ‘sink bath’. We always washed our face first, then worked down the body.
I’m so glad Cherie Moore told us about you being her older sister, not only that but the fact you are about books is freaking amazing!! New subscriber!!
I used to make a tea with rosemary and nettle to pour through my hair. Perhaps I should pick that up again 🤔
A video idea is to go around your city and visit a bunch of "free little libraries"! They are so cute and you can take a book for free and give one back to the community! This would be so fun to watch!
Oh yes yes yes we want that! ❤❤
YES!!!!!!!!
Oh that’s a fun idea!
I would like to see lower class morning routine. Just for the sake of learning 😀
Ah this has been on my watch list for ages, so happy to finally get the time to see it! Thanks for such a lovely, wholesome video, your joyful disposition is infectious 🤗
Your husband was so sweet to act as your servant in this video. It shows how much he loves you by how he supports you in your videos. 😍
My Grandmother was born in the late 1800's. She rarely took a bath in her 100 years of life. She said " You wash down as far as possible then you wash up as far a possible, then you wash possible!" Lol
Also a shawl that covered the shoulders and or breast was called a "Fichu"
Omfg one of my aunts/uncles says ‘possible’ to mean your area... lol like when they would judge me wearing a denim mini at 17 ‘we can almost see possible’ 😅
@@rier8061 😅🤣
I just watched a series called Gallipoli and the nurse says this when she washes the wounded soldier 🙈
Whoaaa, is your grandmother still alive?
Damn that energy when he brushed her hair and tightened her corset 😳
I always feel so calmed by all of your videos. They're so pretty and amazing ❤
Thank you! I’m so happy you enjoy them ☺️💗
Thank you so much for sharing this video! You guys did an awesome job. As a mom with grown children, I would encourage you guys to sleep together! That is one of the coolest parts of being married. It does take some getting used to, but it does connect you together. It may comfort your husband to have you near. You both are so precious! God Bless.
My heart completely melted the whole video when Jared was helping you!! So so so sweet! You guys make me believe in real love ! And this video is so incredibly well made, I'm so so shook and impressed! You're really talented Desi !
🤣turning the hubbie into the butler for the sake of experimenting looks like so much fun
Funny enough, I’m doing the stand up wash every morning lol! Because I usually catch a cold if I take a shower (even a hot one) in the mornings.
I think you don't understand what a cold is.
Your videos are my latest obsession
Yay! Love this . It’s what I dream of too ☺️ and totally live it in my head . I want to live it IRL too
I watched the whole 21min video without skipping any scene, which is pretty rare. I mean I enjoyed watching this ! Beautifully filmed 🧡 love the warm voice of yours. Im fantasized by your charm, not the victorian era.
Corsets are undergarments and so would be worn underneath a blouse, and nightgowns are typically worn underneath the corset. You have all the right stuff, but the right order is very important too!
LOL "We're NOT tight-lacing!" 😂
Haha, I love the little surprise at the end. 💖 I enjoyed learning something about the Victorian morning routine.
Your husband is seriously the cutest
God, I love how everything looks like in the victorian times, it all looks so beautiful
1 minute in and I knew I had to subscribe this is amazing! Thank you for your dedication to making such high quality videos! Sending you love!
And I get frowned on for taking a 5 minute shower every few days,Chucking the same clothes on and scrunching my hair in a bun 🙃.
It just put a huge smile on my face to see that you posted! I look forward to these every week
“No! We’re not tight lacing!”😂
I love the Rosemary water part. I love eating lots of herbs. I finally get to use my organic rosemary that grows in our garden ❤️
As an experiment, a Polish woman wore all 11 layers of Victorian dress on a hot 100degree August afternoon. You’d have thought she’d have passed out from heat stroke, wouldn’t you?
Actually, she said it was not half bad. The Victorians wore natural fibers that all breathed.
She was left wondering why modern women suffocate themselves during the summer, wearing synthetic garments that were like plastic bags.
This video is real eye bleach due to its aesthetics. Thank you for posting.
I'm usually in 2 or 3 layers, even in the summer, to protect my skin from the sun. I try to find 100% cotton or linen clothing and I am just fine. If what you're wearing is breathable fabric, you honestly don't get super hot.
I really appreciate who supportive and nice your husband is , it’s so cute 🥺🥺🤍🤍
Love you so much from Kuwait 🇰🇼🤍🤍
Also can you review some Victorian / vintage movies or series and stuff It’s really entertaining 🤍🤍
The irony of quoting Ghandi at the end of a video about the beauty of Victorian life 😂
😅Gandhi*
I love Ruth! One of my favorite historians. All the living history farm series that she is in are fantastic!
You have the most infectious, pleasant attitude. Your giggles at the end was darling! Thank you for the lovely video. Kudos to you and Jared. ❤❤❤
The tighlacing part between you and your husband was so sweet, thank you for keeping it in the video
the part of the shower haunts me, omg imagine just washing yourself like that 😭
Beautiful! I would so love it if you did a Victorian evening routine as well.
Already planning on it 😏😁 thank you so much for letting me know! 💗
@@DarlingDesi yayyy!!
Girl yes with that Pioneer Woman tea kettle! 😊
Ooh side topic, I genuinely love that you guys sleep in separate rooms! That is literally my dream and I hope to be in that situation at some point in my life 🥲